diaryofasnowflake:

This post is in response to the fact that lately, on and off, I have seen @hypnosisfetish, who goes by Aaron Glotfelter, posting previews of his porn on Tumblr. I have periodically seen it reblogged, and it has occurred to me that some members of the community, particularly newer ones, are not familiar with him, so I want to fix what we call the issue of the “missing stair.”

I have heard many stories, both first and secondhand, about Glotfelter’s inappropriate and non-consensual behavior, including, it is my understanding, him being banned from multiple events. Still, I can only speak for my own experiences.



My own experiences are a bit complicated, and the term “consent violator” doesn’t allow for much nuance. In short, I met him years ago, at an event that was a non-kink event with kink elements. I had no sexual experience, in kink or otherwise, a history with self-harm related to my guilt over my hypnosis fetish, and absolutely no knowledge of how BDSM or consensual erotic hypnosis works. When I met Glotfelter, I communicated all of this to him, and he still offered to play with me. I accepted.



At no point in the scene did he negotiate, check in with me, establish safe words, or even discuss the notion of consent. He displayed no sense of care for how I was doing, or caution with his actions.



At no point did I tell him to stop, but I also did not understand that that was my right as a bottom. As such, during the scene we went much further than I was comfortable, including him installing longterm suggestions and conditioning involving him specifically, as well as him doing the quickest, crudest “therapy” to cure me of desire to self-harm.



I never saw him again. It took me months to understand why I was so distraught afterwards, until I learned more about BDSM and realized that our play had completely operated outside of the traditional framework for negotiation and consent.



If you have more questions for me, feel free to to PM me, and feel free to reblog this. The goal of this is that I would like it on the record that he is a problematic player.

