Anonymous asked: my girlfriend just "came out" to me as an "otherkin" and a "multiple system" and I don't know what to do because I really really like her but I had never heard of these things until now and it sounds fucking insane help

bitches-have-birthdays:

bullshit-incorporated:

Oh god anon I am so sorry. Here’s what you do. Confront her about it. Ask her why she feels the way she does. Show her a few of our posts, explaining why it’s harmful. Maybe our followers can reblog and add their own advice. If you can’t shake her of these beliefs? Dump her. These communities are harmful and toxic, and your mental health is more important than that.

-Batman

Lets operate under the theory that this person is otherkin and multiple because of mental health problems, a theory blogs like BSI’s promote heavily. You have just told this person to make it worse. What on earth is your logic behind that? Blogs like yours usually make out that people with these beliefs have them as coping methods for shitty lives and mental health problems, why would you promote someone, presumably everyone she dates, screwing with that?

I think my being plural and a fictive might be due to my long term stress, anxiety, depression, and so on. I have a guy who likes me and is fine with both my health issues and my weirdness. Now, say he stays with me, and I feel happy, and loved, and secure. In the meantime, I work on my anxiety and my depression. He supports me. In theory my plurality and ‘kinness go away.

Say he dumps me because he can’t “shake me out of it” with a few links to a blog (Who could possibly imagine it wouldn’t be that easy). I become convinced that it’s true what the depressive ideas in my head always say, that nobody will ever love me, that I will always be alone. My anxiety and depression spike. I fall further into my plurality and ‘kinness because they have been a constant in my life and they give me comfort.

This is all theoretical because I actually find anxiety makes me less plural, it sucks as a coping method for me, but working on your theories, what is the logic behind your advice here?

If the person is exhibiting toxic behaviour, sure. Leave. Wise choice. Fully support. Keeping an eye out is a good idea, I have experienced abusive behaviour at the hands of some plurals myself and I would never advise someone to stay in that situation. If the person is not exhibiting toxic behaviour, leaving under the assumption that “the communities” are toxic and therefore she will be harmful to him is just destructive to any chance that person has of finding a secure support network to aid in their recovery.

What even. Seriously.

Anon needs to tailor his reaction (at all times) to whether his girlfriend is harmful and toxic, not the community.