Skye is waiting to give birth to her first child and is looking forward to meeting her "little one".

Becoming a mum, though? She's much less sure about.

"I am not excited at the prospect of being a mother," the 37-year-old project manager says.

"If I saw it as a job description, I would not be applying."

Skye has always been on the fence about becoming a mum and wrote to us after reading our series on women choosing to be childfree.

It resonated with her, even though her childless days are numbered.

She wanted to share her story and her fears, saying "I can't be the only woman out there who has confronted the same crossroad".

We're planning to check back in with Skye after her baby is born to see how it's all going.

An unplanned pregnancy and 'giving it a shot'

Skye has never been sure about wanting kids.

"Physically and mentally I didn't know whether I wanted to take the plunge to put myself through that voluntarily," she says.

"It's quite a huge sacrifice on the woman's career, body and mental load."

Skye had a miscarriage a few years ago. ( Supplied: Skye )

Skye experienced a miscarriage a few years ago, and for a little while, she and her 34-year-old husband Jonathan were trying to get pregnant again.

"We both got to a point [of thinking] … if it happens it happens, but if it doesn't we aren't miserable about it either."

It was a bit of a surprise when Skye became pregnant almost nine months ago.

Now it's happening, she's open to the experience.

"Let's give it a shot," she says.

But she's unlikely to have more than one.

"The human population is multiplying at extraordinary speed; do we want to keep multiplying when there are people already in need?"

Environmental concerns came up a lot in your responses to our childfree stories.

The 'crushing' expectations ahead

Skye says her hesitation about having kids stems from the feeling that society isn't built to support mothers.

"I am acutely wary of the crushing expectations [to be a good mum] — from myself and society.

"And I'm anxious of the impending challenge to strike a balance to 'have it all' without losing myself or my sanity."

While Skye works for an organisation that has a supportive maternity leave program, taking time out of her career is still a concern.

"I'm fearful I might fall behind if I'm out of the industry."

And while her parents didn't push her to have kids, culturally she feels it.

"I'm Chinese — there was always this perception that once I got married the norm was to start a family.

"My sister is not on track to have kids.

"[My not having kids] would stop my parents experiencing what having a grandchild would be like."

Living through the excitement of others

For Skye, the anticipation of becoming a parent is driven by her husband and family.

"The happiness I feel in this pregnancy is seeing the people who love me watch it grow and progress. I'm not sure if I will feel it for myself."

Her husband's cluckiness has highlighted her pragmatic approach, Skye says.

"I almost feel like a surrogate in the marriage," she laughs.

"He's more fun-loving and a child himself, I guess, when it comes to his outlook on life. That makes me excited to go on this journey with him."

As for pregnancy itself? Skye gives it "one star".

"The stretch marks and morning sickness. It just hamstrings you."

Building her 'village'

As her due date nears, Skye is focusing on "building her village". She's also thinking about how she'll share responsibilities with her husband.

"I'm concentrating on building that support network … and knowing that gender roles might rear their ugly head.

"I know it will be up to us to keep that communication open."

As to how she might feel after the baby is born?

"I really don't know.

"Will I care and protect this child with my life? Yes, for sure. Am I looking forward to motherhood? Well, no, because motherhood is a responsibility.

"So many people are saying you'll get clucky and all the hormones will kick in, you know it might.

"I'm just aware I need to keep on top of how I feel and express that if I need help, just ask.

"I guess only time will tell."