Aleela Wed 16-Jan-19 08:12:46

DD has been at nursery since 2, she is now just turned 3. We have been potty training for a few months now. At home, she will wet herself in knickers or clothes as she cannot pull them down herself and will not ask me to do it for her in time, other times she just wets herself and continues sitting in it. However, with no underwear/leggings on she is fine and will take herself for a wee with no issue. Sometimes she will tell me she needs a wee before she hops on, other times she won't.



Nursery were the ones who told us they thought she was ready to potty train. Yet, there have been about 4 times now when I have picked her up from nursery and she is wet from wetting herself - trousers wet to touch, socks wet, shoes smelling of wee!!!! I have had to change her into fresh clothes in the toilet before bringing her home. I asked them about it t( I assumed she had just done a mega wee before I picked her up) and they said she must have just done it. But it keeps happening.



She is very shy and won't ask them to go to the toilet, and if they ask her she is likely to say no because she doesn't like going and sitting on potty as she would rather play - you have to get her to sit on it and try in a nursery situation, it's not like at home where she has the choice with the potty there constantly.



From what I gather, they don't have set 'toilet times' and seem to take the younger ones in at random times when one of them needs it, in pairs or trios, while the older ones seem to just ask or walk through the door to the toilet by themselves.



What should I say to them? I think they will just insist she keeps weeing just as arrive. AIBU to expect them to notice a child who is wet enough to have soaked socks and shoes!?!?