Nov2018 Tue 20-Nov-18 09:56:14

I spoke to them last week as they wanted to know our wishes and I said I would call later to pay as didn't have my bank card (a lie). They called once again which I ignored and have sent a letter. I am not sure if the cremation has taken place, they may have done so as a group one due to my non communication so there won't be any individual ashes. I will call and ask for an installment plan.



But I also can't decide if I NEED the ashes. I have my other dogs ashes which I made a shrine for when they came back but slowly they've moved to the cupboard with the intention to plant them. I was more ruthless with this death and threw everything away straightaway as I knew if I didn't it would take me months to do so and due to the dogs illness, things stunk. It was also more expected than the first loss.



I feel having the ashes back 'brings them home', but the logical side of me knows that isn't true and they are here in spirit anyway. I would feel guilty for having one set of ashes and not the other though.



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