



To understand why friends fall out and marriages fail would require that one understands that changes do happen in life. We grow out of the "self" that we used to be, changing in one way or another. This is why I like to believe that getting married at an early age or within a short period of time after meeting is not the best idea. I am not saying that every couple that gets married early will divorce, but the reality is that they are more likely to end up breaking up. I am sure you have heard this from a good number of people who married young; "I was young and foolish". Ok, foolish may not be the word they should really use, but it is true that they did not know what they were doing all that well. Have you watched some episode of Jerry Springer? I am always shocked by how young the couples are. Some are as young as 16 with children. As they grow and change they realize that they may have made the wrong decisions. It is at this point that you here the harsh, bitter words being thrown around. When two people meet and like each other, the reality is that they like who they are at that point. A guy will like how a certain girl dresses, how she behaves, the activities she enjoys, and how she acts towards him and vice versa. But as time goes people change. These changes become noticeable more and more and people are no longer who they were when they meet. All the qualities they liked about each other have changes and their personalities have changed significantly. So what happens? The person you were once attracted to is not the same person anymore. He/She is now like a stranger to the person you knew a few years ago, and you become disinterested and the attraction fades away.