I saw these words written in an intro on the FightCPS forum today: “My caseworker seems like no help.” I’d like to tell this person: there’s a reason for that.



The Child Protective Services (CPS) caseworker (who may or may not be an actual social worker) is working against you. The caseworker may put on a show of being friendly and caring, but only because she’s trying to get more information from you. (For the purpose of this article I’ll use “she” although many Child Protective Services social workers are men.)

The caseworker’s job is to prepare a legal case against the parents, while placing the children in a different home. They believe they are helping children. They do not want to help parents because parents are the adversary. When they go to court, the parents are on the other side of the courtroom.

You’re in a legal battle. That social worker is not there to help you. She’s there to destroy the bond you have with your children by having them placed in state custody.

The social worker might be nice while she’s trying to get something from you, such as your signature on papers, or your child’s birth certificate. But when she’s done with that, it is back to the business of destroying your family because that is her job. It is what her supervisor requires of her. She wants to keep her job and so she does as she’s told.

As the front-line person, your Child Protective Services social worker may put on a good show of being friendly. You may be tricked into thinking she’s just there to try to help your family. If you trust her you play into her hands.

These people are trained to be manipulative. They are trained to try to make you trust them, and then to coerce you to do things that will harm your family, such as sign documents without a lawyer’s advice.

This is why Child Protective Services social workers are called “wolves in sheep’s clothing.”

This is written in the Gospel of Matthew:

Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. (Matthew 7:15)

A social worker is an example of a wolf in sheep’s clothing. They will treat you with friendly consideration until they get what they want. Then a lot of them do an about-face and are outright rude because they’ve already got what they want and disdain you. You are their enemy, the person they intend to take down, slander, and destroy in court. At that point all they want is for the judge to side with them and rule against you.

They have a huge advantage over you in court.

They’ve been there possibly hundreds of times during the course of their careers. They know the players, the procedures, and the possibilities. You, on the other hand, probably know nothing about being in court.

As a young parent, you may never have been in court before, ever. You don’t know what’s coming at you. You don’t know that your court-appointed attorney may be a shill just there to collect a few hundred dollars for himself and guide you through the process of having your child removed from your custody. And worst of all, you may still trust that social worker, thinking she’s your new best friend.

No, she’s not your new best friend. She’s your destroyer. The sooner you realize that the social worker is doing a job to get her paycheck to feed her family and pay her bills, the better off you’ll be, because you’ll be looking at your CPS case from a more elevated viewpoint.

Your case may not be motivated by your social worker’s desire to destroy you.

It could be your case is motivated by her supervisor’s desire to put more children in foster care, to bring federal funding into the county, and to justify her own job.

After all, if these people never found any children “in need of services” who they can place in the foster care system, there would be no need for their jobs and they’d all be laid off.

It is in their best interest to widen their definitions of child abuse and neglect, so they can take in more children, get more federal funding, and force parents through the multiple difficult hoops called a “service plan.”

Child Protective Services social workers must obey their supervisors. They are not working on this alone. Their supervisors review every case and they call the shots. If the social worker hasn’t moved to take your child, the supervisor may review the case and tell the social worker to return to your home with law enforcement and take your children. You place blame on the social worker (who is just trying to earn a paycheck) when it is a supervisor who made the decision to detain the children.

We don’t know exactly what happened behind the scenes, but we do know better than to trust our adversaries. The social worker has been placed in a position to work against you in an effort to ostensibly “help” your child.

She is not your friend, and no, she’s not there to help you. She might string you along a bit to make you think she might help, but that’s not her purpose, and not the reason she’s now in your life.

Most of us started out believing that the Child Protective Service social worker was there to help, then wondered why the nice helpful lady turned rude and deceitful after a few weeks. We all believe that social workers are nice helpful people. It is hard to have this preconceived idea smashed when reality sets in.

The sooner we realize what’s really going on, the better it will be for us as then we can deal with reality instead of being deceived by sheep’s clothing.

Imagine what it is like to be a social worker in the CPS setting.

1. You start out as a college student in a social services program wanting to help people.

2. You get a job helping abused children, and feel like a million bucks because you got hired.

3. You learn that your job involves taking orders from supervisors and making parents scream, cry, and yell.

4. You still have to work at that job because like everyone, you have bills to pay, and someone has to be there to help abused children, right?

5. You can’t face that you’re destroying families and traumatizing parents and children, so you go into denial, believing you stand for justice and the American way.

6. When someone suggests that what you’re doing is wrong, you lash out, refusing to come out of denial. It would be too painful for you.

7. You’re stuck in an unpleasant, stressful job. Your health starts to fail because of the stress you’re under.

8. You become jaded, not even caring that parents are screaming, crying and yelling. Maybe you even laugh at them behind their backs. Eventually turning on them and being rude to them is just part of the job.

9. You have lost your humanity and compassion, and you still just want to pay your bills.

That is our adversary. She will try everything she can, even lying in court papers, to get your child taken away from you. Winning in court is that important to her.

The name Satan means “adversary,” so now you know who she’s really working for. He is a deceiver just like she’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

So, what will you do, trust this person whose job is to see you as public enemy number one (a parent)? Or will you open your eyes and realize that this is a mortal battle… against powers and principalities (see Ephesians 6) … and you are pitted against the greatest enemy you’ve ever met… someone who wants to incarcerate your child in a foster home and take away your right to be a parent.

Try looking at your case from that perspective. Know that the judges commonly rubber stamp anything the social worker puts before them because the parents aren’t presenting any evidence in their favor. Juvenile court cases are decided on “a preponderance of the evidence.”

If the social worker shows up at court with a report that contains false statements, and the parent shows up with absolutely nothing (no papers, no evidence) . . . guess who wins?

She does!

Don’t bother asking the social worker to help you.

It is time for you to help yourself!

How to do it:

1. Gather documentary evidence.

2. Learn to write legal documents.

3. Be prepared to take your case to court, with your lawyer’s advice and help.

When this is all over you’ll know you did everything you could to try to prevail.

I can’t promise you that these methods will definitely get your child returned, but I do know that preparing for court is the best way to make that happen.

Work through your entire court ordered service plan, get the evidence that you completed everything required of you, and make an effort to impress the judge with your ability to be the best parent for your child.







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