Shesalittlemadam Tue 07-Jan-20 15:06:27

Hi please be kind! I didn't do this to be malicious. I honestly thought I was doing the right thing, but now I'm not sure...



My DM has had Cornea Transplants on each eye due to a Dystrophy she has. This has vastly improved her vision and after a suitable number of months, she was given the go ahead to continue driving.



She's a fab driver. Used to race in the 60s and knows her way round an engine even! (Not that they are required to be one of course)

In my 36 years I've never known her to have so much as a single bump and only 2 speeding tickets. If no claims bonuses exceeded 15 yrs, then she'd have about 36 to maybe 40+ years!

So yeah, for 75 years of age she is an unusually competent, decent driver.



However,



The one issue she does have, is that when driving at night, she says "I struggle a bit with glare from lights" (quote). Therefore, sensibly, she avoids driving at night. Great. Although if she needs to drive then she will do.

This is what worries me. I've tried talking to her calmly & in a friendly way about not driving after sunset (or on dark days) AT ALL and well, it did not go down well....



So I checked the DVLA website and sure enough, although they are aware of her eye condition, it does say that you must inform them if you suffer from 'Night Blindness' at all.

I asked her if she had and of course, no she hadn't. I got a huge mouthful for even asking...!



Cue more worrying and reading of a horror story article and I submitted a report to the DVLA.....



Today she got the letter and understandably, has Hit. The. Roof!!!! Had a huge go at me about how I've tried to ruin her life and destroy her independence and quite understandably, wont listen to my reasons for doing it. She now is no longer speaking to me. Which I get 🤷🏼‍♀️



Now I'm wondering if what she said she struggled with "glare from lights" is actually the same thing as 'Night blindness??'



I just worry so much that she's going to kill herself or someone else and/or spend the rest of her life in prison 😳



Did I do the right thing??? 😢



Please don't be too harsh, I can take on board criticism if delivered in a reasonable manner!



Thanks