I wanted to first say how much I appreciate your blog, since I’ve been made to feel ashamed of my body my whole life.

This example is one of the worst parts of my life, and I’ve never told anybody before. I’m 5'7 and a US 18/20 - I could learn to be comfortable with this if it wasn’t for my breasts. I’m severely asymmetrical (one side is an F, the other a C/D), and I finally plucked up the courage to go to my doctor with this problem, which was affecting my self-esteem. Without even examining me, she told me that no surgeon would touch me until my BMI was acceptable. Never mind that a male doctor (in fair shape and not that old) once told me that my blood pressure was lower than his.

I can’t wear what I would like to because I feel so uncomfortable (my doctor made it clear that it was noticeable from the other side of a desk), and I can’t even consider finding a romantic partner. If I was thin, I could claim that breast implants would help my self-esteem and I’d be granted them, whether it looked like I needed them or not. But I’m not thin, I’m fat, and I’ll probably be asymmetrical my entire life because of it - unless I conform to the stereotypical ideal.