supahmeggs asked: What your opinion on people thinking that it's sexist to say a man can't hit a woman even if she hits him first?

geekandmisandry:

I wonder why people are so hung up on hitting someone? Like why are you looking for excuses to hit people? If someone hits you that is abuse and hopefully you are in a situation where you can call the cops and get away from this abusive and toxic person. These conversations end up sounding like green eggs and ham “can I hit her when it rains, in the dark or on a train?”

Nobody should be hitting or otherwise assaulting anyone. That goes without saying. but don’t hit back if you’re not that hurt and the person who hit you first is weaker than you. Take that time to get away if you can. Seriously, hitting the person back will either escalate the situation or cause more serious injury. I’ve been punched, kicked, and bitten by children. Should I hit them back? Fuck no, because even though they hurt me, I could hurt them way more, so I just walk away. A child bit me while I was holding her. It hurt like hell, but my main concern was not dropping her. The thought of retaliating didn’t enter my mind, because I’m not a monster who is looking for reasons to assault people. I’m not “defending myself” if I hit someone weaker than I am after they hit me first. I’m exerting my power over a weaker person, and that’s abusive.