Should you go RP-PvP? If you enjoy the PvP ruleset, and you’d prefer to see a little bit less of names like “Ikillyoudie”, an RP-PvP realm can be a good choice. There is no mandate that you must RP, even if there are a few people who will try to discourage non-RPers from even considering the realm.

Samoht: Samoht: Please help me with server location too. I’m on the west coast.

Grobbulus is the West Coast realm, BUT it was also originally the only RP-PvP realm, so it has the much higher population and a lot of East Coast players. For many people the latency difference isn’t meaningful.

You could just make one character on each (Deviate Delight and Grobbulus) at the typical time you’d be playing, and head to the main city to get a feel for the crowd, the General and Trade chatter, the number of players of different levels. Join the LFG channel (the Blizzard one you can find in the chat pane settings) and see how active it is and what dungeons.

NOTE: These don’t have to be the character you’ll ultimately play - they’re simply scouts to see which realm feels more like a good future home.

Also, we do have realm forums:

https://us.forums.blizzard.com/en/wow/c/grobbulus

https://us.forums.blizzard.com/en/wow/c/deviate-delight

(And there are Discords. I only belong to the Grobbulus one.)