Who else has found mom facebook groups to be more hurtful than helpful?

Why do you think moms are so judgmental in these groups?

There are groups for things like breastfeeding support, natural/holistic parenting, babywearing, and several other generic groups where you can go to vent about all things parenting. They're mostly private or closed groups, so no one else can see them but the members of the group.At first I thought I had struck a gold mine when I joined. I can now connect with people who have similar goals, values, and mindsets as my own. I can ask questions that I am too afraid to ask my facebook friends or I can simply tell the groups things I know won't resonate with my other mom friends.But soon I started to see a pattern. Whenever I had a concern or wanted to ask an opinion on a choice I was making, I wasn't just getting help. I was getting sanctimonious responses that made me feel bad. I noticed that instead of people answering questions, they wanted to include their two cents about others' lifestyles and choices. It was often hard to differentiate between those who meant well and those who didn't.Here is the basic structure of a mom group thread:1. Answer to question2. Answer to question3. Answer to question4. Answer to question + Why are you choosing to partake in the irrelevant detail?5. The irrelevant detail is none of your business, although she shouldn't have included it in the post.6. I think it's awesome that she does that irrelevant detail! Go you!7. Answer to question8. You guys are all idiots. The answer is obviously ___9. You are clearly the idiot, look at your profile picture!10. Wow, I can't believe how much prejudice there is in this group, I'm leaving!!11. 17 more people partake in the irrelevant dramaYou see, the "specialty" groups are always going to be extreme. It's one way or the highway. If you are in a natural/holistic parenting group and you vaccinate, you will be asked several times why you even joined the group. And even if it's not a specialty group; the bigger the group, the more chance there is that there's going to be drama. Don't even get me started on how time consuming they can be. When I put my daughter down for the night, I would grab my phone and scroll through the feeds of these groups and just read all the nonsense. It was like watching a reality tv show. And finally I decided that I could be using that time so much better. I could be reading, or working on a craft, or learning a new language.So I quit all of these groups. I then joined some small groups where I knew there'd be a good energy. I made sure they were under 200 people. I want all the spaces in my life to be positive and encouraging. Now that I have less facebook groups to run to, if I have a mom question, I will be more inclined to reach out to real life mom friends as well as my own mom.