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Prudence is joined this week by Justine D’Souza, a social media community management professional who also works for a youth helpline. Outside of work, she enjoys performing in operas, plays, and musicals.

Together, they tackle letters about what to do when your deceased friend’s mom finds you on social media and sends messages about her grief, how to handle finding out your husband doesn’t share your dream of dog ownership, what to consider about secretly giving away your boyfriend’s dog, what to do when your wife changes her mind about a “hall pass” agreement, and whether you should keep supporting an inefficient co-worker because they desperately need a job.

Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and D’Souza discuss a letter writer who is triggered by her boss’ partner’s illness and is losing the ability to focus at work, and another letter writer who is overwhelmed by her husband’s close-knit family and their need for frequent gatherings.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

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