By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.

Why can’t I just tell her I love her?

Have you ever…

• Confessed your feelings too soon, too often, or too intensely, and lost the woman you really liked because of it?

• Chased her too much and all it did was make her run for the hills?

• Asked her if you were BF/GF and scared her by wanting to put a label on your relationship too quickly?

If any of those situations have ever happened to you, chances are you started looking online for some dating advice.

You might have read some articles, watched some YouTube videos, or posted your questions on forums.

Maybe you even bought an e-book or online training course.

In your search for answers, you’ve probably found a lot of "terrible" dating advice.

Advice that’s just not you, like:

1. Pick-up artist advice that tells you to use manipulative tricks.

2. Bad-boy advice that tells you to treat women like shit.

3. More respectable advice, but that tried to change you into an extrovert.

If you’ve been searching the internet for some time, then you know that roughly 99% of all the advice out there falls into one of the above three categories.

Here are some examples of what you mostly find on the internet:

More PUA examples below:

Bad-boy examples:

Here’s another one from a site that teaches bad-boy techniques:

Ugh… it makes me wanna puke.

But anyways, let’s get back to our point.

When you look at the advice you find online, what does it all have in common?

These sites tell you to behave unethically or fake being an extrovert when you are actually an introvert.

However…

In your online search, you might also have found some “tidbits” of decent advice that are applicable to your situation.

Here’s some generic but decent advice you might have found:

• Make yourself less available so she will start chasing you more.

• Don’t tell her you love her until she tells you she loves you first.

• Don’t text her two times in a row without her texting back first.

• Don’t call her all the time.

• End conversations first.

And honestly, even though it’s generic advice it kind of makes sense, right?

Deep down, you know that’s actually what you SHOULD be doing.

But… But… But…

… for some reason you don’t.

Because at some level you think it’s fake or unethical.

Here’s how one of our clients put it during his last coaching session.

I don’t want to play games—it’s fake and unethical. Why can’t I just tell her I love her?

If that sounds familiar to you, I can totally understand how you feel. Most of our clients felt the same way until they found out that there’s nothing fake or unethical about using decent dating skills. And I’ll tell you exactly why in just a few seconds.

But first, let me clarify to avoid any misunderstanding.

I’m talking about DECENT dating dynamics here, NOT the manipulative PUA or bad-boy advice. I’m also not talking about behaving like an extrovert when in fact you are an introvert.

In fact, I COMPLETELY AGREE: If you use PUA or bad-boy tactics, or if you behave like an extrovert when you’re not one, then you are being 100% unethical and fake.

However, I’m talking about a different dating approach.

I’m talking about the good and decent dating tactics that you can use as an introverted man.

Here’s the problem:

Even With Good And Decent Dating Tactics, Some Men Still Feel Like It’s Fake Or Unethical.

If you can relate to that, then you might be confusing “fakeness” with personal growth and “ethicalness” with Disney naivety.

I’d like to give you some different perspectives to consider.