Most guys come into this stuff when they hit a low point, or they’re tired of getting flaked on. They aren’t getting the great girls that they really want or any girls at all. They’ll start off with zeal and go out fifteen nights straight, get a few numbers and revel in their new found super powers.

And then it starts…

The flaking.

If you get ten phone numbers that actually respond to you, and you meet one for a date, you are doing very well. Ask any guy that is good with girls, and if he’s truthful, he will confirm this. (Thailand doesn’t count.)

I’m really good at approaching but I literally need to get about a dozen phone numbers to get find a connection. To get a dozen responsive numbers I need to approach (with intent to get the number) about three dozen women.

It’s really about timing. Many girls I hooked up with had just moved into the city and didn’t know anybody, or had recently become single. The “I have a boyfriend line” is usually true. Most hot girls do have a boyfriend, or a fuck buddy they feel loyal to.

This is a reason why most guys become fascinated with one night stands. Why even bother with phone numbers if only one or two would even reply to your text? And out of ten numbers that reply, maybe one or two would meet you. What a load of crap.

If you already have game, social circle is the easiest way to land the hotter girls. But what if you don’t have a social circle? Like me, I work on my laptop. The only time I meet women is when I’m working, usually when I do demos. Most of my clients are web designers, programmers, etc. Other than online dating, cold approach is their only option. Online dating is a waste of time if you aren’t above average in good looks or are willing to send 200 messages to get a date with a 6. Singles meetups? Forget about it. You won’t find any talent there.

Last weekend I met three nice girls during work. Of those three, one informed me after a day of texting she had a boyfriend (confirmed by Facebook pics), the other stopped replying when I suggested we meet for coffee, and the other stopped texting for no reason at all, on a high note even. I usually have a great girl in my life, but when I’m single, it’s a lot of work to find someone great.

And it’s not just me. My dating coach friends deal with this as well.

The point is…cold approaching sucks ass. It’s a tool. But as far as a lifestyle it can be demoralizing and a chore. However, when you finally score your perfect ten out of a bar, or off a street corner, it’s one of the most rewarding feelings. And she will end up being your girlfriend because you had to work your ass off to get her.

Now learning how to keep her, that’s another lesson.

I haven’t given you much to work with. I know. Just don’t give up and don’t take this stuff too seriously.

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