If an object can be traced to its rightful owner or community, you should try to return it, perhaps through an organization like the Commission for Art Recovery. You might be able to do so for objects of great financial value, but more often, Henry wrote me, “as beautiful as these objects were, many of them were mass-produced, or did not have decorative features or imprints that would make it possible to associate objects with a particular Jewish family or a Jewish institution such as a synagogue.”

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In this likely case, you could purchase an object and donate it to a Jewish institution or use it in your own home, reverently and respectfully, much as you wished to do — “restoring it to the Jewish life for which it was destined,” in Henry’s words.

There can be unintended consequences if we all forswear buying Judaica so steeped in suffering and death. Agnes Peresztegi, director of the Commission for Art Recovery, Europe, said in an e-mail: “It would not serve our purposes to eliminate the market, because if silver Judaica cannot be sold due to the issues of questionable ownership, they may get melted for the silver.” She, too, agrees that to put these items to their intended use can be an honorable commemoration.

I go to the same breakfast place a few times a week. I usually eat light, and typically my bill is $5 or so. This morning I had a big brunch and spent $15. But the amount of work for the server was the same. It seems unethical that I was required to tip three times as much today, simply because I was hungry. Agreed? STEVE, PORTLAND, ORE.

I would prefer that servers were paid a living wage, making them immune to the whims of penny pinchers like you and me, but the system we actually have makes it customary to tip at least 15 percent of the final bill. You should not stiff your server simply because you can imagine a better payment plan. Who can’t? Mine involves pure gold dusted onto the skin: it gives the cheeks a healthy glow.