Barry Goldstein, Domestic Violence Expert With A Book To Sell

Barry Goldstein is a self-appointed domestic violence expert, former New York lawyer, feminist, author, consultant, and regular speaker on violence issues as it relates to mothers – and only mothers. Barry Goldstein is a regular speaker at the battered mothers custody conference and is a ardent lobbyist against equality in the family courts on the premise that fathers use custody battles to torment mothers and further their patriarchy upon them. Recently, I decided to look at his Facebook page and saw many references to “supremacist” and “abusers” when speaking about all fathers. It should be noted that Barry Goldstein lost his ability to practice law in the State of New York in 2009 for 5 years after the appellate courts in that State found him to have engaged in verbal comments before the courts that were “dishonest, false, or misleading” and failing to maintain a trust account. Mr. Goldstein regularly suggested that judges in New York were giving children to “abusers” when female clients of his lost custody. More HERE from the New York Courts. And, it seems that the suspension of his law license did nothing to curtail language suggestive of what an actual abuser looks like because in 2014 he still engages in the same verbal misconduct the appellate courts admonished him for.

It should be noted that Mr. Goldstein advocates for this documentary which encourages mothers to consider leaving the country with their children when the courts do not give them custody and they ALLEGE some type of misconduct (even if unfounded by the courts) by your sons. We hope you will share this documentary with NY officials who will consider his law license reinstatement.

No Way Out But One Official Trailer from Garland Waller on Vimeo.

And, it appears that many mothers in the movement for which Barry is a lightning rod actually use the same types of language suggesting that the conspiracy theory that lawyers train litigants to manufacture domestic violence as a tactic tool in the courts is not a conspiracy theory after all.

Let’s hope the NY appellate courts recognize this when it comes time to consider giving him his law license back.

Despite losing his law license, Barry Goldstein continues to lobby against shared parenting and is a cheerleader for the “all mothers are natural protective parents, all fathers are child molesters and batterers” movement because he has books to sell and conferences to give speeches at – for a fee of course.

Of course, there may be a reason for that, because Barry makes a living off domestic violence actually existing and continuing to exists, but not all violence, JUST violence against women. In fact, Mr. Goldstein is a prime example of why the Divorce Corp documentary was produced (January 2014) – to show that there is a “cottage industry” around family law where groups create conflict, anger, and hatred so that litigants will continue to fight and push money into the system. Mr. Goldstein’s verbal sparring with “supremacist” and “abusive” fathers much to the delight of “naturally protective mothers” who lost custody sets the stage for a tremendous amount of book sales, lobbyist ventures, speaker fees, and other capitalistic gains from his gender warfare baiting.

In our opinion, anyone who capitalizes on domestic violence actually existing and not doing everything possible to end all violence needs to have his/her law license removed, and discredited with legislators which he has ample access to. But for many in the “protective mother, we hate the father of our child” movement, Barry Goldstein is the go to guy in attempting to reverse the courts that are trying to become more balanced, fair, and equal so that children have access to both parents and extended families.

Barry Goldstein And His Misguided Domestic Violence Efforts Are Actually Hurting Mothers

Anyone want to guess how much money the “protective mothers” Barry Goldstein advocates for have spent in the family courts fighting and fighting because he keeps them worked up? Perhaps if these mothers spent a little more time thinking about their children and doing what the courts asked instead of being on the Internet using highly inflammatory language, they might find that their situation resolves itself.

Second, are these protective mothers even considering the fact that most of them have sons who one day will grow up to become fathers, and that their efforts to maintain a mother centered court using the notion that ALL Fathers are naturally abusive is setting them up for the mother of their grandchildren to get on the public Internet and excoriate him and capitalize on Goldstein’s framework? How is the mother above going to feel when she becomes a marginalized grandmother because she has a son?

Is Barry Goldstein and the domestic violence cottage industry aware that well over half of the population of members in the father’s rights / shared parenting movement is women in paternal families?

Surely Barry Goldstein is aware of Leading Women For Shared Parenting and SAVE which boasts female members and executive directors?

Of course Barry is, but after losing his law license he has money to make, money that comes from using the emotion of domestic violence as a weapon to deny fathers and women in paternal families the possibility of shared parenting while suppressing the knowledge that women are abusive as well. Again, capitalizing on the existence of violence against anyone is deplorable and we are asking shared parenting activist, fathers rights activist, and sane protective mothers to realize that the family courts and people like Mr. Goldstein purposefully create conflict in order to derive financial gain and political stature. For this, we must use Barry’s efforts as a teachable moment and use his language and actions to draw in more and more people devoted to family law reform.

We hope that you will share this important article with friends and family on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and other social networks who may be in non-custodial families, or with someone who may be a child advocate and recognizes that our family court industry and groups attached to them are causing unnecessary conflict with children and families. And yes Barry, fathers, step-mothers, paternal grandmothers, and aunts and uncles are family.

Update: Scroll down in the comments to the graphic of Claudine Dombrowski and Mr. Goldstein talking about male supremacist abusers. Is it not clear that this man has taught mothers to say these things so that they get attention and win custody battles? This is exactly why he lost his law license and here he is in 2014 still doing it. Is this what is going on at the battered mothers custody conference?

Shame on you Barry, shame on you for only standing up for women and children who have experienced domestic violence and death, shame on you for not advocating for this child, her torture, her need for survival. In all the presentations you give, I want you to remember this child and for anyone who gasps at this article and shakes their head, you remember you are part of the problem because you are doing a great job of only ending half the problem of violence and abuse.

Tags: Barry Goldstein, Domestic Violence, Protective Mothers