shadovvmoses: Saw the ask from the Muslim (non Muslim ?) living a double life and I was the exact same, I’m 21 now and I left my home at 19, it was HARD ! But defo worth it, I’m so much happier and living my own life with my bf, I’d happily give some advice as well as some charities that helped me out massively, I had such a shit time at home and I hate knowing other people are going through the same stuff Saw the ask from the Muslim (non Muslim ?) living a double life and I was the exact same, I’m 21 now and I left my home at 19, it was HARD ! But defo worth it, I’m so much happier and living my own life with my bf, I’d happily give some advice as well as some charities that helped me out massively, I had such a shit time at home and I hate knowing other people are going through the same stuff Please send me the charities! I will post them for sure! Thank you for sharing <3 ♥ Jun 27th at 1PM / reblog / 7 notes

Anonymous: I really wanna know somebody out there can relate to this. I live a total double life; I drink, smoke, have sex, all of it. My mom is a strict Muslim, total traditional Desi mindset. I'm not Muslim!! I don't want to marry a Muslim boy and have that be the end of it! I can't even move out until I have a rishta lined up for me. I'm seriously planning to find a Muslim boy who also wants to desperately move out so we can have a fake marriage and get away. any muslim guys out there??? pls help me out ♥ Apr 24th at 6PM / reblog / 12 notes

goD THIS IS SO DESI BUT my friend learned how to drive like last year and she’s a super responsible girl, has great grades, etc. her older brother is the exact opposite. he’s a year older than us, and he’s skipping school all the time, gets high w his friends, drinks, stays out till 4 am doing god knows what. this is fine, like live ur life bro, but the way her parents treat her vs him is i n s a n e. recently one of our friends had a birthday party that started at 7 pm and her parents wouldn’t let her go bc it was too late and dangerous??? we go to this girls house all the time???? party woulda been over by like 10??? her brother stays out all night and comes home crossed but she can’t go to a simple birthday party. im exhausted. im sick of the blatant SEXISM SOMEONE SAVE ME ♥ Mar 20th at 3PM / reblog / 52 notes

Anonymous: I’m a lesbian and in the closet. I have a girlfriend and she brings me so much joy that I wish I could share more openly. She invited me to come to her hometown with her for Christmas to meet her parents and I would love to go. The only thing that stopped me is knowing how that would look, choosing Christmas with her family over one with mine. I feel like I can’t be myself until I’m far away enough to know I’ll be safe, and it’s hard. ❤️ ♥ Mar 15th at 9AM / reblog / 8 notes

Anonymous: the pressure that desi girls in their early 20’s face is awful i have family who go on and on about me getting married even though i feel nowhere ready to be married to the point that i completely break down if a proposal is sent my way. but at the same time i know that by the time i get into my late 20’s there won’t be any desi boys to marry. and bringing home a girl or a non desi boy is definitely not gonna sit well with anyone ♥ Feb 28th at 2PM / reblog / 24 notes

Anonymous: you know i’ve always felt rather lonely that i don’t know urdu. it seems like other children seemed just at home whenever they slipped into it and i craved that. i thought i was the only person. but coming on this blog made me realize that SO MANY desi americans also face this problem, and that its much more common. im in high school and just beginning to learn what should have been my mother tongue, but im putting in an effort to be involved in my culture and thats all that matters :) I can relate to this for sure! I suck at Gujurati and I have tried to become more fluent at it but its so hard so props to you for trying and I hope you keep at it!! ♥ Feb 28th at 2PM / reblog / 5 notes

desi-problems: Hi everyone, I've never openly spoken about this but I was hoping to use this space to reach out to people who understand. Has anyone ever experienced abuse from their south asian parent growing up and still deal with the consequences from it now? For example, I grew up in a domestic violent household and have been diagnosed with depression & anxiety because of it. Does anyone else have any experiences like this? How do you all deal? Have you confronted your parent/parents about it? Hi everyone, I've never openly spoken about this but I was hoping to use this space to reach out to people who understand. Has anyone ever experienced abuse from their south asian parent growing up and still deal with the consequences from it now? For example, I grew up in a domestic violent household and have been diagnosed with depression & anxiety because of it. Does anyone else have any experiences like this? How do you all deal? Have you confronted your parent/parents about it? ♥ Feb 27th at 12AM / via: desi-problems / op: desi-problems reblog / 14 notes

Anonymous: similar experience to previous anon: my brother is a very light skinned pakistani (probably white-passing?) yet when he tells his heritage ppl, literally no one believes him? they ask so many follow-up questions, they keep insisting that he must only be half-pakistani. so many relatives assume he can't speak urdu when he's fluent..... just colourism overall is so cringe ugh Colorism is disgusting. ♥ Feb 26th at 10PM / reblog / 10 notes

Anonymous: Ok but fr how are us Muslim girls supposed to find a husband all of a sudden when we’ve been told our whole lives to stay away from boys and like god forbid we even text with a guy coz that’s oh so haram...??? Yeah, I feel you. I know a lot of South Asians who struggle with this kind of thing and I just think it’s so unfair. You’re restricted your entire life and then all of a sudden expected to be married and have kids but how in the world are you supposed to do all of that. That is so daunting and so scary and I don’t understand how Desi parents do not see how problematic it is. (Well I understand cause traditional mindsets and etc, but still!) ♥ Feb 26th at 10PM / reblog / 15 notes