Men are complex creatures, and men will admit that they can be a bit of trouble sometimes, especially when it comes to communicating what they really want. Whether it’s fear of rejection,

fear of butting up against cultural norms,

or

fear of compromising masculinity, or they often keep our true thoughts to themselves. It’s a shame too because then they leave it up to Hollywood and magazines to tell women what they’re thinking. In order to solve all that, take a look at the biggest things men think about women but never say:

According to a recent study by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, as men become tired they begin to overestimate a woman’s sexual interest in him. So if the feeling isn’t mutual, let us down firmly but nicely. While men can be obnoxiously overconfident, sometimes it’s literally brain chemistry.

Even the manliest of dudes don’t like to face rejection and get their feelings hurt. They’re probably all for trying to pick you up, but give them a hint that they may have a shot before we dive in. If you’re not going to initiate an interaction then maybe open your body posture, touch us on the arm, or shoot us a warm smile — just give us an excuse, any excuse, to think they won’t be humiliated if they make a move, and they’ll be happy to strike up a conversation. They can see where things go from there, but there’s got to be somewhere to start.









You don’t have to watch “the game”/drink beer/play Halo

Somehow, a woman who loves sports and can rack up a kill streak on Halo became a part of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl ideal. Whatever the reason, there’s no need to lounge in your t-shirt or grab a spot in front of the flat screen before the game if you’re not really into it. Doing what you want is most important. If you genuinely embody a more “classic” femininity as a woman — one who abhors video games and loves to shop — do that. We have our guy friends for the other stuff.





You can be the boss in the bedroom

Traditional gender roles are cool and all, but, sometimes, it’s nice to have the woman take charge. I don’t need to be thrown on the floor, blindfolded or choked to get excited (if you do, then more power to you), but give us a few directions and tell us what exactly it is that’ll make you happy. If the guy seems stressed out it’s probably because he’s nervous he won’t please you. So, weird as it may sound, if you take control once in a while, it can be just what he needs to loosen up a little.





Going natural implies trust









No Fake, Be Real

It is absolutely normal to give your effort in putting up your best in front of people. This is a usual phase for women, especially during the initial stages of a relationship. However, if you always run after putting up the mask of being the best, it is going to hard enough for you to wear it off at one point, and that is when you will not be able to recognize yourself ending up with frustration.

Men do not like fake women. They want to spend the life with someone who is real and confident about herself. If you are a sporty person, don’t pretend in front of your man to be someone who’s into fashion and shopping. Just be yourself. Men hate pretense. Your man is going to love you even more once he will get to know the real you.





Men are totally complex creatures. Women often need to work hard at guessing what the men are thinking. Thus, they end up with their own assumptions which, of course, the men find not so satisfactory. What a man thinks can only be known to him. However, whatever he says does not always match with what he thinks.









We know that, at times, tact can be the four-letter word that we never learned. But many times, being brutally honest is our way of showing you that we care. Think about it: Throughout the day, it's common to lie or obfuscate with people you have no interest in. The art of BS is how we get through the day. But with you, we want to forget all that. We want to tell you why your mother bothers us and how you can stop fighting with your high-maintenance friend. Not only do we think it'll solve a problem (more on that below), but we also want you to know that we think of highly of you. And mom taught us that you don't lie to the ones who matter.Some man may try to play it off like they don't need praise, they just threw on that T-shirt without thinking, but anyone who tries to tell you they don't want a compliment tossed their way is full of crap. Yes, we thought about what you'll think of how those jeans show off our assets. And yes, we want you to notice how the edge of our sleeves perfectly grip our biceps. (We've worked hard to make the muscle pop like that.) These compliments, whether they're actually voiced or delivered through a lingering stare, remind men of what attracted you to us in the first place, it appeals to our Darwinian sense of selectivity (meaning it's crystal-clear why you keep choosing us over the other monkeys), and sure, it makes us think there's a possibility of procreation, or at least practicing the art of it.Similar to why we're so damn honest, a good man demonstrates his commitment to you by showing up. So yes, it's more than a little irritating when you go on and on about the jerk who has mastered the art of ghosting, orbiting, or whatever new dating term kids are throwing around these days. It's a vicious cycle, the more men feel those guys get the benefits of your time and attention, the more incentive we have to become those guys. And that's a lose-lose for everyone involved. Instead, smile when we aren't late to date night, or send us a text thanking us once we prove you can call at anytime. Positive reinforcement, right?A woman wearing no makeup is often eons sexier than one with too much. Wearing a little can be quite nice and if it gives you confidence then go on ahead. Yet the vulnerability and trust that going natural implies when you’re one-on-one is enough to make most guys’ hearts jump.While no fair-minded men wants women to return to the life of a 1950s sitcom, neither do we want the elimination of the feminine as a virtue. So don't be ashamed to hold on to those things that make you different from us if they make you feel good. We may not always say it, but it's beautiful — and much appreciated , how much you care about seeing flowers on the table, smelling nice, or cooking a delicious meal.