I would give her or him a long, gentle squeezy hug. We might talk about how changes aren't permanent, but change is. Or we might not talk. We might just keep company with the wind and the birds and the quietly living earth beneath us, and think about strength, and think about how we just have to make our choices, and live life as it goes on with us or without us, going on while we deal with the pain or the changes the best we can.