hotdadguyman:

polemccartney: “you can be asexual and still enjoy and crave sex” uh “you can be a lesbian and still be attracted to men” uuh “you can be trans* without having any disphoria” uuuuh except you CAN be trans without having dysphoria and someone who is a lesbian can still find cis males attractive and asexual peole can have sex and enjoy it (asexual people arent celibate you know.) pls…….. also using the asterisk in trans is incorrect because it excludes non binary people

did i read it wrong or did you just get “be attracted to and find attractive” and “have sex and crave sex” mixed up

no, you fucking can’t. it says right on the title. a lesbian is no more than a woman that feels attraction to and only to women. an asexual is someone that lacks interest for sex. a trans* person is someone who experiences gender disphoria.

people who claim they identify with a word that does not describe them are attaching more to it than it is, they make it a part of their identity. they feel connected to lesbian culture, so hell, they’re lesbians right?

except that, where the fuck does it leave women who actually are only attracted to women? isn’t that the exact kind of bullshit macho narrative that pisses us off? “the right man that can fuck you up good will come and cure you?”

i’m going to paraphrase someone on the internet here: you can’t really fight the “homeless people all have mental illnesses” stereotype, until you address the fact that, yes, a lot of homeless people are in fact mentally ill. same goes for the “lesbians just need cis dick” bullshit. but god forbid we criticize female sexuality, eh?

i’m using the lesbian thing because it speaks to me the most, but you can apply it to the other 2 examples. if you’re a woman and you like women, but still get off to men, that doesn’t make you a new special magical fluid kind of lesbian, it makes you a plain old bisexual.

(and what? isn’t the asterisk the umbrella term?)