This image is thin privilege (and sexism)

My boyfriend, who always exclaims that he “loves curvy, bigger women” posted this. I fall into the “dumb feminist” curvy. Needless to say, I felt like shit. But I wasn’t going to pretend to be ok with this because i love him. I called him out on it, publicly. Hopefully he realizes his mistake (or doesn’t agree with it and was just posting it for discussion). Otherwise, he won’t be getting any because I won’t feel comfortable showing him my body. That fucking hurts to say, because I always considered him my safe haven, someone who didn’t judge me by my size.

Note: before, he and a friend were discussing underlying health issues.

The response:

ok so here you go until I calm down enough to form some sort of sensible answer.http://thisisthinprivilege.tumblr.com/ might want to search the tag ‘sexism’

Secondly: I don’t know if you’re agreeing with this image or not but if you are, you may want to reexamine the body of your girlfirend a bit closer and realize that I fall in the area of the second image. Because, let me tell you, that first woman is not ‘curvy’. She’s a skinny person with hips and boobs. Curvy as an hour glass. Ie. Perfect form as considered by the world. If you think “oh I like curvy women, I’m such a good person for not discriminating so much against bigger people” and you think that first image…well, first, you’re an ignorant asshole, second that is not curvy.



Thirdly: WOMEN ARE NOT OBJECTS TO FALL INTO THE CLASSIFICATION SYSTEMS BUILT BY MEN. FUCK THE PATRIARCHY. “dumb feminists” don’t want men to define it as that, We don’t care how men define it. Our bodies are not theirs to define. that is how we define ourselves. Our self definition is not based on whether or not MEN choose to define us that way. you don’t like it? tough shit. I am curvy and I am definitely not the hourglass curvy and I am fucking proud of it. on the topic of health: You know what? That woman on the left could have health problems. She could have heart disease, high cholesterol, diabetes, any sort of issue associated with being all “gross and fat and unhealthy”. That woman on the right? She could be as healthy as could be. She could eat fucking salad every day and work out for all you know. How do you know? YOU DON’T. How do you know if the woman on the right is depressed and taking meds that cause weight gain? YOU DON’T. How do you know the woman on the right isn’t doing the same thing? Do you see my point yet? ANOTHER PERSON’S HEALTH IS NOT YOUR FUCKING ISSUE. BECAUSE IT IS THEIR BODY, THEIR CHOICES AND THEY HAVE TO LIVE WITH WHATEVER THEY CHOOSE. YOU DO NOT GET TO JUDGE THEM FOR IT OR TELL THEM WHAT TO DO. The patriarchy is getting their man panties in a knot because women are choosing to not base their life on pleasing men. Every fucking commercial you see is telling everyone to change their life to fit the way MEN want us too. And when a woman says something against that, they all act like their fucking dicks are being threatened “oh no! THEY WANT US TO CHANGE!?” because heaven forbid the playing field is equal. Why? BECAUSE MEN ENJOY BEING THE OPPRESSORS. They enjoy the fucking control and they are FUCKING TERRIFIED that should women have equal rights, the may use those rights and oppress MEN instead. so you can like what you like, sure, whatever. your choice, your consequences. you get the choice and no one else can say anything. UNLESS you attempt to hurt or control others, like above. that second woman is completely entitled to define herself as curvy. She is not trying to make men define her as curvy, because she probably doesn’t fucking give a shit. you know what? she’s fucking beautiful. not because she’s attractive (because she is, but that’s my opinion) BECAUSE SHE’S A FUCKING HUMAN BEING. SHE’S NOT SUBSTANDARD, SHE’S NOT BELOW THE DEFINITION OF HUMAN BECAUSE SHE’S FAT. That is the biggest fucking mistake anyone could make and it is the EXACT same as what happens between PoCs and racist white assholes. They assume that because of a difference from the “norm”, that person (the PoC) is not fully human (PoC=person of colour btw). THERE IS NO FUCKING NORMAL. AND THE PATRIARCHY (or white man, or heterosexual person or any other sort of oppressor) DOES NOT GET TO TELL US THERE IS.“