Self-improvement tips for the self-obsessed (like me): that’s pretty much what you’ll find here. Some are spiritual, some are secular, some are well-known and some are a bit kooky … but, in my experience, all of them work. At least, they work to some degree. (Even the kooky ones.)

78 Alternative Spirituality Life Hacks

The Spiritual Stuff:

Meditate

Get a mantra–or two or three

Know the power of your mind

Know that you are strong, beautiful and holy

Don’t define your morality too strictly

Don’t put God in a box

Pray

Believe that you can

Read spiritual books

The Shallow Stuff:

Smile

Go outside

Have nice friends

Buy new clothes

Get a (healthy) addiction

Play video games

Drink caffeine

Cut Your hair

Sing

Figure out what you want

Get what you want

Get a job

Get educated

Smell good

Get some money

Live somewhere you love to be

Travel, even if you don’t want to

Shop for friends

Get a hobby–or two or three

Sometimes, just take a long bath or shower

The Serious Stuff:

Pretend you’re already the best version of you

Don’t try to be funnier, cuter, happier or smarter than you are

Don’t believe all your thoughts

Understand human nature

Read books on psychology

Let yourself feel your feelings deeply

Cultivate a romance with yourself

Reconsider what you really need

Always get some perspective

Always tell yourself the truth

Find out who you are and do it on purpose

Be a real grownup

Get things done

Stop the little sadness before it gets too big

Sometimes, just give yourself a break

Read amazing, paradigm-shifting nonfiction

Throw out the blueprint

Don’t be too busy, but don’t get bored

Screw variety; do what works

Know when to try and when to just let things happen

Know that life is a game and play it on purpose

Strategize

Be relentless

Be as intellectually flexible as you can be

Try, and try, and then try some more

Don’t expect too much of other people

Be passionate about a few wonderful things, and don’t hide your passion

Don’t assume anything about anyone, ever

Don’t hate optimists

Take medication

Let people go that are gone

Beware of middle age and complacency

Make lofty goals

Keep a monthly checklist and put everything you need to do there, all in one spot

Find the beauty in your seeming flaws

Find the better-feeling interpretation in every situation

Find “flow”–at work and everywhere else you can

Notice your negativity

Don’t play the guilt trip game, especially on yourself

Do something nice for others at least once a week

Always do what you’re afraid to do

Don’t try to stand out for its own sake

Learn to love your own mistakes and to admit when you’re wrong

The Love Stuff:

Learn to love being alone

Whenever possible, don’t fight; just talk instead

Don’t make babies until you just have to

Don’t lie, even about the bad things

Learn how to break the truth gently

Search for love without shame

Learn how to listen

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