As we’ve learned thus far, Bill Murray lives a life of wonderfully random adventures—whether they involve ice-cream parties, bachelor-party speeches, engagement-photo-bombing, breaking-and-entering, or glitzy Hollywood weddings. If there is one constant to Murray’s serendipitous pursuits, though, it’s that he always appears to be stag, whether he is working a minor-league baseball game or the guest of honor.

Howard Stern seems to have picked up on that theme because, when Murray stopped by Stern’s studio on Wednesday, the radio host pressed the twice-divorced comedian about his relationship status.

Stern started off the questioning by asking Murray whether he is lonely. “I don’t think I’m lonely,” Murray said after a pause. “It would be nice to go to some of these things and have a date . . . to have someone to bring along [to George Clooney’s wedding]. It would have been fun to say, ‘This is going to be fun. We’re going to walk around the most famous golf course in the world,’” he explained, referencing the course in Scotland where he played last week. “But there’s a lot that I am not doing that I need to do.”

Specifically?

“Just something like working on yourself or self-development or something . . . becoming more connected to myself,” Murray said, getting deep. “I don’t have a problem connecting with people. My [issue] is connecting with myself. If I am not really committing myself to that, then it’s better that I don’t have a different person.”

Asked what has stopped him from committing to himself, Murray continued, “What stops [any of] us is we’re kinda really ugly if we look really hard. We’re not who we think we are. We’re not as wonderful as we think we are. It’s a little bit of a shock . . . it's hard.”

Even though he isn’t ready to put in the self-maintenance work required for a healthy romantic relationship, Murray did admit that he wonders why, at 64-years-old, he still hasn’t found the great love of his life. “I do think about that. I'm not sure what I am getting done here. I do have kids. I have children that I am responsible for and I enjoy that very much. And that wouldn’t have happened without women.”

Alas, he continued, “Not to diminish a relationship with a woman but I can't take care of another relationship if I can't take care of the things I really need to take care of the most. It’s not a selfish thing . . . it’s just sort of an obligation.”

And that, ladies, is perhaps the lengthy reason why Murray did not invite us to be his plus-one at Clooney’s wedding last month.