If there’s one thing I’ve learned from reading and writing for Thought Catalog it’s that people, seemingly all people, love reading about cocks but the size discussion is generally frowned upon and I think that’s because it’s not discussed properly. What I mean to say is that it’s discussed in the context of what women think about cock size rather than including what men think about it and I think how men think about it and perceive it matters a great deal. I’ll try to address that a bit here with discussions of the physical up front and the rest towards the end. Regardless, I consider the below to be objective truth. I’m straight so this will be like reading an article from a straight man because that’s what it is.

1. So, the answer is basically anything longer than 7 inches or 6 inches in girth.

Those are all big. The average length being anything between 5-6 (irrespective of race, don’t even try) anything above 6 is ‘above average’ and anything lower than 5 is ‘below average’.

Average girth is between 4 and 3/4 inches and 5 and 1/4 inches around. Same deal, anything above is above average and anything below is below average. Look up any study you want. They all fall on this range.

Dicks are measured on the top from the pubic bone for length and at their thickest point for girth although this really varies.

2. Statistically, there are no 12 inch dicks.

Hell, there aren’t even any 11 inch dicks. I’ve seen one, count it, one dick that was legitimately over 10 inches and he wasn’t born with it, he made it. Yes, made it. Nuff said on that here or this won’t get published.

So, any talk you hear about a cock that’s over 8-and-a-half inches long is most likely bullshit in every way. Porn lies, most porn dicks are under 8 inches.

Lexington Steele, the infamous pornstar is 9 and he’s among the top four or five in the industry. Danny Dong is even longer, who cares? Porn hates you and it wants you to be insecure because it knows you compare both literal and figurative cock size, in your head at least. It wants you to be bad in bed. It wants you to stay with it and it alone and spend money, get clicks, etc. It is not a viable alternative to loneliness.

3. There’s a myth out there (no idea where it came from) that says that women cannot accommodate a penis larger than X inches.

Well, there’s a limit, yes, but when aroused a woman’s cervix lifts higher into her body. Many women can accommodate 8+ inches. That’s the way it is. If you’re not of that length then don’t sweat that you’re not “filling her up” or whatever. You’ve got what you’ve got. It’s part of you. Love yourself. Unless she’s obsessed with a certain physical feeling or mental state then it won’t matter.

4. There’s growers and showers (that’s show-ers).

A lot of cocks simply sit up and if they’re big when soft they seem like they’re going to be monstrous. A lot of cocks are small when flaccid as in very small and can grow up to three times their length when hard. Ask me how I know. Don’t sweat it in the showers (that’s showers) if you feel insecure because of that 50-year-old business man that looks like he’s got a fire hose hanging from his pelvis. I could be wrong but more often than not he’s showing all he’s got already. Besides, your flaccid gets longer as you age because gravity.

5. ‘Big dick’ in the business world has an incredible number of meanings.

I’ve heard things about cocky bosses such as “the guy thinks he’s got the biggest dick in this place” and etc. Almost all men, at some point, equate a big dick with power. That gets reinforced by Hollywood impromptus, by ex-girlfriends who might talk about a big dick with a certain amount of awe. *Shrug* it happens.

I believe that there’s such a thing as a big dick mentality or, at least, what people often associate with a big dick. That thing is confidence. None of us are confident all the time but if you’re putting mental weight on the size of your junk and it’s not huge then that’s a losing game because there it is, unchanging. So, focus on things that you can control. Confidence is about being good at things, about being well informed, about being kind and have personal boundaries for yourself. Mostly though, it’s about knowing what you want. If you don’t know what you want then you may feel, figuratively, limp. Right? The metaphor works because we all know it. It’s basic deep brain stuff.