A Way to Remember and Cope with Someone’s Passing

Ingredients:

1 white candle (healing, strength, peace)



1 pink candle (spiritual healing, emotional healing, friendship, healing if it’s someone you loved dearly) *



Matches/lighter



An item that belonged to them or that symbolizes your relationship to them



A toothpick



A cup of tea, coffee or hot cocoa (basically any comforting beverage)



A card or a blank piece of paper



A pen or pencil



*= can substitute out for whatever reason

Directions:

Pick a day that was important to either of you such as their birthday or the day they died to do this ritual.

Take your candles and carefully carve their name into them before lighting the candles.

Gently grab your item that reminds you of them or belonged to them and hold it as you watch the candles for a few moments. Think of some of the happy memories you had together and focus on things that you loved about them.

Whenever you are comfortable, continue to allow the candles to burn down and make yourself a relaxing beverage of choice.

Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally to write a letter or a small note to them. It can be as long or as short as you want. Also, you can write whatever you want to them as long as it’s what you truly feel.

Write the letter while drinking your beverage and letting the candles burn out.

Read the letter out loud so that if their spirit is listening, they can hear it in your voice.

Once finished, store your letter in a safe place where you are able to take it out and look at it from time to time. If you are able and feel comfortable doing so, take the letter to their gravestone or to their surviving loved ones.

If you’re not comfortable keeping the letter somewhere, you can also burn it using the lit candles in a firesafe bowl or cauldron. Then you can deliver it straight to them wherever they are in the world around us. You can even save the ashes to make black salt if you’d like.



My Notes on what I did:

For this spell I used both colored candles and I drank Bigelow’s Chamomile & Lavender Herbal tea. As my personal object I used a yellow paper that we cut out together to decorate our hospital room with. I kept it after she left and I cleaned out the room, accidentally leaving this one star behind. I kept it as a way to remember her until I got out but now it serves as the only thing I have left from her presence in my life.

I came up with this ritual/spell as way for me to deal with the first anniversary of my friend’s (from my time at the hospital) suicide. While in treatment I never was allowed to properly greave with others that knew her and had to keep all thoughts to myself, now I feel ready to deal with the lingering feelings and am able to process the events without putting my mental health in jeopardy. I reached out to my grandma about the importance of this so that I have someone to fall back on if I find myself drifting into a negative thought process or feel that my safety is at risk.

Also I will not be giving my letter to her family members or leaving it on her headstone because I feel doing so would be inappropriate and put my mental health in crisis. So I opted to follow step 8 instead of step 7.

I hope that you found something that you could also use to help you heal from whatever occurred in your life and I wish you a safe and healthy healing process. Feel free to adjust this to your magickal and personal needs. Do not be afraid to reach out if you feel you are alone or have any questions. ❤️

IN NO WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM IS MAGICK OR WITCHCRAFT A REPLACEMENT FOR MEDICAL TREATMENT, MEDICATION(S), OR THERAPY. MAKE SURE THAT YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM OR THERAPIST KNOWS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO THIS IN CASE SOMETHING GOES WRONG.

