Hello readers, I’m Thirteen. I realize this is an unusual name. My name will be explained later in the blog but for now, just accept that it’s Thirteen. Nice to meet you.

First of all, shame on you readers for translating my blog title of “Ins and Outs” into pornographic thoughts. Just teasing. I absolutely meant the pun as it will be interpreted by readers. There will be talk of a detailed sexual manner in this blog, although not in this particular entry. It is coming in later installations. So, if you are sensitive to such things, it’s time to play Monkey See No Evil and cover your eyes. For those of you who are a little more openminded or who don’t mind opening Pandora’s proverbial box on your curiosity, read on.

Yes, I am a SugarBaby. We need to start with a definition of that, because there are myths and judgements from society that abound. I’m not a prostitute. I don’t do anything illegal. I don’t charge per meeting for sexual acts. I don’t only give it up for men who hand me hundred-dollar bills. I’m far from stupid, not in the least lazy, and have a very healthy, high self-esteem. I’m not living the creampuff life sitting by a pool with fake boobs waiting for Daddy to drop in on his jet for a marathon sex session after which he sends me to the spa. Note: there are women like that, I am not one.

What I am, is a professional, career driven, intelligent, educated woman who has decided to invest her time and attention in meaningful long-term relationships with men who are willing to help me achieve my goals monetarily. My SugarDaddy freely gifts me the allowance I am given. I am one of many women who choose this lifestyle- and their expectations and what they offer in return varies greatly. For me, I’m busy building my own career and prefer a man who is already established financially, who can give me that helping hand to lift me up in the form of paying my rent and utilities. So shoot me.

That does not mean love is not in the cards and my only motivation is money. The two can be co-existing, however love isn’t something I search for in men who cannot support me at least in part financially. There. I’ve said it. The elephant in the room is now revealed. Judge me if you will, but I am happy with who I am and what I want.

I stumbled onto the SugarBaby scene quite by accident ten years ago while I was looking for a Personal Assistant position on Craigslist. I responded to an ad from an older gentleman looking for a young, attractive assistant who would travel with him. I innocently responded with my resume and a photo as requested, and yes I know this already sounds shady, and received a call back asking to meet to discuss the position. Imagine my surprise when I met with the charming gentleman and he offered me a salary to sleep with him. I said no to that offer rather heatedly, and to my surprise, he found my reaction funny.

I was suitably intrigued to continue my lunch and my conversation with him, although I never accepted his offer. What developed instead was an informative friendship, and an interest in the SugarDaddy/sugarbaby world that led me to seek out my own financially rewarding relationship. My new friend was quite forthcoming with information and advice. I did my research, joined a website, and began to get responses. Those responses and my ultimate acceptance of an offer are what the basis of this blog will be about. As we go on, you can make your own decision as to my personality, my character, my morals, etc. etc. Or you can just keep reading from pure inquisitiveness, or to laugh at the shenanigans that proliferate dating in this lifestyle. Hint: I have some really, really funny stories to tell about my dating experiences before settling into a steady relationship.

Life as a SugarBaby is not all fun and games, or big paychecks in return for sex. It has elements of hard work that has nothing to do with sex- it takes a lot of energy and time to cater to a man’s needs and wants both in the bedroom and without. You need to be intriguing, educated, mentally and emotionally flexible, and well kept at all times. Here’s an eyeopener; even that SugarBaby who comes across as a ditzy bimbo has a lot more than you think going on behind those eyes and boobs. We have manicured our looks and minds to perfection for the role that we play in our relationship. Even the most natural and easy going of SugarDaddies still have a level of excellence they expect from their SugarBabies. And don’t pigeon hole these men as overweight, old, rich slobs- they range the gamut just like normal men as far as attractiveness, age, and fitness. They just prefer the Sugar type of relationship with beautiful women who meet their criteria, and they can afford to be picky.

This subculture is very real, has its own rules and idiosyncrasies, and is far more dignified and respectable than you may think now. But read on in the next installation and make that decision for yourself.

Until then, Ta Ta from the Sugar Bowl!

~Thirteen.