The 17 Laws for Mentally Strong People

“There are four Powers: memory and intellect, desire and covetousness. The two first are mental and the others sensual. The three senses: sight, hearing and smell cannot well be prevented; touch and taste not at all.”

Leonardo da Vinci

A recent book I’ve reread was the 48 Laws of Power. In it, Robert Greene goes over the basic fundamentals that it takes to rise in power and authority. I highly recommend that book to anyone who’s interested in a hot topic about success. But during that process, I began dwelling on other ideas that pointed towards mentally strong people.

Daily, countless amount of people are halted from achieving their goals because they don’t have the right attitude or mindset. They lose track to where they should be heading to and expect someone else to rescue them from their mistakes.

People give themselves excuses and reasons why they shouldn’t do something. They formulate excuses to why their life sucks and why it’s reasonable to continue doing what they’re doing. They search for sympathy and ways to erase those painful thoughts, resulting to unhealthy methods to receive them.

I’ll be frank with you. Becoming a mentally strong person requires hard work. It’s not a one hour, day, or week process. It’s a habit you incorporate into your life once you decide to change.

That’s why I created the 17 laws for mentally strong people. It’s meant to serve you as a reference guide and keep you on track whenever you question your life purpose. This guide is meant to serve you as a reminder to why you’re different than other people in the world. It brings you back into the mindset that most people don’t have and sets you on a path to success.

Law 1

Don’t Dwell in the Past

A weak person constantly thinks about their past mistakes. They continue reliving their old memories, believing they could never regain those moments again. By dwelling on the past, you build up your defense and fear to what can happen to you in the future.

You might envision a future that can never be as great as the past. You might envision a future that doesn’t seem possible because of your past. Everything that you do is already engraved in stone and all you can do is accept it and move on.

Release the mistakes, the good times, and the bad times and concentrate on what’s happening this moment. It is during these moments where you have complete control over your destiny.

Law 2

Don’t try to please the entire crowd

Never seem too eager to make new friends or allies. People are never attracted to beggars. Always be aware of your own actions when seeking attention and know that it’s unnecessary to please everyone. When you try please everyone, you always end up neglecting your own duties and disappointing those who actually look up to you.

Mentally Strong people have no desire to please the entire crowd. They only concentrate on those they deem worthy to follow them. It is better have 10 loyal followers who are willing to sacrifice for you than 1000 followers who will leave you for the next person in the spotlight.

Law 3

Don’t be Afraid to be alone

No one enjoys feeling lonely. Never mistake loneliness with being alone. You can be with an entire crowd of people, but feel even more lonely than if you were by yourself. Mentally strong people make an effort to communicate with people, but are always willing to spend time alone.

Enjoy the time you spend with yourself when you’re walking somewhere, driving to work, or in the shower. It is during your alone time where you can think to yourself, hear your own thoughts, and become aware of your own beliefs. We often come up with our greatest thoughts and ideas when we’re temporarily separated from people who distract our minds.

Law 4

Don’t lose the importance of Patience

No man is more powerful than time itself. You cannot slow time nor can you increase it. It is the fool who makes rash decision and build obstacles in their life because they weren’t willing to wait. As bitter as patience taste, restrain from acting out on rash decisions as long as life and death aren’t involved.

The key to overcoming your enemies and discovering success is waiting for the “sun to shine‘. Mentally strong people can work daily without giving up because they remain patient until they arrive to their final destination. They do not give up because they are not rich after working hard for only a week. They continue digging because they hold onto patience and the belief that they will make it there.

Law 5

Don’t be afraid of change

People are often reluctant to change and would rather restrain themselves from success if it meant changing their behavior. The entire world can change for the better or the worse, but you’re the only person who can change yourself. Mentally strong people do not fear change if it means bettering themselves and their future. However, they are also aware that every kind of change isn’t good.

Only change based on your own terms and not on the demand or expectations of others. Do not simply follow the crowds based on what they enjoy. Become aware of your own values and be willing to stick to them despite what the weak minded say. Most weak minded people are willing to change if someone manages to twist a few words into their heads.

Law 6

Don’t become jealous of others

Humans are creatures that are quick to compare themselves to others if they think they have more than them. They regret their past decisions and end up hating those who have more than them. This results in negative habits that push others away from them. Mentally strong people don’t concern themselves with those who have more than them. They ignore those petty thoughts and instead, learn from successful people so that one day they can reach, if not surpass them.

Law 7

Don’t be a criticizer of the world

Anyone can complain about anything they lay their eyes on. A negative view of the world is easy because we often use external areas to channel our frustrations to. Mentally strong people make the best out of most negative situations to avoid bad behaviors. They find alternative ways to receive happiness and enhance their lives because they hold onto a positive attitude. It is not always easy to embrace a positive view of a situation, but mentally strong people are always aware that complaining does no good for them.

Law 8

Don’t trap your mind upon small matters

There are too many concerns in the world to let them all bother you. What makes a weak person subtle is when they allow the simple problems to get the best of them. They allow small trivial such as what someone says, the weather, and the opinions of others to dictate their lives.

Mentally strong people categorize the small burdens as solvable problems and keep their focus on areas that actually matter. They focus on ways to enhance their careers, ways to mentally remain calm, and how to improve their relationships. Every problem you actively think about drains a little bit of your energy. Therefore, channel your energy to problems that actually matter to avoid stress and anxiety.

Law 9

Don’t limit your mindset

The weak minded person assumes they can stop learning after graduating from school. They neglect the importance of learning something new and flow through life carelessly. Mentally strong people know that there is never an end to learning. From the moment you entered this world, you learned how to live your life. You learned how to breathe, eat, and walk. Ignore the simple belief that you only learn to take tests and get good grades.

Learn to further your life, educate others, and enhance your mind. Read parts of a book when you have free time. Be willing to listen to audio books that expand your mindset.

Law 10

Don’t settle for negative attitudes

No person has ever risen to great power by settling with negative beliefs. Even the most vigorous people in history were able to successfully operate because they didn’t doubt their abilities. Replace your negative thoughts for positive ones by reflecting on your strengths, your core values, and why you want success.

Your thoughts are bound to reflect your actions and by imprisoning yourself with doubt, fear, and worries, you make regretful decisions.Mentally strong people are aware that negative thoughts will always exist. However, they ignore those thoughts to prevent themselves from making mistakes.

Law 11

Don’t live in denial

You can’t run away from the truth nor can you hide from your previous failures. A refusal to believe something just because it exist outside your comfort zone is madness. People do not find success and happiness by drowning their problems and reality. Mentally strong people engage with the facts presented to them without ignoring the truth. Though they might not be comfortable with the facts, mentally strong people face them and receive a peaceful settlement within their mind.

Law 12

Don’t do everything by yourself

There is no shame in asking for help when you find it necessary. It is nearly impossible to reach the top when you only rely on yourself. However, do not make the simple mistake by asking for just anyone’s help. For it is the weak minded person who seek the assistance from anything willing to show them attention. They follow those who claim to be “experts” and end up taking the wrong route to success.

Mentally strong people avoid the mistake of seeking anyone’s help to avoid heavy mistakes. They know when to play their cards and seek assistance from those able to open more paths for them. Never be afraid of seeking for help when it relates to guidance or assistance, but be weary on who you get it from.

Law 13

Don’t fall for temporarily pleasures

There are more people today who settle for temporarily happiness than ever before. The weak minded person push off their goals and desires in exchange for watching television, playing video games, and browsing online. They forget the importance of balancing work with pleasure and seek after activities that give them temporarily happiness. They go after foods that send them short joy and jump into relationships that momentarily make them happy.

Mentally strong people are aware of the necessities to eat healthy foods rather than fast foods. They’re aware of which relationships to actively engage in to avoid unnecessary stress.

Law 14

Don’t focus on what you can’t control

Never channel your energy to things you have no control over. You cannot control what happens to you nor can you control the weather, or other people minds. All you have control over is your attitude and how you make the best out of every situation. A weak minded person allow the burdens of worry frustrate them, They stress themselves in areas they have no control over such as the environment, traffic, or strangers. But it is greedy and pointless to desire controlling the things you have no power over.

Instead, control how you respond to any struggles you encounter and never allow them to manipulate your behavior. Don’t anger yourself because the line in the store is too long. Instead, find ways to occupy your mind during the wait and accept the situation for what it is.

Law 15

Don’t take anything personally

No one has the power to entirely control another person actions or thoughts. Humans are given freewill, and part of that freewill is the ability to make an influential change into your life. Mentally strong people avoid the common belief that the entire world is against them because they’re aware people will always act out of self-interest. They ignore bullies because they’re aware those type of people are already suffering from their own problems. All they focus on are ways to improve their own life and the lives of those close to them.

Law 16

Don’t let your failures define you

Only a weak person allow failure to take control of their life. While it is true failure is an experience that’s painful and hard to bare, it is also an important process in learning. It keeps you humble and reminds you of your limitations. Mentally strong people use that belief to their advantage and use that energy to push them to the next level. Learn from your failures rather than shove them into your closet. Success is not a meal mastered after one attempt. It takes trial, error, sweat, and determination before you surpass everyone else.

Law 17

Don’t be afraid to be yourself

It is common for people to strangle their own beliefs to be accepted by the crowds. Humans fear the idea of isolation and having no companions, and are willing to sacrifice their own ideals to avoid being alone. But there is no value to a man who only copies the values of those around him.

Though you may have friends, there will always be conflicts in your head and you will receive unwanted emotions the longer you pretend to be someone you’re not. Drop the fear of being yourself and you’ll feel a relief of tension dropping from your shoulders. Mentally strong people are not afraid of being themselves whether they’re weird or different. They remain who they are and naturally attract those who are the same.

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