If you are a male over the age of 20, and you have never had sex, you are one of the millions of adult virgin men living in the United States. American culture places an unrelenting stigma on adult virgins, treating them as oddities or, even worse, as psychologically and sexually flawed beings who have never been wholly integrated into adult society.

Recent virginity studies have shown that adult virgins are much more common than one might suspect. With the odds of an adult male having had no female partner being around 1 in 36, one thing is certain: If you are an adult virgin, you are not alone!

There are two primary reasons why a man has not had sex by the age of 21:

He chooses not to have sex and is not seeking a sexual encounter. He wants to have sex, but something is preventing him from having his first sexual encounter.

If you are of the second sort, you have likely discovered this article because you want to have sex for the first time and you’re considering the possibility of losing your virginity to a sex worker. You may be surprised to learn that there is a safe and legal way to lose your virginity to a professional sexual service provider.

Why Lose Your Virginity To A Prostitute?

In 2009 Cheryl Lavin, a relationship advice columnist for the Chicago Sun-Times, stirred up some controversy when she suggested that a 40-year-old virgin visit a prostitute. “Sexual experience equals confidence equals attraction,” wrote Lavin, insinuating that women find sexually immature men less attractive.

It is certainly true that the confidence that comes with experience will strengthen a man’s ability to cope with adult sexual situations, but sexual experience isn’t necessarily easy for adult virgins to acquire. The reason why an adult male virgin usually contemplates an encounter with a prostitute is because having sex for the first time is very difficult for someone trapped in the “virginity cycle.”

Some men, by the time they hit their twenties, enter into this cycle. The cycle is what happens when a man has never had sex and the resulting anxiety and lack of confidence causes him to fail time and again when either seeking sex or when attempting to perform sexually. These failures lead to more anxiety and, as time moves unremittingly forward, his attempts at sex are further and fewer between. Before he knows it, years have passed and he finds that he is a 30, 40, or even 60-year-old virgin. The cycle is the worst thing that could happen to a virgin because his perceived sexual inadequacy causes him to miss out on years of potentially great relationships – not to mention great sex.

Visiting a sex worker just might be the ideal way to break this dreaded cycle, because an adult virgin goes into the situation knowing that he will have sex with the prostitute. The prostitute functions as a sympathetic service provider, using her prowess and sensuality to deflower and educate her virgin client so that he is prepared to re-enter the world as a confident, sexually capable lover.

Legal Prostitutes And Adult Virgins

Prostitution is illegal in most parts of the United States. It is unsafe and unwise to engage street walkers or illegal escorts with virginity issues, as these ladies may not be adequately tested for STD’s and likely won’t possess the necessary sensitivity and patience to appropriately pleasure and instruct an adult virgin.

Only the state of Nevada has licensed brothels where a discreet encounter can legally take place between a virgin and a prostitute. Legal courtesans in Nevada have been safely and satisfactorily servicing virgins for decades. Here’s what several of these women, all highly experienced with virgin clients, have to say about the virgin/prostitute experience…



Over my years at a Nevada brothel I’ve had the honor of de-virginizing several men, both young and old. Why do men come to us to lose their v-card? Because we are professionals who can act as lover and teacher. We are neutral yet caring. We want you to love sex as much as we do, and we can show you how to do just that. –Char



Some of my favorite sessions are with people who are inexperienced and have yet to explore their sexuality. I like teaching them how to enjoy not only themselves but how to please a woman. Sometimes people are shy about telling a person they are interested in that they are still a virgin. In a brothel atmosphere we’re open to sex and make it easy for a virgin to loose their inhibitions and test the waters before sharing it with their loved one. We can teach you sexual skills that will make anyone squirm. Losing your V-Card is a very big deal, there is a lot of nervousness and thoughts of “will I be good enough” as well as other questions running through your mind. Brothels allow virgins to communicate with professional sex workers where we can put their mind at ease. Knowing that all the ladies are tested by a doctor weekly makes it much easier for them seeing as though they are quite worried at times about catching a disease. Virgins are the best lovers, it’s exciting knowing they are a clean slate I can mold into exactly what turns a woman on. –Riley



Enjoying your first time at a brothel is definitely a one of a kind experience… You can email one of us ladies ahead of time to build a bit of a connection before your visit so that when you arrive, you’re a bit more comfortable and we both feel like we know each other. Once you’re here we can talk about what type of fantasy you want to live out while “losing your v-card”. It can be anything from a one on one, cuddling, sensual GFE style party to a full on 2 girl, or any type of fetish that you have had your mind on, or maybe even something you saw in your favorite movie or porn flick. This is a custom made experience for you and you only! Don’t have a story to share with your friends that starts off with you saying “Well, it wasn’t what I wanted but…” Make it something that you will forever remember and will bring a big goofy smile to your face every time you think back on it. –Olivia



Recently I had taken a young man’s virginity and he was thrilled that he took a chance and made the trip. He left complimenting my patience and my sensual guidance. A lot of men are afraid of performance and worry about losing their woman of interest because of not knowing how to satisfy a woman. At a Nevada brothel, a courtesan like myself will show men the many ways to satisfy a woman, we’ll make a virgin a skilled expert in bed, and we will build his confidence till he meets Mrs Right. There is nothing like a safe and clean environment to explore your untouched needs. I know how to ease a man’s nerves and build him up before I let him leave my bedroom. –Red Diamonds



Let’s face it, losing your virginity is always going to be a big deal. Whether you’re 21 or 101, you’re probably going to be very nervous about your first time. It’s common to wonder whether you are good, bad, quick, slow, big or small, along with many other concerns, but at a legal brothel there is no need to worry. We provide a safe and pressure-free environment and we are not going to judge you. The lady of your choice will guide you through an exciting time, so you can relax and enjoy yourself. She might even teach you a thing or two. We are also educated in safe-sex to help put your mind at ease. Once the big V is out of the way, you’d be surprised how much more confident you’ll feel about your next sexual encounter. –Emma