Originally Posted by ForumGuy

You either have to divorce your husband or give up any contact with your ex. If you try to have it both ways, you will be emotionally cheating on your husband, and in a sense, you already are. I know it is hindsight, but when you get married, you don't cross some lines from the very onset. In this case, you crossed the line when you visited and saw him and really even talking to him in the first place when you knew these feelings were unresolved.