We understand that it’s tricky to get someone the perfect wedding gift.

But sometimes it’s best to stick to the registry… or at least avoid more sensitive areas.

A wedding guest has been called ‘insensitive’ online for gifting a bride a pregnancy test, pacifiers, and onesies for her wedding day.

That alone would be a problematic gift (don’t assume a couple is going to have kids right away just because they tied the knot), but the bride in question is infertile.


The bride wrote on Twitter: ‘Someone gave me a pregnancy test, pacifiers, and onesies as a wedding gift and that is just super inappropriate?



‘Even if I wanted children (which I don’t) I am infertile and a gift like that is extremely insensitive.’

The tweet was shared in a wedding shaming group on Facebook, where the bride explained that her guests know she’s infertile and doesn’t want children, but she’s constantly told she’s ‘selfish’ for not procreating.

She blamed the rude gift on ‘Mormon newlywed culture’, explaining that in her religion there’s a lot of emphasis on having a large family.

‘These people know I’m infertile, and they know I don’t want to have kids,” she wrote.

‘They keep telling me over and over again, I’ll change my mind or that I’m being selfish and immature for not having kids. I have repeatedly asked them to not bring it up.’

In the Facebook group, people were unimpressed with the choice of present.

‘This is incredibly weird and unacceptable,’ said one comment. ‘Nothing would make that okay as a wedding gift.’

Some said that they received baby-related gifts at their wedding and found the gesture incredibly helpful, but there’s an important factor to consider: whether the bride has openly declared that she’d like baby-themed gifts.

If someone has openly said they want to have children the moment they’re married, go ahead and get them a thoughtful gift to help them on their journey.

But if they haven’t, steer clear. Not everyone wants children or can have them, and confronting people with reminders of offspring is incredibly rude.

Next time, just get them a nice juicer. Everyone appreciates a juicer.

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