What Men Think Women Want in Bed vs. What They Really Want

Some men do not get it. Women are intriguing creatures made up of lust, passion and hidden desires. Some women like to role-play, include toys, and be told what to do or like the sweetness of intimacy. What men think women want in bed versus what they really want can be a confusing; but the mystery of what women really want can be solved by experimenting and listening.

Sex -- it's not always meant for the bedroom behind closed doors. Sometimes, women want sex in the “no zones” that bring excitement to the party. Having sex in unexpected places or at unexpected times can take a regular session of sex and turn it into “That was the best sex I’ve ever had!” moments. Spontaneity, getting to know your partner's likes and dislikes, and sex toys can add excitement to your sex life.

Just what do women want in the bedroom from men?

Hugs and Kisses

Do you know a woman can tell how you really feel in your hug? She can -- so hug her like you mean it. A woman loves the feel of being wrapped in a man’s arms.

What kinds of kisses do women love so much? Pecks on the cheek and forehead and the real deal kisses -- she wants them all… before, during and after sex. Slow and easy, long and hard, gentle and sweet… they all get her love juices flowing.

Pay close attention to her body language as well as listening to her and it will not take long for you know what turns her on in the heat of passion.

Heated Passion – Spontaneity at Its Hottest

Whether it is hot and sweaty sex on your mind or just the desire to get your hands in her pants, spontaneity is exciting and women love it! If you do not have that “spontaneous bone” in your body, all you need is a little imagination. For example:

Slide your hand inside her panties then massage her clitoris while she is washing the dishes.

Just walking through the door and barely getting it closed before you start pulling her clothes off is sexy.

Sit her up on a bench in the garage, or on the hood of the car and go down on her.

ANYWHERE unexpected works. “Unexpected” is spontaneity!

Romance Is Sexy

Romance comes easy for some men but not so much for others. Show your partner that she is important and sexy with some savvy moves. This will go especially far in your favor if you are not the romantic type. A few ideas to help get you started are:

Light some candles and place her favorite flower(s) on the bed.

Surprise her with sexy lingerie then slowly undress her being sure she feels the tug of you slipping it off… this is hot. Remember, her entire body is full of sensual orgasmic nerves, so take your time and keep the garment taut while sliding it down her body. It turns her on.

Make it a game of “cat and mouse” by leaving notes in places you know she will find them with each having clues to the next destination of another clue.

Send her text messages throughout the day telling her the dirty little things you are going to do to her, then do it! Teasing her like this are all good wayt to start foreplay.

Foreplay - A Woman’s Best Friend

It is simple. Foreplay includes teasing, touching and dirty talk, and is 100% necessary for women. Do you know most need around 10-40 minutes of it (depending on serval factors like her time of the month, if she is on any medication, how stressed or tired she is, etc.) for best orgasmic results? A woman’s entire body is full of sensual orgasmic spots and you can easily find her sensitive areas by exploring her body.

What is the best way to find her “touch me there” and “yes, do that” zones? Start by gently running your hands over her body. Be attentive to her breasts and not just the nipples; gently caress her chest and the entire breasts kissing, nibbling and lightly sucking on them. Try nibbling on her belly, her sides and her hips, or her inner and outer thighs. You will know what her likes and dislikes are by her reactions and the sounds she makes.

The Sensual Clitoris

The very sensitive Clitoris has around 8,000 sensory nerve endings and even as a woman’s body changes throughout her life, it remains one of the most important sensual parts of a woman. The only job the clitoris has is to pleasure a woman and 70% of women only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, so this needs to be a top priority.

Each clitoris is different in shape size and color. Some are big, some are small, some are easy to see and there are those that like to stay hidden. During arousal, some may or may not increase in size; and some like a soft touch while others love a lot of gentle pressure. Some love to be stimulated with fingers, lips, teeth or the tongue, while others love a combination, or all of them used. Some love a vibrator used on them while some can only reach climax with one.

A vibrator does just what its name insinuates; it vibrates those roughly 8,000 clitoris sensory nerves. If either of you are new to the use of one or are unsure about including it, a good one to consider may be a small discreet vibrator; it is less intimidating to those shy about sex toys.

The best way to get to know a woman’s clitoris is to experiment with your partner to see what brings her to blissful orgasms.

The G-Spot

Many women have a G-spot, yet they or their partner are unable to find it. The best time to locate the G-spot is when a woman is very sexually aroused because it increases to the size of about a walnut. The tissue swells causing the area to become firmer and bumpier -- like the roof of your mouth -- than the rest of the surrounding vaginal wall.

To locate the G-spot, apply a personal lubricant to both your middle and index finger. While she is lying on her back, insert your finger into the vagina along her vaginal wall where the belly button is located. Gently run your finger along the top of her vagina and feel for an area that feels different from the rest of the tissue. When you find that spot, use a firm but gentle amount of pressure to make a “come hither” movement while curling your finger upward so it is pressing toward her belly button; then massage it.

A curved G-spot vibrator or sex toy is another option to stimulating the G-spot for incredible pleasure.

Variety Is the Spice of Sex

No one gets turned on by the same old sex routine every time. Don’t want your lady faking it? Then change is good, fellas!

There is nothing wrong with mission style lovemaking; it has benefits of closeness, intimacy of eye contact and a sweetness of “I love you” many desire. However, doing this every time may become boring for some and set up your quality time as a disappointment.

Different positions, places, moves and bringing in sex toys keeps your sexual relationship full of passion and excitement; and that saying about your woman liking sex toys means she will like them better than your tongue or penis, is just a that; a myth. In truth, it is quite the opposite. There is NO replacing the feel of you. Sex toys just add to the fun and excitement of sexual play.

It is not hard to understand why men may feel intimidated when it comes to pleasuring women sexually; however, what men think women want in bed vs. what they really want does not have to be a mystery. Simply put, it is about good sexual communication and exploring her body, experimenting with her and watching for signals, and listening to the sounds she makes. If you do this, you will become a master at what women really want in bed.