T he Dalai Lama said you don’t have to forgive someone if you can have empathy for them. And if the Dalai Lama said it…” Kim Gordon, former bassist and frontwoman in the totemic alt-rock band Sonic Youth, is discussing the breakdown of her 29-year marriage to Thurston Moore.

At the height of their powers, she and her former bandmate were the avant-garde scene’s equivalent of a Hollywood power couple, defying the rock’n’roll cliché of nihilism and infidelity, and raising a child, Coco, together. Then, in 2013, he had an affair with a much younger woman. They split up. And so did the band.

It started, wrote Gordon in her astonishing 2015 memoir Girl In A Band, “in slow motion, a pattern of lies, ultimatums, and phoney promises, followed by emails and texts that almost felt designed to be stumbled on, so as to force me to make a decision that he was too much of a coward to face. I was furious. It wasn’t just the responsibility he was refusing to take; it was the person he had turned me into: his mother.”

“I mean, if you loved someone, you can try to understand them,” the 66-year-old Californian says now of Moore’s affair, finally settled on a firm chair in a London hotel, having rejected two other seating options as too “sunken”. “You know, I empathise, but at the same time, you have to protect yourself from trauma and getting hurt again.” I suppose the expectation of forgiveness is thrust upon women more than men, I suggest. “Right. Well, you can’t really forgive someone if they don’t say they’re sorry.”

Sonic Youth: (from left) Thurston Moore, Steve Shelley, Kim Gordon and Lee Ranaldo ( Rex )

For a while, she and Moore were unstoppable. Emerging as part of New York’s no wave scene in the Eighties, equal parts insolence and insouciance, Sonic Youth became the sound of early Nineties counter-culture. Founded by Gordon, Moore, and Lee Ranaldo, the band played in guitar tunings they couldn’t name, each instrument clashing and crashing together to create something both artless and artistic. Not for nothing did Nirvana’s bassist Krist Novoselic – even after Nevermind had sent the Seattle band stratospheric – say that they simply wanted “to do as good as Sonic Youth”.

“When we first started, I guess there was something called indie pop that we weren’t part of,” says Gordon. “For some reason, we thought of ourselves as a rock band. The things that were important to us were The Velvet Underground, Alan Vega, The Stooges, Alice Cooper. The bar was set very high.”

They managed to reach that bar. After winning over both underground rock fans and the music press throughout the Eighties, the band managed to drag their avant-garde sensibility towards the mainstream without ever losing an ounce of kudos. In 1989, they signed to a major label, having been convinced that they could retain complete creative control, and they released perhaps their most beloved album, Goo, a year later. “Kool Thing”, that record’s lead single, is a stomping, sardonic masterpiece, in which Gordon transmutes an awkward encounter with LL Cool J into a freewheeling rumination on class, race and gender.

“Rock was the sound of rebellion,” she says of that time, “but it’s not anymore. I mean, indie-rock’s nice, but it’s not really impactive.” Why is that? “Um, I have no idea. In America, if you’re white, your life is much more comfortable in every way, so maybe there’s not enough reason to rebel. Revolutions don’t happen when people are comfortable. I don’t know why punk rock happened, actually. People got sick of corporate music, I guess.”

As far as Gordon is concerned, hip hop is the new punk rock. “Punk is an attitude,” she says, “I identify as punk, even though I was never a punk. It’s just a whole way of seeing the world, of being an outsider and wanting to go against the grain. Hip hop is kind of like punk rock in that way. You don’t have to have musical chops, it’s about ideas and an attitude. Cardi B. There’s something punk about her. Or Lizzo. These women who are really ruling the scene.”

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EP Secret Garden Party The 40 greatest song lyrics Kendrick Lamar –" Swimming Pool (Drank)" “First you get a swimming pool full of liquor, then you dive in it/ Pool full of liquor, then you dive in it/ I wave a few bottles, then I watch 'em all flock”. Lamar is widely acknowledged as one of contemporary hip-hop’s greatest lyricists. He was never more searing than on this early confessional – a rumination on his poverty-wracked childhood and the addictions that ripped like wildfire through his extended family in Compton and Chicago. There is also an early warning about the destructive temptations of fame as the young Kendrick is invited to join hip hop’s tradition of riotous excess and lose himself in an acid bath of liquor and oblivion. EP Getty Images for NARAS The 40 greatest song lyrics Prince – "Sign O' the Times" “A skinny man died of a big disease with a little name/ By chance his girlfriend came across a needle and soon she did the same.” Prince’s lyrics had always felt like an extension of his dreamily pervy persona and, even as the African-American community bore the brunt of Reagan-era reactionary politics, Prince was living in his own world. He crashed back to earth with his 1987 masterpiece – and its title track, a stunning meditation on gang violence, Aids, political instability and natural disaster. EP Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics Rolling Stones – "Gimme Shelter" "War, children, it's just a shot away/ It's just a shot away." Nobody captured the violent tumult of the end of the Sixties better than Mick, Keith and co. Their one masterpiece to rule them all was, of course, “Gimme Shelter”. Today, the credit for its uncanny power largely goes to Merry Clayton’s gale-force backing vocals. But the Satanic majesty also flows from the lyrics – which spoke to the pandemonium of the era and the sense that civilisation could come crashing in at any moment. EP Redferns The 40 greatest song lyrics David Bowie – "Station to Station" “Once there were mountains on mountains/ And once there were sun birds to soar with/ And once I could never be down/Got to keep searching and searching.” Which Bowie lyrics to single out? The gordian mystery of Bewlay Brothers? The meta horror movie of Ashes to Ashes? The uncanny last will and testament that was the entirety of Blackstar – a ticking clock of a record that shape-shifted into something else entirely when Bowie passed away three days after its release? You could stay up all night arguing so let’s just pick on one of the greats – the trans-Continental odyssey comprising the title track to Station to Station. Recorded, goes the myth, in the darkest days of Bowie’s LA drug phase, the track is a magisterial eulogy for the Europe he had abandoned and which he would soon return to for his Berlin period. All of that and Bowie makes the line “it’s not the side effects of the cocaine…” feel like a proclamation of ancient wisdom. EP Express/Getty The 40 greatest song lyrics Oasis – "Supersonic" “She done it with a doctor on a helicopter/ She's sniffin in her tissue/ Sellin' the Big Issue.” There is shameless revisionism and then there is claiming that Noel Gallagher is a great lyricist. And yet, it’s the sheer, triumphant dunder-headedness of Oasis’ biggest hits that makes them so enjoyable. Rhyming “Elsa” with “Alka Seltzer”, as Noel does on this Morning Glory smash, is a gesture of towering vapidity – but there’s a genius in its lack of sophistication. Blur waxing clever, winking at Martin Amis etc, could never hold a candle to Oasis being gleefully boneheaded. EP Rex The 40 greatest song lyrics Underworld – "Born Slippy" “You had chemicals boy/ I've grown so close to you/ Boy and you just groan boy.” The ironic “lager, lager, lager” chant somehow became one the most bittersweet moments in Nineties pop. Underworld never wanted to be stars and actively campaigned against the release of their contribution to the Trainspotting score as a single. Yet there is no denying the glorious ache of this bittersweet groover – or the punch of Karl Hyde’s sad raver stream-of-consciousness wordplay. It’s that rare dance track which reveals hidden depths when you sit down with the lyrics. EP Getty The 40 greatest song lyrics Fleetwood Mac – "Landslide" "And I saw my reflection in the snow-covered hills/ Till the landslide brought me down" Stevie Nicks was only 27 when she wrote one of the most poignant and astute meditations on how people change with time, and the fear of having to give up everything you’ve worked for. RO Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics Paul Simon – "Graceland" “She comes back to tell me she's gone/ As if I didn't know that/ As if I didn't know my own bed.” With contributions from Ladysmith Black Mambazo and the Boyoyo Boys, Simon’s 1986 masterpiece album is regarded nowadays as a landmark interweaving of world music and pop. But it was also a break-up record mourning the end of his marriage of 11 months to Carrie Fisher. The pain of the separation is laid out nakedly on the title track, where he unflinchingly chronicles the dissolution of the relationship. EP Getty The 40 greatest song lyrics Lou Reed – "Walk on the Wild Side" "Candy came from out on the island/ In the backroom she was everybody's darling/ But she never lost her head/ Even when she was giving head/ She says, hey baby, take a walk on the wild side." Reed’s most famous song paid tribute to all the colourful characters he knew in New York City. Released three years after the Stonewall Riots, “Walk on the Wild Side” embraced and celebrated the “other” in simple, affectionate terms. The Seventies represented a huge shift in visibility for LGBT+ people, and with this track, Reed asserted himself as a proud ally. RO AFP/Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics Sharon Van Etten – "Every Time the Sun Comes Up" “People say I'm a one-hit wonder/ But what happens when I have two?/ I washed your dishes, but I shit in your bathroom.” The breakdown of a 10 year relationship informed some of the hardest hitting songs on the New Jersey songwriter’s fourth album. Are We There. She takes no prisoner on the closing track – a tale of domesticity rent asunder that lands its punches precisely because of Van Etten’s eye for a mundane, even grubby, detail. EP Ryan Pfluger The 40 greatest song lyrics Patti Smith – “Gloria” “Jesus died for somebody's sins but not mine/ Meltin’ in a pot of thieves/ Wild card up my sleeve/ Thick heart of stone/ My sins my own/ They belong to me” The song that launched a thousand punk bands. It takes three minutes to get to Van Morrison’s chorus on Patti Smith’s overhaul of “Gloria”, where she lusts after a girl she spots through the window at a party. Before that, there is poetry. She snarls and shrieks as though her vocal chords might rip. The ostentatiousness of the lyrics owes as much to poets Arthur Rimbaud and Baudelaire as it does to Jim Morrison. RO Samir Hussein/Redferns The 40 greatest song lyrics The Eagles – "Hotel California" “There she stood in the doorway/ I heard the mission bell/ And I was thinking to myself/ This could be Heaven or this could be Hell.” A cry of existential despair from the great soft-rock goliath of the Seventies. By the tail-end of the decade the Eagles were thoroughly fed up of one another and jaundiced by fame. The titular – and fictional – Hotel California is a metaphor for life in a successful rock band: “You can check-out any time you like / But you can never leave.” The hallucinatory imagery was meanwhile inspired by a late night drive through LA, the streets empty, an eerie hush holding sway. EP Rick Diamond/Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics Thin Lizzy – "The Boys are Back in Town" “Guess who just got back today/ Them wild-eyed boys that had been away/ Haven't changed that much to say/But man, I still think them cats are crazy.” A strut of swaggering confidence captured in musical form – and a celebration of going back to your roots and reconnecting with the people who matter. Thin Lizzy’s biggest hit was in part inspired by Phil Lynott’s childhood memories of a Manchester criminal gang. The gang members were constantly in and out of prison and the song imagines one of their reunions – even name-checking their favourite hangout of Dino’s Bar and Grill where “the drink will flow and the blood will spill”. EP REX The 40 greatest song lyrics Nina Simone – "Four Women" "I’ll kill the first mother I see/ My life has been too rough/ I’m awfully bitter these days/ Because my parents were slaves." Included on her 1966 album Wild is the Wind, Simone depicts four characters – Aunt Sarah, Saffronia, Sweet Thing and Peaches – who represent different parts of the lasting legacy of slavery. Some critics accused her of racial stereotyping, but for Simone, it was these women’s freedom to define themselves that gave them their power. RO Getty The 40 greatest song lyrics St Vincent – "Digital Witness" “Digital witnesses/ what’s the point of even sleeping?/ If I can’t show it, if you can’t see me/ What’s the point of doing anything?” One of the best songs written about the illusory intimacy fostered the internet. St Vincent – aka Texas songwriter Annie Clark – was singing about how social media fed our narcissism and gave us a fake sense of our place in the world. EP Anthony Harvey/Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics Frank Ocean – "Pink + White" "Up for air from the swimming pool/ You kneel down to the dry land/ Kiss the Earth that birthed you Gave you tools just to stay alive/ And make it up when the sun is ruined." Co-written with Pharrell and Tyler, the Creator, “Pink + White” stands out even on an album like Frank Ocean’s Blonde. He sings – with a gently swaying, almost resigned delivery – surrealist lyrics that likens a past relationship to a brief high, from the perspective of the comedown that follows. RO Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics Rufus Wainwright – "Dinner at Eight" “If I want to see the tears in your eyes/ Then I know it had to be/ Long ago, actually in the drifting white snow/You loved me.” Piano-man Wainwright can be too ornate for his own good. But how he lands his blows here in this soul-baring recounting of a violent disagreement with his father. Loudon III, a cult folkie in his own right walked out on the family when Rufus was a child and the simmering resentments had lingered on. They boiled over at a joint Rolling Stone photoshoot during which Rufus had joked that his dad needed him to get into Rolling Stone and his father had not taken the insult lying down. The dispute is here restaged by Wainwright the younger as a raging row at the dinner table. EP Getty The 40 greatest song lyrics Bob Dylan – "It's Alright, Ma (I'm Only Bleeding)" "Pointed threats, they bluff with scorn/ Suicide remarks are torn/ From the fool's gold mouthpiece/ The hollow horn plays wasted words/ Proves to warn that he not busy being born/ Is busy dying." “It’s Alright Ma” is a cornerstone in Dylan’s career that marks his shift from scrutinising politics to sardonically exposing all the hypocrisy in Western culture. He references the Book of Ecclesiastes but also Elvis Presley, and offers up the grim perspective of a man whose views do not fit in with the world around him. RO (Photo by Express Newspapers/Getty Images) The 40 greatest song lyrics ABBA – "The Winner Takes it All" “I don't wanna talk/ About the things we've gone through/ Though it's hurting me/ Now it's history.” The first and last word in break-up ballads. The consensus is that it was written by Björn Ulvaeus about his divorce from band-mate Agnetha Fältskog, though he has always denied this, saying “is the experience of a divorce, but it's fiction”. Whether or not he protests too much the impact is searing as Fältskog wrenchingly chronicles a separation from the perspective of the other party. EP AFP/Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics Nas – "The World is Yours" "I'm the mild, money-getting style, rolling foul/ The versatile, honey-sticking wild golden child/ Dwelling in the Rotten Apple, you get tackled/ Or caught by the devil's lasso, s*** is a hassle" Nas addresses both himself and his future progeny on one of the best tracks from his faultless debut Illmatic. Inspired by the scene from Scarface in which Tony Montana sees a blimp with the message “The World is Yours” during a visit to the movie theatre, it feeds back to the rapper’s own belief that certain signs will appear to convince you that you’re on the right track. RO The 40 greatest song lyrics The Stone Roses – "I Wanna Be Adored" “I don’t have to sell my soul/ He’s already in me/ I don’t need to sell my soul/ He’s already in me.” A statement of intent, a zen riddle, a perfect accompaniment to one of the greatest riffs in indie-dom - the opening track of the Stone Roses’s 1989 debut album was all of this and much more. The lyrics are supremely economical – just the chorus repeated over and over, really. But these are nonetheless amongst the most hypnotic lines in pop. Adding poignancy is the rumour that the Roses wrote it as an apology to early fans reportedly aghast that the group had signed a big fat record deal. EP Getty Images The 40 greatest song lyrics The Beatles – "When I'm Sixty Four" "When I get older losing my hair/ Many years from now/ Will you still be sending me a Valentine/ Birthday greetings bottle of wine?" There are hundreds of great songs about epic, romantic love, and there are hundreds of other Beatles songs that could have made this list. But this track from Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band – written by a 16-year-old Paul McCartney – is one of the greats for how it encapsulates a kind of love that is less appreciated in musical form. It’s less “I’d take a bullet for you” and more “put the kettle on, love”. It’s adorable, full of whimsy, and just the right amount of silly. RO Getty The 40 greatest song lyrics Beck – "Loser" “In the time of chimpanzees I was a monkey / Butane in my veins so I'm out to cut the junkie.” “Man I’m the worst rapper in the world – I’m a loser,” Beck is reported to have said upon listening back to an early demo of his break-out hit (before it had acquired its iconic chorus) . This gave him an idea for the hook and he never looked back. The stream of consciousness lyrics cast a spell even though they don’t make much sense – ironic as Beck was setting out the emulate the hyper-literate Chuck D. EP

It’s these women, not two-a-penny indie-rockers, who inspired Gordon to make her first ever solo album, No Home Record, 38 years into her career. The record came about by accident. “I’d done one song with Justin [Raisen],” she says. “I just started fooling around with this drum machine, recording little snippets of guitar, trying to figure out how to incorporate Seventies drum machine stuff into a solo gig. Anyway, then I started thinking…”

She brought in Raisen, who has worked with Charli XCX, Angel Olsen and Sky Ferreira, to produce the whole album. She worked with him, she said, because he understood her “trashy, dissonant” sensibility, and the record is both of those things and more. Combining industrial, noise and post-punk with 808s and minimalist electronic beats, it is poppy and potent, its snipped, disjointed lyrics not easily penetrable, though they traverse subjects such as sex, capitalism, harassment and curated utopia. It came out last week to rave reviews.

“I’m surprised by how well it’s been received,” says Gordon. Why? “Because I didn’t really think about it. I think the record’s kind of eccentric. The music isn’t something you listen to as much as experience, and the things I’m talking about are not easy to digest.” There’s another reason. “A lot of solo records kind of suck,” she says, laughing. “So I wasn’t in a rush to do it. There’s so many expectations people have. So many Sonic Youth fans. Nothing is gonna be as impactive as the band was.”

None of the people walking past us today seem to notice that an icon is in their midst. Gordon doesn’t exactly make a scene. Dressed in a fringed jacket, her blonde hair in a long, angular bob, a gold thin spike around her neck, she is still and quietly spoken. Though clearly not concerned with shows of artificial affability – “I dunno, that’s a weird question,” she shrugs if I ask something she doesn’t deem worth answering – she seems more shy than taciturn. “When men are aloof, no one says they’re cold,” she said in a recent interview. “They say they’re cool.”

‘I think the record’s kind of eccentric,’ Gordon says of her debut solo album

Gordon has spent most of her career being treated differently because of her gender. In 1991, Sonic Youth toured with Neil Young on his Ragged Glory tour. “They thought we were freaks,” she would later recall, “mainly because I was a woman onstage and they always thought I was going to get hurt. It just aligned me with the whole rock thing – they’d throw a birthday party for somebody and there’d be a stripper on the side of the stage. I remember the stage manager yelled at me once because I was over there: ‘You’re distracting Neil.’”

It wasn’t just Gordon’s presence that disrupted the macho norm of rock music, but her lyrics, too. “Swimsuit Issue”, from 1992 album Dirty, tackled sexual harassment at a time when few bands were doing so: “Don’t touch my breast, I’m just working at my desk / Don’t put me to the test, I’m just doing my best.” When Gordon wrote that song, she says, “it wasn’t topical. It was embarrassing because we’d just signed to Geffen where this A&R guy was exposed as sexually harassing his secretary. I think they wanted the story to go away.” She describes No Home Record’s “Hungry Baby”, which is written from the point of view of a lecherous male musician, as an “update” on that song. “Now it’s like, topical. People are talking about it now. I felt like because I had written one 30 years ago, I could write this.”

Does she think the music industry’s due its #MeToo moment? “Well, there have been some things that have come out,” she says. “I mean, it’s prevalent in the culture. Even if it’s not a sexual thing where some higher-up comes on to you, if it’s emotional, it’s still gonna make you feel weird and not able to do your job. I’m sure things will come out more. The music industry is so… the sexism is so ingrained in it, on every level, that it’s unbelievable. How do you pick it apart? It’s honestly so old-fashioned. You can see that at the Grammys. When I went to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame ceremony, it was all these old white guys there. I was like, ‘This is so weird.’ But I don’t really follow the music industry. Obviously, I saw the one about Ryan Adams.”

Earlier this year, Adams was accused of sexual misconduct and emotional abuse by a handful of women, including his ex-wife Mandy Moore, the singer Phoebe Bridgers and an underage girl referred to as “Ava”. When I interviewed Jenny Lewis, who worked with Adams on several albums, and had previously spoken of him as “needling” her in the studio and of having to “submit” to him, she said his behaviour “is not something I’ll ever tolerate again”.

I mention Lewis’s experience to Gordon, as an example of the non-sexual but still damaging power men can yield over women. “But that’s like, a personality thing,” she says. “It is definitely ingrained – I know it is in me. You’re so used to a man being in a position of power, or looking up to one, so it’s just as much her problem as it is his problem. But that’s kind of ingrained in being a woman. Wanting to please. It perpetuates this cycle with these entitled men who don’t actually realise there are boundaries. I’m not saying she’s wrong to feel that way, but there’s a point where you have to draw the line.” It’s difficult, I say, when society teaches women to acquiesce. “Yeah, I’m not saying that it’s our fault as women for doing that, but at the same time, the subtle grey areas that go on outside of sexual harassment are hard to break.”

Gordon dissected these grey areas in Girl In a Band. Writing it wouldn’t have occurred to her, she says, if she hadn’t been approached by editors. But she’s glad she did it. “I never really felt like I wanted to open myself up to interviews for rock magazines,” she says. “Like, why would I want to do that? And then I thought, ‘Well, I guess I’ve been saving it, so now I have to write it.’ It’s a different feeling, being able to create a space for yourself that you didn’t feel was there before.”

And after all this, having written a well-respected book, released a successful solo album, and changed the shape of rock music, does she feel like an outsider? “Oh yeah,” she smiles. “But I don’t want to be an insider.”