Should a sugar baby accept an offer from the SD to get her an apartment? either buy it for her or rent it for her? In my opinion the short answer is no: too hairy and too close for comfort.

1. Buy an apartment: ok so the SD can buy an apartment he thinks might be a good investment anyway and rent it out to the SB. But then again it depends on the comfort level between them. Do they know each others first and last names? After all, I imagine those would be needed to draft a formal lease agreement between a landlord and a tenant, right? And leasing an apartment is business first and foremost. Which is, incidentally, the reason why I think the idea of getting an apartment for a SB sucks. You are mixing business and finances with some temporary fun. And what if the SD is married and his wife starts asking questions about the tenant. Wouldn’t that put the SD on the defensive? what if the SD starts mincing his words, looking and sounding guilty, about how he found the tenant and how much rent she is paying. And then what happens when the wife asks to see the rent checks from this ‘tenant’. There are just too many ways this story can go wrong, and the pressure is on the SD. One of my Houston SBs, Malone, even found an apartment for ‘us’. The place was beautiful with a modern 3 story sleek style and a small terrace, and I was very tempted to buy it, and then rent it out to her and her sister. Oh shit! I just thought of the cool orgies we could have had together! She even told me ‘I would look so right in this apartment David’. The nerve of that person. It was like we were engaged or something! But then I thought of the logistics and all the potential ways I could get nailed and opted against doing this.

2. Renting an apartment: i.e. The SD rents the SBs apartment for her. In my opinion this is a bit cleaner for the SD as far as incriminating evidence goes. After all the same allowance money can go toward her rent. The pressure now is on the SB, however. She is putting her lodging (an important concern for everyday life, don’t you think?) in the hands of the SD. Let’s say she just signed a 1 year lease. The SD is giving her cash for her rent, and she is now relying on that housing money. What happens if 3 months down the road they break off their arrangement? What is stopping the SD from moving on and shutting off the SB entirely, leaving her to handle her own housing expenses. Would she be able to take care of that alone without his financial assistance? This is an issue a SB who got an offer from her SD to pay her rent has to consider. She would need to protect herself against the worse case scenario. In general I would say this, again, is too close for comfort and leaves the SB quite vulnerable.

You may have sensed through my various blog posts that I like to have at least some type of control over situations. Providing housing for someone who after all is not a member of my family would make me surrender some of the control of the situation into the hands of the goddess of luck, which is not always a good thing. It’s like having a monkey toss a coin: 50/50.Why do the trade with these kinds of odds?