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I get asked all the time if I think that my generation of women can have it all.

The question itself is infuriating because what they mean is can a woman have a job, a partner and a family. Having it all seems a pretty low bar. When I was a little girl I dreamed of being a leader, an explorer, or seeing the world and feeling every emotion in bright technicolour. Having it all for a woman is essentially having exactly what men have always expected as the norm. It is pretty basic.

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That said, I do recognise for women today we have better opportunities than my mum had. Generations of feminists have fought for better childcare options, equal pay and services to protect women from violence at home and work. Things are better and we should pay tribute to the trailblazing women who went before.

I know that those trailblazing women, like the suffragettes, like the pilloried women of the 1960s and the women who opened the first women’s refuges in the 1970s would not want me to swoon with gratitude for how far we’ve come, they would want me to keep on demanding more.

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Domestic and sexual violence are now far less socially acceptable than they used to be. But polling has shown that many in the general public think the #metoo movement has gone too far, somewhat suggesting we still think women should have to put up with a certain level of sexual harassment at work without complaint. Rape convictions remain low between 2-4% and still two women are murdered every week at the hands of a partner or family member in the UK. Attitudes have not shifted far enough or fast enough to actually keep women safe.

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Where I work huge progress has been made, with women representing now a third of all Members of Parliament, unthinkable 30 years ago. I’ll get out the party poppers and shake the champagne when it is 50% and not before! Yes the world has changed. Yes we should cheer, but when I look around at work, it is still the women having to be just that bit more brilliant to get ahead, it is the women who receive the most abuse, violence and hatred and it is still the women who get asked, ‘How do you cope being an MP and having kids?’ I will have it all when they ask Jacob Rees-Mogg that question not me. After all he’s got a bloody football team’s worth of kids – mind you, he also has a woman to look after them…

One Woman’s Truth About Speaking The Truth by Jess Phillips is out now, £8.99 published by Cornerstone.