No one knows sex better than MV Stars, so welcome to our sex advice column which in this edition is hosted byVictoriaVeritas! She's here to answer all your questions about love and passion:

I’m a queer/bi-curious woman with a boyfriend, and I’ve never made out with or been with a woman. I want to get with another girl but not have a threesome, not have my bf involved, and not hurt his feelings or get tangled up in a relationship outside of the one I’m in. How do I meet women? What should I say to my boyfriend? How do I meet a pretty girl just to make out with and not date?

- Trapped in Amber

This is so common and rest assured, you are not alone in any of this! Both men and women struggle with finding people to enjoy for a variety of reasons so please know you are completely human and this is all normal to want to explore your sexuality, so don’t give up on yourself or your curiosity!

I’ll answer your first and third questions first, how to meet women. We are everywhere, and a lot of us are not socially open about our sexuality for fear of stigma and judgment. Depending on your personality and assertiveness, try casually talking to people you meet in everyday life and get to know them a little bit more (at the post office, a bar or club, maybe work if you’re comfortable with it). Give them your number and go from there! Courting women as a woman is very much like courting anyone else, you have to risk putting yourself out there and be open and honest that this is something new for you and that you're not looking for a relationship. You can ask them to have coffee or get a drink, something casual and clearly state your interest in them, so they know what page you’re on. Worst comes to worst, they say no, and you move on.

Lots of people also use dating apps like Tinder to meet people in the area for quick flings. Now online dating has never been my thing because I’m more of a relationship person, but it might work for you. There are a few groups on social media like Reddit and Fetlife that may require more work up front to set up a profile (and some digging for specific communities), but you could really hone in on what you’re looking for there. An example would be r/randomactsofmuffdive. Put yourself out there and let people see who you are and what you’re like.

Second, what should you say to your boyfriend? That’s a tough question and depends on your emotional commitment to him. In all scenarios, you have to sit down and talk to him about how you feel. Be open and honest just like you are here now with me and let him know about your intentions, boundaries (no threesomes), and curiosity.

If you’re very committed to him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, then this will be a process for both of you to work through together, and it will take time. If it were me though and I was NOT sure he was the one person I wanted in my life forever, I would end the relationship so that I could explore other people under a good conscience especially since jealousy is a natural reaction to sharing someone you love. This approach also gives you more freedom pursue who and what you want and if things bloom unexpectedly with someone else, you’ll at least have the freedom to pursue those paths without holding yourself back because you’re concerned about his feelings. This is harder up front to do, but you’ll be saving yourself (and him) from more complications and potential pain down the road.

I’m a girl who has an exhibitionist streak, and I want to make some extra money online….so….I want to sell some vids and pics, BUT I don’t want to show my face. Any tips? I feel like I’ll get my exhibitionist scratch itched but will anyone actually pay for my content without my face.

- TheAmazingElle

I totally understand! When I started making and selling porn, I strategically put a sunhat over my face so nobody would recognize me in any of my nudes. It was classy for a photo but didn’t work as well for vids. You can also crop the vid or film so that your face is cut at the top or side. Some models also blur their face after filming or stick to filming fetishes that don’t necessarily involve a face (foot fetish for example). Each model can be successful in his or her own right so don't be discouraged.

You can also use sunglasses, lace face masks, color contacts, costume makeup, wigs, and more to help hide your identity. Models DO earn money even with their face hidden, but a lot of guys prefer to see the whole picture. In the end, do what you feel is comfortable and right for you and when you're ready maybe you'll enjoy removing the mask.

Personally, as I got more comfortable, I was able to remove the mask completely, literally and figuratively. I came out to my family, and some of my friends about my shenanigans and I didn’t feel like I had to hide myself from the world. It was a very liberating experience to be out there, and I haven’t felt the need to go back to hiding myself since then.

I use ManyVids and watch porn, and I’m scared it’s making me desensitized to sex! I’m a guy btw, and I don’t think it’s affecting my life in any other negative way, in fact, I feel like porn makes my life better! But is it numbing me out? Help?!

- Striker

As we grow sexually, our tastes and tolerances can change, and this might be what you’re experiencing. Maybe it’s not numbness but boredom you’re experiencing. This is actually how a lot of fetishes are born because people crave change, novelty, and excitement.

Try watching something different than what you usually watch OR if you feel up to it, you can take a break from porn and really assess with a different perspective when, how and why you watch and enjoy the porn you do. Get a calendar or planner and write in after every porn session what time you started, finished and how you felt before and after. What could you have been doing in that time instead of enjoying porn? Are you missing out on life? Do you feel guilty? Are you using porn as a distraction from an emotional or personal issue to numb you from confronting something else?

As long as your consumption of porn is not negatively affecting your job, close personal relationships, sex/dating life, and physical and mental health then go enjoy and consume without guilt or shame! If you're not able to orgasm with your partner anymore, then you might be watching too much porn alone. Maybe it is time to take a break and see if it's a mental or physical block keeping you from having a full and exciting sex life. Without knowing more about your sex life in general, it would be hard for me to offer specific advice but I found watching porn together with my partner helps us both scratch that itch and explore new things together. Taking breaks from the constant barrage of porn helps clear the mind and the body, too. It doesn't mean you have a problem if you want to take a break. You won't know until you do some personal digging, try something new or take a break from porn all together what is behind those feelings.

VictoriaVeritas

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