Sometimes I get tired of ignorance and dumb questions, so I made a list of what not to ask or say to an FTM or transgendered person, and the LGBTI community.

I hate when people as questions such as:

Q: Do you want to be a man JUST to get rid of your periods?

A: No, that’s just a bonus that comes along with taking testosterone.

My thought: It hurts like hell and I occasionally forget I bleed, sometimes I don’t even want to admit I bleed. When it happens and I experience the pain or sickness that comes along with it, I’ll never say “I’m on my period.” It’s something that makes me feel gross, I’ll never say it unless my mother or doctor asks, makes me feel too feminine just bleeding out. So if a friend sees me in distress, I’m just “Sick and have a stomach ache today, it’ll pass.”

Q: Why don’t you just be yourself? You were born a woman so just be a woman.

A: I’ve always been myself, I never put on a facade to keep you entertained. Yes I was born a woman which I have no control over, but that doesn’t effect my personality and way of thinking. I AM being me, I AM a man at heart. Therefore I classify myself as male, it’s not a mask and I have nothing to hide from.

My thought: How are you going to tell me to be myself when you aren’t even being yourself? I’ve always been myself, and even gotten shunned for it, meanwhile you’re the one who’s really hiding just to fit in with other people and not end up like me (that person everyone doesn’t want to openly be). You seen the real me, you just didn’t like it …so I’m “The weirdo who needs help.” You can’t handle the truth, can’t speak out or speak for yourself, and can’t voice your opinion, cause you know you’d lose your clique. So who’s the one who is really hiding?

Q: Are you mentally ill? I’m being serious right now…

A: Perhaps I’m a little mentally ill.

My thought: I haven’t pounced on you yet for asking such a ridiculous question… that’s what a mentally ill person would do anyways right? That question was as serious as Kim Kardashian’s love life. I’m sane, achieved an honors certificate for outstanding grades, and I’ve been lenient enough to not kick your ass. Everyone has an “ill” or “dark” side, especially women. Don’t mess with a woman, because they will snap and possibly stab you, or worse. Now I’m not saying all women are crazy, but anyone who’s experienced abuse, something traumatic, etc can flip out (men or women). If you want to compare me to someone who spends their days in a mental asylum, be my guest. However, just keep in mind if you treat people horribly, you never know who could become the next Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, or Serial Killer who dresses like a clown.

“I’m not crazy, I’m just a little bit strange.” ~ Hopsin

Q: Don’t be mad, but do I have to call you by your fake name?

A: It’s not a fake name, that’s what I’m getting my name changed to, and yes you have to call me by it or else I won’t respond to you.

My thought: My birth name is very feminine, it’s not a unisex name like Alex, Frankie, Jesse, Jamie, Sam, etc. How would you feel, being male and your name is Melissa? Or Penelope? How would you feel, being a female and your name is Josh, Dennis, or Bill? Some of you may or may not care, but I don’t think my name suits me. If you had a St. Bernard are you going to name it Peaches? If you have a Chihuahua are you going to name it Zeus? I know my mother gave me the name and it is what it is, but it doesn’t fit me personally. I picked myself a name I felt describes me in general. Names do have meanings in my opinion. I’m a romantic, intelligent, philosophical, emotional, sweet, athletic, hands on and loves to help people kind of guy, therefore my name is Carlos, and I’m at peace with that name. The name gives me a warm fuzzy feeling, it just fits me.

Q: Have you seen Brokeback Mountain or Rocky Horror Picture Show?

A: I’ve never watched either movie.

My thought: I’ve never watched the movie but I know it involves my celebrity crush Heath Ledger, and Jake Gyllenhaal, who are supposedly two homosexual cowboy lovers (which sounds awesome). As for Rocky Horror Picture Show, I’ve only seen a YouTube video of Tim Curry singing my now favorite song “Sweet Transvestite” and I’ve been searching for the movie ever since. I’m not one for musicals, but seeing a preview on YouTube of the movie definitely caught my attention. Gay or heterosexual, it’s hard not to be captivated by Dr. Franknfurters whacky persona.

Q: Do you have a penis?

A: Not yet, but I will.

My thought: I said I don’t have one yet about 10times, keep acting like you don’t remember I said it 5mins ago and I’ll clock you in the face with it when I get it. Then you’ll really have a reason to be called a dickhead.

Q: Are you a tranny?

A: No.

My thought: Please don’t make me go through a list of sexual identities and define them all, while explaining the difference between them all.

Q: Since your trans, that means you have both a vagina and a penis. Can you get yourself pregnant?

A: No, and no I just have one…

My thought: I really have no words for this, some people think being transgendered means you’re asexual? The world is doomed…some people should really look things up and get their facts together before opening their mouths and looking ignorant.

Q: If you are gay, does that mean you’re attracted to the same sex and animals?

A: Being gay has nothing to do with being attracted to animals… just people of the same gender.

My thought: This follows up with the previous question, research things if you’re curious. Animals is bestiality, homosexuality and bestiality are two separate things. If you’d like to get punched in the throat, this is the fastest way to get a throat jab, asking this idiotic question.

Q: Are you gay because you’ve been sexually molested?

A: I’ve never been sexually molested to know I’m gay, so what kind of question is that?

My thought: You don’t have to have been sexually molested to know you’re gay, majority of homosexuals have never been molested so I find this question highly offensive. I don’t see homophobes asking other straight people who have been sexually molested asking this question. People are not always molested by the same sex, so does this mean this is how you know you’re straight? Being molested is no joke, whether it was by someone of the same or opposite sex. I’m attracted to who I’m attracted to, whether it’s looks or personality, I don’t need to have sex with someone to think they’re amazing.

Q: Before you get a sex change, may I see you naked or can you send me nudes?

A: No, and double no.

My thought: You sir are a pervert, just because I’m transgendered does not mean I’m lonely and desperate.

Q: Are you changing because you think you’re ugly, or can’t find anyone who wants to be with you so you have to change genders?

A: I’m beautiful baby, there’s no way in hell I’m ugly. My love life is probably better than yours.

My thought: Even though I’m young my longest relationship was of 4years, then 2years, then 1.5years. Not trying to brag, but I’ve had people try to break me up my relationship with a lover in hopes that I’d come to them after the break up and be with them in the end after heartbreak (aka I’m desirable). I’m proud to admit I have something most people don’t, I’m different and content not fitting in with the rest of society. If I was truly “ugly” then why do people want to steal me away and win me over, or come to me when they need someone to talk to? I don’t regret any of my past lovers, I’m changing for me and me only. The only thing that matters is that there’s respect, communication, and understanding in a relationship, if you have that then your relationship will be successful if you both put the effort.

Q: Do you like Glee?

A: Can’t stand it.

My thought: I don’t like many musicals, when people think “gay” they think of your stereotypical dramatic theatrical arts gay male. I like to listen to rock, metal, heavy metal, rarely country, and a little hip hop (and gay pop only because it’s catchy). If you’ve never heard any kinds of gay pop songs I can link a couple of artists below.

Johnny McGovern

Cazwell

Sebastian Castro

William Belli

Q: Are you flaming (flamboyant) or a dyke?

A: No and no.

My thought: What makes a dyke a dyke? Define “dyke”, do you mean your stereotypical “dyke” or am I a lesbian? Supposedly a “dyke” is a lesbian woman who dresses very masculine, has a short hair cut, and does boyish things. Several things strike me when I get asked this, I’m not flamboyant so that’s out of the way. Am I what you consider a dyke? Maybe, nor do I care. My hair is long, I occasionally like to wear sweat pants and a hoodie or jeans, and I’m attracted to both sexes. Stereotypes are just one way to make me angry if they’re used in an offensive way. If it’s jokingly THEN I’ll accept it, if it’s used to mock me or the lgbti community and used out if ignorance, then it’s not acceptable. Please do not make me school you. If a female who you’d say acts “feminine” was into videogames and hunting(while also slim, petite, bubbly, pretty, wears make-up) society sees that as the “perfect girlfriend” or “girl of my dreams”. However if another female who is also into the same thing, but maybe a little pudgy or thick, has short hair, does not wear make up, a gamer, has tattoos, or piercings, why is that looked down upon, and how does that make them a lesbian? You can’t really tell the difference between a homosexual and a heterosexual by just looking at them unless you know them.

Q: What would you do if I or someone called you a “faggot”?

A: Absolutely nothing, just give you a dictionary.

My thought: The term really isn’t offensive, and you’re actually using it wrong. The first definition would be “a bundle of sticks”, the second definition would be “what europeans call a cigarette”.

Here are some things not to tell me:

1) Gays don’t box or fight.

I do box, and I do fight. Don’t underestimate the gay community. I can box you like a woman and I can beat your sweet ass like Chuck Norris.

2) I refuse to call you by your other name until you’ve change genders.

If I have to wait that long then you might as well not talk to me at all.

3) I refuse to call you by your other name even after you’ve changed genders.

Then don’t talk to me at all. Farewell

4) I liked you better when I thought you were a guy, you were cooler then, now that I know you’re a female you’re lame.

That’s your loss, not mine.

5) Are you sure you still want to go through with undergoing surgery and getting a penis? It seems kind of dangerous and pricey. Maybe you should just stay as you are.

I’m well aware of the dangers, I still want a penis, I’ll spend my money as I please.

6) “You have no life.”

No? I have a life, I think you need to reassess yourself. Maybe yours isn’t all that great so you feel the need to push your emotions onto me for how sucky yours may be. I am truly sorry that you didn’t get to live your life to it’s fullest.

7) You’re weird, this is why you’re so alone.

I’m not alone, sure I’m weird but I’m not alone.

8) Gays are thirsty.

Not all homosexuals are thirsty, if a lesbian can control herself in a locker room full of naked women then men should be able to control themselves when a woman walks by on the street.

9) Being gay is a choice.

Being gay is not a choice, why would someone choose to be gay? Why would it be so hard for people to come out and look for understanding support without being ostracized if it were a choice?

10) Being gay is a phase.

Being gay is not a phase, however curiosity is. Everyone thinks about it occasionally, but not everyone embraces the fact because they’re too afraid to admit it.

11) You think you’re a man, so you’re crazy.

You haven’t seen crazy yet, if you wanna see crazy I’ll show you crazy.

12) You’re going to hell.

I’ll see you there, maybe I’ll grab your foot and drag you with me on the way down.

13) Why are gays so sassy?

We aren’t sassy, just brutally honest. If we were sassy it’d be a lot worse, trust me.

14) You’re an abomination and disgusting.

Define abomination, you probably don’t even know the definition of abomination but just know it’s a word cause you read it out of the bible. For the record I’ll have you know I’m very clean! I wash daily and have literally a gallon of hand sanitizer.

15) All gays love anal.

Studies actually say heterosexual couples enjoy anal sex more than homosexual couples. Gay couples enjoy foreplay more than anal sex, on the other hand heterosexual couples do anal more than homosexuals because they like the adventurous thrill.

If I had one thing to sum up this entire post…Gay Men Will Marry Your Girlfriends sums it up entirely. Of course there’s other ways to handle attacks against the LGBT community in a peaceful way without being witty and saucey like I am. However I just can’t help myself to address some things I feel need to be said, someone needed to say it or else it just would’ve never ended. A continuing cycle of questions that should just not be asked. Has anyone else been asked stranged questions like this? Maybe even worse?