We have been married for 15 years now. Lately I have been feeling so lonely because my husband doesn’t take any interest in me. We are no longer the way we used to be. Though it’s a love marriage but he is no longer the emotional support, my best friend like how he was in the beginning. I think somewhere in between routine, our work, children we seem to have lost each other. I don’t even know whether there is a way back anymore.

Marriage is a life changing institution for all those who have been or are going to be a part of it.

Every individual may have different reasons to marry someone, however both end up getting impacted internally through the process.

It is an alliance of two people and- Their Families, Their Mindsets, Their Opinions, Their Choices, Their Likes/Dislikes, Their Pasts, Their Goals; to name a few.

There are many things we hear from people regarding marriage that either confuses, demotivates or makes us doubt the whole concept of marriage.

Here are a few things that we get to hear more often than not

“Once you get married everything will be fine”

“Your life will fall into place”

“If not now then when?”

“Your biological clock is ticking off”

“You don’t want to be too old, otherwise you won’t get a good match”

Other marriages or experiences can impact our decision of getting married, however, we must understand that it is always going to be unique for each person.

We must understand that things always come with both benedictions and challenges.

Every situation has two sides to it, then why be biased for expecting a smooth journey in our married lives?

Marriage is a beautiful medium to gain insight into ourselves-- what upsets us, what are our strengths in a relationship, our core beliefs regarding relationships, what are our qualities, how we are as a marriage partner etc.

It gives us a true reflection of our own character and that is because it makes us reach our most vulnerable side, our darkest and deepest side, which is accessible by our partners.

The good thing is it can help us grow through these experiences.

“Marriage is a PROCESS and not a DESTINATION”

It is a work that needs to be done at all times from both the sides.

As a cycle runs on two tyres, similarly marriage stands on two shoulders. It can never sustain with one sided efforts.

Since every person is different, hence every bond, every marriage would also be different. Which means people’s challenges would differ in nature.