Confused yet? Part 1 is a YouTube video here:

This blog post is part 2 . What I didn’t say. I always ramble on too much while recording video and run out of time. So, here is what I would’ve said if the camera were still rolling.

The only- and I do mean ONLY- person deserving of criticism in the EAR/GSK cases is HIM. DeAngelo. Everyone else- and I do mean everyone- is a victim. Even if you are only a private citizen, with no connection to the case whatsoever, you…… Yes, YOU…. are a victim. Why? Because you now live in a world that was adversely affected by him. Damaged. Altered. We all live in the post-GSK world.

OK, am I being overly dramatic? Maybe. But think about it. There’s the obvious; He and his crimes changed things. He scared people. He HURT people. He ruined marriages. He traumatized neighborhoods. He stole objects…. innocence…. memories…. lives. But beyond that;

He changed practices in home security. He prompted the need for changes in communication between law enforcement agencies. His crimes led to the standardization of rape kits. The survivors of his murdered victims changed DNA law in California. The search for his identity changed the way DNA is used nationwide.

And face it. If you are watching my videos or reading my blogs, If you are a member of a forum or FB group dedicated to this case, If you have stayed up past your bedtime or skipped a meal with your family because of this case, then guess what? …… You are one of his victims. I know nobody likes the term, but for this moment, I feel it is appropriate.

We are ALL different now than we were before he stalked our streets.

So, back to my original train of thought…. regarding the way we have become so critical of one another. It pains me. We shouldn’t be turning on one another.

One group I neglected to mention in the video is JJD’s family, friends, neighbors & coworkers. His circle. These people are taking a huge amount of criticism. I believe it is uncalled-for. I’ve tried to see the situation from their perspectives, and seriously, you couldn’t pay me a million dollars to trade places with them. Yes, losing my Mom and Greg in violent murders is and always has been excruciating. But what these people are going through right now?…. I just can’t imagine. So yeah, I’m asking for us to try to show some understanding. Some compassion.

Bottom line, guys…. I would really like to see us ALL acknowledge the fact that we have all been hurt….. influenced…. scarred…. jaded…. overwhelmed by what JJD did. The intense quest of finding him was exhausting and draining and emotional and unhealthy for a lot of us. But we got him. It’s over. At least that part of it…. it’s done.

NOW is OUR TIME. Bruce Harrington said it best at the press conference on 4/25/18….. “It is time for all victims to grieve, to take measure.”

We all need to step back and access the hurt, figure out how to heal, and then move forward. Some of us need counseling. Some just need to get to know our families again. Some of us need to take some action in continuing the investigations and preparation for trial. But that’s not enough. We need to do that as individuals, yes. But I really feel it is important that we do it TOGETHER. That we focus and realize that we are all on the same team. So, let’s please try to minimize the criticism. Let’s cut each other some slack!

If you are not JJD, then you are one of US. Let’s unite. Let’s be good to each other.

OK, I’ve said my peace. Oh, have I thanked you all lately? Gratitude, love and respect to you all.