you’re damn right it is a confidence problem.

the ideal is that “this is good” “thin is beautiful” “the beautiful thinness has specific measurements” and “the want to be thing at all costs is a thing to be met with positive reinforcement.”

the effect is that no one is as thin as those ideal measurements demand. that makes everyone fat in comparison, so everyone is unhappy.

it’s alright to treat people who are fatter than you like monsters, and you accept when thinner people treat you like that.

those who want to gain weight are met with disparaging comments.

you get comments like “you’re not as fat as you think” when really, i am as fat as i think, just not as fat as you think.

it causes people to accept that they are worthless and pointless and a waste of space and we expect to be treated so badly, that when we are treated like humans it throws us off outside our comfort zone. Our comfort zone is being treated bad.

it causes it to be normal when your GP or even parent encourages excessive and distructive weight loss for nothing but percieved attractiveness.

so yeah, you’re damned right it’s “just lack of confidence”. what exactly do you expect, when we adapt to an environment that rewards lack of confidence and desperate longing for a certain non-existent body type?!



this doesn’t just affect fat people. it affects everyone, it just means that if you’re actually fat, you’re a moving target and are not allowed to fight back.

(i am so sorry, i am just so steamed. when someone told me this after i told them that i was having a near panic attack when my inlaws didn’t treat me like a hideous joke.)