Want to turn back the clock to those sexy, curious, early days when you’d just become a couple? You’ve heard the sayings: relationships aren’t easy and marriage is a work in progress. Many are quick to warn about the trials a romance can face once the honeymoon phase comes to an end. But with a little mindfulness, couples can use these tiny tricks to maintain relationship with your partner.

1. Get your adrenaline pumping

Adrenaline is like an aphrodisiac in relationships, especially when you’ve been together for years. It’s what infuses some oomph into otherwise ordinary days. “Sometimes things can start to feel stale and predictable in a long-term relationship. So make sure that you are stimulating your body, which, in turn, stimulates your mind and your emotions.” Give bungee jumping a go if you dare. Too extreme? How about horseback riding or go-karting? Or choose any other activity that you find exciting and gets your adrenaline going.

2. Send a sexy text

Send a sexy text to let your man know he’s on your mind when you’re apart. That’s right, it’s not just for politicians and celebrity athletes; it’s for couples in healthy relationships looking to have a little fun, too. “With technology-based infidelity in the news constantly”. “it’s important to remember that sexting is a great way for committed couples to flirt with each other and make each other smile.”

3. Have a heart-to-heart talk

Does your marriage sometimes feel more like a business arrangement than a love affair? It’s not that surprising when you think about it: You’re most likely partners in a bank account, car or mortgage, or all of the above. But none of that serious stuff came into play when you first fell in love, so try to re-visit that tender pillow-talk stage whenever possible.

4. Say thank you

Every couple knows the importance of saying “I love you.” But, believe it or not, those may not be the magic words your significant other is really longing to hear. “The number one way to improve your relationship is to make your partner feel consistently appreciated,” says Meyers. “And the surest way to do this is to say ‘thank you’ for the little things.” Did he take out the trash? Make dinner? Put his socks in the laundry basket? Let him know it wasn’t lost on you. Plus, there may be an added bonus in showing your appreciation: Forming new good habits.

5. Make eye contact during sex

When you’re having sex, are you thinking about something, somewhere, or someone else? There’s nothing wrong with fantasy when he’s in on it (and occasionally when he isn’t). But closing your eyes can sometimes send the wrong message: You’re only present physically. Keeping your eyes open and looking directly into his reassures him that it’s him, and only him, who’s turning you on in that moment. “Eye contact during sex reinforces the love-making aspect of sex,” says Kerner. “It also enhances the emotional intensity and sense of intimacy.”

6. Do “his” housework sometimes

Is there anything better than waking up to find that your guy emptied the dishwasher after you went to bed? He feels the same way when you handle household chores he’d been putting off, especially when he’s busier than usual. “Being considerate of your partner is the gift that keeps giving,” says Amatenstein. “Not only will he feel he is more than a ‘task-mule,’ he’ll be more inclined to do chores for you when your schedule is crazed.

7. Give compliments…daily

He knows you think he’s smart, funny and sexy. Why else would you be with him for so long, right? Not necessarily. Even if he’s the most confident man on the planet, he’d probably still love to hear about how you feel about him more often – and compliments are a great place to start. “Giving compliments provides a necessary reminder that you find your partner physically and emotionally attractive”. So the next time he tells you about a success at work, let him know you’re not surprised he’s so well-respected. The next time he wows you with his knowledge of American history, tell him you’re impressed with his social studies smarts.

8. Work out together

Being fitness buddies is also a great way to show each other support and encouragement while getting in better physical shape and feeling healthier all around. It even implies that you hope to live a long life in each other’s company. “Working out together gives you a common goal. The couple that sweats together stays together!” Plus, the gym is hot and increases your heart rate, not to mention your libido.

9. Ask him for advice

Want to give your guy an ego boost while showing him how much you respect him, all at the same time? It’s easy: Ask him to guide you through solving a problem you’re having at work or with a friend or family member. “People need to feel needed. “And asking for help is a great way to show your partner that you depend on him in a healthy way.” Requesting his assistance and support is sure to make him feel important, especially if you follow his advice and let him know it led to a favorable outcome.

10. Talk about your future plans

How do you want to spend next weekend, your next vacation, even your retirement? It offers a sense of security to know that, however you spend it, you’ll be spending it as a pair, even if you’re only daydreaming – and a little playfulness can even add to the fun. “For couples, it’s ‘two against the world,’ so talking about your plans in a way that’s positive and aspirational can bring couples closer together”. “Discussing babies, buying a house, and growing old together help couples to bond emotionally.” It can even enhance the desire for intimacy.

11. Kiss more often

Kissing. Remember kissing? We’re not talking about the 2-second peck on the lips – we’re talking those deep, slow, mouth-open kisses. You both used to look forward to it, greet each other with it, brag to your friends about it. So how did it get so completely lost in the shuffle? “Kissing becomes a forgotten act for many couples in long-term relationships, unless it’s during foreplay. “But kissing is probably the simplest, sexiest act there is.” In fact, he says, “Couples who kiss regularly tend to have sex more frequently.” And sex doesn’t need to be the only incentive; sometimes relationships just need a little mouth-to-mouth resuscitation.

12. Ask for what you’re missing

One of the most common mistakes couples make is resenting one another for not knowing what the other is thinking. If you have to ask, where’s the romance, right? But romance is one thing and being realistic is another. “Your partner is not a mind reader”.“He wants to make you happy, but needs instruction on how to make that happen.” So if you need a shoulder rub? Ask for it. If you need more help around the house? Ask for it. And, if you need a date night? Ask for it – or, better yet, take control and plan one yourself.

13. Surprise him

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It’s easy to fall into a routine in a long-term relationship, particularly once you’re living together. And, while making a joint decision to break free of it is nice – i.e. Let’s go to breakfast on Saturday morning for once, instead of sleeping in! – deciding to do something special for him without him knowing about it is even nicer.

14. Touch each other

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Flirting and holding hands isn’t just for twosomes in new relationships; it can keep your bond sealed for the long haul. “Non-sexual intimacy, such as touch and holding hands, lays a foundation for sexual desire”. “Try giving each other a 20-second hug; it’s reputed to boost oxytocin levels – especially in women – and oxytocin is known as the cuddle hormone.” In other words, cuddling once can lead to cuddling again, which can lead to regular cuddling. And can you imagine his delight if you were to unexpectedly pinch his rear when no one else was looking? Try it and see where it goes!

15. Ask about each other’s day

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It’s easy to go through the motions of checking in with one another, when your minds are really on grocery lists, carpool schedules and clients. But how can your relationship grow when you don’t really know what each other is up to during the workday? But just asking the right questions isn’t enough: “Don’t just pay lip service to what he says,” To show that you’ve been listening, be specific: Ask about an ongoing situation, or how a work project he’d mentioned turned out. “It will mean the world to him that you actually pay attention and are invested in his work life.”

16. Be the first to apologize

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Arguing about little things like chores, picking up the kids or spending some extra money doesn’t have to be about who’s wrong and who’s right. Do you want to keep hovering over the tension or do you want to move forward? If it’s the latter, it might require you being the bigger person – if it makes you feel more comfortable, try using humor to get there. “Too often men get stuck on their pride and don’t even remember what they’re angry about,” “When a woman makes the first move towards reconciliation, it often saves the situation from escalating.” And there may be a racy reward, he says: “The nice part about fighting is the make-up sex to follow.”

17. Leave him a note

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Jot down a quick thought on a small piece of paper and slip it into the shirt he’s planning to wear tomorrow – or in his lunch or briefcase. When he finds it, he’ll certainly be thinking about you. “Who doesn’t like a little reminder that he’s special?”. Handwritten notes may feel old-fashioned, but because they’re not the norm it’s another reason why he’ll appreciate the gesture.

18. Reveal a sexual fantasy

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Many women keep their fantasies to themselves because they’re too shy or embarrassed to reveal them even to a spouse. But that could be a mistake, says Kerner: “Fantasy can make familiar moves feel fresh and sexy.” Even incorporating a sexy scenario into your standard foreplay routine can make a huge difference, he explains. “It’s practically guaranteed to enhance arousal. Plus, couples who fantasize together also feel less judged by their partner and ultimately more connected.” That’s potentially a pretty substantial pay-off – but only if you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone.

19. Send flowers for no reason

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Flowers aren’t just for us ladies! Men may be teased a bit at the office for receiving roses, but inside most will just feel adored. You know your guy best, though, and flowers are just one example – any gift will do. Food gifts, such as cookie basket, are also a good bet. “Men are trained to give us flowers and little gifts,” . “How appreciative he’ll be to receive his own!” As an added advantage, showing him how good it feels may lead him to send you a gift back at some point, as well.

20. Go to religious services together

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Varying religious beliefs may be one of the most common causes for break-ups, even divorce, but the opposite is also true. “Studies have shown that sharing a belief in something outside oneself is a powerful marital glue,”. “And couples who pray together are less likely to stray.” So visit your church, synagogue or mosque together regularly to center yourselves as individuals and as a couple. Sermons, and even your spirituality as a whole, can lead to illuminating conversations about your morals and upbringing.

21. Have an impromptu dance party for two

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Long week? Let loose! Turning on some tunes, cranking up the volume and getting jiggy with it can break tension of all kinds for a twosome. It reintroduces silliness to your relationship and breaks down barriers, especially when things have reached the point of all seriousness all the time. “A dance party for two can be incredibly fun and sexy,”. Feeling a little risqué? “Start fast and then end slow, removing a few items of clothing in between.” Sounds like a vote for “Sexual Healing!”

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