Are you getting all you want? Are you achieving all of your goals? Are you living a fully intentional life? If you are, I salute you. I can’t make the same claim. I do aspire to live more intentionally, though – I am an aspiring intentionalist.

To live a more intentional life, I constantly strive to gain greater agency, the quality of living intentionally.

In doing that, it helps to take the following 3 steps:

Evaluating reality clearly, to Make effective decisions, that Achieve our short and long-term goals.

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Evaluating Reality

Evaluating reality well involves gaining a thorough and accurate understanding of the situation and the full extent of our options within it. Four factors obstruct our ability on this front, including:

Social prescriptions about appropriate ways of perceiving reality;

about appropriate ways of perceiving reality; Internalized preconceptions based on our previous experiences;

based on our previous experiences; Thinking errors that our brain makes due to faulty wiring;

that our brain makes due to faulty wiring; Finally, an emotional reluctance to face the truth of reality when that requires changing our minds and updating our beliefs based on new information.

Making Decisions

Learning about and watching out for these challenges in a systematic manner improves our decision-making. Gaining agency in this area involves studying and practicing research-based strategies for evaluating and making decisions, and for enacting these decisions into life in an intentional manner.

Achieving Our Goals

In the moment, doing the latter involves having an intentional response to situations, as opposed to relying on autopilot reflexes, in order to accomplish our immediate goals. In the long term, agency involves intentionally planning one’s time and activities so that one can accomplish one’s aims in the future. You can gain agency in both the short and the long term by learning about and implementing intentional approaches to refining and achieving your goals.

As you can imagine, these things are easy to say, but hard to do. It’s very helpful to get support along the way, through learning about strategies oriented toward this purpose. However, above all, it takes your own commitment to the goal of gaining greater agency over your life and living intentionally.