FizzyGreenWater Mon 09-Dec-19 11:19:35

Well what's the opposite of that? Is he saying then, logically they're not his kids because you're the one responsible for them?



Didn't think so.



You're a family. You share the tasks.



One of the tasks is bringing in external money so the family can surivive externally: food, utilities, mortgage.



One of the tasks is caring for the children while they are too small to be elsewhere, which needs someone physically there, so the family can function internally.



No job is more important than the other.



You may be the one in charge of the children but that doesn't mean that they belong to you.



He may be in charge of the external cash but that doesn't mean that it belongs to him.



If you had to pick one that was more important? Well, if he didn't turn up to work one morning nobody would die. If you left the babies alone for the day and fucked off somewhere, there's a fair chance one of them would die. If you really want to look at it like that...



If he wants to be a dick who doesn't want to understand how a family should work because he likes to feel as if he's the most important one then he needs to be culled from that family, because he's not on the team.