Girlfriend urges more pushback against disapproving parents

Dear Abby:

I am in an interracial relationship with a guy whose parents don't support our being together because I'm from a different race and culture than he is.

When his parents tell him to break off relations with me, he listens patiently and defends his affection for me. He does not, however, really speak up for me or point out how unfair their prejudice is, given that they've never even met me.

Is it too much to ask my boyfriend to speak up the next time his parents lecture him?

Undefended in the South

Dear Undefended:

Not knowing your boyfriend, his parents or how they relate to one another, I can't judge whether he should challenge them any further than he is already. I think it would be a mistake for you to try to script him. You didn't mention how long you two have been involved, but if the relationship continues, they may - at some point - mellow.

Dear Abby:

The problem is, my teeth are spaced rather far apart, and food gets stuck between them. After every meal, I need to use a toothpick, yet my wife refuses to put toothpicks - even in an attractive container - on the table. She says they will just collect dust and are not pretty. I would never leave her over this, but what can I do with this stubborn, but otherwise wonderful woman?

Pick-Less in Pennsylvania

Dear Pick-Less:

Your wife may prefer that you pick your teeth somewhere other than at the table. While it would be nice if she were more solicitous, you may have to appreciate her for her other fine qualities, because it doesn't appear that she's going to budge to accommodate you.

Dear Abby:

I have a 39-year-old daughter I'll call "Angela" who attracts unsavory underground types - thieves, druggies, homeless - wherever she lives. My husband and I recently decided to move to Mexico because we are both retired. My husband and son are driving his vehicle, and I am driving my own.

My husband asked me if I wanted to invite Angela to drive with me. I'm afraid if I do, she may decide to stay with us after we arrive, and more of those unsavory types will start coming around.

Should I not worry about it? I'm in need of practical advice.

Retiree in the West

Dear Retiree:

You are making a new start. My "practical advice" is to follow your better judgment and resist the urge to invite your daughter to accompany you on the journey.

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