I’m still relatively new to rope play, but this was the first thing I learned after basic knots and restraints. It’s taught in Lee Harrington’s book, Shibari You Can Use, and I learned through online tutorials like this video by MsLadyWednesday and this variation by Lori. When I posted a photo of my first attempt, some of you seemed interested in a tutorial, so I spent a lot of time learning and practicing (and figuring out how to actually create a tutorial), and finally, here it is! Instructions for a secure, cute, fully functional strap-on rope harness.

If you prefer something with more written instructions and less 80s inspired music, that’s below!

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[A dildo harness fitted around the hips with a ladder of knots down the front, extending under the crotch, with a simple diamond-shaped formation of rope in the back.]

Supplies

Rope. The rope I use is 30 ft long, but depending on the person, you might need more or less.

You can buy gorgeous, quality rope from Twisted Monk and Smitten Kitten.

Sex toy with a base. I’m using the Tantus Echo here, which I got from the grab bag.

Some knowledge. No matter the type of rope activity, it’s important to know some basics to keep things safe. I suggest this fantastic guide by Lorax Of Sex.

Rope Prep



1. Find the center of your rope and fold in half so you have a loop at the mid-point.

** You can bundle the rope or leave it loose while tying. I find bundling easier for the first steps, when the untied rope is still long. It’s also a way to ensure you have enough space between your body and the rope, so it’s not too tight.

The “Belt”

2. Take the loop at the mid-point of the rope and hold it in front of your body similar to how you’d position a belt buckle. This could be at your natural waist or lower on your hips, whatever is most comfortable.

3. Wrap the running end of the rope around your body and pull through the loop.

4. With the tension against the loop, wrap the rope around your body again.

5. This creates a new loop like two intertwined U-shaped. Pull the rope through this new loop.

6. Pull the running end behind the belt you’ve created. Keep a loop of rope beneath the belt so you can pull the ends over the top and down through that loop.



The “T” Shape

7. Pull the running end between your legs, and under the rope belt in the back. Now your harness looks like an upper case “T”.

** If you have a toy with a hole in the base like the Fuze plugs, you can string them along these center ropes to add some play for the person wearing the harness.

8. Make a knot by pulling the running end over the ropes running up your butt, leaving a loop like you did in step 5. Pull the running end under then back over the butt rope and through the loop. Pull tight.

The Front Panel

This may look complicated, but it’s really just one repetitious knot like you’re showing your crotch some love with an elementary-school-style macrame friendship bracelet.



9. Pull the running end back between your legs, separating the two ropes, and pulling them up through the back of the belt on either side of the front knot.

10. Now you have 4 ropes, two in the middle and one on either side of those (with their ends hanging over top of the belt). Begin by taking one of the ends and passing it over then under the 4 ropes, leaving a loop to pass back through like in steps 5 and 7.

11. Pull so the ropes bunch together, but make sure they don’t twist on top of one another.

12. Repeat this with the second end, pulling the knot snug beneath the first one.

13. Repeat steps 10 and 11, alternating ends, until you reach a desired area where you want the base of your dildo to sit. I prefer the bottom edge to rest over my clitoris for added stimulation, but it’s a matter of preference, partner, and sexual position.



Securing The Dildo

14. Spread apart the 4 center ropes, two on each side. Insert the dildo, slipping the base underneath the ropes.

15. Pull one of the ends down around the dildo and tie the same knot used above the dildo: over the 4 ropes, under, and through the loop.

16. Repeat this with the other end.



Cock Support

You can do without these steps, leaving the harness as just a plain thong style, but I like doing these extra ties to add more stability.

17. Pull the ends around their respective sides of the body, threading them up under two of the four ropes running down your butt. Each end with pass under a different coupling of rope.

18. Pull the ends back around their respective sides of the body to the front again.

Finishing Touches



19. Continue the alternating knots down through the crotch area until the rope runs out. Tuck the rope ends under the crotch knots.

** This is an awesome time to get creative by tying in another dildo for double penetration, or tying in another dildo or anal toy for internal stimulation for the harness-wearer.

20. Go forth with your beautifully tied cock! Flying unicorns are optional.



If you try it out, let me know how it goes!

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