My father is tall and thin. I’ve always perceived this as the ideal. I’m sure there are many psychological reasons to explain my preference. The fact that many women tend to look for a man who has some of the qualities of their fathers. Maybe it’s because being with a tall man makes a woman feel more protected and safe. Another reason is how sexy it feels when I’m wearing my high heels and dancing with a guy who is still taller than I am. I also think a big reason for me is that height in a guy is a symptom of good genetics and therefore a better choice for procreation. The list goes on and on.

On the other hand, while I state that I have a preference for taller guys, I must admit that I don’t exclusively date tall guys. I have had some shorter boyfriends and lovers in my life as well, so I can identify the benefits of dating shorter guys. Having said that, here is where I feel that shorter guys have a distinct advantage over really tall guys – kissing. No need for tip-toes or spending the day in painful heels. They are so much easier to reach. Vertically and horizontally. I am the type of woman who loves being kissed during sex. When a man is too tall, I come in close contact with… his chest. Sexy enough, but not as sexy to me as sharing a kiss with a pair of lips.

I personally know a few good men who are a little less than average height who have a very difficult time getting a date. Many women I know have a very clear and present height bias, not merely a preference. There are still many women like me, however, who would consider dating a short guy if he comes correct. So I decided to write an article for the guys out there who are short and proud and looking for a quality woman. Here is what you can do to increase your chances of getting a good woman.

Confidence is the key. I’m not talking about delusions of grandeur, nothing is more repulsive than an obnoxious or conceited guy, especially if he is a shrimp. Without looking like you have a Napoleon complex, project confidence. Understand that not all women reject men merely because they are short, other factors are usually in play. So if you have confidence in yourself and have a respectful and inviting personality, women will be chasing after you.

I’m not going to lie, short guys have to step up their game more than most. Call it compensating, if you will, but some guys have to work a little harder to be more desirable to the opposite sex. I have a few simple suggestions for you in regards to that:

Eat right, stay in shape and lead a healthy lifestyle. A short guy with a healthy physique is always sexier than a tall guy with extra padding.

Be certain that you cultivate your personal sense of style and always wear clothes that fit well and compliment your frame. Always dress your best when on a date or out meeting ladies.

Keep yourself well groomed. I’m not only talking about bathing, I’m talking about your hair cut, fingernails neat, trimmed beard, cleaned shoes, moisturized skin, sexy cologne. Do whatever you can to look and smell your best.

Following these suggestions will not only boost your confidence, it will also get more ladies to notice you. Which in turn boosts your confidence even more, like a circle. This is not only good advice for short men but solid, common sense advice for all men in general. The most important take away from this is increasing your level of confidence. I cannot stress that enough. So shift your perspective. Instead of worrying about which woman will go for a guy like you, start focusing on meeting the type of women you would like to date.

So, ladies, if you are one of the many who discriminate against short men, it’s about time you start rethinking some of your prejudices. Not all tall men are handsome, strong, protective, confident creatures. Some of them are just as insecure as any other man. Sometimes it shows, they slouch more, they drag their feet. Tall does not always equal attractive or sexy. Women know that confidence is what’s really sexy. So when a guy approaches you who is less than 5’9”, don’t be so quick to brush him off. Give him a chance. He could be that confident, sexy, stylish, funny and sweet guy you’ve been looking for all along. Go for quality over size.