Our pronouns

OK this is getting ridiculous so I’m making a post about it with what we know so far and what we can figure out now.

If you’re talking to/abour more than one of us, use plural. You can also make that explicit by, for example, asking us “How are you all doing?”, which makes us feel seen and respected.

Unless that would out us to people we’re not out to, in which case pretend we’re a singlet and use singular and gender neutral grammar/language

If you’re talking to/about only one of us, use singular. It’s important for us to see that you respect us as multiple people, but we are still individuals and don’t want to always be grouped together with everyone else.

If you’re talking to/about one of us, use their pronouns and other language appropriate for their gender (and age), if you don’t know, ask

Don’t assume you know who you’re talking to. Ask (about name, age and pronouns). (We may not be able or willing to give a clear answer, in which case, assume I am_we’re Median(s))

If you’re talking to/about the Medians (which will be most of the time, since we’re something like the hosts)