1. Do not judge yourself for your own fantasies or desires. Even if you wouldn’t want to share with anyone what you masturbate to, still feel free to go to whatever place makes you feel the most excited. Nothing is too dirty for your mind.

2. If you’re not using porn to stimulate yourself, play out situations in your mind. Change your place, your clothes, your job, your lover. Later, you can ask a partner to do for you what got you the most excited.

3. Find some porn that isn’t for cis men. Good methods are checking the “popular with women” sections. There are also sites with porn curated to better suit your desires. We recommend checking out Bellesa!

4. Many women and femmes, gay and straight alike, enjoy watching lesbian sex. Also, some like man on man, as it feels less objectifying. (Remember that scene from The Kids Are All Right?) Don’t be afraid to go out of your sexuality to be turned on.

5. Don’t worry if the porn you watch doesn’t match your sexuality. Porn isn’t real life. It’s a warped reality of sex, and whatever is fun for you to watch is just that: fun to watch.