I’m of the school of thought that everyone is problematic until they demonstrate otherwise. And its not from a place of righteousness but from knowing that between internalizing racism/sexism (black, immigrant, girl) and having some privilege (cis, hetero, middle/upper class, educated, able-bodied) I’ve had to do a lot of unlearning + relearning.

Now this doesn’t excuse them. Which is why unlearning and being an ally doesn’t get you brownie points. Just that I can imagine how much easier it is to walk around being ignorant and perpetuating marginalization when you have so much more privilege and you’re surrounded by yes-men.