"I have been kind of stewing on this all night since hearing the news of Robin Williams death. I thought of just saying it was a tragic thing, but I don't think that would do much justice.



I have seen multiple posts and news quips talking about how he was so funny, and that it always seems to be the funny ones who end up taking their lives.



I think I am a fairly funny guy. I may be the only one that thinks that, but that is ok. Many people after finding out about my battles with depression made comments like, "I never would have thought that, you are always so funny" or "wow, but you seemed fine, and always joking." I would never compare my humor to that of a man like Robin Williams, the man was purely comedic genius. However it seems to be a commonly themed trait amongst some people with depression. Hiding behind humor to keep everyone in the dark.



For those of you in Kansas City, you likely remember Don Harman, the Fox 4 weatherman who was well known for his comedic antics. He too suffered from long term severe depression that he hid behind humor.



I can't speak for others, but using humor was really the only coping skill and way for me to hide my troubles. I feel for all of those who knew Mr. Williams, and my thoughts are with them. I just wish at some point society will wake up and realize mental illness like depression is not taboo and does not need to be hidden. Like any other illness it needs treatment, compassion, and understanding. It is a terrible shame that people, myself included, feel or have felt that taking your own life is the only viable option.



Rest in peace Mr. Williams, you touched the lives of so many, brightening their days and lives."

People don't know, 'Bout the things I say and do

They don't understand, 'Bout the shit that I've been through

It's been so long. Since I've been home

I've been gone, I've been gone for way too long

And maybe I forgot, All things I miss

Oh, somehow I know, There's more to life than this

I said it too many times, And I still stand firm

You get what you put in, And people get what they deserve

Still I ain't seen mine, No, I ain't seen mine

I've been givin', just ain't been gettin', I've been walkin' that there line

So I think I'll keep a walkin', With my head held high

I'll keep movin' on, And only God knows why

So it has been a while... How ya been?I have started writing numerous posts over the past months, but always stop short of posting it. Most of the time deleting everything I wrote. Not because I didn't mean it, or that it was too disturbing to share with all of you. I just, didn't think it was worth reading.It has been two years since I was hospitalized. Some days it feels like two years, most times it either feels like a decade ago, or last month. Either way it is in the past to stay. I am feeling pretty good all things considered, and that is such an improvement that it makes looking back at the past a little easier. It is still difficult to come to grips with some of the things said or done while I was sick, but the past is the past. I can not change what happened or the lives changed forever, including my own. I can not apologize for what happened. It really wasn't under my own control at the time. For those of you who have no idea what I am talking about, as in this is your first time reading something I have written, I suggest you visit My First Post to go back to the beginning. Much easier than me trying to explain everything all over again.I started my grown-up job a little over a month ago and am really liking it. I'm still pretty self-conscious and hard on myself when I make mistakes or don't know something that I think I should. I try to remind myself I am new at this, but it is still a struggle. I do find myself feeling like I am doing well at times too which is new for me. For so long I never felt that way. That anything I did was good enough or even good for that matter. There have been moments of praise with starting this new position. I still find it hard to feel good about what is said. That doubt still slips in with thoughts of "They won't think that for long" or "You must really have them fooled." I don't know that my brain will ever be able to not have thoughts like that. They have been there for so long. As long as I can remember, that it is hard to see life without them. Maybe that day will come. For now the doubt isn't controlling me and I find myself working a little harder to prove my own self wrong.I am glad I chose a career where there is constant learning. If you ever feel like you know everything in nursing you are most likely delusional. There is always something to learn and that is the beauty of this. For those of you who know me well, and have known me a long time, I was never the best student. Growing up in school I was bored most of the time. Classroom settings always bored me. Even in nursing school. I loved the content, but sitting there being talked at can be torturous. I learned so much more doing hands on. Seeing the patient, hearing from them, reading their chart, looking at tests and trends. I'm learning more now than I did in all the lecture hours combined just by being immersed in it. I'm almost certain most college degrees are the same way, none prepare you for everything you will come to see or do.I don't want this next paragraph to be taken out of context or to be misconstrued. I am very happy for my mom and the path she has chosen. I love the life she is now leading, and love the man she has married and his family. For those of you who didn't know, in May my mom moved from Kansas City for southern California, took a job at Disneyland, and married a man I have literally known all my life. I couldn't ask or have hoped for a better person for her to fall in love with. But, I would be lying if I said the transition wasn't difficult. My mom has always been here. A short drive for home-cooked food and family. I miss that. Porcupines and noodle-bock. I am adjusting to this new reality, just as I know she is too. Mom, I love you and am behind you just as you have been behind me. I can't wait to see you and David again in November, just as I know you feel the same way.With her moving it really has placed me on an island. This certainly isn't her fault or anyone's fault. With the separation, getting an apartment, the end of school, and my nursing school friends growing up and getting real jobs (just like me) I find myself with a lot of alone time. On days off I find it hard to be motivated to do much of anything. This is the first time in my life I have lived alone. Every other time I have lived with someone whether it was my mom, a roommate, or Renee. Solitude is a strange thing. Sometimes you just want someone to talk to and no one is around. Just something I have to get used to I guess.Overall I am doing well. I am not sure where things are headed in life. I am one who likes to have some sort of plan, and right now there are a lot of unknowns and the path ahead is pretty foggy. The good thing about fog is it doesn't typically last very long in any one area. The path slowly becomes clearer over time and if you can't see what is next you just have to wait out for a little change and it becomes a little clearer. I'm in the market for a little sunshine and maybe a light breeze right now, but I never mind a little fog. Sometimes the way it lingers is just as beautiful as a sunny day.Yesterday was one of the rougher days lately. I know everyone has ups and downs, that's life. I get concerned when I start to feel down. When you have been burned by depression, you fear any sign of it like no other. I can deal with one day of being pretty down, probably even two. I fear that it will keep dragging on. Day after day, week after week, and I will be back at the beginning. I try like hell to keep that from happening, but there is always that doubt lingering. "You couldn't stop it before, what makes you think you can stop it now?" I never have a great answer. I may never have a great answer. That is probably where this post is coming from. Writing has always seemed to help when I need it, so I should probably keep doing it huh?My son, who is 3, is scheduled to have surgery a week from today. Nothing major, getting his eyelid fixed. It has been something we have been seeing specialists for since he was about 6 months old and it was just decided that surgery was our best option since it is causing vision changes and his eyes to work differently. The nurse in me knows that it is a minor procedure. Only about 30-45 minutes long. The dad in me is worried for him. Surgery is still surgery, and no one wants their child in pain. The surgeon doing it is a "Pediatric Oculoplastic Specialist." Fancy, huh? Basically he is a plastic surgeon who only works on kids eye's. I guess if my son is going to have to go through this having a guy who is that specialized and has been doing it at Children's Mercy for a long time is the way to go. I'm not sure how long he has been with the hospital, but his picture on the website is in black and white and he has dark hair. When I met with him his hair was kind of thinning and white. They may need a picture update.In August, on the 11th to be exact, the world someone a lot of people felt close to. Robin Williams starred in many movies, some with critical acclaim and others deemed pretty much awful. That night, after a long day of orientation for my job I sat down with my laptop and watched the news. Media and people on Facebook were shocked at how someone seemingly so happy could be so tortured inside. I took a few moments and shared some of my thoughts on my personal Facebook page, and though it has been over a month since his death I will share what I wrote here. I probably should have just done it here anyway, but I was tired and a little shaken.I am not a Kid Rock fan. I will start by saying that. I'm not sure he really has a whole lot of musical value, but I heard this song for the first time in a long time this morning and it has kind of stuck with me. Here are the lyrics for the last verse of the song. Like I said, not a big fan, but I can relate to these words:I even had to look up if he was the actual writer of this, and much to my chagrin he was. I went ahead and posted the lyric video for this song on the music page. There was a 60 Minutes story on as a rerun last week that I thought I would share. It talks mostly about the struggles parents have with mentally ill children, but the themes hold for adult patients too. Some of the things mentioned in this story are just so asinine. So asinine, but true. It is about 15 minutes long, if you have time you should watch it at this link. I work the next five days in a row so maybe that will help break the funk. I know there are some of you out there going "Five days in a row? That's nothing." But trust me, five days in a row at a hospital will test anyone's resolve and patience. Here's to hoping things go smoothly and it gets my mind out of whatever funk it is presently in.I know I have kind of rambled around a bit with this post, forgive me. I guess that's what I get for not having posted in nearly 6 months. Have a great weekend folks.