We are very grateful to those courageous church members and leaders who were willing to be publicly outed as LGBT allies. I worked closely with gay members who were seeking a friend at church as well as allies who were willing to be a friend. I discovered, over time, that I had actually developed a list of members who were leaving the church. Awareness of church policies on LGBT issues seems to lead inexorably to disillusionment with the church. It certainly did for us.