This article was co-authored by Laura Bilotta. Laura Bilotta is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker and the Founder of Single in the City, her dating and relationship coaching service based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. With over 18 years of date coaching experience, Laura specializes in dating etiquette, relationships, and human behavior. She is the host of the Dating and Relationship Radio Talk Show on AM640 and on Apple Podcasts. She is also the author of "Single in the City: From Hookups & Heartbreaks To Love & Lifemates, Tales & Tips To Attract Your Perfect Match." This article has been viewed 916,935 times.

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While asking a girl out when she’s already dating someone else might seem hopeless, there are ways to approach the situation that might just get you a date. In situations where you feel brave, be direct and ask her about her relationship by saying something like “Hey, I was wondering, are you seeing someone?” If she says yes, you can ask her if it’s a serious relationship or if she’s happy with her partner. Pay attention to her cues as you learn about her private life since she might give you some insight into how serious or stable her current relationship is. Alternatively, take the indirect route by asking her “What do you like to do for fun” and see if she mentions her partner. If you find that she’s in a relationship but it doesn’t sound serious or happy, then try saying something like “I know this is forward and that you’re seeing someone already, but would you like to go on a date with me?” To learn how to be respectful if her partner finds out you’ve asked her out, keep reading!