If I were writing this for a women’s publication, I have no doubt that I would be perceived as the victim in the scenarios described above. After all, it is me who is having my job made difficult by having to find ways to deal with unwanted advances. Yet, I don’t see it that way. I think boys are victims of our constructed social norms. They are victims of a world in which their idle musings about age-inappropriate flings are considered entirely acceptable and occasionally actively encouraged. They are victims of a culture in which we seem unable to perceive or accept that young men are just as vulnerable and deserve just as much protection as their female peers. And for both of these reasons they are victims of a system in which any kind of inappropriate conduct towards them is, inevitably, far more likely to fly under the radar.