The day after Christmas Eve I was just minding my own business, being hungover I was preparing to eat some vegetarian soup, at 5 PM the first meal of the day. Suddenly it hit me, out of nowhere, I knew immediately this is it, after almost 10 years of searching I was finally given the answer.

For so long I was struggling with life, trying to figure out what it is about. I knew it cannot be a random coincidence, like a big bang and suddenly we are here and don’t know what to do. Many times people told me: Just enjoy your life dude. But how? I achieved many things that when I was little I could only dream about. But still I wasn’t happy, there was something that I was missing.

What I was missing is a woman in my life, because I could never figure out: What do women want? A good looking muscular guy? A guy of high social status? A guy with good game? An alpha male? A funny guy that makes them laugh? A confident guy? A guy with lots of money? A guy with lots of power? Everything of the above?

Let’s ask the internet. Let us google “what do women want”:

“A woman really doesn’t want much from a man.” (link)

“Sigmund famously asked the question, but he didn’t have an answer.” (link)

Awesome, here we are, having no clue and the internet has none too!

The answer is so simple and true it will blow your mind: Women want to be loved!!! Can you believe this? How did we miss this? It’s not about you doing or having anything, it’s about you giving love to her!!!

There are many ways to give love and I’m surely missing at lot of them, but here is what I know right now:

Giving her attention

Caring about her

Listening to her

Hugging her

Caressing her

Kissing her

Making love to her

Moreover, it’s not about you being good enough for a woman, it’s about her wanting your love or not! No more fear of rejection! She simply doesn’t want your love, no big deal, just move on or be friends.

At this point it becomes obvious that men want the same thing: Men want to be loved also! Thus I give you the equation of life: Giving love = Happiness.

This is the greatest Christmas gift one can receive and I’ll be forever thankful for it.

Now I shall fulfill my mission to spread the message.

So long,

Max

Update: I wasn’t expecting to get so much negative feedback on this post. It seems that most of the criticism boils down to:

Women actually want to be treated badly. It’s too simple and naive or too good to be true.

Let me first address number one: Sorry, but you are wrong.

The second point is a valid concern. People are complicated and there’s plenty of pain and suffering. But that doesn’t mean the fundamental equation of happiness has to be something dark and sinister. In fact it has to be something good, otherwise we wouldn’t exist. If abusing people would make us happy we would self destruct. The fact that we are still alive despite all the agony supports my hypothesis.