STOP CALLING EACH OTHER HOJABIS – HIJABI PROBLEMS

Definition of a hojabi according to Urban Dictionary:

Hojabi

A woman who observes the traditional Muslim headscarf/veil (hijab) but accompanies it with clothing which may be extremely tight, flashy, or “characteristic of a hoe.”

The “hojabi” topic that is dear to my heart because I have witnessed and experienced the judgments and accusations that come along with being a Muslim girl. The sad fact is that this form of snobbishness comes from our own community. I have seen so many Muslimahs gossip and slander about one another to the point that it makes me sick and ask,

WHY IS IT SO NECESSARY?????

Badmouthing others does not make you a better person, and chances are that you have room to grow yourself.

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There is no reason for anyone to call another a “hojabi.” Please stop the slut shaming and the judgement. Get a life. Let’s worry about our own problems and remove our noses from everyone else’s. We are all going on our own paths and travelling at different rates. Each one of us will have to answer for our decisions in the Akhirah. If Sadia is wearing jeans that are “too skinny” and Fatima is wearing “too much makeup”, you aren’t going to be in the courtroom testifying against her. You will be in your own personal trial being judged by Allah for the way YOU lived YOUR life.

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Wearing hijab is a personal choice that lets everyone know that you are a pious, Muslim woman. Let’s not tarnish this beautiful practice by calling people out and claiming that a woman, who is basically covered up from head to toe, is a prostitute. It is so ironic that the two completely different terms, “hijabi” and “hoe”, can be mashed together to create such an offensive and disgusting term. Unless someone sees a hijabi walking the streets of a red light district, they need to back off.

Although Islam is a beautiful religious practice, it is hard to grow up as a Muslim girl. We are flooded by images on a regular basis on what is considered beautiful in today’s standards. It is difficult for us to become confident with ourselves and our bodies, and it is tempting to change our morals to fit the status quo. Our struggle is a daily battle that forces us to constantly question our beliefs as we grow older. It takes a lot of strength and courage to stick to our beliefs and wear the hijab.

I remember going to school in the United States and fantasizing to become like the “cool girls” because their way of life seemed so amazing. They went to parties, did their makeup a certain way, wore clothing a certain way, and behaved as they desired. Now fast forward a few years later, I have no intention of becoming like them haha.

ASTAGHFIRULLAH NO WAY HOZAI.

I have a good idea of who I am as a person now and the woman I would like to become, Inshallah. It took a lot of time and introspection to get to the point where I am at now, and this is why I argue that people need to leave people alone. That girl that you have labeled as a “hojabi” in your mind is facing the same struggles as every other Muslim girl. She questions every decision she makes and is trying to figure out her position in the spectrum between secular and non-secular. Maybe her style doesn’t fit under what another Muslim classifies as hijab, but at least she is trying. I can tell you that it is hard to decide between two completely different worlds and she is just trying to find out what works for her lifestyle. Her current state is proof of this battle, and instead of pointing and criticizing her you should just say a genuine Salam.

Just think of how many girls have cried themselves to sleep or contemplated suicide after having their reputation ruined. Once someone decides to call a girl a hojabi, chances are that everyone else will be in on it too. Let’s treat the women in our religion with more dignity. This humorous phrase isn’t worth the laugh if it causes the depression of our sisters.

Life is already hard enough for us Muslimahs.

Let’s agree that “hojabi” needs to go.

Please share your thoughts about the derogatory “hojabi” label.