You’re welcome, I’m glad to be the presence I wanted around when I was younger and give it to others. I know it’s been quiet but I’m around in some capacity.

Preferred Name: Artemis (a name I used to go by online :D)

Gender: Female

Age: 21

Location: Germany

Type of relationship:

Friendship/Longterm relationship. I don’t do FWB or casual relationships, so I’m looking for either something serious or friends. Also, I’m very much monogamous.

Are you okay with long-distance relationships?

Yes, but only if there is a realistic chance we will be able to meet up eventually.

A bit about yourself:

Physically, I’m 160cm/5ft3 and currently at 58kg. Brown eyes, brown hair (shoulder-length), pale. My style can fluctuate a little between more feminine/masculine. I like comfortable clothes most of the time (I looove flannel) but occasionally I do like to dress up.

I’m a university student and pretty passionate about it so a lot of my time is spent on my studies. Apart from that I love to read everything I can get my hands on, non-fiction books, fiction (love the classics), blogs, even fan-fiction. I also love to write and have recently started to get into photography. I really enjoy cooking/baking, used to play video games but I don’t really find the time anymore. I’m an introvert, so I spend a lot of time at home but I enjoy going out with friends, too, especially on the weekends. Occasionally, we go out drinking as a group, although most times I just meet with them one on one.

For more active hobbies, I like to go to the gym, go hiking in the woods and play badminton. I’m interested in a lot of different topics, ranging from history to linguistics to natural sciences and whatnot. I enjoy comedy a lot, I’m a huge fan of British comedy especially. If I’m feeling lazy, I just binge-watch YouTube videos. I’m a dog person but love cats and other animals as well. I like to travel and have been to a few places already, but I’m definitely planning on seeing more in the future.

I consider myself generally cheerful; I tend to laugh and smile a lot around friends, although I would say I’m naturally more pessimistic. I’ve worked for years on gaining a more positive outlook on life and I do think I’m doing a decent job of that. People seem to feel comfortable around me and I’m good at putting them at ease. I would say I’m a good judge of character and often able to tell how people are feeling/what mood they are in just from their behaviour. I can be a little stubborn (okay, a lot) and sarcastic, although I’m very conscious of not hurting people with my words.

Honesty and open communication are very important to me in any relationship, whether it’s a friendship or a romantic partnership. I want to know what my partner likes/doesn’t like, if something hurt them etc. I do believe problems can be solved by calm and rational discussions rather than by arguing. I tend to be very protective of those I care about and like to check on them often. I’m a bit of a perfectionist, so I can get frustrated when things don’t work out on the first try. I would also consider myself to be something of a workaholic; it’s easy for me to lose track of time once I’m really immersed in my work.

I love learning new things and I do try to improve myself continuously. I treat people with kindness and I would say I have an even temper but I’m absolutely not a pushover and will definitely defend myself if someone tries to push my buttons. I tend to be pretty talkative with friends and I’m able to hold a conversation easily.

Additionally, I’m also what some might consider a closeted romantic, I don’t think people would expect me to be but I enjoy doing all these sappy things for my partner when I’m in a relationship, like writing notes for them to find or buying their favourite pastry just because I know they will enjoy it.

I’m bi and have previously only been in relationships with women, mainly because I prefer to assume the role that is typically played by the man in straight relationships and I can’t see myself ever being happy in a relationship where I would be forced to change that and conform to society’s expectations in this regard. That means I prefer being the one to ask out my partner, being the one who plans dates, buys gifts (maybe even flowers if that is something my partner enjoys?), and I generally enjoy taking care of my partner.

I love being the big spoon; I love it when my partner is the ‘pretty’ one in the relationship (not that I don’t think I’m good-looking, just that I love it when I can make my partner feel like the most beautiful person in the world).

I would identify as a complete top (so I don’t think we will be a good match if you’re a switch/hoping to switch, sorry). That means, you should be sexually receptive.

Things you’d like in a partner:

I’m looking for someone who is in general just kind and gentle and sensitive. I absolutely adore shyness in guys and I’m very attracted to those that are confident enough in themselves that they don’t care about society’s notions about how men are supposed to behave.

Someone who will let me take care of him, who lets me shower him with affection and lets me call him ‘beautiful’ or 'cute’. Someone who is open with his emotions or at least making an effort to be as open about them as he can. Someone who is passionate about his interests and hobbies and likes to talk about them and who, in turn, will also enjoy listening to whatever his partner has to say. Someone who has a sense of humour, who is thoughtful and compassionate.

Someone who, like me, tries to be positive (even if it’s not always successful, that’s okay! We can both try to work towards it) and generally also wants to improve himself. Someone who can hold his end of the conversation. I do enjoy initiating things a lot, but nobody likes to feel like their efforts are in vain because the other party doesn’t show any interest. Someone who will also put in effort into making the relationship work and who is also willing to support his partner.

Physically, I’m looking for someone who is around my age and has a cute face and butt :D I love skinny guys, but more muscular is fine as well, as long as you’re not overweight. I don’t really care about height; someone around my height would be lovely but I realise that most guys are way taller than me so it’s no big deal either way! I do adore guys that are feminine while still male-presenting, if that makes sense (that is, I’m not interested in crossdressing apart from cute panties, sorry!). I really don’t like body hair and prefer 'twinks’ (those are just my preferences and are not meant to hurt anyone!). But even if you appear more masculine outwardly, it doesn’t mean I won’t be attracted to you, I’ve found it’s mostly the 'energy’ that someone has that makes me attracted to them.

Even if you don’t fit this description 100%, message me anyway! I realise we all have things we still struggle with, so even if you’re not someone who’s always confident sharing his emotions with others (for example) that doesn’t mean I won’t be interested in talking to you at all!

What I look for in a relationship:

I’m looking to have a relationship that is built on mutual trust and support, in which both partners are honest and caring and both can be themselves around the other. A relationship that feels 'comfortable’, that is built on a strong friendship. Positivity and loyalty are also super important and the Feeling that both partners put in equal amounts of effort so it won’t end up being too one-sided. A relationship that involves a lot of open communication, I want to be able to have both serious conversations and to laugh freely and frequently. It would be nice if we both complemented each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Emotional stability is important as well. Since I’m a university student and I work part-time it means that I don’t always have as much time as I would like to be with my partner, but I will always try to make as much time as I can and to tell in advance if there’s an exam (or something similar) that will be getting in the way of this. I would hope that both of us still had interests/friends/hobbies outside of the relationship and that both of us could also respect the other’s need for alone-time every once in a while. Ideally, I would prefer a relationship with someone who doesn’t mind staying in and just cuddling or being 'alone together’ most of the time but who still likes to go out on fun dates occasionally.

Kinks:

Definitely a lot that falls under GFD. I’m open to talking about this more in depth but keep in mind that I would only consider actually engaging in any of this with a long-term partner so please don’t message me if that’s the only thing you’re after.

Anything you’d like to add:

Thank you for reading all of this! I realise this is pretty long, but I hope it gives an idea of who I am and what I am looking for!

Message me:

I don’t check tumblr as often as I should so please use this e-mail to contact me: just-someone-on-the-internet@freenet.de