So aside from my job, I also do the sugar baby thing. Sometimes clients also send gift cards etc or will take me shopping (for sexy clothing only, very selfless stuff here). Whenever I tell certain male friends this, they exclaim “wow I’m so jealous of you women” or “I wish I could get that, guys just can’t get stuff for free!”

No, no you can’t. Probably because you’re not sexually objectified. I’m also not sure what’s so “free” about this.

I get to not feel safe, I get to have hords of men talk to me only for one reason. I get to have men refuse to understand or respect my boundaries, mainly that I do not offer full service with any of my sessions. Because “I’m not a full service provider, please do not ask. Respect my boundaries as I do yours” apparently means “Offer me more money till I agree” or “Ask me until I give in”. Or maybe even “If I buy you enough shoes, you’ll owe me”.

But you don’t want any of that, do you? You want to have your cake and eat it to. You want to feel safe. You want your male privilege. You want the respect. And when I get some monetary object, you have a problem with it too because god forbid there is anything positive about my experience.

Things aren’t always what they seem.

- Main Mod.