How To Change The People Around Us.





Hey guys! It has been a while since I posted my last post on Where Happiness Stems From . Today I have decided to come up with amazing post that will positively impact you with the urge and urge to change the person you are right now, to change your behaviors, to change your attitude toward people and things, to change every aspect that your life. I will be pointing out the qualities one should have before deciding to make a change to someone else.

In this life nothing is ever static. People keep changing, things keep on changing too. The changes that occur in things or people can either be of a positive or negative impact. In this post, today, I will talking on change of characters to people. I will base myself on the negative part of the change that we come across in our lives. As the blog is all about giving positive impact to people all over the world, it is better if I will be talking on things that we need to find solution for.





Change is in people’s behaviors and deeds are inevitable. The growth people go through changes their way of life. Some people will develop beliefs that doing the wrong thing will make you seen more adult. A good example is from the teenagers. I’m among them, I do interact with them, and we talk and share more things that concern us. Most of them would end up saying messing around with your parents, your elders, teachers, strangers and neighbors gives you courage that the adults do posses.





This goes on to an extend that people do things believing they are on the right track. When it goes to such an extent that people consider the bad deeds, behaviors and misconducts things to stay in their lives. This is why you and I have to take the lead to change the people around us, who think that doing the wrong this enhances their courage and makes them be seen as adults.





People who have been in their best conducts also get to go astray too. Do you know why they go astray after have been following the best path for a while? It is because they allowed themselves to be influenced and appreciate to change their identity. Changing by copying other people’s lifestyle is awesome but it depends on which kind of lifestyle you are copying from them. We should always know what is best for us to copy from the people we call “role models”





Dues to this frequent change that occur into people’s life. This results to negative development of behaviors and beliefs. That is why more people who are principled, like you and I who know what we want in our lives are advised to be the ones who can drive a positive change in this world. We need to make the world a better place. Though some people may change due to their own ignorance without knowing what is right to de done, and what is wrong to be avoided, also they need to be educated on what they should do to be on the right path.





We can change this people. But before we plan to change them we have to check on ourselves first. We have to check on our behaviors and conducts before them. If we are going to mentor them how they should follow a healthy lifestyle, are we following the healthy lifestyle we are talking of? If we are going to tell people to stop abusing drugs, are we using the drugs? What I’m trying to put across here is that when we want to change the lifestyle of other people, the first thing to do is to check on our own character if it is desirable.





If you want to change the world. Start by changing your own life first. You can’t be advising people on how to be successful in life, while your life story is full of failure. You should establish a good story line in your life for you also to impact other people to do. When you have an encouraging story line in your life, your own life history can be a motivating factor to the people who you want to change.











How can we develop a good story line in our lives? How can we influence people to change their behaviors to the best? How can we help them realize that by messing around with their lives is not the indication of their growth but a great disaster in their lives?





On my side, my own life story can change people’s attitude, behaviors and their view in life. This is because my life is full of drama, full pain, and full of calamity. Through my daily existence I manage to walk through all this shit. What I went through lately made me the person who Iam right now. This is the main reason I thought to come up with this blog. To show people that the hardship they are going through in their lives can be a golden opportunity to change their darkest moments to brighter ones.





So when you tell me people of how it feels to behave in an appropriate way they will understand what you are talking about. When you tell people that doing the actions they do will results to their downfall they will get to understand because you have experienced it before. This will give you a positive power to change anyone’s behaviors and conducts. You can become good motivational speaker by changing people’s deeds and negative beliefs by just speaking of your own life experience.





This gives us an open idea on how it is important to deal with the life changes we are facing in an appropriate way. Making good decisions in your life and monitoring anything you do in your life can give you a good background to help someone change his/her behaviors.





Actions speak louder than words. Don’t go to someone advising him/her on how to change his/her behaviors while you are on the worst state of discipline. Plain words mean nothing without required actions. It will be so hard for a lady to trust the you love her by just saying “I Love You”











She will need to see your actions whether they relate with the words you are trying to put across. You too, you can’t believe anyone if he is honest, courageous or kind until you have a full knowledge of his actions and how he/she present herself /himself before anyone.





“The superior man is modest in his speech but exceeds in his actions” ---Conficius





When you want to change someone’s behavior, it is important to check on your relationship with the people you are trying to change. It is much easier to change someone you already know and have a good relationship with him/her than someone you don’t know. So as motivational speaker or mentors it is our duty to develop a good relationship with the people around us. This will develop trust and an open platform for someone to be open to you without hesitation.





When you create a close relationship with the person you want to advise to change, this can give you a power to change him or her. Trust is the foundation of everything in a relationship. Once is it created within someone’s heart it will be so easy for someone to open up. I remember, there was a day I was approached with someone who was having a problem. We were not that much close. I always greeted her.











I do get along with people easily. I like making friendship. I will always be open to someone who is always open to me, due to the fact that I was fond of greeting her, joking with her, she got attached to me. She felt I was the right person whom she will seek advice from. I never knew if she was married. She looked so young. What I knew is that for a lady to get married she had to be gown up. A lady with a good work. A lady who is independent.





I was surprised by what she told me. She told me that she had a man whom they dated since they were in high school. She never intended to marry that man. Though later she realized that the man was serious about their relationship. Later the man proposed to marry her. After high school she agreed to marry him. She never had plans to go college because the grade she got never allowed her to pursue with the course she wanted.





They married each other. They stayed together for about two years. They had their first kid. Things started to change. Love was never lit as it was before. The man never cared about her anymore. He always looked out for faults from the lady. She never had time for her anymore. The man was financial stable. He had the ability to take care of the family. The problem is that the lady felt so lonely. The man never had attention for the lady. Attention and care is so important in any relationship. This is the indicator of love between two people. When it ceases to exist, it eventually makes love lose its taste.





She asked what she should do. What she told me is that she wanted to break up with that man and start her own life alone, that it is better for her to be alone than to be with someone who makes her feel lonely.





I told her that perseverance is the solution to all problems. I told her to try to talk to him without making haste decisions. No one is perfect; we all have some mistakes that we do unknowingly to people. This turns to be the worst thing ever that destroys relationships. This is because you will never apologize for things you have no Idea you did.







This lady I have talked about was able to come to me for an advice from me it is only because I had a good relationship with her. It is because she knew I was a person with my own stand in life though I looked young. Through the life I went through I had enough experience to be guide her. Lately, I met her she said that her husband apologized for everything he had been doing to her. Currently, her marriage is at peace and full of happiness.











Something else important one should know when he/she want to change someone. One should have the knowledge of what he/she want to talk about. It will be impossible for you want to change someone if you don’t have the knowledge of the change that you want to make to that person. You should make sure you do thorough research on the subject of change that you want to make to that person.





Having full knowledge of the kind of change that you want to make to a person will enable you to talk broadly about that change. You won’t only be talking of the “To Do” and “Not to do” but also you will be explaining everything concerning how that person will be able to make a change in her/his behaviors. Besides, the knowledge is important because the person you will be advising to make a change will ask questions about the change you want him/her to undertake.





everything is permanent expect a change. We can change people who only wish to be changed. You have to know that we cannot force people to be who they don’t want to be. It may take forever for you to change someone who is not willing to change.







Something else important I would you to know, when you want to make a change to the people around you, you also have to appreciate the fact that you are not perfect. You also make mistakes too. Before you go ahead to make a change in someone’s life. You have to accept to be corrected to. You can’t change them when you don’t admit to be changed. Don’t make yourself superior over the person you want to change. Put yourself in the same class as he/she is. This will make it easier for you to change someone. To conclude, change is inevitable,. We can change people who only wish to be changed. You have to know that we cannot force people to be who they don’t want to be. It may take forever for you to change someone who is not willing to change., when you want to make a change to the people around you, you also have to appreciate the fact that you are not perfect. You also make mistakes too. Before you go ahead to make a change in someone’s life.You can’t change them when you don’t admit to be changed.Don’t make yourself superior over the person you want to change. Put yourself in the same class as he/she is. This will make it easier for you to change someone.















































