If you’re looking to introduce your partner to the pleasures of receptive anal sex for the first time, there’s no better way to start than through rimming. It’s a gentle, non-invasive way for someone to discover just how much pleasure their ass can really give them, teaches them to relax their anal muscles for additional play down the road, and leaves them wanting more.

For some, an exploratory lick during other forms of oral sex can be a way to nonverbally test a partner’s openness to trying it, and if they react in a pleasurable manner, continue with more licking around and across their anus. Some people, however, have concerns about hygiene and may be embarrassed by this approach, so it can be best to bathe together first and talk about it to make sure everyone is on board and feels comfortably clean before trying.

As for the act itself, it’s really quite straightforward. As with cunnilingus, different sorts of tongue play can result in different sensations. You can lick across, around, and gently penetrate the anus itself with your tongue. Try it all, see what your partner enjoys best.

If your partner finds that it tickles or feels slightly uncomfortable in some manner, try combining it with supplemental stimulation—clitoral, nipple, etc.—which can increase the pleasure and make it feel more sexual.

Most people end up finding rimming to be particularly pleasurable, in many cases even more so than cunnilingus, so start making it a regular part of your routine with your partner if you both enjoy it. As you do it more and more, they will most likely want to start exploring other forms of anal stimulation as well, including penetration with fingers and toys, before ultimately moving on to full anal sex.

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