Nobody ever plans on making oral sex mistakes, as you let your tongue do the talking. But there are some areas to watch out for so you can make sure your O-game is your A game. Yes that’s cheesy but you laughed.

If you didn’t laugh, you can shut up and eat pussy. Or at least do so when I’ve told you how to avoid the biggest mistakes! Whether it’s focusing on the wrong things, not giving enough focus to certain areas or simply rushing the job, no one wants to skip this lesson.

Oral sex can feel amazing when you do it right. But what feels great for one woman might not rock the world for another. There isn’t a definitive method that will please every single woman but there are some oral sex mistakes to avoid which will help you succeed every time.

Oral sex foreplay

Now you may think that oral sex on a woman is a kind of foreplay in itself. That is strictly correct as a lot of couples do practise oral sex during foreplay before having penis-in-vagina intercourse.

But oral sex can be a sex act in itself, just as we’ve seen in Game of Thrones where Grey Worm goes down on Missandei. Granted he’s a eunuch so their options are limited but it just goes to show that oral sex is a kind of lovemaking in itself, even for fictional couples.

Yet there is still a foreplay you can do before you perform oral sex. This is designed to create anticipation as you tease your girlfriend before eating her pussy. Personally, one of my favourite things about oral sex, is when a guy turns it into a full sensory experience.

Oral sex shouldn’t just be a case of licking her snatch for a minute or two before you jam your cock in. No sir, if you think that’s acceptable then you’ve made oral sex mistake number one!

Building up to oral sex

The build up to oral sex can help you turn your girlfriend on by teasing her. Rather than rush straight to eating her out, take your time to undress her and pay attention to other parts of her body. While still using your mouth to create pleasure.

Assuming you’re in the bedroom or a private setting with room, you can slowly take down her jeans or lift up her skirt to then kiss your way up her inner thighs. You could increase the sexy time by giving her a leg massage working up from her feet, to her calves and thighs. Pay attention to the sensitive areas on her lower body, like the soles of her feet and under her knees.

Kissing, licking and sucking these hot spots will tease her as she wants your mouth on her pussy. Nibbling her inner thighs while you squeeze her buttocks will combine sensations. In the same way that running your tongue along her inner thigh while gently rubbing her clit should get her even more wet.

Instead of taking off her panties immediately, tease her by blowing gently through them. Mouth her mound with her panties in between, it will drive her extra wild by having that barrier in place. Even more so if she’s wearing tights as it’ll provide a different sensation.

If you lick and kiss around the edges of her panties, you should see a happy mark of wetness seep through. Here you can also use your fingers to stroke and rub her clit and labia while using your mouth elsewhere. You might want to pull her undies aside and gently finger her or lick her rather than pulling them right off altogether.

Oral sex mistakes made during foreplay

During this build up, you can still pay attention to other areas like her nipples and breasts. Use your mouth on them to optimum effect by starting gently with light pressure before slowly increasing it based on what she enjoys. When you squeeze her boobs, be mindful of your grip and alternate between kissing her lips and elsewhere.

The main mistake men make during this phase of oral sex, is rushing. Just dropping a few kisses on her thighs or belly isn’t enough. Your girlfriend will like the attention spread around her body but when you make the build up to oral sex part of the action, it’s even better.

Mistake 1

Don’t make the mistake of taking off her undies right away. Sure you’d like to get to the goal sooner but you still need to make it a sensual experience. If you build up to oral sex gradually, it will turn her on more than if you just stick your mouth straight on her pussy.

Mistake 2

Do make sure your facial hair is in order. If you keep clean shaven, make sure you’re smooth as prickly patches can hurt. But if you rock the stubble, try and keep it softer. Or for beards, keep them maintained so that you aren’t rocking a super beard of bush.

Mistake 3

Be gentle initially when you put your mouth on her legs or use your hands. Being heavy handed or heavy tongued (if that’s not a word, it should be) can put a damper on the mood. The whole idea of having a build up to oral sex is to get her wetter and ready for the ‘main event.’ If you’re clumsy at this point, it can hurt her and be counterproductive.

Eating her out

Congratulations, you’ve got your girlfriend wound up and ready for your mouth. You need to avoid the obvious oral sex mistakes which could let you down. By getting to grips with the hardest part of all… the vagina.

Quick recap, there’s more to vaginas than just a clit and a hole. Knowing which areas are most sensitive for women generally and your girlfriend specifically. In brief, during oral sex you should aim to pleasure all of the areas.

Start off by gently stroking the skin either side of her labia. The closest part of her inner thigh has a lot of nerve endings which will respond to touch. By licking and touching here, you can then flick your tongue onto the edge of her labia majora.

If your girlfriend keeps her pussy bare of pubes or neatly trimmed, this may be easier than if she rocks a bush. But all the same, licking and sucking her outer lips will please before you turn your attention to her labia minora (the area immediately around her entrance).

Mix it up by licking, kissing and gently sucking her labia, during this you can rub her clit or asshole. If she’s wet enough, you could also slip a finger in. Be gentle when you suck, if she’s enjoying it you can increase the intensity but do it gradually. No one wants a vacuum mouth.

The big oral sex mistakes made when fingering is being too rough, not making sure she’s wet enough or even having sharp fingernails so make sure you keep them trimmed. If you’re using your tongue, there’s no excuse but you can also use flavoured lubes to add to the experience.

Licking her clit

Now some guys seem to think that just licking her clit once or twice is enough. Wrong. That’s one of the most common oral sex mistakes. Clits are incredibly sensitive but you need to do it in the right way. By paying attention to the other areas of her vagina, you’ll have got her turned on before you lick her clit. Remember the anatomy lessons and you can gently move her clit hood back to expose her nubbin more.

Kiss, lick and lightly suck but don’t forget to still show love to her vagina elsewhere. Giving a long lick from the bottom of her pussy to the top will feel like a wave of pleasure. Intersperse this with more targeted licking and flicking of your tongue against her clit and it’s even better. Plus you can also lick her clit while fingering her to combine sensations.

Oral sex – rimming

If you haven’t already tried rimming, just what have you been doing with yourself? Now while some women may not be comfortable with rimming, many who try it do enjoy it. Simply because the anus and the skin around it are incredibly sensitive.

Luckily it’s also very close to the vagina. So you can combine vaginal oral sex with rimming quite easily. Alternate where you lick her to change up the experience and if she’s happy with fingers being involved, make the effort to attend to both holes. More lube can be helpful here and there are some lubes which are better for anal sex and play.

Apply the same method to oral sex when rimming and you should succeed. Touching the area around her butthole and giving attention to the skin between. Don’t make the mistake of trying to jam anything in her ass without proper lube and making sure she’s relaxed. Your tongue can help in this with different techniques altering the experience.

Making up for past oral sex mistakes

Now you know the biggest oral sex mistakes to avoid, you can go forth and conquer. Or rather go forth and be a cunnilingus god. Yes cunnilingus sounds a bit like a made up word but it isn’t, honestly. It just sounds a lot like… cunning.

Giving your girlfriend pleasure through oral sex is a badge you can wear with pride. Make sure you give her enough time to enjoy it. One orgasm alone isn’t adequate so if she cums once, go for the second and third time. She’ll definitely thank you for it later!

Also don’t forget that you can use sex toys during oral sex. Something as simple as a bullet vibrator on her clit, labia or butthole will feel fun. You can also use tingling sensation lubes to make it that bit more intense. (Just do a patch test beforehand to make sure neither of you are allergic and confirm that the lube is safe for internal usage if you use it during sex.)

Now you know which oral sex mistakes to avoid and you’re all ready. Well, bon appetit.