We all want to be told there is a surefire system. Do this and you’ll be good to go, a guaranteed success. The weird thing is that these systems exist, and they actually work. If you find somebody who was uber successful and get them to divulge their every secret, strategy, and trick then you follow those steps verbatim you will find grandiose success.

Or some variation of it; whatever you want to call it.

I don’t believe it will be true success in the way we think of it. Because it won’t be yours. It is theirs; their system. You may have more zeros in your bank account than when you started but you will have fed into the ego of whomever you copied. Because it was their way that worked, not yours. You will have effectively turned yourself into a second rate version of somebody else who did it first.

And who the f*ck are they?

The last time I checked I have no strong feeling of “liking” towards the majority of the people I observe on a day to day basis. Some people call this narcissism but that can’t be right. I know and recognize how off center I am.

I also actively try to eliminate any thoughts of superiority when I watch the actions of other people. We are all of the same earth, the same species. You have as much, or more, potential than I. But when I look at myself in the mirror it is always with rose colored glasses.

Someone somewhere once said these words, I probably found it on r/getmotivated or something but it goes like this;

“If I’m not hopelessly in love with myself, why would anybody else be?”

I don’t lie to myself, the room for improvement is vast. But that doesn’t mean I want to be anybody else. What I want, and what I think we all want, is to fully expand ourselves into our most grand potential and find some people along the way who think that's pretty cool. What I don’t want is to leave a legacy that reads;

“Here lies Tyler. He was a lot like Tom; a little funnier.”

If I’m doing this thing then I’m going to do it my way. And you should to. We don’t have to be afraid of people not vibing with what we're putting out because those people suck.

If you are being true to yourself, speaking in your honest voice, following your gut then how can you go wrong? So what if you don’t become a multi million dollar success, there are too many of those turds as is.

It’s money, you can’t take it with you. The biggest disservice you can ever perform is playing somebody else’s game.

You are a goddamn work of art. A multi-million year evolutionary masterpiece. And you're going to subject yourself to their rules?

I hereby dismiss all google searches that begin with, “The best way to . . .” or anything of that sort.

I challenge you to do the same and live your life of the conviction that the best way hasn’t been found yet and those who follow the “Top 10” listacles like a beacon of light are bound to a life that strips them of their voice.

I feel very strongly that I can make this promise without falling on my face. I promise that if you do it your way and commit to yourself with an obsessive amount of conviction somebody will love it. Somebody will find you.

It may not be 10,000 somebodies, but that one somebody will be there for you, not because you remind them of somebody else.

And that’s all we really want. Some people to see the true us and think that we’re pretty ok.

T