It may seem as if I’m coming into this discussion a bit late, in fact – I’m not – I’ve been participating in the boycott against Chick-fil-A for nearly 3 years now and in those 3 years I’ve probably been 5 times when other people were driving. I’m not sure why Dan Cathy had to make it official that he and the company had a stance that was specifically geared against GLBTQ equality, perhaps the media simply didn’t pick up on the millions in donations made every year to Focus on the Family and similar organizations – or their attempts to blackball PFLAG groups from making grounds in private colleges the WinShape Foundation makes sizable donations to. (These are old news stories that are almost impossible to find because of the torrent of hype surrounding the recent statements by Dan Cathy – once this dies down it should be easier to find them and I’ll update the post with links.)

Contrary to what many conservative Christians might have you think, this is not a witch hunt all about taking away a single man or even a companies’ rights of freedom of speech away; though you may have a few people taking advantage of the emotions of the moment willing to ban privately owned franchises (likely because it will benefit them politically, and yes I’m looking at you Mayor’s Menino, Lee, and Emmanuel) Dan Cathy and Chick-Fil-A are perfectly within their rights to talk about how sinful they believe same sex marriage is – and they can even give money to whatever causes they deem appropriate. Obviously I believe that, as a boycott participant if I didn’t believe that I’d be a hypocrite.

This is far bigger than speech or words though. It’s about the distribution of millions of dollars intended both to affect legislation and destroy lives (even if done with the best of intentions). It’s about creating and continuing a culture that makes it OK to stigmatize children and adults whom, whether they chose it or not, posses a sexual identity that is different from the mainstream. A culture which rejects children based on their sexuality, for any reason, leads to a %300-800 increase in suicide and attempted suicide among those youth.

Chick-Fil-A gives money to organizations that ensure that this culture remains and becomes further pervasive in society, and the fact that a “Chick-fil-a Appreciation Day” is being scheduled for August 1st by Mike Huckabee is evidence of just how out of touch certain members of the right are. People are being alienated for things beyond their control (or not, whether or not homosexuality is a choice is actually irrelevant here) and a man is being praised for his statements and contributions that ensure that they will remain a secondary class of society for years into the future. Think, dear Christians. Think. You are praising a man for driving people toward taking their own lives. Yes, he has the right to speak as he wishes, to believe whatever idiocy he pleases, but please consider the consequences of these statements and these contributions. Do you truly want to support him? Do you want to support what hurts someone else? What makes someone else feel smaller and less important?

Would the same man that allegedly said that the meek would inherit the earth and pleaded for the life of an adulteress be there?

I’m no apologist for Jesus, be he the liberal brown-skinned Hippie Jesus or the gun toting republican Jesus so many in America seem to be fond of, but the guy I’ve read about broke bread with more outcasts than pharisees. What I see, in Dan Cathy and those praising his actions, are pharisees – legalists who want to ensure that those content to be without the laws from their god are forced to live by them regardless and who value money over charity and compassion. He had words for them too:

Ye serpents, ye generation of vipers, how can ye escape the damnation of hell? ~Matthew 23:33

So, what if my personal boycott means nothing? I’ve probably only prevented myself from spending a couple thousand dollars at Chick-fil-a over the last few years (There is one just down the road from my work) – maybe that means that Exodus ministries only received $1000 last year rather than $1001 and therefore could attempt to “deliver” fewer men from the evils of homosexuality. I can live with that. I can live with 10 fewer dollars going to Focus on the Family – whom lobbies Congress to have the definition of marriage limited only to that between a man and a woman, and whose founder – James Dobson – is known for hateful rhetoric against the GLBT community.

What’s better than less money in the hands of bigots?

Letting my friends know that I support them and love them and accept them. Letting them know that I see them as my equal and that I want as badly as they do for the rest of the world to treat them the same. Our response matters because it tells those that we love how much we love them. I love my GLBT friends more than a chicken sandwich and waffle fries.

Christians should too.