We've spoken before about the double standard attributed to male and female presenting bodies. Basically, women aren't allowed to have sex for pleasure, but men are. What's fucked up though is that despite the fact that women aren't allowed to pursue sex for pleasure, they're still almost solely held accountable for the consequences. For instance, look at the commentary around women who get abortions. How often is the focus on how she should have had more self control, about how she should have just used contraception, or simply kept her legs closed? But how often do we hear an equal amount of vitriol hurled at the partner who necessitated an abortion in the first place?

We seem to view an abortion as a woman’s responsibility since she’s the one who can get pregnant and therefore is the one who needs to deal with the consequences, even though consciously we know it takes two to tango. Recently a Mormon mother’s twitter post garnered international attention when she dared to extrapolate on this exact issue.

She points out that since women can orgasm without penetrative sex or ejaculation, it’s the male orgasm that causes pregnancy: "Unwanted pregnancies can only happen when men orgasm irresponsibly [not using a condom or withdrawing]." For that reason, she says, focusing on men and male behaviour could have a massive impact on the rates of unwanted pregnancies and abortions. Naturally the majority of the internet lost its collective mind at such an assertion. Men, be responsible? How very dare!