I want to say first that I am truly blessed and relieved to have recently found this blog. I have been going through a very dark time recently. It seems like everyone has been against me because of my weight. I literally got fired from my job because of it, and only a week before Christmas. Knowing there are people who will accept me for who I am and who understand what I have to deal with is what keeps me going.



The holidays were absolutely terrible for me. My ex-boyfriend sent me a Christmas card with a picture of him and his new (sickly thin) wife, just to rub in the fact that he dumped me. That was horrible, but it wasn’t nearly as bad as receiving a Facebook message from someone I thought was a friend. Here is her letter in full:



Hey!



(Her boyfriend) and I are doing great, thanks! Sadly, we won’t be having a potluck this year, since we’re going to spend a couple weeks abroad.



As for New Year’s resolutions: I’m going to try being more helpful to people. Actually, if you want, maybe I could get a head start! I’ve been trying something called “Affirmations,” and I think they might do you some good! Since you said you were having some weight problems, I wrote this for you. Try writing it word-for-word every morning, or just print it out and put it someplace where you’ll see it every day:



I am strong.

I am in control.

I can lose weight.

I can be successful.

My dreams are here.

My goals are achievable.

I will NOT hold myself back.

I will NOT ever accept defeat.

I am capable of earning all I want.

I am ready to make a positive change.

I will take every chance to better myself.

I will always aspire to being the best I can be.

I will NOT call myself fat, obese, or anything negative.

I will NOT hide from opportunities, I will NOT be discouraged.

I am GREAT, I am POWERFUL, and I am READY for a new challenge.

I am making my choice, and I am choosing to lose weight. I am prepared!



I hope this helps! Let me know what you think! Also, don’t call yourself “fat” or “overweight” or anything negative. Instead, say you’re curvy, you’re plus-sized and working on it, or you’re a BBW! You don’t need to feel bad if you’re making progress!



(My EX friend.)



I was in utter shock when I read her letter. The hurtful sarcasm, the ignorance, and fat-shaming left me speechless. First of all, I never said my weight was a problem, and I never asked for her “help.” For a few days, I was so angry that I couldn’t even leave the house. Then, someone made a joke about “thin privilege” on Facebook. I had never heard of it, but when I looked it up, I found this site. Before, I would have carried my pain with me and let it consume me. NEVER AGAIN. This blog gave me the strength to realize that I don’t have to put up with having an impossible idea of beauty forced down my throat.



I’ve written my own “affirmations,” and I’m going to send them right back to my ex-friend! Not only that, but I’m going to share them with you, so that EVERYONE can stand up to the ignorant and hurtful people in their lives!

I am FAT.

I am in MYSELF.

I WON’T lose weight.

I am ALREADY successful.

My dreams are bigger than you.

My goals are grander than people’s.

I will NOT accept your insults or criticism.

I will NOT ever change who I know I truly am.

I am DESERVING of EVERYTHING I ever wanted.

I am ready to dismiss you if you ever try to stop me.

I will not let other people define what is better for me.

I will always make my OWN way, and never blame myself.

I will NOT say I’m curvy or plus-sized, I will NOT say I’m a BBW.

I will NOT hide behind euphemisms that were meant to shame me.

I am FAT, I am BEAUTIFUL, and I am PROUD to be HONEST about that.

I am making my choice, and I am CHOOSING TO BE FAT. I am PERFECTION!



THIN PRIVILEGE is looking down on others for their choices.



FAT POWER is being PROUD of my choices, and not being afraid to be HONEST about them! Today, my fat power defeats your thin privilege!