Lavendersquare Sun 29-Sep-19 12:05:40

I don't think that OW should be welcomed into the family, I would find it very difficult to do this if it was my family. That said I also don't think that the OW can be excluded from the family for ever so at some point in the future when things have cooled down the OW will need to be accepted, but this will always be tricky.



I work with someone who was the OW in a marriage break up, the man was married with 3 very young children, she's not related to me in any way and I still think they both behaved appallingly 12 years after it all happened. The fact that the wife was a SAHM and ended up on benefits as a result whilst the exh and OW bought a large detached property I think was incredibly cruel, not to mention the many Florida holidays they went on without the children and yes they did the whole Disney thing!