For women who are interested in men, online dating can often suck. This is a fact that's been documented extensively in articles , in blogs , and in wildly popular social media accounts . It's also one that several new dating apps have pledged to solve, including Bumble , Hinge , and Siren . For Adriana, who requested that we not use her last name, the solution was far simpler than that: just download Grindr.

One of the men she met on the app identifies as straight, just very enthusiastic about giving blowjobs. "He doesn't have sex with men; he doesn't kiss men; he doesn't do anything with men except exchange fucking oral, like crazy deep-throating oral," said Adriana, noting that she was confused by this designation at first. "I was like, Really? If you like a dick down your throat, you're obviously not straight." Now she sees his sexuality in a more nuanced light: "Like, yo, I realized that that was my internalized trying to classify people, and it defies classification. The dude is straight."

Eventually, Adriana downloaded Grindr after hearing that her friend—who is genderqueer, into the fetish scene, and tattooed with the phrase "NO REGRETS" under both of her butt cheeks—had had a good experience on it. She started out by messaging guys who caught her eye ("I'd be like, 'You're so hot, sorry I'm a girl.'") and then decided it was better to wait for potentially interested men to come to her. To date, she said, she's met up with three men from Grindr in person.

Adriana is no stranger to online dating; according to her, she has been using OkCupid for about twelve years. In that span of time, she estimates that she's met over 300 men in person. "I noticed that every time I looked at a dude's profile, if it said he was bi it was like way more alluring than if he was just straight," she told Broadly. "'Cause I'm queer and, you know, I'm into that shit."

Grindr bills itself as "the world's leading social app exclusively for gay, bi, and curious men." It is a geosocial networking app, or, more succinctly, a convenient way for men to find nearby men to fuck. At first blush, it seems like a terrible place for a woman to look for sex—but Adriana insists her time using Grindr has been very fulfilling.

At one point, the straight blowjob enthusiast invited a friend over, also straight and a blowjob enthusiast. Adriana recalled their time together with glee. "I was like, 'Oh my god, I've waited for this moment my whole life.' I've always wanted to have like a two man three-way," she said. "So he brought the dude over, and I watched them give each other head. It was my first time watching a dude do anything with another dude, and it was so hot that I had to look away. It was like looking into the sun. I could not watch. It was, like, white-hot, and I had to look away. I missed the whole thing. I missed the entire show. It was like an eclipse."

Adriana got an MFA in poetry at Sarah Lawrence, which becomes quite apparent when she describes her Grindr trysts using elaborate metaphors. She and her two Grindr dates went on to have a threesome, she said, which was great because being double penetrated is "like being in a warm bed made of men, and it's also plugged into your nether regions like an electric blanket that's like electrified by you... It's like you're the outlet that provides the electricity, and they plug into you and become warm and soft, and you lay between them, and it's, like, amazing, bro!"

For the most part, Adriana said, she's had good experiences on the app—although her profile was removed once for violating the site's terms, which she assumes was because she's a woman. Now, she only refers to her gender obliquely: Her description reads, "i'm a [girl emoji] tryna get with bi guys. men who [heart emoji] [eggplant emoji] are my sh8."