The Office is my favorite tv show. I watched it live when it aired on NBC, and now I watch it on a daily basis on Netflix. I’ve probably seen every episode at least 15/20 times (even the not as wonderful Michael Scott-less episodes). I love it.

However.

I don’t love Pam Beesley.

I realize this is a very delicate subject that is likely to enrage many of you, but hear me out, Pam Beesley kinda sucks. We all pretend to like her because she’s essentially the lone female “hero” of the show- the girl who matured before our eyes. We’re supposed to like her. The reality is, we like her because Jim likes her and Jim is the fucking man.

He also happens to be the man that bent over backwards for her for years. The man she used to entertain herself with while at work, while she was engaged to Roy.

Put yourself in Roy’s shoes. Would you be ok with your fiance flirting endlessly with some guy she works with? A guy she knows is into her? Would you be ok with her kissing this guy at a company event, not once but twice.

Maybe Roy wasn’t the best fiance, but that doesn’t mean he deserved to get cheated on, both physically and emotionally. No one was forcing Pam to stay with Roy. She could have easily broken off her engagement years before she did, but she didn’t because she’s a weak coward. She uses Jim to make her feel good about herself when it’s convenient for her, but would then rub her relationship in his face whenever she was feeling frisky.

Imagine if Pam was doing that to Jim?

While she never cheated on Jim, she sure did lean on Brian the boom operator for emotional support when it was, once again, convenient for her. Pam and Jim started having problems (because she wasn’t willing to relocate so he could follow his dreams, despite the fact he had previously encouraged her to follow her dreams in NY), so off she goes – always the victim – to find someone who would tell her how great she is. Poor Brian thought he could maybe be the next Jim, instead he ended up being the second guy who was fired for getting in a fight because of her.

It was always about Pam, what she wanted, what was acceptable, what was best for her. And we all sat there and rooted for her to be happy, regardless of who she hurt along the way.

What about Karen? Pam flirts with Jim in front of his new girlfriend and somehow she isn’t the bad guy. Then she starts dating Roy again because she can’t possibly be on her own and goes off on a rant about how much she misses Jim, again in front Karen. And the entire office.

Eventually Pam gets what she wants and ends up with Jim. They get married, have kids, so finally the lying and manipulating can end, right? She got what she want so all is well, right?

Nope. The lying continues.

As the seasons go on, she thinks she’s too good for the receptionist position. Which is fine, people outgrow jobs. Except, the problem with that is that it’s the only thing Pam has successfully done. She’s failed at every other thing she tried: art school, sales with The Michael Scott Paper Company, sales with Dunder Mifflin, sales with Saber. So what do you do when you aren’t actually good at anything? You do the one thing you are excellent at: lie. Pam manipulates her co-workers into making her office administrator. And when Gabe questions it, she bullies him into the role.

She always puts herself and her needs before anyone else. The entire office needed a new printer, but she needed a chair, so forget what 20 other people need.

And then there’s the lice incident. Pam lies about having lice and leads the entire office into believing it was Meredith’s fault. Sure Meredith is kinda disgusting, but she doesn’t deserve to be gross-shamed. Her life is tough enough. The last thing she needs is go through it bald because poor Princess Pam is embarrassed she gave the whole office lice.

The Office may be the greatest show of all-time, but that doesn’t mean Pam isn’t an insecure, self-centered, lying brat who stepped on other people to get what she wanted.