I find it rather amusing that so many trolls are OBSESSED with this idea that the mods on this blog share a similar attraction to specific body types. Particularly when I’m pretty sure I’m the only person on this blog that identifies as straight and as a cis woman I’m not attracted to thin athletic men. Why? Not only are bellies sexy as fuck but thin athletic men have either point blank treated me horribly or act like I don’t exist and are incredibly rude when doing it. I’m more interested in having relations with guys that have some basic understanding of how body shame feels, even if they have male privilege and benefit from it greatly, while also loving my body as much as I do.

There are fat women who prefer thin men and that has far more to do with the way we are ALL socialized in a fat hating society that values thin bodies than it has anything to do with so called “double standards,” because guess what? Fat men are FAR more likely to only date thin women. All of this has to do with us unlearning the fat hatred we have not only been taught to feel about our own bodies but the bodies of other fat people.

Every time we get these messages I cannot help but think that some lonely fat dude is sitting on the other side of the computer and doesn’t understand why fat women aren’t attracted to them. It might be because they write angry letters to people they don’t know and deny the fat stigma we experience on a daily basis. It may be because they’re an asshole. It probably has very little to do with this mythical mods on TITP that refuse to date anyone other than super buff men.

-FBP