NWQM Sat 09-Nov-19 11:11:16

Unless there is a huge back story with the MIL do you really need to make an issue of it? Your MiL is potentially struggling with the fact that friends are passing away etc. Can't you just reassure her that you will do your level best to fulfil her wishes when she does die?

Is this a roundabout way of her asking for help with her will?

Is she really telling you what she doesn't want ie something potentially neglected in a graveyard?

Isn't she really asking - will you remember me?

I'd just say something vague and change the subject.

You don't have to remember her any particular way at all but sounds as if she and your husband are talking about something difficult. Not sure it's great that you are making it clear that he's in his own with it.