DN4GeekinDerby Sat 18-Aug-18 15:16:29

I agree with others that 4 times a week isn't really soap dodging and fine as long as you're not really getting sweaty. I would be very pleased if my teen washed that much.



I sometimes do less than that when my mental health issues (depression, PTSD, dysphoria) are particularly bad or when my joint are painful and stiff as then getting in and out of the tub is quite painful. At those times, I'm not active or going out or seeing others beyond those who live here much and also avoid certain things that mean I'll need to wash my hands (certain types of cleaning, food prep, garden or rubbish stuff) if my hands or wrists really hurt. It's not something I'm proud of, I'm quite awkward about it but I now it's a reality plenty of people face.



I can't recall my spouse telling me to shower and I think I would be quite embarrassed by it but I'm not very good with teasing. He does sometimes ask if I want to join him because, well, he's a dude but also because he knows I find it easier to get in and particularly out of the tub with help and am less nervous about falling over when he's there. Bit awkward when I need to pee though