A terminally-ill mum who delayed chemotherapy to have her baby has been targeted by vicious online trolls after the child sadly died.

Former police officer Heidi Loughlin was attacked by people who wrote to her saying ‘your awful choices killed your baby.’

The 36-year-old was three months’ pregnant when she was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive inflammatory breast cancer in 2015.

Heidi refused to undergo chemotherapy while pregnant with Ally, who sadly died after catching an infection after birth (Picture: SWNS)

She ignored doctor’s recommendations to have an abortion, and turned down super-strong life-saving treatment until her baby had a 90 per cent chance of surviving.


Baby Ally Louise Smith was born 12 weeks early via c-section on December 12, 2015 – but tragically passed away eight days later after developing an infection.



Heidi shares the story of her terminal Stage 4 cancer diagnoses on her award-winning blog Storm in a tit cup. She talks about life and facing up to the reality of on day being forced to leave her family behind.

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While she has won a legion of fans, others have been abusing her with one cruelly claiming her ‘godawful choices led directly to Ally’s death.’

Heidi, from Portishead, Bristol, who is also mum to Noah, five, and Tait, four, recalled how one troll had called the terminally-ill mum a ‘selfish, lying, miserable excuse for a mother.’

The troll, writing under the moniker Kitty Meijer, commented on Heidi’s latest blog post last week, writing: ‘You didn’t even gave that child a chance.’

Heidi with sons Noah and Tait (Picture: SWNS)

They wrote: ‘When you already had two kids, you decided that they and your husband were less important than it was for you to be a martyr.

‘You decided to fuck it all and delay cancer treatment, so you could have another baby.

‘After that, you don’t even give that baby a chance, but you force her to be born three months early and to top your bullshit even further, you complain that Ally was taken from you.

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‘You never even gave that child a chance.

‘Cancer had nothing to do with her death, your godawful choices however, led directly to her death.

‘Thank God Ally got taken away from you, you selfish lying miserable excuse for a mother.’

The first offensive message by ‘Kitty Meijer’ (Picture: Storm in a tit cup)

She concludes her venom saying: ‘You made your cancer bed, now lie in it and die.’

Heidi has kept the posts on her blog to show that she will not let online trolls bring her down.

The family went online to set some records straight adding: ‘Heidi has a fortitude and strength of character that your post shows not only that you lack but you’re simply incapable of.’

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Unfortunately this only provoked more vitriol from ‘Kitty Meijer’ who went on the attack again, concluding: ‘Fun fact Heidi: you planned everything only with regard to yourself. Your work, hubby,

kids and family are all second. You made your horrible bad choices, now you die with them.’

Heidi said she would not allow the abuse to get the better of her, saying: ‘Thankfully I’m made of Teflon but others out there are not. This little gem popped up on my blog yesterday.

‘Yes I’m “feeding the troll” but if others do “the right thing” and delete and deal with it alone, do we think that’s healthy?’

Heidi says the troll is an ’emotional terrorist’ and we should not allow people to get away with abusive messages (Picture: SWNS)

And on her Facebook page, she added her thanks to her followers for their ‘overwhelming support’, writing: ‘This is something else that even I don’t know what to say to.’



Heidi has received almost 700 comments of support since sharing the post on her social media pages.

And speaking out about the cruel comment, she added that it is important to expose the troll to help other women who might be targeted.

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She said: ‘I have such a lovely group of supporters, there was no way this person was going to bring me down.

‘But I did want to share their comments to help other women who might be targeted.

‘I think the word troll doesn’t really go far enough, they are almost emotional terrorists. They are obviously very sad people who want to make other people feel sad like them.

‘I think they might look at me and everything I’ve been through and think it’s unfair that I can feel happy but they are clearly not.’

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