How to Spice Up the Bedroom: 84 Easy, but Sexy Ideas

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We present to you the list of 79 hottest ideas and tips on how to spice up the bedroom.

Life nowadays is extremely busy and most of us, can’t find any time to do what we love the most. Another victim of a particular lifestyle is – our sex life.

We start neglecting our loved ones because somehow that is the area of life where we can ”save” most of the time. Not only does sex life suffer, but the relationship itself is on the line.

Our life & time is not spared from that, and we try and battle the problem each and every day.

We compiled a few easy to digest lists that will inspire you:

Let’s stop beating around the bush – and let’s get to it.

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How to spice up the bedroom

1. Just find time to be with your partner. This is actually the best advice. Schedule it if you must.

2. Spend some time just kissing.

3. Massage each other – you don’t have to be a pro in massaging. Just try and see where it goes 🙂 The massage will just slide into sex.

4. Touch each other private parts – sensually.

5. Suck and lick your partner’s erogenous zones like neck, chest, belly, back of his or her knees and elbows.

6. Try erotic roleplay.

7. Use Fifty shades of grey feather tickler to gently tease your hog-tied partner.

8. Use lube while having sex. Try it out! (Read Why Everyone Needs Lube?)

9. Be naked all day. Both of you.

10. Explore Kama Sutra sex positions.

11. Take photographs of each other.

12. Surprise your partner with quickie sex.

13. Do it in your old childhood bedroom.

14. Invest in sex furniture to add a variety of play options. Have her ass perfectly exposed, or her pussy served like the finest dinner with the Liberator Wedge or with a bit more expensive option – Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo.

15. Buy a dildo or a vibrator.

16. Watch a porn movie together.

17. Handcuff your partner (this cuffs make an awesome gift too).

18. Play adult sex games. Read 5 Hot Sex Games for Couples (#3 & #4 are truly dirty) to get ideas.

19. Watch your partner as she or he masturbates, join later.

20. Set a perfect mood with a scented candle (makes a great gift too) and rose petals.

21. Play some sexy, relaxing music.

22. Communicate your wishes and desires to your partner.

23. Make one change to your sexual routine.

24. Pick up a stranger in the club.

25. Visit a sex club together.

26. Videotape yourself.

27. Surprise her wearing nothing.

28. Explore domination and submission.

29. Introduce sensory deprivation to your sex life. Blindfold your partner so they have to rely on other senses. And then run Wartenberg pinwheel across their skin.

30. Use whipped cream during foreplay.

31. Perform oral sex on your partner.

32. Tip for her – head of the penis is the most sensitive part while the area under the head of the penis is the most responsive part.

33. Tip for him – be assertive.

34. Change the power dynamic!

35. 69 is fun for both of you.

36. Buy quality anal lube and try anal.

37. Cook something together while wearing only a pin-up style apron.

38. Treat your lover like a queen/ king for a whole day.

39. Take sex out of your bedroom.

40. Go to a sex shop and choose a new sex toy or just surprise your partner with the eggplant.

41. Tip for him – the clitoris is considered to be ”woman’s love button”. Don’t neglect it.

42. Try silent sex. No sound can come out.

More ways to spice up the bedroom

43. Eat aphrodisiac foods like chocolate, garlic, asparagus, oysters, eggs, ginger, honey, truffles.

44. Try out different sex positions.

45. Explore bondage (see things to use for bondage and beginner bondage knots or bondage tape if you don’t feel like learning the knots).

46. Change up foreplay. Put a silk sheet on the floor and cover yourselves in baby oil.

47. Lick chocolate from your partner’s body.

48. Videotape your action.

49. Indulge in nautical role-play and be her ship’s captain.

50. Surprise your partner with a striptease. Just be confident while performing, everything else is not important.

51. Try out wax play.

52. Have sex next to a mirror.

53. Photograph each other.

54. Engage in sexting before you meet up in the bedroom.

55. Learn how to talk dirty to her. And not be an idiot at the same time.

56. Don’t forget about earlobes & ears.

57. Finger her.

58. Play a drinking game than have sex.

59. Make out more and kiss it as you mean it.

60. Make use of the pillows. Place pillows underneath yourself for extra pleasure.

61. Every girl deserves a good spanking.

62. Write a sex bucket list together and start crossing things off the list.

63. Surprise her with a sex session.

64. Give your partner a lap dance wearing sexy lingerie. Because life is too short to wear boring lingerie.

65. Undress your partner seductively.

66. Make a bed fort and read Erotica to each other.

67. Be more vocal about things you liked. ‘MMMMM’, ‘That felt so good’,…

68. Play with his testicles.

69. Make him last longer in bed with a cock ring.

70. Bath together.

71. Try doing housework naked.

72. Focus on eye-contact during foreplay and sex.

73. Play with your completely restrained partner (review).

74. Read a sexy book or magazine together.

75. Wake up each other with oral sex. Make it a surprise.

76. Have sex while standing (don’t lean on anything).

77. Have a quickie.

78. Start and finish a 30-day sex challenge.

79. Dress up as your partner’s fantasy and surprise him when he comes home from work.

80. If both of you are comfortable enough – bring in the third person.

81. Make bedroom rules, like no same-sex position this week, or every time we have sex – it starts with oral first.

82. DIY time! Make sex coupons and have fun with them.

83. Buy a remote-controlled toy and go on a naughty date. You can play with the remote, while she wears it underneath her clothes (Cat lover? Meet Paula).

84. Go through every idea in The eBook of kinky sex ideas!

How to approach the list of ideas on how to spice up the bedroom

Taught by our own experience, just reading tips and ideas will not spice up things a lot.

We used to talk about ideas, what we can do, what we could and should do, but not a lot happened. Well, a lot happened, but never those naughty things. That is why we recommend the following

Take a calendar and schedule all your naughty activities. It may sound stupid, it definitely lacks spontaneity but in the end, if you stick to your schedule, you’ll have more fun and more sex.

Work on it

Having better sex and having sex more often is something you need to work on. You have to allocate your time and will because just by mentioning it you won’t be able to change a lot. Maybe, for a short amount of time (days), but it will not become a habit.

Talk with your partner to make a strategy and start doing it! It doesn’t have to be 7 times weekly. Start with 2 or 3 times, depending on your schedule and work from there. After some time you’ll look forward to each of your ”appointments” and then, slowly increase if there is time, will, and/ or energy.

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