Apparently, cheating spouses want to have their cake and eat it too.

Victoria Milan -- a dating site for married people seeking affairs -- surveyed 4,658 of their members and found that 76 percent preferred to have sex with their lovers but still wanted to sleep with their partners.

In fact, 69 percent of those surveyed said they don't even think about leaving their significant others and 85 percent said they don't view their lover as a suitable long-term partner.

When asked why they preferred to stay in their long-term relationships, cheaters cited security, love, stability, family and happiness as reasons for staying put.

"If you have a good relationship with your partner, if there is still love and affection, if he or she is a good parent and they are part of a good family group, cheaters are not necessarily looking for a break up when they look for a lover," said CEO of Victoria Milan, Sigurd Verdal. "They just want to add a bit of passion and adventure back into their lives.”

What do you think: Is it fair for cheaters to want it all -- the love and security of marriage with a little sex on the side?