Not to long ago yesterday I was talking with a feminist who insisted that feminism was to make men and women equal.

But in order for that to happen, feminists would need to listen to how men have it. Listen to the issues men face, not the perfect lives “misandry isnt real” feminists like to assume we have.

In which case, yes, we do need more feminist discussions that center around male speakers. Who talk about high suicide rates among men. Who talk about mental health and body issues men face. Who talk about gender roles and expectations for men. Who talk about ho men are sexualized and objectified. Who talk about female on male abuse being largely ignored all over the world. Who talk about female on male rape…also being ignored for most of the world.

So maybe we can have empathy for men. So we can have real equality. And not just have men silenced whenever they speak up.

Meanwhile, the MRAs people are mocking are full of women who consider how both sides are treated and let both men AND women speak.

Equality isnt a one way street. If you demand women should be able to speak to share their issues and experiences, then it stands that men should also get to have a voice in these spaces.

But thank you, Amy Poehler, thank you America Ferrera, thank you tumblr feminists, for treating men wanting to be included in gender equality as a joke. We couldn’t have such a large lack of empathy without you.