Oral sex can be one of the best ways to pleasure a woman — it feels great and can bring you both closer. But it seems to be a challenging sex move for most guys.

In my opinion, the problem is many men have never learned how to eat pussy “the right way.”

What is the right way to eat pussy? It’s just like a blowjob – all the way to completion. Don’t stop until she cums.



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MAKE SURE SHE’S COMFORTABLE

Women want to feel comfortable, secure and wanted. When you can make her feel those things in your presence, she’ll be able to cum a lot quicker.

The environment you’re in has a huge impact on whether she will be able to fully relax and let go. If you’re at her place, then all you need to do is be gentle and caring because the surroundings are familiar.

If however, you’re in your home/apartment, then you need to work a little more to make her feel happy and safe. Get the mood lighting right, check the temperature of the room is neutral, your bed sheets should be clean, alcohol can be a great relaxant and maybe even a few candles (girls love candles).

Music is POWERFUL also, so use it to your advantage. Find some chill out music on Spotify or YouTube and let it run in the background to give a relaxed vibe in the room.

Everything above is basic I know, but you’d be shocked at just how many men have problems keeping their home inviting to women.



TURN HER ON, BUILD UP THE TENSION

I’ve said this time and time again. Women are like dials, not switches. You need to turn them on and gradually let the tension build until she’s super horny. So before you can even go down on her, turn her on.

There are several ways to turn a girl on which I won’t go into detail here. But some general tips would be; kiss her neck, grab her bum, slowly undress her, suck on her nipples, rub her pussy whilst her knickers are still on, talk dirty to her.

Foreplay might seem like a chore, but I can assure you, the better you get at foreplay, the easier it will be to get her to cum from oral.



SUCK, LICK, RUB, BLOW

Never start with the clit. This is a mistake a lot of guys make. You need to build up to the clit and then stay there until she orgasms, but don’t jump straight to it. Think of it as the final piece of the puzzle.

Kiss around her vagina first, inner thighs are a great erogenous zone. Stop over her vagina and breathe slowly, so she can feel your warm breath. This will increase her anticipation.

Begin slowly licking the labia minora (lips) for a minute or so. She should be groaning, wriggling and grabbing your hair. Listen to her body if she’s not telling you what she wants verbally (which most women won’t).

After a few minutes, then start working on the clit. Softly kiss her clitoris, lick it and suck it. You need to lubricate that little wondrous marble.

Now things are in full swing and she should be on her way to orgasming. Don’t stop there though, move back down to her lips, let your saliva and her pussy juice make a slippery lube for her pussy.



DON’T YOU DARE STOP, DAMMIT

There will be two types of communication from your girl during your oral session. Verbal and nonverbal. However non-verbal will be the most prominent.

When she squirms, bites her lip, moans, groans, grabs your head, moves her hips, grabs the bed sheets, says things like “fuuuuuck”, that means you keep doing what you’re doing and DO NOT STOP.

Also, stay at the same speed/rhythm. You don’t need to go super fast or slow, just keep the same pace until she cums. If you change things up, she’ll find it harder to climax.

The number one rule of great oral sex is consistency. What one person likes, another may not. Every single body is different and likes different things. That being said, when you find something that’s working, stick to it.

You can try doing clockwise or counterclockwise circles around the glans clitoris to start. This is a good jumping off point.

If her body is responding positively, keep going. If she isn’t feeling it, try something else. You can move your tongue up and down, side to side, or in a figure eight motion. The clitoris is not the only area you can explore with your tongue, but it has the most nerve endings and is the center of the action.



USE A FINGER (OR TWO) IF YOU WANT

The mouth isn’t your only tool. You could and should use a finger, heck, use two fingers. Whilst your mouth is on her clit, insert your index finger and slowly slide it into her vagina, use the backwards stroking method to stimulate her g-spot (also used when trying to make a girl squirt).

See what’s happening here? You’re stimulating her clit and her g-spot like some sort of cunnilingus mouth wizard. She will be gasping for air at this point because it feels so freakin good.

If you’re feeling brave. Use two fingers and thank me later.





Pay attention

Pay attention to her moans and movements. If she’s making positive sounds and pushing her hips into your face, you’re on the right track.

If she’s pulling away or lying there like a starfish, do not keep doing whatever it is you’re doing.

The simple ability to pay attention takes average oral sex-givers into the big leagues.

Is she telling you to keep going? If she is, keep going. Do not stop making that movement with your tongue. You can tease her a little bit, but if she’s getting into it, listen to her body.



Try G-spot stimulation

If she enjoys internal stimulation during oral sex, simultaneously stimulate her clitoris and G-spot. The G-spot is less of a “spot” and more of an “area.” It’s the area that surrounds the urethral sponge. When stimulated, you’re accessing the root of the clitoris, the back end that you can’t see externally.

To find the G-spot, insert two fingers into the vaginal canal and hook up towards the belly button, behind the pubic bone region. Make a “come here” motion with your fingers or move your fingers in a circular motion.





Do not stop until she comes

Almost as important as consistency: Do not give half-baked oral sex. Once you start, do not stop until she has an orgasm. If she’ll let you, hold her hips in place and take her through to a second orgasm.

Encourage her to relax and take her time. So many women are afraid of “taking too long,” making it nearly impossible to come. Tell her how sexy she is an how much you enjoy going down on her. The key is to put her at ease so she can get off.

So how do you know how long to do it, whether she is ready to have an orgasm, or whether you should stop or keep going? Keep your tongue moving to build up the sexual tension and momentum. Establish a rhythm and tell her gently to take a few deep breaths.