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How to go down on a girl is something every man should now, because every woman deserves to receive oral sex.

You’ll find 15 tips and ideas on how to perform a good, if not great cunnilingus.

What is important for you to know is that these are not strict rules you have to abide by.

You should think more of them as general guidelines and you should definitely experiment within what your partner likes.

Every woman has different preferences and likes. Every vagina is different. Some like this, some like that, some like more things at the same time. Well, you get the picture.

The point is to communicate with your partner about what they like and dislike and to proceed accordingly.

All this might sound scary like you are trying to navigate yourself through a complicated maze.

But rest assured, it is not. Just relax, do your best and talk with your partner.

What else?

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How to go down on a girl?

Talk

Talk, talk, talk. Communicate, communicate, communicate. A conversation will help in so many ways and build up your relationship.

There is nothing wrong with asking: Do you like that? Did you like that more? Am I going too fast? What do you like?

You can only do better.

Set the tempo

You’ll want to start light and slow and gradually build speed and pressure.

Imagine that you are a machine that has 5 different modes – start at 1st setting and slowly increase to 5th setting.

And also take your time, the average woman takes 15 to 40 minutes to have an orgasm.

Act like you want to do it, even if you don’t like doing it

In my experience, being enthusiastic about the whole thing is such a turn on. If you are going to approach going down on a girl like a chore, better don’t do it. It will ruin the whole experience.

And don’t be mistaken, that is easy to see.

But on the other hand, if you really want (or act like) to go down on her, she will feel the energy.

Don’t be silent

Moaning is in the same basket – it means you’re into it. And not only moaning, but she will also like slurping and suctioning too.

Think about tongue movements (before)

With the tongue movements, I’d say experimenting is the key.

However, do try these movements: up and down, circles, counterclockwise circles, side to side, pulsating in one place, wrap your mouth around the clit and suck

Pay attention to the body language

This one is very simple. If she likes what you are doing, you’ll know it.

Pay attention to her breathing pattern and hand and hip movement.

Eye contact…. Eye contact

Eye contact is very intimate and incredibly sexy, so yes, make eye contact every now and then.

Use your tongue, lips, and fingers

Mix things up. For example, you can insert a finger or two, while you lick her. Or use your lips to go over the clitoral hood, maybe throw in some nipple stimulation with your fingers.

My point being, the tongue is not the only tool you have. You can even do magic with your nose.

If your mouth gets tired it is okay to stop…

This is not a competition and nobody will kick you out. So better than ending with a locked jaw or something similar, stop using your mouth and switch to your hands and fingers.

Start from outside

Meaning, don’t jump at the clitoris straight away. Take it slowly and make your way to Mr. Clitoris. Women’s orgasms are build-up.

Direct clitoral stimulation

Some women don’t like direct stimulation. At all.

I’d suggest that before you actually go down, you ask:’’ Hey, do you like direct clitoral stimulation?’’ She will appreciate it and you’ll know one more thing.

If a girl doesn’t like it, you’ll most likely end up very near, but not on the clitoris.

Don’t forget about the labia

There are many nerve endings in inner and outer labia, so make sure you don’t skip it.

A toy is (most likely) welcome

Before you do introduce a sex toy, ask if that’s okay.

You can thrust and you don’t have to. You can have the sex toy inside her while going down on her.

Try playing with G-spot vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs, and don’t forget to get the best lube. Read Why Everyone Needs Lube?

Missionary oral is awesome, but…

Yes, the missionary position is probably the favorite one. However, there are other positions too.

Surprise her and suggest some other position, ask her to sit on your face, or give an idea of 69. Sometimes, taking initiative and being confident will do half of your work.

The main goal is that you’re both comfortable as much as you can so you can properly enjoy it.

Don’t stop

Unless she specifically says it – never stop when she starts coming.

Actually, hold her hips in place and insert a finger or a toy and do crazy things with your tongue. She will love you for it.

Finish like a true gentleman

Tell her how much you enjoyed going down on her, but don’t stop there…

Tell her how you like her:

smells,

flavor and she tastes great (let her taste it on your lips, kiss her while you say that),

moaning, especially when you go down on her

That is it! Go down on your girl and do it often. Do you have any tips that you would like to add?