Any old talk show psychologist can give you the business about date nights and fetish gear to keep the spark alive. That's Talk Show Psychologist Tips For Romance 101. But it takes a ballsy renegade to have the guts to let you know that saving a relationship might be about imagining the most romantic solutions possible -- then doing the opposite .

5 Spend Less Time Together

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So it's been a long week at work, both of you are stressed out and when you do see each other, you end up fighting like rabid monkeys. But now it's the weekend! You can relax and spend your free time playing tennis (which he loves) and taking pictures of each other with ironic finger mustaches (which she loves). But you have to do these things together because you are a couple, dammit, and you love each other.

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No line to the women's toilets will ever come between you!

Or not.

Wait, What?

This one sounds painfully obvious when explained, but we'll be damned if we can't think of a couple who doesn't make this mistake.

Studies show that it is actually better to keep your fun time separate, especially when it involves a hobby that one partner likes and the other just tolerates. A 10 year study showed that short of murder, the absolute worst thing a couple can do is engage in activities that only one partner enjoyed.

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Like sleeping with other people.

All other things being equal, those couples reported the least satisfaction with their marriages. And the couples with the cojones to admit they have more fun keeping hobby time separate report greater happiness with their marriages than the fools who forced each other to co-enjoy their crap hobbies.