The idea of dating an escort might sound like the ultimate fantasy. She’s sexy, skilled in bed and surely loves to have sex – right? If all that’s true then what’s not to like? There is often more to consider if you date an escort than just being her favourite call of the night!

Escorting is one of the oldest professions in the world. We know that there’s stigma around sex work, it can’t be denied but attitudes are changing. Society is becoming more accepting of sex workers and is beginning to recognise that women have many reasons for choosing to become an escort.

It isn’t always the case that a woman feels forced to be an escort. More women are turning to forms of courtesan life, whether through being a sugar baby or escort out of free choice. Plus lots of professional porn actresses also choose to moonlight as escorts on the side.

Women who are into alternative relationships might see escorting as a way to explore their desire to swing or find new dominant/submissive partners. Submissive men might want to date an escort who specialises in being a dominatrix to find their ultimate mistress.

So the question stands can you ever date an escort? And if you do, what are the challenges that come with it?

Professional vs Personal life

The first big question is that of how does an escort balance her professional sex life with her personal one? While many women deliberately choose to stay single while escorting to avoid the complications of dating, others are attached.

Having a committed partner and being an escort doesn’t have to be in conflict. But having a partner who is understanding of her work life and can manage the challenges of it is essential. This obviously raises the question of how do you meet an escort to begin with?

If you meet an escort through being her client first then it can be more complex. After all, there’s nearly always the uncertainty of whether you really are both genuine or if you just want certain benefits. You might doubt whether she really enjoys your company and the sex. While she may wonder if you have an ulterior motive in wanting freebies.

Once the initial hurdles are out of the way, the challenge remains as to how you balance professional and personal life. Escorts might choose to only engage in certain activities with their boyfriends while not doing so with clients or vice versa. For example, some women will engage in lesbian sex professionally despite being heterosexual in real life.

If you date an escort, you might hope to finally have that threesome fantasy come true. But you have to remember that there is a difference between what she does at work and her life at home.

Is she acting?

If you date an escort you may often wonder whether she really likes something or if she is acting. After all, she knows how to perform as if she’s enjoying herself even if she isn’t attracted to the men she sees. It’s normal to question if she is faking it, as chances are high that at work she has needed to fake it on occasion.

While she may easily be able to switch off from professional mode and go into personal, you might struggle with it. It’s not always easy knowing that your girlfriend is having sex with other people even when you’ve agreed to it.

Although sex for escorts is a professional act, it’s true that it is still an intimate one. Escorts have often said they don’t find the sex to be emotional in the way it is with a partner. Nevertheless, it’s still physical intimacy which can challenge monogamy.

In any relationship you need to have trust and open communication. If you date an escort this is even more important as there are inherent reasons why you might feel uneasy. But you should remember that while she may see clients for pay, she’s dating you for your own merits.

Call girl on call vs off duty

A major challenge of any kind of sex work but especially being an escort is balancing work schedules. When an escort is on call, she can have zero interest or be booked up constantly. Having to juggle personal commitments alongside work can be a struggle.

It’s much easier for an escort if she’s got regular bookings and has set hours in which to see clients. But unlike an office job, being an escort is not 9-5. A lot of business is requested in the evenings, often on weekends when single chaps are free to mingle and over the holiday periods.

Surprisingly, over the summer work can often drop off as clients become busy with their own personal lives and spend money on holidays or socialising rather than seeing their favourite call girl. It can prove difficult for some escorts to maintain a steady income due to this. Many escorts have other part time or even full time work to pay the bills while escorting for extra.

When you live with a lady who also escorts, you might need to be understanding that when times are hard, she may take last minute bookings to hit her target. Or that even when she’s off duty, if a good client expresses interest she may well skip take-away night and take the booking.

What about sex when you decide to date an escort?

Just because you’re dating someone who is a professional lover doesn’t mean you can expect sex on tap. Chances are that some days your girlfriend would want to unwind and ignore sex altogether. When she’s in the mood, you can bet she will blow your mind.

When it comes to trying new things in the bedroom, if you date an escort she may already know some fun things to try. Escorts who specialise in tantric sex or full body massage could touch you in these erogenous zones without you even having to ask!

She might enjoy alternative things like breath play, receive facials, gaping or rimming amongst many others. It’s more likely she’l have come across various kinks at work and should be more confident in her own sexuality.

If you like empowered, confident, sexy women going on a date with an escort may be right up your street. There are things you should never say and knowing about her industry may help you avoid misunderstandings.

You can date an escort and enjoy a great time together. Once you accept the status quo and are confident in your relationship, the sky is the limit.