Kids are also on my mind, while they might not have been on my radar with a younger partner. I have to adjust my plans and think about putting my career on pause in five years or so. Stepan is keen to have kids but I’m not there yet, and he gets that. But I do understand that our reality means I need to think about having them sooner rather than later and that feels really big. I’m 23 and not prepared yet - I want to be in a stable position with my career and mental health before tackling children.