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My best friend Karan Oberoi has been arrested for "rape & extortion" and drugging and filming the complainant. The publicly known facts of the case are that they met end 2016 on a dating app. In October 2018, Oberoi filed an NC against the woman for harassment. In her interview to TOI in November 2018, she states they had been in "a relationship", that she had showered him with gifts and done up his apartment, and that she felt bad to pressure him for marriage because he was in a bad financial position. However, this week in May 2019 she has filed a case of rape and extortion , claiming it happened sometime in January 2017. Statements in her interview in November 2018 are in direct contrast to her FIR in May 2019 which says the "alleged" crime took place in 2017. We cannot term it a fake case until proven, but what happens in the interim? She has lodged the FIR the day the Bombay high court went on holiday, so he can't apply for bail for a month.The media has jumped onto it, hashtags of #rapist, loss of his reputation, damage to his career, his family in turmoil, the physical distress given conditions of lock up... the list goes on. We showed the police overwhelming evidence in regard to her messages on his phone, but the saddest part is even if the police can see that the man is innocent of the charges, they have to take action based on the FIR, arrest him and follow due process of law. Even more bizarre was that he and she were both sent for medical tests even though the alleged incident happened 2.5 years ago, because it's due process.This brings into focus the increasing need to focus on men's rights as a human rights issue as well. Over the years there has been a steady clamour amongst men as to how provisions of the law meant to protect women are being misused by some women for personal vendetta and extortion. I'm all for women's rights and come from a family of strong, dynamic, liberated women who have heralded change and reform for women. However, today (and I have done so in the past as well), I firmly stand in support of men's rights and the beginning of a #MenToo movement We cannot have an equal society if we are so focused on protecting what we consider a "weaker sex" that we refuse to openly acknowledge a rising number of women as tyrants. Being a "rape or abuse complainant" gives women almost "holy cow" status. It's almost sacrilegious to challenge a woman's claim or to stand up for a man you consider a victim. Women have rights, but women are not above the law and that needs to be made very clear by prosecuting women who file fake cases. We need to have equally stringent punishment for women who baselessly use provisions of law to subject men to tough laws and procedures. Most important in the quest for equal rights is the need to protect the identity of men until they are proven guilty. Why is only a woman's reputation sacred and not a man's? Does he not have a career? Social respect? Family? If a woman is found guilty of a fake case, she should also be publicly named and shamed, like what happens to men. Let's focus on equal laws to protect, equal laws to punish, and a fight for an equal society. It's time for #MenToo.