Multiple orgasm is a blessing granted only to women. Men get floppy and have to wait, while multiple orgasm is that rare gift that strikes suddenly and leaves girls feeling in touch with the beating heart of the universe.

A multiple orgasm is like an internal earthquake that erupts in your vagina. It runs shivering and rippling up through your whole body, then down tingling in sensory explosions to your toes and fingertips. The magma is magnificent, warm, silky and copious.

Multiple orgasm leaves you feeling breathless, complete, in touch with your shaggy prehistoric self. I once ran the marathon in under four hours and crossing the line for me was orgasmic.

A multiple orgasm is like surfing or mountain climbing. Once you can balance on a wave, you are ready to climb the next wave. Once you have reached the first pinnacle, you can keep going, conquer the entire range, peak after peak, rising into a cloud of sheer ecstasy. After multiple orgasm, everything else is a dip in a warm bath without the thrill and threat of a tsunami.

An orgasm releases the happiness hormone oxytocin, reduces stress, regulates your menstrual cycle and is good for your heart and general health. If you get all that from one BIG O, just imagine what multiple orgasm is going to do for you?

According to one recent study, only one woman in three regularly has an orgasm. That’s sad. The stats for multiple orgasm are no better for multiple reasons: stress, an inability to relax, the switched on clamour and buzz of modern life, a lack of foreplay – yes, it’s his fault, or her fault. Multiple orgasm can be achieved as easily, or more easily, with a dildo or strap-on. They don’t sag with brewer’s droop or complain about commuting, IT glitches and the boss at work.

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How do you achieve multiple orgasm?

I repeat: foreplay, petting, kissing, cuddling, massage. You don’t climb the mountain without limbering, stretching, preparation. Sex should never be hurried – yes, of course, the quickie in the elevator before work is better than a double hit Starbucks any day – but multiple orgasm is the Promised Land reached by that old-fashioned quality: patience.

It takes men on average three to seven minutes to climax (teens about 45 seconds). Women require from ten to twenty minutes. This lack of compatibility is called ‘the arousal gap’ and has haunted humanity since the asp wriggled down from the tree. That is until women started to climb on top and invented – you got it – foreplay.

Between the sheets you have to give to get. That means a leisurely candlelit session giving head until your partner is relaxed, peaceful, mind emptied of everything except the warm watery moment. Satisfy his needs, let him rest and regain desire, then lay back, legs spread waiting for the wave. If that sounds a lot like meditation, it will come as no surprise that two writers who believe ‘any woman’ can have a multiple orgasm have published the The Multi-Orgasmic Woman, a ‘healing journey into female desire and sexual satisfaction.’

Taoist teacher Mantak Chia and physician Rachel Carlton Abrams have combined the sexual wisdom of the East with sexual-medical research from the West to show how we can live healthy, dynamic lives by connecting to our sexual energy. By following their methods, Chia and Abrams claim women can learn how to reach intense, prolonged, whole-body orgasms. Like most guide books, The Multi-Orgasmic Woman contains a lot of things that are obvious, but it never hurts to be reminded of what we already know or feel intuitively.

One piece of advice I do agree with is breathing. We tend to hold our breath during orgasm, then let it all out in a roaring scream of earth-shattering joy. Instead, you should learn to breathe normally, hold on to the orgasm, bathe in the afterglow and nurture the flame until it sparkles again. If you practise deep-breathing, you stay locked in the moment and surf on into multiple orgasm.

While one in three women never gets so much as a glimpse of orgasm, the majority of women rarely reach that agh-agh-agh moment by penetration alone. She needs the constant pleasure of clitoral stimulation, either with his, or her, or her or your own fingertip or sex toy. Multiple orgasm is a magic box waiting to be unlocked. She is not the ghost everyone has heard of but never seen. She is real and present, waiting to be discovered.

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