My life experience has taught me that women who are “bossy” or controlling are usually the ones who were molested sexually or abused , when they were children or teenagers.

They usually never told anyone about the abuse and never received any type of psychotherapy for it.

As they grew older, this secret that they kept hidden had a negative effect on their ability to have a good relationship with any male .

Because they were taken advantage of earlier in their life; and they were not able to prevent it; subconsciously they feel the need to be the controller, in whatever relationship they are in.

During the early stage of any relationship they are in; they can be quite timid.

But the longer the relationship last; their controlling behaviour becomes more apparent.

After they get married; that is when the romance ends.

They have some desire for sex but it must be the way they want it.

They will decide the time and place for sex.

Also they will decide what will or will not be done during sexual intercourse.

Most likely during the sex act, they will be emotionless.

They behave like a child being taken advantage of by an adult male.

They don’t like to be kissed, and most likely they will never initiate sex .

And frequently they don’t like to be touched.

They usually sleep with their backs towards their husbands.

Every time they have sex with their husbands; they behave as if they are doing him a favour .

And that he should feel privileged that she has consented to shared her body with him.

Many times she will decide to have sex because of some interaction (conversation, argument, etc.) she has had with some other man that day.

She then decides that tonight she will have sex with her husband.

But, as soon as it is over, she doesn’t wants him to touch her anymore.

When their husbands voice any type of dissatisfaction with the state of the marriage, their behavior will then become worse.

They will start finding fault with everything their husbands do.

They will never have anything positive to say to or about their husbands.

In time, due to their negative thoughts about their husbands; many of them will transfer their affection to some other man (or woman).

Most likely a friend from work, or school or worse one of their female friend’s husband or boyfriend.

They will pour out their hearts to this other person; complaining about their husbands

Then when they eventually commit adultery with this person; they will then firmly believe as gospel truth that it was the husband’s fault.

It was the husband’s fault why she committed adultery.

They will say, if it wasn’t because of his behaviour towards her; she would not have committed adultery.

They will never see themselves as being at fault.

They truly believe that they are the victims and that their husbands (just like the person who molested them as a child) are the guilty ones .

After or during the adulterous affair their dislike for their husbands will become more intense.

They are filled with rage against everything he does. They will find fault with just about everything he does.

Sometimes during argument she will threaten to kill him or become violent.

In many crimes cases on record this is what has happened.

Many women who were committing adultery; finally decided to kill their husbands rather than get a divorce.

Eventually, the men they are with end up divorcing them or being unfaithful to them.

That is the reason why so many marriages end.

As I said at the beginning of this article; this primarily applies to women who were sexually abused when they were younger.

Young girls who never told anyone about the abuse nor received treatment for the abuse.

This bossy behaviour does not apply to all women 🙂

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