I don't want our daughters to feel they have a natural, automatic right to be asked first by the waiter to say what they have chosen from the menu, nor to be served their food before the males at the table. I don't want them supposing that they will always, without question, have first choice of the best seats on the bus or the train nor that anybody is going to get up to offer them their seat if all the others are full. I want them to be proud of their equality, not expecting deference.