On one hand, this is true—anxiety is a universal biological reaction. “Fear and anxiety are natural processes that are part of life,” says Joseph LeDoux, PhD, a neuroscientist and director of the Emotional Brain Institute at New York University. Both fear and anxiety protect us and motivate us. “The student who doesn’t worry about an exam isn’t going to do as well. You need a little bit of worry,” he says.

But on the other hand, it’s a fallacy to compare your "normal" temporary anxieties to the pervasive and chronic anxieties of someone with an anxiety disorder. Their worries are more intense, interfere with their ability to perform daily life tasks, and their symptoms are often difficult to manage without help.

Say instead: "You seem really anxious, that must feel awful. I'm always here for you—what can I do to help?"

This is a gentle but direct offer of support. It conveys the message, I see you, I'm here to listen and here to help.