I never thought I would even consider being a sex worker. I had so many ideas of what sex workers did, looked like, felt about themselves, etc. All of my preconceived notions of sex work were 100% wrong. After completing this experiment I realized that sex work can be fun, lucrative, and an amazing self confidence booster. It’s the rest of the world that makes it out to be this dirty, immoral, thing. This is my experience as a BBW (Big Beautiful Womxn) sex worker.

Why Did I do this experiment?

The first reason why I decided to try sex work is to simply see if I could. Being a bigger woman, I was unsure of the need. I did my research and found that there are many, beautiful, full figured women in the sex worker industry. After thinking it through, and doing so much research, I decided why not, and jumped in.

I really wanted to experience what these wonderful people go through. Now I only did it for 2 weeks, so I probably didn’t get the full experience, but I loved it. No wonder people do this!! I was worried my self confidence would be shit, or I would get nothing but nasty comments, but that didn’t happen, much to my surprise.

Pros

One of the most surprising things that came from all of this was my self confidence boost. Before I started this experiment, my self confidence was growing every day, but this shot it to 11 within 48 hours. I’m still not too sure why this happened, but I loved it.

Speaking of self confidence, the sex life with my partner was reignited to the extreme. I used to hate my body. I would be so self conscious about any sort of intimacy. Now I don’t give a fuck. I love my rolls, my marks, my hair, etc. I sincerely love myself and the way I look. Making that mental change within myself made our physical relationship so much stronger.

I honestly got so many less nasty comments than I thought I would get. The nastiest comments I got were about my lack of content, not my actual content. If you’re worried about people being blatantly mean and cruel about your appearance, don’t. It didn’t happen. I’m sure the professionals get their fair share, but I feel like they love themselves too much to care about one salty perv.

The most surprising ‘pro’ is that I made a few sales! I only had a few videos but I sold 2 and had one Premium Snapchat subscriber. This was just in 2 weeks. That’s amazing! I cannot even begin to imagine what things would look like had I continued this journey. There are always people willing to buy the goods you have to give.

Cons

The major con is a pretty obvious one: you have to deal with the perverts. Most of the time the only messages I received were dick pics or dudes trying to get a free sext session out of me. The biggest surprise came about a week in, when I had started posting on Reddit. Someone actually asked me if they could jerk off to a picture of my tits. I thought that was super sweet and flattering that he would ask first.

Another pretty obvious con is that so many people will bitch at you about not giving it away for free. That’s all. Just block them if they bitch you out, but a lot of the time once they know you’re a professional they will just go on their way. I had a few ‘thank you for the offer, maybe another time’, which is super thoughtful.

This profession takes a lot of personal upkeep of home and self. I found myself spending quite a bit of time and money on shaving and home decoration. You are giving people a fantasy. You need it to be the best it can be, especially when they’re paying for it. If you’re doing free shows, fuck it, but the paid stuff should be top quality.

Sex work and adult entertainment is a very over saturated market. That’s going to a be a problem with any career moving forward though. This planet is so overpopulated so there’s going to be hundreds, if not thousands, of people doing exactly what you are doing. If you do it, do it for fun and be pleasantly surprised, or do it so well you get noticed.

The last con is more of an inconvenience than a ‘con’, but either build up a lot of content or prepare for lulls. Some days you’re not going to want to do anything (like any job) so it’s good to have some content to post when that happens. Your fans will NOTICE if you don’t post.

Apps/Websites

There are a lot of applications and websites to use in the sex worker industry. I’ve gone ahead and listed all the ones that I used. I will let you know all the uses for said apps and sites, as well as which ones to avoid and why.

CashApp Logo

I reached out to a fellow sex worker/adult entertainer and asked her what her favorite apps to use were. She immediately suggested that I use the app CashApp to accept my funds from people and direct deposit for use on websites. She said to never use PayPal because they will put a hold on your account for ‘Adult Activity’ and you’ll never get your money.

Setting up a CashApp account is pretty easy. It’s basically like PayPal with less restrictions. Plus, they will send you a personalized debit card, that has your signature etched into the front. It looks very sleek and professional.

Snapchat Logo

The first app I knew I wanted to use was Snapchat. I had seen the term ‘Premium Snapchat’ thrown around like it was confetti. I did some digging and figured out how to set it up. The basics of setting up a premium Snapchat are: make a private Snapchat account. That’s it. From there you can have people DM you for details via Instagram, Twitter, etc, or you can use a website like Fancentro (see below).

When you get your DMs asking for access to your premium Snapchat, make sure the first thing you do is give them your CashApp handle. This is a business transaction. They are paying you for your services. Once they have sent you proof that they have paid, send them your Snapchat name. Never give away anything you’re not comfortable with for free. People will take advantage of that.

Snapchat was really fun. I only ever had one subscriber, but he was really nice. Only once did he get a little testy with the ‘lack of content’ I was putting up. Although, after talking to my friend, I realized he was just greedy, because I was putting up 4-5 things per day, whereas she maybe put up one thing per day. Other than that interaction, I really enjoyed myself. I knew my snaps were only going to one person, so I could have as much fun as I wanted without feeling overwhelmed.

Fancentro Logo

Fancentro is like the manager for your premium Snapchat. There, buyers can purchase different subscription tiers, and they get to see a little bit of content before they purchase. Fancentro is like your home base for different subscription services. You can offer private Snapchat, private Instagram, you can add your Amazon Wishlist, and other fun goodies for people to spoil you with. I highly recommend using Fancentro to organize your subscription services.

Twitter Logo

A really good way to promote yourself as an ‘Adult Entertainer’ or ‘Sex Worker’ is on Twitter. There are so many people to network and collaborate with. You can post all the raunchy stuff you want and you will most likely never get shut down or banned. This is a great platform for marketing your other paid sites.

Never use Instagram to promote your sex work. You will get your account taken down faster than you can say ‘Free the Nipple’.

ManyVids Logo

ManyVids is where the money is at. Put up enough porn and inevitably someone will buy it. I had a grand total of 6 videos, and in 2 weeks I got 2 sales. That doesn’t seem like a lot, but when I was full expecting to not sell anything, two sales was winning the lottery. If you are comfortable with filming yourself doing the nasty or playing with yourself, I highly recommend doing it and putting it up on this site.

Not only was it REALLY fun, but I learned to love my body so much more after watching the videos I posted. I would find myself watching and re-watching all of my own videos. The bonus to learning to love yourself while doing this kind of work, is you really start to turn yourself on. I don’t think there was a single moment in the two weeks I was doing this that I wasn’t sopping wet.

Reddit Logo

Reddit is so important, but it’s very tricky. I got the most interaction while promoting myself on Reddit, but I also got laughed at the most for wanting people to pay for my goods. You have to be very careful that people don’t abuse your position as a sex worker. Reddit is where the true perverts live.

OnlyFans Logo

OnlyFans is only ok at the moment. OnlyFans is a newer site so there isn’t as much traffic, but I have a feeling that will soon change. Their aesthetic is much more pleasing than ManyVids and the interface is much more simple. It reminds me of when Tumblr was still cool. There’s a bio, a feed, and that’s it. It’s very simple.

The main difference between this site and ManyVids, is that it’s subscription based. You can offer monthly or lifetime subscriptions, but there isn’t more you get. All subscriptions get the same content, just longer or shorter access. If you were to choose a site, I would do either this one or ManyVids. Having both was pretty redundant. OnlyFans is also a great place to permanently put your premium snaps.

Patreon Logo

Patreon is interesting because they really support the ‘artistic’ side of adult entertainment. Honestly, if you are an erotic model, I would only use Patreon. They have the ‘lens’ which basically acts as a Snapchat and you can still post exclusive porn to paying customers. You can be so much more creative with your subscription tiers and usually the subscribers are a lot more professional.

End

Overall, the cons were pretty much expected and the pros were a happy surprise. I could have never expected this outcome. I seriously thought I would come away from all of this hating myself and thinking I was so disgusting. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I loved almost every minute and I would probably do again if I had a little bit more patience.

I have a whole new respect for these wonderful people. They are so supportive of each other. If you know a sex worker, give them all your love and support. Fuck what anyone says. They are doing what they love, period. Treat them like human beings and pay for your porn!

Featured Image Credits: Atelier Victoria Catalina @hello_catalina