I met a girl. She lives about 180 miles away. We have seen each other about five times (weekend things). I quickly realized she was falling for me. I told her that I really like her, I enjoy our time together very much, but, I also told her that I will NEVER, ever get married again, nor will I EVER tell a woman that I ‘love’ her.

I figured she would get the hint. She has made it very clear to me that she wants to be with somebody and grow old together. Do women at this age really think they are going to “change” guys my age? Gosh darn it, I do not ever want to hurt anybody’s feelings, but I feel like I am misleading this woman. I think she confuses the fact that since I do not date other women, we are a “couple,” and someday soon I will snap out of it.

I am leaving in five days for Mexico, followed by South America. I travel about four months a year. If I met the woman of my dreams, I would take her with me. But finding a woman like this is, well, ‘mission impossible.’

Most divorced guys over 50 that are still full of life, self-assured, financially self-made and secure and have not engaged in a serious relationship in over a year (or more) after their divorce, are acclimated in their single lifestyle ways. Our eyes are not closed and our hearts are not sealed, but we are hesitant to drastically deviate from our lifestyle patterns to accommodate a relationship.

So, do I break it off with this girl?