GETTING engaged is no longer just about planning the big day as hen and stag dos are now bigger than ever.

Guests splash out a whopping £507 each on a pre-wedding party, on average, including at least £67 on clothes they will never wear again.

4 Zoe Field started planning her hen do as soon as she got engaged Credit: David Cummings - The Sun

And social media and celebs’ lavish hen dos are fuelling a rise in a new breed of “henzillas” who love to exert control over every detail of their extravagant dos.

Self-confessed henzilla Zoe Field, 32, rated her hen do more important than her wedding and uninvited guests for breaking rules.

The former hairdresser, who is from Scarborough, North Yorks, held her bash a month before she wed James Field in September 2016.

She says: “I didn’t set out to be so stressed about my hen do but that’s what it took to get me what I wanted.

“From the minute I got engaged I started planning my hen. The wedding came second.”

4 Zoe uninvited wedding guests because of their hen do behaviour

Zoe met builder James, 32, in January 2015 and he proposed eight months later.

She admits: “Just like some women know exactly what they want for their wedding before they’ve even got a boyfriend, I knew exactly what I wanted my hen do to be like.

“I originally had four bridesmaids but I didn’t have them organise the hen party.

“I had specific ideas about what I wanted and didn’t trust anyone else to do it. I’d never let anyone else plan my wedding day so why my hen do?”

Zoe's hen do rules Sequined swimsuits only

Abide by all dress codes

Itinerary is non-negotiable

No one allowed to complain for the whole weekend.

Everyone joins in with games

Latecomers fined £10

Everyone has to agree to the rules in writing

You must check your itinerary regularly

Everyone must smile in photos

If you continue to break the rules during the hen party you will be uninvited to the wedding

No one to wear the same colour as the bride

No skirts shorter than the bride’s

No sashes for anyone except the bride

Hangovers will not be tolerated

Zoe wanted so many different aspects to her hen do, she ended up having THREE events.

She says: “The first was a ‘sequin and sun’ Ibiza hen do.

“I picked five close friends plus my mum and gave them 12 months to save £600 for the three-night trip. I then booked flights, restaurants and clubs.

“I put down a £500 non-refundable deposit to secure the hotel and sent an email to tell everyone my plans. I was shocked by the response.

“Friends said it was too expensive, they didn’t like my rule that only sequinned swimsuits were allowed and didn’t think the hotel was necessary.

“I was forced to cancel the trip and I lost my £500 deposit. I was furious.

I WAS SHOCKED

“I invoiced each guest £100 and uninvited no-shows to the wedding, including one bridesmaid.

“I decided the only way forward was to get tough.”

The next try at a hen do was organised in York, with 16 guests, costing £300 each.

She says: “I organised a ‘black dresses and bad girls’-themed Saturday followed by a spa day Sunday.

“I made spreadsheets, sorted handmade invitations, planned dress codes and sent itineraries.

“This time, I also sent a list of rules. All dress codes had to be abided by or they wouldn’t be allowed to join in.

4 Zoe met builder James, 32, in January 2015 and he proposed eight months later

“No one could wear the same colour as me or was allowed to complain the whole weekend.

“Everyone had to join in with games and anyone who was late would be fined £10.

“I made everyone agree to the rules in writing.

“One guest said it was too strict so I told her not to bother coming and uninvited her to the wedding.

“When the weekend finally arrived I was so excited.

“On night one the dress code was all black long dresses.

4 Zoe ended up having three different hen do events Credit: David Cummings - The Sun

“I wanted us to all be in the same colour with me in the short black dress so I stood out in the pictures.

“I went to my mum’s room to discover she was wearing a red sequin mini dress. I flipped out and told her to change immediately.

“After a lot of shouting she agreed but came out in another coloured dress. I ran into her room and ripped up two of her bright dresses so she couldn’t wear them.

“Before we’d even left for our night out, we’d had three complaints from hotel guests about the constant yelling.

“When I realised two girls were in short dresses I demanded they change too.

“We eventually got on the party bus but, when one girl arrived late, I was forced to give out my first £10 fine.

'WE LEFT WITHOUT HER'

“She refused, so we left without her.”

After playing games in the first bar, drama followed in the second nightclub.

“We were supposed to play the ‘make a dress from toilet paper’ game but the venue had not ordered the heavy-ply paper I’d requested. I screamed at the staff to find some. They couldn’t, so the game was ruined.

“On Sunday only two girls showed up for the spa. Half said they were too tired and half said they were annoyed with my henzilla behaviour. I spent the morning un­inviting half the group from my wedding.

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“I see a hen do as the ultimate test of friendship. If you won’t do what the bride wants on the most important weekend of her life, then why should you get invited to her wedding day?

“If I hadn’t been a henzilla, the hen do would have fallen apart before it started.

“I found out who were my true friends and I got some of the pictures I wanted. In the end, it’s worth it.”

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