TheEternalForever Tue 03-Oct-17 09:04:46

You really should have told your DP. Does he not understand about MH? A lot of people don't. Can you get a counsellor or someone in the know to explain your DD's problems to him, so he has more of an idea? I imagine his anger was because he didn't know you allowed her to stay home today and so was angry because he thought she'd lied to you both and pretended to go in but instead was just mooching around town? If she had told both of you that she couldn't go in because of her MH then he wouldn't have been surprised to see her.



I am NOT saying that that excuses his words. It's inexcusable to threaten the wellbeing or home of a living creature as some form of punishment. The dog is a part of the family, it lives with you, you chose to take it on and take responsibility for it and you all have a duty towards it, he cannot just threaten to get rid whenever someone does something he thinks is bad.



Does your DD feel this way about college often? Was it just this one day or is she frequently staying off? Each day you miss puts you behind in your classes and it can be hard to catch up if you're continually missing classes. That won't help her MH. Is it the academic side she struggles with? Can she not do something different? Like an apprenticeship for example, that will keep her out of the classroom 3/4 days a week? Or is she likely to also struggle with that and not turn up to the job aspect? Perhaps she needs a year to try and get some help and get herself in a better place, and she can think about going back to college next year when she's more stable and more able to deal with her MH? Can she get a couple of shifts a week at a cafe/pub/shop or something so she doesn't have the pressure of having to go every single day? Or even doing college part time so she doesn't have to go everyday. If she can work out what exactly it is she's struggling with she might be able to work out what she can do to help herself get into a better place with it.