i'm an entp female who's been good friends with an intj male for about 3 years now. he's always expressed how much he values our friendship, how he loves me as a friend, teases me occasionally but then says i'm beautiful/perfect, we send each other memes and music and cool videos to talk about, etc. we don't live in the same city anymore but he calls me often and we talk for hours on the phone and it feels good. sometimes it's awkward, but usually it's refreshing. we talk about ourselves and whatever topic we're interested in at the moment, and we usually debate about that topic. he's also pretty big on the traditional idea of marriage and has even proposed that we would be good for each other that way, and that we should get married (but i always brush it off as a joke, because it always feels kinda like one ... for example, we'll be talking about middle eastern politics or cars or something and he'll be like "wanna get married?" and i'll be like "haha funny"). there have been instances where we talked about really sentimental/emotional things, or i got frustrated/stressed and started crying, and he was super sweet and caring about it (albeit slightly awkward, cuz i'm not used to crying in front of people, and i don't think he's used to caring for crying people, but he hugged me and held my hand and gave me classic Te advice that was so reassuring to my confused and overwhelmed Ti). he used to hit on me a lot earlier in our friendship but i wasn't into him that way and would tell him to stop, which is how it became more platonic, but now i'm starting to catch feelings for him because of how good our conversations are and how much he seems to genuinely care in an unconditional way.

HOWEVER

he's awful at making plans with me. we haven't seen each other in months because we always end up prioritizing other things over each other (school/work/family). he's hung out with his other friends occasionally, but not me - even though he ALWAYS says he misses me and we should plan something - and that kinda pisses me off. i've addressed it, and he promises we'll hang out, but he's just really stressed at work right now. i know work is busy for him, but i feel like if he liked me as more than a friend, then he'd be more dedicated to actually spending time with me.

so, what do y'all think? i don't wanna keep crushing on him if i'm just being played/mislead, but i really do see something in him that i've never seen in other men, and i really want to give us a shot. should i say something or wait for him? does it even seem like he's interested in something more?