How does filming sex impact your relationship or your sex life? Kimberly Kane & Drew talk porn and #realworldsex

Written by MLNPstars Kimberly Kane and Drew.

Drew says:

It’s such a fascinating question to me. Mostly because I would imagine if you asked 100 different couples, you would get 100 different answers. But it did get me to think about this last year of my life and reflect on my upcoming 1 year anniversary in the adult industry.

One year. I can’t believe how quickly it has gone by. And it’s only in looking back and seeing where I was at in my life a year ago, versus now, that I can see the difference. Daily things progress, but we don’t notice those major leaps in our lives because they happen so incrementally as we are traversing our paths.

I am running a business, and for the first time in a long time, I have ownership of something that I take a lot of pride in. I also am lucky because I have a partner. I couldn’t do the things I do without Kimberly. We balance each other out so well in the different facets and areas that we excel in as individuals.

And our business is sex.

I think that the one way that filming has changed things is that sometimes the sex is about the work, and what that entails. I am so very vanilla in sexual activity. I have the minimalist of needs in the bedroom and by and large am a giver in the realm of being a lover. Those things run very contrary to the performance aspect of what we do. Not, so much in MLNP, but certainly when we are performing for other things. So it becomes two entirely different arenas based on what is needed for the day. Another thing that can and does happen is that with all the demands of running a small business and the demands of life, sometimes the sex is all on camera, or we have to save it for camera. This isn’t always the most ideal situation, but Kimberly and I work well together and we make a serious effort to not let a situation like that go on for too long.

Beyond that, it has expanded my horizons sexually and I have had many personal first time experiences on camera for a scene, which is always a bit surreal to me.

Especially given that there was no way, for 35 years of my life, I would’ve ever expected to be in the adult industry, much less as a performer. That reality sets in on occasion and I get this really long look in my eye and a weird grin on my face.

What I do is fun and it’s fun for so many reasons, not the least of which is actually being able to flex my creativity on a regular basis. So ultimately the business of sex does throw a few wrinkles in to what most people would consider a traditional sexual relationship, but I wouldn’t trade my partner, my job, my business for anything in the world right now. One thing I would trade though is the 20lbs. I have put on from being so dang happy and content majority of the time… c’est la vie…I guess I can just chalk that up to a job hazard, I wonder if I can report it to OSHA?

Kimberly says:

I’ve been avoiding this question for a while and now with a deadline approaching I have to answer it. I’ve had meaningful sexual relationships throughout my adult life but the underlying reality is, from the age of 19, my sexuality has mainly been a performance on camera.

This has made “personal sex” very important to me. That’s what performers call it, “personal sex” and I miss having more personal sex with Drew. Last year we shot around 150 sex/fetish scenes which is a lot. Porn can be a grind and people don’t realize that. The consumer thinks a porn fairy magically makes porn appear on the internet for free. When it’s really couples like Drew and I who furiously create content for the consumer appetite. With that being said, for me, after having sex on camera the last thing on my mind after work is sex.

Drew and I usually grab a beer or a snack at our local bar and talk about family, future shoots, travel, normal stuff. Sometimes this will become a habit and we’ll forget to have personal sex, because we’re having so much work sex. But work sex is different than personal sex and that’s hard for non-industry folks to understand. Folks who don’t have sex for a living simply do not understand the complexities of our sexuality, limits, boundaries and struggles.

Over the next year I’ve hatched a plan to do less hardcore sex on camera and less nudity. I’m reclaiming my sexuality and I’ll be focusing more on what’s happening in our bedroom vs. what’s happening on set.

From Kimberly and Drew:

I think that’s why a site like MLNP is important. It gives us an opportunity to display and have real sex, that really doesn’t involve production, positioning, and performance. We are aware we are on camera, but we don’t perform. It’s refreshing to be able to do that, and to drop the pressure that comes with performing scenes as we do for work on a regular basis. So we are excited to continue to bring content to folks, but we are even more excited that we are able to move more towards the direction of videos we want to produce, that not only makes the viewer happy, but also aligns more with how we feel personally about one another.

Go see Kimberly & Drew’s personal #realworldsex here! To read more from Drew, click right here and to read more like this, make sure to check out the MLNPstars Speak section of our blog!