Abstract: Humans have the capacity to respond to sexual stimuli across the lifespan. Sexual responses are modified through interactive processes and manifest through sexual turn-on patterns. In this paper, the authors review the history of understanding sexual turn-on patterns in the professional literature. They discuss their preferred understandings of how these patterns arise and their preferred sex-positive ways to help people with them. This includes a discussion on using the understanding of learning languages to explain how sexual turn-on patterns are learnt. Like language, sexual feelings develop in many directions, depending on circumstances: as we happen to learn a language, so too we happen to 'learn' sexual turn-on patterns. As we cannot unlearn a language, we cannot unlearn a turn-on pattern. However, we can learn new languages. We can also learn new ways of being turned-on.