Well, first of all, it’s not like you wanna be a godspouse and BAM! you become a godspouse, it doesn’t work that way. I’m coming to that in a moment.

It takes time and dedication to “hear” or “see” non physical entities, you need to do a lot of chakra balancing and meditation first, to clear your clairsenses ig. If you wanna try an easier way (again, you need to be in tune with your intuition, it’s only easy in the sense that you don’t really have to be able to see non physical entities to do this) you can always try various methods of divination. Learn how to centre and ground your energy, learn how to make circles (both visualised and otherwise) and strengthen your shields. Learn how to banish malicious or negative entities/energy. After that comes the actual divination- you can use tarot spreads, runes, water scrying (probably the most difficult to understand and decipher), dreamwork, geomancy- take your pick. Try different combinations, use different methods, see what resonates with you. Centre and ground, make a circle, set up shields and wards, and pray to the deity you wish to communicate with (offerings don’t hurt either- find out what the deity in question likes) and ask them to guide you. Ask them a question, see what your cards/runes/pendulums etc tell you. Keep in mind that the divination tools need to be cleansed and charged, too. Don’t forget to thank the deities and your divination tools after you’re done, and cleanse the tools again.

Now, if you wanna see/hear your deities, you can simply sit and meditate and pray to them, request them to come to you. Also, you’ll find people say “fake it till you make it” and that works, too. Imagine your deities in front of you, and try to communicate. Even if it’s only your brain at first, your prayers are sure to reach the deity.

Learn how to discern signs from things that aren’t signs. If you’re trying to talk to a deity, for example, a common way to check if it’s just your mind or the actual deity would be to consider the words you hear- do you use them often? Do you hear words or phrases you don’t use often, or that sound weird to you (a good kind of weird- if it’s a bad kind of weird, then please cleanse)? Is the feather/rock/crystal/bug you found commonly found in your area? Or is it something you’ve never seen before and shouldn’t be there at all? Think about it. If your gut says its a deity, it’s most likely a deity, but all machines need to be oiled, all instruments need to be tuned. Learn to differentiate between the mundane and the divine, even if it’s nothing big or conspicuous. Trust your intuition, and if there’s a conflict between what you want to hear and the message you think you’re receiving, then it’s probably not what you want to hear. Learn to keep those desires aside, because your energy and what you really wanna hear can affect your readings.

I’m not going into the details of astral projection partly because you said, uh,“other than astrally”, and also because it’s better to start off with meditation and basic divination. Although don’t let that deter you- it doesn’t hurt to try, as long as you have the proper protection. If you aren’t well versed with shields and wards, don’t do it. I learnt my lesson the hard way, and I don’t want you to get stabbed in the astral plane. There’s nothing heroic in going there unprotected and then getting hurt.

Now, about godspousing…. Let me tell you beforehand, I’m not a godspouse. I am a consort to Loki, but I’m still new to this and Loki has made it very clear that he has no intention of forcing me into lifelong commitment or oaths- or agreeing to it, for that matter- anytime soon. And I really appreciate that, because just like any other relationship, relationships with deities involve getting to know your partner well. What quirks do they have? How do they react in various situations? Are they willing to give you space if you need it? And mind you, it goes both ways. You realize you have feelings for a non physical entity, they tell you that they return your feelings, and then you slowly work it out. It takes time. AND PLEASE DO READINGS TO CONFIRM THAT IT’S ACTUALLY WHO YOU THINK THEY ARE. Evil entities often impersonate deities/other non physical entities to steal your energy, or even just to fuck with you. I came across someone whose spell went wrong, and they got bound to an incubus for eight months before they could undo it. Anything and everything can happen, and you need to be prepared for it. If the entity gets mad when you tell them to give you a clear, distinct sign that it’s actually them, then it’s most likely NOT the entity you think they are. Banish them immediately. Do readings twice, thrice- heck, as many times as you need to make sure. When you put up your wards, make sure there are no loopholes, so that ONLY the entity you want to speak with can affect the reading. If you’re communicating with a trickster deity like Loki or Set, then they might mess with your readings and give you weird readings, just to confuse you. If you’re working with Loki, you gotta learn to laugh at yourself and get to know yourself. It comes with worshipping him. Coming back to the subject, marriage is NOT the end goal. You can be in a relationship with a deity/other non physical entity without marrying them. Take your time to get to know them, as many years as you need. (If the entity asks you to marry them six months into your relationship, run the other way, it’s probably not who you think.) Marriage with a deity is not to be taken lightly- it’s a huge commitment- just like marriage with humans, only it’s highly difficult and VERY disrespectful to “divorce” a deity. I don’t even know if it’s possible, but I can imagine that the deity wouldn’t take kindly to being ghosted. Get to know each other before you make any sort of oath- and Do NoT tRy BlOoD oAtHs If YoU dOn’T kNoW wHaT yOu ArE gEtTiNg InTo. Don’t do anything stupid. Don’t do anything that would bring you harm. If it’s really the deity you think it is, then they’ll care about you and they won’t let you do anything idiotic. I’m sorry if I sound blasé, but that’s how it is. There’s no hard and fast rule, deities appear different to different people, so there’s not exactly a basis for comparison. You take advice from people, hear people out, and then do what you and your deity feel is best for both of you.

ALSO, you can turn down a proposal if you think it’s not for you. You can still be a god consort. Godspouery is a serious thing. Don’t mess around with it, don’t marry- or get into a relationship with- a deity just because you see a lot of godspouses on Tumblr. It doesn’t work that way. Your relationship is unique and sacred, remember to treat it as such.

Hope that helped❤️