EleventySeven Wed 22-May-19 12:59:49

I agreed earlier in the year that we would spend a long weekend staying with an elderly friend who needed an extra pair of hands around the house, in a European city which we like to visit. We get a free room to stay in and she gets cups of tea and the laundry hung up. This woman is into her eighties and has slowed down a lot but still lives alone and drives her own car. DD was fine with this and happy to go to city 1.



This woman then told us she would actually love to visit another older and disabled friend during this period and asked if we'd come too. The friend lives in another country but only a couple of hours away by car across the border. She offered to drive us us all there and as we love to travel and had never visited city 2 before, I said yes.



Fast forward several weeks and the weekend is nearly upon us. I asked for the exact address of where we're going and my elderly friend explains that it's such a tiny basic cottage that there isn't an official postal address. There is no flushing toilet. (At least one of the women we'll be with is partly incontinent so I hope they have a good plan.) She showed me the exact location on the map and it's actually miles from the main city too so there's going to be a lot of additional car travel while we're there. DD and I both get travel sick on long car journeys and the journey to city 2 was already the borderline of what I thought was sensible. To make matters worse, DD and I are vegetarian which is something our friend knows but doesn't really understand and often forgets ("Not even little sausages? But how will she grow?") so the food situation is going to be potentially tricky too, especially so far from the city.



DD was unhappy that we're now going to city 2. When I tell her what I now know about the toilet situation, the exact location and the additional car travel she's going be really unhappy. I should have asked far more questions before agreeing to change the original plan but now everything is arranged.



This is going to be unpleasant for everyone, isn't it?