I was walking around with my best friend who is tall, thin, and blonde today and we (she) got stared at and oggled by almost every man we passed. It was really awful and made us both very uncomfortable.

We were also talked to by many of the men, and I realized that this doesn’t typically happen to me and that it must be because I was with her. While I was annoyed and disgusted by the amount of men who couldn’t help but stare, I was also disappointed that they weren’t staring at me.

This is one of the dangers of patriarchy, the disgust you feel at being treated like an object to be stared at and yet being upset when you’re not the one being objectified. Its such a hard thing.