G’day folks, I know this is the holidays Hanukah starts on December 20th, Christmas is in 15 days, New Years in 21. Well statistically folks, more people will commit suicide in the next 22 days than in the rest of the year combined. I have, unfortunately lost more than my share of dear friends to suicide to a variety of reasons and the one thing all their family said was “suicide ?we didn’t see it coming they were depressed for months but they seemed to suddenly be happy for the last few days”. It is, a clinical fact that people who contemplate suicide for a long period of time and then set the date and decide it’s going to happen become at peace with themselves, they will suddenly tell everyone they’re loved, pay debts,give away belongings and just be happy they are at peace with their decision.

Their family relaxes , breathes a sigh of relief thinking they have weathered the storm and then they find them one day, Birthdays Christmas, anniversaries of all kinds are more likely to be the day someone commits suicide than any other day of the year.

I lost my kids to an ex almost two decades ago to a bullshit court who equated being gay to being a child molester, so I lost my babies their 22 and 18 but haven’t been in the same room since he baby was still in diapers. The two times I did something to myself years ago was at Christmas, when my presents to them were sent back return to sender. If you have someone in your life who suffers depression, or just went through a bad custody decision or a divorce also new retirees and people who just became widowed after a lifetime with their spouse, pay attention don’t hover but for god sake don’t desert them for the holidays.

Every Christmas dinner with family has a crazy aunt, a grandparent with dementia a teen who is a little weird ,we put up with them, but so often avoid that brother, sister aunt or uncle or just a friend who is medicated for mental illness or is always crying,after all who wants a downer at Christmas. Well folks finding your best friend swinging or in the bathtub lifeless will really ruin your holiday and your life, when years from now you wonder what you could have done different .Even if you just visit on the way to mums house or bring them presents and left overs on the way home, be a friend this holiday season be a brother a son a nephew a niece, hell be a decent human and care while you still can. Crying hurts more when the one you love is not here to tell you to stop. Merry Christmas Happy Kwanza, Happy Hanukah, enjoy the family, all of them you’ll be glad you did when they’re here for next Christmas.

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