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BEST ANSWER this is what happened to me today, I have a boy and i sooo wanted a girl. All i've done since I've found out is cry and cry. I hate that i feel this way but I really truely do not want another boy. : ( snowboarder_mom08 Answered 7/17/12 19 found this helpful

When I found out I was having a boy three years ago, I too was disappointed. However, I never once thought that I didn't want it anymore. After just a few weeks of finding out it was a boy I was over the disapointment and couldn't wait to meet him. My question is how could not want your child just because of his sex. He is a part of you and you made him. God gave him to to love because he trusts with his precious gift of life. It is God's will for you to have this baby boy. I feel sorry for and wish my best to both you and the child you feel you don't want in your body anymore. Just have faith. There are women out there who would love to even be able to get pregnant and be estatic for it to be a boy. You have been blessed and I truly hope you find the happiness as I have with my own son. momtwinkies Answered 4/26/08 17 found this helpful

I'm pregnant have 0 desire to have children but my husband wanted one more. He already has a son, so I agreed and really wanted a girl and so did he. Well its a boy. Im beyond disappointed, angry and quite honestly hate this baby. I feel no connection, no joy, and honestly wished I never gotten pregnant. Im sick of people telling me it'll change. No it won't. Please stop telling me this same advice. jessmontero831 Answered 3/11/15 12 found this helpful

I understand exactly what the reader is feeling. I just found out that I am having another boy and do not want it either. I know that is not the "mom" thing to say but i don't. I worry that I will not be able to love the child because it is not want I want. And no this does not have anything to do with my age. I have to older boys 9 and 7 both of whom I love dearly. A girl is what I have begged and prayed for since my first child and still a no go. I advise her to give the baby up if she does not want it. Don't force yourself to try to love it because that will only create bad times and feelings. You will grow to resent the child even more with every passing day. And that is dangerous. peachyneat Answered 3/15/11 12 found this helpful

I will give you the bad news about having only male children as a mother...as a woman....I hate to admit this but to be honest to myself I will admit it...I am bitter! ...I felt happy,full of love, normal motherly feelings raising my boys..no different than the love moms have for their baby girls. Heres the problem....when they grow up to be men....totally different story! You no longer mean much to them. Their wives become their new mommies and they go with whatever the girls want and you take a back seat! Its horrible! Had I known this , I wouldnt have devoted my best years to just be thrown out like an,old shoe when they left home. At least with a girl you stand a better chance of keeping a family and mattering and talking to someone when you get old. After all...isnt that kind of the goal when having and raising kids to enjoy family or is it just to reproduce and then gone with the wind... Sadmomof2boys Answered 8/5/17 11 found this helpful

Hi, Im a boy (well man now), and it pains me on a physical, emotional and mental level reading the some of the posts on this thread since I have lived my whole life with a mother that never wanted a boy. when I was a child i never understood what I had done wrong to my mother, I was constantly berated and chastised by her. I grew up thinking I was a bad child, but I had no clue what I was doing wrong (age 10)/ As a result i would try extra hard at things. homework, school, chores, extra quiet just so i would not get in trouble (so i thought) but to no avail, i was always treated as a wrongen. it was only until my late teens and early twenties that accepted the truth that i knew that the back of my mind. my mum never wanted a boy and always thought boys were disgusting, girls were the jewls of the world. from a man. please do not raise an unwanted boy - do the right thing and give it for adoption. dont ruin that childs life. it was never his fault. im begging please. please please. a BabyCenter member Answered 5/27/18 11 found this helpful

I'm so sad reading the posts from women who don't want their babies. It reminds me of how I felt when I was suffering from postnatal depression. It took me nearly 3 years to get over it but I can honestly swear, my baby was the best thing that ever happened to me. My baby's now ten years old and is my entire world. I cannot imagine life without her. Ignore these heartless fools who tell you that you are a terrible person. You didn't choose to feel this way and by posting here, you're reaching out for help. The internet is a cruel place though, seek help from a professional. I know most of you would be inclined to try cope alone but that is NOT a good idea. I promise there is so much light at the end of the tunnel. a BabyCenter member Answered 12/17/17 11 found this helpful

Yet another “woman” who doesn’t understand prenatal depression. Sometimes that’s how you think and you CANNOT help it! Will these women do that? No. I thought the same thing and it scared me! Then I got help. That’s all these women were doing. Get off your high horse and focus on something you actually know about. Courtney0433 Answered 2/9/19 9 found this helpful

i can relate, and i can also say that it will pass and you will fall in love with ur baby sooner or later. when i found out i was having a girl i was upset, i dont know why. It got better. hang in there don't worry. a BabyCenter member Answered 4/26/08 8 found this helpful