WhyDoIBother59 Sun 20-May-18 21:25:04

I'm staying with my mum for a few weeks. She can be very stressy and a martyr.

My sister is also staying, for a different reason.

She has been insisting upon cleaning up after us (to the point of blocking the doorway if one of us is trying to take our own cup to the kitchen) we're both adults with our own households and respective children so perfectly competent at cleaning and such!

She's also spent the day saying she's killing herself, going to drop dead etc, while also screaming at us if we do anything she deems messy (sprinkling crumbs on the counter even if we immediately reach for the cloth to clean it). It's been stressful and I'm looking at alternative accom.

My sister cleaned the living room earlier, vacuumed etc, while my mums back was turned. Mum tried to wrestle the vacuum off dsis as soon as she heard it being used. Mum finished the vacuuming herself and then went back to the kitchen, my mum was having another stress meltdown in the kitchen (shouting about how she's run herself ragged to the point that she can't even do x and y properly) so I went into the kitchen and said right, I'll do the dishes and put them away you sit down and have a cuppa.

Cue hysterics.

I'm telling her what to do in her own house, how dare I, she just wants the dishes done right now (I intended to) and the parting shot of "I'm going to drop dead soon, you only get one mum"



So I said "fine then. Die if that makes you happy. I've been trying to help you but that clearly upsets you, too".



So now I'm a cunt who told her to go die.

I give up, honestly. I'm searching for alt accomodation but I'm in the area for work and she offered. I won't accept again in future.



Aibu, and how do I deal with her until I sort something else? Nearest affordable hotel looks to not be available until Wednesday.