In the early years of the government of King Henry II, he had relied on his mother, the Empress Matilda, for advice on many different matters. As she grew older, Matilda’s health declined, she became more pious and her influence over her son waned as he gained greater experience as a monarch. Regarding church matters, Henry and his archbishop of Canterbury, Theobald, had a good working relationship. Theobald had an experienced cadre of clerks working for him, many of whom made their way into the king’s administration, including Thomas Becket. Henry eventually appointed Becket Chancellor, the most important position in England.

Becket accompanied King Henry to Normandy several times on business and Matilda, who had made her primary residence in Rouen, may have met him there. Matilda knew Becket had a reputation for enriching himself and for living a life of luxury. He was also a pluralist, meaning he held more than one church office. Matilda disapproved of the practice of pluralism. When Archbishop Theobald died in 1161, Henry decided his best friend Thomas would be the man to become the new archbishop of Canterbury and felt he would cooperate with him on church matters. Matilda made it clear she did not approve of the appointment but Henry ignored her advice.

Becket was consecrated as Archbishop of Canterbury in June of 1162 but there was trouble immediately between him and the king with Becket putting the interests of the church ahead of the Crown. Thus began many long years of conflict. The main sticking point for Henry was his determination to limit the powers of the Church courts in England which he felt endangered the legal powers of the Crown. During the quarrels, Becket did nothing to ingratiate himself with Matilda.

In October of 1164, without permission, Becket fled into exile in France and began plotting against the king. There were many attempts to reconcile the archbishop and the king and Matilda did whatever was in her power to help in the early stages of the dispute, even going so far to help maintain some of the men who went into exile with Becket. Becket’s friends believed Matilda was a friend of the church, supported church reform and had some influence over her son. By the same token, Henry was interested in maintaining his mother’s backing for his stand in the matter.

Matilda may or may not have been intent on a reconciliation between her son and Becket. But being the diplomat she was, she made an effort. A direct appeal from Pope Alexander III prompted Matilda to write the following letter to Becket in 1165.

“To Thomas archbishop of Canterbury, Matilda the empress

My lord Pope sent to me, enjoining me, for the remission of my sins, to interfere to renew peace and concord between you and the king, my son, and to try to reconcile you to him. You, as you well know, have asked the same thing from me, wherefore, with the more goodwill, for the honour of God and the Holy church, I have begun and carefully treated of that affair. But it seems a very hard thing to the king, as well as to his barons and council seeing he so loved and honoured you, and appointed you lord of his whole kingdom and of all his lands, and raised you to the highest honours in the land, believing he might trust you rather than any other; and especially so, because he declares that you have, as far as you could, roused his whole kingdom against him; nor was it your fault that you did not disinherit him by main force. Therefore I send you my faithful servant, Archdeacon Laurence, that by him I may know your will in these affairs, and what sort of disposition you entertain towards my son, and how you intend to conduct yourself, if it should happen that he fully grants my petition and prayer on your behalf. One thing I plainly tell you, that you cannot recover the king’s favour, except by great humility, and most evident moderation. However what you intend to do in this matter signify to me by my messenger and your letters.”

Matilda would not countenance any reduction in royal dignity or authority, in essence fully backing her son. She remained true to her personal convictions. Politically she could do nothing to influence events. In actuality, the breech in relations between Henry and Becket had the effect of reducing Matilda’s influence with her son even further. Matilda would not live to see the denouement of these events. She died on September 10, 1167. Thomas Becket, Archbishop of Canterbury was murdered by four of King Henry’s knights in Canterbury Cathedral on December 29, 1170.

Further reading: “Thomas Becket” by Frank Barlow, “The Empress Matilda: Queen Consort, Queen Mother and Lady of the English” by Marjorie Chibnall, “Letters of the Queens of England: 1100-1547” edited by Anne Crawford