VoidedWinter Tue 02-Jan-18 14:09:05

So I became a father again around 7 months ago and my son is amazing! I have an 8 year old from a previous relationship who I look after every other weekend.



My query today is on the topic of "me time".



My partner and I had a little tiff (shouting, storming out, not speaking, elbows in bed. You know, normal stuff!) all because I explained that I was being a little moody and withdrawn that day as I was beginning to feel tired, stressed, worn out and generally just a little despondent. This all linked to me not having a little time to do things I enjoyed, reading, watching films without falling asleep etc.



Now I did explain that I am well aware that this is how things are these days but just wanted my partner to be aware of how I was feeling, generally just wanting a reply somewhere along the lines of. I know, its poo, but it will get better.



Instead I got the, well you get to go to work everyday, and you don't wake during the night etc. (partners breastfeeding and I'm a really heavy sleeper, thunder from the gods is not like to wake me!)



Now before I get lynched, I am more than aware of the amazing job my partner is doing and try to let her know this most days. Yes I can be a little lax with housework but I do try my best to do things that need doing.



Now aside from me explaining how I felt, the argument kicked off because I was shouted from downstairs to come and give my partner a hand sorting out the wee ones dinner. I shouted back I was coming in a minute, as I was just putting away the ironing I'd been doing for the last hour and was sorting some clothing out from my eldests wardrobe (5-6 years pants for an 8 year old! they need chucking!)



When I got downstairs I was hit with a torrent of abuse for not coming when asked and leaving my partner to do everything. I realised my error and apologised, offering to help with anything else that needs doing, leaving my remaining ironing for a little while. Clearly this wasn't god enough and I got a little more abuse, which led to my partner storming off, not speaking to me, and me now seeking some help on here!



Did I do something completely wrong, am I being harshly treated?



thoughts and opinions greatly appreciated!