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DETROIT (ChurchMilitant.com) - Candace Bushnell, the author of Sex and the City, is admitting her life of promoting sexual license has not given her any joy and she feels "truly alone" now that she is 60 years old and has no children.

Bushnell rose to fame as a sex writer for The New York Observer and compiled her columns based on her experiences into several books with the most popular being Sex and the City. It was picked up by HBO and became a six-season smash hit spawning two movies and a prequel TV show detailing the earlier life of the main character, Carrie Bradshaw, who is the name of Bushnell's alter ego.

In 2010, she divorced her husband of 10 years and went back to dating. She declares, "[W]hen I got divorced and I was in my fifties, I started to see the impact of not having children and of truly being alone. I do see that people with children have an anchor in a way that people who have no kids don't."

A 2004 article in The Guardian described the cultural impact of Sex and the City: "Women now have a language with which to talk about their experiences and their friendships," adding, "It has given a respectability to something that previously was just gossip — something less than conversation."

Bushnell joins the host of women who are regretting putting a professional life over family life.

Melanie Notkin, author of Otherhood: Modern Women Finding A New Kind of Happiness, revealed her own sorrow at not having a family:

Over time, I'd lie in bed, wondering where that man I moved to New York City to meet and marry was. And where were my babies? Those lonely nights spun into a dizzying cycle of hope and doubt and grief and around again. But it was a grief I learned to keep to myself.

Speaking for women in her situation, she adds, "Motherhood is a burden that we would give anything to bear."

According to a 2012 study, 80% of unmarried women of child-bearing age are childless and 81% of that group plan or hope to have children someday.

Lorraine Murray, a self-described ex-feminist, decried her years of attempting to live according to society's standards. In a Crisis article titled "The Bitter Truth About Feminism," she revealed, "It was emotionally painful becoming intimate with men whom I hardly knew and trying to pretend I didn't expect a relationship — or even another date — but I assured myself that my emotions would eventually change."

She added, "Despite the fact that my female friends and I kept getting our hearts broken, we didn't arrive at the obvious conclusion, which was that feminism had it all wrong."

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