Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. He wants us to get married now, but I am confused. What should I do?

Luna Rose Top Answerer

Try saying "I love you, and while marriage is possible someday, I think it's too soon to take that step." Then watch how he reacts. A good guy might be slightly disappointed, but he'll respect it, and be happy to put the discussion off until the two of you know each other better. But if he pushes or whines or tries to force it, that's a red flag, and it means he's probably not husband material. (You want someone who listens to and respects your feelings.) Before getting engaged, it's best to have been dating each other for at least a year or two, and each have solid experience living on your own as independent adults so you know what you want and need out of life.