Felinefancier Sat 24-Feb-18 16:06:06

I've posted on a different aspect of this issue this before.



After being made redundant last year DP decided (without consulting me) to play poker for a living. He's making very little money (around £10 a day) and we have a large mortgage. His redundancy money won't last forever.



I have talked to Gamcare (the gambling charity helpline) and I think he has a gambling problem.



I feel I am being brow-beaten by DP. He refuses to acknowledge the word "gambling" and gets angry if I use it to describe what he is doing.



He says poker is a game of skill and he can build up the expertise to be able to earn a six figure salary within a year or so.



The only problem in his eyes, is that I refuse to accept this. If I would only read some books on poker and become more knowledgeable and supportive of him, his proposed new career could work.



He plays for upwards of 8 hours a day (online only after losing his bankroll in casinos) and now talks about very little other than poker. He is getting very boring to be around.



I'm very upset that he has not only made the decision to play poker but blames me for the damage it is doing to our relationship. I have asked him to leave and he's furious with me for 'kicking him out of the house' and asks why I simply can't accept his new career.



I'm exhausted and feel at my wits end and that I am being gaslighted. Everyone I've spoken to about this agrees that he has a gambling problem.



Is he gaslighting / emotionally abusing me and AIBU to end the relationship?