millenniumfae:

I am so sick of the controversy around the term ‘allosexual’, and the claim that it’s somehow queerphobic, racist, and transphobic. It’s so obviously acephobic, and people swallow that shit up because they honestly think they’ve got stuff going for that.

Compare ‘allosexual’ to the terms ‘non-binary’ and ‘binary’ genders. The word binary lumps together trans women with trans men, who have radically different stances in today’s society, and therefore it’s a term that doesn’t address transmisogyny. It’s a word that doesn’t address transphobia as a whole, since ‘binary’ is inclusive of cis people too.

But that’s the language the trans community uses. Trans visibility is binary-centric. Non-binary people face a certain stigma that comes with being non-binary. We go years identifying as binary trans because of non-binary erasure. We use these words to discuss, say, binary cis men versus non-binary intersex cis men. The word ‘binary’ is used. It has nothing to do with privilege. If we want to talk about these issues, that’s the language we use.

So taking that logic; there are sexual and non-sexual people in the LGBTA community. Kinda like how there’s binary and non-binary trans people. The word ‘sexual’ lumps together queer and straight people. But when a queer allosexual wants to address the homophobia of non-sexuals, they need to identify themselves as a sexual person. It’s an infallible truth, and they can’t deny it. But we don’t get the other way around? We don’t get to talk about the stigma of non-sexual orientations as non-sexual people?

Hell, this could even extend to the word ‘straight’, since ‘allosexual’ is also criticized for being racist and transphobic - not all straight people are equal. Straight women, for example, aren’t always rewarded for their sexuality. Especially outside America. And then there’s straight trans women. Straight trans women of color. Neurodivergent straight trans women of color. The list goes on.

Why is ‘allosexual’ the word that can’t be used? Nah wait, don’t answer that. We know perfectly well why ‘allosexual’ is that one little nasty word those disgusting asexuaaaalls can’t use. But don’t pretend that the insistence has anything to do with some sort of high moral reasoning. We see right through that. And we know it’s utter bullshit.