Please publish this so you can lose more followers. The definition of racism is: the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior. So, explain to me exactly what it is about ALL black women, because you've obviously met every single one of us, that makes them undesirable? If it's not about you disliking the black race, what EXACTLY about black women drives you away from dating them?

fayesandra:

myheartcanthandleyou: All black women are unattractive to me. I’ve yet to meet or see one attractive black woman. I think black men can be attractive. Look at Kanye, J. Cole, Frank Ocean, even Schoolboy is attractive. Black women have never been attractive to me. Dark skin, at least. It’s preference. Just like I’ve yet to meet a girl with natural red hair that was attractive to me. Maybe one day I’ll meet one???? I don’t know. Probably not. I think he’s talking purely about a physical preference.



We all have preferences. I am not physically attracted to black men. I’m not physically attracted to bald men. I’m not physically attracted to ________. Does this mean I think ANY less of these men? Not at all! Could I possibly be attracted to a man like this? Absolutely. I could fall in love with him as a person and the way he looks would in turn become endearing. But solely based on physical appearance, I think I understand where he’s coming from. I could be wrong,though.

What the fuck are you talking about? How is saying all people with a certain skin color are unattractive not racism? We’re not talking about hair color or style. Those things have not been used to oppress certain segments of our society. When have bald men been subjugated and had every media outlet actively depicting them as undesirable? What is it about ALL black men that makes you dislike their appearance, if not racism? Literally the only thing we all have in common is our skin color and you don’t care enough to look past that. Why are you acting like your “preferences” can’t simultaneously be racist?

When I say it’s a racist decision, I’m saying you’re making a decision based solely on the color of someone’s skin. As in, “I will not consider dating someone outside of my race or within a certain race.” It isn’t necessarily the “I hate these people” variety, but race-based decision making is still racism. It’s a definite decision to exclude anyone and everyone within a group based on their skin color.

To purposely not check a certain box signifying a certain group of people that you would consider dating, by definition means you are making assumptions about that group and everybody in it. Or you are expressing a dislike for members of that group, as least when it comes to relationships. If all that matters was finding a mate that matched your interests and backgrounds then there would be no need to de-select any ethnic group because all of your other preferences and likes and dislikes would already filter out anyone who didn’t share your values and background. But de-selecting a certain group means even if they shared your values and interests, you wouldn’t date them anyway, which is racist.