“Friends with Benefits” (FWB) relationships seem to be all the rage these days. Several recent studies of college students have reliably found that over one half of the students surveyed had at least one FWB at some point in their lives [1]. However, despite their popularity on college campuses, we know surprisingly little about how FWBs operate and whether they live up to their reputation of offering “no strings attached” sex between friends. A new study suggests that these relationships are actually fairly complicated, with many women (and a significant number of men) viewing their FWBs as a potential stepping stone to romantic love [2].

In this study, a sample of 411 individuals involved in FWB relationships were recruited online. Participants ranged in age from 18 to 65. This age variability is interesting in and of itself because it provides evidence that FWBs extend far beyond colleges and universities. All participants were asked how they hope their relationship will evolve in the future (i.e., whether they want it to stay the same, end completely, or transition into something else).

The vast majority of women (69%) expressed hope that their current relationship state would ultimately change in some way, with most of these women desiring a transition into true romance and the remainder seeking to be “just friends” or have no relationship of any kind in the future (for the exact percentage of women pursuing each option, see the table below). In contrast,the majority of men (60%) indicated a desire to keep their current relationship just as it is. Together, these findings indicate that women are more likely to see their FWB as a relationship state that can evolve, whereas men are more likely to see their FWB as an end state in and of itself.

Percentage of Men and Women Desiring Each Future Relationship State