Arielle O’Shea

NerdWallet

Here’s a novel way to celebrate Valentine's Day: Pull up two chairs at your kitchen table, pop a bottle of Champagne and start talking about retirement.

What could be more romantic than planning for your future together?

Here are five considerations that should be part of that conversation.

1. Your goals

You’re saving for a shared retirement, so it only makes sense to talk about what that looks like.

“The biggest thing is actually having a plan, and most people don’t,” says Scott Frank of Stone Steps Financial in Encinitas, Calif. “What are you going to do? Where are you going to live? How much are you going to be spending?”

Not only is that kind of planning key to how much you need to save — aiming to replace 80% of your pre-retirement income is a good place to start — it also makes the process more fun. Saving for retirement isn’t exciting, but saving so you can retire on the beach is.

2. Your account choices

Once you know how much you need to save, it’s about where you save.

“You’re going to retire as a couple, so look at all of your available retirement savings options as a couple,” says Larry McClanahan of SecondHalf Planning and Investment in Clackamas, Ore.

If you have a limited pool of money to save for retirement — as most people do — and one spouse has access to a 401(k) with matching dollars, that account is the top priority for both of you. If you each receive an employer match, aim to contribute enough to your individual accounts to fully capture both.

Then you can consider other options: non-matched employer-sponsored plans and Roth or traditional IRAs.

3. Taxes

Along with employer-matching dollars, taxes should be high on the list of considerations when choosing where you should collectively save.

“The ideal situation is for a couple to transition into retirement with significant retirement resources of different tax treatment,” says McClanahan. That requires a strategy so that you get to retirement with tax-deferred funds in traditional IRAs and 401(k)s, tax-free funds in Roth accounts and — if necessary — already-taxed funds in a brokerage account.

Doing so will allow you to mix and match your distributions in retirement, minimizing your tax burden as much as possible.

Keep in mind that if you have an employer-sponsored retirement plan, it may limit your ability to deduct traditional IRA contributions from your taxes, which could make a Roth IRA more favorable. However, in 2016, eligibility to contribute to a Roth begins phasing out at an adjusted gross income of $184,000 for those married and filing jointly.

4. Beneficiary designations

You’ve heard these horror stories in the news: Joe Millionaire forgets to update his beneficiary designations, accidentally leaving a fat 401(k) to his ex-wife.

The lesson is applicable for average Joes, too. The beneficiaries on your retirement accounts and life insurance trump your will. Keep those designations up to date.

5. Plan for tough times, too

Couples don’t just fail to plan for retirement together; many fail to talk about money, period. According to Fidelity, a quarter of couples disagree on the amount of their households’ investable assets; and 43% couldn’t identify their spouse’s salary.

This is a mistake for many reasons, but here’s a big one: If your spouse dies prematurely, or you divorce, you don’t want to be left alone in the dark. You both hope those things never come, but you each need to know how and where your money is invested, along with important details like account logins and where paperwork is kept.

And while retirement assets would likely be divvied up in a divorce, both spouses should be actively saving, if possible. Even a non-working spouse can still save for retirement in an IRA, as long you file a joint tax return.

This may be an especially tough part of your romantic kitchen table conversation, but remember that you’re both in this together, for the long term.

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Arielle O’Shea is a staff writer at NerdWallet, a personal finance website. Email: aoshea@nerdwallet.com. Twitter:@arioshea.

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Tips on combining a traditional IRA and a 401(k)

In 2016, you can each contribute up to $5,500 to a traditional IRA ($6,500 if you are 50 or older). But if you or your spouse is covered by a retirement plan at work, your ability to deduct those contributions may be phased out.

If you have an employer retirement plan, you can deduct the full contribution if you have a modified adjusted gross income of $98,000 or less.

If your spouse has an employer retirement plan, you can deduct the full contribution if your modified adjusted gross income is $184,000 or less.

(Assumes married filing jointly)