As fans continue to process Selena’s obvious heartbreak, she continued that the song writing process was actually healing.

“It’s also more beautiful for me because I know exactly where I was when I wrote it and how I felt,” she continued, revealing that “no” she couldn’t have released it back then. “Absolutely not. That wouldn’t have happened. It took me a long time to get through it. But, now it’s fun! Like, I’m smiling! It’s so great.”

Selena confirmed that yes, the song encompasses “all the feelings” she dealt with.

“It’s everything from happy and emotional to just realizing it and being frustrated,” she explained. “I just wanted to validate all those feelings because they were really real to me.”

And when it comes to that telling “in two months you replaced us” lyric, Selena agreed it’s worse to see an ex move on than the initial breakup.

“I’m really grateful too because I’ve actually experienced that a million times before and that’s the unfortunate part about what I do,” she admitted. “It’s all very real to me and I’m sure it’s just entertainment for other people; but I think I had become numb to it and it would be stupid of me if I didn’t acknowledge what I had felt because it would be inauthentic and that’s everything I claim to be and do. ... I know there are thousands of people … who have felt this feeling and it’s extremely real, and on top of the social media and everything, it doesn’t matter if you’re in my position or someone else’s because you’re always going to somehow find this negative space and that’s why I have to be careful and I just have to take steps back and just focus on what I’m doing and nobody else.”