I have always had a healthy libido. I’m always horny, hence part of my nickname ‘little nymph’. I started masturbating at a young age, have been sexually active since eighteen and now that I’m in my mid-thirties I still feel very sexually healthy. In fact, I feel that my libido has increased as I got older. I attributed this to a certain confidence I believe we gain within ourselves as we age. Then after having 2 babies I was worried it would diminish because a lot of my friends claimed their sexual cravings went ‘down the drain’ (quoting directly from a friend) after having a child. However, I did not experience that, in fact if anything I would say my libido went into over drive and has been at it’s healthiest since I started having sex.

I have been with my DH for 17 years, and we’ve been married for over 10. Like every couple we’ve gone through many ups and downs in life. We’ve been through family deaths (and more then I want to count), financial problems, infertility problems (which I’m glad to say is no longer a stress in my life – very tough to deal with), day to day stresses which we all go through (bills, crazy schedules, work, etc). But it’s never affected me sexually. We’ve always been a couple that has sex almost every day, on great days twice. So if anything it was the one escape for me and my hubby! It kept us connected, joined and formed a stronger bond between us. It was always part of our valued time alone, especially since children became part of our lives.

Last weekend we had a great, and long awaited date night. It was fantastic, we had sex 6 times in a 48 hours. Then like as if someone pulled the plug, my libido feels like it died. I can tell you the exact time and date, Monday evening. DH tried to cuddle at night and when that happens I’m usually naked in a flash and I felt nothing. Okay, no biggie, it can happen! After all we had just had a crazy amount of sex! Then the anxiety hit, and the panic attacks started. So it has been a few days of anxiety. Now I’ve had anxiety before, I can deal with that. I’ve done that in the past. But what is freaking me out is my sexual desire feels like it has been switched off. That freaks me out. That’s not me. It has never happened. I tried having sex with my hubby, we caressed and made out, and I wanted to be with him and then we started having sex and during sex, I went dry. I’ve even tried to look at porn, not much there. Now maybe I’m over-reacting, it’s been less then a week. But for me personally, it’s upsetting and maybe it’s causing a vicious circle. I just needed to get that off my chest. I actually feel a bit better, but I would love any kind of advice, or suggestions!

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