I get asked all the time all manners of questions on anal play. "Why do you do so much anal?" "Do you really love it that much?" "How long does it take to get used to big toys" So- I decided to write a little bit about my thoughts and what I've learned in the past year.





For me, anal play is an amazing way to elevate sensations and acheive a different orgasm, or add to your vaginal play for an unbelievable experience. Guy or girl, the main thing to remember is to stay clean and be relaxed. :D

Here are some items I use on a regular basis to make the process easier:

Enema Bulb (start with fleet, then get a better one online)

Various Sizes of buttplugs (gemplugs, glass baubles, vibrating plugs-- what's your style?)

Desensitizing Anal Lubricant (thinner, with lidocaine) I notice I use less of this now

Gel Lube (thicker, for the toys)

Towels, flushable wipes (I use a moist flushable wipe, it has replaced TP in my house lol)

Toys!!! (The better the quality, the better AND SAFER your experience. DO NOT BUY CHEAP ANAL TOYS!!)

The following is my preparation process for anal with large toys/anal sex with a partner:

I usually start out with a medium size gemplug (I have graduated to using the medium size straight away) I wear it for about 20 min before my first enema. Not sure if there is any real reason for this step, just something I've gotten used to

I use an 8oz enema bulb with rounded comfort spray tip (this is used about 5-9 times before play, and during the stretching process)

I WAIT TO SHOWER until I am done laying on the floor doing enemas, I learned this after laying on my floor with a wet body, do NOT do this. LOL you will only have to re-shower to clean your privates completely after enemas, so just wait. I keep my space clean, I lay a towel on top of my thick padded bathroom rug- and always have my "Mise en Place"-- everything I need within reach. A hand towel, desensitizing anal lube, enema bulb, & flushable wipes. Filling the bulb with water from the sink, cold tap. I like the feeling of the cold water as it rushes through me.

Doing an enema!! OMG (it's really no big deal...)

Take off the orange fleet cap (or fill your bulb with tap water, replace bulb tip, then apply some lube to the tip) Lay on your side on the floor, apply lube, and insert, then squeeze SLOWLY and firmly until you "feel full" of cool water Sit like this for a while. Roll on your back. Roll to the other side. Relax. Get up, clench if you need to (I don't even need to anymore, my body just does it) and take your 1-2 steps to the potty :) I use a squatty potty, and it's great at this point, relax and let it out. STAY HERE A MIN *after* you think it's done.. Yep, told you, there was a tiny bit more... that's better, right?

*** If you experience any queeziness, nausea or tummy discomfort during the process, SLOW DOWN, Rome was not built in a day ***

Depending on my diet the day before, I tend to do no less than 5, no more than 9 enemas in a 2 hour period while I am also stretching with plug between. Continue with enemas until you see little to no solids, and eventually you will see nothing but CLEAR WATER. You're good to go for more exploration!

After you feel clean enough to play with small toys, start doing so. Keep in tune with your own body, listen to internal cues. Try small first- if you want to, you can eventually take huge toys (both long and wide) within 6 months of regular play. Some people enjoy plugging while out all day in public, and I have noticed this has become a popular trend. I do this sometimes, but to be honest I'm a bit of a hermit lol, working from home can do that.

***Figure out what turns you on. What feels good? Do you want it deep? Do you want to stretch? Personally, I like it all, but I started with deep. Now I'm working on more stretching, as time goes on my kink may evolve, I have learned not to limit my pleasure.***

Once you feel confident with anal play- venture into fantasy toys, larger toys, maybe some ATM? Maybe you are interested in creampies? I can say I have learned over the last year that your own sexual exploration is only stifled by you. I confess, I used to be somewhat prudish and now I feel set free. I don't feel inhibited about my own pleasure anymore, and I feel unapologetic about getting it. I think doing anal a lot helped me break down some walls holding me back, maybe even in other areas in life. Who knows.

Overall, my personal journey with anal play has been complicated because of a shady past with exes, but no bad experiences I've had in the past could overshadow the sheer magic that is an anal orgasm.





About Anal Orgasm:

I'm usually pretty good with describing things, I'm an artist and I love to paint and be creative- so my imagination is of that nature. However, when it comes to describing this particular phenomenon I'm kind of at a loss for words. But I'll give it a shot.

I've always said it starts out with a trance like state, then procedes to straight up change your life. Physically the sensation is totally different than a vaginal orgasm. A vaginal orgasm sends *waves* of pleasure through my whole body- the world kind of goes silent and I don't really see much. An anal orgasm is similar to that with the flooding of the senses, but it's more mental to be honest. Almost-- emotional, spiritual, more intense and it's like you're body knows it's special. All time stops, and there is a flood of intense pleasure- no pulsing or wave action here. Just kinda BAM.. It will rock my world every time. I feel powerless to it, and I lust after that sensation all the time :) Being open to new things has allowed me to have some of the best orgasms of my life!

Try something new today, you might surprise yourself!

<3 Keri Berry