One thing I’ve noticed amongst peers, friends and mainly consultations is that when it comes to upgrading their style or improving themselves they’re often reluctant to embrace changes. Sometimes for myself it can be frustrating as they don’t always see the same potential that I see in themselves. In the past any frustration I’ve felt came from my own lack of understanding behind the root cause of their fear of change… limiting beliefs. In this article I want to explore how your own limiting beliefs could be holding you back from upgrading your style and how to overcome those beliefs.

In the past I’ve heard clients and friends that have asked for my help say “that’s not me, I don’t really wear that kind of thing”. Their issue is that they want to upgrade their style but still feel themselves, now if someone genuinely can back such a statement up then that is fair enough. However, a lot of the guys I’ve helped in the past don’t really know who ‘me’ is and they need to go past their limiting beliefs that they have in order to achieve their full potential.

All of us will have had some limiting beliefs in the past or still do in relation to particular things. When it comes to style quite often limiting beliefs will stem from growing up if you’ve been part of a group of friends that all dressed the same way then you’ll follow suit and dress the same as them in order to fit in, no one wants to be a social outcast right?

We’re constantly measuring ourselves against others and in todays society we’re always being compared and placed within social hierarchies. This leads people to generally dress safe they don’t like change and hold onto limiting beliefs. Now I’m not saying that everyone is a square but because of the nature of the way we live many people are reluctant to change they let negative emotions rule their life, live life the way you want and keep an open mind.

How to bury those limiting beliefs

Stepping out of your comfort zone can be.. well uncomfortable, but if you want to succeed in changing your image then you will have to at points push past that discomfort and take a leap.

Know thyself

Your inner beliefs and outer beliefs have to be congruent and in order for that to happen you have to know who you are as a person.

Try writing down the values and beliefs of who you want to become, if you’re quite self conscious and are worried of what other people may think of you then you may lack core confidence and seek feedback from others.

For example, if you wear something and 5 people say it doesn’t look right on you, you won’t like it, where as if you get compliments it becomes your favourite item.

When I was going through the process of changing my style I often got comments or remarks about being gay from girls and guys that I met out. That straight away would make me self conscious and doubt what I was wearing, I remember asking a girl once why she thought that and she mentioned that I was dressed well and just assumed I was gay. As I continued through my own journey I got the comments less and when I did get the comments they no longer bothered me. I had core confidence, at that point people used to recognise my style as my own and I started to hear the comments less.

Ultimate congruence comes from knowing you are and what you want to represent as a person regardless of what anybody says.

Style is self expression, if your vision of self comes from others then thats who will effect your style. When you have core confidence comments won’t hold you back, they’ll associate your style to you.

Remember to take it slow try different things one step at a time see what works and what doesn’t, master the basics first rather than throwing it all together.

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