Knowing this will, hopefully, not make you apologetic about having VVS. You may wish you didn’t have it, sometimes rue the day you first discovered your vulnerability, rail against the heavens for picking you out among so many others who in your mind are more deserving ☺☺ but you must not sana blame yourself for having this. It is not your fault. And more than that, you need not be apologetic for suffering its symptoms. And, hopefully, find another man (if you feel you still need one) who is intelligent and brave enough to see your VVS for what it is and not use it as blackmail to accept everything he does.