Can you find me a boyfriend?

The helpline is there to support individuals to discuss and share their thoughts, feelings and concerns about being gay. We listen, offer advice and provide assistance to those who may be trying to come to terms with their sexuality. We may if appropriate provide a befriending service, over an agreed period of time However if you are looking for a boyfriend we suggest that you look on some of the dating websites that are available on the web.

I’m “out” and quite comfortable in being a gay man. However, there are times when I do have dark periods, and just want to talk to someone.

Anyone can call the helpline, even if they just want to talk and share their worries. We understand that being gay isn’t always easy and like most people we have our ups and downs. We’re happy to be a listening ear to any woes and worries you may be feeling or experiencing.

Is the Gay Farmer helpline only available to gay farmers? I’m a tree surgeon and work in the countryside?

The helpline isn’t just for farmers it is available to anyone who works and lives in the countryside, or has countryside matters very close to their hearts!

If my friends find out I’m gay, I’m petrified of losing them

Coming out is a personal decision and any conversation you have with a volunteer on the helpline will be completely confidential. It is understandable that you are concerned about the possibility of losing friends and unfortunately that can happen. However, in many cases your friends may have already suspected that you were gay and when they do find out, may make less of a deal of it than yourself! It is only during “challenging times” that you find out who your true friends are, and if you lose a few, were they really genuine friends of yours, who probably were more concerned about themselves, than your happiness and welfare. Remember, those type of friends could be replaced by honest, sincere, gay friends whose friendship would be unconditional and who would value you for the person you are.

Can I contact the helpline by Skype or Facetime?

Initial contact is best by telephone. However, if it felt that a caller would benefit from being befriended and for that to occur after a series of conversations with a helpline volunteer, then the possibility of possibly using Skype or Facetime as a communication tool could be considered. However, the privacy of both the caller and volunteer would need to be taken into consideration and respected before any decision would be made.

I’ve had unprotected sex, and I’m worried that I may have caught something!

We would discuss with you your worries and concerns but would encourage you to approach your local STI clinic who would be able to provide you with more specialist advice and information.