Question

When my boyfriend has any problem and I am not able to support him, then he also doesn't talk to me properly and tries to make me feel bad. When I help him, he behaves well. What can I do?

Tom De Backer Top Answerer

He may not realize it, but he's actually manipulating you. And being rather childish. When adults have problems, we find ways to solve them ourselves. Asking for help is one such a way, but he has to take the lead in solving his own problems. Sure, he should be able to count on you, but he can't make you feel bad. In fact, he should apologize and make it up to you. Life is to be enjoyed, and though we all have problems, we all want to enjoy life, and while he's asking your help in solving his problems, he's taking away your time to enjoy life. You should still help him, but he should help you enjoy life in return. Set strong boundaries, and don't tolerate his bad behavior.