So a few weeks ago my husband basically told me I was fat and that I needed to "put effort" into my appearance.

I am 5'8 and 170lbs. I am curvy, have 36D boobs and a nice butt. My body fat percentage is 28% and my muscle is 34% (I have large biceps and calves). I wear a size 8 jeans, medium shirts and medium scrub pants/tops. I am really happy with my appearance, I wouldn't mind toning up and losing a few pounds since I've gained a little since starting my new job (which is a desk job, whereas at my old job I was very active). But for my husband to call me fat really shocked me.

My husband recently lost about 50lbs on a crash diet which he is still doing. He works overnight, and eats one unhealthy meal a day. I don't know if he's trying to get me psyched up to do the same, but he definitely wasn't nice about it! I don't have any health problems and I was confident about my body until he told me I was fat. He says he wants me to be back at the weight I was when we first started dating (freshman year of college, six years ago!) which was 150. That was really a rock bottom weight for me too, it was hard for me to get under that because I am curvy.

So being the nice wife that I am, I went on a diet. I am eating super healthy; lots of fruits, veggies, lean protein and fiber. And he tells me I'm eating too much and that I pack too much for lunch! I really don't know what to think. When I married my husband (which was six months ago, by the way) I thought I was getting unconditional love. He has never been like this before. Now I'm paranoid about my weight and appearance.

We've definitely had some marriage problems before this, it's hard to be close when we work opposite schedules also my husband plays video games excessively which annoys the crap out of me. When I say excessive I mean 15-20 hours a week, sometimes more if he gets a new game. I can't say that I've been nice about his habit (I think it's a horrible waste of life, everything in moderation is my motto), but that's not an excuse for him to call me fat.

And then he goes and tells me he's been talking about how fat I am to his mother, who is an obese woman! What the heck?! She's the one that eats Little Debbies for breakfast and who has horrible health problems for her age due to her weight but yet he pesters me? I just don't get it.

He wants to go to counseling, but I'm really afraid. I'm not afraid to be told I'm wrong by the counselor, but that a bunch of other feelings that my husband has been keeping inside will come out and hurt me even more. I'm also afraid that the counselor will tell him he's wrong, which he doesn't handle very well and he will take his anger out on me. Advice please?