There's been a lot of discussion on diversity in tech. As a woman in technology, this affects me. But I am not just a woman in technology. I am a mother working on a technology startup. In other words, I have two full-time jobs: being a mother and an entrepreneur. I don't have any hobbies. I don't have the luxury of time for hobbies. I embrace this exhausting lifestyle because I love being a mother and I love my work in tech. I am trying to make it work.

I have been working in the consumer Internet industry as a software engineer for over a decade. I started at Yahoo where I won the Yahoo Super Star Award in 2003. I joined Facebook in 2006 and helped create Facebook Ads. I was doing very well as one of the few top tech women at Facebook.

I left Facebook in late 2011 after five years at the company and 11 months after my daughter was born. I had to quit. I didn't feel I could perform at the same level as before when I was childless. My brain didn't work as well because of all the sleep deprivation and hormone changes from childbirth and breastfeeding. I didn't have the courage to tell my boss what I was facing. That was before Facebook's chief operating officer, Sheryl Sandberg, published the book, "Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead". I would have communicated more honestly if "Lean In" was published. But I didn't think I could tell my boss that I had difficulty taking the same amount of work load while being a new mother.

I took a few months off and decided that I wanted to go back to work. I love creating software and learning new things. I got a job offer from Coursera and I turned the offer down, which is a decision I regret. I wasn't confident that I could meet the high expectations they had for me. My brain was 90% back but having a toddler at home, I wasn't sure if I could put in the demanding hours a high-growth startup would require. I went to work for a non-profit instead.

I realized I was on the path of becoming part of the statistic: female technology executives dropping out in their late 30s. I didn't want to be part of that statistic. I wanted to work while being a mother.