MarchingFrogs Sun 23-Jun-19 09:34:13

My son leaves the house looking smart but I don't ask his to fasten his top button, that's up to him



That's absolutely fair enough - and now he knows that the school requires him to do it up and that he can either choose to do so, or choose not to and endure the sanction. It's a bit tough on him if the requirement is only stated in the parents' version of the uniform details and you have omitted to apprise him of the fact, but ime secondary schools usually have some kind of handbook / uniform card for the students.



If his tie was neatly tied, might his undone top button have gone unnoticed, had he not drawn attention to himself with the untucked shirt? Given the stage of the school year, are his shirts a bit tight in the collar? It's a pain having to buy new for the last few weeks of the year, but if he is flouting the rules through discomfort rather than defiance, it's equally a bit mean not to.