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This doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't work on things that are in your control. Your grooming habits, for example, are within your control, and are important to control; a girl won't be very inclined to talk to you if you haven't showered or worn deodorant in three days and your shirt is covered in old pizza grease stains.

Yes, you have negative traits - but so does everybody else, and it doesn't do you any good to pick yourself apart or mull over your flaws. So what if you have a stutter , your clothes don't match the trends of what most girls seem to like, or you don't have a fantastic job that makes it possible for you to go out to fancy five-star restaurants with others? A girl who's worth befriending or dating will accept you for who you are. Even if you can't necessarily know what kind of person she is when you cold approach her, know that if she's the right person for you, she'll accept you despite your flaws.