TimeToChangeNameAgain Fri 17-Jan-20 11:57:13

Sorry, wasn’t sure where to put this but after some advice.



Long story which I’ll try and shorten as much as possible. Basically in Sixth Form (nearly 20 years ago) I was dating a boy from a neighbouring school for a couple of years. All was well until I found out he’d had another girlfriend at his own school. I decided to confront him and his other girlfriend after school one day. This boy then completely denied ever knowing me, told everyone I’d been stalking him for years and he’d felt sorry for me but nothing had ever happened between us. All very silly and juvenile but a lot of people in my home town thought I was this crazy stalker for a while.



Then I went to uni elsewhere in the country and all was forgotten about. I got married, had kids and a couple of years ago move back to my hometown. Not a huge amount of people from my time as a stalker we’re still around so I assumed this rumour had stopped and didn’t really care even if anyone did think I’d been a bit mad as a teenager.



About a month ago I was walking up the steps from town and saw a package that looked like it had been dropped by the postman. It was a bit water damaged but I saw the name on it and knew it as a guy who used to be friends with my teenage boyfriend. I knew roughly where he lived, but address was unreadable. I’m friendly enough with this guy to have the odd chat if I bump into him so I messaged him on FB to say I’d found this parcel, let me know his address and I’d pop it through letter box. He said thanks, not to worry, he’d pick it up from mine and he did so later that day. I think no more of it until I get a message from this guy saying ‘errrmm, thanks I guess. Just in case you didn’t know, I’m in a committed relationship and no plans to change that.’ I reply with ‘? Think you sent this to the wrong person’. He messages back to say he knows the gift was from me, that I’m too old to still be playing silly games and attached a photo of a load of black feathers (I’m guessing what was in the parcel).



I know it’s the most ridiculous thing but this has really upset me. I was trying to be helpful and now I’m once again a mad woman who posts her love interest black feathers. I don’t know if this guy has told anyone but it’s making me feel really paranoid. I feel completely helpless, just like I did last time where if I try and protest my innocence I’m just going to look even more crazy. Any advice?