While we are in the spiritual world, we choose our body and family with the guidance of spiritual guides and other wise beings. It is often part of the broader lessons, karma, and mission in life so that our soul will grow and acquire new knowledge.

Before we were born, our family souls asked us: “What would you like to learn in this life?” Based on our answer, then the soul contract is made.

Opposite of what you want

If we want to learn patience, we will not ask to be surrounded by teachers of Zen Buddhists, but with people like our brothers or sisters. They will continually test our patience and willfully irritate us.

If we want to learn love, hatred will be shown, and regardless of the lesson that we must learn, we will always look for the opposite of what we want. For example, if we choose self-confidence, people who will appear in our lives will pretend to be our friends, and that will hurt us.

Souls contracts are based on this principle because only when the situations are hard, we have no choice but to go through it and learn from it. Our development can be an excruciating process, and it is necessary for the purification. Just as the diamond polishes to get the glow, so we have to go through a similar process.

There are two types of pain, one from which we learn, and one that is violent. While violent pain has no purpose, the pain from which we learn is crucial to growth.

Falling out of balance

The universe shows us that we can accomplish a lot with the exercise, but the real first step toward growth begins when you get thrown out of balance. We get thrown to something that is proportional to what we chose to learn. Throughout learning and growing, we are returning to our center having the tool we need to get back home.

The other side of our return to equilibrium is expressed directly as growth

The universe continually sends us lessons in its infinite love, and one of the hardest truths we have to accept is — once we learned the lesson, we solved the problem, it’s time for the reward — A NEW PROBLEM.

Every time we show our ability to solve unfavorable situations, life becomes a little harder. It is simply one of the toughest aspects of this time of learning, and it is again wonderful for the growth we experience during the process.

The most important thing to remember is that our friends are those who teach us these lessons. Our friendly souls (with our consent) are those who will hurt us, betray us and help us in order to get a chance to learn.

In order for all these experiences to be real, we forget that after birth, we forgot that they are our friends. If you’d rather be happy than right, just pretend they love you, this will surely change your perspective.

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