We might start out in our marriage by believing in equality (fools that we are!) – that was before the kids came along when we were still living rather like a couple of students, on an even footing, with similar hopes and dreams for personal and professional achievement. That all changes as it becomes clear one of us will have to give a little. We look to our mothers for enlightenment but reject their dated manifestos with horror; such lives of servitude and forbearance are surely not for us, times have moved on…