Question

Is it bad that I can never be absolutely nice to someone?

Community Answer

It's probable that you're wary and not ready to trust people at face value, which is self-protective behavior. If you feel superior toward other people, this can be another reason for not being nice to anyone. Only you know what's really at the heart of not being "absolutely nice", and this self knowledge is already opening the way for you to deal with it. Realize that everyone thinks bad things about others internally and has awkward moments of saying something mean, then regretting it. But that's no excuse - do keep trying to better yourself and to make it more about the other person than about you.