Greetings beloved brothers and sisters. If you ask people what they want in life, the first thing most will say is happiness. But what is true happiness? Many of us have experienced a few moments of happiness in our lives, but is it true happiness if it doesn’t last? True happiness is permanent, unconditional and unwavering, meaning that nothing can affect it. So if someone has achieved a state of true happiness, this means anything can happen in their life and they will still be as happy. True happiness does not depend on anything, anyone, or any situation, otherwise it would be conditional. “This state of true happiness doesn’t exist” I hear you cry. But I promise you, from my own experience I can tell you that it does, and I will explain why.

Firstly, let me ask you to think about the happiest moments in your life — why were you happy in those moments? What triggered that happiness? How long did that happiness last? Did something happen to stop your happiness? What you’ll find is that because there was a trigger which caused your happiness, there will also be a trigger to stop that happiness. This happiness is conditional — you felt happy in a certain situation, perhaps with certain people, but when the situation changed, you were no longer happy. Because life always presents us different situations, our emotions are always up and down like a rollercoaster.

True happiness is realising there is never any need to be unhappy. How do you do this? Surely if you are in a challenging situation, this can lead to being unhappy? But is it the external situation that causes our unhappiness? Or is it our own thoughts? Let me give you an example to demonstrate this. Imagine that your flight back home from a holiday got cancelled and the next one back is the following day. The plane company puts you up at a hotel for the night, pays for your dinner and breakfast, and sorts out your plane tickets for the next day. One option is to react to this with thoughts of anger at the situation, worry about making it home, fear of punishment from your workplace for not returning on time, and thinking “typical, this kind of thing always happens to me”. Alternatively, the other option is that you realise that there’s nothing else you can do to change the situation and that this means an extra day of holiday, free accommodation and food, and knowing that all will be fine in the end. At what point in this scenario did the unhappiness occur? Why does the first option lead to unhappiness but the second option lead to calmness and happiness? The unhappiness in the first option couldn’t have been caused by the plane getting cancelled because in the second option it was the same situation. From this example, we can conclude that it is when we listen to our ego’s thoughts that unhappiness occurs, yet we associate the external situation as being the trigger of our unhappiness. It is the exact same story with anything in our lives — it is not the external situation but our own thoughts that get in the way of our happiness.

It is our thoughts that trigger our emotions, and for most of us it is the ego, the thinking mind, that is in control of our thoughts. Emotions are the body’s chemical reactions to our thoughts. When you have thoughts of fear, hormones are released from the adrenal gland, causing the emotion of fear. Hormones are just energy releases within the body, and so emotions are simply energy. This energy can either be suppressed, projected to try and control situations and others, or it can simply be transformed within into acceptance and understanding. Just like with our thoughts, we must take an observational backseat to our emotions and not give them our attention. Just be aware of the emotions arising in you and, instead of reacting impulsively, take the time to realise what egoic thoughts are causing these emotions. In this way, you do not judge these emotions as bad and you do not suppress them, but you understand the thoughts that have caused them and you accept that these thoughts are the ego’s reaction to something.

What the ego likes to do when a challenging situation arises is worry about the future. This is where this topic ties in with living in the present. When the ego thinks and worries about the future, it means we are not living in the present, where true happiness is. So what is the proper way to deal with a challenging situation while also living in the present? Well, if a challenging situation arises, and there’s something you can do about it right now in order to change it or improve the situation, then do it. If there’s nothing else you can do about it right now, then there is absolutely no need to think about it at all. What would it achieve? It would only lead to fear and worry. In this way, you avoid the unnecessary egoic thoughts and the emotions that would result from them.

The ego’s thoughts may even lead to a form of happiness when its desires are met. For instance, when it creates a desire for a new home or a new form of technology, it may initially seem like you are happy when you eventually achieve those desires, but it never really lasts that long, does it? And would you honestly say that the top five happiest moments in your life are when a desire was met? So we cannot say that the happiness that comes from fulfilling egoic desires is true happiness. We must not get fooled by this and we must disassociate from the ego if we are to achieve true happiness. True happiness can only be discovered, not achieved. It is not a future goal that you need to plan and work hard for. The happiness is already within you and has always been within you, you just need to discover it, and you do this by quieting down the ego.

Many of you reading this might say “Well I still want to feel the happy emotions. Are you saying that we should become emotionless robots?”. This is a very good question. Think again about the truly happiest moments in your life, the top five or ten moments — were you thinking during those moments? Or were you just being present and enjoying the situation? When we are truly happy, we are not thinking, but just being. We are our unimpeded true selves when we are happy. It is our natural state without thoughts. We think it is certain situations that have triggered our happiness, but in fact we are just able to disassociate from the ego much more easily in these situations. The happiness then lasts until we start listening to the ego again. What if we could disassociate from the ego permanently unless we needed to use it? I’m here to tell you that it is possible and I will go into specifics as to how to do this in a later topic. But for now, the next time you feel a low vibrational emotion, start analysing what thoughts you have been engaged with that have led to this emotion. When you feel happiness and high vibrational emotions, notice how your ego (your thinking mind) is silent during those moments.

So we now have the knowledge to properly deal with emotions from now on, but what about suppressed emotions from the past that the ego likes to bring up occasionally. Emotions become suppressed when we have not dealt with them properly — instead of facing them, we judge them as bad, we ignore them and then try to distract ourselves, perhaps by keeping ourselves busy, looking through our phones, or by taking alcohol or drugs. But as we discussed in previous topics, suppressed emotions have a direct result on your external reality. Because of oneness, your external reality reflects your internal reality. So suppressed anger can lead to more situations that trigger anger within you. This can lead to a very common situation where we may lash out at someone irrationally because we have kept these emotions of anger bottled up until we couldn’t contain them any further. In this way, karma is pushing us to release these emotions one way or another. In addition to this, suppressed emotions are the cause of almost all chronic health conditions, but we will cover that in depth at a later topic.

So we know we need to deal with our suppressed emotions for our own benefit, but how do we do it? I have created a guided meditation to help you release your suppressed emotions. I have put a link to it below. I encourage you to do this short meditation every time you identify a suppressed emotion. If you need further help, I welcome you to book a free healing session with myself, where I can help you release these emotions with healing techniques. The more suppressed emotions that you release, the happier and healthier you will be.

Thank you for reading. I hope this has helped you on your journey to being happy. If you have any questions then please let me know in the comments section. If you would like to book a free spiritual support or healing session with me, or if you would like to donate love or money to my channel, then please visit my website www.highvibelivin.co.uk . Let’s all start discovering the happiness within.