How do you know you have glass walls beliefs? That's easy. Your life is difficult. You keep finding yourself saying things like:



"I can never get a break in love!"



"My ex is a total Prince Harming!" (Note: This is a term I coined in my book Prince Harming Syndrome to describe men who are either "trouble" or "troubled").



"All men are total Prince Harmings!"



"Men in distant galaxies are total Prince Harmings!"



Basically, whenever you experience repeated pattern of failure in love, it's because your subconscious is blocking you with a glass wall belief, telling you: "Yo! Love happiness stops here! Go no further!"



But yo! It ain't so! You're simply being blocked by a mirage of glass. Or if you're a "foodie," a good analogy to describe "glass wall limitations" is to say it's as if your subconscious has given you a very limited menu of your love life options, and in reality, you have many more yummy love life ordering selections available!



Simply put: You are the common denominator in all your relationship problems. If you keep finding yourself saying, "All the men I date are Prince Harmings—emotionally unavailable, bad listeners, who suck at communicating!" you must ask why you keep picking men who are this way. Because there are emotionally available, good-listening, highly communicative men out there! In fact, wherever there's an all-encompassing always, all or never in your life, it's a sign that your mischievous subconscious is setting you up for failure by consistently leading you back toward these repeat performances.



In many ways, for many reasons, the subconscious should actually receive bigger and better billing than mere "sub" status. It should be called the "over-and-above-conscious" because it makes so many of your life decisions.



Your subconscious is why your diary can often read like Mad Libs. For instance:



Dear Diary,

I'm___________(mad, resentful, ) that ___________(my past paramour, present paramour, future paramour) doesn't_________(listen to me, respect me, love me more). It reminds me of what happened ______________ (last week, last month, last year, next week, next month, next year) with ____________ (my past paramour, present paramour, future paramour).



So what is stopping you from seeing that there are many wonderful love opportunities out there? What I call The 3 Cs, which are:



1. 's Limiting Beliefs: Your learned (b)lame excuses, mistaken thinking and false fears created by the pain, disappointment and repeated patterns you learned from family and friends when you were young and sponge-like.



2. Culture's Limiting Beliefs: Your learned (b)lame excuses, mistaken thinking and false fears created from society's messages of false limitations, stereotyping and biased trends. A terrific example of a culture's limiting belief is the famed Roger Bannister story. Until 1954, most people believed that a human could not run a mile in less than four minutes until Roger Bannister did just that. Ever since, running four-minute miles has become run-of-the-mill. "Doctors and scientists said that breaking the four-minute mile was impossible, that one could die in the attempt," Bannister said right after his accomplishment. "When I got up from the track after collapsing at the finish line, I figured I was dead." Which is why it's important to wake up to our culture's limiting beliefs or it can create a limiting "that's impossible" self-fulfilling prophecy.



3. Calamity's Limiting Beliefs: Your learned (b)lame excuses, mistaken thinking and false fears created from very specific crisis, including: a bad breakup, a , a , a job failure, a bankruptcy, a mugging, an illness, the death of a loved one, etc.



Yes, there's an abundance of ways you can limit your life due to your subconscious' limiting thinking and thereby wind up with a pattern of finding/ /marrying Prince Harmings.



When I coach women who are trying break free of their addictive pattern for Prince Harmings, it's always fascinating to me when I tell them they must start to prioritize finding a man who values growing. A man who revels in open, honest communication, 20/20 listening and a Gumby-like flexibility for compromise. The women laugh heartily at my description of this evolved kind of man. They insist he does not exist! Yes, that's how blocked these women are by some aspect of those 3 Cs.



"You're a female chauvinist!" I tell them. "By telling me that you believe that men can't be emotionally evolved enough to want to grow, communicate from the heart, empathize and validate you, then you're basically saying that all men are 'emotional bimbos.'"



Usually the words "female chauvinist" and "emotional bimbo" help to shock the women into an awareness of how -prejudiced they're being.



My next step? I tell them they have to stop being "negative evidence collectors." Looking for proof that men are emotional bimbos. Indeed, they can create this self-fulfilling prophecy of behavior simply by treating a good man to their bad attitude toward him. Next up, I assign the women to be "positive evidence collectors." They must look for proof of the plethora of supercool Prince Charming–esque guys who are out there either married to or dating their lucky girlfriends, written up in the news, working alongside them at their offices or even in the very bed with them!



Are you suspect for being a female chauvinist? If so, ask yourself if a glass wall is blocking you from seeing all the emotionally-evolved qualities of the man you're already with or blocking you from finding a man with lots of emotionally evolved qualities!



Karen Salmansohn is a best-selling author with over 1 million books sold - known for creating for people who wouldn't be caught dead reading self-help. Her site: www.notsalmon.com Click here now to read more information on finding a loving happier-ever-after relationship in her book Prince Harming Syndrome - which appliess to Princess Harmings as well Prince Harmings.