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benching: This is what happens when, as New York Magazine puts it, someone puts a romantic prospect “on the roster but not in play.” They might bench you by agreeing to a date, only to reschedule — maybe even several times. They’re keeping their options open and are probably dating multiple people at once.

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bread-crumbing: Similar to benching, there’s more communication than actual in-person interaction. As Esme Oliver describes in Salon, bread-crumbing is when someone sends “a consistent stream of really complimentary texts,” potentially saying he misses you, only to never follow up and make plans.

cuffing season: It’s nearly upon us! Cuffing season is the period between October and February when it’s colder out and a regular Netflix and chill buddy seems more desirable than keeping your options open. As it gets darker in the winter, the body produces more melatonin, making us sleepy and groggy — “more like a homebody,” biological anthropologist Helen Fisher said. “The lack of light might make people want to stay in.”

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demisexual: A sexual orientation for those who take a while to feel attracted to someone. Solo-ish contributor Meryl Williams, who identifies as demisexual, describes it as “taking a while to warm up.”

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ghosting: When someone ends a relationship by cutting off all communication, perhaps because they’re scared of confrontation or they have a sense that the person they’re with is dangerous. Ghosting can happen when you’ve only been out a few times or even when things are serious.

matrimania: A term coined by sociologist and Solo-ish contributor Bella DePaulo to describe “the over-the-top celebrating and hyping of marriage and coupling and weddings.” (E.g., “I just can’t handle the matrimania of wedding season.”)

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Raya: Also known as “celebrity Tinder,” it’s an exclusive dating app for creative types with large Instagram followings. It’s where comedian Amy Schumer met her now-ex-boyfriend Ben Hanisch; and according to this list from Nylon, actress Sharon Stone, designer Alexander Wang and the DJ Diplo are among its members. In the premiere of this season of “Bachelor in Paradise,” cast member Amanda Stanton noted that she couldn’t get in.

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sapiosexual: A person who finds someone’s intellect to be the sexiest thing about them. In 2014, online dating site OkCupid added sapiosexual to their list of sexual orientations.

ship: Short for “relationship,” and used as a verb to say that you endorse or approve of two people — real or fictional characters — being together. (“I ship Ron and Hermione.“) It’s especially popular among the youths.

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slide into his/her DMs: When someone attempts to flirt on Twitter by sending a direct message (DM) to someone they don’t know. “Part of the problem is that DM slides are most often reserved for strangers or distant acquaintances,” reports Men’s Fitness, which includes a handy chart to help you decide whether the DM slide is a risk worth taking. “Sliding into her DMs should always be a last resort,” the magazine advises.

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slow fade: Not quite ghosting, this is when someone gradually backs away but doesn’t explicitly cut things off.

stealthing: When a man removes his condom during sex, without his partner’s consent. When Alexandra Brodsky was a Yale law student, she researched stealthing and found that the practice was “widespread” among young, sexually active people, although her data was purely anecdotal.

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zombie-ing: When someone who’s ghosted their way out of a relationship tries to reenter their ex’s life, it’s called zombie-ing. It can be as a simple as an ex who disappeared liking something on your Facebook or Instagram, sending a request to connect on LinkedIn or reaching out and trying to get together. Dating coach Francesca Hogi says that zombie-ing is quite common now that technology allows people to disappear from one another’s lives and then easily parachute back in. “All these very casual ways of reaching out and contacting people, I think it gives [people] permission to say: Hey, the risk is very low,” Hogi told me. “She’s not going to curse me out on the phone and hurt my feelings. She’s just going to ignore my text message.”