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BEST ANSWER "Why does My husband think that the money he earns is his and not ours?" ^^ Probably because he is @ssh0le. a BabyCenter member Answered 6/27/13 12 found this helpful

Research some psychology. Once you understand what is driving this attitude you'll be able to talk about it and reach a solution. There are lots of books out there on narcissism and co-dependency that will explain what's actually going on. Reading them yourself, as well as with him you'll be able to fix it together. If he isn't interested in healing your relationship a counselor may be in order. My husband has had the same problem, and it almost destroyed our marriage. The fact that you're not earning any money now is not the real issue. It's a whole process of thinking that will eventually leak into other areas of life. This is something that needs to nipped before it gets out of hand. Get some books and start reading! a BabyCenter member Answered 6/11/13 7 found this helpful

Ok, I know I'm years late on this, but I have the same problem. My husband and I have been together for 16 years, and he controls everything down to grocery shopping. If I ask for money, he just says he will go and get what I need, and although it's nice, it's obvious that it's not about being nice, Its about control. I'm really sick and tired if it, I'm going on our third child, I feel disgusted by him doing stuff like that. I've never stolen from him or anything, why he treats me this way is questionable, plus he gets the car all day while I'm at home with the kids. Who works and needs the car? a BabyCenter member Answered 5/7/15 6 found this helpful

Yes I agree about becoming less than and not equal because we don't earn our own money and nothing is truly ours. I am also a stay at home mom and my bf doesn't give me any money at all. So i am stressed most of the time or upset. I just don't understand how a man doesn't give his wife some type of money if she is a stay at home mom. a BabyCenter member Answered 7/11/16 6 found this helpful

We have a 3 account system. 1 account for all regular household expenses and 2 additional accounts (one for each of us, although both of our names are on all of them) we use independently. Those get small amounts we can use however -- personal luxuries like a fancy latte, or clothing or presents for others. The main account is only for necessities and purchases on which we agree. We also use a simple spreadsheet that lists all mandatory expenses, mortgage or rent, insurance, utilities, basic groceries. Start tracking spending for a couple of months. Seeing on paper where the money goes (and that it is not frills) could shut him up. Or you might see that you do have some extra you could cut (like cable) or that you should consider working part time for the $ if you chronically have less saved than is comfortable for him in which case you need to talk about what to do about that. Maybe it's not so much that it's "his" money as that there really isn't enough for him to be comfortable. anchoragite Answered 6/25/13 5 found this helpful

This is to the member who say that if him earns the money it belongs to him what about what the bible say that a man is supposed to work and take care of the family so if God says that this is the way life is supposed to be then I guess that makes you an @-- hole doesn't it a BabyCenter member Answered 12/10/15 4 found this helpful

I came across posts that sound just like I am going through. I m at my wits end and I just want it to stop. I used to be very independent, I had my own home, car, job, and could take care of myself. My health has not been good, and I ended up being a stay at home mom, and I go to college online. I used to smile and be happy, and it has been a very long time since I have felt happiness. My husband is very controling. I m not aloud to have any money, and if he lets me go to the store I have to bring the receipt, and I had better have reason for anything I spend. I go without anything extra, to keep from an argument. If he is 20.00 short, he will say I stole money. He said he cannot just let me do what I want. He does not have to do a thing, I do everything. I clean, cook, and do laundry, and he does not have to do anything. My confidence is gone, and him controlling everything has changed who I am. I am sad every day. I pray no-one else ends up like me! MissyAnne43 Answered 10/3/15 4 found this helpful

The courts will say it's "ours" as in 50/50%. So he's an idiot. CoffeeTea&Cakes Answered 7/24/13 4 found this helpful

Heres my 2 cents. First maybe he doesnt see thst you are good with money. Maybe hes wanting to save for the future and shes running to walmart 3 and 4 times a week and he cant seem to accumulate any savings. Theres more to the situation than one or the other will ever openly admit to on their own without a mediator so all this blame being tossed out there without knowing the whole story only ends up causing more divorces and single parents than if 2 people were to put their pride to the side seek a trained mediator and work through the issues like grown adults. How can someone post to these sites knowing that they can only post their side of the story and honestly expect tp mot get bias answers. Anyone that replies to this as hes an a&$hole without all facts just shows that they enjoy negativity in their life. Just one person's opinion a BabyCenter member Answered 9/10/14 3 found this helpful