Venting: the roommate doesn’t understand harassment/misogynoir/microagressions

A few days ago I was trying to explain how my anxiety is aggravated by the fact that I get harassed/hit on/catcalled pretty much every time I leave the house (including on my way to and from work and at work), and how that makes it that much harder to leave the house, especially by myself.

And the person I was trying to explain this to is an extroverted white trans woman who has just started transitioning and is still read as male and they just had NO perspective to empathize with or understand what I was taking about.

First, they asked what I did in response to the harassment, like that even really matters-it’s not going to make it stop, and I’m not going to feel better if I aggravate an uncomfortable situation and/or put myself in danger.

Then they were like, ‘why let it get to you?’, like, I’m sorry, do you not fucking understand microagressions and how they compound over time? Or misogynoir? Or fetishization and objectification?

Oh, wait, you DON’T.

Fuck.







03/24/14 at 3:32pm

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