Have a sorta happy Valentine’s

For the lovers that may not be loved.

It isn’t about dying alone. No, that’s too simple; we all die alone in someway or form. It is about living alone. You see, we are all born with a certain threshold for pain. At first it is the tapping of our belly that makes us cry. Within a few years it is scrapes, cuts and bruises. These physical pains are what thicken our skin, what makes us stronger, physically. There is no denying that as we age we become rougher and weathered. We become less brittle, and susceptible to physical compromise. But this tolerance to physical abuse is not something that transcends our body into our minds, and more importantly our hearts.

Once our bodies have achieved a tolerance to physical pain we seek new pains, subconsciously. We reiterate the vulnerability that we had physically, but this time emotionally. This metaphysical pain is nothing we can prepare for, nor can we adapt as easily as with physical pain. Heartbreak makes us colder, not stronger. It makes us intolerant and indifferent, not able and empathetic. At such a young age we create openness, blindly allowing others to trample our spirits and after what feels like decades we jump back on the horse only to find that hurt is inescapable. It is simply something we cannot avoid without intolerance. “Better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all,” is a mockery to those that have loved and lost. It simply is empirical that to have never loved allows the ignorance of not knowing pain; pain being the ultimately unimaginable demon that haunts those who have loved. Could it not be that we should harden and never love? For those that may have never loved, may never feel this pain. This is not an existential crisis; this observational summary simply describes our lack of ability to avoid pain, be it physical or emotional. We cannot grow out of pain, we simply mold it to suite our demographic better. And yet, we all feel it; we all feel pain and we all will feel alone many times throughout our lives. Don’t think about how you can avoid this pain, it is far too late to avoid such an innately enabled part of humanity. It is simply something we can learn to tolerate, something we cannot understand nor perceive as fair and righteous.