The term became immensely popular, but it was merely a new way to phrase an old trope: that of a woman who becomes needy after sex. In the Indian context, in which dating is still a relatively new phenomenon, this trope is everywhere, to the point that men are frankly confounded if you don't "become clingy".

Once, a man straight-up said to me: "Why haven't you called me?" I said: "Well, I'm sorry if there was any confusion, but I'm not interested in dating you." He could not believe that I wasn't interested in seeing him regularly.

As a straight woman, how could I possibly have had sex without immediately falling in love?

Another man I met told me with pride that he left right after sex, without so much as a pause to cuddle.

"Otherwise they start having feelings and thinking you're their boyfriend. You have to be a bit rude to get the point across."

I asked, "Do you really think that every woman you have sex with wants to date you?"

"Well, not every woman," he said after a beat. "Not the sluts."