A random TVD-related epiphany hit me today at work. In general, I can get along with other 'shippers, even acknowledge that their preferred pairing as much, if not sometimes more, validation than mine.But the reason Stelena 'shippers tend to grate on my nerves is because they feelLet's remember that TVD, as a general synopsis, is about the love triangle amongst Elena, Stefan, and Damon. And from episode one, Stelena had it all. They've had the sweet, quiet moments, the tenderness, the numerous kisses, the sex and sexy scenes, the professed love. For two entire seasons, and even the first few episodes of season 3, they had all of it.There's a notable difference in Delena fans. They are elated with a simple, chaste kiss. And so far, aside from a few moments of intense words, that's all Delena fans have had. The Delena fandom nearly erupted in the season 2 finale when Elena willingly kissed Damon, and they just about spontaneously combusted when the two kissed--again--in season 3.Stelena has had it all. Undying love, promises of forever and ever, brief break-ups followed by intense make-ups. And the Stelena fans insist it's not enough, that so much as an understanding glance between Damon and Elena is unfair and biased.is the reason I usually stay out of fandoms that try to establish pairings. Orphen was so simple; he never ended up with anybody, but there was chemistry abounds to play with, and each argument seemed as equal as the next. Saiyuki was even more so; four main characters, all men, all teeming with homo-eroticism, and no hard facts that say the author prefers one pairing over the other.Once you have something like The Vampire Diaries--or, say, Fruits Basket (Kyo/Tohru versus Yuki/Tohru, until the last 2-3 manga volumes)--the fandom goes from bitingly civilized to hostile and rude.Honestly, I'm kind of awaiting the end to the series, if only to stop this insipid behavior. But they'll just find another series to latch on to, and the cycle continues.Personally, I'll be a Delena supporter to the end. Who she ends up with--or doesn't--is not a factor to me in the end. I'm a fan of chemistry. I don't deny Stelena's value, but their fans are disgustingly entitled to everything that the series can't actually give them at this point in time (because, if it ends with Elena only sharing a kiss and a couple fond words with Damon, than the triangle is really more of a squashed shape that hasequality or value, and they might as well advertise it as: "A love story between a girl and her true love and her occasional emotional fling").And yet, as much as I bitch about the fandom and fans, I'll probably continue to write Delena erotica until I lose interest. Because, let's face it, so far the series gives me so little to be satisfied and yet so much room to play with.