Today’s lesson: How not to interact with people!

Hello, over the course of my being on tumblr I've encountered with countless people that, I’ve learned, have no concept of boundaries, have no respect of people’s choices and think the mask of anonymity gives them protection.

It does, to a point. If someone wants to they can use the right tools to find your IP, find your tumblr identity hidden behind the anonymity and read you to filth about the questionable videos you’ve watched on youtube.

But that’s not a post about how to look behind the anonymity. This is a post how to act like a human being to..well, another human being because people behind every account are real and..well..experience emotions sometimes. Good and bad. The mask of anonymity makes you brave enough to say things you wouldn’t otherwise say because everyone will know who you are and will most likely have something to say about whatever it is you expressed.

Behind every account there is a person that, believe it or not, does not like other people, anonymous or not, attacking them for..whatever it is you think is so important that you need to hide behind anonymity. Some people might laugh at these actions, some people might get upset, others might go even further than upset.

Perfect, recent example how not to interact with people:

These were sent by the same person to my significant other @rexpinn . In case you don’t see whats wrong with this line of messages, let me break it down:

This person has the audacity to hold person A accountable for their and person’s B relationship, behind the brave mask of anonymity of course.



This person shows excessive obsessive behavior that is not ‘cute’ or ‘brave’ or ‘this is how you get the person you like like you back’



This person dehumanizes both parties involved by not taking into account the fact that they, surprize surprize, have real human feelings, have no respect for their choices…and is, well, acting obsessively and possessively…towards someone they don’t know

I can’t stress enough how much you should not be that person. People you admire do not want your confessions of love. People you admire don’t deserve your dehumanization of them, and im not only talking about dehumanizing them as bad people, i mean dehumanization on the level where you put them on pedestals and act like they are gods and deserve worship. People are people, shockingly, they experience the same emotions and feelings you do.

Imagine a person you dont know show up on your door and be like “i’ve followed you for so long i love you”. Chances are you’d close the door, call the police and get a restraining order. Its the same situation online, only that the police is non existent and the restraining order is..well, a ban. You can also be banned if you’re on anonymous, as i explained, its not really hiding you from the people that really want to know who you are, if you get too much.

I do not know why you think someone you haven’t interacted with in any way other than, in my example as an artist, liking their art and commenting on it, would want to hear you confessing you love them.

I see a lot of ppl having..artist crushes..or even “shipping” artists together. On the artist crush, if its a love interest, my opinion on it is stated above. If its an ‘admiration interest’ then state it as such. “I admire that artist a lot” is not at all on the same level of uncomfortableness as “artist crush”. Don’t say “I love you” if you refer to the fact that the artist has drawn a piece of work that you feel emotions towards..express it as “I love this work and the fact you drew it!”

On shipping real people…. i cannot express how uncomfortable it is, for all parties involved in the “ship”, that includes the possible significant others of those people too, not only the people you want to see get together or god knows what. You should not disrespect people’s personal lives and right of choice and be like “You dont deserve person A, you should be with person B instead.” or “i actually think you’ll do better with person A than with person B.” Because it is not your call and we do not want to hear it.

When someone like me is openly talking and proud of their relationship..we are happy. We do not need or want to be confessed to, we do not want to be shipped with other people that are not our significant others and we do not want people attacking our significant others for them being with us.

You know…things that you wouldn’t do in real life.

So please, if you admire someone, whether an artist, a youtuber, a blogger or whatever, express your admiration in a non-uncomfortable for that person way.

My ban hammer is swift and when someone makes me uncomfortable i ban them. I do not need to explain why, if i deemed my feelings unrecognized and/or stomped over.

Because me and my SO are humans. With, i assure you, real feelings.