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Straight women in particular should be wary of men claiming to be sapiosexuals. The venn diagram of straight dudes self-identifying as sapiosexual and straight dudes with a penchant for mansplaining is closer to a perfect circle than anything Giotto di Bondone could draw. The last time I stepped out with such a gentleman, he soliloquized on the importance of Women’s Marches for about an hour. Interestingly, it never occurred to him to ask for my opinion as an actual woman.

The sapiosexual identity portrays an insistence on dating traditionally intelligent people as a virtue, not a prejudice. However, is pursuing someone for their IQ score better than picking someone for their six-pack? Whether we as individuals live up to society’s definitions of conventional intelligence or conventional attractiveness is largely out of our control.

Another problem with sapiosexuality is that it suggests you’re qualified to judge what intelligence is. But how does having a Tinder profile entitle you to judge a person’s intellectual capability? One wonders, what metric would a sapiosexual use to determine the intelligence of a prospective date? Do they send prospective paramours free IQ tests from Buzzfeed? Do they request their love interests complete a Sudoku puzzle before sleeping with them?

Like looksism, sapiosexuality is worryingly reductive. This preference embraces or discards potential partners on a single aspect of their personhood. It also downplays the importance of key traits that are within our control, like kindness, generosity or all-important punctuality.

Upon reflection, sapiosexuality feels more like subtle discrimination than a bona fide sexual orientation. And that’s assuming those claiming to be sapiosexuals are actually being honest about what really turns them on.