I was out at XXXX last night. Plan was to hang out there then 3 of us girls would sleep over at my friend's condo. It got late and eventually one of our guy friends said he wanted to hang out and came along with us. It was around 4AM and we all fell asleep soon after we arrived

This guy friend isn't one I'm particularly close to, but I see him around often at parties. At some point I woke up and realized he was hugging me. I just shrugged it off because some people are just affectionate that way you know? Some people like to cuddle and I don't mind that

So I drifted back off to sleep. But I woke up again because I felt him start kissing my neck, and he had his hand up my bra and was pulling me against him. I always wanted to believe that if I found myself in this situation I would be agile enough to punch this person in the face

But I completely froze. I didn't know what to do. I think it's that part-- the ridiculous, maddening, helpless shock-- that's hard for people to understand; and what they don't stop to consider when they ask you "why didn't you do anything about it?"

Eventually this guy starts feeling me up and hiking up my skirt. And I finally find it in me to grab his wrist, get up, turn around and look at him. He mumbles that he's sorry. AlI could do was tell him to leave. So he exits my friend's apartment and I lock the door behind him.

After that, I woke my friend up (who had been passed out the entire time but was sleeping literally right next to us) to tell her what happened. He messaged me shortly after:

My other friend (the one who owned the condo) messaged him after to ask what went on:

But you know what-- FUCK YOU MIKEL MANIQUIS. You don't get to forget. You don't get to decide who hears about this. You don't get to decide how big of a deal this is going to be. The only thing you had to do was not fucking touch me and you unfortunately decided against that.

I wasn’t intending on dropping any names. But I found out that he had done this to a number of girls before me; that his friends KNOW, and NO ONE called him out on it. Who in their right mind looks at sleeping women and thinks “Great, this is the perfect time to molest them"??

Before he twists the narrative: regardless of whether you knew I was sleeping or not (and I was— funnily enough Argo has a video of it happening because she was trying to take a selfie), wrap your head around the issue here: you can’t fucking touch anyone without their consent.

He’s been asking me to take this down. Obviously this thread isn’t the most flattering. But before you worry about how damaging this is to your reputation, consider how damaging this is to the people you’re doing this to. That these people would also want to forget but can’t.

Let this be a lesson: if you’re willing to act this way when nobody is looking, you better be ready to face the consequences when everybody is. To put simply-- if you don’t want to wear a sign that says MOLESTER the rest of your life, don’t molest people. Goodnight.

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