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I am aware that Western women have many stereotypes when it comes to dating Asian men. Recently, a social experiment featured on online magazine Nextshark.com exposed how far this "cultural castration" goes.



Out of 5,000 swipes, an Asian Instagram model received 77 matches with interested women, while his white counterpart got 342. A shocking difference considering that their profiles were almost the same, except for their race.



As a Western woman who has been dating a Chinese man for the past four years, I think it's high time women around the world start realizing what they are missing.



In my experience, Chinese men outperform Western men in almost every category. Here are five reasons Chinese men make the best boyfriends and husbands.



One, they care about you. Your Chinese man will always answer your call, pick you up at the airport or carry your heavy bag. He will ask you how your day was and what you'd like for dinner. He worries about your well-being because he honestly cares about you and shows it to you in a million ways.



Two, they don't play games. My girlfriends have complained about the games men play countless times. Is he into me or someone else? Does he want a relationship or just sex? Why does he never text me back? You won't be bothered by these questions with a Chinese man. When I kissed my boyfriend for the first time after being friends for almost a year, he asked me straightaway if I wanted to be his girlfriend. I was speechless and confused at first. But for him, it was clear. He loved me, and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Period.



Three, they stick around during hard times. During our four years together, we went through some pretty tough situations. A long-distance relationship and cultural differences were hard to bridge. A Western man would have given up or suggested giving the relationship a break. But my Chinese boyfriend stuck around, even when the problems seemed too big for both of us.



Four, they are generous. I am a feminist and like to pay for my own stuff. I hate to split the bill with my loved ones, but this is what you get with many Western men. They'll also forget your birthday at times, send you to go shopping with your girlfriends and are strictly against supporting the "capitalist" Valentine's Day. Chinese men love to go shopping with you and even suggest paying for your clothes haul. They'll also treat you to dinner and surprise you for your anniversary with a high-end present.



Five, they value family. Family issues are a common cause of fights and breakups among Western couples. Someone always doesn't want kids or hates family visits. Thankfully, being filial is a core value in China. Not only is he interested in a good relationship with both of our parents, but my Chinese boyfriend sees the two of us as a family unit as well. As annoying as the close-knit net of rights and obligations in a Chinese family can be, I know that I can count on them no matter what.



I also know that my Chinese boyfriend will make the best husband and dad someday. I feel extremely lucky.



This article was published on the Global Times Metropolitan section Two Cents page, a space for reader submissions, including opinion, humor and satire. The ideas expressed are those of the author alone, and do not represent the position of the Global Times.



