Bruce "The International Man" S. says:



@Eugene C: That comment was my first reply to Will V. As soon as reading Will V's crazy inquiry, the first thing came into my mind is some of the people I actually knew. So that comment was based on them.



You said, "But yeah, I think negative assumptions about Asian males exist. I am actually surprised you have not experienced them." The reason for the negative assumptions about Asian males could be because of the actual negative Asian males, just like Will V? I don't know the exact reason, but I've had relationships with various American (Caucasian) girls. They never had any negative assumption to me even though my English wasn't perfect at that time. Some of them even asked me out! And some of them even told me voluntarily, "They were Italian-American, Irish-American, or Jewish-American" just to let me know they were also foreigners like me in a strict sense. God, they were so nice! I'm still not sure whether it was because of my 6'1" 180 lbs physique, somewhat westernized face, or my silly (funny) personality (I joke around all the time or do some crazy shits.) I have no idea. That's right. I haven't experienced that kind of negative assumption.



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So you're an Asian man with an accent ("...English wasn't perfect..."); what is your native tongue? I'm surprised because my opinion is that most women -- whether they're honest enough to admit -- will usually discount an Asian man as a dating partner if he has a strong Asian-language accent (whether it be Chinese, Japanese, Tagalog, Thai, Vietnamese, etc.). Certainly, your 6'1, 180 lbs. physique would help; but quite frankly, I have a hard time believing your acclaim to having spectacular success with "Italian-American, Irish-American, or Jewish-American" women. Yes, in an idealistic world, one can believe that these women "know they were foreigners like [you and] me;" but the realist would believe this to be untrue. Women are highly critical, judgmental -- and in many respects, much more superficial than men.



Like many Asian men out there, I think you're in denial. Whether you want to admit it, you're at a dating disadvantage... whether you want to admit it or not. The facts (note study and reports cited in this thread), observations, and personal experiences of nearly every Asian man I know only substantiate the plight of the Asian-American man.



That's right... I'm calling you out on your claims. I might be wrong, but I sense some -- or perhaps, an abundance of -- sugarcoating.