The book is now up on Amazon!

The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World

Print edition and Kindle Edition.

Thank you to all of the contributors mentioned in the book and those who chose to remain anonymous. I could not have written some of the chapters without you. Also, thank you to the publishing team and the go-between people I used to get this professionally done.

Book description:

Because many young men and husbands do not have good masculine role models, it can be difficult for them to understand what a godly relationship and marriage might look like. In today’s culture, there is a lack of fathers passing down teaching to their sons, and, in many cases, what the Church teaches is more assimilated with secular culture, resulting in ineﬀective discipleship. Even seemingly good things like “purity culture” can have negative inﬂuences on marriage. The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint aims to remedy some of these areas by giving Christian men the knowledge and discernment needed to have successful, godly relationships and marriages. This book covers five distinct sections: Highlight problem areas of modern culture and how it has influenced the Church.

Foundation Bible verses and their implications for relationships and marriage.

Addressing any incorrect notions surrounding marriage, attraction, and the pitfalls of relationships.

Ways single men can develop themselves to head a relationship and, eventually, a marriage.

Ways married men can learn to obey God, become an effective head in marriage, and influence their wives and children toward godliness. This book is not meant as a be-all end-all solution to dating, relationships, and marriage as the Bible gives considerable freedom with how to approach them in a godly manner. Instead, it is written in the style of Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Study the Scriptures, pray, use wisdom and discernment, and get additional godly counsel as you develop into a godly man who chooses the path of relationships and marriage.

Overall, like I’ve said previously: I’m pretty happy with how it turned out. There’s obviously more that can be added to any book like this, but this is an excellent primer on many of the ins and outs of the Bible and relationships from singleness to dating to engagement to marriage. Maybe there can eventually be a 2nd book or 2nd edition if things turn out well with this one.

For the record, although I come down hard on some prominent Christian pastors in the book, I do think that they are doing a good job in the kingdom in other areas. However, the issues of dating, marriage, and of men and women are areas where a lot of pastors have a lot of blind spots for various reasons such as blending culture with the Bible or chivalry or attempting to give practical advice that may have worked in the 70s or 80s but is not effective today.

This blog has come a long way in the several years that I’ve been here. I’ve gone from single to married myself in this crazy messed-up world. I’ve gone from being mentored and discipled to helping mentor and disciple others. I can’t say that I have had perfect relationships or marriage, but we are both working toward sanctification, discipleship, and being fruitful in the kingdom. There is much effective advice that works in for the Christian man where it is very hard to find in today’s Churches.

These topics are some of the big things that has been neglected in the Church especially with young men today, and I hope that this book can help remedy some of those issues.

edit: If you do end up picking up a copy, Amazon reviews (good or bad) are much appreciated. It lets people know that a book may be worth checking out.

Dalrock’s post on it.