Halo1234 Wed 11-Sep-19 14:09:42

That was mean what your daughter said to you. She should be reassuring you that you will be close to the baby no matter what your health is like. You cant just sort your arthritis out the same way u can just stop smoking. Plus the baby isnt even born yet so why who is and who isnt allowed to watch it is even being discussed. Dont rise to the bait and cause a tug of war. Just calmly say I cant just sort my arthritis out or obviously I would. It's not fun for me to have it.

Change your view point dont think of it as a competition with other granny over the baby. Be happy your grandchild will have an extended family to love him/her. Be pleased other granny is there around and happy to love grandchild dont have it about turns or who is closer. That will make u happier ultimately.