OKC may have a high member count, but a lot of women find its barrage of sex requests and outright abuse an instant red flag. Some of the messages are absolutely astonishing. One female friend complained to me that she got so many messages per day (most saying “Heyyyy”) she felt that she “was at the centre of a toad knot”. Another sent a polite rejection to a man only to be called a "feminazi ****" in return. This isn’t a one-off phenomenon; it seems to be the normal experience for women on the site.