I wanted to start off by saying I do not want to end your right to have an abortion. Your body. Your choice. I understand the reasons for not keeping a pregnancy. I am not arguing with those reasons. I am not arguing with your rights. I am not looking for a debate. If you disagree with me, please keep it to yourself. If you support me, I’d love to hear from you.

I have a point of view that I have never heard anyone else say or write. I believe my point of view is valid and I would like to add it into the conversation.

The following is my personal opinion and belief.

I am a strong defender and fighter for women’s rights. The most hotly contested and argued topic on the tree of women’s rights is the branch of abortion. That branch is covered with twigs that makes it a tangled mess that people get caught in, scratched, and poked. The twigs go by the names of Human rights, Religion, Government, Politics, Rape, Health, Feminism, The Definition of Human, and probably hundreds of others. Nobody is able to climb onto this branch and not get a little hurt. For this reason, very few people want to discuss it for they risk much bloodshed and pain. There is a reason I have heard abortion referred to as “The A-Bomb”. Drop it into a conversation and the landscape quakes. I realize by writing this I am putting myself into the blast zone.

Because of this, I don’t want to jump into the area and discuss all of those topics that are impossible to win. I just want to deal with one.

Children are a blessing that some of us will never know.

I can not make a baby. My reproductive system never really developed. I have all the necessary bits, but they are nothing more than empty shells. I’ve never had a period and I had to take hormones when I was younger just to grow into a woman. There is absolutely no chance of having a baby for me.

There is a slight problem. I want to have a baby! I love children! I’m a teacher and a librarian. I have always surrounded myself with children. This isn’t a choice, this is a deep primal desire to be a mother. But, I can’t and it tears my heart to shreds.

Now, there are millions of other women that have an insane ability to have children. One sexual encounter and *pop* there’s a baby. A few months later *pop* another baby. *pop* *pop* *pop* They have a family worthy of a Reality TV show. How are there women out there that have no trouble at all and some of us that have no hope at all? Doesn’t seem very fair does it? I know we don’t live in a fair world and not everyone gets blessed equally, but it doesn’t make it any easier for those who are childless not by choice.

When I hear about someone getting an abortion, it kills me inside. She has the ability that I would give anything to have and she throws it away. Like a master painter creating the most beautiful awe inspiring work of art and lighting it on fire. I want to yell out. “Wait! I’ll take that painting! Don’t destroy it!” But, he sets it ablaze anyway. I’m yelling out “Wait! I’ll take your baby! I’ll give it a name and a home and all the love I can give!” But, it’s too late.

I know it’s not what women who terminate a pregnancy are doing, but I feel like I am being teased. Like an older sister saying “Oh, you want to play with my doll? Well you can’t have it!” Then she throws it out the window. I’d go out and get my own doll, but I just don’t have the ability.

Equally heartbreaking is the mother who gives birth to a beautiful child then locks in a room or leaves it with an unsuitable friend so they can go buy drugs or anything else. You have heard plenty of stories like this. Check out any news website and you will see a few examples like this or worse. Again, If she doesn’t want to take care of her child, I will! Some other childless couple will.

Children are a blessing. Not everyone feels that way, I know. They are loud, messy, annoying, expensive, and rude. They get in the way. A girl gets pregnant in high school, and yes, her life is going to take a different path from her friends. She might not be able to go out on the town, complete high school or college in the regular amount of time. She is going to get fat and sick. Covered in stretch marks and all sorts of other often undesirable characteristics. Believe me, I get it! It really really sucks and I completely understand why she would want to avoid all that. But, to me and millions of other women, the pain is worth the blessing in the long term.

My appeal is that you consider giving birth to your child and blessing someone who thought that kind of blessing would never happen to them. It’s your choice. I hope you understand, I am not telling anyone what to do. Your body, your choice. I just wanted to let you know that there is someone out there that is praying for you to bless them.

I pray for someone like that every day of my life.