thatdragonwiththegirltattoo:

mariagicant:

thatdragonwiththegirltattoo: mariagicant: thatdragonwiththegirltattoo: bogkelpie: i just wanted to make a quick post about hypersexual asexuals because we do exist!

hypersexuality is not the “opposite” of asexual, and isn’t even a sexual orientation. hypersexuality is a symptom of many mental illnesses, or developed as a response to sexual trauma, and just means a very increased sex drive.

people often forget that sex drive =/= sexual attraction!

so for all my fellow hypersexual asexuals, you and your experiences are valid. your hypersexuality doesn’t make you any less asexual!! hypersexuality and asexuality are both two valid parts of your identity that in no way cancel each other out !

To clarify Someone can have no desire to have sex with someone but still have increased sexual fantasies/thoughts ? It feels very contradictory but it really isn’t. Also, there are sex favorable asexuals that aren’t even hypersexual, not to mention it’s kind of agreed upon that asexuality is a spectrum. Also hypersexual asexuality is a response to sexual trauma quite often, as mentioned in the original post “Someone can have no desire to have sex with someone but still have increased sexual fantasies/thoughts “

You see that definition up there? “sexual fantasies and thoughts” very definitely fall under the umbrella of “sexual feelings” it refers to. it’s a pretty succinct definition so I’m kinda confused about the scramble to say that asexual means pretty much whatever anybody wants it to mean. I don’t know what to call the combination of preference and conditions OP is describing, but whatever it is, it isn’t “asexual”. And even with that said I don’t know what the big deal is, or why people are so attached to the asexual label. Make a new word up and I’m sure a hundred bloggers will be labeling themselves as it within a week. You’ve successfully done so before (eg. demisexuality, skoliosexuality, etc.) If bisexuality means sexual attraction to 2 genders, pansexual it means attraction to all genders/gender doesn’t matter, and basically any sexuality revolves around ATTRACTION and not actual want/need for sex, asexuality means no sexual attraction. That’s how it would fit best alongside any other orientation? There are also bisexuals and heterosexuals and pansexuals that have low sex drives but don’t consider themselves ace, because they are sexually attracted to people?

I’m not even sure what you’re trying to say here. You defined bi and pan-sexuality, then you pointed out that sexuality is defined by what sex(s) a person is attracted to.

But then you’re presuming of asexuality has a measure of comparability to other sexuality’s. When it is in fact the antithesis of one. (which you did somewhat clumsily admit).

If we were being extremely litigious we wouldn’t classify it as a sexuality at all, but for convenience and simplicity we shall continue to do so.

Asexuality as it is defined is the total lack of any and all sexual feelings and desires. This means sex and sexual attraction just doesn’t enter into the mental picture at all. If you’re thinking about sex, fantasizing about sex, or dreaming about sex, you’re not asexual!

If on top of that,you don’t feel like you’re attracted to a lot (or any) people, you very likely just have a picky sex drive, although it is still clearly there.