Thanks to the interwebs, new slang goes around the world like viral videos of Lindsay Lohan dancing for her life in Mykonos. And many of these clever new terms have been created to describe the latest awful dating trends — we’ve gone from ghosting and gaslighting, to orbiting, cushioning and even breadcrumbing (huh?).

Just like dating in the Tinder age, these terms are getting trickier and trickier.

Well, now we present you with “curving” — it’s simple, it’s brutal, and odds are, it’s happened to you.

To curve means to reject. But there’s a real art to it. Quality curvers know how to come off polite, walking that fine line between being submissive and simply being casual. Texting someone who never asks you any questions? That’s a curver. Receiving an “Oh sorry I just saw this” reply a day late? Sorry, you’ve been curved. If the thumbs up or shaka emoji were a person, it’d be a curver.

Unlike ghosters, curvers are going to give you a text back. But don’t expect much more than that. Curvers will continue to engage with you, all the while giving you that sinking feeling that they’d rather be doing anything else.

Getting curved can be super subtle or it can be crazy obvious. But regardless, it’s always pretty damn awful.