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In a revealing interview about her past one of Britain’s youngest transgender patients has said she doesn’t tell one night stands that she was once a man.

Defiant Deana O’Riordan, who now lives in Exeter, believes it is none of her conquests’ business what sex she was born.

She suffered from psychological torment at being male throughout her childhood and even tried to cut off her own penis aged six.

But after having a full gender change four years ago on the NHS, the Devon barmaid is now enjoying living life as a woman.

And that also includes taking lovers who are not necessarily told she was born a male called Dean.

Some have reacted angrily after finding out later, but Deana says it isn’t their right to know.

The 25-year-old said in an interview that has been printed in several national newspapers : “I’ve been with guys who have not known about it.

“Obviously if I did date a guy and things were getting more intense I would tell them because it’s a part of my life, but if I’m just having fun like a normal girl would in their 20s, then I don’t have to explain myself.

“Afterwards, one of them said ‘why didn’t you tell me?’ and I said ‘I don’t come with a manual’.

“You met me for who I am, if you don’t like it, you know where the door is.

“I’ve gotten to this place in my life now.

“If a guy can’t accept me for me completely, why would I want to be with him?

“There’s no difference physically between me and a girl.

“If they can’t tell the difference, why should I tell them?”

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Deana is one of Britain’s youngest full reassignment patients, undergoing the op in January 2013, the month before she turned 21.

She had a boyfriend that she lived with for two-and-a-half years, and told him not long after they began dating.

He was fine with it and she lost her virginity to him aged 22 after her gender change surgery.

But after they split up, Deana had a series of one night stands as she explored her female sexuality.

She says a couple knew beforehand and never brought it up, while she failed to mention it to the others.

Now she says she won't be telling guys in the future if she takes them home.

She said: “I was in a long term relationship and lost my virginity when I was 22 with my first boyfriend.

“When I told him, he looked at me and said it didn’t matter, he loved me for who I was.

"We were together for two-and-a-half years.”

After they split up, Deana decided to play the field as a woman for the first time in her life.

“I’ve gotten myself into situations where I have had one night stands, I’ve had fun.

“Some of them knew and some of them didn’t.

“The first guy I slept with after my boyfriend was a friend so he knew.

“Then I got caught up in an affair with someone which was awful. He knew. He dropped hints about it, but never discussed it, so obviously he didn’t care.

“But others didn’t know and couldn’t tell.”

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Deana had known something was wrong since she was a tot.

Fortunately her parents were understanding, allowing her to wear girl’s clothes and play with dolls.

She was also born with an ‘intersex condition’ which means her body produced barely any testosterone.

As a teenage boy, her voice never broke, she never developed any facial hair, was infertile, never went through puberty and even had breasts.

She was certain the condition meant she was simply a girl who happened to be born with a penis.

Deana suffered years of horror at being male, leading her to self harm and even to attempt suicide.

She once even bathed in a bath of bleach to try and cleanse herself of her masculinity.

At 16 she began taking female hormones.

Deana said: “Throughout my whole life I was living in limbo.

“My family were very open-minded. They never judged me at all.

“It wasn’t like one morning I woke up and decided to have the surgery.

“I’d lived like this my whole life. That’s how I grew up.

“When you know, you just know.

“There was one incident when I was six or seven. I tried to get a pair of scissors to cut my penis off, fortunately my mum’s friend saw and grabbed hold of them.

“I was close to doing it. I remember it like it was yesterday.”

Later on, a child psychologist probing her gender issues asked her why she always drew mermaids, to which she replied: “Because they don’t have penises and I want to be like that.”

“It was a long hard battle,” Deana admits.

“Obviously how I felt on the inside was that I am a girl, but I had a penis so it was horrible.

“It caused me so much distress. I felt like being a boy was a curse that was put upon me.

“If someone said ‘good boy’ or my birthname Dean I would throw a tantrum and hold my breath.

“That just wasn’t who I was. That was from five years old - it’s always been with me.”

The operation saw Deana’s penis turned inside out and made into a vagina. She now has sex just like any other girl.

After that, she also shelled out for a £4k boob job to take her from a small B to a D cup, something she feels strongly the NHS should have paid for. She also has to pay £8 a month for hormones.

And despite getting lots of attention as a barmaid and waitress, Deana says she isn’t currently interested in having a boyfriend.

Instead she hopes to become a dancer.

She also did a full photoshoot after her op to finally unveil her female body, something she says finally proves she loves the skin she's in.

She added: “I get loads of male attention but I can’t be bothered.

“I don’t have time to date guys right now. Even sex right now, I just don’t care.

“I’m focused on myself.”