AddictedProcrastinatorMan Tue 17-Sep-19 14:36:06

Some relationship therapists argues strongly that spouses who cheated and stopped should not confess to their partner. This is because it is driven by guilt and causes a lot of pain to the other.



This man has done nothing to you and has suffered in the same way that you have.



While there is an argument that he deserves to know and you have a duty to tell him, I think it is impossible for you to have a neutral position on this because of your hurt. From your posts, you seem driven tsettle the score with the OW.



I think you should rest on this and then perhaps consider it. Perhaps you confronting the OW about her partner would be better as if he is going to be told, he should be in the nicest gentlest way.



You rish acheiving revenge at the expense of this guy, making him the only person out of the 4 who has not caused an pain.