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Recently, in session, a patient shared her fears about the direction the world seems to be heading. What are we going to do? We are stuck in this situation. No one is going to do anything to help us! She was fatalistic, she felt alone and isolated. And while on the surface she was reflecting on her terror about the current political climate, on a deeper level she was re-experiencing trauma from her early life.

When you find that in the last few months you're shakier, more irritable, more , you feel less safe and can't figure out why, it may be that old experiences and memories are bubbling back up to the surface, triggered by how things have unfolded in the U.S. and in the world. The unapologetically authoritarian manner in which the man who occupies the Oval Office conducts himself is painfully similar to abusers, predators, sexual harassers, and seething misanthropes that so many people, females especially, have been forced to endure, or have likely been exposed to in one way or another in their lives. It is especially jarring because for many, the “President of the United States” is a symbol of bravery, , care and compassion. Instead, this President triggers memories of hurt, , fear, divisiveness, , and distrust.

aside, in this election the male won in large part by beating the woman down. She was publicly brutalized yet maintained her decorum while he was and continues to be brazenly abusive. For many it is surreal and creates associations to being captive to their abuser(s) with nowhere to turn all over again.

When you've experienced trauma – physical, sexual, emotional or beyond -- or when you’ve had your self-experience negatively impacted by someone who overpowered, bullied or shamed you, it's very hard to live through and live down. It takes a lot of effort and dedication to take your life and back from someone who subjected you to their sadism. It is like putting back together the pieces of your shattered sense of self, or trying to develop a sense of self in the first place. And now here you are, going along in your life, keeping the emotional and physiological experiences that come with trauma at bay… until that scary man began to infiltrate every pore in your body and pathways in your brain, and you're supposed to appease him.

His style, his irrational inconsistency and inability to experience compassion or are painfully familiar. He reminds you of the painful past you have worked hard to escape. When you’re triggered, it's like enduring the abuse all over again. In a traumatized state, you feel isolated – only you know how imprisoned, scared, alone, and shaken you feel.

Here is the good news: This time, you’re not alone. Rather, what feels so eerily familiar in your mind and body is now not an individual trauma, but a collective one.

With that in mind, one of the most important ways to address the symptoms of trauma reemerging is to first and foremost recognize that many, many people are suffering in the same way you are. Reach out to others and share that you are traumatized because of what the abuser in the White House gets away with. What you will receive in return – unlike the isolation of your original trauma – is validation and comfort in knowing and finding so many others who feel as you do.

At the same time, understand that this current trauma we are enduring is debilitating and immobilizing. Know that when you feel like you should be doing something can't figure out what to do, it is because you feel overwhelmed, in large part because you haven't yet succeeded in removing yourself from the situation. It's such a large scale trauma, that most people haven't. But through all the noise, as people recover they are attempting to regroup and fight back and find civility in their lives again.

Though in the past you've turned to social media for connection, now it's nothing but bad, scary news that even triggers people who haven't been traumatized, putting you in a position of being re-traumatized over and over again. Finding out from one minute to the next how chaotic and inflammatory the world is does you no service whatsoever.

Your best bet is to try the same strategy you would use to get over a relationship: Stay away from provocative social media. Instead, work to extend yourself in a real, personal, physical way. When an opportunity presents to attend a vigil or go to a meeting or write or call a congressperson, try to take that step. Be helpful to others and allow them be helpful to you. Look for connection with other people. When you're ready, do what you can to contribute in small steps. But try to stay away from the kinds of things that further intensify or over-stimulate your brain in way that can send you reeling back into the fear, pain, despair and helplessness you experienced in the first place.

Look at yourself, and other people who feel as you do about the current state of political affairs as "safe-havens." Find each other when you feel unsafe or are subjected to the vitriol and surreal alternative reality of his followers and supporters. Be a safe space for each other physical connection, emotional connection, recognition, and validation that you are not alone and you understand that what is happening in our world right now is not acceptable to you. Sharing your struggle with others will help you find strength and unity. It will help you calm down and remember that the only way anyone can get through any traumatic experience is to be a safe haven for each other. One step at a time.