MILFs – Moms I’d like to Fuck. You know what it stands for and the stereotypes with it. Whether it started as a teenage boy fancying your friend’s hot mom or you just know about it from Stifler in American Pie, MILFs are a common fantasy. But what is it about MILFs that young guys like so much?

Some young guys like the idea of an older woman teaching them the ropes in the bedroom. By being with a seductive mature woman, some guys think that they’ll get something extra. Whereas young women and girls may have a hot body, they don’t always know what to do in bed. However a MILF is expected to be more experienced, confident and elegant than a younger counterpart. It would make sense to think that a woman who has had longer to gain skills would know more about sex.

MILFs competition to win

Although they say that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. Porn and films in general seem to be telling a different story. Older women are more than capable of seducing men of all ages. Their bodies may be different but we have every reason to believe that MILFs can be just as hot as young starlets.

On a psychological basis, one may suggest that the MILF fetish stems from the Oedipus Complex as outlined by Freud. Where a young guy envies his father as he desires the mother for himself. Now while porn may not literally relate to psychoanalytical theory, the idea of jealousy may ring true.

When you see someone you find attractive who is already taken, there’s a kind of normal rivalry that can develop. You want to prove to her that you’re good enough and can please her. It’s little wonder then that there’s a whole range of MILF porn scenes where the MILF teaches her daughter’s boyfriend how to please women or the step son seduces his father’s wife.

MILFs may be more experienced & confident

MILFs are often portrayed as having amazing hair, big boobs, a fantastic body and a sexy mom vibe. Whether that includes flaunting herself in front of her son’s friends as in American Pie or just being provocative. MILFs are shown as seductive, experienced and confident. When you compare this with the way younger women can often be awkward, inexperienced and insecure, it’s an obvious contrast.

Where girls have youth and fitness on their side, they don’t always know what to do. Dating someone fractionally older might help overcome this issue while also allowing a guy to date somebody who is more independent. When guys want somebody who can be assertive, dominant and independent in taking care of her own needs first, MILFs can answer.

Real life MILFs

But does the MILF phenomenon actually happen in real life? There are lots of younger women who choose to date older men. The reasons for this include thinking that older men have more experience, charisma and are better established in life. As well as being more stable and mature than a younger guy. Yet there are less younger men dating older women in real life.

Part of this might be due to society judging women more harshly for dating somebody younger. Arguments could be made that a woman is only dating a ‘toyboy’ because she can’t commit to someone her own age or nobody her age finds her attractive. Younger women who date older men are judged more often on the basis that they have ‘daddy issues’ or just want a ‘sugar daddy.’ But when a younger guy dates an older woman, while there may be some disapproval from more prudish members of society, by and large, guys are allowed to get on with it.

Where couples form more committed relationships, as highlighted with Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet, there may be less stigma. Of course in practical terms, it might be harder to sustain a long term relationship where there is a larger age gap due to the implications on having children, the contrast in career progress and life experience. But that is not to say that it isn’t possible. Many do have great relationships which are a success.

Where women are often more mature than their male equivalents, guys are often thought to be immature. So when a girl wants to commit, seeing somebody older may appear to be a natural solution. In contrast, if a woman wants to have more fun, seeing a younger guy could be the natural fit. After all, for older men sex can sometimes be more challenging whereas a young guy usually has better stamina and energy to keep going.

Fantasy MILFs

Attraction is of course a big factor in any relationship. Where young guys appreciate the elegance and sex appeal of an older woman, the MILF may crave a young fit body. Plus by having had children, MILFs can have enhanced sex appeal as they switch from the ‘madonna’ to the ‘sex goddess’ role.

Submissive guys might want an older woman to teach them the ropes. The majority of dominant women or ‘dominatrixes’ are often older as they’ve explored their sexuality over a longer period. As such, while a lot of younger women are submissive, men seeking a more powerful woman might lean towards someone older. Dommes are usually more confident and established in their sexuality, both things being more common with age and experience.

Whether a man seeks a MILF to dominate him or just wants someone more experienced varies. But being attracted by the idea of an older woman is not uncommon. MILFs challenge the idea that a mom can still be sexy despite having had kids herself. This slight reversal of roles can be erotic by beating expectations.

MILFs may just be a fantasy to many young guys but to some it is more than just a daydream. We’ve heard many accounts of great experiences between young guys and MILFs. But if you’ve got a really wild story, tweet it to us – we’d love to hear more about it from you!