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Illustrated By Anna Sudit.

Solo Novice

Some women don’t have a self-pleasure style because, well, they simply don’t self-pleasure. This type of abstinence is more common than you’d think — and even women who do masturbate often sideline it in order to prioritize other (seemingly more important) things. Although, really, what’s more important than giving yourself a little lovin’?



If you’re looking for a style to adapt, Jansen recommends starting by hopping in the shower. “Often, if women don’t masturbate, it’s because they’ve been told that masturbation is dirty and bad. But, in the shower, you’re getting clean, and that’s positive.” Plus, if you have a detachable shower head, you can get an entirely new sensation on your vulva that’s like a cross between your fingers and a super-gentle vibrator.



Need convincing? “Think of it as a way to be able to help your partner know what you like,” recommends Jansen. When you learn the positions and pressures that you like best, it makes it all the easier to ask for what you want when you’re with a partner. But, the best thing about masturbation is that you get to ditch the need for a partner altogether — this is all about you, baby.



“And, it’s good for you anyway; it boosts your endorphins, and there’s evidence that orgasms reduce heart disease and diabetes,” Jansen continues. Seriously, do it for your health — or do it for your sex life, or just do it because it feels good. If we weren’t meant to touch ourselves, then why would our arms be exactly the right length to reach our vaginas? Hm?