AjasLipstick Sat 15-Sep-18 12:57:57

DD is 9. She's got a friend whose ten. They're great friends and we often have the friend over for long playdates or sleepovers.



Problem is this. The friend is overweight and wants much more food than we're comfortable giving.



DD eats well and normally. She's not overweight. When her friend is here she will ask DD to ask us for "more" of whatever they've just had...or for money to go and buy sweets.



We feed them well and don't ban the odd treat at all but the friend asks A LOT for more or for junk.



She is a lovely girl in every way but is obviously unbalanced regarding her intake of food as it's excessive.



An example is yesterday. Friend arrived at 4.00pm. On the way to ours with me, they were whispering in the back of the car and then DD said "Can we stop at the bakery for a cake!?" I said no because they had a packet of crisps each.



Then we got home and They were both given a bar of chocolate by DH...normal sized dairy milk. Then they had roast chicken, roast potatoes and gravy with a variety of vegetables. Large portions/



Then an icecream cornet.



An hour and a half later they said they were hungry and were given 4 crackers sandwiched with cheese, a chocolate biscuit....and some strawberries.



An hour after that we found DD sneaking down the hallway with a packet of chocolate biscuits.



We took them away and said that it's not on to take the whole pack. DD would simply NEVER do this. She's not that bothered about biscuits....then they came and asked for more crackers and cheese.



It bothers me because it's too much food and because DD feels she has to ask when her friend tells her to.



The friendship is a nice one...no bullying or anything but DD is a bit of a people pleaser and I don't like the constant eating that's going on when this particular friend is with us.



DD doesn't do this with other friends. I have now just started refusing...