Falling in love is as crazy as bungee jumping. Sometimes it gives you the feeling that you’re on top of the world and you just want to fly high, or it makes you feel like jumping out of happiness when your special someone tells you that he or she loves you too. But sometimes when the feeling’s not mutual, it would make you feel like jumping to a bottomless pit out of humiliation, rejection, hurt and anger while asking yourself why you ever took the risk of revealing your true feelings to this person.

There is usually this “special moment” that would tell you if your friendship is going on the romantic side. It could be the exchange of “I love you,” kissing, or a conversation where the other would tell you “You are very special to me and I don’t know what to do if I lose you. You are everything to me.” Those are signs that would tell you that the other person is indeed crazy about you, and you are definitely more than just a friend.

There are some situations where you had your first kiss and it gives you the idea that you have crossed the boundaries of being friends to being lovers, but the following day the other starts acting strange, ignoring or avoiding you. There are some people who are afraid of commitment and acts in a weird manner after the first kiss. This would tell you that this “something” you shared with each other could be going nowhere though he or she felt that you are very special. If ever this happens then how would you deal with it?

Advice # 1

Back off for a bit, or in other words disappear for a while.

Give yourself time to think if this person is worth loving or not because of the way he or she acted. There are people who can’t take too much pressure especially when they are not sure if what they did was what they really wanted, or they were just blown away by the intensity of the moment. If this person likes you then he or she would definitely miss you the moment you disappear and eventually would come back for you. Doing this would actually force the other to take some action, but if not, and he or she just let it go, then you have your answer.

Advice # 2

Be courageous to confront the person and ask his or her feelings towards you.

This is all or nothing but it is the simplest and most direct way to find out if the other person feels the same way. This is a huge risk and you have to prepare yourself for what the other might say. If the feeling isn’t mutual then you don’t have to waste your time on this person who cannot love you the way you do to him or her. You have this chance to find someone who can reciprocate the feeling that you have and be happy with that person. But if the feeling is mutual, then wouldn’t it be a great relief that things are clear and both of you can concentrate on loving each other and improving your relationship?

Friendship opens doors to a whole new world. It can also lead to something special and romantic, but it can be at times confusing, difficult and crazy once feelings towards the other develop into something romantic. So, are you just a friend or are you more than that? When we talk of love, we talk of risks, and once you chose to fall in love with a friend, you chose to take the risk that comes with love.