Basics of Talking Dirty In Bed

When you hear the words Dirty Talk in reference to the bedroom, for most of us, visions of a string of crude words come to mind. Dirty talk is often taken to literally mean spewing filthy words at your partner in a bid to make sex more intense. For the most part, any dirty talk that is done without finesse ends up being a turn-off. What most people don’t know is that dirty talk is not necessarily made-up of dirty words. Dirty talk is basically anything you say to your partner to make them think of sex. And yes, dirty words are part of the dirty talk, but they too have to be done in style. So, how do you begin to do proper Dirty Talk?

Lay the Groundwork

If it is your first time trying dirty talk or if it is the first time you are trying dirty talk with your current partner, it is advisable to start small. If you are feeling adventurous, you can beginby whispering something naughty, not filthy, in their ear. A text or note is also acceptable. Compliment them on their dress or haircut to test whether they would be into something like that. If you are the cautious type, ask your partner if he/she would like to try dirty talk and listen to their opinion.

Gauge the Level of Filth

Depending on how your partner responds to your first try, gauge the level of filth you can use. Dirty, filthy words can be very arousing to some people but also very off-putting to others. According to one of our sources, a female Chennai escort, dirty talk to some people is tender loving words whispered in their ear. Some words don’t even have to be about the sex. Different people are aroused by different things. Find out what arouses your partner and talk to them about it.

Research Subject Matter

As earlier stated, different things are arousing to different people. Our source, an independent escort says everyone has trigger words. Finding your partner’s trigger words can make for a very satisfying sexual experience. Trigger words can be pet names for his/her genitals and sex. Engaging in spoken foreplay can help you learn your partner’s trigger words. Avoid using random words since you never know which words may be an instant turn-off.

Rehearse Your Delivery Tone

Dirty talk has as much to do with the tone used as it does the words. Practice a tone that is silky, guttural, and as natural as possible. Do not pressure your vocal cords. As our source, an independent escort in Marina Beach, reiterates, talk to your partner as well as to yourself. Don’t focus too much on what you sound like but on what you feel. If you are relaxed and confident, your partner will be as well. Dirty talk is an art that cannot be learned overnight. But lucky for you, it is not a precise art, each person is different in their own way. So, as long as you know your partner well, incorporating dirty talk into your sex life will be a breeze.