1. Have a set of requirements.

I’ve noticed a KEY difference between how men and women act on dates.

Women usually act in a way that can be described like this:

“I think you’re interesting. I’d like to get to know you better, and we can see where this will lead us.”

Men usually act in a way that can be described like this:

“I want you so much that I’m nervous. In fact, I’m already thinking about you and me in a relationship or getting married…or at least having a one-night stand.”

In other words, women are usually casual and laid-back on dates.

But men tend to behave like every woman is the POTENTIAL MOTHER OF THEIR FUTURE CHILDREN.

I think you can see this creates a lot of tension and pressure.

And I’m not talking about the RIGHT kind of tension. I’m talking about the kind that makes guys shiver and shake with nervousness, and makes women feel uncomfortable because they can sense it.

I’m sure you can relate to this on some level.

The solution to this is quite simple.

HAVE A SET OF REQUIREMENTS.

If you ever start acting all nervous or freakish on a date, stop yourself and think of your requirements.

Act like a CEO that is recruiting someone.

A set of requirements helps you in so many ways.

First off, as I just said, it helps you to keep your composure. That’s because you won’t be sold so easily.

Second, it makes the conversation much more interesting, because you now have a purpose. You want to get to know her and see if she matches your criteria.

Third, you’ll build attraction. When you ask questions to find out if she matches your requirements, she’ll think you’re picky. Only men with options are picky.





Therefore, she’ll assume you have choice with women. Just the fact that she knows that other women want you makes you more attractive.





It’s called pre-selection. It’s one of the most powerful attraction switches within women. When women believe that other women are attracted to a man, they can’t help but feel attraction for that man too.

Here’s how to use your standards.

For example, let’s say one of your standards is that she has to eat healthy.

During your conversation, there might be some moment when the subject of food arises. That would be a perfect moment to ask her if she eats healthy.

“Do you eat healthy?”

Once she answers, you then either approve or disapprove of it.

If she meets your standard, you approve of her by telling her you like it and explain the reasons why you like it.

For example:

Her: “Yes, actually, I’m a health freak. I only eat whole foods and make green smoothies for myself every morning.”

You: “That’s good. I like that. Eating healthy is so important because it keeps you fit, and it gives you a lot of energy. You get done more in a day and you get sick less often.”

Now if she doesn’t meet your criterion, you have two options.

You can either disapprove by commenting on it, or you can just change the subject.

But if you comment on it, don’t be an ass about it.

And don’t underestimate the power of changing the subject.

When you change the subject, she will have seen on your face a mini-reaction that lets her know you didn’t like her answer.





Women are very perceptive about this. And it WILL show on your face if you truly care about the answer.





That’s why it’s so important that you take the time to find out what you want in a woman. What are your likes and dislikes? And what are your deal-breakers?

So again, knowing your criteria will make you more attractive and more relaxed during your conversations.

Speaking of relaxed…