Reader DM (slide on in if you’ve got something interesting, I read it all) – Girl I went to high school with is apparently raising money for some Abortion charity by emailing all the dudes she’s fucked with this spiel. Quite the email. Check it out.

In a situation like this, I think you have to separate the cause from the action. Like yes it’s great that this woman is raising money for abortions for women who can’t afford one themselves, no one wants more unwanted babies born to unprepared parents out there. But I can think of approximately one million people whom I’d ask for that fundraising effort besides former sexual partners. It’s just one of those things you don’t want to think about with someone you’ve hooked up with because it opens up an entire rabbit hole of thought that doesn’t need to exist unless it needs to exist, you know? I’m sure we’ve all played fast and loose with hookups before — sometimes literally on the latter — and there’s no greater horror than hearing after the fact something like “Wait you pulled out right, I’m not on the pill” or something to that effect. Not only necessarily because you don’t want to have a child with that girl but because you start thinking about this world centered around this organism and how your life could change immediately for better (if you’re in love or she’s rich, not really much in-between) or, more likely, 1000 times worse. Reading that first line of that email was probably instant anxiety for 50 dudes that didn’t pass for days. Pretty selfish act at those guys’ expense in the name of abortions for all, the PS part of the email seemingly offering another shot at banging her notwithstanding.

Plus it’s also kind of a no-win for this girl’s ego if she actually thought about it. If she raised like $50,000, what does that say with all these dudes you hooked up with that the idea of you having their child is so awful that they’re willing to throw money just to save some other dude from the same fate? Then if you don’t raise any money, it probably more so means that these guys didn’t even read the email and, if they did, they just immediately trashed it without a single thought of affinity about this girl who they shared the most personal experience two people can have. I guess my main takeaway here is the abortion blast emails are probably never a good idea, any girls out there might want to cancel your Mailchimp newsletter on the topic to play it safe.