ArsenalsPlayingAtHome Sun 31-Dec-17 06:31:00

Are you close with SD's adult children and their children, seeker?



Just wondering if you have the sort of relationship that would allow you to almost casually mention it to them to gage their reaction?



Re the PP who have suggested having a gentle word, if any abuse has occurred, it's almost certain that SD will have told OP's DD that she must not tell, with potential consequences attached if she does. Her answer might not reflect the truth if she's scared to speak it.



I don't know what the right advice is here, but what about starting a general conversation rather than a specific one about SD & what happened at his house.



Are there any books around about how to explain that our bodies are private, and nobody else is allowed to touch them?



I would try to arm her with the knowledge of what is right and wrong, so she can see through any possible threats he might have told, before I address what might have/might not have happened to her.



I'm not qualified though, so my advice might be useless. I do agree that maybe try to read the other thread already mentioned by a PP.