I am dealing with a serious issue, where on one hand I have to save my family and on the other hand, I have to deal with a nymphomaniac wife! I have two kids and I stay in Chennai with my wife. I am an engineer by profession and working in an MNC. The mess in my life began when I was posted to a new place. All this while, my wife would behave as if she is the only pious lady left in this whole wide world and all others are characterless. But the truth was something else. One day, we had a fight and she left my home and went to live with her parents.But instead of talking about the problem, she sent friend requests to a lot of my Facebook friends. While some friends bothered to inform me about the same, some thought of taking advantage of the situation and therefore made friends with her.A few days later, my friends spotted her roaming around with my office colleague. Some of my friends suggested that I get her back home to resolve the mess, I did the same and guess that was my biggest mistake!After returning home, she started inviting the same colleague home and pursued a physical relationship with him. I also have an audio proof to confirm the same. My wife also shared a lot of our intimate details with him, which I later got to know from my other colleagues.When I confronted her, she straightaway denied the charge and stopped meeting him at once. But very soon, she made friends with another man - our neighbour, who's a widower. Now, she's again physically involved with him while I am still contemplating how to deal with this situation. Since I have to fend for my kids, divorce is not an option. Kindly guide me how to deal with this mess? -You have quite a few options ahead of you. You need not panic and take an impulsive decision. Based on your details, it is quite evident that she is not quite interested in you or your relationship. However, rather than speculating and taking a permanent decision, it is best to sit her down, and ask her what she would like to do, without directly accusing her of adultery. In case she does not want to talk, I recommend a therapist or a good lawyer will help you out. You need not fear the imminent separation and effects it will have on your children and family, as staying with her will make it more toxic and suffocating for all of you concerned.Open ended, nonjudgmental communication on your behalf will help her feel comfortable and she may then want to open up about the issues at hand. Calling her a nymphomaniac and being angry with her will not be of much help. Take your time and remember - Life is too short to waste in regret. Whatever the decision, it is highly recommended to see a psychiatrist/ Marital counsellor together to guide you appropriately.