5 Ways How Relationships Can Keep You Out of Trouble

Ever wondered how relationships can keep you out of trouble? We live in a culture where relationships, whether it’s with your dog, friends, lover, or family can influence the way you behave. You go about either trying to please them, socially engage with them, and experience life together.

And no matter how much you try backing away from it, everyone is bound to change in one way or another once they’re in a committed relationship.

Unlike being with ourselves, relationships test our characteristics and willingness to act on our beliefs. It’s easy to tell ourselves the type of virtues we have when we’re alone. But when we’re with someone who puts us through tough situations that test our values, that’s when our true characteristics are revealed.

Maybe you can tell yourself you’re willing to support someone during their time of need. But when you actually do encounter a situation where someone needs your help, your personal values are tested.

I remember when I said it was easy to listen to someone’s problems and help them through it. And when someone came to me with a distressful request, it took me by shock. A variety of emotions tickled in me and I wasn’t sure how to react. That was when I realized I had to work on those skills before telling myself I was ready to commit to them.

Part of living a comfortable life is treating your relationship the same way you treat yourself. Your intentions shouldn’t aim at beating someone with a stick because you wouldn’t want someone doing that to you. When you feel irritated or annoyed with the world, temporarily separate yourself from them rather than forever pushing them out of your life.

If you don’t have any interest to start a relationship, let go of the need to restrain your emotions and feelings. Ignore the negative impulses suppressing your inner thoughts.

Despite what you tell your conscious, you want someone to love you for who you are. You want someone who can relate and comfort you in your time of distress. Because once you decide to open up to someone, you’re reacting to your natural influences.

Most people refuse to fall in love because they dealt with a broken heart after a bad relationship. As a result, they protect themselves from falling in love. They shove possible partners out the window to avoid being hurt again. They neglect the importance of love and having someone by their side.

This harms your physical and mental needs that needs you to share your passion and interests with another person. You can’t guarantee yourself that you won’t experience another heart break because love is a gamble.

There’s no guarantee that someone you’re interested in will fall in love with you just because you love them. But that doesn’t mean you should shut those feelings down.

It’s better to have loved and lost it than to never loved from the beginning. Everyone doesn’t have the chance to experience love because they shut themselves away from the world.

People are so afraid of losing love that they refuse to find it. Though it’s true you won’t receive a heartbreak, you will receive a feeling that’s even worse. Which is an emptiness that makes you question the importance of life. You constantly feel alone and that gives birth to depression.

Recall a time where you injured yourself as a child. Sure, it may have been painful at first and the only thing you thought about during that moment. But overtime as your pain started to heal, you no longer had those same thoughts. Your pain remain in the past as you let go of that dramatic experience.

That’s how love operates. After a breakup with your lover or friend, it’s a painful process to recover from. But through time and acceptance, those wounds heal and you continue going about your life. The only thing that holds you back from moving into the next relationship is yourself.

5 Ways How Relationships Can Keep You Out of Trouble

1. You won’t take your anger out upon others

Forming a relationship doesn’t mean just having someone to speak to about your problems. It also means having someone who helps you whenever you’re overwhelmed. You have someone to help you when you’re cleaning the house. You have someone when you need someone’s shoulder to cry on.

Though isolation does give you the comfort of not worrying about other people problems, relationships open a new door for you. You’re able to speak to someone about your problems and the issues you’re going through.

Without a healthy relationship, you easily get stressed after dealing with events that trigger negative emotions. As a result, you form defensive habits that causes you to release your anger upon the world.

Remember, when you have a reliable person by your side, life becomes easier when dealing with hard times. They act as your cheerleader and encourage you not to direct your anger to the world. When you feel depressed and think hope is lost, their love and compassion picks you up.

2. You won’t form unhealthy addictions

A major trigger for depression is dealing with feeling alone. When you’re with someone you trust and care about, you lose that feeling of loneliness. Whether it’s with a friend, a family member, or your partner, knowing someone is there for you gives you a raid of positive emotions.

Humans are very social creatures and without it, you form unnatural hatred in your heart. You begin distrusting the world and this leads to unhealthy addictions. Examples are overeating junk foods because it sends false positive feelings into your body. Or maybe instead of junk food, you drinking excessively every day to escape from realty.

There was a time when I encountered a man who spoke about the time he lost a lot of people in his life and felt alone. He didn’t have a family, friends, or a girlfriend he could speak to. He only had himself and overtime fell into a depression, continuously thinking about suicide. The only thing that kept him going were the video games he played and his interactions with other gamers from across the world.

Though video games played a vital role for this young individual, it was having the ability to connect to other people that helped him. It was during those moments he didn’t want to indulge in junk foods or think about suicide.

3. You Maintain a Healthy Tolerance Level

Relationships offer you a chance to not only bond with someone else, but to test your tolerance. It’s easy for us to assume we can tolerate other people personalities or behaviors, but it’s another thing to actually experience it.

An irritating, but effective, benefit you receive from relationships is the ability to forgive more often and understand how people operate. When someone choose to remain to themselves, it isolates themselves from other people and give them a chance to understand how they behave.

Loners easily get defensive about anything and develop “entitled” characteristics, believing the world is meant to serve them. The worst part is that loners are more likely to live in a false reality by assuming they know how the world and people operate. They fail to realize that their interests aren’t the only thing in the world, and there’s more to life than just staying to yourself.

One of the best benefits I received from forming a relationship with someone was discovering I can put my partner’s needs before my own without compromising my goals.

4. You’re On Alert For How you Behave

It’s hard to mentally keep track of everything you do within a single day. You can’t consciously keep aware of the type of tone you use on other people, the body language you display, or the way you treat them.

Without someone constantly reminding you when you’re acting rude, depressed, or bitter, you act blindly based on your own judgments.

Even people who formed the best type of self discipline need other people to remind them when they’re acting rude. You can’t always rely on yourself to determine how to behave properly. Sometimes you need an outside pair of eyes that can catch and correct those negative habits.

When you’re about to say something that can hurt someone’s feelings, the person you formed a relationship with can prevent you from acting on those emotions. A similar experience I had was when I was furious at someone for a past action they committed.

But before acting on my emotions, I was consulted by one of mentors. He gave me the chance to reflect on myself and see what was really happening in my mind.

5. You Won’t Wonder Into the Unknown

A great benefit for forming relationships is that they keep you from developing unnatural health illnesses. Most studies have shown that committing yourself to a relationship triggers the hormone oxytocin which lowers your stress chemicals.

When you find a special connection with someone, you receive positive vibes that boosts your happiness and energy. Rather than acting on your own accords, you consciously know you have someone by your side who’s supporting you along the way.

Though self motivation and forming good habits are encouraged for self development, holding a relationship along the way is vital for your personal health. A happy relationship lowers your blood pressure because your brain releases a chemical reward known as dopamine.

Humans need social interaction and have a need to be loved and understood. That’s why when you do find someone you can relate to, you receive an abundance of “feel-good” hormones racing down your bloodstream.

Whether it’s through verbal interaction or physical touch, any positive relationship is healthy for your well being. Without it, you have a higher chance of raising illnesses, depression, and a lack of motivation.