DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a straight man attracted to pre-op transsexual women.

I’ve been watching lots of pre-op transsexual porn and I’ve even considered visiting a pre-op transsexual prostitute.

1 I am confused because I am sexually attracted to transsexual pre-op women Credit: Alamy

I’m 33 and my girlfriend is 31. We’ve been together for three years and have a great relationship. I can’t talk to her about any of this.

I love her and I don’t want to cheat but I know these feelings are not going to go away. I am very confused with this.

I know that I am straight and I don’t find men sexually attractive.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Our sexuality can be complex but it seems important to you to see yourself as straight given you’re actually attracted to individuals with a penis.

It is unfair to your girlfriend to be keeping such an important part of your identity secret from her.

Switchboard LGBT+ Helpline (switchboard.lgbt, 0300 330 0630) can help you find some counselling.

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