A recent survey by retailmenot.com found that most men (66 percent) want one thing and one thing only for Valentine’s Day: Sex. (Shocking, right?) As for women, well, 77 percent want their partners to spend hard-earned money on something nice. Something thoughtful. Something romantic. Maybe even something sexy.

Don’t worry; whether you’re on the lookout for something beautiful and luxurious or cheap and sexy, we’ve got you covered. We asked our favorite Sex Blogging Superheroes for Valentine’s Day recommendations to help you deepen a physical relationship with a partner - or help you get to know more about yourself. We’ve got something to satisfy men, women, couples and even singles. Forget flowers. Cut to the chase and really deliver with one of these sexy ideas. (And check out last year's top recommendations here.)

Strapped for Love

"I'm in love with my red satin Sasha harness from SpareParts and the way it feels against my skin. My partner loves when I wear it with thigh-highs attached to the built-in garter belt, and it's so comfortable that I often wear it out to dinner or a kinky event. If you're looking for a more masculine look, check out the Sasha's sexy brother the Tomboi." -Queerie Bradshaw

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I Lube You ...

"Wetter sex is better sex, so I love to surprise my sweetie with a bottle of lube! I am a fan of silicone lubes and my two favorites are Uberlube and Sliquid Silver. Both have a short, high-quality ingredients list. They are compatible with latex barriers and can be used (after spot testing) with silicone toys. Lube is great for all types of sexy play from massages to penetration. It's also useful for de-frizzing hair, preventing inner thigh chafing and moisturizing dry skin. This gift is sexy - and useful!" - Ashley Manta, AshleyManta.com

Fun Loving

"I already know what I'm getting for Valentine's Day - a sex swing! Since I live in an apartment and can't drill holes in the ceiling to attach a traditional sex swing, we decided on the Fetish Fantasy Series Deluxe Door Swing. All you do is hang it from the top of a door, shut it to secure it in place, and swing away. There are also lots of fun bondage possibilities with this swing, too!" -MsQuote, A Good Woman's Dirty Mind

Play Time

"The most valuable thing in the whole world is time, so give me some of that. Finish my chores for me, then we can spend the time I'd otherwise have spent on them having an extended play session with beatings, toys, lube, and all the trimmings that we rarely get the time to play with properly. Added bonus: you get to reject the commercialism of Valentine's Day by giving a gift that costs nothing but buys us both a hell of a lot of fun!" - Girl on the Net, GirlontheNet.com

A Personalized Treat

"I'm a big fan of "coupon books". You handcraft (or print) a booklet of coupons for your lover to use. Free massages, a night of the attention being solely on them, whatever works for you and your love! Just get intimate and have some fun with it ... and if you run out of ideas you can always add some mundane tasks just to give them more time to relax." - Will, Mr Will’s House of Thrills

A Book to Make You Blush"One of my favorite erotica anthologies of the past year (of all time, even) has to be "The Big Book of Orgasms," edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel. It’s got 69 stories, of varying lengths, and there’s something in it to get just about anyone with any type of taste aroused. Great present and a great tease for sexy things to come …" - Jillian Boyd, Lady Laid Bare



Sweet Anticipation

"This Valentine’s Day give the gift of erotic anticipation. When you are alone, pen note with intimate instructions, and leave it in the room your partner will enter first. Make a trail of single roses that ends in the bathroom, then put a note along with chocolate, candles, spicy bath gel, raspberry massage lotion, cherry almond love oil, and honey dust there along with a paint brush. Instruct your lover to take a sensual bath and then use the other edible lotion, oil, and honey dust to prepare themselves for you, promising wonderful sensations, but only if they obey." -Jolynn Raymond, JolynnRaymond.com









The Usual!

"I don't do Valentine's Day: I don't buy gifts, I don't expect gifts, I don't go out for an expensive romantic dinner, I don't celebrate it in any way. I never understood the need for a designated day for celebrating your love and relationship that is more special than the other 355 days of the year. Every day is a celebration of my love and my relationship. So on Valentine's Day, I love and cherish my partner just as I do on any other day: With kisses, hugs, sex, words of love..." -The Pervertically Virtuous Slut, Pervertically Virtuous

A Beautiful Ring ... of Sorts

"When you think of oral sex simulators you don't immediately think of sophistication and elegance. Enter LELO, our favorite pleasure object creator (and not just because they're our sponsor!). The tireless folks at LELO have always had a knack for making beautiful, innovative, high-quality toys, and it's no different with their new ORA. The ORA offers long swirls and intense pulsations on and around the clitoris, with two different massaging strokes and 10 varied stimulation patterns to choose from (which is great if you don’t always like having to direct your partner from up above). It's 100 percent waterproof, rechargeable and made of smooth, body-safe silicone. So, whether you're all coupled up for this Hallmark holiday season or you're planning on spending V-Day solo, the Ora is sure to make the evening of the 14th a little more interesting." - EMandLO.com

Shower Sex

"Toys are often focused on bedroom use, but the shower is the No.2 place where people have sex. Sportsheets has created Sex In the Shower, a whole line of fun toys and useful products. Recently, we had friends staying in our house and one morning they confessed they'd broken the shower head in the guest bedroom while showering together. What makes sex in the shower difficult? No leverage. So, when we repair the bathroom, we’ll add some locking suction handles from Sportsheets to keep everyone safe (and avoid any repair calls to the plumber)!" -Tristan Taormino, author, columnist, sex educator and Sportsheets brand ambassador

A "Stupidly Hot" Love Note

"One of my favorite sexy things to do is write on my lover. It's also stupidly hot to lay patiently while your lover scribbles incomprehensible swirls and dashes all over you.

So, my gift idea is markers and a little note with instructions!

I guess I could get fancy and go with edible paints or chocolate, but I prefer simple markers. It means he'll be thinking about me for days to come - and remember that particular night until it washes away completely." - Hyacinth Jones, A Dissolute Life Means

Or a Super-Sweet One

"The best Valentine gift is an 'I love you/want you/desire you/treasure you' letter that describes what you love about your lover, what makes him or her the sexiest person in your world, and memories of favorite moments. Describe what you feel when you make love, when you wake up together, when you share activities that are special because you’re together. My husband wrote one to me before he died, and it’s my most treasured possession. It may not be sexy to put 'died' and 'Valentine' in the same paragraph, but some gifts live on and become more precious." -Joan Price, NakedatOurAge.com

A Change of Scenery

"I admit it it: I’m a bit obsessed with hotel sex. The feeling of crisp, clean sheets (that I don’t have to wash), no neighbors I know next door (we can be as loud as we want) and room service (so we never have to leave to the room for food) is intoxicating. Because I’m a hotel snob, I like luxury, but any hotel will suffice if you make it sexy. Whether it’s knock-down, drag out (consensual) sex in a Motel 6 or passionate, fervent, lovemaking in a Four Seasons, the change of atmosphere and routine always adds excitement." - Elle ("Lady Cheeky") Chase, LadyCheeky.com

All Tied Up

"Give your romantic Valentine's Day plans an air of excitement by indulging in some kinky role play. A tie-and-tease session binds couples together not just literally, but emotionally as well. The trust required in bondage leads to a heightened feeling of intimacy and security in your relationship.

The Sportsheets Vanilla Bondage Kit combines a play on words, cute ice-cream tub style packaging and comfortable but strong restraints with a blindfold. It's unintimidating for newbies, romantic yet still kinky enough to spice things up. It’s a bargain as well as a boost for your sex life too." -Cara Sutra, Carasutra.com/





Fun and Games

"Tie and Tease is a fabulous new board game written by a 24/7 D/s couple. This kinky game for two will certainly inject some hot BDSM play into your Valentine date and the game comes with a blindfold and silk tie, so you’ll be all ready to tie and tease one another." - Molly, Mollysdailykiss.com

A Little Self Love

"Being single at Valentines can be hard, but who says you can't love yourself? In fact, learning to love yourself sexually can be a great way to spend Valentine's Day in my book. A masturbation session makes for a great gift. Spend time getting ready for the evening just as you would with a partner, and spend some time exploring your own body. Now try changing things up. A new position, room in the house, or sex toy, for example. Get creative and remember that however you decide to explore, it's OK to enjoy your own body." -Jenne, Clitical.com

A Heartfelt Gift ... With Sexual Flair

"If cost is an issue this year, I'd recommend a homemade letter. Write a heartfelt letter about what your partner means to you. Most of us tend to go through day-to-day life without verbally appreciating our partners for everything they mean to us. To add a fun, sexual flair to your gift, you can include homemade "coupons" that your partner can redeem for sexual favors or a night of indulging in their favorite sexual activity. It costs you absolutely nothing, and the letter is a gift that can be treasured for years to come!" - Mistress Kay, kinky-world.net

I Don’t Mean to Bug You ...

"My favorite toy is the Butterfly Bliss Silicone Waterproof Vibrator from Good Vibrations. This despite the fact that it has a little blue bug-looking thing on it for frontal stimulation. Very few people I know want to schtup (or be schtupped by) an insect. (Further Internet investigation revealed that some people do want to be fucked by a bug, or many bugs, including an ant pile and, in one dude's case, a jar of crickets. To be fair, the crickets were undoubtedly especially sexy ones.)" - Jill Hamilton, InBedWithMarriedWomen.com

Sex and Chocolate

"I love the Chocolate Clone-A-Willy Kit. Not sure which way to go on Valentines Day? You want to do something ultra sexy. Yet, a part of you really likes the idea of going the traditional candy and flowers route. Still, another part of you wants to organize a fun activity that you can do together. Whatever you choose, it has to be unique and memorable. So much for the indecision, the chocolate Clone-A-Willy covers all three options. It’s silly, sexy and - pardon the pun - super sweet." - Sunny Megatron, SunnyMegatron.com

Good Vibrations

"Picking a "best" toy is always tricky because it's so subjective so I'm approaching this in two ways: If we're talking about the best in quality and all-around impressiveness then definitely the Fun Factory Stronic Drei (which you've heard me rave about before). It's a beautifully made, innovative, insanely high-quality toy with several uses - all awesome. I can't stop raving about it. Now, if we're talking about the best in terms of what I favor for day-to-day use, then my answer is the Vibratex Mystic Wand. That little guy is a workhorse and this year it usurped the Hitachi Magic Wand's position as my go-to toy of choice." -Redhead Bedhead

But Only If you Choose Them Carefully

"I used to be big on sex toys for Valentine's. Every year, the person I was with at the time and I would go out and pick a new toy for each other. This was fun and all, but there was a major problem: more often than not the toy the other picked didn't rock our worlds. Picking toys for another person, even when you have excellent sexual communication, can be a tricky thing. So, for Valentine's Day, plan a date night at your local sex shop. Go through the shelves talking about, touching, considering and even sometimes laughing about the wild fare that is out there for your sexy bits. And be sure to bring some of the staff in on that discussion - they will definitely help you find the right toys for each of you." -Jon Pressick, Sex In Words

And This ...

"The best present I ever received on Valentine's Day I picked out myself - my adorable little mutt from the shelter. It's truly a "who rescued who?" story with us. Anyway, without being overly prescriptive, I thought I might mention my experience and encourage others to adopt a pet." -Robin Juliet, Off Go the Panties

Hope you all have a Valentine's Day filled with love and snuggles (and sex!).

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