A few years ago, after we had sex, my wife took a condom out of the bin and sneaked off to the bathroom to inseminate herself with my sperm, desperate to get pregnant.

Luckily for me, my little troopers stayed loyal and didn't go to work for her, otherwise I could've found myself a father, emotionally and financially trapped by her for the rest of my life.

6 Writer Nirpal Dhaliwal says that a lot of women regard men as a sperm bank and cash machine

While my ex-wife was a wealthy woman and wasn't after me for my bank balance - just my semen - I was reminded yesterday that many women regard the man in their life as no more than a sperm bank crossed with a cash machine when I read about the child support spat between Jamie O'Hara and Danielle Lloyd.

Danielle Lloyd is, according to a friend, “devastated and at her wit's end” because her ex-husband, footballer Jamie O'Hara, has missed paying almost £30,000 in child-support - even though he claims he paid her £660,000 in a settlement last year.

While Jamie wasn't hoodwinked into having babies, it's yet another example of how vulnerable men are to being exploited by a child support system that favours women.

Certainly men shouldn't risk going to jail for not paying it.

Of course, my view of this issue has clearly been skewed by my past experiences - I'm sure many women are left high and dry by men who should by rights be paying for their offspring.

6 Jamie O'Hara has hit back over the claims Credit: Instagram

Yet, in most relationships I see, it is the woman who craves the baby while the man is generally much less excited by the idea.

Given that it's mainly women who dream of being parents, why shouldn't they shoulder the financial responsibility for it? Don't women believe they're smart and capable enough to do this?

Chasing men for money does women no favours by perpetuating the myth that women need men to support them.



Leeching off baby-daddies

One very bolshie feminist female friend thinks far too many women today are “using their uterus rather than their talent” to get by, leeching off the father of their children instead of making their own money.

In this era of equal rights and opportunities, isn't it time to stop forcing men to pay compulsory child support?

I got divorced 11 years ago and am currently single, and even though I'm not a parent, I can see how outrageous these women are in their demands.

6 Jamie O'Hara said on Instagram that he paid Danielle Lloyd £660,000 for their kids - but now faces legal action over an unpaid bill Credit: Rex Features

Indeed, many men have fatherhood forced on them by women who deliberately get pregnant without letting him know their intentions.

I know women who have spoken of having “gotcha pregnancies” when they've gone out on the most fertile day of the month looking precisely for a one-night-stand – generally with a younger, more gullible man.

Helping themselves to his healthy young seed – as well as, of course, his body – they pretend they're not interested in a relationship and commitment, but when baby arrives the ever-helpful CSA are there to tax his income at source so she can have regular chunk of his money.

When I split from my ex-wife, I didn't take a penny, even though I could've asked my much wealthier then missus for tens of thousands of pounds as well as alimony as part of the divorce deal.

I didn't because, unlike certain women, I didn't feel entitled to the money my partner had made from her own efforts and believed it was my responsibility to make my own way.

6 When Jamie O'Hara appeared on Big Brother, he talked about how he'd struggled to support his ex

Motherhood shouldn't be a money-making scheme

Motherhood shouldn't be a money-making scheme, but that's what it is for a lot of women.

One of the scariest things I see in modern relationships these days are women who are dreamily besotted with their well-paid partners – until the baby arrives.

Then the previously adored man quickly becomes a pain in her neck, and every one of his flaws – which she'd until then ignored – is intolerable to her.

The sudden coldness of these previously loving women is devastating and confusing for these men, who can almost see the numbers counting down behind their wives and girlfriends eyes as they calculate how long it will be before the child is old enough to cope without having daddy around.

Daddy, however, will be expected to keep paying for the child's upkeep from then on.

6 Jamie and Danielle Lloyd have three sons together Credit: Alamy

A loony system

Men should be wary of who they're going to have a baby with, because they risk being both pushed out of their child's life – and the vast majority of men love their children dearly – and also being financially drained in the process.

Take a good friend of mine - a hard-up, struggling writer who was living abroad, renting a dingy spare room, while researching a book.

He begged me to go round to his ex-girlfriend's house and pay her the £100 that he had to get to her by the end of the day – or risk facing the wrath of the CSA.

6 Jamie O'hara has disputed the claims Credit: Instagram

I duly went around to her £1million house – paid for by her tycoon dad – and was met by her on the doorstep, clutching her Burberry-clad child.

Pointing to the toddler's socked feet, she tearfully thanked for me for the money and claimed that the child would've gone without shoes if I hadn't shown up with the money.



'Pay per view' visits

Another mate of mine was told by his ex that he was only allowed to have contact with his child on a “pay per view” basis as she tried to extort money from him that she said would be for school fees, but, for all he knew, might have been spent getting her toy-boy lover a penis-extension.

Despite being made to pay through the nose, men have no control over how the money they give for their children's welfare is spent.

Once she's got the money, the ex-partner can spend it how she wants.

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Is it fair for a man to be financially obligated to his children, while having no say in how his children are raised?

It's just another example of how fatherhood isn't valued in Britain.

If fathers aren't valued, why should they be forced to pay for the dubious privilege of being one?