The Lesbi-can Standoff. It’s like a Mexican standoff, but with less hats and guns, and more lipstick and high collared shirts. Two women go on a date. But maybe they’re not sure if it’s a date. Maybe it’s just a friends thing...two gals being pals? Did she say the word ‘date’ when she made the invitation? At the end of dinner they linger, talking about this and that. Both of them are thinking “I really want to kiss her” but neither of them do, because they’re waiting for the other person to make the first move. Because maybe this is one sided. Maybe she just likes me as a person. Maybe she’s straight. Or maybe after three hours of my company she’s realised she’s not physically attracted to me? Maybe she just wants to be friends? Maybe that casual hand hold halfway through dinner was just an accident?

The Lesbi-can Standoff is when you both suspect you’re into each other, but neither of you does anything about it, because neither of you have a reference point for what two women who are into each other should do. So you both just wait. Because someone else has to make the first move.