I'm curious as to what other traits you have as a yandere. I promise you I won't judge, as I, too, have some bad traits that other people would heavily judge me for.

Well, from what I’ve read about yandere, they are someone who is typically kind/polite at first but becomes obsessive/violent when it involves their love interest.

So the traits that I suppose best describe why I view myself as a yandere are:

-I am extremely obsessive. By that, I mean I will stalk everything my lover does. I will check his texts, messages, likes, comments, follows, what he writes in notebooks, etc. The idea of him having privacy seems completely unnecessary to me. We love each other so why hide anything? I should know EVERYTHING he does/says/thinks/etc.





-I am also extremely possessive. My boyfriend is extremely attractive and the female population tends to notice it and point it out quite often. Due to that + my extreme paranoia and hallucinations, I get extremely angry and violent over social interactions with other people. I don’t allow my boyfriend to talk to most females and the ones I do let him talk to, I stalk on a daily basis and refuse to let them hang out with my boyfriend without me. After all, why would they need to be alone? He has me, I’m all he could ever need. No one could ever love him as much as I do.





-I get violent if I feel threatened/betrayed/trapped. I’ve threatened to stab my boyfriend if he ever cheats on me (I’ve obviously never physically hurt him and I wouldn’t do so without evidence of cheating). I’ve posted the nudes of girls who sent him things without permission. I’ve stalked girls and found their addresses to blackmail them. I act proud of females doing a lot of drugs so they eventually get so addicted that my boyfriend never wants them in his life again. I am more violent towards other people than my boyfriend.





-I don’t socialise with many people other than my boyfriend. I dropped most of my friends and family due to the fact that they just took my time and attention away from my boyfriend. They were a nuisance to me. I get angry and exhausted when my boyfriend and I aren’t in the same room 24/7 and when his parents come to socialise with him, I get super stressed. I never leave our bedroom unless he leaves the room as well. I’ve never gone outside by myself since he and I have started dating. I only go where he goes.





-I memorise him. I have him so well memorised that I can tell who he’s talking to just by his facial reactions and the way he positions his hands/body. I can tell what he’s dreaming about by the way he moves and how often he twitches. I can tell what he’s thinking, what he’s hungry for, when he needs to use the bathroom, when he wants to take a shower, when he’s uncomfortable, etc. It annoys him a bit that I can read him so well but it’s okay because I take care of him💗





-I physically can’t handle being away from him. I don’t just mean separation anxiety, I mean I literally am incapable of handling it. He’s gotten fired from 2 jobs because I couldn’t handle him being away. I will have anxiety attacks. I will hyperventilate. I will hallucinate and see/hear him with someone else and get disgustingly angry or suicidal. I will hurt myself because my entire body will feel like it’s on fire and my vision will blur. I’ll scream and cry but won’t be able to hear it cause my ears will be ringing or my hallucinations will be too loud. I will go into a complete blackout rage and hurt anyone or anything in my path including myself until I feel his presence and feel safe again. I am a danger to myself and others when he is away.





-I don’t think this part is a yandere trait but I’ll add it just in case. I am incapable of feeling positive emotions towards anyone except him. I mean, I already have no empathy towards people in general, but what I mean is that I am incapable of feeling happiness, love, excitement, interest, etc with other individuals. Talking to people brings no emotion to my life. The only other things I am capable of having emotions towards are animals.





-I don’t do anything (in a stable mindset) without my boyfriend doing it or giving me permission. I will starve to death if he’s not going to eat with me. I won’t drink anything unless he does it too. I won’t shower or brush my hair/teeth unless he tells me too or does it as well. I suppose I mimick him in a way. He’s hungry? Well fuck, now I’m hungry too. He’s thirsty? I’ll get us both a drink. He only wants to drink soda? I’ll drink it too. I exist specifically for him and that mindset has never changed and most likely never will.





These are just the things I could list off the top of my head but hopefully I don’t get too much hate for it 😅 hope this helps ya though