"She's beautiful", "He's hot", "They fine". Adjectives one uses these days to describe their newly labeled boyfriend or girlfriend. Then you ask, what do you have in common? Typical response these days, "I don't know, but she/he is fine though". Okay, what do you talk about? Most reply, "I don't know, stuff. But the sex is awesome!", almost like sex is a hardcore lift session at ones local gym! Crazy! In todays world, when communication is limited, it's a blessing if your friend/acquaintance knows the first AND last name of the person they labeled their boyfriend/girlfriend.

You see your friend/acquaintance a few weeks later, and ask how the relationship is going. "I don't know, he/she has changed" they reply. In reality, they didn't change, the situation changed because they actually started to show their true self, their soul. Good, bad, or indifferent, the soul, one's true self, is housed in an avatar we all first find appealing at first and "fall in love". Thats when lust vs. love comes into play. The most beautiful avatar may have the ugliest soul, and the not-so-perfect avatar may have the most beautiful soul. We as human beings are so impatient to put a "label" on everything in life, we don't take the time to appreciate the process and let the relationship mesh and grow like it should, we rather slap a "sticky label " on it and hope it sticks, literally. Most of the time, the glue loosens and things fall apart, just like a label on a file folder.

The point I am trying to make is this, treat relationships as you would a financial investment before making a commitment. Take the time not be blindsided by lust of the exterior avatar, but the love of the soul housed in that avatar. Make every date a meeting to learn more about that person to see if you are both running on the same "frequency", to see if your souls connect, not just your eyes to whatever body part you find appealing. Life is all about patience, balance, and connection. Once you figure that out, one will be a much happier person.