“If you look up feminism in the dictionary, it just means someone who believes men and women have equal rights . . . But that word is so weirdly used in our culture now, people think it means some woman is going to start yelling at them.”

That was Aziz Ansari in 2014.

Glamour’s Lynsey Eidell said he’d helped to “distill feminism down to its most basic and important root,” while Mic.com’s Elizabeth Plank announced, “Coming out as a feminist if you’re a man just got a whole lot easier thanks to Aziz Ansari.”

How ironic: It’s the recent sexual-misconduct accusation against Ansari that’s exposing the truth about modern feminism. It isn’t about merely believing in equality; it’s about holding uniform opinions on a range of topics — and if you don’t, you’re out.

This didn’t begin with Ansari — his case merely brought to the surface undercurrents of feminist exclusion. Last March, well-known feminist poet Katha Pollitt wrote in The Nation: “There are plenty of leftist women who say that you have to be socialist to be a feminist, that you can’t support a candidate like Hillary Clinton — which would surely come as a surprise to most of the women who voted for her.”

For Pollitt, then, feminism was a big tent.

Or was it? In an interview with Slate last week, Pollitt pushed back on women who don’t share her exact opinions of the “#Me Too” movement. She spoke of the divide between older and younger feminists regarding #MeToo and Ansari, but then added: “I actually have to say, I haven’t seen a whole lot of public condemnation of young women in the #MeToo context from women who are actually feminists.”

In the Huffington Post, Claire Fallon went further, by casting out self-described feminists who disagreed on the Ansari case from the movement altogether.

To them, Caitlin Flanagan, who wrote a scathing Atlantic piece calling the weak accusation against Ansari “revenge porn,” is out. While she found Ansari “aggressive and selfish and obnoxious,” she also criticized Grace’s behavior. There’s only one way to be a feminist, and Flanagan’s not doing it.

Bari Weiss, who in The New York Times laid out all the different times that Grace could have exited Ansari’s apartment, is also out. Jezebel’s Julianne Escobedo Shepherd criticized Weiss’ feminism as working “in tandem with the protection of men” because she wrote that Ansari wasn’t a mind-reader. Imagining a woman has agency is anti-feminist.

Andrea Peyser, who in The Post called what happened to Ansari a “witch hunt,” out. Katie Roiphe, who was seemingly preparing to name the anonymous woman behind a viral spreadsheet accusing various media men of sexual misconduct, out.

Though in Roiphe’s case it’s clear many feminists would like to reinstate her in the club just so they can repeatedly expel her. New York magazine’s Madeleine Aggeler described Roiphe as “the longtime anti-feminist feminist behind books like 1993’s ‘The Morning After: Fear, Sex, and Feminism,’ in which she claims that reports of date rape on college campuses were vastly exaggerated.”

What happened here? The reaction from women to Ansari’s accuser was, apparently, supposed to be uniform. The expectation was that anyone who self-describes as a feminist would take the woman’s side in the account, even if by Grace’s own words she never said no or made a move to leave — until she did, and left without incident. No range of opinion is allowed.

Fallon writes: “As feminism became associated with pro-establishment figures as well as progressive ones, the label became less and less toxic. Who’s afraid of feminism, if you can be a feminist and think, well, whatever you want?”

It turns out women thinking whatever they want is not good for feminism.

“If you believe men and women should have to have equal rights and someone asks if you’re a feminist you have to say yes, because that’s how words work,” Ansari added back in 2014.

But as Ansari has certainly learned in the last few weeks, that’s not true at all. Feminism today is hardly about equality and more about having your opinions line up exactly with the opinions of other feminists. It’s not, as Ansari believed, about shared beliefs that the great majority of people hold.

Sorry, Aziz, you’re out. And take your “anti-feminist feminist” defenders with you.