With the slew of new websites and applications dedicated to hook couples up with an extra pair of hands and feet, it is clear to see that the threesome fantasy is enjoying a bit of an upward swing. Regardless of your reasoning for the desire, whether it is for your birthday, or because you want to try something new, or because your boyfriend/girlfriend suggested it, adding this new and potentially very hot experience to your sexual background is not only going to add a layer of intensity to your current relationship but it even might strengthen your bond with one another. Now once you’ve decided to go for it, the tricky part is in actually finding a threesome partner. In this article, we will take a look at how couples who are looking for a female, can find her and schedule a threesome that will be nothing short of sensational (if the sex is good, that is).

1. Visit a swinger website or unicorn dating sites

There are plenty of adult themed venues that have sexuality nights that allow couples to get together with single females and make some magic. These type of nights are often called “unicorn” nights and may include anything from mingling nude and dancing to enjoying a hot tub or sauna. At most of these adult venues, you can mingle without having to commit to anything right away, which is a bonus if you are a couple that wants to ease in the right way.

Another option would be to visit a swinger website. A lot of these clubs have informal gathering areas like restaurants and pubs where you can go and test out the waters without having to jump in full force.

2. Get Looking Online

There are plenty of bisexual online dating sites like Bi Bicouples Dating that cater to couples who are looking for females to join them in a night of passion and fun. The main thing to keep in mind if you do choose to look online is to use an online dating site that has honest billing practices or is free to use, and has both an iron-clad privacy protection system and high-quality reputation. Some of the best online dating sites for bisexual couples looking to find unicorns include Bi Life Dating, BiCupid, and Adult Friend Finder.

If you are looking for a straight, single woman (unicorn), the best option would be to try out members-only sex clubs, websites, and dating applications as there are threesome websites and apps specifically designed for couples in mind. You may also be able to find “swing” groups or members-only sex clubs on social media sites like Facebook.

Tips On How to Ask Someone If They Want a Threesome With You

If you are at a members-only sex club or a swingers club, your best bet is to approach the single female or the couple if you are the unicorn, and just be honest and open. Ask them how they are, find out if they are willing to talk with you, and take it from there. Do not automatically assume that they are interested in you if they respond back to you. If the conversation gets going and you ask if you can buy them a drink, this is where you may be able to ask about sex.

If you are using an online dating application or website, make sure to mention that you have someone else with you if you are the couple and ask if they want to join you. However, you will need to come up with an opening message first that isn’t too strong and engage in some shared interest(s) talk and some sexy banter. If they seem into it, then ask them. Other than this, everyone involved will need to see recent pictures of one another before committing to anything.

In terms of the administrative work, if you have found yourself a unicorn, make sure to ask the following questions before setting up your threesome.

Find out what her sexuality is — do not assume.

Ask her about what her hard limits are — what things are completely off the table.

Find out what her buzz kills are.

Find out if she has a safe word and is into BDSM before suggesting it.

Discuss the types of kinks and fetishes are are allowed.

Make sure that there isn’t anything emotionally or physically going on with her that might make the threesome unsafe, not consensual or unpleasurable.

Find out what turns her on, where she likes to be touched, and what type of things she likes (oral, kissing, etc).

Find out if she likes to be or wants to be the center of attention.

If you have gotten this far and she is still up for a threesome with you, make sure that you have a stock of condoms on hand, have lube, sterile sex toys, a clean bathroom, and some water. You may want to include alcohol in as well, but that is something that should be discussed beforehand. Remember that everyone is different and likes different types of sex and sex acts, so make sure to outline everything in black and white first.