In your last argument, one you’re still thinking about, were you right?

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Step 1 of 31 0% Right, let's kick this off. Have a think. What was your argument about? What got to you about it? What was your main issue? Put it another way. How's the argument, this issue, made you feel? And where's this led to? In other words, what’s happened because of this issue? Where has it left you & those involved? And how's it affected you outside the argument, in your life or work? So if you don’t manage to work it out, to resolve this issue, what’s the worst case scenario for you or those involved? What do you think's the worst that could happen? And how would that affect you? Is it fair to say that, given the choice, you’d rather avoid that situation if possible? Yes No Don't know

OK, so that’s where you are now. Now thinking about this issue, what’s important to you right now? And bearing that in mind, if you could do something to sort things out, what would you like to happen? What would you like to achieve? So crystal ball, magic wand time. If you could get there, if this issue could get sorted out, what would that look like for you? How would your life, or the lives of those involved, be different? What would need to happen to get there? Try to think of POSITIVE actions that might help, instead of things or behaviours that need to stop. Right, so putting aside your differences for a moment, what qualities about this person make you hope this issue could get sorted out? And in turn, what qualities might they say YOU have that would help sort things out? What do you think THEY would say the issue's about? If you think they might say this, what do you feel they’re not understanding? Thinking of any chats you’ve had with them about all this, would they say you’ve made that as clear as you can to them? Yes No Don't know

And what might they say YOU'VE done to add to the argument? Is there a bit of truth there? If you’re being as honest as you can be, what part of what they might say is close to the truth? Looking forward, what ideas do you have that might help sort things out? What might work? Try to put down at least three ideas, like a favourite one and two you could maybe live with. OK, can you say a little more about that? How might those ideas work in reality? How would they help? If you reached with this person an understanding about those ideas, what POSITIVE things would they need to do or to change to make that happen? Thinking of how this might be achieved, what POSITIVE things about them could they put to good use to end your differences? And if they did this, what would you think about that? What would YOU need to do or to change to sort things out in the way you mentioned? So thinking again about this person you've argued with, where they might be coming from, what do you think THEY'D like to happen here? What’s their best case scenario? Putting aside whether or not you agree with them, let’s say this actually came about, that what they want actually happened and you had to live with it. How would you make that work? This is a tough one, yeah, but try and picture it. How would you make the most of it? And again, putting aside the argument itself, how would you describe positively the type of relationship you’d like to have with this person, or the type of understanding you’d like to reach? Are you willing to live up to those words in any conversations you have with them, to try your best to be respectful and to focus less on the past and more on moving forward? Yes No Don't know

So pulling all this together, what are you going to try and do to put all this behind you, to move on with an understanding you can both live with? Both of you might not be totally happy about the outcome, but is there an end result here that you could both make work? OK, that's you finished. What you’ve done here is to take this argument, this issue in your life that's been troubling you, and in a few minutes you’ve pumped it so full of information that finding a way through it might be easier. Tick this box & confirm your email address (privacy guaranteed) to get a free copy of what you've done here, so you can think through what you're going to do next. Send me a free copy of what I've done here

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