Learning that I am an INFJ and reading about this personality type has thought me a lot about myself, I finally felt understood. Reading through everything I can find and making sense of it all has been a no brainer. Here is a gist of the most important things I learned and what you should know too as an INFJ or if you have one in your life.

My mind doesn’t have an off switch, I am always thinking, reflecting and analyzing. That’s why I have a better understanding of the people and situations around me and know about several possible scenarios — and it’s exhausting.

2. My introvert intuition makes me absorb other peoples’ emotions, know their feelings and intentions- and that’s why sometimes feel like that the other person is in my body as I move and express emotions like them. Also, no matter how quiet and lost I may look, I know what’s going on, I can see through your falseness, but I will never reveal it to anyone.

3. We are like social chameleons, we can seem like any type — you may even think of an INFJ as your kind since we frequently use the social tool called ‘mirroring’ — observing and copying your mannerism to gain rapport with you. If you see an INFJ in a group he/she is comfortable with or fighting for a cause he/she truly believe in — you are likely to mistake him/her for an extrovert.

4. We can predict the future — as I meet someone, I know if we can be friends and would cut off from having casual relationships — it’s better to have few quality relationships than a large pool of casual acquaintances.

5. We are good listeners — always observing and listening, responding with open-ended questions, reflective dialog and only answering questions when directly asked, because of this, we often come off as passive and non-reactive.

6. As dominant intuitive, we have an intense need for deep conversations about ideas and possibilities — If our partner can’t fulfill that need, we’ll go looking for it elsewhere. There’s no discussion too broad for an INFJ — it’s all about emotional connection and the meaningful exchange of ideas — we crave to attain the deepest connection possible with someone. We are looking for “soul mates” — friends or a significant other with whom we can deeply connect.

7. My personality has many layers and I am rarely comfortable sharing them with others — don’t feel offended if you find out that we have something hidden from you — If I do finally open up, it’s because I have found someone who speaks to my sensitive soul. My personal feelings are so intense that it would be devastating if shared with the wrong person.

8. I need time to myself, to think, to work on that world-saving-project, to retreat from others and spend time alone because absorbing other people’s emotions is draining — don’t be surprised or hurt by that.

9. Many relationships are one-sided for us, which hurts a lot. We seek harmony in our relationships, conflict, especially in close relationships bothers a lot — resolving any such issue will be top-priority.

10. We have immense love in our heart for the world — we don’t seek jobs, we’re looking for humanitarian missions. We really do want to make the world a better place.

Most importantly, I learned that I am okay, that I don’t need to change myself, that there is nothing wrong with me.