Much of ''Spider-Man,'' the blockbuster action movie, was filmed on location in Queens, the comic book domain of the web-slinging superhero. As it happens, the realism of the Spider-Man comic transcends the mere film.

In the comics, Peter Parker, the mild-mannered photojournalist who is Spider-Man's alter ego, grew up at 20 Ingram Street, a modest, two-story boarding house run by his Aunt May in the heart of Forest Hills Gardens. The address actually exists and is home to a family named Parker: Andrew and Suzanne Parker, who moved there in 1974, and their two daughters.

In 1989, the family began receiving junk mail addressed to Peter Parker. ''We got tons of it,'' Mrs. Parker said yesterday. ''Star Trek magazines, a Discover Card in his name, and notices from them over the years calling him a good customer.'' There were also prank phone calls, all of which she attributed to a ''teenager who found it funny that we had the same last name as Spider-Man.''

The Parkers had no idea they were living in a comic book landmark, she said.

Then, last summer, a reporter from The Queens Tribune, a weekly newspaper, called Mrs. Parker and told her that the family's life was imitating Pop Art. He also told her that Spider-Man's greatest enemy, the Green Goblin, goes by the alias Norman Osborn, which is almost the same surname as Mrs. Parker's neighbor, Terri Osborne. Mrs. Osborne has lived across the street, at 19 Ingram, since 1979.