This story contains many examples of tactics of power and control: including isolation, mindgames, intimidation, financial, verbal & physical abuse

After a series of violent and frightening events one of my daughters, who was seven at the time, said “Mum, we have to leave”.

Things have changed for the better at He Tauaa Hawks Rugby League Club in the past year. The players and refs are happier, and the sideline abuse has dropped.