One thing that isn’t often spoken about is how hard it is for men to approach women with romantic intent. It’s actually one of the hardest things we ever have to do and that’s the reason why the vast majority of us only ever do it while drunk and specially defined scenarios like a bar or a club. Well I don’t want to be that way anymore and have decided to get over this fear once and for all so to that end I’ll be approaching 2 women every day for 50 days and writing about what happens.

And just so we’re clear; this isn’t about ‘getting laid’; it’s about breaking through my personal limitations and learning to become a much stronger man. When a guy approaches a girl he doesn’t know, every one of his insecurities are shoved right into his face in technicolour HD and it’s in that moment that he really finds out what he’s made of.

It’s time to find out what I’m made of. Let’s do this.

See the whole challenge here.

Day 42

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Woman number 1 – Hannah

I met Hannah at some traffic lights just after I’d grabbed a packet of hot chicken from the Tescos near Liverpool St. I saw and liked the look of her, and after about a moment’s hesitation, introduced myself to say that I appreciated her beauty. In a thick Essex accent, she told me that my appreciation was greatly appreciated, and asked how I was doing. I then let her know that having too much to do but not enough time to do it in meant I was far more stressed than I’d have liked to be and that I didn’t appreciate that one bit. She was all like ‘Yeah I appreciate what you’re saying but, don’t be stressed! Just keep a smile on your face and be happy!’

#wisewords

I really appreciated the encouragement and asked where she was going; to which she said ‘To the station to get a train!’, so I walked her there and ended up waiting with her too.

A gesture that I’m sure she appreciated.

Anyway; along the way she told me that she’s a recruitment consultant, i.e. one of those annoying people who calls me about jobs but will never say what said job is until I’ve ‘proved myself’ by spending 5 minutes recounting my entire work history. I told her that I don’t appreciate such people, but added that I would appreciate her information, a selfie and a short video interview.

I think she appreciated my honesty.

Woman number 2 – unknown

Woman number 2 was a corporate type with brown hair, black tights, blue shoes and a fast gait who was marching through Liverpool Street like a woman on a mission. I saw her heading my way so I waited until she was nearby and said ‘Hey, I have to let you know that you’re really sexy.’ She said ‘Thanks a lot, but this sexy lady is late for a meeting and can’t talk!’

I told her to take it easy and then carried on about my business; I imagine she did the same.

Thoughts

I’m very close to the end of this challenge now and I’m not sure what to do next. But having said that I’ve got 2 ideas that are floating around in my head. The first would be a 30 meditation challenge where I meditate for an hour a day in public and document my progress. The second would be another 30 day challenge where I go out on my own to bars and clubs and just meet people of both genders. What are your thoughts on those two ideas, and do you have any of your own? Let a brother know.

42 days down, 8 to go