This is a questions which has been plaguing me the last few days. I have a tendency to bring my competitive work life into my home life and see everything as a win-loss or zero sum game. It has crept into all aspects of thinking and it really causes undue stress in times where I can be and should be happy for others because it is not impeding on my or my families success at all.

Here is some research I found on how to relax and live a more balanced life. I hope this helps anyone who is dealing with this as well.

1) What is the perception and proportion you are using to gauge success? You are too focused on the end game and not the process. If you can gain insights on the process or learn something- it might be a win after all. You need to focus on the bigger picture and not just the win/lose outcome 2) Use a "competition barometer" - I the competitiveness a 10 and its with jenga at home after dinner- than this is the wrong level. Using tools like this can help engage with the appropriate level of competition in the appropriate circumstance. 3) Learn to lose with grace: life is a series of say to day improvements and each day builds on the next. If you can handle small losses and engage with the correct emotions, this will help you engage with the longer term emotions as well.

It can also help to have anchors to ground yourself. I have been focusing on this with use of my positivity bracelet to remind me to be at ease and life is a series of day to day improvements. Cheers to you and I hope you enjoyed my thoughts.