Hotwifing Versus Cuckolding: Can Having Sex Outside the Marriage End Happily Ever After?

Hotwifing and cuckolding are not a new phenomenon, although they seem to be on the rise of late and are becoming very popular fetishes between married couples looking for some extramarital kinky sex.

What is Hotwifing? What is Cuckolding? What is the difference? And, how can a couple explore this type of scenario safely?

That is what we hope to explore in this new article on Hotwifing Versus Cuckolding: Can Having Sex Outside the Marriage End Happily Ever After?

Introduction

Our most popular article to date is an article on “Cuckold Relationships”[i] by Dr. Dawn Michael written in 2014, with over 90 comments, mainly from men who are into this fetish. In fact, the comment section is an entire conversation between men writing about their experiences, fantasies and desires on cuckolding.

With Hotwifing on the rise, we thought it might be a good idea to revisit this subject, and find out why this type of fetish is so popular now, and, if this type of relationship can be explored safely.

What is Hotwifing?

According to the Urban Dictionary[ii], a Hotwife is “a married woman” who openly has sexual relationships with other men, often with her husband’s full consent and encouragement, “in pursuit of fulfilling the husband’s/couple’s fantasies.” The term is somewhat interchangeable with #cuckoldress, #slutwife, #sexwife, #sharedwife and #hot wife, and has ties to the swinging lifestyle or “wife-swapping” as it was referred to during the 1950s.

The term hotwife can also refer to any sexually attractive married woman who may enjoy attracting other’s men’s attention while out in public (usually with her husband), by wearing provocative clothing and “flirt[ing] outrageously with their husbands present, and generally, revel in the intense attention they get from (and give) other men.”

So, while a hotwife doesn’t necessarily have to have sex outside the marriage, hotwifing does refer to the act of a wife having sex with other men, with her husband’s consent. “Hotwifing prioritizes a woman’s sexual freedom as a key component of her partner’s pleasure.”[iii]

What is Cuckolding?

Cuckolding (or cucking) is when a husband is sexually turned on by the knowledge that his wife has sex with other men. The difference is, that often the cuckold (husband) is submissive to his wife (the Cuckoldress), and sometimes even masochistic, gaining arousal from “humiliations, degradation, and other demeaning activities at the hands of his wife and her lover.”[iv] Cuckolds often see themselves as inferior lovers and unable to sexually satisfy their wives, hence the desire to have other men (younger, alpha-male lovers called “bulls”) who are much more virile than themselves fulfil their wife’s sexual needs. Cuckold’s often believe their penis is too small to pleasure their wives, and some also suffer from premature ejaculation or another form of erectile dysfunction or performance anxiety.[v] This type of fetish fantasy takes the pressure off them to perform sexually.

In this kind of relationship, the husband is denied the right to have sex with his wife, “sometimes remaining completely celibate in the marriage altogether;”[vi] can also be subjected to orgasm denial and practise chastity, while she seeks pleasure elsewhere. Sometimes he is allowed to watch, or be in the same room while these sexual liaisons take place, and may be permitted to clean up after the fact, by licking the other man’s cum from his wife’s pussy. Other times he is not present during her sexual encounters with other men, but is told about it in erotic detail afterwards.

You can watch this video with Dr. Dawn Michael on cuckolding concerns and whether or not you should try this in real life for more detailed information:

What is the Difference Between Hotwifing and Cuckolding?

“Hotwifing and cuckolding are sexual fetishes practiced as a part of ethical nonmonogamy.”[vii] While hotwifing and cuckolding seem to be very similar, they are in practise very different.

Both hotwifing and cuckolding fantasies are usually perpetuated to fulfill the husband’s fantasies. However, the cuckold is submissive, feels inadequate, and often craves humiliation as part of his turn on, while the husband of the hotwife usually just fantasizes about his wife having sex with other men and may even feel more empowered by it.

Cuckolding is often defined as a fetish:

“…Psychology regards cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism, the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. In Freudian analysis, cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity and of failure in the man’s competition for procreation and the affection of females. In his book Masochism and the Self, psychologist Roy Baumeister advanced a Self Theory analysis that cuckolding (or specifically, all masochism) was a form of escaping from self-awareness, at times when self-awareness becomes burdensome, such as with perceived inadequacy. According to this theory, the physical or mental pain from masochism brings attention away from the self, which would be desirable in times of “guilt, anxiety, or insecurity”, or at other times when self-awareness is unpleasant.”[viii]

Dr. Justin Lehmiller surveyed over 4000 adults about their sexual fantasies, 50% of which were men, and found out that the cuckolding fantasy was “almost always [about] watching without participating, and usually, it’s important that the other guy have a bigger penis.”[ix]

Dr. Dawn Michael says that another aspect of cuckolding “is sexual domination and punishment by the wife. She may spank him, paddle him, or flog him and shame him for lack of fulfillment of her sexual desire.”[x]

Both cuckolding and hotwifing have evolved from the swinging lifestyle (perhaps as many as 15% of couples are said to partake in swinging) [xi] and open, non-monogamous relationships. However, the cuckold’s thrill is “specifically masochistic”[xii], whereas the husband of the hotwife may be more interested in the voyeuristic fantasy, enjoy the novelty and be “turned on by hearing about or witnessing first-hand their wives’ infidelity.”[xiii] Rather than feeling shame or humiliation, they feel proud of having a hot wife.

“They like to show off their “hotwife,” sometimes in exhibitionistic games (such as deliberate wardrobe malfunctions or exposed body parts). Unsuspecting gas station attendants, room service delivery guys, even nearby drivers or freeway truckers may get a surprised eyeful. Glass hotel elevators were made for these couples.” [xiv]

While cuckolding has been around a long time (the term cuckold first appeared in English Literature in 1562), it has become increasingly popular as a fantasy. According to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life,” “people who are aroused by the prospect of watching their partner have sex with someone else have a sexual interest known as troilism…”. It is a very common fantasy among men, which “was the second most popular term that appeared in heterosexual porn searches”[xv] with, “58% of men hav[ing] fantasized about cuckolding.”[xvi]

Lehmiller also suggests that the rise in popularity of cuckolding and hotwifing is a millennial thing.

In a recent 2016 YouGov study, researchers found that “young Americans are less wedded to monogamy than their elders”[xvii], and at least 11-24% of people under 30 believe monogamy is optional.

17% of younger Americans say they have “had sexual contact with other people with the consent of their partners… compared to only 3% of over-65s” who said the same.

This may be due to the rise in consensual nonmonogamous relationship practices like swinging where it is “estimated that 2.35% of Americans currently self-identify as swingers and 4.76% had identified as swingers at some point in their lifetime.”[xviii]

Other factors include the rising divorce rate (60%), “claiming the lack of quality of sex and spousal infidelity” with “37% of husbands and 29% of wives admit[ing] to at least one extramarital affair (Reinisch, 1990).”

Why Would a Husband Want His Wife to Have Sex with Other Men?

So hotwifing and cuckolding seem to be very popular these days among millennial men, but the real question is why?

Some theories include: poor self-esteem issues; anxiety over penis size; performance problems; fetishized sex and erotising their fear into a sexually arousing fantasy (Savage)[xix]. Other theories, perhaps pertaining more to the hotwifing scenario are that men are biologically wired this way because of sperm competition[xx] [xxi]; an interest in bisexuality with their wife being their sexual surrogate; having control or giving up control[xxii]; or that men simply get off on it and see their sexually desired wife as a status symbol or trophy wife (Ley).[xxiii] Basically, these men are sexually excited by the fact that their wives are desired by other men, making them feel superior, rather than inferior.

Lehmiller suggests that these type of fantasies may also have “multiple motivations” including “a complex interaction of female sexual and economic liberation, technology breaking down privacy and secrecy walls, changing marriages and more liberal sexual values.”[xxiv] Lehmiller adds, “It’s a sexual desire that can be easily customized to meet a wide range of sexual needs and desires, whether it’s taboo sex, novelty, voyeurism or something else.”[xxv] Another factor is that it can spice up a couple’s relationship without the guilt of infidelity, or jealously of being cheated on. Because couple’s mutually consent, it can offer more shared intimacy, open up better communications about sex and shared taboo fantasies, and keep couples together longer.

However, Dr. Dawn Michael warns: “This type of open relationship can be very exciting for some couples or for some destroy the marriage.”[xxvi]

Why Would a Wife Want to Have Sex with Other Men?

Whether the woman comes up with the idea first, or is persuaded by her husband to get into this lifestyle, there are many reasons why this type of fantasy may be exciting for her. Reasons why hotwifing or being a cuckoldress may be desirable could be:

To fulfill a fantasy. It makes her feel beautiful, sexy and desired. It builds her sexual confidence. It opens her up to more diverse sexual possibilities. To make her husband happy. To seek sexual fulfillment. To create more intimacy in her marriage. To have a shared sexual experience with her husband. To improve her marriage. To satisfy her libido, when their sex drives are mismatched.



On Quora, a site where people ask questions and get answers from others, many women responded to the question: “How did ladies feel after their first cuckolding experience?”[xxvii]

Here is what they described:

“Its a terrific feeling, like eating a cake and having it too.”

“I lay there for a while feeling great… The next morning guilt reared its ugly head.”

“It was the most intense sexual week of my life.”

“…At one point I broke down and started sobbing, and asked him through my tears if he really thought we could make our marriage work after this. I told him I felt like something had died…”

“From start to finish the experience was great and it has largely remained that way throughout our marriage.”

“I didn’t like it at all. My husband had been pressuring me for months to do it. When we got married, I promised to be faithful and I could not understand why he wanted me to be unfaithful.”

“I am not sure what makes it so wonderful but I have continued the practice with all the men that I have been with since. My current husband included.”

“My first experience I felt disgusted but only kept it up because my husband would literally not touch me unless another man had me.”

“Now we are doing this for a while already and we both love it.”

“It really has improved our own relationship sexually and overall bought us even closer together…”

“It spices up our sex life. I can defend cuckolding all I like, but deep down I know what he goes through for me is insane. I love him so much more. I feel so much younger. I have so much more sexual energy. I have a stable man, and he gets a horny wife. It works for us.”

As you can see from the above comments, many women view hotwifing in a positive way, while some have had traumatic experiences.

What are the Positive Aspects of a Cuckold Relationship?

Dr. Justin Lehmiller explains that “most people who are aroused by cuckolding tend to enjoy their fantasies and, of those who have shared and/or acted on their cuckolding desires, the vast majority report positive outcomes.”[xxviii]

Some of the positive aspects of a cuckold or hotwifing relationship are:

It’s a turn on and a voyeuristic fantasy. It’s a way to play with other partners without actually cheating. It can spice up your relationship. The level of trust and understanding required often brings the couple closer and makes the marriage even stronger and more intimate. It opens up better communication in the relationship. It makes the man happy to know he is pleasing his wife by having her sexual hunger fulfilled. The woman may feel more empowered sexually.



What are the Obstacles and Challenges in a Cuckold Relationship?

While having these fantasies and acting them out in real life can have some positive benefits to the relationship if the relationship is solid to begin with, often conflicts and problems can arise.

Dr. Marty Klein is a Marriage Counselor, Psychotherapist, and Sex Therapist and says many couples come to his office often in conflict. Issues that can arise are[xxix]:

He [the husband] continues to try to push his wife into doing something she doesn’t want to do. She doesn’t understand his fetish, wonders if he loves her enough, or perhaps wonders if he secretly wants to have sex with other people as well. If only a fantasy, she may find it intrusive or distracting to their sex life. Or, she may think she is not attractive enough to get him off without his fantasy.[xxx] Jealousy issues, or feelings of being left out. Rather than creating more intimacy it actually builds more walls. It can become an addictive fantasy for him which makes him unable to perform in real life. He prioritizes his sexual fantasy over her sexual and intimacy needs. Not having safe boundaries that both partners agree upon. The risk for her of being alone with someone she doesn’t really know. She becomes emotionally attached or infatuated with another man and leaves her husband.



Common Concerns She May Have About Hotwifing

In a post on TheMonogamishMarriage.com: Adventures in Consensual Non-Monogamy, (a husband/wife swinging blog that writes about their sexual explorations), the “Wife” fully articulates the kind of concerns and fears she has about getting into a hotwife scenario[xxxi].

These consist of:

Being alone with someone she doesn’t know and him turning psycho in the bedroom. Hurting the other man’s girlfriend, if she isn’t as open about this type of relationship. That she will feel insecure. Or that she will like it too much and become addicted. Fear of having an open relationship where he will want to see other women also.



Other concerns could include:

She feels guilt, sadness, loss, dirty, bad afterwards. She finds out she likes the men she is dating more than her husband. Loosing respect for her husband. Feeling pressured. Unable to set healthy boundaries. Becoming resentful, angry. Feeling unloved by her husband. She will fall out of love with her husband. It will ruin, rather than enhance their relationship. Her husband feeling jealous and looses respect for her. Being treated like a slut, whore, sex object rather than a human being with feelings.



What Should You Consider Before Getting into Hotwifing or a Cuckold Relationship?

If you are considering any type of consensual non-monogamy in a relationship, whether it is swinging, having an open relationship and seeing other people, hotwifing or cuckold relationships, there is a lot you should consider first.

Obviously if this is something you desire, you should talk about it first with your partner. No relationship can be good without open communication.

What is your relationship like now and how will it change? Once you have crossed that line, it is very hard, if not impossible to go back.

Will your relationship be better? If it is not solid now, be wary of opening up a can of worms that may cause even more problems.

What is the worst-case scenario and are you both ready to live with that? Jealously. Resentment. Divorce?

Are you open to marriage counseling or seeking the support of a Sex Coach? Perhaps taking about this with a third person who is trained to deal with these issues can help you make an informed decision?

If you both do decide to try hotwifing or cuckolding, how will you set this up? Make sure to set solid boundaries about what is allowed and what is off limits. How often will she hook up with other men, how long, and with whom? Are any sexual acts off limits?

Remember this decision has to be made by both of you. He should not pressure her into doing something she doesn’t want to do or will regret.

How will you find a new sexual partner for her? How will you make sure she is safe? Where will these encounters take place? How will she ensure she has safe sex? How will you be able to give each other emotional support?

Gay Men Who Cuckold

Cuckolding is not only for heterosexual couples. In fact, in a recent study with over 500 gay men: “The Psychology of Gay Men’s Cuckolding Fantasies”, authors (Lehmiller JJ, Ley D, Savage D.) found that cuckolding is becoming more popular with gay couples, especially now that gay marriage has become legalized and gay men are living more monogamous lifestyles.

“Compared to previous research focusing on heterosexual men’s cuckolding fantasies, our results indicate that gay men’s cuckolding fantasies share many common elements; however, they differ in some important ways. Most notably, interracial and BDSM themes do not appear to be as common in gay men’s cuckolding fantasies as they are among heterosexual men. Our findings also indicate that frequent fantasies about cuckolding are linked to several overlapping sexual interests (e.g., voyeurism, group sex) and, further, the content of these fantasies is associated with a number of individual differences (e.g., agreeableness, sensation seeking, sociosexuality). Finally, this study also suggests that gay men who act on their cuckolding fantasies tend to report positive experiences; however, the likelihood of reporting positive outcomes appears to depend upon one’s personality and attachment style.”[xxxii]

Another difference between gay men’s and straight men’s fantasies was that straight men fantasies often have an interracial component with the young “bull” being a black man with a large penis, whereas gay men’s fantasies focused more on ageplay, where the cuckbulls were either much younger or older than the partner having who is cucking.[xxxiii]

How to Communicate About Your Desires Safely with Your Partner

Sharing your fantasies with your partner can be scary. It can also be fraught with obstacles and bring up other problems in the relationship as well.

Here are some tips on how to navigate these obstacles safely while still being able to tell your partner about your fantasies and desires.

First of all, make sure this is what you really want. If things go wrong, it is hard to undue the damage it can cause a relationship. Be careful what you wish for!

Never try to force your partner into doing anything they don’t want to do. This needs to be a mutual decision based on honesty, and open communication. Be compassionate and considerate of your partner’s feelings.

Ways to open up the lines of communication. Starter questions.

What do you feel about…? What do you think about…? What do you like about…? What do you dislike about…? What do you want to do about…? What might happen if you…? What do you wish would happen if you…?



Ways to Communicate Effectively

Here are some more communication tips from LoveUniv.com course in Couple’s Communication.

Active Listening: Active listening is when someone says something and the other person repeats what they heard in their own words. This gives the person the opportunity to tell you if what you heard is in fact what they meant.

Make “I” Statements: Make statements that start with “I” instead of “You”.

Be Attentive: Pay attention to everything the other person is communicating without interrupting them.

Be Articulate: Think about what you want to say before you do so, to make sure you deliver your message effectively.

Be Compassionate: Be compassionate to your partner and realize what they are saying may not be easy for them.

Avoid Criticizing: This is fairly self-explanatory.

Don’t be Defensive or Offensive: You are trying to communicate not win an argument.

Show Respect: Don’t shut down the other person. Give them time to speak without interruption.

Communicating About Fantasies by Dr. Ava Cadell

By dropping your guard and letting your partner know you trust him/her enough to share your sexual fantasies you will have the opportunity to explore areas of sexual interest that maybe you thought you never would.

Steps to Communicating About Your Fantasies:

Ask your partner what they think of sexual fantasies? Ask your partner if they have fantasies of their own, and if so, would they like to share them? Tell your partner that you have fantasies that you would like to share with them If they give you the go ahead, then tell them your fantasies, starting with the mild ones- unless they request otherwise!

After sharing your fantasies, you might not even need to actually play them out. Just talking about fantasies can sometimes create peak sexual experiences.

Role Playing and Other Sexy Ways to Explore Your Fantasy

Another safe way to communicate about your fantasy is to try role playing with your partner.

Dr. Ava Cadell says, “When couples role play together and act out each other’s fantasies, they gain a better understanding of what the other wants, needs, desires and fears. Role-playing sexual fantasies are healthy, fun and natural for couples dating or for those in a committed relationship of any orientation. Fantasies can rekindle passion, raise a diminished libido, boost intimacy, are an exciting avenue of escape, heighten enjoyment of sex, open you up to new activities and can turn sex into adult play.”

Try taking dirty about hot-wifing and cuckold scenarios while making love. You can try blindfolding your lover and telling them what you are doing to the 3rd party, or what is being done sexually to you or your partner.

Try having a “Date Night” scenario, where you both meet up at predetermined place, and pretend to be strangers. Sounds simple enough, but this fantasy can be very hot, and allows you to see your partner with a new set of eyes!

Go out for dinner together, or another social event, and pick out men that she could possibly hook up with. She can describe what turns her on about her potential hook-up, and he can describe what the sex may look like, without taking the risk in real life.

Another hot date could be her wearing a strap-on clitoral vibe that he can control from a distance while they are in public. Try a park bench, dinner at a restaurant, movie night, art gallery opening, concert, amusement park, sex on the beach… just think of all the erotic possibilities!

One of the easiest ways to explore your fantasy together is by watching porn together with cuckolding and hot wifing fantasies. If you are brave, Google “hot wife” or “cuckold” porn to see what comes up. If you are lucky, it may be you or your partner’s libido!

Here are some advice for men from our resident Dating Expert, Erika Jordon.

Can Cuckold and Hotwifing Relationships Lead to Happily Ever After?

The verdict is still out on whether these type of relationships can improve the intimacy between you and your partner or not. However, in his book “Insatiable Wives”, David Ley found the couples who had success in these lifestyles had greater connection and intimacy with their partners, more mutual respect for each other, higher levels of marital and sexual satisfaction for one another and commitment compared to monogamous relationships, and better communication skills.

What Do You Think?

We’d love to know what you think about the subject of hotwifing and cuckold relationships. Have you tried it? Have you fantasized about it? What are your fears and fantasies?

Post in the comments below and let’s start a dialogue!

Interested in learning more about fantasies?

Check out Loveology University’s Fantasies and Roleplaying Course for more ideas.

Definitions:

Hot Wife (or Hotwife)- “a married woman” who openly has sexual relationships with other men, often with her husband’s full consent and encouragement, “in pursuit of fulfilling the husband’s/couple’s fantasies.”

Cuckolding- Cuckolding (or cucking) is when a husband is sexually turned on by the knowledge that his wife has sex with other men. The difference is, that often the cuckold (husband) is submissive to his wife, and sometimes even masochistic, gaining arousal from “humiliations, degradation, and other demeaning activities at the hands of his wife and her lover.”

Cuckold- The husband in a cuckold relationship whose wife sleeps with other men to fulfill the husband’s fantasy. Often these men are submissive and/or masochistic.

Cuckoldress- A woman who cuckolds her husband.

Fetish- A form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, or scenerio.

Bull- A sexually dominant alpha male who cuckolds and humiliates husbands while servicing their wives.

Cuckqueen- A female cuckold.

Cuckoldry- The official word for the practice of “Cuckold” “Cucked” and “Cuckery”. Cuckoldery has been practiced to bring more “Spice” in a relationship.

Cuck Mutt- A submissive husband who cleans up after his wife has sex with other men, by lapping up their spent sexual juices.

Cuckcake- The mistress or side-dish in an affair. Usually associated with a cuckquean (a woman who is aroused by her male partner having sex with another woman or women).

Cuckold Relationship- a 24/7 lifestyle in which a husband and wife live out a cuckolding fantasy.

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