KC225 Sun 20-Jan-19 18:20:30

When I was about 11 (in the late 70s) my South African grandmother came to visit the UK for the first time. I walked past the room she was staying and she was sat at the end of the bed sobbing her heart out.



I went and told mum that Granny was crying, so mum went up to her. Apparently she had asked my mum. 'When does the maid come in to do under the beds?'. My mum told her, we don't have a maid, l have to do it, Granny nodded, didn't say anything and went upstairs. Between the sobs she told my mum. 'No maid, I never knew you had it so hard in this country'. Granny died over 40 years ago but 'No, maid, I never knew you had it so hard in this country' is still a family catch phrase.



If you paid someone to do a big blitz, so you start from tidy then perhaps it would be easier to keep on top of it. Especially as you all seem to be out for most of the day. Then you could have someone come in for a few hours a week. Can you out source, waving and ironing too? Perhaps you can look a making some simple meals. Maybe two evenings a week, fish/salads, meat/veg etc. Maybe do some batch cooking at the weekend. Perhaps get a slow cooker.



You need to stop comparing, easier said than done. You can find a way to make your life easier though