Here's something that NONE of you have thought about. What if it's the WOMAN'S idea? What if it's HER fantasy? That doesn't make her a whore or easy or a slut. Besides, if it's with the bf's friends you'd think that the bf would know if any of his close friends have an std. My boyfriend wants to indulge my fantasies. He only wants to do things if I'M comfortable with them and they're MY idea. That doesn't make one crazy. That doesn't mean you don't have any respect for yourself. Heck, if it's something you want to do then it's more like an indulgence to yourself. My bf and I are considering it because 1. I want to >:D 2. He can't have kids. Seriously, zero sperm count. 3. I want to do it. He never said anything like "If you love me/care for me you'll do X" THAT'S when you exit stage left. Don't let these naysayers burst your bubble. Like I said, if YOU want to, go for it. Personally, I AM choosing which of his male friends/family members (brothers cousins) I'd agree to, after all, we want a baby and everyone knows it. They all understand and WE will take care of our baby. They don't want kids/more kids but are willing to help us out in this aspect. We're all consenting adults. We're all well informed adults who have talked at length about this so no one has any preconceived notions. They know the no no's and that I WILL bite if they do. Have fun hun. Use protection and birth control since you're not in my shoes. Don't kiss the friends on the lips. That's a major no no. My boyfriend has a fantasy about watching me and another guy. Lot's of men like that, lots don't. It's a personal preference.