Health benefits of masturbation

Before we get to the tips, let's talk about why masturbation is good for your health. Not only is it totally natural to masturbate, but it can also help reduce stress, help you sleep better, improve your body image, and more, according to Planned Parenthood. And as an added bonus, there's no chance of contracting STIs, unwanted pregnancy, or any of the other risks involved in partnered sex.

While this might not be a straightforward health benefit, masturbation also helps you figure out what you like sexually and what you're comfortable with. That way, if and when you decide to have partnered sex, you're better able to communicate what you want and what you don't — which is an important part of consent.

1. Find your stroke

Use your hand to find a rhythm you love. Finding your rhythm when you masturbate takes time and practice. Some people enjoy rapid strokes, some enjoy slower strokes, and others like a variety. There is no limit to the ways you can use your hand to explore your penis. When in doubt, stay consistent until you reach orgasm.

2. Once you've found your stroke, switch it up

Masturbation is not a one-size-fits-all thing, and it's something you can practice regularly. You may find that a stroke you liked at one point makes way for something else in the future. That’s totally normal. Enjoy some variety in your masturbation, using varied strokes or trying new ones to keep things spicy.

Masturbation doesn’t need to be this super fast, shameful thing you do in the dark corner of your bedroom.

3. Take your time

Regardless of what you’ve seen on popular television shows and in movies, masturbation doesn’t need to be this super fast, shameful thing you do in the dark corner of your bedroom. It doesn’t need to be a race to finish if you don’t want it to be.

Sure, locking the door adds privacy, but what you’re doing isn’t shameful or bad. Set some time to actually enjoy masturbating. Don’t rush it. Listen to your body and see what feels good for you. Do you prefer stimulation at the head of the penis? The base?

Everybody is different, and every person enjoys different things. If you learn what you like, you will be more fully equipped for interpersonal sexual experiences down the road.

4. Lube is your best friend

The friction of your hand directly on your penis for a prolonged period of time is not particularly good for you. Not to alarm you, but it can cause some minor desensitization in the penis. It can also leave some “rug burn.” Lube is important for all sex acts, from masturbation to intercourse.

I know lotion is a popular masturbation option, but lotion is not lube. It’s easy to find around the house and is convenient, but it isn’t ideal for masturbation. Your penis is a sensitive area. Some scented lotions may actually cause irritation (which is not fun).