"It shouldn't be up to a judge to tell me whether or not I was raped," Bowen said. "I should be able to tell the jury in my own words what happened to me."



…Those who defend the accused say the determination of whether what happened was rape or consensual sex is up to juries, not witnesses.



"They shouldn't be able to use the word 'rape' as if it is a fact that has been established," said Jack King, director of public affairs and communications for the National Association of Criminal Defense Lawyers. "These are loaded words."

Uh huh. Of course, "sexual intercourse" is loaded too—loaded with implied consent!The argument is that disallowing victims to use the word "rape" constitutes balance—but it's no more balanced than if the defense was required to use the word rape.This is all about the idiotic conventional wisdom that women go around wantonly filing false rape reports willy-nilly (no—false reports of rape are more infrequent than false reports of car theft, which itself is rare) and that any time a woman reports a rape, it ends up at trial (which is so made of no fucking way that it's not even funny, and the difficulty of bringing any rape case to trial is well-covered ground at Shakesville, so I won't go into it again). And the day I see a judge issuing an order that a dude can't say he was mugged on the stand lest it prejudice a jury in a robbery trial, when he's forced to say he handed his wallet to the defendant,* then I might believe that this is really about some principle of protecting defendants full-stop, and not just more horseshit designed to make prosecuting rapists even more mind-fuckingly difficult than it already is because everyone knows there's no such thing as real rape victims—just scorned women with axes to grind.[H/T to Shaker Angelos.]---------------------------------------* Forgive the tacit conflation of rape with property theft, which I singularly do not support . I couldn't figure out how else to use a courtroom example without that inadvertent ugliness.