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In 2018 I’m trying to gradually expand my horizons by reading more books, experiencing nature in different places, and simply trying to be a better, more open person. Some of those are going better than others (sorry to the stack of books I have on my floor).

I recently watched the above Ted Talk on Vulnerability, not really knowing what to expect, but knowing that I would put myself into the category of being comfortable being vulnerable – sort of.

I thoroughly enjoyed it ( I actually watched it twice) and if you have twenty minutes, I’d highly recommend it. If you can’t I’m going to pull out some segments that spoke the most to me.

I’ve always been comfortable in my own skin, though much more at ease on the court or field… #SPORTS. (This is a random aside but if sports were real life, it’d awesome…also exhausting but ya know…)

I believe that my parents did a superb job in teaching my brother and me not to be jealous or envious of what others have and to be grateful for what we do have (other than not having cable growing up. Forever scarred). With this foundation in place, it set us up knowing not to value people based on what they possess around them but what they possess within them.

We’re All Imperfect

Furthermore, growing up with a stutter taught me at an early age that I 1) wasn’t perfect and 2) either had to embrace it, work at it, or never talk again. I went with options one and two.

Stuttering isn’t one of those things that you can get out of easily. It materializes out of thin air and by not being afraid to let it happen, I was being as authentic of a person as I could be. I also couldn’t kick myself for it. It was who I am and knowing that those around me supported me, definitely made it easier.

Be Authentic

Having a stutter also made me incredibly vulnerable including getting picked on as a kid or not being taken seriously in a job interview.

Everytime that I opened my mouth, there was a strong likelihood of some sort of a stutter occurring. It might not have always been noticeable to the people I was around but I sure knew when I was stuttering. (As I have gotten older, I’ve realized that I probably make a bigger deal out of it than it really is.)

What this also did was give me confidence that even if I did stutter, what I wanted to say was worth it no matter the ensuing laughs or comments. I’m also incredibly stubborn so maybe that’s it. *shrug emoji*

Try Your Damndest

The last two sentences from above really speak to me. Even if things don’t work out, it’s the journey, the effort, and the heart you put in that truly matters. That is all you can control. The final outcome, while out of your hands, can be shaped by the amount of effort you put in and I’d never want to look back knowing I didn’t try my damndest.

This unknown can be a scary time but if you went the extra mile and know you put everything you had into keeping that fire alive (about whatever), hold your head high and be content with whatever the outcome is.

That’s one of my life mottos: Don’t leave something you care about without giving it your all.

Frankly, I’m not afraid to crash and burn (again monetary issues aside) because I have realized (over many rejections/sports losses) I have the mental fortitude to bounce back and things usually work themselves out.

I’m not sure if this makes me unique or an alien, but as the saying goes, ‘You’ve gotta risk it for the biscuit’ and I’ve always really, really liked biscuits.

My Perspective

Looking back at my childhood, it would have been nice to not have to deal with a stutter and everything that came with. It definitely did affect certain things growing up, but I feel most of those issues have been left behind.

It, though, gave me a unique perspective on how I judge others with much more impactful disabilities as well as disadvantaged people/issues, how I handle myself, not letting things get under my skin, and lastly, as this has shown, comfortable opening up about issues that affect me.

I write this not to boast about being vulnerable or where I’ve come from but to hopefully be a resource to those who may be going through issues much more serious than mine. If my experiences can help just one person live a better and happier life, I’d forever be happy.

I may have gone off on few too many tangents but I hope the point was still conveyed: Take risks. Don’t be afraid to get hurt because it could result in the best thing ever. Be authentic.

You’re all amazing in your unique and weird way.

Embrace it.

Don’t let social media ruin your joy.

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