This question seems rather strange at first because many of those reading this may say, “What do you mean? I give hugs all the time?”and they may be right. However, the question that we need to stop and consider is WHY we give the hugs. Now some people give hugs in greeting to friends and loved ones while others give hugs to those they are in relationships with in order to show affection. The only real times that I have seen someone give a hug for comfort is when a parent is sought out by a child as a safe haven or when we turn to one close to us because we have had our world shattered and we need a shoulder to cry on… So I will admit that there is a slight hole in my question there, but that’s not where I am going with this post.

I am more focused on the fact that if I try to offer my friend a hug either because they have had a bad day or they just seem like they need some who cares, it has the risk of being taken the wrong way. How sad is this? That our world has become so egotistic that we no longer have the ability to just offer a friend comfort without them thinking that we want something in return.

Now, I will admit that part of the reason that I have a problem with this concept is that i like hugs and I see no reason not to offer a hug when one of my friends has had a rough day. However, I am unable to do this because the people around us then choose to interpret that action as one of me trying to “hit” on them. So, how do we change this mindset?

The change is actually rather simple if you think about it, but it is also infinitely harder than we would dare to think because while the obvious solution is to give more hugs, we cannot just randomly go around start hugging people and wishing them a nice day. That doesn’t work.We would be rejected, be given concerned looks and questioned over why we we are performing the hugs. Strangely, though, this is an ideal situation because then you get a chance to talk with people and explain to them why we are giving these hugs. So I’m going to offer a challenge to those of you who read this. Hug five people over this weekend as a show of comfort either when they fail at something or when they just seem to be having a rough day and see if the time spent giving them that hug doesn’t either brighten their day or spark a conversation that they can then use to help relieve what’s bothering them. Oh, and if they ask you why you hugged them, please don’t tell them it’s because you read about it on the internet. Instead Simply tell them, “It’s because I care.” and leave it at that.

Well, I think that concludes today’s blog post. Feel free to leave a comment down below and let me know what you think. Tomorrow’s will be called: Relationships-When to be stereotypical and when to be you.

Hoping your ship heads in the right direction,

The Navigator

P.S. I’m starting a YouTube channel that will be me vlogging on similar topics so if y’all are interested in that You can check that out under the profile TheLostVoyager if you wish. the first content video will go up today talking about : Why We watch YouTube