Ask Remember Me? Wildcat21 Posts: 3,582, Reputation: 435 Ultra Member 1

Nov 13, 2005, 12:13 PM Important info for all guys who come here. This is what's it's all about. LEARN this guys.



How Attraction Works For WOMEN



AN INTERESTING STORY (OR SO)...



There are two basic stories for how men and

Women "start off" together, and two basic stories

For how men and women "end up".



Through all of time, I'm sure that men and

Women have been playing out these stories... and

I'm sure that they'll continue to play them out

Long into the future (that is, unless I have

Something to say about it... and I do).



THE MEETING STORIES



Here's "Meeting Story #1":



Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy

Doesn't have a clue about how to make girl feel

ATTRACTION for him... so, instead he tries to

"pursue" girl by offering her dinners, gifts, and

Flowers. Girl finds boy "nice", but there are no

"sparks", so she "just likes him as a friend".



Here's "Meeting Story #2":



Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him,

Boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to

Communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel

A powerful physical and emotional response for boy

That she can't control. The sparks fly, and boy

And girl "get together".



As I'm sure you know...



In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the

Situation and both of them know it.



In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of

The situation.



THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS "END UP"



Let's assume that somehow, boy and girl

Actually "get together". Things usually go one of

Two ways after that...



Here's "End Up Story #1":



Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he

"REALLY likes" girl. Boy begins to act more and

More predictable. Boy starts to share "how he

feels" about girl too often. Boy becomes more and

More submissive. Girl loses that feeling of

ATTRACTION that she once had for boy and has no

Way of explaining or understanding why. Girl

Leaves boy and boy is left wondering what

Happened.



Here's "End Up Story #2":



Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that

No matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let

Himself become a Wussy who chases girl around

"sharing how he feels" and becomes boring. Boy

Keeps the relationship interesting and he keeps

Challenging girl. Boy stays in control of himself,

And by understanding his role as "The Man" in the

Relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted

To him into the future.



And again, as I'm sure you know...



In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the

Situation and both of them know it.



In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of

The situation.



If you look at your experience with women, I'm

Sure you'll see that these short stories describe

MOST of the experiences you've had.



Now, of course there are slight twists and

Variations, but the message is clear:



YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR

WOMEN... AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING

WHEN YOU MEET A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.



If you don't understand ATTRACTION and how it

Works, then you are destined to keep playing out

These same stories for the rest of your life. It's

Very unlikely that you'll stumble upon the "magic

solution" by accident...



ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR

MEN - VERY DIFFERENT



The reality is that you CAN stop this negative

Pattern if you WANT to.



But the key is:



1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.



2) Understanding YOURSELF, so you don't ALLOW

Yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring and

Turn a good thing into a bad one... but instead

You do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the

Right track.



If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION

For you, then you can control your destiny with

Women. If you DON'T know how to make a woman feel

ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your

Destiny with women.



Read that paragraph again, and think about it

For a minute before you go on.



OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very

Different for women than it is for men.



Different how?



What do I mean by that?. Well, generally

Speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS...

Not an "event". It happens over time, and it

Becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well

The man in the situation understands how it works.



For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an

"event", meaning that it's either there or it

Isn't. It really doesn't matter whether the

Woman understands how it works. (As an interesting

Side note, if a woman really knows how ATTRACTION

Works, and her intention is to manipulate a man,

It usually works VERY well.)



So, think of a woman's "Attraction Mechanism"

More like a volume knob than a light switch.



It's like a fantastic, classy old car that

Needs to warm up for a long time before you can

Drive it... not like a brand new Honda that you

Can start up and get right on the freeway with.



Here's a little secret about women and

ATTRACTION: If you'll just take a little longer in

Every situation to AMPLIFY a woman's ATTRACTION,

She'll love you for it... and you'll experience

Rewards that will make the extra time you spent

Seem like the best investment of your entire life.



Here are a few specific tips for you for the

"Meeting Phase":



1) Start with something STRONG, not WEAK.



When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually

Turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he

Usually makes the mistake of letting the woman

KNOW that he's nervous and weak.



Don't do it.



Do something STRONG.



Challenge her.



If she thinks that she's cool, make fun of her.

If she's smart, argue with her a little. If she's

Doing something, tell her that you could do it

Better.



When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE,

She'll push back. That's your sign that the GAME

IS ON.



If you just chase after her like the 100 other

Wussies that have been bothering her this week,

You will just be another boring, predictable face

In the crowd.



2) Keep the TENSION UP.



One of my favorite concepts is "Never let the

line go slack".



This means that once you SPARK the "chemistry"

Or "sexual tension", you need to KEEP IT UP.



Just because she starts doing things that hint

To you that she's interested, doesn't mean that

It's time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.



Turn UP the volume a little. It's working, so

Do more!



3) Tease.



The word "tease" has a couple of meanings.



One of the meanings has to do with doing things

That are slightly annoying to get a response from

Someone.



The other meaning is subtly different and has

To do with drawing out a response that you want by

Doing certain things that indirectly trigger it.



Do both.



If you're about to kiss her, wait until your

Lips are so close that you can almost feel her...

And then STOP. Pull away, and smile.



If you want to know how she feels about you,

Say, "You LOVE me" in a condescending tone of

Voice, and see how she responds. If she says "NO I

DON'T!" in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she

Probably DOES "love" you.



Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it.



And here are a few tips for the "End Up" phase:



1) Never become BORING.



Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin

When it comes to ATTRACTION.



Don't do either.



Of course, telling a man not to be predictable

Is like telling a dog not to hump your leg.



Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable.



We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it.



But, when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you'd

Better figure out a way to STOP IT.



There's nothing that will kill the sparks

Faster than her knowing what you're about to do or

Say.



2) Don't hand over control.



Women like men who make decisions and take the

Lead. Now, I'm not saying that women like men who

Are overly controlling. What I am saying is that

Women don't like guys who are always saying things

Like, "I don't know, what do YOU want to do,

baby?".



Women don't want men that they can control, so

Don't be one.



3) Respect yourself and keep your own interests.



When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often

Wants to spend as much time as possible with her.



This is natural, of course.



But there's a big danger here as well.



If you put your life aside for a woman, you

Will become less interesting to HER.



In the long run, it's MUCH better to keep your

Friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to

Spend time doing the things you enjoy... WITHOUT

HER.



And I think it's VERY important to keep

Improving yourself as a person, and continue to be

A guy that she can look up to and respect.



As soon as you start acting like she's going to

Be around forever, she'll start feeling less and

Less ATTRACTION for you.



THE BIGGER PICTURE



Now, as you read these examples, can you see

The bigger picture forming?



Can you see the deeper message?



The deeper message is that you need to

Understand how ATTRACTION works for women and you

Need to do those things that keep the ATTRACTION

BUILDING FOREVER.



Now, where does this all begin?



It begins with YOU.



And it begins with you learning how to control

Yourself and your emotions. It begins with you

Understanding the history of how and why

Men and women become attracted to each other. It

Begins with you learning the basics of how to use

Subtle body language and communication to make

Women feel ATTRACTION for you.



And what's the best way to get this "in depth"

Education?



You need to get some of your "Inner Game"

Issues handled, and you need to learn how to

Really get control of your emotional life. If this

Is you, then I recommend you check out my "Deep

Inner Game" program. jeffatl Posts: 489, Reputation: 83 Full Member 2

Nov 13, 2005, 03:16 PM GREAT POST!



The only thing I don't really get is how to work the pursuit aspect of the "courtship phase". Should the man be the one to pursue the girl, or should he let her pursue him? I would think more of the 2nd because if you pursue, it could be seen as latchy. I have never pursued a girl before, I always let them come to me if they are interested, but that doesn't always help you land the girl you want, or could if you did in fact go after her. I get the whole attraction thing, so I guess you could take it from there. I have learned A lot from my past relationship, and now from dating again, but the 3 girls I have dated just are not my type. I have learned to keep within my comfort zone, and make sure I don't appear nervouse with women. Any ideas wildcat? NeedKarma Posts: 10,635, Reputation: 1706 Uber Member 3

Nov 13, 2005, 03:23 PM I'll add my $0.02 for men and women:



Be comfortable with yourselves before you even dare to be a couple with someone else. No man or woman will make you feel better or fix your problems. You'd better take care of your issues first before attempting to meet anyone else. And then, especially for the women, don't be a big fake just to please the person you are enamored with, it will backfire every time.



Thank you for your time.



NK. Wildcat21 Posts: 3,582, Reputation: 435 Ultra Member 4

Nov 13, 2005, 09:01 PM Sorry NeedKarma, You obviously don't get it. To bad, so sad. Read it again. letmeno Posts: 215, Reputation: 23 Full Member 5

Nov 14, 2005, 08:33 PM I can speak for all men and women on this one. The rules apply to women as well. No one wants a weak, needy, and clingy person. Not a man, and not a woman. This is unattractive and a turn off. Every one likes mystery, no one likes games. What Wildcat is saying is give them a little but don't overfeed them. He uses the word CONTROL, I call it BALANCE. momincali Posts: 641, Reputation: 242 Senior Member 6

Nov 14, 2005, 08:54 PM Originally Posted by Wildcat21 Originally Posted by Sorry NeedKarma, You obviously don't get it. To bad, so sad. Read it again.

Okay, so I read your book and for the most part, unwillingly with an arm twisted behind my back I will admit some, okay, maybe a little more than some of it is true! However, NeedKarma is also correct if you just READ what he wrote.



" I'll add my $0.02 for men and women:



Be comfortable with yourselves before you even dare to be a couple with someone else. No man or woman will make you feel better or fix your problems. You'd better take care of your issues first before attempting to meet anyone else. And then, especially for the women, don't be a big fake just to please the person you are enamored with, it will backfire everytime.



Thank you for your time.



NK



What exactly didn't he get?? He didn't disagree with you Wildcat, his 2 cents only added to what you had said.



P.S. Did you know that Wildcat in spanish is Gato Salvaje (pronounced sel-vah-hey)?? Cool. Okay, so I read your book and for the most part, unwillingly with an arm twisted behind my back I will admit some, okay, maybe a little more than some of it is true! However, NeedKarma is also correct if you just READ what he wrote.What exactly didn't he get?? He didn't disagree with you Wildcat, his 2 cents only added to what you had said.P.S. Did you know that Wildcat in spanish is Gato Salvaje (pronounced sel-vah-hey)?? Cool. Katiy Posts: 56, Reputation: -3 - 7

Nov 15, 2005, 02:33 AM Immature Time to grow up. Your bait and switch routine is boring. dimples Posts: 256, Reputation: 9 Full Member 8

Nov 15, 2005, 11:22 AM That is one good post, Wildcat! That would be very helpful to guys who don't have a clue. :) Wildcat21 Posts: 3,582, Reputation: 435 Ultra Member 9

Nov 15, 2005, 01:35 PM 97% don't.



Sp dam important. Then the guy settles for something less.



I didn't like NeedKarma's post because it's all flowery and not reality. NeedKarma Posts: 10,635, Reputation: 1706 Uber Member 10

Nov 15, 2005, 03:08 PM Originally Posted by Wildcat21 Originally Posted by I didn't like NeedKarma's post because it's all flowery and not reality. How old are you and are you married? Wildcat21 Posts: 3,582, Reputation: 435 Ultra Member 11

Nov 16, 2005, 08:18 AM Not being a WUSS is learning how to behave properly - IT'S NOT CHANGING WHO YOU ARE - AND TOO MANY People GET THAT CONFUSED. They don't understand that people don't know how to behave in a relationship. You can't change who you are - BUT you can grow up and mature.



A Wuss is imature and insecure and desperate.



NOT being a Wuss means you are comfortable with who YOU are - don't need the woman to be happy - being confident - being busy and having MANY other things in life.



There too many people here that just don't get what NOT being a WUSS means. Too many joker who think it's putting on an act.



NOT being a Wuss means you understand to tease women, understand their tests. Bust their chops sometime. Not letting women get away with walking all over you.



It's being a man, not a little boy.



Anyone putting on an act will lose. ATTRACTION Posts: 1, Reputation: 1 New Member 12

Aug 3, 2010, 05:09 PM Comment on jeffatl's post Are you friggen kidding me? Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

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