TW: Fat shaming, mansplaining

So my former “boyfriend” (a patriarchal construct, I know, but I’m trying to check my privilege and embrace political lesbianism) had the audacity to say that I didn’t look fat in my traditional burka. He knew I’m transfat and trying to progress to what I know my body should be, but insisted on holding up patriarchal beauty standards and ignoring my phantom fat. Of course I dumped his ass right there (although he tried to mansplain his way out of it). I’m just so fucking sick of these healthist, sizeist bigot shitlords who don’t respect my identity. So yeah, I guess I’m looking for a relationship with another womyn (preferably of color, or at least transethnic like me). No sex though (not to slut shame, I’m just not ready to love another womyn that way)