This is an interview of someone I will describe as a life changer. She has the interest of her fellow women at heart and strives to help them surmount their greatest fear even when they don't believe that they are going through a bad situation. She was recently nominated for The Global Heros Platform Award (GHP).

My guest is Yensi Helen Jokem.is an activist for women. She gives hope to women who suffered violence through hercalledHelen and I will be talking about her successes, her obstacles and how she realized her dream of becoming an activist for women. Let's get to know this strong, relentless and beautiful fighter for women's rights whose work and personality are touching and changing lives in Cameroon.

Ngumabi:





Hi Helen and welcome to Ngumabi's Glam.



Helen:

Hello Abi and thank you for giving me this opportunity to be your guest.

I'm so happy you accepted to do this interview for us (myself and the readers). We are looking forward to learning a lot from you.



Just to mention to our dear readers: Helen and I attended the same primary and secondary school and I'm so proud to have this conversation with her on my blog. She is so inspiring to me and other young girls out there because of her work and her kind heart towards women.



So, Helen, we share the same thoughts on certain issues about women and we have had a few conversations on Facebook from time to time. I am a fan of your work with women.



Have you always been passionate about helping women? How did you start this campaign of helping women who have suffered domestic violence?





Helen:





It’s a pleasure and honour for me to share my story because it can be an inspiration to someone.





Talking about my passion to help women, while growing up I always wanted to have an orphanage to take care of orphans. But as I got into the university and studied issues concerning women (Women’s Studies with Sociology and Anthropology) in the University of Buea and Gender and Development in the University of Yaoundé I, my dreams changed.





My passion now became to empower women and girls especially economically. But the choice of domestic violence came as a result of the fact that I wanted that area of focus which seemed neglected by most.



I realised domestic violence has become a way of life acceptable by many but with many negative effects. And with the help of a mentor, I was able to start up The Hope Center to rehabilitate girls and women who have suffered or are suffering from domestic violence. I strive to bring out the real worth in them and empower them to be strong women who can ACTIVELY contribute to their personal development and the development of their communities and societies.

Ngumabi:



What a great choice you made by filling the gap and providing a solution to a serious problem affecting women in our society.



We know it's rare to follow our dreams without facing some challenges either from people around us or from other circumstances in life. What are those challenges you faced when you chose this path in life and what is still your biggest challenge?





Helen:





Hihihihihihi. That’s true. I have encountered so many challenges but I consider them as stepping stones to get to my destination





Though I really don’t consider this a challenge, for the sake of the audience, I’ll say this because they can learn something from it. I have lost so many people I thought were my ‘friends’. This only helped me to know who they truly are.





That aside, the biggest challenge I have had has been the difficulty to totally convince victims to Break The Silence. You would agree with me that we live in a society where domestic violence or intimate partner violence has become a way of life acceptable by many due to some of our cultures and traditions.



This makes it difficult for victims to speak out because they consider what they are going through to be ‘PERSONAL’ and should not be shared with others. For this reason, it’s been difficult to freely offer help to those in need of it.





Furthermore, I have had to sacrifice every franc I earn to run The Hope Center. It’s not been easy but it’s been worth the sacrifice. It’s so fulfilling when you put a smile on someone’s face. The smiles, the kind words, the encouragements are the key things that keep me going.



Ngumabi:





Indeed we make sacrifices to make our dreams happen especially when we don't get the support we need. It helps us learn more from our experience.



There is a saying that goes "Never stop learning because life never stops teaching". What surprising lessons have you learned along the way to doing what you to do?





Helen:



Hmmmmmmmmmm!





I really am not sure I have had any surprising lessons but what baffles me often is the fact that some victims will prefer to stay in abusive relationships and will not want to seek help all in the name of LOVE or staying there because of their children. Damn it! Like I always say Love SHOULDN’T HURT.





Another thing too that baffles me is the fact that some girls and women don’t have lives of their own. They think only a man SHOULD provide for them and their dependence on men is exactly the biggest cause of the violence they face. Women and girls need to understand that they are human beings first before anything else. They don’t have to live their lives for men and other people. They should step out of their so-called comfort zones and get something doing. Every man out there would be happy to see their partners bring something to the table. Its high time women stopped thinking of themselves as liabilities to understanding they are very USEFUL ASSETS.

Ngumabi:



You are so right, love shouldn't hurt us but rather protect and make us feel secure. Many women are yet to understand this.



And you are making women understand it through The Hope Centre start and how did it come about? You are so right, love shouldn't hurt us but rather protect and make us feel secure. Many women are yet to understand this.And you are making women understand it through The Hope Centre which is making a real impact in the lives of women across Cameroon. The work of your centre are highly appreciated by many people. So tell us when didstart and how did it come about?



Helen:





The Hope Center is 11 months old. It started on 27th May 2017 with an online awareness of Domestic Violence.





The Hope Center came about as my own way of giving back to my community. After studying Women, Gender and Development issues for over 6 years and obtaining a Bachelor and Master’s degree, the only way I could give back what I had acquired for all those years was to start up something which could change the lives of many and bring about a positive change in attitudes and mindsets.





Most people ask if I started The Hope Center because I have once been a victim of Domestic Violence. I tell them NO.



We all have either been affected in one way or the other by domestic violence or have contributed to it. We have seen our friends, neighbours, and family members suffer but we have kept quiet either because of fear or because we consider it not our issue. Even those who have spoken up for others have been given bad names. But the truth is someone needs to STAND UP for others. To rekindle the hope they’ve lost and The Hope Center is out to do just that.





Ngumabi:





It's really time to break the ice around domestic violence so that more women can speak up.



But then, there is a myth that it's difficult to work with women. I mean, I have heard it a lot of times that when I encounter a difficult time working with a woman I tend to believe this myth more and more. In your experience, is this myth true?



Helen:





Hahahahahaha!





It sounds funny but it’s very true. You would automatically think because I am working to empower women, it should all be bread and chocolate working with other women. In reality, it is not so.





There are actually like 3 camps of women I have encountered in the course of my work - those who just don’t see anything good in what you are doing and no matter what you do they will never say anything good about it. There is a second camp of women who will pretend to love what you do and even say nice things about it most especially in a circle where others are saying good things about you but once you are not there, they say negative things about you. A nd the 3rd camp of women, some who have never met me and who ceaselessly support my work, at times without me knowing.





This last category of women is those who matter. As for the first 2 categories, they will just be alright someday.





Ngumabi:





Hahahaha! We focus on the positive right? That's awesome! Thanks for that lesson.



Ambitious ladies like you usually have a 5-year or 10-year plan for their lives and career. What more are we expecting from Helen? What's next for you in your career?





Helen:



Hihihihihihi!





I have only laid the foundation. I need to raise the walls of the house (a storey building of course – don’t ask how many floors) then roof it. There is so much in store, but now is not the time to let the cat out of the bag. Keep your antennae up and you’d get the news as it will be happening.



Ngumabi:



Wow, I can feel the suspense you are giving us. We will definitely watch out for you! It's always an enriching experience keeping up with you.



So in Africa and Cameroon, in particular, there are many young ladies who have dreams like you but are facing challenges like fear to go for their dreams, cultural ties and the reality of life.





What advice will you give these girls who dare not come out and follow their passions because of fear or those dared but are struggling to achieve their dreams but are facing a lot of challenges especially here in Cameroon?











Helen:



My dear sisters, identify that thing you are passionate about and go for it. The journey will be rough, the road will be rocky, but set your goals and priorities and aim at achieving them. Don’t distract yourself or let anyone distract you. Get a mentor to guide you through. INVEST in what you love. Make use of every opportunity you have, be it to gain knowledge or to share knowledge. Above all, stay close to GOD and he will see you through.











Ngumabi:



That's some great motivation!



People want to be appreciated for what they do while they are alive and want to be remembered when they are no longer around. That's some great motivation!People want to be appreciated for what they do while they are alive and want to be remembered when they are no longer around.





What do you want your legacy to be? What do you want to be remembered for?





Helen:



I want to be remembered as someone who rekindled hope in those who had lost hope, who brought back smiles to the faces of many and above all I want to be that ‘bible’ that others will read (through my activities) and come closer to GOD.







Ngumabi:



It's been a pleasure having this conversation with you Helen. Thank you so much, for accepting to talk Ngumabi's Glam!



Helen:



It's been a pleasure having this conversation with you Helen. Thank you so much, for accepting to talk Ngumabi's Glam!

Thank you too dear for having me. It’s been a pleasure too.





Ngumabi:



I'm sure our readers have learned a great lot from you. We wish you the best in your career. God Bless you, darling!



Helen:



Thank you!

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