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Sex-positive Nadia Bokody is no stranger to controversial ideas.

The sex writer wants schools to teach students, as young as 11, about masturbating.

Sydney-based Nadia says sex education is ‘frighteningly inadequate’ for children living in today’s highly sexualised culture.

She feels it’s important for kids to learn about self-pleasure as soon as they hit puberty.


‘To blindly ignore the fact that young people are engaging in sexual acts an intercourse at younger ages than ever before, is, quite frankly, reckless,’ she tells Metro.co.uk.

‘I understand this is an incredibly uncomfortable issue for parents and teachers alike, but that’s not a good enough reason to ignore educating kids about their bodies.’

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Nadia wants youngsters to not be afraid of their own sexual organs before they start having sex.



Especially in the age of sexualised culture on TV and social media, as well as rising issues of consent, she feels it’s important for them to know what works for them.

She also reports that studies show women don’t often let pain stop intercourse nor prioritise their own pleasures.

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‘They’re going out and having partnered experiences without any understanding of what their bodies are even supposed to feel during arousal and orgasm,’ she explained.

‘Masturbation is the safest way to learn what you do and don’t like without risking your health in the process.’

Nadia has received a lot of criticism for her views.

‘People have slammed my viewpoint because they say masturbation doesn’t need to be “taught”, it’s “instinctive” and we should just let it happen naturally.

‘But when there’s so much shame around it that we can’t even say the actual word “masturbation” without cringing or feeling inappropriate, how do we expect kids to organically want to do it?

‘The alternative is that they are going to be having partnered sex, which puts them at risk of STDs and potential sexual trauma by engaging in an act they’re not emotionally or psychologically prepared for.’

She also thinks sex is gendered and while young boys can take pride in being in touch with their sexuality, for girls, even something like labelling parts of their genitalia, is shrouded in mystery.

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