If you are the shy thoughtful introvert, your dating history may look more like a thin notebook rather than a heavy romance novel. It’s not that it’s any less interesting to read, it’s just way shorter. Introverted people, by definition, are less likely to go out of their way to socially engage with others, which significantly limits the opportunity to ask people on dates. Social butterflies, on the other hand, live for communication. They can strike up a conversation with someone in like at a coffee shop or with a stranger in the park. Their chances of finding love end up being much higher.

That does not mean that shy people don’t deserve the same shot at love. Luckily, introvert-friendly ways of dating have been introduced to the world at alarming rates ranging from dating apps to speed dating events. There are also chat lines. Chat line dating is similar to dating on an app, but it doesn’t require an actual app. All communication is done over the phone. Traditional, yes. But a breath of fresh air. It’s perhaps the best way for introverted people to date for a few very important reasons.

The veil of the phone

Like any other form of dating that is done almost exclusively through a phone, there is an understood buffer between the users and their matches. This truly goes for all phone dating forms, including both apps and chat lines. It gives shy people a safe space to be social and flirt with potential romantic partners, thereby giving them a same (if not greater chance) at finding love as the social butterflies of the world. A person who goes through social anxiety on a daily basis, even to the point of being fearful of leaving the house, can sit and chat with a plethora of potential suitors. On a normal blind date, an introverted person may feel nervous about how they appear, what their date will be like, or have social anxiety in general. This added weight and pressure to an already challenging situation, like a date, rarely yields positive results. Shy people often find themselves leaving these types of social situations concerned that they were unable to put their best foot forward and make a good impression due to the anxiety they felt. Using a phone as a buffer to eliminate that anxiety is incredibly helpful for shy people.

The safe practice of being social

What differentiates the chat line from the dating app is that you are forced to actually use your voice and think on your feet while using a chat line. You can’t type out your phrase, read it over, edit it, and then send. Rather, you are having a real conversation and using your voice to communicate quickly. This may seem like a negative for shy people, but it’s actually a great way to practice being comfortable in social situations while still remaining physically in the comfort of your own space. It also forges more meaningful and genuine connections between matches, and quells the nerves of the first initial meet up. This is because a shy person knows more or less what he/she is getting into before the date starts. On a dating app, that person only has little chat bubbles and written text to understand and prepare themselves for that first real-life meeting situation.

The lack of flakes

In addition to forging genuine connections, chat lines also weed out the flakes. Perhaps the biggest issue with app dating is the fact that there are so many bored people who sit on dating apps, engage in meaningless interactions, and rarely (if ever) meet up with people who they feel interested in. It can be very discouraging for a shy person to spend hours on an app, move outside of their comfort zones, and then never find anyone who actually wants to meet up. The beauty of the phone call is that it, again, requires more effort when flirting which forges a more genuine connection. This eliminates the people who engage in dating sites due simply to the fact that they are bored. In the end, this lack of flakiness actually creates stronger bonds between people and creates more lasting relationships.

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