My name is Lamp and I wish that I was a dragon who could burn this shit world to a crisp. I wouldn't really do it, but I could, and that would be a comfort to me living in a society that really wants me gone. xe/xem/xyrs pronouns plox. ♥ ♦ /♣/♠

Fancy Gay

I’m fancy gay because my full identity has a lot of words in it: sensual asexual polygreyromantic agender dyadic transsexual. This page is to explain those words if you do not know them or you want to know how they refer to me individually.

Asexual - I do not experience sexual attraction to anyone. My feelings on sex itself are more indifferent than anything, but sometimes they will swerve into positive or negative. No libido, but occasional aimless arousal.

Sensual - I tag sensual on for a couple reasons: 1) it is my dominant sense of attraction to other people, essentially taking the place of how most people experience sexual attraction, 2) my desire to touch has always seemed particularly relevant to my identity in my head, 3) it is an easy way of communicating that I enjoy touching/cuddling and may potentially enjoy sex on a sensual level, while a lot of other asexuals are touch-averse, and 4) “cuddlebug” is a bit too silly of a word for me to shove into my identity.

Polygreyromantic - poly means many. I can experience romantic attraction to people of many different genders/presentations. Grey comes from a series of ace/aro spectrum terms and in the context of orientations means that attraction happens rarely or only under very specific circumstances. So I rarely experience romantic attraction, but when I do, it can be to anyone of a number of genders.

Agender - if a very small portion of the gender spectrum were represented on a graph, with one axis representing how male one feels, and the other representing how female one feels, I am at or near the coordinate (0,0). I also like to describe my gender as existing, but in the same sense that an “empty” glass is actually full, but of air instead of liquid.

Dyadic - as far as is known, I fit into the sex binary. My genitals, reproductive organs, and natural hormone production match up (though like most people, I haven’t bothered to check chromosomes) and as such I am not classified as intersex. This isn’t a part of my identity alone any more than I can identify as, say, having brown hair, but it does have to do with the next term.

Transsexual - that dyadic body I have? I would vaguely prefer the other kind. That’s it, pretty much.