Question

I have a 10% developmental delay, and I need help reminding myself that it could be much worse, but I feel like I'm mentally disabled. People seem to like reminding me that I have this. What can I do?

Community Answer

Some people can be rather thoughtless in impressing their idea of "normal" onto others. Tell those people you are well aware you have some limitations in some areas and that you are working on things at your own pace and in your own way. Remind them nobody is perfect but you're not pointing out their imperfections. For yourself, consider spending time practicing a hobby, learning a new language, trying an instrument and learning music. These are creative and intellectual activities that you can really focus on in your own way and time. You don't have to remind yourself it could be worse; that's a standard form of dismissing one's feelings by comparison; instead, remind yourself you matter, you are trying your best and that you will get to where you want to go. Try to focus most on being aware of the world around you and being resourceful; that way, life will be full of possibilities and positivity for you.