An admission: I really go out of my way to avoid thinking about Chris Brown at all because merely thinking about Chris Brown is bad for the soul. The guy is just a cancer on everything. But in the wake of a lot of people being bent that he was such a big part of Sunday’s Grammys broadcast, more and more people outside of his delusional “Team Breezy” death cult seem to be willing to express sympathy for Brown, and I can no longer bite my tongue.

Here’s the thing: defenders of Chris Brown mainly defend him by pointing out that other male entertainers who’ve been charged with domestic violence don’t get near the level of sh*t that Chris Brown does. And this is true, to some degree, but there are reasons for it.

The first, and perhaps the most important, is that Chris Brown has been absolutely unrepentant for his actions. Any and all acts of contrition he’s put forth have been half-a$s and ultimately overshadowed by his continued public defiance. He’s been known to throw insane tantrums for merely being asked questions about the incident with Rihanna, and his Twitter feed has been a continuous source of petulant buffoonery for as long as I can remember.

A consistent pattern is in place: Brown tweets something retarded, people go crazy, and then he, or someone who works for him, deletes it. Never was this more the case than the night of the Grammys, when he unleashed a string of “F*CK YOU, HATERZ!” tweets that perfectly epitomized why most people, myself included, are simply unwilling to just forgive him and let it all go. And, of course, they’ve all since been deleted — he now has only nine tweets showing on his account — but screengrabs abound on the web, because, unfortunately for people like Brown, the web never forgets anything, including scandalous leaked DMs.

Finally, there’s this: Chris Brown did not just hit Rihanna. Have you ever read the full police account of what happened that night? It’s arguable that he was trying to kill her. It’s not like this was a slap or a shove in the heat of the moment that was then immediately recognized as an overstep. No, dude went after her hard, again and again and again.