So what are Thai women like and why do you think Singaporean men like them?

GTHD: Thai women tend to be more family-oriented as compared to their Singaporean counterparts who’re more focused on their career.

I wouldn’t say Thai women are more jealous or controlling but I have a friend who had to install a tracking app on his phone. There was once where he merely drove past Parklane Mall (an area that’s a hotbed of siam dius & KTVs) and his then-girlfriend immediately called to question him on his whereabouts and what he was doing. I also had a friend whose girlfriend had access to his apartment’s security camera. I was there once and when I showed him a picture of a girl on my phone, his girlfriend called a mere 30 seconds later asking him who the girl in the photo was!

I think a number of Singaporean men go for Thai ladies not because they have no luck with Singaporean women, but because they just prefer the type of love that Singaporean women cannot or may not be willing to offer.

And for the guys who are Thai club regulars, as the saying goes, “Siam diu for life, Siam bu for wife.”

Justin: It seems like siam bus are all about money. Is that accurate? Are there other misconceptions about them?

GTHD: To be fair, the main reason they come to Singapore is work so I’d say money definitely is an important factor to them.

That said, they’re not obligated to sleep with you just because you hang a flower sash or buy them out—paying a certain amount of money to the club (eg. $500) which then allows the girl to leave with you to do anything such as going for dinner, going to another club or just simply chilling.

I mean, you can always go to a brothel if you’re just looking for meaningless sex.

But we have to keep in mind that at the end of the day, just like us, they’re also human beings with feelings. So it’s not entirely impossible for a siam bu to want to go back with you regardless of whether you spend on them or not.

These cases, however, are far and few between.