winterposey Forum Member

Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: United States Posts: 4

Asian friend obsessed with white guys I need some advice--



I have a Vietnamese friend, female, who is obsessed with white guys. She says that white guys is ALL dates and even says "the whiter, the better". I'm not racist (I have a lot of Asian and black friends) but I don't like interracial dating. I think it ruins the gene pools of all races and destroys the genetic diversity of thousands and thousands of years. I'm white and I openly only date white guys. It makes sense because I'm white myself (it's tribal instinct).



Anyways, I love my friend but I don't approve of her "white obsession". Other Asians call her a "twinkie" (yellow on the outside, white on the inside) and she thinks its hilarious. She's of Vietnamese descent but she was born here. I think part of it has to due with her father, whom she isn't close to. My mom thinks she has "daddy issues". She always talks about how good-looking white guys, how "un-Asian" they are (meaning they aren't strict and seem to enjoy life more) and how different the white culture is. She is seriously obsessed and its annoying. She says she's not attracted to Asians (her own kind) at all and thinks they're all ugly and look the same (her words--not mine). She also thinks black guys are unattractive.



Anyways, I don't know what to do. I'm trying to get her to let go of her "white guy" obsession but it's not working. She claims that, because her high school Asian boyfriend almost raped her and took money from her, ALL Asian guys are bad. And yet, her last boyfriend, who was white, cheated on her but white guys are still perfect? I told her she was hypocritical but she brushed it off. She also rubs it in my face when a white guy flirts with her or asks her out. She thinks every white guy who talks with her is hitting on her. She also acts like she's special because she likes white guys. Yeah right. MOST Asian women like white guys. She's far from unique.



I want to talk her out of her obsession but I don't know what to do or say. I want to be honest but how? I live in Minnesota and there are beautiful Scandinavian, German, Canadian and Irish boys here and it makes me mad that she feels more entitled to them (she's short and 98 pounds) than me. I can't say Asian guys are better than white guys because we both know that's not true. I've been wanting to say something for months, but I need help. I can't take it anymore. She's gotten so bad that I'm really thinking about ending the friendship.



Any advice would be great. Thanks!