MrsOverTheRoad Thu 29-Jun-17 08:26:24

Without people thinking I'm showing off my DD's social skills, she's 9 and very popular and always has been since she went to school.



I have another DD who is older and her social life and friends have always been great...not too full on but plenty of invitations and is what I'd call satisfactory...no worries about it.



My younger DD seems to inspire some sort of slavish devotion among her peers though and this results in me being asked on a DAILY basis for playdates and sleepovers.



They either ask if DD can go to theirs or if they can come to ours soon...mostly they want her to go with them and because it's never the same kid, the Mothers or Fathers are always happy to oblige.



I don't say yes to all requests...but some kids are very persistent...one little boy has asked daily others at least every few days....I generally let DD go when she wants to but that means I need to reciprocate...so often I need to say no flat out...the requests are so frequent that I find myself wanting to sneak around!



It's not always the same kids either...she comes out with things they've made for her etc...what can I do or say to limit the hassling?



I've just let myself get railroaded into agreeing to a sleepover "soon" either "at yours or ours...whatever!" and I'm not happy I said yes!



The Mother was pushy...kind of a bit persistent...so I agreed but DD doesn't want to go to this child's and she's not bothered about them coming to ours...so what do I DO now?



I said I'd let them know a date over the holidays soon...(We're in Oz and have 3 weeks off coming up) but I don't want to if DD"s not bothered.



Do I message and just say it's not going to be convenient?