We are publishing personal essays from CNN's global staff as they live and cover the story of Covid-19 . S. Mitra Kalita is the senior vice president for news, opinion and programming for CNN Digital.

(CNN) This is taking forever to write. I can't focus and my mind is either always racing or responding: Do we have milk, does she have a fever, the dog needs a walk, where's Papa's will, is ours updated, time for a team meeting, maybe my throat hurts, Trump's speaking in the Rose Garden, charades on Zoom sound cool, Mama? Mama? Mama??!!

I look back on other periods of my life, like when 9/11 changed my career , and sharing felt natural and therapeutic and necessary.

This time, I don't know where to begin. Perhaps because nobody knows how it ends.

The day we left New York City

A friend describes it like a switch that goes off: That moment you take the virus seriously and life changes, suddenly, completely.

For us it began three weeks ago -- on Friday, March 13, which happens to be our 16th wedding anniversary. That was the day that me, my husband, our two daughters, our shaggy mutt and a million Ikea bags stuffed with rations decamped from Queens to my parents' home in New Jersey.

Schools had not yet been shut, but we made the decision to leave regardless. New York City felt like it was about to get bad. My employer, CNN, had moved to WFH mode.

We returned to the house where I was raised outside Princeton and began setting up for three generations to live, indefinitely. If that strikes you as wildly irresponsible and the opposite of social-distancing guidance, imagine how we felt -- possibly exposing my elderly parents to whatever we New Yorkers had acquired from subways and buses and Lyfts and lockers and classrooms and cubicles.

As coronavirus cases and closures grew, my husband feared that shut-down transit, bridges or tunnels could strand or divide us. And he weighed the dangers of coming and going versus sheltering in place.

But we were driven by even greater fears. First, mine: My father was recovering in a rehabilitation facility in central Jersey after a stroke in mid-February. I did not want my vivacious father (he had so many visitors at rehab that a therapist once asked me if he was famous) to be alone. In life or death.

Second, my husband's fear: He did not want us to be separated. In the weeks after the stroke I had been commuting between my home, my parents' home, the hospital, then rehab and work. As coronavirus cases and closures grew, he feared that shut-down transit, bridges or tunnels could strand or divide us. And he weighed the dangers of coming and going versus sheltering in place.

Sure enough, the Friday night we arrived, my father's rehab announced it would stop allowing visitors the next day.

We took this photo at a party we threw in September, partly to celebrate my dad's 80th birthday. Here my parents are surrounded by their three kids, their kids' spouses, and my daughters.

That night, Papa and I had our best conversation in a long while, just the two of us. I explained the virus was about to change everything. He asked me to take him home. When I asked how many girlfriends he had before Mommy, he impishly raised three fingers ("Not true," she later told me. "Just one.")

Papa is disoriented and unable to swallow. This is his second stroke and we are hopeful, having witnessed the miracles of therapy and brain redevelopment before (like when he used the word "haberdashery" to identify a picture of a shirt and tie).

But my father is 80 and I don't want the moments ahead -- whether weeks or months or years -- to be defined by isolation, infection risk and further confusion. I told my dad we would get him out. As I left I pumped hand sanitizer at his door, at the elevator, in the lobby and in the car.

The opposite of social distancing

It's an odd feeling to be here again. My father emigrated to the US from India in 1971 and my mother joined him two years later. Their lives, and thus ours, have been defined by migration. From apartment to apartment in New York City, then a house on Long Island. We lived in Puerto Rico through the 1980s before moving back to the mainland.

My parents are adventurous types, not just calm in the face of uncertainty but the kind of people who rush toward it. Buying this cookie-cutter house, carved into a cornfield in a high-powered New Jersey school district, is probably the most sensible thing they ever did. I was 12 when we moved here, missing beaches and merengue and my old friends. I hated my pink bedroom carpet. I sometimes slammed doors.

Our tones teeter between hushed and anguished, agitated and argumentative. Do we need a full-time home health aide? Are the kids watching too much TV? Can someone just please do the dishes?

Now, there are six of us and our dog in this four-bedroom house. It is hardly crammed compared to when I was growing up. Back then there were my parents, us three kids and a rotating menagerie of pets: a dog, hamsters, rabbits, turtles, doves, parrots, fish, chicks and two pygmy goats that surprised us by growing. This house has hosted boisterous family gatherings like weddings and Thanksgivings and Easter egg hunts and one of the 67 harvest festivals we Indians celebrate.

And the guests. We always had visiting family, friends, artists, musicians or even complete strangers from India staying with us. One time, my mother patiently counted out 12 (!) towels for a group making a pitstop on their way to Niagara Falls.

My masked daughters, 8 and 15, prepared for an outing.

So being Indian has felt like the opposite of social distancing. Moving back and isolating has changed all that; our tones teeter between hushed and anguished, agitated and argumentative. Do we need a full-time home health aide? Are the kids watching too much TV? Can someone just please do the dishes? Should we get Papa out or leave him in rehab for more therapy -- and at what risk? Is it safe for therapists to come to the house?

It all takes me back to those years after we first moved in, my awkward adolescence, the dread I felt before a bad report card in high school.

The stakes just feel so much higher now.

This pandemic has forced us to revisit rules. We told the kids to stay several feet away from their grandparents, an order my 8-year-old violates repeatedly. My husband wipes down doorknobs, soap dispensers, counters and banisters daily. He's an artist and has set up a makeshift studio in the basement, with a table nearby for our younger daughter to log into her online classroom.

This is what I had feared most. Had I put my parents in harm's way?

A month in, I'm still roaming the house in search of the perfect workstation -- trying out couches, tables, beds. During videoconference calls, I find myself apologizing for my backdrops: garish valances or a faded Shaquille O'Neal poster on the wall behind me.

Life here can feel stuck in time, but we recognize the privilege of space, both inside and out. Recently, my 15-year-old daughter and I took Edison the dog out for his sixth walk of the day. We passed a former classmate's house and I remembered a fight I had with my parents about going to her Sweet 16 party over one Thanksgiving weekend.

"Why?" my daughter asked.

"My mom said I should be with family."

"Did you go to the party?"

"Yup. But I was miserable, thinking how mad my mom was. She kept saying: 'One day, you will realize.'"

Two fevers

We had a plan if someone got sick: My old bedroom, still lined with certificates and graduation collages, would be the quarantine room.

We didn't expect to need it so soon.

Then my eldest daughter came down with a 102-degree fever. We left trays of food at the door, disinfected constantly and stayed on the other side of the house, not letting my mother so much as look in the direction of that bedroom. My daughter got the bathroom and the rest of us used the one in my parents' room, grateful we even had such options.

We did a family reunion by Zoom. You can see nobody following my generational-distance guidelines.

I was wracked with guilt, though. This is what I had feared most. Had I put my parents in harm's way? I had a flashback to covering 9/11 as a reporter -- afterward, every time I drove through the Midtown or Lincoln tunnels I gripped the steering wheel for dear life, girding myself for another terror attack. I tried to remember when normalcy returned.

I talked to a pediatrician and several other doctors. All assured me we were quarantining correctly and to keep monitoring my daughter's fever, which soon went down. By the time she was fever-free for 72 hours, we were still keeping her at a distance.

But we had to move on to other pressing issues. Like my mother-in-law's fever.

I wonder if the shock I contend with is not just about the virus but my parents' mortality. Or my own? My children's? The world's?

My in-laws moved to New Jersey last year to be closer to their sons. They were visiting India for much of coronavirus' early US spread and we convinced them to return early in case borders closed. They arrived March 18 and planned to quarantine for two weeks.

The next day, my mother-in-law came down with a fever and other symptoms. She was hospitalized for a weekend, given a test for Covid-19 and released a few days later. We gave my in-laws strict orders to quarantine separately and my husband dropped groceries and homemade chili on their porch.

Almost two weeks after she was tested, her results came back negative.

Caregiver for two generations

Over the last few weeks, I've seen friends online sharing ambitious projects like reading a book a day or baking lemon turmeric cake or making sourdough starter or learning Portuguese. I am so far from attempting any of this.

I did learn how to pour Glucerna into my father's feeding tube. My mother commented on how efficient I was, and I thought it was a compliment but now realize it wasn't (because I'm usually running behind for something else I need to do). The days feel chock-a-block between those feedings, monitoring Papa's blood pressure and heart rate to keep him out of the hospital, our daughters' schooling and keeping their spirits up, and the relentless nature of this news cycle.

Our 8-year-old ordered this poster on Amazon to make this house feel like home. An identical one hangs in her room in Queens. She surrounded it in dog stickers and took over my parents' hallway, right under my brother's wedding photo.

I spend about a third of my day on crafting news coverage, another third focused on the mental and physical health of my CNN team and the final third juggling family stuff. Finding time or ability to focus on anything else feels impossible. I wonder if the shock I contend with is not just about the virus but my parents' mortality. Or my own? My children's? The world's?

"The reason GenX is taking this most seriously is because we are the current caretakers," I wrote. "So we are worried sick about our germy kids AND our at-risk parents and all that stands in between the spread from one to the other ... is us."

It was retweeted 12,000 times.

The news is on all day long and we don't hide much. Our children know we're unlikely to go back to what they once knew.

As time goes on and our new lives seek rhythm, I wonder if there are lessons to be learned from my surrounding generations. Our immigrant parents came here with little but uncertainty. That which we complain about now -- not being able to travel, get our nails done, see friends and family -- is something they endured for years, partly a result of starting out with little, then because their thrifty ways stuck.

My father has lost capacity in the organ that most defines him -- his brain -- twice now. Still, he goes on trying to resume moving, thinking and living.

Then there are our kids, our resilient girls raised in a post-9/11 world, whose familiarity with sheltering in place comes from umpteen active shooter drills. I dust off parenting lessons about redeeming children's feelings on the little things that loom large in their world, like missing talent shows and Model UN conferences. That's hard to remember when we're all just fighting for survival, but I swear I am trying.

My youngest daughter's essay about how she is feeling during the quarantine.

I've been giving my 8-year-old essay prompts. The last line of her answer to "How you're feeling" gutted me.

She wrote, "Life is crazy and now it's almost like I have started a new one!"

Our Queens neighborhood, forever changed

The news is on all day long and we don't hide much. Our children know we're unlikely to go back to what they once knew. Our neighborhood in Queens, a 10-minute walk from Elmhurst Hospital, is called the epicenter of the epicenter. When we call our neighbors or do virtual playdates, we hear the sirens wailing.

A Facebook post informs us the virus claimed Nucci from the Italian deli and Juan from the bike shop on Roosevelt Avenue. I show the picture to my husband, who owns three cycles, and his face falls.

We ask if we can help in any way and end up talking to Juan's friend Dante Espinoza, who is trying to raise $2,500 to claim and cremate the body.

"We don't want to leave him," Dante tells us. "He has a long history doing our bicycles. He knows famous people who came to visit him in that shop. This is the last thing we can do for him."

Juan Vicente Valerio lived and worked in Jackson Heights, Queens. His friends are trying to raise money for a cremation and to reunite the ashes with his family in Mexico.

I forward these names to CNN's news desk, inundated with such reports. We all feel this responsibility to humanize, to commemorate, to remember. Our home, our neighborhood, the world as we knew it is gone.

Living or dying, together

My father's therapists arrive daily and dutifully, wearing masks and gloves and keeping their distance from all of us. I bought booties to cover their shoes. I don't shake hands or offer them a cup of tea but I hope they can feel our gratitude.

"How long are we gonna stay, Mama?" my 8-year-old asks almost every night.

We cheer the front lines in ERs and ICUs, but these folks are heroes, too: They call and email and text to get updates on my dad's pulse rate and blood pressure, to answer my questions on meds and the feeding tube. They are trying to keep patients like my father healthy and out of the hospital, saving beds and other resources for those who might need them more.

The weather's getting warmer and the clothes we brought don't seem quite right anymore. My little one was creating playthings out of my parents' books and tchotchkes. So my husband went back to get some reinforcements: Short sleeves, bikes, scooters, toys, our mail.

That first weekend, my daughter stacked books like Moby Dick and used decorative figurines to create settings and characters for her dolls. Last week, my husband drove back to Queens and brought some more toys.

"How long are we gonna stay, Mama?" my 8-year-old asks almost every night. This weekend she ordered posters and stickers to decorate the room we share here. I was a on a work call so she decided to paste them ... in my mother's hallway under the framed wedding photos. My mother doesn't mind. The grandkids, she says, are the best medicine for my father.

I take a daily walk to decompress. I pass my old friend's house every time. Different people live there now. Last week, an elderly man staggered across its lawn. A woman I presume is his daughter summoned him inside. From a distance, across the street, I waved and wondered if her days might be like mine.

On one of those walks, the few moments I am ever alone now, it suddenly dawns on me why my mom got so mad nearly three decades ago. It wasn't the Sweet 16.

It was that I didn't choose my family.

Unspoken over the last few weeks is how I want -- how we all want -- both living and dying to unfold: Together.

"One day, you will realize." Indeed.