If I’m a woman and a lesbian why am I against feminism.

I want to clarify first of all that I’m not against feminism as a whole. I belive that in many parts of the world, even as close as Mexico, need a gender overhaul that put men and women on equal footing because women aren’t treated well there. I also want to say that I do support feminism in the early stages, back when there was the right to vote, etc, but I also have issues with it back then (explained below). What I don’t support is modern, western feminism.

The reason why I dislike feminism is because I used to be a feminist. And after getting neck deep in the movement, not on Tumblr but IRL, I came to the realization that feminism isn’t about helping anyone but itself.

Feminism doesn’t promote equality. It inherently takes shots at men and institutes policies that are anti-men, lobbies against laws that help men, etc. Feminist media and literature are inherently anti-man, mocking men, tearing down men, while putting women on a pedastle.

I don’t see a point in tearing down men. I know plenty of great men in my life and I don’t feel threatened by men overall. If anything I pity men because their societal duties cripple them and nobody gives a damn about their problems. When we’re talking about equal rights men are at a disadvantage. They lack reproductive rights, they are discriminated against by the legal system, they are discriminated against by law enforcement, and many other issues.

So why am I against it when I’m a woman? Because I want to be treated fairly. I have autonomy, I have the power of choice, I respect people and I respect myself. I am not a victim. And that is what feminism does. It tells me that I’m a victim, that I’m weak, that I’m nothing without it. Feminism acts like a cult of self interest, metaphorically crippling women so they have to lean on the movement for support, so they can keep milking their followers for power.

I am not perfect, women are not perfect, men are not perfect. People in general are not perfect. And trying to put women on a pedastle, trying to constantly protect us, cover us, to give us special treatment because we’re victims or just so darn weak, I find to be insulting. Insulting and condescending.

I don’t approve of third wave feminism because it tries to co-opt everything it can for the movement’s own desires. It appropriated the term ‘rape culture’ from male prison rape victims. It appropriated the suffering of the LGBT, while at the same time undercutting the movement.

It tries to co-opt typically male oriented hobbies, like video games and comic books, to make it more female friendly. And as a girl who plays video games (not a girl gamer because I don’t apply my gender to my hobbies) and reads comic books, who has done so for a long time, I can tell you that it is bullshit. Gaming and comic books don’t need altering to pander to your own sensabilities, you either enjoy it or you do not and while you are free to suggest (or even create) alternatives, you should not demand change because you feel offended.

To me, feminism has always been about putting women first. Even from the first wave. Men had to pay for their vote with selective service, yet when women got to vote they were excluded from paying that price. And that kernal of self interest, rather than equality, festered and grew into a great, big rotten tree, bearing poison fruit.

So if you want to know the answer to this question, to why I’m not a feminist and actually would consider myself anti-feminist, it is because I want equality. It is because I don’t hate men, because I see that I’m not oppressed, because I have self respect and don’t tolerate a movement that doesn’t respect me or anyone else.