Since revenge porn became ‘a thing’ we’ve heard story after horrifying story about women who’ve fallen victims to vicious exes. But, sadly, this isn’t a gender exclusive nightmare; revenge porn happens to men too.

This week, it’s been reported images of NRL rising star Bryce Cartwright, who plays for Penrith Panthers, were posted on Facebook without his consent.

The Daily Telegraph reported his ex Brittany Hura, who’s said to have been in a relationship with Cartwright for six years, posted a naked photo and screenshots of explicit text messages online.

“Jilted” ex-girlfriend of league star Bryce Cartwright charged after allegedly threatening to kill him. https://t.co/f0fW1Vbd53 — The Daily Telegraph (@dailytelegraph) December 13, 2016

It didn’t stop there. She also reportedly posted a ranting video in which she said he would “be dead soon, bro. Yeah, in the grave even. Six feet under, bro. Six feet under. You don’t even know what’s coming at you.”

In another furious Facebook post (thought to be connected to rumours he’d cheated) she ranted, “NO! I will not stand for this. Women deserve more than this. We deserve respect. If you can’t respect your woman then have the decency to leave.”

She has a very bizarre and deluded definition of respect.

On Tuesday, Hura was charged with using a “carriage service to menace/harass or offend and stalk/intimidation with the intent to fear physical harm”. This is the law some states are currently leaning on until specific revenge porn legislation is introduced.

In 2013, Victoria was the first state to react and make it a criminal offence to share intimate imagery, texts or videos of an ex partner with the intent to cause harm or distress, or to distribute images without consent. Offenders can face up to two years imprisonment for distributing images and up to one year for threatening to distribute images. Specific legislation was introduced in South Australia in October 2016. NSW will be the third state when it brings in legislation next year.

It’s been reported revenge porn affects one in 10 Australians. The majority of victims to date have been women, their most intimate moments splashed onto websites and shared viciously by trolls. But there are male victims too, and they can’t be ignored. We have to take all revenge porn seriously, including the instances involving women sharing photos of men without their consent.

Speaking on Triple M’s Summer Grill on Tuesday, former Panthers centre Ryan Girdler said, “A woman scorned. It’s a bit of a lesson isn’t it for the young guys coming through. If you’re in the public domain, you’re sort of public property in a sense and if you’re in a long term relationship and you think you’re possibly never going to break up, you just need to be careful with what you do because it’s news.”

There’s a saying, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” I heard someone say this week it’s a myth that jilted women act out of spite. Many like to believe all evil perpetrators are male. Unfortunately, they’re wrong.