(This is an important topic to me, so I feel the need to talk more than is necessary to get the point across. I’d appreciate all of my friends to actually get the gist of the post, so if you don’t feel like reading all of it, skip to the **)

For those of you who know me personally, you’ll know that for the most part I’m pretty lax about my own pronouns. I may have asked you to use certain ones (i.e. “not she, please”, or “they is fine!”) or you may have been the one to ask me about it. I’ve told a lot of people since coming out “nah don’t worry about it” because a. “i know, they is weird, it’s hard for you.”, b. “you’ve known me forever, i don’t mind!”, etc. All of these things are true. :) Although I’ll always correct pronouns if someone misgenders one of my friends, I’m not quick to correct my own.

There are a few main reasons for this. One is that to be honest, there weren’t–and still aren’t–any particular pronouns that I like or that feel right. Secondly, I didn’t want to make a big stink over pronouns if I didn’t even know what I wanted. HOWEVER.

Over this past summer, I’ve found that I have become a lot more confident and comfortable in my identity. With that, it has become increasingly jarring to have people mistake me for a girl. Going back to school I’m going to be more demanding that people respect my pronouns. I’m not a girl, and I never have been. I don’t care if I have a high voice or if I’m wearing a skirt one day. I’m still not a girl, and would like not to be addressed as one.

**To those of you who’ve I told it’s okay to use female pronouns, that was perfectly fine. To all of my friends who’ve worked really hard to get used to ‘they’ for me, thank you, it means a lot. :) A lot of you have done it without my ever even having to ask.

I’m sorry to make you switch, but I have decided to using the pronoun Zie. Traditionally, there are various forms of the Zie pronoun, but I won’t be using them because there are too many variations and it causes too much confusion. I’ll be using just zie. Use it as so: "Zie is over there.“/ "I saw zie yesterday.”/ “That bag is zie’s.” Not too bad, right?

If you ever have any questions about it, please don’t be afraid to ask me. If you mess up, I’m not going to hate you. And my preferred pronoun may change again one day, because even this isn’t quite right. But for now, please respect it. Knowledgably and kindly but firmly correct others if you hear them use incorrect pronouns. And I’ll be frank, if you just can’t make it happen (it’s really not that hard, and this is not an invitation, but for arguments sake, it happens), just use male pronouns.**



On the topic of my name…. well, I’ve become more and more attached to Scott. School friends, my birthname is still fine, a-okay! But, if possible, please don’t tell it to or share it with people who know me only as Scott. Thanks. :)