Does This Sound Like You?

“What should I do with my life?”

“I don’t know what to do with my life”

“What to do with my life…”

“What do I want to do with my life?”

“What to do in life…”

“What am I doing with my life?”

These are the most common questions and statements people are seeking answers to all over the internet, can you believe that?

These are disempowering questions and statements that essentially got you to where you are now.

Read on if you would like to learn how to change that.

This is not an article full of fluffy random tips like the one on themuse.com that you have probably stumbled across while searching your questions on Google.

You will come across some transformational questions that have an opportunity to transform your outlook on your life. You just might actually figure out what to do with your life. And yes, that is possible to do from reading just one article.

Take out a pen and paper because you will have some work to do!

The answers are inside of you, not on Google

You do know what to do with your life, you just haven’t asked the right questions yet to bring the answers to your conscious. This is my attempt to facilitate the start of that journey for you.

It is all about the unique you, and not your convoluted beliefs influenced by everything outside of you.

“What should I do with my life?”

This has to be one of the most disempowering questions if you really want to find out what to do with your life.

Read my post on the word “should” to get a deeper understanding of the consequences of using this word.

The question “what should I do with my life?” will take you down a road of hypothetical options influenced by judgements from people and society instead of yourself.

A better question to ask yourself is “what do I want to do with my life?”. Now we are getting somewhere. It can be easy to confuse your “wants” and “shoulds”.

If you aren’t sure which one is influencing you then just to ask yourself “WHY?”.

Why do you want to do that with your life?

Why do you think you should do that with your life?

It is a “should” if you get answers like:

I should do that with my life because…

I should do that with my life because I can make more money

I should do that with my life because that is what my parents want me to do

I should do that with my life because it is the family business

I should do that with my life because everyone I know thinks I should

I should do that with my life because I don’t know what else to do

It is a “want” if you get answers like:

I want to do that with my life because…

I want to do that with my life because I am passionate about it

I want to do that with my life because I love doing it

I want to do that with my life because it brings me joy

I want to do that with my life because it brings meaning to my life

This brings us to the next question…

“What do I want to do with my life?”

This is a much more empowering question to ask than “what should I do with my life?” because you are the only influence towards the answers to that question. It is all about the unique you, and not your convoluted beliefs influenced by everything outside of you. There is a catch though, you must be able to determine your wants as completely separate and not influenced at all by any of your “should do’s” in life.

This will require some soul-searching and a higher awareness of the influences behind your current beliefs. As it is your beliefs that will ultimately be guiding all of the answers you will get when you ask yourself “what should I do with my life?”

How to find out what you want to do with your life

By no means is what I am about to say a roadmap to finding out what you want to do with life. What it is, is a rock solid guide that will point you in the right direction, an empowering direction oppose to the dead end you find yourself at.

Questions, questions, questions! That is what will uncover what you truly want to do with your life. They must be the right questions of course.

Questions to help discover what you want to do with your life

What are you passionate about?

What brings you immense joy?

What were you doing the last time you felt like time stood still?

What else has ever given you this feeling?

What were you doing in life when you felt like your life had the most meaning?

What is something you haven’t done but have always wanted to do?

What are some things you have always done because you wanted to and not because you felt you had to?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

Now, what you should notice is that there are certain answers that tend to overlap in some way. These are the answers that you want to put your focus toward.

Here’s a hypothetical example:

What are you passionate about? Animals, golf, politics

What brings you immense joy? Spending time with my pets, golfing with friends, spending time with family

What were you doing the last time you felt like time stood still? At the park with my dog

What else has ever given you this feeling? Pet sitting for friends, my honeymoon, spending time at the zoo, political rallies

What were you doing in life when you felt like your life had the most meaning? I was volunteering at the animal shelter when I was younger

What is something you haven’t done but have always wanted to do? Own my own business, write a letter to the president

What are some things you have always done because you wanted to and not because you felt you had to? Pet sit, play with my dog, go golfing, stay up to date with politics

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? I would start my own business

Now obviously since I made this up it is quite easy to pinpoint the key drivers here. There are two major drivers:

This person LOVES spending time with animals This person wants to start their own business but doesn’t believe they can

The answer to this persons’ question of “what do I want to do with my life?” has become much more clear. What they really want is:

To own their own business This business will involve spending time with animals

I’m On Vacation Every single day ’cause I love my occupation – Dirty Heads

At this point, you can narrow it down to plenty of different options that fit those criteria. The next question to ask would be “which option feels right?”

“What am I doing with my life?”

“What am I doing with my life?” has to potential to be a wonderful reality check for you. That is, if you have the courage to look at your life right now, as it is, and face the truth. The fact that you are even asking this question shows courage.

This question places all of the responsibility on you, which is a fantastic start. Whatever it is you are doing right now, you created it. First, it started with a thought, and then you manifested the life you are currently living as you know it through those accumulated thoughts.

“I don’t know what to do with my life”

Sorry, but saying “I don’t know what yo do with my life” will only reinforce the belief that you actually don’t know, there are no answers here. I have a question for you… if you don’t know, then who does know what to do with your life? Right…moving along.

“What to do with my life…”

Same as above.

“What to do in life…”

Same as above.

In case your wondering…

I live and breathe all of what I have discussed here on finding out what to do with your life. I absolutely love what I do as a personal trainer, coach, and blogger. I wouldn’t trade what I do for any other job or amount of money. I truly hope that one day you can say the same.

Love what you do, do what you love, the money can be created!

Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.

Take care,