I am in love with someone else, but my husband doesn’t want us to split up and I feel guilty at putting my own happiness before my family’s

I have no sexual desire for my husband of 23 years, although I love him as a person and the father of my children. I want to end the marriage, but he does not. I am in love with someone else and we would like to be together – we have been friends for more than 20 years and lovers in between. I would like to be true to myself and the people around me. I have agreed to relationship counselling at my daughter’s suggestion. I know it won’t do anything, but at least I can say I tried. Also, I hope that speaking to a professional will help my husband acknowledge it is time to separate. I’ve always cared about my family’s happiness and feel so guilty for wanting to do what I want.

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