Fighting hate

I’ve changed a lot over the past 7 month s and I want to write about the things I’ve learned and how it has helped me with my life and self-image

The biggest things I fight with are getting over my own agist and fatist thinking

Ageism and Fatphobia are very real in our society

What is ageism? Discrimination against senior citizens and making drastic assumptions about their capabilities due to their age. “Old people shouldn’t drive” “Old people should just die” “Why should I have to take care of the elderly?”

Because they are people. Human beings who have been here way longer then us. And grouping things we don’t like about a person and blaming it on their age is just as bad as blaming it on their race. Its not “Old people” who can’t drive, it is some people can’t drive. Age has nothing to do with it. Yes you get old, yes age can factor into your ability to drive but thats taking accountabilty away from the individual who has chosen to drive knowing their difficulties, it also doesn’t take into account that not everyone has or can afford people to drive them around and help with their chores.

The point is we shouldn’t group and hate on people just because their old. It is our great generation of doctors and modern medicince that has increased life expectancy from 30 to about 70. So if you want to blame anyone blame our entire race for not wanting to die so young.

Fatphobia is even worse in our society

People are fat, get over it.

And you know what? Some people find fat people highly attractive, and that is okay!

Just because you aren’t attracted to something doesn’t give you to the right to hate people for it.

“Ugh big noses are gross, everyone with big noses should just die!”

If you posted that, how many complaints do you think you’d get? How many “big nose” identifiers would lash out at you? now if you replaced big nosed with fat, how many likes? how many “hell yea!"s would you get? Now I understand that I keep pretty good company and most you wouldn’t recieved positive feedback encouraging fatism. But lets think of our society, think of whats popular, think of the ignorance that is still present in our world.

And now I’m not saying we should let any little grubby child eat whatever they want and become fat

No thats health, that is caring for the life of another human being and encouraging them to eat and exercise in order to live a healthier life, not just to lose weight

There are plenty of big-boned/larger individuals who eat very healthy and are very active that constantly have to deal with society telling them they aren’t healthy because they aren’t skinny.

We broadcast this idea of what beauty is suppose to be, even nerdy beauty! Ugly Betty? The New Girl? Sorry but those aren’t the "nerd” girls I sleep with.

So I’ll say it.

I’m attracted to women, I’m attracted to real women. Ones with stretch marks and thighs. Scars and zits.

Messy hair and unshaven armpits. If they want to lose weight or want to shave then I make it clear they shouldn’t do it for me or for society.

You should be healthy for you, so you can live a long healthy life.

Now all of these statements and points are easier said then done. I don’t claim to be the most open minded person in the world but I think I do something a lot of people don’t

I force myself to be open minded, I don’t let my feelings sit and build. If I say something sexist or fatist or agist or anything offensive. I try learn from it, I force myself to learn that its not okay to publicly bash anything except ignorance and hate.

So please friends, think about the things you do and say

Are you helping or hurting?