Anothernotherone Tue 17-Sep-19 13:51:33

The public reserve list is weird. It's not inviting your DD because someone has dropped out that's wrong, but publishing the fact on an event page every attendee has access to!



You can't always invite every child who's invited yours though - my middle child seems to be the default best friend for every new boy / shy or left out boy in his class. When he left primary the teacher had them all write little notes to every child in the class (just "good luck next year" to kids they weren't close to, personal messages to good friends, but everyone had to give everyone a piece of paper essentially) six different boys thanked DS for being their best friend, and he came home squirming because he hadn't realised that they saw him that way and had written far more generic notes to most of them and was worried he'd upset them. He is invited to lots of sleepover or event/ outing birthday parties, often with just 4 or 5 children (normal around here for older children/ pre teens) and can't invite everyone who's invited him when he has his own similar party. He's not "in the in crowd" he's more everyone's friend, but he can't be penalised for that by having to have a bowling party every year to accommodate everyone! We have invited "reserve list" guests if an invitee can't make it to parties with maximum capacity, but not displayed a list anywhere or told anyone that's what they are!



The way they've done this is weird but your DD didn't have to be invited just because you invited the child who's party it is. They may have been invited to 20+ parties this year and only be able to invite 10.