i’m dfab but don’t wanna use the term lesbian due to my gender identity. is there a term for this or should i explain this differently? i don’t want to sound transphobic and i don’t know what to do. (2)

did you know that lesbian doesn’t mean “i am a woman who doesn’t have sex with penises” it just means a woman(or partial woman) who is attracted to other women.



did you know that a penis can vary in shape, size, and function? did you know that some people can’t use their penises for penetrative sex or have very little-no feeling and so don’t use them in that way?



look, talk to your partners. talk to them. express that certain types of sex trigger you. make sure they respect your boundaries. if they don’t, get away from them.



there is not a sexuality that says “i wont have sex with people who have this kind of junk in this kind of way”.



there are a lot of ways to be intimate and have sex, and a lot of them don’t involve genitals.



your assumptions that someone with a penis is going to have sex with you in this very specific way is not only transphobic but intersexist.



so other than eventually finding out your partners genital makeup and having a nice talk about boundaries with them(which everyone needs to do), there is no sexuality that is “i don’t have sex with penises”



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