The Canadian Association for Equality is extremely hurt and disappointed to announce that Pride Toronto has revoked our permit to walk in the Pride Parade this Sunday.

Here’s all we were told:

It has come to our attention that the work of your organization may contravene the spirit of the mission, vision, and values of Pride Toronto and WorldPride. For this reason, please be advised that your permit to march in the WorldPride Parade on Sunday June 29th has been cancelled. We regret that this information has come so close to the parade day.

This was sent to us 4 days before the parade, even though we had paid for our registration months ago and had walked without incident last year. CAFE values equality, diversity and inclusion. Now Pride is telling us we are not welcome, violating these values we thought we shared.

CAFE hoped to resolve the situation amicably. We sent Pride an Official Response and provided all of you with contact information for Pride, encouraging supporters to send letters. Some of your amazing letters are here

This resulted in a meeting with Kevin Beaulieu, Pride’s Executive Director. Following that meeting, CAFE sent a thorough response to Mr. Beaulieu. Pride dismissed what we had to say and refused to reconsider their position.

CAFE has released the following media advisory “Controversial “Men’s Issues” Organization Ejected From Pride Parade”

CAFE is committed to contributing to Pride. We will not miss the opportunity to show that the same values unite Pride and the new movement for men’s issues awareness. So please join CAFE to celebrate equality, diversity and inclusion at the CAFE Pride Party Saturday, June 28 at 8PM at the Artful Dodger Pub (Back Patio) at 10 Isabella Street in the Church-Wellesley Village! We will also be visible as a group at the Pride Parade on Sunday.

Please send your RSVP or your interest in assisting at either event to info@equalitycanada.com



CAFE’s Official Response

Hi Jamie:We are deeply hurt and troubled by your revocation of the permit for the Canadian Association for Equality to participate in the Pride parade this Sunday. I am writing you as the LGBT Committee Chair for CAFE and a trans-woman who is baffled by the rationale behind this seemingly rash decision days before the event.

I’d like to respectfully request an explanation for the manner in which CAFE contravenes the mission, vision and values of Pride, so that we can reflect upon how to improve our organization if that is required. We are a positive, diverse and inclusive organization that participated respectfully in Pride last year and which was looking forward to celebrating Sunday’s important event.

Pride values include the non-judgemental acceptance of the diversity of others. And as a trans-woman, and a person in a wheelchair it troubles me greatly that Pride would now prove to be my oppressor.

I urge you to reconsider your decision.

I have personally been involved with CAFE for a considerable amount of time, and know that I was welcomed into it’s ranks with no judgement, and that several other folks who are under the LGBT umbrella are also members. The very fact that CAFE has an active LGBT Committee alone is proof of this. There are some misunderstandings about my organization. CAFE is not an anti-feminist organization nor a men’s rights association. CAFE is a registered educational charity concerned with issues facing boys, men and families (just like a number of other groups walking in Pride), and is working with social service agencies in Toronto to open the Canadian Centre for Men and Families, a place for counselling, mentorship and peer support related to suicide prevention, anger management, family communication and conflict resolution.

I notice you’ve green lit for participation in Pride 2014 the Ontario English Catholic Teachers Association (OECTA) and Israeli Apartheid. These groups are entitled to their perspective, but they are undeniably provocative and political. We find it incredible that our organization should be singled out despite our mandate committing us to equality for all Canadians.

We are very disappointed that we haven’t been given any notice of your concerns or any opportunity to address them. We feel this is not consistent with the open minded, inclusive and diverse movement which we know you represent. Therefore we would formally request a meeting with yourself and other members of the Pride executive or Board as soon as possible so that we can get a deep understanding of your concerns and be given a chance to respond. We are confident we can resolve this misunderstanding to everyone’s satisfaction.

Pride had several weeks to review our application but revoked our permit only four days before the event, after thousands of dollars were spent by our organization to prepare our contingent. We believe this should entitle us at the very least to a conversation that might lead to an amicable solution and certainly couldn’t hurt.

Both Christin Milloy and Susan Gapka know me, and that I have been openly living as trans for years. While I do not see eye to eye with them on certain issues, I am certain that they can assure you that I have been an advocate for Trans-folk for a long time and would not be working with an organization that wasn’t committed to the mission, vision and values of Pride.

Genna (wheelchair) Ross



Letters of Support

From Eleanor Levine:

I am a proud member of CAFE and also a member of the Advisory Board.

I work in the Factor-Inwentash Faculty of Social Work. I work with graduate students as Faculty-Field Liaison. This past year I supervised 21 students, 21 Host supervisors and 3 Field Educators. I will continue this work in the year 2014 – 2015. I have also worked in the Departments of Psychiatry at Stanford University in Palo Alto and in Toronto at the UHN – Toronto General Hospital and Toronto Western Hospital. I worked in Psychiatry, in-patient and out-patient in The Women’s Clinic. I am very experienced in working with women with an enormous array of problems. My current work is at The University of Toronto and I have a private practice. I feel a deep commitment to CAFE for its excellent work in helping men and boys with an array of problems. I am aware of the suicide rates of young men and of the drop-out rate from school, including University. I am aware that there is a dearth of agencies to help boys, men and fathers. CAFE sponsors educational seminars of a very high caliber. Academic leaders speak at these meetings. They also do research and their work is published in noted peer-reviewed journals.

CAFE is trying to help men. This group is an equal-opportunity group. Women are respected and never disparaged. This dedicated group is about human rights for all. And justice for all. I am 74 years old. Doing academic work and therapy. I have a husband, 3 married sons and 7 grandchildren. I live a rich life and I have a lot of experience both person and professional in understanding people, both men and women. I cannot stress enough to you how dedicated CAFE Directors, Advisors and Members are to helping people, all people to have a loving and peaceful life. You need to know that that includes acceptance of and respect for genders and sexual orientation. Please reconsider your current decision. CAFE is an honorable group which is doing excellent work for all women and men Thank you

Eleanor Levine, BA, MSW, RSW

From Alan Fournier:

Good afternoon, I am a gay man and a member of CAFE. There are many of us, both male and female, in the LGBT community that are proud of our involvement in men’s issues. Pride Toronto is on the wrong side of history on this one. If you want to create a deep schism within the LGBT community, your off to a good start. Please make no mistake, this will explode in your faces Most Sincerely, Alan Fournier

From Ryan Dinsmore

Hi Jaime, I find your decision to revoke the Canadian Association for Equality’s (CAFE) permit to participate in the Toronto Pride parade troubling. I am writing you as a member of the executive committee of CAFE. As a person who identifies with a diverse LGBT and aboriginal community, I am confused by your rationale to revoke CAFE’s permit. I have found CAFE to be nothing but a diverse and inclusive organization and feel that further explanation is needed to demonstrate how CAFE contravenes “the spirit of the mission, vision and values of Pride Toronto and WorldPride.” CAFE is a registered charity dedicated to addressing issues facing boys, men and families, regardless of ethnicity or sexual orientation. CAFE’s message is inclusive and the diversity of CAFE’s membership base speaks to the organization’s non-judgmental openness to all people. I am a psychotherapist in Toronto and have been working with CAFE to establish the Canadian Centre for Men and Families, an inclusive centre dedicated to counselling, suicide prevention, anger management, family issues and peaceful conflict resolution. I have seen CAFE validated and embraced by a number of social service agencies in Toronto, as well as a diverse population of different cultures, ethnicities, genders, classes and ages. In my personal experience with CAFE, I have found that the organization embodies many of Pride Toronto’s values. In the spirit of openness and respect, I feel we would all benefit from a greater explanation of Pride Toronto’s decision to revoke CAFE’s permit to participate in Pride. I also respectfully ask Pride Toronto to reconsider it’s decision. Thank you for your time, Ryan Dinsmore, M.Ed., CCC

From Mike Murphy

I find it ironic PRIDE Toronto is revoking the permit of a charitable organisation, focused on equality for all, particularly the role of men, boys, and families, while allowing those who have a visceral hate for Israel to participate in the parade. The message you are sending is one of incoherence and intolerance yet you are demanding tolerance from others. I believe you need to reconsider this ill thought out decision no doubt instigated by some very spiteful people with the wrong information about CAFE. Is PRIDE now following the example that Rob Ford shows toward it? That is not a rhetorical question.

From Charles-A. R.

Hello: This is email is to address my deepest concerns to the Pride Toronto organization. Are gay people turning their back on citizens fighting a similar struggle : having their rights recognized as fathers and men in our society, the same way gay and queer people have struggled (still are) for their own rights….? Or would it be because these people are heterosexual??? Very inclusive attitude…. Maybe remember your own roots and struggles. My second question is : how does this group contravene the mission of the pride movement? Please advise. Regards, Charles-A. R., Toronto

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CAFE’s Full Email to Kevin Beaulieu, Pride Executive Director

1. CAFE was planning to incorporate the following material in our contingent:

– coloured t-shirts in all the colours of the pride flag rainbow, with the CAFE name/logo and website (please see the attached photos). We were planning to have about 15-20 participants wearing the different colour shirts so that the contingent as a group represented the rainbow

– a banner would be held with the organization name/logo and website

– we would wear buttons/stickers featuring various imagery, which I have attached. These buttons are all gender neutral with the exception of Button7 and Button8, one of which is a female symbol and the other a male symbol. The idea with those would be for the same person to wear them both

2. Mandate: The mandate as provided on our website and communication materials opens with our basic values:

“The Canadian Association for Equality is committed to achieving equality for all Canadians, regardless of sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, family status, race, ethnicity, creed, age or disability. In particular, we are interested in gender equality, that is on achieving equality for all men, women, girls and boys.”

We then explain that while supporting all efforts at gender equality, our current focus is on the status, health and well-being of boys and men because of the decision that was reached that with limited resources we wanted to make a unique contribution in an area where it was felt that attention, investment and support for educational and social programs was underdeveloped compared to the seriousness of the issues and under-explored compared to other important areas of social improvement. I want to be clear that this is in no way to detract from the efforts of women’s rights and LGBT rights organizations. We do not see equality as a zero sum game and we aim to work collaboratively with those who may have different priorities.

You asked for us to demonstrate the sincerity of that mandate. That is a fair question. I believe the best answer is to point to the diversity of our organizational membership, with women, members of the LGBT community and folks of very diverse ethnic and racial backgrounds, including First Nations and Metis people, involved at every level of our organization. You have seen some evidence of this just with emails sent to your office in the last day (at least based on the copies I’ve seen).This would not be possible if we were in fact hiding an angry misogynist or homophobic agenda, which would become quickly apparent to these individuals. I would encourage you to ask these folks why they are working with CAFE.

I want to elaborate on the matter of female involvement in CAFE. Our female spokespeople include Heidi Nabert who helps divorced fathers reconnect with their children and Eleanor Levine who is a member of the Factor-Inwentash Faculty of Social Work at U of T and worked in psychiatry in The Women’s Clinic. Several of the campus-based men’s issues awareness societies with which we have sponsored events have been led by female students. This includes Veronica Kay who founded the Guelph Men’s Issues Awareness Society and is an active member of CAFE’s Research committee due to her interest in men’s mental health and suicide prevention. This includes two young women who attempted to co-found (along with a male student) a men’s issues group at Ryerson University.

http://theeyeopener.com/2013/ 03/rsu-rejects-mens-group-on- campus/ . This includes Egi Troka who founded the York University Men’s Issues Awareness Society and served for two years on CAFE’s Board of Directors in the position of Campus Outreach Director.

CAFE also runs an LGBT Committee, chaired by Genna Ross, a long-time advocate for transgender rights and the rights of the disabled.

3. Our activities:

There are credible precedents for the work that we do with respect to our three priority areas 1. boys’ education, 2. men’s health and 3. fathers and families. Our work on the education of boys is consistent with efforts currently underway in the Ministry of Education and the TDSB in response to challenges facing boys in our schools. Our work with fathers and men’s health is mirrored by new services being offered in response to the acknowledged lack of adequate mental health services for men, in particular fathers (consider this recent story in the Globe and Mail:

“When it comes to mental health, men – particularly young fathers – have been largely overlooked, with most of the treatment and services focused on women and new mothers.” http://www.theglobeandmail. com/life/health-and-fitness/ health/website-to-help- hesistant-dads-tackle-mental- health-woes/article19147646/)