One of my female friends once confessed to me that she was just completely tired of being hit on. I’m glad she did. Because it was very early in our acquaintance and I was considering the best way of hitting on her too.

You see, extrovert women are confusing, especially to introverted men.

In a world as cold as this, as unfriendly as this, a pleasant, cordial exchange between two humans can be accidentally interpreted as so much more.

Just imagine being the type of person who maybe hasn’t had any sort of connection in some time. Then, all of a sudden, you find yourself in a conversation with a beautiful member of the opposite sex, or the same sex if that’s who winds you up.

Their blue eyes look deep inside you. You find the conversation to be one of the easiest of your life. Maybe you tell them things that you normally wouldn’t share with anyone as their open energy just pulls you into their vortex of intimacy.

It’s difficult to not be carried away.

Because if she’s talking to you, spending some time with you, holding such eye contact with you, she must be into you, right?

Not necessarily. Some people just enjoy other people. They recharge their batteries by being social, by connecting with others. Some people like talking.

They’re what we used to call “friendly.”

And, Wow! We could all use more of that.

So, extrovert ladies, I hope you continue being awesome. Just keep being you.

And gentleman, I hope you’re cool when they turn you down. And don’t say mean things to them. Let’s make not being a dirtbag our goal moving forward.

Remember that someone being kind to you doesn’t mean they want to date you.

And I don’t have an answer or an easy technique for sorting out who does you and who does not.

It’s going to be a bumpy ride.

We’re all going to make mistakes.

And we’re all in this together.

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