Hi guys,So much admiration to you bunch of people for your:-intelligence-stability-unwavering (i assume) principles-cute wit and sarcasmI really hope to meet more of you in person, well, for know, just as friends because i have been crushing on ONE INTJ for a whileSo.. I'm an INFP and entered online dating first to watch out for my mum because she started using it and she can be reckless (yes im protective that way) but after a few days people started scouting for me (hahaha). I didnt reply all actually, and wasnt particularly interested in the fellow INTJ who messaged me because his profile photo looked like a Justin Bieber (yeah with that semi long hair in the previous Baby music video - not my thing).This guy was nice and friendly and VERY persistent in getting his questions about me answered. I had no problem with that cause I thought it was rude to not answer him. His profile was DAMN DOWN TO DETAILS and mine was just itsy bitsy but i guess a little witty because again I went in for my mum (in the first place). So things escalated and he got my phone number. We started whatsapping (for those of you who dont know its an instant messaging app for smartphones). I'm quite outgoing (YES I am quiet-ish, BUT outgoing hahaha) so after talking to him for a month I asked him for lunch/dinner and I think he was terrified (hahha that cutie) and he said he hasnt determined whether he wanted to see me yet. WHY?BACKGROUND :a) RELATIONSHIP-He said he's interested in Long-term and no casual hookups-He's been in 5 different relationships in the past 3 years after breaking up with the 1st highschool sweetheart (due to lack of similar convictions towards the end) and he said its been a pain with girls lying to him, problems in the girl's family that dragged him, was cheated on (i think he subtly said this)-He's now looking for "HER". The it-girl who would fit his lifestyle (will be explained below). He's into commitment, intelligence and kindness (now i am 100% sure i've got it - yes dont call me overconfident but I am sure)-He aspires to keep the next girl for a life time - if possibleb) LIFE-He sets up a small business, sole proprietary - works alone at home on some IT business-He is enrolled to an online course module thing - uni prep (he is in the age where he should be in uni but he said he wants to focus on business and just do studies as a sideline)-He said he rarely goes out and its his passion to stay at home and work-He loves League of Legends and would play with friends once in a while-He spends time with family once a week when they come over (he stays with his mum - moved back from a girlfriend's apartment to his mums house after the breakup, also does this to safe money, i think its good as well because he tends to overprioritise his business - not a bad thing, but I worry about him not eating well...)c) HIS "CLAIMS"/"STATEMENTS OF AFFIRMATIONS"- He said:"I am a one woman man, I am busy enough to handle one and I respect the one woman I contact, so yes, I am only talking and maintaining you""I don't lead people on. You can do that if you want to? I assume you talk to more than one guy at the moment (umm, no!! hahahah guys were talking to me but i dropped them by the 1st week if theyre mentally unstimulating). You can be an asshole and lead people on, its up to you" (LOL)"I like talking to you because you dont t4lk lyk disss""Don't feel bad for being yourself or starting a conversation, you're never a bother""I am never annoyed at you" - (lol because I am overparanoid, i am the type of person who blurts out things out of excitement and realised that ive talked too much, feels SOOO BAD to disturb person im talking too, started questioning why he doesnt reply... etc - sorry guys)"What is wrong with a tease when you have a good feeling about someone? Just to build some excitement you know?" (yes he was requesting, and ME BEING ALL SHY AND RESERVED ABOUT PHYSICAL DISPLAY - not in front of the person but just in front of the camera, teased for him and we've been talking recently about birthcontrol and all as if we're planning to really be together)LASTLY,"You interests me a lot, but I worry that I may not keep you interested enough? I am just an ordinary guy. I do have some special things about myself but I dont find myself super attractive and I doubt I can fulfill your needs because I'm really busy"^ I did a lot of explanations on how I find him attractive *in the generic qualities of INTJs i mentioned above*. Also, as an INTJ and someone who is OBVIOUSLY not romancy or touchy-feely, I feel like he is so caring, he makes little efforts like saying goodnight with a kiss emoji or sleep tight or always ask for an update as an act of care when im dealt with a high pressured situation such as an exam or job interview and such. I just can feel his care to be honest. The sensitive and personality-familiar me knows it.SO, we were supposed to meet 2 months ago (not by force but out of the blue he was stiffly saying" are there neat movies out there? let's go see one" ) but that didnt happen as there was a family emergency the night before. I trusted what he said and nagged him about reschduling, but there was his exams.. and I had to go overseas as a family member passed away overseas - he got a little pissed and opened up to me that he'd rather not be attached to someone who's going away to not stir problems so he didnt wna meet. I grew skeptical whether he will wait for me - he said he wasnt planning to meet whoever else so its not a bother for him. We lasted through the overseas trip with him being caring towards me and asking for updates, as well as reaching out to me when i "disappear". Now its been about a month after I came back and I insisted on meeting.. not because im insecure about this anymore, I guess i wanna spend time with him and smother him hahahahahah. Well the tease was a bit of a bother, I am not the type who enjoys daydreaming 24/7 about someone, I would like my dreams to come true (yes I am the more physical and grounded INFP - can be a doer because being dreamer everyday frustrates the hell out of me).As I mentioned above I am the type who have attention deficiency (tested and approved). I do get worried and paranoid when i blurt things only to realise sometimes what I blurt out is utterly messy or like overlapping on top of one another (im talking about topics of conversation) and I GET OBSESSIVELY WORRIED that I may annoy or disturb the person. I especially freak out when:-the person READS my messages but didnt reply (well, replied later and he said he's just busy - but sometimes I - lol- assume as annoyance - SORRY FOR BEING DELUSIONAL)-I have said a ton of stuff and I worry some of the statements are conflicting or lacking consistencySo now its saturday, we are supposed to meet but i didnt get a confirmation from him. Yesterday morning he blurted the statement that"You are definitely pushy for a response at times as if I deliberately read and not respond"i said: "Well you do read and not respond you know"he said: "Yeah but the difference is I told you frequently why it happens but it continues to be a problem""I just really dont think I can meet your needs, I am sorry. You may have higher needs than you are willing to admit, there is no problem with that though"Me: -I tried to explain about my paranoia and my tendencies to blurt things out to get him excited or unbored and updated about me.. and I really like him, he's my long-lost partner type and i get excitedI also told him I think it would be rude for him to cancel a first date bcause of this, I would give us a shot and would call it quits if I suffer too much from not getting my needs met. I also explained that maybe its because I am still in a casual position, going full time soon in 2months, when im not working i tend to overthink about things, but when im in the office i only reply him sparsely like at lunch or towards my end of work. I have just recently graduated so I am not really doing much other than my casual job-Now guys, do let me know any inconsistency or analysis of this situation and let me know what I can say to tell him how much he means to me (i know it can be illogical to say this to a person you havnet meet but truly our disagreements are things that can be compromised and IS NORMAL TO BE COMPROMISED IN A RELATIONSHIP - needs, communication, and stuff). Traits related things are compatible i think. About interests - well I tried to probe our similar interests- movies, TV shows. Yes I go out more, but if you know infps, they are homebounds and can be couch potatoes, they love hugs and cuddles and certainly are selfless when it comes to relationships. I really wouldnt want him to leave just like that... not after like around 6 months of talking and being close... i've gotten comfortable and told him quite a few times that i have been looking for someone like him and would like to see if this persists when im working full time... He hasnt replied to me and I should be patient but I wanna hear from you guys about this. And INTJs AND BUSINESS - WHATS WITH THIS? HAHAHAH i respect this a lot but dont u guys need some cuddly cozy atmospheres or like idk - movies??Thanks guys for the time and insights beforehand. Salute to your amazing personality.