Episode 173 - Breaking Free, part six Breaking Free by Nathaniel Branden

http://books.google.com/books/about/Breaking_free.html?id=2U8dAQAAMAAJ



The Questions:



1. Did your parents respect your intellectual and physical privacy?



2. Did your parents project that what a person made of his life, and what you specifically made of your life, was important?



3. Did your parents encourage in you a fear of the world, a fear of other people? Or were you encouraged to face the world with an attitude of relaxed, confident benevolence? Or neither?



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Episode 172 - Breaking Free, part five Breaking Free by Nathaniel Branden

http://books.google.com/books/about/Breaking_free.html?id=2U8dAQAAMAAJ



The Questions:



1. Was it your parents' practice to punish you or discipline you by striking or beating you?



2. Did your parents project that they believed in your basic goodness? Or did they project that they saw you as bad or worthless or evil?



3. Did your parents project that they believed in your intellectual and creative potentialities? Or did they project that they saw you as mediocre or stupid or inadequate?



4. In your parents' expectations concerning your behavior and performance, did they take cognizance of your knowledge, needs, interest and context? Or were you confronted by expectations and demands that were overwhelming and beyond your ability to satisfy?



Please download this very helpful 14page PDF about nonviolent communication:

http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf



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Episode 171 - Breaking Free, part four http://worldnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/09/11/13808173-dead-gitmo-detainee-was-cleared-for-release-in-2009?lite

http://completeliberty.com/magazine/read/episode-69---governmental-prison-injustice-immorality-and-insanity-of-war-virtue-of-independence-and-achievement_61.html



Breaking Free by Nathaniel Branden

http://books.google.com/books/about/Breaking_free.html?id=2U8dAQAAMAAJ



The Questions:



1. Did your parents treat you with respect?

Were your thoughts, needs, and feelings given consideration?

Was your dignity as a human being acknowledged?

When you expressed ideas or opinions, were they treated seriously?

Where your likes and dislikes treated seriously? (Not necessarily agreed with or acceded to, but nonetheless treated seriously?)

Were your desires treated thoughtfully and respectfully?



2. Did you feel that you were psychologically visible to your parents? Did you feel real to them?

Did your parents seem to make a genuine, thoughtful effort to understand you?

Did your parents seem authentically interested in you as a person?

Could you talk to your parents about issues of importance and receive interested, meaningful understanding from them?



3. Did you feel loved and valued by your parents, in the sense that you experienced yourself as a source of pleasure to them? Or did you feel unwanted, perhaps a burden? Or did you feel hated? Or did you feel you were simply an object of indifference?



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Episode 170 - Breaking Free, part three The Questions:



1. Were you encouraged to think independently, to develop your critical faculty? Or were you taught to be obedient rather than mentally active and questioning?

Did your parents project that it was more important to conform to what other people believed than to discover what is true?

When your parents wanted you to do something, did they appeal to your understanding and give you reasons for their request? Or did they communicate in effect, "Do it because I say so"?



2. Did you feel free to express your views openly without fear of punishment?



3. Did your parents communicate their disapproval of your thoughts, desires, or behavior by means of humor, teasing, or sarcasm?



I invite you to participate in an eight-week therapy group of at least five persons (each weekly session will be 1.5hrs)--please email me at wes@happinesscounseling.com, and we'll fine-tune the program.

http://happinesscounseling.com/group-sessions-2/



Anarcho-Syndicalism: A Recipe for Ruin by Daniel James Sanchez

http://mises.org/daily/5590



Links to the CLP series on Unconditional Parenting here...

http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/



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Episode 167 - Breaking free, part two Some points of light in the mainstream...

http://www.andersoncooper.com/2012/06/21/the-most-controversial-parenting-methods

http://www.andersoncooper.com/2012/03/07/unschooling-is-one-moms-solution-to-adhd/



Breaking Free by Nathaniel Branden

http://books.google.com/books/about/Breaking_free.html?id=2U8dAQAAMAAJ



The Questions:



1. Did your parents deal with you fairly and justly? Did your parents resort to threats in order to control your behavior--either threats of immediate punitive action on their part, or threats in terms of long-range consequences for your life, or threats of supernatural punishments, such as going to hell? Were you praised when you performed well? Or merely criticized when you performed badly? Were your parents willing to admit it when they were wrong? Or was it against their policy to concede that they were wrong?



2. Did your parents' behavior and manner of dealing with you tend to produce guilt in you?



3. Did your parents' behavior and manner of dealing with you tend to produce fear in you?



4. Did your parents project that it was desirable for you to think well of yourself, to have self-esteem? Or were you cautioned against valuing yourself, and encouraged to be humble?



5. Did your parents encourage you in the direction of having a healthy affirmative attitude toward sex and toward your own body? Or a negative attitude? Or neither?



I invite you to participate in an eight-week therapy group of at least five persons (each weekly session will be 1.5hrs)--please email me at wes@happinesscounseling.com, and we'll fine-tune the program. Here is the information page:

http://happinesscounseling.com/group-sessions-2/



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Episode 165 - Breaking Free, part one Breaking Free by Nathaniel Branden

http://books.google.com/books/about/Breaking_free.html?id=2U8dAQAAMAAJ



The Questions:



1. When you were a child, did your parents' manner of behaving and of dealing with you give you the impression that you were living in a world that was rational, predictable, and intelligible? Or a world that was bewildering, contradictory, incomprehensible, unknowable?



2. Were you taught the importance of learning to think, the importance of developing your mind, the importance of becoming a rational being? Did your parents provide you with intellectual stimulation and convey the idea that the use of your mind can be an exciting pleasure?



http://nathanielbranden.com



Explore your subconscious emotional psychology

http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/ Participate in my group therapy program:

http://happinesscounseling.com/group-sessions-2/ "Parents most potent tool of teaching is through example" N.B.



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Episode 154 - Unconditional parenting, part fifteen In this episode I cover the Appendix - Parenting Styles: The Relevance of Culture, Class, and Race in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Love is both a feeling and a need

Collectivistic cultures tend to minimize or even disfavor self-interest and self-actualization, which leads to repressed feelings, e.g., of resentment and depression When parents spank children, they inflict pain and induce fear in them, i.e., fear of parental "authority," which sends a really confused and contradictory message to them about their own individuality and choice--and it perversely mixes notions of love with violence. Basically, violating the rights of children doesn't help them flourish. Lenient parenting methods are just as lopsided as punitive parenting methods. They don't teach children respectful ways to express feelings and get needs met, while meeting the needs of others. It's important for parents to express their feelings in relation to their unmet needs, and be advocates for getting their needs met as much as children do. Many thanks to Alfie Kohn for putting such a book of useful information about parenting into the world. May the memes of unconditional parenting spread far and wide, so that adults learn that there are life-enriching, win/win ways to get needs met in families, and children therefore grow up healthy and happy. :) Youth Voices on Peacemaking and Conflict Resolution

http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL84.htm Marshall Rosenberg 6-09 When Authority Destroys Creativity from NVC Training Course

http://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Training-Course/dp/1591794439 bumper music "Joyful Wonder" by Ott

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Episode 152 - Unconditional parenting, part fourteen In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/empathy An assortment of helpful nonviolent communication resources I've compiled (2MB download of PDFs)

http://dl.dropbox.com/u/7585370/NVCcompilation.zip Our culture has a tough time with the idea of self-centeredness, similar to the notion of selfishness; Ayn Rand helped clarify:

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/selfishness.html

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/contradictions.html You are your highest value, first and foremost, which enables you to see others as their own highest value--thus, neither sacrificing oneself to others, nor others to oneself

A world of selfless people is not one in which people are getting their needs met A profound way to explore your inner-self, especially your child-self--The Art Of Self-Discovery

http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38 http://digg.com/news/technology/steve_jobs_narrates_never_aired_version_of_think_different_commercial bumper music "A New World" by Antinomie

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Episode 151 - Unconditional parenting, part thirteen Agora I/O - the online liberty unconference...

http://agora.io/laozi/schedule/

http://agora.io/laozi/archives/



Libertopia - an annual festival of peace, freedom, music, community and ideas that will change the World...a 3-day celebration of our individuality and diversity in sunny San Diego...

http://libertopia.org/



In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



Happiness is our highest moral purpose, so it's vital to know what it objectively requires

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/happiness.html

Out-of-context happiness (e.g., ignoring the ills of statism) is just as disconnected from one's true self as the unhappiest depression



Punitive parenting and punitive governmental actions tragically go hand in hand



The commonly misunderstood ethical terms...

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.html

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/altruism.html

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/trader_principle.html



At a bare minimum, parents need to convey to their kids the extreme importance and sanctity of their persons and property, i.e., the nature of respecting individual rights in society

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/individual_rights.html



In a free society, everyone can be productive; "competition" is merely people bringing various values to the marketplace



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Episode 150 - Unconditional parenting, part twelve In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



Taking responsibility is greatly diminished in those who administer punishments, since they commonly blame the disobedient person who's being punished as "bringing it on themselves" or "choosing" to be punished



Whenever what we want comes across as a demand (rather than a request), we tend to pay a price psychologically and socially in terms of getting our needs met



As humans, we all have the same needs:

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory

And feelings are universal as well:

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory



The all-too-commom process of parents telling children what to do and when to do it, such as eating and sleeping, greatly hinders the process of children learning to take responsibility for their own basic functions as growing human beings; and, it doesn't meet their needs for respect and autonomy (among other needs)



Check out the facets of whole-life unschooling...

http://www.unschooling.info/ ; http://www.unschooling.org/ ; http://www.holtgws.com/whatisunschoolin.html

Dayna Martin: What is Radical Unschooling?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiHyzS26N0Y



Ian Freeman's thorough overview of the NH CD liberty activism

http://freekeene.com/2011/09/03/ians-blog-from-jail-3/



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Episode 149 - Unconditional parenting, part eleven In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Even if you're not a parent who is frustrated about how to deal with kids so that your own needs are met, it's key to get in touch with your child-self, so that you can focus on life-enriching, respectful interactions that are essentially win/win with children Using operant and classical conditioning on children (and adults) basically prevents them from becoming mature human beings, beings that are self-actualized, self-confident, self-respecting, independent and happy; "pop behaviorism" disconnects us from our feelings and needs, treating us as nonconceptual creatures to be punished or bribed instead of reasoned with Children are volitional, conceptual beings, in contrast to other primates (and all other organisms)

Homo Sapiens: The Rational Animal

http://www.logicallearning.net/libhomosapiens.html

The Crucial Faculty Of Choice

http://www.logicallearning.net/libfreewill.html Statism is a recapitulation of the coercive family environment, in which kids' need for respect isn't met (among many other needs) Domination language and domination structures thwart our need for autonomy and foster widespread coercion and hypocrisy As humans, we all have the same needs:

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory The Secret Of Childhood by Maria Montessori

http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833

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Episode 148 - Unconditional parenting, part ten In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



The process of administering rewards and punishments doesn't treat individuals as equals; authoritarian power imbalances are inherent



Sound property rights enable jurisdiction, whereas "public property" enables constant injustices by the coercive (and communistic) monopoly of statist police and courts



About Ian Freeman's unjust incarceration and the nature of the system of injustice...

http://freekeene.com/2011/08/11/what-can-you-do-when-you-dont-approve-of-police-actions/



The practice of self-acceptance is a key component of self-esteem, of embracing one's fundamental worthiness, being fit to exist

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=35



Unschooling: What is Deschooling?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9meP3a64MzY



"Authority," given its unreasonable nature, will never respect reason and choice in individuals



Info about unschooling and John Holt's books...

http://www.holtgws.com/



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Episode 147 - Unconditional parenting, part nine In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Some of Ayn Rand's views on love...

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/love.html Life is what you make of it; your sense of life essentially colors your experiences yet doesn't alter objective reality; no one's needs ought to be sacrificed in the process of living happily Nonviolent communication is truly a language of life, essential for adults and children--for families

http://cnvc.org

http://nvcworld.com Instead of offer criticism, strive to complain effectively...

http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/12/73-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-1/

http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/20/74-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-2/ Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook to compassionately connect you with your own child-self, among other subconscious facets: The Art Of Self-Discovery

http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38 Peace Talks Radio interview with Jorge Rubio, an NVC trainer (40mins)

http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL05.htm You're welcome to join the Complete Liberty fb fan page:

http://facebook.com/completeliberty/ Nonviolent communication thread...

Open NVC Sessions...

http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13 bumper music "Do you do you love me" by Nina

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Episode 146 - Unconditional parenting, part eight In this episode I cover Chapter Seven: Principles Of Unconditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



bringing parents and children together...

http://takingchildrenseriously.com



Parental rationalizations for coercing children are quite similar to governmental rationalizations for coercing "citizens"



we are fallible beings, so making mistakes is a natural part of life

http://www.logicallearning.net/libertyourownima.html



"Children construct a theory about their own motives based in part on our assumptions about their motives, and then they act accordingly: 'You think I'm just plain bad and need to be controlled all the time? Fine. Watch me act as though you're right.'" Kohn p.211



"We can help kids to develop good values by treating them as though they were already motivated by those values. They thereby come to believe what's best about themselves and live up to our trust in them." Kohn p.213



It's clear that parents need to learn the process of nonviolent communication, so they can foster win/win, life-enriching interactions with children, in which no one's needs are sacrificed

http://nvcworld.com



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting



some post-porcfest 2011 details...

NSP - Jul 2, 2011 - Co-host: JT & Guests: Sovereign Curtis and Calvin

http://www.marcstevens.net/nsp-commercial-free/474-nsp20110702.html



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Episode 144 - Unconditional parenting, part seven In this episode I cover Chapter Six: What Holds Us Back in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ We learn various costly ways of conditional and controlling parenting via: -What we see and hear, especially from our family and friends and advice from media figures and doctors -What we believe, especially societal views of children in terms of their perceived lack of capabilities and the widespread acceptance of control through competition, conformity, punishment, religion, and notions of parenting permissiveness, authoritativeness, and authoritarianism -What we feel, in terms of projecting our own emotions and behaviors on kids stemming from our own unmet needs from childhood and the myriad psychological defenses arising from them -What we fear, such as inadequacy, incompetence, powerlessness, being judged by others, our children's safety, and fears of babying and permissiveness, all of which can foster parental behavior that doesn't meet kids' vital needs Being dissociated from and disowning of one's own child-self is central to not meeting the needs of children and not having authentic and joyful interactions with them Patience and empathy foster win/win, life-enriching relationships with children Punishment for violating governmental "laws" is a near perfect reflection of the punishment model of parenting Mind sacrifice entails the surrender of one's own reasoning ability to allegedly higher authorities

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/mystics_of_spirit_and_muscle.html

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/religion.html Parenting with carrot-and-stick manipulation, either on one end or the other--or the so-called "just right" approach--disconnects both parents and kids from what's alive in them, their true reasoning selves, and their feeling and needs Adults' unmet needs from childhood, if not examined, understood, and dealt with, can lead to many costly strategies to get them met, particularly as parents

11 Situations in Which it Is Not Appropriate for You to Have Children by Daniel Mackler

http://www.iraresoul.com/nokids.html Placing "limits" on kids often means not letting them develop the essential skill of determining their own limits--so that they can be responsible and self-governing Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com

http://happinesscounseling.com Open NVC Sessions...

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Episode 143 - Unconditional parenting, part six In this episode I cover Chapter Five: Pushed To Succeed in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



"Pop behaviorism" or operant conditioning implements punishments and rewards as a way to get people to do things--in violation of voluntary interaction and property rights



The essence of statism arises from authoritarianism in the family, denying children's needs for respect and choice (among other needs, such as emotional and intellectual honesty) and appealing to extrinsic motivators rather than intrinsic motivation and reason



A useful resource to learn about the so-called educational system, among other important things

http://schoolsucksproject.com



George Carlin - "Proud parents" bumper stickers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxmE2qMbYRU



John Holt and the world of unschooling, which is respectful of learners

http://www.holtgws.com/



Being free to make your own choices (instead of capitulating to others' demands) promotes intrinsic motivation and thus self-actualization--which will foster a vibrant, prosperous society



Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com

http://happinesscounseling.com



Open NVC Sessions...

http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13



2011 Porcupine Freedom Festival in Lancaster, NH

http://porcfest.com



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Episode 141 - Unconditional parenting, part five In this episode I cover Chapter Four: Punitive Damages in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



The jail and prison system is a case study in punitive damages, wreaking havoc on individuals and our culture



Punishment is inimical to individual life and well-being; though it's used as a costly way to control others and "teach them a lesson," it can never foster respect and self-esteem



Government is simply a manifestation of the punishment model used by parents carried into the public realm; those in government have no property rights jurisdiction (they are neither property owners nor voluntarily chosen--i.e., hired--agents of property owners)



Punishment by parents directly undermines a loving relationship with children, sabotaging both trust and respect



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Episode 140 - Unconditional parenting, part four In this episode I cover Chapter Three: Too Much Control in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



Australia to refund royalty increases under mine tax (whatever that means)

http://www.mineweb.com/mineweb/view/mineweb/en/page72068?oid=123556&sn=Detail

Protectionism and taxation are based on economic fallacies as well as legal and ethical falsehoods

What Has Government Done to Our Money? by Murray N. Rothbard

http://mises.org/money.asp



Many parents act as if children "don't deserve" an equal amount of respect as adults



it's important to distinguish requests from demands...

The Basics of Non Violent Communication 2.5

http://youtu.be/OqEVI07WmzM



ultimately, we can't make anyone do anything; we can only make them wish they had...

The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.6

http://youtu.be/ppyawhuroDw



Meeting children's need for self-esteem (self-confidence and self-respect) enables parents to lessen their own frustration and get their own needs met

External control and demands and lack of trust don't work, and they are harmful to self-regulation, among other vital needs



Secret of Childhood by Maria Montessori

http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833



Open NVC Sessions...

http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13



Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com

http://happinesscounseling.com



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Episode 139 - Unconditional parenting, part three In this episode I cover Chapter Two: Giving And Withholding Love in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



Time out from positive reinforcement is a widespread form of love withdrawal



Making children suffer in order to get different behavior from them begets more of itself, and it definitely prepares them for the coercive world of statism



The Condition Of Modern Psychology (explicating many of the ills of behaviorism and lack of philosophical understanding)

http://www.logicallearning.net/libconditionofps.html



My Years with Ayn Rand - A powerful myth-shattering memoir about one of the twentieth century's most controversial figures

http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_25&products_id=29



Rewards are largely ineffective at improving the quality of people's work and learning, and like punishments, they have many harmful results



Intrinsic motivation, wanting to do something for its own sake, is fundamentally different than extrinsic motivation, doing something in order to get something else (reward) or avoid something else (punishment); both punishments and rewards are extrinsic motivators, which in turn sabotage intrinsic motivation and beget extrinsically motivated people



Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook: The Art Of Self-Discovery

http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38



Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com

http://happinesscounseling.com



bumper music "Justify My Love" by trance[]control

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Episode 138 - Unconditional parenting, part two In this episode I cover Chapter One: Conditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Your vision of human nature is basically reflected in how you view children The replaying abusive childhood scripts is common in the adult world--such as government and the memes of statism Bullying story from New South Wales...

YouTube - Casey Heynes FULL INTERVIEW on ACA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-5jktFu4iE

VIDEO: Boy body-slams his alleged bully (Bully Interview)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5sTp3Yls-I The institution of government doesn't meet individual needs for respect and sovereignty Moralistic thinking (right and wrong) can diminish our chances of getting our needs met from the person being accused and disconnect us from taking responsibility for our emotions Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com

http://happinesscounseling.com 2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration deadline has been extended!)

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Episode 137 - Unconditional parenting, part one In this episode I cover the Introduction in the book Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



The most extreme example of operant conditioning is the domination system of government--individuals are told to obey and are punished if they don't do what they're told



Any political philosophy not based on property rights is bound to deny individual needs for autonomy, justice, choice, and respect



The foundation of a free society is to be found in parents who interact with children in life-enriching ways, who connect with feelings and meet needs for respect and choice



Teaching kids to attribute the cause of their feelings to things outside themselves hinders them (and later, as adults) from taking responsibility for their feelings

http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3 (NVC audiobook segment by Marshall Rosenberg)



Please join the revised http://completeliberty.com

Here's an instructive forum thread...

Home> Public Outreach> How do we educate? (an NVC discussion)

http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/7/page/1



Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com

http://happinesscounseling.com



2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration deadline has been extended!)

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Episode 136 - Nonviolent communication reexamined Guest Oliver Heuler from Germany http://heuler.de/ and http://voluntarist.de/ (Google Chrome browser can translate into English on the fly:)



Re: FDR 1007: A third way http://board.freedomainradio.com/forums/p/14090/119868.aspx

Oliver's handiwork...

Obama will resign as president http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxjkatKuwRM http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1837_nonviolent_communication_Roundtable.mp3

http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1836_NVC_Intro.mp3



Nonviolent communication simply means connecting with feelings and needs

Needs for safety, security, and comfort need not come at the expense of needs for justice, autonomy, independence, choice, and respect



Two invaluable parenting books:

Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson

http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/store/product_info.php?products_id=48

and

Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/



No Contest: The Case Against Competition by Alfie Kohn

http://www.alfiekohn.org/books/nc.htm

When Competition Leads To Conflict (audio interview w/ Kohn)

http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL49.htm



Spirituality, rationally understood, pertains to a heightened awareness of one's internal and external worlds

Primitive cultures fostered conformity to the tribe - http://www.logicallearning.net/libearlyhumancon.html



Your interpretations and assessments of past experiences tend to be more important than those past experiences themselves

Change your thoughts and change your feelings

http://www.feelinggood.com/



Value judgments can be distinguished from moral judgments, and there's nothing more foundational than connecting the former with feelings and needs

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory

Max-Neef on Human Needs and Human-scale Development - http://www.rainforestinfo.org.au/background/maxneef.htm

transcendence, integration, autonomy, and connection may be our four basic drives



http://porctherapy.com/2011/02/09/porc-therapy-117-nvc-feedback-ii/ http://freekeene.com/2011/02/21/wmur-reports-on-free-keene/

Battleground: Keene

http://www.wmur.com/video/26935273/detail.html



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Episode 131 - Reflections on Freedom Summit 2010 Episode 131 - Reflections on Freedom Summit 2010



http://www.freedomsphoenix.com/Article/071550-2010-07-08-freedom-summit-2010-full-schedule-and-speaker-topics.htm



Recommended podcast

http://thinkingliberty.net/



Taxation with representation is still unjust

Ultimate safety would mean principled protection of property rights, something coercive monopolies called governments can't do



What Has Government Done to Our Money? by Murray N. Rothbard

http://mises.org/money.asp

Freedom Watch Part 2 - Audit Then End The Fed 12/21/2010 (Prof. Horwitz nails it with free market banking!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=df76WgV4-lg&NR=1



The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.6 by Marshall Rosenberg

"Institutions can't make you do anything...no human being has ever done anything they didn't choose to do."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ppyawhuroDw&NR=1



Demands for acquiescence, obedience, compliance, conformity are the mainstays of parenting, and thus statism

The more we don't assert assert our needs for choice, respect, independence, autonomy, and justice, the more we become slaves to statism



Worst Police Misconduct Videos of 2010; Readers Poll

http://www.injusticeeverywhere.com/?page_id=3496

The State fails its own test of legitimacy; it has no valid cause of action against us, in addition to violating our legal rights and causing harm. Case in point...

Taking on the California DMV

http://www.youtube.com/hotforliberty#p/u/32/41ZY5LSDEZA



A Letter to Grover Cleveland on His False Inaugural Address, the Usurpation and Crimes of Lawmakers and Judges, and the Consequent Poverty, Ignorance, and Servitude of the People

http://www.lysanderspooner.org/LetterToGroverCleveland.htm

Government's main (unacknowledged) function is to prevent people from acting in their own rational self-interest



Private project funding alternatives...

http://kickstarter.com

http://indiegogo.com



Praise, rewards, and compliments are the flip side of punishments; gratitude instead focuses on feelings and need-fulfillment in relation to specific actions

The Basics of Non Violent Communication 4.4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XU2jMqFb0Xs&NR=1

The Basics of Non Violent Communication 4.5

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdLM2lVlMNE&NR=1



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Episode 129 - Nonviolent communication aspects, raising children compassionately Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.com



Taking what other people do and say personally (rather than just as tragic expressions of unmet needs) contributes to the violent communication process

Attributing the cause of our feelings to things outside ourselves prevents us from taking responsibility for our feelings

http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3



With nonviolent communication, you separate your observation of what the other person (or yourself) did or said from your evaluation of it; unsolicited evaluations foster antagonism

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/NVC-Concepts



classic scene from Bee Movie posted on http://marcstevens.net

Still wasting time voting? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esO2WJZxpYY



Throughout history people have used morality as a weapon to get others to do things, which stems from how parents deal with their children--in which battles of the wills are common



Focusing on feelings and needs rather than moral judgments fosters understanding and compassion; in both parenting and education, this process is commonly lacking, and vital needs, such as respect, are neglected



Raising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberg

http://www.naturalchild.org/marshall_rosenberg/rcc.html



The labeling of others, in addition to being disabling, also leads us to being disconnected from needs for authenticity and respect



It's not the job of parents to "make them behave"; violence begets violence

The need for autonomy needs to be fulfilled bumper music "We're All To Blame" by Sum 41

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Episode 128 - Nonviolent communication, empathy and kids Brett joins me from http://schoolsucksproject.com



Nonviolent communication achieves clarity and understanding without the typical seen and unseen costs of arguments



Even if a person expresses disinterest in communication, then you can still guess his or her feelings and needs behind that sentiment, thus keeping the empathetic connection

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory



http://www.celebrateempathy.com/NVC_Intro.pdf



Diagnosing, moralizing, and judging others is the death knell for the empathic process--and thus for getting our needs met Attributing the cause of our feelings to things outside ourselves prevents us from taking responsibility for our feelings

clip from the NVC audiobook by Marshall Rosenberg...

http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3



Punishing through inducing fear is terribly widespread in human culture, e.g., "law-enforcement"--which utterly fails to meet our needs for respect and choice

as are all aspects of "pop behaviorism" - http://www.alfiekohn.org/



Child Rearing Practices of Distant Ancestors Foster Morality, Compassion in Kids

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/09/100921163709.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting



The Comprachicos by Ayn Rand

http://xanthippaschamberpot.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/ayn-rand-the-comprachicos.pdf



Being grounded in ourselves, in our own feelings and needs, is the true self-centeredness that enables us to understand and connect with others

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.html



Crisis And Leviathan: Critical Episodes in the Growth of American Government by Robert Higgs

http://www.independent.org/store/book_detail.asp?bookID=15



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Parenting with Nonviolent Communication (NVC) - CNVC Certified NVC Trainer Inbal Kashtan discusses and demonstrates how to work with the incessant "no" from a child

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQO7h9MNCqI



bumper music "Empathy" by Tears Of Technology

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Episode 127 - Domination systems, anger, and non-violent communication Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.com



Burt Rutan's private space flight venture

http://www.scaled.com/

http://www.space.com/missionlaunches/xprize_success_040929.html http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LXNkUNP75-Q

http://www.space.com/missionlaunches/xprize_full_coverage.html http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNocVYQzFts



Anger and Domination Systems by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

http://www.nwcompass.org/anger_and_domination.html

Win/win scenarios, based on nonviolent communication, enable us to meet in the field beyond right-doing and wrong-doing



Domination systems, such as modern education and the military--and governments in general--require:

1. Suppression of self

2. Moralistic judgments

3. Amtssprache (this expression was used by Nazi officials to describe a bureaucratic language that denies choice, with words like should, have to, ought)

4. The crucial concept of deserve



To ascribe an evil nature to children is the root of all evil

The entire "corrections system" designed by those in government is based on punishment and false penitence

Thus, the institutions of government and religion are inherently anti-self-esteem



Moralizing, judging, criticizing, accusing, and even diagnosing are all tragic expressions of unidentified feelings and unmet needs--which tend to ensure NOT getting one's own needs met

As biological and further as rational beings, we all have the same universal needs

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory



Humans' technological progress and increases in productivity are in spite of the debilitating meme of statism; without statism, we'd be FAR more advanced



Teaching that people are deserving of punishment assists in making violence against them enjoyable



A Film To End All Wars! part 1 of 15

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EFz069t7eOo

Punishment, particularly collective punishment, is part and parcel of war--total dehumanization of individuals

http://collateralmurder.com



Shame and guilt-tripping are not effective ways to promote authentic, intrinsically motivated, change in others



The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.1 (highly recommended 3-4 hr workshop)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-129JLTjkQ



Our emotions are part of an emotional motivation system alerting us to our needs

Our thinking in domination systems gives rise to anger against others and enemy imagery

It's important and healthy to consciously replace the phrase "I am angry because you/they..." with "I am angry because I am needing..."



National Opt Out Day (and perhaps protect yourself with leather undergarments;)

http://aynrkey.blogspot.com/2010/11/national-opt-out-day.html bumper music "Domination" by Alizarin

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Episode 125 - Reflections on Libertopia http://libertopia.org



www.startrekofgodsandmen.com/

http://www.silvercirclemovie.com/



Why People Believe Weird Things: Pseudoscience, Superstition, and Other Confusions of Our Time by Michael Shermer (Review)

http://www.skepdic.com/refuge/weird.html

Hyper-libertarian Facebook billionaire Peter Thiel's appalling plan to pay students to quit college by Jacob Weisberg

http://www.slate.com/id/2271265/



lots of confusion about this process...

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/sacrifice.html



hopeful activist movements - http://freekeene.com and http://freegrafton.com



It's important to question those who presume to care about you as they advocate statist coercion against you

Ostracism, Self-Trust and Happy Happy Joy Joy (rebuttal to shunning those who advocate statism)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pV4z__2FcjM



TL guest Sharon Presley talks about Milgram experiments, demands of authority...her books on resisting authority

http://thinkingliberty.net/2010-08-10/



paper about Stanley Milgram's obedience experiments...

http://logicallearning.net/obedience.html

The Will to Resist: Soldiers Who Refuse to Fight in Iraq and Afghanistan

http://dahrjamailiraq.com/the-will-to-resist



Hunter-gatherer John Durant fights vegan Paul Kline for total green room supremacy. (03:00)

http://www.colbertnation.com/the-colbert-report-videos/265602/february-22-2010/exclusive---backstage-with-john-durant



Nonviolent Communication: A Language Of Life by Marshall Rosenberg

http://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034

The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.1 (3-4 hr workshop by Rosenberg)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-129JLTjkQ



It's possible to use win/win strategies to get our needs met from those who've been advocating statism...

Freedom works for everybody (even those who are presently using force against others)



http://theamericandreamfilm.com/

2081 - http://www.finallyequal.com/



for health, fitness, and longevity, check out...

http://healthymindfitbody.com/podcast

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2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda - 5 night cruise on Royal Caribbean departing 11/05/2011 from Bayonne, NJ to Bermuda. Featuring special guest speakers: Stefan Molyneux, Wes Bertrand and Mark Edge.

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It's a participatory "unconference"! my tentative topic...

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