This is going to be a bummer, sorry, but I need help.

My husband is dying. He has been given about 3 weeks to two months. We’ve had a horrible year since his diagnosis, with three surgeries including one that has now left him unable to use the right side of his body. His oncologist believe any treatment will shorten his life.

I’m 30. We’ve been together for 14 years. I have had him in my life for more than I can say anything but my parents. He knows me more than anyone else. He is my best friend. We have built a life together—we are a fitted, matched pair. I am emotionally stunted, and he taught me it was OK to be open with people, and still could be safe. We had our lives planned together—from how much money we saved to what adventures we would put off for the future.

And in a month he will be gone. We never got to buy a house. We never got to have kids. We never got to go to the Grand Canyon together. We never got to live our life. We never got to do those adventures. We were just getting started.

I do not know what to do. I do not know how to be alone. I don’t know how to live without him, or what I will do. He’s just going to spend the next month fading away.

What am I supposed to do? How can I help him? How does anyone do this?