VerySadVerySadAndAngry Wed 15-Apr-20 01:33:08

gingerbreadslice My DF has a solicitor who has POA, he is the LPA for welfare and finances. The SW told me that they didn't know this. I had told them over two years ago.



Cherrysoup they arrested me and then searched my house. My two boys had to get up so the police could look for stolen food. They seached the entire house and pulled everything out of every cupboard and drawer. I was already in custody when they started this. They arrested me and questioned me under caution. They have assured me this will never happen again. They have a file on DF and all the previous calls and contact with him. I have no idea why they decided to arrest me this time and can give me assurances it will never happen again. Its odd.



SlightyJaded I'm glad you were able to get your DM help. Its awful when they become so aggressive. Unfortunately my DF's GP is also my GP, and he is like a wet blanket. Such a nice man, but a wet blanket. The only thing to have come out of my arrest that might help my DF is the fact that the police made a mental health referral for me because they were worried I am traumatised and depressed from dealing with my DF.



MorganKitten Some of these homes are not very nice places, but these places are still safer. And 3 meals a day, and the heating is there and there is the protection. I just never wanted DF to get this far and end up in a home, now I can't stand the sight of him and just want him gone, anywhere where he isn't near me or my family now. I hope your'e Nan is doing ok?



forumdonkey That sound horrendous for you and your family, with the added problem of him not being a relative. So, totally not your responsibility. I'm glad you could get him help and restore peace for yourself. My DF has 6 other children, not one of them want to know him. I've just been naive and I moved here to look after my DM. I should never have stayed here really, but then I wouldn't wish my DF and his behaviour on anyone else.



I don't think I can forgive him. The police cell was grim. I couldn't wee without being filmed. I couldn't wash my hands. None of the police are social distancing, even with me they wouldn't give me personal space, and I am tiny, I'm not super fit, I am not a hardened criminal. I cried so much my face is still aching.



One of the officers is going to come out and see my this week because of something I said about my DF which they are taking seriously, and it is perhaps the only good thing to come out of it, because now I think it will be taken seriously that I can't care for DF and have very real reasons why I can't.