And peoples’ views of gender roles in the bedroom seemed to get more traditional. More straight men now say they take control in bed, and fewer straight women do. Perhaps Fifty Shades of Grey has left its, err, mark?

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The move toward sexual conservatism might simply be a result of OkCupid’s growing user base. Ten years ago, online dating was more avant-garde, and thus more likely to be popular among libertines and free spirits, as opposed to anyone and everyone looking for love.

It could also be a sign of the more straight-laced sexual mores of today’s young adults. As noted in a 2015 report in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, the average lifetime number of sexual partners grew steadily between the G.I. generation, who were born between 1901 and 1924, and the GenXers, but it has dipped among the Millennials. “Americans born in the 1950s had sex with 11.68 people on average during a lifetime, while Millennials will average 8.26,” the Daily Beast noted in an article on the report last year. And a recent study by the Public Religion Research Institute found that 37 percent of Americans between the ages of 18 and 35 think “sex between two adults who have no intention of establishing a relationship” is morally wrong, as my colleague Emma Green reported.

Strangely, though, OkCupid also found its users are in some ways becoming more sexually liberal. For example, people are now more tolerant of promiscuous partners:

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And they’re increasingly fine having what’s commonly known as a f*** buddy:

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There was also a drop in slut-shaming: Users today are more accepting of women who talk openly about their sexual exploits. Straight women were the harshest critics of this practice, with 22 percent still saying they don’t think it’s okay.

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Just like in 2005, the plurality of people (47 percent in 2015) say they wait three dates before having sex with someone new. And people increasingly feel they would at least need to sleep with them before the wedding night:

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Of course, OkCupid is far from an accurate representation of all sexually active adults. Its 12 million users have a median age of 29, and they’re overwhelmingly college-educated and white.

Still, to the extent that those 12 million are being honest, the news seems both good and bad. Daters are becoming more careful, but also less judgmental. They’re more open-minded, but also more traditional. The report is, in other words, a mixed bag—not unlike dating itself.

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