If people keep insisting queer is a slur, maybe it’s because it’s a slur.

What the shitting fuck is up with all these people who go “why is everyone so mad about people saying queer all the time, when has anyone ever heard it used as a slur?!” Obviously they have. Just because you haven’t doesn’t mean no one else has.

I can’t even fathom this mindset. Why is everyone so resistant to the idea of basic manners and consideration for other people? Why is “some people find the word ‘queer’ highly upsetting and insulting” less important than “some people walk around calling themselves queer–usually people with zero understanding”? Why does “some people call themselves queer” mean EVERYONE should be called queer and fuck you if you have a problem with it?

Time and again there are people who say “don’t refer to me as queer, don’t use queer as a blanket term because then that’s labeling me with a word I don’t like” and then inevitably there’s always that one person who goes “but what about if I LIKE IT and I USE IT to refer to MYSELF doesn’t that mean I should get to use it as a blanket term?” No, it doesn’t; what the hell are you talking about?

Also I live in San Francisco and didn’t know of the whole queer-as-an-identity thing until fairly recently (I think it was through Tumblr, actually), and almost everybody I know only understands it as a slur. If I started calling myself queer all my friends and family would be really weirded out. Where the hell does everybody live where it’s not a slur?