Psychology Today has a fascinating article up on why straight guys have sex with other men. I've said it repeatedly on the site, but if it weren't for straight guys I wouldn't have had as much sex when I was younger. I'd say a good 50% of my experiences have been with straight guys. Most of my closest friends have been straight guys and I'd say I had sex with 99.9% of them.

Jerame is always amazed at my ability to flirt with a straight guy and get him to flirt back. Once when we were having drinks at a straight sports bar with friends, Jerame regaled the table with tales of my exploits and how straight guys will respond to me, but no one believed him. I'm usually able to tell within a few minutes if the guy would go to bed with me and as the waiter left, I told them that he was do-able. They insisted I demonstrate. By the end of the evening, he'd given me free drinks, stopped checking on them altogether unless I ordered for them, and had bought me a pack of cigarettes. What can I say? I have a gift.

Many of my friends have always said that those guys weren't actually "straight" and argued that they were at least a little gay. I disagreed, but no one ever seemed to really grock what I was telling them. The orientation and gender of the person they were fucking didn't matter. What mattered was that they were getting off. Period. It was fun and enjoyable and there were no strings or romantic involvement. At best, it was a fuck buddy arrangement - but mostly close friends who'd occasionally get off together when bored or horny.

Turns out, I was right all along. After going into a lengthy description of the differences between sexual identity and orientation, sexual preferences, sexual fantasies, and sexual behavior, the author gets to the heart of the matter.