Blame it on internet porn. Blame it on 50 Shades of Gray. Blame it on people who haven’t discovered Fet Life. But requests to enslave you / be enslaved are now ubiquitous in online dating messages.

Ain’t nothing wrong with letting your freak flag fly, in the bedroom and out of it. And one nice thing about internet dating is that you can create a whole profile listing your out-of-the-ordinary interests, so that maybe you can connect with someone who shares them. Being into bondage or sexual role-play or feet isn’t all that unusual, and the internet can be a good place to meet someone who shares your fetish – whether that’s a basic whipped-cream bikini or strapping on a diaper and playing David Vitter. We all have our kinks and fantasies, and being sexually open-minded is basically a requirement for being a good dater.

The key, though, is recognizing boundaries. Just because you have a particular fetish doesn’t mean you need to go around spraying your desire in every third woman’s direction. Being accosted with messages from strangers about how they want to tie you down and stick their dicks down your throat is not actually sexy (even if you do enjoy a little bondage-and-a-blowjob every now and then). And just because suburban moms are reading lite erotica doesn’t mean that every woman fantasizes about getting tied up and slapped on the ass. That’s a bit of insight that “Master” here could have used in his message to one lady:

Master wants you to get in touch, do you sex after a good spanking??

Communicate, non-communication means a hard spanking: (XXX)XXX-XXXX;

be punctual or ….else!