ChaosIncorporated Thu 02-Aug-18 08:51:10

Hmmmm.

I absolutely believe in deferring to parental rules but do also think that grandparents are part of the first (and safe) experiences of wider social interactions. Learning that people who are not your parents may not tolerate behaviours used at home, is quite a major life lesson.

I adore my GSs and am lucky enough to be a regular presence in their lives, but I dont always respond in the same way as their parents now they are of an age to be interacting with the wider world a little.

I have zero tolerance for whinging, or bad manners and they have happily accepted those social rules.

I would never contradict the parents but equally won't accept being treated without courtesy.

I had always thought that being part of that safe bridge into managing wider relationships was one of the very positive things GC gain from having close family in their lives.

Maybe not?