Effective communication isn't all about talking; actively listening is a key part of talking to your wife about feelings. When you listen to what she has to say, you are better able to gauge her emotions and formulate an appropriate response. Look at your wife as she speaks, paying attention to her gestures and body language. For example, if you tell her that you aren't getting enough attention from her, and she responds that she understands what you're saying, note the words that she uses, the way her face knowingly nods, and how she moves her body in towards you to show that she cares.