Re: bulling in neighbourhood Quote: luga living in the village where there are a lot of children, that is good, but also can be bad, if some of them cannot respect others



so first times, my small one come home (he was 5 in this times), and see these gangs are outside of his way home (in age of 8-9 years old, local), they go to push him to corner, and then make a funny eyes, laugh out to say Chinese eyes, Chinese eyes (even so, my boys are mix, and they don't look like chinese at all)



it is hurting me, so i wrote the small note to his mom without much anger, only a small report about what happened (who live nearby like 5 houses away). and the ending is good, they did apologise, and the boy also come on other day to give a sorry card.



the above story was happen like 6 months ago.



today, my small one come from, again he meet them on the way. he is drinking water with his bottle, so these boys come to him, take his bottle, open the cap, and empty the water to the floor!



and beside, my boy is coming home with his friends (after school), the gang only come to him....so what should i think about that? to play fair, i also ask the other children if my boy do something bad so the gang go to him? the answer is, NO, my small one just walk home and say nothing..



Was it the same bullies as the first time, where the mother send the child with an apology? If it was, then have a word with her, in my opinion she reacted properly the first time (send the child to apologise). Even if it isn't her child this time, have a word with her anyway, she seems to have her head mounted properly, she may have a helpful suggestion.



Also mention it to the child's teacher. Bullying is taken quite seriously in the schools. Although this has happened off the school boundaries, I suspect that the teacher might have a word with the bullies teacher and that class ends up with a bit more discussion about what is wrong with bullying... at least that is how I'd prefer to imagine things working.



Sometimes in a village the moving and shaking works invisibly. You need to find a way to avoid seeming to be on a crusade, or an overly protective parent, but also clearly not willing to accept racism, or bullying. Tedious, to say the least.Was it the same bullies as the first time, where the mother send the child with an apology? If it was, then have a word with her, in my opinion she reacted properly the first time (send the child to apologise). Even if it isn't her child this time, have a word with her anyway, she seems to have her head mounted properly, she may have a helpful suggestion.Also mention it to the child's teacher. Bullying is taken quite seriously in the schools. Although this has happened off the school boundaries, I suspect that the teacher might have a word with the bullies teacher and that class ends up with a bit more discussion about what is wrong with bullying... at least that is how I'd prefer to imagine things working.Sometimes in a village the moving and shaking works invisibly. You need to find a way to avoid seeming to be on a crusade, or an overly protective parent, but also clearly not willing to accept racism, or bullying. __________________

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