Porn Isn’t the Problem

My most recent YouTube video sparked an interesting exchange today… and here’s my response to this:

GILF is indeed a “thing,” which you can confirm with a quick (although, forewarning, NSFW) Google search.

Here’s the thing, though. There’s nothing about adult entertainment that’s “out of control.” It’s been here since the beginning of time and will be here until the end of time. Like any other business model, it’s simply evolved, and will continue to do so. We can accredit its current state to the birth of the Internet, which right this very second we can thank for giving us instant access to literally anything we could possibly want - whether it’s a question, directions, illegal downloading of a brand new video game, access to as much smut as anyone could possibly want, or hell, even pounds of hard drugs or a deadly weapon. It’s all right here at our fingertips.

With this, having instant access to essentially whatever it is we want, whenever we want it has allowed my generation (“Millennials”) to be the first-EVER to experience the phenomenon of living a lifestyle that’s completely encompassed by instant gratification. And, as we grow older, younger generations follow suit. In doing so means that yes, any kind of adult entertainment is accessible to virtually anyone anywhere at any given time. That’s just the world we live in.

Because this is the world we live in, that means that it’s also the responsibility of those of us who have children growing up in younger generations (right now, and going forward) to implement tactics into our parenting that take this phenomenon into consideration, and educate our children accordingly. Unless you live in an environment where there is virtually no form of advanced technology, there is no question that those growing up in this day and age can and will be exposed to virtually everything that the Internet has to offer.

Right this very moment, I could order 14 pounds of black tar heroin and an exotic animal straight to my doorstep, stream a movie that’s still in theaters, play a video game that hasn’t even been released yet, and watch whatever type of smut I feel like. If I were feeling exceptionally rambunctious, I could even do all of this at once.

While I consider myself to be relatively wise, I’m no philosophical genius, either. In other words, anyone with half a brain could do the same if they truly wanted to. And it being 2018, that unfortunately includes those who are not yet adults. It’s the lack of education that is the missing link in the lives of the adolescents you describe. When our nation still has an embarrassingly high number of schools teaching abstinence as the sole means of sexual education, and when parents choose to turn a blind eye and “let the school handle it” rather than sitting down to have an open, honest conversation with their children, then yes, that’s a recipe for disaster.

Rest assured that my life’s mission has thoroughly been thought out, mapped and pinpointed, and is well within what I would consider to be my own ethical means. One of the most wonderful aspects of sex (aside from it being one of the most fun-filled activities known to humanity) is the fact that every single human being on this planet that is alive right now is here because two people had sex. If sex wasn’t freaking fantastic, and people stopped procreating, that would mean that, well, humanity as we know it would go extinct. That’s because, much like eating and sleeping, humans’ need for sex is natural, normal, and, well, crucial. The fact that I am a well-educated, consenting adult with no mental health issues (although I do consider myself a bit of a strange bird, but aren’t we all) who happens to enjoy the act of having sex and even further enjoy the act of knowing other humans around the world are also enjoying themselves watching me thoroughly enjoy myself makes me happy as can be.

An added bonus to being an educated female living in the USA with a strong work ethic and creative streak who thoroughly enjoys sex as well as exhibitionism? Well, she is fortunate enough to be able to capitalize off of this array of eccentricities that compose much of her being - in the form of adult entertainment.

You are partially correct in the sense that sure, 90% of women theoretically could work in my profession if they truly desired. But therein lies the major difference between being the face of what it means to be a modern, empowered woman in today’s world with a streak of liberation that comes from defying what our patriarchal society tells us we “should do” in the form of a nonconventional career that we take tremendous pride in. The difference being between the former is unparalleled when compared with the woman who simply chooses to perform in adult-oriented content. Which is also roughly 80% of the 90% of women who “could” do this job. I hate to be the one to drop the bomb, but the universal theme of adult entertainment is what we call “fantasy.”

Much like a popular movie or video game, adult entertainment is, well, entertainment. It’s a means of escapism for those at home watching. Similar to going to an amusement park for a day or immersing oneself in a killer fiction novel, it’s a way to hit the “pause” button on reality and take yourself somewhere else, letting your brain take a break and your imagination run wild. And it’s perfectly healthy and normal, as long as it’s done in moderation and doesn’t intervene with your day-to-day activities. Just as it’s crucial to teach our youth that violent video games and Harry Potter are not actually real, it’s also equally crucial to teach them the same concept (understanding the major differences between fantasy and reality) when it comes to adult entertainment - and this is also in addition to good ol’ modern-day sex education.

While having a thriving career in adult entertainment may appear to consist of talent showing up to set, having sex, collecting a paycheck and returning home, please know that this is one fantasy for us that will never come to fruition. Because the reality is that while our careers are indeed liberating, fulfilling, and have the potential to be quite profitable, they are also tedious, grueling, and if not pursued strategically and meticulously, have the potential to create a lifetime of serious hardship when one decides to retire.

And while I could carry on with my “who is fit for a career in adult film and who is not” spiel for the rest of my evening and well into the night, I’ll go ahead and save the detail for another day. A future written piece or video here on my YouTube channel, perhaps…which you seem to have discovered with ease, making me question the motives behind being a consumer of porn yet having no qualms when it comes to sharing the fact that porn is bad and our society is messed up from it…with a woman who would have never truly grown into herself had it not been for becoming an adult entertainer. *Scratches head*

I will, however, show no holds barred in telling you to kindly fuck off when it comes to speaking ill of “these guys I’ve met at shows/conferences with creeper vibes,” as you so eloquently expressed. Aside from my profession, being a 20-something, traditionally attractive female not living in a cave has certainly led to being introduced to many an unsolicited person with said “creeper vibes” throughout my lifetime, although roughly 99.8% of these encounters have been at places like the bank, the grocery store, and hell, even out at dinner with my family. And, like every other female on this planet, being subject to these uninvited interactions began at roughly the age of an elementary school student. In fact, “these guys” that I HAVE met at shows/conferences are among some of the most kindhearted and respectful gentlemen that I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. Perhaps I should request some of them to conduct lessons for those who think cat calling from a car is the key to winning over a first-class woman.

I partake in being a source of adult entertainment for the masses because, well, I fucking love it. I would go into the 23480348 reasons why, but again, that would take all night and I’ve got a hot bubble bath with a glass of red wine calling my name. Just know this: I was never able to say I was truly happy with where I am in life and where I’m going, as well as with myself and who I am (and continue to grow into) as a human being. And the vast majority of my colleagues will say the same. Adult entertainment is not a problem. It’s the absence of education in some of those who choose to consume it.





xo al