A different approach for men and women, and not only at work. This is the current deal for men not born to the executive floor: you have no say in whether or not any child will be born. You have no right to insist on a civic record of your paternity, even: what are you, Victorian? If your “relationship” fails, then you will find it much harder to maintain access to your children than will their mother. In fact, only with separation does society finally accord/impose on men a legal, if depressingly monetised, recognition of paternal duty.