When I was 20 (close to 5 years ago now) I was introduced to the book “The Game” By Neil Strauss about the underground pickup artist culture (PUA for short). At this time I had a copy of the book for months but never chose the read it until I hit rock bottom as far as my progress with women was going.

I always heard “you will never get laid more then you do in college” from older friends and family, but that just wasn’t even the slightest bit of true for me in my college years. Now reaching my senior year I was getting desperate. I admitted defeat and seeked help out of desperation not knowing where else to go, so I picked up “The Game” (finally). This book was basically my red pill and opened a door of mind fuckery that I did not expect, guys in worse states then me were getting laid 10 fold with these “pick up techniques”.

Granted this book was written in 2005 and I was reading it in 2011 so a lot of the routines and “pick up lines” were very dated and tacky in my opinion but nonetheless I built confidence in myself that it was possible for a pretty average guy like me to get laid on the norm let alone just talk to more women for starters.

Fast forward a year and I have engulfed myself into the PUA community reading every article and watching every video I could possibly get my hands on. I’m finally 21 so I can go out to bars and clubs to practice all that I’ve learned, but none of my small group of friends were interested in joining, this left me in a pickle should I just give in and stay home playing video games with friends or finally make a difference in my life I chose the latter and went out solo.

Major comfort zone breaker but I had the passion to apply everything I learned and practice “In Field” every weekend, whether a friend wanted to tag along or not. It was very slow progress but I was surprised to get very positive feedback for having the balls to go out alone from guys and girls, eventually I made friends with these people and staff at the bars over the years but I have no fear of doing anything alone anymore.

This is everything I have to provide from 4 years of going out solo to help those of you too nervous to do so.