Star Trek has had its fair share of romances, from great (and not-so-great, and occasionally terrifying) one-night stands to long-term relationships, for better or for worse. In honor of Valentine’s Day, we thought we’d comb through our memory banks for the best tips we could come up with to make the holiday special, and ensure your dates go well. Here, in no particular order, are some Star Trek-style tips for a happy, healthy, and successful Valentine’s Day date, wherever it may take you.

Dress for the occasion

Like any good date, you’ll want to be wearing the appropriate attire. Don’t be afraid to get formal! In some cases, especially if you’re going out with someone from a foreign culture, your date might try to make this easier for you by sending over something for you to wear. If you are comfortable with this, by all means, run with it.

Bring a thoughtful gift

It’s Valentine’s Day, so you’ll need to amp up your gift-giving. You can make an impression with something as simple as flowers—perhaps a nice variety of crystilia, whose fragrance is an evolutionary response to the acrid nature of the atmosphere on Telemarius Four. A tracking crystal–in a nice piece of jewelry, like a necklace–is sentimental as well as practical. To really make an impression, think about something more personal, like a custom Star Trek bobblehead, specifically selected for your date; if your plans are with an android who has never experienced true physical sensation, consider a skin patch. Then blow.

Choose a romantic location

Don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone to find that perfect romantic getaway. You might want to let your date know what you’ve chosen, though.

Make sure your date isn’t fictional

You’d think this would go without saying, but the mind is powerful, and sometimes it’s easy to trick yourself into making not-such-great choices. Whether it’s an ultra-sophisticated hologram created by a binary species, or a scientist who has your highest admiration for developing the Galaxy-class warp drive system but is actually a hologram you ordered up, don’t be fooled by appearances. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

Make sure your date isn’t YOU

They say that you need to love yourself first before you love someone else, but getting involved with a Chameloid is not the way to test that theory.

Bottom line: keep it real

Even if your date isn’t fictitious, he or she may not be quite what they appear to be, and deception (no matter how attractive) is never a good foundation for a relationship. Try to steer clear of the suspiciously familiar–like picnics you used to have, complete with your favorite horses who couldn’t possibly have traveled across the galaxy–or salt vampires who look like old flames. (You might want to steer clear of old flames in general–right, Dr. Crusher?)

Always use protection

Voq and L’Rell, did you catch that?

Trip: same note.

Be open to new possibilities

Not only do situations change, sometimes people change. You’d think a starship captain and a once-disgraced lieutenant wouldn’t be the best combination, but turn them into lizards and boom! you’ve started a family.

And be willing to compromise

If your date is tired of your scratchy beard, throw caution to the wind and get rid of it—it could turn out to be fun. And so what if you don’t like the same music? Sometimes you just have to sit through that concert anyway, even if it’s Kasseelian opera. For love.

No kidnapping

It may sound romantic, but forcing someone to go on a date with you by whisking them away without any notice–or permission–never works out the way you’ve planned.

Keep your wits about you

It could be a few drinks, some spores, or an infection that lowers your inhibitions, but whatever your intoxicant, it’s not what should be making your decisions for you. Make sure you’re not doing anything you wouldn’t do if you were sober.

Don’t rush things

Even if time has no meaning to you, there is still such a thing as moving too fast.

And remember: some relationships are just not meant to be

If your lover keeps a phaser under his pillow, it’s probably time to re-think things.

There are obviously a lot more great tips out there, so post them in the comments. (Let the “fully functional” jokes commence.)

Happy Valentine’s Day!