By all accounts, it wasn’t something Kate was certain she wanted either. Despite the patronising ‘Waity Katie’ tag she earned from the British tabloids, royal experts have always said that Kate and William both wanted to be certain that this was a challenge Kate was ready for, and that by the time the carefully orchestrated engagement was announced, after eight years in the glare of the world, Kate had been fully prepped, trained and given many chances to back out. How very fairytale. This princess business is so romantic.

Kate is absolutely brilliant at being royal. She makes it look so easy. She is fantastic at making small talk with dignitaries from a zillion charities from a thousand countries around the world. She is excellent at smiling at the ‘real’ people, shaking hands and posing for selfies. She has perfected being just accessible enough for people to like her but never actually saying anything or giving anything away. She could have been born to it. But she wasn’t, she had to learn how to do all that and she was committed enough to that job to give it her all.

But that’s what it is: it’s a PR exercise and a professional veneer. She and her hubby were charged with salvaging the British royals from lurching from one PR disaster to another and they’ve pulled it off, because the royal fantasy is as tantalising as ever. Maybe more so.

And that’s why Duchess Kate is dangerous for our daughters. She has revived the idea that women being defined by who they marry is a positive life choice. Let’s remember that in her unimaginably privileged life – where she has to do nothing for herself if she doesn’t choose to – every designer dress, every luxury hair treatment, every palace and mansion and expensive baby buggy has been paid for by people with ‘normal’ jobs.

So I’m sorry people, she’s not just like you. And I don’t want my daughter to be like her.

Royal Family on Tour

Royal Couple in Adelaide

Royal couple in Adelaide

Royal couple in Adelaide

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal pair arrive in Canberra.

Royal couple at Uluru

Royal couple at Uluru

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Royals back in Canberra

Royal couple in Adelaide

Royal couple at Uluru

Royal couple at Uluru

Royal couple at Uluru

Royal couple at Uluru

Royal couple at Uluru

Royal pair arrive in Canberra.

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge arrive at an Easter Sunday service in Sydney.

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

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Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

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Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

Royal Tour: The Duke and Duchess in Brisbane

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Kate and Will meet Glenn McGrath.

The Royals getting taken on a tour of Sydney Harbour

Kate greets some fans.

Kate and Will arrive at the Sydney Opera House.

Kate shows off a beautiful yellow dress.

The Royal arrival.

Prince George looking chuffed to be here.

Will, Kate and George are welcomed to Sydney.

Royal fan Jocelyn presents flowers to Kate.

The Royal family touching down in Sydney.

The Duke with brave little Iris at the Police Academy.

The Duke and Duchess with Police dog puppies!

The Duke and Duchess represent in navy blue at the Royal New Zealand Police College.

The Duke and Duchess pay their respects at the RNZAF Memorial Wall.

Will greets some adorable fans.

The Duchess is up to bat… in heels too!

The Duke shows off his bowling skills.

The Duke and Duchess officially open the Christchurch Visitors' Centre at the Botanic Gardens.

The Duke and Duchess stop in at the Transitional Cathedral.

The Duke and Duchess meeting families at the CTV Building memorial site.

The Christchurch welcome ceremony hongi line.

Kate and Will after a ride on the Shotover jet in Queenstown.

Kate and Will on the Shotover jet.

The Royal couple prepare for a ride on the Shotover jet.

The Duke and Duchess sample some of New Zealand's famous wine.

The Royal couple take a tour of a winery.

The Royal Couple arriving at Amisfield Winery in beautiful Queenstown

The Duke and Duchess present medals to the rippa rugby team.

The Duke and Duchess with their rippa rugby teams.

The Duchess meeting her coaching team before kick-off.

The Duke and Ritchie McCaw.

The Duke and Duchess at St Paul's Anglican Cathedral.

The Duke and Duchess arrive at church in Dunedin.

Kate gets a cuddle in Dunedin.

The Royal tour arrives in Dunedin.

Another city another staircase!

The Duchess has arrived at Rainbow Place.

The Duchess meeting kids in the Art Therapy Room at Rainbow Place.

Meeting some of the gathered crowd in Cambridge.

The Duke and Duchess speak with some of our Olympians at the opening of Avantidrome.

An impromptu meet and greet with people waiting at Hobsonville Marina.

Kate prepares to sail with her team.

The Duke and Duchess and their match race sailing teams.

The Duke talks with this little girl about how she broke her arm.

The Duchess meeting RNZAF families in Auckland.

The unveiling of the portrait of Her Majesty the Queen of New Zealand by Nick Cuthell.

The Duke and Duchess at the State Reception.

Sir Peter Jackson shows the Duke and Duchess his Knights of the Sky WW1 exhibition at Omaka.

The Duke and Duchess arrive at Omaka.

Wreath laying in Seymour Square.

Baby George make a friend at the Plunket play date at play date at Government House.

The Duchess and Prince George.

George plays with mum at the Plunket playgroup.

Prince George gets his own Plunket bear.

Prince George chomps on his mother's royal locks.

The public line the streets to greet the royal family.

The Governor-General and Lady Janine welcome the Duke and Duchess to Government House, and New Zealand.

A hongi welcome at Government House.

The Duke and Duchess with Prince George.

Our first glimpse of Prince George and those adorable chubby cheeks.

The royals touch down in windy Wellington.

Do you agree? Do you think Kate is a good role model for girls?

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