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The majority of Feminists do not subscribe to those extreme and hateful views. This is why you hear frenzied cries of "the new wave isn't listening to us!", "the new wave is just *funbots* and *fucktoilets* (excuse my language but that term even made it here, and not to be petty). Check out the



There were 2 recommendations to that little hate screed and the poster you replied to was one of them. I'm not sure why she recommended it but I'm wary, even though we seem to line up when it comes to social justice issues.



I'm sorry your mom hurt you. I often worry about the sons of some of the RadFems here and the psychological scarring they're going to have from having mothers who *hate* them for having a penis and being part of the *patriarchy*. Nevermind that those women are part of the *global patriarchy* that exploits other women and turns a blind eye to it.



I just looked at your blog. It's beautifully written and my Feminist heart aches for you.







My Auntie was a woman in her 40s, single and very much a student of what we would describe as radical feminism. She somehow managed to twist my stepfathers heart attack into a selfish act, into him being a misogynist by working so much and leaving her with two kids and nothing to help her grow and improve. Men became the enemy and dating went out the window because men are all rapists, and the inherent badness that was the male was manifested in me.



At that time, I was a socially backward 10 year old, who was cut off from friends and any form of a male role mode.l I was not allowed to join the scouts, as it promoted patriarchal values. My sister was more and more distanced from me as well. At 9 years old she was saying I was a potential rapist. In her mind, I was bad, and her anger grew more, and more. We even had a copy of the scum manifesto on the coffee table.



At the time, my mother was a drinker, and one hell of a violent drunk. Her resentment toward me grew, and the fact that I was beginning to look more and more like my biological father didnt help. She started to lash out more often. At first there was an occasional slap, then a full blown punch, then full beatings. I still have two scars on my cheek from when she took a leather belt to my face. She was a woman who didnt need a man, and she seemed to believe that with each beating she became more liberated. One of my most vivid memories at that time was lying on the ground in the hall outside of the kitchen and seeing her shoes, black patent 4 inch high heels which she proceeded to kick me with. I actually learned that you can get a hernia if kicked just right. Its a little known fact, but trust me, its true.



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People ask me why I am an MRA, why I avoid anything with a feminist label. The answer is simple: I have seen and been part of a damaging past that has happened through bad people using feminism as an excuse to hate and to do bad things. I have been diminished and despised because Im a man. I dont hate women because of this. I know there are more good women than bad, in the same way that there are more good men than bad. But the MRA is one place where I havent been judged. I havent been made to feel shame for what has happened to me. I havent been called a liar or been made to feel like one.



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http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/on-becoming-a-good-man/ My mother had found herself alone. Its weird looking back, because I can almost understand why things happened, but I cannot forgive what happened; its a confusing state of affairs to say the least. With each day she got more angry at the world, but didnt have a focus in life.My Auntie was a woman in her 40s, single and very much a student of what we would describe as radical feminism. She somehow managed to twist my stepfathers heart attack into a selfish act, into him being a misogynist by working so much and leaving her with two kids and nothing to help her grow and improve. Men became the enemy and dating went out the window because men are all rapists, and the inherent badness that was the male was manifested in me.At that time, I was a socially backward 10 year old, who was cut off from friends and any form of a male role mode.l I was not allowed to join the scouts, as it promoted patriarchal values. My sister was more and more distanced from me as well. At 9 years old she was saying I was a potential rapist. In her mind, I was bad, and her anger grew more, and more. We even had a copy of the scum manifesto on the coffee table.At the time, my mother was a drinker, and one hell of a violent drunk. Her resentment toward me grew, and the fact that I was beginning to look more and more like my biological father didnt help. She started to lash out more often. At first there was an occasional slap, then a full blown punch, then full beatings. I still have two scars on my cheek from when she took a leather belt to my face. She was a woman who didnt need a man, and she seemed to believe that with each beating she became more liberated. One of my most vivid memories at that time was lying on the ground in the hall outside of the kitchen and seeing her shoes, black patent 4 inch high heels which she proceeded to kick me with. I actually learned that you can get a hernia if kicked just right. Its a little known fact, but trust me, its true....People ask me why I am an MRA, why I avoid anything with a feminist label. The answer is simple: I have seen and been part of a damaging past that has happened through bad people using feminism as an excuse to hate and to do bad things. I have been diminished and despised because Im a man. I dont hate women because of this. I know there are more good women than bad, in the same way that there are more good men than bad. But the MRA is one place where I havent been judged. I havent been made to feel shame for what has happened to me. I havent been called a liar or been made to feel like one....



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I hope you stick around because I think it's very important that victims of extremist ideology have their voices heard.



Thank you for congratulating me but I'm not alone by a long shot. We've reached the end of our rope with Radical Feminists and will no longer allow and tiny fringe to to speak for us while we keep our mouths shout out of *solidarity*.



We. Have. No. Solidarity. With. Hate.



Welcome to the Feminist forum.The majority of Feminists do not subscribe to those extreme and hateful views. This is why you hear frenzied cries of "the new wave isn't listening to us!", "the new wave is just *funbots* and *fucktoilets* (excuse my language but that term even made it here, and not to be petty). Check out the recommendations on this article calling the more inclusive Feminists, the MAJORITY "feminist-lite" "over-privileged, self-serving faux feminists".There were 2 recommendations to that little hate screed and the poster you replied to was one of them. I'm not sure why she recommended it but I'm wary, even though we seem to line up when it comes to social justice issues.I'm sorry your mom hurt you. I often worry about the sons of some of the RadFems here and the psychological scarring they're going to have from having mothers who *hate* them for having a penis and being part of the *patriarchy*. Nevermind that those women are part of the *global patriarchy* that exploits other women and turns a blind eye to it.I just looked at your blog. It's beautifully written and my Feminist heart aches for you.:hugs:I hope you stick around because I think it's very important that victims of extremist ideology have their voices heard.Thank you for congratulating me but I'm not alone by a long shot. We've reached the end of our rope with Radical Feminists and will no longer allow and tiny fringe to to speak for us while we keep our mouths shout out of *solidarity*.We. Have. No. Solidarity. With. Hate.