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When people talk about gendered violence, men are very quick to say: ‘Oh well, there are facts that say this, that and the other thing happened.’ But women always say: 'No, it happened to me.’ Men feel it in terms of a theoretical abstraction, whereas women see it as a practical everyday reality. I’m reminded everywhere I turn that I’m not supposed to be here, everywhere. Men have self-esteem issues, and kind of 'feel it,’ and there might not be any direct proof. But people look at me and tell me I’m not supposed to be here. I don’t deal in a world of ifs and maybes. This actually happens to me all the time.”