When I was about 12, some guys who went to the same middle school as me made fun of my sneeze.

So I began consciously moderating my sneezes to be more “dainty.”

& then in high school, when I’m probably about 15, one of my male teachers a grown ass man probably more than twice my age makes fun of my sneeze because he said I was “trying to be cute.”

& that, my friends, is patriarchy. you’re damned if you do, you’re damned if you don’t. because every single man is taught that his opinion is golden & that women are there for his pleasure & critique.

