AjasLipstick Sat 08-Dec-18 16:09:38

I am going to leave a fair bit out because it's identifying and also because it's so long....and I can hopefully reveal details to people as we go.



I'd really appreciate some ongoing support...I need an escape plan. I have to get out of Australia with my two kids. DH is Aussie and I'm British. We came here 3 years ago. I don't think he'd stop me leaving but i have NO resources because I don't have full citezenship yet...I'm not entitled to any government support at all. I work freelance and we live semi rurally....I basically manage to earn the eqiuvelant of about 200 quid a week as a freelancer. We get one lot of government "family money" which DH has in his account and used for rent. HE earns sporadically but has always more or less kept us ok. I have tried and tried to get jobs but I can't drive and there's nothing here.



DH has basically lost his marbles. Mid-life crisis with tinges of mental breakdown...his mental state reminds me of someone in mild phsychosis.



He's paranoid then normal....he smokes a lot of weed and has done since he managed to stop alcohol five years ago but though it helped him give up, it's triggered mental illness.



Kids are 13 and 11. Beautiful kids and he loves them so much and they him but he's a bastard anxiety inducing mess and I realise now that he's also probably the cause of my older child's anxiety.



Basically he's given up his job to "decide what he wants to do...and what "path" his life should take"



He said the other day 'I want to live with you but to remove all the weight of responsibility and ownership..."







He expects me to stay here in this rental with him....oh and I'm not allowed to ask questions about how he's planning on earning a living because it puts him under undue pressure.



My Mum in England has recently been diagnosed with a life limiting illness and I am meant to go to visit after Christmas because MIL has offered to pay my ticket but frankly I'm scared to leave the kids with him.



I have one or two good friends here in Oz but haven't confided in them as they're having their own problems at the moment.



I feel robbed. I feel like if I do manage to get together and get us out to england my poor kids are going to have so much adjusting to do.



He used to shout and scream a lot years ago but that's stopped now...but I feel like I have been so stupid.