This is a topic I’ve discussed several times already at this blog, but it’s still a semi-regular concern men keep bringing up. As always, let’s analyze this using facts and data instead of feelings or anger.

As I’ve talked about before, all types of game have become more difficult over the last ten years.

Night game guys are complaining that night game is almost impossible now in most major cities since men vastly outnumber women at the typical bars and clubs formerly used for night game pick-up.

Daygame guys have talked about how daygame is much harder today than before, since women are more picky, more savvy to pick-up techniques, and get validation that formerly required real-life men from social media instead.

And yes, online dating has grown more difficult as well. I discussed that five years ago here already; consider this article the latest update to this problem.

Just in the last year and a half, two things have occurred that are of concern:

1. OKCupid radically changed their messaging system and algorithm, essentially (though in many cases, not literally) forcing you to get a mutual match with a woman before you can message her (or you can message her without matching, but the odds are perhaps lower the system will allow your message through; in some regions this is unclear). This essentially makes OKCupid a Bumble variant, which is not good.

2. The insane federal government of the USA passed FOSTA, a law that “holds websites liable for hosting sex trafficking content.” It also “makes it easier for victims of sex trafficking and prosecutors to sue companies that fail to keep exploitative content from their websites.” In reaction, Craigslist, a website I know a some of you have used for online dating, permanently removed its personals section. Sugar daddy dating sites like SeekingArrangement.com are still active, but because of the left-wing’s overreaction against heterosexual sex, their future is in question as well.

In addition to these things, the negative trends affecting night game and daygame are affecting online dating as well. Fewer women are present on “standard” dating sites, flocking to swipe apps like Tinder, sugar daddy sites, and attention-whoring farms like Instagram and Snapchat.

Response rates are also lower. Though to be fair, there hasn’t been a huge decline in average response rates between 2013 and 2018. There was certainly a noticeable drop between 2007 and 2013, but since around 2013 the lower response rates seemed to have leveled off, which is one bright spot in the bad news.

So yeah, this is all getting noticeably harder. As I’ve talked about before, it will continue to get harder and harder until someone invents the next new online dating “thing” that is easy. Remember, every new online dating technology goes through the five phases I described here. First it was easy to get laid with online dating. Then it was easy to get laid with MySpace. Then it was easy to get laid with Tinder. Then, if you were older, it was easy to get laid with sugar daddy game. Next it will be easy to get laid with… well, we don’t know what that thing will be yet, nor when it’s coming.

So what do we do until the next thing comes along? Here’s what you do:

1. Ignore all the pussies who say it’s now “impossible” to get laid with online dating. I regularly, as in every week, talk to regular, average-looking men all over the Western world, of all ages and types, who are still getting laid regularly with attractive women using normal online dating. Read that sentence again. Then read it again.

There is a small but vocal group of haters / losers who are screaming at the top of their lungs that it’s now “impossible” to get laid with online dating. This is factually and objectively inaccurate. If, as Blackdragon, I wasn’t hearing from anyone getting laid with online dating (or only getting laid with pay-for-it sugar daddy game) then yeah, I’d be very concerned. I’d report that to you as well. But I’m not seeing that. At least not yet.

Instead, I’m seeing that online game is harder, and requires more time and effort than it did 10 years ago. But it’s nothing new and I’ve been saying that for a long time.

So, step one is to not get caught up with some of the negative hype you might hear. Getting laid with online dating is harder than before. Yep. Getting laid with online dating is not impossible, and anyone who says so is either retarded or has an agenda.

2. Do everything correctly. Don’t “wing it.” Because online dating is harder, the margin for error is much lower. This means that if you want to make online dating work for you, you must do everything right, and I mean everything. You must take the time to sit down, map out a very specific plan and execute only systems that are proven to work. You can’t wing it.

I am still shocked on a regular basis to see guys just snap a typical picture with their phone, throw it up on Tinder or Bumble or OKCupid, then get pissed off when they get no results. Really? Really, you idiots? You really think that’s going to work in 2018? Are you actually surprised that doesn’t work?