A: It doesn't sound aspirational, but in a way it's the most aspirational idea of all. You are already enough. You have what you need to have an expansive sex life, you just need to know how to do that. … We talk so much in our culture about how much we want sex or not, how much we have sex or not. We don't talk enough about how much we like sex. How much we enjoy sex or not. When you put the pleasure piece back in the formula, it make a whole lot more sense.