‘m just doing a writing to ramble a little. I have noticed a lot of times when I speak to women regrading a cuckold-based relationship, i find myself asking relatively the same question. I don’t know for sure if its good question that builds rapport or if it’s just my mind subconsciously trying to sexualize the conversation. I’ve had times where i have been able to turn talks about, kittens, refrigerators, electrical appliances, permanent makers, futons, 1$ plastic cups at the dollar store and one notable time, liquid nitrogen into a sexual cuckold-based discussion. I seem to ask the question on the lines of:

How much experience in non-tradition relationship do you have

Have you ever met a cuck minded person before

Do you have any social friends that indulge in any open sexual style play.

(The word “Indulge” is an amazing word that we need to utilize more!)

You typically will get a fair number of repeating answers to these questions. Must have some experience in the Dom male/sub female, BDSM, open/poly type. This is the women who have had some form of sexual relationship where there was power exchange dynamic and/or they had an arrangement where one or both could engage sexaully with others with predetermined boundaries set. Of course, like must stories I’ve have read about the open/poly read, its usually the woman with a man who finds a woman to be with her.

Because the more sexual options a man feels he has will make him not want to share in open/poly activities she will always want to find a third male equal or better in statue than him( hypergamy) or that he will spend the majority of the time a third party to another woman. Why do you think must people have never heard the term “Cuckquean” before? Must stories involving a couple in the open/poly world is mainly her with a woman or her with another man. Must articles/writings always make reason why he supports her or how he hasn’t found a woman yet but we’re looking.

They always try to compare liking BDSM/open/poly to me enjoying being a cuck. They read either my writings or I speak to them negatively about wanting to be a cuck. They always say that they are more open about what they want or that I shouldn’t think to much into it, if its something you enjoy do it.

Wanting to be a cuck (to my degree of cuckolding) is massively different than BDSM/open/poly relationship in terms of social conditioning, sexuality, intimacy, communication, self-image, gender norms and just basic health human connection.

I woman who seeks specifically a sub cuckold style relationship does compromise really any of her self-respect, confidence, social mockery, ability to form health romantic partnership down the road. She can tell her friends she enjoys being spanked, dominate men, black men, being submissive, how she lets her partner play with other women. All them things won’t forever change the way her friends see her, limit how options of men to form relationships with, affect her mentally, emotionally, financially from bonding with her friends or finding meaningful intimate partnership. They are fall in the realm of female based gender ideas and social accepted norms.

Now take wanting to be a passive sub cuckold, yes in the cuck porn sense. Which if you’re a woman reading this you probably haven’t taken 10 mins of your life to look into. https://fetlife.com/users/5398414/posts/5751749) Not in the sense where some how woman still make you the one to make all the decisions and call all the shots.