Raymond Gates, an Ohio man who was sentenced to nine years in prison for the rape of a 17-year-old, tried to explain his crime away by blaming everything but himself.

Raymond’s police testimony highlights common ways that perpetrators try to shed blame for their crimes. A Periscope video, livestreamed by 18-year-old Marina Lonina, showed the young woman yelling “no, it hurts so much,” “please stop,” and “please no,” according to police documents provided to Teen Vogue. Lonina was sentenced to nine months in prison for obstructing justice.

“It was consensual,” Raymond told Columbus, Ohio Police Detective Brent Close, according to a police interview summary.

“She tells me, 'Yes, everything's cool.' She's cool with making out. She's cool with us getting naked. She's cool with us being there, Then all of a sudden, you know, a couple of seconds before... I mean, I'm sure. That's what happens, girls are like 'Oh. It's just going to hurt' and stuff like that,” Raymond said.

He added: “She just got, like, last second. Like, 'I don't want to do this.' Then we started doing it and everything was cool.”

“This girl came back to my house, she's eighteen, she's a virgin. She's telling me she wants to lose her virginity, man, like that she's ready to do it and everything. And then right a couple seconds before, and she's like 'I don't know,' and stuff like that. I mean, that's how girls get when they lose their virginity,” Raymond said, according to the interview summary.

“I am not a rapist. I am a good guy. I have only been with a few women. I am not a rapist,” he said in a police interrogation video.

“After I’m inside of her she’s like stop. I’m already inside of her at that point, man,” he continues. “It hurts when a girl gets her virginity taken… [this accusation] is news to me, buddy.”

For anti-rape activists, there is no valid excuse Raymond could have provided. “You can say no, and no means no, and it’s over. You’re breaking the law by continuing when someone says no,” said Alison Berke Morano, a co-founder of The Affirmative Consent Project.

“When it came down to it, she said no,” said Brian Pinero, vice president of victim services at RAINN, an anti-sexual assault organization. “No matter what was going on before, the response to having intercourse was no.”

The victim told police that after the rape, she cried as Raymond spooned her. Before she left, she asked him why he had assaulted her. He told her that “he did not know what taking a girl’s virginity was like and he thought she was okay with it,” according to the police document.

By bringing up the woman’s sexual inexperience, Raymond was blaming the victim, Pinero said.

“That’s just a poor excuse to justify actions and it’s not it does not matter what level of experience someone has sexually. It doesn’t matter if it’s their first time or their 20th time having sex, no is no,” he said.

“They’re super common excuses,” writer and activist Jaclyn Friedman said of Raymond’s statements to the police. “What they tell me is he really does not care about her. He wants to find excuses to wipe it away.”

The victim described herself as “very intoxicated” — at one point, she was sitting on the bed, talking to Raymond. She tried to stand but stumbled back. That’s when he got on top of her and began kissing her, according to the police document.

“In general, someone who is slurring their words, stumbling, unable to be coherent, or obviously passed out, is too drunk to consent. Additionally, we often mistake issues of alcohol and consent for being about not knowing how drunk someone is. The reality is that people can use alcohol like a date rape drug,” sex educator Lena Solow wrote in Teen Vogue.

“Most of the time the perpetrators know, they just don’t take it seriously. You hear in this guy’s narrative, he hears her say she doesn’t want to, and he just blows right past it,” Friedman said.

“It’s victim blaming,” Pinero said. “To me it doesn’t matter what’s involved. If the word no is given, it’s over.”

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