staylor1295 Thu 14-Nov-19 12:05:26

Me and my husband have been married for 12 years and been together for 19 years. We have 3 children together.



When I was pregnant with my last child 9 years ago I found out that he had been chatting online over social media to an old female school friend, of course I didnt mind. But after a few weeks I saw the messages and once I went to bed at night the messages started getting explicit, sending photos of each other etc.

The next day I confronted him and told him to delete her, so he did.



A year later, I noticed they was friends again and it started again. So again I told him he has a choice, me or her, he chose me and I told him to block her.



Last night his phone was bleeping but he would look at his phone until I got up of the sofa. I felt suspicious!

Unfortunately, I am not sleeping very well at the moment and I was awake and downstairs at 5.30am. I check his phone and it appears that he has downloaded a dating app. There was also conversation on a chat app with a girl mid October that he wants to meet up with a nice lady and have good sex and maybe oral.

Theres also a video on his phone of him playing with himself and making himself cum all over himself.

Fact is that it's not as if he dont get sex, he gets it 1-2 per week. At the moment I have been having lady issues which lasted for 8 weeks and doctor said tests reveal I am early menopause. So with this my sex drive will be lower then normal.

Now do I confront him about this or not?

Or just leave it and carry on. I dont want to be the paranoid wife!