What really…??? Are we gonna talk on this now?

I know the motif might have already appalled you guys.But I reckon there was something which needed to be mooted and today,myself as the Flag bearer of that community will try to throw some light on some of the unavowed things.

M.E.N or would rather I like to call it as MOST EMOTIONALLY NEGLECTED (persons).I know this is something which every Monsieur must have experienced in his life. Demoiselles would surely find it difficult to grok.So to make it more relatable lets break this down to some trifler chunks.

When was the last time your brother hugged you and told you how much he loves you,When was the last time you(for boys) broke in front of your best friends,When was the last time we(boys) hugged our fathers and appreciated their hardships in bringing us up.I can give you multifarious examples on this but I hope I have explained myself well.

Alright,lets cut right to the chase.What is this thing which Men really lack.’The ability to express our emotions’,or should I say ability to express our emotions Verbally.We just abhor this word ‘Confrontations’ especially if that confrontations involves emotional stuff and that to with our beloved ones.Guys such as John Keats,Paulo Coelho,Daniel Goleman and so forth have already left us awe-inspiring with their writings.But who knows,how are/were they in their own life when it boiled down to deal with these so called Emotions.So the hitch is not with the emotions,its about competency to confess or confront them gracefully.I don’t have legit evidence for this but according to a website;Out of every 10 bloggers on the Internet,there are 6 male bloggers.Actually,we find it bleeding easy to pen down our feelings in lieu of verbalizing them out loud.

Perhaps,now you all have might have started pondering on the burning question ‘Why are we such so’?Most of you must have even started appreciating the adeptness of our counterparts in dealing with these Emotional stuffs.But before you guys start comparing MEN with WOMEN on the scales of Emotions,let me veer your views to this point.John Gray,a famous Psychologist and a Relationship counselor,states in his Best selling book “Men Are From Mars,Women Are From Venus”that MEN and WOMEN are very different and belong to distinct planets-Men from Mars and Women from Venus.Each sex is acclimated to its own planet’s society and customs,but not to those of the other.So their comparison is absolutely futile.

But the question still remains unanswered.So what’s that,which moulds us like this.I”ll tell you,its our stereotypical upbringing and yes our most dearest SOCIETY.Right from the beginning of our Birth we are asked not to cry or whine.I’m unequivocally sure that all the boys must have heard of it”Real or brave men don’t cry”.Though that line was meant to lull us at that very moment but what we perceived of that line as a child was that Crying is for Weak people.It’s one of that traits that a Real Man should never possess.As we grew up,we figured out that crying is inversely related to the Masculinity.Even our great INDIAN Cinema also claims that “MARD KO KABHI DARD NI HOTA”(Real men never feel any pain).But I”ll tell you the twist over here.MEN do feel pain but they never express them.

Let me ask you a very simple question-Are our morals have descended so low that now we have started judging MEN by their ability to hide their soft side?

It would be quite unfair to blame Society alone for all this.I mean,we all have an equally contributing hand.Reminisce the times when we used to mock the most EFFEMINATE guy in our group.We didn’t take a single second to nickname a guy “WUSSY” if we ever saw him weeping around.From there on wards we developed this mindset that,no matter what Life brings to you,we don’t have to shred a drop.We have to be as strong as an Ox.

Slowly and Slowly those feelings got burdened inside and as a result we became immune to that soft feelings.Even if we wanted to cry at some juncture of our life,we never did that as it would have aroused questions to our MANHOOD,which we never wanted even in our dreams.We never bothered to express our Soft Feelings to anybody and as a consequence they took another shape and eventually they came out in the form of Anger,Testiness,Impudence etc.

So what are we left with now? The detriment has already been done,now only steps can be taken not to deteriorate it further.We all know the insides out of that phase and I reckon that we surely don’t want our Successors to face that.So I guess,we would not be carving our Successors in a specific format(especially according to the norms of the society).

And for my dearest MEN out there,do whatever you feel like,eschew this reticency,cry out loud,hug your dear ones because all we got is this only one LIFE.So either you just get trapped in the shackles of this Society or be as free as a Bird.