What’s the difference between being silly and being smart? Both of these are attitudes and have their own characteristics, but when I think about relationships these attitudes define people in two different types of circles.

The first takes hold of friendly relationships with good friends, family. The latter relates to office colleagues, clients, and school classroom.

Both of these circles, points to two different types of relationship models — Fast and Slow.

Slow relationships taste more like a marathon, not sprint. Endurance and journey defines good friendship. When I have people like that around me, I do like a saying that I heard from one girl in high school — “You my friend are gold”

Here are few examples of slow relationships,

“Trust”, the idea that you can be open and silly are ever present feeling

Scarcity, the idea that we might miss out the opportunity to hang out is there

Deep talks and playing games, two things that just floods the time in slow relationships

Hard times and breakthroughs are common

Yes, a lot of celebration and a lot of laughs together

Fast relationships are more focused and smart. It’s a lot more about results than about the journey. Basically, we don’t goof around with our clients or tell stories about our childhood to someone we just met.

Some examples here,

It’s about “chit-chat” — talks about weather, jobs, studies and movies…

You connect using Facebook and social media

There is a presence of tension that, if you mess up, the relationships can break down

Fake smiles

Meetings with time frames

Strategies and politics about why you have a relationship at all

The fast relationships value time not the person. On the other hand, slow relationships just hate time frames and values the actual friend lot more than time.

When I hear comments like “I lost a track of time”, “We laughed our hearts out”, it’s amazing. It is a sign that there was a presence of slow relationships.

Lytham St Annes — Thanks for all the likes on facebook, just amazing support and inspiration.

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