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We are back in the MGTOW Red Flags series once again, and today I’m going to talk about another red flag known as her mastery of public relations. This is the thirteenth edition in my MGTOW Red Flags series, so be sure to check out some of the other ones. I’ve got a playlist set up for this if you want to check ‘em out.

What does that mean? Well, it actually has a couple of meanings, but the main one is that she has mastered the ability to chameleon amongst primary and secondary people in her life. This was inspired by my own reflections upon my life, but also a recent MGTOW testimonial that I received the other day.

I studied in a communications related field and have worked on and off in it for the past four years and I have quite a bit of a familiarity with the public relations world and the white lying that goes along and the messaging that is finely crafted in order to save face during a crisis, convince a client to use their services, to publicize a recent occurrence so that the right media pick it up and publicize it even more. PR is the professional maintenance of a favorable public image by a company or other organization or a famous person according to the Google machine.

Working in public relations isn’t something to ride home about intellectually, I’m not tooting my own horn here, but it’s a burgeoning industry for women as well because they can use it as an in to get into working for Ulta, Cosmopolitan, lululemon, whatever it may be.

This is what women will do with themselves today, and because it’s almost expected that a 13-30 year old female has social media apps such as Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Tumblr and sometimes a blog, these women are getting crash courses in personal branding so to speak. But, their branding isn’t just digital, often times it’s personal and it’s a public and private representation of who they are.

So, let’s read the quick excerpt and get into it.

Hiding their secrets, publicizing their assets

“I was about to chuck in the towel with the whole “dating and relationships” thing when I met what was to become my last serious flame. Julie was a very beautiful woman in her late 30s, being half Vietnamese and half caucasian, she drew the stares of guys wherever we went. I have to confess that I made a conscious decision to put all of my hard-earned red pill understanding about female nature aside and take one last punt on a blue pill life with her, as she seemed to be the first genuine NAWALT that I had come across.

I won’t bore the reader with the details, but predictably she turned out to be the worst girl I ever dated; a truly shallow BPD narcissist vampire but with an uncanny ability to hide the fact and convince people that she was a high quality woman. It was all smoke and mirrors; she was obsessed with her looks and position on the social hierarchy, and seemed to harbour a deep grudge that she had somehow been wronged or overlooked by life. Naturally this psychological hot coal was thrust into my hands and she saw it as my duty to relieve her of it. Hence there was a constant unspoken demand to step up, perform better, get the pay rise, plan the future etc., as well as a nagging sense of constantly underperforming in all of these. I ran as fast I could for as long as I could until her burning hypergamy in all of these.

I ran as fast as I could for as long as I could until her burning hypergamy started to streak away from me and leave me flagging behind. As her delusions of grandeur got bigger I became smaller, until she finally announced that the race was lost. It was a simple emotionless five minute chat, like discussing a misunderstood bank transaction with a teller behind the bullet-proof plexiglass. She “wanted more” and had some major plans and dreams that needed to be realized, and then left.

Three three public relations slants

This is once again just like chameleoning. The female will act like a chameleon, adjusting her colors to the environment in order to survive. Women understand that they have a greater power in alluring people through appearance, thus chameleoning in the literal sense and thus the metaphorical sense would make sense.

I’ve kind of split this up into three different types of public relations avenues:

Personality Values Attitude

She puts on a show very well and can manipulate men and women alike and is very magnetic in public settings and with large numbers of people. She’s a social butterfly most of the time, and appears to be very comfortable in all public settings. Typically, she is with a man that is the opposite of her in this regard. Often, it’s the BPD girl and the nice guy tandem.

The BPD woman and the nice guy tandem work hand-in-hand because her public relations efforts are able to quell any speculation from the outside as to what the relationship truly is. The nature of the relationship is truly reflected by the nature of what goes on when nobody else can see what is going on. She will be this affable, cordial, personable, strong, driven and overall, flawless chick, when you guys are at the bar, when she’s over to your parents house for Thanksgiving dinner, when she is meeting your friends or when she is at a business party if you dare to bring her there. But, behind closed doors, she changes because she rests in a position of comfort. The nice guy nature perpetuates her ability to act out in this duality of branding, possessing a public and a private brand.

Your friends come across her and they’re like, “man, you came across a dime”. All the while, you’re sitting there rolling your eyes over what you’re witnessing. The full story is not being told and a brand is being protected. Her brand is chameleoning and one chameleons to save face and to gain public opinion and support. This allows for her to have a better opportunity to monkey branch and keep potential relationships viable in the future.

Split character

Handle conversations differently

Express opposing value systems

Usually are consistently sexually driven, although they are more likely to be less forward with you in private as it doesn’t represent a conquest for what isn’t currently possessed.

Affable and the derisive

How to realize that this is a thing

The first thing that I think you need to tie this to is to notice if she cuts people off and if she has any long term familial or friend-based relationships that don’t have a lot of ebbs and flows and don’t demand that much interaction and upkeep. Low maintenance relationships never work with this type of person that relies on press releases in order to keep the truth from the media (long term relationship partners and friends) at bay.

Thus, there is a strong connection between this woman and the woman that cuts people off, because the cutting off is like cutting off a sponsor that disagrees with you through something that they’ve published on their own website or with a recent hire. Therefore, they won’t have long standing agreements with people because a person that is dishonest and two-faced cannot maintain a reliable sense of self or output. If you don’t know what the coffee is going to taste like each time you go to the coffee shop down the street, you’re not going to go to that coffee shop anymore. You’re going to ditch it because of the lack of consistency in the coffee. That’s like a person that is not consistent, or the woman that is a great public relations agent. She knows that consistency and reliability in character is not present, therefore, she makes up for it by being transient, always having to bring in organic or new customers into her coffee shop. That is the first thing to look at.

The next thing is, you have feelings of resentment created when you are with her in a public setting, and even public acknowledgement of traits that are deemed positive within her are cause for you to feel resentment.

All of these things fall under the umbrella of borderline personality disorder and the chameleon effect, or what is known as mirroring. The reason that this is done is because a sense of self is the baseline that people aim to reach, and the further off you are from that target the greater difficulty that one will have in maintaining the same color in public. Thus, for protection, survival and acceptance, this person will create a new press release for each public encounter that you have, thus hiding their true visage and creating a rift. But, these people are transient and they cannot maintain anything long term. A lot of the time these same people are going to be perceived as social butterfly. They’re not really aiming to build anything with people, they’re just looking to survive. Same goes for your relationship with this person.

I’m no expert on this, BPD or chameleoning, but these are just my cursory thoughts in this edition of MGTOW – Red Flags, aiming to help people understand past relationships, avoid future ones and help those out around them that are dealing with these red flags as we speak.

Thanks for listening today. Also, as always, at the end of each video I’ve been announcing that I want to put together a book – a collection of stories from MGTOW men sharing how they came to MGTOW and what MGTOW has done to benefit them. To take part in that, let me know at sunrisehoodie@gmail.com or on Twitter @sunrisehoodie.