However, not every mother believes their children should see them naked

Comes after BBC's Victoria Derbyshire said nudity in her home is ‘no big deal’

She says she mainly does it for nine-year-old daughter Mikaela's benefit

Taryn Brumfitt, 39, says all her children are used to seeing her naked

Just this morning my eight-year-old daughter watched me walk naked from the bathroom to my bedroom. Pointing at my tummy she asked: ‘Mummy, why does that wobble so much?’

Taking my little girl’s hand I rested it on my stomach and told her: ‘That’s where I grew you and your brothers.’

I explained that my stomach had to stretch to make room for each baby before shrinking back again after I gave birth. ‘Going in and out like that makes your tummy wobble,’ I added.

All my children — my husband Mathew and I have two sons, Oliver, 11, and Cruz, nine, as well as Mikaela — are used to seeing me walking around happy and comfortable in my own bare skin. But it’s something I do mainly for my daughter’s benefit. I know that, as a girl, it’s especially important she sees me unclothed — it facilitates an ongoing dialogue between us about the female body, and the way it changes throughout the course of a woman’s life.

In fact, I believe that every little girl should grow up seeing her mother naked on a regular basis.

Body image campaigner Taryn Brumfitt, 39, says all her children are used to seeing her naked

After all, what better starting point can there be for the kind of conversations that challenge the toxic stereotype of what a woman’s supposed to look like?

Life can take its toll on our bodies — which is why I applaud BBC presenter Victoria Derbyshire for revealing that nudity in her home is ‘no big deal’ even after her mastectomy. She says her two sons, aged 11 and 13, ‘don’t bat an eyelid’ and that’s as it should be.

It’s not healthy for our children to grow up believing what they see on social media and in glossy magazines. In real life, women don’t all have tiny waists and gravity-defying breasts.

A survey by childcare professionals found that girls experience body dissatisfaction from the age of eight and less than half of girls aged between ten and 17 like the way they look.

Poor self-image is a scourge on our daughters’ lives. So as mothers we need to show them irrefutable evidence of body positivity from a very early age. The best way to do that is by letting them see our own bodies in their varied and naturally beautiful forms.

That’s not to say we should turn every shower into a contrived life lesson by calling kids into the bathroom to have a good look.

The author says she mainly does it for nine-year-old daughter Mikaela's benefit (pictured together)

Rather, that we shouldn’t hide our bodies when we’re wandering around the bedroom or stepping out of the bath. Nor should we be hyper-critical of our flaws in their company.

After all, children are like sponges — if a little girl grows up seeing her mum nonchalant about being seen nude in the home, it imprints upon her the important message that her mother is comfortable in her body, whatever its shape and size. So she can be, too.

‘A mother represents a little girl’s version of normal,’ explains child psychologist Dr Amanda Gummer. ‘She learns more from observing and modelling her behaviour, and is more likely to copy that, than anything else.

‘The very best thing a mother can do to promote good self-image in her daughter is to provide a happy, healthy and confident role model she can mimic. If she sees you confident in your skin, she’ll naturally expect to grow up feeling the same way, too.’

Letting your daughter see you naked, says Dr Gummer, delivers a strong message. ‘It makes the sight of an undistorted version of the female form a completely matter-of-fact part of her life and shows her that there’s no such thing as the ideal body — we simply have the body we have.

DO YOU THINK YOUR CHILDREN SHOULD SEE YOU NAKED? Here, five Femail writers reveal whether they’re prepared to bare all in front of their children. YES Lauren Libbert, 47, lives in North-West London with her two sons, aged ten and 11, and says: Lauren Libbert, 47, says that her sons are used to seeing her naked around the house ‘My boys are used to seeing me naked. We have a bath together at least once a week and I often walk across the landing from my bedroom to theirs without a stitch on. ‘They’ve definitely become more intrigued with my body as they’ve grown older; there’s more pointing and sniggering and they ask lots more questions. Is that where I fed as a baby? What are those bumps? Why does the hair stop there? ‘I answer matter-of-factly, without embarrassment. But there are rules. No poking or prodding; our bodies are not shameful, but they are ours and should be treated with respect. ‘I always chatted to my mum when she was in the bath. As the youngest of five children, it was the one place I could catch her sitting still and I’d pop my feet into the water at the end and we’d sit and chat. I don’t think I even noticed she was naked. ‘I’ve always been very comfortable with my body and I’m convinced this openness in childhood is the reason. I want the same for my sons. To be comfortable in your skin is a gift.’ Lucy Cavendish, 51, is married to Nick, 58 and lives in Oxfordshire. She has three sons, aged 21, 15 and 13, and a daughter, Ottoline, ten. Lucy says: Lucy Cavendish, 51, says she's never paraded around naked, but has always been relaxed about nudity in front of all the children ‘I’ve never paraded around naked, but since they were babies I’ve been relaxed about nudity in front of all the children. Even now, my boys, who are teenagers and older, will wander in when I’m having a bath or getting dressed. They’ll see me strip off on the beach or sunbathe topless. ‘Having been like this all their lives they take it in their stride, though they do tease me. “The whale’s getting into the bath,” they joke. After four children, my body comes with all the scars and saggy bits you’d expect. But in an age of airbrushed images I think it’s important they know what real women look like. Hopefully, though, they are more tactful around girls their own age. ‘Nudity certainly isn’t mandatory for them if they don’t want to bare all. I would never dream of walking in on my children getting changed. ‘Learning to love my body has been a long struggle and so I was determined my children would grow up to be more accepting of their own. ‘In particular, I want Ottoline to have a happier relationship with her body than I did with mine as a young woman. Already she has friends who are on diets and who say they hate their bodies. I want to spare her these negative feelings.’ Kathryn Knight, 46, lives in South-West London with husband Duncan, 36, and their four-year-old daughter Connie. Kathryn says: Kathryn Knight, 46, says she's 'always been a let-it-all-hang-out kind of gal' ‘I’ve always been a let-it-all-hang-out kind of gal. Over the years my friends have got used to me padding round in the buff on holidays. (‘For goodness sake put it away’ is a common lament.) ‘It’s a theme that continues at home, where unless it’s sub-zero, I sleep in the nude and happily lounge around post-shower with nothing on. I saw no reason to change that when Connie came along and, as a result, she’s entirely accustomed to my naked form, especially as she comes into bed every morning for a cuddle. As far as I’m concerned, it’s gloriously healthy: my body has already proved a useful starting point for discussions about the difference in my shape and hers and how our bodies work. ‘In a world where there seems to be ever more focus on how we look — and perhaps more to the point ever more pressure to look a certain way — I want to teach Connie to be proud and accepting of her own body, however it turns out. ‘Allowing her to see my middle-aged form trotting about the bedroom is an important part of that and I can’t see any reason to stop — unless, like my girlfriends, she asks me to.' NO Tessa Cunningham, 59, says that walking around naked in front of her sons after having had a mastectomy is not something she's been able to do Tessa Cunningham, 59, has two daughters, aged 25 and 26, and lives with her partner, Richard, 59, in Winchester. She says: ‘I take my hat off to Victoria Derbyshire for walking around naked in front of her boys after having had a mastectomy. My daughters are now 25 and 26, but it’s something I have never been able to do. ‘When I had a mastectomy — losing my right breast at 48, just like her — my daughters were 14 and 15. Victoria’s sons are 11 and 13. ‘I told myself I was protecting them. The truth is I was protecting myself. I felt so horribly maimed, I was convinced anyone who looked at me would be revolted. Seeing fear or disgust in my daughters’ eyes would have pole-axed me. ‘Unlike Victoria, I chose not to have a reconstruction — I could not face more surgery. So, where once there was a breast, now there was just an ugly red scar. I felt I’d been butchered. ‘Given how unhappy I was, I think I was probably right to shield my daughters. To them, of course, I pretended I was perfectly fine with losing a breast. Only on occasions such as shopping for bras with them did my bravado fade a little. Lingerie stores — once lovely places to linger — became graphic reminders of all I had lost. ‘Now, 11 years on, I am at ease with my body. The scar has faded to a delicate pink. I no longer see my missing breast as proof of a sick, cancer ridden body, but of a battle fought and won. I hope that, simply by moving on, I have proved to my daughters exactly what Victoria is trying to show her sons: life without a breast really is OK.’ Ursula Hirschkorn is 46 and lives in North London with her husband Mike and four sons aged 14, 12 and nine-year-old twins. Ursula says: Ursula Hirschkorn, 46, says she would never walk around nude in front of her children ‘One of my earliest memories is of my aunt standing naked and proud atop a rock above a freshwater pool in the South of France, her arms held aloft before she dived in, nothing left to the imagination. ‘Some might say this was a beautiful and natural thing — to me it was cringingly embarrassing. ‘I dreaded our annual trip to the sunshine as it would involve being with my whole family in the altogether. It was worse when my parents decided to import this laissez faire attitude to clothing to our house in England and started striding around without a stitch on. ‘It was the Seventies and they liked to think of themselves as free- thinking bohemians and, unfortunately, failing to cover up in front of the children was a part of this new lifestyle. I hated being confronted by my naked mother or father. The sight of all that middle-aged flesh left me scarred for life. ‘The human body is, in general, not a pretty thing, particularly when it belongs to your ageing parents. That’s why I would never, ever walk around nude in front of my children. In my house bathroom doors are locked, we knock before entering and I always ensure I’m dressed or at least shrouded in a towel. ‘I’m doing them a favour, ensuring their first experience of the naked female form will be a far more enjoyable one.’ Advertisement

‘A mother is a girl’s very first and strongest role model — if she sees her embracing her body, seeing it’s imperfections as the marks left by life’s experiences rather than things to despair about, then she’ll stand a much better chance of having a positive relationship with her own.’

This is a message I feel deeply about, not least because I used to loathe my body — so much so that at my lowest ebb, I considered surgery, in the desperate hope it would make me happy.

After Mikaela’s birth in 2009, I became obsessed with getting back to how I’d looked before I became a mum.

I was struggling psychologically to live comfortably with my saggy tummy and droopy boobs. My husband kept telling me that he loved me for who I was rather than the body I was in, but I couldn’t feel that way about myself. He found me beautiful, but I didn’t.

And as much as I had adored carrying our children, I felt as though my body was somehow broken as a result.

So in 2012 I booked myself in for surgery, convinced that it would fix my self-loathing, too. But one afternoon in the run-up to my operation, I watched Mikaela playing. She was running around in a swimsuit and as I looked at her I realised that despite the changes her body would experience over time, to me it would always be perfect.

Taryn says that she believes every little girl should grow up seeing her mother naked on a regular basis

The idea of her having someone cut into her precious skin devastated me — so I embarked on a punishing diet and exercise regime, hoping I could regain my figure that way instead.

For the next three months I was in the gym at five every morning with a personal trainer; I weighed every morsel that passed my lips.

It worked. Twelve weeks later I had lost 33lb and boasted the kind of bikini body so many women aspire to. And yet as I stood there with my taut belly and toned thighs, one thought ran on a loop inside my head: it wasn’t worth it.

Getting from a size 14 to a size 8 had stopped me playing with my children and sharing meals with my family — two of life’s simple pleasures. Food had become something to agonise over rather than relish. Instead of now being ecstatic, I’d somehow managed to make myself even more dissatisfied than before.

I’d sacrificed too much, while sending out a message to Mikaela that my body wasn’t good enough the way it was. It was a defining moment — and from then on, I was clear in my mind that I was going to live a life where I embraced my body, whatever its shape or size.

A switch had been flicked inside my brain. My body wasn’t an ornament to be admired — it was a vehicle to carry me through a rich and fulfilling life.

Taryn has written a book called Embrace, as well as filming a documentary uncovering why poor body image has become a global epidemic

I stopped weighing myself and started looking at my naked form in the mirror, appreciating the way it serves me, the joy it brings me. I began to see that the lumps and bumps, the wrinkles and saggy bits tell the story of a woman growing and changing.

Instead of feeling I had to cover this body up as soon as I stepped out of the shower, or as I dressed, I started letting Mikaela see me bare and confident. As she started asking questions, I realised that my honest answers could help her grow up accepting her body, too.

This was an epiphany that, a few months later, I went on to share with millions more women when I posted before and after images of myself on my Facebook page.

Only the before picture in this case was of the thinner me — and the after, the me I’m meant to be — several sizes bigger, no longer toned and taut, but looking happy, healthy and content.

This struck more of a chord than I could ever have imagined.

Women contacted me in their thousands to share their feelings of disgust at how they saw themselves and thank me for showing them that self-esteem is about more than your size.

Taryn says that women have told her they feel judged by society for their weight, and revolted by what they see in the mirror

Many messages were heartbreaking. ‘I have a four-year-old daughter but have never swum with her because I don’t want to wear a bathing suit,’ one mum confided.

‘I’ve not been intimate with my husband for three years, because I think I look disgusting.

‘He tells me he loves me but I just can’t bring myself to be naked in front of him,’ confessed another.

Women told me they feel judged by society for their weight, and revolted by what they see in the mirror. They praised me for doing something to build up self-esteem rather than tear it down.

A mother is a girl’s very first and strongest role model — if she sees her embracing her body, then she’ll stand a much better chance of having a positive relationship with her own

It set me on a mission to help women shake off the shackles of body dissatisfaction. A mission that needs to start in the home.

‘Being naked around your daughter, and responding to any of her questions about your body in a similarly non-critical way, will encourage positive body image in both of you,’ says Dr Lauren Callaghan, a clinical psychologist specialising in body image issues.

‘It needs to be natural and unscripted — perhaps wandering around in your undies when you’re looking for clothes to wear, rather than being fully naked if that doesn’t feel right to you. But what doing that can achieve for you both can be extremely powerful.’

There are other ways, too, that we can help our daughters: by banning talk of diets in the home; being mindful of conversations we have with other women, particularly where we praise weight loss; getting girls media literate from the age of ten, so that they understand just how much editing of images they’re exposed to on a daily basis; and encouraging them to exercise for enjoyment rather than to punish their bodies.

And, of course, by letting your little girl see you as you are.

Your body might well be the thing that helps her embrace her own for the rest of her life.

Embrace, directed by Taryn Brumfitt, is on iTunes and Amazon. Discover more about Taryn’s The Body Image Movement at bodyimagemovement.com