What would you do if you found out one of your good friends is a sex offender? I'm talking about doing a serious offense? My husband just found out yesterday that his buddy (they've been friends for a few years now, met through another friend and he's become a good friend over that time) is a registered sex offender. he's one of those guys that you would never have guessed on either. Because we have a baby daughter, I had to ask his wife about it. She played it down as if it was a misunderstanding, but basically he raped a 13 year old girl when he was almost 20. I'm sorry but to me, I do not see any misunderstanding, especially because it wasn't deemed statutory, she did NOT consent. Also, he spent a few years in prison.



I am very uncomfortable with him now, and will never leave our child with them even though they have 2 daughters. I personally feel like we've been lied to this whole friendship (sex offenders are supposed to tell you they are registered and why) and feel that if we didn't find out from the registry, we would have never found out. They just had their second daughter (his wife's first) so our daughters will be within a few weeks of each other in age, but I do not want to leave her there, EVER, which I won't. We are also the youngest's Godparents. Plus I found out that his first daughter and him sleep in the downstairs den when he gets her on weekends (did I mention she's now 12 and very beautiful), his wife told me this to say see, he's fine now. Oh he is 39 so it happened almost 20 years ago.



I do not really want to associate with them anymore, but again we are the youngest daughter's Godparents and feel responsible for her. My dh wants to give him the benefit of the doubt, he's been a good friend, and say he messed up when he was younger, 20 years ago. He agrees our daughter won't ever be there without us. What would you do? I will bring it up to him that we know. I trust and respect my dh's judgement. Thoughts?