why do people say this kind of dumb bullshit? the replies are just full of people patting themselves on the back about how they knew it wasn't a slur, and that it was just everyone being too offended again.

like also, people aren't just saying "it's a slur" out of nowhere. like I have to wonder what the thought process is here. do these people think there are a bunch of people sitting in a room thinking about what might be a slur toward someone, and plotting to remove that from the cultural dictionary?

the fact that this slur HAS been brought to light as a slur is BECAUSE of the Romani people who have said so. it wasn't some 16 year old white girl who randomly decided "oh we shouldn't say this word" and then people listened, it's ROMANI people who have been saying this shit, and the context of any given nation is also going to have different circumstances which will change what romani ppl are or aren't okay with being referred to. but when MOST of the Romani people I have ever heard talk about it have made it clear that it is a slur, it's obvious that it is.

literally nobody but the targets of slurs are generally going to be invested in bringing to light the fact something is a slur. NOBODY is just trying to get rid of random words for no reason.