another thing about the “i don’t like these genitals for x reasons so i won’t date x people”



i’m not asking anyone to sleep with a person



or even date a person



i’m just telling you that what y’all are doing is transphobic, often times it’s transmisogynistic. i don’t want you to date a trans person if you find parts of our bodies disgusting, if you’re going to fetishize us, or misgender us, or whatever.



i don’t want you near us.



but i am gonna tell you that you’re being transphobic. you aren’t required to date or sleep with ANYONE ever. but if your reasons are rooted in genital essentialism, intersexism, and transphobia, you need to really explore that shit because it’s harmful to trans people. regardless of your reasoning.



and the issue is less “i won’t sleep with x” it’s more “i wont date x and will put them in the same category as their oppressors because of their genitals”



you can have any reason not to wanna sleep with someone, some reasons are directly bigoted, some are far more complex, but putting someone in the same category as their oppressors, misgendering them, making assumptions about their bodies, whatever, is always wrong.



-Mod Virgil