You don’t have to be a slave to porn. Below (from one of our amazing clients) are 6 things in your life that get better after you quit porn. You can do it too.

Six months ago, my entire day revolved around porn. It was ruining my relationship. It was getting in the way of my goals and plans. It just had to stop, so I embarked upon a path to give up my porn obsession. I called Compulsion Solutions because I had decided that it was time to get help with porn addiction and grow up. Now I can undoubtedly say: Life is better.

I know that when you first give up any addiction, it can be difficult to be optimistic. If you’re in the beginning stages of giving up a vice, there are days when you are going to hate it. So I want to share some of the things you get to look forward to when you finally kick that crap to the curb…

1. You suddenly have more time in your day.

What do you want to accomplish in your life? Do you want to learn another language? Finish reading the Harry Potter books? Learn to cook? Build a birdhouse? Do you want to become a professional basketball player? Make some extra money? Visit France? Shake hands with Obama? Earn a promotion? Get a girlfriend? Start a band? Lose weight?

Well, guess what! Giving up porn can give you back the time that you’ve been missing. When I was using, I would find myself watching porn for hours at a time. Add it all up over a week and I had a part-time job watching porn. The only thing it paid me was shame and regret. Things were always getting done at last minute, I was often late for work or meeting with friends, and my apartment was always a mess.

Take porn addictions out of the equation and suddenly I had a huge chunk of time that I could put toward all those things I wanted to accomplish. The laundry, dishes, and vacuuming all got done in a day. I was able to concentrate on improving myself instead of hurting myself. My homework and assignments were all getting handed-in on time. And just recently, I ended up with a 90% average in school. I also won a small scholarship for having the highest grades in my program. I added more to my writing and multimedia portfolio than I thought possible.

The best part is, all the new skills, goals and accomplishments suddenly become your focus throughout your day instead of videos of naked people. You have to hide your porn use, but your new job/skills/car/girlfriend/etc. — Those are all things you get to be proud of.

Which brings me to #2…

2.You start to like yourself. (So do other people.)

This all ties into the new skills and hobbies you develop. The most amazing writer, David Wong, of Cracked.com said it best: “You can’t bullshit yourself into being happy.”

If by the end up the day, all you’ve accomplished is a few deposits into the spank bank and you look around to see that your place is still a disaster, what is there to feel happy about? Well, that’s the problem.

Human beings generate happiness from accomplishment — even small accomplishments. Instead of letting that mess in your room accumulate, clean it up and you can smile and say: It’s so much nicer in here. Oh hey! That’s where my cat was hiding. From there, you can carry that effort into other things that make you happy.

Another important side effect from giving up porn is that, other people will like you for it.

Once you give up your porn addictions, you suddenly become the type of person employers want to hire, the type of friend people want to have, and the type of guy that girls want to date. It’s only natural.

Productive members of society just get more respect and admiration from people because they’re just more fun to be around. You learn that you didn’t need to win a gold medal, have lots of money, or be a movie star for people to like you. You just had to accomplish a few small things to become the person that people wanted to be around. An effort at anything is usually enough to make you feel much better about yourself.

3. Sex starts to feel real again.

As Gary Wilson of yourbrainonporn.com says: “Sex is not the same thing as porn.” It’s the same way that playing Call of Duty on Xbox isn’t the same thing as going to war in Afghanistan.

When I was using, I would look forward to porn, but I would dread sex. Sex with my girlfriend felt like a chore. It wasn’t her fault. I would avoid sex because I had trained my brain to look for porn for arousal. So, when it came time to satisfy my girlfriend, it just emphasized the distance I had created between us.

It didn’t happen right away, but after a short time, I started to desire her touch again. I didn’t have to distance myself from intimacy or passion. Porn doesn’t have those things. Porn obsession lets you dismiss it when you notice a small imperfection and move on to the next video. It creates a desire for an unrealistic sex life that would never, ever satisfy anyone. It is also something that I’d project onto myself. I’d think I’d have to be built, or hung to be desired in such a way.

Leaving it all behind made me start to notice my girlfriend again and love her for who she was. It made me stop objectifying other girls as well.

Have you noticed that girls don’t want to spend time around you? I sure did. They were put off by my crudeness — and I don’t blame them.

4.You finally get to stop lying.

Living with a sexual compulsion was like having a double life. I constantly worried about being caught again by my girlfriend. I’d obsess about checking to make sure my history was erased and that my cookies were deleted. No matter how many times I would check, I still felt paranoid that might have left a bread crumb somewhere and that would be the end of my relationship. My girlfriend would confront me on things I couldn’t explain. She’d always expect something and I’d get mad at her for not trusting me, which was completely stupid because I wasn’t trustworthy.

When you live a lie for long enough, you start to convince yourself of it as well — and the more lies you tell, it becomes harder to tell the truth about anything. To overcome this, I had to come clean about my sexual addiction and deceptions to my girlfriend

It was incredibly painful, but after a few months, I can definitely say that it was worth it. I started to tell the truth knowing that my girlfriend could have left me for it, but it turned out that all she ever really wanted was honesty.

Once I decided giving up porn was the best option, I didn’t have to hide anymore. If I made a mistake, I could admit to it. I didn’t have to pretend to be perfect. So, now when my girlfriend asks me what I did today, I can tell her the unedited version of what I really did. I no longer have to worry about hurting her ever again.

5.You understand what it means to be in control.

We all know that sexual addictions are not limited to porn or sex. The human mind is an amazing thing and it can turn almost anything into a drug. A&E has a show dedicated to people with addictions to everything from alcohol and heroin to food and shopping.

Once I dropped the porn from my daily routine, my brain still wanted the dopamine it was used to. I understand that it is incredibly easy to fall back into the same habit with a whole new fix. But when you apply what you learned from your porn addictions to other aspects of your life, it helps you make the best choices.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from this journey, it’s this: You’re an adult now and if you make bad choices, no one is going to stop you. When you’re a kid, your parents limit the time you spend watching TV, they make you eat your vegetables before dessert, and you had to clean your bedroom if you wanted your allowance.

Well, you’re all grown up now. Are you going to eat McDonald’s every day? Are you going to rack up your credit cards until you’re bankrupt? Are you going to drink until you throw up each night?

If you do, no one will stop you. They may say to you, “Hey Mike, you might want to cut back on the pizza.” But no one will physically stand in your way. If you keep calling Domino’s, they will keep delivering.

Porn addicts are certainly an example of this. There is a chance that no one will know you’re addicted to it. The only one who can stand in your way is you. I learned to think of all the consequences. I learned to ask myself, do I need this much of this? Is this the best decision? How will this affect me tomorrow? I’m not saying that I obsess over it, but it’s up to me to be my own best friend. That’s what an adult does.

6. Things seem possible again.

When I was using porn. It was my crutch. Had a bad day = porn. Fight with a girlfriend = porn. Bored = porn.

Things just seemed too damn hard when I was on it. I’ve used the example of my messy apartment a few times, so here it is again. It’s hard to imagine what was really stopping me from just getting up and doing the dishes each day. Now it’s no surprise.

Add up all the previous points on this list and there was a guy who:

Didn’t do anything with himself People didn’t want to be around him Was afraid of intimacy Was living a lie Had no self-control.

It’s no wonder life felt so difficult each day. I wanted an excuse to watch porn so I’d look for reasons to feel tired, stressed, and overwhelmed.

Once I gave up porn, after a while, I gained the perspective that life really isn’t that bad. Yes, bad things do happen. Things can be tough, but when I’m looking for a crutch every time things don’t go my way, then I see how I’m missing out on the good things.

I’ve been without porn for six months and I now:

Work hard at my job and school and have acquired many more useful skills that I’m proud of I’m the type of person people want to have around I love intimacy and sex with my girlfriend again I’m up front and honest I do my best to control myself and make the right decisions

All of these are things I wanted to accomplish, all things I wanted to become. I know I can do them. I don’t have to feel held up by anything because life doesn’t feel so heavy anymore. Life feels like it is worth living.

I truly believe that life will only continue to get better from here and it can be the same way for you. If you find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed as you just begin to get counseling for porn addiction, then know that this is what you have to look forward to.

Recognize that there will be slip ups, problems, and roadblocks along the way, but you’re trading a bunch of pixels of naked people on a computer monitor for real life with happiness, success, and freedom. Never forget that.

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