EleanorLavish Sat 16-Feb-19 09:31:18

Ooooo, this drives me nuts! I actually started a thread about it before.

And, I googled the correct etiquette regarding this (sad,I know).

Apparently, it is the correct way to refer to a married lady in written communication, but is also considered out of date and not in keeping with modern ways. So also perfectly acceptable now to just put Mr and Mrs Brown. And, if you do mention to the school that you don't wish to be referred to as that in future then they should stop doing it. It is considered poor etiquette to refer to someone in a manner they have requested not be used.