Supporters of same-sex marriage celebrate after the Illinois General Assembly passed a gay marriage bill on Nov. 7. Scott Olson/Getty Images

Moses Kimbugwe is seeing another man, but their prospects for marriage — or even romance — aren’t great. While a growing number of American states, and other nations in Europe and elsewhere, now recognize gay marriage, Kimbugwe does not live in one of those places. He is a gay rights activist living in Uganda, where parliament passed a law in December that calls for a life prison sentence for certain acts of what it calls “aggravated homosexuality.” “I am dating someone, and I know many friends of mine who have boyfriends, however they are short-lived,” he said. “Gay life is challenging, scarily … to the extent that at the moment, even close friends, family members … have abandoned gay people for fear of their lives too, with the notion that the law might also catch them.” At a time when many people are lauding the progress gay rights activists have made in predominantly Western nations — and especially on the issue of gay marriage — some believe the positive headlines are overlooking the still forbidding global picture. But, perhaps more troubling, Americans and Europeans need not look so far as Uganda — or the more than one-third of the world where being gay is illegal — to find LGBT people living in fear. Two men got married on a float for the first time on New Year's Day at the 2014 Rose Parade in Pasadena, Calif., in what gay rights advocates called a major coup for gays in American society. Marriage isn’t only about marriage existentially, they say, but about equalizing gay relationships in the minds of straight counterparts. But just before New York City's Gay Pride Parade last year, Mark Carson, 32, was shot dead for his sexual orientation in the West Village, a historical center of gay culture and the movement for rights. His death in a neighborhood that has represented strength and resilience in the LGBT community dealt a deep psychological blow to many in the area. “It’s hard to place (Carson’s) death in the national conversation on the progress we are making” with marriage rights, said Sharon Stapel, executive director of the New York City Anti-Violence Project, an LGBT rights organization. “What we know from (our data) is that this violence is not uncommon — across the country and New York City. It’s not uncommon for people to be killed for who they are.”

Victory for ‘privileged’

With all the praise heaped by social liberals in the West on the gay rights movement for advances in marriage equality, Stapel said it is easy for what many call the more privileged members of the gay community to lose sight of traditionally marginalized elements of the community in the United States and abroad. “The other thing that’s important to talk about when we are juxtaposing LGBT civil rights against a construct of marriage is who is most vulnerable to violence in this country — people of color (like Carson) are more likely to face hate-based violence, and gender-nonconforming people are much more likely to experience violence," Stapel said. While Stapel said marriage rights are important, she acknowledged that there are quarters of the LGBT community, in the U.S. and abroad, where survival is a more pressing concern. “Indeed, given that Americans who marry and stay married are far more likely to be white, educated and wealthier, it is clear that marriage benefits those members of the LGBT community who already have the most privileges,” said Laurie Essig, a leading voice on LGBT social issues and professor in women’s and gender studies at Middlebury College. Essig has contended in various articles on the topic that group-think on the issue of gay marriage prevents some in the LGBT community from observing that, globally, incarcerations, hate crimes, the death penalty and social justice issues are very clear and present dangers. Noor Sultan, a Cairo-based Egyptian-Sudanese gay rights advocate, told Al Jazeera that according to her organization, Bedayaa, nearly 55 percent of 187 randomly surveyed LGBT people in 2013 reported they had been attacked in an anti-gay hate crime. The number was down from nearly 80 percent the previous year, under the administration of the Muslim Brotherhood–affiliated former President Mohamed Morsi. But, said Stapel of the Anti-Violence Project, it is difficult to gauge whether fluctuations in violence statistics represent shifts in violence or victims’ willingness to report instances of violence. For people like Sultan, the Western-led discourse on marriage rights is irrelevant, as happy as she is for Western LGBT people. “We are still fighting to live safely and securely and not get arrested or killed, so gay marriage is not our priority at the moment,” she said.

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