Have you heard The Phrase: A Man’s Word?

A man is only as powerful as his word

Of course you have. “A man’s word,” or “A man is only as good as his word.” It’s an old cliche, rarely used outside of conversations with your Grandpa.

And is it even true?

You could be as good as your money, or your status, or your image or your skill-set. But that’s all superficial stuff.

Your word is directly linked to your honour, trustworthiness and integrity.

Imagine a Man’s Word

You’re a brave soldier. You give your word to protect your outpost. But… you fall asleep and everyone is slaughtered.

Or you make a business deal, and give your word not to be a cheat. But you do cheat, and get caught.

You tell your woman you’re going to be loyal and monogamous… then she finds you at the local brothel, playing the piano with a harlot on your lap.

I was at the gym, babe

Your word is your:

Responsibility

Integrity

Honour

Trust

Loyalty

Truth

Professionalism

Style

Consistency

Dependability

Without your word, you’re nobody

“I always keep my word! Ooof!”

Just another human flicking around your society, breaking promises and making grand empty gestures. You’re a liar and a cheat, a small time value sucker of low character, best set to clean toilets, or sell cigarettes in prison.

I’ve had a few clients sign up for my coaching programs, and then back out at the last minute. They tell me they have financial problems, or life problems, or whatever they come up with. They can’t tell the truth and say:

“I’m scared Tony.”

A Man’s Word To Himself

If a student flakes on me, I won’t re-accept him as a student, not for any money.

I’m glad they flaked. They have no integrity. They’re not to be trusted.

There’s nothing dishonourable about saying, “I’m afraid.” But giving your man’s word, and then breaking it because of fear…

He’s breaking his word to himself. That he would take part of his life that’s broken, and fix it.

When a man breaks his word, he destroys credibility, with himself

Say you will do something, you do it

Make a date or meeting, you arrive on time

Give a promise, you keep it

Start a project, you finish it

Men of their word are known to be trusted, superior, and reliable. A man who breaks his word is known to be weak, unreliable, and inferior.

If you do it, that’s how you’ll feel about yourself.

Your actions have consequences

My teen nephew loves his absentee Dad. Every time they talk on social media, he promises to come visit. But he never does. It’s always some excuse, like work, or money. The truth is, he’s lazy, disorganized, and dysfunctional.

And every time he breaks his word, his son loses respect.

Son, I’ll never leave you… unless your mother leaves me

Respect is hard to gain, easy to lose

Boys make excuses, men take responsibility.

Being a man of your word will allow you to rise above your station, to achieve great power, and mastery over others and yourself. It will grant you access to powerful people, and lift you to the realms of epic greatness.

Keeping Your Word is Easy

If you make a contract with yourself that you will approach women every day for thirty days, make more money, go to the gym five days a week, succeed at work, write a book, quit smoking, or finish a large project, and you honour your word—you will achieve power, influence and glory.

However, if you can’t keep your word even to yourself, why would anyone trust you?

He-Man always kept his word

A man without his word is destined for a life of menial labour, serving the needs of powerful men (and women).

You won’t attract great lovers, or create works of art that inspire. You’ll just be another guy, wandering through life, aimlessly.

He doesn’t exist, because he never commits.

Women and their word

You haven’t heard the saying, “A woman’s word,” because traditionally, women depended on men for their survival.

While men hunted, worked, and provided, women ran the household and raised kids. If a man didn’t keep his word, she’d be.. screwed. Probably by every lonely guy in town with a few coins. A man’s word meant the difference between a good life, and bad one.

If your woman’s word is stronger than yours, then get ready to find a new girlfriend.

Do what you say you will do

Keep your promises

Build relationships

Create more than you consume

Always Whenever Possible, Keep Your Word

Then what’s the solution? It’s simple. Keep your word, or don’t give it.

You’ve been talking about writing that book… so write it!

You’re going to lose the gut… so do it!

You want to find a girlfriend… so go out at find her!

Do what you say you’re going to do

Should you break your word, then be accountable and correct the issue as best you can.

how often do you break your word? If it’s often, then I ask you…are you rich, do you have a great and happy girlfriend and are you surrounded by loyal friends that will grant you favors and help you on your path?

If not, it’s not too late to change this. Just start keeping your word, and make this your most valuable character trait.

Benefits of Keeping Your Word

Stronger, more loyal relationships

A sense of identity

A richer family and social life

Be more trusted in your social circles

More social opportunity

There’s very little downside to keeping your word.

Maybe you’ll have to move a friend’s couch in the rain, or stay at work and cram in overtime. Perhaps you won’t get to finish that last level in your favorite video game. But the result of keeping your word is that you’ll have respect.

Keeping Your Word is Like Money in The Bank

Every time you keep your word, it’s like putting money into the bank. Your reputation is that you’re reliable, honest, and trustworthy. When you need a favor, people will be happy to help, because they understand your character and if they ask you for something, you’ll keep your promises.

You Can Always Say No

It’s better to say no, then to break your word. At least you’re honest.

I had a friend who recently asked me to watch his children while he went to a swinger party. I always hate saying no to friends, but I was working on a big project, and didn’t want to commit this time. So I said no.

He’s still my friend.

Saying no mean’s you won’t break your word.

A Man Who Keeps His Word Gains Respect

Respect is a powerful emotion. It mean’s people trust you. With trust, comes responsibility, sure. But a little responsibility can lead to amazing growth. There’s nothing wrong with it.

Have You Been Running From Responsibility?

Perhaps it’s time to evaluate your reputation. Are you know as the guy who isn’t dependable? Who breaks his word?

Would you rather be the go to guy for problem solving? The winner? The man of honor?

Jp On Lying

It’s up to you who you want to be.

Start by trying a little harder to keep your word.