Those whose mixed-orientation marriages ended experience "a kind of triple blame by their family and faith communities  first for being gay, then for having ruined the lives of their spouses and children by ... marry[ing] in the service of trying to 'overcome' their homosexuality, and then finally for having failed in the marriage and 'given up,' " he says. "They want their story to be known and not repeated; they want vindication for their mistreatment."