Question

I'm a medium-support autistic person. The college and police have said I can consent because I can take classes. My first boyfriend would wear me down until I participated. Was this my fault?

Luna Rose Top Answerer

It's not your fault. It's his. Just because you are capable of consenting doesn't mean that you automatically do consent. A "yes" under pressure is not a yes at all. Your boyfriend was very much in the wrong, because he should never ever have done sexual things with you unless you gave a clear, willing, enthusiastic yes. What happened to you was not okay, and you didn't deserve it. Real consent is given freely, willingly, and non-reluctantly. Consider looking into a support group or counseling to help you deal with what you've been through, because being unwillingly pushed into sex can leave long-lasting effects. You are cared about and worth loving, and it's not your fault.