I am a 37-year-old man married to a 33-year-old woman for more than 10 years. We were and are in love with each other. However, the only one thing which is bothering me is the lack of sex in our married life. We have reached a point where we don’t have sex for an entire year and whatever intimacy we share is the result of mere desperation. I have a high sex drive, whereas my wife completely lacks it. She understands my needs but just can’t help me out with it. She doesn’t even like fondling, hugging, kissing or any kind of physical intimacy. We have talked openly about this many times and she even advised me to seek pleasure outside our marriage. But I just can’t think of making love to anyone else other than my wife. It’s not just the physical part but the emotional and psychological aspect which I crave for. Both of us are unable to figure out a solution to this problem. Please help.Many a times major shift in hormonal changes after children, weight gain issues or some past childhood issues that suddenly crop up in marriage make one feel aversive to sex life. Sometimes there is a high possibility of depression due to some underlying reasons, which causes disinterest in sex.The only solution to this problem is taking a mental health professional advice. A psychologist is well trained to understand the core issues hidden behind not wanting to have a physical intimacy. The good news is that, it can be worked on; only that both of you should be willing to take external help. Please try and convince your wife to visit someone qualified psychologist in your city, be supportive and the conflict will soon be resolved.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Want expert advice for your relationship? Send us an email at​ ​expertadvice.toi@gmail.com