SOME people assume transgender men are lesbians who couldn’t handle being gay. They really think a female would go through all the hassles of transitioning to male just so she could trick other women into sleeping with her.

That just isn’t the case at all, and as a transgender man, I find it highly offensive and presumptuous. They know nothing about me. I haven’t gone through this to trick women. I much prefer tricking men.

Of course, that wasn’t my initial plan when I started on testosterone as a sophomore in college. But all plans were uprooted when I left SUNY Purchase a year later because of an inconvenient major-depressive episode.

Since then, I’ve lived at home with my parents. I commute to Syracuse University but spend most of my time reading and writing in my bedroom. For about two years, I’ve lived a cerebral and celibate existence. As a pathological Morrissey fan, I find it suits me. Still, living in your childhood bedroom just isn’t a sexy situation.