Anouk says:

I wear the things I think are pretty (usually a combination of cuteness and darkness), and call that my style. Some people think that because I dress 'sexy' according to them, I must be dressing for male attention, but I often don't realize that the way I dress is considered 'sexy.'

This used to scare me because of some bad experiences, and I changed my ways a bit: I'd ask friends if pictures I wanted to post could be considered too sexual, or decided to ditch the skirt and go for trousers instead. I also avoided deep cut shirts for a long time. No matter my attempts, I'd still get cat called and I'd still receive unwanted creepy messages. Now I refuse to downplay my style because of how people might act about it. There is nothing I can wear that I like while still avoiding those reactions, and I don't want to dress up into something I don't feel comfortable in or don't like for the rest of my life.

I've had some trouble regaining confidence in my body and allowing myself to be comfortable in my skin. I followed Psychara before I was aware she was asexual. Seeing she could just wear whatever she wanted in her OOTD's, showing skin or not, and still be asexual meant a lot to me. Later I came across Yasmin and was once again blown away by how confident an asexual could be in her body, and even be a lingerie model! Knowing it was possible just meant a lot to me.

I'm glad to say I've ditched the idea that clothes that are generally considered 'sexy' aren't for me. I think a lot of those clothes, including lingerie, are just super pretty! I'll now wear whatever I like, and that is not dictated by my asexuality.