I’m sick of the “don’t complain when strangers misgender you” strawman arguments that get hurled at non-binary people. They always make the assumption that misgendering can’t possibly UPSET A PERSON WHO ISN’T 100% BINARY-IDENTIFIED (or result in violence toward the non-binary person).

Those strawmen also ignore the fact that some non-binary people (I’m not sure how many) are all right with being referred to by one of the binary genders. The gender that I present to the general public is 100% male (even during the times when I feel completely genderless), and even though it is still misgendering to me, it’s a lot more comfortable for me than being misgendered as female.

I have every right to be upset when strangers misgender me. If a non-binary person yells at a stranger for that, their feelings are totally valid. They’re not “hurting the cause” because the only people who will think that of them are the shitty people who don’t think non-binary people’s feelings are valid in the first place.

And I have every reason to resent when I am in a culture that doesn’t recognize my actual gender.

[Special note for people as of March 27, 2013: If you’re interpreting this post as “metapianycist thinks it’s misgendering to call him ‘he,’” you have completely missed the fucking point of this post, which is nonbinary people who prefer ungendered pronouns and how it’s fucking shitty to not listen when they tell you you’ve used the wrong pronoun for them. The bottom line is DON’T BE A DICK.]