How Do Average-Looking (or Ugly) Guys Pick Up Beautiful Women?

Dan Bacon is a dating and relationship expert and the author of The Flow , an eBook that teaches you the easiest way to get laid or get a girlfriend. Dan has been helping new men succeed with women for more than 14 years.Founder and CEO of TheModernMan.com

The reason why an ugly guy can have a hot girlfriend is that women can feel attracted to men for reasons other than looks.

Some women will only ever accept a perfect looking male model with loads of money and huge penis, but the majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which means that she is open to being with all different types of guys, as long as the guy can make her feel enough attraction in other ways.

Some of the many ways that you can attract women are with your confidence, charisma, charm, humor and masculine vibe.

Watch this video to understand how it works…

The more ways that you can make a woman feel attracted to you while you talk to her, the more she will be willing to overlook the fact that you’re not a perfect male model with loads of money and are just a normal guy.

That’s the truth, even if some people don’t want to believe it.

It really is true that normal, every day and even what some call “ugly” guys can make women feel attracted to them as they talk and interact.

A Really Weird Thing About Attraction

Attraction (noun): A quality or feature of someone that evokes interest, liking or desire.

If a man is able to make a woman feel attracted to him in other ways (e.g. humor, charisma, charm, confidence, etc), she actually starts to look at his physical appearance in a positive light.

Even though he might have features that some people would consider ugly (e.g. big nose, bald, overweight, etc), she will look at those things in a positive light because she is feeling attracted in other ways.

She might have been going around saying, “I want a tall, handsome guy with muscles, loads of money and a baby arm for a penis…oh, and a sports car and a luxury yacht.”

Yet, if she meets a guy who doesn’t have those things and he makes her feel a lot of attraction in other ways, she will forget about her ultimate fantasy guy and fall in love with the guy who is making her feel a lot of attraction.

Not all women will do that, but most will.

Most women have an Open Type and are willing to be with all different types of guys (e.g. looks, race, height, weight, etc), as long as the guy makes her feel enough attraction for other reasons.

When a guy who would normally be considered below-average looking or even ugly meets a woman with an Open Type, the attraction that he is making her feel will cause her to begin looking at his less attractive traits in a more positive light.

She will say things like, “I like that he’s bald…I think it’s cute” or “I like that he’s overweight…I like cuddly guys” or “I like his big nose…it’s handsome.”

Weird, I know, but that is what happens.

Most Women Place Less Importance on Looks Than Most Guys Realize

Some women will only accept a good looking guy. That is true. However, most women place way less importance on looks than most guys realize.

Have you ever been walking through a shopping mall and seen an ugly, short or overweight guy with a beautiful woman and thought, “What is she doing with him?”

Of course you have. It’s completely normal.

Yet, no matter how many times you see it, you still might be left thinking, “What the? Why is she with him?”

The reason why you think that women is that you always see beautiful women with handsome men in advertising images from the media, so it almost looks WRONG when a hot chick is with an ugly guy in public.

It looks like she is making a mistake by being with him. Either that, or he must be rich, have a huge dick or be famous, right?

Wrong.

It’s actually a lot easier to attract women than you might realize.

You can literally attract women in more than 100 different ways (I teach those ways throughout my programs at The Modern Man. Some examples are confidence, charisma, charm and humor).

Women Are More Flexible About What They Think is Attractive

We men are very strict in what we find attractive.

We can look at a woman and within seconds, we can decide “Yes” or “No” about whether or not we’d bang her. This is because our attraction for women is mostly based on physical appearance, which is why men masturbate over women in porn.

For us men, it’s about how the woman looks. Her appearance is enough for us to be willing to have sex wit her…at least once anyway.

Yet, for most women (not all), a man’s appearance is not the deciding factor for sex.

What is?

How his personality and behavior makes her feel when she interacts with him. For example: Does his vibe and conversation style turn her on, or does it make her feel awkward and bored?

When a man makes a woman feel attracted in ways other than looks, she will label him as attractive and even sexy…even if you think he is ugly.

An Ugly Guy Can’t Pick Up Every Woman

Let’s be clear here…

I’m definitely not saying that an average looking, below average looking or “ugly” guy can pick up every woman in the world.

What I am saying is this:

1. What you might consider to be an “ugly” man, a beautiful woman may see as attractive because he makes her feel attracted in other ways.

2. For every picky woman who will only ever accept a very handsome man, there is always a beautiful woman who simply wants a good-natured man who makes her feel attracted and in love.

3. If a guy is ugly or below average looking, he needs to understand that he won’t be able to attract every woman, but he will be able to attract many.

By the way…

It’s not only the “ugly” guys who can’t pick up every woman in the world. No guy can.

Why?

No man is compatible with every woman that he meets and no woman is compatible with every guy that she meets. That’s how nature works.

Whether you are a good looking guy, average looking, below average looking or even ugly, what you need to understand is that you really can make women feel attracted to you for ways OTHER than looks.

You can turn a woman on with your masculine vibe, make her melt with your charismatic charm and make her feel so good by using the type of humor that women love. If you don’t know how to do those things, I am here to teach you.

You Don’t Have to Look Beautiful…That’s a Woman’s Job

If you watch too many TV advertisements or look at enough magazine ads, you may start to believe that women want us men to look as “pretty” as they do.

Heck, I fell for that crap too, especially after seeing so women on TV talking about handsome guys and saying, “Oooooh, he’s so handsome” and “Ooh, look at those abs…ooh, I want to touch them.”

Based on that, you can’t blame me for thinking that it was all about looks.

You can’t blame other guys too. We’re brainwashed with that crap when we watch TV or even overhear women talking about men. They always talk about superficial stuff (e.g. looks, money, fame, etc), but you really can attract women without having ANY of those things.

You really can.

You can attract women without changing ANYTHING about your physical appearance or financial situation.

There is nothing wrong with improving your physical appearance or improving your career to earn more money, but the fact is that you can still get laid or get a hot girlfriend BEFORE you do any of those things.

I know that you might want to believe that it’s all about money, looks, having a big dick and so on, but it’s not.

Some women do only want a guy who has it all, but most women are way easier to pick up than they make themselves out to be.

That’s the truth.

Before I discovered what I now teach here at The Modern Man, I was going through life assuming that beautiful women couldn’t like me because I wasn’t good looking enough.

I was convinced of it.

When I interacted with beautiful women, NOTHING that I was saying and doing was making them feel any attraction because all I was doing was talking to them in a nice, friendly way and expecting to be LIKED for it.

I didn’t even know how to attract women and thought that if I wore good enough clothes, styled my hair right and show them how good of a guy I was, they would like me and give me a chance.

Yet, I was wrong.

No one had ever told me that we men need to ACTIVELY make women feel attracted to us based on what we are saying and doing during an interaction. I thought that women felt attracted to men for the same reasons that we feel attracted to women.

I thought it was about looks.

I didn’t realize that it was possible to make beautiful women feel attracted to me for reasons OTHER than looks, so if they rejected me, I simply assumed, “Oh, well…I’m not good looking enough for them.”

That’s all I knew because I was another brainwashed modern man who believed the junk I saw in TV and magazine advertisements.

Even though I saw below-average looking guys with beautiful women, I didn’t see that as real. I saw that as the woman making a mistake or being stupid enough to fall for a guy like that. I didn’t know that she could actually feel attracted to him for OTHER reasons.

I spent a lot of time trying to make myself LOOK better to women (e.g. buying clothes, going to tanning salons, getting the latest haircuts, etc), but it didn’t work. Beautiful women still weren’t the slightest bit interested in me.

While watching TV, I would always see female hosts on shows like Entertainment Tonight and E!News talking about how handsome a guy looked because of his clothes, shoes and haircut, so I assumed that I didn’t have the right clothes and that my looks still needed to be improved.

I was just another brainwashed modern man who thought he was right, but had no idea how wrong he was.

“Pick Me! Pick Me!”

In the peacock bird species, the female is a bland looking bird and the male is the pretty, colorful one. He gets selected based on how colorful and pretty he is.

In case you haven’t noticed, that is not how the human mating dance works.

You don’t have to be pretty like a woman and then hope to be selected be her. You are a human man and in our species, most women (not all) choose a man based on how his personality and behavior makes her feel.

Of course, some women select a man based on looks, money and fame, but the majority of women in this world (including a lot of beautiful, pretty, sexy women) will happily hook up with, get into a relationship with and even marry a man who doesn’t have ANY of those things.

Good Looking Guys Who Are Failing With Women

When a guy doesn’t consider himself to be good looking, he will often use that as the reason why he is failing with women.

Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that many good looking guys also struggle to attract women.

Here are just a few of the hundreds of messages that I’ve received over the years from “good looking guys” who can’t get a girlfriend…

“I am 34, unmarried and lonely. All my life I have been called handsome and cute and whatever although to this date I’ve had sex two times. The first was with a drunk girl I lucked onto at a party and the other was a prostitute. I try talking to women and they seem interested at first but the conversation never goes anywhere.”

“Its impossible to approach women! I walk around the mall for hours on end trying to do it day after day but never doing it. I know everything about attracting women and what to say and do but I still can’t do it. I’m so sick of this. I’m a great looking guy – better looking than 99% of dudes I see, I have a great lifestyle, I’m a fantastic friend and I have good intentions, anybody would be lucky to date me. No matter how p**sed off I get with my situations its never enough to motivate to take the plunge and just say something. It depresses the hell out of me sitting in night after night thinking ‘ok tomorrow I’ll do it’ I’ve come to realisation now I’m just kidding myself I’m never going to do it. I hate seeing an attractive women with some dweeby boyfriend holding hands. What am I doing wrong?? How can I change? Why aren’t my looks helping???”

“I regularly get told that I am good looking and people ask me why I don’t have a girlfriend all the time, but I am yet to have one single girlfriend in my entire life and I am 27. Please Dan I am asking you to help me. I haven’t bought any of your products yet, but I promise I will if you help me.”

“i have very big problem and i hope you can surely help me out.most people including men and women tell me how good looking i am;muscular and very tall but my problem is,i find it very difficult to approach girls even the ugliest.AND also find it difficult too talking to guys.i cant look straight to someones face when talking to.AND this has made feel me so shy when i try to approach women and the woman can just see directly from me so i really need your help.”

“I am a very good looking guy, I work out and have a great body, I own my own business but I am am shy when I really like a girl. Where am I going wrong Dan? How can I be the man that women want?”

If women select men based on looks, why aren’t all those guys getting laid or getting a girlfriend?

Why are they getting rejected even though women are telling them how handsome they are? The reason is that being “good looking” is NOT the answer to success with women. If it was the answer, you would never see average, below average or ugly looking guys with beautiful women.

To be successful with women, you have to know how to attract women with your personality. The most important types of attraction that women feel happen when you interact with them.

For example: Are you able to make her laugh and feel aroused when talking to you, or are you just talking to her in a friendly, polite way like every other guy?

That is what counts.

If she doesn’t feel attracted to how your personality and behavior makes her feel, she is going to say, “Oh well, I’ll sleep with him anyway because he looks good.”

Sure, some women will do that (usually the unattractive ones), but most women look for deeper, more subtle qualities in men. If women were mostly turned on by a man’s looks, then women would have been buying porn magazines all these year like men have.

For most women, it’s about how your personality and behavior makes her feel.

You have to believe that, or else you will go through life feeling that you’re not good enough.

You are good enough.

You really can attract, pick up, have sex with and even MARRY a beautiful woman without being a good looking guy with a perfect gym body.

It really is true.

Most women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are opening to being with all different types of guys as long as the guy can make her feel attracted in other ways (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, etc). It really is true.

If you think that you’re not good enough for women and make the mistake of accepting an unattractive woman because that’s all you think you deserve, then you will be making a HUGE mistake that you will regret for the rest of your life.

You CAN attract beautiful women and it is a LOT easier than may think…

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