A thing that needs to stop in the RWBY FNDM

So recently the word “abuse” has been thrown around the rwby fndm. Most recently this post has used it. Now, as someone who has been mentally and emotionally abused by someone, it’s pissing me off that this word is being used so wrongly and people are nodding their heads in agreement to it. The only ship that is abusive is Adam/Blake and subsequently any ship with Adam in it. Bumbleby and Black Sun are not in any way shape or form abusive. Why? Let me tell you what abuse actually is and why we need to stop throwing this word around just to put down another ship.





1. So let’s start with the elephant in the room. What that person posted, stating Bumbleby is abusive. Because it’s not. Nothing points to abuse or either of them being an abuser. Some people shout and spout “BUT WHAT ABOUT THE LASER POINTER?!?!? THAT IS RACIST AND ABUSIVE! YANG SHOULDN’T HAVE DONE THAT!” etc, etc. While I can see where the racist one is coming from, how in god’s name is that abuse? Look, admit it. With friends or family, we all have done shit that accidently brought harm to the ones we love. We all have said things that might have pulled on someone’s heart strings the wrong way. We made have been too rough and brought bodily harm, or did something that we unknowingly had a bad reaction to the other. We all have done that at one point or another because we are all human beings and make mistakes.



Does that make us all abusers? No. It’s doesn’t. Yang using a laser pointer is not abusive because if Blake did find that offensive (because we did not see if she felt that way or not) I’m sure she would have straight up told Yang not to do that and Yang would stop. She is not the person to harm others intentionally. Yang is the ‘mom’ of team RWBY and has shown time and time again caring deeply for her sister and friends and putting them first before herself. That, and since v2, we have not seen Yang do the same thing. Saying that is abuse is a weak claim.



“BUT YANG PUSHED BLAKE!” Others add on.



Yes, but only after Blake wasn’t listening. Yang tried talking to Blake to rest, she tried telling her that she did the same thing as a child, letting something consume her thoughts to the point she not only nearly killed herself but her sister killed as well, and Blake still did not give. She had no choice. It was her last option. We also know Yang’s strength. She has shattered a paladin with one fist, she has carried a large speaker over her shoulder no problem, and she has broken a stone wall while her hand was covered in a sheet of thick ice. Yang could easily have done damage to Blake with a single push yet it was more of a ‘tap’. Also, Yang pushed Blake to drive home the point that she, Blake, was in no condition to fight Roman, let alone the White Fang.



Sometimes you need to get a little rough to get someone to listen. Don’t out right yell and give them bodily harm, no. But sometimes when there is nothing else to do, a slap to the head is needed.





2. Now I am not only going to talk Bumbleby here because from what I heard, people were calling out Sun as an abuser because of the events of 4.3. Sun is not an abuser. At most, he’s an airhead. He might not realize what he has done is creepy but his heart is in the right place. Yes, looking into a window of a bedroom, a private place, is wrong and creepy and following someone around for at least six months in a cloak and not telling them is the same deal. But he is not being abusive. He is making dumb decisions and Blake did call him out on his shit in 4.3. And by looking at Sun’s face, it looked like he realized he messed up and should not have done that. Sun only wants to help Blake and make sure she is okay, just like Yang. Both care deeply for her and only want to make sure she has the best. You want to know abuse? We have two abusers in the show right now. First up is:





3. Adam Taurus. He is Blake’s abuser. We have seen him act creepy around Blake, pretty much saying, “If I can’t have you, no one can.” He back handed, bitch slapped Blake so hard she fell to the ground, stunned. He also stabbed her in the abdomen and tried to decapitate her. Adam tried to MURDER Blake. We also saw the fear and horror on Blake’s face when she saw Adam again. She was petrified of him. While we do not know all about their past together, we can gather from what Adam did and Blake’s reaction when seeing him again, it was bad. Adam physically assaulted Blake and who knows what else he has done to her. Adam is an abuser. The actions of what Yang and Sun did don’t come nowhere near what Blake suffered through with Adam.





4. Now you may ask, “Kae! Who is the other abuser?” Weiss’ father, Jacques. We have not seen him be physically abusive to Weiss (or to his other children) but he has been mentally and emotionally abusive. In the first episode of v3, he cuts Weiss’ money off for not answering his call. He pulled the same thing to Winter (she told Weiss that in 3.4). From what we can gather also, he was far from pleased that Weiss went to Beacon, not Atlas. After Ironwood left, Jacques was putting Weiss down, trying to control her and pretty much gave her no choice when he brought up singing for an event. Jacques does what he can do put Weiss down and manipulate her, ignoring how she feels about things. That is mental and emotional abuse.



Weiss has hate for her father. We can see it in her face in 4.2 and her reaction when Winter is talking about him in 3.4. Again, as someone who is in a similar situation, it points to all signs of abuse and reminds me of what I have to go through.





5. Now one more point I want to bring up as a side note. What Tai did wasn’t abusive either. It was shocking to hear him said that but Yang took it fine. Unfortunately, it was never established before that Yang and Tai have a relationship like that where they can do things like that. While I may not have reacted great to what Tai said for reasons, he wasn’t really being abusive. And as I stated before, we all do and say things that may harm someone we love when we didn’t mean for that. That does not make us an abuser and neither does it make Tai one.





The fact people are throwing this word around like it can be applied to any ship is asinine. Yang, Sun, and even Tai are not abusers. Adam and Jacques are. Just because you hate a ship doesn’t mean you can use that word to slander it.

Yang nearly lost her life trying to protect Blake form her actual abuser and Sun is risking his to make sure she is okay. Neither have shown any signs of wanting to harm Blake or control her. How people see either one as an abuser baffles me. This needs to stop now.