Though we've largely shifted away from a mindset that views an LGBTQ identity as a choice or a mental or spiritual affliction, it's still not easy for many LGBTQ Christians to find a church or another space where they feel comfortable being themselves, and part of the reason for this is that many churches still don't know how to approach or interact with someone who is actually out and trying to integrate into church life and church culture as an out LGBTQ Christian.

Many mainstream evangelical churches still aren't sure how to handle having out LGBTQ Christians as parts of their congregation. In some churches, LGBTQ Christians can become members but have to abide by certain stipulations, such as remaining single and celibate in order to be accepted. For the LGBTQ Christians who hold to the same beliefs, this isn't a problem, but what about those who are affirming or those who haven't yet figured out what they believe on that specific issue? And despite these extra rules heaped on LGBTQ Christians, they may not always be allowed to eventually take on leadership positions either due to their sexuality, sometimes even if they do hold to non-affirming theology and remain single and celibate.

At the same time, there are also several churches and denominations that have chosen to welcome LGBTQ Christians with open arms, inviting them to be part of their communities with no restrictions. However, even those churches often come under fire by the general Christian populace for their acceptance.

While I remain convinced that the vast majority of churches are truly doing their best to figure out how to handle and approach LGBTQ Christians, unfortunately, that very fact still lingers as one of the biggest struggles for LGBTQ Christians themselves, the fact that whether to welcome them or not is still an "issue" for most churches, a problem to be figured out or solved. Though LGBTQ Christians still need to take on a posture of grace and patience in these situations, there's little doubt it still stings to know that your identity and acceptance into a community of people who share your faith is still a debate item or topic of discussion.