If you are an empath, you know the struggle of being emotionally and physically exhausted, overwhelmed, scared and frustrated. You may even know that you need to set boundaries, but where to even start?

About 20 years ago, I was asking this very same question. It took me A LOT of research, A LOT of trial and error and A LOT of tears, but deepening my understanding and use of boundaries has brought me intense relief.

Here are the 3 most important boundaries for empaths

Personal Boundaries

Empaths often think of boundaries as being energetic, to keep out negative psychic energies, but skip over personal boundaries.

Personal boundaries are things like, how often we say “yes” when we want to say “no”, or how we overcommit and take on more than we have the emotional bandwidth for. This is my vice. I will take on projects and commitments until I’m so burned out that I can’ t get out of bed. Not cool.

So how do you start to shift this? Self-Awareness by assessing what you are currently involved with, what you have the space to take on, and at what point you need to start saying “no”.

Exercise to Improve Personal Boundaries

Get a calendar or daytimer and write down all of your commitments for an entire month. You can also use a Google calendar, but I would suggest doing this on a computer, not on your phone. Block off how much time you spend on each commitment. It is ok for one activity to overlap another, in fact, that highlights how many things you are balancing at once. When the calendar is complete, think about what commitments give you joy, and which ones stress you out. To set your personal boundary related to time commitments, revisit each activity that causes you stress or anxiety, and figure out how to limit and eliminate it.

Vibrational Boundaries

You may have heard people talking about “raising their vibe” and thought, yeah but what the hell does that actually mean? I’ve been there, and this is how I like to make sense of the whole vibration thing.

Imagine a time when you felt on top of the world. This is a time when you felt absolutely free, happy, excited and didn’t have a care in the world, it should not be substance-induced, but completely organic and natural. That is you in a state of high vibration.

If you’re having a hard time thinking of an all-natural time when you felt this, think about being a child and swinging on a swingset. You are alone, you feel like you’re flying, you aren’t worried about the mortgage, or about a terrible boss, or about what’s for dinner. You are simply free.

On the flip side, being in low vibe is being in fear, long term sadness, holding on to unresolved issues.

Exercise to Improve Vibrational Boundaries

Notice when you are in a low vibe: sad, worried, fear, anger etc… Repeat “I live in the vibration of love” until you feel a sense of relief wash over you. This may take some time, depending on how deep the emotion is. This will probably not work for deeper issues, but for those times when you feel your emotion switch throughout the day, this is a good way to get you swinging back towards the high vibe state of being.

Energetic Boundaries

Yes, finally energetic boundaries! These are the more classic types of boundaries that people think about as empaths. Basically, energetic boundaries are a way to stop a flood of information coming through your clair senses (clairvoyance, claircognizance, clairaudient etc…). Energetic boundaries are very personal and unique to the situation, so this exercise is to help you listen to what YOU need in any given moment.

Energetic boundaries will be most successful when you have addressed fear, unconscious beliefs and your mindset. This is the foundation of my course Protective Boundaries for Empaths. This course is a deep dive into your personal boundary needs so that you feel confident, safe and strong as an empath who is in control of their abilities. Man! It feels good just to say that, doesn’t it?

Exercise to Improve Energetic Boundaries

Sit in a quiet place, this will take 5-10 minutes Ask yourself “what kind of boundary do I need today?” then say “Grounding or Protective?” Sit with those options for a couple minutes and notice which you are drawn to. Which one is stronger and stands out more to you? If you need grounding, Picture yourself as a mountain. You have a wide base that is firmly planted into the ground, and you are solid, not moved or shaken by weather, avalanches, earthquakes or storms. You are steady and strong. If you need protection, Imagine yourself surrounded by Angels. Your angels are there to guide and protect you, and they work together to support you. They are stronger than any fear or worry and you can imagine them linked arm in arm to form a protective circle around you.

That is just the tip of the iceberg, my friends! These 3 most important boundaries for empaths is a great place to start, but the topic of boundaries for empaths is broad and there is so much to explore when it comes to your unique protections. While individual coaching on this subject may be the most effective way to find what boundaries work best for you, I have an awesome course called Protective Boundaries for Empaths, that is self-paced and will teach you how to get past those unconscious blocks about empathic protection, and give you the tools for a lifetime of feeling strong, confident, in control and fearless.

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