I was spending time with one of my guy friends, and as I’m a bi girl and he’s a teenage boy, he likes to talk about what girls we find attractive. We throw out names of girls we know and give our opinions. I’m usually based in personality, while he’s strictly physical. Now I’m a pretty big girl, and I’ve always been self-conscious about it, but I’ve been getting better. So I toss out a name of a really sweet girl who’s about my size, if a bit smaller, and he replies, “Nah, I don’t like fat bitches.” He says this to me, an even fatter “bitch”, not realizing how hurtful he’s being. I say to him, “I mean, she’s smaller than me, what’s that saying about me? Am I too fat?” and he replies, “You have a boyfriend, it doesn’t matter if I’m attracted to you or not.” It’s not about me dating this friend, it’s the principle that I want to be attractive!

Thin privilege is not having someone not be attracted to you only because of your weight, and having people be not attracted to you without making excuses that a five year old can see through.