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TL;DR: Women and men are different.

Welcome to Gender Studies for sane people.

We will start with the cornerstone of our studies.

And our cornerstone is this question: What is the minimal work for a male and a female to create a baby?

Of course, it starts with fertilizing the female reproductive cell (egg) by male reproductive cell (sperm). In short it starts with sex. This one intercourse will cost them around 100 calories for men and 70 for women. If you wish to check this you can do this here.

Now since we want to know what is the absolute minimal amount of work required to produce a baby, we can say that the male work is done. He cannot do less. Everything else is extra effort.

The female on the other hand just started her work.

Let’s start witch calories. Here we can read that in the last 3 months of pregnancy women have to eat extra 200 calories per day. This give us 18000 calories just in the last 3 months. Assuming half of this for the first 6 months and we have 27 000 calories. This is 270 times more bigger investment for females than for males in calories alone.

And if you know anything about pregnancy and pregnant women you know that calories are the smallest prize they pay to produce offspring.

Pleas take a look ad this little gif. Do you see how much all organs move to make space for the baby?

Constipation, incontinence, swollen ankles, feet and fingers, nausea and morning sickness this is just the beginning of problems that women can have during pregnancy, List is long.

Here is another list of body changes and discomforts. And these are normal. The list of pregnancy complications it is separate entry.

The stress that is put on women’s body during pregnancy is astounding. And all this 9 months of preparations will end up in several hours of labor. And Childbirth beside being painful in it self, have it’s own list of complications.

If you think that this is the end. Women give birth to baby, we search for the minimal amount of work, so females job is done. Technically you are right, practically we have post pregnancy recovery.

My favorite problem is post pregnancy depression, but trust me there is more. Science says it takes entire year for women to fully recover in mind and body from pregnancy.

Now tricky question. Do you know how old is our species Homo Sapiens Sapiens?

The answer is 200 000 years. Assuming 25 years for generation this give us 8000 generations. Minimum 8 000 women in straight line must go through this process. And overwhelming majority of them do this when we were primitive hunters gathers.

We have agriculture for just 12 000 years. So 7520 generation of nomadic hunters gathers women, than 470 farmers women, and last 10 generation of women life in industrial world. If you wonder we have mobile phones for less than 2 generations.

This series is titled Gender Studies for sane people because you have to be clinically insane if you believe that differences between men and women ends in the waistline. Especially since this waistline differences are so crucial for creating the new life.

8 000 generations, 200 000 years. 94% of this time as primitive nomadic hunters gatherers.

Gender dimorphism is real. Biology shapes us. Biology is how our brains work. And here we will examine this and try find some sanity.

Now. How this baseline exactly shape us?

First men.

They have no biological incentive to be careful in there sex life. They are there only for the fun part. What are the consequence? For majority of our time, there was no government to force him in to parenthood or child support. Don’t matter, have sex.

This cause men to have preferences not conditions in choosing there sexual partners.

Now what preferences was giving men the biggest chance on passing there genes?

Female Fertility. If Men could distinguish with females are the most fertile they will get huge advantage in evolutionary race.

So how men judge female fertility?

By age and beauty.

First age. The 19 year old women is more fertile and have greater chance of giving birth to healthy children than 35 year old.

Second beauty. Now many of you may think: Of course men want beautiful women to fuck, they want to have fun.

This is wrong thinking. First there must be something beneficiary in what we call beauty to start being consider beauty. Or putting this in other way. We evolve to see clear skin as beautiful because it was beneficiary to us. And what are benefit of beauty? Health. Pleas take a look on this images, and ask yourself. Ad with photo this women look the most healthy?

First one:

Second one: *Yes even dolls)

Entire album:

Healthy women give birth to healthy children, have the greatest chance of surviving the childbirth and will have the quicker recovery. Check any female celebrity photo without make up and consider: Can this be just her/his sick day? How much worse you look when you are sick?

Now let’s talk about women’s.

And this is actually far more simple then you can imagine.

Since almost all consequences of having baby on pure biological level are put on women, she will search for the best sperm donor she can grab. She will not settle for the weakling. She want strong children. Tall children. Healthy children. Brave son and beautiful daughters. This means the tallest, strongest, the most dominant male will be her preferred partner. The male that when wake up by roar of the lion will smile grab a spire and go hunting. His genes will give greater chance to have taller stronger more healthy offspring. This type of male we will call The Protector.

However. Since women are the one who are burden with not only pregnancy but also raising children, she will need a help. She will need a male that will stay with her. That will be loyal to her. That will provide, bring food for her and her children.(Pleas notice HER children). The Provider.

This is shown also in females biology. Here and here we have articles that deal with the fact that birth control pills change women taste in men. The same women will prefer different type of men depending if she is on or off birth control pills. And for does who do not know. Birth control pills trick female body in to thinking that she is pregnant. With translate to pregnant women have different taste in men from non pregnant women.

And the change in preferences is very straight forward. When women are not pregnant they prefer masculine men. Strong, hairy. The Protector. However pregnant women will prefer more femininem men. Men who care for her, who talk with her. The Provider.

So one more. First grab the best genes (The Protector) than grab some help in raising children (The Provider).

Now one thing must be true for both Protector and Provider. Both of them must have value in female eyes. Core principals of Briffault’s law:

Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.

Even more if women will see you as inferior she will not only be not interest in having sex with him. She will be actually afraid of him.

Think about it. Think about how much on biological level is demanded from women to have baby. And now imagine that she have baby of the wrong guy. All that life and health treating for something sub-pair. When she clearly could have something better. Better Protector. Better Provider.

There is even word to describe such inferior men. Men who do not have enough value in eyes of women. Creepy.

Does creepy scary guys.

Dynamic between genders:

Now when this two basic biological difference collide we get very interesting dynamic.

Careful women must judge all men “Does they are worthy of having sex with me(Protector traits)?” And even if several of them will be in yes, women will go for the highest scoring men. However ad the same time. Women want to secure long lasting commitment from men(Provider traits).

To summarize this in short sentence:

Men must prove to women that he is worthy of having sex with her. Than women must prove to men that she is worthy of his commitment.

Or even shorter: Women are gatekeepers of sex. Men are gatekeepers of commitment.

And this is just the most basic level of dynamic between men and women.

