A warrior would soon be a dead man if he would fight every battle opportunity which presents itself to him. A warrior must know when to hold his shield up, when to rush with his spear and when to hold back and retreat. And a warrior is nothing more than a man in a suit of armor, thus each man must master this skill in order to become the best man he himself can be- the alpha in his life.

In your life, you will surly face many challenges, some big ones which may decide on the course of your life, and some small daily ones with which you may have to deal with. It is imperative for you to know what to do when a challenge arises, should you fight it? Should you flee? Should you stand fast and hold your position? The decision you make when it comes to how you approach the upcoming battle in your life can make a difference not only in that battle, but in many battles to come as well. You see, a man who decides to fight the battle that he should have ignored and to sit on the sidelines in battle he should have fought loses even if it appears that he had won. Take for example, a very irritable man driving a car in heavy traffic, perhaps he is late to work and the traffic is terrible so what can he do, he can honk his car horn and yell and provoke other drivers, or he can sit quietly in his car and wait patiently for the traffic to start moving, of course being late and being a very ungrounded and easily irritated man he starts to panic and yell and shout, he gets his heartrate up and gets nervous and sweaty, and in one moment the traffic starts moving. So it would seem that the man chose to fight his battle, and he won, but it is not so, he indeed lost.

He lost because he brought unneeded negativity and unnecessary stress into his life over a minor problem he had, he fought a dog with a tank if you will. Maybe he did come to work on time but that minor victory is nothing compared to the large amount of stress he had to suffer for it. And as I’ve said earlier on my blog, residual stress in the biggest enemy a man can have. Now to give you another example, imagine a very shy man sitting in a pub with a friend, and he notices a young pretty girl sitting close, he would like to introduce himself, but he is too much of a coward to do so, so he sits down and shuts up and decides not to engage in that battle. The friend who is sitting with him gets tiered of seeing him miserable like that, so he stands up and walks to the girl and introduce her to the shy guy, and they end up liking each other so there that seems to be a victory for the shy guy, but if we look closely we can see that it’s actually a defeat. The shy guy maybe got the girl this time, but the next time he found himself in a similar situation he would not get her, he wouldn’t even approach her. He didn’t really win his battle, he sat through it, so he didn’t defeat the metaphorical dragon that was keeping him from achieving what he wanted to achieve, which is of course his fear of rejection. So you see from these two example, in order to win a man must know when to fight.

In my own life i figured out a technique to help me decide what stance should I take towards an upcoming battle. The method is simple, i sit down and ask myself: “Will fighting this battle matter for me in 5 years or will it affect my porpoise or my business in 5 months. If the answer is yes i fight it to the death, if it’s no i back off from the situation, and if it is maybe then i stand my ground and stay involved in the situation until i get a clearer view and a better answer. Notice that I didn’t say whether it will make me happy in five years or whether is will make me successful i asked myself whether is will matter, positively or negatively both ways the answer to the question “will it matter” will give you an answer to weather you need to fight and if you do, how ferocious does your fighting need to be, the sooner it would matter and the more it would affect your life the more bloodthirsty style of fighting you have to assume. And on the other side of the coin, the less it matters the more you must strive to keep yourself from stressing over it.

If you ever tried achieving something in your life, you must have faced this problem before, it seems that the universe cannot help but challenge the man who strive to become the alpha, of course, if these men were not challenged, what proof can they have of their status?

There is nothing worse than the haunting feeling of regret over a missed opportunity, except that feeling of emptiness that you get when in fight a battle in vain.

This simple method served me well in my battles, it helped me avoid some unnecessary stress which at the time seemed to me like something very necessary, and it also helped me win some very important battles which to me seemed like a waste of time and energy before I used this method, only to find that they were of upmost necessity in order for me do succeed in some area of my life.

The thing is, before your can even use this trick, you need to know what your purpose is, what is the thing that makes you strive to be the best man you can be. Have that clearly define in your head, ask yourself these simple questions and filter out the battles that will help you get to your goal the fastest.