"I have forgiven them [Coelho's mother is now dead, but his father still lives in Brazil]. They did not do that to destroy me, they did that to save me. And it happens with love, all the time - when you have this love towards someone else, but you want this person to change, to be like you. And then love can be very destructive. It is up to you to say, 'Stop, I love you but I'm going to do what is better for me and at the end of the day, you're going to realise that I was right.' Then you work through a difficult period, with your parents, or your husband or wife, and then you're happy, or full of joy and they will be full of the same joy."