rowan ( )

Date: December 23, 2011 08:50AM Posted by:Date: December 23, 2011 08:50AM

Mormons will be Mormons!



Of course, they happily accept all the good things that your husband does for them--they are blessings from Heavenly Father and probably "fodder" for Fast and Testimony meeting.



It is for the host or hostess to decide who is to offer the "blessing" of the food. As a guest in another's home it is not your place to object or take offense in who is choosen and who is not.



Mormons, even and especially family ones, are just so hung up on being and being perceived Mormon that they seldom seem to think to include other family members in 'religious' rites if they are not also Mormon. That is how Mormons are!



I am sure that if you were to bring up the subject to them, they would be shocked that YOU felt offended as THEY never meant it that way. Mutual courtesy is not generally a Mormon thing, EXCEPT TO OTHER MORMONS.



Your husband sounds like a fine man to me, and I am sure that you love him and wish to "protect" him from feeling unappreciated in your family.



In your place, I would feel like my family was being oblivious to my feelings as well as my husband's.



In your home, you and your husband as host and hostess will have the decission to handle the "blessing" and who gives it.



Enjoy your family gatherings now, because as this "older" woman can tell you, as time passes so do our loved ones and the gatherings grow smaller and further apart until...they cease.



One question:



Would you feel better if your husband stopped being so nice to your family?



........(in anticipating your answer) I thought not!







Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/23/2011 08:53AM by rowan.