It’s pretty easy to think that no one can really empathise with what you are going through in your life. Your unique blend of genetics, age, geography, gender etc. would make your circumstances uniquely your’s. That’s true. When you have a problem you are the only person that can actually fix it because the implementation is in your hands but it doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.

I think that it often feels lonely because your immediate circle won’t be able to help out that much. If they could, then you probably don’t have that big a problem. To solve this new challenge, we are going to need to recruit more help and expertise from people that we don’t have a great relationship with. If you’ve exhausted your closest friends with your problem and they haven’t been able to afford and great advice then it doesn’t meant that no one understands you — just your inner circle probably doesn’t.

We’re all human beings here and we’ve all felt the same feelings of insecurity, helplessness when we’re facing some overwhelming problems. It’s hard to remember but that there are more people than the people that you talk to every day. Realise that there are more than 7 Billion people on this planet. Realise that there have been billions of people who have come and gone before us. Someone out there has faced your problem and has overcome it. The answer might not be what you are looking for but be open minded to their answer.

It takes me a long time to warm up to somebody so naturally it takes me a while to start to unwind and for them to start to be able to assess problems and find room for improvement. What I’ve found is that their objective view is what’s often needed to break me out of a rut. They don’t know about the intricacies of your life. You came to them with a problem and they try to fix it. That’s it. They don’t have the limiting beliefs, years of denial, and all the emotional baggage that you’ve surrounded your problem with. They can easily see the problem that you’ve been avoiding for years.

Be aware that this new mentor/advisor/friend might suggest a new way of doing something or thinking about something which may be jarring at first but before you immediately reject something, I encourage you to just try for 30 days before you know if it works or not.