Dear Seeker of Success,

Has something like this ever happened to you?

You approach a woman for the first time and open conversation.

After talking for maybe eight minutes or so, one of her friends comes in.

She starts talking to them.

Next thing you know you’re out of the loop.

If they don’t outright excuse themselves from you, it becomes clear the circle of conversation now excludes you.

It raises the question:

What are the elements that need to be there in the initial conversation so the woman will want to continue talking to you, even when people she knows show up?



First Things First:

Don’t Act Like An Alien

The first thing you need to do is draw her attention out so she’s interested in talking to you.

Get her attention focused on you in a positive way so she wants to be receptive to the rest of your message.

This means, don’t go up to a chick and say, “Hi. Have you ever felt an amazing connection with someone?”

She’ll look at you like you’re from another planet – and rightfully so.

The Questions About Her You Need

To Be Asking YOURSELF

What are the elements that make her want to continue talking to you?

Maybe it’s comfort or curiosity.

Maybe it’s because you’re entertaining her in some way.

Maybe it’s because you intrigue her or pop her curiosity.

For example, I was at a restaurant and noticed one of the waitresses carried herself like a martial artist.

I said to her, “Can I ask you a question? Do you fight? Can you do the martial arts?”

She was quite surprised.

She said, “Yes. How did you know that?”

She leaned forward onto the table.

Before, she was standing back away from the table.

Once I said that, it really got her attention.

The REAL Goal Of The

First Question

The goal is, therefore, not how to get her available to be seduced.

The goal is, what you can do to evoke responses so that she wants to keep talking to you.

How do you create that curiosity and initial sense of maybe feeling understood or feeling entertained?

That’s the piece so many guys miss when they just jump right into the seduction talk, which is never how I intended it to be.

Peace,

RJ

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