The most important aspect of learning how to deep throat your boyfriend or husband without gagging is getting your gag reflex, also known as your pharyngeal reflex under control. While this isn’t an issue for the roughly 37% of women who are fortunate enough to not have a gag reflex[1], if you do have a gag reflex, then this section will teach you how to get it under control.

Once you get it under control, deep throating becomes ridiculously easy. Your gag reflex is usually gets triggered when something touches the back of your throat, roof of your mouth, tonsils or even the back of your tongue causing a spasm-like sensation or reflex contraction [2].

Getting your gag reflex under control is a simple case of desensitizing it. Desensitizing it means that you’ll be “training” the back of your throat and tonsils to stop causing you to gag anytime something touches the, i.e. your man’s dick. The process of desensitizing your gag reflex takes time and effort, and there is no other way around this. Just follow the below steps to start desensitizing your gag reflex.

You’ll be using either a finger or the handle of a toothbrush or a dildo or something phallic shaped. Just make sure that it’s clean and sterile first. And also make sure that it wouldn’t damage your throat or get stuck in it.

Place it into your mouth and slowly edge towards the back of your throat.

Eventually, it will trigger your gag reflex as it reaches the back of your throat. When this happens, consciously try to suppress your gag reflex hold it there.

You now need to maintain your breathing through your nose while at the same time concentrating on relaxing your throat. Sometimes this is easy and sometimes this can be quite difficult. The key is to keep trying, even if you do find yourself accidentally gagging now and then.

Hold your finger/dildo/toothbrush steady at the back of your throat for up to 10 seconds. Don’t try to move it in or out.

Try doing this two to three times every day for a week. You’ll find that towards the end of the week, it will get a lot easier, and your gag reflex won’t be as sensitive compared to when you started.

Your gag reflex will become less and less sensitive over the coming weeks as you continue practicing. Once you notice this, then it’s time to take it a step further. Every once in a while, try slowly moving your finger/toothbrush/dildo in and out of your mouth so that it’s repeatedly brushing off your gag reflex.

The first few times you try this, your gag reflex will be heavily stimulated making you feel like throwing up. But it’s important to try your best to stay calm, keep breathing and relax even if your throat is in spasms!

After a few weeks of this, you will have eventually worn down the sensitivity of your gag reflex to the point where you are quite comfortable taking a dildo deep into and out of your throat without convulsing, gagging or coughing excessively.

Now you need to try it with your man!

This is the most effective way to get your gag reflex under your control. While there have been studies done showing that other methods work for getting your gag reflex under control like using acupuncture [3][4][5], wearing ear plugs[6], applying pressure to the palm of your hand[7], using nitrous oxide (aka laughing gas)[8], and even using ketamine[9], the above strategy doesn’t require you to do anything during the act, allowing you to focus entirely on your technique. After all, since when is it sexy to wear ear plugs or perform acupuncture on yourself before deep throating your man?!