OuiCestVrai Sun 05-Nov-17 09:39:31

I'm a student and single mum to DD who is nearly 2 years old.



I'm doing an internship 2 days a week alongside my studies. I previously had DD in nursery full time but have cut back because it would make more sense to stay with my mum than to travel 60 miles/2 hours to my workplace.



My mum has agreed to take care of DD whilst I go to work but just this weekend I have witnessed some very questionable behavior from my mother and I'm thinking of putting DD back with a childcare provider.



1. She overfeeds DD in front of me and from what my brother has told me, behind my back. I have DD on a healthy diet with little to no sugar. My mum offers biscuits and cakes to her.



2. DD is still bablimg but sounds are starting to sound like words, and she loves talking. My mum ignores her, or just says "yeah" when DD speaks instead of joining in with a conversation.



3. My mum also spends a lot her time staring at a screen and ignores DD. I'm worried that DD may climb on something and hurt herself whilst my mum continues to stare at screens all day.



4. My mum screams at DD for drawing on walls, telling her she's naughty instead of keeping pens out of reach or supervising her because she's too busy with her screens.



5. My mum threatens to smack DD when she can't deal with her whining. Or tells her to be quiet instead of figuring out what she wants. I know this because my mum watches her whilst I do coursework at home so I can hear them.



I don't want her to loon after DD unless she changes her approach. I've spoken to her about it but she tjinksnim trying to cause an argument. She doesn't see that the way she os treating DD is not how I want things to be. I think in some ways she's treating DD as her child instead of my child.



I'm considering replacing her with childcare to save on money and time for me, even though I'm doing an unpaid internship for the next year.



Am I tight in thinking my mum is being abusive in some ways?