I'm not African American or Caribbean, but an immigrant. I find it very sad to see people in our race fighting and calling each other names. I guess I am considered black, so by all means I will do my best to preserve the race and improve our collected image. I grew up as a nerd in a mostly white area. As a child, my perception of black people came from the television because I never had the chance to interact with any real black people. Contrary to what Son of Sertoli said, prior to university, I was not attracted to black guys because of what I saw in the media about them being thugs; I only wanted to date guys interested in science, math, and the arts. As I have grown up and experienced different environments, I realize that there are smart, nerdy black guys, just like me. The problems I have are as follows:1) I am an undergrad, and I do not have any classes with educated black guys (demographics and major)2) They might not be attracted to me because of my race (some only date inter-racially and refuse to give their race a chance because of stereotypes)3) I don't know where educated guys hang out (I'm either in class, at my house, the library or at work)We have all been brainwashed to believe the stereotypes that are held against our race without going into the world and meeting different kinds of black people. If we want the nasty stereotypes to disappear, educated black people must support each other. I think we should all be aware of stereotypes and try our best to be the direct opposite. As a kid, I was bullied because I looked different. Do you know what I did? I made friends with all of my bullies.If someone or society as a whole hurt you at some point, you have to get over it and be nice to everyone even if you have a disagreement. I know we have been raised to stand up for ourselves, but sometimes it is important to take the constructive criticism, respond in a kind and considerate manner, and look for ways to improve if the faults apply to you. In the heat of the moment, just listen and don't escalate the issue by calling people names or being defensive. For example, just say "". We can also encourage others to follow our lead. A woman is valued for her inner beauty and this comes from being nurturing and gentle. Even though I am smart (3.99 GPA), I let men know how much I admire their intelligence and other virtuous traits.