I have always been a firm believer of second chances. Personally, I make mistakes almost everyday and the only way I learn to improve is by someone pointing them out and telling me what I have to change. Of course in every relationship fights occur, and as a couple we learn to forgive, forget and grow together.

BUT, is there ever an instance where a mistake is absolutely, inexcusably unforgivable? We have all heard the saying “Once a cheater always a cheater” which often raises the question WHY would you ever forgive a cheater, if he/she will just cheat again?

Let me start by saying that if he cheated WITH you, theres a good chance he’ll cheat ON you, and maybe, just maybe that was not the best way to start a relationship with someone new.

Glad I got my anger out…

Anyways, I feel as if there are two specific sides on the cheating spectrum; an extreme cheater and an honest one.

Lets talk about the extreme cheater: This is the person who builds a relationship with someone who’s… not you. They fool around with this other person and when your FINALLY hear about it, its months later from someone else.

This is the type of person who is not sorry they did it, they are sorry they got caught. SO does this person deserve a second chance, the correct answer is: of course not.

Lets talk about the honest cheater. This is the person who cheats once with someone who is completely random. They tell you about it right away (or relatively close to when it happened) and they are extremely apologetic. They cannot look at you without feeling guilty, and they hate themselves for what they did.

This is the type of person who is genuinely sorry for making a mistake. SO does this person deserve a second chance, the correct answer is :unknown

Every person and every relationship is different, and of course I can’t tell you what decision to make, but I can tell you that I have been on both sides of this spectrum and neither of them are easy.

If you believe in change, and you believe things can work out with your partner than why not give them that second chance to prove to you that they can do better. If you tried to believe in change, but your partner continuously hurts you, than you have to learn to love yourself, and walk away from anything that no longer helps you grow and no longer makes you happy.

Quote of the day: “A relationship with no arguments, is a relationship with a lot of secrets” – Unknown