Kelly Glover can’t get a date — and the reason why is complete BS.

After losing almost 150 lbs (67 kg), the Australian plus-size blogger thought that in a society that values thinness and thigh gaps, her date card would be filled in no time. Instead, the 39 year-old discovered that more men found her attractive at a size 24 than they do at a size 18.

In an article for MamaMia, Glover writes, “After losing 67 kg I was half expecting a romantic comedy montage-style life of never-ending meet cutes with dates scheduled back-to-back all weekend long – but nope. It’s been crickets.”

The sudden lack of male attention came as a complete surprise for Glover.

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“When I lived in Hollywood, men would literally chase me down the street just to speak with me…I’d get asked out at the supermarket, at the gym, in the Uber car pool, and even once while I was behind the barrier of a police standoff (yes, really).”

After racking her brain trying to figure out the sudden shift in her romantic prospects, Glover finally reached out to a male friend for some answers, and his response has us fuming.

“Well,” The anonymous male friend began, “people are more confident hollering at fat chicks. They feel there is less chance of rejection so they are more bold.”

While there are several problems with the term, “hollering at fat chicks” the main takeaway from his honest and poorly worded explanation is that men continue to use the “fat chicks are easy” myth to protect their fragile male ego.

“These guys think I won’t automatically say yes so they’re not even bothering to approach me,” said Glover, rightfully rejecting the idea that plus-size women have low self-esteem, are grateful for male attention and therefore more likely to accept sexual advances.

“You think fat chicks are easy? Go ahead and try to persuade a big girl you’re really into her and see how that works out for you. Good luck with that. Truly pursuing a fat chick isn’t a sprint, it’s a freaking marathon!”

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This thinking is just one of the many ways plus-sized women continue to be degraded and devalued by men and society. The word “fat” is used negatively to promote false ideas that fat people lack will-power, are unhealthy and unlovable. As if that weren’t enough, plus-size women are often fetishized for their bodies, and must navigate the dating world conscious of when “preference” turns into a sexual fetish they may be uncomfortable with.

Despite the initial shock, Glover says the explanation from her male friend was ultimately a “light bulb moment” that helped her realize there was nothing wrong with her at any size. She now has a new approach to dating that puts her totally in control.

“I certainly won’t be flipping the tables and chasing men down the street, asking them out in supermarkets or in the Uber car pool,” writes Glover. “I will, however, take over the dating reigns from now on. No more plus-size passive dating from me… No more waiting around to literally be chased by men.”

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