Even coercive sex, if we’re talking about psychological pressure, is not a one-way street: In 2016, UCLA professor Lara Stemple analyzed data from several major studies and found that it happens to men, usually at the hands of women, far more often than commonly known. Yes, it matters that men are nearly always bigger and stronger. But to suggest that women are constantly cowering in fear of men, as so much #MeToo rhetoric does, is truly disempowering: How can women be equals in any area if they’re too scared to say no to a male?