Why aren’t more women open to dating younger men? (Picture: Felix-Russell-Saw)

I always seem to end up dating younger guys.

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The first guy I properly dated was exactly a year younger than me (we shared the same birthday, I thought it was meant to be) and the last guy I dated was four years younger than me.

I recently found out that a musician I have a crush on is 21. I’m 31.

However, women dating younger men isn’t weird to me – my dad is younger than my mum, my uncle is way younger than my aunty and my brother is younger than his wife. It’s totally normal in my family.




Me and my best friends have a running joke that we always fancy hot, younger guys (We’ll always have a thing for fresh-faced indie boys, God love ’em).

Which is why it baffles me that it’s always assumed that it’s only men who like their partners young.

Why is a man dating a much younger woman more acceptable than a woman dating someone only a few years younger? (Picture: Getty)

Women get stick for being the obsessive, crazy sex, but in my experience, it’s the opposite.

Why have we let our gender be tarnished with this lie for so long?

Guys be cray. Seriously. And older guys are the worst offenders.

I dabble in dating apps (wassup, Bumble?) and thought I’d increase my age limit to 39 to see if there were any silver foxes about. (I’ve always had a thing for Patrick Dempsey.)

Holy. Hell. Some of these older guys. You could smell the desperation through the phone – it was like they had their mum breathing down their necks asking for grandkids.

‘I’ve dated older guys who have gone in way too hard way too soon with talking about getting married,’ agrees Katherine, 25.

‘Younger guys aren’t as forceful or bothered.’

On top of this, the older guys had no chat. Absolutely none. Bone dry.

It didn’t take long before I moved my maximum age back down to 34.

In my experience, a lot of older men on dating apps seem desperate and have no chat (Picture: Metro.co.uk)

My penchant for the younger lad also probably has a lot to do with the fact I’m pretty immature for my age – I was a very late developer so always feel like I’m a good few years behind everyone else.

When some girls were having sex, I hadn’t even started my period.

I might be 31 but marriage, babies and mortgages are not on my radar. Partly because the current financial climate doesn’t allow the latter, but also because I enjoy my freelance, nomadic lifestyle.

I tend to meet guys while I’m away travelling/working overseas and most of them are younger than me, but age really isn’t as big of a deal when you’re travelling as it is back home.

If you’re 30+, chances are the guys you meet while travelling will be younger (Picture: Joshua Munoz)

Nikki, 33 agrees: ‘I pretty much only date younger men now, which I think is to do with my lifestyle choices of travelling and doing seasonal work.

‘I currently have a boyfriend who is seven years younger than me, and so far so good.



‘I think younger guys are more fun and more adventurous than guys my age, plus they tend to have nicer bodies and a fresh/positive attitude to life!’

Younger men aren’t usually feeling the pressure of settling down (Picture: Timo Stern)

Once, I met a guy whilst travelling and it wasn’t until we were on a flight to another country together that I realised I’d never asked how old he was.

He was six years younger than me.

I almost spat out my drink but then thought, ‘Why does knowing how many years he’s lived on this earth age change anything?’

It’s the same with platonic friends too – while working in Sri Lanka, my closest friend was nine years younger than me, and it wasn’t a problem.

She was mature for her age and I was immature for my age. It just worked.

Age really is just a number (Picture: Vladimir Kudinov)

There’s also this misconception that older guys are better in bed.

Newsflash – you can be sh*t in bed at any age.

Unless you’re dating 16-year-olds (not recommended unless you’re also a teen), chances are the guy you’re sleeping with will have had a fair amount of experience and if your bodies work together, your bodies will work together.

I once got with a 37-year-old who had absolutely no idea what he was doing down there.

The 20-somethings all had way more of a clue than him.

Plus, research says that women hit their sexual prime later than men,so you may well be doing yourself a favour going younger.

Not every woman is obsessed with the pitter patter of tiny feet (Picture: Mon Petit Chou Photography)

Raff, 27 (who’s in a longterm relationship with someone a year and a half older) points out a major flaw in some older woman/younger man partnerships, from his previous experience.


‘Women have a biological clock that they need to live by if they want to have kids and stuff,’ he told metro.co.uk.

‘And more often than not by the time a girl is 30 she is thinking about kids and a family.

‘Say her guy is 25 – he’s definitely not ready for that.

‘He probably wants to wait five years for that kind of thing, maybe even longer.

‘Which then means there’s a weird time when a girl is like I NEED to have kids. And it ends up not working.’

This is a very valid point, but if you’re a woman who’s pretty chill about getting married and popping out babies (hi), then there’s no problem.

Don’t judge him ‘cos he’s younger than you, judge him because his jeans are hideous (Picture: Adriana Velásquez)

Why do we let society set these constrants on us?

No-one bats an eyelid if a male dates a younger female, yet a woman goes even a few years below her own age and she’s suddenly a thirsty ‘cougar’?

If you connect with someone, you connect with someone.

I look young for my age and I act young for my age, so why should I feel ashamed (or even surprised) that I’m attracted to guys a few years younger than me?

And it works both ways – if you’re mature for your age, then you’ll naturally be attracted to older men.

Make sure you’re not missing out on a good time because you’re worried about what other people think about the number of candles on a cake.

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