by guest blogger Sara Leo

This post has been edited from its original which generated largely positive feedback from other White people and critical feedback from people of color. I have learned a lot through this process and I believe I will be a better anti-racist advocate for my daughter because of this experience. While I am grateful to those who learned from the original post, I want to thank those who pushed me to understand my own biases and gaps of knowledge.. I have attempted to revise this post with the goal of critiquing and problematizing the conversation I had with my daughter.

On the last week before summer break, my White four-year-old daughter’s preschool participated in a common event in elementary schools across the country: “Crazy Hair Day.” That morning, I pulled her blonde hair up into about 10 ponytails and sent her on her way to school. As soon as I dropped her off, I started to feel anxiety about what I had done.