'What’s miraculous about sexuality is that it can die out, but also be rekindled in two seconds. As I said in the book, there are two things I missed when I stopped having sex. One is the loss of self when you make love, and it’s so good and intoxicating that you lose control. When you don’t make love, you are always in control. The second thing is to be caressed, to be in someone’s arms, with your head on his shoulders.’