Having sex for the first time can be scary. So, imagine doing so with another woman. If you’re a first timer who has discovered their attraction to women, having sex with bisexual can be intimidating. As with any type of first time sex, such fears can be conquered before you’re in bed with your partner. Let’s look at some tips for first time bisexual experiences.

● Study other experiences as written by other women.

Who says you can’t learn what to expect from the first time by doing a little reading? Reading about experiences from other women who have had first time sex with bisexual women can help provide some insight into what to expect. By using a search engine like Bing or Google, you can uncover communities or forums where other lesbian and bisexual women have shared their experiences with others.

Tip: Forums and communities like Metafilter and Reddit are excellent places to read about first hand experiences with first time sex. There’s a lot to read, so don’t be afraid to jump in.

● Learn more about woman-woman dynamics.

A relationship, let alone sexual relationship, between two women is very different from relationships with men. Women, to providea common example, tend to feel more emotionally connected with their partner. Sex also differs—women can have sex with each other in different ways, naturally depending on their own personal preferences.

Tip: If with a bisexual woman, it’s best not to get hung up comparing yourself to men that she may have been with in the past. Your partner very likely is focusing on you and you only, so there’s no need to worry.

● No right or wrong way.

Both lesbian and bisexual woman have sex in different ways, whether satisfying the needs of their partner or their own. So, while there are many ways to go about having sex with your partner, don’t be discouraged if you feel like you’re doing something wrong with her.

Tip: Communication, when it comes to sex, is the most important thing to keep in mind—especially if it’s first time sex. Communicate with your partner to tell her how you feel, what you’d like to do and ask about her perspective.

● Don’t forget to be safe.

Mixing substance with sex can be dangerous, so it’s always recommended to avoid doing so. Even if it’s your first bisexual experience and you’d like to ‘loosen up’ ahead of time, it might not be the best choice. If you drink, you might overindulge and act out, possibly spoiling the occasion.

Besides inebriation, don’t forget to practice safe sex. Just like men, women are capable of passing on sexually transmitted diseases during any sexual experience—so, don’t think the both of you are safe as women.

Tip: Talk to your partner about safe sex. If sexually active, your partner should see a doctor to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.