Todd Nickerson, from Tennessee, is on a mission to revolutionise society’s understanding of underage attraction

A SELF-CONFESSED ‘non-offending paedophile’ is “not ashamed” of being sexually attracted to children as young as three because he doesn’t act on his desires.

One-armed Todd Nickerson, 43, from Tennessee, claims paedophilia is better understood as a sexual orientation.

European Parliament 14 Todd Nickerson, 43, is a ‘non-offending’ paedophile who is “not ashamed” of being sexually attracted to children

He is a moderator for the online forum ‘VirPed’ – short for ‘virtuous paedophiles’ and also sometimes called ‘ethical paedophiles’ or ‘gold star paedophiles’.

The terms are used to describe those who have an attraction to prepubescent kids but control their urges and refrain from watching child pornography or seeking sexual contact with minors.

The VirPed forum has a few thousand users, according to Todd, although not all of them are active members, and the site acts as a resource “to help virtuous paedophiles remain law-abiding”.

14 The 43-year-old believes paedophilia is better understood as a sexual orientation

Todd, who is one of only a handful of voluntarily ‘out’ paedophiles in the US, told Barcroft TV: “I am a paedophile. I’m not a monster. I have the attraction but I don’t act on it.

“I have never ever sexually abused a child and I never will. I do not look at child porn, I never will.

“I obey the laws, I respect the laws, I respect society’s position on this. I understand it and agree with it.”

Todd went public as a paedophile in a blog for American liberal news site Salon in September 2015.

He received a huge quantity of hostile replies as well as a large amount of positive feedback – including messages from people who had suffered at the hands of paedophiles.

He said: “You get the people who tell you to kill yourself and say you should be castrated and all of that kind of thing.

“Publicly, there was a lot of backlash but privately it’s been very different. I got hundreds and hundreds emails from people who were very supportive, a lot of which were from people who were survivors of abuse.”

14 Todd, pictured aged two, admits being primarily attracted to children aged three to four

Although he is unrepentant about putting his face and name in the public domain, he does now carry a pocket knife with him for self-protection when he ventures out of the house.

Todd, who describes himself as a non-offending minor attracted person (MAP), says paedophiles are capable of living a happy, productive, law-abiding life.

He said: “Not all paedophiles are child molesters and not all child molesters are paedophiles.

14 Todd is a moderator for the online forum VirPed – short for ‘virtuous paedophiles’ and also sometimes called ‘ethical paedophiles’ or ‘gold star paedophiles’

“A paedophile is strictly speaking just somebody who has sexual attraction to children – they may act on it they may not.

“A lot of people think that if you are attracted to kids, you have some kind of unusual degree of urge to go out and attack kids and it’s not like that.

“The people that struggle with it have self-control issues and we just try to encourage them – sometimes we have to use tough love because one problem with paedophiles at times is that they are very good at deluding themselves.”

14 Todd, pictured right, at home during his childhood with a female friend

While some researchers claim a possible neurological or genetic basis to underage attraction, the origin of paedophilia is still a hotly debated subject in the scientific community.

Todd claims he was the subject of a one-off incident of sexual molestation by an acquaintance of a relative as a seven-year-old child – something which he acknowledges may have been a “contributing factor” in his sexual development.

He admits that he is attracted to children as young as three or four, but that his attraction peaks with kids aged around nine or ten years old.

14 Todd was born with only one hand and so wears a pincer-style prosthesis called an Adept

The freelance graphic designer, who was born with only one hand and so wears a pincer-style prosthesis called an Adept, says he first became aware of his attraction to underage children when he was 13.

He said: “I call it my ‘Eureka moment’, it was the moment I realised, ‘OK this is something, I’m interested in these younger girls’.

“I was 13, and a neighbour had come over to visit and brought his little daughter with him, she was probably seven or eight.

14 Todd had a moment of temptation when he was 18, pictured, while babysitting a five-year-old girl

“I was in the living room drawing and I just remember looking up and just being blown away by her, by how beautiful I thought she was.

“Initially I repressed the feelings, especially in my teenage years when I was a regular at church, I’d ask God to take it away and I kind of thought he had.

“But I started ageing and realised that the age of the girls I was attracted to were staying the same, that’s when I realised this was going to be a problem.”

Getty 14 At age 20 Todd tried dating a woman who was 26, but his lack of interest in adults meant the relationship quickly ran aground

Although Todd is adamant he has never offended, he says he did have a moment of temptation when he was 18 while babysitting a five-year-old girl.

He said: “After that I moved out of town for a couple of months, anything that was going to present me with a temptation, I just cut it out of my life.”

He also admits that in the past he was part of an “unhealthy” paedophile forum where he claimed that children were not necessarily harmed by sexual contact with adults and that he would consider it if it were legal.

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Rex Features 14 Todd says is has ‘never ever sexually abused a child and never will’

Todd says he now strongly rejects and regrets those views, writing in his blog: “I wanted desperately to be friends with people who shared my sexual orientation, even if they held crazy beliefs, but I could never quite reconcile with their viewpoint.”

At age 20 Todd tried dating a woman who was 26, but his lack of interest in adults meant the relationship quickly ran aground.

He said: “She was very petite so she was my type physically. I wasn’t really attracted to adults, but I thought maybe I can make this work.”

14 Todd, pictured aged nine, has repressed his feelings since his teenage years

The pair dated for three weeks, but when it came time to consummate the relationship, Todd was unable to perform and the woman broke up with him the next day.

He added: “For all intents and purposes I am a virgin, I never had full blown sexual intercourse, it just hasn’t happened.”

Realising that marriage and children were unlikely to materialise, he spiralled into a period of deep depression and social anxiety, and was plagued by suicidal thoughts on a daily basis.

Ed Sykes 14 Todd is ‘neither proud nor ashamed of being a paedophile’

But in August 2014 he discovered the website Virtuous Paedophiles after the forum’s founder Ethan posted on the ‘unhealthy’ forum Todd was frequenting.

And Todd says becoming an advocate for other ‘virtuous paedophiles’ has helped turn his life around and given it meaning.

“I am part of one of the most hated groups of society, no question about it, we are the scapegoats du jour,” he added.

“If you look at history, there is always one minority that everybody kind of persecutes and I think at the moment we’re it.

14 Todd describes himself as a ‘pioneer’ who is raising awareness for other ‘virtuous’ paedophiles

“I would like to see some protections for people like me, protections against being fired from their job and being protected from violence.”

Todd says his goals are twofold – to end the demonization of paedophiles, which he says helps drive them underground, and to encourage other offenders to seek support.

He said: “I would like people to empathise with us and understand that this is not a choice.

“We didn’t choose our sexuality, we just have to deal with it and their empathy helps us and the abuse actually makes things worse for us.

14 Todd, pictured aged 29, wants people to ’empathise’ with his situation

“We just want to educate the public and help people understand where we are coming from and hopefully see our humanity.

“The other aim is to bring people who are struggling with this attraction to our forum that we can help them by providing us a circle of support.”

And while the subject of underage attraction remains deeply taboo, Todd says his friends and family are proud of him for trying to help shed light on the complex issues surrounding paedophilia.

North News and Pictures 14 Todd insists his friends and family are proud of his lifestyle

He said: “I’m a pioneer, I’m out here doing something that really needs to be done, raising awareness and letting people what people like me deal with and struggle with.

“I am neither proud nor ashamed of being a paedophile, at this point I just accept it – it’s who I am.”