Please be advised that there may be triggers following so read on with caution.

What the hell does rape have to do with veganism you ask? Actually, a lot, but that is an entirely different conversation that maybe I will address at a later date, but for now I am reaching out to the Don’t Fear the Vegan community for help.

Close to twenty years ago I was raped. It has changed my life forever, leaving me with nightmares and PTSD. I can no longer handle the smell of vanilla extract because I was wearing vanilla parfume at the time of the attack. I am more compassionate towards others, including animals, because the thought of anyone suffering, especially at the hands of someone else makes me ill. I am stronger for it. I am a fighter. I am emotionally numb but feel everything. My attacker was very close to me so I trust few and those I do trust, I also hold very close to my heart and love them deeply.

Really though, this isn’t about me. A dear friend was recently raped and she is struggling something awful. My advice is beginning to sound like a song on repeat. I went searching on the Internet for words of wisdom, but they all sounded so clinical and distant. Words out of textbooks with no passion, or real concern, or advice.

Here is my request. If you have been there please tell this struggling woman what you wish someone would have told you. Or possibly what someone did say that helped you get through. The story of what got you to leave your house and face the world. What you are still struggling with. Where you find comfort or happiness. Support groups that have helped you. Anything. Please just help her know she is not alone!

Thanks in advance!

Steffi xo

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