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proteinpills: atypical-cat: proteinpills: modernday-siren: strangeleaves: lethalmami: theanti90smovement: no fucking trans person is obligated to disclose the fact that they are trans to anyone until they are comfortable in doing so lol it’s not fucking “deceptive” Literally ​everyone in the world needs to know this No, it is fucking deceptive. Especially if you’re engaging in intimate activities. If gender meant so much to you that you had to change it, what makes you think the other person doesn’t have their own sentiments about gender. I don’t care what you wanna be, but you can’t violate my personal preference because of a decision you made. How you gonna make me feel bad that I want a woman who’s actually been a woman her entire life? Somebody may want a transgender man or woman…. But I don’t. Quit shaming people for having preferences. Quit letting political correctness run your thought processes. People have fucking opinions, so quit acting like they don’t. Have your own opinion and move the fuck around and quit demonizing and judging others for theirs.It’s bigger shit to focus. Never in your life reblog one of my posts and put this stupid shit on them. Trans people DO NOT have an obligation to disclose any fuckin thing to you unless they want to. No one has to tell you a damn fuckin thing about their gender. The fact that you somehow feel “entitled” to someone else’s personal information is disgusting. And just to point this out, if you’re getting intimate with someone, you should know more about them then just their gender. You should be feel comfortable enough to explain what you like sexually and what they like sexually.(meaning, more than likely, a trans person may tell you they’re trans). If you’re diving into bed with just anyone, who knows what else you’re spreading other than those idiotic thoughts. It’s so harmful to say that. Like stats have even shown that trans people do not not disclose them being trans before sex. Because they literally fear for their lives every damn day. People saying that really just reinforces harmful stereotypes that get trans people (esp women) killed. How sick. forreal tho how do you think people like strangeleaves define intimacy? wanting intimacy w someone but disregarding their comfort and saying you only care about someones body if its a certain way is fucked. and as most have mentioned leads to violence. which im sure dehumanizers like strangeleaves dgaf about. you have a great connection w a woman but will dismiss that connection completely because of the way they talk about their gender. who the fuck violated you in the situation at all? Highly doubt you love women strangeleaves But they’ll scream “sexual compatibility!!!!!!!!” Like as if there aren’t multiple was to have sex and be intimidate with a person. Also just the fact that people like to pretend like their preferences for the way they have sex exist in a vacuum and couldn’t possibly have been shaped by the world we live in. I find this post to be problematic for multiple reasons.

1. I understand that as a transexual person, you might not want to disclose your sexual identity for multiple valid reasons and that’s fine. You don’t have to go screaming it to the world if you don’t have to. But are we seriously going to pretend as if its morally right not to make your sexual partner aware that you are a transexual?

2. Saying you should know a person before you get intimate with them kinda shames people who are promiscuous/spontaneous. I’m sure a few of us have met someone at a function before and decided to get intimate with them that very night, and that’s fine. In your attempt to defend trans people, it’s not necessary for you to borderline put down others.

3. You guys are also dismissing the fact that people have sexual preferences. If a person wants someone who has always been male or female, who are you to dismiss that and say their preference was “shaped by the world we live in”? So is your preference for damn near everything, literally almost every single thing you like, everything you are waa shaped by the world we live in. It’s the “nurture” part of nature verses nurture. So would it be right for me to dismiss you because of that? No.

4. This isn’t about entitlement, you don’t have to tell me any personal info that I don’t need to know. BEING A TRANSEXUAL IS INFO THAT I NEED TO KNOW. I fail to see how anybody could disagree with that. I’ve been in a similar situation twice. Me and a girl have literally been sharing pics and then suddenly she sends me one of her fully naked and she had a penis. I didn’t flip out on her, I calmly told her I’m not cool with that and you really should have told me before hand.

Well we brought of knowing a person because we were not speaking on one night stands. We were talking about talking to someone for a bit and really liking them, being interested in them, and then not at all anymore once you find out they’re trans.

Yeah that’s what I said…our preferences don’t exist in a vacuum. So it’s really important to analyze our “preferences” and figure out where they stem from? Like that’s literally what everyone should do. No one denied that other preferences we have could be shaped by society. I said we need to examine them and see how they align with oppressive systems. That’s called doin the work. It’s not easy. It’s not a walk in the park. But it’s absolutely NECESSARY.

Also no one said anything about trans people not disclosing they’re trans before sex. I said that it’s very unlikely for a trans person not to do so (I encourage you to look up those statistics), because they fear for their lives on a daily. They’re more likely to disclose it before sex because g the fact that cis people are so fucking violent and horrible.

The way these discussions are framed are as if trans people don’t usually talk about being trans before sex and it’s completely in untrue. And it contributes to their oppression to make it seem like they don’t. People already see trans folks as liars so saying that shit it harmful as fuck. It’s literally irrelevant to say “but they should say something before sex!” Because THATS WHAT TRANS PEOPLE ARE ALREADY DOING. Once again, stop assuming everyone is cis. That’s you’re fault. Not theirs.