Question

My 19-year-old is transgender boy (FTM). He lives all week as male with a girlfriend, but when he visits family, they all refer to him as "she" and use a girl name. What do I do?

Luna Rose Top Answerer

Call a family meeting, explain that your son's gender is important, and ask them to use the correct name and pronouns. Show them that you're serious about it. If they do not respect your wishes over something this important, then it's probably better for your son not to be with them. Being misgendered can take a toll on a person's mental health. Let him stay home, and tell family that he will come if he feels comfortable doing so. Dealing with your son being misgendered can be exhausting, so if it's too hard for you, feel free not to go. If they're doing this on purpose, then they are toxic people, and you and your son don't have to put up with it.