'Misogynistic' pickup artist raises $17,000 on Kickstarter for dating guide on how to sleep with a woman even if 'she's resisting going home with you'

A man who once struggled with love but 'ended up getting pretty good with women,' has raised nearly $17,000 on Kickstarer for what has been described as a 'creepy' and misogynistic' dating guide.

Ken Hoinsky's proposed book, Above The Game , is a 'step-by-step guide for getting good with women' featuring lessons from personal experience, that he says, will help men feel more confident.

But excerpts of the book on Reddit show a more sinister side to its self-help categories, where Mr Hoinsky, a 31-year-old Connecticut resident, advises using lies, manipulation and alcohol to coerce a woman into sex.

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Helpful or harmful? Ken Hoinsky's proposed book, Above The Game, is a 'step-by-step guide for getting good with women' featuring lessons from personal experience, that he says, will help men feel more confident

Salon's Katie McDonough writes: 'These threads encourage men to subtly manipulate and dominate women in ways that at their best come across as creepy and misguided, and at their worst sound like the pretext for some really bad, potentially non-consensual sex.'



In a proposed section titled Logistics, Mr Hoinsky advises men to move their date to multiple locations in order to get her back to their apartment.

'Sometimes, if you are feeling resistance, planning multiple venue changes throughout the night will work in your favor. (Bar A -> Bar B -> Walk on the beach -> Your apartment),' the excerpt states.

'Plan your dates in advance with a mental map for how you're going to get her from point A to point B,' it continues.

'Yes, that art gallery all the way across town sounds awesome. . . but it's not going to be ideal for getting her to the final destination (on top of your penis.) '

' Are you serious? . . .This is not a guide to be good with woman. It's a guide for sexual assault'

Mr Hoinsky, who spent three years documenting his journey to pickup artistry on Seddit, the 'seduction' forum on Reddit, before compiling them into his proposed book, writes that 'understanding logistics is often the difference between landing the woman of your dreams and going home alone.'



'I always start out by suggesting a shitty bar near my place,' he notes. 'Why a shitty bar? Because then I can use my favorite line in all of seduction, "This bar kinda sucks. I have some wine at my place, let's go drink there."'

He also suggests that men lie to women about the pretext for bringing them home, 'Even if it’s just to drink that wine, or check out that new Youtube video, or show her your stamp collection,' he explains.



Above The Game: The book has raised nearly $17,000 on Kickstarer for what has been described as a 'creepy' and misogynistic' dating guide

Other tips from Mr Hoinsky, in case a woman puts up 'resistance when you try and bring her home,' are manipulative tactics that across as major red flags.

'Throwing out a “I don’t sleep with someone on the first date,” or “No sex, okay?” will do wonders,' he states. 'It all helps to generate plausible deniability.



'If it just happened while we were in the moment she will feel much more comfortable knowing she fooled around with you.



'No girl wants to feel like a slut. It’s your job, as the man, to make her as comfortable as possible. Also when you start to fool around, “I don’t kiss and tell.” goes a long, long way.'

One commenter called the book 'an example of a "rape culture" that treats women as targets, their defenses to be overcome by (almost!) any means necessary.'

The woman goes on to say: 'It may be non-violent, but it's difficult to call it "consensual." A woman can not "consent" to sexual intercourse if she makes the decision based on false pretenses, with a partner acting in bad faith. This is an example of "uninformed consent" and it is illegal in a number of contexts.'



For the most part, men praise Mr Hoinsky for his insights and are eagerly awaiting the release of his book 'more than episodes of The Walking Dead,' as one Reddit user wrote.

However women seem to vehemently disagree. One disturbed woman wrote: 'Are you serious?. . . This is not a guide to be good with woman. It's a guide for sexual assault.'