One of the most important actions you can take to protect your marriage/relationship is to say I love you as often as possible. I am not just talking about saying it by speaking the words. I am also referring to saying it with your actions. Now, here is the tricky part—your husband doesn’t always know that you are trying to convey your love to him through your actions. What you think your actions say to him, and what he thinks can be totally different!

Learning to speak your man’s love language is really important if you want to grow stronger together. Dr Gary Chapman wrote a book, The Five Love Languages, that details the different ways we all feel loved. Dr Chapman asserts that there are five different love languages and every person has a primary and secondary love language. His basic premise is: When your partner knows your love language and acts on it, you feel loved. When your partner tries to show love to you in a way you don’t connect to, you do not feel loved.