I love talking about sex and disability (Picture: Alejandro Santiago)

My name is Andrew Gurza, I’m 35 and I live with Spastic Quadriplegic Cerebral Palsy.

This means I am a power wheelchair user and I cannot walk. On top of this, I have attendant care workers who help me with almost everything in my day – dressing, eating and going to the toilet – to name a few.

I also love talking about sex and disability.

Now, you might think based on all of the things I just told you that I can’t be a sexual being at all. How could anyone who can’t take themselves to the bathroom want or need sex, right? Don’t they have bigger things to concern themselves with?




Many people ask these questions because they have been taught that disabled people can’t, or more dangerously, shouldn’t be sexual at all.



I wanted to start that conversation and help people to realise that yes, disabled people can be sexy and hot if they choose to.

I was not being pitied or treated as if I couldn’t have sex at all (Picture: Charlie Garner)

My quest to provide disabled people access to positive sexual representations led me to the opportunity to shoot my first gay porn scene, with HimerosTV out of the United States.

They reached out to me and asked if I would be interested in providing authentic disability representation in gay porn. I was, of course, very eager and I knew how important this could be.

I loved doing it so much, not because I wanted to be a ‘porn star,’ but because it was an opportunity for people to see a disabled person having sex, and dare I say, enjoying themselves while doing so.

I was not being pitied or treated as if I couldn’t have sex at all. Here in this arena, my disabled body was powerful and sexy.

We shot it at my home, in my accessible space, where I felt the most empowered.

The other performer worked with me and my body throughout to ensure that my disability needs (getting me out of my wheelchair and into bed), and my comfort was considered every step of the way.

I still find myself still smiling about the scene because I know that it created change, and I am proud to have had a hand (and other body parts, too) in that.

I wanted disabled people to have a space where they could express what makes them feel hot (Picture: Graham Isador)

The experience left me with an absolute hunger to do more films, but also with a burning desire to find more ways to include sexuality in our wider discussions about what disability access means and why it is important.

In the world of disability, we are most comfortable when we talk about access. It tends to be our big buzz word in the disability community: accessibility.

But when we talk about accessibility, we only ever mention things like ramps, push buttons or lifts so that someone with a mobility device can access a space. I wondered why we never, ever talk about what it might mean for a disabled person to have access to their own body or their sexuality.



I wanted this question answered so earlier this year, before filming, I went viral after starting the campaign #DisabledPeopleAreHot on Twitter. I wanted people to look at real images of disabled people taking ownership of their sexuality as well as their disabled bodies.

It created a space where disabled people could express what makes them feel hot, sexy, or even just happy; sentiments that we hardly ever consider as a society at large, if we dare to consider disabled people at all.

We never see images like this in our mainstream media, and so it was a beautiful sight to watch my Twitter feed explode with imagery from a myriad of disabled people highlighting their own personal journeys with disability acceptance.

Hopefully the hashtag and my film will open the door for other disabled people to showcase their sexuality, whether that be through porn or some other art form.

I urge you to remember that disabled people deserve access to all areas of society – and that includes sex and sexuality.

Expand your views on accessibility to include ramps to a sex club, lifts to a sexuality conference and push buttons that will bust open the doors to sexual liberation.

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