It is ok to be a woman. It is ok to be a homemaker.





When I was young, I was what you would call today a slut. Nobody thought anything of it, nobody commented or judged. But I did get hurt and damaged by it. So desperate for someone's approval, so hungry for somebody's love, I fell in love with all the wrong men. This generation's men are mostly damaged goods too, not just women.





When I grew up, during the 80s, there was a long string of divorces by men in their 40s, who after reached the heights for their success, wanted a younger model. "She", the now wife of over 15 years, was frequently discarded like an old shoe, something to be embarrassed about. I noticed and so did many girls.





In your posts, you often discuss the importance of men taking leadership in a relationship. I have never ever experienced that. If I didn't do what was required and lead, nothing happened. Also, I am an intelligent, extremely well-educated woman with a wide range of interests. Most men are intimidated by it. Others just want another mother.





It is not after I became a proper Christian and after my divorce, that I heard some proper preaching or explanation about what relationships ought to be. Moreover, my father, who was at home with my mom and my sister, never ever sat me down to explain life to me. Not he or my mom talked to me what my worth is or what type of man I should be looking for, what to expect from a long term relationship and what to do when things get difficult.





Somebody else was always more important or something bad was happening. We had long-term family issues, so I just grew up, the pretty, well behaved, good girl with very good reports at school and generally good success. I wish somebody had talked to me. Would have saved me and my ex-husband a lot of grief. And maybe my fantastic kids could have their dad at home.





My now-husband, a much older man, talks to me, listens to me and explains things to me. I am 50-years-old now and we have been together for 8 years. It is with him that for the first time in my life I feel safe in a relationship. He will not leave me for some tart and he taught me how to talk things out. I learned with him how to apologise and make up. He gives me all the space I need and yet we are always together.





May the Lord forgive us women for our sins and help us how to do right by Him. May the Lord help us to forgive the hurts we have received. May the Lord deliver us from this satanic, Communist evil that has poisoned our collective minds. In Jesus Name Amen.



