Just read Keto's post about a woman who has spent the past ten years pining away for a married guy, whom she met when SHE was married.



This brings up an important point.



Women either HAVE an "A" guy, or they desperately want one. It has something to do with needing that emotional rush.



What does this mean?



It means that if a woman already HAS an "A" guy, you either have to be the right guy at the right time that has what it takes to usurp the crown, or you will be relegated to "B" or "C" status, depending upon her level of attraction.



See, my problem lately is that I have been meeting a fair amount of women who I manage to get to "B" status with, but lately becoming that elusive "A" has proven difficult.



I have to give myself credit though. I can honestly say that I DO NOT accept a "C" position, which is basically "friend zone", and I am quick to recognize when it's a losing battle to try to become an "A" guy.



I have seen this play out with women I have been with and even MORE so with other people and their relationships.



You meet a chick and get along well. She shows most of the classic signs of high interest when you are WITH her, however when it comes time to get together she flakes.



Why does this happen?



Well, lots of times it's because she might like you, she might even REALLY like you, but unless you got what it takes to dethrone her "A" guy, you are really nothing more than a temporary distraction/ego booster for her.



The "A" guy could be an ex b/f who cheated on her and dumped her and still calls her from time to time to keep the hook set.



Or he could be a guy who she is currently dating who has so far refused to commit to her exclusively.



He could even be the guy in the corner office who she has done nothing more than exchanged smiles with, who she has built up in her head to some sort of god-like status.



Or, he could be any guy in between.



The point is, there are MILLIONS of women out there who are walking around with their heads in another place, TELLING people they are single, even going on dates, even getting MARRIED TO OTHER MEN, who are actually NOT really single. In their minds they are having a relationship with Tom, D!ck, or Harry. Sure, she may be out on a date with YOU. She might even be laughing at your cheeseball humor and touching your leg when she talks to you. But deep down inside she can't wait to get home to check her email to see if her fantasy man sent her something.



Basically what I'm saying is that it's often hard to tell if a woman is secretly longing for another man. All you can do is keep your eyes open, and even then it's tough when a chick is flipping her hair and leaning toward you and talking about your next date ten minutes into your first one just to flake on you three days later. But this is why you need to be EXTRA vigilant with women, and not invest too much time into a losing battle.



Just thought I'd share.