We seem, whether we like it or not, to be having a national conversation about sexuality, specifically, which types of sexual relationship should be afforded the legal and social imprimatur of marriage. So it was apposite that news should break, this week, that NRL star Bodene Thompson fathered a child during a casual encounter with a stripper and former Playboy model. It was an encounter that reportedly occurred while some of his former teammates watched on, a sexual peccadillo which I'm sure no one involved would categorise as gay, despite the fact that more men were present than women.

It's just what normal, healthy young straight blokes do – invite their colleagues to observe them having sex with women.

There are those among us who worry about the Safe Schools program, and how it will push notions of gender fluidity on our young. There are those of us who worry about how legalising same-sex marriage will undermine social mores in some crucial and important way, and there are those of us who worry that same-sex marriage will destroy the fabric of what we deem to be a Proper Family, which is to say, a nuclear one.

But those kinds of worriers never seem to turn their minds to the damage done by the blokey, take-no-prisoners sexual sporting culture which seems rusted-on in this country, just as you won't find any of them making political noise about the $1.4 billion in outstanding child support payments owed (overwhelmingly by fathers) to needy children, or advocating for early childhood funding, which economists and doctors unanimously agree is the best way to prevent social disadvantage.