Mark about the best man speech (x)

Me: [softly] Don’t.

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I’ve seen some folks freaking out about this quote. Like, what if it means Sherlock doesn’t really love John?!

I’m here to tell you, oh no, no, no…

Listen, I know Mark says ‘we thought it would be too cruel’. But, I think what he means is that they thought it would be too cruel to John, because John is a bit clueless about Sherlock, and the way his mind workds, and he would definitely interpret that as meaning that Sherlock’s speech wasn’t sincere, that the whole thing meant nothing, because it had just been engineered. Can’t have that. It would have diffused and somewhat destroyed half the emotional tension and beauty of the episode, imo.

But let me tell you something about our favourite detective. He loves John so much that he wants that speech to be perfect. He wants to make sure that John understands exactly how much he values him, how much he means to him, and yet, Sherlock knows that he does’t alway express emotion appropriately, that a lot of times he seems excited, when people expect him to be sad, or empathetic, that he maybe doesn’t laugh at things he should, that he doesn’t recognise when he should pause to let people respond with applause, laughter, etc.

So, of course he would do this. Of course he would code his notes to indicate when he should show emotion appropriate to the moment.

This doesn’t mean his speech wasn’t sincere, and it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love John, and it doesn’t even mean the he doesn’t experience emotion when it comes to his love for John. It just means that he knows himself. He knows that he will be nervous, and that will make everything that much more challenging, he knows that John will be watching him closely, and that John values certain kinds of emotional response (he’s a romantic after all).

He loves John so much, and it’s so important to him that John knows that, without a doubt, that the speech be absolutely perfect, and he is leaving nothing to chance. He is going to make sure that he communicates in a way that will be unmistakable and understood by John, and I think that is absolutely beautiful.

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@jenna221b This is how you make it better. Thanks so much, sussex! ♥

(via waitingforgarridebs)

I have been appropriately chastised! XD But oh yes definitely- Sherlock’s emotions are all too real. Not an act.