by Incubus30 » Fri Oct 01, 2010 3:29 pm

janko wrote: Hello!



How often is one of the symptoms of BPD patient promiscuity?

Is it common both in BPD women as well as in BPD men?

How bad can it get? ... I've had some 80 sexual partners so far and counting...

Please share your experience! Thanks. Hello!How often is one of the symptoms of BPD patient promiscuity?Is it common both in BPD women as well as in BPD men?How bad can it get? ... I've had some 80 sexual partners so far and counting...Please share your experience! Thanks.

will

It's one of the main compulsions people with BPD commit, if they have any. Being a 30 year old male with BPD, I can confirm that it is in both genders. It's all about "acting out".80 sexual partners isn't unheard of. I stopped counting the number of partners I have had since I lost my virginity, and it's been more than ten years. But it's way, way, way more than the average of any Western data, gender aside. Usually when I give an estimate to people, it's clear to them I am a horn-dog.For my case, the hallmark is the absolute lack of sexual boundaries and a very sexual dominant frame. The only limit is that I know that I am heterosexual, and no illegal or disgusting things. But inside of that, the sky is the limit. I can do batshit crazy sexual stuff that would make most people cringe: humiliation, BDSM, rough sex, public indecency, exhibitionism, prostitution and other sex trades, and so on. The one constant is the need to be dominant, even domineering, to the point of inflicting pain, having sex purposefully in a mean, vicious way, and push the boundaries even further to get to the rush.And yes, I am a serial cheater, but it came in late. I did not start to cheat until I was 28, but now I've cheated three times and I don't see myself stopping anytime soon as it's clear it is a compulsion. I still care for my S.O., but I simply do not believe in monogamy and faithfulness. I made it very clear to her, as soon as we started dating, that Icheat on her eventually because I am a slut and a rake. I just don't rub it in her face to humiliate her, I am not a prick. Also, she can do the same if she ever desires it, and sometimes I even encourage her. It's plain reciprocity.In both men and women, sexually dominant people with BPDs are among the best lovers you will ever encounter, and they'll drive you wild like succubi and incubi. I've got even paid a handsome wad of money once by a well-to-do cougar after sex because she suddenly felt the need to reward me. However, in serious relationships, we sexual dominant BPDs are hellish to live with simply because we have the option to go see elsewhere if we ever feel unfulfilled, and we know it. This threat is always present as a Sword of Damocles over the partner's head and we do use it to our advantage from time to time.