Marriage is considered a natural part of adult life. It’s an event that everyone talks about at least once when growing up and has some sort of idea about how they want it to be.

However this view is beginning to change as men around the world are weighing up the logical pros and cons. When it comes to marriage it’s easy to get caught up in the romance and Disney Prince and Princess vibe that was forced upon us from an early age.

It’s created a situation where the people who are getting married don’t really know why they’re doing it. They just feel like it’s expected of them and follow the rules set out by society like sheep.

Once you remove the media created emotion of marriage and look at it for what it is, the entire picture changes. This is what millions of men around the world are starting to wake up to. Here are some of the reasons they have for not tying the knot.

It’s Kind Of Pointless

In truth, men are realising that nothing really changes once you’re married. You don’t gain anything, but a lot can potentially get taken away. After you say I Do, there’s a Honeymoon, beyond this normal life goes on with 2 changes.

Your Wife has a new surname You have rings on your fingers

Hundreds of years ago people got married for religious reasons and so they could have sex in order to have children. However in a world where Atheists are getting married, we have to start asking the question, “why on Earth are we still doing this?”

Getting into a relationship with someone has it’s benefits. Loyalty, sex, trust, etc. Marriage just feels like an uneccesary extention of something that’s already taking place.

Many argue that marriage creates a bond and decreases the risk of cheating. But it shouldn’t take a ring for a boyfriend or girlfriend to start acting like a good person. All of the so called benefits of marriage should be happening in a standard relationship regardless.

For most modern couples, they find themselves going through an outdated ceremony that began for religious reasons, in order to be together, have sex and have kids. All things they could do and many are doing prior to marriage anyway.

The whole event of marriage has become more of a forced event rather than something that people actually need.

Initial Cost

The cost of marriage is ridiculous. Everyone knows someone who took out a loan in order to tie the knot, yet struggles with their monthly payments.

Marriage on average costs around £20,000 – $26,000, money that most people don’t have. The entire notion of spending $26,000 in order to wear a ring and have your name changed is making men everywhere question whether it’s worth it or not.

The only reason most men end up going through with the marriage is because of the pressure from their partner, friends and family.

For the same amount of money, you could make some smart investments and set yourself up for life, start a business or even keep that money in your bank account and have a great quality of life without financial stress.

Large Financial Risk

With divorce rates through the roof, men are wondering why they would take the risk of having their net worth split in half when the percentages are displaying huge warning signs.

If you get married, you have roughly a 55% chance of your net worth being cut by half, and above if you have children.

This may be the worst gamble in human history, especially since the other side of the coin doesn’t really have any major benefits other than a stable home, but that’s not a guarentee.

Divorce rates in the US are at 53%, the UK and Canada around 45%, Spain and Portugal sit at 60% and Belgium tops the pile with divorce rates at 70%

The number of people getting married is down by roughly 40% from 40 years ago. If this trend continues then marriage will be obselete by 2077.

The Stories

The biggest fear for a lot of men comes from the experiences of other men. If you want to know what a movie, meal or product was like, then ask someone who’s watched, eaten or used it.

If you want to know what marriage is like then ask men who have been married and see what they think. Hearing about billionaires having to give a woman they’ve only been with for 2 years 3.5 billion is enough to make us sweat a little.

During an eye-opening podcast between Joe Rogan and Dan Bilzerian, both shared stories where men had lost out financially when going through a divorce. Most of the men in these stories ended up paying these women once divorced, for a longer duration than the actual time they were married for. How is this fair?

Divorce is a lucrative business. People and companies make a lot of money from unsuccessful marriages, and with the divorce rates only rising, these companies are only going to make more and more money.

Paying For A Name Change Is Cheaper & Includes Less Risk

If you like the idea of your children and wife all having the same name, then simply pay for a name change for your girlfriend. It’s around £19,000 cheaper and carries a much lower future financial risk.

There’s no actual difference between paying for a name change and getting married. You could even pay a little extra to get 2 rings if that’s something you’d like to do.

In the end the two of you would still be together, there’s no law that prevents you having kids, you can still have sex as you please, you can live together, have a joint bank account if you really wanted to and give your children the same name as the two of you have.

In the modern era marriage has turned into nothing more than a reason to brag to friends, post on social media and give the appearance that your life has moved forward.

In reality, you have less money, nothing you didn’t already have in return for getting married and you’re now walking on a financial pirates plank, that your wife has control of.