“I did not initially speak out about my story because I chose to handle it in private with the person who wronged me,” Bennett, now 22, said in a statement . “My trauma resurfaced as she came out as a victim herself. I have not made a public statement in the past days and hours because I was ashamed and afraid to be part of the public narrative.”

On Wednesday, actor and musician Jimmy Bennett spoke out on the allegations that Harvey Weinstein accuser Asia Argento had sexually assaulted him in 2013. He was 17 at the time when Argento, his co-star in the 2004 film The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things, allegedly assaulted him in a California hotel. (The age of consent in California is 18.)

It’s something we’ve been grappling with for some time now. When Sen. Al Franken was accused of sexual harassment late last year, for example, a number of women publicly defended him, dubbing him “an honorable public servant.” When former attorney general Eric Schneiderman was accused of physically and psychologically abusing several romantic partners, many looked back at his reputation as a staunch defender of women’s rights.

The allegations against the Italian actress and director, who has emerged as a visible figure in the #metoo movement, surfaced just a week after a renowned feminist professor, New York University’s Avital Ronell, was suspended for sexually harassing a male former graduate student. The New York Times’ Zoe Greenberg reported that “a group of scholars from around the world, including prominent feminists,” came to Ronell’s defense, thus raising an important question many still struggle to answer: How should feminists and proponents of the #metoo movement respond when one of their own is accused of sexual misconduct?

Argento, 42, has denied ever having a sexual relationship with Bennett, and said the decision to pay him was made at the time by her boyfriend Anthony Bourdain, who killed himself earlier this summer. After her statement came out, however, TMZ published a photo of Argento and Bennett and screenshots of text messages allegedly between her and a friend that suggested she did have sex with the teen.

Bennett also said he “tried to seek justice in a way that made sense to me at the time because I was not ready to deal with the ramifications of my story becoming public.” According to documents obtained by the New York Times, Argento agreed to quietly pay him $380,000 after he threatened in November—a month after Argento publicly accused Weinstein of rape—to sue her.

As many have pointed out, the #metoo movement—which launched in 2006 but gained widespread media attention recently with the sheer number of people coming forward to share their stories of being sexually abused by high-profile men—was never about any one individual. On Monday, #metoo founder Tarana Burke tweeted that this public reckoning with the way society deals with sexual violence and harassment “is less about crime & punishment and more about harm and harm reduction.

“There are no perfect victims, after all—the ones I spoke to were rarely an exception to that rule,” Tcholakian continued. “The thing we talk about less often, but which is equally true, is that there are rarely perfect villains, either.”

In fact, numerous media outlets have published thinkpiece after thinkpiece after thinkpiece this week exploring how Argento’s shocking assault allegations could potentially impact the #metoo movement. Writer Danielle Tcholakian summarized some of her angst over Argento for the Daily Beast as such: “When Bennett’s accusations first surfaced, I struggled. I had become so defensive of this woman I didn’t even know, this stand-in for all the women whose stories I had listened to, stories I slaved over, taking forever to report, because I was determined not to let them experience the response she had gotten.

“None of us know the truth of the situation and I'm sure more will be revealed," she wrote in a tweet that’s since been deleted.

And this week, when the New York Times’ report on Argento first came out, Rose McGowan—another Weinstein accuser who’s known for being a fierce critic of abuse in Hollywood— suggested people "[b]e gentle.”

“It will continue to be jarring when we hear the names of some of our faves connected to sexual violence unless we shift from talking about individuals and begin to talk about power,” she continued.

It’s easy to get caught up in what’s happening with one person who’s been at the forefront of this movement, says Carly Mee, interim executive director at SurvJustice. “But it was never about just one person, it was about everyone,” she tells Broadly. “The issue of sexual violence and sexual harassment isn’t going away until we do something about it. And the focus should really be about reducing the overall harm that those issues cause survivors. It’s about survivors as a whole.”

But Mee admits she’s not surprised by some of the conversations the allegations against Argento have ignited because society mostly still struggles to understand how nuanced sexual violence is. “We want to believe survivors, but then people are like, ‘Well, that’s messy because she’s a survivor.’ I think that’s really the key point: There’s no perfect victim. There can be survivors who also do really bad things on a number of levels.”

"The focus should really be about reducing the overall harm that those issues cause survivors. It’s about survivors as a whole.”

Sexual violence happens in many different spheres to many different people, Mee continues. “We can’t focus too much on defining victims versus perpetrators because it all blends together. We need to focus more on: here’s this specific action that we can hold people accountable for, and how can we make larger policy changes to address this problem in the future.”