Like I think there’s just this overwhelming temptation for white people– and I’ve been guilty of this, as thesweetestneeceieboo alluded to– to just ask POC “Well, okay then, what do I do to fix racism?” I guess the logic is that if anyone is an expert on oppression, it’s probably the oppressed party. But the major flaw with this is that it, once again, shifts the responsibility back to the oppressed party. It makes them responsible for their own oppression.

I’ve seen men ask feminist women the same thing: “Okay then, smartass, what’s your fucking suggestion for fixing a society steeped in thousands of years of patriarchy?” And straight people ask LGBTQ for a solution, and cis people ask trans* people to think of something. And it’s just not their fucking responsibility. You know? Even if you’re not asking them to do the ‘work,’ you’re just asking for them to tell YOU what to do, but you’re still putting the burden of thinking of a solution on the oppressed group. And then we wonder why they feel so fucking oppressed. It’s like asking a rape victim to pay for their own rape kit at the hospital– oh, wait, I guess we do that too.

Here’s your solution: YOU take responsibility for finding a solution to these problems. Whether you consider yourself an oppressor or not. Whatever group you belong to. It doesn’t matter. Just take some fucking responsibility.