What is Self Bondage?

It is best described as putting yourself in bondage alone for a period of time; until you either release yourself or have someone else do it for you. However typically most self bondage is self release and controlled by the participant. It can also be used in conjunction with other forms of solo sex play. The practice is much more common than you would think it is practiced by both males and females of different ages, backgrounds, ethnicity and sexual orientations. According to a 2005 survey by Durex, 36 percent of adults in the United States have either experienced or participated regularly in sex involving bondage, with other studies putting this number as high as 60 percent. Thus it is safe to assume that at least some of this percentage have engaged in self bondage at some time.

Why is Self Bondage Practiced ?

Without getting too into the psychological reasons behind our appetite for bondage, it is safe to say it can make sex much more exciting and intense. The motivation behind why someone would want to engage in self bondage can be varied. There is however a number of more practical reasons why you would chose self bondage opposed to playing with a partner or group. The first would have to be the stigma that is sadly still attached to bondage, which is still present despite its mainstream acceptance of late. Often people are afraid to upset partners or face prejudice from other acquaintances who do not share the same desires. Thus they want to keep their bondage play a secret. Apart from that, some feel that self-bondage provides a safer and gentler way to explore their own bondage fantasies without pressure from other people.

It can also be said that private secret nature of self bondage can be part of its allure. The planning can enhance the self bondage session acting as a sort of foreplay greatly increasing the sexual high that can be experienced from bondage. Some people can literally taste the feel that self bondage gives them as their body begins to react to the thoughts and feelings associated with their preparations.

Where and when?

Start out by planning where you want to have your session. The where really depend on how long and intricate you what to make your self bondage. Generally, you what to used a place that is private and you will not be disturbed. So at home in your bedroom is normally a pretty good place to start, but cars, boats, offices, hotel rooms and secluded wilderness areas can work. You may want to start by taking the phone off the hook, locking your front door, putting the cat out and making sure your not going to have any visitors.

It may also be a good idea to put some time into setting the scene for your self-bondage session. putting on some erotic music, turning off the lights, lighting some candles and even lowering room temperature can add a more dungeon type feel. Other more involved ideas like using black plastic sheeting to cover furniture such as a bed of chair, installing i bolts in walls as contact points, purchase bondage specific furniture can all add to your experience.

A final thing on where is you should also consider your safety and always have an escape plan in case of an emergency. you don’t what to be a nominee for the Darwin awards.

When is not so important, but generally if you what a time that you’re not going to be disturbed, at night works best for most people. One idea is to use your bedtime as a time to experiment with some light bondage. you could start by lightly restraining yourself or wear so constrictive latex to bed; either for part or all of the night.

How do I Practice Self Bondage?

With self bondage you typically what to start with the end in mind, how are you going to get out of your bondage? This can be done one of three ways the first is to restrain parts of your body but leave your hands free. An example of this is breast bondage where you wrap a soft rope around your chest giving you a feeling of restraint while still having complete movement. There is a myriad of different techniques you can use to bond your various body parts such as your feet, legs, between your legs, torso, and arms. Have a look through the rest of this site as well as the web for knot tying inspiration. The great thing about this option is that you have your hands free to torment and play with yourself. A good way to also get started is with a bondage kit. They generally include rope, straps and cuffs specially designed for the purpose, which can make your first time and subsequent times more enjoyable. Also a word of warning although this is light bondage you should be careful and stop if you start to feel any pain or loss of feeling. Having a pair of safety scissors close at hand is also smart.

The second more heavy approach to self bondage is with the use of locks. In this type of self bondage you put yourself in full bondage and have to wait to be released. The method of your release can take a number of different forms. By far the most popular is using melting ice, it is popular because it offers a guaranteed means of escape. DIY version of this involves place ice cubes in a stocking and then pulling it through a ring so that the ice works as a stopper which will not release until the ice melts. Alternatively you can just freeze a key to a padlock in ice and wait for it to melt. However the options above can be fiddly so you may want to think about purchasing a Ice Lock.

An alternative to ice locks is to use an electronic timer which turns lights on which lets you unlock a combination lock. Electrically activated magnetic locks could be a good option however currently specifically designed self-bondage electronic locks are hard to find. Another option more frequently used is simply tying yourself up and have a Knife or a key in a next room which you have to get to. Which is a more Houdini style bondage but is much more risky as your release is not guaranteed.

The finally option in self-bondage is to have some else release,perhaps after they played with you as well. This can add a fun foreplay element to a bondage session with a partner however it is very trusting and could be considered the final stage of self-bondage.

A further way you can to your self bondage session is with toys and costumes. you may want to consider using a toy such as a vibrator or a Anal/vaginal plug to increase your sense of pleasure/torment while in bondage. These can be held in place by several different methods, see our best solo bondage toys section. Costumes can also add extra spice to your bondage, latex for example is can feel particularly good during a session. There are dozen of different latex bondage options from full body suits to underwear and punishment pants. Other bondage items such as ring gags, blindfolds, clamps, and collars to name a few are also great to add to your collection. (Get ideas here)

Self bondage is great way to indulge and explore your sexual fantasy. So why not start tonight you might just add a whole new dimension to your sex life. More ideas….

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