I haven’t really experienced this problem of women wanting to make dramatic changes to me. I guess the ones that tried got frustrated and disappeared on their own.

Now I will say that I married an independent woman later in life in our 40s (neither of us were married before because neither of us wanted to compromise much or give up our opposite-sex friends)

and she “stuck” because she liked me for most of who/what I am. Not all of course. Of course she tells me what she LIKES or does NOT LIKE about me without any bulls~~~ manipulations. It is my choice to comply, or not without fear of reprisal. BUT…and this is important for you guys who have not given up on women yet…I enjoy making my woman happy when I CAN. She is not wild about beards and I don’t care either way – so I stay clean shaven. I don’t mind shaving every day. I do not identify with my facial hair. I like my wife to shave her legs and underarms. This is a pain in the ass for her I am sure, but she does it because I like it.

I could give you a long list of things we do to make each other happy, and things we DON’T DO because we feel strongly about it. For one…I hate sitting in a movie theater on a beautiful day to be outdoors. She LOVES movies. This is what her old boyfriends or girlfriends are for – go to the movies with her. It keeps both of us happy at the same time even though we are apart. My wife loves watching the evening news and I freaking HATE that. So I plug in my earbuds and vanish to my office for 30 minutes to surf porn on the web (or whatever) and blow my eardrums out with music. Yes, it is OUR house and I have a right to some peace and quiet when I get home from work and she has a right to watch what she wants on the TV. When the news is over we get together if we feel like it.

Sure I had to date a lot of women to find this one, but point is…giving up would not have done me much good. I kept swinging the bat until I finally connected and sent one out of the park in center field.

So for you guys who are determined to change NOTHING for a good woman, you won’t have any worries because you won’t keep one for long. For you dudes who aren’t so attached to your “Batman mustache” that it turns you Monk, keep swinging for the fences. Even if you never find a “keeper” the hunt can be a blast!