beyondthereachesofmortality:

biologyofpencils:

I am very confused about the whole cis gender thing. I know what cissexism is and I understand that it is an awful thing but i still do not get why being cis by itself is bad. I get being angry at people who are cissexist, I’m angry at them too, but why are we angry at people who are not cissexist but identify as cis? I do not see what is bad about identifying as the gender you were assigned at birth. It’s gotten to the point where i’ve seen so much negativity about simply being cis that i’ve started to become ashamed of being happy with the gender I was assigned. as a side point, what’s with all the ‘you can’t be part of the LGBTQA’ if you are cis thing? What if you’re cis but not heterosexual? What would you do? I’m cis but I’m also asexual so what should I do? who do I talk to should I need support? this is probably the biggest rant type thing i’ll ever have here but I am sincerely confused and worried. If I have offended anyone in anyway with this I am deeply sorry and I honestly did not mean to to cause you offence. I am only looking for some reasoning behind all the negativity towards cis people who are not cissexist. Feel free to unfollow if I have caused offence and you feel that you do not want to follow me any longer. Also if I have said something which is incorrect it would be great appreciated if I could be corrected regarding the matter as I would like to fully understand the situation. sincerely, one very confused and willing to listen to reason blogger. p.s. I also apologise if I have been ignorant in anyway.

Being cis isn’t bad. Upholding cissexism is, and most if not all cis people do, even if y’all don’t realize you’re doing it.

Nobody is mad at cis people for being cis. We’re pissed off at the oppressive structures that y’all have created, uphold, and benefit from, and the behaviors and attitudes that so many cis people have wrt trans people.

I’ve never seen anyone tell cis gay people/cis lesbians/cis bisexuals/etc that they can’t be LGBTQA - in fact, cis LGBQA people are the entirety of the movement as far as the majority of society is concerned. So I’m not sure where you’re getting that & can’t really speak to it. I’d recommend getting in touch with the asexual community specifically if you need support regarding your asexuality. They’re going to be specifically geared towards those types of needs and to be honest nonasexuals are pretty awful about asexual issues to begin with from what I’ve seen so I’d talk to asexual people specifically if I was you.

There is no negativity towards cis people who are not cissexist. It literally does not exist. What you’re seeing is oppressed people being pissed off about their oppression and expressing that. The idea that it’s only a small group of cis people who are cissexist, however, is a false one. Cissexism is so pervasive in our society that it’s almost impossible to be cis and not be cissexist. You can certainly try, and that would make you a decent human being, but thinking that you’re never, ever cissexist, never have been, and never will be, while being cis - yeah, no. I mean. I really doubt that. I don’t think you necessarily realize it when you are being cissexist, but I highly doubt that you never are. Even if nothing you ever did or said or laughed at was ever cissexist your entire life (which is very unlikely), as a cis person you still benefit from cissexist society, because you’re not trans.