Response: May 5 Anonymous: I don’t understand why I constantly compare myself to my ex’s new girl. I broke up with him because I suspected he was cheating and two days later he had a new girlfriend. We had been talking for a year and finally got together and it lasted two weeks. It was a long distance thing. I have dreams about him every night. It’s been two months since we broke up. He tries to talk to me like nothing ever happened. I still Have feelings for him. I t’s not really a question but venting My Advice: It’s plain to see why you compare yourself to his new girlfriend, you’re wondering what qualities she has that you think you lack. Maybe you even feel that she is “better” than you, but please don’t allow this toxic thought to consume youre mind. Just because you were the one to do the breaking up doesn’t free you from your feelings of him. Because you suspected him of cheating, naturally it could’ve crossed your mind that something about you wasnt good enough. This is not the case. The flaws may very well lie in him. Of course you are hurt, who wouldn’t be after such cruel treatment, but please see the meaning behind his actions. If he’s capable of talking to you for a year and getting another girlfriend only a few days after you two ended it, then he obviously isn’t the kind of person you want in your life and especially not as a boyfriend. You deserve someone who sees how incredible you are and would never think of mistreating you. Although you might be hurt, look at the situation in a positive light. At least now you know his true character and you know that’s not the kind of person you want to be with. I spent years over a guy i thought I really missed but now I see that I was only trying to prove to him and myself that I was good enough because rejection makes you feel that you are not worthy. Don’t allow him back into your life a great deal because it will only cause trouble. What will keep him from hurting you again? For some strange reason we tend to chase the jerks. That’s obviously not working so try something new! Find a nice guy who treats you right. I made that choice and have never once regretted it!

If we truly do have sole power over our own lives, couldn’t we make our lives as simple as we wanted them to be? Do we secretly crave a bit of chaos?…

Response: April 30 Anonymous: I had a best friend who I talked to almost every night and shared with her some of the most of my personal information with. We never really had a relationship, nor do I want one with her, but things have changed and I don’t see a purpose in trying to make things the same again. The reason being is she ignores my calls sometimes and we rarely talk. I feel that she’s laidback about or drifting friendship and I no longer care. How can I nicely tell her that I don’t want her in my life? My Advice: Im not trying to make assumptions here, but from the looks of it, it seems that you have been hurt by her sudden change of attitude for you. Although you two may never have had a romantic relationship begin to form, sharing deep personal information shows that you have a great deal of trust in this person and with trust inevitably comes some kind of affection; romantic or not. Its ok to be hurt, I would be too, but rather than declaring the end of your friendship, just as her whats going on. If she has no answer for you then there is no need to make a dramatic scene and “officially” end the friendship because with that comes bitter feelings. There is nothing wrong with being mere acquaintances; just say hi when you see her. In fact, doing so will be a lot less stressful than making her your enemy. If you genuinely don’t want her in your life any longer, she doesn’t need to know that in order for it to happen. The truth is that there really isn’t a nice way to tell someone to “get lost” because the message itself is hurtful so just avoid that conversation because it doesn’t need to happen. Doing so will only cause you more problems. If you want a life free of her just keep your distance and delete her number to resist future temptation. Many friendships fade so this is not something to worry over. The strongest people will be the last ones standing in your life, and afterall, those are the only people you should want to know. Friendships are tests that weed out the “boys from the men” if you get what i mean :)