He needs to generate a conversation with his parents about the many people who we see on the nightly news as they go into courts all around the country in support of someone who is charged with some truly terrible crimes.

Serious assault, rape, murder, and often the victim is the old and frail or a child.

Get them talking about why we see for each accused family and friends in attendance at court offering moral support.

The answer is because that is what family do.

With that secured in their minds, when the gay question next comes up I would say "Yes I am gay."

This will bring out all the abuse you have already spoken about.

Then tell them not to worry, you have decided you will not do that any more as it clearly offends and embarrasses them. As they fall silent, walk to the kitchen and open the draw and pull out a large knife and as you walk towards the door, say instead I will do as you say is acceptable. I will go out and find a 5 year old child, rape and murder her and you can then come to court and support your son.

Must I say don't actually kill or rape anyone but if you really want to give them a scare, be gone for a few hours then come back with your cloths messed up. (Toss the knife in the bin before you go on the street.)