The reason most of us feel guilt or shame for our past actions is because those actions were not in line with our current morals and values. In this way, our previous wrongdoings can actually clue us in to what we hold now important. Think about what you value now and how that's different from the past. This process will help you start to get a clearer picture as to why you're hurting and get you closer on the path to self-forgiveness.