The first letter in BDSM stands for bondage.

This nifty kink can begin innocently enough with cute plastic furry cuffs … and it can be notched up to levels unthought of by many.

Beginner Level Bondage

So, if you’re a bit new to the idea, you’re in the right place. So, you definitely want to start out with a good, long conversation with your partner(s) about this. It is never a good idea to surprise someone with bondage (unless part of a planned out scenario – so long as there is consent from every. single. participant.)

Once you’ve shared your desire, you’ve agreed to a safe word to quickly stop things if needed, and everyone is on board with who is doing what in the bondage scenes you’re interested in – you’re ready to find your preferred restraints. This can vary from a simple soft rope tie-up (advanced rope brings you some complicated and well designed fun shapes), to a variety of wrist and ankle cuffs, bed attachments, and even specialized set-ups that would blow your minds.

Why Tie Each Other Up?

Experiment with your partner and find out exactly what pleases you both the most. Some partners will enjoy having power over the more submissive individual, while others will savor every second of having given power to their sexual lover. Some might even like to keep changing it up every now and then. Others still might enjoy acting out against the more dominant. There’s no shame in not knowing either – it just means you can play around until you find what is right!

These sensations have been termed as the ‘power-play’ or ‘power-exchange’ that helps intensify the sensuality of the situation as well as encouraging total trust and open communication with each other. So, there are some pretty great perks to this whole kink thing when you think about it.

Safety Notes for Bondage

Now, since bondage is literally tying someone up – you’re going to need just a little more than consent to be really safe – be sure to have safe words, methods of a quick release planned for every restraint possible, and an emergency back-up plan for each restraint you invest in. No one wants to have to call the fire department to be released from a giant cross that’s located in your finished basement because you lost the keys to the shackles. Or even have to have them cut off a pair of decent handcuffs. It’s just embarrassing.

It also needs to be noted that as there is a ‘power-exchange’ in this situation, that there should be some form of aftercare planned. Aftercare is a transitional period immediately after the act where you attend to each other’s mental and physical needs. Cuddle, touch, and communicate your experience – anything you loved, anything you want to add/change/take away from/etc. Share with each other to make the next time even better and prevent what the community knows as ‘drop’. There is a level of emotional charge to these acts that causes your body chemicals to fluctuate. Just trust, and enjoy the snuggle.

There will be future pages with more information about the details of these topics, and feel free to add suggestions and ideas! Comment or contact anytime!

Keep it kinky!

Aza