Being a woman is hard-work . There are times where I sit back and realize how tough it can be to balance it all . Between work, mothering, and running a household sometimes I find myself wondering when things became so hectic. Although there is no perfect way to tackle the realities of adult-hood, I often wonder about simple things I can teach them to essentially give them a head start to a balanced life.

How can I help them become confident independent women ?

Here are 10 important things I want to teach my girls by their 20's :

1. It's OKAY to ask for help - You might take this as a contradiction to my question, but this is number 1 for me because it was something I struggled with the most . It made things, especially as a mother, more difficult. When I found myself in a bind my pride would get the best of me , but I've realized now that asking for help can be as simple as opening up to those who will listen. I want them to know that asking for help will not dull their independence but give them the security they need when they are struggling.

2. Discover Your Own Path - "You're going to be just like your mommy! " is a phrase that kids hear all the time. Although it may be flattering, I want them to take pride in their own individual qualities . Even though there is nothing wrong with looking up to your parents , I don't want their individuality to be clouded by my influence , I'm simply here to guide and inspire them .

3. Love doesn't mean losing yourself - Naturally as women we give our ALL , we want to nurture , support , and love full heartedly . So much so , that we forget who we are , our dreams and aspirations diminish in the midst of our growing relationships . I want them to never forget who they are , search for a partner who admires that, and remember that not one person can be their everything . I want them to know that keeping your hobbies and interests alive in a relationship is healthy , not selfish. I want them to know that the person they love does not determine their value, and if they get their heart broken, never be afraid to love again.

4. Question Everything- Not everything is what it seems . Growing up as a teen you come across questionable friends, people, and unrealistic lifestyles that seem perfect from the outside . With social media playing such a major role in this generation , I want them to evaluate the people they surround themselves with and understand the importance of self-awareness.

5. You Can Only Be Great At Being YOU- Inevitably as women, we tend to compare ourselves to others . Especially as we become wives and mothers. I want them to know that they are beautiful & unique in their own ways , they are not meant to be anybody else but themselves. Since I am raising sisters close in age, reminding them they are different from each other for a greater purpose , is vital.

6. ONE.STEP.AT.A.TIME- When achieving any goal there is no quick way to get there . At times we may overwhelm ourselves with the amount of things we want to accomplish until we eventually give it up all together. Taking one step at a time is going to help with making major decisions in life and reaching long-term goals.

7. Time Management - oh boy , I still struggle with this . I am a firm believer that If they experience how much easier things go once they learn how to manage their time well, it will help them in many aspects of their lives . Being organized is essential in becoming successful , and especially when becoming a mother . I really wish I would have learned the value of this sooner in life , maybe high school & homework would have gone A lot smoother .

8. COMMUNICATION is key - as cliché as that sounds it's so true . I also had issues with this growing up , communicating was not my strong suit because I would get upset too quickly if things didn't go my way . I want them to know that if they need to solve a problem they have to communicate efficiently . When they want something in life they have to speak up.

9. Life Doesn't Get Easier - I don't want them to be intimidated by life's struggles . I just want them to be prepared . I want them to understand that failures and disappointments will build character and the only thing threatening their dreams is the fear of taking the first step . I want them to know that it will not get easier ,they will just get better at it .

10. Enjoy Life - Ultimately, I want them to have fun and have no fear in exploring their interests. I worried so much about failing that I forgot to enjoy the journey and I hope that they are confident enough to know they are capable of accomplishing anything. I want them to find themselves without taking life too seriously . Make friends , travel , and optimistically embrace life's lessons .

I want them to be truly proud of the women they become .

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