M. has a happy quandary — or at least, happy for her. She’s pregnant — four months along — and telling friends the news. But there’s one friend she hasn’t told:



I have been telling my close friends for weeks now. My friend should have been one of the first phone calls I made, but I am so worried about how it will make her feel that I find myself unable to pick up the phone. She was not even aware that my husband and I were trying to get pregnant — because we weren’t, though this was a very welcome surprise — so on top of it all, she will see another friend her age (we are both 36) getting pregnant effortlessly, making it even harder to share the news.

Any advice from Motherlode readers who have been on either side of this equation would be very much appreciated.