The writer Anne Lamott described holding a grudge as “drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”

It is such a heavy burden to carry, and can cost you your own health and happiness. It is more harmful to you than to the offender.Despite this, people often take forgiveness for granted. They declare that they forgive people but still carry grudges for those who have “wronged” them. These people are not really free. They are prisoners of their own bitterness.But what is forgiveness? Moreover, how do we forgive?People have different definitions of forgiveness. Generally speaking, it is when you choose to let go of bitterness, anger, and resentment you feel towards those who treated you unfairly. It is not condoning or excusing the wrongdoing done to you.