this is a submission from korrathefirebender to theroguefeminist

Hi, I just want to say that I love your blog and actually one of the ways in which I found out about you was through a whining cis/het male redditor who was whining about you. So I told him that you sound like a wonderful human being and that thanks to him I’ll start following your blog. However, I have some constructive criticism for you. As someone who has struggled with self-harm, depression, thoughts of suicide and anxiety attacks from these experiences I don’t wish these onto anyone. Your image “die cis scum” is…well gives me the impression that it’s advocating for cis people to kill themselves. I myself am an aromantic heterosexual genderfluid bigender (I am heterosexual on those days that I am a girl) so I do occasionally say things like “omg cis people are annoying” and I don’t care if gay, bi, asexual and pan people say things like “fucking heterosexuals” because I understand that it’s coming from a place of anger and a) I need to correct my behavior, b) recognize my privilege as a heterosexual or c) understand that it’s coming from a place of anger at oppression and d) listen. I don’t mean to sound like I am tone policing but again…I think that the “die cis scum” is…kind of triggering and well disrespectful to people who have struggled with suicide.

this is theroguefeminist’s response

I already addressed this point here: http://theroguefeminist.tumblr.com/post/83567380465/all-of-your-cisshate-is-triggering-me-c I myself also struggle with suicide ideation. As have cis friends of mine who do not take offense to my icon. You also conveniently ignore the fact that during this whole thing I’ve gotten real death threats and people telling me to kill myself.

This would be more of a valid point if it were my user name, because even if someone unfollows me, the text would show up if they saw a post reblogged from me, but literally if someone is triggered all they need to do is unfollow me and not visit my blog and they will never see the icon again. I don’t even intend on keeping it that much longer—maybe one more day. And I do not hold it against anyone if they unfollow me because they are triggered by my icon. I made that clear in that ask answer.

But i explain in my ask answer why I have this icon and it’s because my life itself is triggering and I can’t escape it. The icon has helped me cope with extreme transphobia I have faced. This blog is my space and I talk about my triggering life experiences here. I tag things as best I can but other people know that it’s not 100% safe here because of the hate I receive. You can unfollow me, but I can’t change the fact my life isn’t safe or that people keep sending me submissions and fanmail even though I closed my ask box and made it clear I don’t want messages right now. So I guess I’ll turn that off too. You don’t seem very respectful of my boundaries or space given you sent me this. If you unfollow, I will respect yours.

And my icon is not a call for cis people to kill themselves, just in case that wasn’t clear. Die cis scum is a slogan of sorts. I think most people understand it’s point and meaning. The only complaints I’ve gotten about it are oversensitive cis people, angry cis people who are being purposefully obtuse, and a couple messages about its triggering nature, which is fair and which I can’t hold against people if they unfollow for their self care. This icon is part of my self care. Hopefully you can respect my choices as I will respect yours.