Should men allow this to get under our skin, or embrace such feminist honesty? "We are the watchers. We are the fanciers," Vernon writes. "We look and we look and we look. More, harder and more obviously. They need to know we are doing this. They need to feel the might of our gaze.” Some men will no doubt conclude that feminism is finally talking their language, and will sit back and wait for the cougars to objectify them.