Chances are, you have heard this line of argument before: “Normal gays are okay, they just want to live a normal life and be gay in their bedrooms. It’s just the faggots I hate, the ones who lisp and dress flamboyantly and let their sexuality be their defining characteristic. The gay pride movement used to be about rights. Now it’s about being provocative and attention-seeking and harboring downright perverts. Being gay is not an identity. There’s a difference between Alan Turing and some dildo-wearing faggot who scares children.”

Now this has always rubbed me the wrong way, for a variety of reasons:

1. If there are men who want to dress flamboyantly and lisp, so what??

2. This just sounds like the same old “men are to be masculine and women are to be feminine” traditionalism bullcrap that’s used to restrict men. You know: “men can’t be girly… Men musn’t ride scooters… ” etc..

3. These “normal, masculine” gay men who stand opposed to faggots wearing dildos, more often than not are just replacing one obsession with others; ones that are usually worse. A lot of these gay men instead turn to hardcore right-wing beliefs like Cultural Marxist conspiracy and White Pride. Right-wing gay men tend to be as misandric and anti-social as right-wing straight men.

4. The typical guy has all the characteristic of wet cardboard. Most guys tend to just be about “gain women and status, abuse other guys”, and that’s it. They are completely incapable of teaching boys anything about character. So this complaint about “gays making gayness their defining characteristic” comes from a place where they don’t know what they’re talking about.

5. The “normal life” as we know now, is about the guy giving up everything just to be with the girl, who in actuality doesn’t respect him. How is anything resembling this worthy of respect?

6. Women have successfully made their gender their identity. A whole 50% of the human population. And none of these guys are able or willing to say or do anything to touch it.

7. Men for whatever reason are dead set against having their own identity based around their gender or simple preferences. The most they can do is try and stop the wheels spinning of other groups who advocate for theirs. They are reactive, negative, and almost deliberately anti-creative and anti-inventive to a fault. And they wonder why they always come last.

8. Men have been showering women with free attention, when women do nothing but spend money, gossip and disrespect men. They create the very template of what is desirable in society that everyone can see, which they then complain about.

9. The “normal” gay man identity is ultimately a negative identity. It is about denying things to oneself rather than gaining, while also wishing on others to deny theirs. It is an identity about complaining about things. Now when has this ever been attractive to fresh young blood? In this case it is also a ticking time-bomb.

Bottom line: I do not view these esteemed “normal” gay men with any particular respect, or as offering of anything redeemable.

-Alex Cat