This series is a summary of the social duties of a traditional Catholic wife and mother according to reliable moral handbooks and catechisms, (but principally from the writings of St. Peter Julian Eymard in his Eucharistic Handbook). This paper was given at Fr. Sean Kopczynski’s mission.

It is of dire importance that men and boys learn how to be holy men first, secondly priests or husbands with children, depending on what God’s will is for them in their lives.

It is just as dire that women and girls to learn how to be holy women first too, then religious or wives with children, depending on what God’s will is for each one of them. Hopefully girls and women will learn how to become wives and mothers from this series. If at all possible, share this series with other women and girls who are tired of the false image of who and how a woman should be. Mary is the only true icon, image of how God wants all girls and women to be like.

All social problems, crime and psychological problems stem from the disfunction family life. Traditional Catholic desperately need to save the Church, society and children by building up happy healthy families.

‘THE SACRED HEART OF JESUS promised St. Margaret Mary that He would give those consecrated to Him all the graces necessary in their state of life. At Lourdes and Fatima, we have been commanded to do Penance! Penance! Penance! To clarify this repeated threefold request, His Majesty later came to Sr. Lucia, saying:

“the sacrifice required for every person is the fulfillment of his duties in life and the observance of My law. This is the penance that I now seek and require.”

Many fail to complete this penance because they do not know their duties beyond those basic ones owed to God and His Church as indicated in the Ten Commandments and the Precepts of the Church.

Before beginning, however, please note that since marriage is a sacred union to form a family and share a life together, it naturally follows that many duties of husbands and wives overlap. Thus, it helps if men and women are familiar with the duties of each so as not to ‘lord it over each other’ but as a means to a deeper appreciation of the other, increased selfless service, and a strengthening of their mutual charity. With this in mind, the articles in this series are likewise meant to complement each other. For brevity’s sake, therefore, many duties that are shared by the father are not repeated here.

“Who shall find a valiant woman? far, and from the uttermost coasts is the price of her. The heart of her husband trusteth in her,and he shall have no need of spoils” (Prov. 31:10-11).

Duties towards her family. – God has made of the family the center of Christian obligations, the sanctuary of His graces, and the fruitful field of every virtue. A married woman, therefore, seeks her perfection first and foremost in her family by honoring her vocation and accomplishing her duties as wife and mother.

She must esteem her state of life. In practice that means loving her vocation, her family, and her home. She ought to love her vocation as being that which God, in His loving Providence, has selected for her in preference to all others. Every flower is beautiful when it is perfect; God pays more attention to one’s charity than to the sublimity of one’s state. We never fail to please Him as long as we serve Him with loving faithfulness. On the human and natural level, she should therefore be convinced that serving her family is far more important, far more challenging, and far more rewarding than anything a job or professional career could offer. A mother is more likely to change the world for the good through the raising of saintly children than anything she might accomplish outside of the family. Her spiritual reading and meditations ought to be aimed at making this truth real to herself.

She ought to love her husband. – A faithful Christian wife will love her husband above all others as the representative, the minister of God’s authority. She will surround him with respect and assist him with affectionate confidence, remaining loyal to him in every way that virtue demands.

The God-fearing wife does not use the marriage act for purposes of lust or sensuality (cf. Tobias 6:16-17 vulgate), but rather keeps within those limits which are reasonable and serious without ever purposely impeding procreation. A reasonable and serious request for the marriage duty is made with a definite, sober will, not too frequent and without the presence of any obstacles of bodily health. Such a request obliges the other party, in justice, to render the debt, as St. Paul says: “Let every man give his wife what is her due, and every woman do the same by her husband” (1 Cor. 7:3).

As every blessing is to be obtained from God by holy prayer, the faithful couple ought sometimes abstain from the marriage debt, in order to devote themselves to prayer. This religious continence is particularly recommended during the solemn fast of Lent and as a way to prepare for Holy Communion.’

(I am going to add something on to this subject that is a very very serious problem today because of the epidemic of evil pornography being viewed by men. Never ever is a wife to have dirty relations, no matter how much her husband tries to get her to do this. This is the degradation of women for the sole purpose using her to satisfy the lust of her husband. Holy relationships are simply, the man in the woman to have children, period. Never is the woman to please her husband by looking at pornography to stimulate their sinful lust.)