Sexual/Romantic Orientations

This is an ongoing list of orientations. If you see an orientation with a confusing or wrong description, feel free to message us about it and we will answer as soon as possible.

There are six types of attraction.

-sexual: “I want to have sex with you”

-romantic: “I want to date you”

-sensual: “I want to hug/kiss you”

-platonic: “I want to be friends with you”

-aesthetic: “You look nice”

-alterous: can best be described as desiring emotional closeness with someone; is neither platonic nor romantic but rather somewhere in between the two

All types of attractions may be used as suffixes along with “-fluid” and “-flux”. Feel free to mix and match your own prefixes and suffixes to create the orientation that best describes you.

A- : lack of attraction

Abro- : having an orientation or feelings about it that constantly change and cannot be pinned down for this reason

Aceflux: similar to genderflux where the intensity of sexual attraction you feel fluctuates; asexual to demisexual to allosexual and back

Aego- : feeling attraction or desire only for situations that does not involve oneself; previously known as autochoris-

Akoi- : the feeling of attraction but not wanting it reciprocated or losing it when it is reciprocated; used as an alternative and potentially less problematic form of lithosexual/lithoromantic

Aliqua- : not normally feeling attraction, but feeling it on occassion under specific circumstances

Amicus- : when you’re attracted to people you’re platonically attracted to

Amorplatonic: experiencing romantic attraction but only wanting to be in queerplatonic/quasiplatonic relationships

Apothi- : being aromantic/asexual and not experiencing any romantic/sexual feelings in any shape or form; aromantic/asexual individuals who are romance/sex repulsed

Aromantic: feeling no romantic attraction regardless of gender or situation

Aroflux: similar to genderflux where the intensity or romantic attraction you feel fluctuates; aromantic to demiromantic to alloromantic and back

Arospike/Acespike: feeling no attraction except in occasional bursts of intense attraction and then plummeting back to no attraction

Asexual: feeling no sexual attraction regardless of gender or situation

Auto- : the feeling of attraction only towards oneself

Bellusromantic: having interest in conventionally romantic things yet not desiring a relationship; part of the aro spectrum

Bi- : the feeling of attraction towards two or more genders, generally your own gender and other(s)

Borea- : having an exception to your usual orientation

Burst- : having spikes in attraction that fade away after a while

Cass- : feeling utterly indifferent towards attraction and believing its not important

Cease- : usually beeing allo- yet occasionally feeling a sudden loss of attraction and then returning to normal

Cetero- : the feeling of attraction towards nonbinary people; replaces skolio- because “skolio” means bent or broken and implies that nonbinary people must be fixed; this is reserved for trans/nonbinary individuals because cis people were judging nonbinary people based off of presentation alone

Culparomantic: feeling romantic and platonic attraction at the same time

Cupio- : the feeling of having no attraction towards any gender yet still desiring a sexual or romantic relationship

Demi- : not feeling attraction towards someone until a certain closeness or bond has been formed

Desinoromantic: when one does not experience full-on romantic attraction, but experiences “liking” someone instead of loving them romantically, at which point the attraction goes no further

Duo- : having two or more well defined orientations that you switch between

Ficto- : only felling a certain type of attraction towards fictional characters

Fin- : feeling attraction to fem(me) identifying people

Fray- : only experiencing attraction towards those you are less familiar with; the feeling is lost when they become closer or more familiar; the opposite of demi-

Grey- : the feeling of usually not having any attraction except occasionally depending on the situation; typically paired with asexual and aromantic

Heteroflexible: the feeling of having mostly hetero- attraction yet having an openness for other genders

Hetero- : the feeling of being attracted to a gender other than your own

Homoflexible: the feeling of having mostly homo- attraction yet having an openness for other genders

Homo- : the feeling of being attracted to your own gender

Iculasexual: being asexual but open to having sex

Idemromantic: being able to categorize others as having either a platonic or romantic attraction based on outside factors yet feeling no difference in the type of attraction

Kalossexual: the desire to have a sexual relationship yet never feeling sexual attraction; part of the ace spectrum

Lamvano- : feeling no desire to do sexual/romantic things to someone, but wanting to be on the receiving end; opposite of placio-

Lesbian: someone who identifies fully or partially as a woman who is attracted to other fully or partially identified women

Limno- : experiencing attraction towards depictions of attraction (writing or drawings) but not the physical acts

Ma- : feeling attraction to men

Min- : feeling attraction to masculine identifying people

Multi- : attraction to more than one gender

Neu- : feeling attraction towards people who are genderless

Nin- : feeling attraction towards androgynous identifying people

Nocisma- : feeling attraction to everyone except cis men because of associated oppression

Noma- : experiencing attraction to every gender except for self identifying men

Novi- : feeling complicated attraction or lack thereof in such a way that it is difficult or impossible to fit into one word or term

Novo- : when one’s orientation changes with gender

Nowo- : experiencing attraction to every gender except for self identifying women

Omni- : the feeling of a lack of preference in gender and may be attracted to all genders equally; similar to pan-

Pan- : the feeling of attraction towards any gender or all genders; similar to omni-

Penulti- : feeling attraction towards every gender except your own

Platoniromantic: feeling no difference between platonic and romantic attraction

Polar- : feeling either extreme attraction or intense repulsion

Poly- : the feeling of attraction towards most or several genders (but not all)

Pomo- : the feeling of having no orientation

Pre- : a placeholder term for someone who doesn’t think they’ve experienced enough attraction to know their orientation

Proqua- : feeling attracted to feminine people when you yourself are feminine

Proquu- : feeling attracted to masculine people when you yourself are masculine

Queer: the feeling of not being hetero- yet not wanting to further identify with any conventional sexuality

Quoiromantic: from the French word quoi meaning “what”; the feeling of not being able to distinguish romantic from platonic attraction and therefore being unsure if one has experienced it; used to replace wtfromantic because of vulgarity

Recip- : the feeling of only experiencing attraction once someone else has experienced it towards them first

Requies- : not feeling attraction when emotionally exhausted

Sans- : when there’s no trend line in the attraction one feels, it just does what it does

Sensu- : an orientation that is based off of sensuality as opposed to romance, sexuality, etc; different from sensual orientation; when romantic or sexual type pleasure is derived from sensual acts or situations

Skolio- : the feeling of attraction towards nonbinary genders; replaced by cetero- because of problematic wording

Specio- : feeling attraction towards someone based off of specific traits, not gender

Thym- : feeling attraction which varies depending on emotional state

Volit- : feeling attraction that is not directed at anyone in particular

Woma- : feeling attraction to women