DontDribbleOnTheCarpet Sat 08-Dec-18 12:52:20

I don't think it's strange at all. Presumably you knew the deceased, and weren't afraid of her when she was alive? So now she's dead and not actually in a position to hurt you, she shouldn't be disturbing your sleep or anything. After all, all she can do now is decompose.



I don't know if it's going to be healthy for her sons though, although presumably they are better judges of that than anyone else. After my daughter died, I had a very strong urge to lie down on her grave and go to sleep and hopefully never wake up (middle of winter in Scotland, so death a real possibility). If her grave had been in my garden I would probably have done it. However, the (expected?) death of an elderly parent is a very different thing and one would hope that this is for more practical reasons (grave plots are eye-wateringly expensive, visiting the grave is easier at home, maintenance also easier and they may like the feeling of her not being buried alone in a place full of strangers).