

I think INFPs tend of them of themselves in really pretty terms: idealistic, romantics, sweet. Well, this airy-fairy, poor babe in the woods image is kinda of a misjudgement cause, INFPs are really:

1)pretty narcissistic or selfcentred

2)irritatingly whiny and unable to give an opinion

3)tend to not make an effort in relationships

4)like things that are so esoteric nobody can make a conversation with them

5)sarcastic about things and too deprecating about themselves

-Visting INFPs forums and comparing them to say, INFJ forums, one can see an underlying, communistic pride which we judge harshly those different from our worldview. e.g. we are hurt by so-and-so from this type. I am probably guilty of such bias from time to time. We think people set out to hurt our feelings when they probably are more bothered with their own feelings (universal law).

-INFPs, in their not so mature teenhood, are irritatingly whiny over matters like people’s feelings, ethics. This can drive people mad cause sometimes leaders just want ideas that propel the project. You can try to encourage INFPs to speak up but they will either give you a ‘rabbit in headlights’ look or be stubbornly agreeable with everyone.

-INFPs tend to let more active friends decide on what to do, eat, or even frequency of contact. This can cause relationships to destruct from: boredom, lack of contact. Friends can go crazy trying to get an INFP to reply to an meeting. Lazers..

-INFPs, like all introvert intuitives, have hobbies that are so arty farty (one INFP ever told me he liked only non-famous bands, and did not like them when others knew about them), exotic (astrology, plamistry, MYER-BRIGGS haha, weird ways of piercing one’s anatomy) or so technical (programming, sound engineering, weird conspiracies) that other types don’t know how to respond to us.

-how can being deprecating be bad? well, for starters, not everybody thinks its a good thing as it can be a mark of low confidence. And being sarcastic can be INFPs way of dealing with authority or the world they perceive as harsh. Say something nasty that gets their goat, and watch the claws come out. One morose INFP I’ve know have quibbled on people’s dressing and their behaviour, marking out some loud, sociable girls as ‘cheerleaders’. I laughed at it cause it was funny in a way only INXX would understand.

But all being said, I still like being an INFP (rarely you would find one who hates being one anyway).