What to Say to Make a Beautiful Woman Feel Attracted to You

Dan Bacon is a dating and relationship expert and the author of The Flow , an eBook that teaches you the easiest way to get laid or get a girlfriend. Dan has been helping new men succeed with women for more than 14 years.Founder and CEO of TheModernMan.com

In this post, I’m going to give you three different examples of things that you can say to a beautiful woman to make her feel attracted to you.

These conversation examples allow you to stand out from other guys who hit on her, make her feel good around you and begin building up her attraction for you.

Before I give you the examples of what to say, I have to give you the background on what it’s like to be a beautiful woman. Why? Doing so ensures that you understand why the conversation examples will make her feel attracted to you.

It’s important that you understand that first because otherwise, it’s just a bunch of words and it doesn’t really make much sense.

Let’s begin by looking at…

The Life of a Beautiful Woman

Imagine what it’s like…

She’s walking through the world and everywhere she goes, people look at her. When she’s walking along a busy street, guys stop and stare. If a guy is walking along the street, people don’t stop and stare and say, “Woah…look at him.” However, if a beautiful woman is walking down the street, heads are turning.

Guys are stopping to stare at her, trying to smile at her and catch eye contact and sleazy guys are calling out to her, “Heyyy baby! What’s going on?” She’s getting all sorts of attention, all sorts of smiles and when she interacts with a guy, most of the time, he will be the sort of guy who puts on the nice guy persona. He will be really nice to her, give her special treatment and treat her extra well, to hopefully impress her and get her to like him.

The life of a beautiful woman is different.

Her beauty separates her from other, normal looking human beings. The more beautiful a woman is, the more difficult it is for most people to relate to her and interact with her in a normal way.

When a guy starts interacting with a beautiful woman who’s done herself up with make up, has a sexy body and is giving off that certain attitude of, “I’m too good for you” he can feel it.

She knows that he can feel it because, if he’s like most of the guys that she meets, he suddenly starts to feel unsure of himself. He looks nervous, he looks tense and he doesn’t behave like his normal, natural self. She senses that he’s unsure of himself and is putting on a bit of an act (e.g. of being a really nice guy, bragging about how much money he plans to make, talking about his achievements in life, etc) to hopefully impress her.

He doesn’t really know what to do in the presence of this beautiful goddess, this beautiful woman. She knows how much power her beauty has over him…and she doesn’t like it.

She doesn’t like it when she keeps experiencing that (guys feeling unsure about themselves around her and then putting on an persona/changing their natural personality in the hope that they can impress her) with guys. It’s the same thing day in, day out.

So, what a lot of beautiful women experience is that guys either don’t approach them at all, stare at them or call out to them on the street. Nice guys will treat her extra special and nice and be romantic and sweet and hope that, if he is just nice enough to her, she might take pity on him and give him a chance to be with her.

A beautiful woman also encounters a lot of sleazy guys, guys being a dick and saying, “Give me your number” or “Hey!! You got a boyfriend?” So, she’s not really getting the experience that she’s looking for. What she’s hoping for is that a guy is actually going to flirt with her and hit on her properly. She’s hoping that a guy is going to make her feel attracted in many different ways, but since most guys don’t know how to do that, she misses out on that experience.

A classic example of this is the interview with Bar Refaeli, after she had won the Maxim Hot 100 Women award. She says in the interview (below) that guys don’t even hit on her. She isn’t counting all the sleazy guys who call out to her, the nice guys who try to get her to “like” them for being a good guy (rather than hitting on her and making her feel attracted) or the men who stare at her.

What she means by “hit on her” is when a guy approaches her in a confident, easy going way and then flirts with her to build up sexual tension between them. Guys who hit on her incorrectly are not counted because those guys are irrelevant and forgettable. If a guy doesn’t know how to properly hit on a woman, it doesn’t matter if he is good looking – most women will simply reject him because he doesn’t know how to make her feel how she really wants to feel when she interacts with a guy.

In the video above, Bar Refaeli gives an example of a time when a guy tried to hit on her (but did it wrong). He stood in front of her and start speaking out his phone number, which surprised and confused her. She rejected him by saying that she was taken (in a relationship), even though she wasn’t.

Important: When she says, “Yeah!” in response to Conan’s question, “That works?” regarding the guy who used the awkward approach on her, she is not saying, “Yes, that works.” What she is saying is that she is hoping to be approached. The approach did *not* work. The guy got rejected because he went “straight for the kill” rather than attracting her and connecting with her first.

Not knowing how to properly hit on a woman, the guy probably decided to just behave like an arrogant dick (probably because he heard that beautiful woman like bad guys or are attracted to arrogant guys) and speak out his number to her. When she said, “What?” he replied, with, “Well, you want to write down my number don’t you?” which is just a weird, awkward and unloving way to go about talking to a woman.

So, what most beautiful women experience are either guys are who are too nice around them, nervous around them, tense around them, putting on an act around them, can’t be natural around them, being sleazy, being a dick or just not approaching them at all. It’s the same thing over and over and over again.

What a beautiful woman is hoping to experience is to meet a guy who is not intimidated by her, but can also speak to her in a loving, cool, easy going way. She’s not hoping to meet a guy who isn’t intimidated by her and tries to show her that by being an asshole or an arrogant prick.

There’s a lot of crap advice on the internet that you will find, where they will tell you that with beautiful woman, you’ve got to say negative things to them, bring them down, attack their self esteem and then you might able to get a chance with them.

That is really bad advice because you don’t need to do that to get a beautiful woman to respect you, feel attracted to you and be nice to you. It’s not a loving thing to do, it’s not a cool thing to do and really, if you’re like most of the guys who are trying to learn how to be successful with women, you’re a good guy and you don’t want to be dick, you don’t want to be an asshole.

You just want to be a cool, good, loving guy and hook up with a beautiful woman or many beautiful woman; whatever applies to you.

Examples of What to Say to Three Different Types of Beautiful Women

What I’m going to do now is give you three examples of things that you can say to different types of beautiful women in a loving way, that shows her that you’re not intimidated by her.

The three examples are for:

A beautiful stripper. A beautiful model. A beautiful actress.

1. A Beautiful Stripper

If you’re in a strip club, the beautiful women in there will usually be more friendly than the average beautiful woman that you could meet in other places. The strippers will sit down with guys in the hope that the guy will then pay for a dance, buy her a drink or give her a tip. So, she’s going to be presenting herself in a fairly friendly, easy going way.

Yet, despite how easy it is to talk to strippers, most guys don’t make those beautiful women feel attracted to them because they are the same type of guy that she meets all night long. What she gets is guys bragging about how much money they make (or are going to make), trying to impress her by saying they’ll take her on a holiday or buy her expensive gifts or asking if she’s got a boyfriend.

It’s the same thing every night. For her, most guys just blend into one big mass of compliments, requests for dates, offers to buy her things and enquiries about whether or not she has a boyfriend.

So, to make her feel attracted to you, what you can say instead is this…

You’re sitting down with her and you ask her is she is going to YOU a drink. After 30 seconds or so of conversation, you can say, “Yeah, so when are you going to get me a drink?” She’s most likely going to smile and say, “No, you’ve got to get me a drink” or she’s going to laugh about it and say something like, “Don’t you know the way it works? The guy has to get the girl a drink! :)”

Here is an example of how it could play out:

You: [Say in a confident, easy-going way] So, when are going to get me a drink?

Her: [Laughing] Ohh no, you’ve got to get me a drink! 🙂

You: Oh, you didn’t get the memo? Management changed the rules here. Now, when a cool, handsome guy sits down, you’ve got to get him a drink. So…I’ll get a Sambuca on the rocks.

What’s going on in that conversation example is this: You’re showing her that you’re not intimidated by her. You’re showing her that her beauty doesn’t make you feel like, “Ohhh, wow. I’ve got to try to impress this girl and hopefully get a chance with her.”

You’re also not saying and doing what pretty much every other guy that she meets says and does. You’re not afraid to make a joke and have a fun conversation with her. You’re not being an asshole by cracking a joke like that. You’re simply a cool, easy-going, loving guy who isn’t afraid of her. That is really refreshing, enjoyable and attractive for beautiful women who are bored of encountering guys who are either too nice or too much of an asshole.

So, how will saying something like that make her feel attracted to you?

You’re using humor to make her laugh, which is very attractive to women. Women love to be with a guy who can make them laugh. You’re displaying confidence, which is very attractive to women. Women want to be with a guy who is emotionally strong and confidence is a big part of that.

If you look at the dictionary definition of attraction, you will see that attraction is:

Attraction (noun): A quality or feature of someone that evokes interest, liking or desire.

What’s happening is that you are presenting qualities and features about yourself that will evoke that “interest, liking and desire.”

Confidence and humor are not the only qualities that you can present to her that are going to make her feel attracted to you. I teach more than 100 different ways that you can make a woman feel attracted to you.

Most guys are stuck on the whole “looks” thing and if they don’t feel that they’re good looking enough, they assume that they can’t get a beautiful woman.

…but, that’s not true at all.

The more ways that you can attract a woman with your personality, the more attractive you are to her. Most of the guys that a beautiful woman interacts with won’t know how to make her feel attracted in many different ways. Most guys are thinking that it’s all just about looks, bragging about how much money they might be able to make, show her their big muscles and things like that. Yet, the truth is that a beautiful woman can be attracted to a man for so many other different reasons.

Most men are willing to have sex with a beautiful woman right away, simply based on her appearance. She looks good, therefore I want to have sex with her. However, with a woman’s attraction to a man, it needs to be built up.

Some women will see a very good looking guy and be willing to have sex with him very quickly, but if they interact with the guy and he turns them off in many different ways (i.e. with his conversation style, lack of confidence, etc), they can and will lose interest most of the time.

The reason why average looking guys can pick up beautiful women, have a beautiful wife or have a beautiful girlfriend is that women can be attracted in many different ways. You can build up a woman’s attraction for you (within 1-5 minutes) by displaying many different personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women.

Some women require a much higher level of attraction before they are willing to kiss you, go on a date with you and have sex with you or have a relationship with you. However, many women (including beautiful women) will hook up with a guy simply based on light or fairly strong attraction.

Strippers are usually the type of woman that require a higher level of attraction. So, if a guy doesn’t know how to attract women in many different ways, then he’s probably not going to be able to pick the stripper up.

However, he will be able to make her feel some level of attraction for him. It’s important for you to realize that because, as a man, you need to realize that you can make women feel attracted to you in so many different ways. When you have that realization, you stop being so concerned about your looks and start focusing on attracting women in different ways.

2. A Beautiful Model

Imagine that you being talking to a beautiful woman and she says that she works as a model.

What most guys will do is either suddenly being to behave as though she is too good for him, or will say something typical like, “You’re very beautiful” or “Oh wow…what modelling agency do you work with?” It will be the same experience for her over and over again.

Guys will also find it difficult to behave like their normal, natural self around her. She will notice that (she’s been experiencing it most of her life with clueless guys) and will then begin to place the guy into the same category as the 1,000s of other guys who’ve had the same reaction to her.

So, what you can do instead is show her that you’re not intimidated by her, but do it in a loving way. Do it in a cool, easy-going way where you’re not being an asshole, you’re not being a dick; you’re just being a cool, easy-going guy.

Here is an example of how it could play out:

Her: I work as a model.

You: [Smile and say to her in a loving, easy-going way] Yeah, you know what? Before I came over to talk to you, I was thinking, “Check out the hands on that girl.” You’re a hand model, right?

Her: [Most-likely laughing and smiling] No, no – I’m not a hand model 🙂

You: Well, you’ve got great feet though. You’ve got to be a foot model, right? I mean, those are great feet.

By that point, she’s going to be laughing and telling you, “No, no – I’m a fashion model! :)” or whatever she works as.

You’ve shown her that you’re not intimidated by her and you’re not afraid to take a risk and say something a bit funny that other guys are worried might offend her. You’re just being a cool, easy-going guy and you’re not doing it in a mean, negative way. You’re doing it in a loving, cool, easy-going way.

So, once again: How will saying something like that make her feel attracted to you?

You’re using humor and you’re displaying confidence, both of which are very attractive to women.

Displaying confidence and using humor is not the only way that you can attract a woman with your personality, but it’s a start; it gets that attraction going. It evokes feelings of interest, liking and desire.

Attraction (noun): A quality or feature of someone that evokes interest, liking or desire.

3. A Beautiful Actress

Imagine that you meet a beautiful woman and she says that she works as an actress.

Most guys are going to feel a bit intimidated and ask what movies she has been in. So, you can show her that you’re not intimidated by her and you can do that in a loving way, by saying something like, “Yeah, you know what? I think I saw you in that…” and then say whatever big supermarket, grocery or department store chain is in your country.

If you’re in America, you might say Walmart. If you’re in Australia, you might say Coles or Woolworths, you might say Tesco in the UK and so on.

Here’s an example of how it might play out:

You: Yeah, you know what? I think I saw you in that Coles commercial. You’re that grocery girl, right? You’re the checkout girl that’s smiling and singing the song. That’s you, right?

Her: [Most-likely laughing and then beginning to tell you what she has acted in]

Once again, she will feel attracted to your confidence and ability to make her laugh. Displaying confidence and using humor is not the only way to naturally attract women to you, but it’s a start. The most important thing for you to realize is that you can make beautiful women feel attracted to you in so many different ways. The more ways that you can attract women to you, the more attraction they will feel for you.

The Truth About Attraction

A lot of guys don’t realize that they can attract women in so many different ways.

When it comes to a beautiful woman, most guys think (including myself before. This is how I used to think when I couldn’t get a girlfriend and couldn’t get beautiful women to feel attracted to me) that to get a beautiful woman, you’ve got to be a really handsome man. You’ve got to be tall, have big muscles, have a lot of money, an expensive car, a beautiful house and be able to take her around the world on expensive holidays.

Yet, that’s actually not the case at all.

Yes…

Those things (money, looks, height) CAN attract women; there’s no doubt about that at all.

However, you can still pick beautiful women up without having any of those sorts of things. You can still pick women up, based on the woman’s attraction for you and you can make her feel attracted to you in so many different ways.

A lot of guys don’t actually understand what attraction is. A lot of guys think that a woman’s attraction for a man is just about looks. That’s all they can really think. Yet, looks are not the only thing that can attract a woman to a man.

There are so many things about you, so many qualities that you can present to her that will evoke those feelings of interest, liking and desire. There are so many things that you can do and say around women that make them feel sexual desire.

There are specific ways that you can talk to a woman, which make her feel sexual desire. There are specific ways that you can use your body language, which will make a woman feel attracted to you. There are specific ways that you can respond to the way that a woman tests a guy during an interaction, which will make her feel attracted to you.

That is real.

You really can naturally attract women in so many different ways. The more ways that you can attract women to you, the more attraction they feel for you.

If you think about the example of Bar Refaeli, the model who doesn’t even get hit on, she’s just hoping that a guy is going to hit on her (properly), flirt with her, make her feel attracted in many different ways and then guide her to kissing, sex and a relationship. That way, SHE can experience love, instead of feeling lonely and left out. SHE can experience the happiness and joy that comes with a loving, passionate relationship.

Now, that said…not ALL beautiful women can’t get a date and aren’t being hit on.

However, what you need to understand is that pretty much ALL beautiful women get hit on in the wrong way. Most guys don’t know how to make women feel attracted to them in many different ways, so most of the guys that a beautiful woman has to hook up with, she does because it’s like, “Oh well, I can’t get anything else.”

She’s got loads of guys trying to get a date with her and take her out, but she’s not really feeling that much attraction.

Attraction (noun): A quality or feature of someone that evokes interest, liking or desire.

Most beautiful women don’t get to meet a guy who makes her feel really intense attraction very often. It might be one time every few months or once a year that she comes across a guy who really knows how to turn her on emotionally and mentally. For women, it’s not just about the physical, “Oh, okay…he looks good.” What she really wants is to be turned on mentally and emotionally by a guy who really knows how to make her feel attracted to him.

What I Hope That You Can Understand

What I hope that you can understand is that there is an opportunity for you.

Most of the guys that a beautiful woman meets don’t know how to interact with her in a way that makes her feel turned on. They just don’t know how to do it.

Most guys are in a state of shock when they see a beautiful woman. They suddenly start behaving tense or unnatural and are hoping to get a chance with her. They don’t realize that pretty much every guy reacts in that needy, insecure way and it turns her off. She is hoping to get a completely different reaction from a guy.

She is hoping to meet a guy who isn’t intimidated by her, but who is also a cool, easy-going, loving guy who can make her feel attracted.

I’ve given you a few different examples of what to say, but that is just a glimpse of what you can do to make women feel attracted to you. There are more than a hundred ways that I teach to make women feel attracted to you.

When you are the guy that is making a woman feel attracted to you in 5, 10, 15 or 20 different ways, then you’re the guy that she’s excited to be interacting with. You’re the guy that she wants to kiss. You’re the guy that she wants to go home and have sex with.

The guys that you see posting up success stories on my site are the guys who are using 5, 10, 15 or 20 different attraction techniques on a woman that they meet. Then, the woman is his because she is feeling so much attraction.

There are more attraction techniques that they can use, but they are only using that much and they are still getting the result. Why? When you know how to properly attract women, you have hardly any competition from other guys.

Most guys don’t even know about the attraction techniques that I teach (or that guys who are naturally good with women use), so they are doing 5, 10, 15 or 20 different things that are turning the woman OFF…and they don’t even know how to stop making the same mistakes over and over again.

The Reason Why it is Possible For an Average Guy to Attract a Beautiful Woman

The reason why it’s possible to attract a beautiful woman is that a woman’s attraction to a man is not limited to looks, height, money and social status.

Some beautiful women will only ever hook up with a guy who is very good looking like a model, or is very tall, muscular, has loads of money and loads of power in society.

However, most women have what I call an Open Type. Meaning that they’re open to being with all different types of guys, as long as the guy makes her feel attracted in many different ways, other than looks, height, money, social status and power.

This is the very specific and real reason why you see guys that you might consider to be ugly, guys that you think that you look better than or are better than in many different ways, with beautiful women.

Attraction isn’t limited to what most people think it is.

While we men select women mostly based on the woman’s appearance, women are more open in the way that they feel attracted to men.

Most guys don’t know this fact of attraction.

As a result of that, they feel insecure and unworthy around beautiful women, not even knowing that there are many different ways that they can make the beautiful woman feel attracted to them.

For example: A guy might be a good looking guy and work in a great job, but it doesn’t mean that he will be able to attract a beautiful woman for sex or a relationship.

He starts interacting with a beautiful woman is she seems interested initially because he looks good, but then she loses interest and he thinks, “Hhh…what’s going on here? Why can’t I get a girl?”

On the other hand, another guy is going through life as an “ugly” guy. For most of this life, he’s been saying to himself, “I can’t get beautiful women because I’m not good looking enough…I’m ugly” but he then sees other ugly guys with beautiful women or guys who he feels he looks better than with beautiful women and he is confused.

Even though guys see other ugly or average looking guys with beautiful women, they can’t connect the dots and work out the answer to the problem. They say, “Well, he must be rich or have a huge dick or something” or “That woman must be crazy.”

They just don’t realize that there are OTHER ways to attract women. They don’t realize that when you interact with a woman, that’s when the real magic happens. That’s when the real analysis about a guy happens and it is when the real decision (about whether to hook up with him or not) is made.

When you interact with a woman, how do you make her feel?

Is your conversation style making her feel sexually turned on or is just making her feel normal, friendly types of emotions? Is your body language subtly turning her off, or is it turning her on? How about the way that you’re presenting your personality: Is that turning her off or is it turning her on?

Most guys just don’t know how to attract women, but when you are the guy who knows how to attract women in many different ways at once, it is YOU who gets access to the beautiful women. You are the guy that they are excited to be interacting with, want to kiss, want to have sex with and want to be in a relationship with.

Most Beautiful Women Are Not Happy with the Options They Have

Just because pretty much every guy wants to have sex with a beautiful woman and she has loads of options to choose from, it doesn’t mean that she’s happy about the options.

Some beautiful women are lucky; they meet a great guy and are very happy. Yet, there are so many beautiful women who don’t meet the right guy for them and who are going through life being swooned over, having nice guys treat them extra well (in the hope of being “liked” for being a good guy rather than making her feel attracted) and having sleazy guys call out to them on the street.

Many beautiful women also settle to date and even get into relationships with guys who look physically good looking, but don’t have the skills to make her feel emotionally fulfilled. She yearns to meet a guy who can make her feel attracted and emotionally fulfilled, even if the guy doesn’t look like a model (most guys).

Some beautiful won’t settle for anything less than a very good looking, tall, muscular, rich man with loads of power in society, but it really is true that many beautiful women have what I call an Open Type.

That is why you see beautiful women with all sorts of guys. You see beautiful women with the sorts of guys that others may look at as being ugly or unattractive, or undeserving of a woman like that. Yet, to her, she is happy, she is fulfilled because he’s making her feel attracted in so many different ways and he’s making her feel how she really wants to feel with a guy.

My Question to You

Now that I’ve explained all that for you, the question I have for you is…

Are you going to be guy that stands out in a beautiful woman’s mind? Are you going to be the guy who makes her feel like, “Wow…this is different! I’m interested” where you evoke the feelings of interest, liking and desire to get the attraction flowing. Are you going to be that guy?

Or…

Are you going to be like the 1,000s of other guys that she keeps meeting who are doing the same thing over and over again? They’re making the same mistakes, saying the same sorts of things to her and she feels very bored by that.

You have the opportunity to be the guy who makes her feel attracted.

It’s actually very easy to do. Guys are always posting up success stories talking about how surprised they are at how easy it is to attract beautiful women. Prior to doing it, a lot of guys are thinking, “No, no, no! You can’t, you can’t. It’s all about looks. You can’t do it, you can’t do it.”

Yet, you actually can. That’s the really cool thing.

Are You Willing to Try This?

If you’re interested in learning how to make beautiful women feel attracted to you, then I welcome you to try my book The Flow. The Flow includes loads of tested, proven to work examples of what to say and do to make women feel attracted to you in many different ways.

Attracting women is so simple when you know what you’re doing. It’s one of the easiest things to do in life. However, if you don’t know what you’re doing and are making loads of mistakes while interacting with women, then attracting women is a very difficult, confusing and frustrating experience.

If you want to stop standing on the sidelines and just staring at beautiful women and you’d rather start having sex or being in love with a beautiful woman (or women), then I welcome you to try my proven techniques. I welcome you to try my book The Flow. What you will find when you begin using the techniques from The Flow is that women feel attracted to you in so many different ways.

The more of my techniques that you use in combination, the more attraction that women feel for you. You can attract the sorts of beautiful women that other guys see as being out of reach, out of their league or untouchable. You can make those women feel excited, delighted and eager to be with you.

You can make women feel so attracted to you that they smile ear to ear, giggle, touch you, hug you and really want to hook up with you. You can make women feel that way.

That is really true.

It’s actual.

It’s real.

You can actually do it, but most guys simply don’t know how to.

I hope that, if you’re interested in learning how to do it, that you give my book The Flow a try and you start using the techniques. When you do, you will see that it works and I just hope that you come back and are one of the generous ones who post up a success story.

If you want to see what other guys are experiencing by using my techniques, then go and read through the success stories and you will see that guys are experiencing things with women that other guys think are impossible.

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