The concept of becoming a mother fucking terrifies me. I mean, don’t get me wrong, if you wanna be a parent that is totally cool with me! Raising a kid looks like the hardest job in the world and I have nothing but awe and respect for the people who want to take on that responsibility. I just… am not one of them. Not at this point in my life, anyway.

The comic above is the condensed version of the many talks we’ve had over our twelve years together about whether we want to reproduce, but it does not encompass ALL of our reasons and personal details. There wasn’t space to include our omnipresent fears about being bankrupted by a medical emergency for either of us, let alone affording health care for a brand new little person who may or may not need expensive aid. Matt and I both have learning disabilities that make our lives difficult, and I have a mental illness that I fear passing on. Plus, haha, my own family experience left something to be desired and I just don’t want to recreate that situation for some innocent little kid. I dunno, there’s a whole lot more, too! But to list everything would make for a pretty boring read.

Anyway, what I’m getting at is this: This comic is a summary of the personal conversations that Matt and I have had about whether we want to become parents, it is not an argument against, or judgement of, other people having kids. Do what is right for you, my dudes. And who knows? Maybe in another ten years I’ll have changed me tune. Time will tell!

Want to not get pregnant? Baby, get you some birth control! We’ve covered a bunch of contraceptives here in the past, plus this helpful explanation of just how conception happens in the first place. We’ve also covered Emergency Contraception (Plan B), which is not abortion, and Medical Abortion, which is.

And if you’re looking to pick up some contraception or your period is late and you wanna find out what’s up with that, here’s some items you can pick up online!

Condoms from our Friends (with Benefits =)