We just received an email from a reader who is stressed about her boyfriend's lack of drive and passion. I think we can help her out, don't you?

Writes our 25-year-old anonymous gal:

My boyfriend is a great guy. He is sweet, caring, affectionate, and helpful. He looks after me when I'm sick, is a great cook, helps me pick out clothes and treats my pet like his own. He is most certainly the nicest guy I have ever dated. However, lately I have been a little concerned about the relationship's long-term potential. I am starting to feel like he has little in the way of passion and drive. I have never heard him talk excitedly about anything; he has few friends and no real hobby. He has a dream job in mind (which I feel is entirely attainable) but is not working towards it at all.

He often says he wants to do things and try things but never really puts the effort forth. And to be honest, I wouldn't mind a little more passion in the bedroom, too. One of the things I fear most is being bored. I am always traveling, studying, meeting new people and trying new things. We've already fallen into a routine, and honestly I'm a little bored.

I think he may be looking for a girl who likes cooking and cleaning to settle down and have a family, and I am looking for someone who challenges me and excites me (and to eventually have a family when the time is right—I'm 25 and feel no need to rush). Are we doomed for failure? Is it best just to break things off before they get any deeper, or is there some way to salvage this sort of situation? I'd hate to throw away something good, and can't stand the thought of hurting him, but I'm wondering if being loved is really enough.

And here's what I think:

Thank you so much for reaching out! I think that yours is a dilemma a lot of women face, especially those in their early 20s. You've got the world ahead of you and you're excited to take it on. Meanwhile, the fellow next to you is happy chilling in neutral.

Before you decide to what to do about your relationship, have a serious sit down chat with your boyfriend. Make sure you're both on the same page about your relationship. It sounds like you're thinking of long-term potential. Is he? Have you two talked about your future together?