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From threesomes to BDSM, many people have sexual fantasies that they’d love to make a reality.

But broaching the subject of sexual fantasies with your partner can be awkward.

Thankfully, Dr Justin Lehmiller , a psychologist who specialises in sex, has revealed the best ways to talk to your partner about your sex fantasies.

He suggests that people broach the subject by going ‘low and slow.’

He explained: “Start with your more vanilla sexual fantasies first. You can work your way up to the more adventurous fantasies later on.”

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By building up to your more unusual fantasies, Dr Lehmiller says this can help to build trust and intimacy, rather than jumping in the deep end.

When actually conveying your fantasies, Dr Lehmiller advises for you focus on the key role your partner would play.

He said: “Something to be mindful of, is the fact that when you’re sharing your fantasies with your partner, some people might perceive it as threatening.

“However, if you can validate your partner as you’re sharing your fantasies with them, you can cut off those feelings of insecurity.”

Timing for these conversations is also key.

Dr Lehmiller suggests that people share their fantasies when they and their partner are both already aroused.

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He explained: “When people are sexually aroused, their disgust response lessens, so they might be more receptive to different ideas.”

However, it’s important to remember that every couple is different.

Dr Lehmiller concluded: “Of course, there are no universal rules here and different things might work for different people, so be sure to keep that in mind.”