We are repeatedly told to follow our hearts blissfully into the sunset, without looking back and caring what other people may say or think about us. Whether the choices we are making are big or small, we shouldn't worry about what others think. That has been my attitude on pretty much most of my life choices. However, this one, I am starting to feel differently about. It's a big deal, a big deal that is pretty public. My ever changing body is the subject of many a conversation and after a few key questions it feels awkward not to confess I am actually a surrogate. Surrogacy is an uncommon subject that alot of people don't actually know alot about.

Surrogacy is not common in Canada and alot of people don't know much about it except that a woman has agreed to have baby for another couple that cannot. Sounds pretty straightforward right? It's not. There are different types of surrogacy and every situation is unique. I like to think mine is exceptionally unique given our family dynamic, but I will explain these topics further in a future post.

Over the next few weeks I really want to clarify a few important facts about being a surrogate, possibly educate, and heck, maybe even enlighten a few people on why I am actually doing this. I am an open book, I LOVE talking about being a surrogate and my pregnancy, I welcome the questions and comments! The thing is, I've been getting some odd comments and questions from people. Now don't get me wrong, 90% of the time people say wonderful things and ask great, respectful questions. However, there have definitely been more than a few questions and comments, that when received, come across as just plain rude and insensitive. These are from people I know, some many years, some a few months and some are even family. There is no malicious intent in these comments, I know this, I really do. No one has said to me that they disagree with what I am doing or that I shouldn't be doing it, that is not the issue. Not that I would give a fuck if it was.

The issue is people are uneducated about surrogacy and from my uncomfortable experiences so far, they speak before thinking about what word vomit they are projecting at me. This isn't about my feelings being hurt, I understand it's a confusing subject. I have a pretty thick skin and have never replied with anything less than a pleasant smile and the best enlightening answer I could summon up in about 2 seconds. Am I boiling with rage underneath? Yes. Do I let it show and make the other person feel bad about their stupidity? No. My mother didn't raise me that way. Being rude, no matter the situation, is not the answer. Instead, my blog is born!