Hi Munroe, I wanted to write you a note directly, to congratulate you on your ‘key note’ speech with the British Film Institute. I hear you feel bullied. You are not being bullied, this is what is happening.

I don’t know if you remember Rachel Dolezal, a white women, she is a bit of a sad case. She couldn’t process her unhappiness and I think seeing the very concrete marginalisation black americans face she co-opted black identity, which in itself may not be harmful, but she took spaces that were for underrepresented people. She spoke for them when she had no right or insight into that marginalisation, but ultimately she is quite a sad figure of fun.

I tell you what she didn’t do. She didn’t get all dressed up and say black people have been doing civil rights wrong. She didn’t say she was affronted by every right black people had won and demand liquidation of all those rights, because they offended her as a trans racial person and made her feel less black. She didn’t tell black people not to discuss their lives and that intersectionality was now them refusing to speak about violence and poverty and oppression, because she was now black and it made her feel excluded she was lucky enough to avoid those things. She didn’t tell black people their identity now had to be subordinated to hers and declare that all the white women who considered themselves black were the most marginalised black women that had ever been, and demand that they silence themselves as she took their spot. This is what you did. And then some.

You hairy barren dyke, you felt free to say, you told women they had been doing feminism wrong and appropriated the work of a black female legal scholar, work that was entirely evolved from legal practice and systems that evolved around male violence. You then went onto demonstrate what Crenshaw was saying when you told women they had, in spite of developing these systems, been doing feminism wrong because you identified as them they were obliged to you to forget poverty, violence, abuse and lifelong marginalisation and silencing to manage your identity. As a privately educated, hyper privileged MALE model, whose contribution to womanhood so far has been an astronomical plastic surgery bill and fetishisation of the sexual subordination of women.

You havent been bullied, women have said they do not see themselves reflected in you, they have not experienced the unimaginable privilege that shapes your narcissism and you have no relevance to the conversation they need to have about their lives. They can’t see themselves in you because they share nothing with you. You experience privilege most men will never experience, make your live demeaning women by presenting a cartoon hyper sexualised porn fantasy of us, a fantasy you have paid through the nose to purchase at the hand of a surgeon. For women, their identity mattering is a novel concept, the idea they should manage yours is offensive in the extreme.

Your performance of feminity, which you believe is only valid if women do not discuss inequality they live and the root of it, if they deny their own identity and subordinate to you is not womanhood its masculinity. Its a need to subordinate women. Women do not recognise it as valid and have never experienced your privilege, which is why its so offensive for you to steal from underrepresented women and speak for them when you only speak about yourself, your own identity, your own needs and when you lie repeatedly.Recently saying you had the life expectancy of a rough sleeper when you are one of the most privileged people on the planet.

Women saying they cannot see themselves reflected in your narcissism is not bullying, women did not cease to have an identity because you imagined they should when you identified as a woman. Women’s lives and oppression didn’t change because you told them it was offensive for you to discuss it and when you say that the bodies they have which are the foundation of human life on this planet, and which provide the labour which produces the human race are irrelevant cos a vagina is just a body part, the features you purchase to emulate it authentic, their lives don’t change. You say your bullying is akin to that of Shaun Faye. Yes. It is. Shaun Faye, an ex city laywer, in love with a feminised version of himself, creating an aesthetic of a trafficked working class girl like its a look he picked in a magazine and not a reference to the thousands and thousands of girls in this country whose childhoods were stolen by industrialised trafficking. Shaun Faye who stalks mothers and wants them to no longer have even a website where they can speak freely. Yes, women’s rejection of you is very much like rejection of hyper privileged disturbed misogynist Shaun Faye. Women saying they cannot see themselvces reflected in a narcissist is often injuring to the narcissist, its the foundation of many abusive relationships.

You have no film making experience, you didn’t even direct or produce that godawful documentary. By the way the women in the bakers in the town where I live thought it was a hilarious way to view womanhood and didn’t know you were serious.

You cry about trans exclusionary radical feminism, what precisely is it women are excluding you from when they dont centre you in thoughts about lives shaped by inequality you don’t experience? Your demand we pretend you are a woman like us comes with demand we pretend sex offenders are women and give them unimpeded access to spaces of safety from predatory behaviour for our children. You don’t just demand the end of sex based protections, and say you can only feel valid if you have them all even though you are male, you demand basic safeguarding be liquidated so you can feel pretty when the extensive surgery you have purchased doesn’t fill the void that is your identity.

You identifying as a woman didn’t make women obligated to you. It didn’t give you the right to speak for women, and you only ever speak about and for yourself. Outside appropriating marginalisation like a badge to add authenticity, and to justify your homophobia and disturbing misogyny, you appear to be saying that you can only exist if women will pretend they see themselves in you, subordinate to you entirely, sacrifice a hundred years of rights and give sex offenders unimpeded access to their children. Dude, if you can only feel pretty with all that, its not womanhood you are expressing, its abusive manhood and we outlawed that shit in the twentieth century.

Women are not obliged to you, your theft of women’s platforms, your demand that women do not even discuss the poverty, violence and abuse linked to their sex because it excludes you, your demand that safeguarding and sex based protections be liquidated, so you can feel pretty are disturbing.

The caricature of a man’s sexual fantasy you are trying to achieve is nothing I recognise as womanhood and nor am I expected to.

You may have noticed a backlash has grown, its been coming for a while. The sight of the most privileged men in the country, and prisons full of sex offenders, demanding the end of sex based protections and safeguarding, while demanding tht we do not discuss the serious health risks of hormones and surgery and telling children their bodies may be wrong and should be altered to fit a nebulous gender identity, are the demands of a narcissist. You need to be more intersectional Munroe, go read Crenshaw, in recent decades women learned how to stand up to that, how to support each other in doing so, and you are experiencing intersectional feminism for the first time. Women standing up to a narcissist abusing them and stealing from them and saying they do not see themselves reflected in you, and are not obligated to you in anyway. I can’t kick you out of feminism, you have no right or entitlement to even be considered by me. You have no right to steal from women and as one of the most privileged males on the planet you have no right to fashion yourself as one of the most marginalised women on the planet while demanding that actual marginalised women don’t discuss it because it reminds you your identity is false.

It is disgusting that this is how you have made your name, I understand modelling is not quite as easy as all that unless you have a USP, you cant wear marginalisation like a costume, and then expect people suffering to say that’s fine. Women saying no to you is not oppression and women saying they recognise NOTHING of you in themselves is their right. I don’t? What makes a woman is not the purchase of female features, demands women subordinate themselves to you and theft of resources designed for women who are underrepresented in a very real way. Stop behaving like an abusive narcissist and you might get solidarity from women, but we are not obligated to you Munroe, we never were. That was a delusion in your head. Like your penis being female is a delusion.

Your in a form of sexual fantasy with the mirror, women saying they have nothig to do with the image you create for yourself is not oppression. Women having the right to define themselves, think about their lives and discuss them is not oppressing you women pointing out your demands are the ridiculous posturing of a narcissist is intersectionality. You need to get a more intersectional approach to feminism but it might mean tearing yourself away from the mirror.

https://twitter.com/lisamuggeridge4/status/1007737366939930625 This is what you did to trans people. Not us.

This is the nucleus of a women’s movement forming because of males like you and your abuse of women.

https://www.facebook.com/DRradfem/videos/2157764721109127/ I am on at about 1 minute 20. I can only thank you for what you have done. You had the power to raise the conversation about austerity, if only by demanding we don’t discuss it. You didn’t expect women to say no to you because people don’t say no to you and you didn’t know that these days we are reject gender norms and are fully able to say piss off when we are being abused and exploited by males like you.