Fingering a girl is often associated with a guy’s first sexual experience. After all, while in middle and/or high school, it was almost the holy grail of hooking up with girls, with legendary stories to buddies about what went down. Unfortunately, many guys think it’s just that, though, immature. Well, we’re here to tell you why it’s something you should absolutely include into your sexual repertoire.

Look, fingering a girl isn’t necessarily a guy’s favorite thing to do, we get that. It requires a lot of work to get a girl off, and, let’s just be honest, it’s not a blow job, oral sex or full on intercourse. Still, when you know what the hell you’re doing, fingering a girl can be enjoyable for you, too — and, if you get a girl off from it, she’ll be begging for seconds.

Since we want you to be your best at pleasing a girl, here are some tips on how to get a girl off by strictly fingering her.

Tease her

When fingering a girl, foreplay is almost as important as anything else. That’s because teasing her will show that you have dominance and confidence, and that you’re not just going to summon to her request of diving right in there. Rub in and around her vagina, lightly tapping her clit and inserting your fingers inside the vagina. Her hormones will be going nuts and she’ll beg for you to do it already.

Technique is key

It’s obvious that each girl is different when it comes to sex, and, while fingering a girl, this couldn’t be more true. While some girls enjoy the hardcore pounding, others might want you to go light. Some girls want you to simply go in and out with two fingers, while others are a bit more extreme and ask for three fingers and a rotating motion. Listen to what she prefers and how she reacts when you mix things up, it’ll go a long way into getting her off.

Switch speeds

Like intercourse, switching speeds while fingering a girl is critical. Start off slow and steady, playing with the clit and using some lube or saliva to get her slippery down there first. Once you see she’s enjoying it and her vagina is wetter, go faster. To get her off, though, slow back down and rub her clit. Mixing speeds will help satisfy every tiny nerve down there for her.

Get deep, then go shallow

Depth matters, guys. In addition to all the rubbing you’ll be doing to her, women love when a guy gets deep inside of her. But, be careful you don’t do too much harm to the vaginal tissue for fear or tearing it. Go deep, get shallow, then go deep again. To throw in a little something extra, find her vaginal bridge, slightly bend your fingers and rub. Trust us, her moaning and heavy breathing are a good reactions.

The clit’s the prime spot

Clearly this is the No. 1 spot you want to focus on. While all the tips above are important to getting her off while fingering, if you’re not paying enough attention to the clit, you’re not going to be successful at getting her off. Fingering is often associated with strictly penetration, but that should only come after you rub her clit and vagina to get things warmed up first.

Now when you mastered the art of fingering, you might want to read a few things about oral sex too.