When I was in primary school, I spoke in two different ways. At home with my Sri Lankan parents I'd adopt their accent and at school with my Western friends, I'd have an Aussie one.

But I had a total freak-out when my friends came over to my house one day and I had no idea which accent to adopt while they were in the same room as my parents.

I didn't know whether this was a normal experience either. Two months ago, a Facebook group 'Subtle Curry Traits' answered that question by posting a joke about that exact situation.

Although I now know figuring out your accent as a young person with migrant parents is common, it would've been great to have seen that post when I was at school.

That's why the groups Subtle Asian Traits and Subtle Curry Traits have gained nearly a million followers between them in the past two months - they make people feel like they're not alone in their experiences.

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One of the founders of Subtle Asian Traits told Hack, young people with migrant parents aren't fully Australian or completely from their ethnic background either.

"I was born in Australia, my parents came here 25-30 years ago... and they came after they graduated high school to find new work and a new life," Angela told Hack.

"They came to a new country that was unknown and unfamiliar to them.

We are the first generation of being Aussie in a sense but we look really Asian.

Angela created the Subtle Asian Traits with 10 other Asian friends and the idea came from another Facebook group called Subtle Private School traits.

"There are so many things relatable to Asian Australians and all types of people who have parents who have immigrated from different countries," she said.

"One of the other admins is my brother and we thought that these things were only related to our family but it happens to be a universal thing."

This is one of Angela's favourite memes:

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"My grandma - for instance - doesn't understand Western medicine and that makes sense because she's grown up drinking Chinese medicine and herbal medicine," Angela said.

"If we tried to give her Panadol or [western medicine] - she can't even read, let alone feel like it's okay to take... that's relatable to a lot of different people."

Angela said she went to a predominately white school where people didn't understand her uniquely Chinese experiences.

"Growing up you can tell you're a little bit different," she said.

"You'd have your Western friends at school, then you'd go home and you'd have your Asian side of the family and you'd have your Asian culture.

For example, what you'd have for lunches... as Asians we'd have sandwiches too but they'd have like pork floss in them instead of cheese and ham.

A spin off has developed for south Asian people

Although Subtle Asian Traits is supposed to be for all people with parents from the continent, the experiences of each region - and even each country - are so unique.

For example, posts about people with a Chinese background won't necessarily relate to someone with an Indian background.

That’s where subtle curry traits - a spin off for people from South Asian backgrounds - comes in

I'm in the group and some posts are really funny and others just really hit home.

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Tiara DeSilva, 16, has posted in Subtle Curry Traits and said the group is one of the first, most relatable things in Australia that make first generation immigrants feel like they're not alone.

"I just found really relatable content, like stuff that was linked to my childhood," she told Hack.

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"It's reassuring and fun to see there are people who are twice your age who have the same experience as you and we're all connected in some way.

"There's some invisible link that we all have."

WHO can post in these groups?

These groups are essentially relying on racial stereotypes but Angela said if someone from another background made these jokes, they could be offensive.

It's like you're kind of mocking yourself in a sense, but it's mocking yourself to make you realise the situation is like this and you're okay with it and making a laugh out of it," she said.

Some commentators have said the group encourages people to pit races against each other but Angela said that's when moderating becomes essential.

She said in one instance, someone tried to post a poll where you could rank 'which Asian was the best' which isn't funny or a subtle trait.

"There's a fine line behind what's okay and what's not okay... we don't want to encourage negative comments."

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Despite these groups being basically meme sites, a lot of people with migrant parents have said this is a community which makes them feel like they're not totally alone.

"We've had inboxes from people being like: 'Hey, I've had a crap day... there've been cultural differences between my parents and me.

'Just going on this group has made me realise the experience has been shared among another half a million people and I'm not the only one going through this.'"