It is no surprise that if you want to achieve something in life, you need to go after it and trust in the process. Whether it be starting a new business, investing in your physical health or mastering a new skill, all of these goals have one thing incommon - an increased risk of failure. This is the turning point between what makes a man High-Value and what makes him Low-Value: Having the courage to keep going despite the setbacks.

Characteristics of a man of high value

You want to become a High-Value man? Do the opposite of the man who is perceived low value. It is not the success that makes a man high value but it is the mindset that makes him that way. He needs to:

Invest in himself but not forget others — It is important to invest in yourself. It is also true that you are your number one investment but you need to be able to invest in other people as well and increase their value. These people could be friends, family, strangers or lovers. However, It is important to note, According to some research conducted by the University of Amsterdam, if you give your lover too much value than she is worth, your value in her will drop, she will lose attraction for you, walk all over you, be dissmisive or rude and eventually pull away from you.(Luckily the high value man has an abundance mentality and knows that in just a couple a weeks, a new lover will take her place if she doesn’t change her tune). Never give too much value, balance in life is always key.

Have an abundance mentality — Maintaining this mentality is key if this type of man is to keep his frame intact. While a man of low value comes from a mindset of scarcity and as a result thinks that he cannot be any better, the opposite type of man knows that if he has a setback in life(whether it be a rejection or a missed job opportunity), another opportunity will arise elsewhere.

Never settle for anything less than what he wants and go after it — This is probably the most important factor of them all. If you want to project high value, then you need to be able to go after what you want and never settle for anything less than what you what. Embrace your inner masculinity. Anything less than what you want is a horrible deal.

Never seek validation from anyone — The hardest one to do as we are social creatures and rely on our peers to feel validated. Rest assured that the man of high value is already socially validated. You don’t even need to worry about this one.

Be fun, light, playful and dont be rude— Now reading this you may assume that I am an advocate for being rude (infact being rude just signals low value to everyone around you). Go after what you want but don’t take yourself too seriously. Remain fun, light and playful to the people who interact with. Compassion goes a long way.

To Chris the Psychologist and mentor-like figure who has changed my perception on the world through his work and continued dedication to the men on their journey in life, my utmost gratitude to you. In your own words,

Follow the path of strength,

Stay strong and trust the process,

Mwape.