Today, Province House is Innis’ home, and he is the state senator for New Hampshire’s 24th District, which includes much of the state’s narrow seacoast. After Innis, 55, lost the Republican primary for New Hampshire’s 1st Congressional District in 2014, he served as the finance chair of the state Republican Party. Two years ago, a Republican official approached him and asked if he would run for the 24th state Senate District.

“I had a four-way primary two years ago — three guys, married, kids. You know the typical American family,” Innis explained. “Then there was me — married with kids, but married to a man, and my kids are from a previous marriage. So it was it was different, and it was a little intimidating.” Innis ran and won.

His status as a Republican officeholder who is also gay places Innis into a rare group — the LGBTQ Victory Institute estimates that of the 559 openly lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer elected officials across the U.S., just 21 are Republicans. While the Log Cabin Republicans, a gay conservative group, has existed since the late 1970s, it has little power, as the national party has long spurned LGBTQ supporters in favor of a larger bloc: religious conservatives. Of the hundreds of out candidates tracked this election cycle by the LGBTQ Victory Institute, just 18 ran as Republicans.

CHANGING "HEARTS AND MINDS"

For Innis, New Hampshire represents a unique place where a conservative gay man can be accepted as a representative in state government.

“We are the ‘Live Free or Die’ state, and we don’t take rights away from people,” Innis said. “The legislature gave couples like me and Doug a right, and the legislature with a Republican veto-proof majority upheld that right.”

Dan Innis' campaign car sits outside his home, Province House. Tim Fitzsimons / NBC News

Innis said gay Republicans like him do change the “hearts and minds” of straight Republicans. After a month in the New Hampshire state Senate, Republican Bill Gannon sat down next to Innis and told him, “You’ve changed the way I think,” Innis recounted.

“When I first sat next to you, I didn't think gay couples should be allowed to marry. I didn’t think they should be allowed to adopt children. I didn’t think that you should have the same rights as us,” Innis recalled Gannon saying. “Being next to you, and learning who you are and understanding who you are — I’ve changed my mind on all those issues.”

A bill banning so-called gay conversion therapy, the discredited practice that purports to make gay people straight, made a tortuous three-year-long journey through the state legislature and was eventually signed earlier this year by Republican Gov. Chris Sununu.

“If I hadn’t been in the Senate, I don’t think it would have gotten through,” Innis said. Gannon voted for the ban.

LIFE BEFORE POLITICS

Before he ran for office, Innis was dean of the University of New Hampshire’s Peter T. Paul College of Business and Economics. Today, he lives in New Castle with his husband, Doug Palardy. Together they own and operate an inn on New Castle Island.

About 14 years ago, Innis came out to his wife. “It was brutal,” he said. “I knew I was different when I was 13. I tried not to be. Honestly, I didn’t want to be.”

“In 1976, it was really hard to be gay, terribly hard. We were viewed as deviant, sick, deranged, you name it — and then the ’80s came, and with it came HIV, and that just compounded the problem,” Innis said. “So I decided to do what society told me I should do.”

Innis married, had three kids and stayed with his wife, who knew he had “leanings,” until his early 40s, when he couldn’t deny who he was any longer.

“I met Doug far too quickly, because you want a little to date a few guys,” Innis quipped. “But sometimes life brings you something that is right, and you know it, and you just have to stick with it — and he was right, and I knew it. The rest is history.”

Innis says gay Republicans like himself are crucial to making the party more LGBTQ-friendly.

“I’ve said for a decade, we cannot win the equality battle with just the Democratic Party. It won’t work, period,” he explained. “You’ve got to win the hearts and minds of Republicans.”

THE TRUMP CHALLENGE

Innis said there are many assumptions about Republicans’ views on LGBTQ issues, but he said these assumptions are “not true in New Hampshire.”

However, when asked if he thought, as a gay Republican, he could be politically successful outside of a progressive state like New Hampshire, Innis was equivocal.

“Could I win? I don’t know. Maybe in certain districts, but in New Hampshire, candidates like me can win,” he said.

When asked about President Donald Trump, who promised to be a “friend” to the LGBTQ community during the 2016 presidential election, Innis grew more cautious.

“Trump is a character, and, since I am being recorded, I am watching my words carefully here,” Innis said, “But I will say, with respect to our community, he has been as positive as any president I’ve seen.”

Later, when pressed on whether there were any points at which he considered denouncing the president, Innis said, “no.”

“The way he governs as president is certainly not the way I would do it, and I’m not going to criticize him,” Innis added. “But I will say that he can make things a challenge for those of us at the state and local level.”

On a central question for the LGBTQ community today — whether “religious freedom” should allow individuals or businesses to refuse to serve lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people, Innis breaks with the LGBTQ movement.

“For me, the cake issue is very simple,” Innis said. “If somebody doesn’t want to sell me a cake, I’ll buy one somewhere else. You don’t get my business, and you don’t get any business from our community.”

Innis thinks it would be wrong for the federal government to force religious people to serve LGBTQ people if it violates their religious beliefs:

“I would like to see the states handle it,” he said. When pressed on whether this could create a Jim Crow-style system where LGBTQ people are protected in some parts of the country but not others, Innis said, “If [states] don’t do so appropriately, then there might be a case to be made for federal law.”

This year, the Democratic National Committee is focusing on New Hampshire’s 24th Senate District as a local race it hopes to flip from Republican to Democratic. On Nov. 6, Innis will face off against Democrat Tom Sherman, a physician and two-term lawmaker in the New Hampshire House of Representatives. Innis is confident he will keep his seat.

"When I win, I will continue to work for the people that I represent," he said. "I will continue to improve our business climate, protect the public health of all citizens with continued work on water quality, alternative energy sources, and protecting the beauty of our great state."

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