My boyfriend of eight years is a stay-at-home artist who is disabled. He has taken to watching conspiracy theory videos on YouTube after he got a new smart TV six months ago. As far as I know he watches quite a lot of these videos, as I often come round to his place after work to find him glued to the screen. I don’t enjoy watching them, and I’ve asked him if he can possibly watch them when I’m not around. But when I had a morning off, I woke up, listening to the radio, went to make a cup of tea and came back to find that he startedhim watching them again. I felt so angry I pulled the plugs out. I am at my wits’ end. We have had brilliant ups and devastating downs in our relationship but I feel unappreciated, especially with this new hobby.

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