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You’re not the first person to consider what not to pack to make room for your laptop. We convince ourselves that our work contributions are so absolutely essential that our organization will fall apart at the seams if we go off the grid, no matter the interruption to our personal lives, much less the disagreeable impact on our colleagues.

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It’s the indispensability syndrome: A fallacious emotional urge rooted deep in our desire to be wanted and needed. Our fragile psyches are at work here. We feel threatened by the realization that our work-world can continue without us. It’s a perfectly natural feeling, but it comes at high cost.

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Common justifications for such an inflated sense of self-importance are multi-layered, ranging from “it’s my responsibility,” to believing you’re the “only person qualified” to handle a particular project or task.

Certainly, our contributions at work are valuable. But why don’t we apply the same thinking to our families? What makes us think our colleagues can’t function without us, but our families can? Why are we so unwilling to power down once in a while?

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One executive I worked with had been promoted to partner at a mid-sized government consultancy two years ago. Only 35, his ambition and work ethic propelled him quickly through the ranks. He was known as a perfectionist whose work reflected the very highest standards. His new role meant that he oversaw several major accounts. He was also responsible for the professional development of associates reporting to him.

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The firm required all partners to take a two-week sabbatical every two years. The idea was to step back from the everyday grind and come back rested and recharged with innovative ideas about how to advance the company’s practice. Associates were expected to be prepared to assume all responsibilities during a partner’s absence.

But during his sabbatical, this young partner endlessly perseverated on how things were progressing. He emailed and texted his associates multiple times daily and directly contacted clients for updates — even though doing so was explicitly prohibited by firm policy. He just couldn’t help himself.

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The result: Four of his 10 associates requested transfers. They’d seen how well the sabbatical program worked for others, and resented being robbed of an opportunity to expand their skill sets and build relationships with clients and other partners. They made his behavior known to the managing director, and he was sternly warned by the management committee that his behavior was unacceptable and would negatively impact his annual performance review, which determined bonuses and promotions. He learned the hard way that he wasn’t indispensable.

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There’s a psychological bulwark to indispensability syndrome. Not only do many of us inflate our view of our own significance, we also worry that our talent isn’t as critical as we have presented it to our colleagues, or ourselves. At some level we’re also terrified that, if away, someone will figure that out. We fear that we will lose our jobs if we’re not 24/7.

According to a 2013 survey by the American Psychological Association’s Center for Organizational Excellence, more than half of all employed adults say they check work messages at least once a day over the weekend, before or after work during the week, and even when they are home sick. More than 40 percent reported doing the same while on vacation. Keep in mind that this was for the workforce broadly sampled. The results would likely be amplified if focused on supervisors and executives.

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My own research, conducting interviews with 127 executives from 17 countries, suggests that the APA’s findings would be amplified if focused on senior corporate employees. When asked how important their contributions were to their unit or team, all of them responded “very important.” When asked how important their contributions were to their unit or team, compared to others, 76 percent responded “more important” and 24 percent responded “as important.” None said “less important.” They all thought they were as, or more, critical than everyone else that they work with.

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When asked how uncomfortable they’d be if they had no contact with their organizations whatsoever for two weeks, 72 percent said “very” and 20 percent replied “somewhat.” Only 8 percent responded that they could part for a while with no worries.

Those are stark figures.

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Part of this is human nature — humankind didn’t progress via sloth. We need human interaction — work relationships affirm us and provide physical and emotional protection. We’re atavistically aware that both of these require us to add our fair share or more.

And part of this can be traced to technology. Thirty-six percent of employed Americans said communication technology increases their workload, makes it more difficult to stop thinking about work or take a break from work, the APA survey reported. That number would likely be higher if only supervisors and executives were counted.

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Research conducted by Gloria Mark at the University of California, Irvine, showed that people interrupted by email reported significantly increased stress compared with those left alone to focus. Gary Small, a psychiatrist at the University of California, Los Angeles, found that stress hormones have been shown to reduce short-term memory.

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The effects of this behavior are bad for us and our colleagues. If we distort our own importance, then we reduce the value of others. In doing so we smother the people who work for and with us, rather than helping them stand on their own. That isn’t leadership.

A leader’s absence is an opportunity for colleagues to take a measure of their own skills. Empowered workers bring new energy, different perspectives and new experiences. To be sure, there’s feeling of insecurity that comes with people succeeding at your exclusive role, but it can also be gratifying to see them succeed.

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