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Of course, the woman in the cartoon can love both herself and him, if she wants. But it's hard to set boundaries between you, him, and your relationship, when you're working on your own great life, yet trying to make room for someone else.

Dr. Leon Seltzer talks about boundaries, and says certain boundaries can be self-sabotaging::

What if they undermine other needs, which you may be less aware of but which are actually more vital to your or welfare? And here I’m referring to such universally held needs and desires as the full, non-constrained expression of self. Or—because we’re all social animals at heart—the need to share yourself intimately with others, and have them do the same with you.

Thank you, Doctor.

My previous cartoon for Psychology Today was about men who want to get to know you in a different way.

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