Quick vocab lesson if you didn’t read the first post about nice guys:

“Safe” – Predictable, caring, very nice guys who you know will drop everything to be with you, eager to please, very sweet. The type of guy you’d want to have a family with – good father, dependable, doesn’t cheat, etc. The type of guy who often ends up in the friend zone.

“Unsafe” – It’s about being your own person. Not being needy, being independent, being self-assured, making your own decisions, and not caring so much about what other people think about you. Someone who doesn’t need a lot of validation from others and has an “I don’t give a fuck” attitude.

Also, for reference: The safe/unsafe chart.

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Let’s talk about physical appearance. I’m not going to say that looks aren’t important. If you’re a good-looking dude with a nice body who dresses well, you’re going to get more attention from women. Attractive women also get more attention from men, that’s a no-brainer. But here’s the part where I say, “Looks aren’t everything,” and I absolutely mean it. I’ve come across a few guys in my life where I have thought, “Not if you were the last man on earth and I was the last woman and the future of the world depended on us.” Guess what? Who cares what I thought. These guys were still getting women. And not just women, but attractive women. I saw it with my own eyes.

Some of these guys did not have nice-looking faces. Some were way shorter than average. Some were overweight. Some had uni-brows. Some were a combination of all that. It did not matter. These guys did not have difficulties with women. You know how sometimes when you see a couple together you’re like, “How in the world did he get her?” Yeah, I’m talking about those guys.

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