Guy Winch, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and author who works with individuals, couples and families. He’s spent more than 20 years culling through scientific research and converting interesting findings into tools his patients, listeners and readers can use to strengthen their mental fortitude.

Earlier today his second TED Talk—How to Fix a Broken Heart—debuted on the TED channel. In this 12-minute talk, Guy walks the audience through recovering from heartbreak. It starts with an awareness of our tendency to idealize people who have rejected us.

You can watch it here:

For more Winch Wisdom, view our audio interview with Guy to hear why practicing what he calls “emotional hygiene” can be an effective—and fairly simple—way to heal from the pain of guilt, loss, and loneliness.