If I ever do something that women find sexy I’m probably not particularly aware of it. To increase my sexiness awareness, I combed through this r/AskReddit thread , which features comments from actual women (or at least Redditors claiming to be women) on ways men can be sexy.

1. harle

Hugs from behind. Not like surprise, I’mma-murder-you-jk death-grip hugs, but like, just firmly enveloping you from behind. That feeling of utter protection & trust required to let someone close to me like that is pretty hot. Plus then you can follow up with neck kisses, ear nibbles, and back/boob massages. Not limited to guys either.

2. jaeya

Wear a suit and kiss my neck. I’d probably melt.

3. tuliplove

If he smells incredible. If he’s confident in bed. When he holds and squeezes my hand. When he holds and squeezes my ass.

4. MissPokeylope

Have an extremely intelligent, yet fun, conversation.

5. janewithdiamonds

Cook me breakfast shirtless the morning after.

6. karmacorn

A few things come to mind: Look at me with intent. Tell me with your eyes that you know what you’re doing and you want to do it to me.

7. longlashedlady

Be excited about something. Be excited about life. Have a passion, and light up when you come across it. Alternatively, show an interesting my passion to. You don’t have to light up like I do, but be happy for what makes me happy.

8. littlebitodd

When sexytimes are likely, make sure your junk is the cleanest it’s ever been. A little consideration goes a long way

9. criticalenemy

If wearing a long sleeved shirt, roll the sleeves up to just below the elbow. For some reason exposed forearms are ridiculously sexy.

10. furrealyo

Make money.

11. axinite

Spontaneous acts of romance, in private, of course. Ex; Pulling you into a changing room to give you a hot kiss Ex; Bringing home a rose for no reason at all but that he passed by a vendor on the way home

12. randommegs

Dress nicely. Seriously, a man is exponentially more attractive in slacks and a nice shirt than he is in sweats and an old shirt. And I’m correspondingly more likely to be receptive to his advances when he looks like he is successful.

13. WorkerBee741

Hugging, specifically nuzzling the neck area while doing so.

14. Hinaiichigo

I love it when guys put their arm around me, casually you know? Like we’ll just be sitting close, chilling with some friends and he’ll slowly reach his arm around me. :) And he thinks I don’t notice but I actually do and I’m smiling like an idiot because of it. I just feel so protected and warm. Also hugs from behind!

15. musicalgirl9

Go in for a kiss and at the last second pull away. Drives me nuts.

16. smilesfourmiles

Open my door, carry my bags, make me feel protected if we are walking at night, order my food at dinner, etc. I can do this all on my own, but I like my men dominant.

17. WaterMellie

Want me. As in, he has to have me right now, this very second.

18. _MsAdiwin

Hug me from behind, breathe a lil in my ear, kiss my neck and I’ll literally be a puddle in your arms. It’s the small things haha

19. nixam

Remember things e.g. how I like my coffee, my birthday etc.

20. laurelkerickson

The sexiest thing a man can do is play well with children. Ladies’ ovaries can’t handle the cuteness.

21. rawrslagithor

If we’re going at it, little moans of pleasure. Physical and verbal cues that what I’m doing to you actually feels good.

22. crispymew

The look he gives you when he really wants you. You can tell a lot from his eyes, and when he genuinely shows that sort of raw passion it’s an instant turn on.

23. Sweetsuga52

Touch me everywhere, if I am dating you, my body is yours and I want you to fully take advantage of that. Also, ask me what gets me going (my sweet spots), because all girls are different and it’s your job to find out what I like.

24. tiburtius

Putting your hand right around my cheekbone area while kissing. Best. Thing. Ever.

25. justforthisandthat

Hug her and start with your hands on her upper back and then bring them to her sides and run your hands down the sides of her torso and then give her hips a little squeeze as you kiss her… Of course you should probably already be in some kind of romantic relationship with the woman before you do this.

26. AngryMaiden

Mow the lawn. Shirtless. You’re hot, you’re sweaty, and I don’t have to do it myself. So sexy.

27. IAmWhatIWill

This is probably the wrong thread to post this in but I like it when a man is well spoken and is not afraid to show his emotional side.

28. dcruzer

In general: Be able to hold a good conversation. Make me laugh/have a good sense of humor. Be confident but not cocky. Well dressed.

29. jobenheim

Be Brad Pitt

30. afrinak