Gaping: what is it about a freshly stretched hole that turns us on? Well gaping in porn may not be everybody’s cup of tea but it sure seems popular. Whether it’s seeing the effect of a large cock during anal or the appeal of a glistening pussy, gaping is here to stay.

When you search for ‘gaping’ in a porn search engine, you nearly always find anal sex. Maybe we’re all just obsessed with rimming and putting things up people’s butts but somehow this feeds directly into gaping as a fetish.

Anal sex is hot because of the taboos associated with it. Although some might ask whether anal is safe or acceptable, it’s fair to say that it is massively popular. Using sex toys, fisting and having a bigger cock can all make a woman’s butt gape.

This definitely appeals to the secret voyeur inside us. Being able to see exactly what’s going on is visually erotic. Not only is there the sexy image of a cock sliding in, but seeing the gape made when it comes out is hotter still. When this gets combined with a cream pie, rockets fly.

Gaping – how does it happen?

Gaping is when your butt hole stays open. This usually happens after a longer period of anal play or sex. Through having something inside for a longer time, the muscles relax and stay wide even when the cock/toy is removed.

This doesn’t mean that there is any pain involved or that the sex was rough. But simply that the muscles have got used to there being an object keeping them open and need time to recover. While porn may show rougher sex scenes or more hardcore toys, normal anal sex can still cause gaping without a huge amount of effort being needed.

Using larger sex toys, fisting or double-anal-penetration (DAP) can all lead to gaping. The anus isn’t built to remain dilated for extended periods of time although it stretches. When it’s stretched to an extreme, as achieved through larger items being inserted, it takes longer to recover.

During this period, the ‘gaping’ hole can be an erotic thing in itself. Whether this encourages rimming, anal cream pie bukkake or other fun things to try is up to you. Whenever you engage in any kind of sex you should practise good sex aftercare, this is extra important with gaping.

Why is it popular in porn?

Gaping is popular largely due to its’ link to anal sex. It’s a kind of taboo that appeals simply because it isn’t thought to be a normal thing and is a bit risque. The visual element of gaping caters to exhibitionism and being a bit of a natural voyeur. Commonly known as a perv!

Part of the reason that gaping appeals is the domination aspect. Seeing what you’ve just ‘created’ gives a control thrill to the man in the position of power. While for the submissive partner it may fulfil a fantasy of obedience to their dominant.

Pushing the limits of the human body is the reason behind most extreme fetishes. Whether it’s gaping, fisting, extra large toys or multiple penetration as in DAP or DP, people like to test what’s physically possible.

If it goes wrong however, gaping can lead to an anal prolapse which often requires medical assistance to resolve. When stretched to the extreme, there can be permanent weakness in the muscles surrounding the anal canal. Which for well-endowed men, may allow for smoother anal sex but for the woman can lead to incontinence.

Some argue that gaping is encouraging violence towards women. Or presents women as being subservient with their pleasure being irrelevant as long as a man enjoys what he’s doing. Fetishes which are chosen by both parties however are consensual and fulfil part of the kink appeal for them as individuals.

What do you think of gaping? Is it hot or is it not?