Back in about 1986, when I was single, a friend set me up on a blind date. We made a foursome: my friend and her boyfriend, a friend of the boyfriend and me. We all went to dinner, and this fellow (I'll call him John, since I can't remember his name) and I attempted polite chitchat.

We had the usual banter of background and mutual-interest inquiries; and while John was a perfectly nice fellow, it became apparent we had very little in common. We dated once or twice more, then wished each other a pleasant life and went our separate ways.

Dating strategies, it seems, have changed a whole lot since I was in the dating game. Gone are the days when you found out if you were compatible in such critical areas as faith, family and finances. Modern women, particularly feminists, don't want to leave anything to chance.

I stumbled upon a website recently with dating strategies for the politically correct woman. The author appears quite serious on using these questions on the first date to weed out unsuitable candidates.

The article is entitled "10 Things Every Intersectional Feminist Should Ask On a First Date." (A first date!) "If you're going to date someone, you want to make sure they're anti-oppression," noted writer Lara Witt, managing editor at Wear Your Voice. "Here are 10 things you should ask on a first date." These things are:

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Do you believe that Black Lives Matter? What are your thoughts on gender and sexual orientation? How do you work to dismantle sexism and misogyny in your life? What are your thoughts on sex work? [i.e. prostitution – she's in favor of it: "Being pro-sex worker is a necessary pillar of dismantling the patriarch."] Are you a supporter of the BDS movement? [Nothing like a little anti-Semitism thrown in!] What is your understanding of settler colonialism and indigenous rights? Do you think capitalism is exploitative? Can any human be illegal? Do you support Muslim Americans and non-Muslim people from Islamic countries? Does your allyship include disabled folks?

Let me remind you, these are question to ask on a first date. Can you imagine how poor John would have reacted had I pinned him to the wall with "How do you work to dismantle sexism and misogyny in your life?" within half an hour of meeting him?

To this critical question of misogyny, Ms. Witt explains: "I've met cishet men who hate women. They say they love women, but that love is conditional on not having their toxic masculinity questioned or threatened in any way. And they love us as a monolith, they love what women have to offer, whether it is sex, food, love, care, emotional labor: they love us for what we can do for them, not because of who we are for ourselves. It is crucial for cishet men to learn how to decenter their male privilege in order for them to understand the multitudes of interpretations of femininity and womanhood. Beyond Misogyny 101, does the person you are with understand rape culture, systemic sexism and misogynoir? Are they willing to learn if they don't? Misogyny is more than the pay gap. Walk away from anyone who believes that 'boys will be boys' and that women are supposed to be mothers because we're nothing but ambulatory incubators."

Wow. Just … wow. Funny, I don't see any questions about misanthropy, which frankly seems more apt here. As one reader put it, "It is hard to believe there are people out there this deranged." My husband noted, "I couldn't even have a conversation with this woman." (Unsurprisingly, Ms. Witt also pens helpful advice for Teen Vogue.)

The nature of these questions seems like Ms. Witt is interviewing to hire a political activist, not find a potential life-mate. Forget asking about compatibility in music or hobbies, much less faith, family and finances. Rather, Ms. Witt is obsessed with one thing: "Anti-oppression." This doesn't strike me as a solid strategy for long-term domestic tranquility; but hey, what do I know?

I find this topic interesting because our two daughters, now 19 and 22, are firmly in the dating scene and wondering where their future may lie (although we've always advised our daughters not to marry before age 25, since maturity helps in wisely choosing a compatible mate).

Men seem to find our older daughter fascinating. She's such a pixyish combination of wholesomeness and maturity – what happens when homeschooled girls become adults – that a lot of people can't believe she's for real. (She relates a story of how, while out to dinner with a large number of acquaintances, a 40-year-old psychologist in the group spent an hour quizzing her about her background and upbringing, fascinated by her farm-fresh origins, after which he reluctantly admitted she was surprisingly well-adjusted.) Our daughter is in no hurry to marry, and is working her way through the sometimes-confusing morass of dating strategies, learning the differences between men who should remain friends and men who might be worth a deeper look.

Our younger daughter, currently training in advanced electronics in the Navy and faced with a male-to-female ratio of almost 7:1, has a simpler strategy. She started wearing a ring on the fourth finger of her left hand. She says it saves a lot of hassle.

Meanwhile, for those young people who are serious about getting married, here are my suggested 10 questions for dating. Unlike Ms. Witt's inquisition-like first-date questions listed above, the suggestions below are merely what you need to find out before becoming serious about someone:

What are your views on faith/God/religion/church? What are your views on children? What are your views on stay-at-home parents? What are your views on money? Are you a spender or a saver? What is your relationship with your parents? What are your views on pets? What are your views on politics? What are your career goals? Do you have any addictions? Where do you want to live 10 years from now (urban, suburban, rural)?

There is nothing earth-shattering about these questions; they're just common sense, but they will help guide you through the morass of dating complications and hopefully help decide whether the other person is worth getting to know better.

Pay no attention to political correctness when it comes to choosing a spouse. It doesn't bode well for happiness.

As for Ms. Witt, I wish her luck in finding a suitable life partner. Sounds like she'll need it.