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An upset mum in a quandary over her husband's clothing comments is asking other women whether it is reasonable or not for him to tell her what to wear.

The woman says her other half has started complaining she never dresses in the clothes he likes and makes little digs.

He has also started suggesting what outfits she should wear instead, including short dresses despite it being a rainy day.

The mum has now turned to Mumsnet to seek advice from other women over how they would react if their partners did the same.

She said that being a size 14-16 she picks out a variety of clothes, that her husband helped chose over the summer, which hide her tummy and compliment her curves.

"And he said he really liked at the time," she explained.

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"I also have a few items that he bought me as presents this year that I wear too. Problem is no matter what I wear he keeps suggesting I wear something else."

"For example, haven't been wearing heels this summer (we are a very active family so I find it easier to wear the boots or trainers he bought me instead) so he is complaining I never wear heels.

"This morning he suggested I wear a dress I haven't wore for about two weeks, but this is a short dress and it's raining so I said no, now he is saying I never wear the things he likes and he is a bit annoyed about it."

The woman then asks if she is being unreasonable to wear what she wants to wear in the morning.

She added: "Or is he bu [being unreasonable] to get frustrated that I don't wear these specific things when he wants me to??

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"I really don't know what to think any more!! I know this seems petty but these digs from him come up quite often, say if I started wearing the heels and dress more now he would move back on to wanting me to wear my hippy trousers and boots iyswim [if you see what I mean], so I would like to work out what to do about it once and for all!"

The post has received more than 200 responses with some saying his behaviour is a 'red flag'.

One replied: "You're not a doll he can dress up, what strange behaviour."

A second commented: "Is he so controlling in other areas of the relationship as well? Big red flag waving in your face."

And a third said: "There's a fine line between a nice and friendly suggestion (e.g. you've not had that lovely dress on for a while, I think you look really good in it) and being weird.



"He is being weird."

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One person replied that it was more than a red flag and said coercive control was a matter for the police.

Another commenter suggested there was a more sinister motive to his behaviour.

They wrote: "No matter what you do, he has you in the wrong. There's no pleasing him. He wants to make you constantly feel bad about yourself and it's working as you are now stressed about it all and have started this thread.



"First of all, stop standing on your head trying to please this man. There is obviously no pleasing him, so you may as well please yourself.



"If he doesn't settle down after that, some serious discussion about him respecting your boundaries needs to take place."

Others quipped he should buy a Barbie doll to dress up instead.

The original poster later gave an update and thanked everyone for their reponses.

She wrote: "After being told I'm over sensitive and out of order for questioning this for so long you have no idea what it feels like to so unanimously be told ianbu.

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"I do have my own money, and we only go clothes shopping together as we make a day of it and go for lunch etc at same time. But honestly those of you who said about the control issue were bang on, there are a lot of other issues like this (such as how I wear my hair or what colour I dye it).

"This does have to stop, I just don't know how to stop it, I have spent so long being told all these issues are me but they aren't are they.

"If a group of strangers on the internet can see this relationship isn't healthy, and can flag up other issues I haven't even mentioned then it cant be just me that is a problem here."

In another update she added: "Feeling happy in one sense that I am not insane and then feeling so sad that this isn't in my head but a real problem that needs addressing.

"However, on the back of all these replies, I did just wear whatever I wanted this morning and when a minor comment was made I just answered with "I look nice like this", and that was that.

"I know that sounds so easy, but it was a big step for me so I thank you all."