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trilllizard420: before talkin shit on straight men maybe try talking to some for a period of more than five minutes at a time cause all y’all treat straight men on this website like incels treat women We getting woke in this Chilis tonight

I have spoken to straight men. Around 20% of my friends have been straight men and Let Me Tell You I liked straight men a while lot more before I realised that they represented the vast majority of people who landed me in Traumatown

(I know what you’re thinking. You’re a girl, of course straight men are the most likely to cross your boundaries bc Sexual Attraction is the cause of Bad Boundary Crossing. ahhhh but most of my friends are not straight. bi men and wlw have managed to keep their Shitty Behaviour less common despite forming a larger proportion of my social group.)

straight men are socialised to treat women, queer people and gay/bi men in a way that doesn’t include the same boundaries that they hold with other straight dudes and that’s an issue both for us (bc many straight men don’t recognise the damage they do) and for them (bc many straight men are starved of affection)

when incels/puas/redpillers chat shit about women as a group it’s because they aren’t getting what they want.

when women and lgbtq people talk shit about straight men as a group it’s because we aren’t allowed to live our fucking lives without considering what straight men want. many straight men (certainly #notallmen) will not allow you to safely IGNORE their wants, but even though (I hope) MOST straight men do try not to impose their individual wants in others in that way we’re still not ever allowed to exist without having to consider the wants of the Straight Man as an archetypal group and if you think we are that’s fuckin naive. we can choose to IGNORE or RESIST the constant pressure to think of the world and ourselves in terms of the stereotypical straight male gaze but we are never totally unaware of it.

In short while I get that it sucks to get constant negativity as a straight man (and it does suck! you can’t help being born that way!) a) it’s usually not born of ignorance or abstract stereotypes but from BITTER FUCKING EXPERIENCE and b) it’s utterly disingenuous to compare redpill images of women, which are born of male entitlement to female bodies/service/attention, to female and queer disparagement of straight men, which is born of FRUSTRATION WITH a culture of male entitlement to female bodies/servitude/attention and male entitlement to sole sexual power.