The Hardest Things To Get Used To As A Woman

Boobs and ladybits were the easy part.

Since my boobs grew over the course of a few years they didn’t require any adjustment.

And even though my outie became an innie in just a few hours, my ladybits were an easy transition because I’d spent my entire life wishing for the moment it would happen.

So what were the hardest things to get used to?

1) Having facial hair.

Most men shave every day. And transwomen shave multiple times per day to ensure that there isn’t even a trace of facial hair present.

By contrast, all women have facial hair. In most cases it’s light– even translucent– and very soft. But it’s there.

When you’re used to having perfectly hairless skin on your face for many decades it’s very difficult to adjust to suddenly having facial hair.

I’ve had laser and electrolysis appointments over the past seven years. During that time I went from having a thick reddish-brown beard to nearly invisible baby fine blonde peach fuzz. It’s been a long, grueling and expensive process.

Even though my facial hair is typical, for a woman, I still continue to go on a semi-regular basis because I (unrealistically) hope to have a perfectly hairless face, someday.

My electrologist tells me that that’s impossible because she can’t zap hairs that she can’t see– even with her special magnifying glasses. Sometimes she just throws up her hands and says, “I’m tired of hunting for them. You’re done.”

Sometimes I shave my face, which causes my electrologist to practically stroke out– but it makes my skin feel like a baby’s and I like that.

I think I’ve gradually gotten used to having hair on my face, but it’s definitely been a long adjustment.

2) Being talked to like I’m stupid.

Interestingly, the smarter a man is, the smarter he usually assumes a woman is. Intelligent men almost never talk down to me.

Dumb men, however, almost always assume that women are idiots– and that men are geniuses.

In fact, the more ignorant a man is the smarter he thinks he is and the dumber he thinks women are.

Unfortunately, there is no shortage of dumb men and some days it gets on my very last nerve when they talk to me like I need instructions on how to inhale and exhale.

Other than those two things, it’s easy to be a woman on the outside– as long as you’re a woman on the inside. Sure, there are plenty of challenges that men aren’t aware of, but they come with the package and you just accept them as part of the deal (social structure in the female world or physical attractiveness expectations or dealing with unwanted advances, for instance).

I’m so happy with who I am, now. My world isn’t perfect, but it’s pretty durn good.

I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

-fuzzyfacechelle