Surely, I, an intelligent, witty, caring (yet simple) lady, should have at least one passion to rave about when a complete stranger asks me such a question. So I at least appear interesting. So, feeling rather down on myself, I began to research “how to find your passion”, and not wanting to waste too much time went straight to the woman who wants us all to live our best lives. Aunty Oprah. Timely given I hadn’t seen her for a while and there she was at the Royal Wedding. (And speaking of passions, surely Meghan Markle must be exhausted from being so passionate about so many things. I saw some footage of her as an 11-year-old telling some journalist about how she wrote a letter to then First Lady Hillary Clinton after seeing a sexist dish soap commercial and the company changed the ad. At 11 I was doing all I could to avoid doing the dishes. But now she's passionate about fighting for equality, rhinoceroses, yoga, calligraphy and cooking, not to mention the Invictus Games, saving sick children and the stigma surrounding menstruation, the poor dear must be quite busy. I hope she finds time for Harry.) Passion can’t be found in your head because it lives in your heart. But back to Oprah.

It appears the secret to finding your passion is not thinking about what your passion is. Passion can’t be found in your head because it lives in your heart, this very helpful article told me. And the flames of passion are fanned by engagement, not thought. But the key is not narrowing your focus, it’s about bringing passion to everything you do. No matter what task is in front of you, you have to bring as much energy and enthusiasm as you possibly can to that single task. Whether you're making dinner, making the beds or making love - do it like you want to do it. Even if you don’t. It could change your mindset. I remember times when I couldn’t really be naffed. But it was something that was expected. So you start, convincing yourself you were having a good time, and then all of a sudden you were having a good time.

And I’m talking about making dinner. It’s all about being in control of how you feel about things, how you respond to things, how you choose to be. If you approach your daily tasks with this mindset, your true passion just might reveal itself. Which is funny, because when I asked a colleague here what she thought my passions were, she said writing, straight up. I like to think I approach each word with some kind of enthusiasm. That each column is full of some kind of energy. Each story brimming with some kind of wonder that might reach at least one reader. But is it my passion? I’m not sure. Surely I would have written that book if it was? So I’ve reached a point where I’ve decided it’s perfectly okay not to be passionate about anything. I’ve made a life of being okay at a lot of things but not excelling at any. And that’s perfectly fine.