BrokenWing Thu 02-Jan-20 11:39:52

It is naïve to think if she reported to the police she would be treated any differently from her friends. She is not a 'witness' she was there with the group who broke into the premises and it is really no relevant whether she picked up a chair and threw it or not. I would also take with a pinch of salt that no expensive equipment was broken and they only made a mess. At 13 if they have previously never been in trouble before and the damage was minimal then a good talking to and a police caution would be appropriate.



It is a difficult one, I don't think I would report my ds to the police as it would be very out of character for him and an isolated incident.



Agree with pp, the devil makes work for idle hands, get her involved in activities and sports and also to build her self esteem and self worth. Have talk conversations about growing up and what she wants from life, about making bad decisions and the consequences of them.



Make sure she knows how disappointed you are in her that got involved in this, it is not her friends fault, she made the decisions that led her to be there, you don't care about her friends decisions only hers, she is just as guilty as they are and she needs to take responsibility and ownership for those decisions and not blame others.