BrightLightsAndSound Tue 18-Sep-18 12:07:17

DP has a close friend who im going to call Twatty Fucker.



Twatty Fucker has two children and a partner who I will call Lovely Woman.



Twatty Fucker (TF) and Lovely Woman (LW) just moved back to TF and DP's hometown.



I gradually became friends with LW and realised how much of a twat TF is. It was kind of reassuring to hear because I never liked him but couldn't pinpoint why.



He isolated her from all her friends back when they were living in a different town. He refused to marry her but demanded the kids be given his name. He bullies her, patronises her like you wouldnt believe. She works and does all the childcare and housecare. Her kids are a newborn and 4 years old, hes never changed a nappy. If he sees her sitting down to quickly check her phone he asks her if she doesnt have anything better ro be getting on with but spends hours with his feet up on the internet. Hes just a horrible person, DP said he didnt realise this side of him as it only really came to light in his treatment of his partner.



Anyway me and TF dislike each other and he was uneasy about me befriending LW as he sees me as some kind of wild card loose canon (im not, im just not dependant on DP).



I suggested LW start am dram with me in town on thursday nights and she was really nervous but finally agreed and is now really excited.



She said "I just have to ask TF if its OK though (!!!!!), i mean for him to havr the kids alone for one evening".



She asked him, hr seemed fine with it. She said to me "knowing him i bet something will come up to stop me going".



Lo and behold, today, two days before our first am dram session, he's decided he needs to go to another town that evening (i dont know why yet but its obviously BS).



She has had to ask my DP (he loves children) if he will look after the kids on thursday evening, which means he'll have to reshuffle some plans but its doable and he wont mind.



My AIBU is - I just want to fucking do something to put TF back in his place! Hes done this to spite her hasnt he? So now ahead of thursday she has to either cancel (she wont) or waste time organising childcare. And why should my DP pick up his shortfall?



AIBU to want to shit storm here?! It makes me angry