“A man who sleeps with only one woman is not a man,” my Russian girlfriend told me. “I know it’s strange, but I don’t mind if you fuck other women. Just know I’m not fucking other men. My pussy is yours. I belong to you. All I ask is that you be there for me. And use protection!”

Over the past few years, I’ve had women say more or less the same thing to me. (They’re usually non-Westerners.) Even when I tell them it’s OK for them to see other guys, they don’t. And if my time in New York has confirmed to me one thing, it’s this:

There are plenty of beautiful women who will sleep with you exclusively while tolerating you sleeping with other women.

A devoted harem.

It is the dream of every man, but the privilege of few.

There is a reason for that. Acquiring and maintaining a devoted harem is not easy. It takes a man with value, understanding, and skill to pull it off.

Value

“A woman simply is. A man must become.”

Have a purpose. Make goals. Hit the gym. Learn a language. Stack cash. Educate yourself. Become independent. Become more masculine. Groom. Smell good. Dress cool. Shave your balls. Read more books. Travel. Cultivate the lifestyle you want.

Are you a man of value?

If not, keep dreaming.

Understanding

“There is a beast in man that needs to be exercised, not exorcised.”

Human sexuality is a complex topic. Learn all you can about it. Read, read, read. Take the red pill. Question what you’ve been taught and unlearn the falsehoods of your upbringing.

We live in a world of sexual perversions—where women are being brainwashed to mimic male sexuality in the name of equality, while men are expected to enter unnatural monogamy via government contracts. It takes an introspective and resilient person to sift through the mainstream narrative to find truth. A comprehensive understanding of the science governing human sexuality is the most powerful tool you can have. When you meet women, seek not to shame and lambaste, but to educate and enlighten them. Once they “get it”, even the most conservative women will accept your natural sexual urges.

Do you have a deep understanding of human sexuality?

If not, keep dreaming.

Skill

Game is a skill, but love is an art.

Master Game

How good is your game? If you’re still a novice at picking up women and have little experience of relationships, you have no business thinking about harems. And even if you get one night stands regularly, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be able to handle a harem effectively. It’s easy to get ‘cute’ girls into bed, but holding to hearts of highly-desirable women takes more than strategy and a good fuck. To to that, you must…

Master Emotions

To earn a woman’s devotion, you must cater not just to her sexual needs, but to her emotional needs. You can make her cum buckets, but if you don’t provide her with love and intimacy, she will seek it elsewhere. Show her too much, then she will wonder also. You are a dusty mirror. Reflect her displays of affection, but never their intensity. The art is finding balance.

Master your Time

Time management is another factor. Anything more than three girls will take up too much time. (At once stage in my life, I was seeing seven girls simultaneously. It was a full time job.) Even with two or three lovers in your life, you have to be a master juggler. Resist the urge to see the same girl more than twice in a week. Seeing somebody once every 7-14 days is plenty. You can even stretch that out to once a month if you think you can get away with it.

All these things you must master.

Do you have such skills?

If not, keep dreaming.

For those of your with any questions, or those who have experiences with devoted harems, please share them in the comment section.