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by Dr. Susan Block.

Have you been thinking about group sex? Do you dream of casting all rigid social boundaries aside and indulging in the orgiastic hedonism of a threesome, multiple partners, a swing party, a pansexual celebration, a polyamorous arrangement or a full-on orgy?

Perhaps you already enjoy the pleasures of sex with more than one partner at one time, but you need to talk about your experiences with someone open-minded, knowledgeable and discreet. Maybe you’re considering group sex or the swinging “lifestyle,” and you need to sort out the pros and cons. Then again, you might believe that multiple partners, free love and orgies are best left in the realm of the imagination, but you’d love to share the fantasy with someone who understands, or maybe even more than one someone at one time; after all, we are talking about group phone sex therapy.

Do you want to make your group sex fantasies come true, at least partially? Do you need to talk about orgies, swinging, “designer relationships,” open marriage, polyamory, communal ecstasy? Want to know the ins and outs of threesomes, foursomes, and more-somes? Need advice on how to bring these exciting but touchy subjects up to your spouse? Would you like to experience group phone sex therapy? Call the Block Institute at 213.291.9497.

Several of our telephone sex therapists are experts in group sex, polyamory, swinging and our world-renowned philosophy of ethical hedonism. Group sex might sound very kinky for some, but it fulfills a very natural, human need to share erotic, orgasmic, loving experiences with multiple people, friends, loved ones and attractive strangers. In a world that increasingly demands compartmentalization and isolation, there are few arenas left in which humans can share in this vital, life-affirming experience of communal ecstasy.

Most of us are expected to meet all our sexual and erotic needs within one relationship, usually a marriage, that is supposed to last our entire adult lives. Our sexual experiences are expected to be always private, “just the two of us,” usually in a locked bedroom, often in the dark. There’s nothing wrong with that; in fact, private couple sex with someone you love is probably the most intimate, meaningful kind of sex there is. But there is something very special and truly wonderful about the “collective joy” (with apologies to Barbara Ehrenreich) of group sex that partner sex simply cannot duplicate.

Many anthropologists agree that prehistoric humans often engaged in various forms of group sex–just as our closest genetic cousins, the bonobos, do–for tens of thousands of years before the advent of farming and “civilization” started pressuring people, especially women, to be sexually monogamous.

Just because human society changed and started trying to squeeze the square peg of our true polyamorous, orgiastic sexual nature into the round hole of traditional marriage and monogamy doesn’t mean human beings changed. We are still inherently nonmonogamous, or even what Sex at Dawn authors Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethas, as well as sexpert Dan Savage, call “promiscuous.” Some of us can “control” our desires for multiple partners and group sex experience better than others.

Of course, despite society’s sanctions against it, some people have always found ways to enjoy various forms of group sex. The famously decadent orgies of ancient Rome come to mind. In the 18th century, during the period known as The Enlightenment, European intellectuals commonly took pleasure in the delights of partner-swapping—including the proudly promiscuous and ingenious Mary Shelley, author of the classic Frankenstein. Of course, “cheating” has always been a popular option for those who can manage double lives, though often at great risk to the cheaters’ marriages and even their lives. Swinging rose in popularity in the U.S. during World War II with the “Key Club” parties where married men would leave their house keys in a basket so that other men at the party could enter their homes and have sex with their wives.

As a result of the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 70s, and an increasing openness to nontraditional forms of sexual expression, swinging and other forms of group sex have become increasingly common in America and around the world. Yet a cultural distrust of group sex still exists, and in many areas of society–especially those that are religious, conservative or very “politically correct”–this distrust and disapproval of any kind of erotic expression that goes beyond the married couple has risen and intensified. Many normal, sexual people who have a basic human yearning for communal ecstasy are afraid to indulge in it, and even too ashamed to talk about it with their partners. The repression of these natural desires can put the individual—and the marriage itself–under tremendous toxic stress.

What you do is up to you, of course. But it always helps to talk about your feelings with someone who understands, someone you can trust with your secrets and desires. The Block Institute offers conventional sex therapy as well as the opportunity to roleplay a group sex fantasy you may have over the phone through simulated swinging, guided masturbation or erotic hypnosis. Your group sex fantasy may involve orgies, threesomes, fetish play, bisexual activity, cuckolding, domination and submission,breaking taboos,or any number of other forms of erotic adventure. You can even speak to multiple therapists at one time for group phone sex therapy. As always, your telephone sex therapy call is completely private and confidential.

For more information or to arrange to talk to a therapist right now, call us anytime 24/7 at 213.291.9497.