Freyd would like to see widespread condemnation for responses like R. Kelly’s, whether or not we believe the person is guilty. “You don’t have to respond this way; some people don’t. You can respond with dignity and humanity. You don’t have to attack the person; you can do it in a way that doesn’t shut down conversation.” She suggests an open conversation, even if a person believes the accusation is false. And she offers another idea, if the accuser knows he is guilty: “I know it’s really hard for people to do, but in theory, somebody could admit, ‘Yes, I did that. I’m horrified. What can I do now to make things better?’”