Alwaysannoyingsomeonesmomehow Thu 15-Aug-19 12:22:13

Situation is an urgent need to relocate someone and their vehicle that they can't drive, their several children and nine animals, (half are bigger ones) and possessions, from where they are now, to where they 'absolutely have to be on x date' on a very low budget.



They insist they cant fly, or split up animals and people.

Not all animals and children are expected to travel well and all will be packed into tight space. (one animal to be drugged with possible breathing side effects)

The journey they need to undertake is a minimum of 9 hours, easily up to 12.



Physical end of driving isn't an issue. (am experienced long term commercial driver and know my stuff and how to do it.)



Adult has various conditions, mainly undiagnosed, but no question that some very serious stuff seems to be happening to them.



Long history of them apparently losing consciousness and then ending up comatose from hours to days. They're saying it's normal and likely to happen at any point on this journey and all fine, the kids are used to them being unconscious (not asleep) for hours on end.



I and another driver were both originally fine to take (and care for) animals and stuff when people were all flying, but then got 'people now must travel in vehicle too' sprung on us.



We think the normalizing of someone being unconscious (and in front of the children) and being expected to say 'oh well' and carry on if that happens, is dangerous, irresponsible, and beyond acceptable.



But as a result, this (much loved) person will now turn to a non commercial driver who they don't know, who says they'll do it, and place everyone's lives in random hands.



Adult is saying being unconscious for all or part of the journey isn't life threatening, it's just how their life is, welcome to the choices they have to make all the time, and we're making too big a deal out of it. The children are all so used to it all etc. However these are the same children who can't be split from their parent,each other, or animals for the journey because of anxiety.



I get it, and bodily autonomy, but it feels like being made to accept the unacceptable because otherwise the situation may get worse.



We're now second guessing ourselves. I think we're NBU, but are we making to much out of it?