I’ll let you in on a little secret. I don’t like small talk. I find myself having to do it more than I’d like. It’s very easy. But you can actually be good at something that you don’t like doing. Small talk is boring because its filler. Tiny bits and pieces of information that, to be honest, you can find out for yourself without even asking the other person. Don’t you just hate questions like:

How’s the weather?

Most cell phones have that info right on the starter screen.

How are you?

I hate that question with every fiber of my being. I always assume that it’s an invitation to actually talk. Open up. But most people just want a reflex answer.

“I’m fine”. “Okay”. “Good, how are you?“.

What do you do for a living?

That is what Facebook is for, but it’s not as bad as “Why don’t you have a job?”.

You always wonder if the truth–that you’re unable to work–is the best thing to say.



Another blow to your self-esteem.



And other small talk questions regarding status, love, careers and keeping up with The Jones and etc. Who are the Joneses anyway?

Why can’t people ask questions like this:

What’s your biggest fear?

What’s the wildest, craziest dream you’ve ever had?

Name one person, dead or alive, you’d love to meet.

I see you like The Sims? 3 or 4? Maybe 2? Do you like number 1? Then the 2 of two of you can debate over which is best. Or geek out over your shared love of Sims 3.

You both can happily complain about how you both hate math with a fiery passion.

Name your favorite actor. What do you like about him or her? Favorite movie of theirs?

Have all of your dreams come true? None? Some of them? Me too.

I wanna know you. I want you to know me. Let’s really get to know each other.

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The small talk can wait.This how many auties prefer to communicate. Ditch the small talk and go right for the meaty stuff. But this frightens most NTs. I never knew why. Maybe what they need is time?Hmm…Well, that’s my nonsensical rant this week. Feel free to comment and see you next week.