City-based Confidare, which guides victimised and distressed men reclaim their rights, has started a new initiative to educate unmarried men. A two-day workshop organised by Confidare, #SafeMarriage, will teach candidates the dos and don’ts to live happy and safe in marriage, according to the group.Speaking to Bangalore Mirror of the programme, Virag Dhulia, one of the founder members of Confidare, said, “We usually listen to men who are victims of domestic violence and support them in every possible way we can. We thought of this initiative to benefit unmarried men that would educate them on how to deal with every aspect of marriage. Through this awareness programme, we aim at reducing the risk of mental torture and abuse faced by men.”Cofounder Anil Kumar went on to add, “Today most men have no clue about how to deal with a conflict in marriage. It can be a mere difference of opinion or interference from husband’s or wife’s parents. Stress at job worsens this problem and increases the misunderstanding. Advice or mediation by parents or family elders often does not work and sometimes may actually add to the problem. In our training, we teach men about various family laws from pre-nuptial agreements to domestic violence laws. Wellbeing of men is our primary focus. With proper education and guidance, they can stay clear of marital problems that adversely impact them.”Activist of women’s rights and chairperson of Janodaya, an NGO that works for women empowerment, Santhosh Vas, has a different take of the initiative. “Women these days do not need a man’s help in any aspect because they are strong enough to manage things on their own. If you really want to make women happy, change traditions and cultures. For a change, we should send a man to the girl’s house and see how they all live happily ever after as there will be no issues of dowry and violence or abuse. I am happy that such a workshop is being organised, though I am sure that such workshops don’t work. I have no sympathy for a man who is a victim of domestic violence as the limit of tolerance in men is zero.”The two-day workshop will be held on February 27-28. Unmarried men will be trained on the following topics: Recent cultural changes in India, How to manage expectations in marriage, How to handle differences and conflicts, How to deal with parents and in-laws, Laws related to marriage, and How to safeguard oneself in marriage and prenuptial agreements.To enrol for the workshop, one can go to the #SafeMarriage link on the Confidare website.