umm the strong black woman shit isnt an expectation…its a REQUIREMENT for survival. this isnt some trope we get to either take up or not. its fucking do or die. options are for white women. :|

and as for af american women steering away from femininity because of it, ima say NO. even w how problematic ideas of femininity are and its narrow ass bounds and how we’ve been systematically denied it all…i want someone to please oh please tell me who the fuck spends more time obsessing over hair and makeup and lookin fly than black women? who? i mean we are so dedicated to that shit we have invented 96907067897 hair styles and general fashion trends. and dont nevuh go down south because theyre often even more extra about it.

but we get put down and laughed at for it. as if its not for us anyway, like why try? youre still never gonna be a “real woman”. you can slap all that shit on any other kinda women and its cutesy and edgy and avant garde and amazing.

put it on a black lady and its ghetto, trashy, ugly, etc. never once seen as feminine or anything even remotely positive.

sure, plenty black women do not care for being feminine, that shit aint for everyone…but errm…yeah. no.

the prollum here is w general racist PERCEPTION and how everything changes meaning and significance soon as it lands on a black womans body.

we are never real women. we are to be laughed at. mocked. stepped on. to be productive for everyone elses benefit. and thats about it.

so the fact you even think we are “less feminine” because of expectations. fucking side eye from hell.