A badge of martyrdom . Men who spend their most of their time whining about how women “just want to date jerks”. Oblivious to the fact that no one finds people who feel sorry for themselves attractive, much less people who blame others for their lack of success. Most self proclaimed nice guys ” are just as self-centered and misogynistic as the jerks they gripe about, they are just much more spineless . To stupid to figure why women don’t find them attractive, they conclude that in order to get laid they must treat a woman like shit.They tend to befriend women with the expectation that women owe them something more than friendship, then get all pissed off when the women tells them she’s not interested. Often going after women who are already in relationships, they misrepresent their intentions and try to use emotional manipulation and the facade of friendship as an excuse to get closer to them and score with them.The sort of man who will give my definition a thumbs down. :)