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Sweetie,

You have been with men who want their pleasure in your anus and unquestionably we men get Great pleasure form your anal passage - However, to really enjoy anal you need a man who has as his entire focus bringing you pleasure. You see, an experienced man teasing and pleases you into anal sex without even mentioning the subject. You are understandably not relaxed about anal having been hurt and with good reason. but now even a finger if dilation hurts. I can say this because you open up far more then a finger for passing stool but in the context of sex some bad lovers have just about ruined you on the idea of anal so that any contact is at first resisted I know you can get over this because I have done anal with nearly every woman I have ever slept with and this includes a number who swore they would never do it again and yet they all found pleasure in the act. It is not you - there is nothing wrong with you - it has just been your inept lovers.

Here is a little write up I wrote for another woman about how anal should work -

Yes, anal sex can result in the most mind blowing sexual sensations a woman will even have, but(no pun intended) if done incorrectly or by an inept or inconsiderate guy it can result in severe discomfort if not significant pain. Let me explain:

Anal is not like vaginal where it might hurt the first few times but soon gets better, anal is not a programed sex act. The human anus is designed primarily for elimination not the thrusting in and out of man's organ. However, that does not mean it cannot be enjoyed this way. Just as lips and tongues are primary speech and digestive organs and yet are capable when applied to sexual uses of bringing massive pleasures to both persons

Nevertheless this is not a programed sex act like vaginal sex and any anal penetration carries for the woman or the man if he is being penetrated the fear of pain and with some basis in reality. Hence, a real lover never just tries anal sex and NEVER never asks the woman to do it. How silly it would be if the mas asked, Can I kiss you? Can I touch your nipples? May I kiss your neck? Can I go down on you? No in lovemaking a man attempts certain sexual acts and woman either allows and refuses and most women find no difficulty in making their desires or dislike known.

Asking for anal is the mark of a man who is nearly certain to hurt you either because he is inexperienced or just plainly not a good lover. Bear this always in mind - of the guy asks it is a huge red flag. Even if you agree you will not be relaxed after such an exchange . Nothing like asking it he can ram his hard organ up your tightest and most sensitive passage to make you relax - right?

Anal is not something tried this way but something the man pleasures and trains you into, He begins the very first time he touches you by including light strokes on your anus with his fingers then later as part of oral sex his lips and tongue explore you anus often and extensively, Yes no man deserves access to your anus of he is unwilling to use his tongue there in pleasuring you.

Later when you near orgasm from oral, he may insert a well lubricated finger in your anus to enhance your pleasure as this will certainly make your orgasm markedly stronger, As you two make love more and more he includes anal sex play as part of the lovemaking and he is training you to relax and discover that every time he touches you anally you get sexual pleasure from it. There is no time frame a good anal lover might get you ready for anal sex ina very short period of time where as another man might require weeks or moths of preparation

When a man makes love this way the day will come when he is engaged in vaginal intercourse and he may withdraw his penis now soaked with your lubricants and position at your anus. As he masturbates you nearer and nearer your climax he may insert the head and head only of his penis inside your anal opening (every women can easily take the soft rubbery head of a man's penis anally without pain) and bring you to orgasm then withdraw.

Again he is training you to enjoy anal penetration this time finding pleasure with his penis inside you. As he continues such sex play he can each time insert a little more and before very long you will actually enjoy his organ thrusting inside your anus, get strong orgasms from it, actually come to request this sex act from him because it brings such massive pleasure.

Feel free to contact me for further information. You can overcome this bad start and I will help in any way I can. Anal sex when done right bring women more pleasure than they ever knew existed - I want you to find this experience rather than the suffering you have so far endured so feel free to e-mail me.

thomascan06@yahoo.com