1. “Be genuine and real. I don’t appreciate phoney grand gestures or disingenuous small talk.”

2. “When it comes to friends, I look for people that are consistent, loyal, and share some of my values. As far as a romantic partner, I want to know the person before we pursue something beyond a friendship. I enjoy someone who can make me laugh but also discuss more serious matters when need be.”

3. “Just come out and tell me what you are looking for. I appreciate the straightforwardness.”

4. “Understand my need to have a plan for literally everything I do!”

5. “Be enthusiastic – I need someone silly to help me come out of my reserved shell!”

6. “Be honest and give me moral support. That’s most of what I’m looking for in a romantic partner.”

7. “Be blunt, but not forceful. We can be a little dense when it comes to romance so if you want to go on a date with us, please don’t ask us to ‘hang out.’ Just call it a date so we know what we’re getting into.”

8. “I am attracted to people who are friendly and upbeat. Crassness and swearing is a turn-off though. I keep things clean and I’m looking for a partner who does the same.”

9. “Take the initiative with us and set a concrete date and time. And then don’t be late! Punctuality is important to ISTJs as we see it as a sign of respect.”

10. “Please don’t play games – that is confusing and a turn-off. Just be honest, genuine and polite. And please respect the fact that I like to plan things ahead of time. Dating is stressful enough as it is without having plans constantly changing!”

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