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Most of like the idea of a threesome.

We imagine two hot bods there just to give us pleasure, sensual slow undressing, getting hugely turned on by watching get off before giving us a turn.

The reality can be a little… different.

It’s hard to make sure no one’s left out when three people are getting sexual. It’s even harder to position three people in positions that allow for pleasure on a bed that’s designed for two people.


Then there’s the worry about all the emotions watching your partner go down on someone else might bring up.



No wonder, then, that so many of us keep threesomes locked away as a fantasy idea, rather than something we’ll ever do IRL.

A recent study from the University of New Brunswick has found that while millennials are thinking and talking more openly about threesome than past generations, hardly any of us are actually going ahead and riding the tricycle.

The study surveyed 300 straight Canadian undergraduate students, asking if they were interested in having a threesome and whether they’d had one before.

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The majority said they were interested in having threesomes, but only a few respondents said they’d ever actually had one. Just 13% said they had had a threesome.

Male students were more interested in threesome than women, but they were twice as interested in having a threesome with two other women than with another man and a woman.

Female students were as open to either threeway option as male students were to the man/man/woman option.

Researchers believe this is down to the stigma around same-sex stuff happening with men, and the encouragement around sexual experimentation for women.

That may also be why millennials aren’t actually having the threesomes they dream of, because they’re worried about the potential repercussions.

‘It’s telling of the way our society views same sex behavior,’ says lead researcher Dr Thompson.

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‘There are scripts or messages in media and society as a whole that it’s cool or hot for two women to hook up, but it’s not for two men. It’s almost frowned upon.’

Both men and women said they’d prefer to have a threesome with people they knew, but while men were keen to have a threesome with their partner, women were less interested in adding a third to their primary sexual relationship – likely due to insecurity and a concern that their partner may prefer the other woman.

The researchers are now keen to do further studies to look into the motivations for having threesomes, from each person’s perspective, and the things that hold us back from carrying out our fantasies.

But the research is reassuring. Yes, it’s totally normal to love the idea of a threesome, but be a little terrified to actually try it out.



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