In 2009, I decided to leave my job in luxury property in Barcelona and set up my own sex blog. At the time, I was doing some fetish modelling at weekends, directing my own shoots with a body-positive message. I had accumulated a lot of imagery and wanted to share it with the world, to turn my hobby into an online business.

It wasn’t a decision I took lightly, but it was a bad time to be in real estate. I had a rat infestation in my flat and having to buy rat poison instead of food was torturous. So, when the commission for my final two sales came through, I left my job, got rid of the rats and venusohara.org was born.

I told only a few close friends and family. Most thought I was chasing an impossible dream, making a living from my art, but when it started working, they were pleased for me. My blog grew gradually in the beginning – on a good day, I had 300 visits – so I gradually got used to online attention. It was when I started getting interviewed in the Spanish media that it exploded. And then I was asked to become a sex columnist for Spanish GQ.

By 2013, I was hailed as Spain’s most influential sex blogger, and adult novelty companies started sending me sex toys to include in my column. So I put my growing pleasure stash to good use and made a business out of it. My first review was a jelly vibrator – I wouldn’t review it now, because I know jelly is too porous to be cleaned properly.

I now produce video reviews for my Sex Toy Laboratory on YouTube, and also work in the development side of the industry; I have even designed my own clitoral stimulator. Lying on my unmade bed and having orgasms is an obvious perk of the job, but it’s only a very small part of the process. Most of it is writing reviews, then recording and editing videos. I’m a one-woman orchestra and work almost every day, but I love what I do.

I want to raise orgasmic awareness among women. It seems that despite progress in female sexual liberation, many women still don’t realise that having a clitoris means we have more orgasmic potential. Apart from the obvious sexual benefits, being able to pleasure yourself can have a positive effect on other aspects of your life, especially your relationships and body confidence. Orgasm can be a great insomnia cure and muscle relaxant, and it can boost your mood.

When you work online, you can never really know the true extent of your influence. It’s only when I meet my female followers at book signings that I realise my work is having an effect. I’ve met several women who have been inspired to buy their first sex toy after reading one of my reviews. The glow on their faces when they tell me about their first orgasm encourages me to work harder.

I’ve only ever bought one sex toy – my first – a battery-operated rabbit vibrator, but I have acquired hundreds of pleasure devices that have been sent to me. I only test luxury products made from body-safe materials. I keep them all in a big cupboard and store them according to their category: so, there’s the ben-wah balls drawer, the rabbit drawer… You can even buy app-controlled toys that can be controlled by a partner on the other side of the world. The most expensive toy I’ve reviewed was a laser device to facilitate female arousal. It cost €1,700 and all I can say is it was like female Viagra. The best toys are in the “repeat” drawer, which is next to my bed. One day, I hope I can exhibit them all.

Explaining what I do for a living is never dull. Some men find it intimidating, others intriguing. It’s a good filter to see who can truly handle me. It can be annoying if people don’t take me seriously or laugh as though it’s frivolous or scandalous. More often, it encourages people to tell me things they wouldn’t dare admit to their partners or friends. When this happens, I know my job is fulfilling a genuine need.

Many women ask me, “How can I have an orgasm?” It really isn’t about the toy; it’s more about letting go and connecting your erotic imagination to your body. When you finally do, there really is nothing quite like it.

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