Pauline Phillips, who was better known for nearly 60 years as Abigail Van Buren, the author of the syndicated column Dear Abby, died Wednesday in Minneapolis at 94, her syndicate said in a statement.

In an obituary, my colleague Margalit Fox described the column as “a forum for the public discussion of private problems, read by tens of millions of people in hundreds of newspapers around the world.”

Here on The Lede, as well as on The New York Times’s Twitter and Facebook pages, I asked for you to share the wisdom that you thought best exemplified the Dear Abby column. You did not disappoint in what you shared.

The Dear Abby advice that rang truest to many readers who answered our call was also the exchange at the conclusion of the New York Times obituary: her advice for a homeowner worried about a same-sex couple taking residence nearby. Many readers shared variations of this story.

@nytimes In response to a reader complaint on a gay couple moving to the neighborhood, “You could move…” #TellNYT — Tim (@dailytimbits) 17 Jan 13

But it wasn’t only Mrs. Phillips’s concise words in defense of gay men and women that endeared her to our respondents. Her words of advice for restaurant guests served by working stiffs were also shared:

“Dear Abby” who has died at 94 once wrote “If you can’t afford to tip, you can’t afford to eat out.” Waiters loved her for that. #TellNYT — Bob Ingle (@bobingle99) 17 Jan 13

Readers additionally had a fond remembrance of the concern showed by Abigail Van Buren for victims of domestic violence, as well as her general relationship advice.

@nytimes Long before there was the term “battered woman”, she advised women to think of their kids & leave abusive husbands. #TellNYT — Liz Pullen (@nwjerseyliz) 17 Jan 13

#TellNYT Is your life better off with him or without him? — Andrea Spector (@accentprof) 17 Jan 13

Others saw more ways that Dear Abby dispensed life-saving advice.

#TellNYT She let everyone know there was such a thing as AA and NA, thus saving many lives. — emily xyz (@jerseymaiden) 17 Jan 13

@nytimes: “Dear Abby” column? #TellNYT //30 years ago…When blinded by oncoming car’s lights, focus on white line. — Bruce Lobitz (@BLobitz) 17 Jan 13

Multiple replies, like one by Vanessa Lynch on Facebook, also cited the phrase “Please God, I’m only 17!” The quotation comes from the last words of an allegorical Dear Abby column about the dangers to the lives of teen-age drivers.

The weightier life lessons from Dear Abby did not overshadow some of her other tips that were more quotidian, although no less useful. Emily in the comments shared advice from Mrs. Phillips on how to shuffle a deck of cards.

I’m not sure that it’s exactly helpful, but it’s definitely stuck with me for many years. My family and I love to play card games, and quite a few years ago, my dad read in Dear Abby that the best way to ensure the cards are shuffled well is to shuffle at least seven times. To this day, I still shuffle my cards at least seven times… It’s gotten to be a good habit!

She wasn’t the only one to remember that tip, or some of Dear Abby’s other domestic advice.

toilet paper direction Thanks Dear ABBY! #TELLNYT — coxson (@coxson) 17 Jan 13

What Dear Abbey taught me: A touch of lipstick does wonders. #TellNYT — Catherine Marenghi (@Marenghi) 17 Jan 13

The domestic advice in Dear Abby also extended to parenting in the face of changing domestic mores. TexasR shared the following in the comments:

I also liked the advice for the parents whose daughter was coming to visit with her live-in boyfriend. The parents wanted them to stay in separate bedrooms, since they weren’t married. Abby told them to arrange for separate bedrooms, but ignore the footsteps in the hallway at night.

But a commenter, Larry Hayes, may have shared some of the most useful Dear Abby advice that applies to people of all ages in most situations in life.