Some things you should know about us:



We are a system with six identified members. On this blog, you’ll see Ashlyn (she/her), Ayin (it/its; she/her acceptable if necessary), Parker (they/them), and occasionally Zukka (she/her). Eva (she/her) does not post. We won’t be discussing the sixth here at all. When a post comes from one of us in particular, we’ll tag it with #WWP: <name>; #WWP: Garneting indicates that Ashlyn and Ayin are cofronting well enough that it’s hard to tell who is saying what. We prefer to avoid “host and alter” language, as it doesn’t match our experience and does imply a hierarchy we don’t believe in.



Ayin is in her early 30s; Ashlyn is in her early 20s; Parker is 16; Zukka slides between ~16 and ~20. Our body is in its 30s as well.



Ashlyn and Zukka are trans women, Ayin genderless, Parker genderfuck. We are neurodivergent (autistic and several personality disorders), polyamorous, kinky, and proudly queer. Ashlyn is a lesbian, Ayin bisexual, Parker has no clue except “no dudes,” and Zukka is aroace. We talk about one or more of these things a lot.



We are in the process of converting to Judaism. We will not say anything further on the subject in public, as people have attempted to interfere with other converts because of politics we share.



If you’re antagonistic toward any of those things, or toward a generally inclusive social justice, we don’t particularly need you in our notes or on our follower count. If you condone or support harassment, smear campaigns, anon hate, or block-dodging for any reason whatsoever, you are a bully, probably an abuser, and we want you as far from us as possible.



We are white, Western, able-bodied, English-speaking, partially educated, and from a lower-class but generally comfortable background.



We do not knowingly engage with hostile minors beyond a single response and block.



We probably don’t post solid original content as much as you hoped.



Our spoon levels and mental health can be highly variable and surprising to us, and our memories are terrible. We may have difficulty responding to requests or handling issues in a timely manner. Asks may go unanswered or be forgotten if we’re not doing well. We may take time off here and there, sometimes for days at a stretch. Managing our health is our first priority. Please keep that in mind if you come to us with an urgent or important request, and feel free to prod us if we failed to respond to something that requires a response.



We - particularly Ashlyn - tend to be very passionate and very blunt in our writing. We’re trying to adjust to the right tone, but it’s difficult particularly in the current climate of tumblr discourse. You will see a fair amount of salt and spice tossed around.



While we try to be supportive and inclusive of marginalized people, we will occasionally be engaging with and rebutting some pretty ugly shit. We will support you, but cannot guarantee that this will be a safe space.



We do not give platform to ace exclusionists knowingly without an extremely compelling reason. If you see their content here, it’s likely an accident. Please let us know. (ADHD can make it difficult to notice where a post comes from or see every word if it’s long, and makes it functionally impossible to check the blog of every person whose posts we reblog.)



We might seem a bit aggressive and prickly, but we do try to be approachable to reasonable people. If you have any concerns about our content, need a sympathetic ear, or for some reason want advice from an aging wreck who’s just starting to figure things out, our inbox is available. As a rule, we do not publish asks unless they are 1) anonymous, 2) abusive, or 3) explicitly allowed to be published by the asker.



Please, please, please let us know if we get out of line. There will always be issues we’re ignorant of and places we misstep. In particular, our defensive mechanisms can malfunction in a way that keeps us on a bad course long after we should have realized and corrected on our own. You’re not required to fix our errors, of course, but… if we can’t tell when we’re screwing up, we will be deeply appreciative of anyone who can point it out to us reasonably.



You are not required to interact with us in any way when following or unfollowing. Your dash is your space, and we neither want nor need control over it. Take care of your mental health first.



We use “controversial” terms like MOGAI, queer, and occasionally monosexism or allosexism.



We can have issues tagging, but we do try. The big non-obvious sensitivity tag we use is “pathologizing slurs” for S*A. If you want us to add a new tag or adjust the tags on an existing post, let us know.



About The Accusations That We Support Pedophiles:

We are survivors of CSA and CoCSA. Our assailants were opportunists, not pedophiles. We would like some acknowledgement that attackers like ours exist and protection of kids in situations like ours. In general, we defer to subject matter experts and empirical research when it comes to how to reduce CSA. We do, unsurprisingly, think that no adult should ever take any sexual action toward a child outside of actual, legitimate sex education. We do not support thought policing. These have been our consistent positions all along. If you can look at them and still accuse us, the problem is with you.

About That Queer Post:

At the time it was written, we felt it necessary to aggressively stake out our position. We don’t think there’s anything in there we would abandon entirely, but… it was confrontational by design, and we’ve seen people taking cues from it and going too far. We did make at least one clear error: referring to queer as a banner that the “whole community” rallied under. This is not true.

Similarly: When we said “umbrella term,” we were thinking of organizations and groups and communities we’ve been part of that describe themselves as queer, because that’s a comfortable identifier for their members. We do not intend to use it for the whole community. We use MOGAI for that.