stev09er Wed 13-Nov-19 19:56:03

Me and her mother never had a proper relationship, it was a casual thing that resulted in a baby. Despite the circumstances my daughter I have always tried to be involved with my daughter I love her very much. For the first 10 years of her life I only got her every other weekend, didn't get her overnight at all for the first 2 years as her mum always had excuses. Her mum has been with another bloke for a few years now and I felt my daughter begin to disassociate from me around the time they got together. She doesn't call him dad but she refers to this blokes 2 sons as her "brothers" and seems fairly close to them. They all live together now. She has a 2 year old sister through me and my girlfriend who she has literally met a handful of times. I also have an adult son from a marriage years ago who again, she has never had any kind of relationship with. I don't blame her as she is a child but it baffles me.



When my daughter turned 12 I met somebody, and after a year we moved in together. She is from a city 2 hours away and we moved up there as my girlfriend was missing her family. We are now engaged with our 2 year old. I expect to be slated for moving away but I told my daughter she was more than welcome to visit and time and I'd pick her up and be there for her. My daughter is now almost 16 and she's only ever had 3 visits, usually after a row with her mum.



During the visits she spends the entire time on her phone, refusing to engage with me, my fiancee, or her little sister. She always has a face on her and won't make conversation with any of us. I find it very hurtful as I always try and make the effort with her and I feel rejected.



I send her happy birthday texts and other texts occasionally to see how she is doing and she never replies. I spoke to her mum about it who said she has her life established where she is and she doesn't like feeling pressured to come and visit me. Ridiculous, surely? I am her father. I don’t pressure her, I tell her it would be lovely to see her.



Does anybody know how I can rekindle my relationship with her?