Back in high school, Kevin Brown, now 51, had big hair - the kind of 1970s hair that had a mind of its own. "Weird hair," says his wife, Barbara Eddy Brown, now 52.

In Fairfield County, Conn., where they grew up, both ran with the chorus crowd. As part of the Madrigals, they were committed musicians, but neither had eyes for each other. After graduation, they went off on separate college trajectories.

But in 1999 both were on board for a Madrigals reunion weekend. Kevin, then in wine sales and marketing, came in from New Hampshire, his big hair shorn. Barbara, a music teacher living with her husband and son in Brooklyn, didn't even recognize him. But when Kevin opened his mouth, she heard "the voice" - deep and resonant - and she smiled. The two, then married to others, spent the weekend singing their hearts out together.

Inside they were secretly contemplating the state of those hearts. Both were in unhappy marriages, and by the end of the weekend, their fondness for each other was obvious. "There were sparks," Kevin says, "but neither of us wanted to see them."

During the next year, whenever Kevin was in New York for work, the two would get together for lunch. There were even dinners with Barbara's family. But without talking about it, both were thinking the same thing: Why am I not with the right person?

Then one day they couldn't stop it. After a lunch, Barbara took Kevin's hand just as he turned to kiss her. "Do we really want to do this?" Barbara asked. They hesitated and retreated. But the next get-together changed things forever. "Intense," says Barbara, who blushingly admits to making the first move.

For more than a year, they kept their secret while making plans to leave their marriages. Each had one son; they didn't want to hurt their children or their spouses. Several times, Barbara, whose son was younger, backed off and tried to save her marriage. But in May 2002, Barbara remembers having a moment of clarity: "Everyone deserved to be happy." She found herself an apartment and soon called Kevin. "It's us," she said.

Both divorced, and despite various complications, they say there is no animosity with their exes. (Barbara's is happily remarried.) In 2004, having started their own winery, R&B Cellars, they decided to move closer to where grapes are grown. Their 1890s Alameda Victorian now serves as the company's offices.

In 2005 they married, with their nearly grown sons serving as attendants. "We gave each other's son a ring," says Barbara, explaining their ceremony. "They are intensely important to us."

Despite their busy lives as vintners, each day they make time to sing together, with Kevin on the grand piano.

Isn't life grand?