Hey, have you ever crashed into a zone more dangerous than a lion’s den, a zone to which our generation is supposed to be married in this era full of heartbreaks and fake loves?

Have you ever been stuck between a rock and a hot cave and wondered what else could be more devastating?

Maybe you need to have a taste of this pretty lil zone, the friendzone..

Yo, I bet most, if not y’all are pretty scared of this legendary zone lmao…

Let me drive y’all asses through a story of me with a shawty sometimes ago..

I was in my second year in the university, yeah my study was a top priority, so I’d visit the library often to digest some shits and get some pretty As. But hey, a huge part of me needed a girl, I was legit craving someone to love and love me in return, what’s life without love anyway? Lmao…

Yo, one of those days, I sat facing this pretty lady, yellow in colour and damn cute. Her eyes were as if they were built out of gold. After stealing a couple of stares directly into her eyes, my heartbeat increased above normal while I gradually lost concentration from the huge Human Anatomy textbook I was reading, damn..

I became so drown in thought of how to initiate a convo with this babe, “I ain’t never done this before, naah“, I whispered silently to my dear self..

“Hey nigga, you fucking a man, you can do it”, my mind said to my soul, I made up my mind. I wrapped up a short text in a piece of paper and handed it to her. The text read “Hey, you’re beautiful”. I had my heart in my mouth but I did it, homie lmao…

Fortunately, the library closed by 6pm and everyone was gon leave at once so my opportunity to strike a real conversation with her came with sauce drenched in a caramel milkshake, oh heavens 🔥 🔥

We hooked, had a short convo, I got her phone number and we two bounced..

Fast forward, we became very close friends that we relate on almost every issue ranging from the least trivial to the complex ones. She was constantly reminding me of how mature I was and each time she did, I legit had goosebumps..

Yo, a month passed, two months flew and we still friends.

I thought I was doing it right, I thought I was obeying the “Be friends with her first before a relationship” rule. I didn’t know I was putting my fucking self on the sideline, I didn’t know I was diving into an ocean, swimming in a zone full of whales and sharks, a zone I’d voyage at an escape velocity and never return..

Ayyye, on this fateful night, shawty hit me up on phone, we talked like never before, we talked like we both knew it was going to be the last time we’d converse extensively. Like we knew nature was trynna blow a final whistle after three months of sweet and lovely friendship topped with an extra time..

“Hey Adahcole, I need your opinion on one issue” she asked. “Go on”, I replied..

“There’s this guy that has been a good friend of mine for more than two months now, I think he loves me and I feel the same. We constantly hook up and talk a lot about every damn thing, I’m so much in love with everything about him and would like to be his girlfriend. He’s yet to ask me out though, but I think he’s going to do so very soon.. Or do you think I should do it myself or create an avenue to force him to rush it over?” I replied: “Well, I really don’t know what advice to offer on this, but since you know for sure he’s going to ask you out soon, then I advise you wait for it babe”…

Yo, I know many of y’all reading that would have thought the same way I thought, I interpreted her story wrongly, I got it all bad the way you just did. I wasn’t the guy she was referring to, she also had an established friendship with another guy..

A week later, I buzz her on phone and surprisingly, she dropped my call a couple times. She hit me after an hour or two and broke the news with so much joy in her heart. “Adah, I have a boyfriend now” the text goes. “He’s a year 4 medical student……..” she continued…. Damn!! 😔

For a moment, I became blank and finally tasted what it feels like to be dead while alive, my body disconnected from my soul and an ugly excruciating headache hit me with a high velocity from far eastern coast, wooh fuck..

“I guess you are happy for me“, she texted, but hey, I ignored. She kept texting and calling but I refused to give a response to neither of those. That fateful night, I felt like I was carrying the weight of the world on my fragile shoulders 😔

She burst into tears the following day when I let her know how much I wanted her, how much I had assumed she was my everything and I was hers too.

Unfortunately, she felt the same way for me but wasn’t sure if I only wana be friends or wanted to be more. “I asked for your opinion that night solely to open a channel for you to change my mind towards accepting that guy, I was expecting you to stop me, but your response said it all. Your response sounded like I should go ahead that you’re comfortable in the zone“, she said while she cried. What an emotional atmosphere oh heavens.

Apparently, I couldn’t continue in the zone because I was too emotional to stay. She begged I shouldn’t leave but hell nah, my emotion was in control. Hey, I was left with no choice, I had to run far away.

We legit lost a bag full of diamond crystals, a friendship we were both willing we took beyond the ordinary. She had waited for too long for me to break the jinx and her heavenly configured feminine-ego wouldn’t let her express how much she also wanted to be mine. I had waited too long to let her know for real how much I wanted her to be my everything. 😔 😔

Heyyy, that day I realized the good ones go if you wait too long..

The friendzone is a great zone if both parties fully accept it well and admit comfortability staying therein. It’s legit a zone devoid of emotional wreck because nobody is emotionally stressing nobody lmao.

In contrast, the friendzone is a damaging zone, especially when one party is all over the other, drenched in feelings but not getting back in any fold the huge feelings they are dishing out, sad stuffs..

This awesome zone can be anything you want it to be, it legit dances to our individual tunes, in a unique manner. It’s all a factor of what you want and how you manage your emotions..

Please don’t forget to observe a minute silence for all your homies stuck in the zone lol..

Keep dripping finesse and everything saucy..

Yours, Adahcole 🌹