My father, a black minister, taught me when I was growing up in Georgia that I should look at people as individuals, not through a racial lens. Just as it was wrong for white racists to hate black people, it was wrong for us to hate white people, he said.

And as a minister, my father spread the words of Jesus Christ, who taught: “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” All neighbors.

In the 1990s, my father co-hosted a local Christian television program in North Carolina called “The Gospel in Black and White,” where he and a white pastor preached a message of “racial reconciliation.” They believed that America could experience true racial healing only if hearts were changed. They wanted everyone to follow the advice of Dr. Martin Luther and judge people “by the content of their character” and not by “the color of their skin.”

Until recently, I never found my father’s teaching to be radical. But in today’s society, it is being rejected far too often by folks on both sides of the color line – neo-Nazis and other white supremacists boldly marching and spewing poisonous hatred of blacks and Jews on one side, and some black folks becoming a horrifying mirror image by preaching hatred of white people.

Racism is racism, no matter what color the racist is voicing the ugly words.

This repulsive gospel of hate is wrong and un-American, and all people of good will have a responsibility to condemn it. Racism is racism, no matter what color the racist is voicing the ugly words.

Just a few days ago, black nurse Taiyesha Baker lost her job with an Indiana hospital system after she sparked outrage for her now-viral tweet: “Every white woman raises a detriment to society when they raise a son. Someone with the HIGHEST propensity to be a terrorist, rapist, racist, killer, and domestic violence all star. Historically every son you had should be sacrificed to the wolves …."

Speaking of wolves, Baker isn’t a lone one. She is just the latest example of a growing number of individuals who apparently believe that prejudice is acceptable, so long as it is directed toward whites.

Just a few weeks ago, the New York Times published an opinion piece headlined: “Can My Children Be Friends With White People?” The author, Ekow N. Yankah – a law professor at Yeshiva University – explained how he intends to raise his children:

“I will teach them to be cautious, I will teach them suspicion, and I will teach them distrust,” Yankah writes. “Much sooner than I thought I would, I will have to discuss with my boys whether they can truly be friends with white people.”

Before that, Professor Jessie Daniels of the City University of New York tweeted that “the white-nuclear family is one of the most powerful forces supporting white supremacy” and that families “producing white children” are “part of the problem” perpetuating white supremacy.

And there was the Democratic National Committee staffer who is looking to hire new talent so long as they aren’t “straight white males.”

These folks – some of whom are white themselves –seem to believe that demonizing an entire group of people will somehow uplift blacks and other minorities. But racial progress doesn’t work that way. Their flawed logic fans the flames of racial tension at a time when our country desperately needs less generalizations and more common understanding.

And perhaps worst of all, this practice plays into the hand of actual white supremacists. If all white people are called racists, the charge means nothing when legitimate racists deserve to be called out. It gives white supremacists the luxury of just being one of the masses, instead of receiving the direct condemnation they deserve.

Over half a century ago, Dr. King famously remarked that you can’t drive out hate with hate. He acknowledged the historical fact of white racism against black people – from the sin of slavery to the racism he fought in his time until he was murdered by a white man – but understood that we must look ahead to move forward, not stare into the rearview mirror.

Nelson Mandela, who spent 27 years in prison for battling white racism in South Africa, preached the same message of forgiveness, reconciliation and brotherhood when he was finally freed and became president of that nation in 1994.

Race relations in our country will never improve if Americans answer prejudice against minorities with prejudice against whites. Instead, we should strive to see all Americans as they are – not through a preconceived lens.

Today I am proud to serve as a lieutenant in the U.S. Army, where racism is banned and where I serve with patriots of every color and ethnic background, united as brothers and sisters and comrades in arms. When wounded in defense of our country, we all bleed red. We support each other and have each other’s backs. This is how it should be in the rest of society.

It seems my father’s message of reconciliation is needed now more than ever. As Americans struggle to find common ground, we’ll need to start by discarding our own prejudices about each other. Maybe then we can move toward that radical idea of racial healing that so many of us seek.