This dichotomy has been the foundation of countless jokes, and in “Hard Knock Wife,” Ms. Wong takes a jackhammer to it. When asked if there’s a generational difference between these two perspectives — Mr. Rock is 53 — she agreed. “That’s also speaking to who he is — and there’s a lot of people who can identify with that,” she said, adding that among her friends’ relationships, most of the women make more money than the men.

Growing up in the Bay Area with a Vietnamese mother and a Chinese-American father, Ms. Wong was not a comedy nerd but she vividly remembers her family crowding around the television set in 1994 to watch the premiere of Margaret Cho’s “All-American Girl,” the first network sitcom about an Asian-American family. There hadn’t been another until the current ABC series “Fresh Off the Boat,” for which Ms. Wong wrote.

There have been signs of a growing Asian-American comedy audience, said the stand-up Sheng Wang, who points to the success of the popular U.C.B. variety show “Asian AF” in both Los Angeles and New York as well as that of Ms. Wong. “Her comedy reaches a huge audience and it doesn’t feel like it’s selling out,” Mr. Wang said. “That’s meaningful to this audience.”

When asked why there have been so few Asian stand-up stars, Ms. Wong hesitated, avoiding the question. At another point she noted that Asians are stereotyped as not funny, even among other Asians. “They have internalized that their own people are not funny,” she said, adding that some have told her they didn’t think she would be good.

When it comes to her comic sensibility, she pointed to her father. “Asians are known for being obsessed with saving face, but when my dad had to pass gas, he didn’t care,” she said. “In the quietest, most inappropriate places, in a church or a library or during someone’s speech, he would rip it up. It was kind of great comedic timing.”

When her father died around a decade ago, she started thinking about family differently. “Before my dad passed away, I would miss a lot of baby showers and weddings, sacrificed a lot of family and friend events for dumb road dates,” she said. “I don’t do that anymore. It’s gone in the other direction. I’m more inclined to put family and friends first.”