Lance Hart co-owns SweetFemdom.com--a site all about fem doms and pegging and the people who love to watch and do that stuff. It's part of the PervOut site network and Hart regularly deals with a lot of confusion and assumptions about pegging and what it is really all about for the people who enjoy it. Here are five things he wanted to share with Fleshbot readers about the joys of pegging.

1) Pegging makes you better at having “normal" sex with girls. Before I ever got done in the butt, I had a lot of assumptions about what getting “fucked well” meant. I assumed that if my lady friend was moaning, it must feel good. There are different kinds of moans. Sometimes the angle that you are pounding her from hurts. Not always that “good hurt…” After getting pounded and having my insides full of dildo, I learned some things. Sometimes all I can feel is pressure. It just feels like my hips are getting pushed apart. Imagine how your lady feels sometimes when you’re filling her up with cock and having the time of your life and she’s wondering how much more she can take. She doesn’t want to stop you because she wants you to get off - she wants to be sexy, but it hurts. If you just slowed down a little and moved her hips one way or another she’d be feeling your cock in a great way. I know what that’s like now, and I can read my lady well. Also, sometimes it’s just abrasive. When I’m lubed up and everything’s lined up, it’s fucking amazing. I totally understand how important it is to warm up, line up right, make sure she’s turned on and ready… then take my lady to pound town. I know what it’s like to yell “fuck me!” and mean it. I know what my girlfriend is actually feeling when she tells me with smoky eyes to make her my little slut. I know just what to do when she says that.

2) Men CAN HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS. We can cum through our penis - we all know that. It’s pretty much most of what we know, and for good reason. It’s awesome. But it only lasts a few seconds, and it’s immediately followed by a need for a sandwich and a nap. What if I told you you can actually have multiple “pre-orgasms” which feel just like a normal orgasm, but without the complete drain of horny-ness right after. They actually just make you more and more horny. That’s what cumming from prostate stimulation is. You’d be amazed at how horny you can get when someone is working your butt right. The actual “dick-gasm” that follows just might be the biggest load you’ve ever blown.

3) It’s NOT always a female domination thing. Sure, lots of dudes who end up taking it in the butt from a girl with a strap-on might be on the submissive side. If that’s your bag, rock on, my kinky friend. I don’t happen to be very submissive. I do love it when a woman takes control. I love being a slut. I just don’t go in for the whole “worthless slave” thing (although I often do it in film). I mostly like to grab boobies, make out, do all the normal stuff… I just also happen to like girls to take control and rock me from the inside a little bit. I’m not alone here. There’s a substantial sub-reddit called “pegging unkinked” dedicated to dudes who don’t find anything “kinky” about pegging. They love pegging, and just want it mixed into the norm. It has over 6300 subscribers. That’s more subscribers that “bestofboobies,” “goneerotic,” or “ hardanal.” When you go to any sex shop, you will typically notice an entire shelf dedicated to strap-on dildos “for couples” with pictures of happy, sexy, normal looking people on the box. It’s just not talked about much due to the stigma associated with dudes taking it in the butt.

4) It has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. Yes, it’s an in-arguable fact that when gay men have sex, they do it in the butt. If they had another hole down there, this might be a different story, but boys don’t have vaginas. When gay men have oral sex, they use their mouths, just like straight people. Sound a little too obvious? If so, why (the fuck) would it seem obvious that if a straight man puts something in his but, he must be gay? Think about how illogical that last sentence was. Then think about whether or not you still agree with it… If a girl takes it in the butt, is she a gay man? See what I’m getting at here? Everyone has buttholes. All men are born with prostates and can have orgasms if their prostates are massaged.

5) If it’s your first time being pegged, try it on your back with a small dildo. I get emails and messages from fetlife all the time from guys who finally tried pegging and it wasn’t all they dreamt of. Like me, they fantasized about a sexy lady taking control and rocking their world with a strap-on. When they finally did it, it hurt. Or it was messy (clean out with an enema first…). Or they just couldn’t get the dildo in, and it got weird. Where do you go from there? I highly suggest using a ton of lube, a thin dildo, and do it on your back so you can look at your lady. It’s amazing how much easier you will open up when you have boobs bouncing in your face and you can see her pretty eyes looking at you while you turn into a total slut for her. It’s can be awesome. Just start small.

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