Why being a Gentleman is different than being the Nice Guy.

Men who think women are only attracted to assholes and jerks who treat them like shit need to listen up. First and foremost, this is merely an excuse to make men feel better and justify their shitty behavior. This is also the reason they are still most likely single. Because the jerk may attract an insecure woman from time to time, but that attraction will never last.

While being a jerk and acting like a reckless asshole is the shortcut to seduction success, it is also extremely frustrating to see how negative some men think about women. This behavior only perpetuates women’s insecurities which society has already done a great job of heightening.

These men are conditioned by the media, porn, frustrated friends, and very bad Hollywood movies to think they have to act like a jerk to get laid. NEWS FLASH: A real seducer is a gentleman who loves women and treats them with respect and empathy.

Men need to overcome the limiting beliefs, false conditioning, and misconceptions that exist around dating and sexuality. The moment you leave all these negative things behind, will be the moment you realize that your ambition to become a gentleman is an honorable goal and that being a gentleman has absolutely nothing to do with being a nice guy.

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Let’s set the facts straight once and for all.

Being a gentleman and being a nice guy are the exact opposites! Two completely different people.

The dangerous misbelief that many sexually frustrated men need to overcome is that being polite, nice and treating women with respect will lead to lonely nights sitting in front of their computer masturbating the night away.

They automatically assume that this sort of behavior will prohibit their seduction success…even though every real gentleman lives by those roles. So instead they believe that the answer is to be a jerk.

This is how men who have a great potential to become incredibly successful seducers turn into misogynistic assholes. Since you are reading this right now, I know you don't want to be one of those guys. Choose to be a true gentleman instead.









1. Be Polite, Not Needy

There is a difference. Being nice and polite is not the problem. Actually, being polite is actually a huge benefit in the dating game. Where the problem exists is when you associate the typical nice guy who can’t get laid mantra with your thought about politeness and treating women in a nice way. Don’t confuse the two. Being polite is great, behaving like a nice guy isn’t.

Still don't get the difference?

Behaving like a nice guy has absolutely nothing to do with being nice. A “nice guy” is needy and clingy, which has nothing to do with being nice.

Being nice and polite is something that every man should be. I have never met a real gentleman who treated women with disrespect. Be polite, be a gentleman, but avoid being needy.

2. Treat Her Well, Don’t Spoil Her

Gentlemen love women. He loves to be around them. He enjoys their beauty. He could spend hours talking to them and interacting with them. The last thing on his mind is treating women in a bad way. Never will he understand the men who gossip about their girlfriends, or who kiss and tell, or who label women as sluts and whores. Absolutely not.

A gentleman is a man with principles. You live by the principle that every woman who is good to you deserves to be treated in a good way. You want women to feel good in your presence and smile when they think of you.

This does not mean a gentleman makes the mistake of spoiling the girls he is with. He does not see to buy their time, nor their affection. He sees the most beautiful women as the normal human beings that they are. Not the perfect princesses that the media tries to make him believe they are. This means he treats women as normal human beings who deserve to be treated with respect.









3. Say What You Want to Say, Not What She Wants to Hear

Let’s be clear here. A gentleman is polite and opening the door for a woman is something that he doesn't only know from the movies. But that doesn't mean he is a pushover. He isn’t afraid to say something that the girl he is with won’t like. This also doesn't mean that he never says something that might offend her or that makes her gaze in disbelief.

Remember, a gentleman is different then being a nice guy.

As a gentleman you are in this world to bring joy to yourself and to the women who accompany you on your path. You are not in this world to hide your true opinion, or to say what others want to hear and be how others want you to be.

No. Instead, you are a strong man, with a strong opinion. You also are not afraid to share this opinion. Doesn't matter if you are with one of your best buddies who you have known for years or the most beautiful woman you have ever seen.

4. Listen to Her Emotions, Not to Her Words

Listening is a very important ability for any man to master. It is important to listen to a woman’s words and to (pretend to) listen to her when she goes on a rant about how horrible her coworker or friend is. While that is all necessary, listening to her words is only a factor for a fraction of your seduction success.

What women say, and what they mean is often two completely different things. The information she reveals through her words are nothing compared to the information she reveals through her feelings.

Women are emotional beings by nature and it shouldn't be a secret that they predominantly communicate through their emotions. That is why a true master of listening knows it is more important to listen to her emotions than to listen to her words.

This is easier said than done, but that doesn't mean it is impossible.

If you are determined to become a true gentleman, then you must be determined to develop the awareness of a real gentleman.

This means you need to study women’s signs. Notice their body language. Notice their emotional reaction on every single date and during every conversation. Your willingness to study women will eventually set you apart from the men who will never be able to listen to a woman’s emotions.









5. Be Who You Are, Not Who You Think She Wants You to Be

Women love a confident man. Confident does not mean cocky. A gentleman is confident, self-assured, and knows he is a man who deserves beautiful women. If you really want to become a gentleman, you have to learn to feel confident in your own skin.

While it may not always be easy to feel a deep feeling of self-love, it is absolutely necessary if you want to attract amazing women into your life.

If you don’t feel good about yourself, or if you don't like who you are…then it is time to make a change. Right now.

It is time to accept that you are not who you want to be. You must make the decision to do everything in your power to become the person you want to be. No one else can make this decision for you. You can do this by changing your lifestyle, adjusting your diet, changing your workout routine or even by changing and enhancing your social circle.

Once you have reached a state where you like or even love who you are, you won’t be susceptible to negative thoughts that often drive men to the edge of a mental breakdown.

Don’t think you have to become someone else in order to attract women. Stop pretending to be someone you are not. Be your best self. Be a real gentleman.

6. Be Sexual, Not Creepy

Every interaction with a woman has to have a sexual component. If this sexual component is missing, the interaction will inevitably lead you into the friend zone. No man wants to be in the friend zone.

Being sexual and living in your dominant male energy is absolutely essential to create attraction with women. A gentleman knows that, but at the same time…he also knows that there is a big difference between being sexual and being creepy.

Touching a woman in a gentle way while you are looking into her eyes is sexual. Grabbing her ass after a five minute conversation is creepy. Whispering naughty thoughts in her ear while you caress her leg is sexual. Telling her that you want to fuck her right after she gave you her phone number is creepy.

You must learn the difference between creepy and sexual if you want to be a gentleman. Sexual confidence leads to passionate nights and unforgettable memories. Creepiness leads to sexual frustration, bitterness, and in the worst case hatred.









7. Make Her Feel Special, Not Superior

A gentleman knows how to treat women. He finds the balance between deep respect and sexual expression that creates attraction. He wants women to feel amazing in his presence. His goal is to make the women in his life feel special.

And while he wants to make them feel special by showering them with honest and sincere compliments and by being the sexual and confident man that they fantasize about in their wet dreams, he never puts them on a pedestal.

As a gentleman you know that making a woman feel special brings joy and sexual fulfillment. You also know that making her feel superior by being a submissive wimp will only lead to misery and frustration on both sides.

Women want to feel special, but that doesn't mean that they want to have the feeling that you consider them as more valuable than yourself. That is actually the last thing a woman wants. She wants a strong man who knows how to make her feel special without giving his power away and without putting her on a pedestal that she doesn't want to be on.

Follow these rules, and make the choice to be a gentleman. Not an asshole. Not a nice guy. Be the man you were born to be.

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