By chance, I get to listen to a very pretty thought almost every day, which is “If your dreams are big enough, it doesn’t matter where do you belong, your gender, your age”. Really?

Let me talk about India, people here don’t even want to change their thinking. Because change is a difficult thing to adapt to & their stupid mind doesn’t allow them to go for difficult. Most of the people still think boys are superior to girls. Even some adults think the same, which seriously pisses me off. I am not sure about the percentage of people with this mindset, but I know that this value is not equal to 100%.

Here, In my society, a certain set of rules which are imposed on girls and they are supposed to follow them without any single question.

“Marriage virus”

People here still want their girls to marry the guy of their choice not of hers. Especially in this society, people think it is okay to marry a guy who earns some specific amount, has a home & a car. After marriage, the girl will do all the household work & if want to do a job, then the girl has to manage both on her own. Because the kind of boys they want us to marry are not even men. They don’t even know how to respect a girl, how to love her. The only thing that will be left in her life after marriage is to cook food, wash clothes & dry them, take care of his parents & their child. Now, she doesn’t have time, she doesn’t know what’s going on in the outer world. No Growth!! No matter how educated she is, this is what parents decide for her. A girl with thousands of dreams is now dead.

I have developed so much hatred for marriages. What happens after marriage is work, work & work. After so much work, your partner will come home in the evening, the girl will be expecting some love, but what she will get is horrible words because the guy won’t listen to her as he was so busy all the day. Every day will spend like this. She will love her child, expecting some love from his/her but then he/she will be having their own life. She will get disappointment again. Days will pass like this. Her whole life ruined just because of this marriage. Managing household work, relationships. And in the end, she will be alone.

Parents here are happy when someone else daughter achieves success but when their own daughter dreams big, those dreams are killed by marriage virus. The legal age to get married for a girl here is 18, so as soon as the girl reaches this age, her parents start finding a bachelor for her, saying that this process of finding a suitable match take years.

“Blind leading the blind”

Why don’t people look out & see what women had achieved, if they were also caught in this marriage loop they won’t be able to achieve what they had. Just because you want something, doesn’t mean that you should kill others dreams.

So many examples of women out there, which proved that we(girls) are not less than anyone. I love every single woman who set such beautiful examples for us all. Everyone was different, some didn’t follow the same pattern of clothing, some didn’t even married for their whole life, some broke the rule of being pretty & all are appreciated for what they are. But here in India, people want girls to be married by 22 or by 25 because this age is good for marriage as the girl is young & can manage all the work, also meeting the physical demands of their partner easily, which in turn, will keep their relationship healthy. This is what these shitty ones think. I hate all of them who thinks like this.

How my life got attacked by this stupid virus?

A few days back, I went to a doctor with my parents, as my father was not healthy, suffering from High blood pressure. The Doctor was aged 32. Do you want to know what this Doctor said to my parents? He said “ Sir, your blood pressure level is so high, you have to take care of yourself, else your brain nerves can bomb anytime and, also consider that if you die, who will marry your daughter, I stopped him in between and asked “ What is this logic” and he said you are young now, you won’t get it, our society is like this. I presented two or three points to him mentioning I know I haven’t seen the world, I am very less experienced still this is not logical. He throws another idiot point in front of me. Then I told myself, this is foolishness to argue with this kind of people.

And, tell me which society he was talking about, I was taught that we all make society, aren’t we?

As soon as we reached home, My mom, relatives & every other person started shouting “ Why don’t you marry, we don’t know how much time we have, after seeing you marrying, we will be free from our duties” I exclaimed “ What are you people saying, I am not ready, I want to achieve my goals. Also, when you gave me birth, at that time also there was no clue how long you will live, why didn’t you find a groom for me at that time”. Such a stupid fight happened that time without any logic. And now, it has become a habit, every day we have a fight just because of this logic. I don’t know how to convince them.

I love my parents as every child on the earth do, with the same intention. This thing is troubling my mental peace.

What I say “ No one knows when you are going to die, it is sure that you will die one day but why are you ruining my life. I have a life whether you are here or not. And my life doesn’t want me to marry, for sure not right now ”.

Every time I hear that a girl is married in her early age, my eyes fill with tears but then I remember, She chooses this for herself, she was not strong enough to fight for herself. Once, I read a quote

“ If you are not going to fight for yourself, no one else is going to “

Ball is in your Court!!

You must be a lone survivor, your every decision should be made on what you want, not what others want from you. It’s your life baby girl. Fight, fight until the end. You have to earn respect, it doesn’t come easily. Achieve all your dreams on your own. Don’t expect anyone else to write a princess story for you. You are not a princess, you are a born fighter, Darling.

As you might have guessed, I am a tough girl, I am still fighting what’s going on in my life & I will. My dreams are big and I won’t let anyone destroy them. I will fight every single day if I have to. I am earning my life, not just surviving.