I was introduced to this site by my 16 year old son. he is way smarter than me. he seems to have learned from my mistakes much better than I have.

Divorced my 1st wife after 7 years of marriage, 9 years together. was given majority physical custody of my 4 year old son, but was also forced to pay child support due to very poor legal representation. After 5 years of that, had the child support dropped and was actually awarded child support. was awarded more support than I had to pay, but only accepted the exact same amount I had to pay her. It was for principle, not for the money. And every penny went to my son.

Second marriage lasted 7 years also, 9 years together. worked my ass off during that relationship, 2 jobs, bought a house, dog, white picket fence, the American nightmare. when I found out she was cheating, I confronted her and she said she started cheating because I asked her to put down her 18 year old cat that was extremely arthritic and soiled itself daily. How could I be such a cruel bastard? Luckily no kids with her.

Lots of failed relationships and I had another son to a woman who clearly stated to me that she only got pregnant to force me to marry her. Didn’t work. She had my 2nd son, acted a fool, and left when he was 15 months old. But my son stayed with me. I was awarded full custody. we have been together since.

He has survived a few bad relationships with me, has been my rock, and he has a better grasp on the ways that woman operate than I do. But he has forced me to see the light. he is blunt with me. he tells me the truth. I am very proud of him.

I am hoping to get some very real, very harsh insight from the other members of this site. some men need a push, some men need a shove, some of us need a full blown hit to the head with a 2X4.

Just glad that my son was smart enough to make me see the light.