All of this fills us with extraordinary, fizzing hope but none of it leaves us with a straightforward plan for the twenties. Our new decade’s resolution must be to look in the mirror, take stock and concede where we might be wrong and could be less proud and more actively compassionate.

Privilege has become the uncomfortable centre piece of recent feminist discussions. Male privilege. Most men seemed horrified that locker room jokes have turned into locker room actions. White privilege. 53 percent of white women who voted, voted for Trump. Women of colour reported being rudely side lined at women’s marches. Straight privilege, non-disabled privilege – almost all of us belong to some kind of dominant group and find the world is designed to be us-shaped and we simply forget the location for our all-comers feminist book club is inaccessible to anyone in a wheelchair.

There’s a concern from some women that we will alienate straight men because they’re not quite sure how to behave with women right now. They’re uncomfortable. 2020 feminism needs to get comfortable with discomfort. It’s quite okay for men who admit they now don’t know the difference between a compliment and sexual harassment to stop giving compliments for a while. It’s alright for men who aren’t sure if they’re allowed to make a joke in case it’s sexist, to make different jokes or even more radically - no jokes at all for a while. In truth, many women have been uncomfortable with the compliments we don’t hear men having to accept graciously in office lifts, the jokes where we are the punchline, the roving hands and the sexual assault for generations. That discomfort verging into trauma was never discussed and no one seemed concerned about it at the time. It’s okay for men – even men who didn’t participate in any of that – to be awkward for a while. There’s no great consequence for a tricky moment. It’ll settle down. We learn from discomfort and the next generation of young men are watching the downfall of some of the key players who used their leverage to hurt other human beings and that cost is modifying their future actions already. If you’ve ever had a personal trainer you’ll know that some minor discomfort builds muscle and strength. It’s not always fun but it does work.