10 Signs You Are Almost Grown-Up

By HBO

No one says how long the journey to adulthood should take, but Season 5 brought the Girls as close to grown-up as they’ve gotten. Check out signs from each episode to see what milestones you and the Girls have hit.

Sign #1: Your first friend gets hitched.

Bride Marnie tries to put on a calm and collected facade (despite the doomsday weather) and Shoshanna does her best to be the perfect bridesmaid — always ready with the necessary optimistic comment. Hannah, however, can’t even pretend she’s having a good time, and Jessa is busy running through fields. But at the end of the day, the ladies get it together, and realize that what is important is being there to support and celebrate their friend.

Did You Know? Allison Williams helped design Marnie’s wedding makeup.

Sign #2: You can hang out and not have sex.

Before we get to Sign #2, allow us to establish Rule #1 of being a lady. Never, ever (ever) get close with your friend’s ex. Shut that s**t down immediately. Sadly, Jessa forgets this when it comes to Adam, despite her making a point to keep their Coney Island adventure — playing carnival games, feeding each other sausage and peppers, accidentally killing goldfish — as above board as possible. (Though, watching each other masturbate may be a step too far).

Sign #3: You keep things professional at work…and follow your heart.

Shoshanna is killing it at her new job in Japan, and while she has a small crush on her boss Yoshi, she stays committed to keeping things platonic for the entirety of her employment. She also reminds herself she has a “kind of” boyfriend back home, which is the grown up thing to do. After she’s “managed out” of the company, Shoshanna does not retreat home with her tail between her legs. Instead, she seizes the opportunity to stay in the country she loves, which gives way to a budding — and socially acceptable — romance.

Did You Know? Aidy Bryant, who guest stars in the Tokyo-based episode, is not a cat person and was hesitant to partake in the cat cafe scene.

Sign #4: You decide to work on your relationship problems.

Both Marnie and Hannah are struggling at the start of Episode 4: Desi builds a physical wall in his and Marnie’s apartment; Fran disagrees with Hannah’s teaching style. What to do? The fed-up ladies avoid their woes and retreat to Jessa’s Brooklyn abode. But inspiration strikes Marnie via the “Old Loves” Tumblr page: “People who work on things end up together. Otherwise you’re gonna end up alone…like Cher.” Meaningful online quotes and the fear of diva spinsterhood lead her to an epiphany: She takes the advice and leaves to patch things up with Desi.

Sign #5: You take a trip with mom (…and keep it to five fights, max).

The Horvath women. Unfiltered. Unflappable. And unstoppable in their mission to take female-empowerment retreat Spring Queening by storm. Well, sort of. Upon arrival, Hannah can’t seem to abide by the no-phone policy, while Loreen wonders if her situation with (recently out) Tad is worth going through the uglies of divorce. Jessa and Adam, meanwhile, take their relationship to the next level — with Adam not only meeting Jessa’s unhinged sister, but also offering to pay for her upcoming grad school program. Everyone’s venturing into unchartered territory in this episode; exciting for some — and confusing for others.

Sign #6: You tell your ex someone put a ring on it…and let bygones be bygones over pizza.

Marnie simultaneously gets some closure on past heartbreak, expresses her emotions in a calm and rational way and lets her hair down for a night on the town. Thank f**king gawd. Marnie — yes, Marnie — walks around Brooklyn barefoot, soaked in pond water, wearing a red sequined dress. She also says this to someone who, for the sake of spoilers, will remain nameless: “I’m not here to change you. I don’t need to change anybody anymore.”

Did You Know? Lena was inspired by the movie ‘Panic In Needle Park’ — Al Pacino and Kitty Winn play young heroin addicts in love — and wrote the script for the episode in a creative “fever dream.” “It’s truly the piece of writing that I’ve done for the show that I’m the most proud of,” says Dunham.

Sign #7: You put two and two together, but don’t flip out.

Hannah’s boss reprimands her for unprofessional behavior and in classic socially-awkward-Hannah fashion, she interprets this as a moment to flash him Basic Instinct-style. Fran is not amused by her tactic. Elijah finds out his relationship with Dill is not exclusive, so he steals some toiletries from Dill’s bathroom (once you hit your late twenties, you realize the value of amazing bathroom amenities.) The rest of the group attends Adam’s new play. Hannah spots the look on Jessa’s face while she watches Adam’s performance, and her fears are confirmed when they leave together after the show. But rather than having an immature freak out, Hannah apologizes to Fran and heads home with him.

Sign #8: You take five steps forward and 10 steps back.

Shosh returns from Japan looking like a manic teddy bear in pink. Hannah breaks up with Fran at a rest stop many miles from New York, playing a game of chase through a public bathroom. Marnie and Desi freeze each other out. Jessa struggles to help Adam care for little Sample when Caroline and Laird are M.I.A., prompting Adam’s sage words: “You’re an adult. She’s a baby. Why do you need more help than a baby?” (Adam, we hear you.)

Did You Know? Fashion journalist Hamish Bowles makes a cameo in the episode ‘Hello Kitty.’

Sign #9: You put your college degree to good use.

It’s been thoroughly entertaining watching Hannah Horvath teach New York City’s youth (and agitate Principal Toby to no end), which is why it was so bittersweet to watch her walk out of the English classroom for the foreseeable future. Shoshanna, one the other hand, who’s back from Tokyo and ready to take charge of her life, uses her NYU-priced marketing degree to turn Ray’s deserted coffee shop into an anti-hipster hangout.

Sign #10: You use your pain to make meaningful art.

Marnie asks Ray to come on tour. Hannah tells her parents she’s hoping to get selected to read at that night’s Moth performance, and Loreen takes her shopping for an appropriate outfit. Jessa and Adam’s relationship reaches peak tension, and they trash the apartment during a blow-out fight. The story Hannah tells at the Moth is about Jessa and Adam, and finding a way to wish them the best. Afterwards, high from her achievement, Hannah breaks into a run while crossing the Brooklyn Bridge. Maybe she doesn’t know exactly where she’s going, but a corner has been turned, and real success suddenly feels within reach.

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Written by Olivia Armstrong, Eleanor Laurence, Ashley Morton and Allie Waxman.