I’ll spare the NSFW photos that I could include here – you have a good enough idea of what I’m talking about.

That one dark place that may draw or repel the interest – but one that often demands acknowledgment and TLC.

Dat booty.

You can’t lie. Just about everyone has had the thought of anal arousal come to mind at some point in their life. Now, whether or not that thought was entertained or even allowed to surface in the conscious mind – it’s still something that is more likely to have happened than not. You’re here, aren’t you? While you are – satisfy some curiosity about that taboo and forbidden area and pique your interest in anal play.

Kink 101 – Anal Adventures

A Simple How-To-Start Guide for Anal Play

So, first off – if you want to try anal arousal and anal play with a partner – you will need consent. This means someone that you’ve talked to about anal sex and who is willing and prepared both mentally (aware and alert) and physically (of age and able to participate in) to undertake the sexual activity. Communicate your desires and fantasies openly and set limits and safe words for yourselves and each other in the bedroom. And – Never. Ever. Never surprise anyone with anal.

Anal fissures and anal tears are real things people. They are super painful and can be incredibly dangerous. And you don’t want to wish those things on your worst enemies. ….okay, well… maybe you do – but this is your partner (or even your own ass) we’re talking about. So – just don’t do it.

Additionally, many anal sex endeavors are considered to be a messy sort of act. This can be true, so be sure to have had a recent movement before getting down and dirty at the very least. A popular choice for the induction of a bowel movement (plus the sanitized water rinsed cleanliness many desire) is the enema (later post on these coming soon). Use enemas in moderation – if you use them too often – and these can harm your body and make you ill – keep the sexy things sane and safe – no matter how pleasurable they may prove to be.

Lube It Up

First up after consent and preparation, you WILL need lubrication. There are silicone lubricants, water-based lubricants, natural lubricants, and a ton more different types of lube available. **Never mix a silicone lube with silicone toys – the match of material makes the toys degrade faster and can cause infections from the bacteria that will get trapped in the material of the toy. Other than that – the selection of lube you make is generally up to your personal taste and needs (flavors, scents, allergies, etc). Extra care should be taken with trying to use numbing gels for anal play – the rectum can tear easily (especially for the noobs) and you need to know if you’re pushing the limit too quickly. Refer to the bit about fissures for a reminder.

Take It Slow

If you are a first-time anal adventurer, you will most definitely want to start out with a small toy and work into penetration slowly. Like little finger and lots of lube type of slow. Warm it up with some sexy circles around the anal entrance and work your way into wanting it or making your partner want it. If you want to make it a pleasurable experience – you want to make it something likable right? Take it slow, make it nice, and keep it fun.

As you progress in your discovery of this new pleasure zone, you can work your way up. This can go for length, girth, vibration, and probably more depending on how wild you want to get and how much you want to spend on the toys.

A popular toy choice for ‘working up’ to anal sex are small toys called butt plugs. These come in a range of sizes, styles, colors, and some even have cute as fuck tails (who wants to be a fucking unicorn? uhm.. me! – I’ll admit it) So there are tons of options available in the anal toy department. Experiment with what you find online and in the stores around you – but be sure to research the materials and compare to the lubes while you’re playing around. No one wants to ruin a new toy or get a toy that isn’t made from something that is actually body-safe. Not all toy retailers are equal.

Keep Things Clean

Finally, you want to keep things clean. No matter what you use – from your finger to your partner’s dick/your dick, or your favorite dancing dildo collection – wash that shit off afterward every. single. time. Even if you just want to change up the action while you’re doing your thing – wash it/dry it/new condom it. You definitely don’t want to transfer anal bacteria anywhere else. That’s where pink-eye, e-coli, and tons more illnesses come from – so keep things clean while you’re enjoying yourself. Don’t be that party foul.

Finally – enjoy yourself while you are experimenting in the kink department. Don’t take yourself too seriously, and don’t be afraid to communicate openly about your sexual needs with your partner(s). Chances are – they’ve thought of it too.