I think we agree, that when you first joined Second Life you were enticed to try Second Life sex, but you didn’t have a clue how to actually go about it.

Right?

In this guide I will show you step by step how sex in Second Life works. I will help you to increase the quality and quatity of your virtual sex life.

Promised!

I have Sex in Second Life. In fact I am really naughty. The first time (with this avatar) was at Paradies Beach with Tristan, but many encounters with other users followed.

I even became a professional sex worker, an escort girl basically. I actually lost count with how many men I had virtual sex in Second Life. Certainly a few hundred and I have done it at least a thousand times.

I share my experience with you and write a guide for noobs about how to have exciting sex in Second Life.

Get The Tool!

My boyfriend’s aeros penis

I am sure you have noticed that your avatar comes without genitals. Hence the first thing you need to do, get yourself a penis/vagina.

Here an important advice:

Second Life is a visual medium. Hence it does have a certain importance to choose a penis that actually looks realistic and is in-line with the color of your skin.

There are freebie penises around, but from what I have seen they look horrible. It is certainly not a turn on to look at an avatar, with a cock that looks like made of wood and has a different color then your avatar’s skin.

At this point it does make sense to invest a little bit of money to get one which looks decent and realistic.

They usually come with a color changer, which allows you to adapt its color to the color of your skin. For the sake of aesthetics, please make that effort!

Contrary to common believe:

Some people find those xcite attachments very sexy. They actually react to clicks on them in open chat. I personally crunch at the thought of a talking penis. I have yet to find out why people buy this stuff. But hey, if it rocks your boat, go ahead get a talking penis.

I think I got fucked with each and every typ and brand of penis available in Second Life. I found the most realistic ones you get from a brand called “Aeros”. Search for them on Marketplace.

Make sure you understand the functions of the hud that comes with it. Especially how to get the angle of an erected penis right. It just doesn’t look good, when it is not in where it should be in (a pussy that is).

Get an Attractive Second Life Avatar

Attractive avatar in Second Life

Just like in real live: If you look good you have better chances. Simple as that. With the prefab Linden Avatar you will find it very difficult to get laid.

Many Second Life residents have as a personal policy not to do anything sexual, unless the person is at least adult verified.

I personally expect payment details on file because a minor will most likely not have access to a credit card.

If you are not into using voice in Second life, it might be a good idea to join a voice verification group. That means you will have to do ONE call to somebody to verify your gender.

For some people it is important what gender the person behind an avatar is, others might not be concerned about that (me for example) as they see sex in Second Life more as a form of role play, hence taking the avatar at face value.

On that matter please read this post: Playing the opposite gender in Second Life?

Emotes Increase the Quality of Virtual Sex

This is an important one. Emoting is describing what, and most importantly how you do something. It is written in open chat or IM using third person.

Technically what you do is, you write /me before whatever you want to write. This will format your text slightly different then normal speech in open chat and removes the: after your name.

An emote would look like this:

“Caroline opens her bra and lets it slide down to the floor, smiling suggestively and says: „you like what you see?”

You get the idea?

It’s basically written role play. This gives an erotic encounter a completely different quality as opposed to just looking at two avatars playing animations. The entire encounter is basically a combination of both: animations and emotes.

Please, do yourself a favour and don’t do what we call “thought emotes”.

We had an interesting discussion about emoting here: Is emoting in sex play overrated?

Second Life Sex Animations

Animations for virtual sex in Second Life

There are several ways to get those animations.

First of all there is furniture available that has build-in menus for sex animations. You can buy this furniture and rez it in your home if you have one.

If you don’t have your own land/home yet, you can use furniture that is provided at many adult places.

Make sure you know some of those locations before you start chatting up a girl. Ideally you know some places with a nice erotic or romantic atmosphere –

Travel around a bit and landmark places you like.

The second possibility is so-called sex huds. Those are huds that you attach to your screen and whenever you click on it, poseballs rez in front of you.

Those have the advantage, that you can add animations to them and you do not depend on furniture anymore. However they only work on land where the owner allows rezing.

There are plenty of such huds availably for all kind of taste and preferences. Some basic ones you can get for free, the more sophisticated ones cost something between 2.000 and 5.000 Lindens Dollar.

There are also some huds available, which play entire scenes with very smooth transitions between animations.

You can either play the entire set of animations automatically having your hands free for typing or whatever you want to do with them, or you can individually play the animations in the order of your preference.

In both cases the transitions look smooth and realistic, contributing to a much more “real” experience. Once you have used a hud like this, you will probably never go back to the regular huds.

I highly recommend:

Seduction from AnimAlive:

https://marketplace.secondlife.com/p/Seduction-FULL-Scene-Victory-now-40-minutes-sequence-complete-seamless-scene-romantic-gift-HUD-and-rug/1502827

Tender Love from Kizmet Kidd

https://marketplace.secondlife.com/p/TenderLove-500-Owner-copy/1745726

Some basic sex huds you should be able to get for free on marketplace. However: If you want to impress the lady, if she is an experienced Second Life resident freebies won’t do it, unless you compensate with really good, detailed and imaginative emotes!

Masturbating During Virtual Sex

It is fine.Most people do it. All of my clients did it. I do it. It is actually a turn on to know my partner cums in real.

But:

It is important to understand, that not everybody who indulges into a sex scene in Second Life is seeking satisfaction in real life. Many simply enjoy the erotic role play and immersion. Germans call that “Kopfkino”.

If you are with somebody like that, avoid comments about what you do in Real Life. Statements like “I wank myself faster now in real life” will kill it for your partner if he/she only role plays sex.

Make sure you both are on the same planet in that sense.

However, there are many people which masturbate whilst having virtual sex. That’s fine, nothing wrong with that.

For those people I have a suggestion: Try to match reality with virtual reality. What I mean by that is, adapt your rhythm to what you see on the screen and only erect your virtual parts if it actually happens in real and so on.

Same applies for cuming. Only hit that cum button on the hud, when you just did climax in real.

It gives a bit more the feeling of “being there” and doing it with your partner, compared to just wank over pixel porn.

Try, it does make a huge difference!

Mood Killer During Virtual Sex

Here a list that kills it for me at least:

Software crash: If that happens and your partner is not in the mood anymore, respect that and try another day.



Overusing the menu: Give it time for role play to develop, it does kill the mood if you flick around the menu as if you want to win a prize for “who gets through the menu first”.



Sending cock pics: Yes, I know you are proud of him, but guess what, I don’t care and I am not interested to see him. In fact I am not interested in any real pictures of you. Keep your pics to yourself unless she asks for it.



Inappropriate locations: Did I mention the furniture shops?



AAAAAHHs and OOOOOOOOHs in chat. Come on you can do better than that.



Sudden change of location. Finish it were you started.

Practise with AFK Girls

AFK virtual sex places in second life

There are numerous places in Second Life where people leave their avatars on a sex bed or similar type of furniture when they are AFK (away from keyboard). You can use them for virtual sex play: AFK sex places in Second Life.

Bear in mind they do this to earn some Linden Dollars. Be nice and leave a tip after you used her.

This is a great way to practise. Especially get used to the hud of the penis. It takes a bit of practice to get the angle right when you have him in her pussy (or her mouth).

It looks weird when you screw the bed. You don’t want that to happen when you are with a girl in a virtual sexsituation. It can be a mood killer.

Practise With a Waitress at Cafe CumCum in Second Life

Fuck a Waitress at Cafe CumCum In Second Life

This is a cafe in Second Life where you can use life girls for virtual sex. Free of charge even. The girls are not AFK girls, its live sex fro free. But again, they need to pay the rent as well, be nice and leave a tip. The girls are not AFK girls, its live sex fro free.

This is a very good way to practise your sex skills before actually going on a date.

Free Sex at Cafe CumCum.

Ready?

It really depends what you are looking for.

If you are looking for uncomplicated, no strings attached and drama free sex, go to locations which cater exactly for that. Those regions are typically A rated and can be easily found in the viewer’s search facility.

Simply type “sex”, “BDSM”, “swinger club” “CMNF”(clothed male naked females), “gay”, “lesbian”, or whatever takes your fancy in the search box under “places”. A list shows up ordered by traffic.

Simple as that.

Go there and you find a lot of of like minded people. Not everybody’s cup of tea though.

Join their groups, or search for sex related groups to join. A typical one would be: “ Time for Quickie”.

Or simply visit the list of popular sex places our colleague Jessica has visited for you already. You find them here: Top 10 most popular sex places in Second Life.

If you are the more romantic type, try one of the more popular dance places. Preferably jazz clubs or ballroom style venues.

Make sure you dress the part when going to a more formal dating venue in Second Life. You should have at least one decent tuxedo in your inventory. Bear in mind that those places are typically G rated.

Here comes the best Second Life dating tip:

Find an activity you like in Second Life, NOT related to sex. Join their group and socialize with other members, go to their events and participate in group chat. This way you find people with similar interests as yourself.

Make friends and see if you click with someone enough to ask her/him out for a date.

This requires more effort obviously, but might result in more meaningful or deeper relationships than a quickie around the corner.

Make an Effort When Approaching Somebody for Virtual Sex

It actually might get you a similar response from a virtual girl as in real life. The girls in Second Life do not sit around all day, waiting to please you or for you to fuck them.

Remember there is a real person behind every avatar. Be respectful and don’t assume everybody is just for virtual sex in Second Life.

If you fancy someone, chat with the person, try to get to know her a bit and use your imagination to seduce her.

Read her profile before you approach her.

This might save you embarrassing situations such as approaching a lesbian or somebody with a partner.

What next?

Take her out dancing, show her nice places and most importantly converse and wait for the right moment to talk about sex.

An erotic encounter is much nicer if you “click” with that person, otherwise it’s not sex, but nothing but just boring pixel porn, otherwise referred to as “poseball hoping”.

Finally: Respect Other People’s Limits

Not everyone wants to use voice or webcam. If she doesn’t want to, respect it. The same goes for sexual preferences. If she is not into BDSM or whatever you might have in mind, don’t be pushy.

Being pushy can get easily understood as “sexual harassment” which gets you very fast on ban lists and if reported, you might even get kicked out of Second Life completely.

Deal with rejection in a mature way. It is childish to start insulting or lecturing a person who simple does not want to have sex with you.

Call it a day and try elsewhere (or improve your skills and looks).

The Easy Luxury Alternative: Second Life Escort Girls

You are looking for a very sophisticated erotic experience with somebody who really knows how to please even the most discerning virtual sex seeker?

Why not try a professional virtual sex worker?

The advantages are obvious: They know exactly how to please, they typically have very sexy and sophisticated avatars and they don’t get angry when you want to leave them afterwards.

They don’t fall in love, don’t provide drama, are available at your discretion and are utmost discret.

There are many escort and stripper clubs in Second Life where you can easily pick up an escort of your choice.

Some are more sophisticated than others, simply search for “escort” in places search. You will be surprised how many of such places exist in Second Life.

Another option is go to our new Second Life escorts website . We have listed there a very hot and experienced escort girls which you can make an appointment for virtual sex with.

They have all been casted, assessed and trained to make sure you get an unforgetable sexperience.

I am on that list as well:

Caroline Resident Escort Girl in Second Life

Here my profil: Second Life Escort Girl Caroline Resident

All of our girls went through a sorrow recruiting process and where all tested by my boyfriend for their sex skills, looks, tools and attitudes. New girls will be added on a regular basis.

Conclusion

This guide should give you an idea, what’s required. Get it right and have fun. If you need advice or practice feel free to contact me In-World.

🙂

Avatar Name: Caroline Takeda

Caroline