Everyone trying to stop you from what you´re doing or is being annoyed by you? There are chances, you are doing something meaningful. Let me show you why pissing people off can sometimes be a good thing.

“Pissing people off is both inevitable and necessary. This doesn’t mean that the goal is pissing people off. Pissing people off doesn’t mean you’re doing the right things, but doing the right things will almost inevitably piss people off.” – Colin Powell

Helping refugees? Look at the people in your own country first!

Getting only A´s? Such a Swot!

Working out in the gym? Start accepting your Body the way it is!

Curing Cancer? What the fuck took you so long?!

Whatever you do you are always going to annoy someone.

Attempting anything remotely interesting will bring criticism. Trying to do anything large-scale and interesting will bring armies of detractors and saboteurs. There are good reasons to be willing, even eager to take the heat.

Understand the difference.

Important things > Other people’s feelings

Successful people often seem to be like assholes, right? Yes, that’s because they learned that there are sometimes more important things to worry than about the feelings of others .

I don´t want to say that being an asshole will make you successful. But an unwillingness to occasionally be one when it has to be, is almost a safe road to failure.

We are raised to be nice. For a damn good reason.

Being nice is pretty helpful for maintaining the status quo. Being consciously aware of what might upset others, and avoid those things sounds like a perfectly safe formula…

Sure, but this is catastrophic if your mission is to achieve anything significant.

Most people are too nice for their own good.

Darwin’s Theory of Survival

Charles Darwin popularized and found validity in the theory that the strong will survive while the weak will eventually become a needless race. The asshole is the strong willed force in society who understands that those who are envied benefit more than those who are loved or appreciated. The asshole is the way he is because he knows how people treat someone who is too nice.

“To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” – Elbert Hubbard

Truth is unfortunately, if you want to lead, create or better the world you will always have people against you or reject you. People think this is a constant, they believe if they go to a certain place in life they won´t get rejected anymore. That´s just not true.

In the last presidential election Obama got 51% of the votes. He won. But what we forget is that he got rejected by almost half of the country.

Being an asshole won´t actually make you successful, but an unwillingness to occasionally be one is pretty much a road to failure.

If you impact enough people hate is in evadable

The more people your actions impact, the less those people will understand you. If you like it or not, the more people you impact, the more you´ll just have to be the asshole for.

A really good example is miscommunication in workplace situations.

The exact thing happens today when we read things on the screen, we take the words as we want in our head. Just in an even wider range.

The only thing the process needs are enough people. If you are impacting enough people in any way, you´ll be completely misinterpreted in the time it takes a teenager to vomit something on his Facebook wall.

If there should be a god, even he would be pissed off.

You can always choose to avoid the hate by not doing anything remotely interesting. If your biggest decision is about the outfit you are going to wear tomorrow you probably won´t get masses running after you, but if you want to have an impact, you need to face this hate.

Don’t walk through life in a walking daze. Often it´s more important to give people what they need, rather than what they want.

This includes yourself. When we learn to face the fire early and often, we ensure the confidence and breathing room later to do bigger and better things.

Just because someone is offended it doesn´t mean they are right

How intelligent were you the last time you were pissed off?

The time someone cut you off in traffic, the time people rushed in a train before you could get off, the time you…

Chances are your reactions aren´t the friendliest and most rational after something happened that pissed you off. Anger is an emotional response. An incredibly stupid one that puts things normally out of proportion really quick.



Some people may like apple the others like Microsoft, say something nice about one group and you will literally feel the hate of the other one.

By not even trying to offend someone you will provoke the rage in the others. Sadly, pretty much everyone behaves like this. Unless you try really hard. I mean really really hard.

Conclusion: Do not conform to other people’s anger. It´s like conforming to the most stupid part of their nature.

Be an asshole, just like… those assholes.

The benefits of pissing people off

No matter what you do, in life, work, school or your hobbies, you are going to run into people who are going to put you down and hold you back from reaching your true potential. There will be people who don´t understand what you are doing, or why you are doing it and because of that they will attack you and get you to the point where you start doubting yourself. We seek approval of others so hard that we often forget what´s really important. When we upset someone, we have an urge to justify our self.

That´s actually a good sign, it means you’re not actually an asshole. But please, don´t be afraid to act like one when it matters.

Over the last two years, I trained myself to stop worrying so much what other people think. It has been one of the most important things I learned in life and helped me in my relationships, business and so much more. I wrote a comprehensive guide on “how to not give a fuck” and a free course with real life missions for 7 days. I´d be happy to send it over to you if you want. Just put in your best email below.

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Be criticized for doing small “safe” things, or be criticized for doing big things that scare but drive you. Criticism will come either way, whether in the form of self-talk, the former, or ankle biters, the latter.

Let the critics criticize. The doers will do anyway.

Inspired by: Tim Ferriss, Oliver Emberton, Dr. Robert Glover