Let me start this by telling you that I know my kids look nothing like me. Guess what? I.don’t.care. I know they’re adorable. They are the Chinese apple of my Slovakian eye. (Maybe Chinese plum would be more fitting. I don’t think they have apples in Hainan) I had a pretty good idea of just HOW much they wouldn’t look like me long before they were born. You see, my beautiful niece is half- Chinese and half Italian/Irish. She looks 100% Chinese. My son has brown, silky hair which comes from me, but the straight texture is all Tim’s.

This brings us to a few days ago. I didn’t want to cause any controversy by blogging about it, but it really put a bee in my bonnet. I was at Whole Foods eating and pulled Avalee out of my ergo baby carrier and prepared to nurse her. I put on my nursing cover and grabbed LeeLee. The woman next to me, who has been staring at LeeLee for several minutes, looks over at me and asks,

“I think what you’re doing is just wonderful.” considering this some lactivist compliment, I took it and said “Thanks.”

She went on to say,

“I mean I just can’t imagine doing it” to which I replied,

“It’s really not bad, the first few days are rough, then you just get used to it”

Again, she kept talking.

“How do you produce milk? Does your body take over with hormones?”

-me: “what? I don’t understand what you’re asking”

her: “when you breastfeed a baby that you adopt, does your body just kick in?”

Not knowing if she was just a racist old biddy or serious I said, *amended: this woman did NOT, I repeat NOT have a gentle tone to her voice. She sounded DISapproving.

“unless I adopted her out of my uterus, I assure you I have no idea what you’re talking about”

I then grabbed my kids and bag, my friend grabbed our trays, and we went to another table.

Sometimes there just aren’t the right words.

I think we’re a handsome family.

On the bright side, TODAY’S lunch was fab.

The carrot was enormous. Adult lunch.

3 year old version. The pouch is is “applesauce.” We don’t tell him it’s pumpkin. Also, a FULL stack of seaweed snacks.

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