Deaths, births, tragedy, disaster, extraordinary miracles or hair-raising feats of athletic grandeur; yet the fixation and focus continues to be him or herself above all else – such is the common perception of narcissism. Though everyone can display certain traits of narcissism at one season or another in their lives, a true narcissistic will have a self-focus on a constant basis. It will be considerably more extreme than just an offhand moment of selfishness, self-centeredness or rudeness.

Symptoms and types of narcissism

One type of narcissist includes those that have delusions of grandeur about themselves. This will include noticeably inflated and possible inaccurate views about themselves and exaggerated sense of their abilities. For example, one could be claiming to have genius intellect on par with Albert Einstein, which, though technically still possible, is not necessarily likely. Another type of narcissist, the vulnerable narcissist, will have a constant self-focus that is in fact inherently related to having an inner sense of low self-esteem.

Tips for dealing with the vulnerable and grandiose narcissist

Determine with which type you’re interacting. Vulnerable narcissists are self-deprecating, back-handed compliment type; as opposed to the demigod, grandiose narcissist. Maintain a sense of humor. For the grandiose type of narcissist, highlighting the ridiculousness of the person’s egocentric behavior with levity and a smile will let them know you’re on to them. Appreciate from where the behavior comes. The underhandedness of the Vulnerable narcissists stems from a need to make themselves feel secure. A little dab of encouragement should do them. Stay on track. Find the balance between continuing a train of thought or action and relieving the vulnerable narcissist’s anxieties. For the grandiose narcissist, acknowledge his or her feelings and keep the train going. Maintain a positive outlook. Don’t appear phased, even if you’re feeling annoyed, and eventually the narcissist will get bored. Evaluate the context. Sometimes a situation or series of events instigated the megalomaniac; having background sometimes helps endure the self-centered individual. Consider the mantra: “Hurt people hurt people, and are hurt by people.”

Be cognizant that the person may need help. Some narcissists truly profound self-perceptions of inadequacy; recognize when they can benefit from professional intervention.

Treatment

Psychotherapy has demonstrated any person can be capable of changing long-standing behaviors: an old dog can learn new tricks. Those who are willing to accept professional help could abate symptoms of narcissism.

Therapy will naturally include having the person to accept more reasonable views of themselves when appropriate, as well as being able to better acknowledge or appreciate the needs of others around them. There are means of diffusing situations without escalation into shouting or needless violence. Some helpful solutions could be addressed in group or family therapy. With proper treatment, the narcissist can learn to live in a more harmonious manner with friends, family, other loved ones and the public. For more information on how to get started today, please contact Recover Mental Health at 866-593-2339.