by Rabbi Yair Hoffman for the Five Towns Jewish Times

“Don’t you dare go out with her! She has the same name as your mother!”

“If you left and forgot something – Don’t go back for it!”

“Doing construction? Don’t close off that window!”

We have all heard many of these exhortations before. They are found in the Ethical Will (Tzava’ah) of Rabbi Yehuda HaChassid, written by Rav Yehudah ben Shmuel of Regensburg. The Tzava’ah is followed in many circles among religious Jews.

There are 78 clauses in it or Tzava’as – each one with numerous reasons brought down and with many exceptions. The ambiguity is not just in terms of scholarship – there is much debate as to the correct text of it as well. There are six different manuscripts of the work, located in scholarly libraries across the world such as Venice, Oxford, Milano, etc.

Many if not most of these exhortations have found their way into normative Jewish practice. They are cited by the Shulchan Aruch, the Chochmas Adam, the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, and the Aruch HaShulchan. Some that did not actually make it into the Shulchan Aruch itself have been passed down the generations in families for centuries. Don’t all of us recall hearing at least one of them from our Bubbies and Zeidies? American Jewish history, for example, is filled with anecdotes of name changes in order to fulfill the ethical will of Rav Yehudah HaChassid.

Rav Yehudah HaChassid was born in Speyer in 1140 and passed away on Feb. 22, 1217 in Regensburg. He was the founder of the Chassidei Ashkenaz, and was the Rebbe of many of our greatest Rishonim. Among those who became famous were Rav Eleazar of Worms, author of the Roḳeacḥ, Rav Isaac ben Moses of Vienna, author of Or Zarua; and Rav Baruch ben Samuel of Mainz, author of Sefer ha-Chochmah.

Each of the clauses, or Tzavaos, were written by Rav Yehudah HaChasid in apodictic form – without providing the explanations for them. What then are the “whys” for these laws? We can find them, or most of them, in the works of the Meforshim who cite Rav Yehudah HaChassid.

A newly annotated version of the Tzavah was recently printed by Otzer HaPoskim in Israel. It was done under the editorship of Rabbi Shimon Gutman. For the first time, we can see in one edition all the manuscript versions available and compare them.

Below we find a brief overview in English of each of the 78 clauses. For the reader’s convenience, a paraphrase of the Tzavah appears in bold. An explanation follows and the source of that explanation is provided in parenthesis. Enjoy.

1. Not to bury two enemies next to each other. Because even in death they will have no rest (Milano Manuscript)

2. Not to open up graves and leave them open unless the deceased is put in that day. Doing so can cause others to die on account of impure forces unleashed (Maaver Yabok ch.12)

3. Not to put a coffin on top of another coffin that has a body in it. Because the dead unleash a powerful negative spiritual force (Shiltei Giborim).

4. Not to kiss a child that had passed away. There is an impure force that clings on to one who kisses the deceased (cf Or HaChaim Bereishis 50:1)

5. If a woman who engaged in certain horrific activities dies with her mouth open, dirt must be placed in her mouth so that she not continue. The manuscript versions indicate a concern for the practice of witchcraft and a type of vampirism (Yair Hoffman)

6. When one performs a tahara on a person one does not flip the board that one used. Because “Mitah” the board equals “din” – judgment in Gematria. Flipping it causes exact justice to be meted out (MeAneh Lashon).

7. To ensure that the dead do not close their fingers. Manuscripts indicate that it is a danger perhaps because an impure force emanates (YH). See also Yalkut Shimoni Zos Habracha #949 that it indicates that nothing was taken from this world.

8. When one removes the dead from a room a person should not go out first. Manuscripts indicate that it is a danger perhaps because an impure force emanates (YH).

9. When the dead invite a live person to come with them respond, “The Holy One Blessed Be He does not wish me to do so.” Then go to a grave and recite a certain formula without wearing shoes. The reason why they come is to exhort the listener to repent (Zohar Trumah p. 142)

10. After a Tahara is performed, not to leave the deceased on the board where the Tahara was performed, rather move the deceased and board elsewhere. Because the original area is dirty and spiritually unclean (Damesek Eliezer)

11. If there is a cemetery in town with room, one should not skip over it and bury elsewhere because the dead in that cemetery view it as an insult. It is an insult to the dead there not to bury with them (Shach) and it is a lack of respect to the deceased himself (or herse3lf) to be moved excessively (Rabbi Akiva Eiger).

12. Not to go to a grave twice in one day. Seemingly this Halacha is to show that we are not praying to the deceased. (Meforshim)

13. Not to accept anything from the dead in a dream nor to swear anything to him.

14. If a person is sick and says to someone to greet a child or to accept something and that person or item is not there – how to respond

15. Not to cry excessively over the dead or another will die.

16. A person should not build a house from stone to live in – rather one should buy it from another. The reason is because it indicates that one wishes to remain in lands outside of Israel. (Chsam Sofer)

17. A person should not build a house on land that never had a building upon it.

18. Not to build a bathhouse in his home.

19. Not to make one’s own house taller than the synagogue.

20. Not to close off a window or doorway entirely.

21. Not to build a house changing one’s place of learning in it.

22. Not to marry his niece

23. Not to marry a woman with the same name as his mother or the daughter of someone who shares his name, and if done to change one of their names

24. Two people with the same name should not have their children who marry each other.

25. Two brothers should not marry two sisters

26. Not to marry two sisters one right after the other.

27. Two brothers should not marry a mother and her daughter

28. Not to have a son and daughter marry from the exact same family.

29. Not to marry a step-sibling

30. Not to have the wedding of both of his children together

31. Not to have two weddings in the same week

32. Not to hunt a deer for a wedding

33. Not to have two married brothers residing in the same city.

34. Not to have three families living in the same house.

35. Not to have a friend be a Sandak to two of his children

36. Intimacy with spouse on night of immersion

37. When joking or exaggerating about doing something exotic – to do it once before one passes away

38. When one leaves the house on a trip not to return if one forgot something

39. Not to polish shoes on the day that one leaves on a trip

40. Not to ride a carriage or horse that is on a ship

41. Not to slaughter geese in the month of Shvat

42. A goose or chicken that places a vessel on itself should be slaughtered as soon as possible

43. A cow that gives birth to two calves at once or a chicken that lays two eggs in one day should be slaughtered as soon as possible.

44. A tree that produces fruits twice a year.

45. A tree that produces fruits should not be cut

46. A person should not make a storehouse of his grains in the ground

47. A person should not write on his book “This belongs to me.”

48. One should not cut his hair, his beard or his nails on Rosh Chodesh

49. A person should not destroy an oven to use its space

50. A chicken that crows like a rooster should be slaughtered as soon as possible.

51. Not to name a descendant of his Yuda nor Shmuel. A Rabbi should not reside in Hilburg, nor in Reginsport. Nor name them Elazar. A man or woman should not reside in Augsburg. A woman who gave birth should not eat chicken as her first meal.

52. Not to raise calves that were born from his herd.

53. Not to place a chicken on top of eggs to raise chicks.

54. Not to grow long hair in the front

55. A nursing woman should begin with the left.

56. The land of Shovavin (in the Germanic Lands) will not produce youth that will merit Yeshiva

57. A person should not depart from his friend in tears.

58. Not to buy grain from a descendent in order to do business with it.

59. Not to name his descendents after live people

60. Not to speak about Shidduchim of Akum

61. Not to live in a city where the market day is on Shabbos

62. Not to live in a city where the market day is on Tuesday

63. Not to name his children twice after the same person

64. The Tatars will come to destroy Germany – partially or fully – this occurred in 1240 and 1241 – 23 years after the author passed away (Yair Hoffman).

65. Not to raise pigeons in the home

66. Not to marry a woman with the same first name as his previous wife

67. Not to live in a community where Jews never lived

68. Money in the House.. Undecipherable

69. Not to strike a sleeping dog

70. Not to pray at a local cemetery if one is using a distant cemetery

71. A knife or sword that killed a Jew is forbidden in benefit

72. The deathly illness of a Rasha – not to talk excessively and a Tzaddik to say, Your passing should be separated from the world

73. Not to name children Avrohom Yitzchak and Yaakov and not Moshe

74. Not to drink open water from a house where someone passed away

75. Not to remove the Mezuzos when one moves

76. Not to move back into a previous house until seven years have passed

77. Do not let blood in Tammuz, Elul or Shvat

78. After a dream is interpreted do not have the words, “Go eat your bread in happiness” said.

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