My daughter Jeanie and I use Google chat throughout the day to discuss work, what we had for lunch, how we're avoiding the gym, and emotional issues big and small. We may also catch up by phone in the evening. I can open up to Jeanie about certain things that I wouldn't share with another soul, and I believe she would say the same about me. We are very close, which you probably won't find particularly surprising or alarming.

Now switch genders. Suppose I told you that I am very...