Expats often look upon adult Singaporeans living with their parents with a mixture of disgust and scorn, regarding them as overgrown babies and freeloaders who are taking advantage of their parents’ generosity and cooking skills. Sure, rent is expensive, they argue, but isn’t paying for your own accommodation part and parcel of growing up?

Now, I’m not saying I don’t wish more Singaporeans would be less clueless about managing their own lives without mum and dad’s approval. But the above view glosses over the fact that many Singaporeans actually do wish they could move out on their own, but are thwarted by a bunch of factors foreigners may not be cognisant of, such as the following:

1. Many Singaporeans give their parents financial assistance

It always annoys me when foreigners assume unmarried Singaporeans who live with their parents are freeloaders.

They clearly do not realise that many elderly people do not have the money to support themselves due to the lack of a pension system in Singapore. As a result, the burden of financially supporting aged parents falls on their children.

In addition, there are scores of Singaporeans who give their parents an allowance, either out of filial piety or because the parents demand it.

The amount of allowance or household contributions Singaporeans give their parents can range from token sum to over a thousand bucks, which is even more than what many renters pay for their rooms in condos or HDB flats.

2. CPF system forces Singaporeans to channel their resources into purchasing rather than renting property

Every month, a portion of each Singaporean employee’s salary gets locked into his CPF account. The funds in this account cannot be accessed until he hits the age of 55, at which time he can withdraw a portion IF he has met the minimum sum (only about half of Singaporeans manage to hit this sum). Then there’s a 10-year wait till age 65 before he can start receiving payouts from his CPF account.

There are only a few ways you can use your CPF money before you hit the ages at which you can make withdrawals or receive payouts. And one of these ways is to use it to pay for property—this applies only to purchases and not rentals.

There are Singaporeans who have over $100,000 in their CPF accounts, but don’t have much cash savings. For these people, the only viable way to obtain a roof over their head is to buy property. But that is obviously not going to happen fresh out of school—for most, it takes years of accumulating CPF funds before they’re ready.

Young couples also tend to face pressure to purchase property as early as possible, before their incomes get too high to receive HDB grants or buy certain classes of HDB property. For these reasons, it’s financially prudent to live with parents until they are ready to purchase property. Renting would set them back by years.

3. Lack of a pension system means part of one’s income must be channeled into retirement savings and investments

When you deduct parents’ allowance and CPF contributions, that doesn’t leave a lot left over to plunge into the rental market.

Due to the aforesaid lack of a pension system, Singaporeans also need to set aside a portion of their income for savings and investments. For many, that means there’s no money left over to rent property, despite seemingly healthy salaries before all these expenses are deducted.

While there’s no doubt that Singapore is an expensive city for everyone, citizens and non-citizens included, the end goals for both groups are different.

Non-citizens from less expensive countries can spend a few years working here and then retire in comfort in their home countries. Citizens of countries with a pension system can likewise opt to return after a few years, continue working in their home countries and then retire with the support of their country’s welfare system.

For Singaporeans who do not have such options and aren’t earning great salaries, the only financially prudent option is to live with their parents so they can channel their savings into retirement.

4. Renter-unfriendly market

Singapore’s property market is geared towards making housing accessible to families wishing to buy property… which is not so good for young singles looking to rent their own places.