If I ask what she does all day, she swears at me and says I am a typical male abusing her. Meanwhile, I have a six-hour daily commute, and can’t even contribute to a pension because of travel costs

I am in my 60s and, 16 years ago, under pressure, moved 100 miles from my work so my wife could be close to her ageing parents, who have now died. House prices have rocketed in the city where we lived so a return is unlikely. I have a six-hour round-trip commute and can’t contribute to a pension because of travel costs. My wife has not been interested in sex since we had children, who are now grownup. She will not work, but says she needs a cleaner. If I ask what she does all day, it results in swearing and accusations that I am a typical male abusing her. As far as I can see her life revolves around dog walking and her social life. I’m at my wits end because separation and division of our assets would result in us both living in poverty.

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