Anal sex can be inconceivably hot yet it is regularly misunderstood! You see, enjoying anal sex doesn’t make somebody gay or strange. Having anal sex simply implies that a person likes having anal sex or maybe you also like your prostate being massaged. In our anus we have thousands of nerve endings ao it is not such a shock that it is sensitive and people can derive pleasure from it! If you have not tried it before anal sex can be scary especially if it’s going to be your first time as a bottom or a top. Remember however that anal sex is not for everybody. If have no craving to attempt anal sex, then don’t. Much the same as any other sexual deviation, you should never be doing something that you aren’t happy with.

While its ordinary to be somewhat anxious to begin with, there are a few tips that may help facilitate your introduction into a different type of male sex play and anal sex to reduce any uneasiness you may have. REMEMBER

relaxation is the key

and to guide you on the best approach to having some staggeringly hot and sexy ass whopping sex. Also give me a chance to be real here, I love anal sex however I generally approach it with a level of fear becauset for me there is always a bit of pressure when I first start (note, I didn’t say pain is said pressure) that goes far, far away and changes into something totally glorious once that hard cock or dildo is solidly planted in my ass.

You will need to consider health aspects when you have gay anal sex. There is bacteria in the anus which should not be spread in the mouth or in a penis, so make sure you use a condom and that the bottom cleans his anus well prior gay ass sex. One of the first things people are anxious about is what happens if I have something left up that passage. What you may have seen in anal porn, spontaneous ass sex, is to a great extent a dream. On-screen characters and performers prep for butt scenes, and that prep may include douching, enemas or even foreplay with a dildo to ensure all is clean. Douching and enemas are pretty straightforward and for me the safest way. You can either purchase a throwaway douche or get yourself and enema kit that you can use for years. When using use some luke warm water as there is nothing so shocking and will make you not relaxed as putting cold water inside you.

Try adding some scented water or herbal water that will almost feel and give you a spa like encounter. You may need to do this a couple times until the removed liquid is clear. With that one worry off your psyche, and I know I’ve sufficiently changed diapers to know that the least stimulating thing for your lover or you is seeing and smelling crap, you may discover you’re now considerably more relaxed and excited to get going.

The membrane in the anus is really thin, so care should be taken at all times because it can get injured easily and bleed too. This is the main reason why STDs are spread this way. Always take precautions and go slowly. It is important that plenty of high quality lubricant should be used at all times. A great type of lubricant to use is silicone lubricant as it’s long lasting, perfect for Anal sex and doesn’t dry out. While the vagina self-lubricates, the butt does not, making lubricant flat out needed. Use a silicone lubricant for anal sex as your anus will soak up water based lubricants and will be dry very quickly. Break out the SuperSlyde lubricant. Forget that you’ve seen some porn star spitting on some porn star’s butt before smashing it home, for one, he may be pre-lubed and the spit is really is doing nothing, for two, he’s a sexual professional and you’re most likely not. I get off on porn yet I’d be more content if porn was introduced with a cautioning – warning these are experts and please do not try this at home.

Some thick, gels are also good and provide a cushioning on impact which makes them perfect for ass play. While you may know ipeople who try desensitizing creams for anal play, I don’t suggest it. Desensitizing your anus won’t help you relax and since these items numb the nerves, you won’t feel if it is going wrong so may be more susceptible to injury. Pain is your friend it tells you when something is going wrong and you should listen to your body. By desensitizing yourself, you can do yourself some serious harm and also – sometimes even more important desensitizing it will mean you will not experience the joys of anal sex fully.

I must also say that foreplay is very important for gay anal sex and also the use of lubrication through the whole process. It is best to bring him to an erection with some oral sex at first. This will help him relax and have endorphin’s released. Then use a finger and gently insert it in his anus. Take it slowly and do not try to rush him or go too fast. Be horny. It serves to be truly horny, so get prepared with huge amounts of foreplay. Whether you go down on one another, participate in some erotic rubbing or touching, it’s all great as long as it turns you on. Have a go at arousing the butt before making the plunge with fingers, toys or penises. The rear-end is apprehensive and if you rush it will force you back – remember relax and take your time.

Explore different avenues regarding butt plugs. Butt sex toys are an awesome approach to get ready for ass sex. Anal sex toys can be used by you or have your lover use them as foreplay. You can attempt different shapes and sizes and materials until you discover your ideal fit. Second, you may well observe that you like to wear your butt plug during the day only in light of the fact that it keeps you in an excited state. I wear a butt plug when I do Pilates and let me tell you it is an awesome turn on. Wearing it makes your anus more ready and willing when your lover comes knocking on your back door. No, you aren’t going to get a huge ass-hole; your muscles will loosen whilst the plug is in but will always go back to its natural state.

The next step is to slowly increase the size of insertion. At first you will want a thin, long sex toy or prostate massager . There are plenty of gay sex toys available, so just make sure it is designed for the purpose, preferably with a wide handle like base at the bottom so that you have control over it at all times. After this a larger butt plug should be used. Always make sure you have a pre assigned safety word just in case it is too much for him. Communication at all times is important. So respect your partner’s wishes and feelings.

Whenever some guy talks about gay anal sex, there seems to be the wrong perception as people start to go through their list of disadvantages. First of all they say that it is for the top man’s benefit (giver) and not for the receiver. This is not true if done correctly. Also others say that it is the type of sex that can spread easily STDs. This is true if you don’t take any precautions. Nothing is ever totally pain free, even normal sex if it’s done in a wrong way. However there are ways to make gay anal sex as pain free as possible. When men have a problem with anal sex it is usually either caused by an inconsiderate partner who does it wrong and hurts them in the process. Anal sex needs to be careful and slow, and at the pace of the Bottom. Also, it needs to be remembered that if the Bottom is not in the mood, it’s not going to be as enjoyable an experience as what it can be. The key is to not pressure your partner into it and take things at your own pace.

The final step for a great experience of gay anal sex is about entering him with your penis. Ideally you will want him on all fours, with something supporting his torso. Then cover your condom with a lot of lubrication and go slowly, moving at his pace. If you did everything correctly and he is really turned on, anal orgasms and hands free ejaculation is possible, but not everyone can manage it. This is the part where gay anal sex can be good for both of you.

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not! adultsmart.com.au

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