Meet the people getting off on breastfeeding their partners

Meet the people getting off on breastfeeding their partners

Adult nursing – the act of breastfeeding another adult – has been documented for centuries. The Ancient Roman story ‘Caritus Romana’ tells of Pero, a woman who secretly lets her own father, Cimon, suckle on her breast in order to save his life when he is imprisoned and sentenced to death by starvation.

The story ends happily enough – Pero’s sneakiness is discovered by a jailer but her dedication impresses Roman authorities and they pardon Cimon.

To modern eyes it all sounds a little bit, well, strange. We generally consider breastfeeding to be restricted to mothers and babies.

But many adults still do it, even the briefest search on social media brings up plenty of talk about Adult Nursing Relationships (ANR).




So what’s the appeal?

Joel fed from his wife after both her pregnancies.

‘My wife was pumping in bed to release pressure and the other breast started to leak,’ he tells Metro.co.uk. ‘She suggested that I try it and it led to me drinking both breasts dry while we had sex.

‘It was incredibly erotic, sexy and set off a thing for it in me. The thought of it had never caused an arousal before.

‘To be clear, this is not an adult nursing or infantile pretence. It’s very much two consenting adults having sex and using that particular capability as part of the sexual practice.

‘When she was expecting our second child it was something I was actively looking forward to. I got off on it and my wife – while not really understanding why – enjoyed the fact that I was enjoying that aspect of her.

‘I have no doubt that certain fetishes have a psychological trigger. This one though, for me personally, was just an intensely personal, sexually pleasurable and highly erotic act.’

I have very sensitive nipples and every little touch is a spark, so the act of suckling can be very arousing – Sophie

Can a person really lactate on demand? It takes some doing, but it is possible for a woman to produce milk, regardless of her age or whether she is breastfeeding already.

Human breasts are designed to produce milk and will do so through stimulation alone if it’s carried out regularly enough.

Sophie is working towards inducing lactation purely for intimate adult purposes after having children earlier in life.

‘I had my daughter when I was 18 years old,’ she tells us.

‘I nursed her for two years and then came my son, who I also nursed for two years.

‘At that time in my life I was young and modest – I would have absolutely freaked if anyone had suggested an Adult Nursing Relationship at that point.

‘My milk was only for the nourishment of my children and my breasts were just functional.

‘When I was 34 I met a couple online. The wife would talk about her breasts, wishing they were full and all kinds of things leading to adult breastfeeding, but I wasn’t completely sure what it was all about. I was added to a ANR chat room and my eyes were opened to this world of adults who enjoyed breast feeding.



‘Back then I was intrigued from a different view – I love women and breasts and nipples and wanted to be the one doing the suckling. But after a while it became something that I wanted to do from the opposite side.

‘I acquired a pump from a friend and started pumping away. I researched my birth control and the one I am on only uses progestin, which is perfect. Any birth control that uses oestrogen will inhibit your milk production.

‘I currently partake in dry nursing with my partners. For me it’s a bonding time; a time for me to take his head in my hands and nurture him for long periods.

‘For me ultimately it is sexual and sensual, but it is also very important to me that I do find a true adult breastfeeding partner who has the patience and focus to suckle for long periods and who has the desire to feed from me and consume my milk.

‘The feeling of that intimacy with your partner can be the most bonding thing you do apart from sex.’

It is worth noting that there is no scientific proof that breastmilk has any health benefits for adults. A 2015 study reported in the Royal Society of Medicine stated that ‘purported benefits do not stand up clinically’ and ‘no scientific study evidences that direct adult consumption of human milk for medicinal properties offers anything more than a placebo effect’.

There are also risks involved in consuming milk from women who have not undergone thorough health screening.

Risks of adult breastfeeding to be aware of: Soreness and damage to the nipple

The extra breast stimulation can cause your body to produce too much breast milk

Infectious disease can be spread through breastfeeding

Yeast infections can be passed through the breast, too

Nipple stimulation can trigger early labour, so be careful breastfeeding if you’re pregnant

An increase in nipple stimulation and feeding can cause mastitis; inflammation that causes the breasts to become swollen and painful

Irregular milk expression can lead to clogged milk ducts and infections



But what about potential emotional benefits?


When nursing, a woman experiences a release in oxytocin, – also released during arousal and orgasm – which creates positive feelings of bonding and pleasure.

I asked sex education specialist Melissa McFarlane for her thoughts. She told us: ‘Adult breastfeeding is a great way to build intimacy and arousal between partners.

‘For those already lactating, the breast stimulation provided by your partner can help increase supply, which avoids relying on potentially dangerous drugs to produce the milk that you need.’

Lactation.wiki is a US based online resource for those interested in erotic lactation.

Subtitled Let the Bond Flow, it is full of information about finding suitable partners, inducing milk when not actively breastfeeding and even a ready-made set of lecture note templates for anyone thinking of starting up evening classes in erotic lactation.

I spoke to one of the site’s staff about the appeal of adult nursing.

What made you realize you were interested in erotic lactation?



I have always been a boob guy but it wasn’t until I watched some [lactation] content online that it occurred to me that it was a possibility. It also makes logical sense as a boob guy to wonder what breast milk tastes like.

Do you indulge in EL yourself? If so, how did you work out the practicalities?

I was able to find several women online via personals and FetLife, including adult wet nurses. I have also helped to induce a few women. The biggest obstacle to finding a steady partner is overcoming preconceptions of infantilism and emphasizing deeper emotional intimacy.”


Why do you think you enjoy something which, to most people, is meant only for small children?

I have found that it is quite a deep emotional and intimate experience between partners that helps bond them together. This activity also makes you and your partner spend time together on a regular basis. I see nothing wrong with that.

What advice would you give to someone who wants to try erotic lactation?

I would tell them to visit Lactation.wiki and learn as much as possible about what is involved in inducing lactation with a partner, seeking an adult wet-nurse, or meeting others who are interested in integrating this lifestyle into their daily lives.

Names have been changed and some comments edited for length and/or clarity.

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