Each episode of Hot Girls Wanted: Turned On depicts the pitfalls, compulsions, threats, and unexpected tenderness of love and sex in the digital age. Four of the six episodes examine different genres of online porn, and every installment explores the intimacy — sexual or otherwise — that internet users perform for strangers online. Although the Tinder episode has some of the lightest subject matter in the series, it was nonetheless “one of our most difficult episodes to cast, because not many people want to cop to this type of bad dating behavior,” according to Gradus. For his part, Rhine is unconcerned with what “randos on the internet” might think about him. “I took the entire experience as a learning experience,” he said. “The one thing they can say, whether [audiences] like me or don't like me, is that I'm gonna be honest. I think in the end, that's all we really want to be judged by.”

Rhine is a former Big Brother contestant, and given his history with reality TV, “it took a significant amount of work to get him not to perform,” Bauer said. Gradually, he began “leveling” with them: In a raw moment toward the end of the episode, the aforementioned “sensitive” woman confronts him in person (the filmmakers had to shoot from a distance, at her request). That conversation spurs a string of revelations for Rhine, and he later grapples with his bad behavior; during one of these scenes, he shows the filmmakers a notebook containing a list of women he’s slept with. “For me being 40 years old, it’s just completely unacceptable behavior,” he tells the camera at one point, looking shaken.

Rhine told BuzzFeed News the unsettling epiphany stuck. “Sitting there watching her cry and break down like that over something that I personally didn't think was that significant was a good reminder as to the fact that you sit back, get off your phone, and pay attention to how these other people are feeling. You're affecting other people, and you're not doing it in a good way,” he said. “Not that I believe in complete gender roles, but I was taught how a man should be: You're supposed to be honest and up front, and you're supposed to be considerate for other people, and that was something I wasn't doing.”

After that on-camera confrontation, he soon changed the age range preferences on his dating apps: Viewers learn that on Bumble his preference was previously set to 20 to 35, but he changed it to 25 to 40.

Recalling that shift, Rhine told BuzzFeed News, “Just because you can do something doesn't mean it's right.” Before, he said he wasn’t being honest with himself about what he wanted: marriage, children. “I want to settle down and get away from this lifestyle,” he said. “The reason I'm not finding people to be with long-term is because I'm not dating people that are in that mindset. They aren't even themselves yet.” Now the low end of his age preferences has inched up to 28.