When you are interested in dating a woman, DO NOT ask her to “hang out”.

What should you do instead? Tell her you want to take her on a date.

I know. This is nerve-racking, and you’re probably thinking:

But what if she’s not into me like that?

But what if I creep her out and I lose her as a friend?

But what if that’s too much pressure?

But what if she shoots me down and people find out?

So you decide that asking her to “hang out” is the best option. It's safe, non-creepy, and gives you time to "feel things out" before going for a date. But that's a mistake. And here’s why.

1. If this girl does like you, you are SORELY missing out

Let me ask you a question: if you had a date planned with a beautiful woman this weekend, what would you do to prepare?

If you’re like me, you would do several things.

You would think about her and get excited to hold her soft hands, grip her toned thighs, pull her in by the waist, and plant a kiss on her red lips.

You would leave your calendar tentatively open on the night of the date, in case things got…heated.

You would make sure your laundry is done, so you have an outfit that makes you look like a sexy devil (don't forget the underwear).

You would get a haircut, trim your nails, shave, possibly manscape, and on the day of the date – shower a little more thoroughly and make sure you smell great.

Now, don’t you want her to do all these things, for you?

Don’t you want her to show up and make your jaw drop with how sexy she looks, for you? Don’t you want her to be hotly anticipating spending time with you?

I certainly do.

But that’s not what happens when you ask a woman who likes you to “hang out”. This phrase is incredibly vague, as it could mean you actually want to hang out as friends, that you just want to have casual sex, or that you want to go on a date. She will choose the conservative option here (hang out as friends) because if she assumes anything else, it will tarnish her reputation.

If she meets with you assuming you want casual sex and she's wrong, she will be labeled slutty .

If she meets with you assuming you want a date and she's wrong, she will be labeled desperate.

Unfortunately, our society punishes women severely for these reputations. Women have strong desires to be intimate and have sex, but this social shaming discourages them from expressing these desires openly. On the other hand, men (like myself) are labeled "confident" for approaching women and expressing sexual interest.

So even if a girl likes you, and you ask her to "hang out", she will be more conservative with you then she wants to be – both in her appearance and her actions. And that’s unfortunate, since both of you will struggle to express and fulfill your desires with each other.

2. If she doesn’t like you (or hasn’t decided), you are torturing yourself and wasting time