People seem to forget that I am a person with feelings, not an inanimate Barbie (Picture: Jackie Adedeji)

I must have heard every comment going about my 34GG breasts.

I’ve had men ask, ‘can I motorboat them?’, ‘are they real?’ and had comments like, ‘your boyfriend’s a very lucky man, I bet he loves them!’

I once had to put my arms across my chest as I crossed the road as I saw a builder point and mouth to his team, ‘have you seen the size of her t*ts!’. They all turned in unison, their eyes popping out like cartoons.

I’m always surprised at these comments – people seem to forget that I am a person with feelings, not an inanimate Barbie.




However, as I am all too aware, when your breasts are big, you’re automatically sexualised.

I’ve been told, ‘Well hide them if you don’t want the attention!’ But no woman with big breasts is ever ‘asking for attention’ – believe me.

Firstly, have you tried to hide 34GG breasts? It is impossible. But more importantly, why should we have to hide our breasts in the first place? It’s not a woman’s responsibility to hide her breasts and change her clothes in social spaces for fear of attracting the wrong attention and unsolicited comments on her body.

It is totally not OK to comment on someone’s body without anyone asking for your opinion – and it isn’t only men who do this.

Women have told me in bathrooms on nights out that ‘I’m so lucky’ and compare their boobs to mine in the mirror.

Having big breasts is not a choice or a luxury (Picture: Jackie Adedeji)

They tell me they have fried eggs and wish I could donate my breast fat to them so they can feel ‘sexy’.

Sure, it’s very sexy when you think you’re having severe chest pains on the tube and want to press the emergency stop – then realise it’s because yet another metal underwire has popped out of your bra and is striking you in the chest. Another £50 bra down the drain then!

Having big breasts is not a choice or a luxury – it’s how I was born.

At 11 years old my breasts were already 30FF. Mum took me to get my boobs measured and I was given a white frilly bra that looked like something my grandmother wore. ‘It will give you all the support you need,’ mum said as she smiled. I frowned.

At school, my classmates got to change for P.E. in the classroom with the boys but the teacher told me my body was ‘too mature’ so I had to get changed in the bathroom. It made me feel like I was an alien, like I was abnormal.

I was a child who looked like a woman. There were so many items of clothing I could never wear because, according to relatives and family friends, I looked ‘too promiscuous’. I know they meant well but now I’m older, I realise how sad it is to make a child change what they were wearing to stop attention.



Really we should be asking why people are sexualising breasts on a child in the first place?

Today porn plays a huge role in the way we view breasts. ‘Big breasts’ is a commonly searched-for porn category and a sexual fetish on its own. Breasts have become a sexual commodity and it almost feels I have become one too.

Last year I even considered breast reduction surgery for the first time. I was finally ready to be free of the issues my breasts bring with them.

For the rest of my life I’ll always constantly be worried that someone is staring at me for all the wrong reasons (Picture: Jackie Adedeji)

I went for a private consultation only to find that surgery would cost around £7,000. I’m 25 and rent in London, so that thought went down the drain quickly.

Free breast reduction surgery is available on the NHS but there are long waiting times and the eligibility criteria is very tight. Russell Bramhall, a consultant at the burn plastic surgery unit at the Glasgow Royal Infirmary, told the Guardian this year that women getting the surgery are almost at the mercy of a postcode lottery.

With reduction off the table, I know I will spend the rest of my life dealing with the cost of bras, which are so much more expensive for us well-endowed ladies. We need more choice and more assistance finding bras that fit properly.

And for the rest of my life I’ll always constantly be worried that someone is staring at me for all the wrong reasons.

In the meantime, however, I am teaching myself to love and embrace my melons.


Women with big breasts should feel free to express ourselves like everyone else. I know the experience is not the same for everyone but I hope to be an example that if you’re a GG or a JJ, you’re still beautiful like everyone else.

Like Sophia Loren said, nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful. Easier said then done, but I’m ready to practise.

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