From: j_strafford

2010-02-11 02:12 pm (UTC)

Wow I feel like taking this book and smacking the author on the head with it.

From: corridor7f

2010-02-11 02:17 pm (UTC)

Is the author, M. Gary Neuman, a man or a woman?



I like how they call it "straying", as if he's a dog or something. How's about personal responsibility here?



Just a waste of paper.









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From: darth_blade

2010-02-11 02:22 pm (UTC)

What? Just because a woman can take steps to prevent cheating in a relationship, doesn't mean it's her fault if the man cheats. And at least the cover of the book doesn't imply that.

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From: ecchipiro

2010-02-11 03:22 pm (UTC)

What gets me most is that this POS is a bestseller ...



Yeah, it's always men who cheat. /OBVIOUS sarcasm

From: saciel

2010-02-11 03:38 pm (UTC)

I also don't see it as blaming the women... also I read that more as "You can't do nothing about is except strap him to the bad with handcuffs and double locks"

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From: tooimpurenangel

2010-02-11 04:25 pm (UTC)

Well, it's marketed to a very specific group-heterosexual women who have been cheated on, so why would it talk about women cheating? Personally, I think Rasputina say it best.

From: bettb

2010-02-11 10:09 pm (UTC)

Oh, I love it -- "Neglected girls shouldn't worry/that's what God made sailors for"

LMAO over here.

Meanwhile, the person who cheats is responsible for their own behavior. End of tale. Not the person betrayed. Gender is irrelevant.

From: captainlard

2010-02-11 04:42 pm (UTC)

cue opportunistic men cheating on their wives and buying them this book when they find out

From: dancing_minerva

2010-02-11 05:14 pm (UTC)

What to do about men who cheat?

1. Leave the stupid bastard in the dust.

2. Replace with better person, if desired.



What to do about women who cheat?

1. Leave the stupid bastard in the dust.

2. Replace with better person, if desired.



Christ on a cracker, it's not that friggin complicated.

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From: jazzyhenry

2010-02-12 01:45 am (UTC)

What a crock of a book.

I don't really believe in "preventing" something if that's just how the person is.. if a person is just a flat-out sleazebag, i'd rather just know that than "prevent" it. ha.

From: tealeavz

2010-02-12 03:14 am (UTC)

wow, and I was pretty sure that adultery is considered a sin in teh bible ... I can't believe the autor is a rabbi. And here I thought it was up to each individual not to sin ... how wrong I was! Of course it's all her fault.

From: menorahmajora

2010-02-12 03:26 am (UTC)

I look at it as, "ladies if you aren't completely perfect in every single way, he's going to cheat, and then it will be all your fault"



I'm actually dealing with this issue right now. I feel like we're conditioned to constantly please men, never say or do anything that will upset them, but men? they get a free pass. My ex boyfriend dumped me because I was pretty upset that he canceled on me for the ENTIRE weekend. I understand he has no car, I'm cool with that, neither do I, but truth of the matter is, out of the 72 hours in the weekend, if he really wanted to, he could have seen me for at least ten minutes. One of us could have gotten on a bus to see the other, and if he had asked me to, I would have, but he made it very clear there was absolutely "no way" we could see each other at all.



So HE dumps ME because HE didn't want to make effort, and I got very upset about this(also, I have bpd, and a history of giving giving giving in relationships but not getting in return.) If it had been reversed, I could be dead tired, bleeding from all points, whatever, if I really wanted to see him, I would find a way, because I really dug this guy.



Granted, maybe I did get a little too upset, but he decided then and there, to end it, without giving me "another chance" which really should have been, "brush it off, get the fuck over it and continue with the relationship, maybe being mindful of my feelings for once.

From: menorahmajora

2010-02-12 03:58 am (UTC)

oh and also we only get to see each other on the weekends, and sorry this turned into a huge rant.