— Asked by Anonymous

Hmm. As a general rule, you want to avoid labeling people because sexuality is a subjective experience, but he does sound like he could be on the asexual spectrum. Has he expressed concern about how he behaves? Like does he WANT to be more comfortable with having sex or otherwise change the situation? I think if he’s happy and doesn’t seem to be too confused or anything, I wouldn’t bring it up and just accept him as he is, but if he’s trying to work through his sexuality and actively trying to have sex more or something, you might want to present it as a possibility (“Have you heard of asexuality? I was reading about it today…”) so he can explore it further. A really great post to refer to is How To Have Sex With An Asexual Person. I’m also just one person, so if you want other perspectives, check out the AVEN forums. Good luck!