No. He won’t.

He’ll treat you like a useful pet. Someone who comes when called. Someone who should be happy to curl up in the spot he designates for her. Someone he can take for walks around the neighborhood and encourage to shit on other people’s lawns.

He will never stop treating women like shit. You just showed him how to do it. Like a fucking pro.

This is how this division of white women continues to deepen: instead of engaging with each other and voting for our mutual freedoms, we are engaged in a battle between the familiar discomfort of the white supremacist patriarchy, and the unknowable change of anti-racist intersectional feminism, in which white women suit up, get out in the world, try to do the right thing until it gets too hard, and then head home to Daddy again.

Intersectionality and true social change is exhausting. It's seriously SO much easier to pick on other oppressed people. I think that’s one reason why so many of us white women clock out so often. We have Crossfit to get to in White District, where nobody is going to ask us to be anything but what we’ve always been, which is a useful helper to the guys who call the shots and who have assured us they aren’t going anywhere.

So maybe that's where we have to begin, white women.

Believe that they can go somewhere and we will be just fucking fine.

Believe that your whiteness isn't the most powerful thing in your corner. Believe that your womanhood, and the personhood of every woman out there, is worth fighting for. It's even worth voting for.

Stop voting for men who hate you. Stop voting for men who hate me. Stop voting for men who hate Beyoncé. That shit is so fucking wrong.

I know that the world has convinced you to think in binaries, that candidates either love your whiteness or your womanhood, and the ones who love your womanhood will hurt your men. I know that because we white women have spent our lives aligning ourselves with the white men who ARE the seat of power and who have extended their authority to protect us so long as we remain loyal, we’re scared of someone hurting our men. I know it's hard to envision a future without that particular monarch.

Throw away all of the social justice terminology and here’s the bottom line:

If white men voted to take care of you, Donald Trump would not be President.

If white men voted to take care of your daughters, Roy Moore would not have won 72% of the votes of white fathers of daughters (or potential fathers of daughters) in Alabama.

If white men cared about making the world safer for you, the Senate Judiciary Committee would never have even considered approving a SCOTUS justice with a history of alcohol abuse and sexual violence.

They will never, ever take care of you. They will protect you as far as they can kick you without anyone noticing.

They will keep you at the table like a useful pet.

This is the game we’ve always played. Fucked-Up Deal or No Deal, in which we're empowered to choose the nature of our pain, and the depth of our complicity in the pain of others: “What’ll it be today, Katie? Forced sterilization or forced pregnancy? You pick! #Feminism!” “School shooting or police murder of a black kid with a busted taillight? Tick tock, Katie. YOU GET TO CHOOSE.”

Some of us showed up to play for one team, some of us showed up to play for the other. But no matter which team you play for, you’re still participating in their fucking game.

We need to show up to rewrite the rules.

PS - Girlfriends, we have got to stop pushing other white women as far away from us as possible. You didn't vote for Donald Trump or Brian Kemp or Ted Cruz? OK but a shitload of people did and now those fuckers are going to shit on my life. Check yourself: Why does your reputation matter more than other people's lives? Don't #notallwhitewomen. Don't "But I'm not like them."

First of all, we haven’t earned any notable distance from the white women who haunt our statistical nightmares. Read about the seed of hostility in this post, and remember that the seed of hostility against POC has been planted in every single one of us. (BTW, #NotAllWhiteWomening is an act of hostility against POC.)

Second, if you’re not one of the 52% or the 45% or the 63% or whatever the fuck percent, then you’re not, and the more you try to convince people that you’re not, the less you’re actually making an impact on the world by NOT BEING THAT PERSON, does that make sense?

Like, if you read a poll that said 63% of white women were bicyclists, and you were like, “but I’m a swimmer,” would you still be a swimmer if you spent all your pool time walking around on dry land explaining that you NEVER ride a bike?

And third, if we read a poll that said 59% of white women stole food from a food bank for homeless children, would you:

a) Tell EVERYONE you met that day that YOU didn’t steal food from the food bank for homeless children and neither did YOUR FRIENDS.

b) Call the food bank to find out how you and your friends can help.