Hey, We’re ‘The Walton’s’, more often known as Charn and Amy! We have been in a relationship for 3 and a half years and we tied that lesbian wedding knot on the 1st of August 2015. (No, neither of us wore a tucks!)

We thought long and hard about having babies… How we would fund it, who would carry the first baby, what sperm would we use? No Turkey basters were ever mentioned, surprisigly!

It’s a difficult thing as a lesbian, making the decision to have a baby as everything is suddenly so inpersonal and judged. I mean if i were hetrosexual i could have a quick shag in a pub toilet if i so wished, and 9 months later? Hello baby! But because i am said Lesbian i have to have my whole life poked into. How long have you been married? Lived together? How much do you weigh? Do you drink? Do you smoke? Do you shit once a day? We are being judged and we have to tick boxes before we can even be referred to possibly have the opportunity to speak about paying thousands of pounds to try and have a baby.

In January 2016 we made the decison to go to our GP and be referred to The Jessop’s Assisted Conception unit. Thinking we could be trying for a baby come September. If only we knew then what hurdles we would have to surpass. By hurdles I of course mean a shit GP that did the referral wrong, not once but twice which ended up putting us behind by about 3 months. Then the consultant made an error and we were somehow put back again!

Eventually we had our first appointment through the post, shall I say we were a tad excited to say the least! Amy is going to be the first carrier, then I will carry the second baby, this just made sense to us in terms of work and maternity etc.. Luckily Amy is in tip top condition and all her bits and bobs, (mainly her womanly parts) are in good working order. Phew!

We had the compulsory counselling session about a month ago and got the tick for that too, we were dreading it to be honest, but actually it was useful and insightful. We may even go back again in the future. After this on paper we were officially ready to start having a baby! Yippee! The bad news being there was no sperm available. This was quite disheartening and we were both a little fragile. Though we were given an appointment to see Denise (sperm lady) on the 27th September and hopefully she will have good news.

The appointment seemed so far away but is now just in a couple of days time, we are feeling positive and whatever the news we are prepared for it. Whether it be that we try for a baby before Christmas if there are donors available, or if there isn’t and we spend Christmas together, the two of us, best pals, wife and wife, drinking prosecco like it’s going out of fashion. Were ok with that too.

I will start writing this blog after our appointment on Tuesday and then throughout treatment and pregnancy. Feel free to join us on our journey.

Charn and Amy xx

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