Abbywinters.com is an example of how sex sites are going the more realistic route. (Editor's note: Links in this story that are not safe for work are marked NSFW.)

Fakery – fake scenarios, fake chemistry, fake body parts and fake orgasms – is an integral part of the porn monolith. But a pair of porn sites that take a decidedly realistic approach to the subject of sex are paving a path to the industry's future.

At first glance, abbywinters.com (NSFW) might look like just another "barely legal" porn site, and Kink.com (NSFW) like yet another fetish studio.

Websites in Kink's network explore themes ranging from dominance and submission (NSFW) to sex machines (NSFW), while Australian "amateurs" site abbywinters showcases the first blush of young womanhood in all its natural beauty – no makeup, no boob jobs and no men.

It's no fluke. Kink launched in 1997, abbywinters in 2000, and both have managed to stay in step with changing consumer desires. The secret to the sites' longevity in an industry known for its churn lies in their emphasis on a genuine sexual experience.

These sites wisely avoid the temptation to jump on the porn theme du jour, to cycle quickly through female performers and to use shock as a marketing strategy.

In the early days of the internet, anal sex was risqué, and straight people pretended they'd never looked at gay porn. By now, we've all seen the wall-to-wall, triple-penetration, all-natural, ass-to-mouth MILF scenes. Hell, by now, we all know what two girls can do with one cup.

Call me radical, call me a prude, but I am certain that the future of commercial pornography lies not in slick studio shoots or dare-you-to-look sexual freak shows but in realistic portrayals of sexual experiences … in partners with real chemistry, in capturing the frisson of a usually dominant person submitting to a top for the first time (on camera), in the nervous energy of a 19-year-old making her debut by masturbating in front of a model-turned-videographer.

Newfangled producers like Kink and abbywinters are building successful businesses by creating content in which sex unfolds naturally, at its own pace. They still offer the content in every way possible, from short clips to features to making-of documentaries to live on-set streaming, but at the root of it all is pure, authentic sex.

After all, when everyone's doing it, just being willing to get naked and get pounded is not enough to make porn hot.

Abbywinters offers the one-on-one feel of a cam site, the production values of a high-definition digital studio and the genuine sexual energy of good amateur video. While not accepting user-generated content, the team encourages input from site visitors. Fans can post a suggestion in the forums and find themselves discussing it with a director within hours. The shoot might even begin the next day.

Staffers develop a scenario for each shoot, but let the sexual energy build organically. The performers decide what to do and when to do it. It's not uncommon for abbywinters girls to go for an hour or two, and for the entire thing – bonked heads, arousal ebbs and flows, hiccups and all – to end up on a DVD.

Similarly, Kink emphasizes transparency, publishing its pay scale and model rights policy, and delivering news and free content at Behind Kink (NSFW). Just like in real kink sex – because this is real kink sex, captured on camera – Kink's models can stop a scene at any time by uttering a safe word. Stopped scenes still appear on the site; the truncated sessions are just as real as those that followed the initial plan, and knowing that some models end things early just adds to the suspense for the subscriber.

I've described the modern porn consumer as "savvy" and "sophisticated," but I could just as accurately have said "jaded" and "unimpressed." Kink and abbywinters succeed in this environment because they recognize that they must provide more than pornographic pictures to get our interest, much less keep it. By treating customers as collaborators, they manage to create an experience and make the fantasy real – and they do that by bringing authentic sex to the virtual realm of porn.

And it's you, my internet sexplorers, who showed them how to do it.

See you in a fortnight,

Regina Lynn

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Regina Lynn keeps it real on reginalynn.com.

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