The 8 Laws that Confident People Follow

You ever wondered what it took to be confident? After all, confidence is one of the most important skills anyone need to move forward in life.

You need confidence to ask for a cute girl number. You need confidence to look your boss straight in the eyes and tell him your thoughts. You need confidence in your own abilities to not question yourself when times get rough.

People are haunted by their own negative thoughts, and lack the confidence they want to go about their life. They lack the confidence to voice their opinions and share their thoughts.

Most importantly, confidence is one of the biggest attractions to possess. When you walk into a room with the right amount of confidence, others will want to listen to you. A confident voice triggers people brain activities that cause them to give you their undivided attention.

After examining a few confident people lives such as CEO’s, sport athletes, and political leaders, there’s a similar set of characteristics that made them all the person they are. Thus, the 8 Laws that confident people follow was born:

1. Be Calm and Deliberate in Your Movements

Confident people can enter a position while appearing relaxed. Whether they’re walking or sitting, they appear natural, not concerned about the space they’re occupying.

Unlike the timid man, who randomly jitters and make strange movements, the confident man keeps his shoulders squared and takes longer strides while walking.

Maintain proper control of your movements because it subconsciously causes others to believe you’re in control of the situation. It makes them relaxed and in-tuned to what you have to say.

Everyone flocks to people they feel can manage their own lives and possibly the lives of others because it shows leadership and discipline.

2. Know when to approach others and touch appropriately

Confident people don’t fear getting close to another person, especially the opposite sex, during interaction. Do not be afraid to sit close to someone in public, a bar, or in your own home.

When you touch someone, do so in a fashion that doesn’t seem like you’re aware you’re doing so. Instead, make it natural to avoid awkwardness and uncertainty.

Never frighten someone with your touch by giving them the assumption you’re not even aware of your next actions. It makes that person, especially if it’s the opposite sex, more caution to your next unpredictable move.

When you make it obvious you’re putting too much thought into the way you should touch someone, you make yourself appear suspicious and this makes you less trustworthy.

Instead, use calm and deliberate motives when touching someone and it’ll build a friendly scope within that person’s brain to trust you more.

3. Master the smoothness of your voice

Confident people rarely squeak or yelp when conversing with someone else. They prevent themselves from speaking faster than they could be understood. They say each word properly as if they’re presenting a gift to their listener.

Confident people are not afraid to be loud without being apologetic, but is often willing to speak in a lower tone. Give others the assumption you know what you’re saying by speaking with less words, but giving the necessary words to convey your message.

A confident voice is capable of grasping the ears of its listeners and making them more willing to follow what you say whether you’re wrong or right.

4. Embrace Eye contact stability

Keep eye contact to the appropriate level. You do not need to stare at someone throughout the entire conversation, but do not aimlessly stare at other objects.

Prove that you’re willing to look them in the eyes with a smile. But be willing to look away at the appropriate moment without feeling anxious or scared.

Show no hesitation in your actions and give a clear sense that you’re comfortable under your own skin.

The goal of exchanging eye contact is showing you have an understanding of their words and emotions. You’re revealing your interest in them while initiating an intimate moment.

Once you develop a welcoming sign with someone through proper eye contact, they will be more likely to give you their trust and think nothing less of you when you do turn away and broke eye contact.

Still need training on how to master eye contact? An excellent reference to train your mind is The Power of Eye Contact: Your Secret for Success in Business, Love, and Life

5. Don’t overreact to situations

Be consciously aware of your emotions and reactions during a time of panic, frustration, or worry. The timid person is quick to panic, call for help, and crawl under their covers. However, confident people never allow their anxieties to take the best of them.

They know life isn’t a smooth ride and there will be moments that will stress anyone. But they remain conscious that every issue can be handled and controlled if looked at appropriately.

If they’re drowning in debt, rather than complaining about it, they take action by spending less, being frugal, and gradually paying their debts off.

If they’re dealing with being overweight, they neglect their excuses and develop a healthy lifestyle. Despite the circumstances, confident people such as Bill Gates examine the entire situation to determine the best way to handle it.

Whether you need help from a third party, conduct research, or simply need time to think, never allow petty emotions to dictate your life. If you’d like to learn ways to organize your life within a single week, check out Organize Now!: A Week-by-Week Guide to Simplify Your Space and Your Life



6. Never Take Yourself too seriously

Insecure people often believe they’re supposed to be flawless and will take feedback as a sign of judgment.

It’s easy to get angry at the small things that challenge the false beliefs your mind has about being perfect. To the average man, they cannot get over the fear of failure, appearing weak, or being made fun of.

Weak people find it difficult to escape the flawless expectation, and will react negatively to a joke sent their direction, or when someone treats them unfairly. Insecure people can’t handle criticism and are quick to attack others.

Instead, be bold and laugh at yourself to prove other people words have no effect on you.

Confident people are aware of their flaws, but never define themselves by them because their positive traits will always outweigh the negatives. A good resource to use if you’re struggling with escaping perfectionism is, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are



7. Build Your strengths and neglect your weaknesses

Confident people know there are too many skills to learn in the world. Confident people know they won’t master every hobby they try out. Thus, tweak on your strengths and stop spending too much time on your weaknesses.

“I studied every thing but never topped…. But today the toppers of the best universities are my employees”

― Bill Gates

Have other people work on what you’re weak on while you build your strengths to the next level.

If you want to develop video games, but only know how to draw and create an amazing story, hire others who can work on the areas you need. If you want to make a comic book, but only know the plot to it, hire someone to draw for you.

You don’t need to be rich to hire people to do things for you. Resources such as hiring High School or College students, Fiverr, or even Craigslist can be utilized if managed properly. Your strengths are then capable of giving you the advantages you need to reach the next level of your success.

If you’d like an insightful detailed way to utilize outside resources at a cheap cost, read The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich (Expanded and Updated)

8. Never let your mistakes define who you are

People struggle with maintaining an image they want the world to see. They want others to believe they’re incapable of making a mistake or failing. After all, failure is often interpreted as you coming across as either useless or dumb.

However, confident people never panic about making a mistake in public. They ignore the fear of accidentally saying something stupid in front of others, or feeling insecure when they do something embarrassing in public.

Confident people maintain an integrity to be okay with their mistakes because it never define their identity. Failure will always be an uncomfortable process, but it’s how you handle that situation that sets the difference between you and the average person. Check out 5 ways to deal with failure if this is a problem you constantly deal with.

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