1. “Be classy, kind, considerate, empathetic and a good conversationalist!”

2. “Be interested in me and my thoughts. Also, to allow me to help you and support you. As a friend, I would want someone who is a positive person. As a romantic partner, someone who appreciates and loves me for who I am.”

3. “Let me feel listened to and respected. I don’t need you do what I suggest, I just need to know you’ve considered my idea. Also, please let me help you. I need to feel needed and worthwhile.”

4. “Pay attention. Be thoughtful and notice little things I say and do. Anything heartfelt will probably go over well.”

5. “Show that you care in your conversations and go out of your way to do something nice in a while, and I’ll be head over heels.”

6. “Ask me how I am; don’t just prattle on about yourself and assume that because I’m an extrovert I’ll naturally fill in the blanks.”

7. “Write me a love letter. I’ll melt.”

8. “Be funny and consistent and plan things ahead of time. Think of fun things for us to do together. We need a lot of affection, communication, and follow through!”

9. “Be open, honest, and REAL with me. One good, genuine conversation and you’ll have a friend in me for life. When it comes to romance, show me that there’s more to you than meets the eye. Keep it interesting. Be intentional. Be direct.”

10. “Always listen to my feelings and spoil me with little things that let me know you really see/hear me.”

11. “Pay attention to the details and don’t be afraid to be goofy or silly. Being reserved, generic, or boring is a huge turnoff.”

12. “Listen to me and actually CARE about what I have to say. Because I’ll always do the same for you.”

13. “I’m always asking people their day and getting share them to share things with me. But soemtimes I’m not telling you about my day because I’m waiting for YOU to ask. As my partner, it shows that you genuinely care and believe me…I have a lot to share.”

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