writeharder:

Here are ten easy steps to help you–yes, YOU!–an ally for all the women in your life, instead of a callous, self-centered ignoramus!

1) Get over yourself



2) I’m sure #1 probably pissed you off, but really–fucking get over yourself

3) Accept that your experiences as a man are neither relevant nor necessary in conversations about sexism

4) Realize that you are still welcome to share your experiences in a way that supports or encourages others, as long as you are not detracting or shifting focus from theirs



5) Stop worrying about whether or not statements about “men” actually apply to all men, including yourself (fun fact: outside of medical best practice guidelines, they pretty much always don’t!)

6) Realize you don’t really understand sexism, do some research to gain outside perspective, then make yourself look around and actually see how much of it you hadn’t noticed previously

7) Stop wasting time telling women you’re “one of the good ones” and actually fucking act like it

8) Don’t tell women to get over it

9) Seriously, I cannot stress this enough, do not tell women to get over it

10) If you’re still feeling upset by this point in the list, refer back to #1!