CheersMedea Tue 16-May-17 12:49:20

but I think there is an ulterior motive. If they end it that's it. If they vanish they can pop up again



I agree with FreeNiki - and to a certain extent it's true. Guys do it all the time - pop up again with a howyoudoin text.



If you have "a talk" with someone about how you aren't interested in them and it's over, it is very difficult to reopen that avenue.



I'm generally a polite person but before I got married in my dating days, myself once ghosted a guy (who I should say had done it to me before) because although I knew he was a bad boy, part of me wanted to leave the door just a little a jar. I'm not spineless at all; it was a deliberate choice because I knew I didn't want to see him but a part of me really did!



I think also ghosting has become more common because of OLD there is more dating (meeting new people having one or two dates because you've never met at all first); if someone is seriously doing OLD they may have a lot of dates in a week, sometimes two or three first meetings on one day. It's less emotionally draining to just let it slide rather than have a big talk or have to send that email or text.