Facials are becoming a common ending to porn videos. But the question remains as to whether women actually enjoy them in real life. When you go into the bedroom, these are the reasons why you should ask if your girl likes them. Here at Sugarcookie, consent is very important to us and sex should be an enjoyable experience for everyone.

Part of the problem with pornography for the less experienced person is that it projects expectations which beginners try to achieve. When porn or any kind of media depicts a consistent stereotype which can become damaging. In the same way that the entertainment industry often promotes the assumption that slim people are the most attractive, porn can suggest that all women enjoy things shown. Whether this is rough sex, anal or something as seemingly innocent as facials – the same problems apply.

If a woman is expected to do something regardless of whether she enjoys it, her consent becomes irrelevant. Nobody should do anything because they feel obligated to do so. This is why it is essential to discuss with your partner what you both enjoy. By discussing what your preferences are, you are able to establish a clear set of boundaries and achieve informed consent.

If you ask a child to make a cup of tea but they do not know how to boil a kettle, you have a problem. In the same way, asking someone to do something they don’t know about is unfair because they are not informed of the context surrounding it.

While something like a facial may appeal to you, forcing somebody to do it when they haven’t freely chosen it or don’t really know what they’re getting into isn’t acceptable. You should never ‘surprise’ somebody by doing something new that they don’t know about or even if they know about it, that they don’t like during sex.

If you were having sex with someone who then started to pee on you unannounced, would that appeal? Probably not. Similarly, a facial can be an unexpected and unwelcome ‘surprise’ to somebody who isn’t keen on it.

What are facials?

Why do facials appeal? Well part of the reason for this links to the history and thought behind bukkake which I explain in Bukkake: What does bukkake mean?

But in brief, the concept is one of domination, exhibition and submission. The visual impact of seeing a woman enjoying having you cum on her face is undeniable. It flatters you as the dominant party by having her submit while it feeds into the exhibitionist element of watching it unfold. When we see this in porn, it fuels the voyeur through the display of a graphic yet strangely intimate act.

In Bukkake, the idea of facials helped overcome Japanese censorship rules about showing penetrative sex. Ejaculation however was permitted thereby encouraging a new venture where the male orgasm was exhibited on a non-genital part of the female body. For the male viewer, the satisfaction is higher with the receiving subject being a smiling woman’s face than if it were simply on her stomach.

Additionally, the submission of the female to a man is unavoidable. Facials tie in easily with snowballing or obedience where the women ‘drinks’ his cum.

It isn’t a surprise to say that men do enjoy giving facials but the question remains of whether women do actually enjoy them or if it’s more so done for performance?

Should I ask a girl if she likes facials?

In order for both parties to enjoy sex, you need to both do things which you actually like. So asking your girl if she likes facials is sensible, this goes beyond just asking if she is willing to have one and instead focuses on her enjoyment and independence.

If she says that she doesn’t know and is willing to try, great. But if she seems doubtful of it, you should avoid making her feel obliged to try it for your benefit.