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Reputation: Posts: 8Threads: 2Joined: Dec 2009Reputation: 0 #1 So currently the only person I speak to on a frequent basis is my mum, and I guess that's been the situation for about 1 1/2 years. I always thought of this as just a stage in my life, and that one day I'll have friends, a boyfriend and be happy.

But every now and again my mum makes comments about my behaviour. I guess I'm a bit difficult to live with, I like things 'just so'. I thought that was just my personality and that there would be plenty of people like me, but now my mum keeps saying I have OCD and that I'm a freak. Is that why I'm alone? I never thought people could tell that about me because I keep it very much under wraps, but what if I do make friends, get married and then my husband realises what I'm really like? I'm not a bad person, I just like to feel like I'm in control of my life.

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Just means you know how you like things.



Sometimes when we spend so much time with one person they can see the things that bug them moor.

Maybe that's all that is happening here with your mum.

That certainly dose not make you a freak.

And as for any future partners or friends. Well they may like you like that. Different strokes for different folks an all that

I could never live with a messy person. it would drive me up the wall. I would much sooner live with someone like yourself.

At lest I then would know where everything was. That's how I like it you see And i would not say I have OCD at all. Am just real tidy.



And yes it dose scar me that I well live on my own until death. It is for me I know very much a reality that well happen. But most of the time I take each and every day at a time. Manly cos I have no choice but to do that. Plod on regardless we must.... Well I would say just cos you like things just so doesn't mean you have OCD.Just means you know how you like things.Sometimes when we spend so much time with one person they can see the things that bug them moor.Maybe that's all that is happening here with your mum.That certainly dose not make you a freak.And as for any future partners or friends. Well they may like you like that. Different strokes for different folks an all thatI could never live with a messy person. it would drive me up the wall. I would much sooner live with someone like yourself.At lest I then would know where everything was. That's how I like it you seeAnd i would not say I have OCD at all. Am just real tidy.And yes it dose scar me that I well live on my own until death. It is for me I know very much a reality that well happen. But most of the time I take each and every day at a time. Manly cos I have no choice but to do that. Plod on regardless we must....



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Joined: Aug 2008 #6 It used to be one of my biggest fears. I had abandonment issues.

I was abandant as a child but I was shipped or moved from relatives to relatives.

As weird as it might sound. I seldomed lived alone.

As a matter of fact the longest length of time I lived alone...(my own place, single, without a roomate)

was only around 5 months. It was the scarest feeling at first but I overcame it.



Actually it was one of the healthest thing I could have done for myself.

I learned to live with myself. I learned to depend on my own happiness from myself.

I also learned that I wasn't that hard to live with and that I was okay. It was actaully peaceful,fun

after I overcame the roller coaters. In other words I adjusted and it didnt killed me.



At the sametime I belive fear can be a healthy thing to have.

Its just the way I process fears or my perceptions of it.

The more I try to understand how fears works in my life or how I react or don't react to fear,

the more I can use fears to work for me instead of against me.



Example...being afriad of being alone for the rest of my life is not such as bad thing.

It's just a way my mind or my intuition is telling me or motivating to me to do something about

my life....get a partner, learn to be more socialable, learn how to be in a healthy relationship.



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Reputation: Posts: 141Threads: 3Joined: Mar 2010Reputation: 7 #7 I don't speak to anyone with any regularity. I'm in contact with my parents, but it's never really conversational, more just practical. We barely get along anyways. I don't really speak to my room mate, nor do I see him much. Not currently in any relationships, haven't been for awhile, and have no friendships to speak of. I mean there's my co-workers but I'd hardly consider them friends. Dropped out of school, and I've got my fair share of 'people can be shit' stories, but I haven't clung to them or anything.



Is it ideal? No. Is it horrible? No.



Basically I have shit to do. I keep myself busy. I learn new things. I could write an encyclopedia with the shit I've learned. Hell I'm sure I've memorized a couple encyclopedias. I have things that demand my attention. I have responsibilities. There's very little time to pointlessly worry about being lonely, and it's the least productive thing I could waste my time on.



Sure, if I see a cute girl who can maintain a conversation with me I'd probably take a chance with her, but until that happens, or until I devise a genius plan to feed this one girl's boyfriend to alligators, or perhaps some variety of large carnivorous elephant, wishing for it isn't going to make a bit of difference. If anything it'll just make me depressed and less charismatic.



So yeah, it's entirely possible that I'll always be alone, but that doesn't scare me, cause I'll live my life devoting time towards other things that matter to me, and I'll take happiness from that, taking proper care of myself, and being highly functional, well adjusted, and self-dependant. None of that requires a social life, but all of that improves my chances of having a healthy social life eventually. Find Reply Broken_Doll





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I am wearing a coat of knives.

Just try to hold me.

Just try to hold me.



Just try and hold me." -Anis Mojgani-The bedroom is a morgue Website Find Reply loketron





I heart A Lonely Life

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Reputation: Posts: 281Threads: 7Joined: Sep 2009Reputation: 2 #10 (05-24-2010, 09:11 AM) loketron Wrote: i know i have heard the quote somewhere : "humans were not meant to be alone"

You're thinking of Genesis in the Bible, chapter 2 or 3. After God creates Adam he says something along the lines of 'It is not good for man to be alone'.



Hopefully--even if you do have OCD, that hardly means you'll have to live your life as a hermit. TONS of people have control issues. Next time your mom brings it up, remind her that most control issues are attributed to lousy parenting. Maybe she'll drop it then. You're thinking of Genesis in the Bible, chapter 2 or 3. After God creates Adam he says something along the lines of 'It is not good for man to be alone'.Hopefully--even if you do have OCD, that hardly means you'll have to live your life as a hermit. TONS of people have control issues. Next time your mom brings it up, remind her that most control issues are attributed to lousy parenting. Maybe she'll drop it then. "They pretend they're going to always be there for you, and then one day they pack up and move away and take their love with them, and leave their declawed cat to fend for herself. They leave her, wondering what she did wrong." - Mittens



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