It’s not a very sexy thing to talk about, but sex ruts happen. Maybe something awkward happened to put you and your partner off of sex. Maybe you just got too comfortable with not doing it. Whatever the reason, this video (which is mildly NSFW, by the way) tells you how to get out of a rut with the Sensate Method.

As the School of Life explains, something usually happens to make sex become a touchy issue in the relationship rather than a fun way to build intimacy. Maybe there was a bout of impotence. Maybe you had a terrible fight about something sex-related. Whatever the issue, the more pressure, fear and anger you put on it, the less you want to have sex.

To combat this, they recommend sensate focusing, a method coined by researchers Masters and Johnson. It basically involves a series of exercises that focus on the “sense experience” of sex. The video explains each step in detail, and you can check it out above or hit the link below.


How to Start Having Sex Again | The School of Life