Hi girls! This is my first time posting 🙂 I’m pretty excited to be on here… I guess I’d better stop babbling and get down to business.

Well, I live with my boyfriend of 8 years, and I read The Rules over Christmas, and I’ve been working on applying them to my relationship ever since. I sure wish I knew about them before! I feel like undoing bad habits is a heck of a lot harder when we’ve been living together for such a long time, but I’ve been making slow, steady progress. Thankfully, I’ve noticed that I can make mistakes, and then smarten up, and he notices right away. Great feedback, huh!

Lately I’ve noticed that we might not look forward to seeing each other the way we used to when our relationship first began. I figure that this has been going on for a long time, and I’m only noticing now because I know better. Here’s the story:

We planned a date for friday night and it turned out that he had quite a bit of work to do that he wasn’t able to get to during the week, so we postponed it for last night. Then, yesterday we had a great big fight and ended up feeling super uncomfortable with each other. It was awful. You know those fights where you just say really cold things and then later just feel completely worn out and deflated? Yup, it was one of those.

So, we did eventually get to the date, though we didn’t go out like we planned. We just stayed in and cuddled on the couch, watched a movie then went to bed. But I wasn’t really looking forward to it, persay. And when I asked him if he was, he said that we see each other so often that it’s bound not to be the same as when we first started going out 😦 Ouch. I took that as a sign that I am spending waaaay too much time at home, or random time with him.

So, this morning when I woke up, I got out of bed first, went and made myself feel pretty and got down to what I wanted to do for the day. It was lovely. Then when he got up, he looked at me lovingly and told me I looked nice… we talked a little about our fight (I apologized for being so controlling… which I can be) and we went on with our day.

I guess I need a little encouragement to make sure I don’t spend too much time with him. I don’t want us to get to the point where we don’t even look forward to dates! EW! Anyone else ever experienced this?