The problems with these comments are so glaringly obvious, it's almost unnecessary to point them out. Why does he see his niece primarily as a "future wife", rather than a person who can spread her wings and "build a character" like his son? Why does he think it's OK to raise a young woman more strictly than a young man? Why does she have to be a "good woman", when his son is allowed to be a "Jack-the-lad"? And is "Jack-the-lad" something we should want young men to aspire towards?