A popular piece of advice is that it doesn’t matter what you say to a girl but the intention with which you say. That’s easy to quote but it can be hard to digest for those of us out there that are newer to interacting with females in a romantic manner. As an engineer, the best way for me to understand this nebulous concept is with a concrete example.

A deep, baritone echo. Slow, unwavering, and very clearly confident. The intention is clear — it’s not a casual hang out. This to me is the most obvious example of words vs intention. You could be talking about pizza and sending off all of the right signals to make her start wondering and imagining.

Let’s go over the essentials. There’s a couple obvious perquisites to this which must be fulfilled — isolation and eye contact. Let’s start with isolation.

Isolation

This one’s obvious. It’s possible some times, but you never want to be escalating in the presence of her friends. There’s no dancing around it. Developing a real relationship doesn’t just take gusto and action, but it also takes luck. It is our aim to minimize the impact of luck, and the best way to do this is to eliminate silly variables such as social pressures.

Eye Contact

Eye contact is where it becomes interesting. Next time you’re walking outside, make and hold eye contact with each girl you find attractive. You’ll need a smirk — a common quote here is to “imagine fucking her.” Whatever you need to pull off the smirk, here’s where you use it.

It’s common knowledge that when laughter occurs in a group, you can tell who has the highest rapport with whom by observing eye contact. Extrapolating this to all situations, eye contact is a no-bullshit method of gauging rapport and attraction. Care must be taken with this as time span is important when using this as a gauge — someone with whom you have phenomenal rapport may be enwrapped with another if they are leading the conversation.

Recall that we are all human. Subconsciously, you already track eye contact and use this to evaluate social situations. This might be a process you’re not fully aware of (yet), but it is something everyone in your social group is also tracking. The majority of seduction is sending off the right signals. Send off the right signals by them your absolute undivided eye contact.

Conclusions

Isolate her and send her the right signals by maintaining strong, unwavering eye contact. Speak from your stomach, enunciate your words, and speak a tad bit slower than you feel comfortable. These are your first steps to communicating your intent the right way.