Well if you read his book there are quite a few "cucked" charachter in it, by that i mean charachters who are in love with a female but the girl gets together with a third guy, these guys are usually POV charachters (there are exceptions of course). These things probably come from personnal experience, If I had to guess at least one of his gf probably left him for another man throughout his life time.



There's also what i would call 3 "main romance" Jaime/Brienne Sansa/Sandor Khal Drogo/Dany, what is interesting about them is that all of them have a more than 10 year gap (the 3 age gap is probably the same in terms of years), and these romances get "extra attention" from the author. If I had to guess, Martin once was deeply in love with a girl at least ten years younger than him (she was probably a teenager), but he could never get her, so he tries to get her in his books.



This actually sounds pretty sad tbh.



There's also his self reported bafflement as why girls ship Sansa and Sandor.... so yeah...saying that he misjudged women is an understatement.



P.S.: The reason i'm writing this because my friends are showplebs or just completley unfamilliar with the story and I can't talk about things like that with them.