Meanwhile, I agree with your therapists: You've let your girls know how you feel and now you should give them the space to work through their own feelings and desires at whatever speed is comfortable for them. As you know, this will require real patience on your part. Let your girls know you're interested in reconciliation, but don't push. Pushing will only drive them away. And if they do reach out to you, resist the temptation at first to explain why you did what you did. Explanations may sound like justifications to them. There will be time for those conversations down the road.