One thing that isn’t often spoken about is how hard it is for men to approach women with romantic intent. It’s actually one of the hardest things we ever have to do and that’s the reason why the vast majority of us only ever do it while drunk and specially defined scenarios like a bar or a club. Well I don’t want to be that way anymore and have decided to get over this fear once and for all so to that end I’ll be approaching 2 women every day for 50 days and writing about what happens.

And just so we’re clear; this isn’t about ‘getting laid’; it’s about breaking through my personal limitations and learning to become a much stronger man. When a guy approaches a girl he doesn’t know, every one of his insecurities are shoved right into his face in technicolour HD and it’s in that moment that he really finds out what he’s made of.

It’s time to find out what I’m made of. Let’s do this.

See the whole challenge here.

Day 45

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Woman number 1 – Consuella

Firstly, I wanna say that I’m writing this post 24 hours late meaning that I’ll be releasing days 45 & 46 at the same time. Because of that I’m slightly pressed for time today and won’t be writing epic 1200 word posts like I have been lately!

Anyway; I met up with a reader of my blog today. His name’s Sam and he’s a 19 year old who’s massively inspired by what I’m up to. I took him for a stroll around Shoreditch and forced him to approach a woman who was on her own as well as another who was with a friend. As scared as he was he did it both times so I was really proud of him.

As for woman number 1, she was a Venezuelan called Consuella who I passed on the street while talking to Sam. I ran back, stepped in front of her, said hey and almost gave the poor girl a heart attack! Once she found out why I stopped her she was all smiles and laughs and we had a great vibe together. She told me she was here on holiday to visit a friend and that she was literally on her way to the airport at that very moment to go home. I gave her a link to this blog and told her to have a safe flight.

Woman number 2 – Gabrielle

I met Gabrielle a few hours after Consuella. Basically I’d just been to London Bridge to do a podcast interview about this very challenge and was in the station marching along a relatively busy platform to get a tube home. I ended up walking alongside her and for a few seconds our paths were parallel and our speeds were in sync. I looked her in the eye and thought to myself ‘Fuck, this woman’s gorgeous!’ and said that to her almost immediately. Now I’m writing this almost a day later so I forget exactly what happened after that, and as I said earlier I’m in a bit of a rush but the long and short of it is that she really liked what I said and ended up giving me her number.

Thoughts

The best takeaway from today in my eyes was my meeting with Sam. He literally was just some dude who read my blog, got inspired and then asked me if I wanted to meet up in person. He even went as far as to say he thought he could learn a lot from me too which was fucking awesome to hear. I’ve said this before but a large part of why I do this is to inspire other people so when I get evidence that it’s working I really like it. It was also cool to see him push himself too.

Before he did his first approach he was basically shitting himself but after he did it he was like ‘Actually that wasn’t so bad!’ He said he feels like he’s had a very sheltered existence which has prevented him from becoming as social as he’d like to be and I told him that if he keeps pushing himself like I saw him do today, he’ll be where he wants to be in 2 years or less.

45 days down, 5 to go