I have big goals, lots of things I want to accomplish. Outcomes I am chasing. A certain way I want to carry myself.

Interwoven into all of these lofty ambitions are a myriad of distractions. My plate is full. The reality is that every day I am challenged with projects that need my attention, unexpected fires to put out, and things that just need to get done. There is a constant push-pull between what I know I should be doing to create forward progress on the most important things, and what I need to be doing to keep everything in my work and life on track.

I have always prided myself on my work ethic. When it comes to hustle, I can keep up with anyone. Knowing that about myself, I always assumed that I would naturally be able to hold myself accountable to all the things that really matter. When it comes to reaching my goals and getting things done, I shouldn’t need anyone’s help to keep me on task. I can do this on my own.

But I can’t.

I’ve tried doing it all on my own before. It didn’t work. It never does. And so I’ve learned over time the value of reaching out to those in my circle and asking for their help. Check in with me, help me measure my progress, and ensure that I am focusing on the right things. Ask me on a regular basis how I’m doing. Call me out when I start to slide. Be my guardrails.

“I’ll hold you accountable to that.”

I’ve been on both sides of that phrase, and I can tell you those words are easier to deliver than they are to hear. There is still a part of me deep inside that battles having someone tell me what to do. I’ve had to learn over time the value of hearing those words and having someone help me stay focused and continue moving forward.

How have I learned to embrace accountability? Frankly, the results I’ve experienced have been the driving force that changed my attitude. Every time I’ve had someone in my corner holding me accountable, I’ve experienced amazing results. The accountability exerts an added level of pressure that has pushed me forward and keeps me from getting distracted or stuck. It’s a powerful tool in creating momentum and transforming where I land. I always know there is someone around the corner that is going to ask me how things are going, what’s getting done, and if I am making progress. I need a good answer for them.

The key is making sure that the person holding you accountable will do their part, asking you the hard questions and applying pressure when they need to. This isn’t an easy role to take on. Their value comes in their ability to check in and dig deep, push when needed, and to be a constant source of tough love. It’s a big responsibility, and I’ve discovered that not everyone is dialed in the right way to be that person.

Again, I always thought I could self-regulate. I’ve learned over time that I was wrong, and so adding accountability to my professional and personal life has been the only real way for me to keep from veering off course.