The first time women witness patriarchy is via fatherhood. By their “fathers”. That is the first man that will hurt you. Dehumanize you. That is the first man you will make excuses for. That is the first man you witness take down the tower of your life that is your mother. That is the first man you will blindly believe in. That’s the first man you will give female attributes to, saying he’s kind, and loving, trying to apply the humanity that exists inside of yourself onto this male, because maybe deep down you know, you understand, that if you admit he is male, then all men are too. Then you’ll have to admit that its all a lie. That is the first abusive relationship you will be in, that is the first in the long line of men that you will forgive.

Your “father” is the first man that men and their minion ladies will weaponize to shut down your feminism.

“Daddy’s girl” is the first type of handmaidenry you will be socialized into.

Whenever I see women who are attached to maleness who are loyal to males and defend them, they’re always “daddy’s girl”. Really, to them men as a class are extensions of their fathers; their allegiance to maleness is an extension of their servitude to fatherhood. They see men as the ones who rape and abuse them, but are still good, they’re still kind, because that’s their daddy. As if that means anything.

You cannot ever ever be liberated from maleness until you start where it began, with your father.

And when you see women that stan for males they will always use their fathers as an example of how to Stockholm syndrome yourself into thinking maleness is okay.