Her story: Laura Baker is 40 and lives in Harlow with her husband and six children. She is a school teacher.

Stuart and I met at a performing arts centre where we were cast as Danny and Sandy in Grease. He was six years older and his fiancée Jeanne was the director and not best pleased when life imitated art.

At the airport later that year on the way to Greece, a customs officer found a bottle of champagne in Stuart's bag. When he was asked why it was there I chipped in, saying: "It's his birthday in a few days." Little did I know that two days later, as I was sat on a little yellow pedalo on the beach, we'd be popping it open to celebrate our engagement.

Married life had its ups and downs, but for the most part it was funny and exciting, and we used to have amazing parties, always with our conservatory decorated in a theme and everyone turning up in fancy dress.

After our firstborn I miscarried a few times and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. It was a really hard time.

Then after we'd been married 10 years it came out that Stuart was seeing someone he'd been with before. In a "civilised" showdown I punched him in the face and tried to reverse into her car.

But we made it work for the kids. I didn't want them to have a no man's land between Dad's car and Mum's home. After the children he'd given me, how could I hate him? We just weren't good married together.





His story: Stuart Miller is 46 and lives in Harlow, where he works as a paramedic.

When we first got together Laura and I used to visit her parents a lot. One day their toilet seat broke when I sat on it. As I stood up my testicles got clamped underneath it. Quite an embarrassing injury, but Laura and I just laughed about it. She has a great sense of humour.

When I cheated the first time with Lucy, Laura and I managed to rescue our marriage. But two years later, when I ended up having a second affair. I came clean to Laura about it, and I knew that there was no way the marriage could survive. Laura ran over my foot with her car. Looking back, I was still in love with Laura when we separated. It broke my heart not living with my children.

Recently Lucy left me, and Laura could have seen this as payback, but she's angry Lucy's gone after splitting us up. This is why I fell in love with her in the first place. She's very kind.

She has Pete now, and he's a great bloke. He's taken on my children, has two of his own, and he and Laura have had two lovely daughters. They are a great family unit and have been a huge support to me. I'm living back with my mum and dad, and taking medication for depression, which Laura and Pete are helping me through.



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