If you start the day with negative intention, already deciding before you get out of bed that it will be bad, then your day probably won't be as good as it could have been.

Instead of starting the day thinking about what you can’t do, start the day thinking about what you want. Thinking of yourself as the sick person is damaging, both mentally and physically. This is not to say that we can’t be realistic about our limitations. There are going to be days where you wake up and know that you have to go easy on yourself. That’s ok. That’s part of having a disease.

None of us want to be thought of as the sick friend in the group. We can have a sickness and still thrive, be happy, and lead a fulfilled and beautiful life. The Spoon Theory does not allow for a free and fun lifestyle if we are focused on having enough “spoons” to make it till the end of the day. If we think of ourselves as sick, how will be perceived by others?

Adapt to life in a way where you are respecting your limitations, but still living. If all of your friends are doing something that you know will make you feel crappy, modify. Be a fork and stab life. Take what you want. Live a life filled with excitement, laughter, fun, and craziness, but do it in a way that works for you.

So, let us start looking at life from a brighter, more optimistic place. Let us use the spoon theory during those times where we need our friends and family to understand a bit more, but for ourselves, let's fork it!

Join our private Facebook group Chronically Us to share stories, vent, and lift each other up :)