When people become friends with benefits (FWBs), what is it that they truly want from that arrangement? Are they just in it for the “benefits” (that is, sex)? Or are they perhaps looking for more? I’ve conducted some research on this subject and here’s what I found.

I surveyed 411 adults online, all of whom said they currently had at least one FWB. Participants ranged in age from 18 to 65 and most (86%) were heterosexual. Everyone was asked what they hoped would come of their FWB arrangement in the future, which could mean staying FWBs long-term, becoming romantic partners, becoming friends only, or having no relationship of any kind.

It turned out that men and women provided significantly different answers to this question. While the vast majority of women (69%) wanted their relationship to change in some way, the majority of men (60%) wanted to keep things just as they are. In other words, women were more likely to see their FWBs as a temporary state, whereas men were more likely to see their FWBs as an end state.

For a look at which specific types of relationship changes men and women were most interested in, check out the infographic below.