TemptressofWaikiki Mon 29-Jan-18 20:31:52

I’d take your ex’ dad’s comments with a massive pinch of salt. He is making excuses for his son’s behaviour if he describes his other ex as controlling. It’s not entirely unlikely that his father has similar manipulative traits. I’m not advocating trusting the other woman fully either but don’t expect the father to be unbiased. And there is probably some massive, self-serving agenda there in that he wants you to take that plonker back, so daddy isn’t stuck with an oversized, stinky man-child! You said yourself in your last thread, how you had to push and remind him to do basic adult 1.1 stuff. That could so easily be twisted into describing you just as controlling. Everyone has an agenda by the sounds of it. Just take a step back and focus on your and your child. Sort out the practicalities of housing and other financial support, as soon as you feel up to it. The gaming adult toddler is nowhere on the immediate to-do list.