Does anybody want hugs? This is a great day to ask your friends! Especially those who do, but they’re afraid to ask. Put a #sendhugs message out for them.

Two people who deserve it are Fred Patten and David (Poppa Bookworm) for the amazing writing and assistance they give to make this blog.

Hugging is such a “furry” thing. It’s one of the big reasons they’re so loveable. I really liked writing about how it makes a folk signifier: “Hugs are the handshake of furries” – Artists explore cultural meaning of touch.

September 10 is World Suicide Prevention Day. This has hit close to home with a good furry friend who lost a brother, and nobody saw it coming. When people die before their time, it often involves problems they can’t talk about.



Suicide can affect everyone, but it’s particularly a problem for men – The male suicides: how social perfectionism kills.

It’s also a big deal with LGBT people: The Human Rights Campaign – Honoring World Suicide Prevention Day.

Both groups intersect in the Furry subculture, which has a high amount of gay and male members.

A few days ago, my editorial post asked: Why are “nerdy” groups male-populated? It went out on a limb to give dissent about a trendy belief that goes like this… “Most furries are males, ergo furries are bad.”

This needs to be neutralized by noticing what’s good about guys. I say there’s nothing wrong with being a guy, and there’s nothing wrong with a lot of guys sharing the same interest. It shouldn’t matter who likes it. Expecting a strict 50/50 balance is as arbitrary as demanding exclusivity for 100% of one gender – so let’s judge by character and enjoy furry friends, no matter what kind of people they are.

The post proposed that a need for self-expression is why a lot of people gather around a very specific interest like this. It’s just one of many clues about society’s tendency to suppress expression, especially with roles put on men. There’s a lot of evidence.

Raising the issue showed how predictable the suppression is. Because I focused on a male-specific issue, about members of a largely-male fandom, I was wrongly slandered as “sexist.” Here’s a good article about that: “Why does speaking out about the issues men face always trigger a furious reaction?”

Suppression doesn’t make me reluctant to speak. This time, when my editorial post revisited the issue, it got a lot of positive reactions. It had thousands of views, with higher traffic than this blog has gotten for months. Thanks for that!

It’s OK to #sendhugs while keeping independent opinions and having debate apart from a closed-in “hugbox.” You can have both. It’s why furry things aren’t just childish – it takes guts to rock out with your furry side. Isn’t it “manly” to throw off expectations and make your own role that way? (Is there a man or a woman behind that fursona? Who cares!)

As someone once told me: “I’m so used to living in a dystopian sci-fi world, that now all I want to read about is a future where everyone’s nice to each other.”