

Real Housewives of Orange County star Tamra Barney is dealing with a lot that we were unaware of. Tamra and her ex Simon are currently trying to settle a child custody agreement and things are getting crazy! Simon released text messages between Tamra Barney and their 15 year-old-daughter who moved out of Tamra’s house last year and moved in with Simon. Simon submitted the texts as part of the declaration he filed requesting modification requesting child custody agreement and in those texts we see Tamra arguing with her daughter.

Documents obtained by Radar show Tamra arguing with her daughter Sidney back in February saying, “You treat me like sh*t. What have I done to you that you hate your own mother? I walk on egg shell around you and don’t know what to say or do cuz you act like you don’t like me. You don’t try!!! And I’m starting to not care anymore!!! I gave you life and went through a horrible life change divorce and all you care about is yourself. My pain has been deep for years and trying to make sure you kids are okay on top of that is not easy. If you don’t like me for trying my best and you want to judge me …than have at it!!! I will always love you and when you figure out that you need your mother you know where to find me.”

Sidney: Wait so what you’re saying is you don’t think us kids went through a hard time in the divorce? Well, your acting like your going through a such hard time and we have the easy life.” Tamra: I had to pick myself up and make sure you guys got through it okay. You don’t understand now. But you will when your older. How do you think I feel? I walk around with guilt every day knowing I broke up our family. You just want to judge me Sidney: I don’t. I am worried about the kids (referring to her siblings, Spencer, 13, and Sophia, 8)You seem fine. Your the one acting selfish. Sidney then says she doesn’t feel like she ever gets heard which gets Tamra irritated. Tamra: Whatever! That BS. You don’t even talk to me. You just judge me. You think your so perfect. I can’t make you want to try. But what I can tell you is every girl needs their mother in their life Sidney: I’m talking. I’m communicating right now abut you don’t hear meI can’t talk to you cuz I can’t trust you… Cuz u break promises. Tamra: Btw. Stop being a victim and start being a survivor. Tons of families go through this and it’s how you pull through it that counts. Stop blaming me, I’m a good mother and treat my kids well. You think you have it rough and you don’t. Try living on the streets or with parents that are drug addicts or having no food. Sidney: I never said I have it rough. Or that you were a bad mother. I’m not the victim you have been acting like the victim this whole time Tamra: That’s so not true. I’m a victim. That is laughable. You treat me like sh*t. My parents would have smacked the sh*t out of me if I acted like that. All I know is Spencer and Sophia are so much closer to me now that your gone. Maybe it’s not all me? Sidney: Can we talk about this in the conselor office. We’re getting nowhere. I don’t want to argue anymore. I’m sorry for being disrespectful but I can’t get through to you. GoodNight Tamra: Get through to me, what a joke!!! Whatever. So what’s the plan. Your just never going to talk to me again? Tamra: Answer me. I tried calling. You need to answer me. I’ve been very nice for months now. I have legal rights as your mother and I really don’t want to go that route. But if you refuse to communicate, you leave me no choice! For the life of me I can not understand why you are SO disrespectful to your own mother. Can you please answer me Tamra: My heart is broken and I’m crying right now. What have I done to you that you hate your own mother? I am not perfect and have not always made the right decisions. But I”ve never wanted to hurt you. I have no more words for you. I wish you well

Sidney is obviously really affected by all of the decisions Tamra has made on television. I had no idea Tamra was having these types of issues with her children and if I was Tamra, the last thing I would be doing is starring on a show when my relationship with my daughter is going down hill. Especially if my daughter feels like she isn’t being heard!

Tamra’s husband Eddie responded to the release of the text messages and he is not very happy. In fact, he called out Simon via twitter which is probably not going to make anything between any of them better!

But that’s not all! In the documents filed by Simon Barney he claims Tamra has been neglectful to their children accusing her of not batheing or feeding the kids for days! The Memorandum of Points and Authorties state,

“Respondent, especially, in recent times, has been very neglectful in her care for the children. This has resulted in the children not getting prompt medical care, nutritional meals, hygienic care, and deterioration in their school work and attendance.”

The documents state a time where their son Spencer didn’t needed to go to the doctors after breaking his thumb and Tamra didn’t take him,

“While in her care he jammed his thumb. Although he complained it hurt, Respondent did not take him to a doctor… At that time, Petitioner informed Respondent of the injury and asked that she take him to the doctor, yet she failed to do so. When Spencer came back into Petitioner’s care on March 12, 2014, Petitioner saw that the child’s thumb was not doing well and immediately took him to urgent care on the very same day, a full five days after the injury had occurred. The thumb was later found to be broken and Petitioner made an appointment to go see an orthopedic specialist.”

Also text messages between Simon and Tamra show Simon complaining that Tamra for not washing their daughter Sophia’s hair for three days! Tamra’s response? “She had a bath yesterday and was too weak. It’s not a big deal.”

Simon then sends a photo of his daughter’s matted hair and says, “This is not a big deal?!”

Tamra: She has been in bed the entire time at the house. Like I said she has been in bed. Give it a rest …she is sick and sleeping. She came over with knots in her hair. Did I text you Simon: She was in bed at my house and throwing up every hour. I still got her in the shower and took care of her Simon: When Sophia came to my house yesterday she smelled really bad. I asked her and she said she had taken a shower since she was at my house. Her hair was so dirty that it smelled sour and we found a bug in it Tamra: Shut up! She was here 1day … Leave me alone!!! Did you ever think she ran around at school and was sweating?? Simon: Why Wouldn’t you have her take a shower?

And instead of Tamra acknowledging her wrong doings, she just blames Simon for entire mess. See her response after the texts were revealed below:

Are you surprised by these text messages?