Michelle Thomas had the perfect response to the Tinder troll (Picture: Msmthomas/Instagram)

A woman, who was told by a Tinder date: ‘I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality….. I can’t say the same about your figure’, has given the perfect riposte online.

In an open letter on her blog, 30-year-old Michelle Thomas told the man she had chosen to respond publicly because he has a 13-year-old daughter, and she wanted to show him how to build her confidence, rather than destroy it.

Michelle and the man, known only as Simon, went on a date a couple of weeks. ‘He bought me dinner. We strolled arm in arm on the South Bank. He walked me to the train station, where we kissed. It wasn’t earth-shattering, but all in all it was a fairly standard Pleasant Evening,’ she explains.



She wasn’t particularly bothered if she saw him again.


But, rather than leave it at that, the next day the man, who’s in his 40s, sent her a message which began: ‘You’re cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won’t.’

He continued: ‘I’m not going to bull***t you… I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you’re the prettiest looking girl I’ve ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer.’

‘Whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God…I really, really am), I can’t say the same about your figure,’ he added, finishing with this absurd platitude: ‘Please try and forgive me. I adore you xx.’

Michelle admits that her initial reaction was shock, followed by tears.

‘For a few moments’, she says on her blog, his attempt to wound her ‘worked’.

‘You stirred a dormant fear that every woman who was ever a teenage girl has,’ she writes. ‘That it doesn’t matter how funny you are, how clever, how kind, how passionate, how loyal, how determined or adventurous or vibrant – if you’re a stone overweight, no one will ever find you desirable.’

However, she says, she chose to respond publicly because the man has a 13-year-old daughter.

She tells him: ‘I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy, and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her. Praise her intellect, and her creativity. Push her to push herself and to be fearless.’

Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if (I’ll be kind. I’ll say “if”.) the time comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I do now,’ she concludes.

Michelle’s honest and positive response to the Tinder troll has been applauded online. One person writes: ‘People need to stop making others feel guilty because they don’t fill the criteria of what *they* find attractive.’



Another comments: ‘Fantastic riposte, the man is a complete tool.’

Michelle told Metro.co.uk the response has been ‘overwhelming’.

Oh, and she adds, Simon can kiss her ‘exquisite’, ‘unmarriageable’ ars*.

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