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How does a transgender person have sex?

It's a question Lewis Hancox was sick of being asked down the pub, so the 26-year-old filmmaker put together an educational video to provide the answer.

And without going into too much detail Lewis, who transitioned from a female to a male eight years ago, gives a light-hearted but honest insight into his sex-life, reports the Liverpool Echo .

“I am a very open person by nature,” admits Lewis, “and I believe the more open we are about these things, the less questions need to be asked and, more importantly, the fewer misconceptions there will be.”

The video on Lewis’s YouTube channel - Mr Lewzer - sees Lewis using comedy to ‘educate while entertaining’ although he adds: “It does upset me that people think I must be really different from a biological guy, which just isn’t the case.”

“It was in-built in me that my body should have been a boy’s,” he says.

“I would cry every night that I was a boy trapped in a girl’s body. It felt unnatural to me to be treated as a girl, I fitted in better with the boys.

(Image: Youtube/MrLewzer)

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“When I was about 10 and aware that puberty was coming along and I’d get breasts, I would hit myself in the chest so they wouldn’t grow.”

And he adds: “I would pray as I grew up that I would transform into a boy.”

Lewis, who appeared in the Channel 4 programme My Transsexual Summer in 2011, began his transformation with surgery to have his breasts removed and reconstructed. He paid for that privately because his local Primary Care Trust, he says, would only fund that once surgery on his lower body had been completed.

He began the lower stages of surgery in 2013, finishing his transition in the middle of last year.

The film-maker, actor and writer, who recently reached the top five of the Northern Writers’ Awards with a comedy-drama, says he can’t remember how he used to feel, and that he feels like anyone who is not transgender: “I just see me and I am happy.”

But he admits that people are curious when he explains he is transgender and, because people see it as a sexual thing, that’s the area any curiosity homes in on.

“I have the odd person ask ‘how do you have sex?’ but usually it’s more of an implication,” he says.

“I get a lot of people who ask if my girlfriend is gay or straight and I respond with ‘straight’ and then many people have asked how that works!

“There are times when I think it’s none of their business, people wouldn’t ask a so-called ‘normal’ heterosexual couple how they have sex. But it doesn’t upset me either that I have to explain.

“People always assume you are going to be different; they are fascinated and I understand that.

“I suppose I get curious about things - I’m just too polite to ask the questions.”

According to Lewis you can’t stop being asked the questions so he decided to answer.

“I have taken it upon myself to put it out there, I volunteered the information, so that it might stop the questions but, crucially, put an end to the misconceptions.

“I have always been open and honest about being transgender - though that’s not everything I’m about - and I will never stop trying to educate people. For me it was always a medical thing that need to be sorted.”

But he is keen to stress: “The video isn’t just for non-trans guys.

"It is for trans guys, too, who may have just started their journey and be insecure about sex and relationships. I put off transitioning for a long time due to fear of people not being attracted to me."

And he smiles: “There is a small (and sad) part of me who still wants to shout from the rooftops that I have found a lovely girlfriend who sees me for the guy that I am.”

Ultimately, though, he says: “I’d like to inspire people going through the same thing I was all those years ago.

"If I can help a few people that will be amazing.”