it's not because it's problematic i just personally think it's dumb

like when you're in a new group of people that isn't a formal place or that you'll be at for forever, and people are like "well let's go around and say our names and pronouns!"

like if you're in a mainly lgbt+ space, sure, whatever. especially a trans-positive space, makes sense. but god it's so awkward and bad in a room of mostly cis people?? cause you can tell they are all thinking in their heads "uh, i'm a girl, obviously i use the pronoun 'she' dumbass" and thinking it's a waste of time

but if there's trans people there, it's kind of just damning? cause it will get to you, and maybe you're trans but don't pass, so your pronouns don't match your appearance, or maybe you are nb and change pronouns/use multiple pronouns, or- god forbid- you use made-up pronouns. yeah just try to have that pass in a group of cis people. if they are both kind and progressive, they'll be polite about it, but they'll all be internally extremely confused about it, but because of the nature of the circle there's not even an opportunity for clarity, even if it's good-natured (like, "oh, when you say xe/xer, do you use xer like his or her?") and if not, it's the perfect opportunity for them to go, "wait what? you don't LOOK like you'd use those pronouns... i thought you were [assigned-at-birth gender]!" or "uh, that doesn't make any sense lol..." in front of everyone. not to mention, the average cis person does not have great odds at remembering a person's preferred pronouns anyway!!! so what is the point of it honestly