1. “I am impressed by your work ethics and thank you for your honest unfiltered feedback. I admit it isn’t very nice to hear though but it’s better than fake pleasantries.” –INTP

2. “You’re hilarious and you always know where you’re headed. I appreciate that.” –INFP

3. “The world will not end if tradition is not followed to the letter. Give flexibility a try. It’s breath-taking!” –ESFP

4. “Relax just for a second. Or maybe 5 minutes. Or maybe 24 hours? As long as it fits into your schedule, really.” –ESFP

5. “You are awesome and smart and I couldn’t possibly hate you. Anyone who does hate you is just envious.”

-ISTP

6. “Thank you for being loyal but I also really wish you’d take the initiative at the beginning of a friendship.” –ENFJ

7. “You’re doing a really good job but try to be a little less rigid.” –ISFJ

8. “Thank you for always being there to stabilize things when they go wrong.” –ISTJ

9. “I like that you pay attention to the rules but some bending them is ok. Some rules are stupid and you cant hold on to things just due to tradition.” –ENTP

10. “I know that you are a genuinely kind person, but please don’t assume I’m not, just because you don’t understand where I’m coming from.” –INFP

11. “Some rules don’t have to be followed to a T. Life calls for nuance and flexibility, and it’s ok to allow for that occasionally.” –INFJ

12. “Very outgoing and vibrant types might get most of the attention in this culture, but never doubt that your quieter, rational skills and way of being are of great value and necessary to our society.” -INTJ

13. “Please try to let your high expectations of everyone else rest. I can’t even see your standards let alone live up to them.” –ISTJ

14. “You are not boring. You are not overly conventional. You just adhere to an inner wisdom and resist being blown around by the winds of changing tastes, mores, and attitudes.” –INTJ

15. “I appreciate how you hold the world together. And I want you to know that I’m not promoting anarchy, it’s just that looking at the big picture is more important to me than worrying about social norms.” –INFJ

16. “I love how tradition oriented you are. It’s so cool that certain events can carry so much value for you. But don’t be afraid to create your own traditions. You have a brilliant, strategic mind and I think you’ll be surprised with the amazing things that it could make happen.” – ENFP

17. “Calm down and relax. I promise that if you ease up a bit that you might find your cup is fuller than you thought and that you might actually like it.” –ENFP

18. “Just because I’m different doesn’t make me wrong. I know you value structure, and organization, and stability, and all that jazz, but many people have FANTASTIC traits that you’re overlooking.” –ENFP

19. “I don’t understand the whole tradition thing, so maybe try not to jam it down people’s throats? Realize that some people view tradition as stagnation.” –INTJ

20. “You only live once. I know it’s really hard for ISTJs to understand because they always want everything to get done in the most efficient and perfect way possible. But life is short, and it’s so important to let go a little and leave some things for God.” –ENFP

21. “Your friends miss you. Come out from the cave a little more often; it’ll be good for you.” –INFJ