(Picture: Love Honey)

Up until a month ago, I’d never touched a sex toy.

I’m 22, in a long-term relationship and though my sex-life is no longer in its ‘honeymoon stage’ I’d say I have a pretty regular, healthy sex life.

Sex toys, in the past, have just never appealed to me. Don’t get me wrong, I had nothing against them. But when my friends were raving about how brilliant they were – and how they always kept a trusty vibrator in their underwear drawer – I just didn’t see the big deal.

What could a sex toy do that my fingers couldn’t?




I have a bit of ‘me time’ on the regular. I think it’s an important part of staying in touch with your sexuality and experimenting with what you like to help improve your own sex life and make it as satisfying as possible.

But I think that was a part of the problem. While I got off for myself, a big part of it was to aid my sex life. Yet, to experience something truly gratifying alone, sometimes you need to be the sole focus.

You need to be selfish.

There was also another problem. I’d grown slightly bored of masturbation – even though I still continued to do it. A couple of years ago, I started watching porn because I was finding it hard to orgasm by creating scenarios in my head – no matter how detailed they were.

The great thing with porn is that there’s so much selection. You can find something to satisfy whatever mood you’re in. It’s quick and easy – but it’s also quite lazy.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t watch porn during sex. However, because I’d become so used to using porn as an aid during masturbation, I couldn’t get off without it. I needed something there in front of me visually, because my fingers and my imagination were no longer enough.

Thinking about how same-old my alone time had become, I finally decided to get a sex toy. There was no harm in it.

No worries if it wasn’t that great, at least I’d tried and had the opportunity to see what the hype was all about.

So, I headed over to the Love Honey site, and received a bunch of sex toys a few days later.

I won’t lie, I was a little bit nervous when the postman knocked on my door – worried he’d had a sneak peek before handing the box over. But the box was still tightly sealed, thank God.

I took the box into my bedroom while my partner was at work, and found my new vibrators, bullets and glass dildo (yes, really).

I was both scared and excited for what was to come.

(Picture: Hattie Gladwell/Love Honey)

I started small. I took out a Tracey Cox ‘supersexbulletvibe’ bullet vibrator. The bullet is made of metal and as you can imagine, was pretty cold and uncomfortable to use without a bit of lube.



It had a number of settings, but as I used it to attempt arousal I just couldn’t get on with it. The metal felt weird and given many of us, including myself, can often only achieve a clitoral orgasm, this was a no-go. I gave it a good go but couldn’t bring myself to insert it no matter how much lube I used.

It was too small, too thin and just felt as though someone was poking around at me.

As a sex toy noob I later found out it was for clitoral stimulation, so looking back there’s a good reason I didn’t get on with it…

But I wasn’t going to give up.

The following day, I decided to attempt to use another vibrator in the evening, when it was darker and I was more relaxed.

I used the Fifty Shades of Grey Mini G-Spot Vibrator. And with this one, we had lift off.

The vibrator, though tiny, is a work of art. It’s made using silicone and simulates a finger – so while it doesn’t feel like you’re having sex, it saves you having to tire out your wrist.

(Picture: Dave Anderson for Metro.co.uk)

The mini vibrator also works wonders through means of penetration – which was a miracle considering I’d never really been that bothered about it without clitoral stimulation. However, this ‘wand’ as it’s so perfectly been dubbed (as yes, it is incredibly magical), is curved to tickle your G-spot and has a number of vibration settings for ultimate pleasure.


While I could still only reach clitoral orgasm with this toy, it was a lot more promising than what I can only describe as the metal rod I’d used the previous day.

I decided to give the sex toys a break for the rest of the week – I didn’t want to start preferring them to my partner after all (sorry to my boyfriend if you’re reading this).

But the next week, I jumped a little further into the deeper end. This time, I tried the First Time Dual Exciter G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator. Despite its name, I chose not to use this first because the bullets looked less intimidating.

The First Time rabbit, however, looked way more exciting – especially as it can be used in water.

Basically, this rabbit is perfect for anyone who wants a bit of alone time while there are other people in the house. While bath water doesn’t minimise the sound of the vibrations – of which there are three speeds to choose from – stick a bit of music on beside you and it’s the perfect distraction.

It also works wonders in the shower. Trust me, I tried.

This vibrator has a two-pronged approach to pleasure for ‘twice the fun’ in half the time. And, instead of rabbit ears, the toy has an external stimulator which features a thick thumb with a tapered end that sends ‘steady vibrations straight to your pearl’.

Using a waterproof lube, the toy was glorious and using it in a bubble bath made it feel ten-times sexier. I orgasmed in no time, and stayed in the bath a little longer to try out the other speeds, too.


I went from a speed one to a speed three pretty quickly, proving myself to be ready for the scarier, but likely more pleasurable editions.

I worked myself up over the following night, bracing myself for a bigger, better sex toy. The Jessica Rabbit.

The Jessica Rabbit was everything and more. The Slimline Rabbit Vibrator left me literally shaking.

The rabbit has 10 functions, including vibrating rabbit ears and a swirling beaded shaft. Reading the information leaflet that comes accompanied with the toy, I was anxious about using it – worried that the swirling shaft would be uncomfortable.

But my god was I wrong.

After getting comfy, turning the lights off and loading up a video, I turned on the vibrator at its lowest speed. As I got more turned on, I increased the speed, using it solely for clitoral stimulation.

(Picture: Dave Anderson)

When I was finally at ease, I turned on the swirling function and suddenly I was experiencing everything at once.

The vibrations were giving me seriously intense feelings of reaching climax while the swirling setting – of which I turned up to speed two (I doubt I’ll ever be ready for the final speed) – was hitting my G-spot with every circle.

I was enjoying testing out the seven vibration patterns so much that I ditched my iPhone and focused on myself and my own pleasure. It was the first time in a long time that I hadn’t used porn to accompany getting off.

It was as if everything had come at once (quite literally). I’ve never had an orgasm quite like it. Both clitoral and penetrative, I experienced the most intense of sensations that left me pretty much in shock. Seriously, my legs were shaking, my breathing heavy and my head dizzy.

It’s safe to say, this toy will forever be my go-to from now on.

While I still have a number of toys left to try, I think I’m going to incorporate them into my own sex-life to make it a bit more adventurous. I wouldn’t want my partner to think I was more interested in toys over him (which I’m totally not, FYI).

But I can now happily say I’ve tried and tested a number of sex toys and I can finally see what all the hype was about. In fact, using a sex toy for me, was liberating.

And most importantly, I’m really happy that I’m no longer so reliant on porn to get myself off – it’s nice to focus on my own moaning instead of someone else’s.

To my girlfriends who’ve spent years telling me to invest in a sex toy: I’m sorry, I was wrong – and I only wish I’d listened to you guys sooner.

MORE: It can be painful but it’s also incredibly sexy – here’s why everyone should try anal sex just once

MORE: Pegging the question: Why strap-ons are a brilliant way of experiencing sex

Advertisement Advertisement