IT'S going to be one tense wedding.

The father of the woman whose manners were torn apart by her fiancee's mother has entered the fray.

Alan Withers dubbed Carolyn Bourne "snotty Miss Fancy Pants" after she sent his daughter, Heidi, a stinging email, criticising her "lack of grace", poor upbringing and general bad manners.

Scroll down to the read the email

He said Mrs Bourne "has her head stuck so far up her own a*** she doesn't know whether to speak or fart".

Mrs Bourne, a florist from the south of England, made the cardinal mistake of writing down exactly what she thought her her son Freddie's choice of bride - bemoaning Ms Wither's behaviour at the dinner table as well as laying into her wedding plans.

Shocked, Ms Withers forwarded the email to her friends and it wasn't long before it went viral and put a smile on the world's face.

Ms Wither's father yesterday came to her defence. "Heidi was very upset and the two of them obviously don't see eye to eye. I met Carolyn and her husband Edward for dinner at a pub in London last year," he said.

"Edward was a jovial chap but Carolyn was quite snotty. She had a look about her which made us think she thought she was better than us. Ever since that meeting we call her 'Miss Fancy Pants'."

He added: "I don't care if she apologises. You can't take back what has been said once it's said. Of course, at the wedding we will shake hands and toast Heidi and Freddie."

Ms Bourne sent the notorious email three times in the space of a day.

"It was sent twice to her personal email and once to her work email. There was no mistake about what Carolyn was trying to do," Mr Withers said.

"Heidi received it at work and forwarded it to me because it had things in it about my wife and I. She said to me, 'What do you think Dad? Should I respond?'

"I told her the best thing to do was not respond to it at all and take the moral high ground."

Understandably, Mrs Bourne is keeping a low profile, telling the UK press: "I have nothing to say."

The world can't wait to see the wedding video. Let's hope somebody puts it up on YouTube.

The Bourne ultimatum: Read the email

From: Carolyn Bourne

To: Heidi Withers

Subject: Your lack of manners

When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not remark that you do not have enough food. You do not start before everyone else. You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.

Your should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.

You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity-style behaviour.

I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.) If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.

One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.

Read more about the mother-in-law from hell at The Sun