Anonymous wrote: You feel it at the level of ‘soul’ but you just can’t put your finger on it.

There comes a point when she starts treating you worse than if she never met you at all. And she supposed to be your WIFE (or girlfriend). This is the point where I reevaluate and LEAVE – or she can leave. Either is fine with me.

The demeaning comments. Snide jabs. Once, my father came home from work and my Mom made a joke out of him and said he was “lousy in the kitchen”…. and she laughed and shook her head because he overcooked something.

I stood up for him and said “as lousy as you are in the garage laying under a car???”

His eyes lit up like a Christmas tree because someone actually said it. He was going to just quietly take it, and I realized she treated him worse than if she never met him at all. How the f~~~ do you tell your husband who pays 2 mortgages for 30 years that he’s “lousy in the kitchen”?

Madness.

Without his skills and labor there would BE no kitchen.

Anonymous wrote: You feel it at the level of ‘soul’ but you just can’t put your finger on it.

It’s not that vague or difficult to see.

It’s as plain as the nose on your face.

Does she treat you worse than if you never met her at all? If the answer is “yes” and your wife/girlfriend is not a warm, smiling and lovely warm blanket, and the most pleasant person to be around out of everyone you know….. get the f~~~ out of there.

When perfect strangers are kinder to you than your own wife or girlfriend, it’s over.