Taylor Swift has been my spirit animal, at least when it comes to love.

But now she's gone from an intense, mildly private romance with Calvin Harris to, in a matter of weeks, a public free-for-all with Tom Hiddleston. And now I'm wondering if, in the wise words of Jennifer Aniston post Brad Pitt breakup, Taylor's missing a sensitivity chip.

My own love life can be a shambles at times—but that's ok, because Taylor Swift's was too.

Through her lyrics, she had been by my side through every woe. She seemed to truly understand the topsy-turvy nature of relationships. She was my ultimate torchbearer, she understood love can be transcendental and complicated, heartbreak both paralyzing and cleansing.

She sang about the longing, the yearnings, the mess that's left behind when things fall apart…she seemed to get it. She made me feel better about my own romantic disasters as I experienced hers through her music.

I thought I knew Taylor all too well, but… I'm not sure I can even listen to her songs at the moment.