elmatpe:

secret-diary-of-an-fa: steverson-horse-and-phone: pretentiousfuckwads: Secret Diary of a Fat Admirer: My Fuck-You Revenge Post Against anonymouslayabout (Shit, I enjoyed this) anonymouslayabout: So I have a policy of being very open with my followers when I have failed. And today I failed. I binged on way too many calories when I got home. Now, there were reasons for this, and I am going to tell you about them so you can see them in yourself, and perhaps it may… Literally a sociopathic cunt. Stop eating so much and you might turn into a normal human being. AGGRESSIVE REMINDER THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE FAT IN ORDER TO BE AGAINST FAT SHAME, JUST LIKE YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A WOMAN TO BE A FEMINIST AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE GAY TO BE FOR GAY RIGHTS SOME OF US ARE JUST DECENT ENOUGH NOT TO BE CUNTS TO PEOPLE BECAUSE OF HOW MUCH SPACE THEY OCCUPY AND SOME OF US JUST HAVE THE COURAGE TO SPEAK AGAINST PEOPLE WHO DO NOT SORRY FOR THE CAPS LOCK OR FOR BARGING INTO THE CONVERSATION I JUST HAVE A LOT OF FEELINGS ABOUT THIS STUFF. Thank you- you’re a beautiful human being and I hope you know that. I usually don’t rant about this stuff because I’m making an exception because steverson-horse-and-phone’s comment is just perfect and because I want to add something (I know I’m late to the shit-storm but I never make my point clear when this stuff happens). I just *love* that all the people reblogging secret-diary-of-an-fa’s post only went on and on about the *not* death of a dog and forgot why he made that post. (Oh, there are those who insulted secret-diary-of-an-fa using the always classic fat-shame even though he’s not even fat and since I might also attract these idiots let me just say that I weigh around 113 pounds *rolls eyes*) Here we have a person by the username of anonymouslayabout that seems to have set his/her life-goal to talk down on lots FA/fat positive post because he/she thinks every person in those tags are promoting an unhealthy lifestyle BUT most people in those tags are just looking for ‘acceptance’ (oh, hey it’s in the freaking name of their ‘movement’!!!) they’ve been told all their lives that they are disgusting just to look at and many other things anything you are going to tell them dearie is not news to them, they’ve already been hearing it all of their lives, how about just live and let live? Ah, of course, ‘because they promote an unhealthy lifestyle’, honey, it’s not your place to judge anyone’s lifestyle choices and what’s more, just by some posts they write on the Internet, you don’t have their complete life-schedule. People like anonymouslayabout claim to have gained their ‘thin priviledge’ (funny, I thought you believed that thing didn’t exist?) through ‘hard work’ (and judging by that post maybe also through starving themselves, which is scary, I can’t tell is he/she has an ED but just because you gorged one day if you keep the healthy lifestyle you claim to lead, trust me, nothing bad is going to happen to you because you indulged one day, if anything obssesing over it will make everything worse) but working out to stay healthy is not the same as working out to loose a lot of weight, the first only requires some degree of weekly exercise and the second requires that you spent lots of hours on the gym, do you think everyone’s schedules allowes them to do that? Newsflash: No and even if they could but decide not to it’s not anyone’s place to judge them.

Rebloggin’ again because elmtape is awesome and needs some kind of medal.

Also, it’s great to see the number of you guys who have reblogged and come out to defend me in this shit-storm. Sure, I get a lot of drooling morons on my dash during the first stage of each controversy I end up involved in, but it’s worth it to see you lot wonderful people rally round both me and the causes and ideas we all represent.

I don’t mean to gush (no, really, it’s terrible for my image), but seeing the sheer number of progressive, decent people prepared to stand up and join a fight they weren’t asked to, just because they know its the right thing to do, or they feel that what they have to say is important, or because of a sense of friendship with me or others involved in the argument… well, it gives me hope that the human race might not be entirely doomed after all.

There’s something else I’d like to add. I was thinking about all the people who came out against me in this clusterfuck, and how most of them did it They weren’t really defending my original adversary, even though they were agreeing with her- they were just using the whole thing as an excuse to attack someone (in this case, your humble narrator). That might give my original opponent a sense of affirmation- and those involved in the argument the same… but look at the way people who came out on my side behaved: they weren’t in this just to browbeat someone. They actually sat down and thought of rational arguments and explained themselves reasonably and with passion. In short, their behaviour was supportive rather than just using support as an excuse to perpetuate a fight. And the feeling you get from that is far, far better than mere affirmation: it’s loyalty and friendship (as cheesy as I know that sounds).

It almost makes me sad that my opponent’s in this argument will never truly understand the difference, because however much they might act offended my often brutish and vicious behaviour, in reality, they are victims not of me, but of their own profound lack of feeling. But this paragraph’s just me, putting the boot in, like I always do, and isn’t really the point.

The point is that this is why I refer to my followers as ‘friends’ and to the Fat Acceptance Movement as a whole as 'people I care about’. It’s why I get so angry on their behalf as well as my own. This is why I will always attack those who attack them. And if I have to take abuse for it, as I have over the past few days? Then it’s a price I pay more than gladly. Not because I’m the cold, unaffected shell I often present to my enemies to confuse and frustrate them but because, I have far better armour than my fronted cynicism: namely, the simple knowledge that this movement and these people are worth taking the abuse and hate-mail and idiotic reblogs for. They are some of the kindest, most compassionate and decent human beings I have ever had the good fortune to meet. They have come to my support in this fight- which on one level was largely personal and on another was born of ideological positions I share with my friends and associates- and that reminds me that there will never come a time when I will want to shy away from a fight on their behalf.

So thank you. Thank you for being there when I was at my most cynical and vicious. Thank you for standing up when you didn’t have to. Thank you for keeping my ever-precarious faith in humanity grounded for a little longer. I am priveleged to know you all.