



Forget about love, forget about soul mates, forget about weddings. Getting married is a choice. Of course you love your spouse, but with a 50% divorce rate you can not say love is enough to stay married. You made a choice. A grown up choice which means you suck it up and deal with things as they come.

Accept your spouse is not perfect. Accept things will not always be sunshine and roses. Accept that sometimes you will not like each other. But you did make a choice. A choice, a vow, a covenant, whatever you want to call it, you agreed to be together forever.





When hard or an insurmountable times comes, then it is time for another choice: push through or end it. One great thing about America is you don’t have to choose to be miserable. Never feel you are above therapy or getting help. Even the best relationships need the help of an impartial third-party. You made a choice. Make the best of it.

You won’t always feel “in love.” You could be with the most perfect partner in the world for you and you’re going to go through seasons where you feel like you’re not aligned and you’re not in love. That’s where it’s really important to be grounded in the values that you identify as a couple, versus trying to follow the feelings that you think you’re supposed to be having.

Conflict is inevitable, recognize your role in resolving it. When you’re in the honeymoon phase, it’s hard to imagine there will be arguments or that your spouse has annoying traits and habits, but all of that awaits. How will you deal? Often, the things you dislike or despise later in your relationship have more to do with you than your partner, Higgins said. It’s all about the vulnerabilities, insecurities and discomfort you bring in.

A big piece about how to handle conflict and anger is knowing that it starts with yourself... how you can manage your own anxiety, practice healthy ways of taking care of you, and just making sure you’re in a good place to address whatever stressors are happening. From there, it’s about knowing how to come together and communicate as a couple. People are very quick to respond and react, but what you need to do is stop, be present and listen.

Your husband cannot meet all of your emotional needs. Your husband cannot meet all of your emotional needs.

A husband will pull away from his wife because she puts too many demands on him to meet all of her needs. When he can’t possibly meet her expectations, he feels like a failure and distances himself from her.





Your partner’s family relationships are key. How did you partner get along with his family? Were they close or distant? Was there conflict? That information is very significant. Many of the themes in our family of origin repeat or resurface in marriage. When couples are able to talk about that stuff without judgment, are able to listen and tune into their partner’s experience, it’s so huge. It creates a deep level of trust..

Make your house a home. Make your house a home.

Create a space where the two of you actually want to spend time together. Danish women taught me how much this matters. You never want your home to feel like an office or a hotel that the two of you are just passing through. The women I met bought deliciously scented candles and soft blankets by the sackful, and truly embraced the creation of a happy and cozy home where a new couple could get away from the rest of the world.





Let the man sleep.

Or do your best to anyway. This is for all the wives of second and third shifters. A simple disagreement with a man on first shift is dramatically different from one working third shift. For example, say he tries to be a nice guy and spends ten bucks to get your car washed. Instead of saying thank you, you get a little upset about wasting ten bucks on what is essential water. A normal man who has normal sleeping hours can handle this fight without too much drama. To a guy who isn’t getting much sleep and his thinking is clouded, this can be a huge blowout. This may be hard to understand, but trust me, wives of third shifters understand.

Don’t forget romance.

Naturally, this advice came from the French. Keep your phone off the dinner table and don’t forget how fun it can be to dress up. Avoid the temptation to spend all of your time together in your sweatpants. And this advice goes both ways — your partner should put in an effort to win you over again and again.

Remember it’s about quality time over quantity.

We have spent a lot of time apart in our marriage, he was a long haul truck driver for about 2 years and had several second or third shift jobs for about 5 years. Today, couples work multiple shifts, multiple jobs, and may not have much time at home. Make the best of that time. When Harley was a newborn, Jason drove an overnight route, we spoke on the phone every night for probably an hour. We spent more time communicating than most couples probably would if they were together at night. The point is, make it work. Make the most of your time together.

Marriage has a different meaning for some women. After marriage, the female enters a new life and a new neighbours too. Woman leaves her relatives and dear ones and starts making new relationships. Everything is quite overwhelming and sensitive too.Mother is the first person to give tips and advices to a newly married woman or to a girl who is expected to get married. Women can also seek tips and advices from their friends who are already married. Read on to find more about the top ten tips for women for leading a happy married life.It becomes very hard for a newly wed to cope with all the responsibilities and with a new environment and routine. After few years of marriage when everything gets into a specific routine, there arise some different problems and issues. In fact, life is full of ups and downs and men and women have to tackle and handle things properly.Marriage is a choice.Focus on those things which are true, pure, and lovely. Keep the spotlight on all that is good and right in him – and in your relationship.Pray for him every day. Faithfully. What better gift than to offer up a prayer for him? Ask God to bless him, protect him, and work in his life.Let the little irritations go. Is it really worth bothering about? Most of the time – not.Go to the Word of God for the best marriage counseling. You can get good advice from others, but there’s no replacing the loving, powerful Truth to be found in Scripture.Cultivate your friendship. Marriage isn’t merely a business deal.Leave off with the complaining. It only drags the both of you down.Speak kindly to him. Gracious words are sweet to the soulNever give up on each other. People go through difficult seasons and we get to persevere through them. Cling to each other in the hard times.Show him respect. It’s in the Bible.And it’s what he needs.Be patient with him. Love is long-suffering, remember?Make friends with people who’ll encourage your marriage. Surround yourself with those who will support and pray for you both as you grow together.And avoid those who pull against you. If they were “friends”, I’d ditch them altogether. (Real friends are going to cheer you both on). It’s harder with extended family members, but I’d dodge those as much as possible too.Confess your sins to one another. Doesn’t help to smooth it over; instead repent and ask forgiveness.And then forgive freelyIn addition to all this, you should also give space to husband and let him do things in his way. Do not always expect him to work the way you think is right. Make it acceptable for both of you.Are you a newly married woman? Which tips and advices should married women keep in mind?