Everyday I write, I find a stoic answer useful to me. I really do hope (even though hope is not stoic, ha) that you find something useful as I write this letters.

Have you ever felt yourself, as being your own man?

What is that feeling like to you?

I believe it is amazing. It can be described as the ultimate freedom, completely non-dependant on anything. It’s a soul that is happy within itself and that prays for nothing more than for what it already has. A feeling of ease and security permeates the body and nothing external can make you want anything else but being your own man.

It’s easy to be your own man in your bedroom, or when you are alone, but what happens when we meet other people? Say, when we get to a bar and it’s full and we lost our friends? I can say I have felt anxiety in those situations. But why? Because we care to much about others and wish to feel secure in the crowd, unable to stand erect by ourselves.

With self-ownership, we don’t need much company, we certainly can have it and enjoy it, but we don’t need it. Everytime we feel alone or anxious, we are asking for someone else or something (like our phone) for protection or entertainment. We do not feel ourselves to be good company, and that is why we are constantly searching everywhere but inside.

I once read that one of the characteristics of James Bond was that he is so comfortable in his own body, it hurts. This is an amazing ability, to be comfortable in any situation with the only person that is needed, ourselves. This is what “the answer is never outside” means.

This advice is priceless.

“There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self Reliance

The world is composed of individuals and everyone is looking for happiness, in his won unique way. Your way is unique to you, nobody can decide for you and you are not a child anymore.

There is a question though, should we just discard every opinion and live in a world alone in a cave, and be happy just with ourselves? Of course not.

We have to be first masters of ourselves so we can relate to others in more meaningful

ways, with truth in our side. Every person that lives his truth, functions like a light that illuminates other persons. As we go through the world in this manner, we are illuminating more people into freedom.

Free from being affected form societies, parents or anyone else judgment. To be our masters must be our aim.

People need, wish hope for leaders. A leader is a person that owns himself and that can articulate what he wants, and I’m going to be a bit harsh here, but to tell the truth, nobody knows what they want. People just seek to be told what to do.

Don’t be that kind of person, find joy as a stoic within yourself and share it.

I will appropriate other man’s words, just as Seneca did.

This words are from Seneca, ha.

” Live among men as if God beheld you; speak with God as if men were listening ”

Seneca

Today on Valentine’s day, Love your partner. But do it from the right position, from your truth.