This accomplishes several important things:

1. The less you say, the lower the odds are of you saying anything she won’t like. This is the most important reason by far. I promise that if you just start talking in a relaxed manner, you will say something she doesn’t like. The odds are overwhelming.

2. Getting her talking and keeping her talking reduces her nervousness, sometimes almost immediately. I’ve had many first dates where the woman was near-terrified at the start and within ten minutes she was relaxed and smiling, just because I made sure she talked a lot.

3. It increases her amount of sexual comfort with you, thus lowering ASD , because she’s talking so much. She feels like “she can talk you.” Women process the world by talking. It’s very important she feels like “she can talk to you” and that you will A) listen to her; B) won’t judge her.

The catch is that keeping your damn mouth shut is often difficult for extroverted men, highly opinionated men, nervous men, and men with shitty game. Unless they’re celebrities or have some other massive form of social proof, it is extremely difficult for very talkative guys to get laid. (Note: I’m talking about a date or a first meet; I’m not referring to high-octane night game or similar scenarios.)

You must learn how to shut the fuck up and just let her talk. It’s not that hard once you get into the habit. And your sexual results will dramatically increase. It’s worth it. (Once you’ve had sex with her twice and lock her in, then you can talk all you want.)