The world is fraught with major conflicts that will seemingly never come to an end. Gender equality. Immigration. Religious battles. But there are some things that should be simple, like knowing which way to face in the shower. However, whether you face front toward the water or let water cascade down your back is a bigger issue than any of us might have imagined. Whichever way you face probably seems like the “right” way. But if you feel like threatening your relationship with the people you love, ask them which way they face in the shower. Their answer might surprise you — and make you rethink whether you ever really knew them at all. Bustle dug deep into this polarizing subject, and the results are, well, interesting.

To really understand how contentious this issue really is, one must turn to Reddit, where the answer to most of life’s mysteries can be found. Except maybe, which way you should face in the shower. Take Reddit user SwissTurnover who wrote on a thread about the topic:

"Toward? Of course? I want to know what's spraying water at me."

But is it really an “of COURSE” situation? We thinks not, friends. Another Reddit user was just as convinced that they had been doing it the proper way for their entire lives. User InariHime responded that facing the shower head just feels dangerous.

"Weird I thought facing away was the norm. I feel like I'm drowning if I face into the water.

Apparently, no matter which way you face in the shower, it matters. There’s no halfway. According to a poll conducted by Glamour a few years ago, 64 percent of people face away in the shower, while 21 percent face the water the whole time. The other 15 percent switches it up throughout. How else do you rinse your face wash off if not?

UGH, this sort of changes everything about EVERYTHING, right? If you think too hard about it, you can give yourself a headache — why do you face the way you do? Is this something we inherit? Are taught? As a society, we may never know.