hi ok i cant believe this needs to be said but if youre telling an nb person that they cant use certain pronouns (especially if youre binary) then you really need to stop bc nb people are erased on a daily basis and misgendered a metric fuckton and if certain pronouns (for example purr pronouns) make someone comfortable then its not your place to say anything.

for me personally a lot of specifically non-binary pronouns (like ne/nem/nir or ey/em/eir or zhe/zher/zhirs) and even they/them pronouns make me feel like i am alienating myself and they are very dissonant and more androgynous and they make me feel personally depersonified and not just depersonified as a person like the word normally means but depersonified as in it makes me feel like im inconguous and clashing with everything around me and like i dont have the right to be considered as valid of a being as anyone else and it makes me extremely uncomfortable.

thats also without even mentioning that i end up constantly misgendering myself because my memory sucks balls unless i have something to associate said pronouns with.

the new pronouns that people are coming up with solve these issues, believe it or not, because they stem from preexisting words and they arent abrasive and settle in nicely with previously established language, and aren’t as jarring in the middle of a sentence as a lot of non-themed nb pronouns.

if your problem stems just from the fact that they come from objects or animals or even mechanical things or space or mythology, then fuckkkkk off. you are blatantly ignoring the fact that literally every single name (unless it’s just a random assortment of letters) has SOME kind of meaning, and often that meaning is a plant or location or something akin to those things.

take, for example, the name lila. it can mean a shitload of different things.

it can be a derivative of the name lilith, from mythology. it can be taken to mean the flower lilac. it can mean night, or dark haired, and it can also be a shortened version of the name delilah, which according to various sources on google, means (in hebrew) amorous, delight, languishing, temptress.

and that’s just one name. so tell me again why it bothers you that these pronouns are based off of things, hm?

basically, you’re full of bullshit, and using this bullshit as a way to erase nb ppl and pronouns that actually make them comfortable. fuck off.

then if your problem is that these pronouns are somehow objectifying or some shit because they are derivatives of plants, animals, etc.- then why do you even care if youre not the one using the pronouns. not to mention that if you are objectifying people because of them, then you are the problem.

if your problem is that it’s appropriating nb pronouns, then you really shouldn’t have a fucking problem in the first place, because a non-binary person cannot appropriate non-binary pronouns. how fucking hard is that to understand. if a cis person is using them because theyre “"trendy n cute !! :)”“ then yeah thats appropriation and its gross because these are pronouns that have been made specifically for nb people, who are an already marginalized group.

if your problem is that they’re too ”“"cutesy”“” or what the fuck ever and you cant take them seriously, then whoops! looks like it’s your problem again. yes, in my opinion, a lot of these pronouns are fucking cute! and you know what! that’s okay! i know that for me, personally, the very fact that so many of these are cute is what makes them more comfortable than traditional nb pronouns for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FUUUUUUUUCK OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! not to mention that that’s a REALLY SHITTY way to look at things because things that are “”“cute”“” are seen as traditionally feminine and arent taken as seriously and if youre bashing them because theyre “”“cute”“” and therefore maybe potentially more feminine (in your eyes) than traditional nb pronouns, then congrats! youre also being misogynistic! get your head out of your asshole and really look at the cause of what youre saying! wow!

dont be a transphobic binarist asshole!

bye!