What advice do you give to new moms? What if you could go back and tell your new mom self one thing? I mean one REALLY valuable mom life secret?



“Enjoy every moment, they grow too fast” is the advice I used to give to every new mom. It’s what I used to write in the baby shower cards, or the comment I would leave on that social media post of a new mom and dad with their brand new baby, and now I wish I could take it back. Yup.

I regret telling any new or mom to be to enjoy every moment. Why? Beacause the truth is, she won’t.



The truth is she will have nights when she doesn’t know how much longer she can handle waking up every two hours and then nights she stays awake staring at her baby whos sound asleep. She will have days she feels her kids are growing up way too fast and days she feels they’re not growing fast enough. Days when she feels like a bad-ass supermom and days where she feels like shes failing miserably. She will have days when she studies every inch of their changing faces and days she wishes those little faces would just leave her alone for 5 minutes. She will have days where she feels lost and then days where she feels motherhood is where she belongs.

She won’t enjoy every moment and we need to let her know that’s ok.





I recently polled a local mom group on facebook to find out in one sentence, what advice they would give a new mom. Here are some of my faves,

Ask for help

Ignore other people’s judgements about your decisions. Your kid, your choice.

Be kind to yourself

Remember to take time for yourself without feeling guilty about it

Everything is going to be alright.

It’s hard and it’s ok to cry

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel

Don’t stress about routines, let things be for the moment.

Trust yourself.

You know best

Trust your instincts

Nobody knows what they are doing. So don’t compare yourself

It really does take a village, so never shy away from asking for help.

It’s ok to NOT enjoy every moment- sometimes parenting sucks big time

It’s extremely hard. But so fucking worth it









So let’s stop telling Moms to enjoy every moment and start telling them it’s ok if they don’t.