Cleopatra88 Fri 04-Oct-19 14:38:38

Hey everyone! Need your help!



So... I met my husband (let's call him Tom) 3 months after he had this "2-night-stand" with an older woman (let's call her Claire). One month into our relationship, he ended up setting up this woman with his older brother (let's call him Peter) without my knowledge. Turns out his brother was looking for love and he thought they would make a good match. His brother knew from the beginning that Tom had slept with Claire.



I met Claire for the first time at a family gathering when she came with Peter, as a couple. At this point, I did not know that she slept with Tom (my now husband). I immediately knew something was off- the way she looked at me, the way she looked at my husband. When I asked, he confessed to having slept with her a few months before he met me.



Anyways, so long story short, Claire and Peter ended up getting engaged 6 months into dating and married a year after meeting. I feel awkward at every family gathering. I just can't help but feel this enormous breach of privacy -- she's seen my husband naked and did sexual things with him! I know it was all before we met -- but I just can't seem to get over it . I know it's Peter's wife now but having to see my husband's one night stand at every family gathering is getting to my head.



I've been driving my husband nuts about it -- this seemingly never ending conversation about my discomfort. I know I need to let it go, but it's just so awkward... Maybe I'm too conservative or sensitive -- I don't know.



Would you feel uncomfortable in my shoes!? Am I crazy?!