It has nothing to do with the fact that she wants a black man in bed with her - there are all sorts of different colored dildos. Pink, purple, yellow, black, brown, green, red, orange.. etc - you get the idea.

Just because I have a red one doesn't mean I want to be with an red Indian! Get my drift?

Don't be hurt by the dildo, embrace the idea! Your wife probably just needs more excitement or something new in your love life. Do you notice that your love making has gotten into a routine or even boring? Same thing every time?

Extra toys can really help bring the relationship and love making alive! Spice it up.

All in all - PLEASE don't take it personally. It has nothing to do with you or your ability to 'satisfy'. (I'm saying this because I am a woman who knows!)

Spice things up... and one night bring it up... saying.. "Honey? You know... I found your little 'secret' while putting clothes away the other day... can we use it tonight? I never knew you were into that!? I think it's hot... You make me hot... etc"

Now go have some fun! Maybe now that its in the open you can go do some "shopping together" :)

(The jealousy or being uncomfortable is a big turn off... maybe she knew you would freak out and that is why she never told you). Prove her wrong. Prove to her you are man enough to have it in the same room... you are man enough not to feel jealous).