Being female I have been told my entire life girls should have long hair. Every time I cut my hair growing up, I was told by the men in my life not to worry it would grow out. What is a female without a male, and how would you ever get a male if you weren’t desirable? Being told ridiculousness like this my entire life it was hard to even entertain the idea of shaving my head. I first had to disconnect my worth from my looks. Having a partner that loves me for more than the length of my hair and the size of my bra makes that easier. Struggling with illness makes everything harder. Taking care of my hair just took too much time and energy. Energy I don’t have. Every women who has seen my new cut has professed how they could never pull it off. What does it matter? We are more than our hair.