I am a 44-year-old happily married guy, and we have a son too. Even though I love my wife but I am in love with my house maid for the past four years. She's 50 years old, and lives with us in our house. She has not shown any interest whenever I have tried to approach her. I have secretly clicked her photographs and masturbate just by looking at them. Is this normal? If not, what should I do? Please suggest.I understand that you are very confused right now as you are attracted towards your house maid. I am glad you found this space to share your query.Firstly, I would like to share that it is normal to be attracted towards someone who shows care and concern towards you. As you mentioned she has been staying with your family from the past few years, that also makes her a part of your family and I completely agree that it can be difficult to avoid or ignore the feelings.Here, I would like to take your attention towards your statement that you are happily married and have a son. I think you should focus on your relationship with your wife and reflect on your commitments with her. I understand that you finding it exciting to have an affair with the maid, however you can also think about the consequences of your choices. You can use role play techniques with your wife to make your relationship exciting that could help you to fulfil your excitement of having an affair with a maid.Want expert advice for your relationship? Send us an email at expertadvice.toi@gmail.com