Major League Baseball Commissioner Rob Manfred made it clear to Oakland officials that the A’s proposed waterfront ballpark and the team’s desire to develop at the Coliseum is an “all in one” proposition — and that the city needs to drop its lawsuit over the Coliseum land sale to the A’s or risk the team relocating to another city.

And apparently, everyone got the message.

“He kind of laid down the law,” said City Councilman Larry Reid, who also sits on the Oakland-Alameda County Coliseum Authority. He attended separate meetings Manfred held last week with Mayor Libby Schaaf and council President Rebecca Kaplan.

“He talked about how it was five years ago that he became commissioner, how he had resisted the A’s moving to San Jose back then,” Reid said. “Then he talked about his frustration with the lawsuit and how the city needs to make it go away.”

At issue is the City Council’s decision to sue to block the county from selling its half-ownership of the Coliseum site to the A’s. A judge issued a temporary restraining order last week putting any sale on hold.

The city, which owns the other half of the Coliseum complex, wants the county to sell its share to Oakland. The problem is that Oakland doesn’t have the $85 million that the A’s are offering.

Ultimately, the A’s want to develop the 155-acre site to help pay for a privately financed ballpark they are proposing to build at Howard Terminal near Jack London Square.

The A’s were stunned by the suit. “I don’t know what it means for our ongoing relations with the city,” said team President Dave Kaval.

The next court hearing on the matter is set for Nov. 14. The prospect of a showdown with MLB as the legal fight unfolds is increasing pressure on the city.

According to Reid, Manfred told Oakland officials that the A’s have options elsewhere if the city doesn’t change its stance.

“The commissioner pointed out that Bay Area fans will soon be going to Las Vegas to see the Raiders and that unless things changed, Bay Area fans may be going to Las Vegas or elsewhere to see the A’s as well,” Reid said.

Reid said that one way or another, he’s confident the lawsuit will go away.

It may already be starting to vanish.

On Thursday, Kaplan issued a statement saying that “in the interest of reducing strife and litigation, the Oakland City Council has unanimously asked our administration to meet directly with county leaders on strategies to resolve issues regarding our shared public property.”

Schaaf says she wants the city to get the land, but through negotiations and not a lawsuit. She said she has always supported a privately financed ballpark that is “responsible to taxpayers.”

“I’m confident we’ll get there,” the mayor said.

Meanwhile, county Supervisor Nate Miley said that suit or no suit, the county was continuing negotiations with the A’s on a possible sale — but that it was also talking with the city.

“I think if we have the county, the city and the A’s all get together at the table, we can work something out,” Miley said.

What a novel idea.

Dede dollars: Shanti Project reports its annual fundraiser brought in more than $550,000, despite a threatened boycott by progressives over its decision to honor big-time Republican donor Dede Wilsey with a lifetime achievement award.

“If it’s not our biggest success, it’s one of our biggest,” said Kaushik Roy, executive director of the nonprofit health care organization, which supports people in the LGBT community.

David Campos, chair of the Democratic County Central Committee, had threatened to call for a boycott of the event because Wilsey’s name was on an invite to a fundraiser for President Trump’s re-election. Wilsey says she didn’t actually attend the fundraiser, and Campos backed away from a boycott when the hotel workers union came out in support of Shanti.

There was no shortage of Democrats in attendance at the Shanti event Thursday, including Mayor London Breed, Chronicle columnist and former Mayor Willie Brown, state Assemblyman David Chiu, city Treasurer Jose Cisneros and, via congratulatory video, Gov. Gavin Newsom.

“I know she’s used to politicians kissing the ring, but a few dollars in the right direction doesn’t trump the evil she has bankrolled,” Campos said.

But it was Wilsey who got the last word when, after being introduced by state Sen. Scott Wiener, she told the packed ballroom, “I do also want to thank David Campos for making tonight so special.”

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