DEAR DEIDRE: I WAITED for six months to have sex with my girlfriend only to find she has a penis.

I met her at a party. She wasn’t the prettiest there but she fascinated me.

1 I found out my girlfriend has a penis and now I'm worried I'll be considered gay Credit: Getty - Contributor

We spent the whole evening together then started dating. I’m 20 and she’s 19.

We took our time to have sex because she said she was a virgin and I was too.

When she finally said she was ready and I saw her naked, I was shocked. Then I thought, “What the hell? She’s still the same person I love.”

The sex side was awkward at first but finally we both enjoyed it.

She told me I was the first boy she’d ever had sex with. I told her that was OK because she was my first girl.

She’s talked of gender-reassignment surgery but I’ve told her I’ll still love her whatever she decides to do.

What is bothering me is: could we be considered as gay? I don’t feel gay because to me my girlfriend is a girl.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t worry about labels.

As long as your relationship and sex life works for both of you, that is all that matters.

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