Adding pronouns to typical introduction circles

Pronoun pins/pronouns on name tags

Defaulting to gender-neutral pronouns unless and until you have specific information about the person you're talking about.

Introduction circles already exist.

In theory, we can get everyone's pronouns this way, thereby avoiding misgendering people by guessing incorrectly.

Introduction circles were already a clunky, awkward, unnatural front-loading cram of personal information. Adding pronouns to them does not fix any of ways introduction circles were already awkward, and most people will still forget most of what they "learned" from this cram session.

If pronouns are a required part of the introduction, people who aren't out may need to choose between lying and coming out. That's not cool.

Only including pronouns in these introduction circles when you think there's a trans person in the room draws attention to whoever it is you think is trans (not cool), as well as to the gender of everyone in the room.

Only including pronouns in these introduction circles when you think there's a trans person in the room can lead to not including pronouns when there's an out trans person who would be misgendered without a chance to state their pronouns.

Name tags are already in common use at certain kinds of events.

If the person is present, so is a visible reminder of their pronouns.

If there's no name tag, the pronoun pin could be just about anywhere. Where do we look for it?

do we look for it? If pronoun pins/pronouns on nametags are required, people who aren't out may need to choose between lying and coming out.

If this is done in a computer system without a fill in the blank option, people may be forced to lie because their actual pronouns aren't on the list of options.

When the person isn't present and you need to talk about them, there's no visible reminder.

Blind people may not be able to use this system effectively, so there is an access issue.

Not gendering people who prefer not to be gendered.

Not all languages have gender-neutral pronouns.

Languages that have gender-neutral pronouns may not have a single set of gender-neutral pronouns.

set of gender-neutral pronouns. Gender-neutral pronouns are also used to de-gender binary trans people, and that's not OK.

The information about our pronoun preferences is there -- avoiding pronouns is also a choice.

This can hold additional information about us, including additional information about how to refer to us!

Bios can be referred back to in a way introduction circles can't be.

It's a comparatively implicit cue, which may feel more natural for people.

Ok, where are we putting all these third person bios anyways? (For conferences and meetings that have programs, the program makes sense, but that's not everywhere. The site where I teach math has them posted to the online classroom on the first day of class, and also on the teachers page.)

There can still be a choice between coming out, lying, and avoiding pronouns for trans people who aren't out. I don't think any of those are ideal.

Do people actually read these, even when they're present? I'm not certain.

Trans people exist. People we are working with in a variety of contexts won't always guess our genders or pronouns correctly. Sometimes, guessing leads to misgendering people, which isn't good. Several ways of dealing with this have been proposed and sometimes used. None of them are perfect. When people are working in good faith, we can think of this as a design problem: solutions aren't static, we can improve them, and we can come up with new options. (When people are intentionally being anti-trans, handling that is aquestion.)Current solutions include:These solutions all have advantages and disadvantages. Considering them one at a time might help us think about better ways of doing this. (And no, we don't abandon the current solutions while we're trying to think of better ones. That just leaves us with no solutions. I'm keeping my they/them pins and noting my pronouns in introduction circles whether or not they were listed as part of what we "should" be saying about ourselves, thank you very much.)So, first: Adding pronouns to typical introduction circles. The advantages include:The disadvantages include:Making pronouns anpart ofintroduction circles might help address some of these disadvantages. It won't do anything about the fact that these introduction circles were awkward to begin with.Second: Pronoun pins/pronouns on name tags. The advantages include:The disadvantages include:Making pronouns anpart of name tags when name tags are in use can address some of these issues. So can letting people put whatever pronouns they want on their name tags, not limited by a list organizers came up with.Third: Defaulting to gender-neutral pronouns unless and until you have specific information about the person you're talking about. The advantages include:The disadvantages include:I don't really have any suggestions for tweaking this option.One idea I have, which I haven't seen discussed as a way of introducing pronouns before (though it could have been -- I obviously don't see everything), is the third person bio. It's a context-dependent option, in that it won't always make sense to include third person bios for people, but some conferences already have presenter bios. So do some meetings. By writing these introductions in third person, we aren't announcing "my pronouns are X," but we are choosing pronouns (or choosing to avoid pronouns.)As an example, many presenters for AAC in the Cloud wrote introductions in third person. (A few used "I." I used "they.") People generally weren't leading into their presentations with their pronouns. I might have (I don't remember), but it wasn't generally a thing. We could get good information about how to talk about people, though: Dr. Kathy Howery starts with her title, indicating we should use it, and uses she/her pronouns in her introduction. I just use my first name (Alyssa), indicating I don't need an honorific (if you want to use one, it's Mx. until I finish my PhD, but I don't need one) and they/them pronouns in mine. Ms. Helland tells me that "Ms. Lastname" is the right format to use for her, and she uses she/her pronouns. And no, I wasn't the only presenter to use they/them pronouns in my bio.The advantages of this option include:The disadvantages of this option include:Are any of these perfect solutions? Obviously not. They're imperfect and context-dependent. Besides, I'm an engineer. I don't actually believe in perfect solutions -- just better ones, and continued improvement. So, you know, keep thinking?