The Me Too movement cannot possibly be fought by women and survivors alone. Like any struggle for equality, progress requires a change from those who, thanks to our patriarchal society, sit in power: men.

Real progress isn’t limited to taking down high-profile alleged predators like R. Kelly and Harvey Weinstein; it comes when everyday men, the “good guys,” join the conversation. But as in any fight for equality, assuming allyship can be a complicated process, requiring men to hold themselves accountable for less obvious forms of sexism.

“[Men] don’t want to talk about those more subtle things because they don’t want to look in the mirror,” said Taryn Finley, editor of HuffPost Black Voices, speaking on “ICYMI by HuffPost.” “They don’t want to actually change because they don’t want to be seen as a predator themselves or as someone who does predatory behavior.”

For men to truly show up for the Me Too movement, two things need to happen, added Aaron Rose, a conscious masculinity coach. Men need to heal from the patriarchy, and they need to hold each other accountable. In that order.

Healing is where Rose steps in. Through online workshops, he empowers men to shed the elements of toxic masculinity they have learned and adopt a healthier masculine expression. And as a trans man, Rose intimately understands the identity crisis that he’s seeing among men in this moment.

Drawing parallels with own his transition, Rose said he has “deep compassion for what it feels like to have been told over and over and over again that your authentic emotional expression was going to get you in trouble.”