I've seen some radical feminists say that all PiV is rape because it is the way in which men oppress women, and that heterosexuality is unnatural/forced onto women from birth. Do you agree with this, and if so, how can someone stop being heterosexual?

misandry-mermaid:

God, I hate this argument so fucking much. I’m glad it was finally brought up because I’ve been wanting to tear it apart for a while now. Saying that Penis in Vagina sex = rape is problematic because: It is a HUGE insult to rape/sexual assault survivors who have ACTUALLY experienced non-consensual sexual violence. It’s also a huge insult to people who have consensual P-in-V sex and people who have heterosexual desires, as it implies they lack the agency to consent to that type of sex. It wrongfully implicates ALL straight cis men as rapists. It ignores all the measurable physiological evidence of vaginal arousal in response to P-in-V sex. It also implies that rape is defined by the act committed, and not whether or not there was consent by both parties. To say that certain sexual acts are always rape is to ignore the fact that rape is characterized by a lack of consent. It’s also super cissexist, as it defines that penis-in-vagina sex as heterosexual sex and suggests that the person with the vagina is always a woman and the person with the penis is always a man, and the woman is always a victim of the man. Just ugh, I hate it so much, it gives feminism a horrible reputation and is such a gross argument for radfems to use. Like, there are legitimate arguments that can be made about heteronormativity and cisnormativity and how they effect LGBTQIA+ people, but this is SO extremist and illogical and backwards. Please no one ever listen to people who spew that garbage.

”..legitimate/real rape vic-” STOP. CONSENT CANNOT BE GARNERED ACROSS A POWER DIFFERENTIAL. one exists btwn any given man and woman.



the female people who read this idea tend to panic, thinking this realization blames women for “wanting it” or that they will have to “give up” piv AND THEN HE WILL LEAVE..



*this last part should provide a hearty epiphany about THIS VERY THING*



if we get this through people’s heads, then no man would ever stick his dick into a woman unless he was committed to treating her perfectly. because he’d know she can report him at any time. if he is an honest, good person… if he acts with total impeccability.. then he will never get reported.





the real “uncertainty principle” just stood up.