pacaprincess:

youcankissmycas: namelessshameless: “My pronouns are fae/faeself!!!” “I have a galaxy headmate!!!!” “I identify as an android!!” goddamn y’all are like fourteen when you look back ten years from now you are going to be so embarrassed with yourselves sit the fuck down and drink a juice box or something. Literally shut up someone else’s labels do nothing to hurt you and it’s none of your freaking business if they change it later or are embarassed later or if they keep it for the rest of their life



Let everyone experiment to find out what best fits them and if you poop on that that makes you are being a douchebag at least and transphobic at worst



Non binary people exist, some with they/them pronouns, some with other pronouns they made up themselves to suit their identity, and if you can’t take their pronouns and identity seriously or think that they’re childish for it that’s a problem with you not with them It isn’t transphobic to not agree with this extremely alternate pronouns. Them/They and Fae pronouns are totally acceptable but when you got people saying they want to be identified as animal names, made up creature stuff, etc that’s a problem. It’s hard enough for gender neutral people to be taken seriously when asking to be addressed by them/they so this nonsense of people making cute little pronouns and be taken seriously is making it harder! If you do it for fun between friends yeah okay cool. I’ve used alpaca and llama pronouns before but it was just with friends, I didn’t say, “Please say “Pac/Paca” as I identify as an Alpaca”. It honestly reminds me of the furries who say they’re really a wolf or some other animal inside. It doesn’t hurt anybody but it sure does make it harder for people who take the pronouns seriously. Seriously…..android? That ain’t even a gender you can’t identify as android unless you are some android but even then that’s your physical self, not your gender or sexual orientation. The galaxy headmate….that’s just glorifying associative identity disorder. No you don’t have an alien alternate or a fox alternate ya lil butts.

You’re cis. I’m cis. I really only meant to address the first bit the post was complaining about (the pronouns) as that’s all I really know anything about and I don’t want to erase anyone, or speak louder than someone else that’s non binary.

But if anyone that identifies as a non binary person asks you to call them faeself or botself and you call them childish or ridiculous and refuse to use them, you are misgendering them, which is a transphobic act as I understand.

The galaxy headmate bit only romanticizes/glorifies mental illness if you don’t have the mental illness it applies to. I’ve never seen anyone do that, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who do, but the way to deal with it isn’t to mush them in with non binary people asking for certain pronouns and calling it childish and embarrassing. To romanticize or glorify illness and disability as a healthy and abled person is ableism, plain and simple, very different from someone’s requested pronouns, and when you mush the two together under a post that says everyone who does these things is fourteen years old and is going to be embarrassed by it later - it’s a douchey thing to do. The first isn’t ridiculous at all and the way the second is approached doesn’t help the problem at all.

As for an android - I know nothing about this, but common courtesy tells me that unless someone is endangering/harming themself or others, you respect whatever they freaking identify as and there’s nothing wrong or embarrassing about that, period.

Since I don’t know much about the headspace bit other than some circumstances being ableist and I know nothing about otherkin, I’m not comfortable calling either of those transphobic, especially since I’m cis, but I’ve seen so many trans and non binary people call out this making fun of pronouns bit that I’m definitely gonna call out that faeself part of the post as transphobic. You don’t misgender anyone and you certainly don’t call their identity ridiculous, childish, or embarrassing. I’ve seen two posts on this today and it’s gross and and we as cis people need to stop with this identity policing.

ETA: pretty sure the people making cute pronouns isn’t making it difficult for people to take them seriously. If someone asking you to call them a cute pronoun makes it hard for you take them seriously, it’s not them enforcing their oppression, it’s not them with the cutesy pronouns, it’s the people refusing to take people seriously just because they’re outside the gender binary. Cute has nothing to do with it - it’s people within the binary gladly taking any excuse to not take people whose oppression we benefit from seriously.