Once each of you have answered all questions in a given category, you can then view all of your matches. For the sexual interests you aren’t a match on (in other words, the cases where one of you expresses interest and the other doesn’t), this information isn’t revealed.

In this way, the app lets you specifically hone in on your mutual interests, without exposing you to the risk of sharing an interest that your partner isn’t into. Fear that your partner won’t have the same interest (and might judge you for that) is really what holds a lot of people back from talking about their desires in the first place, so the goal of this app is to eliminate that worry and make it less intimidating to share your interests.

After you’ve reviewed your matches, you can select the ones you actually want to try out in real life and turn it into an erotic game. Specifically, once you populate the list of activities you both want to try, the app will randomly select one or more and present it in the form of a “command”—for example, “Taylor, talk dirty to Sam.”

Own Your Sex was designed to be inclusive of persons of diverse genders and sexualities. In perusing the app, I got the impression that it was made for anyone, regardless of their sexual or gender identity. For example, instead of the very first question on the app asking people to identify as male or female, the options instead are “you were born with, or have a penis” or “you were born with, or have a vagina.” A parallel question is then asked for your partner.

The app isn’t just made for couples, either. It can also be used in a sexually open or polyamorous relationship, given that you have the ability to add in multiple partners. Singles can also find use of the app with a casual or dating partner.

The app is free to download and included with the free version are three categories of questions: “warming up,” “getting busy,” and “kinky.” An extended version of the app is available for purchase for $4.99 that unlocks four additional question categories that get even more adventuresome.

The free version includes about 100 activities, and the paid version adds in 150 more.

To learn more about Own Your Sex and download a copy of the app, visit their website here.

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