Men who live life differently often run into these tough double standards.

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American culture is rife with bias against women, minorities and LGBT people. So much so, that it’s easy to forget that there is also damaging bias against men.

Here are seven double standards that hurt men (and women). They’re made to retweet with one click!

These double standards are seemingly simple, but the prohibitions that lie behind them are complex and far-reaching. They effect how we men are encouraged to raise our children, what we are expected to provide to our partners, how we are expected to spend our time, and what we are allowed to show of our emotional selves.

There have always been rules by which American men are expected to behave like “real men.” These rules are referred to as Living in the Man Box. Charlie Glickman explains it beautifully here.

We need to define manhood as a much wider-ranging set of options and possibilities. If we don’t, the Man Box will continue to enforce limited options and limited lives for men and women alike.

To learn how the rules of Man Box are actually killing the men we love, read: Why Traditional Manhood is Killing Us.

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Double Standard #1 (With thanks to Lisa Duggan)

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Double Standard #3

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Double Standard #5

Double Standard #6 (With thanks to Theresa Byrne)



Double Standard #7 (With thanks to Luke Davis)



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