Thin privilege is not having to feel like you have to constantly tell people how good your diet is, and how good your health is, when you talk about having your next child. Thin privilege is not worrying about what people are saying in the backs of their minds. I get my sugar, cholesterol, and heart checked every year even though I’m under 30, partially because I want to be able to tell naysayers that they don’t know everything about fat health. I wear my really low cholesterol, excellent sugar and excellent heart rate like a ‘I TOLD YOU SO’ badge to the world. That shouldn’t even be necessary.

I’ve seen a lot of stuff on fertility and pregnancy in this blog and it absolutely breaks my heart. So I just want to lay down some reassurances to all of the readers struggling with the idea of getting pregnant or being pregnant and facing discrimination. I’m speaking only from the point of view of an overweight, straight, CIS woman, but I hope everyone can find some empathy here.

I am 350 lbs. I’ve been 350 lbs for ten years. In 2008 I got pregnant and lost a baby, only to get pregnant a month after that miscarriage. Needless to say I conceive very quickly. I carried the next baby to full term. My doctor had faith in me, never once mentioned my weight as a possible cause of my miscarriage, and never once said I was putting my child at risk. I feel this is partially due to the fact that he understood my health on an individual basis instead of the broad overreaching assumptions the prenatal industry makes on overweight women. The results: I had an emotionally and physically healthy pregnancy with little complications, none of which had to do with my weight.

Here I am at six months pregnant (in case anyone would like to know what a large woman can look like while pregnant) on a hiking trip with some friends.

Here I am after a long and normal labor that ended in an emergency c-section due to the time frame:

And here’s what happens to a woman who happens to be overweight when she has a child. (note no apocalypse or dire problems as a result of my fat ass. Hidden face because she’s just a child and this is a public blog) It can be JOYFUL

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t create the life you so want to create because you are fat. If that’s the only reason, or there’s an assumption of health BASED on your size…naysayers can kindly GTFO.

And about fertility…well…that is a load of overblown assumption as well. I stopped birth control on February 26th. I am now 11 weeks pregnant.

FAT DOES NOT EQUAL UNABLE OR UNDESERVING OF THIS KIND OF JOY