

She doesn't take birth control, because she's anti hormone. She's the child of religious hippies, and from my understanding, her family has terrible conflict management/resolution skills. She doesn't seem to have the best conflict management, and she has (twice now) said fucked up things in the heat of an argument.



But I think she has a good heart, and I think she's just stubborn. But this doesn't change the fact that she has discredited my friends experiences, and that she seems to think she has a higher moral authority on this than another person.



She's feminist, but not well educated on it, and I don't think she's ever heard of the term TERF. I don't mean to use that word as a way to tar her, but - for a variety of reasons including that my good friend is trans - TERFs freak me out.



What do I do? We are six months in. I mean, can she change? Should I try? If not, this is dtmfa territory for me. I just don't know whether to try and weather this storm, or just bail immediately.

So we had our second big argument. This one ended with her tears and a walkout, and my continued confusion. At issue seems to be: she might be a TERF. I never used that word, but I kept asking her to clarify what she was saying, because all I kept hearing was that hormones are bad, and therefor transitioning is bad.