SEX on a first date can be frowned upon, but that doesn't bother Brit lingerie designer Elysia Downings.

The 28-year-old says she always beds her date on the first meeting - and reckons it helps to weed out the time wasters.

5 Elysia Downings, 28, ALWAYS has sex on a first date Credit: Elysia Downings

And she may be onto something, as experts now think having sex on a first date helps to kickstart a relationship and won't affect your chances of going long term.

Despite being slut-shamed, Elysia believes there's nothing wrong with getting intimate straight away, claiming it's a great indicator of chemistry.

She also believes it's a great - and fast - way of finding out if a guy wants to date you or just get lucky.

Here, Elysia, from Buxton, Derbyshire, tells Fabulous Digital why she's making a (one night) stand...

5 She says it helps to weed out the time wasters Credit: Elysia Downings

I don’t see anything wrong with always sleeping with men on first dates – in fact, there are benefits.

If a guy is only interested in having sex with you, regardless of whether you do that on the first date or ten dates later, they’re going to disappear.

So by having sex with them on the first date, you can work out where the relationship is going to end up. It helps make sure you're not wasting your time.

I usually connect with men online, it doesn’t necessarily have to be on dating sites.

If I connect with someone on social media, and I think they’re attractive, I’ll slide it into their DMs and I’ll arrange to meet up with them for a drink. But first I’ll try to suss out their character.

I’ll always make sure there’s a connection. That way, when I meet them, there’s that spark, that energy and that chemistry.

When I go on the date, I’ll always make sure I’m wearing something that’s flattering that shows off my figure.

5 Elysia has been slut-shamed by other women but it won't stop her from bedding her dates Credit: Elysia Downings

I know straight away that I’m going to sleep with a man. Then I subtly let them know that I’m interested with my body language.

I might not directly say "let’s go to bed" – I give a good flirt. There’s lots of eye contact and tactile touching.

But I don’t make the first move – I give them clear signals and leave it to them.

After drinks, sometimes I’ll suggest we go to mine or they’ll suggest we go to theirs.

I always want our sex to be like you see in a passionate movie scene, but depending on how much alcohol people have had, it can be very far from it.

I’ve had really bad experiences as well as really good.

If a guy is only interested in having sex with you, regardless of whether you do that on the first date or the 10th, they’re going to disappear Elysia Downings, 28

I’ve also had some men who have checked Instagram. Not necessarily mid sex, but after or even before. If we’re lying in bed they’ll reach over for their phone and it’s very off-putting.

What makes for really good sex on a first date is when you’re really attracted to each other and there’s loads of passion and it’s as though they intuitively know what you want, and I don’t have to tell them.

When I’m really relaxed I’m able to let myself go and really enjoy myself. It’s like your fantasy becomes a reality, that’s when it becomes the best.

Loads of passion is really what’s important – and them being fully focused on me and not distracted in any way.

5 She doesn't always orgasm with a stranger - but says it's still worth trying Credit: Elysia Downings

I don’t always orgasm with someone I don’t know that well. It’s always the goal but it’s not always a guarantee.

I have never faked it. I wouldn’t let them have the satisfaction of faking it – they need to know what they’re doing. None of them have ever said they’ve been disappointed that I haven’t orgasmed.

Overall, with the men I’ve slept with on the first date, I’ve had more negative sexual experiences than ones that I’ve thought were definitely worth it.

I’m always learning from the negative ones and although I try my best not to act impulsively, sometimes it’s easy to get carried away in the moment.

I don’t always orgasm with someone I don’t know that well. It’s always the goal but it’s not always a guarantee Elysia Downings, 28

At the end of the day, it’s my choice. But the sex is always better when you’re a bit more comfortable with each other.

If the sex is really good, I will have sex more than once in a night.

The most recent guy I slept with, we stayed up all night and had a great time.

I got round there for 6pm and we went to sleep about 4am. It wasn’t constant, we did watch a bit of TV in between!

There was definitely chemistry there. And it was a great experience.

He had three orgasms and I had the same.

He was extremely conventionally physically attractive and that does help. But for me it’s more a personality thing. I can be attracted to their mannerisms and the way that they are.

If there’s chemistry, the way their body looks doesn’t really matter. I’ve already got to the stage that I’m attracted to them and I’ve accepted them.

But the last guy was very, very attractive.

5 Elysia always insists that the bloke wears a condom now - but was less careful when she was younger Credit: Elysia Downings

I would see him again but I don’t know what his intentions are. It was great sex, however I don’t know how much integrity he has, how honest he was.

I think he might possibly be sleeping with other people. It’s not something that he’s directly said but I think women are quite intuitive. There’s always got to be a catch.

If I knew that a man was definitely in a relationship or definitely sleeping with other people, it wouldn’t be an option.

But sometimes men can deceive you and it might be something you’d only find out if you did a lot of digging. I do now insist that the man wears a condom.

There have been occasions where I’ve got carried away and not used protection when I was younger, which is something that I do really regret and I end up feeling awful about myself afterwards.

I’m a little bit older and wiser now and I think it’s important to respect your body and your health. I still get checked regularly for STIs too.

I don’t sneak off after having sex as that can feel a little uncomfortable.

It’s nice to spend the night together and feel a little more connected rather than "I’m done and I’m going".

I never feel awkward the morning after – they’ve already seen me naked!

I don’t think it hinders my chances of finding love – I’ve had long-term relationships with men I’ve slept with on the first date.

But I do think how women behave sexually is judged different to how men act – and it’s more women judging other women.

Women can make the problem worse, instead of supporting each other we slut-shame each other when we should be lifting each other up.

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I’ve had comments from other women because I’m quite open about my life and my sex life. I’ve had some really horrible things.

My friends support me, listen to my stories, have a laugh with me, and help me to reflect on the experience and where I want to go from there. My friends are never judgmental.

I work as a cam girl with Off The Record and I wasn't honest with my family about that at first, but now they realise I'm safe and happy doing it.

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Elysia runs Betsy Boudoir, shop her range of lingerie and toys here.