You can find the article below.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201112/are-you-the-right-mate

In our culture Men are portrayed like this.

Everything about this article exemplifies the steaming, hot, bullshit of the culture which we live in. Beneath this article’s sugar coated, candy crust there is a grain of truth to be found.

“Women generally initiate more breakups and two-thirds of divorces, becoming more disillusioned than men.They compare their mates with their friends much more than men do, says Doherty.”

YEeeess! Okay, we’re on to something here! Is this article going to call women out on the fact that they are the ones who destroy families, twice as much as men? That their expectations, perverted by feminism, are more tenuous than castle made of toothpicks?

“They tend to have a model or framework for what the relationship should be. They are more prone to the comparison between what they have and what they think they should have. Men tend to monitor the gap between what they have and what they think they deserve only in the sexual arena. They don’t monitor the quality of their marriage on an everyday basis.”

(Sarcasm) Oh it’s not women’s faults. They just care more about quality than men do. Of course, it’s the man’s fault that so many marriages fail! (bands head against nearby wall).

If you have the patience to read through the entirety of the article, you’ll find that it blames men for a majority of marital problems, while dancing around the obvious stats that indite women.

The Betas Are To Blame

Men and women are both interviewed about their views on marriage and divorce in this article. Yet there is no mention of women divorcing men for being controlling, abusive, or adulterous.

Example 1.

The beginning of this article blames Elliot Katz for being too Beta in his marriage.

“What he decided was, indeed, there were some things he could have done differently—like not tried as hard to be so noncontrolling that his wife felt he had abandoned decision-making entirely. His wife, he came to understand, felt frustrated, as if she were “a married single parent,” making too many of the plans and putting out many of the fires of family life, no matter how many chores he assumed.”

The article goes on to describe how he assumed the duties of feeding his kids in the morning, going to work, and doing the house hold chores. How dare he be a considerate person!?

Then, to add insult to injury, the article goes further to state that it was really HIS fault that the marriage failed.

He shouldn’t have been so non-controlling. It was so stressful for his wife who was sitting around not doing anything! Poor woman!

Example 2.

Maria Lin is a nonpracticing attorney who married a chef. “I valued character, connection, the heart,” she says. “He was charming, funny, treated me amazingly well, and we got along great.” But over time, intellectual differences got in the way. “He couldn’t keep up with my analysis or logic in arguments or reasoning through something, or he would prove less capable at certain things, or he would misspell or misuse terms. It was never anything major, just little things.”

I’m sure Maria Lin wouldn’t dump one of her friends for something as trivial as mispelling words. Yet mispelling words is enough to entitle Maria to abandon a charming, funny, chivalrous guy. The truth of the situation, is that over time Miss Oh So Intelligent NON-PRACTICING attorney felt that her charming husband was too beta.

He was less intelligent than her, therefore inferior, therefore beta.

So Alpha’s Are Off The Hook?

No where does this article give examples of women who left their husbands for the typical alpha behavior of cheating and abuse. The article does say that cheating and abuse are valid reasons to leave your mate – but doesn’t give any examples of women who have done this.

The Elephant In The Room

So 2 out of every 3 divorces are initiated by women? In addition to women having unrealistic expectations, there is another crucial factor that this article completely ignores.

Most men get sodomized by the divorce courts.

There are many men out there who would actually like to get divorced, but don’t. Many of these men choose to endure a soul crushing, unhappy marriage because they don’t want half their assets, their home, and their children ripped away from them.

If Rebecca Webber, the author of this article, truly wanted to solve divorce issues in this country, she would’ve suggested ideas for divorce reform.

Conclusion

The point of my post is not to blame all women for all failed marriages. Rather, I’m trying to illuminate the fact that as a culture, we’re too quick to blame beta men for a majority of relationship problems, and let women off the hook completely. Both men AND women should be held accountable for the total destruction of marriage and family in this country. Both genders should have realistic expectations in marriage. It’s good to have healthy expectations for yourself and your mate. Yet a woman shouldn’t divorce her husband for not being an Edward Cullen (twilight male lead). A husband shouldn’t divorce his wife for not being a Leave it To Beaver mom in the kitchen, and a porn star in the bedroom.

What our culture needs is a hard core look at the facts. Not sugar coated pop psychology. A majority of women want a dominant male. That is the fact that this pithy article refuses to state. How do we fix this?

It’s okay to portray men as apes, but what if the article had this picture?