AnUnhappyStudent Sat 10-Mar-18 14:04:10

I am a mature student and have been studying hard for the last several years and just about to come to the end of it. I am a bad sleeper and frequently wake in the early hours of the morning, do a couple of hours study and then back to bed.



During most of the time I have been studying I have also volunteered a couple of evenings a week, done the school runs and most of the housework/shopping/washing. However its now the last push and I have let things slide and was hoping that my DH would pick these things up and he hasn't. In fact every Saturday and Sunday he lies in until 11am, it would be longer but this is the time that I wake him up. By that time I have been up several hours and got loads done, but find I am really resenting him. We have an 11 year old DD and a dog. I can't understand why he would not want to be up and spend time with them so that I can get some work done.



In addition he drinks to excess, 6 bottles of wine a week, is overweight and he smokes. I knew this before we go together and I appreciate that its not up to me to change him, however I have health issues and it terrifies me that if something should go wrong with my health that my DD will be left with a father who is not fit and healthy. I do everything I can to stay well but he just cannot seem to see what the issue is.



To top it all off, he is suffering with ED which I feel sure is the result of the smoking and drinking, we have not had sex for a year and which makes me feel unattractive and unfulfilled. I just don't know what to do anymore. He did get healthy for a while and then just let everything go, started smoking and drinking again and no exercise. And the sleeping, he can't surely need 12 hours sleep a day??



AIBU in thinking that he needs to sort himself and his priorities out??