“It doesn’t matter you don’t understand it isn’t my place to tell you and I’m not google so I won’t give you an answer.”



Look man people tend to not accept things they don’t understand. Googling “he/him lesbians” turns up nothing but reddit discussions (which I only found one of btw), kiwifarms, an article about a lesbian dating a man…

Nothing about why people use he/him pronouns when they’re a lesbian. Nothing. No academic articles, nothing from other LGBT+ organizations… nothing that would actually provide information. It’s something that sprouted up on Tumblr that no one knows why and people just get told “just accept it” when they’re trying to understand why people do something.

You’re basically shutting people out of information when they’re actually trying to educate themselves on something because you either don’t know yourself (which is fine, just admit you don’t know) or just don’t want to bother educating someone (which is fine too).

But if you’re gonna tell someone to “just google it” don’t be surprised if they find that it’s a bunch of bullshit, especially when you have people that unironically use neo and nounself pronouns. People chalk it up as just teenagers going through a phase (which honestly from my research, it is or adults that just feel the need to try to separate themselves from other people) and don’t take it seriously. If you want someone to take you seriously, you can at least not act like such a “You have to do this and I’m not going to tell you why” baby about it.