SCARSDALE, N.Y. — Robin Goldman was a doctor who made a career caring for children, and a teacher who showed young doctors how to do the same. But her own children said it was her role as mother that she seemed to covet most.

Hundreds of people gathered on Thursday at Young Israel of Scarsdale synagogue for a funeral service for Dr. Goldman, a pediatrician who was fatally stabbed at her home on Wednesday. Her three children shared stories of how she doted on them, even after they were grown. She made sure the refrigerator was stocked with the different kinds of milk each of them liked, they said, and kept files stuffed with mementos from their lives. “Family, community and religion were the pillars you instilled in us,” her daughter Alyssa said, “and that you lived by every day.”

But the children did not mention their father, Jules Reich, Dr. Goldman’s husband. He was not at the funeral, but miles away, at the Westchester County jail, charged in her killing.

On Wednesday, just after 10 a.m., Mr. Reich, a partner in a financial services company, called 911 to say that his wife had been seriously injured, the authorities said. Three minutes later, Scarsdale police officers arrived at the couple’s home, a large white contemporary at 50 Lincoln Road, where they found Dr. Goldman, 58, lying in a shower with multiple stab wounds.