Anonymous Hello, I have a question. Just earlier today I saw a bit on the local news that a study said that men who open doors for women are sexist. Now, here's where I get confused. I've made it a habit of opening the door for anybody, regardless of sex, skin color, height, weight, and all that stuff, because I do it for the sake of being friendly, and also in hopes that they'll in turn do something nice for someone else (the pay it forward philosophy), does that make me a sexist still?

Sometimes I’ve had strange men open the door for me with an attitude of “what a gent I am eh? ;)”, or they ask for thanks/a smile, or basically use it as a way to get me to pay attention to them. That’s creepy and manipulative. That’s probably the attitude the study was referring to, so don’t take it too personally.

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