Joss Whedon (R) and Kai Cole in 2012 (Picture: Getty Images for SXSW)

Joss Whedon, the creator of feminist icon Buffy The Vampire Slayer, has been slammed as a hypocrite ‘preaching feminist ideals’ who cheated on his wife for 15 years before placing the blame on to the women.

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Kai Cole was married to Whedon for 15 years and they split May 2012 although the news was only revealed in May 2017; Cole was the one who encouraged Whedon to turn his box office flop Buffy The Vampire Slayer into a TV series that went on to become a cult hit that remains important to many fans 20 years after it first aired.

Now however, Cole has written a blog post in which she reveals that Whedon went to hide ‘multiple affairs and a number of inappropriate emotional ones that he had with his actresses, co-workers, fans and friends’, after having his first affair on the set of the WB programme; when he told her, in a letter, he admitted that it was because he was ‘surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women’.



‘It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can’t touch it,’ Cole claims Whedon’s letter read.


Joss (third right) with cast of Buffy (Picture: Wireimage)

She goes on to reveal that contrary to his first thoughts that he could not touch this world laid out at his feet, he realised he could but he would ‘have to lie — or conceal some part of the truth — for the rest of my life’, which he did.

Whedon has long been hailed as a feminist icon in his own right, thanks to powerful female characters who are complicated and not always pleasant – Buffy, Faith, River, Inara – and his joy at discussing the importance of feminism.

Joss on the set of Agents Of S.H.I.E.L.D which he co-created (Picture: Getty)

However Cole wrote: ‘Despite understanding, on some level, that what he was doing was wrong, he never conceded the hypocrisy of being out in the world preaching feminist ideals, while at the same time, taking away my right to make choices for my life and my body based on the truth.

‘He deceived me for 15 years, so he could have everything he wanted.’

Kai and Joss in 2010 (Picture: Getty Images)

Cole admitted that in the last five years she has been dealing with a PTSD diagnosis as she went from ‘being a strong, confident woman, to a confused, frightened mess’ but now that their divorce has become public she is ready to ‘let women know that he is not who he pretends to be’.

‘I want the people who worship him to know he is human, and the organizations giving him awards for his feminist work, to think twice in the future about honoring a man who does not practice what he preaches.’

Reps for Whedon have been contacted by Metro.co.uk however they told The Wrap that ‘while this account includes inaccuracies and misrepresentations which can be harmful to their family, Joss is not commenting, out of concern for his children and out of respect for his ex-wife’.

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