Sometimes, we leave sex wishing we could ask what the other person really thought in the moment.

There have been a lot of conversations in the era of the #MeToo movement about consent and the “gray zone.” But stories rarely go deep into how we communicate so poorly about sex and why. That’s where you come in.

Did you have a sexual experience where you’ve always wanted to know what was in the other person’s head? Or where you’ve always wanted to tell them what was in your head?

Share your story by leaving us a voice mail at (212) 556-8300.

We’re looking for people who would be willing to have both parties talk about the encounter, each from their perspective. The point of this project is to bring our inner voices out, shedding light on where communication about sex breaks down and why.

We may use your voice mail messages in a future project or in an episode of our podcast The Daily. We will not publish your contact information. A reporter or editor might contact you to hear more about your story.