I want to lay this on the line before I get started:

My boyfriend Connor is 18. I'm 17, I turn 18 next month! I'm on birth control. I have no plans for kids in the future. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months. And my father KNOWS i'm sexually active with him.

For some reason I feel like lots of people love to say "wait until marriage for sex!" "You're too young!" blah blah blah!

I honestly feel like i'm mature enough to deal the consequences of sex. I know there's always a chance of pregnancy when you have sex, you're never 100% safe. If I did happen to have a baby, I wouldn't be surprised. I'd step up and be a Mom. I'm smarter than the average teenager, definitely.

But anyway, just some background information, I have a part time job, i'm an A and B student, and i'm currently enrolled in cosmetology school on the side.

I'm trying to say i'm resposible and I actually have plans for my future, but yet, my Dad doesn't seem to think so. I mean, he always tells me how proud he is of me and how happy I make him. But I do ONE thing "wrong" and all of a sudden he decides to be an asshole to me? I don't get it..

So, a few days ago, my boyfriend got off work and came over to my house. (My Dad dropped a bomb on me last week, he and my stepmom told me they wanted to move to Vancouver in a few months.. and I planned to talk to my boyfriend about it because I was keeping it from him. If they planned to move before graduation, I would have to enroll in a different high school.. and that wasn't about to happen.. No way.) So, I wanted to see if maybe Connor and I could discuss living together in his parents guest house after they moved. His parents have always loved me, and I hated to burden them, but at the same time, I didn't want to leave.

When Connor came over, my parents were leaving for dinner. My Dad asked who was coming over, and I told him the honest truth. "And you think that's okay with me?" was his response.

So, I said, "I don't care if you're here or not.. We have a serious talk. He's coming over."

My Dad decided to leave after giving me a brief talk. And I was alone.

After me and Connor discussed the living arrangement, we were in my bed.. One thing led to another.. We ended up having sex. (What a surprise!) When my Dad came home, Connor was fully clothed, and I was naked under the covers cuddling to him watching a movie.

My Dad walked in, WITHOUT knocking, and he was like: "Connor, it's almost 8." So, he took his cue to leave.. and then my Dad started shouting at me.

"THAT WAS SO DISRESPECTFUL! YOU'RE GROUNDED! I TOLD YOU NO SEX UNDER MY ROOF!" Stuff like that.

I shouted back at him.. "You act like i'm 14 years old sneaking around! I'm always honest with you! I told you he was coming and you allowed it! You were my age once, too! How funny is it now that you have a daughter? I'm on birth control! At least i'm having sex with someone who cares about me.." etc.

He was being so ignorant!

So, I packed a suitcase full of clothes, and I left to stay with my best friend Kate. I told him to go Vancouver with his wife, and leave me be. And we haven't talked at all since.

Bottom line is, I don't understand.. In my eyes, it wasn't disrespectful. If I had a daughter, or a son, and the situation was reversed, I honestly wouldn't care as long as they were safe, and did it in THEIR bedroom.. Not my bed, or the couch.

I don't get how i'm being treated like this, yet I manage to be responsible with my life. I know damn well my Dad was NOTHING like me when he was 17! And Connor is nothing like he was either! My Dad refuses to even give him a chance.. It pisses me off!

Some people say he just can't accept that i'm sexually active or about to become an adult.. but i'm not sure that's it.

Connor and I love each other. I'm pretty positive of that.. He apologized to my Dad over the phone since he was trying to avoid a fight.. and my Dad gave him the silent treatment. He just hung up.

Like, seriously? What is he? 5? Jesus Christ! Grow up!

I'm so sick of this! All I want a relationship with my Dad again.. One that doesn't involve arguing over something that isn't an issue.

Can any of you please explain why he's acting like this? Or, if you think i've done something wrong, do tell.

Greatly appreciated, and thanks for reading my rant!