— Asked by Anonymous

I definitely understand how it can be a curse, as I used to think that way, but now I personally see being demisexual as a blessing. It makes it a little more difficult for me to find romantic and sexual relationships, but it’s worth it when I do. One of the best relationship tips I know (for anyone) is to make sure you are best friends with your partner. This allows for greater long term relationship success, as romantic love may wax and wane, but friendship is a sturdier foundation. So starting out with that already is fantastic for a relationship, as you already care about each other and know each other and can communicate.

Of course, as you pointed out, it can cause trouble in friendships. But that is not a problem exclusive to demisexuals. People of all sexualities have suffered the burden of being in love with their best friends, and it is a common human experience. I think that with hard work and loyalty, friendships can survive rough patches like that, and if they don’t, then they aren’t meant to be. I think that when you’re younger, human relationships are a bit more unstable (or at least, you can’t tell if they’ll last), and it’s only when you become older that you can see which friendships will probably be the ones that last for many more years to come.