

WMILLETTE

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Join Date: Dec 20, 2010

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Help....im engaged to be married to a chinese lady from peking south china. She is 36 married in china to chinese male she has 2 children 17 and 10, and she addopted her brothers 10 yr old child, she filed for divorce with a larwyer the other day and when done were to get married in about 6 months,,,,,i am 38 male white american with average income small appartment and nice belongings and car and motorcycle,,,extreemly eduicated and very spiritual....my fieancee works in a massage parlor with all chinese women and her customers are all wealthy males which worries me.....we havent been togeather long, she tells me her husband has money and big home in china, she wont tell me why she left him and im worried she will marry me then after greencard divorce me and bring her x to usa and remarry him....i hear thats common....she does show me affection holding hands touching my face, kissing and even making out with tounge in public, she is like owned by her american boss..she works 12hr days 7 days week and then goes home with boss to sleep. We barely get to see eachother cus boss say i cant hang around work because i scare customer away since i a male and customers only want to see females there,i tried to get her to move in for christmas since we are engaged and she wont because boss made her promise she sleep at boss house till boss get back frome china vacation, so i am sad about that , i got her to promise day after boss come home she move in with me so we can spend more time togeather before and after her work,yesterday i brought her home and laid in bed with her and we got hot and heavy but no sex she did however touch me on my privates.....then a phone called and i had to rush her back to work as always because 1 customer come in she hasto run work is far more important than spending time with me..



Please i need to know how to judge the relationship i dont know if she is serious or just playing me..i have alot more info just ask me and i will reply fast so you can give me any advice ...good or bad i appreciate it....





She does say, honey dont worry i love you forever, and i miss you, and i want to marry you..





She has told her friends her family mom dad about me and marrying me or so she says...boss and coworkers and her sister deffinitly know...



Also her older sister lives very close to me and has her greencard already if thats rellavent.her sister works and sleeps at same boss home and job.



How can i judge if im being taken for?

She wants me to buy her a car and bigger home and more gifts like clothes and stuff.

Also she does not expect to pitch in for any bills or food or anything she expects to keep and save all her money and i cant afford to support her like that....





I have my own place and all the bills i can afford now and taking her to lunch every day and gas back and forth to see her has taken me broke already..next month im supposed to buy airfair and hotel and rental car to los angelos so she can show to court





