Cishet and Hypocrisy

There has been a disturbing trend that I’m seeing more and more often around tumblr and in other communities where a large amount of hate is being directed at cisgendered, heterosexual people for no other reason than the fact that they are binary. It disappoints me in profound ways that people in a community that I have enjoyed being a part of due to their open, non-judgmental attitudes has shifted to one side of this so drastically.

When I first was on this journey of self-discovery, it was the Trans* community that told me that it was alright. That I did not have to fit into one little box and that however I identified was something that was personal and would be respected. It’s a philosophy that I’ve come to live by. Your identity is not something that can be chosen. Your identity is something that is your core and cannot be changed by will or outside influences. You don’t just wake up one day and decide to be gay, straight, queer, trans, or anything else in the alphabet soup of letters. That’s just not the way it works.



In a previous entry I highlighted that what you like in terms of interests and hobbies in no way defines your sexuality or gender. Enjoying feminine things does not make you a girl, nor does it make you gay. In the same way, what you like in terms of romantic partners and how you identify in your gender does not define who you are, either. As a community we fight every day to be recognized for who we are, accepted, and not cast off because we deviate from what society has settled at as the norm. Believe me – the norm is not even remotely close to normal. The world is a number line with infinite points of gender and sexuality expression and there are infinities within those infinities and that includes those who identify as straight and cis.

When we are still treated as second class citizens (some of us even by the same community that preaches tolerance) and have to push for every inch of leeway we get, it makes no sense that we would become the oppressors in the same way. Yes, we are oppressed. Yes, the majority of that oppression comes from privilaged folk who do not know any better and are ignorant of what it is like to wake up and not be “normal”. The one thing we have to realize here is that it is a small, vocal and powerful minority of this people that make up the majority. Slinging hate back at others does not help anyone or anything.What we are doing is making it uncomfortable for anyone to want to see our side.



Straight, cisgender people are not our enemies. We fight so hard not to be painted with the broad side of the same brush. There are some LGBT community members that make me sick. It’s hypocritical to do the same to anyone else and it’s so disappointing to see it happen so wide spread. “Cishet” has become a slur the way that tranny and faggot did. Ugly, ugly words. How can we, as a community, beg and scrape for acceptance when we are doing the very thing that we are fighting against? While not all Cisgender, heterosexual people are represented by the vocal minority, I do not want to be represented by this hate.



It’s bullshit and it has to stop.