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Perhaps you were desperate to have a boyfriend, and liked that he gave you attention, even though it wasn’t always positive attention.

Maybe you were vulnerable after exiting a previous relationship and wanted to be liked by a boy.

No, this doesn’t include blaming yourself, but it does mean you can be completely honest with yourself. Taking responsibility is different than taking blame. Taking responsibility means keeping yourself accountable and owning what actions may have contributed to a negative situation, but not assuming all wrongdoing in shame.It may be most natural to feel victimized and that you had nothing to do with being used (and this might be true). But also reflect on if there were any factors that you contributed that made you a target. It’s okay to admit that there were things that contributed to what happened. This allows you to gain insight and learn from your mistakes.