We're still teaching boys that lesson, every day. Here's what the lesson plan looks like:

Well, here's something you should know: I was taught from birth that this behavior is exactly what women want.

The following sentence applies regardless of when you read this: A famous man has recently been accused of doing sexual things to a woman (or many women) without consent. At the time of this writing, it was a politician's "groping" scandal but next time it'll be unwanted dick pics a powerful man sent to an intern, or the spreading of hacked photos of some actress, or a famous athlete getting sued by a woman whose accusations didn't get anywhere with the police. And, in fact, I bet there isn't a single female reading this who hasn't been the victim of that sort of thing.

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Remember how everyone said it was great that they cast a female star in The Force Awakens, because it's good for little girls to have role models?

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So we all agree that pop culture heroes do influence young people, right? That's why diversity in casting is so important, all that?

All right, so here's the first lesson I got on sexual consent. I was six years old. My hero and lifelong role model, Han Solo, approaches a woman who has told him at every opportunity that she's not interested. Han comes up from behind and presses his body against hers. She's a strong woman, a fighter, so she physically shoves him off ...

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Undeterred, Han moves back in, grabs her hands, and starts rubbing them. She says, "Stop that," and looks nervous. When he doesn't stop, she clearly says it again. He still doesn't stop. Romantic music plays ...

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This exchange follows:

Han: What are you afraid of?

Leia: Afraid?

Han: You're trembling.

Leia: I'm not trembling.

Han: You like me because I'm a scoundrel. There aren't enough scoundrels in your life.

Leia: I happen to like nice men.

Han: I'm a nice man.

Leia: No you're not. You're ...

And he kisses her. Note: Her head is pressed up against a metal wall ...

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... and all of this occurs in a sealed spacecraft floating in the cold vacuum of outer space. Even if she wanted to leave, she couldn't (because of the implications). The result of this encounter is that she falls in love with this man and they spend the rest of their lives together.

Hi, I'm David Wong, and I've been conducting a 40-year experiment on men's toxic attitudes toward women, mainly by living my life with lots of them swishing around inside my skull.

Now, because I am so unspeakably old, the film I'm referencing above is from the ancient days of 1980. Society has advanced a great deal since then. Hey, did I mention that when I found that clip on YouTube, the ad below it was for the "Sexy Princess Leia Slave Costume"?

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Sexy.

Slave.

I mean, everybody gets this, right? The fantasy isn't that she's showing skin; the fantasy is that she didn't choose to wear that. She's a princess, she's regal, she's a noble warrior ... and now we're going to masturbate to a her wearing a humiliating, skimpy costume that she was forced to put on, presumably under the threat of death by rancor.

But back to the groping thing. I'd estimate that 95 percent of the action movie cool guy role models of my youth molested women into loving them at least once. James Bond did it in ... every movie, I think? In Goldfinger (1964), he rapes Pussy Galore in a barn, which causes her to abandon her life of crime and join his side. In The Mask Of Zorro (1998), a woman tries to kill Antonio Banderas, and in response, he strips her naked with his blade and forces a kiss. As a result, they fall in love.

Actually, rather than recount the thousands and thousands of examples of the "Assault Them Until They Love You" seduction method, I'm going to prove how prevalent this is by rattling off a list of examples using only Harrison Ford's filmography:

In Blade Runner (1982), he slams a woman (or female replicant) against a wall after she tries to leave, and then forces her to say "Kiss me." She acts terrified, right up until they start having sex.

In Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom (1984), Ford snatches a fleeing woman with his whip and yanks her back to him. They fall in love.

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How many previous fleeing women has Indy practiced this on to not leave her torso a bleeding mess?

In Indiana Jones And The Last Crusade (1989), he forces a kiss, the woman pulls away and says, "How dare you kiss me?" and then kisses him back, passionately.

Long before I was old enough to date or even had female friends, it was made more than clear: In any relationship, men are the predators, women are the prey. Their expressions of fear and rejection -- including defensive physical attacks -- are a coy game to be overcome, like a tricky clasp on a bra.