Aslam-u-Alyqum, I find myself in a situation out of my control, but requiring my intervention in some way. My father who has been married to my mother for 28 yrs now, who performed Hajj about 4 yrs ago, and is a regular musali (prays regularly), who I regarded as having a high moral code, and is generally a very logical person, resigned from a lucrative professional career about one year ago, because of religious persecution.

After spiralling into financial difficulty I sold him 25% interest in my business, so as to help him and my family in his care, I unfortunately can’t afford to pay him what he was accustomed to earning before, which he was ok with as he adopted a humbler lifestyle. ALL GREAT UNTIL. ...

A month or so ago My mother in-law, a respectable source, brought to my attention that someone she knew claimed to have seen my father in a brothel / sex house, to which my immediate response was “anyone BUT my Father” since then I’ve walked in on him a few times viewing pornography on his PC at the office, (very upsetting to me as any haraam will take from Allah’s blessings in my business) but being my father I didn’t know how to react so I ignored it.

Then Someone told me that they overheard him on the office phone talking to what sounded like a prostitute, asking “how much per hour”, after this I couldn’t help but check his emails and Browsing history which sort of confirms these concerns, as the most frequently visited site was "sex traders" and many emails were found where he is conversing about and proposing meetings with strange woman, he seems to be on every day, most of the day, Fridays included despite us going together for Jumuah in between his zinaa.

I have also found that he is still under serious financial strain, and found summons from his creditors, and communications with attorneys. I know that my mother and him fight a lot recently, especially about their financial problems and him not wanting to go work in the corporate sector again. And the strain this is putting on her, who works Full-time.

I’m trying very hard not to hate him for this but rather to hate the act, and remember that it is shaitaan, but this is my father the person I’ve held in such high regard my entire life, and even though I have no right to judge, I cant help feeling disappointed, at that which I factually know he is doing and scared of what I don't factually know he is doing and the affect this could have on my Mother and younger brothers.

He hardly contributes to the business and now I know why, I have been feeling for a while as if though the salary I’m paying was merely Sadaqa to my family, and that he didn’t deserve it based on his work contributions. But he is comfortable and free because his son owns the business, and I now see how this has contributed to his problem.

BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, we have never been able to talk, with emotional driven anger always misdirecting our conversation. I know that I'd like to approach the situation in an Islamicaly guided manner, but I cant seem to find any literature advising in this regard.

PLS PLS HELP ME

- SI

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