fatmf:

1. That time at the beginning of the relationship when I treated you like a queen/king/etc. was mostly just to lure you in.

2. I’m not in love with you. I’m in love with an idea I have in my head based on you, and also some fantasies I’ve had.

3. You’re not crazy. I just want you to think that.

4. Sometimes I get a glimpse of the reality of my behavior, but it’s too scary, so I shut it down and keep treating you the way I treat you.

5. I actually believe that it’s your job to meet my needs.

6. Your social support system terrifies me.

7. I hurt you because I want power and control, and I want power and control because it feels good and I’m insecure, scared, and weak.

8. I want you to believe that if you work hard enough you can fix the relationship, but that’s all a lie.

9. I keep telling you that you disappoint me because I want to keep you unstable and on the defensive.

10. Being alone is better than being with me.

(feel free to add more)