I have been with my husband for 32 years and thought our marriage was happy and solid. Ten weeks ago, a woman contacted me and said she was in a relationship with him. He had told her we had separated. I am heartbroken, as are our adult daughters. I now know adultery has been a way of life for him for 25 years. He says he has always loved me and does now more than ever. I still love him and am terrified of walking away. He believes he is a sex addict and is seeing a therapist (but not one who specifically works with sex addiction). Is this something he could recover from?

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