madeofpatterns:

It matters to me whether someone stomped on my foot on purpose, tripped and fell, didn’t see me there, or had involuntary muscle movement and couldn’t possibly have avoided it.

It also matters to me how they react when they notice they’re on my foot.

It also matters to me how I react, both to why they’re there and what they do.

Yelling at someone who accidentally stepped on my foot and immediately apologized that “intent isn’t magic” wouldn’t help. Neither would yelling at someone with catatonia who can’t figure out *how* to get off my foot.

And if we’re using it as an analogy — not everything that people think of as foot-stepping always is. It also matters to me if I think someone is on my foot and it turns out they’re just putting on their shoes.