Whenever we are faced with a big life changing decision Rebecca always asked me: If I was on my deathbed, what would I look back on and be most proud of?

As many of you know, I went through a very long journey to discover what I love to do. I had left my family business trusting I would naturally gravitate towards my true calling, and if what I found wasn’t a real job — that I would turn it into one.

Naive as I was the journey started off as a fun adventure, but when it really came down to crunch time it became excruciating. After dabbling in a few hobbies it became quite obvious gaming and esports was something I really wanted to get into.

The biggest challenge was the industry was too young in its infancy to financially support us. I saved enough money to last me quite a while, but that while turned out to be much longer than I had anticipated. Besides the struggle to turn this into a living, there were countless late nights, rising competition, and other roadblocks. She would stay up with me in the late hours of the morning doing everything she could do to support me.

The only thing that kept me going was my love for gaming, and her love for me.

I was near the breaking point — no hope to turn what I do into a full time job, not enough experience to take it to the next level, all the hard work and late nights amounted to not very much.

It was then, I was offered a very lucrative job. But it wasn’t the one I had hoped for, it was in a job in the industry I tried so hard to get out of.

This would be the biggest decision of my career: Do I settle for the safe job? or continue on what looked to be a losing path to a career that didn’t exist.

We were on a patio in Hong Kong, I was certain to take the job when her fingers reached out for my cheek. I didn’t realize I was crying until she wiped the tears away from my face. It was right then and there she asked me:

If I was on my deathbed, what would I look back on and be most proud of?

We both knew the answer.

However life threw another twist at us- as my journey in gaming miraculously continued it became apparent the next steps for my career was in Los Angeles. It meant that for me to continue doing what I love, I would have to live 4,000 kilometers and 3 time zones away from very person who supported me on this path. But she still understood me and believed for us to have a better future together, this was something I had to do- and without a shadow a doubt supported me.

We spent almost a year apart. But the one thing keeping us sane, was knowing that each passing day brought us closer to this day. This moment, on August 13th 2017.

“Behind every great man is a great woman”.