All of the “Where Have All the Good Men Gone” articles reminded me of some conversations I have had with women my age (pushing 40) in the past couple of years.

One in particular literally said, when complaining about not being in a committed relationship –

“I think men are intimidated by me!”

She was the typical woman who chose a “career” and made it her life. A pivotal moment in her life was when she got cervical cancer and she chose to freeze her eggs so that one day she could have a child. She began reflecting on life, what is important to her, and came to the conclusion that she wanted to be married and have children. Then, the obvious question in her life became –

“why am I still single?”

Her conclusion was that men must be intimidated by her. Not for a single moment did she have an introspective thought. She never considered the notions that:

-her standards might be too high

-she might need to lose weight/work on her appearance

something might be wrong with her personality, etc.

No. Nada. Zip. Zero.

Her conclusion was that she was simply too fabulous.

Some ironic cliff notes –

1. Her mom was divorced and single and she was trying to help said mother in dating.

2. Her friend, who was honestly hot as fu$k and in her late 30’s, thought she was going to marry her boy friend but he dumped her a$$ for a girl in her 20’s and married her instead (paybacks a bit$h, isn’t it $unts?). Ironically, the late 30’s girl who got dumped was half white half Asian and she didn’t look that aged, but theres nothing like a fresh, spring chicken, now is there? Here’s to holding you girls to your same high standards!

3. Girl in question told me I looked hot but also looked “short and skinny”…We never met in person, were acquainted through business and she requested my picture. Ironic part is – the only picture she saw of me was with a fu$king sky scraper behind me. I $hit you not, THAT was the background/only thing to compare me to; not only that, we were the EXACT same height and she considered herself “tall” but I’m “short”. I never once told her she was too tall and overweight, which she was. It’s so natural for women to be rude and mean to men, it (at the time) felt so unnatural for me to say such things to a woman.

4. She also spent time in a relationship with a Chip ‘n Dale’s stripper. When she told me that, I was floored. When she realized I was disgusted she said –

“I FEEL judged!”

As though I am supposed to suspend my “judgement” and logical reasoning and just ACCEPT whatever she wishes to do or has done.

My point is, women NEVER consider the notion that they themselves might be the problem. No, the only problem is they are too fabulous for us. How many times have you heard a girl utter “men are intimidated by me” or some form of the same tripe? Can you imagine saying something tantamount to a woman? They would mock you relentlessly and be repelled.

I guarantee she is still single, to this day.