@sassysublimetastemaker and I questioned @teensapphicmagazine about a gross bit about how young lesbians shouldn’t “rule out” trans women (trans males), and predictably, they blocked me:



It’s so cute when libfems think they can:

Redefine lesbianism

Tell female-attracted radical feminists to not reblog posts that “don’t belong” to them while assigning silly words like TERF and ‘gynosexual’ to us without our consent, listing our URLs and urging followers to conduct a modern witch hunt, constantly invading our posts to derail and silence us (”OP is a TERF!”, “this includes trans women”), and unconsciously reblogging radical feminist ideology all over your silly blogs. Can’t have both, sorry.

Can’t have both, sorry. Tell female-attracted radfems that they don’t belong in LGB(T) spaces, or that they can’t reclaim “sapphic” or other similar terms, or that a zine focusing on “sapphic” (female-attracted) readers isn’t theirs. You have absolutely no say on our sexualities just because our politics isn’t to your particular taste.

But I digress. Here’s the highlights from the zine’s content:

Question: Is it okay not to date trans girls since I’m not into penises?

Answer: “Trans girls come in a variety of forms, shapes, and sizes, and so do our genitals. If you’re thinking this, you’ve probably gotten most of your idea of what trans girls’ genitals are like from what health classes have taught you about cisgender non-intersex men, which is not very accurate here.”

Are you actually telling young lesbians to… not believe science taught in school? I know you guys are pretty medieval about basic biology but… seriously?

Anyway, intersex is not a vast array of new, mysterious sexes that biology book writers exclude from the binary because they’re total bigots, they’re variations in sex characteristics (Wikipedia, confirmed TERF). I learned about intersex at school by the way; again, basic biology. Intersex organizations have also asked, repeatedly, that the trans community refrain from using them as a gotcha - I don’t care if the writer of this answer is intersex, they do not speak for all intersex people. Also, shocker, intersex radical feminists exist.

“Intersex trans women exist, trans women who’ve gotten orchidectomies or vaginoplasties exist, and even trans women who’ve had HRT often have genitals that can look very different from cis non-intersex men.”



Different from the typical penis =/= a vulva. There’s this stupid trend of implying the absence or variation of a penis is a vulva/vagina, like vulvas lack something. Stop that, stop defining women as the absence of a dick, that’s so fucking rude.

And on the topic of vaginoplasties, do you mean neo vaginas? Because they don’t look or feel nothing alike actual vulvas, let’s not pretend you can’t tell them apart when:

‘It’s red, there’s stitches and it’s swollen , you can see the stitch lines. You expect that,’ she said.

, you can see the stitch lines. You expect that,’ she said. ‘What you don’t expect is this yellow-y, clumpy, almost mucus-y, looks-like-someone-sneezed-on-your-p***y kind of residue .

. ‘So you might have a chunk of your inner labia just die off, just fall off, and it’ll just grow right back. It’s hard to believe because when you lose a limb or a toe it doesn’t grow back. But it turns out that your p***y does.

and it’ll just grow right back. It’s hard to believe because when you lose a limb or a toe it doesn’t grow back. But it turns out that your p***y does. It’s strange. ‘And it’s gross and it’s funky and it’s awful and you think, “Oh my god, What is happening? My p***y is melting. I’m dying.” But it turns out that it is perfectly normal.

From an interview with an actual trans male/trans woman (source linked in this post). A neo vagina also requires constant dilation because it’s basically an open wound.

“Furthermore, the ways non-intersex trans women who haven’t had any kind of bottom surgery interact with our genitals sexually varies, and many of us are uninterested in most or all of the activities cis men engage in. Sexual boundaries are about having a conversation with your partner.”



Holy crap. You think the only thing lesbians dislike is penetration? Because it’s the only thing I can conclude from this “activities cis men engage in” talk. Nah, lesbians won’t like, or be indifferent to penis in a sexual context, ever, it doesn’t matter where it fucking is. Oh my god. Or maybe you mean a non-dominating vibe. Either way, it doesn’t fucking matter.

“However, trans women are a very diverse group, and I can’t recommend you rule all of us out without understanding our interests individually.”



SEXuality isn’t a matter of interests. A young lesbian isn’t “ruling out” somebody, that implies sexuality is a choice and she’s doing it out of selfishness. Lesbians don’t owe any male/trans woman/mtf/whatever term you prefer sex. They don’t owe you a “chance”, and they’re not bad for not liking, or pretending to like so you can feel validated, penises - not before or after surgery, not with slight variations, never.

To the writer of this answer: Stop pressuring teenaged lesbians into believing there are situations where they must tolerate penises, stop implying teenaged girls who feel scared of saying they don’t like male genitals are being somehow selfish or prejudiced because they’re not into penises, stop giving sexual advice telling young lesbians that they must “compromise” and withdraw bondaries in order to be good lesbians and people. Stop trying to pressure lesbians into liking dick. And to whoever allowed this to be on this magazine, stop condoning rape culture mascarading as being a feminist.