These “women are free to make lesbian pornography but not to marry” and “how can you watch lesbian porn and not support gay marriage” posts bother me so much because they’re implying that

1) actual lesbians and women who make lesbian porn for men are basically the same group, even though het porn actresses can get married already and lesbian/bi/queer women’s legal rights have nothing to do with their “freedom” to make porn

2) lesbian pornography is representative of lesbian lives (“if you accept one, you should accept the other too because they are the same”), which is bullshit

3) it’s okay for men to fetishise lesbianism and watch lesbian porn as long as they support same-sex marriage, which is, again, bullshit.

It is important to talk about the ways in which lesbianism is turned into a fetish and made all about pleasing men and why that is wrong, but the conclusion should not be that lesbians should be accepted because it’s accepted to fetishise them; the point is that lesbians should be accepted and not fetishised.