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Your comparison doesn't make sense to me. Denying that your child is biracial or your wife is Jewish isn't the same as denying you, yourself, is whatever. If you denied that you are biracial and/or Jewish that would make sense, but the way you phrased it doesn't. Besides why does he owe us the truth? Maybe he wasn't out to his family and friends yet. Maybe he was worried about his career. Who knows, but I'm sure there was a reason for him denying that he was gay then, as there is a reason for him coming out now.

My sister is a lesbian, and I knew she was gay since we were in high school, but she didn't actually come out until after she graduated college. She told me later that it was mostly because she was scared and wasn't ready to come to terms with it herself. She tried to force herself to suppress the feelings and date guys. She was also worried that she would upset other members of her family.

In my opinion, people should come out when they are good and ready. It is a personal decision and I have no right to pass any judgement on anyone else. If he wasn't ready to come out previously, then so be it. I don't find it homophobic. Of course, I would love it if all gay, bi, transgender, etc. folks shouted it from the rooftops, because I think that would help with some of the homophobia in America, but I can't (and wouldn't even if I could) force anyone to do anything outside their comfort zone.

Just my two cents.