Whips are used in a BDSM roleplaying scene by a dominant to inflict pleasurable pain, used as a tool for a sensory experience when gently dragged across erogenous zones and also used to point at things to tell a submissive what to do. We are sensory beings and enjoy these senses being activated especially during sex.

One of the terms that is used endearingly between BDSM enthusiasts when they would like to go for a whipping session is:

“Lets go and do a little bit of slap and tickle!”

Learn How To Use Whipping Techniques Safely

So you want to go out and flog someone? Now, you just need to know how to do it! There are different techniques to use whips properly. If a whip is used incorrectly, it may not be enjoyable and it can be possibly dangerous.

Who Gets To Be In Control Of The Whip?

The first thing you will need to do is work out who is the dominant and who is the submissive in a BDSM relationship. To tell who is who, let’s clarify what these terms mean.

Dominant

A dominant or a dom is the partner in a BDSM scene who:

Takes the active or controlling role over the submissive.

Decides what happens in the roleplaying scene.

Follows the submissive’s rules set out before the scene.

Practices risk aware consensual kink.

Submissive

A submissive or a sub is the partner in a BDSM scene who willingly gives up some or all control to a dominant partner. The submissive follows what the dominant decides and practices risk aware consensual kink.

When Are People Dominants And Submissives?

This type of partnership is often referred to in the BDSM community as a dominant/submissive or D/s. There are varying degrees of D/s relationships. Some people are only dominants or submissives during certain events like at BDSM parties, clubs and dungeons or during certain times like when having sex or engaging in a roleplaying scene. Some people also switch between roles.

What Gender Is More Likely To Be A Dominant Or A Submissive?

In the 80’s, research on heterosexual couples showed that during sex and roleplaying scenes about:

75% of men are the dominants.

25% of women are the dominants.

75% of women are the submissives.

25% of men are the submissives.

Other Types Of Roles In A BDSM Scene

Others may live as a full time submissive who relinquish control to their dominant in all aspects of their life. They are commonly known as a slave or a cuckold.

Slave

A slave is a person who submits control of a large percentage of his or her day-to-day life to a dominant. A slave may submit within a formal set of rules and rituals set out by the dominant.

Cuckold

A cuckold is a husband, boyfriend or lover who has a partner who cheats on him. The cuckold may encourage his partner to be an adultress. A cuckold may sexually enjoy being humiliated, degraded and controlled like a slave by his partner.

Master

A master is the male dominant partner of a slave.

Mistress

A master is the female dominant partner of a slave.

Top

In a gay relationship, the dominant is often referred to as the top.

Bottom

In a gay relationship, the submissive is often referred to as the bottom.

Why Would Anybody Want To Be Submissive?

It is often said that people who have a lot of responsibility in their career and/or day to day lives often reverse their roles in the bedroom to become more submissive. These people may crave someone to make all the decisions for them which can be stress relieving.

How Does A Man Dominate His High Achieving Wife?

With the ever increasing politically correct stance of equality for women, how does this play in relationships? To have a wife that is career orientated, while the stay at home husband looks after the kids can sometimes create difficulties. The roles may switch in the bedroom. However, it is up to each individual couple as to whose role is what.

The Agreement Between A Dominant And Submissive

A dominant and submissive relationship is like a contract. It must be agreed before hand how much or how little ‘slapping and tickling’ is to take place. There must be one or more safe words for when the submissive wants something to stop. AND like all contracts they are not to be broken which helps the roleplaying scene remain safe and enjoyable. If the contract is broken the trust between the parties will no longer be there.

Just to be clear whips are different to crops, clappers, canes and other punishment devices but they serve to attain the same purpose. A sensory explosion on an area of the body for taunting, teasing and punishment. A whip can tickle, create fear, cause an explosion of sound, sting, slap, thud and more when used in the correct hands.

Different Types Of Whips

There are different types of whips with different purposes. Here is a list of the 11 different types of whips. Please note, some of these whips are not used for people in BDSM, kink and fetish scenes.

Sana Whip

A sana whip or flogger is often made with soft leather, PVC or silicone. It is a wider multi tailed whip that is designed to tickle and even when used strongly it will not inflict pain.

Stockmans Whip

Often called a bull whip. This is a long leather whip often over 1.6 metres long that has a ‘cracker’ on the end. These whips, when used correctly, will flip back and make a massive crack. They can reach up to 3 times the speed of sound. This whip is to be used with care and is a theatrical accessory in BDSM. It is not to be used as it will break skin and cause serious damage.

Cat O Nine Tails

The cat o nine tails was originally used as a means of punishment in the military and in prisons for centuries.

Florida Cow Whip

The florida cow whip is similar to the stockmans whip except it is thicker and heavier and has a hollow centre.

Snake Whip

A snake whip can be made out of leather, rope and other materials. It is generally made with a patchwork design. At the tip there is a single or multiple narrow strings that will create a crack effect when used. Since it is braided it is a very flexible whip.

Quirt Whip

A quirt whip has a fork design that usually has two falls at the end. It is sometimes called a riding quirt or horse quirt.

Hunting Whip

A hunting whip is similar to a riding whip except on one end of the whip it has a lash that measures several feet in length. On the other end it has a hook, which is used to help the rider open and close gates while out.

Sjambock

The sjambock was a very popular weapon used in martial arts for centuries and is very long.

Jiujiebian

A jiujiebian was originally used in martial arts and is made of segmented metal chains equal in size on the whole length of the whip.

Qilinbian

A qilinbian was originally used in martial arts and is made of segmented metal chains. The lash is made of steel rods decreasing in size that are all linked together by progressively smaller steel rings.

Bludgoen Whip

A bludgeon whip has a heavy stick on one end with a rope or weapon on the end.

The 5 Best Whipping Techniques

So now that you know what styles of whips there are and you have agreed on the sensations that you wish to impart or receive. Here are the 5 best whipping techniques that are used. Now remember, these can take some practice beforehand to make sure you get it right, and careful discipline will ensure that you get the best results.

Overhand

Stand in an upright position. Bring the whip up over your shoulder and ensure your elbow is parallel to the body – if it is facing inwards or outwards it is possible that you will end up whipping yourself. Bring the whip straight down to the target.

Carnival

Similar to the overhand but just prior to hitting the target snap or flick the whip back towards yourself.



Reverse Snap

This one takes a bit of practice but circle the whip overhead gaining speed and then snap the whip towards the target.

Sidehand

With the palm of your hand outwards and your arm to the side, flick your hand towards your body and the whip will travel sideways to your target.

Underhand

With the hand facing in a downward position snap the whip up towards your target.

One Of The Biggest BDSM Whipping Communities

One of the more popular whipping groups is Whippersnapper in Atlanta which has a whopping 4456 members that have open discussions and forums. If you are a newbie into the world of punishment I strongly recommend you join this group or a similar group that will be able to guide your through your journey.

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Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena’s and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written. bdsmaustralia.com.au

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