Maybe it’s happened to you: You’re chugging through life with certain views on life, then someone says something to you and everything changes. Maybe that person was your third-grade teacher. Maybe it was a stranger in the bookstore. Maybe it was your 4-year-old nephew.

In an introspective Ask Reddit thread, Reddit user AWWshets asked the question, “What is something someone said that forever changed your way of thinking?” Redditors looked back on the moments when words jolted and forever shaped them.

Here’s what they wrote.

Sometimes, your feelings aren’t the most important

It’s never too late

Be the right person

It’s all about perspective

Crowdsource wisdom

It’s not always just a simple gift

It’s okay to set limits for yourself

Be afraid (but do it anyway)