When I was 16 I was pro-life, I wanted kids and to get married, I had next to no inkling of what gay people went through and “disapproved of the lifestyle” because that’s what my parents told me to think, I didn’t even know asexuals existed and if I had I probably would have thought they just needed to get laid.

It’s 15 years later now and I’m pro-choice, I don’t want kids of my own, I’ve been married and divorced and am now engaged, the majority of my friends are some form of queer as well as myself, and I am on the ace spectrum.

We change as people as we grow up. It happens. We get exposed to new things, learn new ways of thinking, see other sides to things.

Which is one of the reasons Tumblr’s toxic black/white nonsense is very infuriating.

Because it’s a bunch of kids who haven’t learned yet that shit’s gonna change trying to make absolutes out of every situation. They’re always out to find the bad guy.

Like there’s a very reverse Scooby Doo kind of feeling like “Oh look, let’s take the mask off your fave artist/actor/etc and reveal that they are the monster. Look how problematic!!!” and for small infractions too.

I dunno man. Life’s going to change for you, people are going to change around you, and YOU are going to change as you grow. Who you are right now is not who you are going to be at 30.

I mean, lord, can you imaging parenting kids with the same attitude tumblr has? You kid screws up once and you’re flipping shit on them and kicking them out of the house?

It’s not good behavior, always looking for the bad in things, always looking for a monster. You can take a stand in other ways against bad shit in the world and it doesn’t have to mean harassing people. Give to charities, promote things like help hotlines, volunteer places, take classes on how to counsel people, there’s so many good ways to help. Badgering people, sending death threats, being a dick? Those aren’t helping.

Ya’ll will change as you grow and you gotta acknowledge that you change and so do others and that change isn’t instant and that some things never 100% change and that’s okay. The world is like that. There’s stuff we’ll never eradicate 100%. It sucks. I’d love to prevent some shit from ever happening ever but that’s not how life is. So instead we do what we can while we’re here to help others.

Be kind. Don’t be a dick. The world is nicer that way.