This post is not written as opposition to the growing power and dominance of women, relative to men, in the western world. I am more and more beginning to believe that ‘gender-patriotism’ feminist or MRA is illogical, since men and women are inseparable groups. Some ‘gender-patriots’ only understand this when they have a child of the other gender, for some even this does not help. I do support the MRM, for now, since… well… I just hate the hypocrisy of modern feminism and its religious-like followers.

The goal of this post is to describe this huge shift in power between the genders which will have significant effects on the lives and relationships of men living in such western feminist countries.

There are differences between men and women, differences emanating from different sexual organs and thus different sexual agendas. Maybe women are more fit in the current market? Maybe the current state and trends are due to feminism? Probably, this is a combination of the two. Whatever the reason may be, our sons will grow up and will go into a world which we never knew. A world which feminists didn’t even dream of in the 70s. A world in which our boys will grow up to be, on average:

1. Less educated than women

2. Earn less than women (this is currently the case for young men and women)

3. More vulnerable in divorce and family courts

4. There is an unclear and ever increasing definition of what sexual harassment is and laws which see two drunken people having sex as rape

5. Men are to be less healthy than women and die younger, yet get less health budgets

6. There are less and less marriages and the bonds between men and women tend to be shorter, easily dismantled, based on less emotions and more sex.

7. Most children are born out of wedlock (this number is currently 42% and is expected to keep growing).

8. Boys are raised more and more without the presence of a father, and the men figures are replaceable while the woman is not. Most boys will not have a male family lineage, girls will.

Point 8 is crucial. Due to this reason I believe we are currently seeing the creation of a matriarchal society, since such societies (such as the Masuo matriarchal society) are characterized by the elimination of the father from the family. This gives the women the power within the household and boys are raised without masculine guidance and under the authority of a woman. This is already the case today in the vast majority of single parent homes. Furthermore, social help by the state is effectively transferring wealth from traditional families and men (on average) to these woman-led households. Women today can get the support of men, due to taxes and child support, without giving men any say within the house or on the way that the money is spent. This arrangement does seem to be sustainable.

This data is basically unprecedented in the western world. We are in a new world, with different rules and different power structure. The feminists may as well have a victory parade and celebrate in the streets (they won’t because they need women to feel like victims, not powerful matriarchs, in order to gain public support).

You can love it or you can hate it, it doesn’t matter. Reality has changed, this is not a man’s world anymore and our sons will grow into a basically matriarchal society.

I guess some boys do not care if they are more and more powerless, there is porn (for now at least) and video games. But that is not what I want to teach my son.

Our sons will need to adapt. This does not mean for them to accept having low status, low power and judicial intimidation. The world has changed, but they can control their close environment. My suggestions for my son include things like I. disengage as much as possible from the current culture II. Keep your body healthy. III. Keep your mind sharp. Learn inner game. IV. Know that there is an innate part in every woman that wants a strong dominant man. V. Try to create patriarchy in your life, by the leader in your relationships and your work. VI. Bow to no-one. Be careful but don’t live in fear from going to prison. VII. You probably can’t change the entire world, but you can definitively control the part of the world that is close to you.

We need to reach to young men today and guide them in a way that no politically current school curriculum can.

References

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/8135/

http://blog.ted.com/2011/08/05/talk-and-survey-are-we-seeing-the-demise-of-guys-philip-zimbardo-on-ted-com/

http://articles.cnn.com/2009-04-08/living/out.of.wedlock.births_1_out-of-wedlock-unwed-mothers-wedding-dress?_s=PM:LIVING

http://www.economist.com/node/15174489

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2011/06/15/a-tale-of-two-fathers/

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/18/us/for-women-under-30-most-births-occur-outside-marriage.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all

http://www.time.com/time/business/article/0,8599,2015274,00.html

http://newsone.com/nation/newsonestaff2/report-72-percent-of-african-american-babies-born-to-unwed-mothers/

http://datacenter.kidscount.org/data/acrossstates/Rankings.aspx?ind=107