EwItsAHooman Sun 09-Sep-18 12:58:47

Remember we're all just winging it and hoping we don't fuck it up too badly. There is no perfect way to raise a child and all of the established methods produce virtually the same end result of one functioning adult human so go with what feels right and don't let anyone make you feel bad for your choices.



Try to avoid ccomparisons. It might look like Mrs Over-There has got her shit together with her baby that sleeps all night and her swishy hair that never smells vaguely of baby sick and her husband who brings flowers home every Friday but I can guarantee she will have worries and anxieties too. Comparison is the thief of joy.



The tiredness will pass. I'm not sure when as I've had one DC who slept an eight hour stretch at night from birth, one who didn't sleep the whole night until the age of three, and two who fell somewhere in the middle of the two extremes but it will pass eventually. In the meantime, sleep when you can and make sure she sleeps when she can. At some point, if you haven't already, you will have the 3am "go fuck yourself .... No, you go fuck your self" argument hissed through gritted teeth, usually while changing bedsheets soaked with baby vomit. Apologise and move past it, never get into a game of competitive tiredness, and try to remember that tiredness makes people behave in strange ways.