I have a co-worker old enough to be my mother.

Being two people with roots from the Caribbean it has been great that she and I can relate to certain things. Naturally she and I talk about everything: work, romance, money. I’ve noticed that during the time we have worked together she insists on referring to her boyfriend as “friend” or “my guy”. She never says he’s her “Man” or “Boo” or whatever term it is people are using this week :-).

He works a lot and traveling is a large part of his job. He is recently divorced, although they have been friends for almost 20 years but have only been dating for two. Their relationship is abnormal. Abnormal because he insists on spending time with his daughter. He prefers his daughters company compared to the woman supposed to be his girlfriend. His daughter is afraid to be home alone without him. She visits on weekends, sometimes during the week and when she does so, my friends boyfriend will leave her at a bar/club and tend to his daughter. Understand? He will leave an outing with friends to babysit his daughter.

She’s old enough to be able to sit home alone and not be babysat. Then she confided in me that he has to stay on top of his daughter and help her with her homework when she visits. She and I are so confused as to w.t.f. is going on. Time passes by and more is coming out. She found out that he and his daughter share the same bed when she comes to visit. He doesn’t sleep on the couch and give her his room. They sleep in the same bed; together. Yes, a grown man shares a bed with his 19 year old daughter who is in college.

The daughter is the only thing/person they argue and fight about.

In one argument she told him flat out “You cant lay in bed with your adult daughter, do you know how many times I feel your d–k when I lay in bed with you and you’re sleeping? Its not normal or appropriate.”

He has since stopped according to her.

Initially, I was thinking this guy is overcompensating for his divorce but…yeah it’s not looking like that at all. He makes comments like “my daughter is my best friend” to friends and complete strangers.

On one occasion while the three of them were together he looked at his daughter and said to her “I’m your only friend, remember that. You cant trust any one but me.” My friend flipped out. I have concluded that this guy is…just FUCKIN’ weird.

He’s rubbing me the wrong way for another reason too.

My friend can hold her liquor and its almost considered lore around the office. 6, 7 drinks and she is unphased. UN.PHASED. I have never seen anything like it.

One night the two of them decide they are going out, she drives to his place and wants to avoid being mauled sexually by the guy. He had been gone for work for days so he’s raging horny. She is in no mood and he finally gets her to get into his house. One thing led to another, she said something along the lines of “fuck men,” he grabs her by the neck, pins her to the wall, and tells her never do it again. She, being shocked, settled with an “okay,” and they worked their way to dinner. She has her first drink, her second drink comes and she leaves to use the restroom. When she comes back she finishes her drink and after about a half hour she starts to feel “out of it”. Remember, this woman can pound down 6+ drinks and walk away unscathed. She had two and is feeling unreal. They leave the restaurant and are walking toward her car.

After walking several blocks, he realizes that she doesn’t remember where she parked the car, he calls it to her attention. She, being out of her mind also realizes they walked passed her car and she somehow couldn’t recognize or remember where she parked. She takes her keys out, he takes them away and they both continue onto another bar via car. She has one drink at the second bar, goes to the restroom, and comes back. She is feeling sick and asks him to take her home. She is on her 3rd drink and can no longer party. THIS IS STRANGE. They get back to his place, she gives him some more lip, he again chokes and pins her to the wall, she being out of sorts walks to his bedroom, takes off her shirt and passes out for almost 5 hours.

She wakes up, see’s her underwear is on the floor.

She doesn’t remember taking them off, and she sees there’s last night left overs in her underwear. She can not recall having sex with him. She only remember bits and pieces of the night, and is furious she was not being herself and he never questioned her actions or wondered if she was okay. He said he tried to wake her up but she wouldn’t get up. Instead of calling an ambulance he had sex with her.

I THINK HE SLIPPED HER GHB, THE DATE RAPE DRUG.

Because his job has him traveling they don’t sit down and address that night until weeks later. She is questioning how a man can have sex with an unconscious woman and not think twice, I’m wondering how all the signs point to him and she wont beat his ass..?

He recalls the night to her, and she starts to remember the sex they had, she remembers him asking her, during sex, “who gives it to you better? who gives it to you like I do? Where else is it this good?” and variations of it. Trying to recall the night she remembers he kept asking the question suspiciously, almost as though he were weeding out information.

Isn’t this some shit?

Now lets get to Halloween 2014.

This is the night I decided I was going to have 3 pot brownies for the first time because smoking weed has never got me high. My friend and I have drinks before the brownies and meet her “guy” and some friends of his at a local bar. He asks me “what are you drinking?”

“a mojito” I respond.

He and his friend leave. I can not remember Halloween night. I have bits and pieces of it put together but the majority of the night I cant remember. I was completely out of it, after 3 drinks and 3 special brownies. In comparison to my friend, I can take 2 drinks, feel a little weird wait an hour and on to the next drink. I think he may have also slipped me GHB, but not for his pleasure.

THOUGHTS?