October 3, 2018

Today we have Dr. Justin Lehmiller on the podcast. Dr. Lehmiller is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What you Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Lehmiller is an award winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality.

On this episode we cover a wide range of provocative and fascinating findings from the largest survey on sexual fantasies of all time. Topics include:

The most common sexual fantasies among humans

The most taboo sexual fantasy category

Fantasy vs. desire

Reducing shame for the content of one’s sexual fantasies

The relationship between the fantasy-prone personality and sexual fantasies

The importance of sexual self-actualization for well-being

The benefits of open communication of our fantasies with our partners

Sexual orientation vs. sexual flexibility

The truth behind widely held stereotypes about BDSM

Gender differences in sexual fantasies

What your sexual fantasies say about you

The sexiest superhero

OCD and gender bending

Does size really matter?

Which fantasy is the least likely to work out when it’s actually acted out?

How can more people turn their fantasies into reality in a healthy way?

How can we break the barriers in society that prevent us from properly communicating our sexual desires?