You know what’s hard? Dating. You know what’s even harder? Dating on TV. And you know what’s the hardest thing of all? Dating on TV when the guy you’re dating is also dating other women on TV, like, in full view of everyone. All of these tough life lessons come crashing down on Caila in the first look at next week’s episode of The Bachelor. Having made it to the final three, Caila is supposed to be enjoying a romantic river pontoon ride with Bachelor Ben in Jamaica, but all she can think about is her competition, JoJo and Lauren. “They’re possibly falling in love with him like I am, and that hurts,” moans Caila. “I don’t want it to ruin my day, but it’s on my mind.”

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And Ben can tell. “Caila’s not herself today,” he laments. “And I’m wondering why.” In other words, get it together, woman! Honestly, Caila, if Ben doesn’t pick you and you wind up being the producers’ next pick for The Bachelorette, you’re going to have to get a whole lot better at compartmentalizing your emotions. Speaking of The Bachelorette, who do you think should hand out the roses next season? Take our poll below.

The Bachelor airs Mondays at 8 p.m. on ABC.