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jeysiec:

itswalky: oh boy i super love it when a lady says “because i’m a lady i have an ever-present fear of being raped” and some dudebro has to pull out a chart to say that men are also raped sometimes because THAT IS TOTALLY EXACTLY WHAT IS BEING TALKED ABOUT RIGHT NOW, I’M ABSOLUTELY NOT COMPLETELY IGNORING YOUR STATED PROBLEM SO I CAN REFOCUS THIS ON DUDES quick, something on the internet isn’t about dudes, we have to put a stop to this Yeah, because, man, how horrible to have it pointed out that rape is actually a unisex problem, men actually have just as much risk as women do of being raped, and women are just as likely to be rapists as men are. How horrible it is to be corrected about being expected to acknowledge all victims of rape rather than erasing and ignoring half of them. How horrible it is to have to admit women can be just as bad as men. How horrible it is to correct someone on the fact that rape is actually rare anyway, so the idea that women have to be ever-afraid of it is actually a false and manufactured thing that hurts women and should be fought against rather than perpetuated. How horrible it is to further correct someone on the fact that men are overwhelmingly more likely to be victims of violent crime overall, so it’s actually technically really men who should be afraid.



Quick, something on the internet doesn’t revolve entirely around women, we have to put a stop to this! Only women victims are allowed to ever be acknowledged and cared about. It’s OK for women to refocus unisex problems to be entirely about women. Women should be defended against ever getting called on their bullshit and/or corrected when they say something that’s wrong.

First of all, men do NOT have as much risk as women of being raped. Seriously, we’re talking 1 in 33 vs 1 in 3. Now, obviously 1 in 3 billion is too many, but I still completely object to you beginning your argument with a premise that is provably false. Yes, the rape of men may be underreported, but all rape is underreported, so these are the numbers we have.

Second, those 1 in 33 men who are raped? Almost all of them are raped by cis men. Of course it’s possible for men to be raped by women, it’s possible for women to be raped by women, anyone can be raped by anyone. But demanding equal time and attention be paid to each scenario is not productive - it would be like demanding an investigation for one black cop shooting one unarmed white kid be given equal time, weight, and resources to the hundreds of white cops shooting over 300 unarmed black people per year. It does nothing to address the root of the problem - in the example, racism of people in a position to kill others, and in this discussion, the sexism and power imbalance that normalizes rape within our society and our institutions.

By the way, men who are the most likely to be raped? Trans men. Children. Prison inmates. Disabled men. There are institutional and systematic prejudices that make this the case. And yet, I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times I’ve seen a standalone post about any of these problems. About prison conditions, and the fact that we have more men in prison than any other country in the world combined, or that trans men are attacked because they’re “pretending” to be men.

So - and this was the point of the original post that flew over your head faster than you could yell “WHAT ABOUT THE MEN” - if you want to solve these problems, and most of us do, talk about them. Talk about them before someone is already talking about the social epidemic that is rape against women committed by men. Because otherwise, you come off as a bitter misogynist who can’t stand that women are standing up for themselves and those around them. Otherwise, you come off as someone who sees others rejecting the social order and is terrified of that, not someone who cares about men.

And by the way, if you’re so up in arms about women allegedly being wrong and getting away with it, perhaps you should try not to be so egregiously wrong yourself. Just a thought.