narcissists will control a relationship with triangulation

Narcissistic triangulation in families

First, to understand how to deal with a narcissist you have to understand the abusive behaviour in a connection with a covert narcissist.

Triangulation with a Narcissist involves three people with indirect actions and communication that form a vicious trio manipulation of subtle abusers.

In my experience, I had the pleasure of being stuck in the middle as a victim of my daughter’s childcare.

Keep in mind that I had no idea that my former spouse had signs of being a covert narcissist, it didn’t even cross my mind.

In fact, I didn’t even know what Narcissist triangulation actually was at this point. Let alone narcissism in general.

It all begins with a toxic plan:

A narcissistic drama triangle can happen to anybody without them actually knowing about it.

Friends and even your own child can be in the abusive triangle that has been formed by your ex-spouse.

The third-party can knowingly, or unknowingly join in on the abusive emotional bullying.

It is much worse when they know they are only a puppet of control at the hands of manipulative behaviour.

The narcissist’s tool of madness – triangulation – is a severe mode of alienating people from others that they love. LearningMind | Narcissistic Triangulation

Dealing with triangulation For victims of triangulation learning how to break toxic bonds narcissists have on you Learn more

How to react to narcissist triangulation

Gaslighting parents enjoy using toxic triangulation as a manipulative tactic that allows for the control of multiple people.

An extremely delusional, dangerous, and sadistic mind game for a narcissist’s own pleasure as victims quickly learn to trust them.

Obviously, they must have people fight for their approval as every day of their life relies on constant admiration.

Love bombing is a common tactic to lure people in for the long-term, and if you have ever been triangulated you will see this happen to a new partner of your ex spouse.

It’s not easy, but you have to understand that people with a narcissistic personality disorder will not change.

They all have the same narcissistic abuse cycle so stop wasting your time. The need for attention remains the same.

It took me a couple of years to understand how to study narcissists the safest way possible.

Triangulation is like driving a wedge between people. This can be done by a narcissistic parent or narcissistic anything. It could be your lover, your spouse, your friend, your boss, your coworker, your neighbour, your grandparent or even the grandparent of your kids. Inner Integration | Triangulation Abuse

Co-parenting with a covert narcissist

In my situation, I was abused by our daughter’s old childcare while a professional manipulator stood back and let them do the dirty work which they were knowingly, or unknowingly doing.

It all depends on how you look at it.

narcissist triangulation with your ex will bring a lot of “Frienemies” as personality disorders seem to roll together like a cult.

Be aware if you see sociopath traits.

I was confused about how we started on such great terms…I found out our childcare only stringing me along with their reference letters:

This love-bomb stage did not last long as my daughter had marks on her after picking her up several times.

The daycare protected the Mother and said these marks are from her playing with other children.

I immediately requested injury reports and my daughter’s file, but they would give me old and fake documents.

I served them with court papers to get the documents. This turned them into the people they really were.

They call the Ministry on me claiming I “hit” London, I smelt like weed and alcohol, and I am not able to care for the child properly.

Narcissistic abuse syndrome was hitting me hard at this point.

The destructive Sociopath traits were starting to make sense.

Malicious false accusations to push me out of the picture, all as a narcissistic Mother stands back with a smile.

I quickly do a visit with the Ministry and close the file.

closed ministry file

mother gets attention

Now that the flying monkeys of my ex-spouse have caused damage, she decides to let me know that I am not allowed at the daycare anymore.

Attempting to push me out of the picture with clever parental alienation, and even making her own rules disregarding our court order.

Yup, a professional at how to triangulate without a sweat.





Unfortunately for these ladies, I would be showing up for my daughter every time.

My daughter expects me to come regardless of being triangulated by narcissists.

With that being said, I also had a lot more respect in the court as a Father.

I wasn’t buying her new rules.

Obviously, I knew the games that were being played on our daughter. I also knew that they didn’t want to see my face too much longer.

However, that wasn’t my problem.

Breaking free from narcissistic triangulation

We were kicked out of the daycare and my daughter’s bright smile at her new caretakers is what made it all worth it.

Triangulation in narcissism is extremely dangerous, learning how to outplay a narcissist was a skill I learned the hard way.

A life saving gray rock method from this point on kept me sane but a long journey for narcissistic abuse recovery was ahead of me

Thankfully, my plan worked

A Narcissist can manipulate anybody into believing their lies.

My daughter didn’t have her diaper changed all day when I went to pick her up, and they also made numerous false allegations to keep me from her.

I inflicted narcissistic injury, but that quickly put me back to another battle down the road

How to stop narcissist triangulation?

In a toxic narcissistic triangulation, a covert narcissist has common family roles that are given out to each family member.

More often than not, the person chosen to be the scapegoat is the most empathetic one in the family.

Why?

Because being the most caring and empathetic person in the family reminds the Narcissist exactly of themselves.

Nobody listened to them either.

A family scapegoat is the one that will call the narcissistic parent out on their abusive acts and understands how to crush a narcissist.

Ultimately, this sets them apart from all the sheep in the family that follow the lead of the Narcissist.

Triangulation and narcissistic victim syndrome

Bullying the bully, because everybody else is afraid to say a word against the boss.

Everybody in this dysfunctional family triangulation knows that stepping up to the Narcissist is a big no-no.



The scapegoat will be discarded by narcissist and grow into their adulthood believing they are always to blame.

This causes years of mental abuse leading to destructive relationships as grown-ups from constantly being walked all over by people thinking it is normal.

a narcissistic golden child will take great pleasure in supporting a Narcissist in destroying the family scapegoat child’s confidence and self-esteem.

Why?

because unlike the former family scapegoat, a golden child has the delusional personality of the Narcissist.



Nobody knows why there is a vast difference in personalities in this narcissistic relationship.

Personally, I believe this is because the golden child is taught to be entitled as this will give them rewards.

On the other hand, the family scapegoat child was able to see the fake mask above everything else.

This can be common when a parent is separated from the Narcissist but shows positive emotions during their parenting time.

Empathy, love. The one that got away.

It may seem that the golden child has a great childhood regardless of the toxic family triangulation, but the damage to their adult life statistically proves much different.

With that being said, an abuser won’t let their narcissistic supply addiction go so easy



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How to hurt a covert narcissist

Your bullies might find out who is the actual abuser, but don’t count on it.

The only thing you can count on is when the third party in the toxic triangulation becomes discarded by the narcissist.

Narcissistic family dynamics remain the same because survivors of a narcissistic sociopath know that you will never be able to fill the void of “good enough” to a delusional parent.

Effects of triangulation and narcissistic parents Being raised by narcissistic parents

effects of being raised by a narcissistic parent can prove to be mentally damaging in many ways:

Failing to understand the importance of boundaries in relationships

Constant searching for external approval in order to feel confident

Thinking that the only way to gain other people’s approval and love is by meeting their demands, no matter how high.

Post-traumatic stress disorder

Opposed to an extreme need for affection

Poor decision-making skills

Difficulty in understanding what is good or bad; positive or negative

Fear of failures

Key Characters Of Triangulation

First described by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the late 1960’s, the Drama Triangle roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer and their interplay vividly describe the most common strategies human beings use to manage their fear and anxiety. PowerOfTed.com | Triangulation Definition

In any relationship that a Narcissist is in, it is inevitable that the vicious triangle will always form.

The unfortunate defense mechanism that comes from a bitter childhood of not being “good enough” to their parent(s)

The Victim

Unfortunately, a Narcissist can’t mentally process themselves to change their outlook on people, so their delusional state of mind will always play the victim.

They insist they don’t deserve all the awful things that life and people have done to them.

The Persecutor

someone who is consistently after people to harm and destroy them. In a Narcissist’s world, this is the former spouse.

I am positive you have had the unfortunate experience of seeing the narcissistic rage in court on you for no apparent reason.

The Rescuer

Believes that they are the superhero, and nobody can survive without them. Generally, this is the new partner of the Narcissist that has discarded you long before you realized it.

You weren’t providing enough fuel or meeting their needs so they quietly, “grabbed a new branch” before letting you go.

They are unknowingly helping the demon, but will be discarded and left helpless just like you and every other person before you.

The Real Narcissistic Triangulation

Finally, in the real world, we know that the former spouse of the Narcissist is the true victim, and the persecutor is the malicious Mother or Father.

It’s important to note that sometimes the children can be the rescuer in their delusional world.

With that being said, victims of narcissistic abuse symptoms vary for everybody.

Narcissist Parenting takes a lot out of you, and I hope you have the strength to keep your children out of it.

You can only blame yourself for another cycle of abuse passed down in your family tree by a covert narcissist by a heartbreaking narcissistic triangulation

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