Of all the great stuff about girl-on-girl love, the very best* is that it's not weirdly influenced by tired-ass hetero-normative ideas that--for about a bazillion years (and still a little too much—barf)--dictated what “sex” is—the focus on penetration, the rigid power and gender roles and the direct march toward the “goal” of orgasm. Having no predetermined sexual script looming over you gives you the freedom to do whatever the f works for you.

With vulva to vulva (non) bonery, you also have a slight home court advantage of knowing your way around the equipment, since you've got similar stuff going on between your legs. Of course, as with any partner, everyone's junk is different and likes different touches, rhythms and pressures, but at the very least, you can avoid the whole jamming the finger in the p*ssy move than men somehow picked up, probably from porn and the subsequent women they tried it on who didn't speak up and say “WTF is that?” (In fairness, most mainstream “lesbian porn” is just as bad a source of decent sex ed.)

If you're looking for a new boo to practice on, check out 6 Lesbian Dating Apps You'll Actually Enjoy Being On. And if you don't happen to possess a vulva (sorry, mate), you can still use some of these tips to get a few ideas about what kinds of things a woman might like. (See also: 8 Sex Tips Straight Guys Can Learn From Lesbians.)

*The second best is a waaaaaay more manageable wet spot, though if someone's a squirter, then not so much.