If the hit 90s TV show, “Will and Grace” was one of your favorites, you may be yearning for that perfect gay best friend (GBF). The friend who, aside from being totally hot, knows you like the back of their hand, offering sage insightful advice and is always there to help you pick up the pieces after a dating disaster.

This stereotype has caused people to start looking for their own GBFs, and caused some gay men to feel pressured to fit themselves into that box. However, a real friendship is built on mutual caring, so here's how to find a best friend instead of a decorative accessory.