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A trans man, who is eight months pregnant, has revealed that he is planning to raise his unborn child as non-binary – meaning the baby will fall outside of the definitions of male or female – with the help of two women.

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25-year-old Alex Alvarez, from Los Angeles, California, is expecting his first child after conceiving via an unknown sperm donor.

He is set to have his child in just one month, and will bring up the gender neutral baby with the help of his girlfriend, Carla Gonzalez, 33, and their mutual friend Cole James, 36, a gender queer and androgynous female.

Their decision to bring up their child as gender neutral stems for their need to allow the child to decide who they want to be.




‘We want him or her to choose his or her own gender’, says Alex.

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‘I’ve got a nephew who is proud he is a man. He has chosen that, and that is great.

‘We will raise our child gender fluid, until they can choose what gender they wish to be.’

Though the trio are not in a three-way relationship, they all plan to live together once the baby is born, and are making the home as ‘baby-friendly’ as possible in the mean time.

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On their decision to give the child three parents, Alex said: ‘The baby will have a trans father and two mothers’, said Alex, who suffered awful morning sickness throughout the first trimester of his pregnancy.

Having Alex conceive wasn’t the original plan. Carla – who Alex met at the age of 20 after realising he was trans at just 17 – was first to commit herself to the idea of pregnancy.

After initially trying to carry a baby with an unknown sperm donor, she suffered two miscarriages. And so, she and Alex made the mutual decision that he would try for a child.

He fell pregnant earlier this year and the couple were ecstatic. Their friend Cole was also delighted – and after realising how badly she’d always wanted to be a mother, Alex decided the three would co-parent.

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According to Alex, while his parents are accepting of his lifestyle and are looking forward to becoming grandparents, other people haven’t been so accepting.

He said: ‘People have had a mix of feelings, from really happy to not excited and confused.

‘Only close friends and family knew for the first 7 months. We then came out on social media with images and we only received good reactions to the pregnancy.’

He added that his pregnancy isn’t even obvious, saying: ‘I don’t even look that pregnant. I’ve stopped taken hormones now, because of the baby, and even when I did I didn’t grow much facial hair. We aren’t a very hairy family.

‘In big clothes and with coats on, you can’t really tell I am pregnant.’

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In just a few weeks, Alex will be preparing for a home birth, and is hoping he’ll be able to breastfeed – which he said he is very nervous about upon the baby’s arrival.



However Alex, who does not plan on having gender reassignment surgery, knows he has a great support network around him, especially with his two mums-to-be.

He finished: ‘I’m hoping that we raise this baby with unconditional love and give them the chance to choose who they wish to be in this life.’

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