To be honest, he sounds CHEAP.



Cheap people always fudge on exactly how much money is "available" because they don't want anyone to spend it.



They have a need to save and have a cushion of money and they will guard it like the goose that laid the golden egg.



I know, I've been married to CHEAP for almost 29 years.



My husband used to ask me for $$ and say he didn't have any and there might be $100-$200 in his wallet. He just wanted MORE as it may him feel better to have $$--like a security blanket.



He's relaxed quite a bit than when he was younger, but he's still cheap.



Now, he never had me balance up what I spent each week or anything of that nature, that would not fly one bit in my house.



But, if you don't mind, then it doesn't matter.



But, the lack of transparency as to your financial assets isn't right. You should not only know what you have but have the ability to access it if need be.



Normal is relative to each couple.



What might be normal to you might not be to others and vice versa.



But, on the face of what you've posted here, I see CHEAP written all over him, not a crime--but you should definitely know where your family is financially--this is not just his business, but your business too as his spouse.