Some people are born with the natural ability to flirt, but if you’re like most people, you probably have hesitation or two when approaching a person you like seated across the room.

For most people, this hesitation comes from not wanting to seem creepy. Being flirty but not creepy is a delicate balance that not many are comfortable navigating.

But we don’t want you to be held back by that hesitation and miss out on meeting the one. In this article, we will give you some tips on how to flirt with someone without being creepy.

Test the waters – Awareness is important. Watch what kind of response you’re getting. If they don’t show any interest, move on. It’s unlikely they will change their mind. Also, going further even though it’s clear they’re not interested is the first step to harassing somebody. You don’t want that.

Don’t overdo it – Granted that the other person is showing interest and is responding properly, it is still important that you’re aware of your limits. Too much of anything is never good, especially when flirting. Avoid coming off too strong. Some people find that desperate, not a very good first impression. The time of day can also make a big difference. See this article at Connection Copilot about the right things to text a guy at night.

Avoid making it all about you – One of the biggest personality turn-offs is stealing the limelight. Remember, the goal of flirting is getting to know the other person, and eventually getting them to like you (hopefully). The opposite of this happens when you cannot stop talking about yourself, or dominating the conversation and interrupting the other person. This also happens, albeit on a lesser scale, when you’re uninterested in what they like to do, where they’d like to have dinner, or what they’d like to talk about.

Look good – No, this is not superficial. Looking good is the first step to getting people to trust you. Give some thought into how you dress, your hygiene, and your grooming. Regardless of how good your intentions are, you will be perceived as a creep if the first thing they notice the moment you approach them is your foul breath.

Avoid negative body language – Without knowing it, our body language gives us away. Our body language can show aggressiveness and bad intentions. It’s important that when you talk to the person you’re interested in, hold eye contact (the appropriate kind). Hunched shoulders may indicate a lack of confidence. Crossing your arms is considered a closed posture and may indicate defensiveness. Lastly, shifting your eyes around can mean a whole host of things , from impulsiveness to a wandering mind.

Compliment them, but don’t do it too much – We all know that giving compliments is a great way to show someone that we are interested. But you wouldn’t want to overdo it. It’s important to not focus too much on the other person’s appearance when complimenting. You also want to avoid over-the-top language when complimenting. Something as simple as “you look nice today,” goes a long way.

Know when to back off – Going on and on even after being shown no interest is not romantic, it’s creepy. There is no shame in thanking them for their time and walking away, wishing them a good day.

Be honest and open – When the right situation comes, be open to talking about how you feel and what you want. If you feel you have already established rapport with the other person, ask them out.

Conclusion

For many people, flirting is a tricky thing. But what’s important is you are confident but respectful. Show interest in the other person, but don’t overdo it. Learn to read cues and respond appropriately. And lastly, if it doesn’t feel right, know when to talk away.

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