This question pops up right here on tumblr every now and then. Feminists men is almost a contradiction. No wait, it is a contradiction. It’s this weird idea that men can stand up against the oppression of women. Some feminists will agree and while I think their hearts are in the right place, their brains aren’t. Even some feminists who think male feminists can exist will do so with apprehension and no small amount of wariness.

Men who identify as feminist don’t respect women. They can still rape. It’s very problematic. It’s a debate that is still ongoing, of course and I don’t think I will solve anything here, especially since I have yet to get more than a couple followers, but this is my opinion. And you gay men out there, don’t think you are out of the woods. There are still a lot of feminists who feel gay men are allies, but they can be just as problematic as any cisgendered heteronormative man even though we once supported each other in the past at a time when the whole world was against us. Cisgendered women and transmen are in the clear though, probably, since they are not heteronormative.



For any men out there, don’t fret; you can be allies but you need to know what’s expected of you. This amazing video by Melissa A. Fabello from a few years ago illustrates the many failings of male allies. They ultimately don’t know what it’s like to be women, which means they can never be true feminists. But even if you are allies (and it’s great to be an ally), you have to be careful not to turn into another Joss Whedon.

