It is astounding that a section of the male population thinks that sending unsolicited lewd photos to women is a foolproof way to woo them. I posted a tirade on Facebook about how a long lost friend (now former friend), with no warning whatsoever, sprung a picture of his manhood my way without receiving any indication from me that it would be welcomed.

We were exchanging pleasantries before he launched into subtle flirtations as he commented about my WhatsApp profile picture and then boom! There was a fully erect phallus in my face. I had not even had breakfast! I was outraged and appalled.

Any likelihood of me pursuing a liaison with him quickly went out the window. I instantly blocked this creep for fear I would receive a few more wrinkly surprises. In retrospect, I should have first enquired if his package came in a larger size!

As it turns out, mine is not an isolated case. The advent of instant messaging apps, social media and online dating websites, has led to increased cases of foolish and misguided souls sending their below-the-hip portraits to unsuspecting women, more often than not, complete strangers.

It is all very bizarre. There is nothing nearly as traumatising as having your eyeballs assaulted by a phallic photo at 8am. I know a man will say and do damn near anything to get laid, but sending unsolicited photos of your equipment is a whole new low. And guess what? It does not work! It is inappropriate sexual behaviour in my books, more so if you send it to someone you are not in a relationship with.

Don't be that unsavoury character who just randomly whips out his ding-a-ling in a pathetic attempt to get laid. It just shows how insecure you are and that you are seeking approval. Exercise some finesse and just stick to the good old sexual banter and sexting to build up sexual tension in a burgeoning relationship.

These men send pictures of their junk to women because they fundamentally misunderstand the working of the female mind. They clearly do not know the first thing about a woman. They are utterly clueless as to what women yearn for or what makes them tick emotionally, let alone what may spark and keep attraction.

Unlike men, women are not visual creatures. X-rated photos are a total turn-off for them. Yet somewhere in the primitive minds of these imprudent men, they erroneously assume that since they would give anything to see a picture of you in various forms of undress, that you might equally crave seeing a naked photo of them. Take it from me; nothing could be further from the truth.

A woman is turned on by intellect, humour, ambition, affection, and vigour in a man. A cringe-inducing picture of your not-so-impressive morning wood will just have her running the other way. No woman can respect a man who has no respect for himself or the woman he is dealing with. Stimulate her mind first and I guarantee you that her body will follow suit.

@RoxanneKenya

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