Dear Guest,

I became addicted to my ex-boyfriend and I know how you feel. I was the one who broke off with him because he was a womanizer, but he was the most exciting man I ever met, and I just could not let go. In fact, we broke up and got together again several times because I just could not give him up.

When he finally had sex with a so-called friend of mine, I lost it, and I decided to move on.. or so I thought. I keep turning on my computer to see if he was on line. I tried to find out who he was with. I even did something awful. I pretended to be another woman and I got into a chat room where he was, and we were chatting again, and he had no idea it was me.

I finally went to see a psychologist because this obsession was taking over my life. My therapist was a woman who was a bit younger than I was, and she finally convinced me that he was wrong for me. Going for therapy helped me to a great extent, and I moved on and married a man whom I loved and who was able to love me.

But, guess what? My ex resurfaced, and I have to admit that I never got over him. Even though we both moved on and met other people, it seems that neither of us got over the other person. We are friends now, but it's hard being just friends with him because of this obsession.

Just know that we can't help whom we love and sometimes it's necessary to go for professional help in order to move on with our life. I've made a lot of progress since we broke up, but I still write blogs about my ex on here, and now my obsession is related to the type of woman he is seeing.

You are not stalking this guy because you are just checking up on him. If you were really STALKING him, he could actually get the police involved. So, just make sure that he doesn't find out about your activities!

See a therapist if you can't get past this. Your obsession with him is keeping you from moving on.

Foxie