Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you lovely couples out there – if you are looking for something kind of spicy, but also sweet to try this love-filled holiday, consider pegging. You just may fall in love even more!

In this article, one of our readers describes her first-hand experience in increasing intimacy in her relationship through pegging. After reading, be sure to check out our collection of Strapless Strap-On Dildos as a perfect addition to your Valentine’s Day fun.

My Pegging Story

If you had asked me years ago what my opinion was of pegging, I would have scoffed in your face. The notion of putting a dildo on and doing my boyfriend with it was the farthest thought from my mind. It was silly, in fact. I couldn’t even fathom being able to put on a strap-on with a straight face.

But one day while discussing our sexual fantasies with each other, my boyfriend confided in me that pegging was something he had often thought about, and I tried my best to take it in stride. Of course, I really had no idea what the process of pegging entailed or what appeal my boyfriend even saw in it.

So we talked. He opened up like I had never seen him open up before, and I was all ears. Something about someone you love confessing a secret fantasy to you, because they trust you enough to do so – it’s HOT.

Then I did my research. I discovered many helpful articles on prostate stimulation and just how amazing it can feel for a man. I stumbled across many posts written by REAL people who had had tons of success with pegging in the bedroom. I found website after website with a variety of toys for sale. It began to ease my mind, knowing that pegging was seemingly becoming more dominant in the public eye than ever before.

That first time was something special that my boyfriend and I shared. There were some bumbling, stumbling moments and a lot of giggles, but in the end, we bonded over an intimate experience that was new and exciting to us both. It was fun to try something totally different. For me, I loved knowing I was indulging in a fantasy he had been dying to try for ages. It made the both of us feel good, in the end.

You probably don’t think of the words “pegging” and “intimacy” in the same sentence, but that’s exactly what it is for me – an intimate moment shared with my partner.

Pegging is intimate because it involves so much communication. Talking to them about what feels good, what they like and don’t like, walking through the experience hand-in-hand – it really brought us together because it did require us to be thoughtful and open. While many sex acts, even vanilla ones, require communication from both partners, pegging was next level for us, because it wasn’t something we did every single day. Even now, having been more accustomed to it, we still talk through the process. I listen to his cues, his noises, his requests to go faster or slow down – just like he does when he is penetrating ME.

Pegging is intimate because it involves so much trust. To trust me to do something like pegging him without fear of judgment, arouses me so much and makes me feel closer in our relationship than any other sexual act does. He trusts me enough to partake in such an intimate, vulnerable act with him, and that makes me feel great. I get to focus on his pleasure. I get to make him feel good. I get to indulge him. I get to do all of these things because he trusts me with his body.

Pegging is intimate because I view him in such a different light. We go from typical, missionary sex, to him bent over in front of me, where I can run my hands along his ass and his back, seeing him from (quite literally) a different perspective. And being able to be the penetrative partner for a change is a great way to get in touch with him and how he views sex from his position. It truly provides a different insight into our sexy time, and that’s worth so much, in my opinion.

All in all, I’m very glad I decided to try pegging my boyfriend. The idea of men being fucked by their female partners with dildos is still a concept that isn’t totally main-stream (yet.) I am grateful to have a boyfriend who felt comfortable enough asking me to do this with/for him, grateful that we were able to communicate along the entire way, and even more grateful still that this has brought us closer together than ever before. It has really opened the sexual floodgates, so to speak, and made us realize that if there’s ever anything we feel we want to explore with each other in the bedroom (or even outside of the bedroom!), we are both open-minded and communicative enough to discuss it.

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