GRETNA, Neb. -- Lanyard Burgett sits uncomfortably outside a coffee shop in an outlet mall, occasionally craning his neck to see whether someone is behind him. Burgett says he served in the Air Force in Saudi Arabia in the 1990s, but was never as afraid there as he is right now.

His angst is over the events of a youth soccer tournament in Nebraska last weekend.

Burgett says his life has been threatened, and his phone has been bombarded with numerous intimidating calls from blocked numbers. He has filed a report with the Sarpy County Sheriff's Office. Burgett is not normally a paranoid man, but he was awoken Tuesday night to what he believes was the sound of someone trying to break into his house. He'd been asleep for three hours at that point. It was one of the longest nights he has slept since all this started five days ago.

His body language is a contorted mess of anger, fear and resignation. Burgett has been a ref and a coach and a soccer dad, but right now, the volunteer director of the Ray Heimes Springfield Soccer Invitational never wants to be involved in a soccer tournament again. He is seated across from a public relations person named Gina Pappas, and has come with a stapled packet of soccer rules and a roster -- evidence, if you will. Less than a week ago, Burgett's world was grandkids and making sure he had enough medals for his tournament -- a simple life in the small town of Springfield, Nebraska, population 1,600. Now Burgett has a P.R. person.

Tournament officials say that Mili Hernandez being incorrectly listed as a male on the girl's team roster was one of four infractions that led to three Azzurri club teams being disqualified. WOWT 6 News Omaha

About 30 minutes away, in Omaha, an 8-year-old girl is being flooded with media requests. Mili Hernandez had two TV interviews on Tuesday night, and she was late because her father, Gerardo, couldn't find her. She was out playing with a friend, oblivious to the fact that she has become the face of a debate over sports and gender rights. Mili doesn't have Barbie dolls; she has soccer balls. On Sunday, when her Azzurri Cachorros Chicas team was disqualified from the tournament in Springfield, reportedly because tournament officials were convinced the short-haired Mili was a boy, the story took off, thrusting her into international prominence.

U.S. Soccer legends Mia Hamm and Abby Wambach sent their support to young Mili, whose full name is Milagros, which in Spanish means "miracles."

"You're inspiring," Wambach told Mili in a video. "You're a natural-born leader, honey, and I'm so proud of you."

But like most scenarios involving parents, youth sports and about 1,000 kids running around a grassy patch of land, this story is far from simple.

Burgett tugs on his plastic water bottle. At least twice in the conversation, he looks as if he's going to cry. He was torn when he heard about Hamm and Wambach reaching out to Mili. He's happy that the little girl might get to meet them, and upset that he, in this equation, is portrayed as the monster who created the controversy.

He thumbs through his packet of soccer papers, which are marked in yellow highlighter. Two decades in the military taught him to be regimented, even in chaos. It taught him to follow the rules.

"I would like to have the opportunity to maybe sit down with the parents and talk to them and apologize to her," he says. "Because I want her to know it wasn't about her. I've got grandkids. I wouldn't want somebody to do it to them when they play soccer.

"I'd like to give them my side. They might understand; they might not. At least then they'd know from my side why I did what I did."

Many sides to the story

Where do we begin? With the coach who complained about a rule that has nothing to do with gender confusion? With the anonymous parents who asked why a boy was playing on a girls' team?

Burgett contends that young Mili had nothing to do with the Azzurri girls' team being kicked out of the Springfield tournament Saturday night. He says he disqualified three Azzurri teams, not just Mili's. Yes, there was a dispute over whether Mili was a girl that became even more confusing when the team's roster, a list that has been used for months, had an "M" for male next to her name. There are 14 girls on that roster, and the only one who fell victim to the typo is the kid who just happens to have short hair. How that happened remains unclear.

Azzurri soccer club director Mo Farivari says a typo by the club registrar erroneously listed an M for male next to Mili Hernandez's name on the team roster. Lanyard Burgett

But Burgett says the teams were disqualified because they violated another rule. Azzurri played kids on multiple teams in the tournament. Burgett presents a piece of paper that Mo Farivari, the director of the Azzurri soccer club, signed at check-in. Six lines above his signature, in caps, is a sentence that says if illegal players are caught, they face possible removal from the tournament. Then Burgett shows a highlighted page that explains the rule, that a kid can't play on two teams.

Farivari doesn't deny that the club had players competing on multiple teams during the tournament. Three girls on Mili's team also played for Azzurri's 11/12 boys' team during the tournament. So did a few players on the club's 10-and-under boys' team. But Farivari says they've done this before, it's legal at his tournament, and he was never told that it was against Springfield's rules. Farivari is also convinced Mili's team was disqualified because of the gender controversy.

"The only reason he disqualified them," Farivari says, "is because Mili looks like a boy and is listed [with] a typo on the roster. I went over this to clarify, but he didn't want to listen."