I am pregnant with my first baby but my husband kept on pestering me to have sex. Yes, l know, l don’t have the right to deny him but also l don’t want him to affect my baby. I believe if the pressure is too much, either the baby dies or gets deformed. I don’t want either of these to happen to my baby. He does not understand this at all, even if not for the pregnancy maybe he could have beaten me up.

What do l do? I am thinking of going to my parents’ house until l put to bed. Please advise me.

ANSWER

Spiritually, you are wrong.

Medically, you are wrong

Physically, you are wrong.

The major problem here is that you are yet to study and understand God, the creator of the whole universe. He is the best architect, the best organizer and the best planner. He has everything well laid out.

Our God is a highly organized God.

The only condition he laid down in the Bible that can excuse you from having sex with your husband is only when the two of you have agreed on giving time for prayers. “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” 1 Cor. 7:5.

All other times are appropriate for married couple.

Physically, there is no way your husband sleeping on you can affect the baby. In your condition he knows he cannot apply much force as before. He is your husband, the love of your life, one that takes care of you just like himself, not a rapist or a drunkard that has no feelings for you, so he cannot handle you roughly. That baby you are always referring to as your baby, don’t forget the baby is his also.

Also your tummy is not just like an ordinary rubber or blown balloon that can easily burst when weight comes on it or the baby is just like pack of cardboard that can be pressed down under any weight . Some do have the fear but it’s all lies.

Sex is a natural, normal part of pregnancy — if you’re having a normal pregnancy. Penetration and intercourse’s movement won’t harm the baby, who is protected by your abdomen and the uterus’ muscular walls. Your baby is also cushioned by the amniotic sac’s fluid.

Well, l was also a victim of this until l met with an elderly Christian woman who sat me down and put me through. Thank God for her advice and also l thank God that l had an understanding man who waited patiently until when l was able to realize my mistakes. One of what the woman told me is this, “my daughter you are still young and so is your husband, don’t give him a good opportunity to go out. He waited for so long, until you are married for him to start enjoying sex, now that he is into it and he is enjoying himself you now want to deny him, know that though he is a Man of God, if l remove “of God” from it he is still a MAN”.

This same advice, l’m giving to you today. If others have been able to survive it and they have all their children alive today, you too can enjoy what God has given to you.

Medically, some believe that they can easily be choked, which can easily lead to them fainting. The funniest ones are those that believe that it opens up the babies passage way and can cause miscarriage. The paths are totally different, just as l’ve told you, the creator has everything well laid out, whereby one will not affect the other.

Making love during pregnancy boasts a number of big health benefits which are as follows:

1. Improves orgasms: Blood flow intensifies your sexual desire. In fact some women achieve a real orgasm for the first time ever during pregnancy.

2. Burn calories: Sex is the most fun way to stay fit. You burn calories or m more in 30minutes.

3. Lower blood pressure: Sex has been found to lower blood pressure. A good thing for both of you since high blood pressure is linked to the pregnancy complication.

4. Reduces pain: Orgasm releases oxytocin which one study found to increase pain tolerance by 74%.

5. Improves Sleep: For the woman sex is relaxing, so it helps to sleep better. For the baby the rocking motion of a sex session often lulls the baby to sleep.

6. Boosts Immunity: a study found that sex boosts level of lgA, an antibody that helps avoid colds and other infections.

7. Boosts Happiness: Orgasm release endorphins which make both you and the baby happier and more relaxed.

8. Increases intimacy: Thanks to oxytocin again, its been linked to romantic attachment.

9. Speeds up postpartum recovery: Orgasm during pregnancy prepares the pelvic floor for childbirth, which in turn speeds postpartum recovery.

The idea of going to your parent’s house is you indirectly telling your husband you are going back so you are free to bring in another, be careful. Stay where you are and enjoy that which God has given you. Don’t allow another to take your place.

Finally, the bible says in 1 Peter 5:7 that, “Casting all your care upon Him; for he careth for you.” If you are that troubled about this issue why don’t you just commit it into the hands of the Lord? He took you there; He will definitely see you through.