ok I’m seeing folks using the tired old argument of “There’s no reason to self-diagnose because you can’t get treatment/medication/prescriptions etc and so people only do it for special snowflake points!”

and like apart from the fact that i have no idea what special snowflake points are supposed to be or do this is wrong on so many levels

First of all you are heavily falling into the trap of the medical model of disability and treating disabled people as only existing in a medical context. You cannot fathom disabled people existing outside of us being treated by the medical system and thats scary

There are many reasons why someone would self-diagnose even though it does not give you access to these things. For instance it enables you to find a community of people who can understand and support you, it can help you to understand and contextualise your actions and feelings and work out what you need, it can help you to explain to the people around you why things are different for you etc

Community, support and understanding are vital for disabled people and only looking at us from a medical angle is why we are often denied these very things.