My Ex Cried During The Breakup 😢

If your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend cried during the breakup and appeared incredibly regretful, your ex’s actions show that your ex regrets hurting you.

They show that your ex feels regretful for causing you pain and that he or she isn’t good enough for your love and commitment.

This makes guilt the main explanation for your ex’s tears.

It’s also the explanation for all the post-breakup hugs, kisses, and various promises that your ex never fulfilled.

So try not to take your ex’s tears and words literally as they likely aren’t completely honest.

They are quite sly and deceitful and require you to detach from your ex in order for you to understand them properly.

As a dumpee of a crying ex, your ex probably told you all sorts of insincere excuses.

Things such as, “I need to fix/find myself, I’m an idiot for breaking up with you, I know I’ll regret this later, it’s not you, it’s me, I’ll always love you…

If you heard these typical breakup excuses, you need to understand the real meaning behind them.

Your ex basically intended to reduce your pain and consequently alleviate his or her guilt.

In doing so, your ex could finally feel better about himself or herself and you’d feel stronger during and after the breakup.

It’s a win-win for your ex.

That’s why you shouldn’t think that your ex told you all those nice things during the breakup just for you to feel better.

Yes, they were meant for you so that you don’t feel hurt and cry.

But your ex also said a bunch of misleading things for himself or herself to get away with the breakup.

In this article, we’ll talk about why your ex cried when he/she broke up with you.

Why did he cry if he broke up with me?

When dumpers cry during the breakup, some dumpees believe that their ex still loves them and wants a future with them.

They think that their ex has to go fix himself, beat depression, or save Princess Peach from the castle before their ex is ready to commit again.

But boy are they being deceived by their dumper’s lies and the lies they tell themselves.

What they don’t initially realize is that their crying ex doesn’t possess romantic feelings for them anymore.

Something or someone changed them a while ago and that’s why tears have nothing to do with love and attraction.

Tears in most cases represent pain and suffering and reveal that something is not working well.

In your crying case, that something is the relationship that your ex no longer wishes to pursue.

So if your ex broke up with you and cried during the breakup, your ex didn’t do so out of love.

That would be preposterous.

Your ex broke up with you because he or she doesn’t love you and doesn’t see a future with you.

My ex doesn’t know what he wants

If your ex said that he doesn’t know what he wants, your ex gave you the biggest slap in the face that he can possibly give.

As blunt as this may sound, your ex knows exactly what he wants or rather—who he doesn’t want.

And you know who that person is.

The only reason why your ex (male or female) avoided confrontation and direct explanation as to why the breakup occurred is that he or she is afraid of your response.

Your ex knew that by breaking up with you, he or she would feel filled to the brim with guilt.

And the reason why your ex knew this is that your ex had been feeling guilty since the day he or she detached from you.

In most cases, it’s at least a week before the day of the breakup.

So when dumpers pull the trigger, the ones who care about hurting their dumpee start feeling guilty for not being able to return their dumpee’s love and affection.

And depending on how much they value their moral values, “nice dumpers” often feel overwhelmed with guilt and sorrow as well—especially if they’re suffering from depression.

That’s because depression and similar illnesses of the mind can often cause a person to introspect.

Furthermore, you need to know that despite your ex ending his or her relationship in tears, your ex doesn’t regret leaving you behind.

The only thing your ex regrets is not being able to end the relationship without hurting you.

It’s not about you when your ex-girlfriend cries

I’ve seen and heard it all.

I’ve seen dumpers who cry, laugh, appear cold, distant or pretentious, get impulsively angry, bring over their new partner to officially break up, and much much more.

Many dumpers, unfortunately, don’t care much if at all about their ex while some feel extremely guilty and cry as a result.

That’s why there are many different types of breakups you can go through as a dumpee.

Some are painful and others are a bit less painful.

Oftentimes, the amount of pain you deal with depends on how mature your ex is and the way he or she treats you after the breakup.

If your ex is kind, sympathetic, and genuinely wants you to recover fast, then you could get over your breakup relatively quickly.

And contrarily, if your ex treats you badly, he or she could delay your recovery and even force you to develop trust issues.

But know that no matter how your ex treated you on the day of the breakup and after—you’re the only person responsible for your well-being.

So take the steps necessary to detach and heal from the breakup even if your ex hurt you, gave you false hope, and cried during the breakup.

You must do it for yourself.

Here are 4 reasons why your ex cried during the breakup.

Why did he break up with me if he still loves me?

A lot of dumpers tell their dumpees that they still love them and that they wish they weren’t breaking up with them.

But as you now know, breaking up with someone whom you’re in love with doesn’t make any sense.

Not unless you’re being forced to break up by your parents and have no control over your relationship.

But that’s a topic for another time.

If you love a person, you’re going to do your very best to stay with him or her.

You’re going to protect your partner, work on building a future together, and never let him or her go.

Contrarily, if you don’t love your partner, you’re going to have to let your partner go and give him or her the chance to find someone who can reciprocate his or her feelings.

But under no condition should you give your ex-partner false hope and tell him or her that you still love him/her.

It’s deceitful and cowardly to give a person false hope and monkey-branch into another relationship the moment your partner becomes your ex.

So there you have it.

A person who leaves you, starts dating right away and tells you that he or she still loves you doesn’t really love you.

All you ex loves is the illusion he or she has created for him or her to appear like a good person.

But my ex said she still loves me!

I’ve heard some dumpers say, “I loved my ex, but I had to break up with him because we weren’t compatible.”

If your ex told you or someone else this excuse, I can tell you that it’s complete and utter bs.

Compatibility with romantic partners is not something you’re born with.

You develop it in your head from the moment you’re born until the day you meet your partner.

And when you meet your significant other, you either have similar thinking and behavioral patterns or you don’t.

The point of dating is to figure this out after all.

But when people get past this stage of attraction (the honeymoon phase) and they feel that their partner is the one, that’s when “compatibility” starts to depend on self-awareness – mindfulness.

This implies that the survivability of a new long-term relationship eventually stops depending on the initial compatibility.

It instead depends on the couple’s ability to maintain and grow the relationship.

So basically, the more you understand yourself and your emotions, the better you’re going to understand your partner.

And the better you understand your partner, the better you will want to tend to your partner’s needs and work on your relationship to make it as good as it gets.

You can do this for as long as your partner is as mindful as you, of course.

My ex said we might end up together in the future

This is yet another hope-instilling breakup excuse that just doesn’t make any sense in the real world.

Although there is always a possibility of getting back together with an ex years later in the future, your ex should not be promising you things that he or she is unsure of.

Your ex shouldn’t do it even if you’re begging and pleading him or her for a second chance.

Saying things, such as, “It’s just a break, we’ll see how we feel about each other in a few months” are all relationship “pauses” without a defined time.

They promise reconnection with an ex without an actual time and plan to reconnect the bond.

Such breakup promises especially induce hope when your ex cries and says that it’s not the end yet.

But don’t fall for it.

There is no such thing as a break. There are only breakups, and in some rare cases—pre-agreed mutual agreements to resume the romantic relationship after taking care of some necessity.

My ex cried during the breakup and never contacted me again

As difficult as it might be for you to hear this, you need to know that most of the time, dumpers break up with their dumpee because they aren’t happy in the relationship.

Your relationship may have worked for you most of the time, but your ex, unfortunately, didn’t think the same way.

Your ex instead associated negative emotions to his or her relationship and slowly, one day at a time became repulsed by it.

So even though you may not have done much to push your ex to break up with you, your ex’s thoughts made him or her think that you did.

As Napoleon Hill, a famous self-help author says, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.”

And so can your ex.

If he or she develops a bad opinion of you, it’s not your fault.

Sometimes dumpers convince themselves that they’re right even if they’re wrong.

So how could you possibly blame yourself for something that may not even be your fault?

My ex told me I’m the best person for him/her

If your ex cried during the breakup and told you that you’re the best person he or she ever met, you probably already know what your ex wanted to achieve.

If you don’t, I can tell you that your ex tried to let go of you in a quick, painless manner so that he or she can prioritize his or her own needs.

Your ex probably vanished the moment he or she hurt your feelings.

Or perhaps your ex actually kept breadcrumbing you and checking up on you to see how you’re doing.

If your ex is appearing and disappearing by sounding sympathetic, your ex likely feels incredibly guilty for hurting you and wants to make things right by offering you his or her shoulder to lean on.

But what your ex doesn’t understand is that you would be a lot happier if your ex didn’t contact you so that you can get over him or her in peace.

By contacting you occasionally, your ex is reopening your breakup injury and making you crave his or her attention.

And that’s why it might be in your best interest to ask your ex not to contact you anymore.

Do it so that you can recover.

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