"Cheaters of Reddit: How does it feel when you're having sex with your SO after you've cheated on them?" asked Reddit user lubajohnrecently. And after you get over your "Fuck these people! They're cheaters!" feeling, the answers are surprisingly honest and insightful. Some of these cheaters are regretful, low-self-esteem apologists, while others just say they can't help but cheat, those cavalier sonsofbitches. If you ever wanted to know why people cheat, this is as good a resource as any, as long as you don't mind listening to the wisdom of someone named "IBeJizzin."

1. "The weird thing about my cheating is it had nothing to do with my SO."

I'm a guy, cheated several times on the girl I'm still currently with. Our sex life was actually still very good throughout the whole thing. The first couple times it felt very strange. I had some guilt and it was like "ugh, gross, If she knew where I had been just a couple nights ago she'd shit herself." It's strange though, over time it actually made our sex better. The weird thing about my cheating is it had nothing to do with my SO. It was more just me being selfish and getting out and wanting to experience someone else. The confidence blast that comes with actually getting another girl in bed makes your ego fly. And so I'd come back to my gf and have this super-confidence type state and be able to go forever and have the best sex I'd ever had with her. Also, at that point the SO actually becomes the "other woman" in a way. Instead of being the one same boring person she's one of the beautiful women you are currently with and the pure sexual drive of being with her is magnified. - furrrsurre

2. "I'll never be able to shake that hollow, emptiness of not feeling guilty."

I was more intoxicated by the fact that someone wanted to go home with me, which is way more value than I ever placed on myself. I'm sure the vast majority of you have a stronger moral compass that would lead you away from that temptation, but I'm an unequivocal piece of shit who couldn't resist some pretty base needs...After the deed was done, I wish I could say it played out like the movies where I was so overwrought with the guilt of what I'd done that I couldn't bring myself to have sex with my girlfriend after that, but, real life is a lot uglier than that, (or I as a person am uglier than that more likely)...Subconsciously it kind of ignited this passion inside of me that made sex with her a lot better, and it wasn't till a long time afterwards that I'd realised that was what had happened. It's fucking disgusting that it works that way, but people wanted to know, and there you have it. But please don't misunderstand, I'd never suggest that any prize gained from cheating was anywhere near worth the price. Even though I'm an extremely upfront and honest individual today, I'll never be able to shake that hollow, emptiness of not feeling guilty, which I guess in a fucked up way is a guilt of it's own. - IBeJizzin

3. "The crazy thing was that it made sex with my husband better."

I ended up having an affair with a friend of ours that lasted for around 2 years. He ended up getting married, also, and we never considered leaving our SOs to be together full-time. The sex was good, but the crazy thing was that it made sex with my husband better. This friend wasn't the only one I strayed with. There were a couple others. It seemed the greater risks I took, the more thrilling it was. I made out with an old bf on the dance floor at a bar while my husband was getting us drinks. I had sex in the house while my husband was in bed. I was out of control. But damn, my sex life was AMAZING in and out of my marriage. I finally put an end to it all and stayed faithful for about 12 months. I was really unhappy in the marriage and I ended up leaving him.He didn't know about the infidelity until after I left. - khyrystyne_68

4. "I felt like the world's biggest scumbag."

It's pretty shitty to be honest. Honestly, when I cheated on my girlfriend I had no idea why I did it. The other girl was hot, and we had great sex once we got back home, but once I woke up and the alcohol haze was gone, I felt like the world's biggest scumbag. We have since broken up, but initially she was willing to stay with me even knowing I had cheated. Hearing her say that basically broke me emotionally, and I still haven't recovered. It was 100% my fault what happened, but I still hate myself. - ducksonducks

5. "I got divorced. Never been happier."

The first time it was horrible. I was wracked with guilt. It faded relatively quickly and was back at it a few weeks later. Eventually I decided being a serial cheater was just dumb, that I wouldn't be able to stop (it was SO easy), and what was the point of being married if I was going to cheat on my wife. So, I got divorced. Never been happier. No longer a cheater! - Jackbowowower

6. "I hate how much I have hurt her and I am unsure if the feeling will ever pass."

Most of the time I had sex with my SO after I tried to ignore some of the guilt I felt and just focus all on making it nice for her, but I just felt empty most of the time. The sexual part of me that wants stimulation from the things I fantasies about where not met. The emotional part that made sex good with my SO because I care about here where shattered by my cheating. I told my SO about my cheating last week... How I have hated myself ever since and some of the other things that have been weighing me down. At one point where I was really down suicide crossed my mind, but my mind quickly decided that I couldn't do that to the people I care about. As it is right now we are still together and are trying to work things out. I hate how much I have hurt her and I am unsure if the feeling will ever pass. - xami_euw

7. "Sex with my SO felt just as empty."

She once stabbed me with a piece of frozen asparagus. Yep, it punctured the skin too. I was walking up the stairs in her parents home and I was pinching her butt. She hated that, and I pretty much deserved what I got, but this is pretty indicative of our relationship. We used to be mean to eachother for no reason. She used to brush her bangs with my toothbrush to "make them straight" and I would find hair in my toothbrush, and I would go bizonkers over it. So I ended up cheating on her multiple times. With three different women. I slept with all of them. It felt pretty empty and I knew I couldn't create a relationship with these other women either. Sex with my SO felt just as empty too. Sex with her wasn't particularly great before, it was ok, but nothing spectacular. I mean i loved doing it, but emotionally there was no longer anything there, which really made it seem like something was missing. Ultimately we split up and it was the best for both of us. She was a bit more upset in the beginning, but now she's perfectly happy, and i'm happy for her. I moved on and married someone else and have been with her for 7 years, and I never cheated on her. - buckwheat1

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