dorigaga:

This is Thin Privilege: Thin privilege in simple gestures

madgastronomer:

dorigaga: thisisthinprivilege: I have a friend that likes to pick up all of the girls in a swinging hug before he leaves. He went through all of the girls and I just figured that he was going to give me a regular hug. Instead, he wrapped his arms around me and scooped me into the air like I weighed nothing. Obviously, I was… So thin privilege is treating someone differently because of their weight, but thin privilege is apparently also treating someone the same regardless of their weight? So, basically, anything a thin person does is thin privilege, even if it made a fat person feel good. Or, SHOCK, it’s a counterexample that highlights privilege. The submitter is so used to being treated differently from thin people that when she’s treated the same, she’s caught off-guard by it. It’s wonderful just to feel normal, because usually she doesn’t.

So, what is it that you want then? You don’t want to be treated differently, obviously, and who would? But if being treated the same is also thin privilege, then what do you want to happen? Because to me it looks like a lose-lose situation here. From what I can tell, here is this guy who doesn’t discriminate based on weight, clearly, and yet here he is as an example of thin privilege. If he had not picked her up, that would have been worse, because then he’s singling her out, which would have also been thin privilege. The only option then, would to have been to not pick up anyone, which would have resulted in the OP not having a wonderful feeling of feeling normal.

Like, if everyone treats you shitty your entire life, and then someone comes along who is not an asshole and treats you well, are they just as responsible for your feelings because by treating you well, they remind you of how shitty everyone else has treated you? If they treat you shitty, they are just as bad as everyone else, but by treating you well, they still remind you of how bad everyone else was, so then the only option is to do nothing. Lose-lose.