: As a Student in English 101 at Coloradomesa University, I was given the task to write a process paper. Being the smart ass that I am, I chose to write about the process of making love. This turned out to be a very bad idea, as I had to stand in front of my class and read it to them. However, I am proud of the fact that I write about things most people would not venture to discuss. Thus here is that paper. : At times I have felt lost in the bedroom or inadequate as a sexually active young man. This notion continued to bother me for some time, but then I started to try and understand what would please a woman. After a good deal of thought and some practice, I felt I had discovered a method for sexually satisfying my partner. Thus for a young man who desires to be successful, I have put together an exact process. Also if you follow my advise, you will do it with someone you are going to stay with. To satisfy your partner you will need to undress, excite, make love, maintain excitement, and keep her feeling desired even after it is finished. Before you decide to undergo this process you must find a location to undertake it. For this example you will be in a bedroom. Now you will need to set a mood. In order for your partner to have the utmost pleasure she has to be completely involved. Dim the lights in the bedroom or circle the room with long burning candles. Play a soft music, such as a Celtic or rainforest white noise, at a low tone barely audible but drowning out surrounding noises. Make the bed the dominate piece in the room and darken the rest of the room in black shades with the bed covered in crimson red velvet. Now lead your lady into the room by the hand, and rotate her so that the bed is behind her. Remember that passion and being completely involved is a must. Look her in the eyes and stiffen your posture as though your visually trying to hold yourself back. Not like a freaky robot dancer from the sixties! You want to have an imposing stance; you know she has an aura or personal space, but your determined to invade it. Place one hand on her hip, and slide the other up her neck to cup the side of her head. Lean in and kiss her upper lip. Keep your eyes closed when you kiss her. Let her decide where she wants your mouth and massage her lips with yours. Gently pull her bottom lip between your lips and suck on it only for a second or two. Push your tongue inside her mouth and flick the tip of hers. Return to just lip kissing for a couple seconds, and suck on her bottom lip again while you wait for her to come after your tongue. Now massage her tongue with yours, only slightly flicking it every so often. Firmly push her hip down onto the bed and lean her back against the blankets. Next you will want to get her out of her clothes and get her excited. Continue kissing her as you slowly pin her arms above her head, holding her to the bed with your body. As you hold her wrists with one hand, kiss down her neck and unzip her pants with your other hand. Release her wrists and pull her shirt off over her head; kiss down her cleavage and stomach to her belly button, and pull her pants down off her legs before removing your shirt. Lean over her, pressing your body against hers. Hold her waist as you kiss her again and remove her bra. Continue to kiss her as you massage her bare breast. After you have her excited you will start your process of satisfying her. Kiss down her neck again; pull her nipple into your mouth as you massage her vagina through her panties. Suck on it until it’s hard then continue to kiss down her stomach. Remove her panties and your pants, then starting at her knees, kiss up her thigh until you reach her vagina. Push your shoulders under her legs, and wrap your arms around her hips holding her waist. Begin at the bottom of her vagina lips and draw your tongue up between them until you reach her clit. Now circle her clit with your tongue and gently kiss it. Slightly suck on it as you kiss. Next move your mouth down to the bottom of her lips again, and force your tongue between them into her vagina at an upward angle. Find the top of her vagina wall, and flick it lightly with the tip of your tongue. Remove your tongue and lick back up to her clit; suck on it again, gently flicking it. Rotate between massaging her clit with your tongue and massaging the roof of her vagina. Continue this for about fifteen minutes. Once you have got her to orgasm, you will make love to her. Remove your underwear and lean up over her with your right arm under her left shoulder reaching up to hold her head. Look in to her eyes as you lean in and kiss her. Hold her hip firmly; gently penetrate her vagina with the tip of your manhood. Pull out and then insert it again. Penetrate with the tip only about three to four times. Control yourself during this process because you will be tempted to insert more then the tip. After this you will penetrate about half way. Keep it slow, controlled, and firm. Do not jerk around. Pull it out slightly and repeat this four to five times. Finally pull it out to the base of the tip. Slowly but firmly drive your entire manhood in as far as she can take it. Pull out to the base of the tip and repeat the process; increase the speed and force gradually. Do this until you feel your excitement build to a point it threatens to release. Now your partner will not be completely satisfied just because your are so close. It is necessary to give yourself time to relax, meanwhile keeping her excitement elevated. Roll her into the “Doggy Style” position. Lean over her back and stretch her arms out above her head. Stretching not only forces the muscles to relax but releases pleasure endorphins. Next hold her hips and press her cheeks apart. Lick from the clit down between her vagina lips and press your tongue inside, again at an upward angle. Locate her G-spot at the roof of the vagina and rapidly flick it with the tip of your tongue. Rotate from licking the clit to flicking the G-spot. Pause for a few seconds to press your thumb inside her vagina so that it can massage her G-spot while your fingers play with her clit. Do this for a few minutes then resume eating her out until you feel that your excitement has gone own to a manageable level. Keep in mind that eating a woman out can excite a man even more. If this happens to you then you will have to focus on other things. For example think about finances, sports, hiking, or anything else. Next you will resume making love now that you are in control of your excitement again. While she’s still in “Doggy Style” resume penetration with your manhood. Thistime firmly drive your maximum length inside her. Hold her hips and direct your manhood against her G-spot. As you penetrate her reach around her hip and massage her clit. Again continue this process until the risk of releasing is to strong. Roll your partner over and resume the first method of eating her out while you attempt to regain control over your excitement. This time you must get it very low so that you are ready for the next step. Now it is her turn. Roll her on top of you and let her take control. This next phase she will be riding you. Your excitement needs to be as low as you can get it without loosing interest so that you can last as long as possible. Since she will be riding you, there is no way for you to pull out. Unless you toss her off you, which I strongly discourage because you will lose all the work you have just put into this. She will finish it off. No doubt setting her own speed and not relenting until you simply can’t go any longer. Finally the last part is almost the most important. You must satisfy her emotionally. The biggest mistake a guy can make is losing interest after his desires have been satisfied. Just like any work out, the body needs time to relax after making love. The female body takes longer to do this then a man’s, and remains excited for some time. Hold her in your arms with your bodies pressed together. Kiss her passionately as you did at the very beginning. Most importantly, maintain a slight excitement and continue to massage her. The goal is to make sure she feels desired, and that you want her even after you have been satisfied. If you control yourself and focus on maintaining her excitement, you will be much more successful in the bedroom then if you just go for it and hope she walks away happy with the performance. Remember to set an environment, be passionate, know where her turn on spots are, and remain in control of the level of excitement. You can satisfy your partner no matter how inadequate you may feel. Remember that you have to work to make love good for a woman. As Billy Crystal said, “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.”