There are people out there who are so private and secretive that you’re always shocked they can even speak. They share nothing. And it’s frustrating….and can be boring. Then there’s that person who is the exact opposite. The oversharer. That person who has no filter, will tell you anything about anything and anyone. This person is fun, fascinating, interesting and exhausting as hell. Part of you is even afraid to divulge any information about yourself because, “What if they overshare this personal info with someone else?”. Embarrassing…



Of course, most people are a mix of the two. But it seems like bouncing between Oversharer Central and Super Secretive Central is very common amongst those of us on the spectrum. But why are like this?



Let’s ponder a few things:





we’re desperate for a connection. Maybe not desperate, but most of us really want one.

But because of our life condition, it can be hard.

Most of us just hate small talk. It’s just so boring.

SO we want to skip the small talk and get to the real talk.

I end up telling people about my hives and even show them the one on my leg.

You’re having a nightmare of a day, so you confide in the person sitting next to you in the Uber cab.

You talk about some of your deep, dark secret with the friend you’ve only known for 2 weeks.

But when someone asks you a personal question, you’re suddenly mute.

You keep your hobbies and interests to yourself because people have made fun of you for them in the past.

And you don’t want history repeating itself.

You talk about your true crime special interest before you tell someone your name.

Sharing all sorts of disturbing details to your potential new friend.

Someone asks you a personal question and you just unload on them.

Talking about menstrual cramp to the friendly UPS guy. Way to make an impression *sarcasm*.

Your therapist asks you a bunch of questions about your life, which is their job.

But you don’t know how to answer any of them. Or you don’t give the answers they want or expect.

You think you’re being open when you’re not.

You think you’re being private when you’re not.

“Should I tell them about my diagnosis or should I keep it to myself?“

Overshare and you risk rejection.

Be a Super Secret agent and you risk rejection.

You’re more comfortable being open, but you know you can’t always be.

You suspect you should be private, but you know you can’t always be.

And so on and so forth.

So you just keep up your two modes. Why? Maybe it’s okay? It’s who you are. Any tips?

See you next week!