Kara Cowley has been a bartender at gay bars for 17 years, but she has never gotten a call like this.

This past week, she responded to a call from a mother whose son had just come out, and the mother didn’t know what to say.

She apparently didn’t know any LGBTQ people to turn to for help. But she was determined to find one.

So she called up Sipps, a gay bar in Gulfport, Mississippi, where Cowley works. Smart move: LGBT bartenders give the best advice.

Cowley wrote about the conversation on Facebook.

Me: Good evening. Thank you for calling Sipps! Lady on phone: Is this a gay bar? Me: Well, we are an everybody bar, but yes mostly gay. Lady: Can I ask you a…? Me: Sure. Lady: Are you Gay? Me: YES MA’AM Lady: What was the one thing you wanted from your parents when you came out? Me: Umm…. Lady: My son just came out to me and I don’t want to say anything that may mess him up in the head. Me: Well I think that you should just make sure he knows that you love and accept…. Wait, do you accept it? Lady: Well umm yes, if that’s what he wants. Me: You should definitely let him know that you love and accept him! I think everything will be OK from there! Lady: OK, well, thank you. Me: You are very welcome and good luck!

That’s some sound advice.