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10. Being a Swinger

This one may come as a shock to you, but Reba Corrine, sex expert and wellness consultant, says there's no cause for alarm if this is your lady's sex fantasy of choice.

"It's normal to fantasize about having the freedom to swap partners," says Corrine. “This type of sexual freedom is not commonplace publicly, but is commonly fantasized about. Women are often told it is taboo to have more than one sexual partner — and the swinger lifestyle removes societal restrictions."

Sex therapist Dr. Kat Van Kirk echoes this, adding that it can be a turn-on to see your partner being wanted by someone else.

"Being desired by men and women simultaneously appeals to women on one level, while on another, being watched or watching their partner with other people can be a turn on because of the change in boundaries with one another and the variety of sexual experiences available," she says. Also, it's important to understand that not every woman who fantasizes about being a swinger actually wants to act it out. Sometimes, fantasies are really just that.

What Real Women Say:

"I'm unsure whether or not I would ever actually go through with it," says Amber, 31. "My husband and I have been married for two years, and have been together for almost 10 in total, so it's starting to feel like we've done it all — not in a bad way, but more of a, 'It'd be hot to try something completely different that we've never done before.'

“I remember watching an episode of ‘The O.C.’ where two of the married characters went to a swingers party, which also plays a part in the fantasy I have because their dynamic on the show was sort of silly throughout that episode and that's how my husband and I are. Anyway, in my fantasy, my husband tells me to get dressed up and says that he's taking me out, but won't tell me where we're going. We drive and pull up at a house I've never seen before, and there are a bunch of other couples there that are all good looking, but none that I recognize. My husband walks in and casually drops his watch into a jar on the coffee table (the same way it happened in ‘The O.C.’). Except we don't chicken out. Throughout my fantasy I have different men approach me — one even tries to cheat the system by getting me alone in the pantry of the house, running his hand over my nipples in the sheer dress I have on, and then up my dress to finger me. Eventually, the watches get chosen, and the one I choose belongs to the man who cornered me in the pantry. Not sure where my husband is at this point in my fantasy, honestly! But eventually, I reconnect with him and he tells me that the girl he was paired with was so awful he didn't get off — so of course, I go for round two."

How to Make It Happen:

In today’s online dating culture, no matter what your preference, kink, or type, there’s a dating app out there for you. And yes, that includes people who are looking to swing. If you and your partner have been thinking about trading off for a night of hot sexual passion with another couple, there are lots of online options out there for you. To save you the trouble of deciphering which sites are swinger-friendly (and which ones are trustworthy, for that matter), check out AskMen’s reviews of the best swinger-focused dating sites.