There is a popular, insane conception that the crux of success is a good idea. People think great art, inventions, and businesses are manifestations of a blueprint that existed in someone’s head. That all they need is a sound plan and then they can flow from execution to their goals in a pretty little line.

This is dead wrong.

Why we plan (and why we shouldn’t)

Plans provide a sense of control. We imagine an outcome. Plan the steps to get there. Then execute. We control our destiny.

It sounds wonderful. But truthfully, you don’t have any idea what the world will offer up. Whatever you think is coming your way–in 5 minutes or 5 years–you’re missing something. Our imaginations are so incredibly limited and the universe is so incredibly vast.

And yet all plans depend on your ability to accurately conjure the future. Which of course you can’t. There is no way to plan for the chance meeting at a party or the stroke of insight in the shower. Yet these un-plannable events regularly contribute to the success or failure of all our endeavors.

In short: Our plans are based on a version of the future THAT WILL PROBABLY NEVER EXIST IN REAL LIFE. An alternate reality. No matter how good your plan is, if it was made ahead of time it is based on fiction. This is a recipe for disaster.

How to plan like a pro

We have to abandon the common notion of planning. We have to free ourselves up to operate spontaneously. We need to face the world as it ACTUALLY exists. To remain open to the opportunities thrown our way.

This is called improvising

It is how authors write books

It is how improv comedians perform

It is how I talk to strangers

It is how companies are run

It is how you should live

Now I am not saying that authors never have a story line laid out or that I never know what themes I want to talk about with a girl. Nor am I saying that predictions for the future should not inform our behavior.

We can still plan, we just have to know how to plan: so we need to stop planning minutiae and instead plan in broad strokes, develop resourcefulness, trust ourselves, and accept all outcomes.

Plan in broad strokes

Have you ever tried to give a speech by memorizing every single sentence?

You were probably stiff. There was little interaction between you and the audience. And if things went off track, god forbid, you probably had a hard time getting back into the swing of things.

Contrast with this with a speech you might have planned out THEMATICALLY. You still cover all your major points. But this time you’re more fluid. You connect more with the audience. And if things go off track, you are able to roll with it. Maybe it even makes your presentation better!

Check out this Tony Robbins video for a good example:

(go to 5:23 to see til about 6:55)

The advantage of planning in broad strokes is that it lets you stay present. You don’t have to simply execute a script in a vacuum. You get to incorporate everything that is going on around you to make it even BETTER than you planned.

IE Did you know that Darth Vader wasn’t Luke’s father until Lucas wrote Empire Strikes Back?

Here’s some more concrete examples:

Improv: I don’t have a script, but I decide I’m going to come out and play a dopey character

Strangers: I don’t know exactly what I’ll say, but I want to find out what is awesome about them

Business: I don’t have a 6 month plan, but I know increasing exposure is my primary goal

Travel: I don’t have a daily itinerary, but I know a few things I want to do and then put myself out there to meet people

Have a system but operate freely within it. Break the system at times. After all, it is just a guide, not gospel.

Prepare resourcefulness

Drill your craft. Get good.

In the case of the arts, this means practicing. Take writing. You prepare resourcefulness in writing by reading. By writing more. By writing dialogue and then descriptions and then action scenes.

For leaving your job, you save money, literally accumulating resources. You brainstorm your skill sets, brush up on the ones that need work, and learn computer programming in case shit gets bad and you need work.

For improving your charisma, it means honing social skills. You develop interesting conversational habits. You adjust your body language. You practice wisely.

Trust in yourself (and in the universe)

There isn’t always a clear way out.

Authors write themselves into scenarios they don’t know how to handle . . .

Improv sketches take turns you weren’t prepared for . . .

You don’t have a 100% sure thing lined up when you quit your job . . .

You have to realize: your imagination sucks. You cannot possibly account for all the ways a new route will have opened up because you forged onward. You cannot conceive of all the random occurrences that will change a desperate situation into a windfall.

Trust that the universe will provide you with the raw materials you need. Trust that you’ve practiced enough to turn those raw materials into success.

Examples:

Authoring: Trust that your skill and the characters you’ve created will help you find a killer way to end a story

Improv: Trust your partner to give you a theme to work with and your practice to provide a funny response

Strangers: Trust that they want you to be interesting and that practice will provide you with the ability to convey your best self

Travel: Trust that there is something awesome about everywhere you go and that all you have to do is meet the right people

You’ve developed resourcefulness. Trust yourself. You’ll find a way.

Accept all outcomes

This is huge. Massive. It enables you to do anything.

You need to allow for the possibility that everything will blow up in your face. You have to accept as a possible outcome . . .

that the audience will HATE your show

that your bank account will run out

that the girl in the bar will think you stupid and boring

Basically, allow for abject failure.

Most people see these outcomes as unacceptable. If they cannot completely control for them, they won’t dare expose themselves So they don’t quit their jobs, they don’t talk to girls, and they don’t try improv classes.

Realize this:

Life goes on. You will be okay.

When you realize you will be okay no matter what, you no longer need to control the world. You can loosen up and just be. And surprise, surprise, not NEEDING things to turn out the way you want makes them so much more likely to turn out the way you want. You know this is true from your own life. Think of all the times your NEEDED the girl to like you and she didn’t. Versus all the times you didn’t have to force it and she did.

Have goals. For sure. But you need to accept that all outcomes are possible and all outcomes are acceptable. Nothing is off-limits. If you can get there, you’ll have full freedom to access your uncontrolled, unconscious genius.

I don’t think the goal is Buddha. To live without desire. But I do think the goal is to approach that state sometimes. To not need anything. To forfeit control over what happens next.

I’ll put it concretely

when asking out someone you like, to not care if they shoot you down

when doing improv, to not need to be interesting or funny

when writing, to just let shit pour out of you while you warm up

when travelling, to not need every minute to be filled with a “must see” monument

when training Muay Thai, to not need to hit the fastest or the hardest

Relinquish control. Forget planning every detail. Prepare yourself, trust yourself, and develop the strength to let come what may.

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