Say what you will but you will not find it

When it comes to finding the right person for you, it can be a process that takes time. Sometimes your partner will take months or sometimes even years to reveal him/herself to you, and in that period of time you will be able to form connections and develop your feelings to a point where going away even after change would be one of the hardest choices you have to make. Have you moved in together? Did you get kids? Sign a lease contract on that nice house? Well fuck you because you're going to lose everything plus your self-esteem. Abusers know how to play their cards better than you could ever decipher them. Best you can do is identify the issue when it arrives, and leave.

After everything is said and done, wisdom is the offspring of suffering and Time. If you are willing, you will find a way out. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness: it is proof for yourself that you can become whole once more, or for the first time in your life.

A blessing of strength onto you.