For the moment, the Oakland Raiders have no travel plans, and they’re out of frequent-flier miles.

They’re not going anywhere.

Mark Davis, the team’s managing partner, won’t promise that the Raiders will be here for long, but it feels more like wounded pride than a preferred business option. St. Louis is the team’s only immediate option — but the Raiders aren’t interested, and who can blame them? It’s the equivalent of your parents arranging your prom date.

After years and years of making unreasonable infrastructure demands and periodically threatening to leave town, the Raiders don’t hold leverage or bargaining power over anyone. Not over Oakland city officials, not over their NFL owner colleagues and not over fans. Even with the resurgence the team saw this year, the Raiders’ average attendance was the third-lowest in the league.

It’s been 21 years since Oakland wooed the Raiders back from Los Angeles, and the shoe is now officially on the other foot.

Oakland is booming — and while it may be a perpetual departure point for the Raiders, it’s a destination point for damned near everyone else. Mayor Libby Schaaf holds the cards now, and she is playing her hand — and quite well.

Her position on public financing was no bluff, and she called it: In the end, the Raiders didn’t hold a winning hand.

Shrewd negotiator

When you consider the way she has handled negotiations with the team, maintaining an intractable position on public financing while leaving the door open for other proposals, you gotta believe she’s a good mom, too.

All the signs are there: The basic stuff is non-negotiable, but she’s not spiteful, gloating or unwilling to listen.

The Raiders, sensing their slim chances on Tuesday, withdrew their request to move before NFL owners voted 30-2 to approve the St. Louis Rams’ move to a new $1.86 billion football stadium in Los Angeles County.

But when owners shut the door on the Raiders’ L.A. dreams, Schaaf opened a window.

She didn’t roll over on the team’s demand for total control of the Coliseum — where the A’s play, too — but offered some consolation: a “favorable” long-term lease agreement that includes nearly 60 acres of additional land available for development to generate private revenue for a new stadium proposal.

Schaaf’s offer includes a plan to retain 8,000 of 9,500 parking spots, essential for the Sunday tailgate parties fans love.

The mayor’s offer, coupled with $100 million in league funds toward the construction of a new Raiders stadium in Oakland, is enough for Davis to absorb the recent disappointment, set his pride aside and consider the only proposal that’s now before him.

With a previous team commitment of $500 million for new stadium construction, the financing gap in an estimated $1 billion stadium deal is narrowing — and that’s good news.

It’s a serious offer, admittedly the first from the city in quite a while, but it deserves consideration.

Schaaf described her proposal as “a partnership to ensure any development creates a revenue stream for the team and complements” the football venue, she said Wednesday.

Team on the rise

The team’s performance has improved dramatically under new head coach Jack Del Rio, and with the San Francisco 49ers’ move to Santa Clara, the Raiders are the last team standing in the inner metro area.

If they can cool their heels — and maintain their cool — they could end up with exactly the arrangement they are looking for.

Because, when it comes right down to it, Oakland City Hall has placed a higher priority on keeping the Oakland A’s in town than the Raiders.

Of course they will never admit that, but it’s true.

The city has identified five possible stadium locations for the A’s, and is pushing for a downtown ballpark at the site of the Howard Street Terminal on the city’s waterfront.

That location is well within the radius of the building boom that is rapidly changing the face of downtown Oakland, and investment dollars are flowing.

A’s owner Lew Wolff remains unsold on the site because of substantial remedial costs involved in preparing it for construction, but if we can build it, the people will come.

Perched on a gorgeous waterfront, it has the potential to be one of the more picturesque baseball stadiums in the country.

It’s a big “if,” but were a plan approved in the next few years, the Raiders could find themselves with their very own stadium, new retail and entertainment venues nearby, and absolutely nothing to worry about but the team’s return march to glory.

Chip Johnson is a San Francisco Chronicle columnist. His column runs on Tuesday and Thursday. E-mail: chjohnson@sfchronicle.com Twitter: @chjohnson