Why Don't Women Like Shy Guys?

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While it might seem like women want the confident guy who thinks he's God's gift to womankind, many ladies prefer the quiet guy that listens more than he speaks — and thinks twice before speaking at all. This is partly true; shyness can be attractive, but of course, too much of anything is never good.

Perhaps you were the shy guy who always sat at the back of the class, or the timid type who only spoke when spoken to. The shy guy never really got the girl in school — it was the jock who was crowned homecoming king.

shy guys can be fly

But once the shy guy matured, he may have found that women were drawn to him. Surprising? The appeal of a shy gentleman could lend itself to the intrigue he possesses; the less he says about himself, the more mysterious he seems. And the quiet guy standing alone at the bar could come across as a lone ranger, stopping in for a drink before hopping back onto his steed.

Women also like the challenge of cracking open the reserved guy. We know there's a wild animal lurking inside that innocent physique, and we want to be his tamer. It's common for women to take pride in successfully breaking a guy out of his shell and making him wild for her eyes only.

Shyness can also come across as modesty, as the bashful guy tends to lay low in a crowd and avoids being the center of attention. But while shyness can be "adorable" and appealing to the opposite sex, it can also become downright annoying after a while.

shy? please, goodbye!

Besides the ladies who are jerk magnets, most women don't want an overconfident, cocky man when it comes to a serious relationship, nor do they want a man they have to take care of. But if shy men are intriguing, how could they not be all they're cracked up to be?

Never makes the first move

Women want their guys to ask them out, plan the evening and kiss them when they least expect it — in short, take chances. I know going out on a limb and risking rejection is frustrating, but you'll get nowhere fast if you refuse to make that first move. In addition to a lack of initiative, shy people generally tend to be more passive, and a man who's indifferent about everything and always aims to please can become annoying, even with the best of intentions. Don't hesitate to state your opinions or objections, if you have any.

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