If I can count on one of the most common reasons for feeling low about yourself, then it has to be the word ‘Comparison’. It is the habit of comparing that leads us to an endless journey of dissatisfaction and lack of contentment. No matter how much you accomplish in life, you will always find people who are ahead of you and doing better. If by all your hard work and talent, you become a millionaire and instead of being happy, you start comparing your life with that of a billionaire, then you would again feel envious and restless. If you constantly compare your life or conditions with others, then there would be no stage in your life when you would be actually happy.

I cannot blame anyone in particular for this toxic habit of comparison, it is the way the usual world around us operates. People even compare new-born babies, then comes the grades in the high school, which courses they pursue, what sort of jobs they get, how big is the house or the car that they have bought and also the looks and personality of their spouses. And thanks to social media, the frame of comparison for people has increased even more. There was a time when the number of people who used to be in touch with each other was comparatively less. But now, people have hundreds and thousands of people, with whom they subconsciously compare themselves.

The phases that come in the life of person varies from time to time. Some people might be having the best phase of their life while someone else might be facing the worst. Is it fair to compare both the phases with each other? Similarly, the priorities of two different people might be different, so their actions and eventually the outcomes would be different. We constantly compare our life to others and that is the reason we are never happy and satisfied with what we have and feel good about our lives.

Always remember one thing that no one is going to publicly admit the shortcomings in their lives but definitely the good things. If you ask me that the richest person on this planet is also the happiest? My answer would definitely be a NO. Only that person knows what is the amount of pain or stress he/she undergoes to maintain that level along with the fear of managing or losing such a large amount of wealth. Also, we never know whats happening in their personal lives or about their health. So simply looking at their mansions, luxury cars or a fancy lifestyle, we cannot come to a conclusion that they are happy. We fantasize about their lives even without knowing that those people have a good life.

No two people or their lives in the world are similar. We all are wired differently and so are the different conditions of our lives. Whenever you compare yourself to others, you do injustice to your life. Can you compare the performance of two employees in an organization where one is suffering from the death of his/her mother and the other is rejoicing the arrival of a healthy baby in their family? The list of such scenarios can be endless and in each case, you will find that it is an unfair comparison.

While it is perfectly fine to be inspired by others and improving our shortcomings, it is in the best interest of our lives that we stop comparing. If at all you want to compare, try to focus that your tomorrow is better than today. Only you must exist in your frame of comparison. There is also a famous proverb which goes like ” It does not matter where have you reached but how much you have travelled “.

It is only when we stop comparing, we stop feeling bad or feeling inferior to others and start living a life where we are happy with whatever we have. Instead of worrying about the things that we don’t have, we must feel good about the lovely things which we already have. Once we start living a life where there are no comparisons, you will find yourself more focused on yourself which will, in turn, lead to more success and happiness.