A SEXUALLY frustrated Indian man who duped a woman he met online into believing he was a blond caucasian used submissive sexual role play to hide his true appearance.

Deepak Dhankar, 29, used images he found on the internet to portray himself as a muscular blond male called Jamie on his fake Oasis dating profile because he believed he would get more “hits” that way.

The married father of three arranged to take part in a dominant-submissive role play with a woman he met online — mutually agreeing on “safe words”, certain sex acts and limitations — and let himself into her home on October 7, 2012, where the woman was naked and face-down in her bed.

“You insisted that the complainant was to keep her eyes closed at all times and never look at Jamie in her role as submissive,” County Court judge Jane Patrick said.

It wasn’t until later, when the woman went to settle her small child, that she caught a glimpse of Dhankar and contacted police after he left.

“As she opened her eyes she saw your hand and immediately realised that you were dark-skinned and not the Jamie that she was expecting,” the judge said.

Dhankar today received a two-year community corrections order after pleading guilty to procuring sexual penetration by fraud, which carries a maximum penalty of five years imprisonment.

The court heard Dhankar was having marital difficulties, was sexually frustrated and sought intimacy online as a form of escapism.

“It appears that you chose this extremely selfish, immature and inappropriate way to deal with your frustrations arising from the problems you and your wife were having,” Judge Patrick said.

“You were clearly aware of the importance of physical appearance and physical attributes in connection with internet dating and in the arrangements that you were making with the complainant.”

The judge said the wisdom of the woman’s actions must be seriously questioned and serve as a cautionary tale to other internet daters.

“There is no doubt that this case should serve as a warning to those who engage in internet dating and who arrange to meet up for purposes of sexual activity,” Judge Patrick said.

“I would urge all people of whatever gender or age to be very careful about accepting the truth of online descriptions and to be extremely cautious about allowing a virtual stranger to enter their home.”

She said the woman — who consented to the sex acts in the belief that Dhankar was the fictional Jamie — felt violated and guilty that her “trusting nature was abused in such a way”.

Judge Patrick said Dhankar, who moved to Australia in 2003 and became an Australian citizen, had already received some punishment by losing his job as a financial adviser due to publicity of the case.

She said she took into account his guilty plea, genuine remorse and good prospects of rehabilitation in deciding not to jail Dhankar.

He must perform 200 hours of community service and undergo mental health and sex offender treatment as part of the community corrections order.

The judge ordered that Dhankar must give a forensic sample but did not order that he be registered as a sex offender.