mrssmith01 Mon 23-Dec-19 13:24:33

Hi,

I really have nowhere else or no one else to go to so I'm hoping I can get some advice from here.



I basically found out on the weekend my partner of 3 years has been secretly filming me naked for the past few months, maybe years, when we have parties at home (just the 2 of us.)



I was using my boyfriend’s phone to change the music, and I accidentally swiped onto the camera and noticed pictures of me in the camera roll. I looked through and there were about 5 naked videos of me, taken without me knowing. I deleted them and confronted him about it, and he said he was sorry. Apparently there more videos from other parties we’d had at home, and he went through his phone and deleted them. I asked for his phone the next day and found more naked pictures of me that I didn’t know he had taken – when I was just out of the shower, or lying down etc., which I deleted and deleted from the recently deleted folder.



I’m not sure if I’m overreacting but it feels like a massive betrayal of my trust and violation of my privacy. He’s taken some nude pics before, then sent them to me straight away, and that’s fine – I know he’s taken them and can make him delete them. But all these secret videos and pictures creeps me out. He keeps acting apologetic and like it’s not really a big deal. He even said it’s not like I’ve cheated on you or something.



I just need some outside input because he’s just acting like it’s not a big deal at all.



Any advice appreciated!