56 Ideas For BDSM Slave Training (NSFW)

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Master/ slave or M/s is a part/ variation od D/s relationships, in which Master has complete authority over the slave. Before an M/s relationship, there is a period of consideration and a period of slave training. Both M/s and D/s relationships are part of BDSM.

Here is one ingenious thought – slave is submissive to the Master but at the same time – both Master and a slave are of the same importance to the power dynamic. To have a Master without a slave is much like a captain without a ship (and the other way around).

We also have a Master/ slave contract – which you can find at the very bottom of this post.

BDSM Slave Training Basics

Here are some general guidelines on how to approach:

The slave needs to be regularly reminded throughout the session/ day to feel owned.

Ways to remind her can be subtle or obtrusive.

Always be assertive when communicating your orders.

Be consistent in practicing dominance. ( I find this very important – this one is listed two times.)

Never ignore her wrongdoings. Punish her accordingly every time. This is the continuation of the guideline listed before.

Teach your slave using positive and motivational methods. Incorporate games like hide & seek, go find, retrieve,…

Avoid giving commands that you know you can’t enforce. If a command is neither complied with nor enforced, your slave will learn that commands are optional.

One command should equal one response.

Use a calm and authoritative tone when giving commands.

All the ideas listed here are written from a perspective where a male is a Master, and a female is a slave. However, all the ideas can easily be turned around.

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List Of Ideas For BDSM Slave Training

1. Set rules on how to address you in private and in public.

2. Be consistent.

3. Engage in pet play occasionally. Put her on a leash, lube, and insert a tail butt plug and gag her with a dog bone.

4. Your word is the last word.

5. Reward her by fulfilling her fantasy.

6. Make her cook and serve while wearing an only apron and a collar.

7. Make her take pictures for you in any position or outfit you wish.

8. Hand feed her.

9. Caress her with a tickler. If she makes any sound, punish her.

10. Give her a task each day and make sure it is done.

11. Allow her to please you sexually. Use it as a reward.

12. Dress your slave. Crotchless lingerie like red crotchless fishnet bodystocking or see-through teddy is a convenient choice.

13. Her body needs to be shaven at all times.

14. Use ”slut”, ”pet”, when calling her.

15. Give your slave this sexy spanking skirt as a gift and then spank her. Spanking is also your slave’s reward. (Don’t forget to buy latex shiner spray, the skirt comes with a matt finish).

16. Pet her.

17. Call her and make her masturbate for you.

18. Forbid eye contact unless you allow it.

19. Make her worship your cock.

20. Flog her if she does not obey.

21. Have her polish your shoes every week.

22. Make her keep a diary of her submission.

23. The slave has to wear nipple clamps while eating dinner.

24. Brand her.

25. Lube her up and insert her favorite Rose glass butt plug. When she thinks she is done for the day, switch to the bigger butt plug.

26. Try bondage on your slave.

27. Make her call you every day at a certain time.

28. Respect and push her limits.

29. Choose her clothing combination for each day.

30. Interrupt her and use her sexually. Do whatever you want to.

31. Make her crawl to you or around you, showing you what is yours.

32. Deny her orgasms for as long as you want to.

33. Give her an occasional ride on ”The Slave Driver”.

34. Write on her body.

35. Buy a collar with a bell for your slave to wear. It is a constant reminder of submission.

36. Make her wear nothing but heels and a collar.

37. Expose your slave’s holes with a spreader bar so you can use her sexually. Read 8 great ways to use the bondage bar.

38. Buy an anklet and make her wear one every day.

39. Get your slave an O-ring gag, restrain them properly with hog-tie restraints, and use their mouth.

40. Praise her if she pleased you well.

41. Train her to know all submissive positions.

42. Use wax as a form of punishment

43. Buy her a ball gag and keep her quiet.

44. She has to ask you for food, drinks, and a bathroom.

45. Keep her in a cage occasionally.

46. Teach her obedience.

47. After the punishment, have her kiss your shoes, and thank you for loving her enough to correct her.

48. Experiment with Wartenberg pinwheel and sensation play.

49. Occasionally, make her eat from a bowl.

50. Teach her how to move gracefully.

51. Restrain your slave to teach patience or to use them (these cuffs are the perfect gift for your slave).

52. Allow the slave to accompany you by kneeling beside you.

53. Make your slave kneel while you collar them.

54. Punish her if she makes any sound while you please her.

55. Lock her in a chastity device. Reward your slave with an orgasm every now and then.

56. Give your slave a writing assignment. Write ”My place is on my knees before my Master” 100 times.

57. Use a riding crop to direct her or to punish her when she doesn’t obey.

58. Explore forced orgasm play with under the bed restraint system and a want.

59. Praise her if she pleased you well.

Master/ slave contract

If you want to take it one step further – we have prepared a Master/ slave contract for you.

A contract is a great way to start the relationship as it brings many topics to the table, including the more difficult ones. This way you’ll be able to discuss your goals, expectations, wants, needs, and limits.

Contracts are a great way for beginners to start that conversation and no, the contract is not a way to make someone stay – the contract is a way to start a conversation and define your relationship.

This document is not legally binding and it should be used to improve your role play. And in addition to that, it can provide direction and a place to turn to when there are disagreements.

We created an 8 page long Master/slave contract, with the following table of contents:

1. Slave’s Role

2. Slave’s Veto

3. Master’s Role

4. Punishment

5. Rules of Punishment

6. Permanent Bodily Harm

7. Others

8. Alteration of Contract

9. Termination of Contract

10. Slave’s Signature

11. Master’s Signature

12. Witness’ Signature

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How do you make your slave feel owned? Tell us in the comments below.

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