Anonymous sent: What's your opinion on girls who act/are misogynists just to seem "cool" to male peers? AnonymousWhat's your opinion on girls who act/are misogynists just to seem "cool" to male peers?

tbh as angry as it makes me, i feel like we need to have more compassion for them

bc like all of that is internalized misogyny and response to our society’s really aggressive male gaze so like … yeah, it’s shitty, but at the same time it happens bc society has taught girls to hate themselves and that their entire self-worth is wrapped up in the acceptance of their male peers so like

it’s wrong, but at the same time i think it’s just another form of girl-on-girl hate to take a girl who’s exhibiting a lot of internalized misogyny and rip her to shreds

and i feel like a lot of people use it as an uncomfortable EXCUSE for girl on girl hate, you know? like, example, taylor swift

yeah her lyrics are really shitty and sexist and slut-shaming a lot of the time but sometimes it makes me really uncomfortable how eager people seem to jump on her and tear her apart while they let sexist lyrics written by male artists pass right by without comment bc “well that’s to be expected from THEM” or something

basically, it fucking sucks and it really needs to stop but i feel like at the same time we need to realize that it stems from patriarchally influenced self-hatred and i think it deserves to be handled firmly but compassionately and it shouldn’t be used as an excuse to pit women against each other and unfortunately it often is