Carol Santa Fe, 45, from San Diego, California, says she has been in love with Santa Fe train station since she was nine years old. (Picture: Caters)

A woman has ‘married’ a train station after claiming they have spent the past 36 years in love with one another.

Carol Santa Fe, 45, from San Diego, California, says she has been in love with Santa Fe train station since she was nine years old.

The volunteer support worker takes a 45 minute bus ride to the station every day to spend time with the building.

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Although their marriage is not legally binding, she ‘tied the knot’ with the building in 2015 and celebrated their one year anniversary last Christmas.


The 45-year-old says she has ‘sex’ with the building mentally and identifies herself as an objectum sexual – a person who is sexually attracted to inanimate objects and structures.



Carol didn’t discover this until she was 40 after she searched online ‘I am in love with a building.’

It is a worldwide debate whether the phenomenon is a sexuality, fetish or mental condition.

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The volunteer support worker takes a 45 minute bus ride to the station every day to spend time with the building. (Picture: Caters

Carol said: ‘I am married to the Santa Fe train station – her name is Daidra. We didn’t start a relationship until 2011 but I had been in love with the station since I was a young girl.

‘When we got married, I stood there and I told her that I take it as my partner. It was the happiest day of our lives.

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‘I take a 45 minute bus ride every night to see the station. When I get there I say hello to her – I then walk around the block circling around her, trying not to let anyone notice I am talking.

‘There is a private bit where two walls meet, I go there to touch her, which I do by leaning against her with my clothes on. When I’m touching her, I feel as though it actually holds me and kisses me.

‘I don’t have physical sex with the station in public, I want to be respectful. I wouldn’t do that with a human in public so why would I do it in this case. I do have sex with Daidra in my mind when I stand there.

‘I especially like when I hear the trains rev up their engines – it turns me on.’

‘I especially like when I hear the trains rev up their engines – it turns me on,’ she says (Picture: Caters News)

Carol, who has lived in California since she was three, claims the train station is the love of her life despite being in a previous relationship with a man.

She added: ‘I loved a human once before, his name was Tom and we were together for 18 months.

‘But it didn’t work out and I felt amazing when I got into a relationship with Diadra because she told that she would never leave me.

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‘I love her so much, she is so romantic. We first consummated our love a few years ago when I felt the wall behind me, and I felt this energy.

‘I came close to an orgasm and I was scared I’d get caught by the station staff. I don’t ever want the security guards to find out – I am a closeted objectum sexual.

‘But I only hide my sexual attraction to the station because I simply don’t want people to find out and ban me from seeing her. It’s not at all because I am ashamed.



‘Erica Eiffel got banned from the Eiffel Tower for kissing it and straddling it – so I don’t want to get banned like she did.

Erika Eiffel, an objectum sexual, famously married Paris’s Eiffel Tower in 2007 (Picture: Alchetron/Erika Eiffel)

‘I don’t like to publicly show anything between me and Daidra as I have more respect than that.’

Erica Eiffel, an objectum sexual, famously married Paris’s Eiffel Tower in 2007.

Another well-known objectum sexual is Eklöf Berliner-Mauer, who married the Berlin wall in 1979 and was the first person to come forward with objectum sexuality.

Carol has been working as a volunteer for emotional support groups for years.

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She said: ‘Objectum sexuality is not a mental illness like the media always makes out. It is our sexuality, just like being lesbian or bisexual – we are not crazy. People just don’t understand.

‘I am so scared of getting caught, so I don’t tell the station security that we are married. I was love to just walk around and look at my partner and enjoy the stations company.

‘Daidra and I chat about normal things, I always tell her how my day has been. I feel really lonely not having anyone to talk to about it.

‘Daidra has been the most stable partner I have ever had. I have had the time of my life being her wife.

‘I used to be scared of being in love with humans, but I’m not scared with Daidra.

‘I can never leave San Diego, because my lover is here. I could never love another train station – she is the one.’