I'm an asshole for saying people who are at a weight that puts them at risk for serious medical conditions should make different life choices? Excuse me for giving a shit about the health of strangers.

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faithydoll

Yes, you are an asshole. And I doubt you give a shit about the “health of strangers” unless they exhibit behaviors you don’t like.

Do you send in submissions to blogs for hikers and skiers to let them know that their dangerous choice of sports come with higher risk of serious injury and chronic problems due to repeated stress on their joints, etc?

Do you troll home-birth forums to air your concern about how home births could come with higher risk of complication than giving birth in the hospital?

Do you follow home people from bars and let them know that drinking too much too often is associated with a range of problems and risk of injury due to impairment?

Do you write screeds about how smokers are killing themselves and the planet?

1) If you don’t do those other things and you’re just hating on one or two groups in particular (fat people and smokers seem to be the targets du jour) then you’re a bigoted asshole.

2) If you do hate on everyone, you’re just an asshole.

So you see, you get there either way.

Here’s a suggestion: focus on yourself and figure out your own life. You have no right to tell anyone else what they should do, and I’m pretty fucking sure you don’t have it so well together that you’re qualified to give advice to anything except a mirror. You do know bugging on other people and getting into their business doesn’t make you look like you know your shit, right? It makes you look like an insecure jerk that I’d cross the street to get away from in RL. Do some work on yourself. And even when you think you’ve done enough work on yourself to have it together, if you ever consider that you’ve got some advice for someone else, wait until they actually ask for your opinion before giving it.

-ArteToLife