Last week, John Legend released the video for his single "You and I," and full disclosure: It made me cry. The video is a unique case in which a song about the natural beauty of women is paired with truly diverse images, and it's uplifting to see these women — of all ages, sizes, ethnicities — in the spotlight. But the song itself rubs the wrong way from the beginning, with opening lines to a woman who, wouldn't you know, doesn't realize she's beautiful:

You fix your makeup just so / Guess you don't know that you're beautiful / Try on every dress that you own / You were fine in my eyes a half hour ago / If your mirror won't make it any clearer I'll be the one to let you know

If it sounds familiar, it's because it's a pretty tired motif: the woman who is beautiful, but doesn't know she's beautiful, and who absolutely needs to be told that she can be liberated from her makeup and mirrors. In "The Way You Are," Bruno Mars knows that when he compliments the object of his affection, she "won't believe [him]," insisting, as the title suggests, that she's beautiful just the way she is. In "She Will Be Loved," Adam Levine's girl's got "a broken smile" and he just "want[s] to make her feel beautiful." Sammy Kershaw's titular woman in "She Don't Know She's Beautiful" is ignorant to her allure — even though, "time and time [he's] told her so" — because she's "not that kind." And then, of course, the worst offenders: the One Direction moppets who, in "What Makes You Beautiful," assured an audience of "insecure" girls — whose beauty is apparent to "everyone else in the room" but lost on them — that they "don't need makeup to cover up."