I was at a neighborhood bar when in walked a man that I'd slept with before -- virtually speaking. We had traded intimacies without ever having met.

I grabbed my friend's arm and whispered, "My favorite male porn star just walked in the door." She looked at me dumbfounded: "You have a favorite male porn star?" OK, so the competition isn't steep and, yes, I'm one of those mythic women who actually like porn (but for the record, we make up an estimated one-third of visits to adult sites). When I first clicked across this man -- with his smoldering eyes, strong nose and athletic body -- it allowed me to forget for a moment that porn is largely made by and for men. He's a rare male performer who is charismatic, young and handsome -- everything the infamous Ron Jeremy is not.

Seeing him in person, there was one thought on my mind: I need ...