I’m told that being rich is pretty fucking great. I get it. It seems like life is a lot easier for people who don’t have to stress about bills, and can afford to do extravagant things like schedule a dentist appointment or buy produce organic. Having a job that puts you in a position of power seems nice too. It’s an ego boost, surely, to be the boss. You’re in charge of people, and they’re reliant on you and your opinion of them to further their own careers.

When you have money and power, you must feel invincible. You can do whatever you want. You can say whatever you want. The repercussions will be small — if there are any at all. The more wealth and power you obtain, the easier it becomes to do as you please. The easier it becomes to silence those who are against you.

It must be fucking nice. You must be so goddamn happy. Shit, I would be too. You’re untouchable. Now that you’re untouchable, fucking must be easier too.

Women are attracted to wealth and power, aren’t they? You were told your whole life that as soon as you obtained these two things that women would immediately throw themselves at you. We’re talking attractive women too. Women blessed with symmetrical faces, and have what you’ve been told is a perfect body. Basically, the only kind of woman you look at these days. The only kind of woman you deem worthy of your time.

It seemed like the perfect life plan, but for some reason your sexual advances toward women are not met with the enthusiasm you expected. They still don’t want to fuck you. You remind them that you have money and power, but their minds don’t really change. You’re at a loss. You don’t really understand why this isn’t coming easy.

Well, I’m here to tell you why. You suck.

All this time you thought that getting rich and being powerful would satisfy women enough to willingly have sex with you whenever you want. Most women, however, do not work this way. Despite the narrative other men try to feed you that says otherwise, people at their core are attracted to other people for reasons that have nothing to do with social status or income. Of course it’s true that this isn’t the case for all people, but we’re not talking about them. We’re talking about the average person, who isn’t a monster like you.

The average woman who is capable of empathy and has a need to be satisfied emotionally as well as physically, does not find your resume to be what gets her going. It can be something that initially attracts her to you, sure. It can be the thing that gets you that date with her. I am not denying that. But, do you know what would be the thing to make her genuinely fall for you? That would allow her to be intimate with you in a consensual, and genuinely-desiring-you sort of way?

Not being a piece of shit.

Now, what does it mean to not be a piece of shit? I’ll break it down for you.

Listen. There’s no such thing as breaking a woman down. When a woman says no, she means it. If your way of obtaining sex involves bargaining, arguing, several failed attempts, and the need to remind her of your status, there’s an extremely high probability that even if she ends up saying yes it will be out of a feeling of defeat and fear. Bottom line, she still means no. Listen to her, and take her words seriously. You don’t know what she wants, she does.

Care. Genuinely give a shit about the women you meet. Get to know them, and care for them. Whether you are sexually attracted to them or not. Make sure they are comfortable when they’re around you and if they’re not, be open to their criticisms and opinions without chastising them or writing them off as overreacting, crazy, or dramatic.

Practice Honesty. If you find yourself lying to women frequently, reexamine your fucking life. Be honest about your intentions, what you want, and what you’re doing. Your honesty might sometimes hurt your chances of getting laid. Your honesty might hurt someone’s feelings, or even your own. At the end of the day though, it’s your honesty that will eventually make you a more trustworthy and better person.

Empathize. Empathy is the most important thing to try and keep as you climb the ladder of success, yet it’s the easiest thing to lose. A human being’s ability to understand others and comprehend things from their varying perspectives is what prevents many of us from being abusive, hateful monsters. If you only surround yourself with people who are just like you, you’ll all fail to see how the people who don’t have what you have might be hurt from your words and actions. You won’t be able to register first-hand how your decisions affect them. Remind yourself on a daily basis that all people matter. Not just you or people like you.

Again, it’s great to afford nice things and to have the authority to make others as wealthy or as famous as you. Please note though that these are not the things that make up your character. These are not the things that we find to be what makes you the person you are. When you discover that your influence and capital aren’t working to your advantage when it comes to your interpersonal relationships, do not get angry. Do not become the despotic villain who is suddenly incapable of viewing others as people. Do not downplay their hurt and anger towards you. Definitely do not ever try to make yourself the victim. We all know that’s some bullshit, dude.

Instead, ask yourself why your still having trouble connecting with people in that way that you desire deep down. Work on being a better person. Practice listening, caring, honesty, and empathy. With this, you’ll find that you don’t have to take advantage of people in order to get what you want out of them. Better yet, you won’t want to take advantage of anyone. Life will be a whole lot fucking easier. For all of us.