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And this one, I suppose.

I can already hear someone in the comments going, "Well, at least he's being honest!" and I think that person is under the impression that women get flowery messages from dudes who are pretending to care about who we are as a person, all with the secret intent of tricking us into fucking them. That has never happened. It's mostly just all gross.

At least a third of the messages I get (and ignore) are of the "do you want to have sex?" variety. And here's the thing -- I'm on a fucking dating website. I am hoping to go on a date and ideally to get all up in someone's emotional and/or genital space at some point after that. Just because I am open to dating/sex doesn't mean you get to stop talking to me like I'm a real person.

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It's the same "well, you clearly want attention!" bullshit that women get all the time. OK, and my counter argument is going to be squeezing your junk like that creep from the Shamwow infomercials while exclaiming, "Well, you clearly wanted me to touch your dick so here I am!!!" Don't fucking sell yourselves short; y'all are smarter than that.

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Or at least smarter than this guy.

Women have been saying this forever, but catcalling is not flattering, and it is certainly not attractive -- why would the OkCupid version of that be any different? If you can't have a conversation that doesn't revolve around your dick, then you need to do some remedial social education or something.