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What a couple left as a tip for an Upstate waitress angered her friends so much that they posted it to Facebook.Neither the server nor her friends wanted WYFF News 4 to reveal their names or where they work out of fear for their jobs, but they did want us to share "the tip."The tip was not left in the form of cash. Instead, it was a note, hand-written on a napkin.One of the friends took a picture of the note.It reads:"Dear (name omitted,)"The woman's place is in the home. Your place is in the home. It even says so in the Bible. You may think that you're contributing to your household by coming into work, but you're not. While you're in here 'working' this is the reason your husband must see another woman on his way home from a long day at his work. Because you should be home taking care of the household duties, you may think what you are doing 'working' is right, it is really essentially a disgrace to his manhood and to the American family. So instead of coming to your 'job' and looking for handouts to feed your family, how's about going home and cleaning your house and cooking a hot meal for your husband and children, the way your husband and God intended, and help make America great again. Praying for families and our nation.Love,(Guests' last name)"The couple signed the napkin with their last name.The server was not ready to go on camera with her story, but offered the following information about it."They were a couple, mid-50s I would guess," the server said in a written note that her friend shared with WYFF News 4."I am not sure if they were local, having never served them before, but they did sound as though they were from this area."She went on to say, "I have never been married, and have no children. I have a very loving and supportive boyfriend who has been by my side as I have been working and trying to further my education.The guests were very friendly and polite while I served them, which made this come as an even bigger surprise. They got up to pay, and I thought they had left. I bused off their table, and was taking an order for another nearby table of guests when I observed them come back, slip the napkin on the table, and dart out the door.I felt mortified, embarrassed, humiliated even. I felt hurt, and a bit heartbroken. It is a bit disheartening and discouraging that things like this happen at this day and age."One of the friends who posted the napkin letter on their Facebook page, offered her own reply:"Dear lovely guest,"You cannot demean a worker that provides a service that you enjoy. Without my coworker, myself, and the countless others females in the service industry, you and others with your same mindset would not enjoy the 'excellent service' that we provide. May I ask why you were eating out, instead of eating the nice meal that your wife obviously must have prepared for you at home?"Do you write this lovely note to every female server you have? Every woman who is a single mom supporting her children? Every woman whose husband has passed away and is struggling to make ends meet? Every military wife who is trying to pay bills while her husband is away? And God-forbid, every woman who enjoys working? How dare they, what an outrage! Your server makes $2.13 an hour, and deserved to be paid for the service she provided for you. To someone who comes from a generation that often complains that those younger than him have everything handed to them, you seem awfully entitled."Sir, you have no idea about the life your server lives. The server you wrote this to, for example, does her job because she enjoys it, does indeed cook dinner for her boyfriend, and keeps her house immaculate. And if she didn't? There would be nothing wrong with it."So how's about instead of writing demeaning and hurtful notes to your servers in lieu of a tip, you stay at home and save us all from the experience of waiting on you."Sincerely,A female server who loves her job, and doesn't give a rat's furry behind if you think it's 'appropriate' for me to work."