“Our nursing relationship has been a journey of acceptance and letting go. Despite my extensive efforts to nurse our first daughter, it didn’t work out how I envisioned or hoped. I pumped 8 times a day for 5 months before I had to stop, something I regret still today. When our second daughter was born, I was more aware of the support in our community and was proactive when we needed help. We had a tough beginning but we got through it together. Here we are, 3 years later, and she still nurses occasionally. Sometimes, I feel touched out…sometimes I fear that maybe today is the last time for “nursies” or what she calls “my-tees.” There are days I want to stop cold turkey but then notice she’s not ready and realize I am not either. All over the world, women nurse their children until they are ready to be finished. But here, it’s faux pas. Nursing for comfort or connection is not really why we continue. I know I can comfort her or connect with her in other ways, as I do with our older daughter. For now, this just works for us…it’s special quiet time with just her. When we are ready to stop, we will. Until then, it’s still “my-tee” time.”