lookingatthings Fri 26-Jul-19 23:22:38

I'm a bisexual mum. Well pansexual actually: I've been in relationships and had sexual encounters with the whole range. Then I met my DH. I chose to be with him. We have a DC. We have a monogamous commitment to each other. He is the person I choose to be with. I'm still pansexual, I still find my myself attracted to other people, but I choose to be with him. I feel I have explored my sexual identity and found the person that fits me the best.



I have an ex lover who is heterosexually married without DC. She became aware of her feelings for women, and finally admitted them to herself and her DH after about ten years of being together. They talked about it, extensively, and decided as a couple that she could explore her sexuality- whilst being happily married, she also dates other women. That works for them.

What would you like to do OP? That's the first question you need to ask.