In the unwritten laws of celebrity profile writing, it is customary to open the story with a description of what a woman looks like but what a man is doing. In welcoming guests to late-night talk shows, hosts will often refer to women as “the lovely and talented” whereas they will omit the “lovely” for men. But when faced with a person who identifies with neither of these genders, well, people often don’t know what to do.

I’ll spare you the suspense: the actor Asia Kate Dillon is non-binary, meaning they identify as neither a man nor a woman and use the pronouns “they/them/their” instead of “she/her” or “he/his”, as does their breakout character on the most recent season of Sky Atlantic’s fantastic Wall Street