Here are some thoughts I had (these involve subjects and themes I’ve mentioned before but with some new observations):

There is something which I call the “female-as-victim”, which I’ve spoken of in a number of other articles. This is something I have been looking at for about 30 years and has, frankly, become quite fascinating. For me, anyways, it has revealed a lot about the female character as well as female psychology. Its a subject that tends to go on land that is “taboo” which makes it even more interesting as it goes into areas few people have looked, not even females. In addition, when I was studying to be a Psychoanalyst (I later dropped the idea of being a Psychologist or Psychoanalyst) it became clear to me that a “pure female psychology” will never be created (see my article “Thoughts on why a ‘female psychology’ can’t be developed effectively” for some aspects of this). By “pure” I mean a psychology that is based on observing what females actually do. In other words, it does not use male or “generic” psychology as a basis of interpretation. It also means that you must look in areas that are “taboo” or makes some females uncomfortable (and even mad!). This lack of a “pure female psychology” inspired me to look closer at how females actually behave and develop a psychology based on what they do. My first inquiry into this began by looking at the female-as-victim mentality. Here are some aspects of it:

THE FEMALE-AS-VICTIM

The “female-as-victim” is a mentality where females see themselves as victims. Some examples of this include:

They see victimizing in simple things. They will often see victimizing in everyday things, such as “cleaning the house” or “cooking” (such as that it is “oppression”). I’ve been around some females where if you accidentally touch them then you’ve “harassed” them. I’ve been around others where, if you say the wrong thing, they freak out. I’ve seen some females have a fit all because something wasn’t worded the right way. In fact, after watching this the late 1980’s I used to joke that “if you conjugate your verbs the wrong way it violates their rights”. One thing the female-as-victim has taught me is that a person can make it so that one is being victimizing by just about anything!

They will often see victimizing in everyday things, such as “cleaning the house” or “cooking” (such as that it is “oppression”). I’ve been around some females where if you accidentally touch them then you’ve “harassed” them. I’ve been around others where, if you say the wrong thing, they freak out. I’ve seen some females have a fit all because something wasn’t worded the right way. In fact, after watching this the late 1980’s I used to joke that “if you conjugate your verbs the wrong way it violates their rights”. One thing the female-as-victim has taught me is that a person can make it so that one is being victimizing by just about anything! They interpret common things as a form of victimizing. Often, this is simple everyday things. A good example of this is my introduction to this whole “female problem” which took place in 1976 or 1977. We were going outside for recess. I happened to open a door for a girl. She called me a “male chauvinist pig” . . . all I did was open the door for her, a simple gesture of courtesy! How many times have I heard of girls getting upset because a male opens the door for them? Apparently, we’re trying to degrade them or something??? Utterly ridiculous!

Often, this is simple everyday things. A good example of this is my introduction to this whole “female problem” which took place in 1976 or 1977. We were going outside for recess. I happened to open a door for a girl. She called me a “male chauvinist pig” . . . all I did was open the door for her, a simple gesture of courtesy! How many times have I heard of girls getting upset because a male opens the door for them? Apparently, we’re trying to degrade them or something??? Utterly ridiculous! They exaggerate and blow simple things out of proportion . Once they view something as victimizing them, they blow it out of proportion making it out worse than it is. As I always say, “once a female thinks she’s a victim then she becomes a victim”. In this way, they actually turn themselves into victims with their own mind, sort of a “self-fabricated victim”.

. Once they view something as victimizing them, they blow it out of proportion making it out worse than it is. As I always say, “once a female thinks she’s a victim then she becomes a victim”. In this way, they actually turn themselves into victims with their own mind, sort of a “self-fabricated victim”. If an injury has been done to them they do not forgive it . This “injury” can range from something as simple as an imagined insult to an actual physical assault. Some will hold a grudge for the rest of their lives. In some cases, they are unwilling to forgive at any cost, even if they are proven to be wrong.

. This “injury” can range from something as simple as an imagined insult to an actual physical assault. Some will hold a grudge for the rest of their lives. In some cases, they are unwilling to forgive at any cost, even if they are proven to be wrong. They jump on any chance to make themselves victims. If anything does happen to them, or another female, they are “on it” playing the victim, often with all their effort. For some females its like they are trying to make themselves a victim.

If anything does happen to them, or another female, they are “on it” playing the victim, often with all their effort. For some females its like they are trying to make themselves a victim. They “wallow in their victimhood”. Once they perceive themselves as a victim they will often “wallow” in it. That is, they sit and fashion themselves a victim, gloating on it, elaborating on it, and exaggerating it. They surround themselves with it making the victimhood even stronger and worse. In this way, their sense of victimhood actually grows and they become more and more of a victim. This wallowing quality is a common trait with the female-as-victim. I’ve seen some girls almost make a life out of it.

Once they perceive themselves as a victim they will often “wallow” in it. That is, they sit and fashion themselves a victim, gloating on it, elaborating on it, and exaggerating it. They surround themselves with it making the victimhood even stronger and worse. In this way, their sense of victimhood actually grows and they become more and more of a victim. This wallowing quality is a common trait with the female-as-victim. I’ve seen some girls almost make a life out of it. If a female knows another female who has been hurt or victimized in some way (or thinks they are) then they act as if they are victims too . In this way, females as if “inherit” the victimizing of other females. It creates something like an exclusive “female victim club” mentality. In some cases, if one female thinks she’s a victim then all the females around her think they are victims as well. Its almost like an infectious disease that spreads from one female to the next. The social media has aggravated this particular phenomena.

. In this way, females as if “inherit” the victimizing of other females. It creates something like an exclusive “female victim club” mentality. In some cases, if one female thinks she’s a victim then all the females around her think they are victims as well. Its almost like an infectious disease that spreads from one female to the next. The social media has aggravated this particular phenomena. They are easily scared, frightened, traumatized, etc. Oftentimes, what frightens them is all a figment of their imagination. In many cases, they are just over reacting to “nothing”. Behind much of this mentality is a deep-rooted fear. In fact, I’d say that behind the female-as-victim reflects is a blind fear . . . that’s what motivates it. As a result, these girls are easily frightened.

Oftentimes, what frightens them is all a figment of their imagination. In many cases, they are just over reacting to “nothing”. Behind much of this mentality is a deep-rooted fear. In fact, I’d say that behind the female-as-victim reflects is a blind fear . . . that’s what motivates it. As a result, these girls are easily frightened. They become easily “bothered” or “offended”. I’ve seen females who feel “violated” because guys look at them. I’ve even heard of some females calling this a form of rape!!! I’ve been around girls where you have to be careful of what you say and how you say it. If you say the wrong thing then they are “offended” . . . some even call that “sexual harassment”. In other words, just hearing the “wrong thing” makes them a victim.

I’ve seen females who feel “violated” because guys look at them. I’ve even heard of some females calling this a form of rape!!! I’ve been around girls where you have to be careful of what you say and how you say it. If you say the wrong thing then they are “offended” . . . some even call that “sexual harassment”. In other words, just hearing the “wrong thing” makes them a victim. They become horribly oversensitive and over reactive about things . Simple everyday things can be turned into something horrid and traumatic . . . a look, a statement, touching them . . . I’ve seen many females blow these out of proportion, almost as if their life is being threatened by it.

. Simple everyday things can be turned into something horrid and traumatic . . . a look, a statement, touching them . . . I’ve seen many females blow these out of proportion, almost as if their life is being threatened by it. They have difficulty dealing with unpleasant things. Sometimes, this could be something as simple as overhearing something that they find “offensive”. In other cases, it could be certain facts they don’t like. Sometimes, they will react to this unpleasant thing with a disgust, such as if they come across a smell they don’t like. This is often a prelude to feeling a victim, the disgust turning into feeling somehow victimized, as if they have somehow been personally hurt as a result.

Sometimes, this could be something as simple as overhearing something that they find “offensive”. In other cases, it could be certain facts they don’t like. Sometimes, they will react to this unpleasant thing with a disgust, such as if they come across a smell they don’t like. This is often a prelude to feeling a victim, the disgust turning into feeling somehow victimized, as if they have somehow been personally hurt as a result. They act like people are plotting against them . Some females assume malicious intent in peoples action, especially males. If a male does something they automatically think he’s trying to do something against her. In some cases, they think the whole world is trying to do this. This can reach the point of paranoia at times.

. Some females assume malicious intent in peoples action, especially males. If a male does something they automatically think he’s trying to do something against her. In some cases, they think the whole world is trying to do this. This can reach the point of paranoia at times. They act as if they are always innocent and non-involved with what happens to them. I often call this the “babe in the woods mentality”. In this, they act as if bad things are happening to them without any effort on their part. In short, they are just “sitting there” while other people do “bad things”. I also often call this the “little red riding hood mentality” as they act as if they are little red riding hood skipping along, full of purity and innocence, and then the “evil malicious male wolf” comes and victimizes them out of nowhere.

I often call this the “babe in the woods mentality”. In this, they act as if bad things are happening to them without any effort on their part. In short, they are just “sitting there” while other people do “bad things”. I also often call this the “little red riding hood mentality” as they act as if they are little red riding hood skipping along, full of purity and innocence, and then the “evil malicious male wolf” comes and victimizes them out of nowhere. They have a poor view of females and female things. Often, they tend to take a point of view where female things are “bad” or they look down upon it. Basically, they tend to view being female, and things associated with being female, as some form of abuse and victimizing. In other words, being female is being a victim. They often end up blaming other people for their own bad view of the female often disguising it under “political cause” (their rights are violated, their oppressed, etc.) or some other pretext.

Often, they tend to take a point of view where female things are “bad” or they look down upon it. Basically, they tend to view being female, and things associated with being female, as some form of abuse and victimizing. In other words, being female is being a victim. They often end up blaming other people for their own bad view of the female often disguising it under “political cause” (their rights are violated, their oppressed, etc.) or some other pretext. They take things too personally. If something does happen that bothers them, they make it out as if it hit them to the core. Sometimes, they will take little offenses or insults so bad that they act like its going to kill them.

If something does happen that bothers them, they make it out as if it hit them to the core. Sometimes, they will take little offenses or insults so bad that they act like its going to kill them. They often assume that males are against them or are trying to do things against them . I’ve seen many females who quickly jump to this conclusion. I’ve also seen many who seem to think that the male is “plotting” or “conspiring” against the female. Some even think this has been going on since the beginning of time. Common ways they think males are against them include: trying to degrade them, trying to enslave or control them, and wanting to harm them in some way (which is usually sexual in form).

. I’ve seen many females who quickly jump to this conclusion. I’ve also seen many who seem to think that the male is “plotting” or “conspiring” against the female. Some even think this has been going on since the beginning of time. Common ways they think males are against them include: trying to degrade them, trying to enslave or control them, and wanting to harm them in some way (which is usually sexual in form). They act as if they are always defending themselves against some threat. For some females this creates a “perpetual defensive attitude”. They act as if they must always be on guard and that threats are around every corner. In addition, this mentality tends to make them see threats around every corner and in everything.

For some females this creates a “perpetual defensive attitude”. They act as if they must always be on guard and that threats are around every corner. In addition, this mentality tends to make them see threats around every corner and in everything. They become preoccupied with manners, etiquette, proper behavior, saying things the right way, etc. These are all means to prevent the “victim response”. This is their heightened defensive reaction against the idea of being a victim. In other words, these consists of ways to prevent themselves from feeling a victim mainly by creating a “controlled environment” around them. In this “controlled environment” the “victim response” is not initiated . . . the “control” keeps everything to acceptable levels.

These are all means to prevent the “victim response”. This is their heightened defensive reaction against the idea of being a victim. In other words, these consists of ways to prevent themselves from feeling a victim mainly by creating a “controlled environment” around them. In this “controlled environment” the “victim response” is not initiated . . . the “control” keeps everything to acceptable levels. They offer themselves as victims or predispose themselves to be victims. For example, they wear “skimpy” outfits or go to bars looking for the “wrong male”. Some girls are attracted to abusive males. I’ve actually seen girls deliberately “push his buttons” in order to get their boyfriends mad . . . it turns some girls on.

For example, they wear “skimpy” outfits or go to bars looking for the “wrong male”. Some girls are attracted to abusive males. I’ve actually seen girls deliberately “push his buttons” in order to get their boyfriends mad . . . it turns some girls on. They become overly concerned about their body and their health . This shows that this tendency is associated with their bodies. This is not all that surprising as its referring to childbearing.

. This shows that this tendency is associated with their bodies. This is not all that surprising as its referring to childbearing. They easily accuse people and are all-too-willing to blame people for anything bad that happens to them or that they think have happened to them. I’ve been repetitively stunned by this tendency in some females. I’d say that, in my life, I have seen more false accusations, creations of false threats, and the villainizing of innocent people by females who display the female-as-victim tendency than by any other group. Many of these females do this as easily as breathing . . . its quite amazing.

BECOMING VICTIMS IN THEIR OWN MINDS

My observation is that most perceptions of victimizing by the female-as-victim is fabricated in their own mind. In other words, it is part of a general world perspective that tends to cast a shadow on all their perceptions and interpretations of things. Because of this, they often claim abuse, victimizing, threats, etc. that don’t make any sense, seem exaggerated, seem out-of-place, seem unbelievable, and so on. As a result, it often tends to evoke a response of “what?”, “are you kidding?”, “that’s ridiculous”, and similar things.

This tendency to become victims in their own minds, and fabricate abuse, is one of the things that has made this issue interesting and fascinating. Its also made it a revealing “window” into female psychology and mentality. In addition, its this tendency that also makes this a psychological issue, representative of a psychological problem, and , more specifically, a “female problem”.

Many males notice this tendency to create abuse and generally respond to it with things like disgust, a contempt, a doubt in the female, and bewilderment. Oddly, I’ve seen very little evidence that other females notice these inconsistencies in other females. I know that it does as, when I was younger, I heard several older generation ladies tell younger girls to quit making things out worse than it is. I seem to recall an incidence where a boy kissed a girl suddenly. She made a big deal about it and the older lady said something like, “Quit making a big deal about it . . . he didn’t hurt you. If you had any sense you’d see that he was actually complimenting you. Its his way of showing he likes you”. I seem to recall that she may of went on to say how “you girls, nowadays, don’t have any sense anymore”. This was in the 1970’s.

There are a number of ways that they fabricate victimizing in their minds:

Fabrication. Here they literally fabricate a story out of nothing. It is often created without any evidence or reason to fabricate it. Sometimes, it doesn’t make any sense at all. Interestingly, a good example was a female psychology teacher I had when I was at the University studying psychology. She told of how she went to Sigmund Freud’s house in London. She went on how she was so disgusted, offended, intimidated, and felt violated there. Can you guess why? If anyone knows anything about Sigmund Freud they know that he liked to collect ancient artifacts from places like Ancient Egypt and Ancient Greece. As a result, his office has all these statues in it. It was these statues that so offended her! Can you believe it? She said that they were “phallic symbols” and they intimidated her.

Here they literally fabricate a story out of nothing. It is often created without any evidence or reason to fabricate it. Sometimes, it doesn’t make any sense at all. Interestingly, a good example was a female psychology teacher I had when I was at the University studying psychology. She told of how she went to Sigmund Freud’s house in London. She went on how she was so disgusted, offended, intimidated, and felt violated there. Can you guess why? If anyone knows anything about Sigmund Freud they know that he liked to collect ancient artifacts from places like Ancient Egypt and Ancient Greece. As a result, his office has all these statues in it. It was these statues that so offended her! Can you believe it? She said that they were “phallic symbols” and they intimidated her. Exaggeration. Here they take a situation that does happen and make it out far bigger than it is. A good example is how males “steal a kiss”, as the say (that is, they quickly kiss the girl on her lips without her expecting it). Males doing this is recorded all through history. As far as I know there is no record of a female being “traumatized” by this (at the most they smack him or push him away). This seems to be the case . . . at least until recently. With the female-as-victim they will turn this into some horrid abuse, violation, and victimizing and may even view it as a “sexual attack”. This exaggeration can go to such an extent that they may even reach the point of being “traumatized” by it.

Here they take a situation that does happen and make it out far bigger than it is. A good example is how males “steal a kiss”, as the say (that is, they quickly kiss the girl on her lips without her expecting it). Males doing this is recorded all through history. As far as I know there is no record of a female being “traumatized” by this (at the most they smack him or push him away). This seems to be the case . . . at least until recently. With the female-as-victim they will turn this into some horrid abuse, violation, and victimizing and may even view it as a “sexual attack”. This exaggeration can go to such an extent that they may even reach the point of being “traumatized” by it. Elaboration. Here they take something that has happened and elaborate on it so much that it becomes traumatizing. In this case, their own victim mentality is instilled into the situation and actually makes it worse. These situations, though, are based on real actual events that happened and, as a result, its often hard to tell where the healthy reaction and female-as-victim elaboration begins and ends. My observation, though, is that the female-as-victim tendency will predispose females to be traumatized by an event whereas females who do not display the female-as-victim tendency will not be traumatized by it.

What we see, then, is a great tendency for mental fabrication on the part of the female-as-victim. These hints at the fact that it is based in mental processes and not on actual happenings. In this way, it shows that we are looking at a psychological phenomena.

THE DEGREE’S OF THE FEMALE-AS-VICTIM

There are a number of degree’s in which the female-as-victims appears:

It becomes a world view and dominates their life. I call this the “female-as-victim syndrome” . Personally, I consider this something like a serious clinical conditions such as a neurosis or character disorder. More than once, through the years, have I said that, at least in the U.S., the “female-as-victim syndrome” has reached epidemic proportions. I view it as a particularly prevalent and a serious problem in the U.S.

I call this the . Personally, I consider this something like a serious clinical conditions such as a neurosis or character disorder. More than once, through the years, have I said that, at least in the U.S., the “female-as-victim syndrome” has reached epidemic proportions. I view it as a particularly prevalent and a serious problem in the U.S. It happens sporadically, occasionally, or influences their thinking, perception of things, and world view. I call this the “female-as-victim mentality” . This often borders on a clinical condition. Perhaps we could call it something like a “mild neurosis”.

I call this the . This often borders on a clinical condition. Perhaps we could call it something like a “mild neurosis”. It only appears at certain points of their life. Most females display a degree of the female-as-victim mentality in their life at one point or another. With some females, it may appear strongly only at certain points of their life or under certain conditions. This, it seems to me, is the normal condition. As we will see later, the female-as-victim is a condition that is inherent in the female condition and appears naturally. At this stage, though, it appears in healthy levels and is not dominating them as it is in the previous stages.

My observation is that the stronger the female-as-victim is the more it impairs the females growth and development. Because of this, the female-as-victim tends to lead to a clinical condition like a neurosis. In fact, it appears, to me, that many female problems are related to the female-as-victim. Its because of this that I view this as a serious problem. Sadly, it is a problem that only I have acknowledged and recognized, as near as I can tell.

THE GRADATIONS OF VICTIMIZING

There are gradations or stages of how victimizing appears and manifests itself:

A sense of fragility. This refers to a sense of being “fragile” by the female. This is often described as a quality of being “feminine”. This is a normal healthy manifestation. This shows that the female-as-victim has a basis in a natural and healthy femininity which has gone astray. The later forms, below, reflect this unhealthy form of the female-as-victim (that is, its starting to become ‘neurotic’). “I’m a victim”. This is when they start to feel a victim and shows the female-as-victim is starting to take hold of the female. This tends to reflect a more introverted character and stance. They tend to focus on the fact that they have been “hurt” in some way. Its this “hurt” that they become preoccupied with. They tend to brood and “wallow” on themselves being “hurt”. “I’m a victim of you”. They feel a victim, as in previous form, but blame and accuse someone else for it. This reflects a more extroverted character and stance. In addition, once this stance is taken there is a tendency to take the point of view that they are “innocent” often taking the “babe in the woods” stance. This stance of being “innocent” often tends to aggravate this condition because all their “bad feelings” are directed to someone else. This can make them very malicious, scheming, and condemning. They tend to do this very freely and openly because, remember, they are “innocent”. Because of this, it tends to have greater social implications. The political/legal point of view. They take the previous form (“I’m a victim of you”) but add a political/legal point of view to it. So now its like saying, “I’m oppressed by you”. They often bring in the authority of the Constitution and, in some cases, uses it either as a weapon or a shield. They often rely on, and expect, the authority of politics and law. In this society, many of them discover that using politics and law becomes a “power” that they use or, rather, abuse to get their way . . . and many abuse it heavily. For some girls this stance becomes a way of life. This is the stance that people, such as feminists, tend to take.

If one looks closely, one can see that these gradations are as if built one upon the other, starting with the first “fragile” sense. Each stage adds something to the previous stage. It seems that, as they move further from the first stage, they become more alienated from the original healthy impulse. In other words, the further they move away from the first stage the worse the female-as-victim sense often becomes. In addition, the further it moves away the more it gets mixed up, and confused, with other “issues”.

THE FEMALE-AS-VICTIM THROUGH THE YEARS

I often see patterns of this mentality depending on their age:

The teenage years. They feel something is “upon them”, being forced upon them, or that they have no control. This is the beginning of menstruation and the coming of the mother instinct upon the female. The 20-30 years. They generally feel a victim or a slave. This is the primary childbearing years. The 40-50 years. They often develop a “cause” against being a victim or have definite attitudes about the female-as-victim. This is the menopause years. The childbearing “impulse” is waning but they still feel the psychological effects that the female-as-victim sense created in them in their earlier years. In this way, during this time it tends to become more “psychological” even to the point of being abstract. The two periods before, on the other hand, are motivated by an “impulse”, they are reacting to a sense they feel and tends to have a more emotional quality.

Their age is important as this is all childbearing related. In fact, the whole female-as-victim is nothing but a demonstration of the effects childbearing has on females. Its part of their “response” to the power of the mother instinct.

THE MOTHER INSTINCT AND ITS POWER

We must remember that the mother instinct is a power and has great force. This power is an instinctual sense, which means it hits deep within the female. In fact, it hits to the core. Why is this? Its simply because the continuation of the species is found in the mother instinct. This is no small potatoes but a serious matter, nothing to look at lightly. But, yet, in all my years, I am the ONLY person who has noted it and expressed its importance. Its become clear that this sense is no longer felt nowadays nor is it appreciated and by the people who should appreciate it, the females. My observation is that deep within the female there is still a great sense of the importance of the mother instinct but, superficially, they have lost the sense of its importance. Losing this sense, in my opinion, has caused one of the greatest crisis of the females in the modern world. In fact, I think its undermining and, in a sense, destroying the females. One effect of this is the female-as-victim sense.

The fact is that for a female to lose a sense of the mother instinct is for her to lose the inner sense of being female. The mother instinct hits the female to the core, to their very being, and connects her to “nature”. In some sense, for a female to “get back to nature” is for her to “get back to the mother instinct”. My observation is that the more the female is grounded in the mother instinct the more they are grounded in life and in being a person. When the female is not grounded in the mother instinct they tend to be shallow and superficial, suffering from neurosis, hysteria, feeling a victim, and such. In other words, a female not grounded in the mother instinct tends to be more prone to mental problems. That’s what my observation shows anyways.

Much of the power of the mother instinct is unconscious. That is to say, they are not overtly or consciously aware of it but, nevertheless, they are controlled by it. In this way, many females are reacting to a force that they are not aware of. This often creates a sense, in females, of things such as:

That they are being “forced” to do things.

That they are being controlled.

There is a sense of a “weight” or “burden” upon them.

They feel they have no control and are helpless.

Because it is unconscious females generally are not aware of the cause of these things. In fact, I have never seen a female ascribe the mother instinct to any of its effects. From what I have seen most females, nowadays, have no sense of the mother instinct and its effects on them. I have seen some of the older generation mention it though. They generally spoke of it as “motherhood” or the “mother in them” but I’ve not heard in the younger generations.

THE STRUGGLE WITH THE MOTHER INSTINCT

The mother instinct is something that comes upon females with a force, whether they want it or not or whether they are prepared for it or not. Many females are not prepared for when the mother instinct comes in their teenage years. This is particularly so in modern society. They are particularly not prepared in British and American societies.

What I have found is that many females struggle with the power that the mother instinct has over them. Some of the causes for this difficulty include:

Identity problems. This is very prevalent in modern and British/American societies. These societies have done just about everything in their power to destroy the male and female identity with one result that has become impactful: the female is not prepared for the power the mother instinct has upon them.

This is very prevalent in modern and British/American societies. These societies have done just about everything in their power to destroy the male and female identity with one result that has become impactful: the female is not prepared for the power the mother instinct has upon them. Alienation . Modern society is alienating people from themselves and being human. One effect of this is that females are becoming alienating from the mother instinct.

. Modern society is alienating people from themselves and being human. One effect of this is that females are becoming alienating from the mother instinct. Beliefs. Many females have developed beliefs that undermine, clash with, or portray female things in a bad way. These make it difficult for females to “come to terms” with the power the mother instinct has over them, even to the point that they can’t “come to terms” with being female. Its not uncommon that these beliefs are based in political ideology. Many of these are based, in particular, with British political thinking. This political-based belief is one of the main causes why British and American girls have problems with the mother instinct . In particular, they have turned the mother instinct into a “tyrant” the “oppresses” them in order to fit their political ideology. The male and society generally take the place of the mother instinct “tyrant” which, remember, most females aren’t aware of. In this way, the male and society become the “scapegoats” of the mother instinct.

Many females have developed beliefs that undermine, clash with, or portray female things in a bad way. These make it difficult for females to “come to terms” with the power the mother instinct has over them, even to the point that they can’t “come to terms” with being female. Its not uncommon that these beliefs are based in political ideology. Many of these are based, in particular, with British political thinking. . In particular, they have turned the mother instinct into a “tyrant” the “oppresses” them in order to fit their political ideology. The male and society generally take the place of the mother instinct “tyrant” which, remember, most females aren’t aware of. In this way, the male and society become the “scapegoats” of the mother instinct. Poor views of the female . When females view the female in a bad light they tend to have struggle with the effects of the mother instinct.

. When females view the female in a bad light they tend to have struggle with the effects of the mother instinct. Some females struggle with its overpowering effect. The mother instinct is so powerful that some females naturally have difficulty “coming to terms” with it and how it affects them. For some, this becomes a lifelong battle.

The mother instinct is so powerful that some females naturally have difficulty “coming to terms” with it and how it affects them. For some, this becomes a lifelong battle. Some females character type “clash” with the mother instinct. Sometimes, the females character and personality does not “mesh” with the demands and requirements of the mother instinct.

Sometimes, the females character and personality does not “mesh” with the demands and requirements of the mother instinct. There is an innate “burden” sense with the mother instinct that many females struggle with. For some females this creates a sense as if the “weight of the world” is upon them. We must remember that motherhood is a big weight on the female. One could call the weight of the mother instinct the “weight of the species” and many females do feel this weight deep down inside even though they are not consciously aware of it.

My observation is that the main causes of struggling with the mother instinct in this society are identity problems, alienation, beliefs, and poor views of the female. These have caused all sorts of problems for the female.

MENSTRUATION – VICTIMIZING THE FEMALE

My observation is that the female-as-victim mentality has a strong origin in menstruation and seems to use it as a basis. Menstruation causes a number of reactions such as:

The feeling of being damaged. Every month the female is “damaged” by menstruation. This damage could be perceived as physical and/or mental. They often believe themselves to be “hurt”, “abused”, and even “assaulted”.

Every month the female is “damaged” by menstruation. This damage could be perceived as physical and/or mental. They often believe themselves to be “hurt”, “abused”, and even “assaulted”. The feeling of being enslaved or “forced” to do things. Because menstruation happens every month many females feel enslaved by it. In effect, they are “slaves to being damaged” and on a regular basis. Its regularity also can create a sense that they are “forced” to do things against their will as well.

Because menstruation happens every month many females feel enslaved by it. In effect, they are “slaves to being damaged” and on a regular basis. Its regularity also can create a sense that they are “forced” to do things against their will as well. The feeling of “someone else”. Menstruation is associated with childbearing which means that it is inherently and instinctually associated with “someone else”. In other words, the mother instinct creates in the female a sense that there is “someone else”. I often call this the “other”. It is one of the reasons why females always “needs someone”. It also makes them tend to blame someone else too. Instinctually, the “other” is the male and the child, the other elements in childbearing.

From the above are the basic traits of the female-as-victim sense. All three together create a sense of something like “I’m regularly being damaged by someone else” . . . a victim. In effect, the real victimizer of the female is the mother instinct through menstruation.

I often call menstruation the “negative childbearing” . . . its the childbearing that did not take place. Actual childbearing, on the other hand, is “positive childbearing” as it happened. Some females feel “negative childbearing” as a great loss, as if a part of themselves has died, and they feel this loss every month. It can have tragic consequences for some females, destroying their inner sense of security, their self-esteem, and such. I’m under the impression that most females feel this loss, at least to some extent, and somewhat regularly. As a result, it tends to make many females feel a “victim” or “hurt” in some way. In these cases, though, they are “victims”, or are “hurt”, because they didn’t have a child! This shows the power of the mother instinct.

Interestingly, since menstruation is associated with childbearing which is associated with sex there is an association between sex and victimizing of the female. In other words, sex is sometimes viewed as a form of victimizing the female. It “hurts” or “damages” the female body. She is “violated”, so to speak.

THE ABSENCE OF SELF

The mother instinct tends to create, in the female, a natural absence of self. This tends to cause things such as:

A “mindlessness”

A stupidity or simplemindedness

A dependency

A weakness, frailty, or uncertainty

A childlike quality

A vulnerability

Interestingly, these are traits of “femininity” or being “feminine”. These qualities create something like a spectrum. On one end of the spectrum its one of the great strengths of the female as it makes the female very appealing, particularly to the male. On the other end of the spectrum its one of the great weaknesses of the female as it makes them difficult and hard to get a long with. Since the association with other people is with the self, this is the side of the female the male first see’s and associates with. Its not uncommon that many relationships begin with one end of the spectrum (where the female is appealing) and ends with the other end (where the female is difficult). Not only that, females tend to bounce around along the spectrum, being appealing one minute and difficult the next. As a result of this, the female absence of self can cause quite a dilemma for males in their association with the female. Another interesting effect of the females absence of self is that the male can sense its absence, though not necessarily consciously. Since the male has a strong sense of self (as a result of the need to deal with the world) the female absence of self tends to make females appear “low” or even “subhuman”. As a result, it tends to make males look down on females. I’ve even noticed that tendency in me!

Some of the causes of the absence of self include:

The deep quality of the mother instinct . My observation is that the mother instinct is not an “emotional” sense as people would think nor is it an emotional bond with the child. That can appear but it appears later and tends to be superficial. The mother instinct is, as I’ve said above, instinctual and hits the female deep. In fact, it is so deep that it is below the “emotional” level. Its even deeper than that as its so deep that it is below the self. In this way, the female has no self to “control” the mother instinct. This is one reason why females are so “controlled” and “enslaved” by the mother instinct. As a result of this, we can see that the mother instinct causes an inherent weakness in the female. This contributes to many problems females suffer from.

. My observation is that the mother instinct is not an “emotional” sense as people would think nor is it an emotional bond with the child. That can appear but it appears later and tends to be superficial. The mother instinct is, as I’ve said above, instinctual and hits the female deep. In fact, it is so deep that it is below the “emotional” level. Its even deeper than that as its so deep that it is below the self. In this way, This is one reason why females are so “controlled” and “enslaved” by the mother instinct. As a result of this, we can see that This contributes to many problems females suffer from. The “partial mind”. Much of the mother instinct is not based in “motherly love”, as is often supposed. My observation is that the mother instinct is rooted in the fact that the female has a “partial mind” . . . their mind, and also their self, isn’t complete. The rest of their mind and self rests with the child. In other words, the child completes the females mind and self. In this way, the mother instinct makes the child a part of the female self, a part of her and who she is. In so doing, motherly love is really a love of self as the child is perceived as a part of herself. It also makes the female “need” the child or a substitute for the child (such as social trend).

The absence of self tends to predispose the female to problems as they are unable to control things, their emotions, and even themselves.

Another effect of the absence of self is the tendency where it makes the female view herself as an innocent victim. Basically, her lack of self makes her feel this way for a number of reasons:

The absence of self makes the female “disconnected” with the world around her. As a result, when something bad does happen she assumes that she is not involved. To her, it feels as if something came from somewhere else. Usually, she has no sense of any connection what this is or why it happened.

As a result, when something bad does happen she assumes that she is not involved. To her, it feels as if something came from somewhere else. Usually, she has no sense of any connection what this is or why it happened. The absence of self makes it so she doesn’t realize what she’s doing. The fact is that many females don’t realize their contribution to what happens to them. The females absence of self tends to make them non-reflective. That is to say, they tend to not reflect on their behavior, what they do, and its consequences. As a result, many females do not make any connection of their behavior and the things that happen to them. I’ve seen this many times and have been stunned by it.

The fact is that many females don’t realize their contribution to what happens to them. The females absence of self tends to make them non-reflective. That is to say, they tend to not reflect on their behavior, what they do, and its consequences. As a result, many females do not make any connection of their behavior and the things that happen to them. I’ve seen this many times and have been stunned by it. The absence of self tends to make females naïve and “simple” in their attitude. A good example of this is an article I saw in spring 2017. Basically, it said that because summer is coming females will start to wear “skimpier” outfits which shows off more of their body. She went on to say that it is not “right” that males should look at them because of this. She then brought in law and politics and said that it was “sexist”, discriminatory, and a violation of their rights that males do this and that it makes girls feel “violated”. My reaction to this was “my god, how naïve females are becoming”. There are several points to this article. First of all, it is a denial of how the world works. The fact is that if a female wears “skimpy” outfits guys will look, regardless of the females political views and personal feelings . . . that’s the way the world is. This shows a horrible naiveness which is, it seems to me, becoming very prevalent nowadays. Another point is that it turns the females into victims, yet again, in America. Everywhere you turn females are somehow being victimized it seems. Another point is that it suggests that the males out as having malicious intent by looking at them. As a male I will say that when a female wears “skimpy” outfits you tend to look, there doesn’t need to be malicious intent in it. My experience is that there usually isn’t for most males. Another point is that she made a political and legal issue out of this. This situation has nothing to do with law or politics but I very well know that she brought it up to drum up some authority and to give this ridiculous point of view some validity. To me, using law and politics in this way is like an abuse of law and politics. Another point is that it is making a simple everyday act an act of victimizing . . . I speak of the simple act of looking at someone. So males looking at girls is violation of their rights and makes them feel “violated”. That’s stupid! It sounds more like an insecure female to me.

There are some females who have built a wall around themselves of “I’m innocent”. This is their whole view of themselves. The live in a world of innocency, pure and holy.

CONCEIT – PROTECTING THE WOMB – THE “FEMALE NICHE”

The mother instinct tends to create a sense in females of great self-concern, particularly over their bodies. This self-concern is really a concern over their ability of motherhood and is, basically, a self-protective tendency to protect the womb. I speak of this tendency as “conceit”.

Conceit figures strongly in the female-as-victim sense. This sense of self-protection is often so big that it makes many females over-react and blow things out of proportion if they, in any way, feel threatened. Some examples include:

If you touch them they say they are “abused”, “assaulted”, or whatever.

If they overhear something they don’t like they are “offended”, “harassed”, etc.

If you, in any way, have to make them do something which they don’t want to do then they are “abused”, “harassed”, and such.

In these ways, the sense of self-protection is so strong that the female has to be put in something like a “sterilized shell” where they feel that nothing is threatening them! I often speak of this as the “protected world of the female”. It can get so bad that you have to walk on pins and needles around many females, being careful of everything you say and do, and god help you if you do. Whether its intentional or not does not matter. Once a female thinks they are a victim they “become” a victim . . . a sign of the power of female self-protection.

In many cultures all over the world the females will be “segregated” and removed from the male and greater society. I speak of this as the “female niche”. There are many forms that this appears. Examples include:

Laws, rules, and customs

Etiquette, manners, and “proper behavior”

Roles, occupations, and function in society

Clothes and appearance

The “nest” – people, family, home, or a place they take care of

A specific physical place such as a building

These all create a “protected world” for the female. In a way, the “female niche” is a condition where the females sense of self-protection is not likely to be provoked. What does this reveal? That when the females sense of self-protection is provoked they, as people, don’t have any control over it. When it happens, they tend to over react to it, perhaps to the point of being hysterical. Because of this lack of ability of control they need something other than themselves to be the control element and to protect them. This consists of the qualities of the “female niche” that I have described above. One could also call the “female niche” a “controlled environment” for in the niche things are controlled. That is to say, in the “female niche” things must be a “certain way”, which is another way of saying that it is controlled. Of course, the female-as-victim viewpoint of all this aspect of the female world is something that is “forced” upon them, as I’ve heard some of them claim, but if you look closely you can see that the “female niche” is created by the females themselves. In effect, the females sense of self-protection makes them create the “narrow world” of the “female niche” where things have these qualities:

Nothing threatens them. Things are a “certain way” . . . that is, controlled.

Because of this, a big part of the female life is to live in the “narrow world” this condition creates. In this way, the female does not, in actuality, live in the greater world and tends to be removed from it. One could say that females tend to “live in their own world” as a result. Many males can sense this detachment from the world quality and its one of the reasons why males tend to not look highly on female opinions. I’ve noticed this same tendency in myself, in fact.

But, it appears to me that the stronger the “female niche” the more “healthy” and “stable” the females tend to be. In this way, there is a close association between the female and the “female niche”. In some sense, you could equate them as the same, at least socially. Many people, both male and female, do in fact equate the female-as-a-person with the “female niche”.

The modern world, though, has caused great dilemma for the “female niche” . . . its basically undermined it. I tend to believe that the undermining of the “female niche”, by the modern world, is a significant element in the insecurity and instability of the female nowadays and, accordingly, predisposes them to the female-as-victim mentality.

Some of the causes of the “female niche” being undermined include:

Christianity and the idea that we are all sinners. The Christian idea that we are all sinners has created a sense, in the European mentality, of the “evil” in our nature. This has created an attitude that “we are inherently bad”, which causes a tendency of low self-esteem, and a poor view of oneself. This has affected both the male and the female, but in different ways. For the female it has created a general attitude of how bad they are which turns into an attitude of how the bad the female is in general. This has become something like a “base” for the female-as-victim mentality. Its Christian origins give this “female is bad” victim mentality an almost religious authority and a deep inner meaning which persists to this day. I would say that it is one of the elements that keeps the victim mentality going strong. This is one of the reasons, also, why the female-as-victim mentality is so prevalent in Western European, British, and American society as they have “inherited” this Christian attitude.

The Christian idea that we are all sinners has created a sense, in the European mentality, of the “evil” in our nature. This has created an attitude that “we are inherently bad”, which causes a tendency of low self-esteem, and a poor view of oneself. This has affected both the male and the female, but in different ways. For the female it has created a general attitude of how bad they are which turns into an attitude of how the bad the female is in general. This has become something like a “base” for the female-as-victim mentality. Its Christian origins give this “female is bad” victim mentality an almost religious authority and a deep inner meaning which persists to this day. I would say that it is one of the elements that keeps the victim mentality going strong. This is one of the reasons, also, why the female-as-victim mentality is so prevalent in Western European, British, and American society as they have “inherited” this Christian attitude. The ‘pseudo-nobility’ – abandoning traditional female roles to “play-act nobility”. This became prevalent in England in the early-mid 1800’s and, from my observation, has done great damage to the female identity. Basically, the female “abandoned all that the female was” so that she could have tea parties, have perfect manners, and wear expensive dresses. This created a female identity that, though it was the British ideal, actually was narrow, inadequate, and insufficient for the female. As a result of this, the female identity became superficial and shallow, something like a “pretend game”.

This became prevalent in England in the early-mid 1800’s and, from my observation, has done great damage to the female identity. Basically, the female “abandoned all that the female was” so that she could have tea parties, have perfect manners, and wear expensive dresses. This created a female identity that, though it was the British ideal, actually was narrow, inadequate, and insufficient for the female. As a result of this, the female identity became superficial and shallow, something like a “pretend game”. Blindly following social trend and ideals. This is really a variation of the above and sprouted from it. By trying to “play-act nobility” it created an attitude of females to follow whatever social trend and ideals were out there. Many females do this blindly and mindlessly. What it has done is create a female identity based not in “being female” but in how well you can follow social trend and ideals. In short, the female identity becomes nothing but social trend and ideals. This is very prevalent in this society.

This is really a variation of the above and sprouted from it. By trying to “play-act nobility” it created an attitude of females to follow whatever social trend and ideals were out there. Many females do this blindly and mindlessly. What it has done is create a female identity based not in “being female” but in how well you can follow social trend and ideals. In short, the female identity becomes nothing but social trend and ideals. This is very prevalent in this society. Mass communication. The arrival of mass communication in the early-mid 1800’s had great impact on the “female niche”. This is because, as I’ve said above, society tends to be a “child substitute”. This makes many females almost slavish to social things, such as trend, ideals, moods, and such. In this way, many females began to look at mass communication as a substitute for the “female niche”. The problem is that it is no substitute. The arrival of the social media in the early 2000’s has only aggravated and intensified this condition. In fact, I’ve often felt that social media will guarantee that a “female niche” never gets established.

The arrival of mass communication in the early-mid 1800’s had great impact on the “female niche”. This is because, as I’ve said above, society tends to be a “child substitute”. This makes many females almost slavish to social things, such as trend, ideals, moods, and such. In this way, many females began to look at mass communication as a substitute for the “female niche”. The problem is that it is no substitute. The arrival of the social media in the early 2000’s has only aggravated and intensified this condition. In fact, I’ve often felt that social media will guarantee that a “female niche” never gets established. The fall of roles. Much of the modern world has undermined the value, worth, and meaning of roles. This is true of the female, the male, and other forms of roles. For the female the absence of a defined role takes away part of the walls of the “female niche” by taking away their place and purpose. It also creates a sense of vulnerability to the world.

Much of the modern world has undermined the value, worth, and meaning of roles. This is true of the female, the male, and other forms of roles. For the female the absence of a defined role takes away part of the walls of the “female niche” by taking away their place and purpose. It also creates a sense of vulnerability to the world. The success of the “male world” and what the male has created. One of the things that has surprised me is the fact that many females are envious of the male and what he has created. I call this “male envy”. This envy is seen a lot in the U.S., particularly in the northeast, or so it seems to me. I’ve been stunned how severe this can be. My observation is that a lot of the concern over “equality” is usually reflecting this envy. To be “equal” is really like saying, “I want the glory the male has”. In fact, this envy is so bad for some females that its not uncommon for me to call them a “pathetic caricature of a man”. Personally, for some females, I think that this is an accurate statement. It seems that this envy began to appear in the mid-1800’s with the rise of industrialism and consumerism. Many females looked at all the achievements the male has created and basically became envious. This envy has eaten away not only the female identity, making them view the female in a bad light, but its made them want to aspire to be men . . . not a good recipe for stable females. In addition, it has eaten away at the male/female relationship to the point that it has, in some cases, literally destroyed it. In this way, “male envy” has greatly affected society, far more than you’d think. Its had greatly impacted females, some more than others.

These have all played their part in the undermining of the “female niche”. Its fall has destroyed the “protected world of the female” and exposed the female to the world, so to speak. As a result, the female tends to have an attitude of being “frightened of the world” in today’s society (though they may deny or not be aware of it).

Once the “female niche” began to be undermined the females began to feel “vulnerable” and threatened. This has caused a number of defensive reactions which have only undermined the “female niche” even further:

Certain political and legal thinking. These points of views primarily came from England and France and are primarily based in things like democracy, rights, oppression, freedom, and such. Generally, they have fashioned the female as the “oppressed” and this becomes the basis of how they view themselves, the society, and the world. They seem to think that using political and legal thinking will somehow take away their fear, and feeling threatened, but it hasn’t. In this way, its like a “dead end road”. They sit and state all these high and mighty ideas but it doesn’t do anything.

These points of views primarily came from England and France and are primarily based in things like democracy, rights, oppression, freedom, and such. Generally, they have fashioned the female as the “oppressed” and this becomes the basis of how they view themselves, the society, and the world. They seem to think that using political and legal thinking will somehow take away their fear, and feeling threatened, but it hasn’t. In this way, its like a “dead end road”. They sit and state all these high and mighty ideas but it doesn’t do anything. Trying to be like males. Many females have sought refuge in the male identity. This so obviously shows the insecurity of the female identity. In fact, when a female tries to be a man they might as well say “I’m insecure being a female” to me. Even the movies are starting to portray females as “great warriors” patterned, of course, after men (such as the recent Star Wars movies). It doesn’t take a genius to see why this type of stuff undermines the female. This is rather prevalent in the U.S.

Many females have sought refuge in the male identity. This so obviously shows the insecurity of the female identity. In fact, when a female tries to be a man they might as well say “I’m insecure being a female” to me. Even the movies are starting to portray females as “great warriors” patterned, of course, after men (such as the recent Star Wars movies). It doesn’t take a genius to see why this type of stuff undermines the female. This is rather prevalent in the U.S. Building a “shell” around themselves. When females feel “vulnerable”, as a result of the fall of the “female niche”, they often develop something like a shell or wall around themselves. This often makes females very difficult, and even impossible, to associate with. Even though this may help their sense of vulnerability, it does nothing in the end. This is very prevalent in the U.S.

When females feel “vulnerable”, as a result of the fall of the “female niche”, they often develop something like a shell or wall around themselves. This often makes females very difficult, and even impossible, to associate with. Even though this may help their sense of vulnerability, it does nothing in the end. This is very prevalent in the U.S. Playing “games”. Another defense they do is that they try to make things be a “certain way” when they associate with people, especially males. This desire for things to be a “certain way” is a trait of the “female niche” (see above) so its not surprising that they try to reinstate it as a defense. Basically, what happens is that they require you to do certain things before they will even associate with you. These often have a quality of a “game”. One could also describe it as a “jumping through hoops” as well.

I can see that many females are always trying to “reestablish” a new “female niche” but nothing seems to be working.

IDENTITY PROBLEMS AND THE FEMALE-AS-VICTIM

I tend to associate the female-as-victim with female identity problems, at least in this society. In many respects, I thinks its safe to say that the female-as-victim mentality and syndrome are indicative of a female identity problem. In other words, when females display it generally means they have a problem with their identity.

In the U.S., females have a serious female identity problem. I often call American girls with this problem the ‘failed sex’ as the female identity has failed (see some of my articles such as, “Thoughts on some aspects of female identity problems“, “Thoughts on my statement: “at the rate we are going the female will be obliterated”“, and “Thoughts on female identity problems – an example of how females are losing the ability to interpret their own naturally appearing motherly feelings, the ‘alienated mother desire’, and other things“).

The reason why identity is so important is that identity forms a “framework” or “pattern” for ones passions, impulses, and natural inclinations. In this way, identity takes these impulses and gives them value, a means of grown, and a meaning. Sexual identity is there because it caters to, controls, directs, and gives meaning to naturally appearing sexual-based impulses. As a result of this, there develops very marked and demarcated sexual differences, roles, and behavior. To not have identity is as if to be “formless”, so to speak, which causes a lot of problems. It becomes difficult to become a person, for example, or to find ones place in society. So we can see that identity is critical for a healthy and meaningful life.

When identity is faulty or missing, many impulses as if “go amuck”, have no meaning, or get misdirected in other directions. As a result, identity problems often creates feelings such as:

A meaningless or purposeless . This is because their impulses have no apparent “value” in life and society.

. This is because their impulses have no apparent “value” in life and society. A feeling of being lost . This is because their impulses give them no place in life.

. This is because their impulses give them no place in life. A feeling of being controlled . This is because they feel they have no control over their lives.

. This is because they feel they have no control over their lives. Certain impulses control them or they feel they do not have control over certain impulses. Because these impulses have not been given a direction and place these impulses often go astray, uncontrolled, and undirected.

As a result of identity problems the female-as-victim tends to feel particularly controlled by, and at the mercy, of menstrual feelings (described above). Being without a firm and healthy identity these impulses, basically, have no place to go nor any meaning. Since these impulses are repetitive, with great force, entail the importance of childbearing, and given no meaning, they tend to as if “impose” themselves upon the female forcefully. As a result, the menstrual traits described above tend to be exaggerated and intensified (feeling damaged, feeling a slave, and that someone else is at fault). This becomes the base of the feelings of being a victim. If it is particularly severe then they start to see these themes everywhere and in everything (such as everything damages them, everything enslaves them, and its someone else’s fault). Once this starts it starts to control or overwhelm many females. This is particularly aggravated because of a lack of self to control things (see above) . . . they are now defenseless against it. As a result, many females literally become “at the mercy” of these menstrual feelings . . . it dominates them, it controls them, and they become a “puppet” to it. This condition, really, is a big part of the female-as-victim.

My observation is that females who have firm identities, as a female, tend to not have victim feelings nor develop the female-as-victim mentality. This shows, at least to me, the importance and value of the female identity. It also shows that a significant trait, and quality, of the female identity is in dealing with menstrual feelings, passions, and tendencies. In some respects, one could say that this is one of the biggest differences between male and female identity as the male does not have these feelings.

The female needs to control these menstrual feelings in order to have a healthy and meaningful life. As a result, female identity tends to have a qualities such as:

Being reactive. In other words, females are reacting to a condition that is as if “imposed” upon them. Identity allows them to reactive in a more effective, meaningful, and healthy way. When the female has no identity this “imposition” of the mother instinct, particularly through menstruation, can cause great problems (or lead to great problems) . As stated above, the power of the mother instinct is so strong that many females end up struggling with it, at least to some extent. A lack of identity only predisposes them to problems.

. As stated above, the power of the mother instinct is so strong that many females end up struggling with it, at least to some extent. A lack of identity only predisposes them to problems. Being controlling. The power of the mother instinct is so strong and powerful that the female identity needs to have particularly strong and powerful means to control it and its effects. In a sense, the mother instinct “needs to be controlled” which means that the female identity “needs to be controlled”. As a result, the female identity tends to reflect this “control” by entailing more restrictions, more controlling qualities, more prohibitions, etc. This fact tends to give the female identity more of a “slavish” and controlling quality. Many males can sense this. For some males it will cause them to develop a low view of the female as a result. From my own observation I’d describe this quality as giving females a “minion”or robot-like quality.

These qualities are unique to the female identity and, accordingly, give much of the quality of “being female”.

The female identity is closely associated with the “female niche”. In fact, they are so closely related that one could say that the fall of the “female niche” is the fall of the female identity. I’ve described some of the aspects of the fall of the “female niche” above.

The “female niche” benefits the female identity a number of ways:

Since it is a “female world” it brings out, and develops, many naturally appearing female passions, impulses, etc.

It is where they learn to make these impulses have value and worth.

It gives females a “role model”.

It allows the older generation of females to impart a healthy identity on the younger generations based on their experience.

It is a “protected world” where they do not feel threatened and are free to develop an identity.

It seems, to me, that the female identity is so associated with the “female niche” that its fall is a great unspoken tragedy.

At this time, I see no evidence that the male had any involvement in the destruction of the “female niche” or the female identity, as many female-as-victims claim (as part of their blame and accusation). In fact, my inquiry shows that the males were generally supportive of the “female niche” and female identity as a whole. But when the male tried to support the female identity, such as maintaining the role of a wife, the female-as-victim females called it “oppression” or some form of abuse. So you see that the female-as-victim female had more help and support than they think but they pushed it away. This is because they were so fixated on the victim theme that this is how they interpreted everything and all that they could see. My observation is that this tendency to push away support is a big contributing factor in the fall of the female identity and the “female niche”. In other words, the female-as-victim is so committed to being a victim that they undermined themselves by not accepting support!

I see no evidence that society destroyed the “female niche” or the female identity. The role played by society is one of a “backdrop” or in the fact that it “cast a shadow” over it all. As a result, it set a form or pattern for how this problem appeared and manifested itself but it did not create it. In this way, society did not play an active role.

From what I can see, the active role in the destruction of the “female niche”, and the female identity, seems to lie with the female herself. I’ve discussed aspects of this in a number of articles, such as “Thoughts on the ‘failed sex’ – how many female traits have failed – a hidden crisis of the American female ” and “Thoughts on how females are continuing the mistake of their mothers before them . . . continuing the ‘failed sex’ and promoting alienation “. Sadly, as I watch females today, I can see how many are undermining the female identity. And, more importantly, no one is forcing them to do it, no one is making them do it . . they are doing it all on their own. Common ways they undermine themselves include:

Being a slave to social ideals. Here they are trying to as if make the female identity equated with the social ideas. Even recently, I’ve seen many girls with shirts on that reflect social ideas, such as “be happy”, “life is good”, etc. Some shirts are more revealing and say something like “be kind, be compassionate, be you”. They are basically saying “I am these social ideals, they are who I am”. The problem is that this is not a genuine identity and does not really reflect them as a person . . . they’re just blindly following social ideals. In short, social ideals fails as an adequate identity. Another social ideal is going to college and having a job. Many females are sacrificing everything, including their female identity, to pursue this high and mighty American ideal, all so they can have a job. I tend to believe that, one day, many females are going to “wake up” and realize that all a female has become is someone who has a job . . . and that’s it! The mother instinct, the base of the female identity, will be nowhere to be seen. “Having a job” is not an adequate identity either.

Here they are trying to as if make the female identity equated with the social ideas. Even recently, I’ve seen many girls with shirts on that reflect social ideas, such as “be happy”, “life is good”, etc. Some shirts are more revealing and say something like “be kind, be compassionate, be you”. They are basically saying “I am these social ideals, they are who I am”. The problem is that this is not a genuine identity and does not really reflect them as a person . . . they’re just blindly following social ideals. In short, social ideals fails as an adequate identity. Another social ideal is going to college and having a job. Many females are sacrificing everything, including their female identity, to pursue this high and mighty American ideal, all so they can have a job. I tend to believe that, one day, many females are going to “wake up” and realize that all a female has become is someone who has a job . . . and that’s it! The mother instinct, the base of the female identity, will be nowhere to be seen. “Having a job” is not an adequate identity either. Being a slave to social trend. This includes fads, trends, and mass hysteria. Social media plays a large role here. What they do it slavishly follow social trends, whatever it is. Typically, this is done blindly and slavishly. They then associate their identity with how well they follow social trend. The better they follow the trend the “better they feel about themselves and who they are”. This, obviously, is not a source for an adequate identity.

This includes fads, trends, and mass hysteria. Social media plays a large role here. What they do it slavishly follow social trends, whatever it is. Typically, this is done blindly and slavishly. They then associate their identity with how well they follow social trend. The better they follow the trend the “better they feel about themselves and who they are”. This, obviously, is not a source for an adequate identity. Trying to be a man. Many females tend to think that being a man will somehow “save” them from the ordeal of female problems. Someone tell me how trying to be a man makes for a stronger female identity? I think its obvious: it doesn’t!

Many females tend to think that being a man will somehow “save” them from the ordeal of female problems. Someone tell me how trying to be a man makes for a stronger female identity? I think its obvious: it doesn’t! Portraying themselves as victims. This, of course is the female-as-victim I am speaking of in this article.

Keep in mind that these are the most common things I see and doesn’t include everything but they all tend to undermine the female identity or prevent its development. I should also point out that all these are responses to the problem not solutions. So far, from what I can see, there is little constructive effort on the part of the female to develop a healthy and firm female identity at this time.

SOCIAL HYSTERIA – THE SOCIAL SPREAD OF THE FEMALE-AS-VICTIM

With the absence of self the female needs the child or “child substitute” to complete themselves, as I’ve said before. A common “child substitute” is society. This makes many females almost slavish to social trend, fads, ideals, and such. Some follow society like a puppy dog begging for food. I’ve even described some females behavior as a “brown-nosing” or a “sucking up” to society.

Since following society, as a form of “child substitute”, is associated with the absence of self (as described above) it follows that this tendency is associated with the weakness, frailty, and insecurities that the absence of self causes. As a result, many females quickly become insecure when a fear or threat develops in society. This insecurity makes many females prone to social hysteria.

Many females are particularly prone to other females “feeling threatened” (that is, feeling a victim). So if one female “feels threatened” it often spreads from one female to another like domino’s. With the social media this can spread and get out of control quite quickly. This tendency shows a “connection” or “bond” that females have with each other which, I believe, is rooted in various aspects of the mother instinct:

Being a victim

The self-protective sense

Motherhood

These are all things they feel in other females which creates something like an “instinctual bond” between females. It seems to be unconscious. This “instinctual bond” causes a bond that makes fears and threats spread between females. Its like a common denominator that allows an avenue for fears and threats. What this means is that the mother instinct creates a tendency in females of social hysteria and a quick spread of fears and threats between females.

“FEMININE NEAR-SIGHTEDNESS” – THE EFFECT OF OBSESSION

The mother instinct tends to cause a tendency in the female where they become “focused” or “fixated” on something. This causes naturally appearing character traits that can be described in ways such as:

A naiveness.

A “narrow-mindedness”.

As if they are looking at life “through a tube”.

As if they have “blinders” on.

A near-sightedness or they can only see so far.

An inability to “get the big picture”.

It also creates a particular form of stupidity that is unique to the female. Basically, being “focused” and “fixated” tends to impair what they see and, as a result, their understanding of things.

These tendencies are a manifestation of the mother instinct. Basically, the mother instinct creates an instinctual-like tendency in the female where they put all their concentration, effort, and awareness in a specific thing. This “specific thing”, of course, is the child. In other words, the mother instinct creates a tendency to a “focusing” or “fixation” on the child or a representation of the child. This creates a generalized attitude which they take in life, of “focusing” or becoming “fixated” on certain things. This creates the qualities described above. I call this tendency “feminine near-sightedness”. Males, on the other hand, tend to be far-sighted and, accordingly, display “masculine far-sightedness”. As a result, males tend to get more of the “big picture” whereas females get more of the “little picture”.

“Feminine near-sightedness” tends to cause some unique traits in the female, such as:

They see more of the “suttle” things of life, the small nuances, and meanings in life (which the male tends to overlook).

They can often read the “hidden meanings” between people.

They live “second-by-second”.

They are often more “in tune” with the social mood.

At times, this quality can be the greatest strength of the female. At other times, though, it can be their greatest weakness. This is generally because they become too “focused” on small things, forgetting the bigger picture.

The tendency to “fixation” often figures in the female-as-victim. This is because of the association between “fixation” (that is, on the child representation) and the victim mentality . . . they reflect the mother instinct. As a result, when they feel a victim its not uncommon for them to become “fixated” on things such as:

The fact that they see themselves as victims.

What the view as the cause.

Who they blame and accuse.

Once this “fixation” takes place they often display these qualities:

They often cannot get their mind off of it.

They see it in everything.

They act as if the whole world revolves around it.

It dominates their interpretations of things.

In this way, the female-as-victim often takes on qualities of an obsession disorder. What this shows is that there is a close association between the female-as-victim and obsession. Many females become obsessed with being a victim and often can’t get it out of their minds. This is why it dominates and controls their lives. I’ve seen some females where the female-as-victim becomes a world view, and a basis of how they interpret the world (for example, I’ve heard some say something to this effect: “the female has been oppressed by the male since the beginning of time”). When this happens it almost looks “insane” or “psychotic”, in a way. They start conjuring up all these weird threats and victimizing as if pulling rabbits out of hat. Feminists are well known for this.

COMMON THEMES WITH THE FEMALE-AS-VICTIM

Overall, there are common themes associated with the female-as-victim. These are:

The idea that the female is a victim or damaged in some way

Menstruation – “negative childbearing”

Childbearing – “positive childbearing”

Sex

The male

These themes are as if intertwined and are often closely related, equated, and in different ways and forms. For example, sex is viewed as the means for childbearing but some females see sex as a form of victimizing or damaging of the female. As a result, the male is often viewed as the “victimizer” as he is associated with sex and childbearing. Another example is that the male is viewed as “enslaving” the female but this really is a manifestation of menstruation. The reason why this interests them so much is a deep desire to be pregnant which is associated with menstruation. This reveals a theme I see all the time, that when the female feels she’s a victim, or is damaged in some way, it often hides a desire to be pregnant. This is why some females will become preoccupied with being a victim. Other females will even seek to be victims of the male for this very reason (such as by going to bars or being attracted to abusive males).

All in all, its quite clear that motherhood, and the mother instinct, is closely associated with a sense of being hurt, damaged, or victimized in some way. Its as if this is the “price of motherhood”. This is a deep inner sense that females have, some more than others. This means that females innately feel “victimized” as a result. Because of this, the female-as-victim sense affects the female life in many ways such as:

It figures prominently in the mentality of the female, as a general rule.

It tends to appear when females have problems.

It motivates and causes many problems.

In this way, the female-as-victim sense is inherent in the female condition. Its a question of how far it gets out of control.

THE TUG-OF-WAR OF MOTHERHOOD – THE EFFECT OF THE “VIOLATION THEME”

One interesting effect of motherhood is that it creates a particular type of tug-of-war in the female. This can be quite a crisis for some females. Others may not feel it at all. Its a tug-of-war between two impulses:

A desire to be “violated” – The desire to be a mother.

– The desire to be a mother. The fear of being “violated” – The fear of being “damaged” by motherhood (childbearing, sex, the male) which incites the self-preservation of the womb tendency or conceit (see above).

In this tug-of-war its as if “on one hand they want to be violated and on the other hand they are frightened to be violated”. Common ways females struggle with this issue include:

They desire to be violated which can be a desire for sex or even a desire to be abused.

They alternate between wanting to be violated and being frightened, often changing with their mood.

A part of their mind wants to be violated but their conscious mind isn’t aware of it . . . consciously they act frightened.

They are frightened.

This shows that motherhood innately entails what can be described as a “violation theme”. This is an innate sense that their body must be “violated” or, rather, transgressed in order to have a child. There are two things that “violate” the female:

The child The male

It is one, or both, that frightens them. It is perceived that this “violation” will “damage” them. In other words, there is a deep unconscious awareness that the female body must be “damaged” for motherhood to happen. This, of course, conflicts with the self-preservation of the womb. This is the paradox of the childbearing and the cause of the tug-of-war . . . the female innately protects the womb as something “precious”, as its the source of childbearing, but in order for this “precious” womb to come to fruition it must be “damaged”. They don’t want to damage something they view as “precious” but they need to.

How is this dilemma resolved? Several things seem important:

A firm female identity. This gives them a firm base and understanding of what a female is and what a female does in life.

The “female niche”. This gives a sense of security and well-being as well as a sense that motherhood is part of a greater story involving all the females and the mothers that have come before you.

Established and accepted social conventions which makes it all non-threatening. These include things like courtship, marriage, a culturally based respect for childbearing, an understanding of the role of a mother, etc. These social conventions ease the conflict by making it “make sense” and “acceptable”.

These give the dilemma a “security” in its resolution. But all these things tend to be either missing or weak in the female-as-victim. As a result, the female-as-victim tends to have conflict with the tug-of-war and “violation theme” and are not able to resolve it. One effect of this is that they tend to always feel “violated”, “damaged”, “hurt”, or somehow adversely affected. In this way, the female-as-victim has a quality of someone who is really groaning about the ordeals of childbearing. After watching it all these years I’d say that there is a lot of truth in that. Its like they are saying, “motherhood is too much for me” but its said in roundabout ways, such as:

A female becoming upset because she heard a “dirty joke”.

A female feeling “raped” because guys look at her.

A feminist saying “we’re all oppressed by the male because they force us to cook”.

A female becoming traumatized because a male touched her breast (whether its intentional or not . . . does it matter?).

A female who tries to outdo the male.

These are just some of the claims of the female-as victim but I think you get the idea.

THE FEMALE-AS-VICTIM AND THE “STERILIZED SHELL”

As I mentioned above, the female-as-victim mentality often creates a tendency to be over reactive, offended, bothered, and “traumatized” by things like statements. In other words, nothing happens to them but yet they act like its going to kill them! We once had to go through a ridiculous seminar over sexual harassment many years ago. A great deal of what they said was reflective of the female-as-victim mentality. Basically, what we were told is that the male has to walk on “tip toes” around the female so as to not aggravate the over sensitive and neurotic female-as-victim mentality. If the male does aggravate it then the male is at fault . . . there was no mention, at all, that maybe the females ought to not be so ridiculously over sensitive and learn to “deal with it”. Instead, the male was told to “deal with” the ridiculousness of the neurotic female-as-victim female. This point of view, in my opinion, is not acceptable. After looking at the female-as-victim mentality all these years I feel, very strongly, that a number of things should happen, such as:

The female needs to take responsibility for her behavior.

The female cannot expect everyone, especially the male, to change for her over sensitive nature.

They need learn to deal with certain realities (such as that some males do tend to do “dirty jokes” and be vulgar).

They should be reprimanded, and even punished, for their behavior.

A good example is that if a female hears a dirty joke they need to “tune it out” and ignore it. That’s basically what the male is told to do with the female. Well, the female should do the same for the male. I will say that, after being around the female-as-victim mentality all these years I’m tired of walking on “tip toes” around them. Its like catering to someones delusion and neurosis. The more its catered to the less likely its going to be overcome. At any rate, during this seminar they told us that even if a female is in another room and overhears a “dirty joke” between two guys that, god help us, offends her then that is considered sexual harassment. I was so appalled by that. I just about stood up and said, “my god, you girls are the weaker sex . . . when you can’t even tolerate a dirty joke!” I’ve heard jokes that have disgusted me to but, by god, I don’t get traumatized by it. What all this shows is that the female-as-victim female expects that a “sterilized shell” is place around her, where they do not feel threatened, harmed, or bothered in any way. If this “sterilized shell” is not maintained then they tend to blame someone else for it (the all-so-familiar blame and accusation tendency).

This “sterile shell” goes so far that one must be careful of things like:

Manners and etiquette.

The”pleasantness” of things.

What they see.

What is said.

Its like the female-as-victim female needs to be in a fantasy land world where there is nothing that bothers them, where everything is “fine and dandy”, pleasant, and non-threatening.

This “sterile shell” is really an exaggeration and distortion of the “female niche” to the point of being neurotic. In fact, I tend to view the “sterile shell” as a reflection of the breakdown of the “female niche”. In actuality, its an abortive attempt at trying to create a “female niche”. Some of the differences include:

The “female niche” is generally focused on a physical location. The “sterile shell” is their immediate surroundings regardless of wherever they are.

When they are out of the “female niche” they to tend to “respect” the conditions of the new surroundings. In the “sterile shell” they do not respect the conditions of the new surroundings . . . they expect the “sterile shell” to be maintained and around them at all times.

The “female niche” is female focused where the females tend to themselves, their issues, their dilemma’s, and their conflicts. These generally do not leave the “female niche” (as a result, males are not usually aware of “female problems”). This point of view is absent in the “sterile shell”.

So we see that with the “female niche” there is a perception of “their place” and “not their place” which is absent in the “sterile shell”. In so doing, with the “sterile shell” mentality they expect the world to conform to their “issues”.

The “sterile shell” tends to be equated with their bodies and they treat it as if it was their bodies. As a result, when the “sterile shell” is “violated” by something that offends or bothers them, they treat it as if their bodies have been “violated”. This causes conceit and the self-preservation of the womb (see above) to come in and take over. This causes a tendency where they over react to the situation. Because of this, the “sterile shell” mentality tends to cause a tendency of over reaction in females.

In addition, conceit and the preservation of the womb tends to make females feel threatened, violated, damaged, and frightened . . . that is, they feel victims. As a result, the “violation” of the “sterile shell” is generally taken personally to the point of being a “personal attack”. This can get to the point that they become “traumatized” by it, even though nothing has happened. Remember that this “violation” can be something as simple as a “dirty joke” by a male.

THE “SCAPEGOAT” OF THE MOTHER INSTINCT – BLAME AND ACCUSATION – FABRICATING THREATS – THE VICTIM BECOMES THE VICTIMIZER

As I said above, the mother instinct is instinctual. It is so deep that females are not aware of it. Despite this, they are still affected by it. As a result of this discrepancy, females who are suffering its effects tend to need to find a “scapegoat” for it since they don’t know whats causing it. In so doing they basically create or fabricate a victimizer that doesn’t exist (or exaggerate or twist things around to the point that they become a victimizer). In this way, the female-as-victim sense tends to cause a lot of blame and accusation. In this society, the male or society is usually the “cause” for their problems . . . they become the “scapegoat” of the mother instinct.

The problem with this, and which I find appalling, is that they end up blaming and accusing innocent people. In this way, the female, who claims to be the victim, actually becomes a victimizer. I first noticed this with a group of people called feminists whose blind and ridiculous accusations I find appalling and unacceptable (see my article “Thoughts on the absurd claims of feminists“). In fact, the older I get the more appalling their claims have become. Many have created a whole world view where the female is nothing but a victim since the beginning of time, usually by the “tyrant male”. Some even think there is some sort of a “male conspiracy” against the female, a great plot to degrade, enslave, or abuse the female. Totally absurd!

Many females with the female-as-victim sense will claim all forms of abuse, victimizing, attacks, violations, and such which are often not true and may not of even happened at all. These are usually the males fault (showing its connection to sex and childbearing). There seems to be a number of patterns in which victimizing took place:

A victim-by-principle. This refers to them being a victim because they have some principle they favor “violated”. This could be things like a “rights violation”, an “attack” on their high views of themselves, a moral transgression, and such. This was used a lot by feminists who generally cited principles from the American Constitution and law.

This refers to them being a victim because they have some principle they favor “violated”. This could be things like a “rights violation”, an “attack” on their high views of themselves, a moral transgression, and such. This was used a lot by feminists who generally cited principles from the American Constitution and law. A victim-by-exposure. This means that they are a victim because they have been “exposed” to something they don’t like or which bothers them. This could be something like an idea that doesn’t agree with them, an “obscene joke”, a vulgarity, parts of the male body (intentional or not), and so on.

This means that they are a victim because they have been “exposed” to something they don’t like or which bothers them. This could be something like an idea that doesn’t agree with them, an “obscene joke”, a vulgarity, parts of the male body (intentional or not), and so on. A victim-by-emotion. This is when they feel a victim because some unpleasant or unwanted emotion has appeared in them. What they usually do, though, is blame the person or persons who instigated it . . . its their fault! But its actually their inability to deal with the emotion that victimizes them. In other words, they are victims of the emotion!

This is when they feel a victim because some unpleasant or unwanted emotion has appeared in them. What they usually do, though, is blame the person or persons who instigated it . . . its their fault! But its actually their inability to deal with the emotion that victimizes them. In other words, they are victims of the emotion! A victim-by-act. This means that something has happened to them. Probably the best example is rape.

As I’ve looked at this these past 30 or so years it seems, at least to me, that claims of abuse and victimizing tends to go in thirds: one third did happen, another third is “questionable”, exaggerated, or a matter of opinion, and the last third is made up or fabricated. I should point out that, because of the females tendency to social hysteria particularly when feeling “threatened” in some way (as I mentioned above), there is a tendency to fabricate stories of abuse once something becomes public, particularly after appearing in the media. Its like dominoes, once it starts the feelings of abuse spread like wildfire. In this way, once something becomes public, and a hysteria starts in the female population, there are more likely to be more stories of fabricated and false abuse and victimizing. Because of this, the third that is normally for fabricated and made up abuses rises in quantity, even to over a half. Some of the ways these stories start to appear include:

They start “seeing” abuse and victimizing in things that happened in the past. In other words, once the social hysteria gets going they start seeing things that have happened in the past in a bad light. Often, this is not something that bothered them enough for them to mention before. This, it seems to me, is the cause for many females “all of a sudden” saying they were abused or victimized so many years or even decades ago. They will often say, “they were scared to tell anyone”, or something like that, but my observation is that this is just a continuation of the victim line of thought: they blamed the male first, then they blame society. In this way, they complete their victimhood . . . the female becomes the victim-of-the-world!

In other words, once the social hysteria gets going they start seeing things that have happened in the past in a bad light. Often, this is not something that bothered them enough for them to mention before. This, it seems to me, is the cause for many females “all of a sudden” saying they were abused or victimized so many years or even decades ago. They will often say, “they were scared to tell anyone”, or something like that, but my observation is that this is just a continuation of the victim line of thought: they blamed the male first, then they blame society. In this way, they complete their victimhood . . . the female becomes the victim-of-the-world! They start seeing abuse and victimizing in things that are happening now. In other words, situations that normally don’t bother them all-of-a-sudden do. They start to exaggerate and twist things around to make themselves victims.

In other words, situations that normally don’t bother them all-of-a-sudden do. They start to exaggerate and twist things around to make themselves victims. They start to become overly oversensitive about things. “Little things” start to bother them or things that they don’t like are blown out of proportion. These are then elaborated to the point that they turn into abuse and victimizing.

“Little things” start to bother them or things that they don’t like are blown out of proportion. These are then elaborated to the point that they turn into abuse and victimizing. They start fabricating stories of abuse to “get in” on the hysteria . Here, they actually make the stories up. But, because of “conceit”, and its self concern, they are not aware 