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First you call us girls. Men date women, not girls.

You are terrified to talk to us, and we can tell. It represents not seeing us as people, but a commodity to acquire.

Since you are terrified to talk to use, we know you don't want to DATE us. You just want to bang us. The only quality in us you care about is whether or not we meet your minimum standard of attractiveness.

You think there is one set of things that "girls" are attracted to, not recognizing that we are all different people. If you think we can't smell these vibes coming off you, you are wrong. Fixation as some folks are on looks and money, they don't get it. The reasons you are a guy that women don't want to date.If you think we can't smell these vibes coming off you, you are wrong.

06-16-2017, 09:45 AM homina12 Location: In the bee-loud glade 4,507 posts, read 2,151,753 times Reputation: 9276



Quote: somebodynew Originally Posted by



First you call us girls. Men date women, not girls.



I find calling women "girls" obnoxious, and I frequently point it out. I also know a couple of men who do this regularly, even with the various women they're currently dating.



You are terrified to talk to us, and we can tell. It represents not seeing us as people, but a commodity to acquire.



I was once terrified to speak to women, and at 59 I still sometimes blush when doing so. I never once thought of women as a commodity to be acquired.



Since you are terrified to talk to use, we know you don't want to DATE us. You just want to bang us. The only quality in us you care about is whether or not we meet your minimum standard of attractiveness.



Why would you conclude this? I can understand, I guess, someone mistakenly inferring this from my anxiety. People misconstruing the meaning of anxious behavior is pretty common.



You think there is one set of things that "girls" are attracted to, not recognizing that we are all different people.

I agree with this one. I didn't think this way, but lots of men do, including men who date regularly. Not being attractive is a stumbling block to dating, but lots of men and women overcome it. I do agree that people who struggle are more likely to get frustrated and to blame something outside themselves, and even when that something contributes, it's best, and most accurately thought of as a challenge, as opposed to an insurmountable obstacle.



If you think we can't smell these vibes coming off you, you are wrong. Fixation as some folks are on looks and money, they don't get it. The reasons you are a guy that women don't want to date.If you think we can't smell these vibes coming off you, you are wrong. There's certainly a chance that one man who struggles with dating shares these attitudes or characteristics, but aren't men who struggle with dating "all different people"? So point by point;So I'm not suggesting that you should be attracted to men who stumble and stammer socially, and I'm sure some men are as you describe, but your generalization is insulting and kind of ironic, given your stance on such as it applies to you. 06-16-2017, 09:46 AM iknowftbll Location: Fredericksburg/Virginia Beach, VA 11,047 posts, read 11,915,860 times Reputation: 14646 Quote: somebodynew Originally Posted by Fixation as some folks are on looks and money, they don't get it. The reasons you are a guy that women don't want to date.

First you call us girls. Men date women, not girls: Girls call you girls. "Girls night out." "Girls just want to have fun." etc. It's not just boys who use this and the word choice is often benign.

You are terrified to talk to us, and we can tell. It represents not seeing us as people, but a commodity to acquire: This is quite a logical leap. You are right: some guys really are nervous to strike up a conversation but that doesn't mean they don't see women as people. For your claim to have any sort of grip you're going to have to give some verifiable examples otherwise it's entirely unfounded and not worth a second look.

Since you are terrified to talk to use, we know you don't want to DATE us. You just want to bang us. The only quality in us you care about is whether or not we meet your minimum standard of attractiveness: Another logical leap. See above.

You think there is one set of things that "girls" are attracted to, not recognizing that we are all different people: With this I agree. A lot of guys fail at dating because they try to apply what "girls" want instead of learning what a certain person wants.

Quote: somebodynew Originally Posted by If you think we can't smell these vibes coming off you, you are wrong. I think I'm getting what you're saying but this statement is a linguistic anomaly.Some can, some can't. Then again, I question the validity of some of these "vibes" unless you can further expand on your claims. 06-16-2017, 09:50 AM Ruth4Truth Location: State of Transition 85,937 posts, read 79,124,938 times Reputation: 88177 Quote: homina12 Originally Posted by There's certainly a chance that one man who struggles with dating shares these attitudes or characteristics, but aren't men who struggle with dating "all different people"? So point by point;







So I'm not suggesting that you should be attracted to men who stumble and stammer socially, and I'm sure some men are as you describe, but your generalization is insulting and kind of ironic, given your stance on such as it applies to you.



Help us understand this phenom. Interesting post. Thanks for sharing. Why did you used to be terrified of talking to women, and why do you still sometimes blush when doing so? Did you not have any sisters or female cousins, or friends who were girls when you were growing up? Is it your shyness that makes you blush, or do you only approach babes to talk to, so their babeness makes you blush?Help us understand this phenom. 06-16-2017, 09:56 AM ShellNic Location: Noblesville, IN 3,771 posts, read 4,335,059 times Reputation: 6395 What I've noticed about some young men, and to a degree, some older men, too, is that they put women into one of two categories: doable and not doable. I've actually had conversations with some of these twits and that is their world view. I would never apply that to every man - I've met a lot of decent human beings - but I will say, I do see a trend on this one point among some of them...and they complain they don't know how to meet women. Maybe that's part of it? 06-16-2017, 10:04 AM timberline742 Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY 38,460 posts, read 28,449,510 times Reputation: 35888 Eh, lots of adult women call men boys, and say boyfriend, or whatever. They call their female friends girls.

I'm a boy. I like girls. It just means male and female to me. Whatever. A professional setting is different, of course. 06-16-2017, 10:11 AM fleetiebelle Location: Pittsburgh 24,312 posts, read 26,221,152 times Reputation: 54688 Quote: timberline742 Originally Posted by Eh, lots of adult women call men boys, and say boyfriend, or whatever. They call their female friends girls.

I'm a boy. I like girls. It just means male and female to me. Whatever. A professional setting is different, of course.



Sometimes I wonder if the men who complain so fiercely about women have never been involved in any activity like a sport or a hobby that put them out there and got them used to disappointment. Like, sometimes you try out and don't make the team. Sometimes you play your heart out and still lose. After that, you brush yourself off and try again, you don't go home never to leave the house again, complaining all the while that the other team cheated and the coaches hate you. Right, intention and context is everything. "Girls" can be used in a friendly, respectful way, or it can be dripping with condescension.Sometimes I wonder if the men who complain so fiercely about women have never been involved in any activity like a sport or a hobby that put them out there and got them used to disappointment. Like, sometimes you try out and don't make the team. Sometimes you play your heart out and still lose. After that, you brush yourself off and try again, you don't go home never to leave the house again, complaining all the while that the other team cheated and the coaches hate you. 06-16-2017, 10:12 AM timberline742 Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY 38,460 posts, read 28,449,510 times Reputation: 35888 Quote: fleetiebelle Originally Posted by Right, intention and context is everything. "Girls" can be used in a friendly, respectful way, or it can be dripping with condescension.



Sometimes I wonder if the men who complain so fiercely about women have never been involved in any activity like a sport or a hobby that put them out there and got them used to disappointment. Like, sometimes you try out and don't make the team. Sometimes you play your heart out and still lose. After that, you brush yourself off and try again, you don't go home, never to leave the house again, complaining all the while that the other team cheated.



I didn't make varsity basketball senior year. It still burns





Co-ed water polo club wasn't a bad back up... nah, it was. I didn't make varsity basketball senior year. It still burnsCo-ed water polo club wasn't a bad back up... nah, it was. 06-16-2017, 10:17 AM burgler09 Location: Viña del Mar, Chile 16,409 posts, read 27,555,746 times Reputation: 16548 Quote: somebodynew Originally Posted by



First you call us girls. Men date women, not girls.

You are terrified to talk to us, and we can tell. It represents not seeing us as people, but a commodity to acquire.

Since you are terrified to talk to use, we know you don't want to DATE us. You just want to bang us. The only quality in us you care about is whether or not we meet your minimum standard of attractiveness.

You think there is one set of things that "girls" are attracted to, not recognizing that we are all different people. If you think we can't smell these vibes coming off you, you are wrong. Fixation as some folks are on looks and money, they don't get it. The reasons you are a guy that women don't want to date.If you think we can't smell these vibes coming off you, you are wrong.

I refer to "women" as "girls" all the time. Never had problems dating. I refer to "women" as "girls" all the time. Never had problems dating. 06-16-2017, 10:19 AM timberline742 Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY 38,460 posts, read 28,449,510 times Reputation: 35888 Quote: burgler09 Originally Posted by I refer to "women" as "girls" all the time. Never had problems dating.



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