I moved to Sweden a year and a half ago. My husband has become violent, emotionally abusive, financially abusive, extremely sexist and racist. Because of those reasons I decided to divorce him. He moved out of our apartment on May 12, 2017.





We had been discussing different scenarios for Freja our daughter. I was trying to work on ways for me and Freja to live in Sweden he wasn’t interested in that he only wants me and Freja to move to usa.





On June 4, 2017 after agreeing she would visit at his house a few hours and come back that night. He did not return her. I told him i will call the police if you don’t give her back like you said you would. He didn’t give her back. I called the police but I’m in Sweden they said it’s not a police matter and they put me on phone with social services. I talked with social services and they spoke with him. He said he would return her in the morning at 9am. I waited out side his out by 850 am the next morning. At 9am I knocked on the door and he still refused to give her back. I call social services again and they speak to him. He makes false claims that I am abusive and neglectful to the baby and he keeps her from me for a total of 16 days. He wouldn’t let me see her at all. He wouldn’t even let me drop off pumped breast milk for her on the porch. This man who insisted when we were together he would only watch the baby for 2hours max a day, refused to sleep in the bedroom since her birth because he needed to get the best quality sleep, and who would frequently leave our apartment because being around her was “too much” , filed for sole custody .





Social services determined that all of Johan’s accusations were false. That I am a good parent and I make my baby very happy.





Johan Lucchesi has since still been a terrible coparent at best. He attempted to hit me in public at Freja’s health appointment because I came to the appointment. He’s told me if he has to take her to dr or hospital he won’t tell me about it. He’s had my phone number blocked for months so even in an emergency I can’t reach him. He’s refused to pay child support or spousal support. He frequently accuses me of abuse and neglect towards Freja for things like she wasn’t wearing socks in 70 degree weather, or because she had scratched herself, stuff like that. I have a binder full of events like these. He refuses to allow Freja to visit my family in America. He claims I will kidnap her. Sounds like a guilt mind from when he kidnapped her.





I have our daughter Sunday till Friday afternoon. I do not speak enough Swedish to get a real job and I have no one to watch her. I basically have 1 day I can work a week and even if I could find something that’s not enough to cover my bills. I’m down to my last 200krona from money I have saved. 200sek is about 26usd. I have gone to social services economic they said they can’t help me as long as I am still married. We will be married until next year bc of the waiting period Sweden has. I receive 500krona a month from govt for having baby. That’s about 60usd. He’s been paying for the rent on the apartment because it’s in his name. The lease is up soon and he’s said he wont be renewing it so shortly me and Freja will be with out a place to live. We will most likely have to stay in a women’s shelter. Johan has money. He’s just claiming he doesn’t bc he wants me to suffer and doesn’t care if Freja gets hurt.





I dont even care about the money. I do not want to stay in this country anymore. I would happily go back to usa with Freja just like he originally wanted. I would work and not ask him for money. I do not have the opportunity to provide for my child at this point. My lawyer is on vacation this week so I spoke to an associate and he said a judge would not see me about these issues.





We went to court last month and that’s when I was given primary residential of Freja. They issued an investigation to be done by another branch of social services that is standard procedure in Sweden. The investigation is to last until Dec 22. So I won’t even get a court date till next year. I do not know why things are being handled like this is all standard. This is an extreme case and has extreme circumstances. This country is being unjust to me and to my daughter. And Johan is being a complete monster to Freja and myself. I am struggling in this country and feel like I have no options. Johan does whatever he wants with no consequences, while I get fucked over and more importantly Freja is getting fucked over.