just want to clear some things up

speaking as a bisexual who has had probably more actual lesbian relationships versus straight relationships…



i think people generally have a very heavily romanticized idea of what a lesbian relationship is like. atleast, i see that attitude here on tumblr. i see a lot of people playing up lesbianism like its this magical alternative to the HORRENDOUS NORM (straightness) when really… It’s nothing special. just guys, it’s not. a girl is a girl at the end of the day, same as a guy is a guy. being in a lesbian relationship doesnt mean that you are infallible. it just means that you got 2 sets of lips to kiss when you fuck.



i see people say things like “WHY BE STRAIGHT WHEN YOU CAN BE A LESBIAN” (which is grossly offensive to say because sexuality isn’t something you pick and choose, even as a bisexual, you idiots) or play it up dumb shit like “BOYS ARE ICKY/UGLY/GROSS, GIRLS ARE THE PRETTIEST/BEST” (which is stupendously infantile and is tumblr a time machine that has taken me back to second grade or what. i thought we were all atleast old enough to know how stupid the GIRLS RULE/BOYS DROOL thing was) basically the point im boiling down to is; why are yall so wild about fetishizing lesbians/lesbian relationships?



like its not any less sketchy/weird/gross when that fetishization is coming from girls versus guys who leer when two girls kiss or hold hands, and i dont know why some of y’all think you get a free pass to be obnoxious about lesbians/lesbian relationships just because you put on a pretense like its some movement toward progressiveness. if you like lesbians and find lesbians the perfect jerk-fodder, thats great and i couldn’t care any less if thats what you’re into, although personally, id prefer you just be honest and say that seeing two dykes kiss turns you on versus saying two dykes kissing is TOTALLY THE RIGHT CHOICE GIRLS YEAH GIRL POWER



and, itd be nice if yall wouldnt put lesbian relationships on this pedestal, either. that lesbian relationships are perfect and that gay/straight relationships are just shitty/boring/abusive/whatever. women are as capable–if not moreso–of being perpetrators of abuse and violence just as any man is. being a lesbian isn’t all cuddles, smooches, or tender-touches in the fur-pie; you’ll still get into fights. you’ll still get bored with each other. you’ll still long for vacations apart from one another. you’ll still get angry at your partner for not putting their own fucking laundry away for the millionth fucking time you’ve asked. you’ll still get upset over your petty differences. sometimes, you’ll hit each other (or atleast, one of you will hit the other) sometimes, they’ll keep doing it because they think they can continue getting away with it, because they’re a woman. which makes it even worse when it happens.



anyway, im getting off track here. ultimately what im trying to say is, is that being a lesbian isnt that great. being gay isn’t that great. being straight isn’t that great. being one sexuality versus another isn’t any better than the other: the relationships you build with people vary, regardless of sexuality. idolizing a certain kind of sexuality is stupid. stop doing it.