Seeking Permission From Men.

I think a lot of what stops women progressing forward is the need to go back and get permission from men to take our stuff back. Things like control of our sexuality.



Seems weird, right? Like, why would you need permission to take back your gear from the people who took it in the first place? Seems like you’d just stroll right in and say ‘ahh, that’s mine! Thanks,’ and walk right on out with it.

But we do. And it creates this awful inertia where we end up trying to convince men that we’re allowed to say no to things we knew always knew we should never be saying yes to.

For example, i was talking today about consent. Now, under any other conceivable circumstance, if someone is intoxicated, they can’t give their consent for anything. They can’t sign a document, they couldn’t buy a house or a car, in fact - you can’t even buy a house sober without a three day cooling off period. People take consent very seriously when it applies to pretty much any other sphere of life - except when it comes to spunting your babies in someone else’s womb.

There’s still this crazy idea that it’s okay to fuck a woman when she’s drunk. It doesn’t exist everywhere - for example, you wouldn’t see someone taking advantage of someone in a movie now without there being a moral kickback for doing so. In fact, you wouldn’t even see a drunk woman throwing herself at a man and him saying ‘sure, okay!’ without there being kickback - but in general society, it seems like some people still think it’s okay to use a woman for sex when she’s drunk. Especially if she says yes. ‘Oh hey, the drunk woman said yes! I got a yes! That’s consent, right? Going in, guys, wish me luck!!’

So, for some reason, we, the women, keep trying to convince men that it’s not okay. Trying to get their permission and get them on-board with it not being okay. Saying in small voices ‘well, er, you know, it’s er.. it’s kinda rape-y don’t you think?’ and hoping they agree and stop doing that to us.



Well. It is rape. That’s rape. And that’s what we mean by rape culture, the idea that that’s okay and - Oh haha! i’m doing it right now. Trying to convince you, the male reader.

Well, no. We don’t need permission to take our sexuality back. It’s ours. You never shoulda taken it in the first place.

So, from now on, we’re setting the rules, and you are abiding by them. So while we’re here, as per my example - don’t fuck drunk girls under any circumstances. Even if they’re begging for it. A drunk yes is not a yes. If you can’t make someone buy a house that way, you certainly can’t put babies in them that way.

Thanks in advance.

And no, we don’t need your permission to state that, and enact that. We don’t need your buy-in. We don’t need your opinions. We don’t even need your understanding. It’s OUR sexuality. You don’t get to put your rules on it.

Not your call.

And yet, there i go again, trying to get your permission to not have your permission!!

AGH! Enough. So, from now on, we make the rules. Please stand by for further instructions. Thanks.