It has been a long journey to the realization that I’m just not wired for monogamy. It does not fit how I experienced myself and the way I relate to others. I feel a deep love for so many and varied people in my life. I find deep joy in knowing about the life experiences, adventures, and escapades of partners. I feel deep sadness when a partner is not living their fullest experience of life. I have no expectations of forever.

It has not always been this way. It has been a journey to learn to love myself. I spent years trying to be something I was not. I feel sad that I didn’t take the opportunity when younger to discover who I am. I was scared most of the time. Today the fear of myself still comes, but it does not overwhelm me like it once did.

I know I changed. I know I grew into this more authentic version of myself, and I know you can, too - whatever that version of you might be.

For me, it all starts with love, abundance, and joy. Every day I expand my capacity for love, abundance, and joy - for myself and others. When I remember that we all come from the same source of love, all the pettiness of ego-self, “mine”, and jealousy melt away.

I know we are all wired for love, and we are all the same love. We all came from, and return to, the same source. Letting go of jealousy and scarcity is just a simple as dropping it. It’s scary to drop it, I know. When the fear comes up it’s a sign of the work you have to do in that area. Become friends with that fear; the fear of being alone, not having enough love, attention, affection, community, or sex is the work you need to do. Investigating what’s under that fear is how you will free yourself.

Release the fear by learning to be the source of your own love, attention, affection, community, and sex. That is the inner work will unlock a life of sympathetic joy.

xo

—Jason

Do you still get jealous? Do you feel joy at the thought of your partner(s) falling in love with someone else? Tell me what you think in the comments below ⇩.

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