You’re welcome. And you’ve brought up a point here that I’d like to touch upon a little more. I’ve gotten several asks over the last few months complaining that some of the things posted on here aren’t that big a deal, and people need to stop whining and get over it (because remaining silent about shit like this has always worked so well in the past, right?). So I’d like to take this opportunity to introduce the concept of “microaggression” to those who may not already be aware. Microaggressions are all those “little things” that “don’t seem like such a big deal.” Making stereotypic assumptions, or comments, about a marginalized person is a microaggression (And even if the person making the comment sees the stereotype as something “positive,” and they “don’t mean anything by it,” it can still be hurtful. Just because it is not your intent to hurt does not excuse the hurting - if you accidentally ran a person over with your car, you’d still apologize, I hope.) And that’s only one example. There are non-verbal microaggressions, too - like when a woman in a comic book store is made to feel intensely uncomfortable because every guy in there is staring at her like she doesn’t belong, for example.

And yeah, out of context, one microaggression doesn’t seem like THAT big of a deal. But it isn’t just one - that shit adds up, and it adds up fast. They’re not tiny, isolated incidents that illustrate how “some people are just jerks,” but symptoms of systemic oppression (gold star, OP).

And please remember that just because something doesn’t seem like a “big deal” to you, doesn’t mean that it’s not damaging to someone else. Even if you are part of the marginalized group that the person making the complaint is also a part of, and you wouldn’t be hurt by the cause of the complaint, doesn’t mean that the complaint is not valid.

So I guess this is a long, roundabout way of me saying ‘don’t bother to send me asks telling me that “some of the stuff on here isn’t even that big a deal,” because I’m not going to engage you - all I’m going to do is roll my eyes, delete your ask, and thank my lucky stars that I have one less submission to deal with.’