I developed strong, romantic feelings for someone at college. We were both in relationships but there was a spark and I believed we had something special. I couldn’t stop thinking about him. My partner noticed and wanted to know what was going on, but I lied and said college work was stressing me.

Eventually, I confessed my feelings to my friend. He was shocked and said he had no idea why I’d got this so wrong. We talked it over but after a few awkward situations, he said he didn’t want to discuss it further. Since then, he has cut off all contact. I’ve seen you advise people to break off contact when a relationship is over, but I feel this is wrong as it lets people off. He played a part in this. He led me to think there was going to be a relationship – and when I was left with shame, despair and humiliation he just walked away with no responsibility.

I needed care, and he should have given it as I couldn’t tell my partner. It’s affected my confidence and I don’t know if I can face him at college or go back for my final year. I was ready to give up everything for him. I even ended my relationship so we could be together, but he repaid me with coldness.