Toxic Shame Will Consume You. Take a two minutes and focus on this message to start your day! Get comfortable, drop your shoulders, take a deep breath, become fully present, close your eyes and listen.



I woke up at 6 am this morning and turned over to find my husband awake. We shared our dreams with each other in the early morning light. We were dissecting my dream when we got on the subject of shame. I was raised in shame and it still lingers within me at times. When others try to shame me part of it seems to stick still.‬



It took me until I was 35 to realize I don’t feel ashamed of my life or how I live it. Others still tried for years to shame me and still do. Some part of me though feels the need to resolve their shame. That I should somehow carry it to confirm their assessment and alleviate them of this burden. I care for others but I need to be aware of setting healthy boundaries on this subject so I do not forsake myself.



Shame is like mold, it settles into the cracks and spreads undetected until it is revealed. It’s dark and slimy and makes you feel like you can’t breathe. It perpetuates a lack of self worth and controls your behaviors in the most devastating of ways. It tells you NO to the things you are comfortable with because someone else is uncomfortable.



Shame destroys and rots you from the inside. It agitates you and leaves you unable to freely love yourself and in turn others. It leaves you feeling dirty and unworthy. There is nothing left for me to feel around shame I have felt it all. I have long since moved away from shame and scrapped away the places it consumed.



I have spent years showering love on the places people have shamed me for. I have fiercely fought for them to regain a place of power within me. I have cared for these spaces like a mother and showed myself all the ways that others were wrong. I have sat in stillness with them and just let them be. In all of this I have healed I still see the old conditioning try to take control and shame me again.



A path of healing is not a straight one, there are many twists and turns. It is an extraordinary one though and one few truly walk down. Remember if someone else try’s to shame you it’s likely they are simply showing you the unhealthily places within themselves and that’s OK. They can try to give you their poison but you don’t ever have to drink it again.