I recently logged into Facebook and noticed a plethora of women posting a link to a specific blog post that outlined fifteen ways we can fix the messed up dating culture we’ve created here in the states. I’m going to refrain from posting a link as I don’t feel like doing the author a favor by giving her a bunch of unwarranted traffic. I’ll briefly touch on each of her points and give my thoughts. I’ve been saying for years … dating in America is a mess because of the games women play, this woman’s blog post only bolsters what I’ve been saying.

1) If you like someone, don’t pretend you don’t.

Gentlemen, how often are we the ones doing the pursuing? When was the last time a woman took the initiative and asked you out? Women get off on the perceived power they have when being pursued … plain and simple.

2) Go on dates.

It’s not for a lack of trying for us guys. How many guys out there have had a date flake on them at the last minute?

3) Don’t use past relationships as a reason to avoid commitment.

Woman screws over and uses guy, he no longer wants commitment and vice versa. This is one of her few points that could go either way, we’ve all compared current flings to our ex’s.

4) Don’t alter what you want.

Women don’t understand that men alter what they want when they start playing games. We either walk away or put them on the back burner.

5) Stop caring about what others think.

My friends/family could care less who I’m dating as long as I’m happy, this must be a woman thing.

6) Quit using people.

I can’t recall the last time I accepted a date only because I wanted free drinks, food, entertainment, etc. Outside of sex, what do men really use women for? I like to think women are intelligent enough to realize when a relationship has turned purely physical.

7) Find out who people are.

Well no shit … that’s kind of what dating is.

8) Have chivalry and respect in every way.

Give me a break, how often has a woman been described as chivalrous? I believe in respect and the golden-rule but women are obsessed with being considered equals so why do they expect been to bend over backwards to kiss their asses?

9) Stop playing with other people’s emotions.

This goes back to game playing, men are the one doing the pursuing, if we’re pursuing you we’re interested … quit making things difficult.

10) Stop settling.

I actually agree with this one, pretty straight forward.

11) Don’t be afraid to be corny.

This ties into being yourself, again pretty straight forward.

12) Move slowly in terms of physical aspects.

If two people are attracted to one another things are going to get physical. Take your fairytale romance elsewhere, this is the real world.

13) You’re young and dating is about learning.

Haha all fine and dandy until you look in the mirror and all your friends are married. I hope you enjoyed all that time you spent jumping from guy to guy!

The author also touches on a few other points but they’re just basic generalizations in terms of dating. While I don’t think it’s a bad article it’s basically a cheap shot at what men can do to help women navigate the dating world. I think too many women of dating-age are really expecting the Disney fairytale romance … this makes thing that much harder for us men.