The good news is that not every harness will make you look like you're a fan of S&M — not that there's anything wrong with that. This accessory does have range. "Like a Ramones T-shirt on someone who has clearly never heard a band, you have to choose the harness that is truest to your own style," our expert Zana weighs in, "whether that means choosing a colored leather over black, or thinner straps over a complex design."