About This Site

When I found myself learning about my son’s transition, I felt alone. I was certain I was the only one in my immediate area experiencing something for which I felt unprepared, and for something I wished I could, instead, avoid. I wasn’t sure where to start looking for support. My son was 24 years old, queer and in the midst of hormonally transitioning (FTM). The support groups and websites I did find did not provide the answers or insights for which I was looking. Dear friends were compassionate, but had as little experience with transgender issues as I. Several websites I found for parents of transgender youth shared a narrative of children being “trapped in the wrong bodies.” I now understand that such a narrative CAN resonate for some, but my son was instead trapped in a binary world that didn’t allow for any variance in self-expression. I have since learned that self-expression is not confined to one story or one shared experience! It is my goal that this site offers mothers support as they navigate new meanings and a deeper appreciation of their child’s individuality. In addition, I am hopeful that for those that seek it- this will be the hand that reaches you when you need it most! It is ironic that I am blogging now-now when I have already passed through the “What did I do wrong?!” stage and finished “looking for my dreams” instead of focusing upon my son’s. I will share reflections of that earlier time as well as where I find myself today. Please take a moment to look at my different blogs, the guest blogs, and the shared articles and resources. It is my hope that this website may assist you in your personal journey when you need support most. You are NEVER alone. Allow yourself time! Embrace the journey! As my son told me early on, “You will have your own process.”