Why can't u ask him? Isn't honesty and truth the basis of any long-lasting relationship? How long do u need to 'lay the line?' If there's something that's bothering you in a relationship, is it worth following? OK. A 'Fetish is a Fetish.' But aren't u his girl? Life is too short to worry about other peoples problems when u got your own '****' to work out! You can spend/waste your immediate life thinking/worrying about crap that will be soooooo 'Blasé Today' that will mean nothing tomorrow! If you know what you want and which way u want your life/career to follow, 'Stick to your Guns' and don't expect anything less! End of the day, women mature and acknowledge life mentally far more previous than men.......It's time to get up and start taking control of your life and dreams. Happiness is wonder full but never rely on anyone to 'pave your way!' Your life is in your hands! PS-Don't ever expect anything less. PPS-Don't snoop......If not sure? Let it go.