“I’ve been married for 7 years to a wife who has struggled to work part time and often complains about doing any housework. We have never had kids and just live in a small apartment. The only things she has been asked to do around the house have been to pick up her messes and empty the dishwasher. That’s it…and I get grief—angry words and looks, being snubbed.

She acts like she’s an angel that everyone loves, but when asked to work she gets upset. I spend money and get blamed for giving things to myself…yet I pay for 90% of the bills. I tell her we can’t spend and it’s somehow my fault she won’t earn.

If I get angry she calls it abuse (never touched her ever), because she’s “scared of me”. FFS, even if I don’t raise my voice she claims fear and abuse. She claims that I twist her words around when I call her BS or ask her to be responsible.

I’m in therapy for this, and I’ve given her one last chance to change. She fails, it’s divorce time. I can’t stake our financial future entirely on myself. I can’t keep prodding her to grow up and get a job. Life is too short and I want to have fun, not parent an irresponsible spouse.

And bonus: how would people react if the husband acted like my wife and our roles were reversed? Totally MRM. There has to be equity or there is no justice.” – Anonymous