Who can reblog/submit to this blog?

Anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder. If you don’t have BPD, please do not submit or reblog. Certain exceptions can be made–like if you see a friends favourite character or kintype here and your friend has BPD and you want to tag them/show them! But if you aren’t a borderline, try not to make a habit of it. Remember this blog is for us first and foremost.

~mod wendy

I’m self-dx, is it okay for me to reblog/submit?

Of course! I’ve self-DX’d my BPD myself.

-Mod Star

Same on my end.

-Mod X

Why all the purple?

Amethyst from Steven Universe is considered to be the “face” of this blog.

-Mod Star

Why Amethyst from Steven Universe?

Amethyst exhibits many traits that borderlines have. Here’s a post explaining it all.

-Mod Star

Has [character] been submitted?

We’d much rather people check through our posts to see if the character they’re thinking of has been submitted. We tag all of our posts with the name of the character and the series they’re from, so it should be pretty easy to find them.

Just type /tagged/[character/series here] at the end of our URL and see if they’ve already been posted. If you’re otherwise having trouble finding us, it’s alright to toss an ask our way.

-Mod X

What about if I submitted a character, but I’m worried that the submission got eaten?

Feel free to ask! We tag all these responses (“is x in the queue?”) as #queue spoilers. However, please do not use this feature to ask about characters before you submit them. It might seem helpful, but it takes us a lot less time to just delete a double submission than it does to answer ‘no’ to your question and publish it. If you’re anxious or have a bad connection, though, feel free to ask once you’ve pressed that submit button.

~mod wendy

Why wasn’t my submission posted?

Either it didn’t go through, it was already on the blog, you didn’t specify both the name of the character and the series they’re from, or they were on our blacklist. More likely to be one of the first 3. Feel free to ask.

~mod wendy

Are these characters canonly BPD? Is there any proof they are?

These are all headcanon’d characters. People don’t need proof for their headcanons. Also, furthermore, if someone with BPD headcanons a character has having BPD, you don’t get to judge it no matter who the character in question is.

-Mod Star

On top of that, it’s not usually the best idea to ask us this sort of question. We personally did not help conceive any of these headcanons, and as such, we don’t have the reasoning behind any of them.

And don’t expect us to be doing the research for every single submission. At any given time we have an average of ten or so submissions every day. Even if we had enough free time to research every individual character (considering some of these headcanons were built up over the course of multiple days, like some of my personal BPD headcanons), it would be tedious beyond all belief.

So no. We don’t provide proof because not only can we simply not, but because it’s a giant waste of our time. This blog is a labor of love–none of us want this to become an exercise in tedium.

-Mod X

Where would I go to for infomation on BPD?

I’ve found that the best blog here on BPD infomation is shitborderlinesdo. Not only is it very informative it also has info on all other personality disorders as well. But it’s mainly focused on BPD. I’ve found it to be very useful for helping me sort out my neurodivergencies. There’s checklists on it too for personality disorders. Overall, a very useful blog :D!

However, you are entirely welcome to ask me things. I will usually infodump about this sort of stuff, anyway. As a result I will frequently remore my replies if I’m asked for input. If you do not want this, please let me know.

-Mod Star

Another good source on BPD information that has recently cropped up is borderlinebravery.

-Mod X

What other blogs out there are like this one?

Check this post for a relatively exhaustive list on other blogs with similar premises.

-Mod X

I’d like some advice, can I have some?

Of course you may! You can even request I don’t post it if you want to talk about it privately. I won’t tell anyone your secrets. I don’t really have triggers, I think, if we’re merely talking.

-Mod Star

I want to debate with you.

Iiiiii’d rather not, because depending on the debate I get heated and upset and angry and I have to hold myself back from turning it into a violent shitfest where I just verbally lash into the person and don’t get anything accomplished. It’s not fun for me or for you. You can ask me questions and I’ll respond, but do take into account that if I am not willing to debate certain topics and I say so, please respect that.

-Mod Star

You’re insulting real people with BPD with this blog!

The creator of this blog + all of the current mods have BPD.

BPD is incredibly stigmatized. And to take comfort, to think “hey, this character who is a cool and rad person is like me in that they have BPD” is not a bad thing. No neurodivergency should be stigmatized. It just leads to bad things. But you know, when most resources online are for other people on how to deal with you and how toxic and abusive you are, and not actually for helping you how to better cope with your disorder, when they talk about you like a dangerous zoo animal that must be contained properly or else, it hurts. It’s a slap in the face. It’s like going to someone for help and them punching you in the fucking gut and leaving.

We’re tired of it. We’re not dangerous zoo animals that must be contained. We’re beings worthy of respect and love. And when we see characters we think might be like us, who are portrayed as people and not as dangerous predatory monsters, it comforts us. We can be magical girls, vampires, werewolves, aliens, or simply people who just want to do the right thing. BPD isn’t a bad thing. And at the end of the day, it helps us feel less shitty about ourselves.

I’ve seen people get incredibly happy over this blog. Mostly ever involved in this blog, from followers to submitters to the people running it, have BPD or borderline traits.

You can disagree, but you cannot deny the incredibly amount of positive reception this blog has. This blog isn’t an insult, it’s a compliment.

-Mod Star

But you only post villains or people who are mean/moody! We’re not all like that!

You’re totally right! We’re not! But every single person who submits to this blog has BPD, and if they relate more to the villains and scary characters, that’s absolutely fine. Not to mention, if you took the time to look through the blog, you’d notice we host a lot more than just villains. There are heroes here. There are softhearted characters here. Please think before you send us stuff like this, because not only is it wrong, it can really do a number on people with “scary” BPD who relate more to those characters.

~mod wendy

How do you diagnose these characters/these characters aren’t BPD!

Nope. They all have BPD. I’m sorry, it’s something you’ll just have to live with.

-Mod X

I’d like to help run this blog, what do I need to do?

You have to have BPD or borderline traits if your personality disorder isn’t specified (Which is an actual medical term). Being self-dx is okay. You also have to be willing to give me the email you use for your tumblr account as I need it to give you mod status on this blog.

That’s it, really. However…

We’re not taking new mods at the time, unfortunately. Many apologies.

-Mod Star

What is your policy on removing problematic characters from this blog?

Couple things: First off, this is something I definitely reccommend you take up with the person who’s given us the submission, if they’re not anon. The mods are more or less just here to keep the blog running like clockwork, and it’s a lot easier for us to deal when the submitter themselves comes to us and says ‘hey, I’d like to redact my submission.’

Second off, we tried taking multiple stances on this and each one ended with tirades of hate & criticism being sent our way. We would take down characters people deemed abusive and get shit from people who said we were being “too sensitive” and bringing “personal preference” into it. Then when we tried being less sensitive and opening discussion about it, we were accused of not caring about abuse survivors. Takedowns became incredibly stressful for everyone here, and none of us knew what to do.

We’ve decided to just hold strawpolls, because that way we have proof of what characters the majority wants down or up. You can see all the strawpolls in our /tagged/strawpolls.

That’s not fair! You can’t just only deem some people’s headcanons valid.

You’re right. We can’t. And we’re not! The statement we make wrt problematic characters is simply that we prioritize the feelings of abuse survivors over anything. I’m someone who is both an abuse survivor and someone who identifies heavily with fiction, so I definitely understand both sides of the argument. No one is saying your headcanons is invalid because the character got taken down–every headcanon you have as a borderline is 100% legit, and I mean that. But there is a time and place for everything.

In response to this, a follower of the blog has started up bpdcharacterofthenight. a blog where you can submit any character you want regardless of what they’ve done, and they won’t get taken down no matter what. I heartily encourage you to submit your headcanons there if they can’t make the cut here!!

Someone in my inbox started talking about Mod Star? They didn’t exactly have nice things to say.

#abuse warning

Ah, that must be Gabe. They’re the former owner/creator of this blog. They attempted to abuse me over the course of a two-week period, and they’re incredibly predatory, manipulative, and generally not a fun person to be around. They’ve been an abuser for years. I got bad vibes from them when I started to get to know them and held them at arm’s length. Shit happened, they were ousted immediately and deleted their blog. However! I was a mod on here at the time, and thus I got to own the blog when they deleted. Please read (#Sexual coercion mention, #pedophilia) this (Gabe is their new name, btw, Lera is their old name. Also worth reading for what made me end things between us.) for proof on how they are a shitty individual.

Gabe never once apologized for their actions either. The only time they did, I had to get one out of them and I felt bad about it afterwards. I know it looks like reaching because it’s only one conversation, but the analysis actually demonstrates they are incredibly unself-aware of their actions and only pretend to be nice and that they’ve changed. Also, I’m the ex-friend mentioned. We’re better now, OP and I. Trust me. Misunderstandings.

They might try to start some nonsense in your askbox.

Just trust me. Don’t listen to Gabe. They won’t change. Block them.

-Mod Star

I’m going to jokingly submit a real person/spread negativity in your inbox/otherwise attempt to start drama with you!

Don’t. All submissions of real people will be deleted. This is a blog for fictional characters, not real people, and I shouldn’t have to explain why trying to stir up drama is a bad idea. This is a zero tolerance policy.

-Mod X

Bipolar disorder-

No.

-Mod X