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Perpetrators, Victims, Survivors

A woman seeks help for her own violence.

Violent Femmes

At first I would switch off whenever I saw a report about domestic violence. I knew I was about to be subjected to yet another pungent vilification of men and their propensity to beat women."Hey, what about guys like me?".

Batterer treatment

It wasn't relevant that she has assaulted six men. "I beat the shit out of them." Hitting a tree head on would have freed my wife and children of the bastard that I was and left no trace of my miserable life.

Using the system to batter

Battering is emotional and psychological, as well as physical. It's about control, like using the system to impoverish him and keep him from the kids.

Restraining orders as abuse

Women routinely abuse restraining orders, says Cathy Young.



More women arrested

What does it mean? Experts quoted in the media differ sharply.

Family Violence--

It's About People

835,000 men a year

according to latest National Violence Against Women Survey. One every 38 seconds.



It's Always His Fault

Yale psychiatrist Sally L. Satel. Gender polarization in perpetrator programs reflects feminist ideology.



Hitting below the belt

Easy to get, hellish to deal with, restraining orders have become the ultimate weapon in domestic disputes, says Cathy Young in Salon.



Deadlier Than the Male

So says UK author Melanie Phillips, about violent women.



The Gender Neutrality Joke

Services only for women.



Blaming the victim

No excuse for violence, unless you're a woman, perpetrator programs teach.



Gender-polarization

Only men need pledge against violence.



Police Training

Evaluator finds police largely unpersuaded by feminist perspective.









"I'm ashamed for what I did ...



Gender Focus on Men Hurts Women



Maybe if TV star Phil Hartman's wife had received help, she wouldn't have killed him and herself. But battering women are told they're the victim.

I'm Ashamed for What I Did

Detroit News Spotlight on the Female Abuser



Radical feminists agree

that women's experiences are trivialized. Suzanne Steinmetz.



What About the Women?

How Many Domestic Violence Awareness Advocates Discriminate Against Women. Phil Cook, author of Abused Men



