While watching David Jay’s Ted Talk and many others I have been looking at how we see and value connection (David Jay is the founder of the AVEN website that has made the term Asexual known worldwide). He mentions in his video that we as a society need to learn how to disentangle a cultural sexuality from connection, not to say that the two can’t go together but if we don’t think the two can be separate then we have a narrow view of connections.

Many types of connections exist friendships, soulmates, romantic relationships and the list goes on and on I sometimes get frustrated with the English language because words can’t describe some of these connections that we have. This may be due to the fact that connections are on a scale. Maybe it is how we view connections as a society might be the issue as I understand we might need to prioritize as we don’t all have a cloning machine but it can also be a dangerous thing too as we too often in our hypersexualized world prioritize these connections over platonic connections.

I guess it all depends on how you see different connections is there such a thing as a soulmate, I can’t help feeling that Ace people may see connections significantly differently for me a friendship and a romantic relationship can almost be equal meaning your less likely to put one down for the other. Another question that Ace people think about is what kind of partner could they have? Because of this societal prioritizing the Ace community is more likely to get overlooked when seeking a romantic but none sexual relationship. I realize that this is not an accurate representation of the whole of society but the media has become the thing that we look at in terms of societal norms or aspirations.

We can combat this with accurate representation and education within our society about how it’s OK not to want to have a sexual relationship platonic relationships can be just as important that we don’t all have to go and have babies and it doesn’t make your any more abnormal than anyone else.