Well, we all know you dodged a major bullet with Arie, and Grayston sounds like a winner. How did you meet?

Actually, it’s funny. He works at the rock-climbing gym that I climb at, and he sets the routes, so for people who don’t climb—he’s the one that arranges all the little rocks on the wall and the different patterns. He’s opening his own climbing gym in Long Beach, California, at the end of this year. At first, it was really casual and we were just doing a lot of fun stuff together, and then it just progressed into something deeper. We do a lot together; we climb, we went to Utah together on a climbing trip a couple months ago. We both met each other’s parents, so it’s definitely getting really serious now. I’ve chosen to keep that hidden from the world right now, because, with so much of my life being aired publicly and so much of me being shown to the world, it feels good to be able to have something just quiet and personal. I also didn’t want to go through the whole thing when we started dating. For one, I was not sure if I was going on Paradise or not, but also, I didn’t want to put something on the internet and have to address it if we possibly broke up. Now that we’re at a serious point, I feel comfortable sharing this with the world.

Is he anything like Arie?

No, Grayston is in a league of his own, I think from most men. He is just so unique and so special and so cool and not anything like Arie. For one, he may be older than me—not by much, he’s just 29—but you can keep your youthfulness as long as you want to. Grayston has a curiosity about the world and zest for life. And that’s what’s really important to me. He’s just totally himself and doesn’t give a sh*t about what anybody else thinks, and I really like that about him.

Do you watch The Bachelor together?

I’ve been watching it by myself and it’s kinda depressing, but I still haven’t gotten Grayston on board with it. He’s actually never watched the show, ever. He didn’t actually know I had been on the show when we met, which I like. I’m totally gonna rope him in. I’ve done it with ex-boyfriends, too, where I’ll be watching and they’ll come take a seat for a second and next thing you know we’re four episodes later and they know everyone’s name and have an opinion about everyone.