First Lady Chirlane McCray's $170,000-a-year chief of staff — who's been under scrutiny for being romantically involved with a convicted killer with a long rap sheet — was nowhere to be found as her self-proclaimed cop-hating son was brought before a criminal court judge Saturday. "While he is still a teen, he is entering into adulthood, and he must take responsibility for his actions," Noerdlinger said in a statement. "This issue is now a family matter that we will address privately at home."