When you google Nicole Kidman, words like "ice queen" and "control freak" pop up. But in Seoul early this month, to unveil Omega's De Ville line, the Hollywood star exudes a chatty vibe.In a figure-hugging Dolce &Gabbana cocktail gown, she asks us for advice on what nightclubs and hotspots to visit. Kidman suffered a recent setback when her father Dr Antony Kidman died suddenly while on holiday with her sister in Singapore.Barely two weeks later, she says that the family is still "shattered". Here she reveals to ETPanache what she looks for in her man (and why it doesn't matter if he's shorter than her):(Laughs) I primarily judge him by his heart and his actions. Men can do the talk, right? But they've got to be able to show you as well. If I had to choose between shoes or a watch, I'd go for the latter. The Dark Side of the Moon is the coolest watch. It instantly made me go, "Okay, there's Keith's (husband Keith Urban) Christmas present."But shhhh... don't tell.I've always gone out with men shorter than me. I've never gone out with a man that's taller. But I don't judge. I'd say a guy should stand up tall and not worry because — I don't know if I should this, but I will anyway — aren't we all the same height lying down? At least, that's what many men have told me.I was just given this tip to eat two kiwi fruits to beat jetlag. Home is where my family is. We can live anywhere in the world, strangely enough. We bring along blankies, pillows and candles, but can set up home everywhere. I did a film this year in Morocco and had my kids living out in tents.FaceTime. I even have dinner with them on FaceTime. Recently, I was chatting with my daughter and I could tell that she was hungry. I told my husband, "She needs a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and she'll want to go to gymnastics." I was right.I feel like I'm ageing. I find travel a lot harder now. I don't sleep as well as I used to. What I love about being older is the patience and wisdom that you get. On the flip side, you don't have the physical energy.Hug my children. Kiss my husband. Make love, not war. The simplest things give joy. I don't need that much. Looking at the sun rise. A swim in the ocean — that makes my day. Playing in the park with my kids. When you're 17, that's like... (groans). But at this age, it's joyful. We always do big Christmases and Halloween parties at home. My husband says,"You love seeing other people have a great time."If there is an enormous amount of love, yes. I have a partner who is an extraordinary man. That makes it incredibly easy.It was devastating because I was so close to him. My family is shattered. He was so joyful. Every time he'd see me worrying about a part or my children, he'd say, "Nicci, don't worry, be happy." That is how I've pledged to live my life from this point on. He was also about the underdog, taking care of people who were less fortunate. He was a psychologist and a giver. That is what I hope he's given me and my sister.