E. Embrace the people he or she loves. Do I have to spell it out? He or she loves their mother. Yes, your nightmare mother-in-law. Respect that! He or she also loves the sister who drives them crazy. And, she loves her best girlfriend, (the one you can’t understand for the life of you why she even still talks to!) Here is the rule: Your spouse is allowed to complain about his or her family and friends, but you are not allowed to join in and badmouth them. You don’t have to respect the people, but you need to respect your spouse for loving them unconditionally.