Men are a blessing and a curse for women. I don’t hate men, I actually love them. I just struggle with their dichotomy. Their brute strength can be so comforting and scary at the same time.

Whether you like to believe it or not, women walk around with the fear of being assaulted. I know some men will read this and think, “No.”

Some will read this and think, “Maybe but not you. You look too much like a 13 year old Asian boy.” (See the above picture? That’s me in the middle.)

But, despite wearing the same outfits as them, I’ve had dudes totally ask me out on a date. So yeah, all women feel this anxiety.

We’ve met some terrific people on our travels and a few of them have been solo female travelers. We wondered — why are all safety travel tips directed at women? Why do we have to be constantly reminded to be afraid and on guard? So, after a few conversations, we came up with some tips for MEN to help ease the fear of traveling alone as a woman. Ready, boys?

1. Always keep your distance. Try not to follow too closely to a woman traveling solo, especially if you’re behind them. Try to walk to the side if you can, let yourself be seen.

2. Don’t think eye contact is an invitation to start a conversation. A lot of time solo travelers just want to be left alone, especially if they are in transit. There is a time and place.

3. Don’t ask specific questions about her travels like, Where are you staying? Are you here with anyone? What are you doing tomorrow? However, asking, “Where have you traveled so far?” is a great question. This will engage the conversation and make her feel less threatened about your stalker-like questions.

4. Never touch. If a female is in your line of traffic, say excuse me. Give her some verbal warning that you need to pass through.

5. If you see a woman being approached by a man and she seems uncomfortable, just stick around and check it out. If it seems like she needs help, defuse the situation by distracting the guy with side conversation. This will give her space for a speedy get away.

I’d love some solidarity here! I’ve been pretty lucky to be surrounded by some good dudes. But I’ve also experienced the gross turds that don’t have a clue.

Do you agree or disagree? Do you have any other helpful tips?