Tumbledryer1 Fri 28-Dec-18 20:43:09

Just had my DD call me and she’s really angry. Moved in with her partner 18mths ago and he just doesn’t lift a finger in the house. Both work full time, he often gets home before her and yet she does everything in the house - cooking, washing, dishes, cleaning etc. Yet again she has called to say they’ve had an argument about him pulling his weight. If she asks him to help out he huffs and puffs and rolls his eyes or basically says yeah in a minute but then doesn’t do it. She says she’s not his mum or his slave and he should help out they are a team. She lives a long way away from me but his parents live very close to them. AIBU to call his mum and say tell him to pull his finger out? It makes me mad he is like this and she doesn’t know what to do. I’ve said do you own washing and not his, cook your own tea and not his and see if that helps but that could just cause more arguments?? I don’t want to interfere but she’s my daughter and I don’t want her to be treated this way but she loves him and it’s not for me to say leave. WWYD??? By the way, when he was at home with his parents he had to do ALL the chores, so he knows the work involved but it’s almost like now he’s moved in with my DD he’s thought, great she can do it all!! They are 20 and 21 yrs old. Any advice?