Disadvantages of Keeping Secrets















I have realized that most of the things that tear family, relationships and friendship apart are keeping secrets. Secrets are at everywhere. People do keep their secrets for one or two reasons.









It is very good to keep some things hidden from the people you love and care about when you know that you revealing it to them will actually endanger your relationship with them. We all have some issues that we did long time ago that we have never divulged to anyone. This is because of the fear we have concerning the consequences on the people you value.









If you have never kept any secret to the folks you love, believe me, at one point of your life you will find yourself doing so. Some people may not afford to lie; they will prefer to keep secrets than lying. Lying may seem to be something very easier to some people but lies are very dangerous than secrets.















Secrets have their benefits and disadvantages too. Today I’ll talk of the disadvantages of keepings secrets. I know you fully understand that every relationship, friendship or family has their own secrets. Believe it or not, your parents will never tell you everything that goes on in your family. The lover you have right now also has secrets that he or she can never dare to talk about with you.









People have their own intention; it may be because of selfish reasons why someone keeps secrets. Some people will be keeping secrets to protect the relationship they have with the people they care about. We have some things we cannot forgive for anyone who did them.













We may claim to be most forgiving but these mistakes that our closest people did any they kept them a secret they know that it is unbearable for you to handle. Don’t be too curious sometimes to find out what the folks you love are hiding from you. It may be better for you.











Take what you have been given and appreciate, don’t seek to know more, it may break you in a way that you have never imagined. I’m not trying to say that keeping secrets is good, but we have to let some things the way they are for the best of our own souls.









Apart from what I have just talk about; for the best of our own relationships, you have to understand that secrets to have a perilous effect not to the people we love and care about but also to our own personality.

Here are the disadvantages of keeping secrets;





You will not be free.





Keeping secrets will mould you to something different. Your relationship with the people you love won’t be effective as it used to be in the first place. This will happen because you will be distant from the people you love. You will be too afraid that you engaging too much with them will make you open up whatever you will be having in your mind.















This will make you short of words and most of the time you will find yourself secluded from your family, friends or lover. The secrets will make a great barrier for you to enjoy any time you have with the folks you love. Look how bad it will be. You will be in a state that no one can take you out of it than pouring out what you have in your heart.









You will be so much terrified of how people will react towards you if they find out that you have been keeping secrets from them. You will be existing physical in front but physically and emotionally you will far away from them.









I know you know how it feels when you have stolen something from your parent and you have it in your mouth and you don’t want them to notice that you have hidden it in your mouth. The state you will be acting before them, do you think will make you free from saying anything? It will deprive so much freedom from you. This is exactly the same thing will apply to you if you end up keeping secrets from the people you love and care about.















Secrets will deprive you happiness





The moment you are no longer free to the people you love and care about you will miss doing a lot of things with them. You will not hang out with them as you used to, you will not have a deeper conversation with them as you used too. This will distant you from the people you love and keep you very far away from them.













The secrets will isolate you, and we all know what isolation means, it is loneliness, with loneliness you will never find happiness in yourself. Happiness stems from within before it spreads to someone else. So, if you have limitations within you, how will happiness find its way out of you?















You will be haunted by your own soul. Something will be driving you to speak out what you have been hiding, and you will be holding it back. The push and pull that will be going on in your heart will create chaos within you and make you feel confused. You will lack internal peace, you feel lost in some ways and this might drive you deep in your darkest place you have never thought of. This is the sufficient details on how these secrets can take away your happiness.













Secrets are everywhere; we have people who have the heart to carry the burden of holding thousands of secrets without feeling anything haunting them or feeling guilty. These kinds of people have situated their lives in such a way for a very long time. We all know that we cannot be good at anything without practising on it. These kinds of people may have iron-hearts. We have people who cannot manage to keep any secrets because the secrets will crush them into pieces. So, identify which kind of person are you before thinking of keeping secrets.













You also have to check out what effects do the secrets have to the people you love before keeping them. If the secrets have a treacherous effect on the people you love, it worth for you to open up and tell them what you know than thinking you are protecting them, but you will be losing them.









It is very good to check out the secrets you are keeping. For example someone is infected with a contagious disease in your family and you fail to tell your relatives about it. It will turn up to be a disaster as he or she will infect others with such a disease, and this will turn out to be a massacre.













There are two main kinds of states that secrets can be categorized. We have secrets that have no any effect on keeping them, and we have secrets that have dangerous effects on you and the people you love and heed about.









The kind of secrets to keep is of these states; when you know that the secrets will affect the relationship with the people you love and yet the secrets don’t have any negative effect to them. I have to tell you that if you want to have a good relationship with the people you love and care about, you should avoid things that will make you keep any secrets between you and them. Secrets tear apart relationships.

Do you find it positive to keep secrets from the people you love?











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