8 Things To Make Dating Work For You

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Most people I meet see dating as hard work.

Some of the biggest comments I get are, “How do you make dating work” or “It’s so hard to meet new people” or “I don’t have time to date” or “I can’t ever see myself finding the one” or “Dating is such a chore!”

Listen, it doesn’t have to be that way.

This was a massive breakthrough for me: You can either work for dating, or make dating work for you. The key is to get the dating game on your side. If you understand this concept, the next step is to start making that beast work for you!

Here are 8 Things You Need To Know To Make Dating Work For You:

1 Love is like a cat

Think about it. If you chase a cat, it moves away from you, but when you don’t pay it any attention, it comes to you. Love is the same. Most people pursue and chase the relationship. Although I like the direct approach, it’s not always the best approach. Remember, what you pursue sometimes move away from you.

Instead, be direct in your intentions, “I’m going out to meet interesting new people”, but not direct in your pursuit, “I’m going out to find a guy who could be my boyfriend”. See the difference.

2 Avoid fighting fires

It’s so easy to get into a lifestyle where you are always fighting fires. Let me explain. Most people I meet get into lots of mini relationships that end in bad ways. They go for quantity over quality. Then they spend weeks or even months in a negative place trying to get over that relationship. That ‘getting over’ part is fighting fires.

Dealing with break ups take up immense amount of time and energy. Remember, if you spend all your life, time, and energy dealing with break ups, you won’t have time to focus on finding real love. Quality people and quality relationships always win.

3 Precision

Everyone starts the year with precision. “This year I’m committed to finding love.” Unfortunately, most people end up losing focus and don’t achieve their goals.

Your journey must be precise. The more precise and focused, the easier it becomes. Think about boxing. Boxing is all about precision. Remember what Conor McGregor the UFC World Champion said, “Precision beats power, and timing beats speed.” Apply this to finding love. Avoid being too scattered. Stay focused with precision on your goal.

4 Rule of rare opportunity

Once you understand this, dating starts to work for you! Charlie Munger the self-made billionaire said, “Real opportunities that come to you are few. When you find one of those opportunities, and you can clearly recognise it, seize it boldly and don’t do it small.”

It’s really easy to miss the right person. So when you actually find somebody, you need to be ready to step up to them and get their phone number. If you miss that one person, they might never come back to you. So when you see a rare opportunity, recognise it, seize it boldly and don’t do it small!

5 Who is your master?

This is huge. At some point in your dating life, you have to decide who or what is going to be your master. Something will always be your master. Something will always have power over you. I want ‘precise fear’ to be your master. I have precise fear that I don’t want to miss out on the things that are actually within my control.

So if you see someone you’re attracted to, and it’s in your control, go talk to them. Every, single, time. It doesn’t matter if 90% of the time it doesn’t work out, because the 10% where it does work out is the rare opportunity you really want. This will change your life forever. Make precise fear your master.

6 Read people

Having powerful social skills means being able to read people. When you’re able to read people, you can adjust and adapt to them. It makes dating and life so much easier. I can’t tell you how many big breaks I’ve gotten in life because I knew how to read, adapt, and adjust to the people around me.

So if you’re talking to someone in a social setting, you might need to show a completely different side of yourself, depending on their personality type. This isn’t about manipulating people. It’s about being genuine, and adapting to different personality types.

7 Osmosis

This one is powerful and so simple. How does osmosis work? It’s easy. All you have to do is watch other successful people. If you can see dating is working for someone else, watch, listen and grasp. Ask them about what they’re doing and why they’re doing it. Look at what’s working for them, and then make it work for you. Read more about how Osmosis can help you find love faster here.

8 Reverse engineering

I want you to try this on yourself right now: If you had £1 million and you could invest it in any one person in the world, who would it be?

Okay, now think about the person you would invest it in. Ask yourself: Does that person procrastinate a lot? Is that person fearful? Does that person read a lot? Do they have mentors? Do they invest in courses and learning to better themselves? I bet you answered, no, no, yes, yes, yes.

Make dating work for you, by becoming the person you would invest all your money in. It’s really not that hard. It’s so simple that no one will do it.

See you on the next one,

Kamey