One of my best friends (a black straight dude, will be relevant), started dating this white college girl about 6 months ago. She's a feminist, the in your face, awful kind. I've noticed a change in my friend since they started dating. He wants to have a lot more social and political debates, when we never really talked about that before. He tries to bring oppression and representation into nearly every conversation. Our relationship used to be making YouTube videos and getting drunk. That was it. We still do that, but he tries a bit harder not to offend people, stay on the safe side, and we hardly ever spend time hanging out and getting drunk because he feels the need to bring up feminist bullshit every time. Any time we do have these debates, and I present actual logic, he just says "well, white men control everything so it's not the same thing".

I'm in the car with him now about to film something, and we just had a debate. I read to him the headline that hit the front page here, the one about the "Men in Literature" course getting pulled from a college. I expected to have a laugh about it, acknowledge the double standard, and move on. He agreed with the decision, and said that men don't need their own course. I tried to argue that it was a blatant double standard, and courses for women like that happen all the time and nobody cares. His argument was that men control everything and don't need representation. I moved the conversation elsewhere, because there was no getting through to him.

What should I do, Voat? I see this situation getting worse. The quality of our videos are becoming shit because he doesn't want to offend anyone. Eventually we'll just be making feminist propaganda bullshit, and I won't be a part of it. I just want my friend back, Voat.