Are Asian-Women who put down Asian-Men and marry white men being unfair to their future sons who look asian

I mysef am Eurasian male. While for the most part I would not say my dad has "yellow fever" or my mom hates asian men, it would be too easy bad faith to say that my own family is the exception. So I would say my own parents are typical of the WM/AF coupling in this sense. Asian females are the only race that prefers white men to their own race of men. While I wouldn't say my mom preffered white men to asian men, I would say she at least treated them equally. And since Asian-females are the only race of women to that, it is what produces such large disparities.

The cruel biological irony is that AM/WF couples produce children with stronger European features. They get the best of both worlds. They grow up as minorities and yet do not suffer the same social racial caste stigma of being the untermenches of America.

On the other hand the WM/AF couples of AF trying to escape the untermench AM, produce children with stronger Asiatic features. I would imagine if Kate had a male child, who suffered from the stigmas that she herself helped perpetrate, there would be some strong Oedipal conflict there to say the least.

To add insult to injury these moms often try to raise their Eurasian sons, with the "asian values" which so clearly failed on them.

The Asians seem to be the lowest racial social caste in America, since you could basically make a list of male insults, and then a list of Asian stereotypes and they match up pretty well. Of course you could argue that they are a successful economic group, but historically it is often the most successful economic minorities who are lowest socially.

A recent development among the younger generations of Americanized Asians, is a sort of George Costanza opposite approach. A glorification of ultramacho males, its a badge of honor to do bad in school etc.

How do I deal with the pressure put on me as an Asian-American male to be a macho musclehead and skirt chaser

I know this question may surprise a lot of people because the stereotype is the opposite. That is exactly why there is so much pressure!

A lot of my fellow young Asian males put a lot of pressure on fellow Azn males, to date as many white girls as possible, and to be macho and fit, and shun those who do well academically. They refer to those who are quiet and do good in school as twinkies and bananas. I dated an Asian girl once, and my friend said I was selling my people out because in San Francisco, Asian girls dated white guys by 4 to 1 ratio. He said that by dating an Asian girl, I was showing everyone how unmasculine and feminine all Asian guys are just like in TV and movies.

I think the way some of my playa pick up artist friends talk about women, is just sickening. And I wonder if they think so lowly of women as garbage, why do they even want to sleep with them? And yet their approach seems to work, which causes me to both feel down about the cruelty of a world where girls reward those who are worse to them, and also lose some respect for girls for rewarding those who hate them.

I'm actually Eurasian and a product of the white male/ asian female relationship my friends hate so much. So I get the worst of both worlds. I have very little connection to my mom's Asian family overseas, don't speak the language, and am basically culturally white. But I look mostly Asian and thus suffer the same racism and stereotypes as a new immigrant. Occasionally people think I'm Latino or something else. So if I date Asian girls not only am I being feminine, my friends look at me as a white male stealing Asian girls if I do that.

I'm not saying I'm naturally a feminine nerd beta male. Its just that being a sexually aggressive girls chaser doesn't match my values. I like to protect the weak and not pound my chest as a gorilla. And I don't want to take advantage of girls and use them as playthings. And while I'm unstereotypically bad at math and science, I don't want to have to play a role as a complete moron just to break stereotypes, and there are other academic subjects that I like.

Ah to the Ayn Randist age we live in.

So basically my fellow Asians want me to adapt the frat boy, jock, rapper, pimp style of life, that I consider immoral. On the other hand I feel even more immoral if I contribute to racism and oppressive stereotypes against my own people.

What should I do?