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A Welsh MP has called on rugby fans to stop singing Delilah ahead of the Six Nations championship.

Chris Bryant echoed calls last winter to drop the popular song, recorded by Tom Jones in 1968, because it is said to be about “killing a prostitute”.

The Rhondda MP joins singer and Plaid politician Dafydd Iwan in raising concerns about the song.

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Mr Bryant said: “In my 15 years as an MP, the majority of murders in my constituency have involved one partner killing another, and there have been several cases in which the man has killed both his girlfriend, wife or partner, and the child or children.

"There is no issue that is more important to my constituents.

"Unfortunately, in recent years we have seen a dramatic rise - by some 23% - in violent crime in Wales, particularly South Wales.

"It is a simple fact that when there are big international rugby matches on, and sometimes football matches as well, the number of domestic violence incidents rises dramatically

"That is why we in Wales in particular have to look deep into our souls when it comes to domestic violence."

After going on to address public attitudes to alcohol, the use of steroids and macho street culture, he said: “I raise all those points because there is one issue that particularly troubles me,

"The Six Nations starts this weekend, and that is wonderful, but when there is a rugby match, we on the Welsh terraces will all sing “Delilah”.

"I know that some people will say, “Oh, here we go, he’s a terrible spoilsport,” but the truth is that that song is about the murder of a prostitute.

"It goes right to the heart of the issues we are discussing. There are thousands of other songs we could sing.

"We Welsh know every song in the book - we even know some of the words. 'Cwm Rhondda' is a pretty good one to start with.

"I have sung “Delilah” as well - everybody loves doing the 'She stood there laughing' moment— but if we are really going to take this issue seriously in Wales, we have to change how we do things."

In 2014 folk singer and former Plaid Cymru president Dafydd Iwan also called for an end to song being sung.

He said: “It is a song about murder and it does tend to trivialise the idea of murdering a woman. It’s a pity these words now have been elevated to the status of a secondary national anthem.

“I think we should rummage around for another song instead of Delilah.”

These are the original lyrics:

I saw the light on the night that I passed by her window.

I saw the flickering shadows of love on her blind.

She was my woman.

As she deceived me I watched and went out of my mind.

My, my, my, Delilah.

Why, why, why, Delilah?

I could see that girl was no good for me.

But I was lost like a slave that no man could free.

At break of day when that man drove away, I was waiting.

I crossed the street to her house and she opened the door.

She stood there laughing.

I felt the knife in my hand and she laughed no more.

My, my, my Delilah.

Why, why, why Delilah?

So before they come to break down the door,

Forgive me Delilah I just couldn’t take any more.

Chris Bryant's full speech in Westminster Hall on domestic violence

I wanted to speak in this debate for the simple reason that in my constituency, the Rhondda, probably the single biggest issue that takes up the most police time and causes the most damage to the individuals and the community I seek to represent is domestic violence against women.

Every Thursday, Friday and, in particular, Saturday night is a tough night for the police in the south Wales valleys, and certainly in the Rhondda. They often have to deal with issues for many days afterwards.

Sometimes things are very complicated because somebody makes a complaint and then wants to withdraw it.

There are many complicated issues relating to whether and how the police should pursue such matters, let alone how the Crown Prosecution Service acts.

In my 15 years as an MP, the majority of murders in my constituency have involved one partner killing another, and there have been several cases in which the man has killed both his girlfriend, wife or partner, and the child or children.

There is no issue that is more important to my constituents. Unfortunately, in recent years we have seen a dramatic rise—by some 23%—in violent crime in Wales, particularly south Wales.

Some weekends are far worse than others for domestic violence in Wales.

It is not because of the sport that we all love in Wales, rugby—I do not think there is a direct causal relationship—but it is a simple fact that when there are big international rugby matches on, and sometimes football matches as well, the number of domestic violence incidents rises dramatically.

That is why we in Wales in particular have to look deep into our souls when it comes to domestic violence in our country.

I am a great rugby fan. I go to matches and I enjoy it - I broke my leg playing rugby at Twickenham once - but we need to look very hard at the cultural issues in Welsh life that affect violence against women.

Some public attitudes in the valleys do not help, such as the attitude towards alcohol—that it is best to drink lots and lots and get absolutely blotto on a Thursday, Friday and Saturday night, and if you can do it all day Sunday as well, so much the better.

Then there is the belief that young people prove themselves by drinking large amounts of alcohol. Not everyone participates at all.

In fact, I recently surveyed all 16 to 18-year-olds in my constituency, and the percentage of youngsters who drink alcohol to excess is lower in my patch than in many others. None the less, that strong attitude is imbued in many people from an early age.

There is a similar attitude towards the perfect male shape, which is often influenced by anabolic steroids. The use of steroids in many gyms is well documented.

Successive Governments have found it difficult to deal with the problem, which perpetuates the image of what a real man should look like: physically strong, silent, not necessarily very good at communicating, but good at communicating with their fists and prepared to take physical action if they want to.

That whole concept of being a real man—of manning up—is a serious part of the problem. It is bad for men as well, and not only because of the fights outside pubs on weekend nights, some of which have led to deaths in my constituency; it is also bad for them on the rugby pitch.

All too often, when someone has a concussion, they are determined to go back on. We need to change that attitude to concussion in sport. It is not the manly thing to go back on or to force somebody back on.

The manly thing is for people to be responsible about their own health and take sage advice: if ever in doubt, sit it out.

I raise all those points because there is one issue that particularly troubles me.

The Six Nations starts this weekend, and that is wonderful, but when there is a rugby match, we on the Welsh terraces will all sing “Delilah”.

I know that some people will say, “Oh, here we go, he’s a terrible spoilsport,” but the truth is that that song is about the murder of a prostitute.

It goes right to the heart of the issues we are discussing. There are thousands of other songs we could sing.

We Welsh know every song in the book—we even know some of the words. “Cwm Rhondda” is a pretty good one to start with.

I have sung “Delilah” as well—everybody loves doing the “She stood there laughing” moment—but if we are really going to take this issue seriously in Wales, we have to change how we do things.

In some years, the Welsh Rugby Union has been involved in really effective campaigns.

Last year’s was called “Not In My Name”, and I am glad to say that several Welsh rugby clubs have signed up to the white ribbon campaign, but it is a shame that it is not every year and throughout the year.

The decision about when the big internationals should be played is made entirely around money and broadcasting.

Perhaps it should also be made taking into account the effect on people’s drinking habits and what they will do to their partners when they get home.

I am enormously grateful to the hon. Member for Paisley and Renfrewshire North (Gavin Newlands) and the other Members who have secured the debate, who are from different parties.

I should also mention bullying in schools towards not only girls as a whole but lesbians and trans people.

I have tried so many times before, but I want to say to the Government that we will never be able to address these issues unless we have proper sex and relationship education.

I know that some people will think, “That means you’re going to teach kids how to have sex.” It is quite the reverse.

It is about making sure that every young person has the self-confidence to make good decisions for themselves—whether about alcohol, or friendships, or when they want to have their first sexual experience.

All the evidence from every country in Europe and around the world suggests that where there is good sex and relationship education, kids delay their first sexual experience, the number of boys who are violent towards girls is cut, relationships between boys and girls are improved and bullying is cut.

I cannot see why we are prepared to continue with a situation in this country where some schools do it brilliantly and many schools

do it abysmally; and where it is the one class that a teacher dreads having to teach and kids dread having to go to.

We have to have a whole-school approach, and it has to be on a statutory basis. Of course individual parents should be able to say that they do not want their kids to engage in it, but no schools or set of governors should be able to say, “Sorry, we are just not going to do that,” because in the end, when that happens we are consigning kids to bullying and more girls and women to violence in their lives.

It is about self-confidence and respecting one another.

I have never wanted to live in a tolerant society, because that always sounds like people are simply tolerating those who are different from them.

I want to live in a society of respect, where we respect one another’s sexuality, one another’s right to say no, and one another’s right to say yes. We will never have that unless we look deep into our souls when it comes to these cultural issues.

I am deeply grateful to have had this opportunity speak, and I am glad to stand with others who seek to end the violence that has been perpetuated through the centuries, with women and children being called chattels and treated as things to be thrown around and used and abused. One day, we will put a stop to it.