Neoflex Wed 20-Dec-17 09:42:51

She's received a mh diagnosis but refuses medication or therapy so there's not a lot you can do to intervene. The dh has been a saint for the past few years but he had to distance himself for his own sanity. He is still paying her rent and checking in but a lot of support has stopped. I don't blame him, he's put up with everything you can imagine, cheating, fighting, her going missing, drug and alcohol abuse.



We've tried sitting her down for a chat. When things are bad the response is that we are being controlling, we don't understand the situation, and to stay out of it. When things get better we are asked why we didn't do more to intervene.



We've all been lashed out at, some time or other past couple of years. I've distanced myself too, but my door is always open if she needs to come for a chat. And whatever someone has done, they don't deserve to be sat hungry with no gifts over Christmas unless it's a mumsnet mil