You might have heard that women reach their sexual peak more than a decade later than men.

But according to one sexologist, men and women's libidos aren't that different after all.

Dr Nikki Goldstein, from Sydney, told FEMAIL that there is a sweet spot that everyone hits when it comes to their libido, which relies heavily on their relationship, work and family life.

'The best age range is your late 20s to your mid 30s and it's the same for both men and women,' Dr Goldstein said.

There have been numerous studies that claim women's libido peaks in the small window of 31s, but many would be surprised to know that this isn't true

FEMAIL spoke to Sydney sexologist, Dr Nikki Goldstein

Previous studies have found that men peak sexually at the age of 19, while women have to wait until they're 31.

'When you're younger you're still focusing on your career and trying to understand who you are and how your body works,' she said.

'Then when we're a lot older your body starts to work against you and boredom can set in,' she said.

'That's why there is a sweet spot when none of this is going on.'

During the mid 20s to 30s age bracket you're also old enough that you know your body and partner better.

Women have a better understanding of what they like and they also understand how to have better sex because they have more experience to reflect on.

'A 19 year old man might be able to last longer but they're like a jackrabbit with no direction,' she added.

Nikki explained that there is a sweet spot that everyone hits when it comes to their libido, which relies heavily on their relationship, work and family life

They also enter a new age of sexual confidence and discovery during their thirties.

HOW TO INCREASE YOUR SEX DRIVE 1. Self love 'It's a nicer word for masturbation,' Nikki said. 'The most important thing to understand is how your body works.' 2. Ignore others opinions 'Give yourself permission to explore and touch yourself and don't listen to the misogynistic beliefs that have tried to control women's bodies.' 3. Communicate effectively 'Understand what turns yourself on and inform your partner gently,' she said. 'It could be with a sexy text or email or when you're in the throes of passion. 'If you're trying to increase the sex amount don't make your partner feel like they're not fulfilling you.' Advertisement

'For men sex is pretty straight forward, I masturbate, I get an erection, I stick it in here, whereas for women so much of their sexuality is hidden and controlled and when they peak they're fighting against this control,' she said.

'If you look at men, although their testosterone drops at 40, they also become more confident as well.'

Although when you're younger you may have more stamina, most often the sex you're have in your teenage years isn't very good.

'For the majority of people sex gets better as they age,' she said.

Of course this doesn't mean that people don't need help when it comes to their libido level.

'The biggest thing for women is for them to understand what they want in the bedroom,' Nikki explained.

'Not all women know what they want and what makes them orgasm but if you don't know how is your partner meant to?'

The sexologist explained that another reason people's libido's increase at this age is because they're experiencing better sex.

'If you were having really good sex you would want more of it, which is often what we see happening.'