you say: i always have to tip toe around you

it means: why can't i say oppressive shit around you? no one else calls out my racist jokes or sexist undertones

you say: you're always looking for an argument

it means: why do you stand up for yourself? your pain is really putting a damper on my personal comfort

you say: but i didn't mean it like that

it means: i'm pretty sure my intentions negate any oppressions i enable through the things i say and do

STOP THAT SHIT