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Keep in mind that many psychologists don’t recommmend spanking, and it is illegal in many countries. Before you spank your child, firmly tell them no and try other punishments or consequences. Explain to your child why they've done something wrong, and give them a choice to improve whatever it is that's gone wrong. If you feel that you absolutely must spank your child, bend them over your knee and spank them on the buttocks, being sure to avoid their coccyx, genitals, and kidneys. Listen to their responses so you know you’re not hitting too hard, and stop before leaving a mark. Then, immediately forgive your child and let them know that you love them. Keep reading to learn how to make sure your child learns from the experience and doesn’t become resentful.