Teachers tell children not to have 'best friends' in primary schools... to prevent pain of falling out



Primary schools are adopting a 'no best friends' policy to shield children from the pain of falling out.

But critics are warning it is preventing youngsters from learning about the ups and downs of life.

Educational psychologist Gaynor Sbuttoni, who provides counselling for children in London, said the practice of teachers encouraging kids to play in large groups instead of developing tight-knit bonds is increasingly common.

She said teachers have consulted her about the rights and wrongs of the policy, but stressed they should not be interfering with friendships and that it is natural for children to want a best friend.

Friendships: Teachers are encouraging youngsters to play in large groups rather than developing tight-knit bonds, but critics warn this is wrong

Ms Sbuttoni added: 'If they break up, they have to feel the pain because then they're learning to deal with it.



'As parents, we're all trying to prevent our children feeling pain, but what we should be doing is helping them bear it and find solutions, rather than trying to take it away.'

Judith Mortell, also an educational psychologist, told The Sunday Times some schools view the policy as a waste of valuable curriculum time, while others see it as part of a holistic approach to eduction.