“stop putting gay characters in het ships”



If you’re headcanoning a character as bi it’s still gay. They’re still gay? Like if you say that shit (you’re not gay anymore because you’re with a man) to an irl bisexual woman in a relationship with a dude then you’re being biphobic and participating in bi erasure. You’re telling her that because she’s currently with a man her interest in women has magically vanished and she is now a Straight Person. Which isn’t true.

Like, I appreciate representation in shows and stuff but people headcanon things for personal reasons. We can disagree with it, sure, but brow beating them and engaging in shit that tells them THEY aren’t valid is pretty shitty. That goes for all sexualities and genders.

Are there headcanons I hate and think are stupid or that just rub me the wrong way? Absolutely. Do I go harass people for it? No. Because that’s a shitty thing to do.

When we were a bunch of gay babies in fandom headcanoning straight characters as varying types of queer people shat on us for it. But now I’m seeing people calling any slightest notion of “might be straight if you squint hard enough” as being awful and horrible. And that’s not okay.

Fandom is open to everyone. Everyone gets to play on the playground. If you don’t like how Jimmy is building his sandcastle then you go build your own, you don’t stomp all over his and yell at him for building a sandcastle in the first place.

I am literally seeing more hate towards gay people from other gay people in fandom right now than from straight people. I see people shit on bisexuals, pansexuals, and ace folks constantly for shipping a character with a dude when canon has shown she likes girls. Half the time these people are headcanoning the character as bi,pan, or even ace. But gay folks trot out and go “UM U DON’T GET TO HEADCANON THIS AND YOU’RE A HORRIBLE CISHET”. And that’s shitty? That’s shitty behavior? That is literally the kind of shit that mean ass straight people have done to gay people for years why are you doing it to other LGBT folks? Like why do you think that’s okay to do? Because someone sees a character differently than you? Because someone identifies with the same character as you?

Guys, it’s not okay. Don’t do this shit. Be nice to people. There’s enough room on the playground for everyone to have fun.

Also fanfiction is transformative work and doesn’t effect what is actually canon at all. So let people play.