Besides, if masculinity is defined by the power to commit violence on a wide scale, I proudly choose femininity. At one time, "being a man" meant standing up for what you believe in — and against injustice. By that definition, we need more real men in power taking on bullies like the NRA, which seeks to bolster the Second Amendment by shutting down opponents' right to the First. We can't even debate guns in this country, thanks to the gun lobby.