my least favorite part of Straight Culture is the insistence that sex isn’t fun for women, sex isn’t something women crave or something that can be about making women feel good, it’s a chore women are required to perform to please men. this idea is harmful to lesbians because it results in our identities and relationships being both fetishized (because sex is about what men want, so “girl on girl action” could only exist for male consumption) and desexualized (because women don’t want orgasms or physical intimacy, so “lesbian bed death” is a thing) but it’s not only harmful to lesbians, it’s harmful to bi/pan women and straight women and aroace women and i’m sick of it