The owners of The HUB bar in Hoboken should have known where it was headed. After all, they brought in a bad-boy promoter, known as "The Slut Whisperer," who brought with him a reputation for all sorts of horrible behavior.

If you watch the video that got the attention of the police, women are being sprayed with milk and champagne. They expose their private parts, and allow themselves to be penetrated with booze bottles and grimy fingers. They are clearly drunk. Sadly, they also appear to be willing participants.

There is nothing erotic or sexy about the video. It is hedonistic, dehumanizing debauchery in its lowest ugliest, cruelest, most anti-intellectual form.

It made me sad for those women, and angry at the men. The women seem to be enjoying the attention, the boys are getting cheap feels and thrills -- and everyone's cellphones are capturing it all. This is the "on-camera" generation, where privacy and dignity are traded for some kind of lonesome connectivity that some of us can never comprehend.

Exhibitionism for women, voyeurism for men. Either way, it's plain damn unhealthy.

Writing about morality is tough because morality, like beauty, is in the eyes of the beholder.

But there comes a time when the beholders sink to a level where they become "an affront to human decency," as Hoboken Mayor Ravi Bhalla called the party at The HUB. The local liquor board is investigating charges of assault and lewd activity."

But if the actual incident isn't disturbing enough, hang on.

The party was arranged by a social media phenom named Kirill Bichutsky. Yes, he actually calls himself "The Slut Whisperer." I'm ashamed to say he's a Jersey guy, from Morris Plains.

He has one million Instagram followers.

That last sentence has me taking a break to look for property back to my roots in rural Southern Italy.

One million followers.

Wave the white flag. The America we knew is over.

The Slut Whisperer has thrown this type of party all over the country. Las Vegas, Miami, party cities. But he's been banned in Vancouver. (I'm now taking a break to look for property in Canada)

In one graphic Instagram shot there is a tagline that says, "Feminists want you to die alone with your cats. Kirill wants you to get a yeast infection and meet your future ex-husband."

One million ...

I'm not a social scientist, but something is broken. There is something very horrifying about these young women being such willing victims of abject misogyny.

While "#MeToo" gains momentum, so does the b-word as acceptable in routine conversation. Thank you, rappers. And the c-word is gaining similar ground. Comedian Samantha Bee used it on Ivanka Trump, and she still has a job. This is the world we live in. And too many men and women seem to accept it.

The women's exhibitionism in the Hoboken videos show suggests sex is the only language they know. It shows they think their bodies are the only thing that will attract men.

The men, well, they're being raised by men with no moral barometers. I say that confidently. These boys have no respect for women, and their fathers didn't teach it, let alone enforce it. Both parents should be ashamed. And when I see things like this, I ask what happened to manhood, and the tender, protective manifestations of it, the kind of thing our fathers did silently -- in our world.

I also ask, conversely, where are the fathers who want to punch The Slut Whisperer in his stupid, expletive mouth? I do. Just like I wanted to punch the "Girls Gone Wild" guy." I forget his name. It's not worth looking up. But he's a has-been. The Slut Whisperer will get there someday. Hopefully soon.

But for now The Slut Whisperer has a merchandise site. His motto, plastered over a variety of hats, tees, and sweatshirts, is A--holes live forever.

A tie-dyed shirt that says "Please don't feed the whores drugs" is sold out.

There is a baby shirt that says, "Please don't feed the baby drugs."

God help the child whose child-parents buy that. I don't say that lightly. I really mean "God, help that child."

One million followers. Who are these people? And who raised them?

God help us all.

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