the frequent watering down of the butch and femme identities on this website is… annoying to say the least. seeing all these like wlw advice blogs get asks like “i really like wearing sneakers and shorts and i don’t like to brush my hair am i butch?” and give responses like “absolutely you masculine toppy butch stone dyke!! welcome!!!!!” is irking. as if there isn’t so much more to the butch identity.

it’s not all about presentation– but i would also like to say that it’s also bad how many of these blogs insist that you can feel comfortable presenting femininely as hell and still be butch like. “if you want to wear lipstick and do a full face of makeup and wear dresses 24/7 you are still butch!”

basically what i’m trying to get at is presentation is not the end all and be all for butch/femme identities in both directions. all femininely presenting lesbians are not femme. all masculinely presenting lesbians are not butch. being butch does require a desire to not present femininely to some extent, and many femmes do not present in ways that would be perceived as traditionally feminine by most people.

there are facets to these identities that beyond presentation, include a) how you interact with men b) how you interact with women c) how you interact with yourself d) how you interact with society as a whole, just to name a few.

these are complex identities, not just the way you look, not just how you feel like doing your hair every now and again, and please respect them as such. also stop claiming the word futch has anything to do with any of this.