NOTE: It’s just my personal experience with just one group of ‘friends’. I am sure there are better people out there.

Hello friends,

There is a little story that I would like to share with you guys and I hope that somewhere it helps you.

Throughout my school and college life, I have felt that I have very few friends while everyone else seems to have so many, but it all changed when I went for an internship during the final semester of my college.

I befriended and got befriended by the most ‘popular’ (if you will) group of kids who had also come for the internship. Some of them were from the same college as me, and I know then to be popular. The first few days I was delighted to be a part of a group, finally have more than just 1–2 friends, but it was short lived as soon I began noticing stuff which just didn’t make any sense, which never ended and only grew as time passed.

Long story short, the reason why they are all always together in a group is that they don’t have good enough friendships to spend time and talk one-on-one. If you are in need of emotional support or just need to talk to someone and walk up to one of them — the first thing they would suggest is for you to look for someone else you can talk to and be good friends with — not them.

For the girls, it’s completely ‘crazy’ and ‘ludicrous’ for a guy to think that he can walk up to her and have a one on one conversation with her for five mins more than once a month or something like that — and the guys don’t expect anything much. Mind it that this guy is part of the group and she explicitly refers to his as a ‘good friend’.

There are some real friendships. Like, one of the guys used the ‘negging’ strategy on both the girls. Another guy took a seat immediately next to one of the girls — as that’s the only was he can ever have enough interaction to have a proper friendship with her. And this girl who befriended me when she thought I was rich and broke off in a second immediately when I gave a little indication of not being so rich.

You can be a guy seated alone, looking at a group of guys and girls talking and laughing and wonder as to why you can’t be like them, why you can’t be friends with them? Well, guess what, I have been there and I went ahead to find out. Even in a million years, you can never be friends with them because they are not even friends within themselves. It’s the most shallow and the lowest level of friendship that you can never even imagine.

Would you like to know why you never had many friends? Because it’s the same with everyone, no one has many friends, they all are counting their acquaintances too.