Few days back I wrote a post about maturity and actually it was my first post on this blog and it got more than 100 views within a week and I was surprised because I never expected that but I do want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. It really means the world to me that you liked that post. Forgive me for my bad grammar or poor use of words.

Forgive…

You know it’s funny because I was writing first block for a different post and when I wrote the word, “forgive” it just struck me that I never focus on it. Forgive is such a nice, tight & strong word with such a deep meaning. So, I decided to give all of my attention to it and I realized two things,

Most people don’t really know what they say or the things they’re saying makes sense or not.

There is a lot of confusion in this world which leads to frustration.

In last few days I had many moments where I had to choose either to forgive or not and I was confused! Some were easy af to decide because I really didn’t cared about them but the ones I cared about made me miserable and they weren’t even big things, so why was it so goddamn hard to decide. But then I thought about what it means to forgive someone? I tried to come up with something but I didn’t so what else I can do? So I thought about who forgives me the most? It didn’t even took millisecond and to know that it was my Mom!

So I went to her and asked her why should we forgive? She answered me that her Dad used to say that “Forgiving is God’s work” and also it shows how kind you really are. I was satisfied with her answer for a moment but then I remembered that people never forgive. Not in my experience. They say they do but they don’t. I’m not even sure that forgiveness even matters.

Why? I mean, you still did what you did, right? Nothing’s changed. Forgiveness is a mindset. Synapses in your brain telling you to think differently about something that already happened. Its amorphous. It’s not really there. And if it’s not really there, what is it?

Forgiveness is the act of pardoning an offender. In the Bible, the Greek word translated “forgiveness” literally means “to let go,” We forgive others when we let go of resentment and give up any claim to be compensated for the hurt or loss we have suffered. But it is critical to remember that forgiveness doesn’t automatically mean a reconciliation. We don’t have to return to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone who has hurt us. Although burying the hatchet usually brings peace. But that does not mean that you should forgive every single time, there are exceptions like sexual harassment.

So forgive! Forgive everyone but start by forgiving yourself.

How to forgive?

Know what it is and what it isn’t. Take your time. Don’t pretend. Understand that forgiving does not mean letting the offender off the hook. Understand that you’re not the victim anymore. Understand that, it is not same as reconciling. It does not happen in a moment. It takes time. Forgiving does not mean forgetting.

Forgiving is based on you and not on other’s actions.

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