Question

How do I deal with a difficult mother-in-law when I live with her?

Community Answer

Living together is one of the hardest things to ever do when you don't get along and can result in a dysfunctional life. Is it possible to get her into an in-law flat in the backyard or a distinct part of the house, so that she can lead most of her life separate from yours? If not, you might put into place different times to use different parts of the house, to lessen the times you're in the same areas. In terms of communicating, be polite but don't engage in any attempts she makes to argue, cause trouble, complain or judge you. Shut her down with comments such as: "Well, that's your opinion, good for you." Get your spouse on side, you have agreed to his or her mother living with you, so you at least get to voice your preferences about how the household is run and the amount of contact that is sufficient and what is too much. Remember, it's your life, don't let this woman conduct it for you.