Dear Blue Pillers and people wanting to get married,

We all know marriage is a raw deal for men and perhaps many of us were drawn to the Red Pill or MGTOW in some form or fashion because we saw female nature and understood it or at least experienced it.

But even when you consider the rosy blue pill dream of a marriage with the woman you love, you can still derive the conclusion that marriage is still bad and you shouldn’t do it if you just put a few moments of thought into it. We can prove this using Blue Pill logic and reasoning (and some science) without having to apply any Red Pill thinking.

Out of the line of reasoning is anything related to “female nature”, “hypergamy”, the “state (i.e. courts favoring the women in custody, etc.)”, and so on. Anything in the side bar, we can throw out and we’ll still arrive at the conclusion that you shouldn’t get married.

The average man wants to get married with a woman he loves. Already, making a lifetime commitment based on temporary emotions should be a huge flag for irrational behavior. As science or any history of having a “crush” on someone will tell you, these feelings are merely temporary. The technical term for those “butterflies in your stomach” or a “crush” is “limerence” which has been recognized as a transient state of mind that only lasts 18 months to 3 years. In other words, the emotions you feel towards a person will only last for approximately that time. And you want to make a lifetime commitment based on something that everyone knows to be temporary?

Historically speaking, marriage was a contract for financial security but that’s wading into a pool of Red Pill knowledge I’m trying to avoid. Let’s just say for now that temporary emotions shouldn’t be a basis for a long term commitment.

So…. maybe your idea of a marriage doesn’t just depend on love. Maybe it also depends on something else you two share. Well, people change. Whatever you two have may not be there 10 years down the road. The people you’re with, the things you like may change as well and you won’t be the same person 10 years later. You might mature, slow down, and desire stability in life and she probably won’t like you anymore. She might still want to be on that emotional rollercoaster because it gives her something to talk about and adds spice into her life.

Are you prepared for that possibility? And are you capable of accepting the worst case scenario: divorce and her taking half your assets? If you’re not prepared, much like many decision people make in life, you shouldn’t do the action. Namely, you shouldn’t get married.

No matter if you’re Red Pill or Blue Pill, you can fundamentally understand that if you’re making a choice, you accept the consequences of that choice for better or for worse. While it is rational to dodge responsibility because it is just a liability when the consequences are negative, a decent human being knows how to accept it.

And it is at this point if you cannot accept responsibility for your own actions and decisions, nothing anyone says will convince you of anything so why are you reading this?

Finally, maybe you’re utterly convinced that this will never happen to you. That you’re special. That’s a nice ego you have there but really, at that point, if you’re thinking you’re special in every regard and you can disregard facts because they don’t apply to you, then no amount of reasoning can ever help you. You’re trapped in your own emotions and ego that you actually deserve whatever comes your way.

So in conclusion, no matter how you look at marriage, you should understand that marriage is still a choice, not a responsibiltiy. You therefore bear the responsibilty of making that choice. If you believe you’re in that 1 out of a million who can make it work, then go for it because nothing anyone says will convince you anyway. But for those on the fence and still thinking about it, just be prepared for the consequences.

We’ll be sitting on the sidelines watching you guys burn your own lives.