Catsinthecupboard Mon 25-Mar-19 18:02:48

Yes. It happened to me. Lived together 4 years. Then he dumped me and married a woman and made her miserable too.



Now on fb she looks beautiful and radiant. She dumped him and remarried an outdoorsy fun loving man. I want to tell her how delighted i am for her. She had him for 20 years.



Me? It took a year of rediscovery and therapy (for selfesteem issues. It's hard being rejected at the most basic level. Most women complain their husbands wanted too much sex. For me it was lonely, confusing and demoralizing.)



But i met the man i married and that was 33 years ago. He is truly the best thing to happen to me. I love him very much and he STILL thinks I am sexy. His compliments still soothe me after those cold, distant, loveless years



Dh would also like very much to punch ex. Bc ex was absolutley horrible to me. Cheating, womanizing. All bc he couldn't own up to his truth.



Get help. There was a wonderful life that was much better for me. But I went to therapy and worked hard to become confident and look for a person who loved me honestly.



I knew dh for 10 mos before dating him. That helped bc I knew him as a friend.



Good luck. I think it's a terrible selfish thing to be used as a beard. You were honest and he wasn't. Think of any curse you want and address it to him for me.



Nobody deserves to be in a dishonest relationship; to give love to someone who, for whatever reason, uses you for their own purposes.



Yes. I am STILL angry. Bc now that i am loved, i realize just how much i was cheated.



Best wishes.