thetruegayicon:

bromancing-the-stone: lepreax: the virgin table table most likely to go on a killing spree The biggest ego but smallest dick table

OK, no, stop.

Stop with this whole using “virgin” or “well you must have a small dick” as a way to insult misogynists.

Because all that does is reinforce the idea that men’s status comes from the size of the genitalia and the number of their sexual conquests.

This isn’t a matter of “oh, well, you have to be nice! Nobody’s going to listen to you if you yell at them or insult them!” This is literally a matter of saying stuff like that being counterproductive.

When you say stuff like “lol look who has a small dick” or “found the virgin” or the above comments, the message you’re sending is that the person making the misogynist comments is unimportant and doesn’t need to be listened to because they aren’t able to sleep with/have not slept with a lot of women.

You are literally making THEIR argument for them.

You are implying that women’s value comes from their sexual availability to men and that men’s value is earned through their position in the competition to women.

There are valuable critiques of this idea to be made– you can talk about how this social construction, the idea of toxic masculinity, etc., does lead to problems and, yeah, does lead to killing sprees when (white) men and boys feel as if they haven’t gotten their “due” (their “due,” of course, being access to girls and women, especially sexually). But that is a very, very different thing from insults that simply reinforce that social construction.

I get it, I really do. We’re all a part of the same culture, so telling a guy he has a small dick as an insult just seems “natural.” But it’s not, and it’s harmful on multiple levels.

tl;dr: insulting guys by calling them virgins or saying they have small dicks reinforces the idea that men’s power comes from their conquest of women and is therefore ultimately conterproductive and harmful to women so seriously please stop it. oh also it’s not cool to call people dicks in general because it’s casually cissexist.



#stop calling guys virgins and telling them they have small dicks as insults 2015

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