In October 2016, at a Town Hall Meeting on Family Preservation in Clinton, Iowa, stories about the obscene failures of foster care in America nearly overwhelmed me. Family after family stood up to describe the nightmare of children and grandchildren taken by the state for unclear and unconstitutional reasons:

“There had never been any abuse in our home. The babies were born prematurely. DHS [Department of Human Resources] took our twin baby boys without any paperwork, without court orders, and without any warrant for removal. DHS illegally terminated our parental rights and adopted them out [when the boys were ten months old]. When they finally gave me paperwork, the paper said ‘possible future abuse’ even when there was no abuse ever in our home.”

Yes, stories from the 95% failure rate of foster care in America are nearly impossible to believe. Foster care in America damages millions of children and families every day. States take about 670,000 children every year from biological families to place them in a stranger’s foster care with 428,000 children in state-ordered care on an average day. Outcomes for children who spend any time at all in foster care are generally horrific.

States take children – essentially kidnap them – and by putting them in foster care receive billions of federal dollars. States receive thousands of dollars per month per child in foster care with bonuses if the child is medicated (most in foster care are) or has other “special needs” (such as needs medication for anxiety).States receive more bonuses for terminating parental rights and more for adopting out taken children.

This article is not about good foster parents who truly rescue children in grave danger of harm and injury. My friends know foster parents caring with love and patience for children horribly abused by biological families. I personally know children and adults with severe disabilities who live in neighborhoods where they work and make friends after foster and adoptive families nurtured and taught them well. As our opioid crisis explodes, we will need even more families to care for the young victims of parental overdoses.

Still, 95% of the time, states take children for unsubstantiated reasons while inflicting deep trauma on child and family. Oddly, solutions to the systemic failure of foster care literally meet up at the courthouse with the fathers’ movements and other reform efforts taking aim at family court decisions in child custody cases. In 2017, activists are joining forces. This article starts with foster care and ends with an urgent cry for culture change throughout our family court systems.

As a systems thinker and strategic planner, I organized these solutions into five strategies:

Take personal action Find support groups Transform county and state agencies Change federal and state laws Transform the win-lose culture of family law

Take Personal Action

What can one parent do when their child is taken? Yvonne regained custody of her son and has this advice:

Educate yourself – Learn how family court operates; learn what your state says about parental rights; use the words parental rights, constitutional rights and parental alienation. Yvonne could not afford an attorney and filed for a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) – someone the Court appoints to present Yvonne’s evidence in court. In her case [which is not typical], the GAL recommended Yvonne have physical custody of her son.

– Learn how family court operates; learn what your state says about parental rights; use the words parental rights, constitutional rights and parental alienation. Yvonne could not afford an attorney and filed for a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) – someone the Court appoints to present Yvonne’s evidence in court. In her case [which is not typical], the GAL recommended Yvonne have physical custody of her son. Find local support groups – Use different words for your online search including: parents rights, taken children, foster care reform, father’s rights.

– Use different words for your online search including: parents rights, taken children, foster care reform, father’s rights. Be proactive – Reach out to doctors and teachers who know you and support your efforts with your child and let them know what is happening. Start counseling if you have not already, so whatever is charged you can say “Yes, there is stress in our home; we are working with a professional.”

– Reach out to doctors and teachers who know you and support your efforts with your child and let them know what is happening. Start counseling if you have not already, so whatever is charged you can say “Yes, there is stress in our home; we are working with a professional.” Do your research – Do not reinvent the wheel. Search for lawsuits relevant to your situation such as “grandmother seeking custody.”

– Do not reinvent the wheel. Search for lawsuits relevant to your situation such as “grandmother seeking custody.” Trust your instincts –“God put you here to protect your family, the state is the one taking your child away and putting them in harm’s way.”

Yvonne wants folks to know she is a regular person who got her GED then took a few college courses. She says, “I am a blue collar person and I did this research. You can too!”

Find Support Groups

Caught in the nightmare of the state taking your child or grandchild, parents and grandparents face an aggressive and impenetrable bureaucracy. Finding families who have been through the process – both successfully and not — provides some emotional relief. Parents and grandparents turned activists share hard-earned lessons and a growing number of these support groups are active on Facebook [though be careful as imitation pages exist]:

Iowa Family Preservation Project

Family Forward Project

Iowa Legislature DHS Child Protection Investigation

Parents Against CPS Corruption (PACC)

Medical Kidnap

America’s Taken Children

Families United Action Network (FUAN)

Some have their own websites: Americas Taken Children; I was Erased; Medical Kidnap; and Parents Against CPS Corruption (PACC).

Michelle D Chan is a family rights activist, advocate, journalist, and founder and president of Parents Against CPS Corruption. She reminds us that the trauma inflicted is deeply personal and support needed in the darkest of hours:

“Victim-parents trapped in the child welfare and corrupt family court systems often become isolated and stigmatized by their unfortunate circumstances. After losing everything, many fall to pieces and lose the will and ability to fight back and get their lives back on track. As such, we formed PACC in hopes of providing a support network that would lift the stigma and give parents the strength to keep fighting, to regain custody of their children, and to become role models for others struggling through the system. We formed in January 2017 and have more than 40 active members. We are more than just an activist group and support network; we’re a family.”

Michelle is especially conscious of the need to support the extended family:

“The developmental and emotional benefits of kinship placement – when children are sent to live with relatives after removal from parental custody – is rooted in notions of blood and belonging, needs and rights, and family and cultural preservation.”

David Shubert speaks for millions when he says: “I am simply a parent trying to be reunited with his children after a ten year struggle.”His eloquent blogs and now book on IwasErased.com describe loss, pain, betrayal, parental abduction, alienation of children by ex-partners, the failures of family courts and self-healing:

Like many of you, my heart was and is still broken. Because of this, I once felt I would never fully recover. Though it took time, I regained myself through the process of self-healing. I still mourn the loss of my children after being stolen out of my life and will never understand why this happened.

However, my spirit is now restored to a level that allows me to fight for them in a way I could not do before. They need me and I need them. I will not fail in my duty of restoring our bonds to a point where we can be a family again. The alienator and those who assist them felt they could defeat me – they were wrong. I am stronger now and will not allow them to continue their wrongful actions.

A Coalition of Support Groups: The Million Parent March in Washington, D.C. on September 18, 2017 aimed to raise awareness about the abuses and failures of foster care and family courts. Although only three hundred or so actually marched, later that day, in the Upper Senate Park of our nation’s Capitol, the sharing of personal stories began as mothers, fathers, grandparents, family advocates, court reform activists, a musician and a filmmaker described lost children and broken families. A deep grief permeated many small conversations with anger and betrayal spiking in others.

The second day, marchers met with Senate and Congressional officials to talk about reforms needed. That evening, a group of about forty met for dinner and slowly realized that a coalition of all these groups could achieve dramatic changes including re-writing family law. Joining forces are parents and grandparents seeking reform in foster care now listening to the fathers and mothers who lost their children everything in custody battles. Family advocate Jennifer Winn called for a coalition of organizations focused on our children. Native-American child advocate Willow Moon reminded us: “We must help the family find unity.”

Every advocate I spoke with believes public awareness of the damages done by foster care and family court could trigger dramatic agency transformation.

Transform State and County Agencies

Changing the culture of foster care and family court only occurs with new leadership.The first step is a clear mission that prioritizes child safety and emphasizes family preservation including kinship groups. Culture change will require new training and performance measures that evaluate staff on child safety and family reunification not adoption rates. A long list of broken policies must be fixed such as no staff bonuses for taking children or terminating parental rights. No more taking children without a warrant or court order. More rigorous protocols to screen foster parents and group homes. New leaders can mark a new beginning – with many watching.

Transforming Statewide Culture

Jerry R Foxhoven took over the scandal-plagued Iowa Department of Human Services in June 2017.A practicing trial lawyer focused on juvenile and family law, both criminal and civil Foxhoven, recognizes the need for dramatic changes and within a few short months began two innovative family-oriented programs:

“Child Welfare policy and practice must always balance the need to ensure children are safe, while assuming that with the right level of support and services, the vast majority of parents can, and will, provide what their children need. Practitioners of child welfare should always be mindful that involvement with an abuse assessment can cause stress to a family unit. When safety cannot be assured and risk cannot be mitigated, a child-centered system always strives to keep the child in the care of alternative caregivers that know them and are willing to step in while their parents are unable.

In Iowa, we have made the commitment to continually reinvest in our child welfare system in order to ensure efficiency. Financial resources and knowledge are used to help us continue to do better.

An example of this …reinvest[s] money allocated for our group care providers into our preventive services, so families receive services with their children still in their home. The money that is not spent on providing group care services has consistently been reabsorbed into child welfare and redirected to our contractors that provide in-home family preservation services. This has been proven to be an effective strategy for reducing Iowa’s group care census and lowering the rate of children entering foster care.

Another example is the Parent Partner program, which is unique and offered across the entire state of Iowa. This program employs parents who have had their children removed – usually as a result of drug use – and have improved their life to the point they are now able to be a resource to other parents who are going through similar situations. Parent Partners are hired, trained, mentored, paid and supported. This is a great example of Iowa reinvesting in its child welfare system to create organizational change. The Parent Partner program recently underwent a research evaluationwhich demonstrated the program to be statistically effective in returning children to their home without returning to foster care due to subsequent reports of abuse and neglect.

Foxhoven concludes:

“Creating positive organizational change that invests in our children, parents, programs and staff, is key to constantly improving the state’s child welfare system.”

Change federal and state laws

Well-known family attorney and previous county prosecutor Connie Reguli, spoke at two days of events in Des Moines and Clinton, Iowa in October 2017. She titled her presentation: Fo$ter-Gate: A look at government-sanctioned child trafficking and how we change our future.

In a small conference room inside the golden-domed Iowa State Capitol building, Reguli began by highlighting some discouraging legal facts:

Federal payments to states require a child be taken into state custody

Federal law allows states to demand child support from parents whose children have been taken and forcibly placed in foster care

States have essentially unlimited Medicaid funding to medicate any child in state custody.

She described some of the constitutional and legal overreach when state and county workers take children such as removing children without hearings, allowing hearsay in removals; or they lie in reports, make it impossible for parents to accomplish tasks [to get children returned], fail to acknowledge parents have completed tasks, appoint attorneys and Guardian ad Litems sympathetic to the system and make parents pay child support on removed children. Reguli then compared rights given in criminal courts and rights denied in family courts on two powerful slides:

Criminals have more rights:

Right to fair hearing

Right to all evidence that is in their favor

Right to face their accuser

Right to an evidentiary [with evidence] hearing

The heightened burden of “proof beyond a reasonable doubt”

The right to a jury trial

The right to attend and participate in drug court

Instead family court law allows:

Hearsay in removal hearings

Removal without a hearing

Secret records

Refusal to disclose the reporter

No internal accountability

No review of placement once the state has custody

No requirement to place with another family member

Reguli underscores the complicated ways laws and policies on many levels must change to bring accountability to a broken child and family systems

Follow the money. Many different streams of money flow into the foster care arena propping up a compromised system with perhaps $50 billion dollars per year. The dollar count starts with the total fiscal year 2017 federal Child Welfare Budget for Title 4-B and 4-E of the Social Security Act was a little more than $7.9 billion dollars going to states.

Child and family advocate Steven R. Isham, a retired educator fighting for children for more than 40 years, listed income sources related to foster care and child services from the perspective of his home state of Arizona:

Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA)

Adoption and Safe Families Act (ASFA)

Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA)

Social Security Title IV-E funds: Foster Care Maintenance Payments Adoption Assistance Payments Adoption Incentives Kinship Guardianship Assistance Payments Administrative Costs Foster Care Independence Program Tribal Title (to run foster care programs)

Social Security IV-B Funds: Child Welfare Services Promoting Safe and Stable Families

Temporary Assistance Needy Families

Social Services Block Grants

Medicaid

Adoption Opportunities Program

Isham estimated that federal financial incentives to states for taking and keeping children in foster care starts at a $72,000 baseline per child per year then adds in bonuses for Termination of Parental Rights and special adoptions that could reach $10,000 per child. He estimated[i] income to Arizona for nearly 18,000 children in foster care to be about $1.2 billion.

Transforming foster care in America requires changes to federal payments and incentives. Laws related to foster care and child protective services must shift from federal funds only for out-of-home child welfare to greater funding for expanded, quality family services. Existing legislation needs new language to support family preservation, kinship groups and shared parenting. Funding streams must distinguish between poverty and true neglect so a leaky roof or unpaid water bill does not result in children removed from families.

Investigative reporter at Health Impact News and Medical Kidnap Terri LaPoint speaks bluntly about the far-reaching challenges of real change:

Medical kidnapping is real. This is when doctors and hospitals are involved with Child Protective Services in taking children from parents, often over medical disagreements such as asking for a second opinion. States take newborns from hospitals far more than most people realize. There is, sadly, a market for babies for the adoption and foster care industry, with huge financial incentives to the states via ASFA [the Adoption and Safe Families Act] to the tune of billions of dollars. States access these funds by taking children from their families.

She made these [slightly edited] recommendations for changes at the state level:

Require actual evidence before dividing a family or terminating parental rights. In most states, hearsay is actually admissible in family court.

Require courts consider all exonerating evidence. Often the parents have proof of their innocence, but that evidence is either ignored or not even presented to the judge.

End closed courtrooms. End the “confidentiality” laws that shield the system from exposure when they are the ones guilty of abuse.

Require the 4 th Amendment [that prohibits unreasonable searches and seizures], that a child cannot be seized without a court order or warrant or ACTUAL emergency circumstance.

Amendment [that prohibits unreasonable searches and seizures], that a child cannot be seized without a court order or warrant or ACTUAL emergency circumstance. Termination of Parental Rights is the family court equivalent of the death sentence. Yet, unlike criminal court, there is a low burden of proof.

Stop the use of Child Abuse Specialists in hospitals. These are doctors who specialize in finding abuse, often when there is none. They are not trained in orthopedics or radiology or neurology, and they frequently neglect to do differential diagnoses testing.

Legal changes and challenges are slowly moving in the right direction. Individual and class action lawsuits moving toward the Supreme Court filed by fostered or adopted adults foreshadow enormous change. In December 2016, California’s 9th Circuit Court “Right to Lie” case overruled historic immunity laws that allowed state social workers to lie in court and misrepresent family conditions. Other lawsuits moving toward the Supreme Court involve youth taken without cause or placed in abusive foster homes to seek damages from the social worker and the city or county. In October 2017, a US District Court judge ruled a law suit against the Arizona foster care system could move forward as a class action lawsuit – all children in the foster care system would be included.

Connie Reguli gets to the core of the legal and Constitutional argument:

We must reaffirm and protect family integrity and independence from government interference.

Transform the win-lose culture of family law

Changing the win-lose culture of family court touches everyone in the foster care system at the same time changes in the win-lose culture of family law is slowly moving toward safe, shared custody after divorces. One new vision for family law comes from Geri Pfeiffer, a grandmother who turned her anger over her taken grandson into AmericasTakenChildren.com – a website uniting families:

“The family court, child protection agencies and the families of #TAKEN children must meet at a common table of a fair Family Court process in which the laws for reunification and kinship placement are followed in a meaningful way. Maximization of dollars must not dictate the outcome of a case.

Children must not be torn from everything and everyone they know and love in order for an agency and court to self-perpetuate. The future wellbeing of the children must be given EVERY consideration.

Kyle Paskewitz, founder of Family Court Reform USA and program manager for the Million Parent March on Washington, D.C. in September 2017, also speaks to the larger issues of family law:

“First and foremost I believe we need better protection for the rights of children, parents and families who have custody disputes in family courts. This starts with full Constitutional rights for parents and a more family oriented approach that results in better outcomes for our children and all parties involved. We need more oversight and accountability and to eliminate the financial incentives that are destroying our families. We need a culture that respects and encourages cooperative co-parenting and equal rights and responsibilities for both parents because that is what’s truly in the best interest of our children.”

Final Comments: The damage perpetrated when State agencies take children into foster care and the heartbreak inflicted by the win-lose culture of family law brings long-lasting pain to millions of American children and families. My hope for dramatic change comes from the growing coalition of different groups fighting for social justice and working to promote balance in child welfare and child custody decisions.

The questions headed for the Supreme Court take on state’s rights versus Constitutional protections. Is state government interference in lifestyle choices and family dynamics constitutional? Are state social workers and child protection agencies truly immune from lying in court or misrepresenting family conditions? Do children have the Constitutional rights to due process and protection from unwarranted seizure? Do children have a Constitutional right to family relationships? Where is judicial oversight in the 21st century?

As a systems thinker and strategic planner, I organized solutions to a broken family law and family court system into five strategies: take personal action; find support groups; transform county and state agencies; change federal and state laws; and transform the win-lose culture of family law. As I meet advocates and activists fighting for change – and many fighting for calm while struggling with the pain of lost children – I remain in awe of the courage and grace of so many parents and grandparents. A coalition is building; justice is ahead.