Pegging him changed my perspective on sexuality. I became more empathetic to men. Fucking someone is, physically, quite hard work. When I was younger I didn't put that much effort in when I was having sex, in terms of thrusting or doing the actual manoeuvring. Also, when someone is opening their body to you, they’re quite vulnerable – you have a magnificent amount of power. I’d never thought about sex like that before because I’d never felt physically vulnerable in that way.



I wasn’t aroused, but it was psychologically interesting. Pegging is the ultimate tamer of men. They love it. It’s like having a nuclear weapon in your armoury....



It’s hard for me to peg someone I’m in love with. There’s an exchange of energy – for nearly all men, there will be some unsettling feelings afterwards. Even if they fantasise about submitting to women, there’s this fear that you’ve given up something in the process of letting women fuck you. Men can feel belittled, upset or regretful afterwards – which is interesting, because women allow men to fuck them all the time, but they don't feel subjugated.

Over at Vice Nichi Hodgson has written an interesting article on pegging, where she says, among other things, the following (link to explicit text content) (Pegging is anal sex using a strap-on, and no, this is not something I have tried out for myself).She does not write about gender roles explicitly in this article, but as the paragraphs above indicate, there is an element of gender bending to this practice. The man takes on the role that is culturally given to the woman, which may – in the eyes of some – imply feminization and even homosexuality, which again may trigger internalized transphobia and homophobia. It is a fact, though, that a lot of cis straight men engage in this kind of sex play, and apparently enjoy it a lot. Like many gay men, they have discovered the kind of pleasure only the prostate can give.Strap-on play is also found among lesbian women, which again documents that the dominance/penetration dynamic is not restricted to man (top) versus female (bottom).I know that some will say that this is against nature, but it is a well known fact that females mounting and males being mounted is a pretty normal thing among many mammals, deer and rats included. It is as if both males and females are given a sexual repertoire of behaviors that are not restricted to one gender only, even if the genitalia may make us believe otherwise.Could it be that men and women are wired for all kinds of sexuality, and that it is culture that restricts their repertoire?As for the question in the headline: No, I do not think all men who engage in pegging are crossdreamers, but there may be an element of gender role exploration that they find fascinating, and especially being allowed to lose control and give in to another human being. For some sad reason, many think of that as a female prerogative.