I mean....you gave her the ok to go be with someone else what did you think was going to happen.



Get yourself a good lawyer. I know you still love her but she does not love you (or even respects you?) You're going to have to get a divorce. That sucks, you will be heart broken for a long time but you will get over it and you will eventually find someone that loves you on a more consistent basis. You know how you felt to finally be wanted after years of not feeling that way? What if I told you, that you could have that all the time....with the right person. This sounds harsh but you have to move on, get yourself.....and the children a therapist as well. You'll need it to get shit off your chest to someone in person, a internet forum is not a substitute for that. The kids may need it because well....you don't know what impact this may eventually have on them.



God speed OP and very sorry this has to happen to you.



P.s. : that whole "I know it wasn't her fault". That's the love talking, you two were married....MARRIED... That is supposed to like mean something....you may have fucked up by not reading the signs but she ain't innocent.