[tw: fat hate, weight loss talk]

Thin privilege is being able to go have dinner with friend on a friday night, without having to explain why you are fat or why you gained 80 pounds due to anxiety and medical issues like knee surgery, without having to apologize for being fat. This happened to me last night with a friend. She used to be overweight, but is now skinny and a vegetarian, and she kept badgering me to lose weight to the extreme, to the point I had no fun at the dinner and ended up feeling depressed about myself (more than I already am).

Thin privilege is not having the person body policing you showing you all the bikinis they just bought and having to pretend you are happy, all the while feeling like the grossest person on the planet because the person showing you their bikinis made you feel that way. Thin privilege is feeling entitled to go to the beach, without wanting to hide under a towel and clothes, without covering yourself up the second you are out of the water, without feeling ashamed for having fun because you love the ocean and the sand too.

Thin privilege is having the right to be private about your body, your health, and your struggles, without having it be a topic of conversation that is up for grabs by anyone who feels like “helping” you.

Thin privilege is not having your grandfather say “if you ever have children they will be disabled and have health problems because you are so fat."

Thin privilege not having to sit in your room crying on a saturday, because someone made you feel bad because of your looks during a dinner on friday night, dredging up feelings of inadequacy you’re always trying to suppress.

Thin privilege is not having to make a joke of your own body to make others feel more comfortable around you.