DeepInThought wrote: who suddenly go on this “life discovery” bulls~~~

An EX I dated in her early 20s once lay in bed with me CRYING because I thought it would be a good idea for her to move out, get her own place, take an offer she just got etc. I truly encouraged independence in her and almost pushed her out the door.

Her tears worked, I caved, and we didn’t speak about it again — until we broke up two years later when she blamed me and said “you didn’t let me be my own person. I lost myself with you.”.

This made me so angry I could have punched hole in the wall. First she had a problem with it, then she blamed me for it. She was not the first (or the last) either.

The LAST thing I need is a woman who wants a relationship/boyfriend/marriage SO BADLY, and then one day she tells you over breakfast that she’s “oppressed”.

That’s when I realize WHY women say stupid stuff like “I lost myself” and “I need to find myself”… because they really aren’t their own person. It’s a joke. They latch on to a man, immerse themselves in his world, and then blame you for “losing themselves”, tell everyone and their stupid friends that they need to “find themselves”.

And 35 is the age where it’s getting harder to latch on to a man anyway. So they pretend to flaunt this newly-found “independence” and behave like they’re so fabulous – while trying to rationalize The Wall™.

Makes perfect sense to me.

Women are always looking too “find themselves”.

But men CREATE themselves.