If you see dirty pictures on someone else’s phone, that’s your problem. And a reminder: Dear Prudence is not a tax attorney, and neither is her guest, Toast co-founder Nicole Cliffe. Your questions today revolve around missing the mark. I’m always the one chasing down my sometime lover—am I being a stalker? My friend’s husband asked me to donate towards a surprise luxury car I know she doesn’t want—should I intervene? I had a fight with a longtime friend, and I don’t miss him—do I have to try and mend things? Plus: Ditching one party for another hosted by someone you like better, the etiquette of compliments, and reconnecting with family when your lives have gone very different ways.

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