how do “sex positive” feminists not realize that they are just repackaging forms of patriarchal female sexuality?

men want you to like BDSM, so they teach you to find it empowering.

men want you to be a tumblr cam girl, so they teach you to find it empowering.

men want you to wear makeup and look pretty, so they teach you to find it empowering.

how is reproducing female systems of domination considered empowering?