We are philosophers

“In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” — Mahatma Gandhi

We are the great philosophers and processors of energy and emotion.

We feel our way through life. As such we are curious about all the feelings…and their meanings.

The problem is we get stuck in our inner worlds. Our actual lives are a mess, mostly around money.

But also, our bodies tell the story. We neglect the day-to-day things that need our attention and we end up sick, broke, and oftentimes lonely.

Then we comfort ourselves, spending gobs of money on food, wine, shopping, and puppy snuggles. OK that last one is free. However, we do invest whatever we can afford in self care — but is it all really self care?

I’m all for #treatyoself but we also need to be #honestwithourselves about how we’re spending our time and money.

We are self care junkies

Since we feel so much so intensely, we get good at several practices to off-load some of the energy we encounter every day.

The problem arises when self care becomes an excuse to avoid the mundane activities we also need to be taking care of.

We buy plants for the living room instead of pay the utility bill. We take a bath or a nap instead of doing the dishes or the laundry. Or if you’re a work-from-home Empath like me, you might avoid marketing and emails in favor of a cup of tea on the back patio.

WHY DO WE DO THIS?

We’re smart. We know we got shit to do and yet we put it off until we’re under pressure.

It’s like we’re floating out at sea in a liferaft with a hole in the bottom. Instead of facing the leak head on and fixing it we lie back, soak up the sun (because it feels good) and wait until the ship is sinking. Then we freak the fuck out trying to bail out the water while fighting off the flesh eating piranhas and ask how we got here!

Sound familiar? Uh huh. Here’s the thing…

Normal formulas don’t work for us

“Do not be embarrassed by your failures. Learn from them and start again.” -Sir Richard Branson

Because we are visionaries and feel-good-seekers we are resistant to (or is it rebellious?) the normal formulas for “success”.

We’ve written out our goals so damn many times.

We’ve used the proven systems to achieve them. We’ve got sticky notes and programmed reminders and support systems and we still struggle in business, with finances or fitness.

What the actual fuck?!

We’re even super into self development. We buy the books, hire the coaches, and surround ourselves with like-minded people.

With all of this, we still fall short. Which leads us to believe (what we’ve felt all along) there’s something wrong with us.

We think we’re broken

Clearly.

I mean look at the failed businesses and relationships, empty (or overdrawn) bank accounts, and extra pounds we can’t seem to shed.

We may arrive at the conclusion we just aren’t meant for this world and retreat to our inner world. Or we resign ourselves to suffer through this one. We go through the motions relying on meds or self medicating.

We moderate stress (hello, self care) and endure the struggle. Year after year.

We go about our work as helpers and healers, thinking if we can help them we can fix ourselves. When in fact, we sacrifice ourselves for the benefit of others then seek comfort and pleasure to the detriment of our well being and wealth.

How oxymoronic is that?

Sometimes we avoid the call altogether and attempt to live as close to ‘normal’ as possible, ignoring the fact that we are Empaths.

We hope no one will notice. We don’t want to be called out so…

We stay in

To avoid being seen or having to come out, we stay in.

In our homes. In our pj’s. In our inner sanctum.

In debt.

We stay in seeker mode — searching for the answer that will set us free. We fear the responsibility of it though, and thus never find that freedom.

We live our lives in the safe zone.

We hang out behind a computer and in front of a television. From a distance, we build virtual relationships on social media and via dating apps. Then we wonder why we’re so damn lonely. You know what I mean?

Oh but wait. Here comes the food and wine to save the day and feed the feels.

Something needs to change if we no longer want to be sick, broke, and lonely.

We need a different kind of system

We need something that gives consideration to our gifts, our sensitivities, and our tendencies.

We need something that goes deep, happens rapidly, and creates permanent change.

We need permission to be ourselves, knowing we’re not like everybody else, and a clear easy-to-follow path that aligns with our unique purpose (and doesn’t overwhelm or freak us out). Also, we need to get clear about what our purpose is — this step alone would change everything!

We need to feel good

“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.“ — Oprah Winfrey

We need something that makes us feel good. Consistently. We’ve failed so many times we question our ability to succeed and we need ‘a win’ out of the gate.

We need to feel like we can rise from the ashes and be the bright fucking light we are here to be.

We need to trust that whoever is leading the way ‘gets it’ and has been where we’re at.

We don’t need another stoic non-empath telling us we can get ahead by controlling our emotions.

We need someone to give it to us straight. We can feel when someone’s bullshitting us.

We need someone who is not afraid to tell the truth. Someone who will tell their story of struggle and success. Someone to tell us it’s OK and show us how we can come out of the shadows and into the light.

We need to come out of hiding

I am an Empath and an Intuitive.

I used to hide, letting the shadow effects of my ‘super powers’ run my life. I was sick, broke, and lonely.

For me, the biggest challenge in life was getting my external world to reflect my internal one.

I used to feel best in my dream reality where I was a total (virtual) badass. My body was healed, my business was thriving, and my man was waking me up with an espresso and kisses…in Paris. That was the dream. When I looked in the mirror though, in real life, I still saw sadness and disappointment and frustration.

If you’re like me, you want to live the life of a badass… IN REAL LIFE.

I spent years and years seeking, searching, learning, and preparing to share my gift with the world. All the while I was bogged down by my fears, my fantasies, and my financial situation.

I escaped more than I expressed myself. I fell into bed more than I found my flow. Do you do this, too?

I was the never-ending ‘maybe’ when I needed to be the ‘must’.

And then when the burden of ‘being me’ became more than I could carry, I set it down.

I surrendered.

I gave up trying to manage the struggle and the sadness and the shitty self-sabotaging.

I stopped focusing on the woes and got uber grateful for the wins.

I gave up the hustle and grind for grace and flow.

In that state I was granted access to some pretty rad stuff. The caveat was that I was to face my biggest fears (rejection and ridicule) and come out of hiding.

Can you imagine?

I spent several months figuring out how to take what the Guidance gifted me and turn it into something useful for other people. At that point, there was only one clear thing for me to do (they call that a calling).

As the self-proclaimed ‘leader of the feelers’, I’ve learned how to heal soul wounds — unique to Empaths, while dealing with the day-to-day stuff so we can finally break free of the habits and patterns that keep us sick, broke, and lonely.

Now, I’m not suggesting you do what I did.

Hell no. It took me developing a tumor to begin to heal at a soul level. It took years of being alone to get over being lonely and get that I have a gift. It took investing $72,567 in healing protocols, personal development training, private coaches, and certification programs to experience soul-level healing and achieve a state being where I am living in total alignment with my purpose.

It took everything I had to wake up every day when I was sick, broke, and lonely to focus on a singular outcome — to create the badass life of my dreams.

So please, don’t do what I did. That was a long ass journey (10+ years) to get where I’m at now. Let me make it a thousand times easier for you.

Start small but start now

“At any moment, the decision you make can change the course of your life forever.” — Tony Robbins

Make the choice right now to turn a so-so life into something deeply satisfying.

Make the choice right now to deal with the debt. Don’t worry about how yet.

Make the choice right now to eat a healthy and satisfying dinner tonight.

Make the choice right now to connect with someone you love before the day is done.

Start there. Start now. Watch what happens.

Conclusion

As Empaths we are gifted with the ability to feel things more intensely. The shadow effect, however, is that we dwell in our safe inner worlds and neglect the needs of our bodies, businesses, and bank accounts. We also struggle to belong. As a result we end up sick, broke, and lonely.

Instead of trying to fit into a ‘normal’ structure and live the average life we need something and someone who gets us, lifts us up, and leads the way so we can be the badasses we were born to be.

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