"It's called freedom of speech, Andrew. I am not obligated to give constructive arguments. What you say about their art also applies to my comment in that case - "it's my comment", and "I can do whatever I want with it"."



Technically, true, but I guess I also never really felt that one's personal freedom of speech should be used as an excuse to just commit jerkish (or as you say, toxic) behavior, that is likely to just agitate people rather than result in anything truly productive/constructive.



"But, contrary to your belief - you responding to me this way won't help me avoid it. If anything, it just triggers me more to the opposite of what you want."



That sounds like an awfully immature way to react, but, ok. Like you said, its your personal freedom (this also goes for my previous point, too).



"I'm just against people avoiding something like the plague based on double standards."



What makes you so sure they're truly 'avoiding it', for the sake of some double-standard; versus simply drawing what they want to draw (without any underlying reasons or incentives)? If it's the latter, is that really any problem, and do you really need to penalize them for what they're doing?



"It's not just about you "not saying what I want to hear" - my BFF Spike and my boyfriend Tyler have said things I don't wanna hear but need to hear to learn to grow as a person, and I ENCOURAGE that. But you only give me really rare glimmers of helpfulness, and for the most you act like a patronizing baby-sitter."



If you're friends are also telling you things you don't want to hear, what is it that they're telling you that I'm not, that is actually helping? Because otherwise, technically, most of what I'm telling you, too, is stuff I (personally) think is what you need to hear in order to grow, as you said.



"I don't know how to cope. I admit that. But my brain automatically goes into paranoia of people wanting to silence me whenever you do what you call "helping", no matter how well-intended you are."



There in lies the problem. Just because my help mostly consists of (honest, constructive) criticism, you think I'm trying to silence your opinions/desires/etc. It has never been my intention to change your opinions, or eliminate your desire for any of the things you want. Much of my help, from what I can tell, is mostly in regards to attempting to give advice on how to cope and/or how to simply behave/react in the face of things that you just so happen to find less-than-pleasing.