After seven years together she has lost all interest in sex. I am reluctant to look elsewhere – but the temptation is growing

I have been in a very happy relationship for seven years. We are middle-aged and used to have an enthusiastic and satisfying sex life. With the menopause, however, my partner’s sex drive has hit zero. She has no interest in intimacy and can see no change in the future. She has said I should find someone else to satisfy that part of my life, and has repeated this a number of times. I am reluctant to do so, but the temptation is growing stronger. A further complicating factor is my uncertain future, as I am recovering from cancer treatment. I fear I am entering a minefield, with potential disaster wherever I go.

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