There is a huge difference between a girl you want to have a one night stand with and someone you want to have a more permanent situation with. Friend with benefits is a one night stand with a different level of commitment. Yes, that is right, I said commitment. That is not usually a word that we ascribe to purely sexual relationships, in fact that negates a solely physical relationship all together. If you are satisfied with your one night stand, and think you have some special magic together, you may want to make it steadier. A friend with benefits situation is a way to make it more of a steady thing. There are some steps to turning a one night stand to a regular friend with benefits.

Communication

When you wake up in the morning from a one night stand, hopefully she is still there. If she is there you have to be careful in how you word what you are about to ask. You don’t want there to be a misunderstanding about wanting a real relationship, so you have to choose your words wisely. Start by telling her that your sexual experience the night before was outstanding. In no uncertain terms tell her that it was something magical and something that you didn’t get enough of. Explain that the last thing you want is a real emotional relationship, but that she is cool and you would like to hang out with her on a regular basis. Feel her out to see what it is that she thinks.

Ask her if she would like to hang out with you

The first step is to ask her if she would like to hang out with you again. Tell her that you would like to be friends because you think you have a lot in common, but aren’t looking for a girlfriend. If you keep it light and ask if she likes to go to bars, or hang out at parties, there won’t be any misunderstanding in what you are really asking for.







Ask her if the sex was good for her

You have to make sure that she has the same feelings toward you. Just because you thought the sex was amazing does not ensure that she had the same experience. Ask her if the sex was good and if she thinks she would like to try it again sometime. It isn’t necessary to ask her if she would like to do it on a regular basis. First you have to get to the two night stand stage. If she agrees to meet you again in the next week, you know that you have a chance of making it a regular thing.

Make another “date” to get together

Don’t exactly ask her out, ask her if she would like to hang out. If there is a band, or a game on that you would like to watch, ask her if she wants to meet you out sometime. This is the time when you want to ask her if you can have her cell phone. That will come in handy the next time you are out and want to make a booty call.

Be kind and courteous

If you want it to happen again, then you should be kind and courteous. Offer to drive her home, or get her a cab. Making sure that she is treated right is important to seeing her again. If you show no concern for her, what is going to be the incentive to meeting up with you again? Sure the sex may have been good, but you have to make the whole experience something she would like to try again.

Text her in the next couple of days

If you want to have sex with her again, text her that you would like her to come meet you. If you didn’t sure up a time while you had the chance, ask her to come meet you or ask if you can come meet her. Being a friend with benefits means that you have to appeal to her on two levels, sexual and friendship.