This article was co-authored by Amy Chan. Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches have helped hundreds of individuals in just 2 years of operation, and the bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. Her book about her work, Breakup Bootcamp, will be published by HarperCollins in January 2020. This article has been viewed 10,698,775 times.

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To get over a break up, start by giving yourself space from the other person. Don't call, email, or text them. Continuing to communicate with them will make it harder to stop reliving the past. Instead, put away any keepsakes of the relationship you had, like pictures or gifts. Know that it's normal to feel pain and allow yourself to grieve the loss of your relationship. You can try writing about your feelings and reminding yourself why you and your ex broke up. You can also focus on all the things you didn't like about your ex, to remind yourself why you're better off without them. Then concentrate on taking care of yourself: make plans, go out with friends, and have fun if that will make you feel better. If you're more of an introvert, go to your favorite ice cream shop or treat yourself to a mini vacation. Try your best to exercise and sleep regularly, even if it's hard to do so. Most importantly, surround yourself with compassionate, supportive friends and family who will remind you that you are a worthwhile person. For more advice on getting over a break up from our Professional Counselor co-author, like how to stop yourself from going back to your ex, read the article!