A dedicated game store is a bit intimidating for the parent who has little understanding of the ways of "button mashing" or "pwning noobs"(see below for translation). Often parents, uncomfortable with entering these alien worlds, watch with eyes wide as their children whirl through the aisles. No relief can be found from the wall to wall interactive entertainment; the ceilings too adorned by posters of digital characters.

In these stores, a game about raising cute creatures in a world of rainbows often sits shoulder-to-shoulder with the latest and greatest war title. Unlike your corner video shop, there are no clear distinctions between video game genres to help you choose the right game for your child. So, it falls to parents - and as I believe it rightly should - to decipher the age-appropriateness code of a game.

There are a few rules I've set in place when buying video games for my three children - some I've learned the hard way! Naturally, the classification ratings G, PG, M and MA15+ - which you're already familiar with from films - are a good indicator if a game is age appropriate but I use it only as starting point as no one knows my children better than I do. For example, whilst a game may be rated G, if one of the levels has a haunted house theme, I might not let my youngest play it as she's terrified of ghosts at the moment. Also, our lack of adult rating for video games (a debate which I'll resist going into here and leave for another post) means MA15+ is the top rating for games and that's something else parents need to consider when choosing between the latest titles.

I've found that you will be able to learn a little more from the blurb and images on the game case, but if I'm still unsure about any elements, I ask my child what a game is like. Chances are if they haven't already played it or seen it being played at a friend's house, they have probably heard something about it from a magazine or website. Although, like with most things, children will only pick the roses from the bushes so I've found it always helps to do my own research about the game too. There is an incredible abundance of free information about video games available online that your children are no doubt aware of. A quick Google search of a title will reveal game reviews, trailers and even playable demos - all these things are pieces of the puzzle when determining what's appropriate.

Before I let my children take off on an incredible new adventure, I've found out the hard way not so long ago that it's also important to check if any of that adventure is going to take place in cyberspace. A PG or M rated game can very quickly turn into an MA15+ game when players have the ability to communicate with each other, often anonymous strangers, during online play. It's also possible to download extra content - new weapons, characters, levels - which can significantly alter a game so this is something to also keep a constant eye on.

Far and above these rules, I've found the best way to learn about the games your children are playing is to wrestle the controller from them and to have a go yourself. There's nothing like getting up close and personal with a game. You'd even be surprised at how fun racing through the dusty streets of a deserted town or defeating fire-breathing dragons can actually be! On-screen battles are a regular occurrence at our house now and it's become another way for my children and I to spend some quality time together doing something they enjoy.

Here's a little dictionary I have put together to help you decipher some 'gamer speak' that may be happening in your house"

Dictionary

Pwning: Dominating an opponent.

Noob: An inexperienced, unskilled or new player.

Button Mashing: Franticly pushing random buttons in the hopes of pulling off a combo.

Combo: An action in game triggered by pressing a series of buttons in a timed sequence.

Mod: A Mod or "Modification" is a type of downloadable add-on content created, typically, by the general public. Think changing the appearance of characters to dress them all in tutus or better yet, into hideous zombies. Mods can also be used to ramp up the power and accuracy of weapons or make your character more agile.

Note As spokesperson for the Interactive Games & Entertainment Association, Stephanie Brantz features in a number of tutorial videos that help parents set up parental controls on all the major gaming platforms: PlayStation 3, Xbox 360, Wii and PC. These videos can be found on the iGEA's YouTube channel and Facebook page.