You Deserve Better, You Will Find Better: A Letter to My Hurting, Heartbroken Best Friend

Hey you,

I know I just got off the phone with you, but I'm writing this because there's a lot that was left unsaid, even in that hour-long conversation. An hour is never enough for us anyway. I know I used the cliched phrase, 'It's going to be okay' at least 15 times in that conversation, but I'm going to say it again right now. I also remember how much I hated it when you said the same thing to me the last time I got my heart broken, and the time before that, and before that, too.

That's always been our thing, right? We've both been happy for each other during our happy moments and been there for each other when those phases ended. But I know you really hoped that this was not a phase, that he was the one and that we'll never have this conversation again. I'm sorry that we have to. I really am. I know you're hurting and heartbroken and falling apart, which is exactly why I'm writing this.





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Your insides hurt, your eyes are tired from all the tears, you want to scream, and you also want to stay silent forever. I know all of this because I've felt these exact emotions. And, because of that, I won't undermine the pain that you're feeling. I won't judge you for feeling like your world is falling apart right now, and I won't call it just another breakup.

For now, I'll let you talk about everything that went wrong with him and how you can't believe it is over. I'll sit with you over wine or whiskey, let you indulge in your favourite dessert, and watch The Holiday with you while cribbing about how real life is nothing like the movies. I'll accompany you to the salon and to the gym, take a trip with you, post a gazillion happy selfies with you, and, in case none of this makes you feel better, I'll hug you.





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You're my best friend, which is why I'll repeat this till you believe me. You deserve better, you will find better, and I'll be with you to make sure you do. You're the strongest woman I know, and hurting over a broken heart doesn't make you weak, it makes you human. I will remind you that this feeling is not permanent. I will convince you that it gets better because it really does. One day, the grieving will stop, and you'll be able to look back on this day and not hate everything about it.

I want you to believe that that's possible, just like it's possible for you to love again. I want you to be happy. To be open to the idea of finding someone who makes you happy and to not give up on love. I want you to be optimistic, to have faith in the power of the universe, the way I do. For now, I'll end with a quote that gave me strength when I had none. I hope it does the same for you.

You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot before the other, and goddamn it, you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way.

Love,

Your best friend



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