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Kirito: Who do you think you are?! You can't take advantage of Asuna like this!

Sugou: Take advantage? Oh, please. If anything, I have a right to her. Sword Art Online : Who do you think you are?! You can't take advantage of Asuna like this!: Take advantage? Oh, please. If anything, I have a right to her.

Bob identifies himself with a community, a nationality, a religion, a subculture or whatever. As such Bob feels Alice is obligated to be with him, one way or another. Perhaps, given that they identify with the same construct, she will be a "traitor" to "their kind" if she does not date or marry within it. Or maybe he just feels that by belonging to the category he "deserves" her more than someone outside it. The former justification often goes hand-in-hand with the latter. If Alice complies, she might even discover that Bob is willing to take his sense of entitlement further still.

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There are several basic ways in which Bob can justify his sense of entitlement (all of which can also apply the other way around):

Who they are : For example, "She must sleep with me because I'm part of Clan X and a woman of Clan X must always choose X over Y."

: For example, "She must sleep with me because I'm part of Clan X and a woman of Clan X must always choose X over Y." What they do : For example, "She must sleep with me because I repair her television and listen to her drama, therefore she must give me something in return, and this can only mean one thing."

: For example, "She must sleep with me because I repair her television and listen to her drama, therefore she must give me something in return, and this can only mean one thing." What they don't do : For example, "She must sleep with me because I wouldn't rape her," or "She must sleep with me because I normally abstain from sleeping around."

: For example, "She must sleep with me because I wouldn't rape her," or "She must sleep with me because I normally abstain from sleeping around." Extreme circumstances: The world is ending, someone is dying, Only You Can Repopulate My Race, or similar.

The who they are type is usually more aggressive, and often the (implicit if not explicit) attitude of The Native Rival to the Mighty Whitey for the hand of The Chief's Daughter and/or Nubile Savage, or any other man prone to accuse people of being a Category Traitor. The mindset can in some cases lead to Honor-Related Abuse, especially when based on race/ethnicity/religion. This is a primary source of much of the unfortunate negative attitudes towards mixed couples, such as black man/white woman and Asian woman/white man pairs (see Where Da White Women At? and Mighty Whitey and Mellow Yellow, respectively).

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The what they do type is usually more passive-aggressive, and one of the big reasons why being a self-defined "Nice Guy" might mean something entirely different from actually being good or even nice. (See also Nice Guys Finish Last; contrast Dogged Nice Guy and All Girls Want Bad Boys, where the nice guy actually is nice, or at least expected to be seen as such according to the narrative.) However, this behavior is not limited to guys who consider themselves nice. A straight-up Jerkass character might buy a woman a drink without informing her that he considers her a very cheap hooker whom he has now bought and is entitled to use.

The what they don't do type can easily come across as Insane Troll Logic but is actually quite reasonable From a Certain Point of View: the view of a guy who believes that regular male sexuality is mostly about Sex Is Evil, and I Am Horny and that women owe him a debt of gratitude for not being a rapist like those other guys. (Of course, he might even be a rapist — making the whole thing even more ironic.) Or, the view of a gal who learned to identify a bit too much with My Girl Is Not a Slut. In both cases, the character might come across as a Sour Prudes.

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Since this trope in general and the who they are type in particular is based on a traditional male gender role, it's mostly male. However, female examples can exist, even with the who they are type. For example, a Western woman might invoke Asian Hooker Stereotype when a white man dates an Asian woman. And, of course, certain female characters might engage in the worst male stereotypes, especially when Played for Laughs.

See also Sour Prudes and Sex Is Evil, and I Am Horny, as well as Lie Back and Think of England and My Girl Is Not a Slut. Polar opposite of Ethical Slut, where characters of any genders have fun together—and encourage potential partners to want to have sex with them, rather than trying to squeeze favors out of someone who just isn't interested.

Compare Entitled Bastard, It's All About Me, and Prince Charming Wannabe. Contrast Sexual Extortion, where the creep backs her demands with threats/"offers" rather than moralizing and guilt-tripping. Compare and contrast Wants a Prize for Basic Decency, where Bob/Alice expects a reward for acting like a decent person. Marital Rape License is when the person feels s/he is entitled to sex with his/her spouse simply because of that person's status as his/her spouse. If the entitlement reaches extremes in that it can cause the person to commit huge mortal sins/atrocities for the sake of that entitled love, see Yandere, Murder the Hypotenuse, and If I Can't Have You....

Don't confuse with the trope Nice Guy, which is a guy who is genuinely nice. There is the slang term "nice guy" (preferably with quotation marks, for Sarcasm Mode) for the kind of person who acts like this, but a true Nice Guy is about as far from this trope as possible. Dogged Nice Guy, however, is closely related to this trope.

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Just Friends: Dusty is definitely this towards Jamie as she never reciprocated his feelings during High School, he feels it's completely justified to use Jamie for sex now as 'revenge', and even mistakes Chris, who is legitimately attracted to her, for doing the same. He even has the audacity to use the song he 'wrote for her' (in actuality, a song he wrote that he uses on every girl, merely changing the name to complement them) as a way to guilt-trip her into dating him. Japanese film Gate of Hell presents a variant on the what they do type. A samurai is loyal to the emperor during a rebellion. The samurai's lord offers him a reward for loyalty. The samurai asks for the hand of an attractive lady-in-waiting at court. He is informed that she's already married. He doesn't care.

Debated in Female Perversions, a debate played for horror: A particularly creepy woman is holding a little lecture about how a woman "must" be an empty canvas for men to project their desire on. Her niece's (slightly delayed) response is to start cutting herself - carving the word "love" into her own flesh and explaining that she meant to write "hate". Maybe she didn't know the difference anymore?

The case for Chad in Tucker & Dale vs. Evil who believes that he is entitled to Allison because she and him are special and goes crazy when she falls for Dale who he sees as a hillbilly and beneath him.

when she In the Johnny Depp Dark Shadows movie, Angelique argued that she and Barnabas belonged together because they were both monsters.

The German sniper Zoller in Inglourious Basterds spends most of the movie being nice to Shoshanna and flirting with her, but after being rejected one too many times he gets angry and violent, frustrated that she has not warmed up to him and shown him the respect he feels entitled to, as a war hero.

A complicated case in 1986s Castaway (not the Tom Hanks movie), based on the true story of Gerald Kingsland (Oliver Reed), a middle-aged London writer who decides to spend a year on a deserted island in the south Pacific, Robinson Crusoe style, and then write a book about it. He places an ad for a "wife" to accompany him, which is answered by the beautiful young Lucy Irvine (Amanda Donohoe). Lucy wants the job and sleeps with Gerald in London to ensure she gets it and even officially marries him to satisfy immigration requirements. However, once theyre alone on the island, she decides that she doesnt want to continue the sexual aspect of their relationship. He believes that it was clearly understood by both that part of the reason he wanted her along was for sex and that she "welched" on the deal after getting what she wanted. She, of course, counters that no matter what she can refuse to sleep with him if she chooses. (The fact that she spends much of their time on the island in no more than a bikini bottom, and often less, only increases his frustration.)

The "Extreme Circumstances" example comes up in Dogma. Jay assumes through his typical stupidity that Bethany is in love with (or at least wants to have sex with) him after he saved her life from some hellspawn hockey players. Though a lewd pervert, he does drop the subject after she puts her foot down. He gets her to agree to have sex with him if they're in a situation where they only have five minutes left to live ("Like, a bomb or something's gonna go off"). At the start of the climax, when it looks like the heroes have failed to stop the apocalypse, Jay immediately drops his pants, planning to hold her to her promise until she figures out another way to save the day.

In A Heart In Winter, Camille is angered at Stéphane for manipulating her feelings but she's also somehow frustrated that he didn't actually do anything with (physical or otherwise) and her "The Reason You Suck" Speech could be read as frustration that he didn't respond to her advance.

Wolves: Connor wants Angel to be his son's mother, whether she likes it or not, as she's from the "old lines". Once she's had the baby, though, he's happy for her to leave town. That's... better?

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Cher Lloyd's "Want U Back" is about a girl who expects her ex to obediently leave his new girlfriend and fall back under her thumb, even though she's the one who dumped him in the first place, for no other reason than "I had you first."

is about a girl who expects her ex to obediently leave his new girlfriend and fall back under her thumb, even though she's the one who dumped him in the first place, for no other reason than "I had you first." Taylor Swift: "You Belong With Me" is about a girl who believes she deserves the boy better than his actual girlfriend does because she's the only one who "understands" him.

is about a girl who believes she deserves the boy better than his actual girlfriend does because she's the only one who "understands" him. **NSYNC: "Girlfriend" is about a boy who is trying to convince a girl that her current boyfriend doesn't care about her and that she should hook up with him instead.

is about a boy who is trying to convince a girl that her current boyfriend doesn't care about her and that she should hook up with him instead. Avril Lavigne: The infamous "Girlfriend" song is about a Jerkass "punk girl" who hounds a boy who's already taken, insists that his much more homely girlfriend is "like whatever" and tells him that she's a better lay so he should date her instead (while said girlfriend is constantly punished for being upset due to that). Lavigne says that she intended to either poke fun or call out girls who do such shit, but the video to the song plays this trope infamously straight.

Shawn Mendes' "Treat You Better" is about a guy trying to convince a girl to leave her current boyfriend for him because apparently he'll "Treat her better" and he's a "Gentleman".

is about a guy trying to convince a girl to leave her current boyfriend for him because apparently he'll "Treat her better" and he's a "Gentleman". Similarly, country group Old Dominion's "Break Up With Him" is about a guy trying to convince a girl to leave her current boyfriend for him, with such lines as: I know you say you're taken, but I say girl you're taking too long to tell him that it's over (...) C'mon you can't deny that you and I kinda fit like a glove (...) You would've hung up by now if you weren't thinking it too

Drake's Marvin's Room. While it sets precedence to his sophomore studio album Take Care, Drake in this song uses being drunk and famous as an excuse to lash out at his ex-girlfriend to come back to him. Chorus : Fuck that nigga that you love so bad. I know you still think about the times we had...

Implied in Kanye West's "Stronger": I don't know if you got a man or not, If you made plans or not (...) But I know that God put you in front of me So how the hell could you front on me?

In the modern folk song "The Willow Maid", a young man falls in love with a beautiful forest maiden, but she refuses him. After multiple failed attempts to win her heart, he chops down her willow tree so she'll be forced to leave her forest and marry him, but since her life is magically bound to the tree, she dies and transforms into a flower.

The singer of The Black Keys' "Lonely Boy" keeps giving backhanded compliments the girl he's singing to (the first lines are "Well, I'm so above you and it's plain to see / But I came to love you anyway"), yet still bemoans the fact that she won't love him because he pays attention to her. One gets a pretty good idea of why he's a lonely boy.

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A Youtuber, the1janitor puts his own two cents on this kind of behavior. He discusses how many so-called "Nice Guys" seem to confuse being nice with being an Extreme Doormat, mixed with tones of Wants a Prize for Basic Decency.

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Fate/stay night: Gilgamesh decides that Saber is destined to be his wife simply on the basis that he's so awesome that he deserves to have whatever he wants. Nobody else quite agrees with him on this, especially not Saber. Shinji Matou believes that Rin Tohsaka should be honored to be his girlfriend, and is disgusted and outraged when she chooses Shirou Emiya in the Unlimited Blade Works route; to the point of trying to rape her.

In Umineko: When They Cry, George confesses that he used to be this sort of guy, assuming he should be more popular with women because he "treated them well" and that he wasn't because they have bad taste in men and prefer jerks. He hit a turning point when he realized that Battler was getting more attention from Shannon and other girls not because he was a rude punk, but rather because he was an outgoing and genuine guy who didn't put up a "Nice Guy" front simply to win over girls. George admits in hindsight that his past behavior was pretty douchey and entitled, and he'd rather forget he was ever like that.

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RWBY: Adam, the epitome of an Abusive Boyfriend. There's no romanticized Bastard Boyfriend here, his obsession with Blake leads to him becoming her Arch-Enemy until he kicks the bucket in Volume 6 when Blake and Yang decide they're not going to put up with it anymore.

The true nature of Neomutant's feelings for Flamegirl in TOME. He believes this trope wholeheartedly and decided that, since she didn't want to be with him, he's going to murder her for revenge Word of God considers him to be the vilest character in the show, even worse than his boss Rubirules.

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