Vanilla is a great thing, whether it comes to sex, ice cream or lattes – I love it. Yet sometimes when you’re having vanilla sex, you can feel like it’s a bit boring. You may want to push the boat out away from the mundane.

But for some people, vanilla sex is their favourite way of doing it. Not everybody wants to be kinky or even if they’ve tried it, they may not like it as much. Preferring vanilla sex is totally fine and normal, given most of us have vanilla sex for the majority of the time anyway.

There’s no reason to think that just liking vanilla sex makes you boring. It doesn’t and there are loads of reasons why vanilla sex may be your thing.

Kinky preferences

Some people like kink. There are all kinds of kink you can be into and there’s no reason why that’s not okay. Everybody has sexual preferences, down to the kind of person they’re attracted to, sex positions, methods, locations and different fetishes or practices.

Being kinky and proud of it is totally fine. But it’s also okay not to be into kinky sex things altogether. People have different reasons for not being into kink, from just enjoying vanilla sex more without any complications to actually objecting to kinky things.

When it comes to domination and submission, some men and women are less keen on it due to thinking it’s abusive. Consensual sexual practices like BDSM are absolutely fine when everybody involved is respectful and enjoys what they do. Yet for some people, they want to avoid BDSM because they think it’s not OK and so keep to vanilla sex.

Not everybody has the confidence to try kinky sex, or simply find it uncomfortable. Vanilla sex can be thought of as being more relaxed than doing different sex positions like in Tantric sex. For others though, it isn’t that they dislike kinky sex, but just prefer vanilla.

Why is vanilla sex awesome?

Vanilla sex is awesome because it allows you to explore sex on your own terms without pretences. Whether you’re in a romantic or a raunchy mood, sometimes you just want to bonk without anything else to think about.

Having vanilla sex can be great for people who want both partners to feel equal. Thereby avoiding any concerns of one partner dominating the other as in BDSM. While also being the kind of sex most of us start off having to begin with.

It doesn’t have to be boring when you maintain a connection with your partner. By focusing on the aspects of sex that you both enjoy, you’re able to bond sexually. Relaxing during intimacy can increase your emotional experience by developing more closeness too.

Traditional sex positions are considered classics because they usually feel comfortable and are pleasurable for most people. While they may count as being ‘vanilla’, missionary, doggie, cowgirl and spoons are some of the most enjoyable moves to do. Whether you have them during vanilla sex in the bedroom, in the car or when you’re out and about, they all work.

Boring sex

Just liking vanilla sex doesn’t mean that you’re boring. Instead you’re confident with what you know and are certain that you enjoy it. If you haven’t tried other sexual things that are less vanilla, there’s always times to do so. Whether you want to try rimming, anal, bondage, spanking or DDLG role play the sky is your limit.

During sex, there are things you can do to make it even better. If you really enjoy giving oral, you want to be sure there aren’t any oral sex mistakes you’re making. Or if you like talking while you’re in bed, it’s a good idea to be sure you don’t say any of the things you should never say during sex because women hate hearing bad pillow talk!

Vanilla sex can be the best sex you ever have. Simply if you enjoy it most, there are things to avoid doing in bed but if you and your partner both enjoy the sex life you have, go for it.