The Trend of the Feminine Guy

By: Bethany Baird

It all started a few years ago. Guys began throwing away their rough and tough work pants for a pair of teeny-bopper-skinny-stretch-jeans. How or why a guy would want to wear girl’s jeans I’ll never understand. But it’s happened and it’s encouraged our generation of guys and girls to accept a new form of feminine masculinity. It’s not accidental either. I googled “the trend of the feminine guy” and came up with quotes like these:

“Diminished Masculinity”

“Mens Fashion has been feminized”

“Add a Purse and you have the final nail in the coffin of masculinity”

The fashion industry as a whole doesn’t create “accidental” clothing. They have an agenda that ever so subtly desensitizes its buyers into accepting a new form of clothing. Their goal? No gender distinctions. If you don’t believe me, take a walk through fashion history over the past one hundred years. You will find that clothing as a whole went from being distinctly masculine and feminine to shockingly similar.

The question is, why? Why is the fashion industry, along with dozens of other secular sources, trying to degenderize clothing? I think the issue on our hands is much deeper than guys wearing tight skinny jeans, deep v-necks or having perfectly groomed eyebrows. The problem is an attack on Christ and the push to eliminate anything that points to God’s original creation.

If the lost world can slowly but surely deceive us into thinking that there really is no difference between guys and girls, we will ultimately lose sight of why the guy (or girl) was created in the first place.

Stop and think about it.

Why did God create guys? What was His original design for them? Were they created to be unique from girls? Pop culture would like you to believe that there isn’t a specific purpose for the male gender. In fact, they’d love for you to believe that it’s up to each individual to choose what or who they want to be, a guy or a girl.

Thankfully pop culture isn’t (or shouldn’t be) our standard of truth. We have the Bible to show us the true purpose for the guy. Holding on to gender distinctions is more important than you might think. Here are three reasons why:

1. Guys were created to work.

God created man from the dust of the ground and then stuck him in the garden to work and keep it (Genesis 2:15). God designed man with a unique hardwiring for work to provide for those in his sphere of responsibility. God also designed men to be physically strong enabling them for this hard work. When guys work hard to protect and provide for those they are responsible for, it brings glory to God in a way that is unique to guys. Work takes on a whole new meaning for the guy when he views it as one of God’s purposeful callings for his life.

2. Guys were created to lead.

God created a guy with a unique calling to leave his parents’ house, get married, and lead a family of his own (Genesis 2:24). That would involve hard work to prepare for this stage and then spiritual maturity to selflessly lead his new family. Notice that it’s the guy who is called to leave his family. It’s his job to find and pursue a wife. It’s his job to provide a place for his family to live. No wonder it’s important for guys to initiate, pursue and provide. It’s part of their unique God-given design. When they do these things they bring glory to God in a specific way that we as girls can’t.

3. Guys were created to protect.

Do you remember the story of the Titanic? “Women and Children first” cried the heroic men on board the ship. Can you imagine such a thing being said in this day and age? Women would cry that the men were being sexist and then stand their ground. They would rather sink to the bottom of the ocean to prove that girls can be just as tough and sacrificial as guys can be. Sadly, modern day girls are completely missing the point. God has called and hardwired men to protect, sacrifice, and cherish women in a unique way (Ephesians 5:28-29). What an incredible responsibility guys have been given by God. They are called to work hard for their families, lead them in godliness, and now protect and sacrifice for them just like Christ did for the Church. The men on board the Titanic reflected Christ’s sacrifice incredibly. They lived out the ultimate example of sacrifice by giving up their lives for those God had called them to protect. God has given all guys a unique calling to protect. When they live out this calling, again, they glorify God in ways that we as girls can’t.

Trending Themes

Did you notice a trending theme throughout those three major points? A guys calling to work, lead and protect had nothing to do with making himself better and everything to do with serving others and bringing glory to Christ. When we encourage guys to live out their calling as biblical men, we are encouraging them to glorify God in a way that is unique to men alone.

We need to get serious about helping guys think, look, and behave like true biblical men. We as girls need to act in a way that challenges guys to live up to their God-given calling. It’s not just guys masculinity that is at stake here, it’s God’s glory that’s at stake.

The next time that you are tempted to think “guys wearing feminine clothing isn’t that big a deal,” remember what’s at stake. Remember that God chose to create the male gender purposely different from the female gender. Gender is a huge part of God’s design and we need to work hard to keep it distinctly different.

Do you believe that God had a specific purpose in mind when He created genders?

According to the Bible, why do you think God created the male?

How can you encourage guys to act more like a biblical man?