I think that American women in general like aggressive men. Shy guys don't appear on their radar unless they resemble someone famous.



If you learn to be forward and somewhat aggressive, you can a girl of any race here. It's simply a numbers game.



Obviously girls who are 9s and 10s may be a tough catch, but that's the same case whether you're white, black, or asian. I think it's just certain races tend to approach each other much less than others. Conventional wisdom says white guys can get asian girls fairly easily, so most white guys have little fear in approaching asian girls. Conversely, conventional wisdom says white girls aren't attracted to asian guys, so this gives asian guys second thoughts in approaching a white girl they may be interested in.



If you just ignore conventional wisdom, you'll realize you can date pretty much any race you want with some effort. Before I got married, I dated a girl from just about all the major ethnicities. Sometimes there's some social hurdles but if the girl is fine enough it's worth jumping over them. Once I learned not to fear rejection, my options expanded tremendously.



The problem with shy asian guys isn't the "asian" part. It's the "shy" part. Just drive about 3-4 cities away and start randomly hitting on women in a city where no one knows you. If you're lucky you might come away with a number or two, but more importantly you'll be building up a thick skin to handle rejection.