radicallyhaley:

how do “sex positive” feminists not realize that they are just repackaging forms of patriarchal female sexuality? men want you to like BDSM, so they teach you to find it empowering. men want you to be a tumblr cam girl, so they teach you to find it empowering. men want you to wear makeup and look pretty, so they teach you to find it empowering. how is reproducing female systems of domination considered empowering?

What’s empowering is being able to make your own choices about what you do with your body and what you personally enjoy. I’m not into BDSM or anything, but hey I wear make up. You wanna know why? Because I like it and it makes me feel pretty. I don’t wear makeup or like sex because men tell me to. I do it because I like it. You know what isn’t empowering? Being told that we can’t be trusted to make our own decisions because we’re just fragile, weak minded creatures that are easily brainwashed by men. Being sex positive is not opening yourself up to be “dominated”. Being sex positive is embracing a woman’s right to chose how she acts, to chose what she wants to pursue, and to chose what to do with her own body, not just what men or other women tell her to do.