This article was co-authored by Amy Chan. Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches have helped hundreds of individuals in just 2 years of operation, and the bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. Her book about her work, Breakup Bootcamp, will be published by HarperCollins in January 2020. This article has been viewed 1,117,716 times.

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If you’re struggling to get over your ex, focus on looking after yourself, finding ways to express your emotions, and getting rid of things that remind you of them. For example, treat yourself to nice things to help lift your spirits, like a special cup of coffee or a spa treatment. To distract yourself from the pain, choose an activity that helps you focus on the present, like a game night with friends. When you're ready, talk about your feelings with a close friend or family member you can trust, since sharing your emotions can help you manage them. Additionally, think about your ex’s bad qualities to help you realize that your relationship wasn’t meant to be. Physical signs of your ex, like photos or gifts, will only keep you living in the past, so throw them out or pack them away so they’re out of sight. For tips from our Relationship co-author on how to maintain good relationships with your friends while you’re going through a break-up, read on!