5 things you can do to help your unemployed friends

If you know someone who is out of work and looking for a job, you may not feel comfortable talking to them about their situation. Since I lost my job I’ve noticed that many people who used to hang out with me aren’t around any more. The sad fact is that the people you know who are out of work need more support from you, not less.

So to make it easier for you here are 5 things you can do to help your friends who are currently unemployed:

1. Be prepared to make the first move. People who are out of work often withdraw. They are frequently ashamed of the fact that they don’t have a job and don’t want to share this with others. On the other hand, they always appreciate friends who go out of their way to sincerely ask how they are doing, and what they can do to help.

2. Don’t ask them if they have found a job yet. This should be obvious but I hear it all the time. People will let you know when they find a job, and they don’t need to be reminded about their lack of success.

3. Do ask if there is anything you can do for them. And be sincere. If they ask for advice or for help with meeting people who can help them, please follow through and do what you promised to do. There’s nothing worse than thinking you are going to get help from someone only to hear later than they didn’t actually follow through on what they promised to do.

4. Remind them to maintain a balanced life. Constantly job hunting and worrying about the future isn’t healthy for anyone. Encourage them to continue with hobbies or other interests to help them focus on something other than their lack of a job. They need to take regular breaks from their job hunt. Invite them to go along with you when you go out, but understand that for many, money will be tight.

5. Understand that changing careers or finding a new job is emotionally draining. Make allowances for people who are job hunting to be less energetic. In a relationship with them you will need to carry more of the load until they recover. Be willing to do this for them. Who knows, someday you may need this same help.