KDF011194 Sat 14-Sep-19 15:42:11

Hi all



So recently discovered I'm pregnant after trying since January!



However I don't know who the father is



I last did it unprotected with my husband on the 16th August, we then (as our relationship isn't great at the moment - I was planning on leaving before any of this happened, and am still planning to) decided to stop for awhile as we didn't seem to getting anywhere and perhaps this was causing some of our problems (it isn't) but still I was relieved. I was due to ovulate the following Friday, so the 23rd



I then, stupidly, I know these things 'don't just happen' ended up in bed with my best friend. We used a condom. This was 2 days before I was due to ovulate, so the 21st



I was suspicious that I was pregnant but waited a week to take the test, but the possibility of who the father would be was driving me mad so I want to the doctors and they said due to how long sperm live once inside a woman it is unlikely my husband is the father and that it is my friends even though we used protection. So to me that was doctor speak for 'it's your friends but I can't say that in case I'm wrong and you sue me'



However my line manager (who is lovely and I confined in) said that she thinks she got pregnant at the beginning and ends of her cycle so could have gotten pregnant at any time. I don't think that's right, if even the doctor is saying it's most likely my friends?



Plus if me and my husband have been trying for 8 months and nothing has happened and now I sleep with my friend two days before I ovulate and now I'm pregnant?



I know I ovulated on time as I got the little cramps I get around that time on the right day



I'm planning to leave my husband next week anyway, I would have told by now and left but me and my friend need to tell our other halves at the same time so they don't tell each other as that's not fair