Even in conversations with people who consider themselves to be our allies, we’re so often told “don't let your sexuality define you.” Some people who are not in the LGBT community respond to our movement with dismissive questions like “Why do you need to label yourself? Why can’t we all just be humans?”

The equivalent for the autistic community is usually people who are not autistic insisting that we refer to ourselves as “people with autism” — rather than "autistic" — because we're "people first." As if being autistic implies you’re not a person. When people talk like this, all I hear is “I want to sweep your difference from me under the rug.”