holy-sexuality:

A thought occurred to me over the past few days, concerning sexual sin.

One of the first things a priest or anyone else will ask, if confessing a sexual sin (if you are married) is, “are you not sexually satisfied?”

And this question is an obvious misunderstanding of what sexual sin is.



Yes, being sexually frustrated makes temptation stronger, but it is not the root of lust. A married couple can have contraception-free, consented, regularly occurring sex with plenty of intimate bonding and orgasms…and one or both will still struggle with porn, masturbation, etc.



This is because sexual sin is not about fulfilling a sexual desire: it is about fulfilling a perverted desire.



And that’s what premarital sex, porn, masturbation, rape, and more are, in the end: sick, twisted perversions of what sex is for and what it should be. All sin is nothing but a perversion of a virtue, an attempt to recreate and remold a goodness and truth of God. Satan, despite his attempt to be a god, is not God. he can not create, but only pervert. Sex was not left untouched by the demons.

So, yes, a woman can have orgasm-filled sex with her man and have a healthy relationship with him outside the bedroom…but she will still have tmeptation because she still has a craving to touch herself into her own orgasm.Her husband will deeply love and enjoy sexing up his wife, sure….but he will still have his mind tainted and craving a video of a teen girl getting raped by grown men on the internet.Holy sex can not satisfy the desire to participate in perverted sex, that was never the purpose of holy sex. In fact, sexual perversions can never be satisfied, because perversions are meant to enslave you in an endless cycle of self-destruction.

No, perverted sex can never be overcome by being “satisfied”. It can only be conquered and destroyed through denial of self and constant, vigilant prayer. In other words, turning over yourself completely to God.

Obviously yes, you should be diligent in practicing the opposing virtue to any sin you struggle with: that includes practicing chastity if you are struggling with lust. But having chaste sex or any other act will never satisfy your perverted desires, because they are not meant to satisfy perversion: they are meant to destroy the chains that keep you tied to sin.

-PSOSA