Getting-Things-Done freaks know what Pareto is.Puting 80% of efforts into 20% of most important task is handy to manage day-to-day activities effectively, or even for conducting a small project.But, can we Pareto-ed our feelings?On Thursday, last weekend, my mom called me. She had things to do at Surabaya on Sunday-Monday. Instantly, I offered her my hand.My schedule changed a bit. But it's okay.On Saturday, I had small discussion with my friend. He said that my latest update (it's a programming thingy) was a bit out of track. It wasn't no big deal; I could fix them in one day. The problem was, it was supposed to be online on Monday and working on Sunday was out of the question for me.First conflict happened.My wife called me just when I was about to go to pick up my mom. Luna got her arm and leg bruised. It's easy to fix, nothing to worry about. But knowing that I couldn't make it home at that moment was breaking my heart.That was the second.To make things worse, here came the third.I had a bit misunderstanding with a friend of mine. It was due to my stupidity and stubbornness. I hope I could talk to this friend so there wouldn't be any trouble again.I wish I could but I can't.And now, at this very moment, 6 unreplied emails are shouting at me: "How cruel you are, Andry! We're not just emails, we are your friends!"You got the idea.My belief teaches me that every man's life belongs to his mother and every woman's to her husband. Following these rules, we won't need "Men are From Mars Women are From Venus" or "Don't Sweat Small Thing in Love" anymore.I picked up my mom, of course.When I was 16 I ran off from home for about two months. My friends provided me with shelters. My friends are my families. I hope I do the same.Here's my question:Can we Pareto-ed our feelings? Can I put my mom under "urgent important", my jobs under "urgent not important", my friends under "not urgent important", and my Luna under "urgent important" also?Surely, we can't please everyone. But I hope there will be win-win solution (and I don't know how, darn it!)I'm telling you. It is so hard to be a programmer nowadays.