This is too much.

Can someone help me?

Some Jugendamts assist parents in finding a spot. However, because of the current situation most of them stopped this service.

There are Kita Consultants who basically will do the above process for you for a fee. We don’t list kita consultants because we can’t verify their services. You may find them in relevant facebook groups offering their services.

We feel your pain - don’t panic. You’re in the same boat as thousands of other parents. The best we can do is recommend you either hire someone to do this for you; or you grind it out using the process above.