I agree with the previous comment. While some of these questions are legitimately rude and insensitive, most of them are not unreasonable. In our society, we have a habit of mentally whiting out the cultural and social contexts in which a comment is made, in order to take offense. That’s our choice. Considering the context in which many of these comments/questions would have been made, a lot of them are not unreasonable.

I ought to mention too that many of the outrageous questions on this list are ones that I have never been asked or heard asked, and which the women I know well have never been asked. I feel that in this article, you are listing several questions that are not often posed as though they are part of everyday small talk for LDS women.

Like questions about being a ‘working mom’ – in many church units, that is the exception, not the norm, and there’s nothing wrong with people, especially women, who have not experienced that situation or lifestyle, being curious about what it’s like. Maybe judgment is implied, maybe it isn’t. The point is that we can choose to take offense, or we can take the opportunity to give others insights into our lives and decisions, and give them the chance to be accepting of that.

I don’t mind people asking who’s watching my kids. People are curious, and in the church, we are encourage to serve one another. If someone is asking probing questions, it may be because they are judging me or it might be because they’re trying to figure out if I need help, and how they can provide it. Oh, and like several other questions on your list, my husband gets this one about as much as I do.

It doesn’t bother me that I’m mostly told that I’m a daughter of Heavenly Father rather than of Heavenly Mother. I think that’s a beautiful doctrine, but our Heavenly Parents don’t compete, and there’s no call for us to start doing so on their behalf.

‘Please go home and change your clothes.’ I’ve rarely seen a situation that warrants this and heard it asked even less, but sometimes it is appropriate. Feminist dogma would have us believe that modesty doesn’t matter. ‘You dress in a way that makes you feel pretty and everyone else can respect that or look somewhere else.’ But in LDS teachings, we are encouraged to respect and treasure our bodies and that means, among other things, dressing modestly. It matters, and unfortunately, it’s not an issue for boys and men in the same way it is for girls and women. There just aren’t a lot of revealing clothing options for guys to avoid.

For questions like ‘do you know how special you are?’: boys and girls are different. Let’s please stop pretending otherwise. We complement each other and we need each other, but we aren’t the same and we don’t need to be treated the same. Equally, but not the same. Especially as a teenager, messages about individual worth – ‘you are special’ messages – were very meaningful to me, much more so than they were to my brothers. And on that note, I don’t believe that messages like that aren’t given to the men and young men.

Life is hard. We often feel hurt and sad and worn down, and we often feel limited by expectations – our own expectations, expectations of our peers AND by our perception of other people’s expectations/opinions. That doesn’t mean we need to go looking for salt to pour on our wounds. On the whole I found this article petty and contentious.

I apologize for the length of this comment, but I strongly oppose the message you are sending to women – to consider ourselves oppressed, to look for the negative in daily interactions, to chafe at misunderstandings rather than to correct them with love. This is not the culture in which I live or grew up and it is not the culture that I wish to promote by adopting this attitude.