I don’t see how any male who likes porn can think actual sex is better, at least if it involves all the crap that comes with having a real live female in your life.“

-Frank, porn user

Like when you’re going to the store, do you want vanilla, strawberry, or chocolate ice cream? I’ll sit down at the computer and say, “Hmm, I feel like Asian girls tonight.”

–Christopher, porn user

“He would come home from work, slide food around his plate during dinner, play for maybe half an hour with the kids, and then go into his home office, shut the door, and surf Internet porn for hours. I knew – and he knew that I knew. I put a filter on his browser that would e-mail me every time a pornographic image was captured…I continually confronted him on this. There were times I would be so angry I would cry and cry and tell him how much it hurt…It got to the point where he stopped even making excuses. It was more or less “I know you know and I don’t really care. What are you going to do about it?”

- Wife of a porn addict

“The first night they slept together it was the same old thing: lights glaring, gaping at her body parts, manipulating her into positions popular in pornography so he could admire her. He was aggressive, he was confident, he was following a formula. It was cold. “I almost felt like he was in the sex industry,” she says. “As if we were performing on the porn screen.” Afterward, she turned to him and said, “Do you watch a lot of porn?” He thought she was asking because she liked pornography, too; it was clear he was impressed. “Yeah,” he replied. “What are you into?” Instead of answering, Valerie told him, “I could tell by the way you had sex with me.” Miguel was taken aback. He had no idea a woman could trace his moves back to pornography; he didn’t even realize that was what he was doing.”

“I live sex the way it’s shown in porno. If I were with a woman and I weren’t getting the kind of pleasure I see people enjoying in porn films, then I wouldn’t be with that woman. I’ve broken up with women who wouldn’t perform certain things I’ve seen in adult films. In porn, the women have orgasms so easily. But it usually takes longer in real life for women to have an orgasm. I get pretty impatient.”

-Luis, porn user