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The emotions in cuckold relationships are usually complex and can be at times intense. In order to prevent problems, both the man and woman need to learn to first carefully consider their emotions and discuss things prior to doing anything and on a regular basis as they immerse themselves in this special lifestyle.

The woman must reconcile her societal conditioning. Most women have been raised to be “good girls”, meaning they were expected to suppress their sexuality and enjoyment of sexual pleasures. The cuckold should make it clear to the woman that he accepts and supports the sensual and sexual pleasure she enjoys outside their relationship while he remains faithful to her. This is important for most women so they do not feel the guilt associated with what they would normally perceive as infidelity, and so they can fully enjoy their sexual freedom. In some cases, special consideration must be given to help the woman overcome her good-girl conditioning.

Virtually all cuckold men experience a varied set of emotions that often leaves them feeling conflicted about their situation. Many men bounce between several different emotional states as they ponder their situation – arousal, fear, guilt, humiliation, jealousy, regret, shame, submissiveness. This is one reason that couples should not rush into doing anything. The novice cuckold needs time to adjust emotionally to his conflicted feelings.

This rich set of emotions the man experiences is known as “cuckold angst” which many men actually learn to appreciate. For other men, special consideration is needed to help them overcome the negative emotions they experience. It is important to recognize the important role a modern cuckold can have in a woman’s life. He can be her life mate, helper, confidante and servant. His most valuable trait is his willingness to support the woman emotionally, sexually and sensually in addition to being faithful to he while she enjoys her sexual freedom. To most, he appears to be a typical husband/boyfriend but to her he is an invaluable part of her life.

In the next installment I will review some key lifestyle terminology and cuckold sub-categories.