She’s a graphic artist by Monday, fairytale princess by Saturday.

As her weekend gig, Jenna Bell transforms into characters such as Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and Elsa (er, the Snow Queen, that is—trademark issues) for children’s parties and other events across Atlanta, Ga. It’s a job she loves (so many hugs!), but it’s much more challenging than people think. The princesses go through training on how to “keep the magic alive” when sugar-crazed tikes are wiping chocolate cake on their dresses or pulling their hair to see if it’s real. And they’ve all encountered the common #princessproblems—demanding parents, overly competitive fellow characters and many, many wardrobe malfunctions.

Bell, who works with the company Ever After Entertainment and the nonprofit organization Princesses with a Purpose, told stories from the birthday party battlefield in Reddit’s Ask Me Anything community. She also shared what makes her job worthwhile and discussed her dream project—building a fairytale space inspired by stories and heroes.

Here are some highlights from the AMA.

On how it all started with an Elsa Halloween costume:

On relating to her character:

On how she acts the part:

On her happiest moment on the job:

A photo of Bell in Thailand.

On her saddest moments as a princess:

On misbehaving children:

On the magical powers of cake:

On working adult parties:

On who she’d marry, f*ck, or kick in the balls in the Prince Edition of the game:

Check out all of Bell’s responses in the original Reddit thread.