A BUDERIM mum was not advised by her Jehovah's Witness church to stay away from her gay son's wedding.

Yvonne has made headlines around the world for her heartbreaking refusal to attend son's Chris's California wedding to long term partner, Grant on Bride and Prejudice.

In a video message aired on Monday night, March 13, she made her refusal abundantly clear.

"But now Chris you are really about to do something we find very, very hard to accept and that is to actually have a wedding ceremony," Yvonne, who has been described as a devout Jehovah's Witness, said.

"I hold marriage very sacred so I can't give you that acceptance of be part of that part of your life."

Jehovah's Witness Australia spokesman Rodney Spinks said Yvonne was not speaking on behalf of the church.

"I can categorically confirm what she has done was in private," Mr Spinks said.

"The only thing we know is what we have seen on television. The organisation has no involvement and no view on it.

"No one from within the organisation is giving her advice. All the decisions are matters for her personally."

Jehovah Witnesses, Cameron Kast and Steve Martin hit the streets to door knock. Photo Campbell Gellie / The Observer Campbell Gellie

Mr Spinks said many Jehovah's Witnesses had family members who weren't part of the faith, he himself did, and there was nothing to stop them remaining close and attending special ceremonies.

"You can still have a close relationship with your children if they are not Jehovah Witnesses," Mr Spinks said.

"Most of my family are not Jehovah's Witnesses.

"Most of us have relatives and friends (outside the church) and we would go to their weddings."

Mr Spinks said it was for Yvonne to decide personally whether she wanted to attend her son's wedding.

"To my knowledge, she never asked anyone about it," Mr Spinks said.

"We have no interest in intervening in the personal decisions people make within the family."

As for homosexuality, Mr Spinks said Jehovah's Witnesses would not "try to dictate to other people what's appropriate".

"That is with regard to religions, sexuality or beliefs," he said.

"We have a great respect for other people We are not suggesting we say everyone else has to change or be different."

However, within the church itself, Mr Spinks said the stance on homosexuality was pretty clear from the Bible.

"We believe the Bible does not condone homosexuality, we very much believe every individual's right to determine those things for themselves."

He said many people had a misguided view of the church.

"We will never step away from the fact we try to live by high moral standards, we live by the Bible," he said.

"But we are not so naive to think other people haven't got every right to live differently.

"We have the greatest respect for whatever decision people make."