notsurehowtohandle Tue 21-Nov-17 08:33:13

I really need some advice on how to handle this, what DD needs, what I need to put in place. Any wise words, opinions really welcolme.



DD age 13 was reported (quite rightly) by fellow year 9 girls to a teacher at school for looking at a porn sight at School.



My husband was called into a meeting at school as he was the closest to the school. The head of safeguarding explained that she had been chatting to someone on a site called Kik and had sent a topless photo to a male she had been chatting to. And that she had been seen looking at porn sights. The school are treating it as a safeguarding issue rather than a disciplinary one.



DD is so humiliated, cross, ashamed. She has refused to go to school today. Has offered some explanation and it turns out it’s 5 images including her vagina/vulva whatever the correct terminolgy is.



I can’t get much more out of her, she just says I don’t know, I can’t remember. She is focusing on the girls who told on her and facing them. I would imagine that most of her class know.



The school have told us to report to the police which I will do.



I feel such a failure. We have parental controls but she has got around them. We have open chats about sex, online safety etc but she still made these choices.



Sorry for the ramble but I just don’t know what to think / say / do. I can’t talk to my friends as they all have daughters of DD age and I don’t want them to stop those friendships.



Thank you for reading.