On Friday evening, a 23-year-old Darien man in a dispute with a person he was dating came up with various ways of acting offensive in a series of actions that didn’t stop until the victim finally called 9-1-1, police said.

Arrest photo from Darien P.D.

Darien police described what happened with this account (including the victim’s description of what happened before police arrived), including accusations not proven in court:

Robert Oxer Jr., 23, was in a dating relationship with the victim and had spent Thursday night with the victim (state law prohibits police from giving any identifying information about the victim, including sex, age and what town the victim is from).

The victim told police:

At some point that night, Oxer became angry with the victim, telling the victim that the victim was “ruining” his life. He drove the victim onto Interstate 95 to Westport and back to Darien, at points driving faster than 100 mph in an attempt to scare the victim.

The two returned to Oxer’s home at 166 Pear Tree Point Road. The victim left Oxer’s vehicle and tried to drive away in the victim’s own vehicle. But Oxer blocked the victim’s vehicle at first, before allowing it to leave. Oxer then followed the victim in his own vehicle at a close distance. At one point, Oxer pulled alongside the victim and convinced the victim to return to his home so they could talk.

When the victim returned, Oxer got into the victim’s vehicle with an alcoholic drink and began yelling at the victim. Oxer then kicked the door of the vehicle, then got out of the car. The victim locked the doors to keep him from getting back in.

The victim then tried to back out of the driveway, but Oxer sat on the trunk. The victim called a third person to come outside and help. When that person did so, Oxer pushed the person and told the person to get back inside the house. Oxer then returned to the victim’s car and continued yelling.

Oxer climbed on the victim’s car and began to jump up and down on it. He then tried to climb into the victim’s vehicle and take the key. He climbed back on the roof and jumped up and down again.

At this point, the victim called police. It was 12:18 a.m., Friday.

Police also said:

When officers arrived at the scene, they saw Oxer ran off. Police couldn’t find him. Police applied for and received an arrest warrant charging him with breach of peace.

Oxer turned himself in at Police Headquarters the next day, Saturday, July 28, and he was released on a court-set bond of $25,000. He was scheduled to appear today, Monday. In domestic violence cases, including cases where individuals are dating, it is state policy to schedule initial court appearances on the earliest possible date that a local court is in session.