eshusplayground:

You have already breached the bounds of civility when some racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, or whatever shit came out of your mouth/keyboard.

People extending the hand of goodwill that you didn’t earn is not them being civil, which is a basic requirement for more or less peaceful coexistence. A person choosing to be polite in response to your bullshit is them going above and beyond the call of duty and should be acknowledged as such.

Alternatives to civil* include: gracious, patient, accommodating, understanding, tolerant, forgiving, lenient, generous.

(* Also add “rational” to this list of NOT A FUCKING COMPLIMENT terms.)