Last weeks Feel-Good Rooms session was on “Healing Triggers In Relationships & Completing The Stress Cycle”.



When we get “triggered” we go into one of the Four Trauma States / Defences: namely Fight (Rage), Flight (Panic), Freeze (Paralysis) or Fawn (People-Pleasing), in romantic relationships arguments often happen when one persons trigger sets off the others trigger, if one can remain in the Window Of Tolerance (easier said than done) then things can be resolved more quickly / peacefully.



Our triggers are all unique to us and are linked to our “attachment wounds” to which all of us have to lesser or greater extent because none of us have been “fully met” in childhood. One persons trigger can be around “not being seen” as this was what they experienced from an emotionally absent caregiver, someone else’s something entirely different. Hence why relationships can be such a hotbed of a trigger-fest with neither partner being able to understand each other’s trigger.



Understanding your “own” triggers is the first part of the work, and how to look after yourself when you are triggered too. We are also living in a time when we are getting triggered daily due to current events.



On the Feel-Good Rooms Emma, our Love, Relationships & Sexuality Coach, showed us how to “complete the stress cycle” by shaking it out of the body and healthily releasing anger, Sandy, our Trauma & Self Esteem Specialist, showed us how to self soothe using Havening & I ran some group hypnosis providing antidotes to attachment wounding.



For anyone struggling with triggers right now, we’d love to support you. Every Monday at 7pm, drop-in £11, monthly subscription £22.



Triggers can actually be a very powerful resource for healing



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