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Dear Coleen,

My girlfriend of nine years has got really close to another guy, even though she insists they’re not seeing each other.

She still tells me she loves me, but I get the feeling it’s over between us.

She doesn’t call me as much and is always confiding in this other guy, who has recently left his fiancee of 10 years. He’s also richer than me.

I feel so hurt and betrayed because I gave up better girls to be with her and I love her to bits. I’m in tatters.

I warned her that this guy had an ­ulterior motive when he started ­being nice to her, but she totally ignored my advice.

Should I fight for her because she says she is confused and that I’d ­always be her first and true love – or should I just let her go?

Coleen says..

Are you sure you’re still in love with her? Because it sounds to me as though you’re ­treating your girlfriend a bit like a ­possession, and to say you “gave up better girls to be with her” really isn’t a nice comment to make.

You sound angry and I think your pride and ego have taken a knock, which is understandable.

However, I think this relationship might have run its course.

She’s saying she’s confused, so I think you should just let her get on with it.

Once she has that freedom, she’ll either think it’s the right decision to break up with you or she’ll realise how much she misses you.

In the meantime, don’t mope around at home waiting for her to call – get on with your own life. You might find you don’t miss her at all!