You meet a person. They like you, you like them. You start sharing movies, TV series and music. Late night chats begin, and you’re about to take the relationship to the next level. However, suddenly everything stops. No messages, no replies. Your calls are blocked, you’re unfriended and your chats ignored.

You wonder what exactly happened? Are they dead? Is this a prank? Where on earth have they disappeared?

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This act of disappearing is called ‘Ghosting’. Ghosting is one of the most, common dating problems today. Either of the people leaves and gives the person a hell of a time.

“I started talking to my crush and things were going in the way as I expected. I was very happy with how things were going between us. However, suddenly this guy stopped talking to me. No messages, no reply. My calls were blocked. I kept thinking what I did that made this person ignore me completely. It was crazy! Years later, a friend told me that he was two-timing when he was talking/texting to me. And that’s when I got closure.” Pooja Bhatt (name changed on person’s request) tells us.

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In the era of Tinder, ghosting has become quite normal. There are times when dates (or should I say matches?) don’t show up. That’s ok as you can move over because you haven’t spend much time talking to each other. Getting stood up isn’t a big deal as feelings aren’t involved much. However, ghosting tears you apart, because along with the time which you have invested in the relationship, your feelings go in vain.

In 2012, ghosting was considered the least ideal method to break up next to breaking up with somebody electronically.

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Ghost victims take it a lot to their heart. Sometimes they don’t get over the fact that the person they like doesn’t want to talk to them. Yash Mahadik, an 18-year-old college student met a girl online. “I added her on Facebook and got her number. We started talking and whatsapping. When I suggested that we should meet, she blocked me on Facebook, on WhatsApp and on calls too! Till date, I pray that she should come back in my life.”

So, why is closure so important?

Since you don’t know what you did, your entire world turns topsy-turvy. Your thoughts are dedicated only to think what exactly happened. ‘Are they busy or did they meet with an accident, are they pulling a prank or are they bored.’ You can’t rest a bit until you find the answer to your question. But the answers don’t arrive. You keep over thinking things and the closure evades.

In every blooming relationship, a simple line of “I don’t think we’re right for each other” can end things mutually. Though you would feel bad, cry for few days, you would still get over it. It’s, therefore, closure is important.

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(Have you ever being ghosted? We would like to hear from you in the comments section.)