sunglassesonthetable Mon 09-Apr-18 23:41:59

Text by text. If it wasn't so surreal it would be hilarious. My heart has been racing all day. I know I'm in shock.



Suddenly yesterday all these small things came together in my head. And I realised something was happening. And I realised who it could be. Amazingly I figured out the tech and boom I was watching one of their conversations! And I was right.



I feel like I've been run over. I'm frozen.But what I learnt today is always trust your instincts.



Why haven't I gone charging in like a bull with this evidence? Because something like this happened to me 10 years ago. He had an emotional affair ( I'll never really know if it was just that) and I did that and Looking back I know he played me like a kipper. I blurted out everything I knew and he had a reason for everything and he minimised and minimised and before you know it , it was all nothing and I was the ( jealous) difficult one.



We've limped on since then.



AIBU ( and I don't bloody care if I am) to wait now and pick my moment? That's what I want to do. I am distraught but I want him to realise what he has done. I want to pick my moment. I want to serve this dish cold.



I know where she lives.



I need practical advice from Mumsnet people. Please help.



right now how can I find out more about their relationship? Her husbands name for example? When/if my husband goes there? How can I find out more so I can really confront him properly. I would go to her house when they were both there if I could.



I also feel like I need to start gathering info for if this marriage goes pear shaped as it feels like it will. Financials etc. I need to protect myself and my children. What stuff should I get together?



I name changed. Please help .