CheckingOutTheQuantocks Thu 29-Aug-19 15:11:03

I am a middle aged woman who has developed a silly little "thing" for a guy at work and I could really do with some straight talking MN advice on getting over it!



For context, I work in a small office with a handful of other people. The man who has unwittingly become the object of my affections doesn't work with me directly but I do see him a few times per week and we're on friendly chatting terms. He is absolutely nothing like the type of men I might usually go for and we don't have the same views on a lot of fairly major issues. None of this has stopped me



He's married with children so I wouldn't dream of pursuing him or trying to work out if he was interested. He has never shown any signs of seeing me in that way at all.



I think tbh I'm just latching onto him because I've been unhappily single for a very long time and I don't have anyone else to focus my feelings on. Possibly there's an element of him being "safe" because nothing is ever going to happen with him.



Any words of advice/kicks up the arse are welcome. I feel really pathetic but it's also making me feel self conscious around him, and I don't want it to become noticeable and weird!