My first crush was on John Travolta in Grease. Do you think that's disgusting? It is a bit, thinking about it now. But we didn't have that many videos when I was a kid, so he was the one I watched. I must have been about seven, but I watched it with my older sister, so I guess my crush wasn't really age-appropriate. I liked his dancing. And I wanted to be Sandy so bad, and Sandy liked him, so I liked him too. My secret crush now is Christian Bale - he was Batman, right? But he's too old for me, and married. I guess I've carried on liking the same kind of leather-clad boy all my life. It must have set off some kind of pattern. My ex-boyfriend looked like a bad boy, but he wasn't at all.

I'm not really a flirt, but I am a girl. I'm not a tramp, or a whore, but I do manipulate men when I feel like it. Girls bat their eyelashes, and act like they don't know anything in front of guys they like, or give a little bit of eye contact, but not too much, or a bit of touching. Or being coy. Sure, I do a bit of that. Men do it too, though. They have different games they play, which can be fun, but I'm not too into game-playing. I don't have time to deal with people who are going to mess around. I'm single at the moment. Happily so. I'm a really good relationship girl - I really like being in a relationship, but I'm so young right now I don't want to be too serious. I want to go out and meet people. It's fun to be single because you're not tied down. I get lonely sometimes though, when I wish I had someone to call, or share things with.

I'm not, like, a crazy feminist. I think women definitely need men. Like, I couldn't imagine having a girlfriend! There are things that you get from one another, as well as the physical stuff, that are essential. Guys make me feel secure and comfortable, when I'm scared or need attention. They bring stability. And affection. And fun. And drama. You learn so much from a boyfriend. It's hard to put into words I guess.

I don't believe in having one partner for your whole life, but I hope I get married. I want to have a husband and two kids and a nice little life baking pies. I'm quite romantic. It's definitely important to have someone make you feel special.

But sometimes you have to teach a boy what you want. I was talking to a girlfriend the other day who hasn't had a boyfriend in a really long time, and she was like, 'Why can't I get a boyfriend? I'm going to write down a list of all the things I want in a guy, and I'm not going to waste my time with anyone who doesn't tick all the boxes.' And the list had everything from 'not leaving clothes on the floor' to his deep morals and stuff. It's kind of a good idea. The most important things on my list would be that he has to be in the business, so he understands how hard it can be, with the lifestyle, but that he has to have other interests outside of work. He has to be adventurous, and teach me new things, and have a strong faith, and make me laugh, and be cute. I'm kind of crazy, so I like boys who don't take themselves too seriously. I learn a lot about myself in a relationship. It improves you, definitely. You adapt.

Women are definitely home-makers. We're obviously very different from men. But everyone's looking for love, in the end. Men aren't as strong as women. And they don't have as big an attention span. They want things immediately, from food to girls. The women I know are more successful than the men. It's hard for me to meet someone. I don't need someone who, like, has as much as me, but I don't want someone who has much less because then you never really feel taken care of. And it would always make a guy feel not like a man.

· Stranger is released on 20 August. The album Dignity is out now