Younger, following the life of This year we all got tangled up in the addictive drama of, following the life of chronic liar Liza , as she breaks back into the publishing industry by pretending she’s 20 years younger than she actually is. During our extensive screen-time with the show , we became attached to the cast, as if they were our own colleagues and plus-ones. Dan Amboyer (AKA That’s why we were so excited to hear that one cast member has just got married. Yes,(AKA Kelsey’s ex-fiancé Thad) got hitched on the weekend, which is news in of itself, however his wedding day also served as his official coming out in Hollywood, too. The 31-year-old actor got hitched to this 37-year-old boyfriend, Eric P. Berger, after over a decade together.

Amboyer opened up to People about why he has kept his long-term relationship a secret for so long—claiming that he had to put his career first. “Being a young actor in the industry, I had a lot of people who strongly advised me to stay quiet. That was hard to live with. But I’ve never played a gay role before and I didn’t want to be limited by some strange perception.”

“It was a hard decision to figure out how to approach it in a public way,” says Amboyer. “There are some actors out there now who just keep it as an unspoken aspect of their life and never discuss it in public. But then there are men like Matt Bomer and Zachary Quinto. I look up to them and see how them being so open affected other people and the country’s perception of gay people. And Nico Tortorella, who is also on Younger, has inspired me by the way he’s become such an advocate for sexual fluidity. I think the more open actors can be the less stigma there will be attached, which will be a positive thing moving forward.”