Three of our experts recommended titles by Dr. Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist who developed Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, in which the therapist and the clients examine patterns in the couple’s relationship and take steps to create a more secure bond and develop more trust to move the relationship in a healthier direction. Laurie Watson recommends her Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, which gives couples exercises to help them work their way through to secure attachment. “Johnson, the mother of emotionally-focused therapy (EFT), generously shares her extensive work, so that couples can ‘earn security’ through the hard work of resolving their toxic cycle of criticizing-withdrawing,” she says. And Dr. Solomon and Dr. Gottman recommend her Love Sense, which covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; and the physical and psychological benefits of secure love. “It’s a fantastic read, by a great master therapist and intellectual leader,” says Dr. Gottman. “It explains what we long for in a secure attachment in love, and the wrong turns we often take.” Adds Dr. Solomon: “She encourages us to let go of this whole ‘stand on your own two feet’ idea and to just accept the fact that loving someone and needing them go hand in hand. Intimate relationships are about interdependence — letting someone in and allowing them to matter deeply to you. This book blends research findings, clinical wisdom, and application to help you lean into all of what it takes to love and be loved.”