Having your Moon in Virgo is about a lot more than being nit-picky and hard to please. It’s about striving to be your best self in the face of adversity.

The Moon in Astrology

The Moon is traditionally ruled by Cancer, the sign of motherhood and feminine qualities. In our natal charts, the moon represents our emotional body, our mothers & our relationships with them, as well as how we relate to others. Our insecurities, fears, emotional dependencies, sensitivities, unconscious reactions, and the way we seek emotional fulfillment can all be derived from our moon sign. Depending on an individual’s chart, the moon sign can be a very hidden, private part of one’s personality, or it can be very prominent, like wearing one’s heart on their sleeve.

Ruled by Mercury

One of the key things one must understand in trying to understand Virgo Moon is that because Virgo is ruled by Mercury, the emotional expression of the moon is being filtered through a very analytical and sometimes critical lens.

Virgo Moon processes emotions not by feeling them and letting them out, but by analyzing their own reactions, labeling them, and trying to store them away into neat little boxes within their minds (or into pros & cons lists in their notes app.) Negative feelings are likely to either take a back-burner or become overwhelmingly anxiety inducing, sometimes seemingly without any logical reason. Virgo moons like to fix things, and when they think something needs to be fixed then it can consume all of their attention. Whether they choose to focus on what can easily be fixed now or tackle what is most challenging is up to the individual.

Virgo Moons feel safe & comfortable when things are simplified, organized, and systematized. They thrive in situations where they can stick to a routine because it allows them to feel in control of their lives and themselves.

It is much easier for Virgo Moon to breathe when they know that they can follow through with a plan and what the results will be. And that things are exactly where they left them before they walked away. (I wouldn’t recommend cleaning or redecorating while they’re on vacation.) It is because of this that Virgo Moons are often labeled perfectionists, neat freaks, or wrongly mislabeled as “OCD.” The truth is that Virgos simply know what works for them and what doesn’t. They are resistant to the change brought upon by others when they feel like the system they currently use to do a task is perfect the way that is it. As a rule, why try to fix something that isn’t broken?

This is not to insinuate that all Virgo Moons live in perfectly clean houses or drive sterile cars because as it turns out, some of them grow up in states of chaos and become afraid of the order that they know they need to feel better.

This can lead to Virgo being very comfortable smack dab in the middle of a huge mess. They will reject anyone trying to help them “clean up their act.” Their desk at work may be spotless but at home it is what they like to call “Organized Chaos.” Is it really? We’ll never truly know, but they seem to know where everything is, so it is hard to argue with them. They may even crave messy situations, as cleaning it up will make them feel useful and productive. Not just physically messy, but sometimes emotionally messy as well… yes, drama has it’s place in the Virgo Moon’s heart.

When Virgo Moon is put into situations where their routine is thrown off, thrown completely away, (or they are not allowed to have one) control issues can arise because Virgo Moon suddenly feels completely out of control, of everything. Que Anxiety! Paranoia! Irrational Behavior!

When you take away their safety net of perfection, Virgo Moon can lose all sense of emotional stability.

Growing up in chaotic households or foster care systems can be especially traumatizing to the Virgo Moon Child, because then a routine is never established. This is usually where the thriving in chaos trait starts to weave its way into the Virgo Moon personality, and a mess can start to look like home.

Virgo Moon will feel good about themselves when they learn to get a handle on a routine or organizational system that works for them, allowing them to feel the satisfaction of being able to execute a goal perfectly. Such as cleaning the house, a skin-care routine, or perfecting a template in which to write all of their essays. They make great friends with planners, organizers, and traveler’s notebooks as well as calendar and journal apps. Whether they choose to actually use them and help themselves is a whole other matter altogether.

Servitude as a Love Language

Being able to create a task list and then carry it out is very emotionally satisfying for Virgo Moon, so satisfying that they will take on the task lists of their friend sand family and start crossing items off theirs too with a smile on their face.

Being able to help others take care of themselves in the way that Virgo Moon cares for themselves is euphoric for them, and why they’re often found with so many pets. Pets require the love, care, & attention that Virgo seeks to give without asking for emotional responses from them in return. It’s the perfect symbiotic relationship. To Virgo Moon, the care, advice, & attention they are offering you IS their emotional response. Mercury’s mouth becomes dry in Earthy Virgo when you ask them about their feelings. Their actions speak louder than their words maybe ever will. You must pay attention. (And maybe ignore their more critical comments, which are always said with good intentions.)

It is not unlikely to find Virgo Moons working in nursing as well as animal hospitals, shelters, or with children.

Defense Mechanisms

Virgo Moon has several defense mechanisms, the main one being unrealistic expectations.

These expectations are not just casual goals they would like to meet one day, but the upmost perfectionism they expect themselves to meet at all costs. They are highly self-critical. When unable to meet their own expectations, Virgo moon sometimes projects these expectations onto others, usually their friends & loved ones, which can lead to conflict and emotional distance that make them feel safe, but makes them appear harsh, nagging, & critical.

The second is emotionally isolating themselves.

Refusing to share their internal reactions with others out of fear of loss of acceptance (their idea of whats acceptable being based on their own ideals & not those of others) leads to a loss of integrity, making them shallow & superficial in the eyes of others. By choosing to relate shallowly, Virgo is keeping their quiet observations & techniques to themselves, not helping anyone, which ultimately makes them feel useless and undeserving of love, attention, and companionship. Que self-esteem issues & loneliness that feels like black hole.

The key to Virgo Moon’s emotional satisfaction is to let go of their unrealistic expectations for themselves, as they are the root of the majority of their self-esteem issues, control issues, and & rampant anxiety.

Recognize when perfection is achievable & when it is not. Virgo moon at it’s best is compassionate, kind, & helpful. They have a warm & subtly fragile disposition that is inviting to those that need them most. Intelligent, witty, sarcastic, & self-sacrificing, they make excellent co-workers & friends.

The best way to acknowledge the Virgo Moon in your life is to acknowledge the things they do for you, and let them know that you appreciate it. Like a wall-flower they observe everything about you, so show them that you notice them too. They want to be recognized.

Famous Virgo Moons (Sidereal):

Nicki Minaj, Jack Nicholson, J. K. Rowling, Channing Tatum, Amy Adams, Eva Bruan, Genghis Khan, Leonardo DiCaprio, Harry Styles, Ariana Grande, Jay-Z, Kristen Stewert, George W. Bush

Thank you for reading!

Madison Louise

xoxo