I ride the sarcasm a bit here, and well, woman are put under pressure more as men, what foce the perspective of both genders. Surely this is inflict through a male domoniated world that create its sexual products and media for the auditory who is 'able to pay'. But in the result - men are less sexy as woman, even this is inflicted by such a displayed sheme. Men are't that sexy for the learned fact - they don't have to be very much. The statistically think they have to be strong, aggressive, rich and arrogant to get a date. In the same sheme women (still statistically) think they have to be sexy, silent, a bit stupid and obediently. Both stereotypes are a bit stupid, but very most people are shaped by its enviroment and genetical memory. And with global media all natural follower-charakters get under pressure to copy individualism - the attribute of leaders - and mimic to be strong, aggressive, rich and arrogant. The few men that try to keep an eye on ther appereance and atraction-behavior does this for a total counterreaction to this meme or for itself.But nevertheless woman tend to have this nymphic aura - for own interest or mimic - and men have more this specific Golom-style - for not care at all or mimic. If i would be gay, i hardly would find a men with the style(it's even hard to find woman who fit in all aspects ... sexy, intelligent, funny, socialised ... we get near to the small numbers on worldwide population ... combined with the number of male gays available ... omg what a luck i'm straight).There are more sexual/dominance-based memes and even genetical memorys to get interpret on a female body as on a male. Male often overcompensate(no rating) more in wearing BDSM-clothing as women, for the simple fact - woman follow a 'normal' biological imperative by presenting itself. So men statistically have much more different reasons to go into BDSM(excluding the most common - the women). In this case, style, representation or sexual domiance/submission isen't that often the point for wearing this outfits. This also explains the criteria of designing this outfits. Woman thisnk in style, men think in tools - to simplyfy it way too much. Surley, i would wish the gay/BDSM-community more exotic and stylish designs(thanx to shiniez at this point, he allready did some huge steps). Style for everyone! It must be a pain in the ass for most females to see the males outfited and think about something nearly related to sexuality xDI remember a lot of woman looking at my Goth outfit and long hair, seemingly frustrated that they are related with a banker-dress-moron in fashion uniform. But i can also read the second thought in the minds of this statistical women - he looks hot and interesting, but he surely hear Metall, so he must have a shitty job and can't finance a house and a child.It's as funny at it is sad ... cause it's the same way of thinking for her to think i would copy a meme and fit in a stereotype as she belive, that her boyfriend copys a meme that makes him succsessfull. And people living in the stereotpye suffer under this system, but also keep it alive.Unfortunally the underground scenes have become popular enough to have a huge number of members who think in stereotypes. So these aren't the places for individuals anymore as like shiniez displays it, but also let some space for the individuals we in real life miss very much. A long time ago, BDSM had ther dirty corners with bad behavior, drug abuse and violating trust, it went better, but today, with all this stereotype people, who fill the scene and its meaning with ther own warped explanaitions, it became worse and worse ... like the social behavior on every office and construction site. Exactly the world so many have fleed to the scenes of honesty and self-perception.Yes^^, the comics have a nice level of psychology (very most highly intelectual works massivly lack of) and show people who are not complete idiots to the social level. I wish for so much more freaks with personality in real life but ...Typos and lame englisch may be forgiven.