Blimey (Picture: Ella Byworth)

The first unsolicited dick pic I was ever sent was quite the eye-opener (no, you grow up).

Me and this bloke had started following each other and tweeting that day.

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That. Actual. Day.

He DM’d to ask if I was single and then asked for my email address.


For some dumbass reason I gave it to him. Had mutual friends on Twitter so thought ‘Why not? Expect he’s just sending a fascinating link to something.’

Anyway, an email popped up, I opened it, and there was a hard-on and some pants. Some really impressive pants. Had never seen briefs so white.



‘Which washing machine liquid do you use?’ I should’ve asked.

Instead, I rang a male friend and asked him what was wrong with men.

I had a similar conversation this weekend, but this time with another male friend telling me about women sending him unwanted DMs.

Is this a thing? Seems so.

Jerry, 34, from Luton

I’ve been pursued by dozens and dozens of married women on Twitter.

Women won’t send unsolicited nudes, of course, but they absolutely do harass. Even when told you’re not interested.

I’ve had occasion to block women. One woman even then set up an anonymous account and followed me for months, before striking up a friendship on DMs before I realised it was her.

She couldn’t understand why I was even angry at this.

I also get the reply-to-every-single-tweet ones who make you really uncomfortable.

Several women have blocked me just because I politely said I didn’t want to meet, or because I apparently wasn’t giving them the attention they felt they were entitled to.

But it’s only the men who behave terribly, of course.

David, 46, from Carshalton

Women do send photos, you know. They do. Women you don’t know, yes.

One woman was following me on Twitter and we ‘chatted’ – in public – about twice.

One ‪Saturday night‬, about midnight – so I assumed she was mullered – she sent me a DM and it was a photo of her tits.

No message. Just her tits.

Naked. No bra.

I didn’t know what to do, really.

Didn’t know if I should block her.

Nice tits, but really?

But if she was drunk, and she’d be so embarrassed in the morning, that felt a bit cruel.

So I didn’t do anything; I didn’t reply and didn’t block.

The next day she DM’d to ask if I liked her tits.

Haha. She didn’t seem that embarrassed.

Then I blocked.

Sam, 35, from Newport

I have been sent unsolicited DMs on a fairly regular basis from women. Perhaps one a week.

Before saying anything overtly flirtatious or sexual, they all tend to begin with a compliment about your tweeting – it’s either ‘cool’ or ‘funny’ – before ratcheting things up.

If you ignore it, there’s invariably a follow-up, often to clarify that they hadn’t meant to offend with the unsolicited contact.



Sometimes if I reply with a limited response, it invites an avalanche of questions.

Tommy, 38, from Ipswich

Yes, splendid necklace (Picture: Ella Byworth)

A lady I’d followed for years sent me a killer DM once.

We were sort of friends on Twitter – we tweeted each other a fair bit – and we’d DM’d a little bit.

Our DMs would mainly be us laughing at the ‘creepy Twitter men’ who she said approached her.

So this night she sent a DM: it was a photo of her in the bath.

Wet, naked legs and bubble bath foam covering her modesty.

She said something about a stressful day, relaxing, and asked what I was doing. So it wasn’t a dirty photo.

But come on.

I said something like, ‘I’m just watching telly’ and she didn’t reply.

We never mentioned the photo again.

I was f***ed off, though. The picture was ‘safe’ enough that she could deny it was anything untoward. Like those Instagram photos some women post of their cleavage: ‘Do you like my necklace?’

James, 40, from Belfast

I can safely say that I have never had the good fortune of being sent lady nudes.

I have had the odd flirty DM here and there, but nothing particularly memorable.

I’m too scared to engage.

Simon, 46, from Eastbourne

I get messages, but I’ve only had one photo sent to me. A rude photo I didn’t ask for, that is.

The messages are sort of the, ‘My husband doesn’t understand me’ ones.

Come on, women. You can do better than that.


The photo was from one of these women. She was saying she’s unhappy at home,

I was trying to keep it light and politely say I wasn’t interested, and she then sent me a photo of her in the shower.

I think. The photo was blurry and steamed up. Maybe it was a photo of her husband.

I didn’t reply. But when I did go to reply, she’d blocked me.

Lee, 30, from Airdrie

Girls I’ve been seeing have sent me naked pictures. Of course. But these are girls I’ve been seeing for a while. We’ve built up to that. And we’re safe on Telegram.

But I met a girl on Twitter and we started flirting over DM. She was a really funny lass and really up for a laugh.

The DMs got pretty full-on very quickly – and then there was her pussy!

She’d DM’d a photo. She still had her knickers on, but they were pulled tight and I could see everything.

F***. Ing. Hell.

Honestly couldn’t believe she’d done that.

What did I do? I took her to Telegram immediately, of course.

I thought it was hot that she did that. Too, too hot.

Chris, 46, from Warrington

The only unsolicited requests I get these days say, ‘don’t forget to get milk/bog roll/gallons of expensive cider’.

Bibi enjoys sending men unsolicited photos of solicitors. Read more about this on bibilynch.com

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