“There’s nothing wrong with watching porn,” says Erica. “It’s like wine, some people can have a glass and leave it at that. Others need to drink the whole bottle.” She went on to write a book about her experiences called Getting Off, which prompted women from around the world to get in touch with her. “I think it’s the shame that we need to investigate. That’s what’s keeping women trapped in their own experience. I hadn’t come across many stories like my own, which is probably why my article went viral, because so many people weren’t talking about it. But once I put that story out there, I heard from many women of all ages, from a 14-year-old girl in Singapore to a 45-year-old woman in America’s midwest. And they were saying similar things to the men, that they felt out of control; that they needed to learn how to use this stuff rationally. It just showed me that there wasn’t so much that’s different between men and women, the only big difference is that women weren’t talking about it.”