bogleech:

I don’t want to hijack that other thread where women are discussing this but I am not a woman and I experience the same thing when a man raises his voice; an instant emotional shutdown like he might flip out and kill me any moment.

It has to come from how we tend to raise women because I never spent time with anyone but my mother, grandmother and their friends - other women - at almost any point in my childhood to mid-teens and was never exposed to men until I started working as an adult.



Even a man who is saying friendly things loudly enough does it. It instills like an instant “do what he wants and stay quiet or try to flee” brain-response. I turn into a silently nodding, smiling robot.