I would really like to know what I need to do / not do in order to avoid having hundreds of people read about what an awful person I am and collectively agree never to speak to me again. But there is a pattern of being… evasive about specifics when these incidents happen. I had a bad experience (at a much smaller scale) a few years ago, so I’m paranoid of something like that happening again.

In the Brent case there was enough information available for me to confirm that I wouldn’t do those things without knowing they were unethical and socially unaccepable. In the Jacy Reese case things are vaguer, but if Some Guy From Discord is to be believed I’m not in any danger of accidentally doing them either. But the fact that I’m relying on second+ hand reports via some rando on Discord is… not great to say the least.

This is a pattern that hurts me. I am not saying that because it hurts me it needs to change, there are reasons the pattern exists. But it still sucks.