Recently, an observant poster (Grace_Like_Rain) started a thread on the singles forum on here concerning the nature of the "bad boy/bad girl" archetype and how it can seems so romantically appealing to people.



That got me thinking, what about Nice Guys and Nice Girls? There's a saying somewhere that says "nice guys finish last", and you hear similar rumors about nice girls. In fact, I've been turned down when asking for a date numerous times because, according to the girl (even if she's Christian), I'm just too much of a nice guy. I've met girls who have the same problem. They meet this guy they like and, even if he's Christian, he'll turn her down because she's too much of a "nice girl".



So what about it? Why do people find Nice Guys and Nice Girls so undesirable? What's wrong with being "too nice" or "open and compassionate."



From what I've seen, most relationships between Christian girls and Bad Boys or Christian boys and Bad Girls usually end badly... sometimes with a lot more repercussions than heartbreak.



Me personally? I think Nice people rock and we deserve more credit! Give us a chance, people! We're nice because we're worth our weight in gold, not because we're suck-ups.



I guess my question is this... Why do nice guys and nice girls have such a hard time in finding romance, but bad boys/girls seem to draw the suckers like flies, usually with a destructive endgame.



That's how it was for the first girl I fell for. She was a nice girl that was my best friend for years. We kinda had a thing going on, and both of us were Christian. Along comes this dirty-dressed drug-dealing slob into my high school and abracadabra, that's four years of the girl liking me right out the window. And all this because I'm too much of a "nice guy" she says. But this unchristian dude that never showers is somehow the cream of the crop because he's a drug dealing "bad boy."



Needless to say, he really injured my friend the girl, and she would never talk to me again after that because she fell back on the old cliche of "all men are the same" and never gave me a chance. Go figure...



Here's my ultimatum people. Listen up: Nice Guys and Nice Girls will not hurt you. They are better for your health. Give them a chance to shine...