

Ok, so here's a bit of background.



I'm in my early 30s and my girlfriend is in her mid 20s. We've been together for nearly 6 months.



We have quite a few things in common and enjoy each other's company. We both have our flaws as everyone does but, unfortunately, I'm finding it tough to get past one of hers - her facial hair.



To give this some context, I'm not talking about a slight moustache that can only be seen in certain lighting - I'm talking about several fairly long hairs on her chin that I can see at all times.



I imagine a lot of people are going to call me shallow and hey, maybe they're right. The thing is, because I enjoy her company, I've tried to look past this and told myself that the more time passes, the less of an issue it will be, but it doesn't seem to be the case. I can't stop noticing the hair.



We haven't talked about it, but in my opinion there is no way she hasn't noticed which has led me to believe it must be one of two things:



1) she knows and doesn't care.

2) she has tried many things to get rid of it to no avail, and has had to accept that she has some noticeable facial hair.



If 1) is true, then it would kind of bother me that she doesn't want to look her best for me and that she isn't comcerned enough about her health to get checked out (I have a feeling some people won't like this comment, but I try hard to look as good as possible for her).



If 2) is true, then I would have a new level of respect for her, and may even be able to get past the issue as I'd know nothing can be done about it.



I'd really like to discuss the issue with her and get it out in the open. I realise she may well have a health conditon that is causing this, but I think she ought to let me know about this if it is the case. I told her of a health condition that could be considered embarrassing so, logically, I think we should be able to talk about this. Realistically, I know it's going to be a hard one to talk about.



I'm not sure if this makes a difference, but she has made it clear that she wouldn't date a man with a micropenis and that, if I had one, she would have dumped me. To be honest, this made me feel bad for guys with a micropenis, but also made me think that if she can think like that about something someone can't change, surely she'd be able to understand my issue with her facial hair, something she potentially can change? Just a thought.



Sorry for the long message. I know this is a sensisitve issue, and I'm looking for some advice on how to approach it. I really like this girl and think we could have a great future together, but the sad fact is I'm not sure if I can get past this, but feel it may be a fairly simple thing for her to take care of if I bring it up...but bringing it up could end the relationship immediately!



Any (helpful) comments and advice would be much appreciated!

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months but am finding it hard to get past the fact that she has noticeable facial hair. I'm looking for some helpful advice.