As my first post here I’d like to address one thing that I see a lot of when people discuss sissyhood and feminisation. Often people who are new to this fetish are unsure about whether this is truly who they are or not. Whats worse is that a lot of hypnos, blogs and captions often perpetuate the idea that “You will never be a man”, “this is who you are”, “face it sissy” and go even more hardcore with “you are a pathetic faggot”, “you will never please women” and “you’re nothing but a cumdumpster” etc. Whilst all these things may apply to some people, it certainly doesn’t apply to all – and it’s these ideas which bring up feelings of shame and low self-esteem which then manifests into depression, addiction and perhaps even gender dysphoria.

Whilst I don’t believe these phrases are inherently bad, they serve an important purpose which is in making us feel submissive, slutty and of course GIRLY. But on the other hand, if these things aren’t perceived in the correct and healthy way, it could be a source of self loathing and misery for many new or curious sissies.

Which is why I’d like to share what I believe will truly cure any feelings of shame and resentment for a healthy and indulgent sissy mind. By following this advice, you may learn that being a sissy is your true deep desire, or merely just a personal expression of sexuality OR you may even realise that it is not for you at all.

So here is the solution to overcoming guilt and shame:

If you are ashamed of being a sissy then quitting cold turkey will NEVER work. You will find yourself repressing and coming back time and again. The only way you’ll be able to live freely and happily either with or without this side of yours is by knowing who you are and what is best for you. The ONLY way this can be achieved is simple; have your shit together. If you have a life that you are satisfied with, then you will know what your desires are, and only then will you be able to understand if you’re using sissy porn as a crutch or an expression of your sissyhood.

Being a sissy is a very intense experience, it is not for the weak-minded or weak-willed as it can prey on your insecurities and will undoubtedly hurt you in the end. If you have little to no insecurities, then it will not grow with this fetish, you will simply be able to embrace the submissive sexiness of it all. If you’re genuinely insecure about not being a man or even a worthy human; then being told you’re nothing but a cocksucking cumdumpster who will never attract women will in the long run hurt your self esteem and make you more miserable.

But, if you have your shit together, if you are happy with who you are – then you will be able to live happily with or without this fetish. If you are confident in real life, not shy or lonely – then this kink cannot hurt you but live harmoniously with your private life. If you are not insecure about the possibility of being bisexual, then the sissy fetish cannot make your go crazy questioning yourself. Most importantly, ff you are not hopelessly addicted to porn, then you will not hate yourself whenever you do engage in your sissy side with volition instead of giving into uncontrollable urges which will make you feel weak and inadequate.

So in a nutshell, actively address the problems you have in real life. Work on being productive, sociable, confident, happy and most importantly learn self-discipline. Teach yourself not to masturbate whenever you’re feeling down. If you have porn addiction, break the addiction immediately – this alone will show you that you have a lot of strength and it will resonate with other aspects of your life. Start actively working towards having your life together, as this fetish is not for the weak willed or weak hearted who will only enjoy themselves when masturbating and hate themselves outside in their real lives. If you have your shit together, then you will be able to happily dip into your sissy side occasionally without it impacting your real life happiness.

The most important part is this though; once you do have your shit together it will make it so much easier to really understand whether this fetish is for you. If you are in a happier place, and no longer need your sissy side as a form of escape – then you will finally get to realise whether you truly enjoy being a sissy or not. Who knows, maybe you’ll realise being a sissy is your life’s dream and you’ll happily be able to truly delve into it OR, like me, you see it as a mere sexual kink which you enjoy in your own time here and there without being insecure about it. On the flip side, you might realise this fetish isn’t for you at all and quit altogether, this will will be very easy since you no longer need porn and feminisation as a crutch.