What they’re trying, or attempting, to do is bond with me under the auspice of, 'We’re going to be good sisters or good friends,' while I see white gay men seeking empowerment and appropriating and performing black female identity. I feel like you can do that amongst yourselves if you'd like, but don’t come up to me, child, in the gay club -- or any other black woman or black man, especially black queer people -- and undermine our identity by trying to repackage it for us in this very stereotypical and racist way.