Olivia Nicolson, 25, an events manager, and Chris Grady, 25, a forensic officer with NSW Police, have been together for four years and have a very healthy sex life - engaging in sex three to four times a week - with both of them initiating it. ''We're both pretty similar in what we want,'' Mr Grady said. ''I probably want it a little more than Olivia, but on the whole we just really enjoy being with each other.''

Ms Nicolson said she often wanted sex every day. ''When I'm not tired from work I would say that I would want it almost every day,'' she said.

When it comes to a date most likely to put us all in the mood, a romantic dinner was favoured by a third of both sexes but according to 61.8 per cent of men and 52.4 per cent of women, there is nothing quite like a cosy night in to ignite passion.

Dancing is the unanimous winner for both sexes when it comes to activities most likely to turn us on, with 65.9 per cent of women and 50 per cent of men preferring a boogie over outdoor pursuits and pub-based pastimes such as pool.

As for sex itself, the survey suggests we're all stuck in a bit of a rut. Rushed foreplay was named as the biggest issue for 37.8 per cent of women while 35 per cent of men complained women never initiate sex.