showingmycards Mon 23-Apr-18 23:26:16

NC due to acute embarrassment.



I think my husband has seen an escort today.



We had a massive row this morning and I asked him to leave the house. I expected him to drive away but he left on foot. This made me curious as to what his plans were so I stalked him on the Find Friends app.



(For info: we used this so I could find him when we went on holiday and it's just been on ever since. He isn't aware of it still being in use as far as I know but I've just not said anything as it's handy for spying- usually just in terms of checking how far away he is on his way home from work without having to call him etc. But, yes I am clearly a bit mad for having this stalking facility - I accept that.)



So I noticed he was heading into town. He had plans later in the afternoon to meet his friends there but was hours early for that so I kept an eye on where he was going, out of curiosity. So I saw him moving through the streets of the city centre and then he stopped for a while in a place that wasn't a pub or cafe so I looked up what was there and it's an escort agency.



He had sent a text on WhatsApp just before I saw this so I replied to it and it wasn't read for a good 20 minutes. His phone is never out of his hand, especially if he was sat alone in the city centre.



I am not sure exactly how reliable the app is: could he have been somewhere close by? To be honest though, I very much doubt this since it knows exactly where our house is when we're in.



Furthermore, a couple of months ago a similar thing happened... he said he was held up at work and would be home late. I could tell he was lying and more likely going to the pub. Used the app to check my suspicions and low and behold, showed him at a brothel (Different one- works in another town). I confronted him about this- did not mention the find friends app- just said I knew he was lying and he confessed to have gone for drinks with lads from work. Hard thing was that the pub he said they went to was right next to the escort agency so could have been plausible. I then apologised for doubting him...



So, what do we think? Am I paranoid and hormonal? Or is he a lying scumbag? And if the latter, what do I do? Do I have enough evidence to confront him without him weaselling our of it or do I dig for more?



Ideally I want to check his bank account but don't know his login details. I could use his card reader and pinch his debit card out of his wallet to reset the password.



I know, by the way that I am insane on the stalking front- I have issues, don't need a lecture.