Thirty five is rounding the corner so fast than you expected and you failed to realize it or just didn’t care because you have already celebrated so many birthdays at this point that it no longer means any much to you.

But you must realize that you are already an aging adult, and adulting isn’t always an easy task. Taxes are sucking you up, and finding a reliable planner is surprisingly difficult, and when you move into your first home, you’ll probably start off with a vacuum cleaner that figuratively sucks more than it literally does, and before you know it, you’ll be hosting wine and cheese parties and remembering everyone’s birthday.

But instead of wasting money in these parties, as a now grown ass woman, there are things that you should consider streaming in your closet, wardrobe or generally in your new home. You should by now have a curated collection of your absolute favorite items that bring ease to your work and bring you joy as you watch unbelievably as the golden years pass by.

The following fourteen items are essential for any grown ass lady looking to enjoy her passing years.

1. A Hair Dryer That Speeds Your Mornings Along Damage-Free

It seems every new type of hair dryer is always touted as being hotter than the next. However, you should not use extremely high heat settings, as they’re probably not necessary for the DIYer.

A damage free blow dryer that falls within the 1,300 to 1,875 watts range is great for anyone to use at home

The different heat levels should be adjusted to suit your hair texture and condition.

The high heat is available for really thick or coarse hair, and to remove excessive moisture when the hair is really wet. When using a hair dryer, you should never keep the dryer moving and never focus on one portion of the hair for too long.

The low setting is perfect for thin or fragile hair. If your hair is only damp instead of wet, it is important to use the low heat setting to prevent over-drying.

2. A Reliable Stain Stick To Keep In Your Bag

For those unfortunate wine stains or coffee drips on your favorite white blouse or favorite business shirt, there’s the Janie stick spot cleaner. It’s a portable remover stick made from all-natural clays that soaks up any stains on clothing, even while you’re wearing it. It’s also got a built-in brush to scrub away stubborn spots.

This stain removal stick is a must in your purse or clutch. When unexpected spills happen, treat the stain right away so there’s a better chance you’ll be able to save the garment once you’re able to give it a proper cleaning later. The best part about these discreet stain removers is that you can quickly apply them in your work cubicle or in an airport bathroom, saving you from a fashion emergency before a big meeting or when you’re about to board a flight.

They are small enough to fit into your purse or coat pocket, hence they can go anywhere.

3. Genius Over-The-Sink Rack To Save Time And Space

This genius over the sink dish drying rack makes your life in the kitchen easier, saving your time and space.

It’s made from durable stainless steel and stretches over your sink to dry dishes and get more surface area to clean vegetables. It can be folded upwards, staying put, thus allowing you to adjust on the drying surface area to the size needed for different jobs while still allowing for available sink space.

You can use the over the sink dish drying rack to dry veggies and fruits, to defrost foods and even cool foods down!

It will also help you hold a heavy load of your dishes, pans and glassware, while draining effectively onto a wide range of sink styles including but not limited to traditional and modern sinks.

4. If You Need To Work In Bed, Do It In Style with a Sofia + Sam lap desk

When laptops were manufactured, the intention was for the end user to use them from anywhere they wanted to. Though they have been to able fulfill this purpose, it can still be extremely tiring to work on your notebook for hours in a go even if you are sitting on the couch of your living area. It gets worse with the laptops tending to heat up over prolonged use, becomes a pain to both the user and machinery itself.

A sofia + sam lap desk has a laptop cooling pad, and will enhance your user experience even if you are stuck in front of your laptop screen for hours.

This soft pad underneath varies in size, and helps with keeping your legs from getting too hot. They are so soft they will make you forget there’s anything on top of you at all!

A lap desk is also portable, making it easy to tote around with its lightweight design and carry handle.

5. A big-girl tool kit.

We’re talking a hammer, wrench and two screwdrivers, minimum. You really have to stop relying on every man in your life to help with home maintenance.

You are a woman, and sometimes you just need to be independent and learn to manage things on your own.

Stop calling the cute neighbor on the third floor every time you need to hang a frame or add a nail on a broken stool in the house etc.

To succeed in this, this big girl tool kit will come handy, performing the role of an assistant.

6. Swap out faded and tatty sheets for bedtime luxury instead

Everyone has a set of bed sheets that they bought when they first moved out. Salute those sheets. They did you well. But now it’s time for them to go and for new ones to come in.

Look for sheets with a high cotton percentage (these will stay soft wash after wash). Do not buy Egyptian or Indian cotton, but instead buy long staple cotton.

Long staple cotton resists pilling and won’t attract lint. Cotton outperforms most other sheet materials, so choosing cotton sheets means you’ll notice: Cooler Sleep. This is because cotton is a naturally breathable fabric, meaning that air will circulate better around your body.

Buy sheets and pillowcases that are made from long staple combed cotton, an exceptionally soft and light material that provides excellent breathability for hot sleepers. These sheets also have a pocket depth of 18, which is suitable for the vast majority of mattresses sold today.

Untreated by chemicals of any sort, organic cotton provides its users with a comfortable and more natural feel in bed.

7. Cover up a grubby sofa with a fresh new throw or blanket.

It’s not surprising that the couch is the focal point of most living rooms. It’s often one of the largest pieces of furniture, and family and friends alike make a beeline to its ample seating. Over the years, however, a sofa can become stained, outdated or senile.

But as it turns out, even if you’re not ready to make the splurge on a brand new sofa, there are several inexpensive solutions that allow your good taste and your wallet to compromise.

Sofa throw blankets are not only for changing up the look by camouflaging a sofa that is worn or that you don’t like, but also ideal for guarding against mess from kids or pets.

Apart from looking good, throw blankets are also quite functional. They add a bright splash of colour and warmth to a neutral room. Get creative and drape a throw or two, over a sofa after folding it lengthwise. You can then tuck it under the seat cushion to keep it in place.

8. Show no mercy to old underwear, and level up with new ones.

Open up your underwear drawer and throw out any old, grody knickers. Faded elastic? Bin it!

If your underwear is old, doesn’t fit and is uncomfortable, toss it. Period, no arguments. Life is too difficult and complicated enough to wear ill-fitting, sagging items on your intimate parts. And if it’s uncomfortable, it tends to be unflattering too, so don’t even debate this one.

So when buying new stock, make sure to have appropriate cuts and colors of the underwear to work with all your clothes.

You’ve tried to wear that new white dress three times and it keeps ending up in the ‘no’ pile on the floor because your underwear screams ‘zebra’. Make sure your intimates match your wardrobe, or at the very least, don’t show right through. The perfect solution for this? Stock up on neutrals.

Lastly, be mindful of the style too.

Wear thongs with form-fitting/bodycon skirts and dresses, tights and leggings.

Hipsters should be worn with low-rise jeans and pants.

Bikini underwear types are super versatile. You can wear them with anything from your favorite pair of jeans to a mini skirt.

If you’re going for a no-underwear underwear look, a g-string is what you want. They are great for form-fitting/ bodycon skirts and dresses, tights and leggings. Basically any time you want to avoid visible panty lines. Probably not the most comfortable in jeans and denim, but that’s all up to you!

9. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.

Find a pair of black heels that work for your style, and don’t feel bad about dropping some serious dough on them. Black pumps can be the confidence booster you need in that next big job interview, or the last-minute heels you toss on for that magical date just after your second divorce.

So they should be high quality that stand up against your daily commute and your bar hopping habits, while being comfortable and stylish. Got all that?

Still on the topic of splashing dough, You don’t want to skimp out on cheap mascara and end up with swollen eyes because you were allergic to the ingredients, or the formula was loaded with unhealthy chemicals. This paired with the fact that if you wear any makeup at all on a daily basis, it’s likely mascara, so if you are splurging, you should be sure to splurge on something that will give you your money’s worth.

10. Classic Novels About Women, By Women

There are so many classic novels and works of non-fiction written by incredible women and/or about fascinating female characters. (To the Lighthouse by Virginia Woolf and The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath are good places to start.) Taking the time to check out these books will give you a sense of what its meant to be female in the past, and how that history affects where women are today.

Reading the classics will probably help you mature, too.

Some books should be tasted, some devoured, but only a few should be chewed and digested thoroughly.

So expand your mind by reading an impactful novel, that will make you begin to view life differently and re-ignite the spark that you had while still in your twenties.

11. A Fireproof Box

The best thing about having a fireproof box is not necessarily that it will protect your things in a fire (because that’s debatable honestly; I actually keep mine in my non-functioning fireplace as an extra line of defense)…it’s that you immediately know where your important shit is. After several years of not knowing where my social security card was at any given moment, designating one centralized location for important documents was a huge relief.

The sentry safe fireproof box will do a great job of protecting your paper documents (and even small amounts of cash) from heat and smoke damage. This is where you should keep:

Insurance Info. If your home goes through a fire, tornado, flood, or hurricane, one of the very first things you’ll have to deal with is insurance.

Medical Documents.

Birth Certificates.

Passport.

Social Security Card.

Wills. (Remember that you are now aging and have kids)

Financial Documents.

Property Deed and Car Title.

12. Timeless Serveware

It goes without saying that if you ever have company over to your home, you should be prepared with a proper table setting. And with your discerning 30-something eye, you should be able to identify designs you actually love that will last you through many home-cooked meals to come. The basic arsenal includes a set of salad and dinner plates, silverware, matching wine glasses, cloth napkins, and a carafe.

Do not wait to get embarrassed with a sudden visit from your friends or family. Your children by this time will also be pestering you to invite their friends and families over for dinner or birthday parties.

So, you should never be taken unaware.

13. A Signature Scent.

Every woman has a signature fragrance, and so should every home.

Scent has the power to transform any space into a paradise. Pick your fantasy environment: woodsy, lush, floral, airy, and stock up on a candle, incense or essential oil that takes you there.

Without our sense of smell, it’s easier for our memories to fade. Your home is the background for so many special memories and when you intentionally create a signature scent, it helps cement those particular moments in your mind.

A signature home fragrance can be just as powerful in influencing memory and in cultivating a desired mood in your home. When picking a signature perfume we often gravitate towards the aspirational, choosing a scent that represents who we want to be and how we want others to see us and home fragrance is no different. A signature home scent should encompass your aspirations for your home whether that’s a cosy warming scent to evoke a hygge-esque, comforting ambience or an airy, fresh fragrance to accompany modern, minimalist decor.

14. Light Dimmers

There is no such thing as too much light in a home. When a space has too much bright light, the glare it causes can actually make the surrounding area appear darker to the eyes. Wifi Controlled Dimmers are easy to install on lamps, sconces, and overhead light sources, and allow you to create optimal mood lighting in your space so you never stumble into bad lighting again.

When the lights aren’t functioning at full capacity, they use less energy and save bulb life and your pocket. Dimming lights can make a room more comfortable to be in and can contribute to the desired ambiance for a party, gathering or event.

Dimmer light switches for LED lights work by actually reducing energy used and only uses enough energy that it needs to power the light bulb at the setting of your dimmer.

So in conclusion, by age 35, you should still be as fashionable as ever, but very mindful of your pocket and bills. You no longer have a parent to take care of your back, and even if you are married, you should know that your husband isn’t your father but a partner to share thoughts and developments with besides raising those beautiful children.