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BEST ANSWER I completely understand how you feel and I hope some of these responses don't make you feel like they made me feel. I am a new mother of a 3-month old and I miss my old life also. My husband and I agree that it's because we had a wonderful close relationship with just the two of us before baby came along. Now we are adjusting to our new life and it takes time. I think it is very important to mourn your previous life rather than long for it. After all, I still wish I was as thin as I was in high school, but I certainly don't want to go back and be in high school. Everyone deserves a mourning period. Don't you miss the days when you didn't have bills? It's also important to express your true feelings rather than try to cover them up or coat them because other people make you feel like you should. Why do so many people think that having children means giving up everything else for a few years. I will never understand this. Having a baby just means that it is more difficult to find the time to do the things you used to do. There are adjustments and changes and some sacrifices, but I want my child to know me for who I am. 'Me' and 'We' time is just as important and the adjustment will be figuring out how to be sure that you get it. And that cute smile that you get from your baby when you are feeling a little mournful always reminds you of the joy of your new life. mumagain1 Answered 1/31/04 18 found this helpful

my husband and i are 20 and 22, so we are having the same feelings that you are. one good thing that i have learned in the past 5 months since our daughter was born is that, we can spend good quality time with her but we are not bad parents to get a babysitter maybe once a week just to go to dinner or something and have some alone time. it is difficult sometimes, but i have to make sure that my husband isnt feeling left out and neglected now that we have a baby. a happy marriage makes for a happier environment for the baby. Anonymous Answered 9/18/04 13 found this helpful

Hi Jennifer, I am actually not a mom yet. But will be soon, I have had the same reservations that you had expressed. I think it makes it hard for me because our little one was a suprise! I remember finding out and falling to my knees and crying.I am only 23 and thought "HOLLYCOW I AM WAY TOO YOUNG FOR THIS!"Butcha know what? I am so excited now because it willbe so much fun. I am lucky enough though that my mother is a first time gp and I think I will probably be lucky when I actually get to see my kid! Anyway you are not only a parent you are still human and have needs! Like alot of the experienced mothers have said geta bbsitter. My parents used to give me to family members( lucky for them I have a big family) and I ould hang with them if they needed a date night. Guess what I survived and so will your baby. Trysten&Lyhem Answered 6/3/05 10 found this helpful

I kind of feel the same way. I love my 2 1/2 week old baby girl to death and wouldn't trade her for the world, but the lifestyle change has really been a shock and I find myself missing my partner even when we are in the same room, as in, I miss our old relationship. I think one important thing I did was that just a few days after bringing her home, I realized that my sadness was stemming from the loss of our old life together, and we talked about it, and I cried and together we grieved our loss. Parenthood really is like a kind of death and rebirth, and I think alot of people believe that they aren't allowed to feel anything but love and happiness towards their new life with the baby, but you have to let yourself grieve as well. StephanieLynn131 Answered 8/3/10 8 found this helpful

I understand how you feel...I had my first baby this year, at 30. My husband (also first baby) was 40. We both had lots of time alone, and its been an adjustment and I get exhausted, but its a good exhaustion. I love having a family of my own! a BabyCenter member Answered 2/17/06 8 found this helpful

for karl. i think that not only do women go through post natal depression, but men can also get depression for having kids, your life changes drastically, i know. you need to talk to someone in person to get all the feelings off your chest, for yourself, try getting someone to babysit atleast once a week, give yourself some time to recover. everyone needs there own space. ignore these idiots that have slandered you before. you are just human, it can be hard to adjust to a baby. if you are unable to get someone to babysit, try taking the baby for a walk in the stroller, get some fresh air. most of the time women look after the kids, they have alot of problems that everyong understands, but when a man stays at home for the kids, but for some reason people are harder on men, yopu are not a bad father, you jut need to talk to someone, and get some time to yourself. talk to your partner, let her know how you feel. please talk to someone :-) hope all turns out well...wrote again to post name faith&zanders mum Answered 10/23/07 6 found this helpful

No, it is not wrong to miss your life before baby. I think all parents feel like that at some point. Babies require a lot of attention and at first it is not so easy to get that "me" time. Just hang in there, it'll get easier as you go along. Before you know it your "old life" will be just that "old" and you will wish your baby was a baby again. Don't feel guilty or beat yourself up about it. Just don't forget to to take that "me" time every once in awhile...schedule a date with your girlfriends or your significant other (without baby). Your not bad person or "selfish" for being a little nostalgic. tashagirl113 Answered 9/29/07 6 found this helpful

i know exactly how you feel i was 28 and my husband 27 when we had our first baby boy and we were way over the partying scene but we make really good money went and did as we pleased when we pleased and had money to burn so to speak we planned for our baby for several years and it took 2 yrs of trying before we got lucky and boy did we get lucky he's so beautiful and good and most importantly so very very healthy but sometimes i miss the old days when it was just the two of us and no additional responsibilities to boot, but i wouldn't trade him for all the money or freedom in the world.i know it's worth every second. but it is hard sometimes. but the good seems to always out weigh the bad. a BabyCenter member Answered 3/18/05 6 found this helpful

Oh God we feel the same way! Well It doesn't go away, my sons are 2 and 3 now but I've just recently come to the conclusion that we just have to find other couples with kids for friends. Then we can still do things together but maybe find things that are more kid and parent friendly. And then for those times where we just really need to get out we get a babysitter, and then we get grandma and grandpa to take them for the whole night. Everyones happy!!! Mrspln Answered 1/23/08 5 found this helpful