Then maybe your's and my definitions of "sexy" are very much alike XD By "tasteless" I mean when they put on extremely short skirts/dresses on and have a very revealing top... It maybe something okay if you're single and are literally looking to get laid, but I doubt any man who met you like that in the club would take you seriously afterwards, unless you surprise him with your wits. Some people find that sexy - others don't. I personally appreciate it if the dress/skirt is maybe slightly above the knees and the top is not way too low cut, just enough to show off the shape, but not too revealing. Something that just looks attractive but doesn't scream "hey, I wanna fuck!". I like modest, but confident women, who don't need all of that shit and still know how to look good. But again - it's my opinion and it's hard to just put it all in words properly, it maybe just easier to pick out individually and just go like "yes", "no!" and etc.



I think it's not about the fact "calling them hot", but about how you do it. Also, I met some girls who responded very well when I said to her like "dayymmnn! you're stunning!" and it was a bit awkward for her at first, but she blushed and said "thank you darling" or something like that... And I was simply joking around, I wasn't being serious or anything. She was just walking like you know, waving "her tail" a little bit too much, so I just went "DAYMN!" and she was like "oh thank you darling!" lol



My point of view on catcalling generally is, that it's never intended for being serious, so this is the sole reason why it should not be taken too seriously. If the dude starts following you and trying to do something by staring at you or keeps talking and so on - now that's creepy and scary and that definitely requires some action to be taken. But if they just say something like "daymn!" or "god bless you girl!" and so on - best thing to do is ignore it, or politely say "thank you kind sir" and keep walking - DO NOT stop. Or if you follow and try to genuinely be nice and just say "look, I find you very attractive and really want to get to know you better, is that allright with you?" (or sumthin similar, but polite) and if she says no, then just apologise for inconvinience and move along. Whichever way you look at it - there is always a solution and i think many women appreciate it when a guy is trying to make an effort to be nice and at the same time be clear about what he wants. The other problem is, that many girls are very insecure about themselves and they just reply to your polite approach with something like "oh please, just get outta my face!" or "go kill yourself!" or any other kinda rude way, that then makes guys feel very insecure about women. And that's what also creates problems and usually doesn't end well for both.



It's a very long conversation and again - there is no black and white here, it's very individual and you have to approach each situation carefully to understand if its right or wrong and so on.