TreeClimbingFishes Thu 05-Jul-18 09:40:46

Let me start by saying I do love DP very much, we are expecting our first child together in a few weeks, and he is a godsend around the house- he is anything but lazy and takes pride in having a tidy house. But



He's awful when he's stressed out. Gets so stressed over little things.

I don't like how he treats DD sometimes.

It's like he forgets she's only just turned 4 and doesn't understand things in the same way adults do.



She refused to eat any dinner yesterday, after having not eaten much lunch either. Apparently I'm "weak" for caving in eventually and giving her a plain slice of bread- I didn't want her to go to bed hungry.



He swears around her if he gets frustrated with something.

He'll shout at her and tower over her if she's misbehaving, which I've told him not to do, that its too scary and unnecessary.

He thinks I'm far too soft on her and I nearly kicked him out the other day when he referred to her as a "brat".



I'm aware the most likely response on here is going to be "LTB" but that's not what I want to happen. I need to find some way of showing him that 4 year olds are not mini adults, that they don't see right and wrong as clear as black and white until a much older age.



He was amazing with her 3 years ago when he first moved in with us- but he ended up doing a lions share in dropping her off and collecting her from the childminders as I had to change to a better paying job which unfortunately meant I needed help in working and getting DD to childcare everyday. I think this has lead to a lot of resentment and I don't know how to deal with it.



I go on maternity leave in less than a week so I'll finally be able to do more with regards to getting DD to and from childcare- and I'm looking forward to it! I feel like I've missed out on everything he resents.