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To tell if your guy friend is gay, notice whether he refers to other guys as attractive, which could be a sign that he’s gay. Pay attention to how much he talks about women in a romantic or sexual way, since a lack of interest in women could suggest he’s gay. If you’re still unsure, try talking to him about gay men to see how he responds. For example, say something like, “I really admire people like Neil Patrick Harris. He does a great job of owning his sexuality.” If he seems enthusiastic about your point, he could be gay. However, keep in mind that he could also be bisexual, asexual instead. The only way to know for sure is to just ask him outright. For instance, say something like, “Not that I mind either way, but I was just wondering whether you're gay?” For more tips, including how to show your friend that you’re okay with gay people, read on!