Dear RainbowMan,

My husband and I have recently moved to a new city. We did our house and everything beautifully and we were in a very happy married life. Me and my husband are both gainfully employed. We are happy. We also have a 15-year-old son, who studies abroad. We are one happy family. Or rather, I should say, we were. My husband and I used to have passionate sex with each other for the past 16 years of the 18 years that we have been married. We were still this very loving couple, however, there has been no sexual chemistry since the past 2 years. Somehow, we became bored of each other, I guess when it came to sex.

Around this time, I felt attracted to a guy in my office. One thing led to another and we had sex a couple of times. I was ridden with guilt as I was cheating on my husband, but I was also enjoying it. It was a sort of mixed feeling. This guy could be best described as my f!#k buddy. We had no love, we just made love. Two weeks back, my son was in the city and I had an important project, so my husband took leave to be with my son. My son would go in the afternoons to visit his friends sometimes. This particular day, my husband was home and I got done from work early too. I came home early, didn’t ring the bell but wanted to give a surprise, so used the key and came in. I went straight to the bedroom and what I saw after that, shook me. I found my husband completely naked in the bed and my boyfriend, who was topless, had my husband’s penis in his hand. I was shell shocked. My husband, rather than apologising or covering himself, came up to me and started kissing me. In just a while, I realised that I am in the middle with my husband on one side and boyfriend on the other. I got up and went into the restroom. When I came out, my husband tried speaking to me but I didn’t chat with him. My boyfriend behaved as if he didn’t know me. I didn’t know that I was married to a homosexual man. Did my boyfriend throughout two time? I feel cheated. I feel angry. I don’t know how I am feeling exactly but it is uneasy.

Regards

Two Timed Woman

Dear Two Timed Woman,

Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your life with me in such great detail. You have shared several issues. I will try and keep my response to the point for clarity.