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A journalist and writer says he refuses to give up his seat for women when he's on a train - claiming a woman has never given up her seat for him.

Nirpal Dhaliwal, 45, said men are paying the same fare as women and after a "long day at work" they are "knackered" and deserve to sit down and rest.

He asked: "If she's physically able, why should I give up my seat for her?"

Mr Dhaliwal, from London, appeared on ITV's Good Morning Britain on Wednesday to debate whether feminism is "killing off" chivalry.

He claimed men are "confused" by the modern rules of chivalry.

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It was a topic on the programme after an American writer and poet told how she refused to let a man help her with her luggage on a plane, describing it as a "calculated act of resistance".

Mr Dhaliwal said men shouldn't be chivalrous if they are going to be told off.

He said: "If a woman is able bodied, why should I? Guys pay for the train ticket as much as women do.

"They have a long day at work, they're knackered and if she's physically able, why should I give up my seat for her?

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"Guys are getting their heads bitten off or getting an earful just for helping and that's confusing for guys. The urge to be nice is there."

He added: "It's a one way street. A woman has never given up her seat for me that's even when I've had a football injury and I've been limping down the carriage.

"I've never had a woman offer me a seat, open a door for me, pull out out a chair for me, nothing."

He said he would offer his seat to a woman who is pregnant or suffering a health or physical problem.

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He joked: "There's so much palaver. I would help but I'd probably ask them to sign a consent form."

Noreen Khan, a BBC Asian Network presenter and comedian who took part in the debate, said she never expects a man to give up his seat for her, and she would happily accept help from a man.

She said feminism and chivalry can "co-exist", and such an act wouldn't contradict her feminist values.

She added: "I consider myself a feminist and I would never be offended if a man was chivalrous. If he decides to open the door for me or says would you like help with your luggage, I'd say 'yes please' even If I haven't asked for it.

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"I think the two can co-exist. chivalry and feminism."

She also said: "I think it's quite rude if a guy decides to help you and for you to say, no thank you.

"Whenever I go on a train, I never expect a man to give up his seat for me."

New York-based writer and poet Caroline Rothstein's recent tweet about a man who tried to help her with her luggage sparked the debate.

She wrote: "Saying, 'No thank you, I got it,' to the middle-aged white man on the airplane who offered - and began - to take my suitcase out of the overhead compartment for me was a quickly calculated act of resistance."

Her tweet had more than 32,000 replies as she was accused of being rude and criticised for the tone of the tweet and mentioning the man's skin colour.

Ms Rothstein later tweeted: "My Tweet was meant to be tongue and cheek but wow did folks take it to a whole other height, pun intended."