Greetings and blessings to you, my beloved being of love and light. Life is so simple if you know your true nature and the true nature of reality. There is a simple choice you can choose to make in every moment of your life — love or fear. So today we will talk a bit about fear and why it complicates our lives.

So let me start by asking you what is fear? What causes fear? Like any emotion, fear is the body’s energetic response to certain thoughts. So what thoughts lead to fear? Why do we have those thoughts? Do we choose to think of those thoughts or do they just pop up in our minds without our control? Of course no one chooses to feel fear. So thoughts that lead to fear arise subconsciously without our conscious control. Initially, many might say that it is the spider that causes them to fear, or looking down from a skyscraper, or being diagnosed with a health condition, or suddenly having a financial disaster. In this way, many people believe that the cause of their fear is external to them. But as we have learnt previously in the course, our external reality and internal reality are one because there is no separation. The cause of our fear must therefore be within us. It is our thoughts of worst-case scenarios that lead to emotions of fear. These thoughts are automatic reactions of the subconscious mind to our external environment. So the input to our mind is the external environment, and the output of the mind is the thoughts of worst-case scenarios. What have we learnt causes the output of our mind based on the inputs it receives? It is our programmed beliefs.

Our programmed beliefs are what actually cause our fears, not the external environment. The spider is not what causes your fear but it’s your programmed beliefs of what the spider may do to you. It is not looking down from a skyscraper that causes your fear but it’s your programmed belief that you may fall from the height. It is not the health condition that causes the fear but it’s your programmed beliefs about how this will affect the life you envisioned for yourself. It is not the huge financial disaster that causes your fear but it’s your programmed belief that you need that money to survive. But where do these beliefs come from? Are they really your beliefs? Again, it’s the same culprit — the ego. The ego’s beliefs are based on our upbringing, education, society, culture, media programming, and other past experiences. It has these beliefs because these are what it has been taught or what it has experienced in the past.

Notice how every fear is the thought of something undesirable happening in the future. When you are at a height from the ground, you are not scared of currently being on top of a skyscraper but you’re scared of potentially falling from the skyscraper. You are not scared of being next to a spider, you’re scared of the spider perhaps poisoning you in the near future. You are not scared of the diagnosis of the health condition, you’re scared of how that may affect your future. You’re not scared because of the big bill you get in the post, but you’re scared of perhaps not being able to survive in the future. So every fear is the fear of the future not the present.

Therefore, we have established that all fear is fear of the future based on past experiences. This can only be based on the ego’s beliefs as the ego either lives in the past or the future, but never in the present. Fear is therefore based on illusions — the ego is an illusion, and the past and future are illusions. After establishing this, what is the logical way to not feel fear? Yes, by living in the present. When living in the present, the thoughts of worst-case scenarios may still arise in you, but you choose not to listen to them. In this way, you have detached from the ego’s thoughts and have not allowed the thoughts to lead to emotions of fear. You can then turn your attention away from the ego’s thoughts and towards your environment.

Being present is not the only way to overcome fear though. Changing your beliefs will also help you live fearlessly. By successfully changing your beliefs, you will eradicate fear from its source, and so will not even get the thoughts of fear pop up in your mind. However, this can take months or years to do. For instance, I used to be completely afraid of heights and animals. But after I went through my spiritual awakening, I now believe that I am eternal and that I am one with all animals. As a result of this, I was able to go paragliding and really enjoyed it, and I now love animals so much and have a few pets. So by changing your beliefs and/or by being present, you can live completely fearlessly. We covered how to change one’s beliefs in topic 13.

Every low-vibrational emotion has some sort of fear at its root. For instance, guilt and shame have at their roots the fear of not being loved, the fear of people finding out what you did, and the fear of being alone. Anxiety itself is the fear of possible future undesirable scenarios. Jealousy has at its root the fear of missing out or the fear that you will not be loved by others. Anger has at its root many possible fears, like the fear of your social status being damaged, or the fear of death, or the fear of being alone. Grief has at its root the fear of being alone. Depression comes from the fear of not being loved. By living fearlessly, one will not have any low-vibrational emotions.

So what does life look like when you don’t live in fear? Well the only other choice is love. Love and fear are the two ends of the spectrum. By living in fear, you choose not to love, and by living in love, you choose not to fear. Love is therefore the antidote to fear. It is all about shifting your attention from fear of the future to love of the present moment. By living in the present, you can focus on oneness and gratitude. You can always feel at one with your surroundings and you can always find things you are grateful. In this way, you are able to be in a constant state of joy and bliss. Life will always take care of you — you will always have what you need in order to fulfil your life purpose. The direction and major events of your life are already pre-planned; all you need to do is experience it and learn from it. It sounds simple, but it gets complicated when the ego creates fear within us.

Remember, this does not mean that you don’t need to do anything in your life or take any action. Life will always present opportunities for you, but you must decide to take those opportunities by following your heart. Your true self, your higher self, guides you through the feelings in your heart. This guidance is based on infinite wisdom and love. A very common example is where someone can decide to either pursue their dream career that is deemed risky, or they can stay in a safe career that pays well. If someone chooses fear in that instance, they will stay in the safe career because they are scared of not making enough money to survive if they pursue their dream career. However, they will continue to feel unfulfilled and unhappiness may arise from being out of alignment with their life purpose if their career is part of their life purpose. For someone who chooses love, they will choose the path towards their dream career. By being present, they will not be worried about possible future scenarios, they are simply interested in following their heart and doing what they love. This does not mean that a successful dream career will be handed to them on a plate, but the opportunities will present themselves and in every decision that they need to make, they would use their heart to guide them. Another common situation is where someone can choose to pursue a romantic relationship with someone they love or they can continue to be single. A person who chooses fear will stay single because they may be scared of rejection, or scared of losing a friend, or scared of being emotionally hurt. However, if someone chooses love, they will pursue the relationship regardless of the consequences. Every decision in life is the same — either you choose love by following your heart, or you choose fear by following the mind.

Just as there are several forms of fear, there are also several forms of love. Compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, oneness, courage, peace, trust and joy all have love at their roots. In every moment, every interaction, every decision, and in every situation, you can either choose love or fear. And remember, as we have discussed in previous topics, your thoughts and emotions are what create your reality. If you fear something, you are visualising a future undesirable reality, and the body’s emotional response of fear attracts that reality towards you. So the more you fear something, the more likely it will occur. However, this also works the other way. If you love, you attract more of the things you love into your life. So it is a simple choice that one can make in every single moment of their life — either you can be in a state of fear or you can be in a state of love. The choice you make will shape your reality and influence your decisions. If one is in a constant state of fear, their decisions will be based on trying to avoid future worst-case scenarios. If one is a constant state of love, their decisions will be based purely on their heart’s guidance in the moment.

Let’s talk about defences for a minute. Why do we try to constantly defend ourselves from many possible attacks in life? We defend against possible wars by having armies. We defend against emotional wounds by closing ourselves off to people. We defend against financial setbacks by taking out insurances. We defend ourselves from infections by avoiding people and wearing face masks. Defences come from the fear of future attack. But who you truly are cannot be attacked. You are an eternal being of love and light — nothing can truly hurt or damage you. The fear of attack comes from believing you are your ego, the false self, which believes it is your body and the character that you play. These things can get hurt, but your true self can’t. By recognising your true self and living in the present, there is no need to have all these defences. It is the fear that attracts undesirable future scenarios towards you. By being defenceless and present, you live without fear of the future. This does not mean you should never take out insurance for instance. Your heart will guide you to doing what you need to do to fulfil your life purpose. If you need to take out insurance in order to allow you to fulfil your purpose then you will get a spontaneous inner urge to do so. However, if you are first consumed with thoughts of worst-case scenarios and then out of emotions of fear you decide to get insurance, then this is not following your heart but your mind. The message is the same — base all your decisions on love (from your heart) and not fear (from the mind).

This does not mean, however, that following your heart will not lead to challenging experiences or hardships. When I am talking about fulfilling your purpose, I am talking about the path we all chose before we incarnated. This path is likely to include difficulties and challenges because, as we have discussed in previous topics, they will help us spiritually grow. But these are the challenges that we wanted to have. There is a lesson to be learnt from every difficulty or challenge. By continuing to listen to your heart and disassociating from the ego, you will be able to deal with the difficulties and come out of it having learnt the important spiritual lessons that you wanted to learn.

An argument people often say against all this is that fear is healthy and that we need fear in order to survive in this world. But is that true? Do you survive every day because of your fearful thoughts? If you didn’t live in fear, would that mean you could not survive? If you have so far understood that most of the ego’s thoughts aren’t useful and cause suffering, then why would its thoughts that lead to fear be any different? My friends, this is another trick of the ego. The ego wants you to believe that you need it for your own good. This is how the ego survives. You don’t need the ego and you certainly don’t need fear. While the thinking mind’s thoughts may have proved useful for our ancestors, they were living in different times at a lower state of consciousness than us. We are more evolved now and do not have to deal with the same things that they did. In the modern day, your intuition and heart are more than enough to keep you alive and guide you through life.

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