[tw: abuse, concern trolling, intersections with sexism, ageism, and ableism]

Thin privilege is being able to go the grocery store without an employee making a point of commenting on your nutrition and appearance. Fat phobia + sexism involve how no matter how fat or “not conventionally attractive” a man can be, he still thinks a woman’s looks are his business and he’s entitled to commenting on how fat she is.

Today, I went to buy a few drinks at the local grocery store. The (fat) sales clerk (who also insists on calling me “Miss,” by the way) insisted on me buying bread “as usual,” but I refused because I had other plans. He then commented loudly on how concerned he was because I used to be “so skinny” and all this bread I buy was making me so fat. I told him it was none of his business and that I felt pretty good in my skin. He didn’t apologize.

It’s the second time it’s happened with the same seller, too. The first time, I gave him the benefit of the doubt –it helps that I had body image issues. I’ve been a regular at this store for over five years, but this time I won’t be going anymore, except to tell the (fat) owner exactly why. Years ago, I put on weight because I developed health issues as a result of being harassed at my previous job. I’m on anxiety medication, and now my weight (along with my relatively young age) is an excuse for harassment at my new job –the real reason being that people are jealous I have a graduate degree from abroad– so fuck this guy. Excuse my French, but fuck this guy’s face. Because of course all I need during my free time is more abuse and sexism.

Also, bread is such an outrageous food item. How dare I eat bread?