In an extraordinary interview, Prince Harry, pictured, has given an astonishing insight into how he once felt directionless, and sought an escape from the pomp and pageantry surrounding him

Prince Harry has admitted that he once ‘wanted out’ of the Royal Family and considered turning his back on the privilege he was born into to live an ‘ordinary life’.

In an extraordinarily candid interview, the 32-year-old Prince opens up about his troubled 20s and says how, after leaving the Army, he ‘didn’t want to grow up’ and struggled to find a meaningful role for himself.

Speaking to journalist Angela Levin – who revealed last week that Harry believes ‘no one in the Royal Family wants to be King or Queen’ – the Prince gave an astonishing insight into how he once felt directionless, and sought an escape from the pomp and pageantry surrounding him.

‘I spent many years kicking my heels and I didn’t want to grow up,’ he admitted.

Several years of partying, drinking and heavy smoking followed – which he has previously described as ‘total chaos’ – and Harry admitted coming ‘very close’ to a breakdown several times.

And when he finally decided to be more constructive, he even questioned whether remaining a junior Royal would allow him to use his talents effectively – and considered life as a commoner instead.

‘I felt I wanted out but then decided to stay in and work out a role for myself,’ he said, making it clear he was primarily motivated by his loyalty to the Queen.

It was obvious his life in the ‘goldfish bowl’ had left its mark. He added: ‘We don’t want to be just a bunch of celebrities but instead use our role for good.’

Harry, who was just 12 when his mother Princess Diana died, admitted feeling most at home during his years in the Army.

Prince Harry, pictured right, at one point questioned whether remaining a junior Royal would allow him to use his talents effectively – but chose to stay because of his loyalty to his grandmother the Queen, pictured left. The pair are pictured in May 2015 at the Chelsea Flower Show in London

Prince Harry, pictured right with the Queen in a video clip to promote the 2016 Invictus Games, has admitted that he once ‘wanted out’ of the Royal Family

Prince Harry pictured with some of the Royal Family in 2013. Kate, Duchess of Cambridge, holds her son Prince George seated next to Queen Elizabeth II and Prince William. Back row from left, Prince Philip, Prince Charles, and the Duchess of Cornwall and Prince Harry - as well as Kate's family Pippa Middleton, James Middleton, Carole Middleton and Michael Middleton.

He was devastated in 2007 when, after ten weeks in Afghanistan’s Helmand province, his position was leaked by a magazine and he had to be hastily withdrawn for security reasons.

‘I felt very resentful,’ he said. ‘Being in the Army was the best escape I’ve ever had. I felt as though I was really achieving something.

'I have a deep understanding of all sorts of people from different backgrounds and felt I was part of a team.’

Tellingly, he added that while in the Army, ‘I wasn’t a Prince, I was just Harry’.

But with professional help, recommended by his brother William, Harry found a way to reinvent himself and carve out a role which has won public respect and affection: promoting the cause of injured servicemen and women, and tackling mental health issues, among other things.

Prince Harry admitted feeling most at home during his years in the Army. He is seen patrolling in a town in southern Afghanistan in January 2008

He said that he and William were ‘incredibly passionate with our charities and they have been chosen because they are on the path shown to me by our mother’.

But when asked whether his girlfriend Meghan Markle had in any way advised him on mental health issues, he replied: ‘Absolutely she did not.’

In a sure sign of his maturity, Harry showed he had given serious thought to the future of ‘The Firm’ in the 21st Century.

‘We want to make sure the Monarchy lasts and are passionate about what it stands for,’ he said. ‘But it can’t go on as it has done under the Queen. There will be changes and pressure to get them right.’

Perhaps surprisingly, he also claimed to be an avid viewer – along with millions of commoners – of The Crown, the hugely popular Netflix drama about his grandmother and the House of Windsor.

‘It’s great but I wish they’d stopped at the end of the first series,’ Harry said. ‘They absolutely must not move on to the younger generation.’

Writer who spent hours with Prince Harry and revealed his desire to quit The Firm says 'he's not a whinger - he's a wounded warrior'

By Angela Levin for The Mail on Sunday

There is a moment in the controversial stage play, King Charles III, when Prince Harry renounces his Royal life to become a commoner.

It proves to be a brief departure, and the fictional Harry soon resumes his proper role. Yet there is more than a grain of truth in the drama, which was adapted for TV this year.

Because Harry’s search for a role has been long and fraught, and there was indeed a period, however brief, when the young Prince did consider trying to make his mark outside the Royal Family– or ‘The Firm’ – as he told me frankly when we met: ‘There was a time when… I wanted out.’

Prince Harry, pictured speaking in May 2016, is guilty of no more than thoughtfulness and honesty – about an emotional past that binds the younger Royals together

Over the last three years Prince Harry has faced his demons, worked hard to overcome them and grown into an extraordinary young man who has kept some Royal magic. Left, Harry is pictured attending the wedding of close friend Jamies Murray Wells at Dorchester Abbey, Oxfordshire. Right, the Prince is pictured on a visit to South Africa in 2015

Harry’s battle for a role was at the heart of my Newsweek interview with the Prince last week, when he made the seemingly unguarded suggestion that no one in the Royal Family would wish to accept the crown, given free choice.

Criticism rained down as he was accused of being a whinger, of failing to give due respect to the institution which has brought him so much privilege.

But I believe he was guilty of no more than thoughtfulness and honesty – about an emotional past that binds the younger Royals together.

After two meetings at Kensington Palace, and having accompanied the Prince to a series of engagements, I know that the true measure of Prince Harry lies in something else he told me. I suspect it goes to the heart of his brother William, too.

Harry disliked the formality of Eton and said that during his time there he had only wanted to be a ‘bad boy’. This official portrait taken by Mario Testino was released in 2005 to mark the Prince's 21st birthday on September 15th

Halfway through our first meeting, Harry stopped, looked me in the eyes and, out of the blue, said: ‘William and I were 14 and 12 when our mother died and I had to walk a long way behind her coffin, surrounded by thousands of people watching me while millions more did on television.

'I don’t think any child should be asked to do that, under any circumstances. It certainly wouldn’t happen today.’

It was a burst of openness and maturity that belies his reputation of the past. For I believe him to be not a ‘clown Prince’ or a moaner, but a wounded Prince.

And who would not be scarred to lose a mother at such a young age?

Harry was in his element during his decade-long stint in the Army and was devastated when in 2007, after ten weeks working in Afghanistan, guiding fighters to suspected Taliban targets, his position was leaked and he was withdrawn for security reasons. He is pictured laying a wreath at the Armistice Day Service in November 2016

Harry is both compassionate and jokey, confessing that he missed the black humour and camaraderie of Army life. He is seen running to an Apache helicopter in Afghanistan's Camp Bastion in January 2013

Harry, 32, has reached an age where he understands this too. Indeed, it is this empathy for those in trouble which makes him such an inspiring figure – finally giving him the role he longs for.

In our time together, he was full of self-recognition: laughing at his impatience and admitting how difficult the past had been. At Eton, he said, he just wanted to be a ‘bad boy’.

And most tellingly, he summed up those lost years when his beloved career in the Army was taken from him. ‘I spent many years kicking my heels,’ he said. ‘And I didn’t want to grow up.’

We first met earlier this year in a smart sitting room in Kensington Palace, home not just to Harry but to the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.

Harry says that he was motivated to do something to help his grandmother, the Queen, and charity work came to his rescue - for example with Heads Together

Wearing an open-necked, immaculately pressed ice-blue shirt and brown chinos, he leapt out of one of the pale peach armchairs and strode towards me, smiling and with a hand outstretched.

‘I’ve seen you following me about,’ he said, ‘and wondered if you’d like to ask me any questions. But first have you seen The Crown? [the Netflix drama about the House of Windsor].

'It’s great but I wish they’d stopped at the end of the first series. They absolutely must not move on to the younger generation.’

There would be plenty to go on if they did – as would become clear in the course of our interview.

Harry was just 12 when his mother Princess Diana died. The pair are pictured together in May 1995

The loss of his mother has gnawed at Prince Harry, who is pictured with her in August 1995, and it is little wonder it has taken so long for him to deal with it

Prince William, pictured left, and Prince Harry are seen bowing their heads as their mother's coffin is taken out of Westminster Abbey following her funeral service in September 1997

Certainly, he was happy to acknowledge his own weaknesses.

‘I can do most things with my hands. My next challenge is to learn to play the guitar. But I get very agitated if I am stuck in front of a computer for long.

‘The passion in me, I can give some of that to other people… well, anyone I am with – but I can sometimes get too impatient.

‘I love to see people excel and succeed. If you give care and consideration to younger people they will flourish. Anyone can do anything if you put your mind to it. You just need passion and belief.

'If you want to be a success you have to be a team player. No one can do anything by themselves. I was taught that in the Army.’

He had loved his military career and felt its loss keenly. Harry found himself directionless. ‘I spent many years kicking my heels and I didn’t want to grow up,’ he admits.

But that was to change. He sought counselling. And determined to be more constructive, he began to think more widely.

It is empathy for those in trouble which makes Prince Harry such an inspiring figure – finally giving him the role he longs for. He is seen speaking to veterans Clive Smith, left, and Jack Cummings, right at a service in St Paul's Cathedral in October 2015

Harry even questioned whether life as a junior Royal would allow him to use his talents effectively, perhaps with a civilian role.

‘There was a time I felt I wanted out,’ he says. ‘But then I decided to stay in [The Firm] and work out a role for myself.’ More than anything else, he says, that he was motivated to do something to help his grandmother, the Queen, and charity work came to his rescue.

‘We are incredibly passionate with our charities and they have been chosen because they are on the path shown to me by our mother,’ he says. ‘I love charity stuff and meeting people.’

Harry particularly dislikes ‘feeling I live in a goldfish bowl’, saying: ‘I am determined to have a relatively normal life and if I am lucky enough to have children they can have one too. We don’t want to be just a bunch of celebrities but instead use our role for good.’

Much attention has been drawn to his comment: ‘Is there any one of the Royal Family who wants to be King or Queen? I don’t think so but we will carry out our duties at the right time.’

Yet the truth is that Harry is surprisingly thoughtful about the future of the Monarchy, saying that he and William would like to pull it into the 21st Century.

‘We want to make sure the Monarchy lasts and are passionate about what it stands for,’ he explains. ‘We feel that the British public and the whole world needs institutions like this – but it can’t go on as it has done under the Queen.

Harry readily admits he is not academic, but instead is exceptionally good at connecting with people of all types and ages. Here he is meeting British soldiers competing in the warrior games in May 2013

Harry particularly dislikes ‘feeling I live in a goldfish bowl’, saying: ‘I am determined to have a relatively normal life and if I am lucky enough to have children they can have one too.' Pictured, Prince Harry plays cricket during a youth sports festival at the Sir Vivian Richards Stadium in North Sound, Antigua, during his November 2016 tour of the Caribbean

‘There will be changes and pressure to get them right. Things are moving so fast, especially because of social media, so we are involved in modernising the Monarchy.

‘We are not doing this for ourselves but for the greater good of the people and the Monarchy we represent. There is so much negative in the world – we as a family try to bring something positive.’

Does he mind dropping from third to fifth in line to the throne after William and Kate’s children, George and Charlotte?

‘The reason I am now fifth is because of my nephew and niece and I could never wish them away,’ he says. ‘They are the most amazing things ever.’

In addition to these formal interviews, I spent about a year accompanying Harry on engagements around the country. He is a remarkable operator.

There were a few techniques he used. One was to leap from the official car, rush towards whoever is in charge and firmly shake their hand.

It gives the genuine impression that he couldn’t wait to get there and is delighted to see them.

Another is to completely focus on the individual he talks to – them and only them. He doesn’t look around, or over their shoulder, and instead engages them totally, and listens carefully to what they say.

Harry, pictured, is surprisingly thoughtful about the future of the Monarchy, saying that he and William would like to pull it into the 21st Century

Harry, pictured at the Queen Elizabeth Olympic Park in east London in May 2016, is reassuring, encouraging and knows what to say, how to say it and when. He has a knack of making people feel good about themselves in both significant and small ways

Harry readily admits he is not academic, but instead is exceptionally good at connecting with people of all types and ages.

He is reassuring, encouraging and knows what to say, how to say it and when. He has a knack of making people feel good about themselves in both significant and small ways.

He particularly excels with former soldiers who have been affected by injuries sustained in battle. It was obvious that by helping others he was also helping himself.

‘I see a lot of myself in these guys,’ he said. ‘They want an opportunity to prove themselves and be someone,’ he said.

We went to the Help For Heroes recovery centre at Tedworth House, Wiltshire, where ex-soldiers who had been seriously wounded in battle and suffer psychological wounds come for help with depression, stress, anger, anxiety and problems with alcohol.

Harry was both compassionate and jokey, confessing that he missed the black humour and camaraderie of Army life.

The effect was extraordinary, almost as if he had given them an injection of hope and confidence.

Jokes and slaps on the back are essential part of his repertoire. He asks direct questions without seeming intrusive.

Does Harry mind dropping from third to fifth in line to the throne after William and Kate’s children, George and Charlotte? ‘The reason I am now fifth is because of my nephew and niece and I could never wish them away,’ he says. ‘They are the most amazing things ever.’ Pictured, Prince Harry watches a performance of a play in Nottingham in October 2016

Harry had loved his military career and felt its loss keenly. Harry found himself directionless. ‘I spent many years kicking my heels and I didn’t want to grow up,’ he admits. This photograph was released for his 21st birthday in 2005

For example, his first question to Mike ‘Doris’ Day, 34, formerly a sniper section commander in the 4 Rifles, who was hit by a grenade in Afghanistan in 2009 and whose injuries included a broken back and shrapnel in his head and body, went right to the core: ‘So what has been the biggest effect on you?’ he asked. Day thought for just a moment. ‘I am no longer me,’ he replied quietly.

Harry nodded sympathetically. ‘One of your biggest struggles must be living rather than just existing,’ he continued.

Certainly, he would be happy talking to veterans all day. There was less interest in formal meetings. He would sit politely, but occasionally one of his legs would tap up and down and a shadow would pass across his face.

Harry similarly disliked the formality of Eton and told me that during his time there he had only wanted to be a ‘bad boy’.

Instead, he was in his element during his decade-long stint in the Army and was devastated when in 2007, after ten weeks working in Afghanistan, guiding fighters to suspected Taliban targets, his position was leaked and he was withdrawn for security reasons.

‘I felt very resentful,’ he told me. ‘Being in the Army was the best escape I’ve ever had. I felt I was really achieving something.

‘I have a deep understanding for all sorts of people from different backgrounds and felt I was part of a team… I also wasn’t a Prince, I was just Harry.’

Yet this brings me back to 1997, and that image he evoked of a young boy walking in the glare of millions, part of his mother’s cortege.

Prince Harry during his visit to Southern African Wildlife College, a flagship centre close to Kruger National Park, in December 2015

Prince Harry is pictured with a Ranger Tracker dog as he visits the South African Wildlife College on December 2, 2015 in Hoedspruit, South Africa

The loss has gnawed at him and it is little wonder it has taken so long for him to deal with it.

‘My search began when I was in my mid-20s,’ Harry said. ‘I needed to fix the mistakes I was making and what was going on with me.’

In April he revealed that bottling up his grief had affected every area of his life, bringing him close to a breakdown several times.

For years he seemed lost. He partied with a dubious set of rich friends, and drank and smoked heavily.

But it didn’t help him drown his feelings. ‘Instead of dealing with it I buried my head in the sand and let everything around me tear me to pieces,’ he said.

Eventually, when he was 28, on William’s advice, he sought professional help.

Has his relationship with Meghan Markle helped him? It is a subject he does not wish to discuss, feeling she already has too much unfair scrutiny.

But asked whether she advised him on mental health issues, as some have suggested, there was an answer, sharp and clear: ‘Absolutely she did not.’ The decision has been his, showing a different sort of strength to the courage required in Afghanistan.

Over the last three years he has faced his demons, worked hard to overcome them and grown into an extraordinary young man who has kept some Royal magic, is charming, energetic, sincere and longs to help those who are damaged by war, by accident – or by dysfunctional families.

There is still some way for him to go, but by helping them, this wounded warrior is helping himself – in the best way possible.