I must say the number of posts, and comments on facebook since Friday saying the reason we have school violence is because prayer is not allowed in schools really bothers me. Mike Huckabee decided to proclaim, "We ask why there’s violence in our schools, but we’ve systematically removed God from our schools. Should we be so surprised that schools have become a place of carnage?". His thoughts have now spread like wildfire among many Christians who blame this horrendous attack on the removal of prayer in public schools. The Atheist parent who lost their child is hurting just as much, their world has been destroyed, their whole lives ripped apart, and an unfulfillable hole left in their heart, just the same as the Christian parent. The fact that many Christians find the best way to comfort this grieving parent is to basically say 'If prayer was still in schools your child would still be here', is anything but Christlike to me!!!FIRST: No one is stopping any one from praying in schools. Any person can pray in America ANY time, ANY where! Under the Equal Access Act students may, in any public school, form a Christian organization. True, it's the students who must be the ones to organize it. Teachers may sponsor the group, and attend the meetings, but all organizing must be done by the students. If they choose to meet everyday to read scripture, and say a morning prayer around the flagpole, then they have every right to do that...NO ONE IS STOPPING THEM!!SECOND: I find this line of thought very disrespectful to the families of the children who were killed. How many of those families were Christians, strong Christians? How many of those precious 6 and 7 year old children were on their knees the night before thanking the Lord for their parents, their teachers, their friends and asking God to protect those around them? How many of those parents watched their children board the bus, or dropped them off at school, and said the same prayer that I, and many others, say every morning 'Lord please watch over my baby today'? How many of those families have sat together over the past few weeks reading the Christmas story, and discussing what many of us believe Christmas is truly about? Yet, this tragedy strikes, and it's turned into a blame game of God not being in the classroom. That is an insult to those families....It's saying it's not enough for you to believe in, and pray to, God...God is so upset that principals can't read Bible verses over the intercom, that now he's no longer there. For those who believe, he was there...in their hearts. The same as he was at church on Sunday, at soccer practice on Tuesday, at the dinner table on Thursday night. I guarantee you the parents who are strong in their faith, yet are still suffering a loss far beyond what most of us can fathom, do not want to hear 'Our faith wasn't good enough, because no one began class with a prayer. If the lunatic gunman had just been exposed to scripture a little bit more, if his teacher had have read the Lord's Prayer to him everyday, my child would be home safe and sound tonight.'America is a DIVERSE nation. Our founding fathers left a nation where religion was forced by the government, and those who did not follow the teachings of the church were persecuted. Where laws were made taking religion into account first. They did not want America to be that nation. That is why the VERY FIRST RIGHT they granted Americans was "FREEDOM OF RELIGION". Many of our founding fathers were Christians, and their faith and values played a large role in their decisions, but forcing their beliefs on another was something they vowed not to do, and they made it very clear that it was not the way America would operate. It is our Constitution that doesn't allow prayer in schools, not Obama, not some liberal left wing attack group, but our Constitution!!So YES, these families need our prayers, our nation needs our prayers. But at the same time if one of those babies came from an Atheist family, or a Muslim family, or a Buddhist family, my heart breaks equally for them. This tragedy did not happen because those families believed differently than I do. Those families are not hurting any less, and their lack of faith in Christ did not cause this tragedy. No matter their faith, or lack thereof, those families should be held up, supported, and shown the love of our nation, not have it repeatedly thrown in their face that not wanting the Bible in a public classroom, because they don't believe the same way others do, played a part in taking the life of their child.I know some people will get upset by this. But it's something that has been weighing heavily on me all weekend. My Christ asked me to love others, not judge others, be kind, generous, compassionate. He never asked me to be forceful, to place blame. In Matthew 6, Jesus himself, instructed us to pray in private. God's word does not command us to be the loudest, most vocal, most forceful. If two or more gather in his name he will be there. The Bible, God's word, does not command that a principal recite a verse, or a teacher lead us in prayer. But he does tell us that when those students were huddled in the closet, those teachers were barricading their doors, the emergency personnel were getting ready to rush in, when so very many of them were silently in prayer, that he was there...government sponsored or not, he was there!!I am a Christian, but many of my friends are not. I have friends of many faiths, Agnostic friends, and Atheist friends. My Atheist friends, while they do not teach their children to believe in Jesus, they do teach them right from wrong, they do instill in them the same morals and values that many Christians claim as 'Christian morals and values'. They teach them love, compassion, understanding, honesty, integrity, dependability, strength, discipline, responsibility. Honestly, since they do not teach them that Christ can forgive all sins, they instill in them the belief to live right the first time, because that is the only chance you get, that praying for forgiveness doesn't erase the wrongs you've done. They do not teach them to murder people, to hurt people for no reason, to bully people, to cheat or steal, to abuse, most all of them say 'Merry CHRISTmas', when they suffer they appreciate when a Christian tells them they are praying for them, they have no problem with anyone wearing a cross or a Christian t-shirt, saying grace before a meal, or pausing for moment of prayer. They just do not want to be forced to say grace or participate in prayer.As a nation we should all be upset by this senseless tragedy, we should grieve together for what is truly an unthinkable act, and for those of us who believe in the power of prayer we should definitely pray. But placing the blame on not having a Bible on the teacher's desk, and not having the 10 Commandments hung by the principal's door, is not, in my opinion, the way to address it. That alone is not a guarantee that it won't happen again, and it's most certainly not the way to help comfort those families who need us the most right now.