themelancholyblackwoman:

Light-Skinned, mixed, “nerd” negroes, and anything that is not a “stereotype” of a “thug” - I like black girls, but they don’t seem to like me.

You know, maybe if many of these guys were more friendly, actually showed interest in the things a black girl is interested or concerned about, tried getting to know them, and not come off as a “Special Ankh Negro,” more black girls would be more receptive towards them. So many “smart” guys in general talk down to girls who are either too smart for their “own good” or someone who may not be on their intellectual level. What makes me think it isn’t the same in the black community? Why don’t those “good” black guys get to know the black girl who twerks or enjoys hip-hop culture? How about ask what her interests are or what she likes? I guarantee you she’ll have more things to talk about than her hobby of twerking or enjoying a rap song with her friends at a party. Maybe you’re just a contemptuous, pompous, piece of shit who thinks black women are one dimensional zoids, but tend to find white girls who fit into the “bimbo” stereotype more interesting.

A white girl can wear makeup, cutoff shorts and tank tops and still insist she has depth. People believe her because of white woman privilege. Yet a dark-skinned black girl who likes to twerk, listen to rap music, go to parties and clubs, and not fall into respectability politics is a girl who doesn’t like “good” black guys? But when that type of black girl actually wants to date a black guy that fits into many other black guys’ simplicit definition of what a “Good Negro” is, she gets shamed. I see those tweets that read, “Hoes wanna be a a college niggas housewife!” Or those, “You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife!” because a sexually active black woman dares want to be in a stable relationship with a man. So there are plenty of “ratchet” Queens who want to talk to you, you just don’t care for them because your anti-black misogyny and colorism are too strong. Take my advise, be a better human being and you’ll find your black girl who “understands” your plight.