If you read my post on BDSM: Communication is the key – you’ll know we have only just really started to play again after some time off. So it seems this spreader bar, which was originally sent for review, is no longer being sold at MEO but I’m gonna talk about it none the less as spreader bars are an awesome piece of kit and really have the ability to spice up bedroom fun.

You may find yourself asking what is a spreader bar? How can I I use it? Can we use one even if we don’t participate in BDSM Play?

A spreader bar is a length of material usually metal but I have seen wood and fabric versions, which has attachment points and is designed to keep legs/wrists/knees spread. Funny that, eh? 😉 Whatever version you chose should come with attachment points and here, you can be fastened into place. This usually occurs with cuffs, however, rope can be used too and if truth be told, I prefer it. Some versions come with cuffs already attached and we dislike this option as it is better in our opinion to be able to change it up but of course, each to their own.

This bar, above, is one solid piece that can’t be broken down and it has 5 O-rings which are welded into place. One at each end and 3 rings spread out along the length of the bar. The idea behind this is, well there are many possible ideas but the main one is secure ankles in place at each end, use the next set of rings close to each end to secure the wrists and finally the one in the middle could be attached to a collar or even a hook in the ceiling. This style of bar essentially is the perfect way to hogtie someone and have them in a position that guarantees they will not be getting out of it anytime soon.

This spreader bar is approx 30 inches in entire length and is made really well. I am delighted we got it to test out as my other bar, which can be broken down into three pieces for easy storage, is quite temperamental so if you don’t already own a bar and are thinking about a new purchase, we would recommend purchasing a full solid bar. Again, one that has several rings also gives the option for versatile play. Another option for those multiple rings and another reason to get a solid bar is it can also be used for suspension.

It’s often handy to also purchase some carabiner clips as a lot of cuffs don’t come with these and the spreader bar won’t either. As you can see from the above images, we use something a little stronger – they are a version of a carabiner clip except these screw in place. We picked them up from a local hardware store and I must admit as tame as they are I really felt naughty that day knowing what we were going to be using them for.

You most definitely don’t need to participate in a full-time D/s dynamic to use a spreader bar or actually, in fact, anything that is considered to be BDSM related – anyone can use one!

Spreaders bars add another dimension to play and can be incorporated and used (consensually of course) in any way your mind takes to. In our house, there are used as part of our dynamic. Usually taken out if I’m being a brat and not behaving (sometimes on purpose 😀 ). My OH has used ours on my wrists, ankles and my most favourite outing of the spreader bar – when he incorporated it as a fuck me bar from behind after hours of delicious torture. *Fans self* That dear readers, was glorious! You can see images of that here and here.

I popped on Twitter and reached out to my followers asking how they use their spreaders bars and if they had images to help this post. I decided to include any from bloggers as a part of my #SoSS post for this week.

Anyone have a spreader bar in use image(s) I can add into a post I’m writing? All credits and a link will obv be attached.

— LittleSwitchBitch (@_LittleSBitch) April 16, 2018

Pic 1: is from a fabulous follower of mine, who wishes to remain anonymous! Love this position!

Pic 2: In a very delicious position is Karin from Swing Shift

Pic 3: Is the very beautiful Missy who shared this on here Twitter originally but you can check out her blog here

Pic4: is from the lovely Joanne Reviews and this image is made up of a serious bit of kit – check out her post here

Pic5: I love this image! Her tattooed feet make it such a playful image and I love the addition of the empty cuffs! Check out the very colourful Candy Snatch here for more!

Thank you all for allowing me to feature your images 🙂 x

Check more of my #SoSS posts here and more from my BDSM Diaries series here

That’s all for this week folks – check out the #SOSS hashtag on twitter for more posts

Sadly as mentioned the spreader bar above is no longer available at MEO but there are more here and from my personal experience with their stuff – they are seriously top-notch!

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