In Reddit’s Pics community, redditor dfGobBluth shared this notebook drawing with the simple description: “Reality of divorce. Found in my 7-year-old daughter’s school bag.”

Make no mistake—divorce is sometimes necessary, healthy, and one of the most honest decisions a couple can make. It also sucks, particularly for the kids who might be involved. At one point or another, children of divorce have had that near-universal “stuck in the middle” feeling. The illustration brought out a lot of thoughts and emotions for people who’ve been there.

Some comments from redditors:

On having to choose between Mom and Dad

On how hard it is to spend time apart

On the weight that’s put on a child after a divorce

On how “home” changes

On the big picture

And here’s some advice from children of divorced parents to parents who are divorcing, from a recent Ask Reddit discussion: