Candace Bushnell, 60, says she regrets choosing career over having children

Sex and the City creator said after not having children she is now 'truly alone'

The TV series is based on a writer who chooses independence over motherhood

Candace Bushnell, 60, has admitted that she regrets choosing a career over having children as she is now ‘truly alone’

Her best-selling book and the racy TV series it inspired taught a generation of women that they could ‘have it all’.

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But Sex and the City creator Candace Bushnell, 60, has admitted that she regrets choosing a career over having children as she is now ‘truly alone’.

The TV series starred Sarah Jessica Parker as a writer in New York who famously chooses her independence over motherhood.

Miss Bushnell, pictured, divorced her husband – ballet dancer Charles Askegard – in 2012 and said it made her realise the importance of starting a family.

The former sex columnist, who is worth around £18million, told the Sunday Times: ‘When I was in my thirties and forties, I didn’t think about it.

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‘Then when I got divorced and I was in my fifties, I started to see the impact of not having children and of truly being alone. I do see that people with children have an anchor in a way that people who have no kids don’t.’

The TV series starred Sarah Jessica Parker as a writer in New York who famously chooses her independence over motherhood. Sarah Jessica Parker, Kristin Davis, Cynthia Nixon, Kim Cattrall are pictured above in the series

Speaking to the Sunday Times Magazine, Candace explained that she didn't feel like dating after her 2012 divorce from husband of ten years - ballet dancer Charles Askegard.

Moving to Connecticut after her divorce she admitted she went without sex for five years: 'It's not that long when you get to my age. I know women who have gone longer,' she said.

The writer, who has now returned to New York, lives between her partners penthouse suite on the Upper East side and a house in the Hamptons.

However the former party girl also revealed that she regularly has Botox and doesn't until 4pm - because she's not hungry until then.

Now back in the dating game, and in love with new real estate agent boyfriend Jim Coleman, Candace is releasing a new book, titled Is there still Sex in the City? in early August.

The book is fiction inspired from her life and the aftermaths of her own divorce. She dives into what she calls 'middle-aged sadness,' and the difficulties of bouncing back in your fifties.

Regrets: Miss Bushnell, pictured, divorced her husband – ballet dancer Charles Askegard – in 2012 and said it made her realise the importance of starting a family (pictured in 2011)

Candace argued that it is harder to recover from bad news in your fifties than in your twenties or thirties. And she added that in the eyes of many people, women, particularly those over 50 - where often blamed for the set-backs they had to overcome.

However, she added that she had found turning 60 a relief, which helped get rid of her sense of shame.

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She admitted to having Botox regularly, having had fillers done, and once considered going through a Mona Lisa procedure - vaginal rejuvenation laser surgery, priced at £3,000.

Iconic: Sex and the City debuted in 1996 and swept the nation with its hilarious and honest approach to female pleasure. From left to right: , Kristin Davis (Charlotte York), Sarah Jessica Parker (Carrie Bradshaw), Kim Cattrall (Samantha Jones) and Cynthia Nixon (Miranda Hobbs)

In the book, she mentions not eating before 4pm, not out of discipline, but because she's simply not hungry. She likes to have dinner early and will snack while cooking.

The socialite, who first came to New York in the 1980's, when Studio 50 was all the rage, thinks modern dating has made women angry and frustrated.

The writer admitted that she finds New York boring and consensual, and a 'thousand time less fun' than what it used to be.

Friends in high places: Candace with Sarah-Jessica Parker and Chris Noth (Mr Big) during a party in the 1990's

However, she added that several editors had offered to help with her career in exchange of sexual favours, something she said was common at the time.

While she also revealed that the characters in her upcoming book had been sexually harassed at some point in their lives but would just have dealt with it and told the men to 'go f*** themselves.'

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Talking about age and dating she also said she felt gender dynamics and sexual attraction evolved as you grew older, with competition taking a step back in favor of being 'nice.'