As long as I can remember I have experienced anxiety. This occurs most commonly in a social setting (with friends, family, co-workers etc).





I feel anxiety when trying to express myself, also when I am finding the words to say, and then feeling awkward when I do speak up. I also have a fear of saying the wrong thing, or looking stupid. I’m left feeling disappointed and powerless when I’m unable to express how I am feeling, or contribute to the conversation.





I know my anxiety causes emotional, as well as, physical pain in my body such as a tight neck and shoulders, clenched teeth, headaches etc.





It also prevents me from getting close to people and allowing them into my life. On one hand I love people around me, but on the other I fear the closeness. It can feel very isolating at times.





I feel in some ways it is getting better with time, but I was wondering if you could tell me why I experience anxiety, and how can I move past it and connect with others, without feeling fearful.