Men are having more orgasms (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

There’s disappointing news on the sex front today.

It seems that despite the headway we’ve made in the bedroom, men are still reaping the rewards more often than women.

Not everyone has an orgasm every time they have sex, which is completely normal. Sometimes you’re not in the mood to finish and other times you just can’t get there – it’s nothing to be ashamed about.

However, a recent study by the sex toy website, Lovehoney, has revealed quite the disparity in frequency of climax. Apparently, 58% of men have an orgasm every time during sex, compared to just 24% of women.




Furthermore, it was found that only 20% of Brits are sexually fulfilled, and that two thirds aren’t having sex as often as they’d like.

The study had 3,000 participants across the US, UK and Australia, and the figures were marginally different across the continents.

In the UK, 48% of women orgasm ‘most of the time’, compared to 33% of men, while 20% of women and 6% of men said they ‘rarely’ enjoy climax.

Meanwhile 8% of women and 3% of men have never come during sex.

Women having less orgasms isn’t a new development, and comments are often thrown around that this is because they are ‘harder to please’ in bed.

A perhaps more likely explanation is that women have, throughout history, been seen as the secondary person in bed, something which has only changed during the last few decades, following numerous sexual revolutions.

The taboo around female pleasure and casual sex has since lessened, but unfortunately, there’s still a way to go.

If you’re concerned that you’re not able to ‘get there’, there are ways to help yourself along.

Introducing sex toys in the bedroom is one option; according to the study, 29% of British women claimed they are ‘more likely’ to orgasm if they use one.

While this can help, it’s also important to communicate your wants and needs to your sexual partner(s).

‘Growing up, we are taught the functional side of sex but we aren’t taught about pleasure and how to reach an orgasm,’ Sammi Cole, sex and relationships expert at Lovehoney tells Metro.co.uk.

‘It’s something each of us has to learn.

‘We need to communicate with our partners and help show them what we want and what works for us, whether that be a different method of stimulation, or a specific sex toy.

‘Communicating (before, during and after sex) and explaining what works for you can go a long way towards helping to closing the [orgasm] gap.’

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