QueenofWhisperz Fri 11-Jan-19 22:11:40

I have a child with SEN who is 10 and another child who is 5. My husband and I work ridiculously long hours and I entertain work clients on Friday nights.



We have had this housekeeper for the last 8 years, (ever since it was apparent that I would need help).



I love her deeply, she is like family. However, she did things that really upset me.



1. Took time off without notice, causing me to lose work.

2. Never completed her tasks, ever.

3. Tried to ingratiate her religious beliefs into my children.

4. Made me feel like no one else would work for me, or care for my children better than she would.



Today, I came home from a rough day at work, and I was doing homework with the kids before I took some clients out--and this upcoming deal is quite important because it will cover some additional therapy my older child needs---and she informed me that she wasn't working her normal hours this evening.



We had agreed a work schedule in her contract; she always avoids working on a Friday night if she can help it. Anyway, as I was getting upset, I stopped myself and told her that today was her last day. (She was on warning for doing this before).



My husband has come in to tell me that I am awful. That after 10 years, I should have let her come back another day and had a nice farewell.



Professionally, cancelling this evening is devastating to me; not to mention the therapy I was going to be able to access for my son...which I will not. My boss and co-workers are having a field day with my failure for this evening and I feel like I have potentially lost everything. I am quite nervous about Monday, going back to work--but worse yet, laundry and lunches.



I didn't raise my voice, I just said that I needed her to work the schedule she agreed to, and that I will find someone else for Monday. I didn't want a heated conversation, I don't do the 'raised' voice thing.



Am I awful? Have I been terrible? I don't know how to do laundry, but I can learn. I might get fired for cancelling my evening dinner meeting.