Jennette McCurdy , 21, is a TV actress, singer and former star of Nickelodeon's "iCarly." She currently co-stars with Ariana Grande in the comedy series "Sam & Cat." In the wake of news reports linking her to NBA player Andre Drummond, McCurdy decided to write this essay.

A year ago, my friend and I were sitting around swapping boy stories when she told me about a new romance that was springing up in her life. She seemed enchanted by this boy - he had an accent, seemed cuddly like a teddy bear,...