Since I was a little girl, I was under the impression that I would be married by the age of 25. Why 25 you may ask? Well, I’m not quite exactly sure why I chose that particular age actually. Looking back, perhaps I believed that by the time I was 25, I would have life figured out… at least my love life.

What’s Petrifying about Being Alone?

The thought of being alone is somewhat frightening, whether it’s right after a breakup, or some time after that. There is beauty behind letting someone in and becoming comfortable in your own skin around them, but when the relationship is over, you’re back in the singlehood jungle.

You are alone. Yikes.

Is it really that bad of thing though? Why does being single have to be scary? Yes, its magical being in love, however, the enchantment surrounding complete happiness with the comfort of just yourself, is even better because you don’t have to depend on someone else to fulfill your happiness. When being alone is a non factor, it opens opportunities unbeknownst to us.

Think about all the time you spend while dating.

During the duration of a courtship, all the energy and effort spent on another human being could honestly be put to better use. If you have no children, then this really applies to you – Instead of wrapping yourself in another person, indulge in the freedom which has been presented to you.

Time + Freedom = Limitless Opportunities

Living single is the time for you to pamper yourself. Find out what YOU like doing. Is there a new hobby you’ve been eyeing at? Something new, or even old, you’ve been meaning to do?

Never, in my wildest dreams, did I think I would enjoy the sport of golf. It appeared boring, and something that simply didn’t appeal to me. That was until my fellow hippie and bunkie (jail talk for roommate) brought me to a golf range. At first I was apprehensive, but eventually, I thought why the hell not?

Turns out, I love the golf driving range. I’m not a professional, not even that good, but golf is fun for me; I found a way to distract my mind, while at the same time, letting out built up stress, too.It’s a hobby I religiously spoil myself in at least 3 times a week.

It’s something I found in the singlehood jungle.

It’s Really Not That Bad

Being single means that you have all the time in the world to embark on as many adventures as you wish. This is the time to figure out what you like and don’t like about yourself, as well as in your future partner.

It’s okay to be alone. I mean, if we really think about it, we’re really not alone. We have;

Friends & family

Passions and hobbies

Goals and dreams

We’re surrounded by people and activities to keep us productive during this time in the jungle. This is the time for you to purely enjoy all of you. Don’t let societal pressures make you think that in order to be happy, you must be in a relationship.

False.

The only way to create consistent happiness in life is to be happy with yourself first; single or taken.