This article was co-authored by Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Allen Wagner is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles, California. He received his Master's in Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2004. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on ways they can improve their relationships. Along with his wife, Talia Wagner, he's the author of Married Roommates. This article has been viewed 211,830 times.

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If you want to be a better girlfriend, one of the most important things you can do is try to see things from your partner’s perspective so you can understand their feelings and emotions better. For example, if your boyfriend seems distant after a long day, try to understand that it's nothing personal and they might just need some space to relax. You can also make a point of checking in with them every day to stay connected with them. For example, you might say something like, “How have you been feeling today?” or “Did anything interesting happen today?”. If your partner wants to talk about something that’s bothering them, give them space to talk about it without changing the subject or interrupting to show that you care about them. When issues naturally come up between you, try to calmly discuss them as soon as possible, so they don’t grow into something bigger. For more tips from our Relationships co-author, including how to take care of your own needs to be a better girlfriend, read on!