You know that saying, do something that scares you every day?

It’s such good advice.

I’ve been doing it all month. Every day this month, I’ve been doing things that have made me uncomfortable or that I’ve been afraid to do. Here’s a peek into my month:

· I did my first (and then 2nd, 3rd and 4th) Facebook Live video on my business page.

· I asked to be a guest on 3 different podcasts.

· I went up and introduced myself to 4 people I didn’t know at an event.

· I sent an email to a friend I had a falling out with more than a decade ago and haven’t spoken to since.

And one of my favourites:

· At checkout, I asked a cashier, with a straight face, if I could have all of my groceries for free. (He was embarrassed. I was embarrassed. It was awesome. I laughed in the parking lot.)

All of these things scared me before I did them. I had all of these thoughts of “what would they think” and “this could be so uncomfortable” and “it will go badly” trying to keep me from doing them.

But the point of doing something that scares you every day is not just so you can get the result (I wasn’t actually trying to get my groceries for free)…though you’re more likely to get big results when you take big actions.

It’s so that you can experience all the feelings that come up when you do the scary thing, and teach yourself that you can handle them.

By doing this, you build confidence: in yourself, what you can do, and what you can handle. (And let me tell you as someone who’s throwing herself at fear all month long, YOU-CAN-HANDLE-IT)

When I was done daring myself to get out there and do the thing, I’d always check in to see how I felt afterwards. I was always so surprised at how I would think: Wow, that wasn’t that bad. I can do this. I can handle this. That wasn’t a big deal.

Courage is a muscle, and you need to use it regularly to make it stronger. When you do, you build confidence and show yourself exactly what you can do, and when you’re confident in yourself and your abilities, there’s no stopping you.

Learning how to stop avoiding fear and go towards it is a skill, but it’s something you can learn. Think about how many other things you would do — in your life, in your business, in your limited time on this planet — if it wasn’t slowing you down.

If you want to build your self confidence and want actionable tools and weekly support to do it, in whatever area of your life you could use it, I’m your Coach — let’s talk! Who would you be in a week, a month, or a year if you weren’t afraid of being afraid, and built that confidence of yours up to the moon? Let’s get building!