Clothes Say Much About Who You Are

Consider what persona you wish to convey when you go out flirting to meet a new man. Your displayed persona (how you dress and behave) will determine to a large degree which type men approach you. If you dress like either a slut or a sweet virgin, people immediately assume that is really you and treat you accordingly. Unfortunately in environments like cabarets and bars, competition to attract men is so intense that many women feel obliged to exhibit excessive sexuality. This does not allow each woman much leeway to express her real persona.

Every social space has an unwritten code of conduct and acceptable dress code. To violate these codes labels you as being an amateur and therefore at the bottom of the pecking order. Group standards and peer pressure are heartless when it comes to who is accepted and who is rejected. Don't forget that you are competing with every other woman there to capture the attention of the best man possible. The woman who never gets a man to help send her genes on to future generations knows that a part of her dies. This flirting and dating game is deadly serious. It is important to understand the rules and put all your energy into getting what you want.

Two Main Considerations For Dressing

The first rule for selecting your attire is to wear an appropriate outfit for the occasion. Check before you go on how the other women usually dress where you are going. Don't copy the others exactly but do wear the same type of clothing that is the established norm for that occasion. It is important to not be so different that you stand out as being ignorant about the unwritten rules. Your goal (and the goal of every other woman there) is to stand out as special (men like trophies). You also want to appear desirable (good possibility for future intimacy) and available (not already attached to a guy).

That brings us to the second rule: Choose your attire to display your true or desired persona. It is not only important to attract the men but, even more important that you attract the right type of men. Men are very visual because of their ancestors' hunting background. When they go hunting, they have a picture already in their mind of what they want and use their eyes to search for it. From their ancient past, their brain is geared to be keenly watchful for flying things if they are bird hunting. If hunting for ground animals, they are especially alert to critters scurrying around on the ground. Where you will be going, the men will be hunting for women. So dress feminine!

It Pays to Advertise

You need to display subtly that you are a sexually alive woman who is approachable. Colors are especially important to men. You want to appear approachable so DO NOT wear deep burgundy or plum. That makes you look too strong and scares most men. Pink is flattering to nearly all skin tones and is inviting to men. Pink says, "I am gentle and not overpowering."

A little red in accessories is sexy. Avoid sickly looking yellow-green. A wise investment for every woman is a consultation with a color and makeup consultant. Wearing clothes and makeup that are your best colors will dramatically enhance how you feel and how people relate to you. A consultation with a color expert is money well spent at least once.

One study at the University of Rochester discovered that men spent more money on dates with women wearing red. The researchers believe this attraction to red could be in men's genes. It may be linked to ovulation signaling in primates, where the females of the species' rumps become engorged with blood when ready for breeding. Wow! Better get a red skirt!

Likes Attract Likes: Dress like a Princess and Attract a Prince.

Women who can choose their mate like to have lots of possibilities to pick from. That pool of choices is made up mostly of the men she attracts in her way. How she dresses has much to do with the type of men she will attract.

If there are guys coming around who she doesn't want to mess with, it may indicate that she should change her clothes style to attract different type men.



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