The cost of bachelorette parties is ever growing, with weekend wedding festivities at destination locales now the norm. Millennials are even going broke to attend, and I’m one of them.

A recent survey from Credit Karma found that about one in three millennials have gone into debt to attend a bachelor or bachelorette party. Among them, 36 percent were more than $500 in the red.

It’s not only bachelorette parties that are cash drains. A third of people who have been attendants in a wedding in the last two years have incurred debt and regret the money they spent. Some people are even declining invites to be in wedding parties because of the costs they will incur.

The pressure to afford lavish nights out and trips away is exacerbated by the need for everything to be Instagrammable. Gone are the days when a night out on the town, complete with stripper and penis straws stuck into a cocktail bowl will suffice. My own experience as a friend of the bride featured a long weekend in Spain from my home in Clifton, England, with an itinerary packed with V.I.P. yacht trips, exclusive booths in glamorous nightclubs, a luxury villa and afternoon teas at high-end restaurants.