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Many of us just know what we don’t want from life but how can we go straight to the goals that we want to achieve if we are not even conscious of which goals are these? Of course, you will obtain results if you have a long-term vision of what you want to do and also focus your energies towards the chosen direction in the present moment. Otherwise, you are just like a boat being moved by the external currents or what we call “unchosen destiny”. And who knows where these currents will bring you? Nobody.

Do you really know what you want from life? Sometimes we believe that something specific is actually what we are looking from life but, with big disappointment, it happens to almost everyone to strive for something that turned out to be just an unworthy desire. Listen to this. When l was young l had the

Sometimes we believe that something specific is actually what we are looking from life but, with big disappointment, it happens to almost everyone to strive for something that turned out to be just an unworthy desire. Listen to this. When l was young l had the aspiration to become a military pilot. According to what I perceived that was all l wanted. 10 years after my aspiration knocked to my door I was finally able to participate to the public contest and so I did. Eventually, I arrived at the part of the contest amongst the top 45 out of thousands of candidates. It was the final step where l had to remain in the academy for 10 days to get “willpower” tested by the superiors. I passed and cleared all the phases there, but I realized that all of the efforts that I had made were null because I understood that living a military life was not truly my aspiration. The very day I received the qualifying examination I resigned from the academy. The captains looked at me like I was fool, as did my parents and friends when I came back home but it was something beyond the reason that pushed me. I studied and dreamed for many years for this just to realize that it wasn’t my way. Nice move man really! Yeah l know, shit happens.

I told you this story because sometimes many of our actions are not strictly commanded by our own desires and will. I will explain the reasons of how and why this happens in another post.

For our concern here instead is to let you dig into yourself and understand what is that really pushes your motives.

But how can you really know what you really want from life?

First thing that you have to do is to discover what are your core values . Based on them you can proceed to the occupation that you want to hold. For instance, if your most important value in life is altruism you may become a doctor, a volunteer, firefighter, etc. If your values are health and wellness you may become a fitness instructor, you may startup a company that produces healthy products etc. If your value is protection and sustainable growth of the earth you may work for an environmental sustainable company or create your own. After you have made this evaluation, take everything that does not encompass “your values” out of your choosing area! You are restricting your field of interest and by doing that you are already avoiding spending precious time for useless stuff that may benefit not you but another individual.

is to discover what are your . Based on them you can proceed to the occupation that you want to hold. For instance, if your most important value in life is altruism you may become a doctor, a volunteer, firefighter, etc. If your values are health and wellness you may become a fitness instructor, you may startup a company that produces healthy products etc. If your value is protection and sustainable growth of the earth you may work for an environmental sustainable company or create your own. After you have made this evaluation, take everything that does not encompass “your values” out of your choosing area! You are restricting your field of interest and by doing that you are already avoiding spending precious time for useless stuff that may benefit not you but another individual. Second thing is to look for new places, activities, hobbies that may attract you. Let’s say you’ve never been to Greece, South America or Japan and that these are potential places where you could live and work. Or that you never knew about the profession of a critic of cuisine or, like l recently saw in a documentary, being a surf instructor in the Richard Branson’s island! I mean, there are tons of jobs out there that you can potentially do but since your mind does not even know about their existence you are precluding yourself from the possibility of performing them. Expand your knowledge and try to understand basically what you like listening to your gut. It may be engines, music, art, construction business, racing, fighting, teaching, looking for diamonds, becoming a blogger etc.

is to look for new places, activities, hobbies that may attract you. Let’s say Or that you never knew about the profession of a critic of cuisine or, like l recently saw in a documentary, being a surf instructor in the Richard Branson’s island! I mean, there are tons of jobs out there that you can potentially do but since your mind does not even know about their existence you are precluding yourself from the possibility of performing them. Expand your knowledge and try to understand basically what you like listening to your gut. It may be engines, music, art, construction business, racing, fighting, teaching, looking for diamonds, becoming a blogger etc. Third thing to do to be sure that what you are proceeding towards is the right path for you is visualization in the case where you cannot actually do the activity, performing it for real if you can do it. The best thing, of course, is to act out because visualization sometimes can trap you to some biased conceptions of things.

to do to be sure that what you are proceeding towards is the right path for you is visualization in the case where you cannot actually do the activity, performing it for real if you can do it. The best thing, of course, is to act out because visualization sometimes can trap you to some biased conceptions of things. For example one of the most recent biased perception of something that I experienced, happened this year while l was living in Paris. According to my imagination l thought it was a cool city and lifestyle but my experience completely reassessed my perception and expectance. Experience is the only way to know everything for sure.Anyway, there are cases sometimes where you cannot immediately try the thing out and you can only visualize it. If you happen to be in this situation the best thing that you can do is visualize yourself while doing the activity that you think is the one for you and after that pay close attention to the feelings that your gut is sending to you. If it “feels right” this could mean that it is actually one of the possible paths for you that are disclosing. Not giving the necessary attention to our inner state can lead us to wrong judgments about what we should do in certain situations. Next time you are evaluating a potential career that you may take don’t think rationally but feel first with your intuition and then rationalize over it only if the feeling was firstly right. If the feeling sais no it is already useless to continue thinking about the supposed activity because your intuition and soul is clearly saying to you that that is not something yours. If the intuition sais yes you can proceed with the analytical judgement of the case

Try this method and tell us if you already found out something of your interest. To me personally, it took more than two yeas to deprogram my mind from all the conditioning that I received from the external influencers. It was worth it anyway because at least now l perfectly know what l want and l am living a happier, more efficient, productive and satisfying life.

About the Author

Rebel born Salvo is an Entrepreneur, Fitness Enthusiast and Musician from Italy. In 2015 he majored in Economics&Business at LUISS Guido Carli college in Rome. Currently, he is attending a Master’s degree in International Business in Paris. Sal currently spends his time developing and managing his online and offline businesses concerning the creative fields of writing and music production and the field of social media marketing. Follow me on my blog.