Originally published on Mic and republished here with their permission.

Dating isn’t easy for anyone.

But few things rock potential relationships more than one partner feeling insecure – and dating someone sexually fluid can feel threatening to even the most secure individuals.

Which is why there’s arguably nothing that scares a date off more than announcing you’re bisexual. (Well, that and “I’m still living in my parent’s basement.”)

That fear often stems from a misunderstanding of what it means to be bisexual.

As Ellyn Ruthstrom, president of the Bisexual Resource Center, told the New York Times, there are abundant “stereotypes that people believe about bisexuality – that bisexual people are lying to ourselves or to others, that we’re confused, that we can’t be trusted.”

Monosexuals – those who are exclusively attracted to one gender – who have a hard time wrapping their minds around dating non-monosexuals are likely falling prey to such negative misperceptions.

They may spurn them to avoid bi people romantically altogether, or even engage in damaging biphobia.

It’s time we all realized that bisexual people are just as good relationship material as anyone else – and that most of the assumptions about dating bi people aren’t true.

To clear up the myths, here’s what actually true and what’s certainly not – the “facts.”

Myth #1: Bisexual People Aren’t Dating Material

Bisexual people, especially bisexual women, are often sexualized: We’re good for a romp in the sack, the logic goes, but not good enough to take home to the parents.

The sexualization stems from visualizing bisexuality not as a sexual identity on par with heterosexuality or homosexuality, but as a sex act.

But bisexuality is a legitimate sexual identity, and being bisexual doesn’t mean that person is incapable of being in a committed relationship.

There may be other things about your bi partner that may make them undateable. Being bi is not one of them.

Fact: Bisexuals like you for you, not your genitals.

Being attracted to multiple genders allows bisexuals to be attracted to individuals for far more than just their physical appearance. Sure, your “parts” will be appreciated — celebrated, even — but they won’t necessarily be a defining characteristic.

Myth #2: Bisexual People Will Eventually Leave You for Another Gender

As one straight male told AfterEllen, “If you are attracted to people of both sexes, that just doubles the temptation. If you start with the assumption that there are attractive things about maleness and about femaleness (the energy, the body, whatever), and you really like both, who’d want to give up both?”

That’s the logic behind the deep-rooted misconception that bisexual people are incapable of monogamy — or that the bisexual person is actually gay or straight (they’re not), which would cause them to leave you for someone of a different gender.

This fear is baseless and only causes unnecessary paranoia in the relationship.

Fact: Dating bisexual people can deepen trust.

Honest dialogue that breaks down insecurities will always deepen trust in relationships. Vulnerability is a cornerstone to a healthy and successful relationship. Being able to sit with your potential bi partner and discuss the parameters of your relationship will be an effective trust-building exercise.

Myth #3: Bisexual People Only Date Either Cisgender Men and Cisgender Women