A concern regarding Benlie…

I really hate to keep going back to this, mostly because it was SO long ago and people should really move on from it…but…

Why are so many people still so obsessed with shipping Benlie?

I mean, if your life depends on it, then, by all means, there’s no law against it.

But, if you really cared about Ben, why would you want him to go back to a relationship that wasn’t entirely healthy and fulfilling?

So many people hate on Benkai for obvious reasons. To put it simply, because she didn’t value Ben and because she hurt him.

But, was this not also an obvious sign of hurt? Heartbreak, even?

There was A LOT of backlash from the fandom when Benlie broke up. But what bothers me is that this was mostly directed at Ben for not pausing his video game while his girlfriend called him, causing him to be a little distracted.

Okay. I think even he would agree that wasn’t the best thing to do.

But was what Julie proceeded to do (replacing him behind his back) really any better?

Now, I know that, because Ben isn’t a heartless jerk, he agreed to remain friends with Julie at the end of the episode. And actively tried to protect her and make things between them right again because he obviously still cared about her, for that matter.



So, I don’t hate her and I’m not saying that you should hate her, either. I just hate what she did and the fact that she just got away with it.

And what makes it worse is that their issues run back until Alien Force. They didn’t just start in Ultimate Alien or Omniverse, much less.

Put yourself in Ben’s place. Throughout their relationship, Julie demanded that Ben see that her life is just as important as his. And that is fair - both partners in a relationship are equally important. Both their separate lives outside of the relationship are equally important.

So tell me why this hypocrisy is so ignored:

Ben’s life outside of the relationship needed him to occasionally spend long periods of time away from his girlfriend, sometimes in space. In other words, he had to travel the world, and even the galaxy, to make sure there was still a world/galaxy where he could spend time with his girlfriend. Julie couldn’t accept this.

Julie’s life outside of the relationship needed her to occasionally spend periods of time away from her boyfriend to travel the world in pursuit of her dream of becoming a star in the tennis playing world. Probably as to not seem like a jerk, Ben did accept this. I don’t remember him ever complaining that she spent long periods of time away from him in other countries because she was doing what she loved and he supported that.

That is where the chunk of time between the last time we see Ben and Julie together and “Rules of Engagement” comes in. What where Ben and Julie most probably doing while spending that time away from each other? Saving the world and travelling the world to play tennis, right?

On which one of those tennis trips do you think she met Herve, considering he’s obviously foreign and not from Bellwood?

And, again, just to be clear, IT’S OKAY to fall in love with someone else. What’s NOT okay is just replacing your previous partner with this new person without letting anyone know.

How long would she have played Ben for a fool if he hadn’t eventually physically went to see her again the first chance he got?

I mean, I wouldn’t be surprised if he developed some serious trust issues from that experience. I can’t imagine coming to find put that the person, who I consider my significant other, who I care about in spite of our differences, and who I thought cared about me…just replaced me behind my back as if I wasn’t special to them at all.

That’s not “valuing your partner” in the slightest.

In the end, Julie didn’t choose Ben. So why does such a huge chunk of the fandom want him to choose her again?