To the Editor:

Re “If Keanu Reeves’s Date Can Embrace Looking Her Age, I Can Too” (Op-Ed, nytimes.com, Nov. 6):

A li Drucker’s article was a disappointment. I’m not shocked that she was brave enough to admit her vanity and self-doubt; I am disappointed that The New York Times saw fit to publish an article in which a man’s endorsement of a woman’s natural hair color and “a few n oticeable wrinkles” has Ms. Drucker suddenly hopeful that there might be a place in the world for middle-aged women after all, or, as she puts it: “ I’d love to stop thinking of the discussion around women and getting older as a transgression.”

Here’s a thought: Just go ahead and do that. If you need moral support, rather than looking for a man to supply that, consider taking a look at the women in your life.

Perhaps Ms. Drucker has some female relatives or friends who have crossed the Rubicon of 40 — or is it 30 now? — and yet still manage to provide some value to the world and are human beings she considers worthy of love and respect. Perhaps she might do those women the honor of modeling her feelings about aging based on real people she knows and cares for, rather than on what Keanu Reeves seems to think about it.

Mr. Reeves seems like a nice enough guy, but let’s not put him in charge of this when there are real-life women who can show the way.