Two of the most-buzzed-about parts of Laura Bush’s new memoir Spoken From The Heart have to do with her speaking about the 1963 car crash where she killed a classmate (something she’s never opened up about publicly before) and a decently startling revelation that during a trip to Germany, when she and President GWB fell ill, they believed they might have been poisoned. Oh, and then there’s the part where she plays Ultimate Marriage Defender to that husband of hers.

“In 2004 the social question that animated the campaign was gay marriage,” she writes. “Before the election season had unfolded, I had talked to George about not making gay marriage a significant issue. We have, I reminded him, a number of close friends who are gay or whose children are gay. But at that moment I could never have imagined what path this issue would take and where it would lead.”

That’s clearly not enough to gauge whether she acted to stop Bush from pursuing the constitutional amendment, or even whether she thought that was her responsibility. We hope she felt it was, the same way we hope Michelle Obama finds reason to confront her husband about his own LGBT issues.