Chastity Love-Style: The dildo harness provides a method where the chaste male can penetrate his lover without being allowed his own pleasure. If this idea excites you then pay a visit to our Chastity pages.

Fantasy Enactment: Female Dominant/male submissive love-styles or fantasies can be enhanced when he wears a dildo harness particularly if it is combined with orgasm denial and wearing a chastity device. He need to serve his Mistress whilst being denied sexual pleasure himself.

Erectile Dysfunction Men with health problems such as diabetes, depression, anxiety and prostate surgery that lead to erectile dysfunction can find that wearing a dildo harness is the ideal way to bring the spark back into their loving relationship.

Double Penetration: Some men when wearing a strap on dildo, with a bit of skill and practice, are able to simultaneously penetrate their wife or girlfriend vaginally and anally.

Fun and Discovery: Wearing a male dildo harness is a really enjoyable way to take away the worry of keeping an erection, encouraging the wearer to relax and enjoy the pleasure of pleasing his lover instead of being concerned about performance or staying hard.

Reasons why men enjoy being the driver when it comes to strap-on sex:

Dildo harness delights aren’t just for women! When a man wears a dildo harness he is acknowledging that his cock isn’t necessarily the most important member of every erotic moment shared with his lover.

Are there any Strap-ons or Dildo Harnesses designed specifically for the male?

Just about any dildo harness is suitable for both men and women. However if a man isn’t interested in having his balls divided he’s best looking for a design that has two lower straps fitting on the the waist belt, placing one strap each side of his testicles (this style is sometimes simply called the “Two-Strap” or “Jock” Style). Whereas the “One Strap” design has just one strap which will give a ball lifting and splitting sensation!

You need to look for a good quality leather or rubber harness that has adjustable straps and waist band. Where-ever possible avoid the type of harness which has a hollow dildo attached for the penis to enter. These usually have a basic elasticated waist band which after just a few uses will lose its elasticity; obviously resulting in poor control of the dildo and much less fun for you both.

Tips for Men Wearing a Dildo Harness for First Time Wear:

* Remember that a harness fully equipped with a realistic cock does not move in the same way as your own penis. Your thrusting movements may need to be adapted a little from normal, practice makes perfect and it’s fun learning.

* Don’t forget foreplay, tease and excite your lover before your penetrate.

* Make sure your partner is ready and that you’ve plenty of lubrication, even if there’s lots of natural lubrication flowing strap on sex does benefit from extra slipperiness.

* Spice things up by indulging in a little cock worship. Many people will be highly aroused by watching their lover kiss, lick and perform oral sex on a strap-on equipped with a dildo.

* Let your lover dictate the pace and guide you as your thrust your newly acquired cock. Deep, slow, gentle, rough or fast.

* Remember too that sometimes it’s not always about in and out thrusting. Try deep penetration, leave the dildo there, giving your wife lots of opportunity to grind and rub against the shaft of the silicone penis.

* Wearing a male dildo harness is different to traditional intercourse for you both so experiment with a variety positions. For vaginal penetration the “Missionary Position” gives you greater intimacy and face to face closeness. Whereas Doggy Style gives a deeper penetration even allows for the occasional spank!

* Try not to focus too much on your strap-on cock, remember to kiss, caress, tease and excite your lover.

* Most importantly be aware of your lover’s body language and talk with one another. Get to know what feels good for both of you. Ask her if she wants you to go faster, slower, deeper. Does the dildo need more lubrication? Do the straps of your male dildo harness need tightening?

Further Reading

→ Male Chastity

→ Chastity Play

→ Styles and Designs

→ For Wives/Girlfriends/Lovers – He Want’s you to lock him up!

→ Useful Information : Which Dildos are best for dildo harnesses

→ Divine Domination – Dominating your man

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