Canthearthroughmyglasses Thu 09-May-19 11:03:33

@1875abc

It’s easy for others, who seem to have it all so cutely together, to dish out advise and “tell you off” for dipping them scary toes in the dating water when the loneliness starts creeping in, but it’s great to have that telling off too as it bring us back in to perhaps realise that we are enough, we don’t need a bread crumbs sort of loving, and neither do we need the heart ache it brings. Most of the advise given on here is brilliant and I for one have had great support. You know what you are doing and you don’t need to justify your own actions to anyone, even when you make dating errors and put them out there on the www when seeking advise. You don’t own anyone an explanation for how you run your home, your personal life or how you parent, ultimately that’s up to you to control. I had to say it as you seem to be getting a lot of questioning where your daughter is when your bf comes over. You are not on trial, you were asking a simple question and then you got bombarded. You seem to me a lovely mum and trying hard to shield and help your lil one, how many of us mums find us in a situation like yours? All of us, at some point, as there is no manual how best to live life and how best to haggle work or what parenting concerns, well we all get it wrong at some point, and then we learn from it, but the bottom line is that you want to get it right by asking and that shows you are simply trying, just like the rest of us, to do right thing by your lil one, and figuring life out in general in the process.