dollydaydream114 Tue 13-Aug-19 09:41:14

she doesn't want the fruit and veg and water on offer



In that case, she's not asking for food between meals because she's hungry. She's asking for food because food is a pleasure. She's eating either because she is bored, or she's comfort-eating, or she's eating because she finds it hard to concentrate on watching telly or reading or whatever without having something to do with her hands, or because asking for food is a way to get your attention.



I was probably a bit like that when I was a kid and, if I didn't work hard on self-discipline, I'd be the same as an adult. My appetite's pretty big. I have to consciously watch what I eat and if I don't, I pile on weight (although I didn't put on weight when I was younger, really).



I would just keep offering fruit and veg, I think. It's up to her if she eats it or not.



Regarding portion sizes at mealtimes, I wouldn't worry too much about that, if she's not overweight and is generally an active kid. I would say that when I was a child, I sometimes found mealtimes a bit boring, because I'd be sitting there having finished my kids' portion while the adults were taking ages to finish theirs, so I probably asked for seconds purely to have something to do.