sounds like my family oop

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me x100000000000

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me too.



it's the worst. i just cannot stfu.



there was a girl in my group in high school who would never talk and i always ended up driving and her house was last and OMG that four minutes from my friend's house to her house were effing painful. PAINFUL.

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I hate sitting at a table with people who don't talk. I always leave.

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When there's awkward silence, I usually just get quiet, too, because it makes me feel like the person just isn't up for a conversation. It's a pain in the ass, definitely.

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same. or i feel like I've gotten to the maximum amount of small-talk i can through into the convo and they aren't even trying so I just let it fall lol

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I have a tendency to ramble a LOT, especially during awkward silences. I just... I need to fill the silence! But then people just stare at me. =P

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same. my friend's always texting people and saying one word replies like "Oh", "Huh?", "Okay". It's annoying.

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i'm always happy when someone else talks during an awkward silence, it doesn't even matter what they're saying

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how do you throw soup at someone

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with a spoon

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throw the whole bowl, kind of in the flat of your hand

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lmao

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flick it with a spoon and aim so it burns right in the eyes.

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Lol omg this thread

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Typically ignorant extrovert, doesn't get it at all.

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no i 'get it' but it's still obnoxious as fuq to deal w u

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You got that in reverse. Shy people wouldn't be annoying to you if you just left them the fuck alone they didn't ask for your chatty patty small talkerity bull cock.

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lol i agree with you. and then they bitch about being ignored, like ok dude i am not about to bend over backwards making the lion's share of the convo so you can feel less socially retarded at this party.

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Then don't talk to a shy/introverted person?

They're different, but a lot of introverts are shy including myself and I can't speak for everyone but I can assure you that I don't want you talking to me anyway. It's not a rude/stuck up/too scared thing it's just a genuine from the bottom of my bashful heart hatred of needless conversation with people I don't truly care to be around.



When it comes to extroverts, they just have this huge fucking problem where they feel the need to press their conversations on you. Like in the line at the store. I don't care about the sale on your shitty peas or why you're out doing the shopping instead of your husband-I just want to buy my things and leave. Yet there they are every single time. The moment you lock eyes it's all over. They're going to talk. You don't want to, but they've already started and now you don't know what to say because all you can think about is how you never asked for this and if you can end it as quickly as possible without somehow offending or hurting them.



Extroverts will see you by yourself and jump out of the bushes at you because they feel like you're depressed and all alone when in reality it's you approaching them that makes them depressed. I'm getting off topic.



Shy people can't help being shy, they didn't ask for that shit, so either be understanding of it or fuck right off and leave them be. The end.

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ikr, I want to throw "Quiet: The Power of Introverts" at her

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introversion and shyness aren't the same thing, anyway.



i'm introverted but not really shy except in certain situations.

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ONTD summed up in a thread.

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pretty much

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Yep.



My dad, who is a total extrovert (as am I) literally gets ANGRY about what an introvert my boyfriend is. It took him over 3 years to even marginally accept my bf because he just can't STAND that my bf doesn't talk much. He, like, takes it personally and judges the hell out of him. Like you said, he doesn't get it at all.

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wow i ACTUALLY agree w her. shy people are fucking obnoxious. the worst is when you accidentally engage a shy person and try to talk to them and no matter what you say every answer is like ".... yeah" ".... mhm" "*awkward laugh*" in this weird high pitched voice i am just like whhhhhhhhy. it is so uncomfortable and boring. i try to avoid anyone who i suspect may be shy but they are always lurking around you never know for sure

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i'd agree if i thought the world revolved me 2 :x

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the world? no. my life/time? yes. lmfao who else would it revolve around? like why do i want to be stuck in conversation w someone who lacks the ability to interact w me? THAT seems self-centered like that you expect everyone else to cater to your ineptitude.



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lmao

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amen

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LMAO



ilu

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I agree. There's like a certain limit. After knowing a person for 3, 4 years and meeting with them often it's time to add to the conversation.



edit: I mean in times like group projects, helping out at work, etc. Socially it's whatever to me. I won't push them.



Edited at 2013-02-19 03:35 pm (UTC)

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you sound insufferable to be around

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What is your damage.

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maybe social interaction makes them nervous and they're trying not to sounds stupid???????? just a thought



/aka my life

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Shy people wouldn't be obnoxious if you left them alone.



Chatty people, on the other hand...

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me too, but only in situations where communication is REQUIRED, like in school/work projects. i'm shy, but sometimes i just have to force myself to speak. sometimes what comes out isn't fantastic, but at least i'm talking.

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If I start to sense someone is shy I just stop trying lol, there's no point. It'd make them more comfortable if you just stopped tbh

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IAWTC

You are just trying to be friendly and it sucks when you are trying so hard to talk to someone and they won't talk back.

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But why do you try so hard to talk to people who clearly don't want to talk to you?

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omg gurl get over yourself.

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yeah i'm sure that's the reason people don't want to talk to you

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sooo why dont you just leave them alone and move on?

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"Accidentally enagage a shy person?" Lol wtf are you even talking about? Then just don't fucking talk to them? Just a polite, "Oh I g2g, later" would suffice in ending it.

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based on your comment - the problem is you, not the other person. *You* need better people skills.

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you're the one who sounds obnoxious tbh, maybe not everyone wants to talk to you or participate in small talk.

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shy people are always lurking around, ready to attack you with their ... um, quietness? sounds like you're the one who's on the attack.

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you just described me to a T and I always beat myself up over it whenever a conversation goes how you described.

I don't do it to annoy people or shut conversation down, I'm just really socially awkward and a lot of the times it is really hard to think of a response to most "conversation starters".

I think I've been getting better lately but it's not something you can just switch off.

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Maybe you just stop talking....and writing.

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Because it's our fault we have social anxiety. Fuck you.

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the only one who sounds obnoxious here is you. it is not a shy persons job to entertain you.

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im sure they appreciate your desperate need for constant blabbing

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Oh lordie.

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I love when my irrational hatred of someone turns into rational. I am all seeing.

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lmao mte

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haha same

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Lol mte

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lol same! though to be fair, there's a lot of valid criticisms of her

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True but my hatred for her happened the second I laied eyes on her melty pancake face. It just SCREAMED out to me that she was obnoxious from her shit eating grin. It was before I even heard her say a word or heard anyone say anything about her.

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Same, but in other cases.

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yassss join da dark side :) :) :)

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hahahaha

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I have this thought too, tbh

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omg same. The day I saw her fucking muppet face I knew I would hate her with every fiber of my being. Now that my hate is justified, it makes it so much easier for me!

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This! I don't understand how/why she's such a big deal in Hollywood. Have always disliked her, relieved I can now legit confirm her ignorance/stupidity/obnoxiousness.



Even saw Silver Linings Playbook to give her a chance/see if I might be mistaken, but nope. She was as terrible in it as she was in X-Men.

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i really love that you're commenting more, your sassy comments give me life

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IKR?



my hate of her face is so irrational, but she says dumb enough shit for me to have formed some rational hatred of her.

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i completely agree. whenever i irrationally hate someone it turns out to be justified.

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yesss

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lol same.

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ikr it's giving me life tbh

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yep, pretty much



I was meh about her before, but now she's irritating the shit out of me to Watson/Portman/Dunham levels.





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lol mte

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yesss

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i'm shy :(

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me as well :(

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I am too, but in my job I am professionally nosy, I'm an advise nurse so I ask people personal questions all the time, there's a tactful way to ask someone what thier poop looks like

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Me too, I'm required to talk for my job (call center) but it doesn't make talking to people in real life any easier.

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im not shy i just dont give a fuck to talk to strangers.

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same t.t

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so am i :( literally all the women in my family are shy and have anxiety or ocd or smth so i never rly had a chance lol

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same. and it's really~ difficult to get a job when you aren't loud, perky, and intrusive 108% of the time.



particularly pertaining to retail...

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me too

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same here :/ I feel uncomfortable once I start talking and people are staring at me, mostly I just stutter

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I'm not necessarily shy, but I hate small talk and only really enjoy talking to people I like. I can't hide my disdain well.

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same

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same

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me too, and i fucking hate being made to feel bad because of it because it's not something i can really help? like not being shy doesn't exactly come easy, and i never actually force anyone to talk to me. normally i don't mind jennifer, but ugh at her for this.

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Same and it's so bad. idk how I can even function. I feel like a failure.

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so am i but i'm really good at faking it.

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Same here. I think I'm getting better with time though...

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Me too

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i agree with the obnoxiously loud people

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lol mte they make me want to throw something

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ugh same :/

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MY LOVE

I MISS YOU!!!

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same here. it's easier to tell them to STFU though.

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yes! some of my mother's friends come into the house and start speaking at a ridiculously loud volume and its so obnoxious.

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God yes.

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whatever, they bring the party. wouldn't want to be roommates with one though.

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ia

i like other shy people best

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OMG YES. D:

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omg same they are so so so so much worse than shy people

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same, especially people who act like they're on stage all the time. I just want to be like "can you turn it off for a second?!"

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God yes. I have a few classmates who just work my last nerve because of their loud voices and even louder laughter. They're actually nice people, but I can't help getting annoyed once they open their mouths.

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ughh this

at least shy people don't disturb you

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:( my grandma is like that but she's so cute and adorable, she just likes to talk, a lot, and loud :((( and she loves talking to strangers



but other than that, ia

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One of the buildings at my uni is fiiiillled with jocks and they're so obnoxiously loud EVERY TIME I have the class there, it drives me up the wall.

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pretty sure i'm like that. it's my social anxiety and adhd and then i leave thinking god i'm fucking annoying.

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ia. i can't stand those people who to just love the sound of their own voice. i find that way more annoying.

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srsly. sf exhausting to just even be around them

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same

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lol ia. they always need to chat and have people hear them. just chill out for a second.

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mte attention whores

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sameeeeeeeeeee. like bitch stfu

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ia

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i had an ear infection last week and couldn't tell how loud i was being and i was so terrified i was being an obnoxious loud person so i just didn't talk at all lol.

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I'm so late to this but IA to an extent it really depends on the place and time. one of my friends is an actress and a lot of her friends do acting stuff too and they're completely loud and obnoxious when they get together and I'm the quiet one that doesn't saying anything I just sit an observe (my friend is famous for re-creating the harry met sally orgasm scene in restaurants) and things like that make me want to crawl under the table and die

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Then stop bothering someone when you find out they're shy if they make you that uncomfortable. Trying to keep conversing with them isn't going to suddenly make them not shy, they won't think you're rude, trust me.

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Seriously, they will be relived that you end it. The longer you keep the awkward talk going the more I hate you.

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mte

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why are they in a social situation then? like what's the point of going to a party if you are literally going to stand there and not make an attempt to have friendly interactions with those who approach you? ppl are blaming extroverts for trying to force a convo or whatever, but it's the nice friendly thing to do most of the time and a lot of ppl appreciate the effort. it's not like you can tell they're shy before you approach, you're just trying to help them out.



i just don't get it at all.

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"It was happy [but also] scary, sweary and loud, where everyone had a bit of a drinking problem and everyone screams at each other, but it was real fun.My brothers used to throw their soup at me and drag me round the house by my hair and then pretend they didn't. Bland families, urgh. I hate them."



Yes, families without alcoholism, screaming or sibling abuse are really boring. Who would ever want that kind of family life. sideeye to the max rn.

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lmao mte when i got to the comment about everyone having a bit of a drinking problem I was like.. wtf? you really are trying to saying that that's normal and fun and that you think people who DON'T experience that are "bland." Fuck off

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It's another one of her 'jokes' bb, we're just boring or 'jealous' that's why we don't get it



Wow, I honestly thought she was just chill and normal, instead she's like 'needs to be put back a grade' dumb.

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I love how people are going on about annoyingly loud people and skimming over this comment. Major side-eye. As someone who grew up w/ a violently alcoholic father & stepmother, this bothers me more than anything.

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I guess it's because I'm an only child, but some of her other stories about her brothers creep me out.

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i'm shy sometimes, sometimes i just don't know what to say in the situation.

just a blanket statement though, she should really watch what she says

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yeah same.

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Shy people make me uncomfortable, I didn't read this article. Just putting that out there.

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Ask about the weather, don't stare at your plate and make me feel like I'm making you uncomfortable!



rme maybe she should take some notes from shy people so we don't have to hear her talk anymore



seriously though, I hate when people make introverted people feel bad about being introverted. like, do they not realize that doing that does not make someone more extroverted? chances are someone who's shy has anxiety and insecurity, and demanding they get over it and only adds to that anxiety and insecurity.

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I'm kind of shy and in the past it was awkward to be around other people with awkward silence. But then I started to talk to other people and it became better. You can talk about anything. I completely agree with Jen.

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Well, that's great for you but there are people with severe anxiety or social anxiety that no amount of talking will fix. And for extroverted people to demand someone just get over for the sake of their own ~comfort is kind of ridiculous and self-centered.

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Unless you have social anxiety. Then it isn't something you can just get over and it sucks, tbh. I'm on meds, go to therapy, etc but it is a lifelong problem and extroverted people getting annoyed with me is not helpful.

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Awkward silences are generally more awkward if you *think* it's awkward. There's such a thing as a comfortable silence, or a companionable silence. I would much rather have silence, than small-talk about something retarded. I can't stand small talk, it's so insincere and fake imo.

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you really can't. i have social anxiety and it's so hard for me to come up with random shit to talk about.

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But other people are not you. Different people work in different ways. For you it was easier, for someone else it might be a horrible experience, a long, dreary process.

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srsly maybe they just don't want to talk? or they're nervous? and putting the blame on them for not being able to carry on a conversation to YOUR (jennifer's for ex.) standards probably just exacerbates that!!! sheesh!

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people would do that to me again and again, I'm insecure enough already

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lol i had someone tell me i was very reserved and should talk more and be more extroverted and i haven't been able to speak to them since

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"maybe she should take some notes from shy people so we don't have to hear her talk anymore"



lol yes

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jlaw I'm trying really hard to be impartial but seriously, fuck off

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She should just shut up already. What the hell was that interview? Seriously? The more i read about her the more I start to dislike her.

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Me too.

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mfte

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