My heart sank. I couldn’t believe my alarm was ringing. It can’t be 5am already, it can’t. I really don’t feel like this. I snuggled deeper into my duvet, imagining the cold I would feel when I got up. I really, REALLY don’t feel like this. After a few minutes, I slumped out of bed with a sigh. A while later I was doing what I really, REALLY didn’t feel like doing. Gym.

Not Doing What I Don’t Feel Like Doing

Later that day, I received a call from someone who wanted me to give a presentation to a group of people. Sure, I said. I put the phone down and realised that I could start preparing straight away. “But, I don’t feel like it”, I said to myself, and promptly starting going through my emails. This time I let myself off the hook even though it was the perfect opportunity to get going.

In the first story, I chose to do something I didn’t feel like doing. We all do this, very often.

Ever brushed your teeth late at night when you didn’t feel like it?

Ever had a huge party one night, then got up to go to work the next day, even though you didn’t feel like it?

Ever visited your in-laws even though you didn’t feel like it?

Ever got up to nurse a crying baby – even though you didn’t feel like it?

Ever agreed to pick your teen up at midnight, even though you’d much rather be asleep in bed?

Very often we do things we don’t feel like doing. We are totally CAPABLE of doing things we don’t like or don’t feel like. That’s life.

In the second story there was something I didn’t feel like doing, and so I chose not to do it. I was buying into the belief that “I can’t do it because I don’t feel like doing it”. This is not such a good thing to be doing – procrastination causes stress eventually.

Most of us start buying into that belief when we are at school.

I can’t study because I am so unmotivated.

I can’t start on that project because I really don’t feel like it.

If I Could Only Get Motivated, Then I’d do the Work

Very often we believe that we have to be motivated first and then we can do the work.

NOT True!

We are totally capable of doing things we don’t feel like doing.

We DO NOT have to be motivated first.

When I started doing gym that morning, I wasn’t motivated. At ALL. Half way through the session I started feeling energised and enjoyed myself. By the end of the session, I was tired and sweaty and said to myself “That was good, I really needed that!”

Very often, if we choose to do the task we don’t feel like doing, and we begin it, we find that the motivation follows anyway.

The belief: “I have to be motivated before I can do the work” is false and limits us.

It prevents us from being as successful as we potentially could be. It’s one of the ways that we sabotage ourselves. We believe this thought and we treat it like a fact. Then let ourselves off the hook and we don’t do the work. If we’ve deeply integrated this belief, we don’t even feel guilty for not doing the work.

Throw Out the Limiting Belief, Bring in the Empowering One

If you want to move ahead more successfully in the world, throw out that belief.

Practice this one rather: “As soon as I start working, I’ll feel more motivated”.

If you are feeling unmotivated, say this to yourself: “I really don’t feel like doing this AND I’m going to do it anyway”. That’s how I get myself out of bed and to gym.

It’s always useful to acknowledge your feelings rather than denying them or making them wrong. Follow this by deciding to do the work anyway.

Now don’t get me wrong – motivation is GREAT and a wonderful way to get you going. There’s nothing wrong with working on upping your motivation levels. When you are feeling motivated, and you start the work, it tends to flow easily and effortlessly. You tend to enjoy yourself. The time flies because you are so absorbed in what you are doing.

Motivation might be a luxury –

you don’t need it,

but like all luxuries,

it’s wonderful to have!

Sometimes you need an extra push, and you need a reliable way to help you get motivated because you’re not going to naturally feel like that all the time, so because of that I’ve created a special gift for The Change Blog Readers.

My special gift to The Change Blog readers

Because I am passionate about motivation (even though you don’t need it) and because I am grateful to Peter for giving me this opportunity to meet his special readers, I am GIVING away a copy of my e-book “Magic Motivation – from stuck to success in days”. Check out this Magic Motivation page, drop your email address and I’ll let you know where you can download the book.

Here’s what you’ll get: My 90-page e-book “Magic Motivation – from stuck to success in days” is chock full of exercises and worksheets to get you feeling more motivated as well as teachings to help you understand yourself and your motivation levels. If you want to change your life, you need to reflect and take action. This book helps you do both.

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