It’s strange, isn’t it? When in a relationship with someone, you share the most intimate parts of your life and thoughts in your head with them, but then you break up, perhaps never to speak again, and they still know all those incredibly personal details about you.

And it’s not just personal things either - opening up to a partner often results in them obtaining compromising material about you too.

As Donald Trump has learned, kompromat - the Russian term for compromising material - from your personal life can have dangerous consequences if made public.

And although we’re not all about to become President of the most powerful nation on earth, there are still shared secrets we’d rather stayed just that - secret.

When in a relationship, a lot of people moan to their partner about their employers, friends and family members. But what if your partner becomes your ex, screen-shots those texts where you ranted about how much of a b****** your boss is being and decided to use them either to get revenge or to blackmail you?

Then there’s the issue of sexts and nude snaps, which so many people now send to their romantic partners - although the majority now at least know never to send a picture with their face in.

Some of us are extremely open people who tend to overshare even in the early stages of a relationship. But what if it all fizzles out and you immediately regret what you’ve told, sent or shown someone?

10 best break-up films Show all 10 1 /10 10 best break-up films 10 best break-up films Celeste and Jesse Forever This is an example of how the standard 'rom com' formula can be successfully shaken up in order to create a refreshing story which still retains the most-loved characteristics of a chick flick. By introducing a touch more reality than most 'fairy-tale' romances and including a likeable cast, this film manages to be relatable while at the same time providing much-needed escapism. 10 best break-up films Two Night Stand Pride and Prejudice this is not, but the premise of a girl turning to internet dating in order to 'let off some steam' is definitely an accurate reflection of our times. The fact that she is then stuck at her dates' place and a romance ensues, while slightly less accurate, is sure to take your mind off your ex, or at least get you laughing in the meantime. 10 best break-up films The First Time The perfect teen choice, Jon Kasdan's comedy is full of innocence, charm and good humour. The dialogue between the characters is easy and realistic, and the plot not too much of a distortion of reality. While this one is perhaps more likely to remind you of your ex than act as a distraction, the quality of the script and acting will leave you feeling good nonetheless. The chemistry between the protagonists was so good in fact that it translated into a real life relationship between Dylan O'Brien and Britt Robertson. 10 best break-up films The Fault in Our Stars What do you need when you feel like crying? A good tearjerker. Sometimes having a cathartic tug on the emotions when you're already feeling down can leave you feeling reinvigorated. This film, based on John Green's book of the same name, will warm your broken heart and provide you with 125 minutes of pure distraction. The actors have to be commended again for bringing the characters to life, delivering a healthy dose of pathos at every turn and making the struggle real. 10 best break-up films Divergent Perhaps an unusual 'post break-up' choice, but I can't think of film more capable of distracting you from your woes than Neil Burger's sci-fi epic based on Veronica Roth's novel of the same name. Set in a post-apocalyptic, dystopian Chicago, this should not be pigeonholed in any one genre and you should leave your assumptions at the door. Star of the moment, Shailene Woodley, portrays the protagonists' struggle perfectly and will take you along with her for the ride. 20th Century Fox/Jaap Buitendijk/AP 10 best break-up films Stuck in Love Josh Boone's indy rom com drama is criminally underrated. This 3-pronged flick follows the segregated lives of a successful novelist and his two children, tenuously bringing them together though their strained relationships. It offers something for everyone chronicling an endearing new romance played out by Nat Wolff, the slightly more cynical experiences of the older sister and the father’s struggles with being a single parent learning to live again. 10 best break-up films The Spectacular Now This might be a slightly Shailene Woodley heavy list but what can I say, the girl picks good rom coms! This film’s originality doesn’t lie with the storyline – which follows a fairly familiar 'charismatic party boy meets shy good girl' formula - but with the approach. Having won Sundance's special jury prize for acting, it is easy to see why. The truth behind the characters, conveyed so well by Miles Teller and Woodley, of how it feels to be young saves this film from being another yawn-inducing rendition of the tired concept of love. 10 best break-up films Love and Other Drugs This flick, based on Jamie Reidy's non-fiction book Hard Sell: The Evolution of a Viagra Salesman, is slightly more complex than a run-of-the-mill comedy. Dealing with issues more akin to a drama, the plot has depth and the characters realism. If you want to lose touch with reality for a couple of hours - and put your own problems in context - you could do a lot worse than turning to this film. 10 best break-up films Friends With Benefits The best feature of Friends with Benefits is its self-awareness. It’s a rom com, just like all the rest, and it knows it. The typical romantic fare is relayed in a jovial way, poking fun at themselves as they go. That is almost the premise of the whole film, after all: subverting the idea of romance. 10 best break-up films Crazy, Stupid, Love Written by Dan Fogelman, more readily associated with Disney films, and directed by Bad Santa’s Glenn Ficarra and John Requa, the crew behind Crazy, Stupid, Love. would not immediately inspire much excitement, let alone be expected to produce one of the best rom coms this side of the decade. However, that is exactly what they achieved. A recurring theme with this list, here is another a-typical example of the genre, and thankfully so. AP

Dating and relationship psychologist Madeleine Mason told The Independent that the most important thing to ask yourself is: “Would I be OK for my family and colleagues to see this?” If the answer is no, don’t ever do it.

She accepts, however, that “this will take some amount of impulse control in the heat of the moment.”

Mason also advises a cautious approach to virtual communication: “Be prepared that anything you share will be forwarded and shared, in fact assume it will be.” And she recommended presuming Snapchats and Skype calls are being recorded too.

Then think about how you’d feel if your messages, videos and pictures were shared. Yeah, not good.

Of course, if you’re engaging with a decent human being, most of your intimate content - whether secrets or virtual exchanges - should be safe, but that can never be guaranteed.