i was gonna write a different post, one about Elliot Rodger and what he exposed about men. but i feel that first i need to get another one out of the way. one about piv, and why it’s rape. this is a post i have been wanting to write for a while, but always postpone it, but then i get involved in yet another frustrationg discussion about piv with a self-proclaimed feminist who doesn’t get it or i read a post about piv by another femininst who gets it a bit more, but still not really… both of these things happened in the past several weeks, then Rodger killed a bunch of people because he didn’t get any “consensual piv” from the women he wanted to get “it” from and so here i am, finally writing that post.

ok so here we go. piv/intercourse/fucking is rape. i am not the first woman to write this (fcm’s intercourse series, witchwind’s piv-post), but i feel that this cannot be repeated often enough, because women have such a hard time getting this.

when they fuck us, they rape us. fucking us is about raping us. fucking is the same as rape, not because it is intercourse that is forced on us, i.e. not the forcing of fucking is what makes fucking rape, but the fucking itself is the rape.

fucking is rape not because of the way it is done to us (violently, against our will) but because of what it does to us. when they fuck us, they use us as masturbation device and sperm bucket. they even call us that: cum bucket. when they fuck us, they use us, to stimulate the penis mechanically by rubbing it between the muscle tissue that is our vagina until they ejaculate, placing their sperm inside our reproductive organs. which, unless we take measures to avoid it, will very often lead to pregnancy. the vast majority of times when men stick their penisses into our reproductive organs in order to stimulate their penisses with the help of the insides of our bodies, thats not what they -or we – want to happen. pregnancy. however, since it feels so good for men to stimulate their penisses by rubbing them against our internal organs, they do not care about this. and neither are we allowed to care about this or think about this. not enough to result in men not being able to stick their dicks into our abdomens, anyway.

to repeat: when men fuck us they instrumentalize our internal muscle tissues in order to maturbate themselves to ejaculation. not in order to truly interact with us (they could do that another way), not to bring us to orgasm (they could do that another way), not to make us feel good and loved (they could do that another way), nor, most of the time, because we want to become pregnant.

there are two reasons why men fuck us:

it makes them feel a perverse kind of pleasure, one that derives from being sexually stimulated and breaking a taboo at the same time. The taboo is crossing physical boundaries and utilizing someone else’s body for your own means, that is, not respecting the right to life of another living being. they want to use our reproductive organs/capacities directly, without having to go through us, in other words, impregnate us against our wills, in other words, clone their genetic material (and they only really care about their y-chro) through us.

in both cases they objectify us, which is dehumanizing. when you dehumanize someone, you kill a part of them. you kill some of the connections that hold this person together. by using someone as if they were not alive and whole, you make them less alive and whole. when men fuck us, they turn us from whole to hole, they make us into a thing, they kill us. is it any wonder so many women out there are walking around shell-shocked, out of their own bodies, self-objectifyingly turning themselves into walking fuck dolls? thats what men do to us when they fuck us and that is why they fuck us. They want us absent from our own bodies, so that they can use our bodies without having to deal with us.

naturally, men don’t want us to notice. which is why we can never frame simple fucking itself as rape. noooo, rape is this thing where a stranger jumps a woman and against her screaming and struggling, biting and scratching, violently sticks his dick into her internal organs and violently and forcibly uses her internal muscle tissue to stimulate himself to orgasm. that’s rape, or so men want us to believe. this is why if there is any talk about rape at all, it is always about the way that he fucked her. with how much force?

or if she wanted it. because we all know violence is not really violence when it is done to women because women like being treated violently and if someone likes it when you violate them you didn’t really violate them. or so the logic goes. so if we can get her to consent its not rape either. very clever. the language of consent is actually patriarchy’s reaction to women’s awakening consciousness to themselves as human beings, who should not be used by men to stimulate their penisses until they spit out sperm.

so in order to derail from the act of fucking, lest women notice that the act itself is dehumanizing, they invent the concept of consent, so that again violence can be made invisible, and so they can go on fucking us. the language of consent implies that someone else (the man) makes a suggestion (he wants to fuck, he is the agent) and that she then agrees. the consenting party is by definition not the one who came up with the idea in the frst place. also, the language of consent implies that women’s bodies are some kind of land, or territory, which the man wants to enter and thus needs the woman’s consent to enter her. what are we, landladies of our own internal organs? and rape is like, what, trespassing? stealing?

can you not see, sisters, that this whole concept implies that we are not whole human beings? or that our bodies are somehow separate from us, which is why we can consent to someone else using our bodies as if that didn’t mean that they were using us? our bodies are us, we are our bodies!

even when women realize that the concept of consent is flawed because women are brainwashed and groomed to consent, and therefore consent is meaningless, it still works as a derail, because then often some women will argue until they’re blue in the face that there might be a woman liberated enough somewhere (!!) to freely consent to fucking and that then fucking might not be rape.

see what they are doing there? by making the conversation about whether or not consent can be meaningful, men derail it in case women get too close to realizing what is really wrong with fucking, when the point is this: fucking is whats wrong with fucking. the act itself, the usage of another’s living body (a woman’s vagina, a woman’s anus, a woman’s mouth, a child’s vagina, anus or mouth, the mouth of a fish, the anus of a dog etc. etc.) to stimulate the penis until it ejaculates, in other words, fucking, is an act by which men make a living being into a dead thing.

now, if you’ve ever been in a discussion about fucking with men or brainwashed women you will know that no discussion about fucking is complete without someone hashing out the old “but what about procreation of the species” line.

(disclaimer: to my radfem sisters, i am not advocating sex with men or reproducing with men here. all i want to do is show how even if we wanted to reproduce with them, penetration would still be the wrong way to do it.)

imagine if you will a world without patriarchy. one in which women have full control over our own bodies. now, firstly, we all know that sperm can travel inside the vagina, because it lives for several hours/days. We all have been warned that sperm, if deposited close to the vaginal opening, can still result in pregnancy and therefore penisses should always be wrapped in plastic when at all in the vicinity of our vaginal opening. therefore, the penis does not need to be inserted into our internal organs at all in order to conceive. it would be perfectly sufficient if men just deposited their sperm on our front steps, so to speak, and left us alone do proceed with it as we damn well please!

secondly, considering that the clit is the only human organ with the sole purpose of causing pleasure, but cannot be directly stimulated via intercourse; however, given the shape and size of the average penis, stimulation of the clit can very easily achieved by rubbing the penis between the labia and over the clit, wouldn’t it make more sense if this was how we did “sex” (for purposes of pregnancy?). if women were free and had a strong sense of physical integrity, wouldn’t it make sense for us to never ever insert men at all?

i saw a “documentary” about “sex” a few years ago and one bit of information stuck to the back of my mind: when a woman orgasms, the muscle contractions of the vaginal muscles make her cervix “dip” down towards the vaginal opening, sucking anything in the vagina upwards. so if we wanted to have sex with men (for purposes of pregnancy) at all in a world in which we are free, we could just have the d00d deposit the genetic material we need at a place from which we can haul it in ourselves, so to speak, which is at the vaginal opening (between the labia) for which no penetration is needed at all, and which can be completely pleasurable for the woman. but of course d00ds can never just be useful without being overly demanding in return. they don’t want to accept that they are mere carriers of genetic material for us, that we are the creatrixes and they are (supposed to be) the helpers. nooooooo. men have to be the center of everything and control everything, otherwise their fragile egos shatter.

they don’t want to leave the package by the front door, no, they want to come in, vandalize the space and throw their shit around without any regard for the fact that they are in our sanctuary! rapist assholes. they want to use our sanctuary without respecting the natural authority of the place, they envy its power (its their “holy grail”/white whale, the fountain/source of life itself), they want to own it and instrumentalize it for their own necrophiliac purposes.

and this is how intercourse is men’s reproductive strategy at our cost. intercourse allows men to make use of our reproductive powers. they are not supposed to have control over reproduction, otherwise they would be the reproducing sex and not just the carriers of dna. they are supposed to assist. notice also how in this scenario woman’s clit actually has a reproductive function: woman rubs clit aganst penis, penis ejaculates and deposits sperm close to vaginal opening, woman orgasms sucking in sperm into vagina. this way, woman’s orgasm is an evolutionary advantage, because it increases the chances of conception. note how in this scenario woman’s physical integrity is not destroyed. and now visualize fucking. can you see how here woman’s orgasm/pleasure/Presence is entirely redundant? by inserting their penisses into us men circumvent having to truly connect with the woman they are being “intimate” with. engaging her soul is not necessary for conception at all if you just push the penis inside and deposit the sperm directly onto the cervix.

and this is basically what men don’t want us to know: men have invented fucking to make use of the goddess’s creative powers, to steal our powers from us. by fucking us, men artificially inflate their power. fucking us is the fundament on which their supremacy rests. fucking is their way to protest against evolution, trying to control natural (woman directed) selection by making sure their y-chromo gets replicated. and look where this strategy has led. the most violent men have spread their y-chromos all over the world! this is what Bryan Sykes, geneticist, has to say about this (source):

“However, if you trace the Y chromosome’s fingerprints back through human history, you see that it reports some very unpleasant behavior. Take Genghis Khan’s Y chromosome, which is now found in 16 million men in Central Asia. It started as a single copy from the man himself in the 12th century. What drove this? Well, when he conquered a territory, he killed the men and systematically inseminated the most attractive women. A thousand years later, his Y chromosome has survived and proliferated, which is sexual selection on a very grand scale.”

(note that he says “sexual selection” but of course he means artificial selection, aka rape, aka fucking.)

you really think men’s increasing sociopathy and overall violence has nothing to do with this??

if you still do not believe, sister, that fucking is war, that the point of fucking is to control evolution, consider this image which has been circulated among Israelis since the start of Israel’s latest attempt to annihiliate Palestinians and “ethnically cleanse” “their” land from what they consider inferior y-chroms:

(caption: darling, come inside this time.

civilians for invasion.)

ask yourself, would anyone understand the message of this image if they didn’t subliminally know that fucking = war?

when men fuck us, they damage us, they destroy our wholeness/integrity: physically, psychologically, spiritually. fucking = war. yes, all fucking. that’s the whole point!

this, sisters, is the root of patriarchy. let’s rip it out. #stopfucking!