White Supremacy has truly done a number on Black men. We actually attach more status and value to White women than we do to the Black women who held us down when no one knew who we were, nor gave three damns about us. We say insane things like “I prefer White women” Really? You prefer seasonless chicken, skin that is naturally without a glow, and Seinfeld instead of Martin? You actually prefer this? You prefer the women who for the first time in their lives protested years after Trayvon, Rekia, Sandra, Aiyana, and Mike were laid to rest by this American fascination with keeping the Negroes in our places? You prefer the women who will not fight for Blackness on any level, in any way shape or form to the women who make up what I consider to be the best form of Blackness? The women who do not know of the brilliance of Toni Morrison, or the wit of Zora Neale Hurston, or of the tireless work of Alice Walker are the women you prefer? The women who say that Nikki Giovanni is too extreme, who have next to no idea what makes Angela Davis a living legend or what makes Michelle Alexander so angry about watching their relatives profit from businesses based on drugs that we were locked up for even possessing. You fix your face to say you prefer White women when you should just confess to your willing participation in Anti-Blackness; in fact to not prefer Black women in this socio-political climate in America is to exhibit a special kind of Anti-Blackness, one where you cast off those who are on the front lines fighting for us to choose those who could care less about us. It does not matter how she feels about your Black dick. It does not matter how cute she thinks your children are or could be. It does not matter how she has altered her speech patterns to match the inflections of AAVE, she is and will always be aligned with Whiteness and in choosing her, we will be choosing to align with Whiteness as well.

While we may have been conditioned by America to prefer, to choose, to desire Whiteness over Blackness, it is not and has never been in our best interests to do so. Black men have been lynched behind the false allegations of white women as Emmett Till plainly showed. The power and the fury and the might of the American society has been strongly positioned in alignment with protecting the white woman from the Black men seeking to do her harm ever since D.W. Griffith’s landmark film Birth of a Nation. White womanhood has long been positioned as a thing to protect, long positioned as a status symbol in the misogynoir that runs rampant in the Black community on the whole. It is time that Black men who stubbornly assert that they prefer White women come clean and tell themselves as well as the rest of us the ugly truth: society has succeeded in making them hate the women they have come from.

To my mind, there is no logical explanation for men such as Neo-Soul singer Maxwell to declare his preference to be photographed with White women when I am more than certain he has to be around Black women who run circles, squares, rectangles, triangles and octagons around them. There is no logical explanation for any Black man worth anything to proudly declare that he does not like, does not care for, does not want, is ashamed of Black women other than anti-Blackness. You may try and dress it up, you may try and hide it, you may even try to deny it, but when you go home and you crawl into bed and you look at this woman who needs make-up to even halfway look human, you know the truth. You know you have chosen hatred over good, common sense. You know you have chosen to let your hatred of Black women for illogical reasons to cloud your judgement, you know you have chosen women who would throw you under the bus in a hot minute just to spite women who would more than likely stand in front of a gun because she loves you, and she loves your Blackness more than your lost ass could possibly comprehend.

Black women have had our backs since forever and it is nothing but Anti-Blackness when I hear any Black man say any type of foolishness like “I just don’t find Black women attractive.” I don’t know how these White-identified Kneegrows sleep at night, knowing that they have just said that their mothers, their aunts, their people are not attractive. They have disowned the women who have fought for us since before we knew how to fight for ourselves, they have disowned the best and the brightest fighters that we have. So the next time a Black man says that he’s not attracted to Black women, tell him that he’s not attracted to Blackness. Tell him that he has accepted White Supremacy. Tell him that he ain’t shit.