5 Ways To Increase Mental Toughness To Overcome Any Obstacle In Your Way

SUMMARY

These are the 5 harsh truths about life that will make you mentally tougher and ready to take on any challenge.

People Only Care What’s In It For Them Isn’t For Or Against You Friends And Family Won’t Always Be There You Can’t Change Or Control Anyone Failure Is Normal

These are not pain points, these are your ultimate power.

Watch the video and read the transcript below to finally get the unlimited power you want to overcome any obstacle in your way.

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

These are things that you got to burn into your brain. These five harsh truths about being mentally tough are going to make or break you. Why you’re struggling is because you don’t quite understand these things.



1. People Only Care What’s In It For Them.

They only care about what’s in it for them, what you could do for them, what you could bring to them, how you can add value to them, how you can be of service for them.



They don’t really care what you got going on in your life. It doesn’t really matter to them. All they want to know is how you can move their life forward and how you can bring things to better their life.



That’s it.



Even if it’s friends, family, whoever it might be, they want to know what you could do for them.



2. The Universe Is’n For Or Against You.



I know you might think that.



I know in the culture that we live in today, the entitlement culture:



I was born.

I live.

I breathe.

You own me.



I don’t even know where the this thinking came from. I didn’t even know how this got ingrained into American culture.



This is not what America is about.



This is not how our country was built. This is not in our DNA to just give you stuff, and I think it’s led people to be very unhappy, depressed, all these things that you talk about because they think the universe is against them, that they owe them something.



It’s neither one.

It’s not for you.

It’s not against you.

Nobody owes you shit. Nobody.



3. Friends And Family Won’t Always Be There.



One, they won’t always be there.



The people around you that you love the most are going to pass away and die, and you might be left alone. I know for me, my mom and dad are gone. My father passed away 15, oh my God, 2005 he passed away.



My mother passed away three years ago.



Two people who were the driving force in my life, they are both gone. So, I have to do it on my own. I have an older brother, he’s another one of my mentors.



Great Guy, awesome guy and want to talk about old school.



He’s one of my mentors also, so I’m lucky to still have him, but my parents are gone, so, they’re not there anymore.



Also, want to see how quickly your friends and family disappear?



Do this test. Go on your Facebook, your twitter, your Instagram. Tell people, “Hey, I’m having trouble with,” or I don’t want to make light of it, but someone who is sick, “I’m sick, I have cancer, whatever it is, someone in my family,” whatever it might be, everybody would come out of the woodwork, hit the like button, and they’ll start their virtual signaling.



“I’m so with you. My present with you,” all that rhetoric and all that bullshit. Go on your Facebook page, go on your twitter. Even if you don’t own an Instagram or whatever it is, where you family and friends really hang out with you on social media. Tell them that you’re deciding to open a business in the next month and watch how the crickets come out.



Now, people might like it. People will congratulate you.



People will even tell you that, “Oh, I can’t wait til you open. I’m coming. I’m going to support it.” I open my chiropractic practice 18 years ago. Everybody said they were going to show up after I graduate. “Oh yeah, this is great. I’m going to send everybody I know.” I’m still waiting. Not only have they not shown up, they haven’t sent anybody my way. Well, they don’t care. Friends and family aren’t always going to be there for you.



4. You Can’t Change Or Control Anyone.



Especially people who are in relationships or bad relationships most likely. Cause if you’re in a good relationship, you really don’t want to change or control that person, right?



But if you’re in a bad relationship or you hook up with somebody who’s a piece of shit basically, and somehow some way, because they make you feel good, you think that they’re going to change, you can’t change them, or you’re going to try and show them.



It’s not going to happen. You’re never going to change that person unless they have the willingness to want to change.



I know this with my three children. I have three young children, it doesn’t matter. Can I control or change them?



All I could do is influence them a little bit, and I influenced them by my actions, not even what I say. So, that’s really what’s important. You’re going to influence people.



You might change somebody’s by your actions. You’re never going to change them because you want them to change. You’re not going to control them because you want to.



Those people have to be willing to make changes. They have to be willing to do the right thing. You can’t change or control people, how they think, how they act, how they speak, cause they have to have a second component, they have to have a willingness.



You’re here on this video watching me. Am I changing and controlling you?



Not really, but what you’re doing is you have an objective to change. That’s what your primary goal is. That when you primary objective is, to change, to do a little bit better for yourself and that’s why you hear so you listen to me, and I do appreciate that, without a doubt from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for coming here and hanging out with me.



5. Failure Is Normal.



Period.



Failure is normal.



It’s a normal part of life. It’s a good thing when you fail. If you fell in a relationship, you fail at your business, you fail your test in school, you have to go to summer school, whatever it might be.



It’s a good thing, and the reason why it’s a good thing, you have to make it a good thing.



You can either fail at something and complain, “See life sucks. I knew I wasn’t good enough. Everybody hates me. Nobody likes me.” Or you could use that failure, and you’ve heard me speak about this many times, and you get that result.



Good result, bad result, when you do something right.



It’s all about results.



So, you’d take that failure, failed relationship.



You change, you build yourself up, you become better, have a better relationship the next time. So, failure is good. It’s what you do with the failure. It’s what you learn from it. The things you extract from that failure.



What did I do wrong?

What happened? How come?



Whatever, and just go through the steps, and then you’ll see that, “Wow, okay, I can make this change. I could do that. Next time. I’m not going to fail. I’m going to do it better, brighter, bigger,” whenever you want it to be, but remember that failure is really a good thing.



You’re looking at this and you’re saying, “You know, Dr Ralph, man, you just like crushed my whole life.



What’s up with that??



The thing about these harsh truths in life, there’s something really good for you in this.



I know you don’t believe it, but these things, these things are unlimited power.



All of this here gives you unlimited power.



Now you have to learn how to function in your life in this dynamic, and the reason why it gives you power is because now you know better. You know that people only care what’s in it for them. So, if you’re trying to build a business, stop trying to serve yourself, you serve them, you win.



The universe isn’t for or against you, you win because now you know you have to do it on your own. You have to be there. You have to do the things that you want to do in order to be a success.



Friends and family won’t always be there. You’re not supposed to rely on them anyway. It’s not their responsibility for your life. You’re responsible for your life. You can’t control or change others.



So, when you come from that position, you understand that all you can do is try to influence and do good in the world, and do good for them. Failure is normal. You know why because you only get results, you build on your failure, you win.



All of these things give you ultimate power and that’s what you really need to be a success. You get the ultimate mindset. The ultimate mindset, mental toughness, the mindset of a winner, the mindset of success. This is what it brings you. So, you got to start doing these things. You hear me. Start doing them.



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