How would you answer if every company you dealt with asked you this question: “Which is more important to you? A Personalized customer experience, or your privacy?” If you’re a Millennial, you may not recognize the implied tradeoff. According to a recent Gallup poll, “44% of millennials in the United States believe that their personal information is kept private "all" or "most of the time" by the businesses or companies they do business with.” (Really...?)

This is the highest of all major U.S. generational groups – at the other end of the spectrum, we have the less trusting (and in this case, more realistic) assessment of Americans aged 70 and older. In this group, just 29 percent believe their personal information is kept private all or most of the time while 35 percent believe it’s kept private little or none of the time.

Across the United States, there’s a storyline pushed by marketers and the companies they work for that goes something like this: “Consumers give out information about themselves as a tradeoff for benefits they receive.” For example, a 2014 Yahoo whitepaper concluded that online Americans “demonstrate a willingness to share information, as more consumers begin to recognize the value and self-benefit of allowing advertisers to use their data in the right way.”

Sure sounds good. But to the contrary, most Americans don’t believe these tradeoffs are fair at all.

Most people are strongly opposed to the idea of trading personal data for more personalized customer experiences.

A recent report from the Annenberg School for Communication at the University of Pennsylvania spells this out with some stark and somewhat disturbing facts. The report, titled The Tradeoff Fallacy: How Marketers Are Misrepresenting American Consumers And Opening Them Up to Exploitation suggests that most people are strongly opposed to the idea of trading personal data for more personalized experiences.

In this study, 91 percent of Americans surveyed disagree (77 percent of them strongly) with the statement that “If companies give me a discount, it is a fair exchange for them to collect information about me without my knowing.” 71 percent disagree (53% of them strongly) that “It’s fair for an online or physical store to monitor what I’m doing online when I’m there, in exchange for letting me use the store’s wireless internet, or Wi-Fi, without charge.”

This said, like most narratives of this sort, there is a foundation of truth: This foundation is the increasing desire of your customers for ever more personalized experiences. In fact, personalization and customization are fast becoming customer expectations. But they don’t expect or want to give up their privacy to get it.

In answering the question “How do consumers feel about personalization?” Yahoo states that “Most consumers are not only aware of online personalization activity, they believe it brings relevance and efficiency to the content experience,” further suggesting that “About two-thirds of consumers are okay with marketers using online behavior and information for ads.”

Maybe. But this is a big tradeoff. And most of the time, it’s not voluntary.

Americans widely believe that there is little or nothing we can do to stop the wholesale use and misuse of our private data.

The word that best describes the privacy/personalization tradeoff is “resignation.” Meaning that regardless of the type or quality of the supposed benefits we received, Americans widely believe that there is little nothing we can do to stop the wholesale Hoovering of our private data, or the use and misuse of it by those entities which gather it. And they’re not entirely pissed off – yet.

Today, most customers are content to leave a trail of personal data behind them. They give Facebook and other social media like Instagram, Snapchat and others permission to not only store but also broadcast and resell vast amounts of data from their personal profiles.

Unwittingly, most customers give online merchants permission to remember their credit card number, transactions and web browsing activity. They don’t remove cookies from their browsers, making it possible for advertisers to track their movements online and target them with specific advertisements. And if they try to remove some of these tracking tools, some websites simply won’t work.

Any sane customer with the time and resources to quantify these tradeoffs would quickly come to the conclusion that it’s pretty difficult if not impossible to participate in the “internet economy” while protecting your private data. That’s because marketers hold this data, and aren’t at all transparent about the ways in which they use it.

But what happens when customers take control of their data?

“We are not seats or eyeballs or end users or consumers. We are human beings, and our reach exceeds your grasp. Deal with it.”

These words come from the The Cluetrain Manifesto, a collaboratively authored work first posted to the web in 1999, and published as a book in 2000. Doc Searle’s is one of the book’s co-authors, and uses these words to describe ProjectVRM, a research and development project of the Berkman Center for Internet & Society at Harvard University, which intends among other things to provide tools for individuals to manage relationships with organizations, and make individuals (rather than organizations) the collection centers for their own data.

This is a potential problem for companies that continue to hoard customer data, and use it for purposes which don’t usually help their customers. Maybe it’s not a problem today, but it will be. Eventually. After all, another trend driven by the internet is transparency.

Which brings us to a core principle of personalized customer experience management: the ability to truly understand customer’s wants and needs, and appropriately meet their expectations in these regards. Implicit in this field of endeavor is the obligation to set customer expectations based on fact, not spin. On openness, not obfuscation.

As logical as the narratives of Yahoo and others that their customers are willingly abdicating control of their private data, it doesn’t square with the facts.

And the facts are this: If customers really knew what was being done with their data, they wouldn’t be happy about it (For example: 69 percent of Americans don’t know that a pharmacy doesn’t legally need a person’s permission to sell information about the over-the-counter drugs that person buys. Whoops!)

So what does this all mean for business?

Looking at your business “from the outside in” is more than just a marketing-driven line used to describe how a customer-centric company would act, if it were truly customer-centric. It means actually looking at what it’s like to do business with your business on all fronts – not just the customer journey, or your products or call center or other channel experiences. It’s about what your customers think, feel and do as they interact with you as a company that wishes to serve them.

We believe that openness and honesty is a critical component of the customer-company relationship. As such, improving the experience also means doing a better job recognizing what your customers would want your company to do, even if they don’t know anything about it. Yes, it might require a new way of looking at your world – through the eyes of your customers.

Every day, we see that those companies who best understand their customers – and act in their customers best interests at all times – are those that consistently beat their competitors. They do so by creating loyal customers, and strong relationships based on the understanding that customers are really who these companies are here to serve.

We know these are the companies we most enjoy working with. And we know their customers feel the same way. So. What kind of company does yours wish to be?

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