Every time someone, in response to an obnoxiously loud car, says “he’s compensating for a small penis” and laughs and expects the same response.

Shame that I’ve said it thoughtlessly before. Sadness that no one called me out on it and I only figured it out during self-reflection about ways in which I might be part of the problem. Deep sadness that body shaming of men is tacitly accepted in many of the more “liberal” circles I move in. Regret, for not realizing it sooner. Resolve, to try to be more vigilant about my own words and actions.