You don't want to be a 1950's wife, but you want a 1950's husband. You want to define what real manhood is, but you don't want men to define what womanhood is.

You say men are too feminine, but you don't want them to say that you're too masculine.

When you think that way, it makes it evident to men that you don't respect them, their position or their ideas, so why should they be enthused about providing, protecting and being with you?