This wasn’t asked on anon but I don’t want to deal with the fallout of having this person attacked when they are in a bad place.

[Anon asked: I was just wondering if you might be able to give me a bit of encouragement/advice? So, I’ve been a lot better lately about being comfortable with my body, but over Christmas, I went to see relatives and when I brought up how proud I was for only being 160 lbs now, my cousin made a comment along the lines of “wow you’re fat, huh?” and I know it shouldn’t have put me in as bad of a place as it did but I can’t stop thinking about it and I’ve eaten maybe 4 meals since. I cant stop thinking about it]

I’m really sorry that you are going through this and I hope you can find help to work through your disordered eating but I don’t know how I can help you. I find it really frustrating that you are celebrating “only” being a specific weight when I’m almost 100 pounds heavier than you. It really frames my body as something that I should be ashamed of and that isn’t cool.

This may not have been your intention but I would really try to work on how to feel about fat people and fat bodies. As well as finding a trusted person to work through the disordered eating pattern you find yourself in. I’m not able to give you more advice than that. I can’t help another person at the expense of my own body and mental wellbeing.

I’m totally willing to help people when they need it but I cannot do it at the expense of my own worth. Framing questions in a way that demeans my body and the bodies of my followers is not ok. We’re all at a different place with working through body issues but I’m still human and have to deal with my own shit before giving advice to other people.

