We're sure you've heard a the term 'sugar baby' before, but what does being one actually mean? Is it safe? How do they protect themselves from any potential danger that comes with being a sugar baby. What are the sugar daddies like? This is one woman's account of her experiences as a sugar baby.

The 20-year-old who works as a sugar baby started this Reddit AMA thread and answered some pretty nosy questions from other users. Obvs this doesn't mean all sugar daddies and sugar babies operate this way. But this is what she's experienced in her time as a sugar baby. Here's what trodc1997 revealed about her job working with sugar daddies...

Sugar daddy secrets

1. Is there an emotional component to having sugar daddies? Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you might get too attached?

"Most sugar daddies want to feel like their sugar babies are attracted to them, so even if I'm not emotionally or physically attracted to them, I still have to fake it to some extent. I haven't had a situation so far where I got too attached to a sugar daddy, except in a friendly way because not all daddies have hustling 'pimp' types of personalities. But I do have a sugar baby friend who was in a sugar daddy/baby relationship with a guy who was married and she ended up developing real feelings for him. She confessed how she felt to him and he rejected her and she was totally heartbroken. It's hard to keep that emotional wall up all the time especially since you are going on dates and the whole shebang."

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2. How much physical contact do you usually have with sugar daddies?

"It depends from daddy to daddy, also from how much they're willing to pay. On average, however, I usually assume a daddy wants a relationship the equivalent to a paid girlfriend. It ranges from hand holding and cuddling to more mature stuff. It depends on the mood of the situation. Before I even go out on the date, however, I always ask to make clear what it is they want so I'm not caught off guard. On first dates. I don't do sleepovers. It's always different every time and I never know what to expect with each daddy I meet. Most daddies do want "mature" stuff, if not immediately then eventually."

3. How did you become a sugar baby?

"I started out with sugar baby/sugar daddy exclusive apps and websites, (like Secret Benefits and Sudy) and a LOT of trial and error. It then expanded to regular dating apps like Tinder and PlentyOfFish, with the age set to find older males. I have to always make sure I make it clear I'm looking for a financially beneficial relationship, as to not waste anyone's time."

4. Could you see yourself doing this while having a boyfriend on the side?

"I personally can't [envision] myself doing this, simply because I know it would probably be hard to find a boyfriend who would be OK with their girlfriend doing something like this on the side. Of course, there's the option of doing it and not telling your boyfriend you're doing it. That seems a little more realistic, but not ideal for me because I'm a very committed person and I don't know how I would feel being 'dishonest'. Then again, being a sugar baby isn't a full time profession for me, I'm doing it to help me out with my college funds, so it's not an absolute necessity for me."



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5. Did you ever meet a sugar baby who tried out a few arrangements, and decided that it didn't work for her?

"Yes, definitely! No matter how easy it sounds in theory, actually having to go out and give 'sugar' is harder than it seems! I know ex-sugar babies who tried going out with some daddies and couldn't do it.

"You have to put up with some awful and boring dates, and some pretty old guys with bad hygiene"

"Not everyone gets to have the middle-aged, attractive, nice and caring daddy. You have to put up with some awful and boring dates, and some pretty old guys, bad hygiene, etc while acting like you're having a good time. Some sugar babies I know go through one bad experience and get so upset they stop doing it."



6. How much do you earn as a sugar baby?

"How much I make ranges from time to time, sugar daddies come and go all the time, though some are constant. Some give me 'allowances' (by this I mean, I receive a fixed amount every week) and some pay by date, (by this I mean, I only get paid when we meet up in person.) At the moment, I have two daddies, one with each kind of pay method. In a good month, I get about $800 (around £560), if I'm busy and I can't pay as much attention to [them] as I would like, I get about $200-$300 (£140-£210). Again, these numbers vary widely depending on how devoted I am at that time and how often I can go out."

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7. What’s the most memorable amount of loot a daddy’s given you before?

"Once I got $800 (around £560) to sleep over at a daddy's house for one night. It was absolutely at the last minute and I was with friends at the time, but for $800, I was out the door in minutes. My friends know what I do so they're very understanding, they just made me buy them breakfast the next day."

8. Are most sugar daddies looking for sex or companionship?

"I think there's an equal amount of both, honestly, but who you attract depends mostly on what kind of sugar baby you are. Of course, there are benefits to both kinds. A daddy who wants a companion will most likely be open to paying you regularly, (aka allowances) so long as you're good company. If you can tell, I seek out more of the companion kind. The other type of daddy are the ones who only want to meet up for 'dates' and they pay you per date.

"Mainly all daddies expect some sort of sexual favour in the long run"

"The benefits to this is that you're not tied down to any one daddy, and you can go on many dates with different daddies in the case that you need urgent money, rather than waiting for an allowance. Mainly all daddies expect some sort of sexual favour in the long run. Some want only the sexual favours and some want someone to be with in a little more romantic sense, like a girlfriend, or like you said, a companion."

9. What are the best and worst experiences you've had as a sugar baby?

"The best experience I ever had was with this daddy who was sincerely a great guy who just felt lonely because he was divorced. This daddy was very generous with his money. When I was a little more down on my luck, he would send me a little money to cheer me up. He also gave holiday 'bonuses' which I thought was a little comical. I did become attached to him in the way I would a friend, and I could find myself unloading my thoughts and emotions on him, and he did the same. I felt very at peace talking to him as he did with me, and we were very grateful for each other. The sugar baby/daddy relationship did have to end however because he decided to go back to university to obtain a master's degree and the busy schedule made us go out of touch, but we do still talk on occasion!

"A lot of daddies like cuddling"

"The worst experience was with this daddy who continued to string me along until I got so fed up I had to call it quits. He would come out of the blue and ask me to meet him immediately. I was very kind and I would try to say yes if I could, but if I said no and that I was busy, he would be upset and not talk to me for weeks and then come back again out of the blue and do the same. I got tired of apologising every time I said no, so I told him I didn't want to be treated this way and to delete my number."

10. Do you get any weird requests from sugar daddies?

"Aside from sexual favours, the thing I get asked to do the most is cuddling. A lot of daddies like cuddling at heart, and there's no shame in asking. Other than cuddling, there are also requests to hold hands, or hug, or walk arm-in-arm. I don't mind doing things like this at all. On the other hand, I do have to turn down some requests, specifically for daddies with fetishes who want me to fulfil their desires. I don't meet a lot of these people but they do exist, so that's something to be prepared for if you consider being a sugar baby."

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