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The couple went in search of a single bisexual woman down for having threesomes. When such a woman, whom Tom described as a "unicorn," didn't pop into existence, they broadened their horizons: "My wife brought up the idea of finding another couple who was interested in the same thing. One thing led to another, we soon found ourselves in bed with two other people, and that's when we realized that we were open to a lot more than we originally thought."

Tom was emphatic that his wife was the one responsible for kick-starting their exploration of swinging: "My wife calls it 'driving the bus.' I'm along for the ride, but she decides where it's going and when it stops." He claimed that, in his experience, women in the community were "100 percent in control."

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In fact, even the key party and waterbed stereotypes we hold turned out to be untrue. According to some research, modern "swinging" wasn't a product of the disco age. In fact, it got its start in the coolest way possible: as part of a death pact among fighter pilots. The theory goes that back in World War II, fighter pilots had roughly the same life expectancy as a dog in a chocolate factory. Swapping partners was a way to form bonds between their families, ensuring that the other guys would take care of one's wife and kids if some Kraut flak gun took him down. It's a wonder we called it something as innocuous as "swinging" and not the far more appropriate "death-humping."