So many beer emojis.

The gloating crested over the weekend. On Saturday, once Justice Kavanaugh was a sure thing, Senator John Cornyn tweeted out the #beersforbrett hashtag, along with a picture of a glass of champagne. The Senate majority leader, Mitch McConnell, thanked the “clowns” who protested Justice Kavanaugh’s ascension and helped unify his party. Senator Marco Rubio complained about the “angry mob” that “stormed the steps of the Supreme Court building,” while Senator Rand Paul praised the “incredible group of kind and friendly” women in pro-Kavanaugh T-shirts who showed up at his office. “What a difference from the other violent protesters we’ve seen around here.” For the record, the “clowns,” the “angry mob,” the “violent protesters,” were the women who confronted elected officials in office halls and in elevators. Many are survivors of sexual violence, the same kind that Christine Blasey Ford testified that she endured. They were trying to get the men in power to hear them and act accordingly.

Clearly, that did not happen. Emotional women, loud women, angry women get ignored. Emotional, loud, angry men get to sit on the Supreme Court. They rise ever higher, borne aloft on gusts of male laughter. The spectacle of Justice Kavanaugh’s confirmation hearing reminded us that, for so many conservative men, and the women who support them, women’s suffering is still a joke.

What am I supposed to tell my daughters about all of this?

Of course, I already know. I’ve been talking to them about it for years. Be aware of your surroundings. Make sure someone knows where you are, and when to expect you back. Don’t drink too much. Don’t put your drink down. Don’t walk or run or bike the same route. Don’t stay out too late. Don’t walk alone in the dark. If a guy asks you out and you’re not interested, don’t hurt his feelings, and don’t laugh at him, because a humiliated man is an angry man, and, sometimes, angry men hurt women.

Our girls will learn to police their clothes, their words, their drinking, their behavior, their choices, because they’ve been watching, and what they’ve seen is this: If you get hurt, it’s probably your fault, and if you tell, probably no one will believe you, and even if people do, probably nothing will happen.

It’s the old Ginger Rogers chestnut: To get where men get, to be believed as men are believed, women have to do what men do, only backward, and in heels. Our behavior must be impeccable; our manner, above reproach; our back stories, pure inspiration; our histories, spotlessly clean.