fucknokinkshaming:

princess-bilight-sparkle:

Here’s something for kinksters to think about: What’s so empowering about a sub ~really being the one in control~ because they can safeword out? Saying no and stopping sex at any point is everyone’s inherent right. If you’re saying it’s kink or submission that gives you that power, you’re saying it’s a privilege reserved for kinksters instead of a basic human right.



Wrong, wrong, a thousand times wrong, you fucking moron.

Yes, saying no and stopping sex is everyone’s inherent right, but if you seriously think we live in this wonderful, magical utopia where this right is always respected, you are living in a delusion that is magnificently structured. A healthy BDSM relationship is a guaranteed safe space where this right is respected UNCONDITIONALLY. This is something that simply doesn’t happen in the real world, and the fact that in BDSM or kink there is a place where it can happen any time you want, no matter what, no matter when, is power. End of story.