California, Lancaster - Valley Oasis Family Violence Shelter This is one of the extremely few shelters in the entire US which offer help to victims without discriminating based on gender. Their 24-hour crisis line number: (805)945-6736.

California, Sacramento Claudia Dias, director of "Changing Courses" in North Highlands, a suburb of Sacramento California, has anger management groups for both men and women, and works with women who are abusive to their partners. Their phone number is (916) 332-5056.

California, San Diego County The Domestic Violence Hotline 1-888-305-SAFE (7233) is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and provides referrals to a variety of services such as: Domestic Violence shelter bed availability, Counseling services, Support Group services, Emergency Food and Clothing, Legal services, Anti-Stalking information, and other available community resources. I called and talked with an employee there, and they provide services for everyone -- men, women, straight or gay. They also told me that there is a shelter for gay men and lesbian women there (call 619-692-2077) and the YWCA has counseling services for men that are abused (call 619-270-4504). Let me know what kind of experiences you have with these services, please.

Florida The Florida Men's Resource Center has a list of resources for men in Florida. Women and children are "welcome also", according to the web page. The Florida Men's Resource is a SAFE Affiliate. Here are some resources if you're in Florida. These resources said that they help battered men:

SHELTERS (407 area code) Coalition for the Homeless: 426-1250 Crossroads Mission: 843-5269 Central Care Mission: 299-6146 Anthony House: 383-5577 Salvation Army 423-8581 Fresh Start Project 422-9781 COUNSELING (407 area code) Cornerstone Institute: Bruce Stoakley 830-8808 Spouse Abuse Outreach Ctr. 895-6099 Christian Service Center 425-2523

Georgia, Atlanta The Ogeechee Judicial Circuit Domestic Violence Shelter offers services to both men and women. Men do not stay at our shelter; however, they are able to provide shelter in a safe place for them at another location in the community. They have advocated for several male victims of domestic violence in the past three years of our existence (as of 1998). (912) 764-4605 crisis line The Partnership Against Domestic Violence

1475 Peachtree St.

Suite 400

Atlanta, GA 30309

404/870-9600

ADDITIONAL PHONE NUMBERS: crisis line: 404/873-1766 (see locations for local office numbers)

HOURS/DAYS: 9:00 am to 5:30 pm MON - FRI; 24 hour crisis line

SERVICE DESCRIPTION: shelter and services for abused women and their children

referral services for battered men, batterers' program, program for women charged with assault

24 hour crisis line

temporary protective orders

support groups, counseling - men, women, children

parenting education

parent/child activities

child/spouse abuse prevention/education

relocation assistance for current clients only

Mass., Boston There is a group trying to set up services for heterosexual abused men. See http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/batteredhusbandssupport.

Maine The Battered Men's Helpline reports that Battered Men's support groups are starting up in Southern and Central Maine. Call their toll free number 1-877-643-1120 Access Code # 0757 for meeting times and locations. If you who are interested in helping and/or offering financial support, please call 207-683-2515. re is a group trying to set up services for heterosexual abused men. P.O. Box 252, Harmony, Maine 04942. E-mail help@noexcuse4abuse.org.

Michigan S.A.F.E. Hotline The SAFE group in Michigan has set up a national hotline for battered men and lesbian women to call: (616)941-0825. Requests for help can be written to abuseaid@aol.com.

Tennessee, Nashville Cumberland Heights is an alcohol and drug treatment center with a court services component. The court services program offers many different classes for court-ordered clients, and one of them is domestic violence classes. The classes are for men and women who have been arrested for domestic violence charges AND who have substance abuse issues. Substance abuse issues ranges from addiction to using during the incident that got them arrested. Not all have serious problems with alcohol or drugs. They do not offer victims services; all of those are referred to local shelters. The program is a 6 month program and the clients meet one time weekly. If someone needs information on any of these services, the number is 1-800-707-8882. Cumberland Heights also seems to have a program for women perpetrators of violence. Contact the program coordinator, karen Bybee, at (615)353-4398.

Texas, Arlington The Women's Shelter (hotline number 817-460-5566) will help battered men. To make a counseling appointment, call (817)548-0583. I have heard of at least one man receiving services here.

Texas, Ft. Worth The Women's Haven, hotline number: (817)535-6464. They will help battered men.

Texas, Dallas The Family Place, (212)941-1991, will offer help to battered men.

Washington, Snohomish Apparently, the Center for Battered Women in Snohomish County has a twenty four hour crisis line for victims of domestic violence. Advocates are trained to talk to callers of all genders and sexual preferences providing safety planning, advocacy based counseling and community resource referral. The phone number is (425)252-2873. (7/6/98)

Washington State The Washington State Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached toll-free at 800-562-6025. Their URL is http://www.domestic-violence.org, and the email is csn@willapabay.org. Their website is almost completely in gender-neutral language, and their mandate is inclusive of all abuse victims (and possibly perpetrators as well). [MenWeb editor's note: My own opinion is that the Hotline uses gender-neutral language to describe, exclusively, a woman's experience. See The Gender-Neutral Joke. When I called, they named only one center that served men, in Seattle, and suggested that men call the National DV Hotline. Their page "What is Domestic Violence" focuses on the gender-polarizing"Duluth Model," defining domestic violence in terms of men asserting male privilege over men.]

Australia If you live in Australia, see the list of Australian hotlines and information for men that are abused. Also see here for more Australian hotlines.

Canada, Calgary Apparently, the university there is providing a hotline for abused men, but I haven't found out the phone number for it yet. I'll let you know as soon as I do.

Canada, Toronto The Easton Alliance for the Prevention of Family Violence is the first Canadian family violence prevention agency and charity for abused men. It is also perhaps the first organization of its kind in the world. You can contact them by phone: (416)691-8269, fax: (416)691-1113, mail: 97 Main Street, Toronto ON Canada M4E 2V6, and e-mail: easton@geocities.com. They offer a support group, referrals, and more.

Canada, Victoria BC The Victoria Men's Centre, has information and a discussion circle for men, and makes referrals to counselling and other services. There's also another group starting, called the "Well Society", which is setting up a retreat center for men, due to be open in a couple of months. Their phone recording line is at (250) 370-4636, and address is Box 8082, Victoria, B.C. V8W 3R7.

Ireland AMEN, in Dublin, opened in December 1997 and heard from over 3,000 men and their families in the first year. They offer a confidential advice line for Men in violent relationships. Read Amen's article "The Male Victim" on MenWeb.