We’ve seen it. We’ve all done it. Or if you haven’t, I’d love to meet you.

I’m talking about the humble brag of how busy we are.

Maybe it’s demonstrated through a late-night Snapchat to our friends while we’re still at the office, timestamped to prove just how late we’re *sigh* on the grind.

Or better yet, maybe it’s a Saturday morning Insta story from a perfectly picturesque coffee shop, laptop in-view, low-key showing there ain’t no rest for the wicked, and instantly inserting guilt into everyone that views it from the lazy comfort of their couch.

But I’d say, the most common way we earn The Stress Badge is sharing the laundry list of to-do’s we have when someone asks how we’re doing and, without blinking, our pre-programmed response is, “busy.”

If all working professionals were Girl or Boy Scouts, The Stress Badge would be the most coveted, the one we’d put in the prime position on our vest. But don’t badges require training or learning of a new skill that makes us a better contributing member of society? So, why are we so proud of it when it’s likely leading to worse sleep, less exercise and less connection to the people we love?

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we don’t deserve some serious praise and pats on the back for working our cute lil booties off, but my question is, why as a society do we only think people are successful if they’re stressed or overworked? And we do we put that pressure on ourselves to “show off” our work ethic?

When was the last time you praised a friend for cutting back on hours at work because the stress was giving her migraines? Have you ever congratulated a colleague for meditating or getting into a yoga class instead of working on a Saturday morning? Can you endorse someone on LinkedIn for having really great work/life balance or being fantastic at saying, “no” to a project they simply don’t have the bandwidth for?

Now, I’m not here to tell you to slack off. But I am here to remind you that stress doesn’t equal success.

If you think stress reduction is a luxury you can’t afford, perhaps it’s time for a prioritization check.

And if you’re one of the many — again, I raise my hand here, too — who gets a little twinge of anxious envy when we hear about the stress of others, instantly asking ourselves, “Am I working hard enough?” let me assure you, if you’re thinking that way, the answer is already yes, you are.