Self-confidence is like a roller coaster ride. There is a mixture of ups and downs and fast curves with a dash or two of fear thrown in.

We all want to feel confident, look confident, and have other people attracted to us because, you guessed it, they think we are self-confident. They want some of that.

The reality is that most of us do not feel confident at all. We’re good at faking it, though, which is great because sometimes that’s just what you have to do.

Throughout my life, my level of self-confidence has gone up, down, and around and around.

For me, there was no absolute right or wrong method. In my experience, there were a lot of emotions involved. I have cried because I felt so good about myself, and I have cried because nothing was right. There has been a high level of frustration and anger in the mix as well.

I do believe we can work on our level of self-confidence, just like any goal we might have — and once you think you have it, you need to continue to develop it.

Self-confidence is elusive. It will come and go like the wind. Something tiny, like a speck of dust, can bring it all tumbling down.