JenLaBe Thu 28-Feb-19 19:21:24

Hello,



So long story short. A few months ago, my sil and her family cane to our, mine and dh, house. We had a lovely time and I invited them to come back at a later date for a playtime as our DC are same age ish.



She said yes, smile and all.



Her other older child was keeping on going upstairs in the rooms and especially the one of our dc so I went up and ask him to join us back down. He was literally lying on the mattress which i use to change dc and was loving it. Anyway, slipt through my mouth (which I hope I had kept shut now) to ask if one day he would like to come over for a sleep over. Eyes full on stars, he nodded. Couldn't be happier.

We both go down and I share with his mom that there was an open invitation for this young man to whenever she saw was possible and that we could talk more when she comes to have the playtime with my DC and hers.



A few weeks later, i send a message about the playtime and no answer. Like at all but a date to which she could come for the sleepover. Now my DC is very young so literally my lo was excluded from that and she was saying nothing about the playtime.

My hubby send a message to ask if she would like to answer about the playtime too to which she answers she doesn't have time for games.



So we both leave it honestly hurt for her dc.



Then her dc's birthday come. We reach out to make sure that we can give a gift and see him for his birthday. She invited us at hers. Lovely time. 5 months has passed so I reinvite for the playtime to which she says yes.

I said great! And that when she comes we can discuss about the sleepover, she said yes.



And to our surprise. Again. No mention for our DC at all but a date was given to us to when she could come for the sleepover.



This has now completely blown out as she refuses to even understand that she can't just take on half the invite and blank out our DC while expecting us to host her for the night!!! Oh yes, she would be coming with her dc too...



Aibu to be VERY annoyed??? And to have just hold my ground saying both invites were made and that she can accept or refuse both??