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Dude. A lesbian likes girls because girls turn her on. It has nothing to do with "women know what women like" (as if "women" was a monolithic category and all women liked the same thing . . . hint: they don't; try reading this, eh?: http://gretachristina.typepad.com/greta_christinas... ). And no, it has nothing to do with women being "soft and gentle" . . . that leaves out all the women who like their ladies hard and tough, and who like their lesbian sex rough!

"why don't they just find a nice gentle man who is loving and cares more for the girls needs in bed than their own . . . why doesn't she just tell the guy what to do with his tongue or hands"

Another bit o' knowledge for ya: lesbians actually don't just lay there and get pleased- they also like to pleasure their partners! Which means they actually like to orally and manually stimulate vulvas, vaginas, and breasts, along with having theirs stimulated as well. And no, my dear- even the most generous male lover who is super skilled is not going to do it for a lesbian woman . . . she'd rather have the clumsy-at-sex, greedy female lover over a dude.

Look, there's a simple reason why lesbians are lesbians- because they're lesbians. Whatever makes straight men straight, and straight women straight is the same thing that makes lesbians be sexually attracted to women and not men (some people think it's genetic, some people think it's something else . . . suffice to say, we know it seems innate and not something most people can control or change).

And lesbian women [who use toys; not all lesbians use toys, yo] use dildos because, surprisingly, dildos aren't penises. Dildos don't smell like penises. They don't taste like penises. They often don't look like penises (http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/toys/nonreal_dildo... ). And best of all- they're attached to women, not men. Some lesbians like dildos because- duh- a dildo is shaped in such a way as to provide internal, vaginal sexual stimulation. It feels good. Dildos can be a little longer than fingers and have textural aspects that make them feel fantastic. Or dildos can be put into strap-on harnesses so that your hands are free and you can use the power of your hips to thrust.

Hope that helps!