Haibon: It’s been a lot of people saying, “We believe in love again. You give us hope.”

Why the engagement after only a few months of dating?

Haibon: I know Ashley better than anybody else in this world. I think that she knows me better than anybody as well. As soon as I told Ashley about my feelings that this was not going to be just a, “Hey, I’m going to say this, and we’re going to see if it goes anywhere.” I’m going to say this, and if we end up dating, this is not just boyfriend-girlfriend but lifelong.

Jared, when did it hit you that you were in love?

Haibon: October 2015.

Iaconetti: Like Oct. 4?

Haibon: Oct. 4, 3:54 p.m., I walked into Ashley’s house, took one look at her and said, “This is the woman I’m going to spend the rest of my life with.” [laughter] No, I think it’s hard to pinpoint one moment. I would say that was the beginning stages of me falling in love with Ashley. Outside of the “Bachelor” bubble, I think I was in a better place as well.

I’ve had to go through some growing pains on my own. I knew over the past couple of years, there was going to be a point when Ashley was going to move on with her life, and I wasn’t going to be allowed to be friends with her because whoever she was with was not going to allow that. I had to make a decision, as a man, to do something and actually say how I’m feeling.

I feel like that’s good advice for a lot of millennial men out there.

Iaconetti: It totally is! There’s a generation of guys who need to hear Jared’s words.

Haibon: I just think it’s the reality that there are a lot of guys like myself who might try to put on this facade that they have everything together. When in actuality, I am indecisive, and I make a lot of decisions based out of fear and sometimes I’m afraid to step outside my comfort zone and really take a chance because I’m afraid of failure.