Peeling back the layers we have presumed ourselves to be is one of the most difficult tasks we face during this paramount time in Earth’s transition. It’s not the economy, it’s not the politics, it’s not the divided nature of our world. The biggest task we face is to be in a constant state of awareness that is open to drastic change within our personal life and relationships, without labeling each change as good or bad. If we walk through the next few years desperately clinging to our ideas of safety and comfort we will be in a constant state of pain and loss.

How Do We Let Go?

It’s not that we must let go and forget about all of the things/people that we wish to have in our lives. The biggest mistake I see many make (myself included) is black and white thinking. The ego (created self/persona) is always seeking rejection and distances itself from what it can’t have or dislikes. It’s always trying to protect you from pain while not knowing that the protection is the source of the pain. I’ll give an example: let’s say you get broken up with, get friend-zoned, or get fired from your job. The ego projects the loss of all of these as an equal form of rejection. The ego will not want to feel less than or rejected so it will begin to mock, reject, and belittle whatever was lost. Often what many will feel is an honest coping mechanism is to say phrases like this: “Screw them, I didn’t need them, I don’t need anybody” or “I didn’t need that job. That job was lame and the people were annoying”.

Is This Not Healthy Self-Empowerment?

The simple answer is: No. Though it may feel like the safest reaction to have (to distance ourselves from the loss and to remind ourselves what we do not need), this very action is a defense mechanism that sets us up for its opposite, which is needing. If something that was previously valued keeps switching back and forth between being wanted and then unwanted in your mind, you can be sure that this is ego.

How Do We Stop This Pattern?

It’s a lot easier than one may think. We actually have to do less than we were before. Instead of owning all the thoughts and projections we have created about the loss of this situation, we can simply listen to the mind state all of these ideas in our thoughts. When we simply listen to the thoughts and feel the emotion that comes with it, we at that point are not identifying with ego anymore. We have entered into a new state of consciousness where we are not pulled around by the thinking mind, as we are simply listening to it. Act as if your own mind is a friend of yours and it’s always seeking to have enemies. If it doesn’t feel loved then it must reject and belittle what it can not have. This is a balancing act used to enhance the sense of self importance and to retain the illusion of our created identity.

Does Becoming Spiritual Stop This Identification With Ego?

Again the simple answer is no; it may actually cause it to get worse, as the ego is so cunning that it will sneak in pretending to be honest. Even those most dedicated of spiritual people have some of the strongest egos due to the fact that it is under the pretense of being “egoless”, which is merely another form of self-righteousness. Let’s say that someone has really trimmed down their life to be very pure in eating and dedicated to meditation. This behavior is indeed a good thing and beneficial for the person pursuing this path. But if this person begins to see others’ lifestyles as less than theirs and they begin using their own behavior as a way to feel superior to others, they have just turned their previous ego into a “spiritual ego” which is often more stubborn than the original. The people that do this are not just cocky people. This is a natural reaction when going through a big change in lifestyle. When we make a drastic change in order to keep away from the old patterns, we often use ego to belittle the old lifestyle while feeling proud of the new lifestyle. If others are choosing behavior that we have belittled in our own minds as self protection, this person will remind us of our own potential for this behavior. So ego does what it does best and belittles this old behavior in others in an attempt to prevent ourselves from wanting it. By rejecting others for this behavior you are showing proof that you have not forgiven yourself for your past ignorance and now you project your lack of self forgiveness onto another. This pattern of black and white thinking is always in a spectrum of things being either good or bad. There is no in-between for the ego can not just let things be unidentified. It must either find it to be bad(unwanted) or good(wanted).

What’s The Solution To This pattern Of Ego?

You do not need to do any type of special training, meditation, or spiritual practice to resolve this issue, though they may help tremendously. Our daily life is the biggest spiritual course we could possibly take. Starting today, each time in your mind when you hear a thought directed toward someone in a negative way, pay close attention! You will come to find that you are not actually judging them, but your mind is having an automatic response to their behavior based on the definitions you have set up for your own life. Simply listen to these random shouts from the mind deeming whether or not another is accepted or unaccepted by you. Deeply unaware people will not even see this thought as a judgment at all. They will see this as common sense and heavily argue how the person they have directed their dislike to is lame, unacceptable, etc. What a semi-aware person will do is notice how judgmental they are being and then begin to judge their self and feel guilty for being so critical of others. “You” (consciousness) are not actually judging anyone. You are literally watching your ego (persona) have a reaction to the confusion of others choices and the difference in frequency they exist in. By digging deep you will see that the judgment appears in your awareness as a feeling of negativity and a desire to distance yourself from the person mentally. So at this point you can bring in a different response if you choose. You can say to yourself something along the lines of, “My persona is attempting to say that this person isn’t valid, but I “know” they are valid as any other and I do not know enough about their life to make judgments”. By bringing in love we can transmute all discordance. We love ourselves despite having a judgment, and love them despite the mind saying to do otherwise. Once this is repeated over and over again, it will become very easy to see past the trick of the mind so we may love everyone equally. We can love the filthy rich, we can love the desperately poor, and we can even love our self despite judgments that naturally appear in our minds. If you do not like your own reaction to others, send yourself love for noticing something you do not prefer in yourself (judgment). Just examine your reaction and forgive yourself for you did nothing but observe a thought pattern in your ego. This pattern will keep repeating if you continue to judge yourself for judging others. It will keep repeating until you send love and forgiveness to everything that occurs in your awareness.

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