Yes, I learned a new term today: Penis shaming. I am not going to lie, when I saw the term I blew it off. However, going through my timeline on Twitter, it kept reappearing. So I actually spent some time going through reading re-tweets and tweets about what “black twitter” (mostly black women) had to say about the topic at hand. Just like everything else on Twitter, it came down to a thin line and this thin line fell between preference and actual shaming/hate. Okay, makes sense.

Preference: a feeling of liking or wanting one person or thing more than another person or thing [Source]

Example: “I would prefer a man with a penis that is well-endowed over a man that is average sized” (Cool whatever, you’re not talking down on one or the other.)

Shaming: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper,ridiculous, etc., done by oneself or another [Source]

Example: “Girl that’s not a penis, call that pecker that thang so small” (similar to something I saw tweeted) (Not okay, embarrassing/bullying.)

Okay, I get it. Then the conversation switch to “well, where did penis shaming come from?” I thought this question that was more useful than asking whether or not it exist. It’s obvious that does. Reading different answers to this question was very insightful and also hilarious, because some people took light to the topic. However, the one most discussed was the patriarchal society we live in .The world that has a “Mandingo” way of defining males. The bigger your penis, the more of a man you are, the more women you get, which equals you you being the Alpha Male! Anything other than this, you’re less than.

Personally, I think penis size is all relative and there is a mate for everyone with reproductive organs. I just find it ridiculous that our society shun both male and female for the natural size, state of our reproductive organs. From circumcision to pubic hair, it’s bullshit. Sex lives and sexually health would be soooo much better if idiots and ancient health care believers did not preach pseudo health care practices and ways of defining masculinity.

-Melluh