BearbearP Sat 17-Mar-18 20:36:17

Since the beginning of our relationship my partner has made it 100% clear that he is the higher earner there fore he is boss! I have to clean and do everything whilst I wait him on hand n foot- even when preggers and working in care doing 12 hr shifts 6 days a week I was still cooking and cleaning and serving him, if one week I’ve let the cleaning go abit, he picks up on it- has a go at me And generally makes me feel like shit about it calling me fat and lazy - I had the baby via c section and after being home for 2 hours I had to cook dinner and had no help with the baby at all( even tho I was in pain and struggling) I ended back in hospital with infections - in and out of hospital 3/4 times within the 1st month ( you would think he would get the point that I NEEDED help!) anyway you prob get the point I’m making- I do everything! Absolutely everything! Even cuting his toenails is a part of my weekly chores- he goes to work and comes home and sits in his chair drinking (I wait him on hand n foot) this week the baby has had a viral infection and hasn’t been sleeping through the night I’ve had roughly 9 hours sleep this week! My partners been finishing early so I’ve been hoping he would see I’m exhausted and help! NO he goes to the pub. I said we needed calpol and nappies - he spends the last of our money in the pub instead - I confront him about it and he says “ I’m the one earning money and I go to work if I want to go to the pub I will!” I want to make it clear I don’t care that he goes pub- (it gives me a break) the fact was I’m struggling and I’m exhausted I jut want him to offer me a hand- bath the baby for me or feed him so I can just have 5 mins ( in 7 months his never fed or bathed the baby) his made me feel so shit for “complaining” and I should be grateful I don’t have to work. Which I am grateful- but I feel like a slave- if he truelly cared about me he would help.. right? .. I ended the row with “ I’ve had enough, I’ll find somewhere else to live” whilst he threatened me with” look at the state of ya, I rather shag anyone down that pub then you, and if you carry on complaining I will!” - I feel like shit and want to run away! But I can’t I want my baby to live in a nice loving home which it is... only when I keep my mouth shut and get on with things... I don’t know what to do- will he ever understand? I’m in two halves of leaving and starting fresh but my baby living with separated parents OR sticking around and just doing as I’m told so my baby lives in what he’ll think a happy home- Sorry long for the long post. Just need to get it off my chest I suppose . Xx