The concept of attracting women through honesty is the most under understood concept in dating.

This truth is the difference between genuinely attracting vs In inauthentically attracting her.



I remember on my journey to being good with women, learning to attract women through honesty was what skyrocketed my results instantly.



If you don’t implement honesty into your approaches and interactions, you’ll find that you’ll have conversations that lead to her telling you:



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She’s in a relationship

She’s not interested

She didn’t know you like her

She doesn’t view you sexually

These are problems that can ruin your interaction and make you feel like your efforts are being wasted.



What I Discovered About Honesty And Attracting Women:

I remember when I discovered that longer conversation had a higher chance of leading to sex compared to a short conversation, I was getting results, but they weren’t consistent.

I remember having a long conversation that leads to sex and having long conversations that lead to nowhere.



I couldn’t understand, what my problem was, I just knew it was driving me crazy.

After going out and testing many different styles of expressions and approaches, I soon discovered what was missing.



Honesty.

In fact, being honest is the key to turning a platonic (friendly) interaction into a sexual interaction.

What’s the difference between an interaction that led to knowing where and one that leads to sex?

I noticed when I wasn’t honest, the interaction wouldn’t go the way I wanted or it would backfire on me.



For example, I would not be honest about my intention and I would end up getting told that she recognizes me as a brother more than a sex partner.



Although I had a method for getting out of friendzone that helped, many times I would be out of the game for good with her.



I’ve even gone on dates with women, I didn’t want to go on and it would end with me paying the bill and no girl or sex.

Why should men attract women through honesty?

First off, what I learned from not being honest with women is that it made things take longer.



Instead of getting to the point and being honest about my sexuality and attraction to her, I would do things I didn’t want to do.



For example, take her on a date or have a conversation that I truly wasn’t interested in having with her.



Even if you don’t flat out lie, not being honest about your true intention is lying.

In a way, it quite like manipulation.

For example, say you met a woman and asked her out on a dinner date, and you expect sex.

This is in fact manipulation because you didn’t want to take her out on a dinner date, you wanted to have sex with her.

Instead, you lied and said you wanted to take her out on a dinner date rather than letting her know your intention when you first met her through expressions in conversation or body language.



Studies About Honesty

According to the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, lying violates the openness and authenticity that people value in their close relationships and lies told to closer partners were more often discovered.



In other words, if your not honest about your intentions or she doesn’t have an idea about your intentions, she’ll be confused about you.



This means she may categorize you as a friend, although you wanted it to be sexual friendship or relationship.



This is the main reason why a lot of men get placed into the friend zone.

It’s from them hiding their intention, acting like they just want to be friends, and then getting stuck in that position.



If he was honest, she would have been down or not but instead, you end up wasting a lot of time.



According to Human Communication Research, A study that investigated the relationship of self-disclosure and interpersonal solidarity found that meaningfully higher levels of self-disclosure were associated with high solidarity relations than with low solidarity relations.



This means an honest expression of self is associated with higher intimacy and unity in relationships.



What Honesty Does To Interaction With Women

When you’re honest with women about your intentions, you save time and money.

The reason why is because when the woman knows your intentions, the reason for the interaction becomes the focus.

When your not honest or hide your intentions, you start having conversations that feel good but don’t lead to sex.

The women then act accordingly and hide their intentions until it’s no longer there.

In other words, the conversation has nothing to do with what on your mind and could be on hers; therefore, she gets confused and begins to only view you on a friendship level or level in which you presented yourself into her.



THE TRUTH

Being honest will be hard if you’re not used to it, but the hard conversations are the conversations that will lead you to sex.



Let me be clear, being honest doesn’t necessarily mean you straight out say, I think you sexy and I would like to get to know you, or let’s have sex tonight, although that a start.



It just means that the way you convey yourself shows what your intention is so she can either leave or act accordingly to the way you act.



Keep in mind that Problems will occur when she doesn’t know or doesn’t know enough of what your intentions are with her.



The key is that once she knows your intentions, you don’t have to constantly let her know.



“She just has to reach the threshold of understanding your intentions and you’re results will skyrocket.“



She just has to reach the threshold of understanding your intentions and you’re results will skyrocket Engagedinthegame

Especially if she knows your intentions and she sticks around.



You’ll have a higher chance of having sex.

How to Accept Attracting Women Through Honesty:

To be comfortable with being honest, you must first embrace your sexuality.



What I learned about myself was that I didn’t embrace my sexuality or women’s sexuality.



This type of mental block can have devastating consequences when you’re trying to have sex with women.



As the famous saying goes, “ How you feel, they feel”.

Others refer to it as a Self–fulfilling prophecy which refers to the socio-psychological phenomenon of someone “predicting” or expecting something

and this “prediction” or expectation comes true simply because one believes it will, and their resulting behaviors align to fulfill those beliefs.

When your not comfortable with your sexuality, a woman won’t be comfortable with hers, when she’s with you.



I didn’t say with someone else.

If she meets a man who embraced his sexuality as well as hers, she more likely to accept and embrace her with that man.



You have to realize, men and women were made with genitals.



Which means, “sex feels good for both of us.“



Society or men, who have not embraced their sexuality or got to see the benefits of being honest with women, are the ones pushing propaganda that women don’t like sex.



For the men who embrace their sexuality, he finds true women enjoy sex as much and sometimes, even more than he does.



Key To Attract Women Through Honesty:

Intent: How to show her what you feel about her

When you approach women, you don’t have to show intent off the back but you do want to show what you’re there for.

Whether that being getting to know her in a way that leads to sex or having sex.



The key to intent is that you don’t have to blatantly say your there to have sex with her but she should know that you’re getting to know her to see if she cool enough to have sex with you.



Mistakes men make showing intent

Problems occur mainly when men approach in a way that doesn’t show intent or show to much intent.



For example, he approaching in a way that confuses her, and makes her think he just wants to have a platonic conversation or friendship or all you want is sex.

Although she hasn’t shown you any indicators she’s interested in sex.



In other words, when you approach, be realistic about what you’re there for.



If you want to get to know her, approach her and let her know she caught your attention and you had to say something or if you’re into just sex, come off sexual.



Whether she continues the conversation or rejects you, at least you not wasting time, and letting her know what you there for.



If she continues the interaction, you’re chances of having sex are significantly higher. The main reason why is because she knows what you’re there for and she accepted it enough to stick around to see what happens.

I understand not being good at doing attracting women through honesty because it felt unnatural.

Fortunately and unfortunately, the pain of conversation leading to nowhere. pushed me to start being honest instead of just giving up.

Remaining afraid to express my intentions and being a verbal coward was the reason for all my stress.

Once I started being honest with women, not only did my confidence increase, but women becoming attracted to me increased as well.

Conclusion:

To attract women, the best practice is and always will be, to attract women through honesty.



Even if you don’t blatantly lie, not being honest about how you feel is a recipe for disaster.

For example, men go on dates with women to compensate for not being honest and end up wasting time with women who never were going to have sex with them, to begin with.



When your interacting with a woman the best way to influence attraction is by letting her know what you’re there for.



If she sticks around after she knows the agenda, your chances of having sex are significantly higher.



The problem with most men when they approach women is that they either hide their intention or don’t show enough intention through honesty.



When you do this, you end up getting put in friendzone, wasting time, and money.



You can recover from the friend zone sometimes, but why not be honest and avoid friend zone altogether.



If she rejects you, at least you know you’re not wasting your time.



When you’re honest about your intentions, women clearly see what you’re there for.

They never get confused or surprised about your intentions, which means the dating game is on.

Always your ability to move her to the next step whether that be sex or relationship is dependent on how honest you are with women about your intentions.