Beth Froehling – Co-Executive Director – Coalition Against Domestic Violence

NC Fathers believes that Beth Froehling (Co-Executive Director) and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence is playing gender and sexual politics with the issue of Domestic Violence rather than attempting to end all violence in NC. In this article, we are going to provide evidence supporting our statement and ask that every Man, and Women in their families, to educate themselves on this matter because it can have serious consequences in your lives. NC Fathers is an organization of NC non-custodial families who seek reform in the NC Family Courts for the presumption for equal parentage and access to their children after a divorce. We ask that you review OUR GOALS, consider joining our MAILING LIST and FACEBOOK PAGE if you identify with the information in this article and help us build a massive organization of non-custodial parents and their extended families so that we can begin the process of ending the century long systemic bias in the family courts. Furthermore, in this article we are going to point out the relationship between Beth Froehling and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence as it relates to shared parenting in NC, or more specifically why it does not exist in our state. While this document may appear to be the ramblings of a “Men’s Rights” or “Father’s Rights” group, we want to make it painfully obvious that Women in Paternal and Men’s families get equally stung by the issues we are about to discuss. NC Fathers is going to make this article available to Co-Executive Director Beth Froehling of the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence and will be happy to include any thoughts she has in this matter for our 1800 daily viewers and 4,976 (March 2013) member mailing list.

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This is an important video for every Man and Woman in paternal families to watch. In this scenario, if at ANY time she would have picked up the phone and said “I’m scared”, the Father in this video would have gone to jail, lost his job, had his assets transferred to her, and stigmatized in society. Also important is the 4:35-4:52 mark in this video where she lets him know that at anytime, despite her behaviors, she can call the police and have him removed. And Domestic Violence only happens to Women Beth?

Update 8/9/2013: We just ran across this document that we suspect the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence does not like to see in print. Of course, we suspect that their organization will just say that Men are transferring the patriarchy onto these girls which is confusing because as we know most young girls do not even have a Father in the home.

Here is some more information that the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Beth Froehling probably does not like hearing:

Roughly half of custodial mothers today have male children who will one day be pushed to the margins of their kids lives if they experience a divorce and have children. In their lobbying for Women and denigration of Men as the only batterers in North Carolina, NCCADV is putting every mother in the position of defending her son in future child custody proceedings. Where do you think these non-custodial grandmothers (who will also be marginalized as well) will stand then? With Equally Shared Parenting?

NC Fathers statement on Domestic Violence:

NC Domestic Violence is a serious issue facing all of humanity. Violence reduction against all humans requires a collaborative effort that is solution and evidence based; not grounded in governmental politics, sexual politics or gender ideology. Amelioration efforts must encompass proven interventions, both in treating victims and perpetrators and in providing legal remedies that serve the purpose of amelioration.

All these strategies must produce a sustained effort with informed sensitivities to men, women, and in particular, children, instead of using misdirection and other tactics that are designed to further ideological agendas and fund organizations.

NC Fathers appreciates the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence paying attention to the issue of violence in North Carolina. However, we are disgusted that they apparently are using known radical feminist buzzwords to push a gender and sexual politics agenda aimed at stigmatizing ALL NC Men and Boys as future domestic offenders so that the “Mother take all” family courts can operate as usual. Your Sons, brothers, nephews, friends, and fathers deserve more than this. If we are going to end ALL violence in NC then we can’t just focus on Men.

Co-Executive Director Beth Froehling and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Why Not End All Violence?

NC Fathers believes that our citizenry has been socialized to believe that only Men commit Domestic Violence, and there most assuredly is a sustained media collaboration along these efforts. The reality however, is that Women commit domestic violence just a few percentage points under the statistics on male perpetuated domestic violence, that Men in domestic partnerships commit domestic violence just as frequently, and Women in domestic partnerships commit domestic violence just as frequently as those in heterosexual relationships. We believe that Beth Froehling and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence refuses to publicize these figures. One of the best examples we have of this is a screenshot directly from the NCCADV website using the word patriarchy:

Now lets explore the definition of the word patriarchy which is a term that radical feminist groups like to throw around in their efforts to claim that Men are responsible for everything wrong in the lives of women and the world, and yes, this includes your sons, brothers, fathers, and husbands, and friends.

Patriarchy (rule by fathers) is a social system in which the male is the primary authority figure central to social organization and the central roles of political leadership, moral authority, and control of property, and where fathers hold authority over women and children. It implies the institutions of male rule and privilege, and entails female subordination.

In fact, you will see the words oppression, gender inequality, patriarchy all over the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence website and we have to ask Beth Froehling if her organization is more concerned about “Women’s Rights” rather than ending ALL violence in North Carolina.

We also have to wonder, if the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence and their Executive Director has these views, does this mean that a majority of male legislators in NC who are fathers are likely domestic batterers?

More concerns..

Domestic Violence in North Carolina is a very emotional hot button topic that many professional lobbyist have learned if you just use the word against someone else, it immediately gives you a lot of power. It’s like when you hear politicians use “Do it for the children” – what they are saying is “If you don’t pass my controversial legislation, I am going to paint you a child hater and abuser in the public”.

Here is an example of more politics from Executive Director Beth Froehling and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence:

Most Domestic Violence? What about the other groups who experience violence? Here is a great analogy showing how dangerous it is to play politics with this issue:

If a woman walks into a daycare and harms eight children and a man walks into another daycare and hurts only three children then the woman has hurt far greater numbers of children. But if we suggested that new laws needed to be drafted to prevent women from entering daycare facilities on these grounds, then the mainstream media and women’s rights groups like the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Beth Froehling would be outraged that we are singling out the Woman only. And, they would be right in doing so. Not just because it is unfair to condemn all women based on the actions of a minority, but because the three children that were hurt also matter. It is not about who hurt more children, it is about all the children being hurt.

In virtually all social problems we face, none are as focused on gender as domestic violence. And that bias is clearly reflected within the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

However, after pointing out all this, Beth Froehling and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence still wants to partner with women oppressing, abusing, and patriarchal Men who want to control women’s lives through collective voices and shared experiences:

Having said this, we do agree that Men should be partnered with the NCCADV on ending Domestic Violence, but we have to wonder how Men and Women in their lives feel about this collaboration and giving donations to an organization using radical feminist language excoriating Men?

How The NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Co-Executive Director Beth Froehling Actually Benefit From On-Going Violence

If you have lived in North Carolina and followed what goes on in Washington D.C. in the past twenty years, you know that few politicians and lobbyist actually do very little for the people they serve and seem more concerned about creating non-profits and lobby groups around ideological agendas that they either have a political or financial interest in. Unfortunately, we believe that the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence, which is headed in part by Beth Froehling, is one of these groups. In fact, organizations like hers have turned Domestic Violence into an industry that now NEEDS FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TO EXIST so that employment (by women), salaries (for women), lobbying efforts (all women), political agendas (for women), programs and services (mainly by women) can continue to be funded.

In Domestic Violence lobby circles, we know that the Violence Against Women Act is the gold standard Violence reduction act that exist at the government level and secures $500 million dollars per year that is handed down to organization like the NCCADV. How are they going to keep getting this money if violence is ended and Congress starts to decrease funding? Of course we have no doubt that Beth Froehling will say that she would be glad to shut NCCADV down if violence (well male on female violence) is ended. But the fact that still remains is that there is a LOT of programs and services that still have to be funded, lots of employment, lots of research, lots of lobbying, lots of media, lots of statistics to generate that can only be accomplished via government money that relies on violence.

NC Family Court Matters Relating to NC Domestic Violence

If you are a NC Father, paternal grandmother, step-mother, aunt, or daughter of a father you know that family court is a horrible place that has treated you rather unfairly. Each day, fathers are prevented from being actual fathers and pushed to the margins of their lives as visitors and payment providers rather than equal parents with equal access. As shared parenting initiatives take shape all over the country, there are groups lining up to end this on the grounds that men and fathers are potential rapist, domestic abusers, and child molesters who have no business having equal parentage. And there is a LOT of money handed down from the government that funds this ideology, and we suspect a lot of Violence Against Women Act money is involved. This ideology is evident by the National Organization For Women’s Foundation which stated in their 2012 Family Law Newsletter:

“This Special Report of the NOW Family Law Ad Hoc Advisory Committee focuses on the destructive ability of abusive parents (usually the father) – aided by fathers’ advocacy groups or fathers’ rights groups – to deny the protective parent (usually the mother) custody of minor children. Discussed in this issue is how abusers deny custody, and the damage it causes to a half million or more children exposed to continuing physical, psychological and sexual abuse.”

And there is no doubt that the National Organization For Women and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence, with Beth Froehling acting as director, are in collaboration together for this assault on your male son’s, brothers, husbands, fathers, and nephews.

There is just too much ideological rhetoric coming from the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence website showing that their interest is only about ending male on female violence rather than ending ALL violence and that is dangerous for North Carolina.

If you have an interest in this article, being a male or female, we ask that you share this article extensively on the major social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and others in an effort to help end all violence in NC and send the message to Beth Froehling and the NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence to stop playing politics with the issue of violence and build a grassroots coalition of men and women, absent sexual and gender politics, to take money for Domestic Violence and give it to where it is vitally needed rather than non-profits trust accounts.

In the next session, we are going to update stories daily that we find where Women and Mothers are committing Domestic Violence and Murder of their children and Men in their lives.

We can start with Jodi Arias, now of course the NCCADV will say that Jodi Arias was wrongly convicted and will attempt to make apologies for her, in fact all the incidents below will have a “yea but” that implicate you, your sons and brothers, new husbands, and fathers. Male only violence may help you fund your organizations and keep your radical gender feminist friends happy, but real people are seeing this daily.

Michigan Woman hires a hitman to kill her husband. No mention of abuse in this one Beth Froehling, she just didn’t want to go through divorce. Where is the patriarchy?

Mother kills child because the child interrupted her game of Farmville.

Woman commits Domestic Violence on her husband because he didn’t vote.

Woman hits her husband with a bat, then car.

And More….

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