Before states from Colorado to Massachusetts legalized recreational weed, smoking weed as a parent was taboo. This doesn’t mean that people didn’t do it, just that you would probably never be high (or ever admit to it) in front of your kids. Today, well over half of Americans live in places where marijuana is legal in some form. This means that a lot more parents are toking up. Here are the dos and don’ts of being a parent who smokes weed in this new era of 420 freedom.

Do: Play With Your Kids While You’re High

The most enjoyable thing you can do as a weed-smoking parent is playing with your kids when you’re high. Many parents find that weed helps them relate to their kids. Plus, you’re more likely to enjoy the same things your kids like when you’re blazed.

Many parents around the world would agree with this. Lucy, who lives in Portsmouth, England, wrote to The Guardian: “I feel weed makes me a better, calmer, more interactive parent, I ask my daughter more questions, have the patience to sit and teach her new things, go on long exploratory walks and spend longer playing with her than I would if I hadn’t been smoking, I feel it’s really brought us closer.”