JKR is a feminine woman, sis. Have you seen pictures of the lady?

But since it’s ever so fashionable to take the piss, let’s drop some wisdom on you and call it rain.

All of JKRs lead female characters are “not like othe girls” in a sense and she has some issues by doing that.

They’re characters in a novel, with characterization. They have to stand out as distinct characters or else women like you would whine about them being interchangeable monolithic pastiches. In order to differentiate characters, you give them personalities, attributes and flaws.

“There’s a clear dislike of traditionally feminine characters in a way to make fun of them.”

Not especially, but let’s indulge your theory.

“I still love all of them but there’s some clear bias. Even with luna she’s the quirky “I’m not like other girls””

Luna isn’t like the other girls — but that’s because Luna is written as a character whose “quirkiness” is actually a mix of keen observational skills (ie she’s very good at discerning Harry’s emotional state despite him being a glued-shut book), her willingness to consider the improbable (ie the Ravenclaw Diadem), and her ability to see things others cannot (ie, the rise of Voldemort). Luna’s “loony” nature is further subverted — everything thinks she’s mad as a hatter talking about animals they can’t see… right up until she hops on a thestral side saddle “as though she did it every day” and helps the others learn to ride the invisible animals that clearly do in fact exist.

Rowling is subverting the idea of the madwoman wandering around tripping balls; Luna isn’t mad, she’s perceptive.

“and Ginny’s the “I grew up with seven bro’s I’m a TOUGH GIRL””

Who also had the mental fortitude to go up against Tom Marvolo Riddle when she was eleven, and who is to date the only person with the exception of the actual main character, to have had Tom Riddle taking up real estate in her head — and unlike our hero, sis charged him rent. ALSO unlike our magical main man, she didn’t have the Dead Mom Protective Barrier buff, so she’s arguably an even bigger badass than the dude she marries. She’s a jock who becomes a member of the championship all-women’s team the Holyhead Harpies, and when she retires she goes on to become the Senior Quidditch Correspondent at the Daily Prophet (later the Sports Editor). Eventually she makes an honest man of Harry, but that seems to be a pretty low priority on the list.

“and hermione’s like “I’m the intelligent girl who relies on Brains and not LOOKS!!!!!””

Who is nevertheless given the character traits explicitly coded as feminine: she is emotional, and she cries often. She’s assertive to the point where it can become “nagging”, but she’s empathic to the needs of others — albeit in a bit of a “my beloved smother” sort of way (see: SPEW). Nevertheless, Hermione is the warm heart of the trio, who balances Ron’s ability to strategize with Harry’s tendency to react first and consider never. As for her “brains and not looks” — Hermione is called a mud blood, a muggleborn and dismissed from the moment she steps foot in Hogwarts. Her focus on her studies has everything to do with Imposter Syndrome; she isn’t like the other girls, and the pure bloods never let her forget it, so she’ll grind their noses in it. She also goes on to become the Minister for Magic, so, yanno. There you go.

“Look at how she ruins cho because she’s “feminine””

If by ruin you mean, “she’s the character’s love interest and when he asks her out, she gently declines, and he takes it with good grace, and then she’s consistently portrayed as intelligent and kind and thoughtful throughout the entire novel”? I mean… what ruining?

“lavender and parvarti are always giggling like it’s something to be a joke of”

Or because the novel is written from the perspective of a famous and wealthy teenage boy, and it’s canonically stated that Lavender and Parvati are fan girls? So what?

“At first, Lavender had been very annoyed that nobody had thought to tell her that Ron was in the hospital wing… but unfortunately she had now decided to forgive Harry this lapse of memory and was keen to have lots of in-depth chats with him about Ron’s feelings, a most uncomfortable experience that Harry would have happily forgone.”

That’s a direct quote. What’s wrong with a character being upset that her boyfriend is in the hospital and none of his friends thought to let her know? But then she forgives them (that’s gracious), and becomes invested in her boyfriend’s happiness and mental well-being after a trauma, and tries to work with his friends (who haven’t been especially nice to her) in order to make Ron’s life better. That’s not giggling teenage silliness — that’s a rational and reasonable response. Lavender is also a pure blood witch, could have walked out of Hogwarts when Voldemort said so, but instead chose to stay and fight. She died at age 18, savaged by Fenrir Greyback. She died a hero because JKR wrote her that way.

As for Parvati — why shouldn’t she giggle? Lavender was her best friend, and friends share in-jokes all the time. Parvati is also a huge supporter of other women, and loyal — when Prof Umbridge sacks Prof Trelawney, Parvati and Lavender speak up to protest and are critical in Dumbledore allowing Trelawney to stay at Hogwarts. She’s skilled in Divination, Transfiguration and DADA, getting OWLS in all of them. She also joins Dumbledore’s Army at the age of 15, and her actions include damaging and destroying the speakers used by the Carrows, Umbridge and others to control students.

“and Harry’s always annoyed by it idk”

Because he’s a teenaged boy and they exist in a vague state of irritation. Also, because he’s trying to save the world and thinks they’re a bit dippy — but when the chips are down, every single one of those “silly feminine” characters you’re so quick to dismiss came through like they were paid to do it.

“she has some issues against feminine women and it is reflected in all main females whether everyone wants to admit that or not”

I, uh, think that when you’re a hammer, the world looks like a nail. Are you sure it isn’t you the has the problem?