I don’t know if this has been talked about or not. After being different sizes, I’ve noticed that when I was a smaller fat, I was able to attract men who actually wanted to date me and be seen with me. Now, I still never got a lot of dates, but guys would at least acknowledge that I was a “woman”. Now that I am a larger fat, I am completely ignored by men. They won’t even look at me. I actually feel like I am a man instead of a woman. I don’t get it. I am the same person as I was before. Why does weight dictate the way men interact with me? I’ve also noticed that if you are a PoC and a larger fat, you are out of luck. In my experience, it seems like if I was white and a larger fat, it would be easier for me to get into a relationship. It seems to be more accepted to be a larger fat white woman than a PoC who is a larger fat. I don’t want to offend anyone, so I apologize if I said anything offensive. I’m just frustrated as hell because I am gonna be a 30 year old soon. I have tried everything to be seen and visible and nothing works. I am starting to believe my love life is cursed because I cannot attract a man period. I really don’t know what to do, it just feels better to get this off my chest.