When did you realize that you were gay?

"I began to think about this when I was 18, but I know that stuff was happening in my head when I was about 5. At first I really prayed to god that I did not have this problem as I was already a woman, black and disabled, so I had enough to deal with."

Who knows?

"Some close friends in my hometown. My best friend had some problems with it. We spent a few months not talking. But since then, I am the president of the LGBTQ association, so it's impossible to not know that. My family does not know."

What do you think will happen?

"I think we will not see each other for a long time after that. I think I will not be in touch with my parents and my family anymore. My parents will ask me to not make a lot of noise about it because in the Congolese community a lot of people talk. Family is important. They don't like anything about marginal people and its important to be normal. For them, this is not normal."