Three years ago, Camilla Constance left her husband of 16 years for a boyfriend - and a lover.

The 48-year-old, who lives in a Hampshire village with her three children aged from 15 to 11, also embarked on a series of polyamorous relationships before adopting a new career which would embrace her newfound sexual freedom.

Camilla now works as a sex and intimacy coach, taking a revolutionary path to show women how to have the best sex of their lives.

Part of her unique approach involves her often being present in her clients' bedrooms, taking notes and offering tips as the couple make love.

Recently actress Gwyneth Paltrow revealed she and new husband Brad Falchuk have employed an intimacy coach to keep their sex life hot and sizzling.

Here Camilla tells FEMAIL about her extraordinary approach to her work - for which she draws on personal experience...

Camilla Constance works as a sex and intimacy coach, taking a revolutionary path to show women how to have the best sex of their lives

Living without sex makes you so unhappy. Sex and being touched releases the hormone oxytocin, the neuro-transmitter which makes us feel secure, safe and loved. Without sex or touch, our inner barriers go up and we do not feel as if we belong within a relationship.

I should know – I spent six years without any form of touch within my marriage. My husband wouldn't even kiss me good morning.

I felt so empty inside. We married in 2000 and on the surface I had everything – a lovely home, a well-off husband who worked in IT and three children. He was – and is – a lovely man, but we had no connection. The last time we had sex was when I conceived our third child.

When I was 42 I was in a slump. I was depressed and lost. I began NLP ( neuro linguistic programming) as a form of counselling, and I slowly began to realise I was allowed to have desires, and indeed needed them to make me happy.

Camilla says: 'Sex and being touched releases the hormone oxytocin, the neuro-transmitter which makes us feel secure, safe and loved. Without sex or touch, our inner barriers go up and we do not feel as if we belong within a relationship'. Pictured: stock image

Coincidentally I met a former boyfriend, and we began a passionate affair. I told my husband, who was understandably very upset, but we came to an agreement to co-parent the children and live in the same house. But over a period of time this didn't work, and in 2016 he left.

I'd begun studying to become a sex coach, having previously been a teacher. With the newly-found confidence to make my own choices, I also took an additional lover and joined the 'polyamory' community, who believe in being able to have multiple sex partners, as long as you are completely open and honest.

Camilla started up a passionate affair with a former boyfriend while she was still married

I also began sleeping with women – my eyes really were opened! I want other women to realise they too can own their sexuality and rejoice in their desires.

For a while I had everything – a husband who paid for everything, a sexy and amazing lover and a boyfriend who adored me, as well as polyamorous sexual experiences. In many ways, I have exploded every myth!

It was quite a rebellion – from a normal middle-class wife and mother to having two male lovers and polyamorous relationships.

Not everyone was thrilled. My mother called me selfish – to which I replied, 'Yes, isn't it fabulous!' Some friends deeply disapproved, others were envious. Even today some people in my village are horrified at what I do. But the main thing is that my ex-husband and I have a good relationship, and my children are happy.

My boyfriend, however, did not approve of my polyamorous relationships, and we broke up. I now live with my lover in a monogamous relationship – I'm content with that as I feel I have been through my period of personal discovery.

As an integrated sex and intimacy coach, I use the principles of 'tantric sex', having studied in California.

One of my most popular sessions is the 'Goddess Reveal', in which I will actually be in the room, and guiding, while a couple make love.

I have no self-consciousness so there's no tension, instead it is a relaxed beautiful experience, designed to make the woman, especially, 'light up from within'.

I create a fabulous atmosphere, with scented candles, soft music and lovely food such as chocolates and fruit.

Camilla, pictured with her husband, said for a while she had 'everything' – a husband who paid for everything, a sexy and amazing lover and a boyfriend who adored her, as well as polyamorous sexual experiences

One of Camilla's most popular sessions is the 'Goddess Reveal', in which she is actually in the room, and guiding, while a couple make love

The couple are often quite nervous and giggling when they arrive, but I soon put them at their ease. The woman puts on a sarong or robe over her naked body, and I encourage her partner to begin stroking her.

He'll take off his shirt and later clothes, and we use oils for massage. I show him how to touch her, with his fingers, mouth and rose petals, guiding him, while he tells her how much he loves her, looking into her eyes as they breathe together.

This experience is primarily about the woman – so few men really know a woman's body, and have no idea where the G-spot is. The experience is so sensual the woman often goes into a trance, and I show the couple how they can make love for hours.

For so many couples, this is revelatory. I cannot tell you how many people are currently living without sex, or having bad sex.

Camilla claims her sessions are so sensual that the woman often goes into a trance, and she shows the couple how they can make love for hours

What we forget is that women are the most sexual of the species, and if a woman is blossoming during sex, then the man will have a great time too. We're struck with this belief that great sex is all about penetration, when in fact that's such a tiny part of the true sexual experience.

When clients first come to me I say, 'Where do you want to be? What are your real desires?' Then I coach and 'hold' them through what can be a very difficult process, because sexual issues almost always stem from previous trauma or deeply-held beliefs about failure.

Ideally couples will come to me for about 10 sessions, and I charge £200 per session. The results I have seen have been utterly remarkable – there's no doubt learning how to revive the intimacy in your marriage or relationship will completely change the way you feel about each other and keep you together.

Camilla described her change in direction as 'quite the rebellion' – going from a normal middle-class wife and mother to having two male lovers and polyamorous relationships

Camilla enjoyed polyamorous relationships and slept with women after her 16-year marriage ended

The simple fact is that women, and men, need to live in a functioning orgasmic relationship to feel happy, secure and loved. I treat men with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, but rather than try to 'fix' these issues I show them how they can still be great – in fact, even better – lovers and then the problem often just cures itself.

It isn't easy though. Sexual problems are a symptom of a much deeper issue – often a trauma or life experience. There's so much pain in men today, and often they numb it with booze or TV or having an affair with a younger woman. What they are scared to do is show vulnerability, because they're brought up to be 'strong' and show no emotion.

Women can cope with a lack of sex by busying themselves with their children or grandchildren – facing up to sexual problems takes you to a place of real discomfort and pain, and you need to be brave. Men, all too often, withdraw into their world and getting them to agree to sexual coaching is often the tricky part.

Sexual problems are a symptom of a much deeper issue – often a trauma or life experience, according to Camilla. Pictured: stock image

In this country we're still suspicious and uncomfortable talking about sex. But sex is at the heart of every relationship, and if you are having great sex, you'll have a great relationship and everyone will benefit.

It took a revolution in my life to reach the place where I am now – but everyone around me is happier because I am fulfilled. Conscious sex is the most healing thing on the planet.

For more information about Camilla's work, visit her website.