So here’s a thing about “friendzoning” and “dudes who are only being your friend to get in your pants”.

Straight Dudes: It is completely okay to approach a friendship with a girl with the intention of it becoming a serious relationship (emotionally, physically, or both) if… you are upfront about it.

Just… you know, at the start of it all be like “Hey, I’m really here to find a partner, not just a friend. If you’re cool with seeing if this course ends with a relationship and/or sex, then let’s begin. Otherwise, I’m not what you’re looking for.”

This is fine! There’s nothing wrong with just wanting sex or just wanting to date. Some people have plenty of friends and don’t need another one; what they want and need is a partner, potentially a lover, a spouse, etc.

What IS wrong, is going into a friendship with a girl, intending for it to end in sex/dating and not telling her, and then getting angry when she’s confused because all SHE thought this was was friendship. She may not be in the market for a partner/lover/spouse. It’s unfair to assume she is.

You didn’t get friendzoned. You were in the friendzone from day 1.