Dr Rhodes, a New York-based psychotherapist, was inspired to write the guide based on her experience of clients looking for love. “I kept seeing strong, confident women who were concerned that they had missed the boat, that marriage had eluded them because they had wasted their thirties developing their careers,” she explains. “They were worried that they would have to settle for someone. But they were worried for no reason. In the US, women between 30 and 45 are getting married at a higher rate than women in any other age group. They’re now leaving it until they are more mature, until their career has developed and they’re in a better place to choose their partners.” There is a caveat. “They just need to start looking past the competitive, domineering Alpha male.”