Note from Darius: this is a guest article from social confidence coach Manny Blake from “Nice Guys With an Edge“. Since the launch of SSfJ I wrote quite a few guest articles on other sites like GirlsChase, Blackdragonblog, Kinobody, RealMenRealStyle and others, so it really gives me pleasure to share Manny’s work with you guys.

The article focuses on the fundamentals of your interactions with women from body language to story-telling to leading and much more. The reason why I really enjoyed this piece is that Manny does not only explain the importance of having your fundamentals covered but also offers practical, easy-to-implement strategies on how you can hone and practice these skills.

And now, let’s give the stage to Manny.

There’s a hot sexy brunette with a banging body standing outside Starbucks. The desire is eating you up inside and you want to pull the trigger so bad, but you lose your focus on the skillset which causes you to do an uncomfortable approach with desperate body language that weirds the shit out of the girl and fucks up the entire interaction.

This has happened to every man on earth and this happens because in the heat of the moment, when emotions are running high, we forget the big picture.

The Importance Of Fundamentals

When developing your game, emotions and ego desires tend to take over the mind which causes discomfort in your body that makes the transparency of your “agenda” clear to women. This causes the lack of connection to develop with a woman when the emotions hit our bodies, regardless of what we are saying.

And so, when interacting with attractive women, how can we stay comfortable in our bodies and in control of our emotions? We are creatures of habit and we tend to be repetitive with our habits naturally.

If you are running a 10K, you will train your body to be ready for the marathon by eating healthy, running a few miles a day on the treadmill or outside, getting adequate sleep, and visualizing yourself running the marathon.

To implement training for game, you must implement the fundamentals in becoming socially fit. The main fundamentals include body language, eye contact, story-telling, teasing, vocal tonality, physical escalation, and leading.

Now imagine constantly working on the fundamentals in improving your game, you are then able to keep your emotions intact with gorgeous women.

Even if you don’t necessarily land the attractive girl, the idea is to be focused on the OUTCOME of the ACTUAL skill-set you are working on, NOT THE OUTCOME of getting the one girl.

The question is, how do you practice the fundamentals that can sharpen your skills during an interaction?

How The Fundamentals Keep Your Skills Sharp

Practicing the fundamentals is the key to developing any type of skillset. Most guys that learn about attracting women tend to have an unrealistic “magic pill” mindset, thinking that “if I say this” or “I do that”, I will then “get the girl”. But when “it doesn’t work”, they either blame themselves, someone else, or the actual advice/information given, when in fact most guys don’t break down and practice the true fundamentals to increase their odds.

It’s a numbers game vs. our game and as our social era has evolved into an information/digital age; we at heart, still look for connection with another human being. However, our expectations continuously rise because “everything is supposedly easier to achieve”.

Most of us desire results quickly and lack the patience to really work on ourselves by building the foundation of the necessary habits to attract women.

Emotions indefinitely get in the way, and as men we get angry or bitter when we feel a certain way which creates an inner-conflict. This can lead to our lack of focus from our goals which can frustrate the process.

We wish for a “magic pill”, but the truth of the matter is, you must learn how to condition yourself by taking the right action which can help strengthen your repertoire.

How To Practice The Fundamentals Of Game

So what exactly are the fundamentals and how can we really strengthen them to increase our odds?

As explained before, the main fundamentals are body language, story-telling, teasing, physical escalation, eye contact, and leading.

But as our brains can only process a certain amount of information so when learning a new habit, we tend to easily get overwhelmed with so much information. The idea is to focus on one specific skill-set at a time and accomplish a small-picture goal until it becomes engrained in you.

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