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Posted on 14-01-2012 at 12.04PM I am glad someone else put the incorrect misconception/ assumptions right on this one, everyones circumstances differ, and no it is not always best for a child to have an irresponsible parent on the birth cert who wants nothing to do with the child.. sheesh! I also know of guys who grew up single handedly and are fine, one even fed back to say not to believe any of the bull**** people want to say on how a child needs both parents.. they don't, I didn't and I have come out fine, good job, family of my own etc, and not just him I might add, I also met another girl at the train stn who grew up similar and felt the same way, and they knew their Mum was protecting them that is all so never held it against her either. That is more valid than someone's own personal view of how they think a child needs both parents. In an ideal world like another already said, it would be great, if they were fit and the decent responsible type of parent yes, but if not they can actually do more harm than good. I never put my ex on it either, and that was a good thing, very pleased I never did, to date he's still never bothered, though I rightly did ensure he paid maintenance as my child does deserve that much, yes, at the least. I got my child's passports, and can go overseas on holidays no problem. If I'd put him on the certificate he'd likely have prevented us doing all this out of spite. I also got granted sole custody and sole guardianship (which is parental rights). so the most he can apply for now is limited access, to date he's not bothered, but then all his threats he liked to make on me never happened. Sometimes a child is better off, and all they need is one decent parent to come out aok and be a good role model to them. You can also fill in the gap with another male figure and better role model instead, my Dad is filling in that gap and he's brilliant as well as very protective of children. Importantly my child has his needs met, and knows he is very much loved, is very social and loves his Montessori nursery and plays well with other children. Also, I got a birth cert like my own, that only shows the childs details on it not the parents.. that is nice for my child. My additional copy which is my copy has my details on it too for when I needed it to get his passport. Seeing his own copy can't hurt him, as I say.. mine is my copy, once they have their passports it is easy to renew anyhow without the need for the birth cert with my name on it thereafter.. once he is older to renew it himself later on. Another thing you may want to wisely look into is making a Will. The self packs via Whsmith are fantastic and legally binding, yet inexpensive. I have my will drawn up that states if anything happened to me my child goes to my parents, they have been in his life from the start too (unlike my ex) and all are bonded to one another as I am too to my son. Glad you found out for yourself via CSA OP, wise move x



I never put my ex on it either, and that was a good thing, very pleased I never did, to date he's still never bothered, though I rightly did ensure he paid maintenance as my child does deserve that much, yes, at the least.



I got my child's passports, and can go overseas on holidays no problem. If I'd put him on the certificate he'd likely have prevented us doing all this out of spite. I also got granted sole custody and sole guardianship (which is parental rights). so the most he can apply for now is limited access, to date he's not bothered, but then all his threats he liked to make on me never happened. Sometimes a child is better off, and all they need is one decent parent to come out aok and be a good role model to them. You can also fill in the gap with another male figure and better role model instead, my Dad is filling in that gap and he's brilliant as well as very protective of children. Importantly my child has his needs met, and knows he is very much loved, is very social and loves his Montessori nursery and plays well with other children.



Also, I got a birth cert like my own, that only shows the childs details on it not the parents.. that is nice for my child. My additional copy which is my copy has my details on it too for when I needed it to get his passport. Seeing his own copy can't hurt him, as I say.. mine is my copy, once they have their passports it is easy to renew anyhow without the need for the birth cert with my name on it thereafter.. once he is older to renew it himself later on.



Another thing you may want to wisely look into is making a Will. The self packs via Whsmith are fantastic and legally binding, yet inexpensive. I have my will drawn up that states if anything happened to me my child goes to my parents, they have been in his life from the start too (unlike my ex) and all are bonded to one another as I am too to my son.



Glad you found out for yourself via CSA OP, wise move x I am glad someone else put the incorrect misconception/ assumptions right on this one, everyones circumstances differ, and no it is not always best for a child to have an irresponsible parent on the birth cert who wants nothing to do with the child.. sheesh! I also know of guys who grew up single handedly and are fine, one even fed back to say not to believe any of the bull**** people want to say on how a child needs both parents.. they don't, I didn't and I have come out fine, good job, family of my own etc, and not just him I might add, I also met another girl at the train stn who grew up similar and felt the same way, and they knew their Mum was protecting them that is all so never held it against her either. That is more valid than someone's own personal view of how they think a child needs both parents. In an ideal world like another already said, it would be great, if they were fit and the decent responsible type of parent yes, but if not they can actually do more harm than good.I never put my ex on it either, and that was a good thing, very pleased I never did, to date he's still never bothered, though I rightly did ensure he paid maintenance as my child does deserve that much, yes, at the least.I got my child's passports, and can go overseas on holidays no problem. If I'd put him on the certificate he'd likely have prevented us doing all this out of spite. I also got granted sole custody and sole guardianship (which is parental rights). so the most he can apply for now is limited access, to date he's not bothered, but then all his threats he liked to make on me never happened. Sometimes a child is better off, and all they need is one decent parent to come out aok and be a good role model to them. You can also fill in the gap with another male figure and better role model instead, my Dad is filling in that gap and he's brilliant as well as very protective of children. Importantly my child has his needs met, and knows he is very much loved, is very social and loves his Montessori nursery and plays well with other children.Also, I got a birth cert like my own, that only shows the childs details on it not the parents.. that is nice for my child. My additional copy which is my copy has my details on it too for when I needed it to get his passport. Seeing his own copy can't hurt him, as I say.. mine is my copy, once they have their passports it is easy to renew anyhow without the need for the birth cert with my name on it thereafter.. once he is older to renew it himself later on.Another thing you may want to wisely look into is making a Will. The self packs via Whsmith are fantastic and legally binding, yet inexpensive. I have my will drawn up that states if anything happened to me my child goes to my parents, they have been in his life from the start too (unlike my ex) and all are bonded to one another as I am too to my son.Glad you found out for yourself via CSA OP, wise move x