That is not the way to happiness

One cannot possibly find happiness when in constant worry and fear of everything. It sounds so obvious and yet, it’s like no one really tries to get rid of it before trying to be happy. You can strive all you want for what you think is happiness, if your mind is fogged with fear, you’ll never find anything close to real happiness.

Fear, in all its forms, is always here. It won’t be just eradicated by finding joy. You have to get rid of it to be able to find joy, or it will always be coming in the back of your mind to remind you not to appreciate things too much.

Your life only really begins when you’re free of fear.

Free of the fear of others’ opinions, the fear of loneliness, emptiness, the fear of death. Only when you break those chains, you can feel the real freedom, the real life. The bliss of standing in this world, strong and unbreakable, being able to see things as they are without any blindfold put on by fear.

Life only begins then, because what is a fearful life? Is it really necessary? Is it really beautiful? It is only nonsense to live such a life. It is a sad and sick way of living, and we should all be looking for a cure.

Realize it

We are plagued by fear, and this is the truth. You have to realize it, that is the first step of getting through it. If you don’t see the wall, you’ll keep running into it. You have to understand how that wall is made to see how to go around it. It is the same with fear, once you look at it and understand it, you’ll find the way around. But that takes will and courage, because we are so used of running away when faced with fear, that now we even became scared of facing fear itself.

Stop escaping

Escaping is our main activity. Every pleasure we surrender to is an escape from what we don’t want to face. And this has to stop. If we want to change, we have to change what we do and how we react: stop running. Sit down and look (Read more in Sit down and look, for once in your life). Be aware and understand yourself, how you work, how you think, how you react. Once you understand yourself, you’ll see why you do certain things, and how stupid they are. You’ll suddenly realize you’ve been running into the wall, and, naturally, you’ll stop doing it. By pure and simple realization.