AnneLovesGilbert Sun 12-Jan-20 09:35:29

What people describe as unplanned falls into genuine contraception failure and not bothering with contraception at all (often by people who were apparently sure they couldn’t conceive with little medical evidence) or not really bothering by taking the pill properly, always using condoms, making sure their coil is in date etc. There are shocking numbers of people who consider pulling out to be a real method of preventing pregnancy.



There are obviously men who become abusive during pregnancy and you’ll be inundated by replies staying exactly that.



And then there are an awful lot of threads similar to the types you describe where he’s useless, lazy, mean with money, drinks, doesn’t work, is obsessed with the gym, gaming or fucking football and she knew that and is pregnant with baby number 2 or 3.



All you can do is feel sad because a lot of babies who never asked to be born are arriving in shit situations with parents in shit relationships where the writing was on the wall a long time ago.



Contraception is free and easily accessible, most people who have unprotected sex enough will eventually conceive, abortions are free and relatively easy to come by, men who were god awful dads to baby number one, or his kids with his ex(s) won’t suddenly improve.