Bethany, in the first place why were you going through your son's room. doesn't he deserve to have privacy in his space? then you say that you found a book with naked men, then why would you think he is sneaking girls in his room. usually a guy would have books of naked women for you to suspect that he is fooling around with a girl. some thing don't sound right with that. if you think your son is doing some thing off key and you want to talk to your pastor your pastor is not suppose to pass judgment on you. he is there to try to help you to figure things out. if he judges you then he is the wrong kind of pastor. another thing too if your son has a girlfriend he is at the age that he would be interested in girls and there is nothing wrong with him having a girlfriend. but if you have taught him against having sex before he gets married then he will be mindful of his teachings. just because he has stopped going to church don't mean that he has a girl friend. you need to try to talk to him and find out why he has stopped going to church before you accuse him or assume that he has a girl friend and mistrust him and thinking that he is going to get a girl pregnant. think it over you may be worried over nothing