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Sexuality is a wide spectrum, and thankfully the world is becoming much more accepting of the fact that people can love who they love.

There’s still a long way to go, though, as the LGBTQ+ community continues to have to deal with stupid comments on the daily (remember Richard Hammond saying liking ice cream was gay?).

One group that often remain under the radar are bisexuals. For us bisexual types, it’s still bloody difficult to come out because people can’t quite get to grips with the fact you’re not attracted to just the one gender.

There were no bisexual groups at London Pride this year, and celebrities like Cara Delevingne have faced abuse and constant questions about their sexuality.




Even when people don’t realise they’re doing it, there are so many things that get on the nerves of bi people, and actually, constitute biphobia. Please stop saying these things, people.

1. You’re greedy

Bi people can have sex with, form relationships with, and flirt with just as many or more people than straight people. That does not make them greedy because there’s no such thing as being greedy when it comes to human interactions.

Nothing like a little bit of slut-shaming alongside your ignorance about bisexuality.

2. You need to choose

Why? Do you need to stick to one type of person that you fancy and never deviate from one specific type? Obviously that’d be a stupid thing to expect from anyone.

It’s absolutely none of anyone’s business who people choose to be with, and this narrow-minded view is so odd and archaic, I can’t even.

3. Which do you prefer?

I usually reply to this one with a joke as I know it’s relatively well-meaning, but it can grate a little.

‘Well, I’m about 70% into men, with 30% women,’ tends to suffice, but bi still means liking different people based on different qualities – it really isn’t as simple as having a men and women quota.

This question also leaves out people who are non-binary or genderfluid.

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4. You’re probably just too scared to ‘properly’ come out

It can often feel like you don’t quite fit in the straight or gay community, particularly when you’re seen as not gay ‘enough’ but not quite straight either.

Bisexuality is real. I shouldn’t have to explain this because it’s how I’ve always felt. I like men and women and I can’t change that. It’s sad that these comments often come from LGBTQ+ people, because we should really all be in the same boat, but it doesn’t often work that way (see Biggins’ remarks in CBB last year).

There might be people out there who test the water by saying they’re bi first, then coming out as gay, and that’s totally up to them. Either way, it’s not your place to pass judgement.

5. Have you ever actually slept with someone of the opposite sex?

If you’re a virgin you still know who you’re attracted to. Same rules apply here.

Some people can be with someone of one gender their whole lives but know that they also are attracted to people of another gender. They might never even act on it, and that’s their prerogative.



They might not have met the right person yet, or find it difficult if they don’t know many people who are also gay/bi. Either way, it means very little who they’ve actually had sex with.

6. It’s probably just a phase

As the counterpoint to the argument that it’s just a precursor to coming out, this is equally stupid.

Furbies were a phase. People’s sexual preferences aren’t.

7. Is your partner worried you’ll cheat?

Just because you’re attracted to both genders, doesn’t mean you’re powerless to stop yourself from shagging everything that moves.

You’re just as likely to cheat if you’re straight, and implying that anyone has poor impulse control is pretty lame.

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8. Girls are just bi to impress guys

There’s this strange concept floating around – not sure if you’ve heard? Sometimes women do things not for the benefit of men. Crazy, I know.

If there are women out there living a lie to please a dude, please stop and be yourself instead. The rest of us are in this because we want to be.

9. There’s no such thing as biphobia

Most of the above should prove to you that there is such a thing. If you’re still not sure, there’s a good chance you are biphobic yourself. Awks.

People should be able to live their lives without constant judgement, and if you’re cool with gay people but still can’t wrap your head around bisexuality, you’re still not progressive enough.

It’s not that hard to refrain from saying damaging stuff, and no-one will have a go at you for asking genuine questions (at the right time – please don’t start running up to people with your queries). Learning is never the issue, but an unwillingness to learn certainly is.


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