northernknickers Sun 15-Sep-19 10:13:26

There's context to add to all these things that can make them more or less bearable...hun is never ok, in any context for me! Mate is only just about bearable if it's in a big group, and people are initially/generally greeting each other...eg...oh mate, it's been so long! Good to see you! However, a few years ago I started dating an ex navy guy, who called me 'mate' ALL THE FUCKING TIME!!! It was unbearable...I hated it! In every sentence! He said he couldn't help it, it was how 'every matelot' spoke to each other...which made me feel SO special! We had to part ways 🤯