We have a really strong connection, but I’m unsure of their feelings and don’t know whether they see it merely as a positive working relationship

I am recently out of a long-term relationship and have developed an intense crush on my new line manager. We have an intellectual connection and I feel we just get each other. I have not felt this way for a long time. I am unsure of their feelings and whether I have interpreted this as a sexual connection when perhaps they see it as merely a strong and positive working relationship. How do I explore whether there is something really there and how – if at all – should I act on my feelings?

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