Lovely Sexy Beauty has recently posted a list of behaviors her man* is displaying in their relationship, and that apparently OTHER men in the past have displayed towards her, and I quote:

Displaying extreme anger via shouting, cuss words (which I don’t use nor do I like), and Mel Gibson-style storming around

Blaming me for things out of my control (e.g., things my parents or friends do)

Insulting me in terms of how I look, my age

Making threats of leaving the relationship if I don’t change

Of course she is being told these behaviors are “red flags” of abuse in the comments and being unequivocally supported in the comments and as ALWAYS is not ONCE asked what behaviors SHE might be engaging in to cause these behaviors to come to the fore in MORE than one man.

When a man behaves this way it is because YOU are vying with him for dominance. When a woman does this with a dominant man, she becomes like unto a man to him–she ceases to be the sweet feminine thing he wants to guard and protect and becomes a FOE. What kind of FACES are you making at your man when you fight?

Most likely when you fight, you are making yourself a MAN to him. You are making UGLY faces at him, and what is it that makes a woman “ugly”? Resembling a man.

Have you ever stopped to consider this? Are you making direct eye contact and trying to stare him down while simultaneously making yourself look like a man? Are you belittling him? Expressing disappointment or even worse, hinting at his insignificance? Those are what’s called between men “FIGHTING words” and when MEN use them with each other, someone’s gonna get hurt.

Of course, not all men are like this because not all men are particularly dominant. Some men have a much higher tolerance of female dominance displays and others are downright submissive. But if this is happening to you repeatedly, check your premises–the common denominator is YOU.

*note: I do not know lovelysexybeauty and am merely using her post as a springboard to discuss dominance–no intent to begin any manner of blog war is implied by drawing notice to her post