— Asked by Anonymous

I’m really glad you mentioned this, because I feel exactly the same way, and I identify as demisexual. Though there are some asexuals who enjoy having sex for its own sake and have a high libido, as you describe it, it’s fairly rare, and I have a feeling such sentiments are more commonly found in demisexuals, some of whom often say they’re like an allosexual once they’ve found the right person.

You could be asexual, since I presume you’ve never felt sexually attracted, from what you said, or demisexual, or maybe even gray-asexual. If you don’t have sexual thoughts about people, there’s a good chance that you’re some sort of ace, even if you feel like you want and would enjoy sex. I would continue reading more ace blogs and see how other people choose to identify. Don’t stress too much about the exact definitions of each label. Just pick the one that you think fits you best, and if you decide you’re something else later on, that’s okay too.