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ablogforblogging: blackandgoldkeywork: horriblewarning: DEATH TO TRANSPHOBIA Isn’t the point of Cards Against Humanity to be super offensive? The fact that this person was oh so offended by this card to the point of burning it but apparently did not feel the need to burn the other offensive cards says a lot Yeah, the whole point of this game is to be as insensitive, uncaring, and downright offensive as you possibly can be. The fact that you didn’t burn the other, easily more offensive cards, is probably the worst part of it. Meaning you only concentrate on self important issues, as opposed to all relevant issues. Which in my personal opinion makes you just as narrow minded as any person who is opposed to your views.

This post has started going around Tumblr a decent amount again recently, and with it I’ve received two categories of responses: those who say “The point of the game is to be offensive, get over it” and those who say things like those above, comments on the fact that I burned only one card when there are other (perhaps more) problematic ones around. Since making this post – which I first put on my Facebook – I’ve had one-on-one discussions with a few different people, and given thought to the matter myself. The point of my response to these comments is an apology.

I am a person who comes from a massive amount of privilege – even those things which theoretically make me unprivileged – my trans and queer identities – are just further signs of my privilege, having come from a family and community in which I have been accepted and assisted 100% of the way and have never experienced harassment or discrimination. I am working on acknowledging these privileges and determining what I can do (as a quiet, depressed, anxious, self-conscious person) to make things better for all. I try extremely hard to acknowledge my privilege and not act in problematic ways. When I first posted this, I did not realize that it was problematic. I was fine to say “I can’t find this specific card funny, it is too close to being about me, I wanted it out of my game and since I like fire I decided to burn it.” I did not comprehend that I was essentially saying “Well I personally have never experienced racism, so it doesn’t really matter to me and I can still laugh at it, and it’s okay because I’m not racist.” And I see now that that is what I was doing. I was only looking at the issues which affected me personally, and I was allowing myself to find everything else funny because I wasn’t the person to whom it’s directed. I truly regret making this post, not because I’ve gotten a bit of shit for it but because I am appalled at myself that I didn’t see what I was doing. I’m not sure where to go from here. I’m not sure where my feelings towards the game in general stand – if I’m more on the side of “it’s offensive to everyone, people of all races and genders like to play, so it’s okay” or “wow, this game is incredibly offensive, I need to put it on a shelf and refuse to ever touch it again.” I don’t know that I’m ready to make that decision. But please know, to those few people who really give a shit, that I recognize the error of my ways and I will work to be far more conscious of what I do and what it means in the future.