In the last few days, several people have put their two cents in about whether Muslims are condemning ISIS, why these condemnations aren’t reaching those who need to hear it, and what Muslims can do to reach the media. A tumblr page has been created documenting instances of Muslims condemning things. This question, “Why don’t Muslims condemn terrorism,” is one that nearly single Muslim leader, activist, public intellectual, interfaith speaker, has had to answer multiple times, especially since 9/11.

This week, over on Patheos Christian sister channel, one blogger has taken the Muslim channel writers to task for not writing specifically about ISIS’s persecution of Christians; another outright suggested that we support terrorism since she hadn’t seen us using our Patheos blogs to condemn ISIS. Two of my colleagues on the Muslim channel, Precious Muhammad and Rabia Chaudry, penned pieces responding to these attacks. Precious recounted her deep love and respect for her family’s Christian and Muslim heritages. Rabia painted a picture of the larger context of this summer’s difficulties. Both women reiterated their condemnation of terrorism, as did our editor, Dilshad Ali, in a piece she wrote last month.

So you might ask yourself, “She sounds mad. Why is she so mad? These are legitimate questions. There are Muslim terrorists out there! And if Muslims are condemning terrorism, how come I haven’t heard it yet?”

So, if you’re a person inclined to ask, “Why haven’t I seen Muslims condemning ISIS’s persecution of Christians and Yazidis?” I would like to suggest that you try this exercise first:

Questions to ask myself before I publicly wonder whether Muslims condemn terrorism:

Was that too snarky? Oops, sorry. Here’s a make-up present for you – Sunni and Shia British imams denouncing ISIS together. That clip has less than 40,000 views – can we work together to change that?

Also, a suggestion to my readers: if you want to change reality on the ground, one way to do it is to support Islamic Relief’s efforts to aid Christians and those displaced by ISIS in Mosul. Finally, to my sisters and brothers over at the Patheos Christian channel,