The Too Good To Be True Feeling

I’ve been craving that “it’s too good to be true” feeling. It’s that euphoric sensation that makes you temporarily question if a blessing in your life is really happening. My last too good to be true moment happened in December 2018. It was seeing 160 pounds on the same scale that had me at 237 pounds at the beginning of the year. When you experience a too good to be true moment, it signifies that something extraordinary is happening to you. As I write this blog post, I have no idea what my too good to be true feeling will be for 2019. It could manifest itself in the form of finally finding my soulmate, seeing seven figures in my bank account, or getting a verified sign by my Instagram account. Who knows? Rather than wait for the sensation to hit me, I’m going to speak it into existence. As you know, I am one of the millions of millennials who is afflicted by the dreaded quarter life crisis. Instead of getting consumed by my crisis, I decided to stop feeding it.

Feeding My Crisis

Your quarter life crisis is fed by a variety of factors like doubt, fear, confusion, envy, and pressure. One way I’ve been feeding my crisis is by allowing myself to lose motivation to do brilliant things. Have you ever had an ambitious idea transform into an a neglected goal? I’m a little embarrassed to admit that I was the poster child for neglected goals. Throughout the years, objectives like losing a couple dozen pounds, learning Spanish, and traveling, felt like delusions of grandeur. Those goals I set for myself were achievable but I just didn’t mentally commit to them. I became a fan of making excuses and allowing my motivation to decline . Eventually, my thought process went from “I can’t wait to lose 15 pounds” to “wait, wasn’t I supposed lose 15 pounds?” When I allowed myself to lose my motivation, it fed that downward spiral that was my crisis.

Fortunately, I’ve learned that I don’t need to be so hard on myself. Not every brilliant idea will turn into a realized goal. However, I had to break the mindset that allowed me to make a habit out of ghosting my goals. During a quarter life crisis, you worry over your present and future. These worries are fueled by your perception of the decisions you’ve made in the past. My quarter life epiphany was realizing that I wasn’t disappointed that I didn’t reach my goals; it was losing my motivation to achieve them.

Keeping That Same Energy

In order to stop myself from ghosting my goals, I started to live by the motto “keep that same energy.” For me, keep that same energy means maintaining the positive motivation to pursue or achieve. Keep that same energy galvanized me into getting a passport so I can finally travel the world instead of constantly talking about wanting to travel. Keep that same energy inspired my friends to check on my progress when I became quiet during my goal-chasing journeys. Keep that same energy allowed me to lose 80 pounds in a year and successfully keep it off. In order to live by the motto, you have to make the decision to believe in yourself. When you wholeheartedly invest yourself in that decision, you can create a path to success. If you’re on a mission to put a ring on your finger, keep that same energy even when you’re tempted to give up. If you’re unsatisfied with the state of your life, keep that same energy when you make your grand plan to change it. Keep that same energy when you’re getting results so you continue to gain momentum. Many of my too good to be true moments came from following the motto and embracing the fact that I’m capable of making huge changes in my life by truly believing in myself. In a couple months, I can’t wait to share my newest too good to be true moment. While we wait, I’ll continue to keep that same energy so it happens.

Tips on how to keep that same energy:

Write or speak your goals, dreams, or ideas into existence.

Tell at least one person what you plan to achieve and ask them to follow up with you.

Create a timeline with a set of small goals that will help you achieve your bigger goals.

Set a reminder in your phone with intervals such as every day, week, or month.

Take your time and don’t set unrealistic deadlines for yourself.

Keep your goals fresh in mind by bringing it up during conversations, following hashtags, watching videos, etc.

Give yourself permission to be successful!

Song Of The Day

Today’s song of the day is “Not Afraid” by Eminem. If keep that same energy was a playlist, Not Afraid would be the most played songs. I like to think that my life has a soundtrack and I can’t help but think of this song when I’m highly motivated or need inspiration to get out of a funk. This song personifies the pursuit of great things. My favorite verse is “I’mma be what I set out to be, without a doubt undoubtedly...And all those who look down on me, I’m tearin’ down your balcony”