I hear people complaining

That the #metoo movement

Is making men afraid to approach women

And if that’s true

I have to wonder

As a man myself

Is that actually such a bad thing?

Because sexualization

Is objectification

Is dehumanization

And regardless of whether we’re wondering

Is she Miss Right?

Or is she Miss Right Now?

We’ve missed our chance

To wonder about a person

And if you wouldn’t sacrifice your libido

For another’s personhood

Then fuck you and your genitals

Because women can get along just fine

Without horndogs barking

Up every tree they piss on

And while men go on Tinder dates

Hoping she won’t be fat

Women go on Tinder dates

Hoping we won’t rape her if she says no

So maybe

Men should learn something about fear

And realize

That our approach

To our approach

Is part of the problem

Getting worse

And must be fixed

Starting now

Starting with me

Starting with you