1) Buy yourself a good head-harness. Either a ball-gag or a pony-bit. So many places online to buy them.2) Make it tight. The straps on your mouth must be digging in, right from the start.3) Get naked.4) If you don't have leather cuffs, try leather belts. If that doesn't work, use long sports-socks. Just wrap them around your ankles and wrists, and tie them tight.5) Stretch yourself out on the bed, spread eagle. Or the floor. Or anywhere there is room. If you can brace your ankles against something, even better.6) Close your eyes and feel vulnerable. Imagine a girl or guy or whatever your preferences is, is standing there watching you.7) Start to flex your arms and legs, get the muscles working.8) Suck your stomach right in while flexing your muscles and 'reaching' with your arms and legs.9) Breath more shallow, making it catch in your throat so you can hear it.This is self bondage, without even having to tie yourself up, and you don't need a partner.Clothes pegs on the nipples will help, if you like it.NEVER put anything around your throat if your alone.Seriously, this should make you feel aroused. Don't even need to masturbate. Just the feel of leather on my skin gets me. Gagging myself before my partner gets home helps me survive until she walks through the door