In any other context, the choices might seem trivial: purple flowers or pink, this family photo or that one, large teddy bear or small.

But for a grieving family, they are the simple questions that inform an impossible one: How do you bury three girls?

Lily Badger, 9, and Grace and Sarah Badger, 7-year-old twins, were killed along with their grandparents Lomer and Pauline Johnson after a fire ravaged the Stamford, Conn., home of the girls’ mother, Madonna Badger, early Christmas morning.

The funeral plans for the children, according to family members, were still being completed this week. “It has to be done right,” said Campbell Badger, the brother of Matthew Badger, the girls’ father.