In discussions of how to prepare girls for the realities of sexual violence in college, parents often ask me about reading materials. Here are my thoughts:

Parents really love "The Gift of Fear." I hate it. A lot of the advice is victim-blaming and can make a survivor feel shame following an assault. The ideas espouse there also don't do much (if anything) to prevent sexual assault. Avoid that one. Don't give it to your kid.

Instead, I recommend "Asking For It" by Kate Harding as a great place to start, followed by "Yes Means Yes!" by Jessica Valenti and Jaclyn Friedman and "American Hookup" by Lisa Wade.