Plan of action

Generally, the almost uniform conclusion is that (1) we have a problem, (2) our scene is better than a lot of places, and (3) we can do better.

I think the fact that so many people spoke up — dozens upon dozens posting about their experiences — was itself a powerful statement. Folks who weren’t aware of the problem had their eyes opened. That is of vital importance.

There are also the other straightforward steps that we can and should take, all of us. We need to look out for one another. Be more respectful of one another. Speak up for one another. I believe that our scene will be more aware for having this discussion.

Many women emphasized the fact that, while they can and will stand up for themselves, men have to be stronger allies by calling out sexist and misogynistic talk and actions when they see them. We know this is a scene dominated by males and we have a responsibility to shape what comes next.

We need to police our friends and be better about what we allow and what we won’t put up with. We need to call people out when we see this crap. And we need to hold others accountable for their actions.

That’s as true online as IRL. The fact that this discussion unfolded on various social platforms ensured that some would take it as a personal affront and, unencumbered by speaking directly to an individual, could hide behind a user name to victim blame and victim shame and generally dismiss any of these concerns.

Free expression and the First Amendment give them the right to do so. But they should be told forcefully and unequivocally that they are wrong. Listen to these women. Listen to what they’re saying. And be part of the solution.

That’s where we started: With a Twitter user threatening violence should this behavior happen again. That’s not the way to solve this problem, of course, but it will be the result unless better and more reliable options are available.

Toward that end I have reached out to Phish Inc. to see if we can find a way to connect fans directly with the band’s security people, so they can help us help one another.

Stadiums have for years been using technology to identify and remove problem people, issues often identified by their fellow fans. So I have asked if we can establish some type of text message number or Twitter account or other means of reporting dangerous or predatory behavior, either by the victim or potential victim, or by any concerned witness.

I know this may seem a little Big Brother-esque and it could be that there are legal, financial or logistical impediments to establishing such a system. But I would think that the ability to text HELP or JERK to #74474 (PHISH) could put us on the path to eradicating some of the problems being reported by many women (and some men as well) — and that the band would want to be a part of helping make the shows safer for everyone.

MSG, where the band will play Dec. 28-Dec. 31 to conclude their touring year, has such a system in place. But I spoke with a representative from MSG Guest Services who said text messages are not monitored during concerts. In the event of a situation like any of those described above, she recommended finding an usher for assistance.

That’ll be small comfort for those who have dealt with MSG security in the past but, for now, it’s what we have and I would encourage availing yourself of that option should the need arise.