Editor’s Note: Will Youngblood has worked as a celebrity assistant in Los Angeles, CA for 12 years. He graduated from Biola University with a degree in Communications and a minor in Biblical Studies.

Having good guy swag is accepting people at face value, no judgements or conditions.

I’m boring. I know I’m boring. With the exception of one story about me getting drunk in college and subsequently getting stuck on the roof of a house, you probably won’t hear any tales of public nudity or wild antics about me. I’m practical and hard working and determined and I actually like reading the Bible. That’s me. Like I said, boring.

I made a list at the beginning of the year of things I wanted to change about myself to be a better person. The first thing on the list was a sexy, new body. I’m shallow that way. So I chose CrossFit as my method of torture. Mainly, because I’m a masochist and I like being part of a community.

Meeting a Porn Star through CrossFit

On the first day, I walked in and challenged them with, “If CrossFit doesn’t work for me, I’m just gonna let myself go and get super fat.” Then…it happened. I met a girl. A tall, blonde, Finnish girl. Her name was Johanna. The first thing I noticed about her was her chest. I’m a good Southern boy that way (Hi mom!). Then, we started talking and I couldn’t stop laughing. She was my female Tyler Durden. Fit, funny, outgoing and not boring at all.

We started the group workout and it was stupid hard. I almost puked (real men puke at the gym). Everyone finished way before me, so now I’m the only one still trying to finish the workout while everyone just sits there watching me. Then Johanna came over and said, “How many sit-ups do you have left?” I attempted to reply through heavy breathing, “50”. She smiled and said, “I’ll do them with you.” And she did. Thank you Jesus for sending this wonderful angel to save me from CrossFit hell! Johanna is the only reason I got through that workout. And that was the beginning of a really amazing friendship. It’s been a few months now and we schedule ourselves to be at the gym everyday at the same time so we can workout together.

Oh, did I mention she’s a porn star? I guess that’s kind of important. Yeah, she’s a porn star. And a famous one at that. But I didn’t recognize her from anything I’d seen…in the past (Hi mom!). And yes, a guy and a porn star can just be friends. While I have thoughts on this whole porn thing, I’m not going to let that keep me from getting to know someone. And on a personal note, I’m really just trying to keep my own life from spinning out of control. Aren’t we all? And if God has grace for me, He has grace for her too.

So, what do a conservative Christian and a porn star have in common? I was really surprised, but quite a bit. A guy at the gym found out she works in porn and he was shocked. He later found out that I’m a Christian and was equally shocked. He said, “How are the two of you friends?” I said, “We just like each other.” After he left, Johanna said she never really knows who she can tell about working in porn because she doesn’t know how they will react. And I said I feel the same way about telling people I’m a Christian in Los Angeles. We talked about how we both feel misunderstood and sometimes rejected by the mainstream.

There are many things that impress me about Johanna. She’s smart, quick-witted, and driven. She sets goals for herself and she goes after them until she’s accomplished them. She’s even written a book! A few weeks ago, we were talking about her desire to get into public speaking, and last week she had her first public speaking gig. Incredible and inspiring. But most of all, she cares about other people. She wants them to feel included, and she was even willing to do an extra 50 sit-ups so the new guy at the gym didn’t feel awkward. Now, I love spending time with Johanna at the gym. We encourage each other through the workouts and we have fun doing it. By the way, I’ve lost 30 lbs this year! Ask me to take my shirt off. I’ll probably do it…but I don’t want to make anyone stumble. (See, even my Christian humor is boring.)

I’m not here to encourage anyone’s non-Biblical life decisions, but I know I would have missed out on a friendship with a pretty incredible person if I had let that stop me from getting to know her. At the end of the day, I just want everyone to know they are LOVED. Not just by me, but by God.

I’ve stopped referring to her as “my porn star friend”. Now I simply call her Johanna. I would have put her name in the title of this blog post, but you wouldn’t have read this far without the porn reference. (Busted!)

If you’re watching porn, remember that these are real people with real lives. And in real life, they couldn’t care less about what’s below your belt.