men suck.

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not all of them.

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get out

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fuck you

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uhoh, somebody protect the poor widdle men from getting their feelings hurt!

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god, they really do

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Oh, I forgot that it's only men who rape.



Or that all men are rapists and that some of them just somehow manage to quell their uncontrollable desires to rape.

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indeed

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Women are asking for it.*





*Do you see how your comment and my comment are the same? Generalities are never a good thing, no matter the post.



ETA: I do agree with the above, though. People suck. There's no argument there.



Edited at 2012-09-06 08:00 pm (UTC)

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mte



in b4 'OMG MY BF/DAD/BRO AND I REALLY RESENT THAT'

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absolutely

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lol at these replies

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So many people who need punched in this thread.

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my nephew doesn't

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i'm quite decent though :(

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Men are literally the worst.

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iawtc and fuck everyone in this thread



no one cares about your wonderful father/boyfriend/uncle



a post about rape is not the place to harp on women who ~omg generalize~ about men.

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these replies...

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Wow. SMDH at some of these replies. Whole lotta butthurt in this thread.



Edited at 2012-09-06 08:43 pm (UTC)

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No, not all men.

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wow at these responses. and it's the very first comment of the post. i'm not gonna be entering any further.

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MEN SUCK! i can't believe this two word comment has taken over this post. i wish people would stop responding with "im a decent guy" "stop generalizing", etc and try to understand where this is coming from. all these dudes asking for sympathy and understanding that they're "one of the nice ones" then STFU and look at what this whole post is ABOUT. #imDONE MEN SUCK!

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the fact that this comment got mostly defensive replies about men being generalized, shows that no one really gives a shit about rape victims or the statistics that indicate that men rape majority of the time, they only care about protecting their man feelings. fuck you people who think you can come in this post and cry about how men are generalized.

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I love her.

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damn

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I know you and know how awesome you are and you are stronger than you think. Hugs.

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Me too. :(

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God, I used to think I would too. Until I was sexually assaulted. I managed to escape before full sex but the rest of the things he made me do were just as bad. I didn't shrivel up and die though. I somehow made it through, as long as you make it out alive you can figure out how to not shrivel up and die.

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Your words are strong and true, bb.



It's a horrible thing to think about and with all the depictions of the "aftermath" in movies and tv and books and whatever, you have no other thought but "I could never! I would die." but hen it does happen (at least in my case), something else kind of like survival instinct takes over and you just have to live to prove you're not and never will be in such a weak and helpless position again. Like with many devastating, traumatic things, you just have to pick yourself up and make yourself new.

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same tbh.

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you die mentaly and emotionally. physically you still walk around.

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I think I would go ape shit and murder the person. Seriously. If I'm gonna get raped/possible killed, I'm gonna go out with a bang.

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i did basically. and then it happened again and i thought i would literally die, but i'm still here. somehow.

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Same. I was assaulted when I was younger...probably like 17. Thank God my boss happened to walk in and scream at the guy, but if he didn't...I honestly don't think I would be strong enough to get over something like that.

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Same tbh. It is such a violation that - even after all I've been through in my life - I don't think I'd have it in me to handle.

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it was my worst fear too, and then it happened to me. idk, it's a lot different than you fear it's going to be. for me, it wasn't scary until a while after it happened and it all sunk in.

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wow, amazing. my broke ass donated $15

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Wow. I'm in tears now just reading this.

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about her first story, thats the same strategy i would use if i was kidnapped or anything. it's sad that i've thought about it/planned it out in case.

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Yes, me too. It's sad and scary.

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I plan escape routes every time I go somewhere.

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fucking hell ME TOO

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same I've doing that now

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ME TOO! I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE.

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I do this too and I hate that women even have to think about this

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I have done the same thing tbh:/

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i acted that way when i was in a similar situation and later it made me second guess if i had been my fault or i had allowed it happen. but it really is a self defense mechanism because you just don't want them to get angry(er). i just wanted to get the fuck out of there and never see them again and not have him try to find me or something later on.

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i think about stuff like that all the time tbh :/

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It's a sign of your own intelligence, though.

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ditto :|

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yes, i definitely took mental note of her plan. but may that not happen to us :|

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That's not unusual. What's sad isn't that you've thought about it and planned it out, JUST IN CASE, what's sad is that EVERY WOMAN DOES. EVERY WOMAN HAS TO, because odds are, at some point in her life she's going to be in that position. THAT'S what's sad.

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I didn’t think anyone would believe me (the guy had read more feminist books than I had and seemed like the nicest person in the world)



it's depressing how believable this is. No matter how many jokes people make here about how someone 'looks' like a rapist, they don't all dress up in some kind of costume so you can run the hell away. :/

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iirc a low percentage of rape incidents are from men hiding in places attacking women.



most women know the person that raped them which is why a lot have trust issues afterwards :'(

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ik, and the same goes for children being sexually abused, too.



The rapist is not always some stranger with a van, chances are it's someone who knows the child's family/has access to the child on a regular basis :/









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Remember Ted Bundy? He was such a charmer( and attractive) and sooo many people didn't believe the allegations, because of it.

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the only reliable thing is your gut feeling.

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I got into an argument on Facebook with a friend-of-a-friend who would/could not believe that not all rapists hide in bushes or dark allys. He was adamant that date-rape doesn't actually happen. It was horrifying how uneducated he was on the subject, and the entire time I could only think "There is a chance you will rape someday, because you won't view yourself as raping someone. You will bring home a drunk female in an effort to be a 'nice guy' and take advantage of her, or confuse a friends signal she is sending you and she will be too scared to tell you no."



He and I also talked about teaching "yes means yes" (asking for consent first) vs "no means no" (keep going until you're stopped) and his response was "Rape has been happening for over 4000 years, it's not going to stop anytime soon so the only course of action is for all women to learn self-defense or carry a weapon. And if you can just get an abortion after it's no big deal, right?" (no exaggeration, that is a quote from the argument)

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we had some rape victims share their stories in my human sexuality course and it's amazing how brave a lot of them are, I could not be as strong as they are.

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And he admitted that he had been angry at me and basically acted that anger out in the worst way he could possibly imagine. "







like how can someone just do that to someone else??!?! jlfaslkfjas >>>>>:(((( WTF WTF



Edited at 2012-09-06 08:03 pm (UTC) like how can someone just do that to someone else??!?! jlfaslkfjas >>>>>:(((( WTF WTF

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Ikr? What a piece of shit

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I've always heard that rape is mostly motivated by anger.....W T F >>>>:(((((

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just the other day i was remembering that spoken word she did, the part about "road runner sheets", speculation about whether or not she even HAS a brother... i guess this kinda puts all that to rest but im finally going to google it and find out if shes said anything about it since the last time i checked like, ten years ago.

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the second story is a lot like one of my used to be best friends. :( im not really sure if what happened to me really was rape or not. i had a previous sexual relationship with this guy but when i went over to his place drunk off my ass, i just wanted comfort. it was stupid of me to go over there. he got on top of me and started taking my clothes off and i said no so many times but eventually i just stopped saying no and let it happen. idk. i guess its rape. maybe i dont want to really believe it is because then i have to admit that i was violated. sad scary thought.

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thanks :)

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you said no. i'm so sorry.

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i'm sorry you went through this.

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I'm so sorry bb. *hugs if you want them*

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Same happened to me, except I twas sober. He even said 'stop saying no and yelling my roommate will think i'm raping you' I just don't think about it

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Once you say no, the other person is responsible, doesn't matter what you've done before or how you got into the situation.

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I'm so sorry, bb :(



I know how hard it can be to admit it to yourself, but that person is a horrible human being for not respecting you.

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I'm so sorry, and I understand where you're coming from re. not wanting to admit you were violated.

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You said no, that should have been the end of it. No means no. I am so sorry.

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you said no, that's all that matters. i'm sorry. <3.

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I'm very sorry. Kind of a personal question, but are you seeing a therapist? If not, it might be a good idea...I was in an extremely twisted, emotionally abusive relationship for five years and when it abruptly ended I blamed myself for everything. Talking to a therapist helped me sort out my behavior (and his) and realize that nobody deserves to be treated that way.



That guy should have stopped at your first "no".

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Im sorry:( the same exact thing happened to me.

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I've been in this exact situation when drunk...but with strangers.

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i'm so sorry :(

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i def have friends who have been in this position. they didnt want to but couldnt say no.

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so sorry to hear that babe. I totally understand not wanting to admit that something bad happened to you, but remember that you didn't do anything wrong. He made the choice to do that and HE is the shithead.

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I'm so sorry that happened to you. It's unbelievable to me the cops do this shit on a regular basis. They shouldn't be able to refuse to press charges.

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Honestly though, if they know you will go through a lot of pain and trouble and nothing will probably come of it....it's the system and the attitude that's in the wrong more than the cops, per se.

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a close friend of mine volunteers as an emergency room companion and she has told me absolute horror stories about the svu detectives she had to interact with. it is infuriating the way they treat survivors.

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that's terrible! i'm so sorry it happened. our society sucks so fucking much.



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I'm so sorry.

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I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sorry for all of us, that people think that this is something a woman could just make up to avoid trouble.

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I'm so sorry bb, sending you love and hugs.

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Ugh fucking cops. I'm so sorry, bb. <333

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Yeah, when I was sexually assaulted and went to my aunt who works in the NYPD she told me not to report it because the guy wouldn't face consequences and would end up coming after me. I was already fearful of that and didn't go through with it. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, bb. And I know how much it hurts to have that done to you and know that asshole is on the loose. I hope the worst happens to him and he has to live with guilt the rest of his shitty life *HUGS*

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that's so so vile, I'm sorry.

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You are officially the Toughest Broad Ever. Wow.

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wow

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OMG. That is just so...

*hugs*

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this EXACT situation happened to my best friend.



i'm so sorry for you.

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you have gained my utmost respect. i'm deeply saddened by your story.



please stay strong.

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I'm so sorry. that is disgusting.

It's horrible that rape is a crime where the victim has to defend theirself.

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