What do you think about being straight/wanting to have a romantic relationship with a guy someday and being a radfem? Like many lesbian radfems argue that those people are not aligned well with the cause, handmaidens, etc but since you're straight I would like your take on it. Thanks!

I’m straight, but I’m not an authority on anything. It flatters me that you would ask me for my opinion, but I think the most important thing is that you make decisions for yourself and not worry about what someone on the internet thinks.

Personally, I think it’s important that radical feminism remain a realistic political movement and not a cult. If you’re straight, it’s unlikely that you would be satisfied in an same-sex romantic relationship. Maybe you would be happy being celibate, but I continue to date men. Obviously, as a radical feminist, I don’t date men who are misogynistic, or who would treat me poorly. I’m very picky and that has some bearing on my ability to find partners, but I’m not politically celibate. Radical feminism is a part of my life, but if it were to get in the way of me pursuing romantic relationships and experiencing that aspect of life, I think that would be a sign of me getting too obsessed with a single political movement and letting it take over my entire life. I would rather pursue radical feminist goals by trying to make life better for women who are most in need, rather than feeling some insane guilt over having a sexual orientation. I have role models in my life of straight women who still do amazing things for other women, and that’s good enough for me.

Please, please keep yourself centred and remember that you can have political views and also ground yourself in your own needs as an individual person. I don’t know who you are, but I suspect you are young (like under 25) and very active in online political groups. Don’t let that aspect of your life overwhelm your pursuit of happiness and satisfaction.