bad-dominicana:

last nite i was thinking about

self-hate as a survival mechanism

a very legit one at that

coz if the whole world happens to prefer the opposite of what you are, and loathing your entire existence actually moves you on up in life

then how do you really judge people who are convinced they have to have kids w white people so they end up lighter and suffer less, or bleach their skin so they can get better jobs and romantic prospects, or go back on their roots and assimilate into whiteness as best they can

when there are verifiable, quantifiable material results to all that self-loathing? when theres social capital to be earned by denying yourself?

how do you judge people who are simply hustling and doing what they need to survive and ride a lil smoother in a world that hates the very essence of who they are?

and a better question is

why judge them

and not the verifiable, proven circumstances, forces and people that make their self-hate *profitable*…the circumstances that make self-hate materially fruitful for POC, even as it may kill them from the inside out.