When Holden was at school his housemaster would have told him that if he didn’t throw off his soppy ways he would be for the high jump. On the whole that is a better way of dealing with life’s slackers than encouraging them to cry it all out. Otherwise we shall end up like those emotionally incontinent Mediterranean types. If we surrendered to our deepest feelings all the time life would become impossible. Get rid of the stiff upper lip? You must be joking. We need it more than ever.